Fr. I would give hints but never a complete brag! Like “oop, fancy dinnerr”, “oop, traveling? Cheap travelll” keep it somewhat upper middle class but never a full on brag cuz people will come running
@@branddransnothingtrue they can run all they want tho doesn’t mean op will give it to them. But I think the post was in a “I’m so appreciative of of my nieces and nephew for giving me something” type post
How neglectful and tasteless of a human being do you have to be to not only mistreat your own children, but to grovel for sympathy when you've failed as a parent? She needs to be thanking OP and apologizing to her and her kids for being such a nuisance.
Op said this wasn't something she could report as child abuse, to me that's bull. This is abuse. Emotional and mental and no judge would approve that type of behaviour
@@allthingsjustice6465Sadly unless there’s physical abuse, the kids are committing self harm, domestic violence, drug use, or rape the family courts and CPS don’t really take mental abuse only into account since they want families to stay together and work through things with therapy first. So in the end unless the kids suffered the aforementioned five there wasn’t much OP could’ve done other than be there for them.
@@allthingsjustice6465 judges, school counselors, principals, police officers, doctors and paramedics in Illinois will definitely turn a blind eye to most (if not all) abuse, especially if the abuser starts crying. Trust me. ETA: I had literal teachers that would joke with the thing that raised me about the abuse she would do. There's a GREAT chance this is real.
I feel like the Mother should've been charged with Emotional Abuse, because OP has stated how her Sister have said that she'll abandon the Kids, if they'd misbehave. And not to mention that OP's Sister can still be charged with Emotional Distress (given if the Kids still react with a mistake they've done, and the Mother would reprimand them for doing something, which in some cases can be PTSD).
Let me tell you something. My sister was a Karen waiting to happen. We grew up in a happy, loving home that met our needs. I, did not act as entitled as her, to my own amazement. But my sister was an entire suburban - iPad kid - Spoiled - Brat Package all in one. We moved to the suburbs when I was 3, right next to a big city. She, at the time, was 8.I was quiet, introverted, and loved to listen to music, go outside, and draw. My Mom, who was single, with a disappearing husband, worked hard to give us freedom. She let me be a little nerd. I really love her with all my heart. My sister was my opposite. Extroverted, loud, phone - addicted, and wanted everything she saw in the stores we went to. I was always the skinny one, a picky eater. She had binge eating disorder. When Mom was still working in the restaurant, She would force me to microwave her something she could do herself. She hated it when I made friends. When I was 8, I finally had a medium - sized friend group. She would agree with the kids at our school who bullied us. When I was 16, I mustered up the courage to tell our mom about it. She told our sister to move out, get a job, and stop hurting a minor. Now she looks, acts, and lives like a Karen. Thank god for karma.
@@the_letter_j9223 Not only are those measurements different, one of them is a measurement of area, not distance. Some people just don't have enough braincells.
It’s not exactly drama either, sometimes people talking about their issues online can help with their mental health. That being said they should just talk to a friend instead
This comment isn't about the story but doesn't anyone else get annoyed seeing the person not actually touching the ground and just kinda hovering over everything I don't know why but it drives me crazy😂😅😂
Like legit do I even post about this and say non-story it's a story of siblings who are older fighting on social media over who raised their kids better
Why do people talk about "speaking their truth"? That doesn't mean anything because "your truth" isn't real; it's just a glorified way of saying your perspective. The correct expressions here would be "speak your mind", "state/give your perspective/side/view", or in this particular case, "tell the truth".
I’m guessing the earlier part of the story took place in the late 80’ to early 90’s because back then being mean to kids wasn’t officially recognized as abuse
It baffles me that people really treat their children like shit for being born as if the parent isn’t the one that made the choice to have and keep said child. No matter how my life is going , I’d NEVER blame or take it out on my children because it’s never their fault.
It is a blessing to those children that you were there for them ❣️ and the relatives that are telling you that you were wrong and that you took her children from her and this that and the other but none of them stepped up did they asked him where were they when those babies needed someone to listen to them to be there for them and not to just yell at themmistreated them. I didn't say she beat them but she was wrong she was mentally abusive to those children. So now that you have raised them and they're doing well now she wants to be mommy she wants money and I don't blame those babies for ignoring her you ignore her too I hope you all live your best life and God bless you all❤❤
AI post trope checklist. How many can we hit? *Tropes* - Overexplaining the most simple of circumstances to extend runtime - Wax poetic vocab choice and cadence: "Their eyes widened in shock" / "I felt a mix of [emotion] and [emotion]" / "The tension was palpable" - No relevant comments - Post isn't anywhere to be found on reddit - Way too long for an r/aita-post - Getting through the initial description takes half the video - Several very short updates, always including how long it has been since the last - OP involves social media - Enemy involves social media - Evil relatives who side with the obvious AH - "My brother stabbed me and I didn't die, AITA?"-level internal "struggles" - OP excels in their studies, is often self made and runs a successful business or has a high-paying job - Enemy's business fails - OP is a grade A doormat - Enemy starts a nasty social media campaign against OP/good guys, OP/good guys won't defend themselves for a while, then decides to tell the truth or threaten to sue them for defamation instead - Bad math - Recount full conversations perfectly at inhumane levels - "soft corner" *Bonus tropes* - People in the YT comments believing the obvious AI story is real - People in the YT comments giving advice to OP they'll never read as the post either never existed or was wholely discussed on reddit If you have more, please let me know! I'll try to work them in :)
Melodramatic wording, "and my heart was relieved, as the burden of my father's arrogance was no longer near me." The wording, vocab choice, and the rhythm is a total giveaway.
