The Consequences of Cheating: 10 Things That Cheaters Forget To Think About
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- Cheating: 10 Things That Cheaters Forget To Think About
To cheat or or not to cheat? Let’s be realistic. Most cheaters never really think through the ramifications of infidelity. That’s ironic because the ramifications are always huge. The aftermath of cheating can include
(1) hurting your relationship to the point where the other person doesn’t want you in their life because they can’t let it go.
(2) It can also cause a whole lot of pain and suffering to your partner, the very same person who you once swore your love to.
(3) This can lead to a partner lashing out in anger verbally as well as in other ways.
(4) Cheating can cause a partner to lose their self-confidence because they personalize the fact that their loved one prefered to be with somebody else than with them.
(5) That can make a person feel absolutely worthless.
That low self-confidence (6) can trickle into every part of their life leading to feelings of self-doubt and instability. That’s a horrible way to live. And while a cheater might originally think that they are getting away with something fun, in the end, they might find themselves
(7) experiencing guilt and shame over what they’ve done. Some people of course have no remorse whatsoever to the point where they will blame their partner by saying that it was their fault for doing or not doing something in particular in the relationship. That of course, doesn’t make sense. It’s just an excuse. Those people have even bigger issues that include not being able to take responsibility for their actions.
Back to our list… In general, cheaters tend to be (8) viewed as people with low integrity. That puts a cheater at the bottom of the totem pole of society with people looking down at them.
A cheater might also (9) experience deep regret at seeing the pain that they have caused their loved one, especially if they plan to stay with their partner. It’s got to be horrible to see the person that you love no longer being the person that they are when they are at their best.
Then there’s the (10) fact that all trust has gone out the window. Without trust in a relationship, a couple has nothing. My point is that If you’re somebody who is tempted to cheat or has already started cheating on a partner, even if that relationship hasn’t been the most ideal relationship lately, consider how it could impact your lives. There are certain things that you can’t take back.
About Sasha Carrion:
Sasha is a Certified Hypnotherapist / Life Coach residing in Los Angeles, CA. Her reason for deciding to work in the self-help and personal Development world was a very personal one. At the age of five, her parents disappeared without a trace. It wouldn’t be until 24 years later that she would find out the chilling truth of what had happened. During this time, Hypnosis in the form Hypnotherapy and NLP were the only things that helped relieve her anxiety and depression from having lived through so much trauma. She now focuses on helping people overcome their blocks so they can live the lives they choose to live. Some of the topics that she commonly helps people with include healing from a break-up, getting past being cheated on and having a positive perspective on love after being cheating on.
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“Whatever a person is sowing, this he will also reap.”
When all you sow is flame IN THE ASHES YOU SHALL REAP...JAMEY JASTA
Cheating is Not a mistake. Cheating is Choice.
It can be both. Have a wonderful weekend!
@@LindaQueLeenda That's right. We all make our choices.
There are many other options rather then cheating. But cheating is a easy candy for someone who is weak
@@Alloniya well said
@@SashaCarrionMindsetCoach If you have a husband and your husband cheats on you and then becomes your ex-husband then will you always reject your ex-husband if every time he asks you out on a date again?
If y’all want to sleep around with more than one person then be single or enter a polyamorous relationship. Don’t go into a MONOGAMOUS relationship and then sleep with other people. It’s not hard to be single and sleep around. If y’all want to be for the highway, JUST SAY THAT!
They don’t care
Say it again please.
PREACHHHHHHHHH
Ook honey then who will pay bills us women..... A women said it to me
The highway is expensive. 304s cant have a job and social life while simultaneously being financially responsible. It's to much for their fragile entitled minds to take in at once.
The pain the cheaters give just for the shake that they can hv FUN for sometime is just so insane.
Just say it u cannot be loyal n move out first.
Being cheated on, destroys self confidence, feeling of worthlessness is so immense.
Nobody deserves this !
Unfortunately, a lot of people don't do that.
cheating alone can destroy self confidence. Imagine begin cheated on and the person that did the cheating was bragging about it to impress his friend.
Nobody deserves this yet many go through this and cheater enjoys their life.
True but nobody can be honest like that though i can totally be honest even if it hurts!.
On top of cheating they tell you lies
Lie washes brain and cause mental health problems. Which is the worst. At least if you cheated tell truth imidiatly
This is one of the sickening parts you wonder if they ever told the truth..and for me I wonder like my ex saw me go through all this pain when j knew something was off and she kept on sleeping with the dude and would come back and I would confront her about it and she wouldn't say a word and then go back to the guy she was cheating with..I wonder if she wasn't caught would she still be acting how she's acting now..how she pleads I take her back and all if she could cause me such pain and not care about it
And many are @$%$holes. They are mean when they should be beating their own selves
@@Tcmanolo If I cheat in a relationship and I keep doing it then is my rejection from women going to increase?
Cheating is a sign of immaturity
Yep
"Is easy to judge... And is hard to think...