@@ImNotaRussianBot That one was on my mind, too, but I didn't quite know how to word it concisely - I'd call it "Wax poetic", but that doesn't really give you a good idea if you don't know already
@@I3urton idk it doesn’t strike me as weird bc I think people tend to wax poetic all across Reddit. It wouldn’t surprise me if this is just how redditors describe their daily lives.
There's many stories like this one on reddit. One where IIRC OOP ends up parentified by her parents and she end up sacrificing her future to make sure her siblings can go to college and succeed. They end up in good places and they sit her down and tell her they don't want her to work anymore and they want to make sure she's taken care of. Another one where OP gets dumped at her aunt house even though her aunt has like 4 kids. Her aunt provides the best she can and her and her cousins end up paying for a house for the aunt. Her parents come asking for money and her tells them it was paid by op and thier kids. They go ask op and she tells them to fuck off.
OP is right about single mom dating, divulge that on the first date or he walks when you tell him later. The rationale is that if she’s comfortable hiding something that important, what else is she hiding, what else is she capable of hiding in the future.
my comment to her post would be 'you always hated your kids for "ruining your chances of getting a man" and happily left their lives when they left your house because all the emotional abuse you did to them and now that they all have money you suddenly love them again and want me to pressure them into seeing you again. yea no i took them in to protect them from you im not talking them into going back into the wolf den i saved them from
@@jigg_le It's not important to them. There's so many AITA posts where someone does something reasonable and then asks ''so AITA'' because like one person was against them. Those kind of AITA posts are just people who really want to share their story and the ''AITA'' at the end is just so they can actually post it there.
@@Mop222 It kinda is on the "AITA" subreddit. Instead of posting those kinds of stories on other subreddits where the only purpose is to share your story, they choose this one cuz it's the most popular. Then it looks like this.
@@AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf but the sister won’t know about it if she didn’t post it first on her social media. She said that the sister went no contact for 8 years (means not even from social media, someone might told the sister)
First this just didnt happen. Second the sister did not abandon them, she provided for them their entire childhoods and they left of their own accord at the age of 18. Absolutely ridiculous to claim abandonment and that she wasn't their mother in any way shape or form. Third how tf was oop supposed to get custody? There is no villainry here it was never gonna happen. Fourth why is oop getting blasted for the money? That's ridiculous. The kids would be the ones in 'trouble'. They didn't give her the money and tell her to judge who was the most motherly, they wrote a check and put her name on it. Fifth omg the aunt literally didnt raise them. It's a bit over the top to live exclusively with your mother who you saw working hard and saw to all your needs despite acting like an ahole, and decide to gift a 'fortune' to your aunt because she was, like, nice to you. This whole story is bad just like any internet rage bait. The black and white morals, the lack of insight into actual human emotions and attachments, the large extended family tripping over each other to lambast the oop for somebody else gifting her and making a normal claim of her being a loving supportive aunt. Who tf is angry that grown adults love a closely related family member? And the usual refusal of the internet to recognize that people are... entire people. Because the mother had an awful personality, that apparently invalidates literally anything positive she ever did. Everyone takes what oop says at face value and assumes she never once said a kind word to her children, never once gave them a hug, never loved them. People are worth more than their worst traits and rarely is anybody just one thing. People can be aholes but still love others and show it in ways that make sense to them, but don't translate well.
Plus twins and the obligatory extended family not being involved enough to know anything about the past 2 decades with them, but somehow caring enough to blow up oop's phone about how mean theyre being.
There are different types of abuse not just physical. I wonder if the court system has realized that yet. OP was right in the end. If she can't take it don't dish it out. Did the sister really think she wouldn't be called out on her stupidity.
S.1. Even though you didn't think she see your post. Never ever say I got $, from whomever on anything cause people will come out of the wood work. I do agree though you were rubbing it in her face. Like, see what I got, and you didn't. That was not cool. But, other than that you were good.
im glad growing up the kids knew wht was up plus she dosent deserve a wooden penny or time of day and she was the villian the entire time she i just delusional 😂
So emotional abuse doesn't count as abuse? When the kids were 16, couldn't they have said hey wanted to stay with uncle? Idk if it's a federal law, but I thought that kids can choose whether or not to live with their parents once they're like 16? I know at 18, parents no longer have a legal obligation.
Okay hold on I needed to do a double-take at the very beginning there, they said they parted ways when they got to High School… OP went to school, her sister didn’t and at the age of what was probably 14 or 15 moved out of her Parents house and in with her boyfriend?! Are we sure this is a real story? If not I’m genuinely concerned about the sister, she has to have been getting groomed by that man cause 14-15 is WAY too young to be determining the rest of your life, dropping out of school, and going to live with a boyfriend who’s probably older than her by at least 6 years. This has to be fake right?
Soooo her nephew’s a pediatrician at 23? Unless OP failed to mention he was a genius that blazed through school at a young age, wouldn’t he be right in the middle of medical school at that age?
She’s not the arsehole at all. She raised HER kids, although just a bit over halfway through I noticed that she said she was sceptical of the check but she did something like took it because she said her sister didn’t deserve it, I’m not sure that’s quite right but I’m certainly not one to judge.
OP you should have known your sister was gonna play victim and garner sympathy to get people on her side classic narcissist move. You need to stop caring about what people think the people who love you don’t think that those children you know better than any of them.
Why would you post that you received money on social media ? Just post a photo with them with a caption that talks about being grateful to them or smth similar but do NOT mention the money. You could also not post anything, people don't need to know everything that's happening in your life...
Okay? So at no point was the amount relevant to the story so why does it matter? It isn't gonna change anything it could be 100,000 dollars or maybe one million it doesn't matter it's a lot and that's all that's relevant.
Posting about it was the mistake. Just let their act of love be between you and them. Why is everyone so eager to tell details of their lives that others should not know?
It blows my mind how every glossed over the fact that op knew his nieces and nephew were being abused and no one did anything about it and claim op is such a great person. This is a bs.
Believe or not, she was gloating about receiving money from her nephew and nieces. Why be so stupid to do that. She also attacked her parents that she was disappointed that they did not take her side despite her abusive sister not having contact with them. Maybe her parents did not want to be seen as taking sides. She's just playing martyr. Her sister was a complete nasty individual. Instead of just ignoring her, she chose to persist in fighting with her on social media. Lastly, if you are truly a true good Samaritan, you would NEVER post about it on social media.
She could have just ask her if she don't wanna take care of the kids then I will and let her give up her parents rights and op could ask her children if they wanted to live with op and tell her sister she'll take good care of her kids and her sister could start a new Op seems like she could have done that but she also didn't wanted to take care of the kids ...
5:06 The mother is right on one point. If the aunt wanted the children, she could have spoken to the mother about it long ago. From the way she describes the mother, she might even have agreed to give up her parental rights and let the aunt adopt them.
Op lost me the moment she blamed Daiana for the fact her boyfriend cheated on her and signed off - thats it. Few pennies a month (if he bothered to pay) and he can live his life like he never made and abandoned 3 kids. Daiana can't cause shes a woman - and even thou he ruined her life SHE is the guilty one. Shame on you op Children are BOTH parents responsibility. Dude ruined her life and his kids life cause he didn't care how she manage to keep above water - all he cared was himself. But you don't have any criticism for him just for your sister. Gross
Oh but like, she received child support. This means that the sister, despite working hard her whole children's lives to provide for them, actually... did not provide for them? Because she got monetary child support? Tell me how that works. And tell me how she abandoned them with oop when she raised them under her roof, provided for them by working a job and earning money, until they were legal adults and then they chose to move out? What a stab in the back for the kids to turn around and claim their single mother did nothing for them.
YTA for talking so much. You should have kept your mouth shut on social media and with your sister. Now you are talking round and round saying the same things over and over.
Sort of TA... it sucks when parents aren't the way we want them to be, BUT she could've given them up for adoption after the dad went MIA, knowing that she was at level -1 with no degrees or experience of any type. Why didn’t she? Why did she choose to raise those babies time and time again after claiming that they were the ones ruining her life? Why stay until they got 18? It's true that she sounds like a shitty parent, but she stayed unlike their dad. And there have GOT to be SOME moments where she was an okay parent. I mean they all did well enough in school to go on to become doctors, educators and a businesswoman. You mean to tell me the aunt did ALL that by herself and the mom had NO part in their schooling and education? Never packed them a lunch? Never made them a breakfast? She gave them life also, so theres that. It's always easy to make a struggling woman a villain ESPECIALLY our mothers. I think they're our very first villain in life when things don't go our way. But you should remember, before she is a mother, she's just a human being with her own feelings and problems and emotions. And she did still dedicate her time to their lives in a time period where you as the aunt got to come and go as you pleased. So of course you're the "fun" one. I think for her work in getting them to adulthood intelligent, safely, and alive and healthy you should give her half. But after that whatever happens is up to her and her kids, stay out of THAT mess.