Is easy to take things personally... EGO can be big in both sides...
I just say study human behavior and nature... "
Neos.314
It’s a sign of mental problems. So therapy is needed
Only imatuarity people would say that . people that only see others mistakes but not their own
It’s a sign of complete lack of ethics
Cheating is not just one mishap. There goes a lot of planning and there are a lot of steps to it. If you ever get cheated on, remember that every step along the way the person could have stopped and considered your feelings. But they didn't care. They infact cared so little about you, that you are a clown if you think about giving them a second chance hoping they will care now.
Perfect description of cheating
My recent girlfriend to whom I was thinking about dedicating my life to, cheated on me.
What hurt the most was that a day before she did that, on my birthday, she told me "my love for you knows no bounds" and other sweet things so it took my by surprise and it felt like within a night my whole world is gone.
I don't know how to recover because I thought she loved me more than anyone else has and if she could do that than who can I trust.
She broke up with me after I called her out with a list of reasons why our relationship won't workout. Some of those reasons were valid but I wish she broke up with me a few days before finding someone else.
Anyone reading, I'm begging you please don't ever put the person you once loved through such fate, it's still the same person if you wanna leave atleast don't crush their heart in a million pieces.
Let’s have you do a reframe and focus on the fact that you dodged a bullet. No person who is not OK in their head is ever going to tell you that. The good thing is that it all came out to the light and now you don’t have to go through the torture of getting married, having kids, finding out, she’s been cheating on you all along, and then having to divorce.
There are many possibilities for love, including with a person who wants you and only you. Count your blessings and move on my friend!
Bro i know how you feel, i was in the same situation 18 months ago! And i can tell you that once you get cheated on you wont have the same look on the world and people ever again. Because it changes you permanently. And it takes a lot of time to go forward some people need years to recover. But you wont 100% recover ever. Which is the hardest truth to swallow! I wish you good luck in the future by the way.
Wake up, they are all liars and cheaters.
That sux.. I feel you.. Also going through a similar situation. However, asking a cheater to care about the fallout of their choices is illogical. For if they had considered the damages of their cheating they wouldn't have done it to begin with. In my view, unless convinced otherwise, cheaters have nothing to offer because what things they do to be kind have strings to their own expectations. In my 2nd view, that's not love; it can't be. Run!
Finding yourself after being cheated on is the hardest thing to do, your list is very accurate. I can identify with it and then some...
True. But you know what... I think the person that you ultimately find is a stronger much more empowered person, if you put in the work.
@@SashaCarrionMindsetCoach Yes you are correct, if you do manage find your self again... lots of people do not. Its been a year since I found out and I am still a bit lost.
@@jacoetsebeth150 It has been almost a year for me as well and I'm not doing well. I fake it through every day.
Did u found urself, I don't know if I can say yes to the answer.
@@NoThing-ec9km it is getting better more than 2 years down the line, but I am still doubting myself... it is not an easy road but I am getting there.
Cheaters dont care, its about having the cake and eat it too.
Are cheaters in a relationship usually facing more rejection than non-cheaters? Do you know?
@@Bentoto97well from my experience yes if u cheat ur more likely to get rejected if people know u have cheated but if u have never cheated ur more likely to not get rejected
@@Shootaisdon Why would people reject those who they know are cheaters more than those who they know are non-cheaters?
@@Bentoto97 because if people know ur cheater like i said there gonna be a lot of trust issues and conflicts trying to talk with new people but if u dont want rejection or conflict if u cheated what u could do is keep it between u and the girl who u cheated on and dont try to make more onto the problem jus be forgiven by her and forgive urself
Not true i care. I cheated and broke the love of my lifes trust. And i been suffering for 3 months now and not wanting to live. I am completely lost. And feel like i deserve hell.
She broke up with me and then right away started datin my ex friend so i guess thats my karma. I dont deserve no sympathy but i feel like i dont deserve to live now. I wish i could take it back. It was my first relationship and i told myself i would never cheat and i fucking sabbotaged myself.
I hate this chapter of my life.
Good summary but people know this information but do it anyway.
If someone cheats ONCE - 350 per cent chance they will do it again. Fact.
This is not true. I cheated once in a long-term relationship. And I learned my lesson. Because what happens is that you get back what you did multi-fold. A gazillion times. Because cheating once actually means someone lacks respect to their partner in the first place (I for sure did) and it’s behavior is already not healthy (mine for sure was). The act of sex is nothing. It was self-sabotage. I destroyed the most glorious life I could have had. No my partner wasn’t perfect. But he respected and loved me. And our long-term relationship was fine. Also. He did nothing to deserve this. Yes I was lacking intimacy. Yes I dealt with it in an immature way. But I spend 6 years contemplating on what I did. Remorse happens. Guilt. Shame. Pain. Powerlessness. And at the same time, expressing my sincerest regrets and best wishes for my ex partner and his new partner. We need to get to the core of why we cheat. In my case it was because I despised man, I was raised by an alcoholic father. Safety was unsafe. Home was unreal. And my partner was stable. Calm. A rock. And I couldn’t handle that. I was used to chaos. And he didn’t give me that. So I did it. I created it. I messed up. Someone can become an ex-cheater if they go through alllllll these layers of pain and don’t run away from it. It is possible to heal. I have to live every day of my life as a 33-something with the understanding that the person who was supposed to be the father of my children, is the one I pushed away. It still hurts. And that one is on me.
I completely ruined my life. The pain I feel is constant. Was it worth it? Absolutely not. Head my warning…NEVER EVER CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. You will regret it for the rest of your life.
You do not love someone that you cheat on. To love someone is to protect their heart as your own. Period.
@@arcturianoracle784 thank you, they only feel bad when it doesn’t work out when it work out with the other partner they don’t feel guilt
Same mistake over here. How are you doing these days ?
I just found out my husband cheated on me. We've been married for almost 9 years. I'm devastated. We have a 6 year old daughter. Why do you do these things? You ruin your spouse. It feels like I'm worthless. It feels like I'm nothing. I feel like I'm mourning my husband and my marriage and the life I thought I knew.
@@chrisitlsame. But in my case I left. Because it wasn't a slip up of he was drunk and it "happened " he planned this and it happened 2 times. And I had to recognize that I knew him enough that I knew he would do it again. So...
My cheating husband is insecure that I'm gonna leave him forever... it makes me thrilled. Said good bye to the cheater forever today. I'm relieved...
Did you really leave him though??
You must feel great now? Good for you.
@@Gotoworkkk that's past...
@@Gotoworkkk I moved on.... I got rid of that narcissist
@@gokulvrindavan1858 that’s good! I wish you the best
Take your pick: Humiliation, hurt, guilt, shame, unwanted pregnancy, chlamydia, divorce, expense, distrust, lost job, lost career opportunities, retaliation, suicide, alienation, sickness, alcoholism, drug dependency. The list goes on.
Btw, that was actually a really good list that you made.
@@SashaCarrionMindsetCoach Experience teaches harshly, but it teaches best.
How do people lose jobs after cheating?
I’ll take the alcoholism
Yes we forgot everyone is different. And some one can harm themselves after knowing they was cheated on. But that not an excuse to lie to that person… in fact you should tell it as fast as you can with support of a therapist ofcorse.
A married woman was cheating on her husband, and that woman's boyfriend has killed her
Cheating can even cause murder of your
I know someone who that happened to. Big age difference. A teenage boy killed the 31 year old woman cheating on her husband. So sad for everyone.
It really makes me question is some can kill someone he loves. Or is love even exist. Or it’s just desire
Sad part is all these videos Abt infidelity pops up only after the event is over. I guess even if it comes earlier, people skip it as they feel this would never happen to them, so why see. It's time we educate people proactively and explain how devastating this can be
yeah. I am so sorry.
True, like learning about marriage after your married.
And of course I’m sure you know that these consequences can be highly personalized. Betrayed persons, especially men, are starting to be much more intentional and even vengeful. One betrayed dude did his own PI work and got the affair partner, legitimately, back in jail for dealing. The betrayer was caught on a dui because an anonymous tip came in.
Cheating can be dangerous fir the cheater.
Cheaters don't deserve to live. They should mysteriously go missing
People are murdered everyday for cheating. If you are in a relationship and even if you are the cheater or the other person initiates this behavior. Please be very careful. A responsible respectful person even if he or she is attracted to you and is aware you are in a committed relationship they will not engage with you. However if a person knows you are in a relationship and he/ she still wants you. It's not a good person .It is a dangerous person. Narcissist
Can be down right deadly
I have been cheated on in two marriages. My first marriage of 16 years ended in divorce. My ex-wife subsequently ended up on the street, later passing away from septicemia, a consequence of alcoholism and untreated diabetes. I paid for her rehab a few months earlier but she checked out after 2 days. My second marriage survived. Her affair and unwanted pregnancy by her boss happened 6 years into our marriage, and took place 23 years ago. Children by my ex-wife and a child by my current wife. I will say this, when you divorce it is easier to forget the betrayal. When you stay in the marriage, the betrayal eats away at you. It’s like death by a 1000 cuts. Probably because she meant everything to me. I adored her (past tense). Maybe if she had come clean, and had confessed to everything, vocalizing her remorse, it would be different. Instead she simply clammed up. Rather the bandage is ripped off quickly than letting it gradually happen or not at all. This only leaves the way open to speculation and dark imaginings.
Wow. It sounds like your first wife was very self-destructive. The cheating was just one self-destructive behavior in many.
With your second wife, did she ultimately show remorse?
@@SashaCarrionMindsetCoach I would say yes. She started dressing and behaving more conservatively. Since the affair ended we have shared a lot of life experiences, travelled extensively, and educated our sons to the point where they are now thriving in their chosen careers. We get on well together but the circumstances surrounding my discovery of her affair were so traumatic the hurt still lingers on.