It's called emotional abuse. You could feed and clothe your kids and even pay for their college, but if you do it while complaining about how miserable they make your life every day and then immediately cut contact and never speak to them again once they're adults, you don't get to call yourself a good parent. There is a very good chance she only treated them with the bare minimum so she could continue getting the child support, and also the OP and her parents frequently visited to check up on the children to make sure they weren't being abused. That could've been the only reason why she didn't resort to actual physical abuse or neglect. Because she was being watched. Don't make excuses for this.
@@kaylenvee8150it's called growing up and balancing the shitty parts with recognizing everything they did for you and that they do love you. Instead of throwing her in the garbage in favor of the fun aunt. Where's the justice in doing so much good and at the end of the day the only thing written on your metaphorical record is your wrongdoings?
@@blender4464 Oh you have never been emotionally abused a day in your life, what a pleasant place your world is. Don't speak of situations you don't understand, and this is NOT about growing up, what are you even talking about? These kids are adults now, you really think they can't recognize the difference between someone being fun and someone actually taking care of them? You really think these ADULTS would give their money to repay just the fun times instead of someone taking care of them when they were miserable? If the mom actually did right by them, do you really think they wouldn't be able to recognize it?
OP was the Uncle Iroh figure those children needed.
Uncle Ira is not Uncle Ira.
Definitely
@@tintinismybelgian???
This story is fake she had children at 20 years old and she is now 46 the children shouldn't be old and graduated
The kids should be 16 and 17 years old
"...and I decided to post about it on social media."
That was your first mistake. _Never_ post about money on social media.
Fr. I would give hints but never a complete brag! Like “oop, fancy dinnerr”, “oop, traveling? Cheap travelll” keep it somewhat upper middle class but never a full on brag cuz people will come running
At least now op's family knows what an asshole her sister is.
@@branddransnothingtrue they can run all they want tho doesn’t mean op will give it to them. But I think the post was in a “I’m so appreciative of of my nieces and nephew for giving me something” type post
@@iwritesmut59 hmmm I see, that means the mom was really just jealous overall :/ sucks.
Yeah but he was blocked by her so she thought she wouldn’t see
How neglectful and tasteless of a human being do you have to be to not only mistreat your own children, but to grovel for sympathy when you've failed as a parent? She needs to be thanking OP and apologizing to her and her kids for being such a nuisance.
Op said this wasn't something she could report as child abuse, to me that's bull. This is abuse. Emotional and mental and no judge would approve that type of behaviour
@@allthingsjustice6465Sadly unless there’s physical abuse, the kids are committing self harm, domestic violence, drug use, or rape the family courts and CPS don’t really take mental abuse only into account since they want families to stay together and work through things with therapy first. So in the end unless the kids suffered the aforementioned five there wasn’t much OP could’ve done other than be there for them.
@@allthingsjustice6465 judges, school counselors, principals, police officers, doctors and paramedics in Illinois will definitely turn a blind eye to most (if not all) abuse, especially if the abuser starts crying. Trust me.
ETA: I had literal teachers that would joke with the thing that raised me about the abuse she would do. There's a GREAT chance this is real.
Yes they will.@@allthingsjustice6465
'ShE wAnTeD tO gIvE aNoThEr ChAnCe To HeRsElF' what kind of authority does she think she have?
Exactly
It’s the money not about her kids.
@tstoriesusachild support
@tstoriesusanot child support even just having a luxurious life like spending money on brands
I feel like the Mother should've been charged with Emotional Abuse, because OP has stated how her Sister have said that she'll abandon the Kids, if they'd misbehave. And not to mention that OP's Sister can still be charged with Emotional Distress (given if the Kids still react with a mistake they've done, and the Mother would reprimand them for doing something, which in some cases can be PTSD).
The thing that raised me would threaten to off herself if the dishes weren't washed, every authority figure knew how she was.
Let me tell you something. My sister was a Karen waiting to happen. We grew up in a happy, loving home that met our needs. I, did not act as entitled as her, to my own amazement.
But my sister was an entire suburban - iPad kid - Spoiled - Brat Package all in one. We moved to the suburbs when I was 3, right next to a big city. She, at the time, was 8.I was quiet, introverted, and loved to listen to music, go outside, and draw. My Mom, who was single, with a disappearing husband, worked hard to give us freedom. She let me be a little nerd. I really love her with all my heart. My sister was my opposite. Extroverted, loud, phone - addicted, and wanted everything she saw in the stores we went to. I was always the skinny one, a picky eater. She had binge eating disorder. When Mom was still working in the restaurant, She would force me to microwave her something she could do herself. She hated it when I made friends. When I was 8, I finally had a medium - sized friend group. She would agree with the kids at our school who bullied us. When I was 16, I mustered up the courage to tell our mom about it. She told our sister to move out, get a job, and stop hurting a minor. Now she looks, acts, and lives like a Karen. Thank god for karma.
10/10 it was her not telling her would-be partners she had kids.
I guess you'd have to run three thousand square feet kilometers away from them. But it's for the sake of your safety and security.
Square feet kilometers? Not trying to be a stickler or worse, but aren't those two different units of measurement?
@@the_letter_j9223 Not only are those measurements different, one of them is a measurement of area, not distance. Some people just don't have enough braincells.
@@Myathaarth Let's not be mean. Chances are they're just messing around.
@@the_letter_j9223 Eh, I guess I didn't have to be mean about it. Thanks for the heads up.
“Why would you paint me as the villain!?”
I didn’t paint you as a villain. You ARE the villain. I was just revealing it.
I HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO GET THROUGH THE FIRST 5 minutes of this video without being FEELING RED HOT FROM ANGER
Same
Seriously people need to keep their personal life off social media and avoid drama.
Some of these are fake
It’s not exactly drama either, sometimes people talking about their issues online can help with their mental health. That being said they should just talk to a friend instead
This comment isn't about the story but doesn't anyone else get annoyed seeing the person not actually touching the ground and just kinda hovering over everything I don't know why but it drives me crazy😂😅😂
They're using a cheat called fly
Op uncle you are a Angel god bless you and make you happy every day we need more pep like you in the worth this made me get my faith in humanity back
Like legit do I even post about this and say non-story it's a story of siblings who are older fighting on social media over who raised their kids better
My goodness has no one said that what the mother did was emotional abuse?
she couldn't become their parents, but she definetly became their mom.
Like a blood hound 😂😂😂😂😂🎉
This is so informal, we all have to learn to stand for our own mistakes.
Why do people talk about "speaking their truth"? That doesn't mean anything because "your truth" isn't real; it's just a glorified way of saying your perspective. The correct expressions here would be "speak your mind", "state/give your perspective/side/view", or in this particular case, "tell the truth".
I’m guessing the earlier part of the story took place in the late 80’ to early 90’s because back then being mean to kids wasn’t officially recognized as abuse
You probably could have gotten custody because what she was doing them could probably be considered mental abuse
It baffles me that people really treat their children like shit for being born as if the parent isn’t the one that made the choice to have and keep said child. No matter how my life is going , I’d NEVER blame or take it out on my children because it’s never their fault.
Don't Give The Money! ~Tail Two
heres a tip for the court system.
don't look at the genetics, look at the actions.
It is a blessing to those children that you were there for them ❣️ and the relatives that are telling you that you were wrong and that you took her children from her and this that and the other but none of them stepped up did they asked him where were they when those babies needed someone to listen to them to be there for them and not to just yell at themmistreated them. I didn't say she beat them but she was wrong she was mentally abusive to those children. So now that you have raised them and they're doing well now she wants to be mommy she wants money and I don't blame those babies for ignoring her you ignore her too I hope you all live your best life and God bless you all❤❤
Feel like it’s Ai
AI post trope checklist. How many can we hit?
*Tropes*
- Overexplaining the most simple of circumstances to extend runtime
- Wax poetic vocab choice and cadence: "Their eyes widened in shock" / "I felt a mix of [emotion] and [emotion]" / "The tension was palpable"
- No relevant comments
- Post isn't anywhere to be found on reddit
- Way too long for an r/aita-post
- Getting through the initial description takes half the video
- Several very short updates, always including how long it has been since the last
- OP involves social media
- Enemy involves social media
- Evil relatives who side with the obvious AH
- "My brother stabbed me and I didn't die, AITA?"-level internal "struggles"
- OP excels in their studies, is often self made and runs a successful business or has a high-paying job
- Enemy's business fails
- OP is a grade A doormat
- Enemy starts a nasty social media campaign against OP/good guys, OP/good guys won't defend themselves for a while, then decides to tell the truth or threaten to sue them for defamation instead
- Bad math
- Recount full conversations perfectly at inhumane levels
- "soft corner"
*Bonus tropes*
- People in the YT comments believing the obvious AI story is real
- People in the YT comments giving advice to OP they'll never read as the post either never existed or was wholely discussed on reddit
If you have more, please let me know! I'll try to work them in :)
Great!