@@alive4627 It sounds like she's been on the up and up since that time. It's time to let it go. Let it go! Let it go! Consider doing some sessions with one of my staff members. You can check out our website by going to healyourselftherapy.com
Cheating can lead to people committing suicide, too.
Not too long ago, a friend of mine took his own life because he caught his fiancée with another guy in their bed; she thought he was going to be outside of town for a week or so.. but he came back home in less than 24 hours, witnessed what he witnessed and decided to put an end to his pain, a short time after the incident occurred. They were together for over 5 years, almost 6 years.
I'm sorry for your loss.
@@igy648 thank you, man. Appreciate it.
No way I would delete myself over a cheater. Whoever he's cheating with, she can have him.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
So sad
I've been dealing with this and found that in the end of it all, the cheater really just doesn't/ didn't give a s@!& at all.. they knew that more than likely when the affair started that their relationship wasn't working out and it wasn't going to work out so there really was nothing lost anyways
Facts 💯 👏
Cheaters do not bother with how hurt his partner is and glorify the wrong doing
You forgot about all the other people involved once caught, children, family, friends, significant others, risk of harm or even death if they can’t control themselves, risk of STDs, risk of getting her pregnant…
You are a woman right? If your husband cheats on you to become your ex-husband then will you always reject your ex-husband if he asks you on a date from time to time?
Cheaters claim they feel shame, is subterfuge. Cheaters display antisocial behavior. Cheater
Most cheaters don’t feel remorse.
My now ex monkey branch and cheated on me throw away our 6years of relationship i was devastated when i found out because we never have a problem we always work it out and thought we are compatible the disbelief and anger i felt was beyond comprehension the betrayal, deciet and lies are unbelievable..its about a year now and my pain and resentment does not lessens. Its easy for people to say just accept it and move on they do not understand the struggle you have to go through everyday especially when she would brag him in social media and hiw happy she is. I know my heart will get tired of mourning one day and forgets her.. i wish that time was now.. i wish all wounds heals fast..
You'll free yourself the day that you decide to stop doing that to yourself. You deserve to move on. It's time my friend.
The truth when someone cheats on you is when they no longer want you. Do you want to be with someone who is not wanting you? I know it’s hard but maybe that thought will help to detach
I feel your pain I got cheated on too..but to make things even harder for me the girl who cheated didn't leave it would have been much easier knowing she left me but she wants us to get back together as soon as possible and that's even more confusing she s been pleading for us to get back together and I really want to give it a try
@@TcmanoloI’m in Same situation as u bro ..
What’s update about ur situation??
It is the lie hiding devalueing me as significant other that hurts when someone cheating.
Why do cheaters never think twice? Man
@@ranasabry1158 they’re too stupid to even think once
Exactly, it’s second place. Good explanation.
@@nahmos658 be careful, they’re actually able to think on many levels, maybe more than most of us. I’ve noticed they plan on a granular but also higher level, many times several steps ahead.
@@TacticsTechniquesandProcedures exactly they’re so stupid but evil at the same time trying to manipulate others without being aware of the consequences and effects
Love how to the point this is. Thank you!
Mine cheated on me 3 days ago. I cut all ties with him.
I'm with the no remorse one. I've never hated and loved someone this much.
I don't believe her if she tells me it's daytime let alone believe that she loves me.
I'm staying for the kids but my sadness,pain, anger, betrayal keep me from being a decent father, so I even question staying at all.
I feel this so much right now. It’s a crushing pain unlike any other.
@@annamwale I'm so sorry. I know how you are feeling. I've been suffering since last September.
@@annamwale when I would be in my car driving alone I'd be screaming " how could you!!!! How could you!!!!" Everytime I think of what she did I am crushed under hatred, pain, sadness, I've never desired to leave someone and never look back so bad. BUT we have two beautiful babies!!! She wanted to get attention from her lover she didn't care that she was ruining the family that she claims to love. The lies on top of lies on top of lies. I hope it was worth it! I'm hope she felt like the falcon9 was shooting in her!
But I'll never truly love her again. Never ever.
@@igy648 I have been in your situation too. My man cheated on me with his co-worker in the cruise ship (Sea Princess). Trying to get her pregnant when he could barely support me and my daughter. I found out that he was cheating on me after I gave birth. I felt so much anger, hatred and disappointment towards him because he didn't just cheated on me. He also backstabbed me and my family (to which my parents taught of him like their son). Belittled me and spread lies to his lover and their friends at work that the baby I was carrying back then was from another man and that I let myself get impregnated. MY Family and friends were so furious because they cannot believe that he can make up stories just so he could get what he wanted (sex with his co-worker and assuring her that he chose her over me).
@@nodemode8001 thank you it was/ is the most awful part of my life.
What goes around comes around.
So true. One way or another.
Nicely done…short, ACCURATE, and to the point. If you are thinking of cheating…DON’T.
Thanks!
Cheating in relationship is worst to the core 💔💔
They don't think they'll get caught
That part
Trust is SO important!! If they cheated they have doubts with themselves or yes will blame you for THEIR choices. Remember that confronting them with evidence they have their back against the wall and at the point it’s over! They messed up and they know it. You don’t go looking for attention elsewhere when problems arise you sit and face ME.
People cheat because they are SELFISH! It isn't because the spouse wasn't ENOUGH!!
So victim, stop being selfish and realize that it had NOTHING to do with you!! It took me 40 years to work through that!! Forgive and move on!!
Trust is gone😂
My ex has no remorse whatsoever
Mine either. After 21 yrs and three children. We were best friends before he met her. There is zero empathy or compassion for me. He blames me for everything.
Money either I have a csf leak and since I am basically disabled and even so I still try to please him he cheated on me and went on grindr behind my back. I could go into a coma and have brain death from my brain leak that I have but no one cares I wish I could at least have my health back I would give anything to have it back. I am sorry this happened to you both.
@@animallover8779 I hope everything great happens to you and your health restores. My spouse just told me last night that he's in love with the other woman. I'm absolutely deviated.
@@shannonrusso3635 my bf still cares about my health and is very sweet and has huge heart at least friendship would be better in this case. I told him if he wanted to be open because he seems to love grindr and he said no. I know he gets lonely but it's no excuse to be sending out pics of yourself and I dont want to be with someone who won't take me serious. I hope you feel better do something that will take your mind off of him. People will always fail us thays why we have to count on ourselves and love ourselves even more.
Narcissist!
Also the risk of spreading STDs.
Cheating another person is like trying to cheat God because God resides in everyone's heart.
I wonder what your belief is on how to be saved and go to heaven (salvation) is because not every person who mentions God or claims to be a Christian have the correct belief on salvation.
I thought this was about cheating in an exam...
This was great, been searching for "best way to catch a cheating girlfriend" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Sanaayce Cheaty Exposify - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my work buddy got great results with it.
So i seem to notice all of these things cheaters "dont think about" isnt really true. Its more of a thing of weither or not they care. I was like expecting...idk what i was expecting, but certainly not what was in this video.
I was cheated on, when I realized the extent of it and how far she went just to be with him, turning our family life upside down...to how she treated me, how truly isolated I was...I was shaken. That was twenty years ago and I don't think I have fully recovered.
What”a bad it’s not only cheating but also:
1) Cheater can’t really tell why he cheated (he or she doesn’t even know)
2) Not tacking responsiblity/ not sorry/ shift blame onto you
3) acting like it’s not a big deal, not understanding your feelings, because they care only about themselves
4) cheater can’t communicate properly, so even if you forgive them something else gonna happen again.
And children say #1
That’s why you have me to build u up but u won’t let me so I gotta go
Lolz i think the world got cheating complex most of RUclips suggested is about these relationship issues .😂😂
I never been cheated on because i dont deal with premature men these type smells like headach and drama and i deal with certin type, real men Who are good to heavens even it didn't work we split with respect and dony cross boundaries duting the relationship.
My girl cheated on me you guess everything right on how she cheated on me
She mentions all the things hurt the BS that the Cheater doesn't think about. Of course, the cheater doesn't think about their BS, at all. Like, WTF?
Sometimes we think that the cheater is just made a bad choice, that he can be taught like a child. But we talk about a grown up.
Yeah, they don't care, so let go of them like you don't care either.
I have been cheated on quite a bit. I know how it feels, do I wouldn't do such a thing. I would rather leave than to cheat. If One can't stay loyal, then one should discuss options of having an open relationship. If I cheat, what values would I be teaching others or my future kids? Kids learn unconsciously. My stepfather took me and my sister's to a camping trip with a single lady with a kid from his work. Then after that, I remember my mom wanting to leave him. I didn't understand why because I was so young. After I studied astrology, I realized he prolly cheated on my mother l because my stepfather is a Taurus and since Taurus is usually so busy with work, they meet romantic partners thru work. Cheating doesn't just affect the partners. It also affects everyone around them.
im a taurus and I don't cheats get cheated on.
@@kyrianjoseph1403 I apologize, but I had no intention to imply that you cheated and that all Taurus cheats. I was just speaking in reference to my stepfather only and my experiences with him. There is more to astrology than the sun sign and one has to study an individuals entire natal chart, as well as the history and background of the person. What I was trying to state is that Taurus individuals are "busy with work" and I have witnessed many Taurus placements meet their romantic partners thru employment. That was what I was trying to state.
That's right. It's something that most cheaters don't think about.
Real men know exactly the cost only dumb lust men don’t know the consequences. Don’t feel guilt . Don’t blame just fess up and most people cheat and stay because they feel sorry for that person and stay for financial issues and most people who logically cheat to have comfort and understanding have shared that with their spouse but no response. Cheating doesn’t happen in split second . 😂😂😂People really need to wake up . You know the relationship was shit and If you paid attention in the beginning you would know not to make this a long commitment.