The main post is a long ass novel while the two or three updates were just some sticky notes.
Melodramatic wording, "and my heart was relieved, as the burden of my father's arrogance was no longer near me."
The wording, vocab choice, and the rhythm is a total giveaway.
@@ImNotaRussianBot That one was on my mind, too, but I didn't quite know how to word it concisely - I'd call it "Wax poetic", but that doesn't really give you a good idea if you don't know already
@@I3urton idk it doesn’t strike me as weird bc I think people tend to wax poetic all across Reddit. It wouldn’t surprise me if this is just how redditors describe their daily lives.
There's many stories like this one on reddit.
One where IIRC OOP ends up parentified by her parents and she end up sacrificing her future to make sure her siblings can go to college and succeed. They end up in good places and they sit her down and tell her they don't want her to work anymore and they want to make sure she's taken care of.
Another one where OP gets dumped at her aunt house even though her aunt has like 4 kids. Her aunt provides the best she can and her and her cousins end up paying for a house for the aunt. Her parents come asking for money and her tells them it was paid by op and thier kids. They go ask op and she tells them to fuck off.
Even though the ex husband cheated he still paid the child support to help the children
Sis: I hope your happy everyone hates me. Me: I am believe it or not 👍
OP is right about single mom dating, divulge that on the first date or he walks when you tell him later. The rationale is that if she’s comfortable hiding something that important, what else is she hiding, what else is she capable of hiding in the future.
my comment to her post would be 'you always hated your kids for "ruining your chances of getting a man" and happily left their lives when they left your house because all the emotional abuse you did to them and now that they all have money you suddenly love them again and want me to pressure them into seeing you again. yea no i took them in to protect them from you im not talking them into going back into the wolf den i saved them from
Emotional abuse and verbal abuse are still forms of abuse
she comes crawling back the moment her kids are employed🗿🗿☠️💀
People over share their lives. To whose benefit was this posted? It just brought a toxic person back into those children’s lives.
I don’t know why it’s so important for OP to know if they’re the AH or not when OP says later that she doesn’t care what her relatives think of her
@@jigg_le It's not important to them. There's so many AITA posts where someone does something reasonable and then asks ''so AITA'' because like one person was against them. Those kind of AITA posts are just people who really want to share their story and the ''AITA'' at the end is just so they can actually post it there.
I have no idea why. My sister also do that and her reasons is so that people can see and know. Like, why tf that became a reason?
@@havidikevidi is it a requirement to have AITA in order to post? Because it is super annoying.
@@Mop222 It kinda is on the "AITA" subreddit. Instead of posting those kinds of stories on other subreddits where the only purpose is to share your story, they choose this one cuz it's the most popular. Then it looks like this.
13:15 so you mean…abuse, being MEAN TO YOUR CHILDREN and being Emotionally UNAVAILABLE is abuse
Like why op even post about it?
To see I they're the AH or not
@@AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf no, i mean why would she posted about getting a check from the children
@@lyra6695 The thing is, she was accused of being the AH for accepting it, and that's why she is posting
@@AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf but the sister won’t know about it if she didn’t post it first on her social media. She said that the sister went no contact for 8 years (means not even from social media, someone might told the sister)
@@lyra6695 Wait, what?
First this just didnt happen. Second the sister did not abandon them, she provided for them their entire childhoods and they left of their own accord at the age of 18. Absolutely ridiculous to claim abandonment and that she wasn't their mother in any way shape or form. Third how tf was oop supposed to get custody? There is no villainry here it was never gonna happen. Fourth why is oop getting blasted for the money? That's ridiculous. The kids would be the ones in 'trouble'. They didn't give her the money and tell her to judge who was the most motherly, they wrote a check and put her name on it. Fifth omg the aunt literally didnt raise them. It's a bit over the top to live exclusively with your mother who you saw working hard and saw to all your needs despite acting like an ahole, and decide to gift a 'fortune' to your aunt because she was, like, nice to you.
This whole story is bad just like any internet rage bait. The black and white morals, the lack of insight into actual human emotions and attachments, the large extended family tripping over each other to lambast the oop for somebody else gifting her and making a normal claim of her being a loving supportive aunt. Who tf is angry that grown adults love a closely related family member? And the usual refusal of the internet to recognize that people are... entire people. Because the mother had an awful personality, that apparently invalidates literally anything positive she ever did. Everyone takes what oop says at face value and assumes she never once said a kind word to her children, never once gave them a hug, never loved them. People are worth more than their worst traits and rarely is anybody just one thing. People can be aholes but still love others and show it in ways that make sense to them, but don't translate well.
They run a one or a series of Reddit posts through AI and they reword it so it comes out as slop
Bro you literally blamed them for everything now you want there money??!??! 😂😂😂😂. Your joking 😂😂
Moved in at 18. Lived with her for four years. Moved out two years ago. And is already a pediatrician?
That was fast!
Plus twins and the obligatory extended family not being involved enough to know anything about the past 2 decades with them, but somehow caring enough to blow up oop's phone about how mean theyre being.
There are different types of abuse not just physical. I wonder if the court system has realized that yet. OP was right in the end. If she can't take it don't dish it out. Did the sister really think she wouldn't be called out on her stupidity.
S.1. Even though you didn't think she see your post. Never ever say I got $, from whomever on anything cause people will come out of the wood work. I do agree though you were rubbing it in her face. Like, see what I got, and you didn't. That was not cool. But, other than that you were good.
Why are all of these op's saying "soft corner"? It's soft spot. It's odd that so many people are using the same odd phrase
Because many of these stories are written by AI.
The original posts are run though ais and changed. The core of the story is the same original word usage is not
Sounds like a RomCom to me
I kid is fine but 3 will be to difficult for the man to date the mother
You could have gotten custody after they all turned 13 bc they can choose where they want to live if you are in the US
im glad growing up the kids knew wht was up plus she dosent deserve a wooden penny or time of day and she was the villian the entire time she i just delusional 😂
There mother is a gold digger 💀💀💀💀💀
7:14 dawg fumbled the landing on the sky island
So emotional abuse doesn't count as abuse? When the kids were 16, couldn't they have said hey wanted to stay with uncle? Idk if it's a federal law, but I thought that kids can choose whether or not to live with their parents once they're like 16? I know at 18, parents no longer have a legal obligation.
Okay hold on I needed to do a double-take at the very beginning there, they said they parted ways when they got to High School… OP went to school, her sister didn’t and at the age of what was probably 14 or 15 moved out of her Parents house and in with her boyfriend?! Are we sure this is a real story? If not I’m genuinely concerned about the sister, she has to have been getting groomed by that man cause 14-15 is WAY too young to be determining the rest of your life, dropping out of school, and going to live with a boyfriend who’s probably older than her by at least 6 years. This has to be fake right?
She never mentioned that this was in the US. But even then, tre inconsistency makes sense because this story was almost 100% made by AI
This is why birth control exists, people...
Soooo her nephew’s a pediatrician at 23? Unless OP failed to mention he was a genius that blazed through school at a young age, wouldn’t he be right in the middle of medical school at that age?
Was literally thinking the same thing!
She’s not the arsehole at all. She raised HER kids, although just a bit over halfway through I noticed that she said she was sceptical of the check but she did something like took it because she said her sister didn’t deserve it, I’m not sure that’s quite right but I’m certainly not one to judge.
Why sign away parental rights yet still pay child support? What’s the point exactly?
To be honest I kind of feel bad for her
OP you should have known your sister was gonna play victim and garner sympathy to get people on her side classic narcissist move. You need to stop caring about what people think the people who love you don’t think that those children you know better than any of them.
Also..... This Aunt never once mentioned that she loved them. This whole story feels like BS. Ummmm.... Uncle? Haha not sure now
Why would you post that you received money on social media ? Just post a photo with them with a caption that talks about being grateful to them or smth similar but do NOT mention the money.
You could also not post anything, people don't need to know everything that's happening in your life...
W uncle ❤❤❤❤❤❤
👀👀👀 I'm side eye the sister
Why post online about the money and not write the amount on reddit?
Why does the amount matter?
@@IHaveToSwitchChannels cuz she already posted it online. If it was chump change the sister wouldn't have returned.
Okay? So at no point was the amount relevant to the story so why does it matter? It isn't gonna change anything it could be 100,000 dollars or maybe one million it doesn't matter it's a lot and that's all that's relevant.
Posting about it was the mistake. Just let their act of love be between you and them. Why is everyone so eager to tell details of their lives that others should not know?
It blows my mind how every glossed over the fact that op knew his nieces and nephew were being abused and no one did anything about it and claim op is such a great person. This is a bs.
Being somewhat emotionally abusive isn't against law and the sister could easily keep them away because she is the biological parent
Kinda fake but good story. If its real then the Main Character tried to awfully abstract the story to make it fit in our little heads.
Narcissist mother
Sounds like another do it for dan ai story
Ooma at the end. I'd them them that.
Believe or not, she was gloating about receiving money from her nephew and nieces. Why be so stupid to do that. She also attacked her parents that she was disappointed that they did not take her side despite her abusive sister not having contact with them. Maybe her parents did not want to be seen as taking sides. She's just playing martyr. Her sister was a complete nasty individual. Instead of just ignoring her, she chose to persist in fighting with her on social media. Lastly, if you are truly a true good Samaritan, you would NEVER post about it on social media.