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It is a smashing exclusive guide for learning how to win your ex back minus the normal expense. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my colleague got great success with it.
and feelings of just not wanting to be on this earth anymore but not wanting to hurt other people just so you can have peace, it feels selfish… so you sit in your overwhelming emotions. that’s the hardest part.
Hey Marilyn! If you don’t want to hurt other people, then you just change your behavior. There’s no need to go to that dark place where you tell yourself that you need not be on this earth. Does that make sense?
@@SashaCarrionMindsetCoach yes it does, thank you :( it just gets hard. after seeing unfaithfulness with your parents and then having it continue on into your life, it makes you feel like love doesn’t exist or like it’s not in the cards for you to experience it. i don’t want to be in that dark place but sometimes my emotions and thoughts just take over all my common sense. I’ll get through it though!
@@marilyn.harlow I hear you. Years ago, I had a woman tell me the most interesting story. Her mother kept doing something that would set off her dad. I can't remember if she was cheating or doing something else. It was something that went on for years. When this new friend of mine was 26, her father after all those years decided to separate from her mom.
He thought he would be alone for the rest of his life. Just a few months later, he met somebody. My new friend told me that she still remembered the day that her father sat her down and told her that this new woman was the love of his life.
They would ultimately marry and live out the rest of their years together. When he died, she died 3 days later. There was no reason for her death. My friend believed that they loved each other so much that they couldn't be without each other.
So you see... real love... true love... does exist. You just need to heal your patterns so that that familial cycle ends with you. : )
@@marilyn.harlow We all get those kinds of thoughts. That's why, it's important that we learn to take control of our minds. I'm working on a program that helps you do exactly that.
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@@SashaCarrionMindsetCoach that is such a beautiful story, made me cry 😭❤️ thank you so much angel.
Cheating isn't worth it when you cheat it's not just you that it affects it's also your family , friends and coworkers that feel the affects too they will support you as well the cheater will suffer the consequences for their actions later on in life almost all cheaters that pick their lover over their former partner never last long so my advice to you is don't cheat it won't last forever i promise you that 😊
My ex girlfriend cheated on my multiple times with multiple different guys I found out that she was cheating on me from the day we made started talking she then started dating one of the guy she cheated on me with she then cheated on him with me so I stopped talking to her I later found out that she's been cheating on him with other guys, she's that bad that she went to his birthday on the Thursday and met up with a different guy the next day.. she blamed everything on me made it seem like I was the problem but I was never the problem and I finally realize that I was never the problem, she recently tried to talk to me again but I said sorry we should just stay as strangers lol
He cheated on me lies to me and yet doesn't feel any remorse. Just before going to bed tonight he was on the phone I heard him clearly say goodnight, when he came into the bedroom I asked him who was he on the phone to, and saying goodnight, his answer was the dog he said goodnight to, I said to him, you was on the phone, he then says he was checking his bank balance. The dog doesn't have a phone, his bank balance wasn't up on phone history when I asked him to show me, he only brang it up when I asked to see it...what's he up to?
The dog 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 lol
@@blueflame3531 haha I guess he is one dog who thinks he's smart lol
@@julietyoung3682 from all excuses he could come up with 😂
@@blueflame3531 yeah could of come up with something better lol. I dumped him and after doing it I feel so relieved of heart ache and pain and a whole lot happier
You have your suspicions and should be saving up financially for you to either make your exit or land on your feet when he makes his.
she cheated on me. And now, i don't trust her that much. I don't trust easily to people but when i met her, i gave it. Now, i feel betrayed and i what i see to her now is like a low class immature being. I loved her. I've been a good, faithful and loyal partner to her because i made a promise to myself that i will never do anything stupid. but now i think she's just making an excuse that it was all my fault. She was attracted by materials now because of the guy who keep pursuing her. lols. she entertained it while we hadn't this argument. yes, i must say she's stupid. But i do believe in karma. I just keep pushing myself to become a better person and enjoy life without her. I told her that my love for her will never change and i mean that, because i have my words and i'm showing it to her.
I believe trust in relationship is overrated. After my husband was always making calls at night , I would ask and he would just wave off those calls as unimportant.I couldn’t deal with all his lies anymore at some point. Then I decided to find a way to know what was going on and I had to talk to a colleague of mine at work which referred me to this great hacking team ultimate hack who helped clone his cellphone without having to touch his device. To my surprise my husband has been a cheating Narcissist. and I’m glad i found out all his secrets and infidelity and how he planned on using this pandemic to get back to me. I got access to his Facebook, iMessage, GPS location , WhatsApp, Call Logs and Text Messages both recent and deleted ones with a remote link that was processed . I’m here in New York and was able to access my husband’s phone even while he was away in Australia cheating on me. I was heartbroken when I found out about all the conversation my husband was having with other girls and how he was flirting on dating site. I am glad I was able to get help. you can contact them via email at ultimatehack003(at)gmail com or via WhatsApp,text or call +17202954268 now i have enough evidence to go through divorce but I’m not sure if I should let him go or stay cause we have 4 years old girl together. Please I need advice to know if I should give him another chance or just let him go.