She could have just ask her if she don't wanna take care of the kids then I will and let her give up her parents rights and op could ask her children if they wanted to live with op and tell her sister she'll take good care of her kids and her sister could start a new
Op seems like she could have done that but she also didn't wanted to take care of the kids ...
It's implied she did. However remember her sister was getting a fat CS check. So the answer would be no
i wouldnt be surprised if the father came back too
Why would you post about money on social media? That stuff is private!
levitating
I don’t like the way this person climbs trees in the gameplay.
The mother raised them till 18..never abandoned them. They left.
5:06 The mother is right on one point. If the aunt wanted the children, she could have spoken to the mother about it long ago. From the way she describes the mother, she might even have agreed to give up her parental rights and let the aunt adopt them.
Nah, she wanted the child support.
12 min ffs
Love the story and the mom got what she deserved BUT she blocked and then sent u a message? That’s a plot hole sis.
Why are the so many ads?
Nta
What is the 48F and 46F?
The number is their age and the F is to specify their gender/sex. F for female.
Op lost me the moment she blamed Daiana for the fact her boyfriend cheated on her and signed off - thats it.
Few pennies a month (if he bothered to pay) and he can live his life like he never made and abandoned 3 kids.
Daiana can't cause shes a woman - and even thou he ruined her life SHE is the guilty one.
Shame on you op
Children are BOTH parents responsibility. Dude ruined her life and his kids life cause he didn't care how she manage to keep above water - all he cared was himself.
But you don't have any criticism for him just for your sister.
Gross
Oh but like, she received child support. This means that the sister, despite working hard her whole children's lives to provide for them, actually... did not provide for them? Because she got monetary child support? Tell me how that works. And tell me how she abandoned them with oop when she raised them under her roof, provided for them by working a job and earning money, until they were legal adults and then they chose to move out?
What a stab in the back for the kids to turn around and claim their single mother did nothing for them.
AI
Are these stories even his? * no hate *
No, I'm pretty sure it's from reddit
YTA for talking so much. You should have kept your mouth shut on social media and with your sister. Now you are talking round and round saying the same things over and over.
automatic dislike on this video
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First
Who?
To take this L? I agree
@@IsengardMordorbut remove the l with get money (if ykyk)
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Sort of TA... it sucks when parents aren't the way we want them to be, BUT she could've given them up for adoption after the dad went MIA, knowing that she was at level -1 with no degrees or experience of any type. Why didn’t she? Why did she choose to raise those babies time and time again after claiming that they were the ones ruining her life? Why stay until they got 18? It's true that she sounds like a shitty parent, but she stayed unlike their dad. And there have GOT to be SOME moments where she was an okay parent. I mean they all did well enough in school to go on to become doctors, educators and a businesswoman. You mean to tell me the aunt did ALL that by herself and the mom had NO part in their schooling and education? Never packed them a lunch? Never made them a breakfast? She gave them life also, so theres that. It's always easy to make a struggling woman a villain ESPECIALLY our mothers. I think they're our very first villain in life when things don't go our way. But you should remember, before she is a mother, she's just a human being with her own feelings and problems and emotions. And she did still dedicate her time to their lives in a time period where you as the aunt got to come and go as you pleased. So of course you're the "fun" one. I think for her work in getting them to adulthood intelligent, safely, and alive and healthy you should give her half. But after that whatever happens is up to her and her kids, stay out of THAT mess.
It's called emotional abuse. You could feed and clothe your kids and even pay for their college, but if you do it while complaining about how miserable they make your life every day and then immediately cut contact and never speak to them again once they're adults, you don't get to call yourself a good parent. There is a very good chance she only treated them with the bare minimum so she could continue getting the child support, and also the OP and her parents frequently visited to check up on the children to make sure they weren't being abused. That could've been the only reason why she didn't resort to actual physical abuse or neglect. Because she was being watched. Don't make excuses for this.
@@kaylenvee8150it's called growing up and balancing the shitty parts with recognizing everything they did for you and that they do love you. Instead of throwing her in the garbage in favor of the fun aunt. Where's the justice in doing so much good and at the end of the day the only thing written on your metaphorical record is your wrongdoings?
@@blender4464 Oh you have never been emotionally abused a day in your life, what a pleasant place your world is. Don't speak of situations you don't understand, and this is NOT about growing up, what are you even talking about? These kids are adults now, you really think they can't recognize the difference between someone being fun and someone actually taking care of them? You really think these ADULTS would give their money to repay just the fun times instead of someone taking care of them when they were miserable? If the mom actually did right by them, do you really think they wouldn't be able to recognize it?