They just don’t care 🙄
don't forget what it does to the children as well.
Yes. Very good point.
I have a baby and he didn't seem to think of any of that. Because of his cheating he now doesn't see his son everyday and he brought that upon himself
I caught my partner cheating after 8 years... she told me it was my fault and I spoke it into existence. Mind you I never cheated on her AT ALL. I was always working and toke care of the house. Good Guys finish last.
I’m sorry that you had to go through that. I’m actually making another video that touches on some of what you mentioned. Be on the lookout for it. :-)
You did not mention the effect on your children if you are a parent.
You are totally right Bill! I'm thinking that I can make a whole video on that one.
He blamed me a lot kept saying it was what we were going through 🙄 you mean you going out & cheating?? Like what does that me
You put us in such problems not me…
That's somebody who doesn't take responsibility for his actions.
Exactly, the cheater is the problem, not me. And the person with whom they cheated has the problem now. 😅
How about when you cheat because you want to just leave the relationship and need financial support. Is not an “affair” it’s a wrong path you choose
That’s right.
Thanks I don't wanna cheat
Cheating is an open door of early death
Its been 3 years and i still feel so much shame and hate myself
If you care about them at all, know that you are beating up their loved one, friend, companion... ,by beating yourself up too much. Guilt..guides us in life, as well as many other things. If you can think of it as a toxin that you are choosing to be in your and your partners lives, then you maybe able to nip it in the bud, every time it enters your mind. The amount you harbor on it can be spent in positive ways instead, thinking about ways to enhance yourself and your partner is so much more empowering and healthy for BOTH of you...and your future , including family or future family and friends( furry ones and not so furry) Get in the driver's seat of your life and drive down better roads. Forgiveness, forgiving yourself in some monumental moment...is over rated and complicates chit and easily forgotten in today's world. If anything, vow to do better TODAY and let them add up to a different you... A you, that you will be proud ...of and other's might also. "KISS"( Keep It Simple Stupid) Don't feed "stupid" once you recognize it in yourself and others, be humble ( we ALL do stupid sometimes in our lives)and keep moving forward, mentally, physically( if able), spiritually... Yell at yourself at times" EASE UP!!!" or " AT EASE SOLDIER!!" Whatever works for you, when you find yourself trapped in negativity and gtfo!
@@christineseaborg4066 thank you :)
same here 😭
@@ellaineheart5766 why u cheated then??
@@mayankshukla3912 I thought the grass was greener on the other side. But it turns out to be not. It was my biggest mistake that I cheated on my ex. He has a new partner now. I still can't move on.
Cheating basically is because of incompatibility. One partners needs aren’t being met so they go elsewhere. Nothing personal, it’s as simple as that. I would never take back a cheater, because if you do they will see you as weak, as someone who will accept bad behaviour in the name of ‘love’ and they are highly likely to cheat on you again because they know you will stay with them, regardless of their character flaw. Even after their Oscar worthy performance of tears. Everyone wants an easy life, the easy thing to do for yourself if you’ve been cheated on would be to move on with someone else who would value you so much, they would know never to cross that line of trust and pure devotion. Some people do and can work it out after a cheating affair, some cheaters do redeem themselves - but I have only seen that with with older married couples who already have kids etc. who have matured and it is rare.
My wife told me she is in love with someone else on our 6th anniversary, then proceeds to tell me she wanted to continue developing her new relationship whilst keeping the marriage; her logic was that because this and that reason, therefor she deserves my openness about her relationship. She openly announced that we were 'separated' and then told me that she would only be loyal to her new lover (who she had virtual contract for one year and only met in person once). We have a 5yo son. I don't know how to face him.
Divorce her you deserve better
You married the wrong person brother. File for divorce like yesterday
My wife cheats and can't do nothing about it.
If she wants to cheat she will cheat no matter what
You can't control what you do but you can be in control of whether you are with her or not.
@@SashaCarrionMindsetCoach that's the problem she knows I can't live without her .
Like I just can't breath I'm depressed I'm hurt that I know what she's doing behind my back but the pain is more deep a life without her.
She doesn't work she lives like a princess I buy her everything and I get this in return .I know people may laugh at me being a fool but I just have hope she will change one day
Why can't you live without her? If she dies today, will you follow her?
Yeah I'm going through it now she blame me I tock her back after 12 times n left me n my kids alone with nothing and don't even ask about them why she up there with him now
Cheating should be illegal 😢
Busted my girl with her orbiter friend the day after she tells me she can’t anymore, after I’ve literally sacrificed everything. To the point, it has become codependent as well. I don’t know how to fix the parts of me that keep attracting partners like this.
We've all allowed certain things to happen in our lives over and over again. It stops happening when we decide to value ourselves and put our foot down. You deserve better Sean Michael!
Cheaters do not care. End of story.
There are different levels of cheating before a physical contact. Flirting with other people. Still chatting or connecting with their exes. Entertaining other potentials when you have one. And manipulating your mate. If you don’t like the way the relationship is going, break it off . Either wait to see if you can salvage it or find someone else. In other words if someone is playing with your emotions and insecurities, leave them and find someone else. Don’t dis yourself. In other words once you both agree to be monogamous, hanging with exes, flirting with new potentials is cheating.
So true
If you don't play by your own rules there is no point of asking for redemption or forgiveness from your GF/BF.
If you're unsure about what you want it is better not to claim monogamous relationship, it is OK to make your own choices and mistakes but not pretend to be something you're not.
Those who are upfront about not comiting to a single partner saves so much time and emotional problem to themselves and the others.
Leave peoples who want life partner commitment alone.
Rachel Rios Hernandez guilty of cheating. Your the accuser. I'm saying you like wen men cheat on you , you love it. That's why you got different daddies
I was so insecure she was never sexually satisfied and I’m broken inside, and I felt as if she would also have an attitude at me. I’m such an idiot, I pray we will be together in the future.
If somebody doesn’t want to be with you, for whatever reason, just move on. There are many possibilities for love and I assure you that there are plenty of people out there with whom you would have great intimacy.
He started being really cruel to me.. saying really mean things, basically telling me about her and how she was better than me but not really saying it outright.. I’m a bad wife ect
They don't care. They don't plan on getting caught. They don't experience guilt.
You literally read what you saw so all the pain and suffering you put on your spouse you are going to get back tenfold literally a double portion cheaters deserve to be left behind because your marriage going for will be nothing lies. Run and Run Fast!!!
Sometimes, but not always. Many cheaters bear few, if any, consequences. It sucks to think about it, but it's life. My thoughts on the matter are not to be concerned with the cheater, rather to make sure I keep them out of my life.
Lose her self confidence huh?...what about his confidence?
He blamed me for cheating
Now that is a manipulative person. I'm actually in the process of making a following up video to this one and this is one of the topics that I touch upon. If you haven't already subscribed please do so, so that you find out when the video comes out.
Thank you so much for that information I'm going through that right with my wife not taking responsibility for cheating and putting the burden of blame on me by saying 😠 it was my fault he went to go have sex with another man
I'm in the same situation
Hope you’ve left her by now, and feel better
I Believe every situation is unique
For sure.
Cheating is not for Vainilla Life proponents.
I've been cheated on and It didnt bother or effect me one bit,
You probably didn’t truly love the person then
Thank you very informitive n helped me think its not wat ive done taking all blame his the 1 sud be ashamed .xx
You're welcome Janet!
Clear and concise information...very true!
Glad you think so!
Are men who cheated their ex-wife usually experience more rejection than for men who don't cheat on their wife?
*This is only bad for cheater when they care about their partner, In other cases cheater enjoys their life after that and person who got cheated on lives life in depression.*
I'm not going to be depressed over someone who is not good. You don't get depressed over garbage, you throw it out.
Are cheaters usually the ones who are facing more rejection than non cheaters?
@@natashadickson4819 If you had a husband or boyfriend, especially more than one who cheated on you which caused you to divorced him or them, is there a good chance that you would always reject those cheaters?
@@natashadickson4819 Would you always reject people who cheated on you in the past?
Is kissing a woman as a woman while drunk cheating if I said no to kissing her before alcohol consumption
Any action that will hurt your partner when she or he sees it, IS cheating.
Maybe, but they don’t care
I have told my partner that I don’t like to be called a name that really bothers me time and time again and he continues to do it knowing how hurtful it is. He’s done other things has made me realize that the relationship is becoming toxic to me. I’m not happy. I won’t cheat but I will be out of the relationship because I should always be happy not sad. I come first.
If you are not happy break up with him , cheating is for insecure people .
If you are not happy in a relationship you have very right to exit the relationship, but cheating sinter the way to go, it wouldn't sole anything
There are 50 ways to leave you lover and none of them involve cheating.
Not Tell the whole truth are you
I love this video Thank you so much!!!!!
If you cheat and feel bad about it afterwards, is it better to just be honest or keep hiding it? hypothetically of course
Good video 👍
Do cheaters usually face more rejection than for people who don't cheat?
She started to change for the worse after she got an email from her messed up ex boyfriend and in the end she cheated on me with a guy who is exactly like the old guy and then just vanished from my life saying she is an awful person. She doens't even know the pain and agony she caused
But it's a good thing that she is gone. You can find someone better, if you want to.
I never cheated on my boyfriend This is Rachella I am really upset right now
So spot on.
Glad it made sense to you. Have a wonderful weekend Tiffany!
Btw for many prudes it’s going to suck more than it’s Sucks. 😂
thank u so much
You are most welcome
spot on
He says he loves me, but sees her to get his Needs Met? Huh??
Excellent video, thank you !
You're welcome!