@@nicodance4156 people are different...there are people who are more affectionate and more caring than others Not all fathers are the same when it comes to taking care of their kids
I hope people don't hate him for this because he really seems like a nice person but he just don't know how to manage his fear and concern for his sister. he is very afraid that she might get hurt that's why he being overprotective that's suffocating.
A sword cannot be hone itself while it's kept in it's sheath I understand what you mean. But the Brother cannot "protect" her forever. If the brother really wants her to become stronger and be able to enter society normally. He should understand that the reason why most parenting is done before the age of 18 is for this exact purpose.
@@Tony-qw1df I see what you're saying, but maybe he thinks of her as a daughter rather than a sister, and parents usually tend to try to protect their children from every possible danger in the world even if it backfires and led their children to be very dependable on them. I am don't agree with what he's doing, but I can't say that I don't understand it.
suzychocolate7 I agree. Beacuse they came from a broken family so maybe he told himself that what ever happens he must take care of his sister. Maybe he also just want to secure his sisters future that she will find a good and hard working husband so that she will not experience the things that happened to their parents.
Anthony Yes i understand that the brother can’t protect her forever. That’s why maybe he’s doing his best now to protect his sister. Maybe he also thinks that if he help his sister to find a good and worthy man maybe that man can continue his job and that is to protect his sister.
the brother may be the most cooprative guest throughout all the episodes i've watched of Hello Counselor... He's not stubborn and he's very open to opinions, not only that, he also thanked the show.. amazing!
He showed that he really cares about her and not just do it because of having power and trying to control her. He truthfully takes her as a fragile child she was when parents divorced. He started getting that feeling of responsibility when he was a teen that's probably why it is a little extreme.
He's a really nice brother who looks out for his sibling. There is a limit to a certain extent of being protective but some of his ways can be a little too much. If he just fixed those small things then it shouldn't be much of a worry. He's a really nice and thoughtful guy.
He's a good guy. He just doesn't realize that his idea of protection is overbearing and hindering. He has to let her make her own decisions. Best luck to them both, they're both good people :)
@@aprilsdawn7782 I think your idea of awful is sorely underdeveloped. He's wrong yes, but awful would be to live his life through her. The fact that he supported her dream proves that he is , in his mind, doing it for her. He just needed to realize that imposing your standards on someone is not how you treat an adult.
Let's give a huge applause for the father who raised these 2 secussful siblings alone it's not easy to raise 3 children alone .. Happy for the father he didn't take his life and stayed for his family... wish you happiness and more communication with each other
"Aren't all brother like this with their little sister" me: I don't think my big brother even realizes I exist... & we live together so uhhh the answer to that question is no
Okayyy Chweee not any big brother could pour money to help their younger sister dream come true. From his educational background the family grew up poor, the brother worked hard with his uptight personality to become successful so he wishes his sister could be a version of him
This episode doesn't seem as bad as that one in which the mother had to make the girl move to her house because she was worried about how her older brother perceived her
I understand where he's coming from. You started to become protective of younger ones when your family is broken (divorce or a parent dies). I've been there actually. It's just that the brother is overly protective. I'm glad he listened.
Nobody know what the brother fill..what have he done for family... Bacause of their father and mother have divorce.. He take the hard part to become a man for the family and sacrifice a lot of thing just to be a good son and brother.. But some people see that is not a good thing.. Just wan to be free. If anything bad happen and then she will come see the brother for help.. That just the life is..
This was a really positive episode. A family that genuinely love each other and are hard working, willing to suffer and change because of their loved ones. They just didn't know how to communicate with each other.
I think he wants her to date someone like him i.e. someone with the same sternness and dare I say obsessive behaviour but if I was her I couldn't do it.
Actually i thinks the problem isn’t her brother’s fault and also not her but you have to understand that every eldest sibling has responsibility for taking care of others. He just dont want his sister to be hurt bc the man that cant even being by herside and go through it with her. The brother has a right judgment. Man knows man. Rooting for the sister wishing you find the right man for you.
thichakorn kongsuk yess i have a big brother too. And i understand why her big brother do that. And to be honest it’s normal when big brother being more protective to her. Ofc he will put sister first than his wife. Their parents divorced when they was very young. So it’s understandable why her big brother treat her like that. It must be a big burden for her brother.
If this was a husband and wife situation, would you still feel the same? Like she went out with her friends & he constantly called & wanted pictures to see where she was & who she was with & then would talk bad about her friends when she got home? Or he financially helped his wife open a business then micro-managed every aspect of it &questioned every decision she made& even spied on her through the camera system? Or when she comes home from a hard days work & he demands to see her phone & proceeds to read every text, email, & every type of correspondence she had between people that day? & She is submissive to all of this because he "scares" her& she doesn't want to fight & when people ask her why doesn't she move, she says because she is scared. & When she asks him why does he do this to her, he tells her that she is weak, has bad judgement &he doesn't trust her. Now, would you still justify all of this to a husband and wife in the same situation? I left this comment on another comment because I am genuinely curious to see if you would think all of this is acceptable if this was a husband and wife
Msichana Huzuni for me it’s different situation. It’s normal when big brother getting more protective to his sister, My brother also do the same. But not that extreme because he trust me now. He wouldn’t do that to his wife for sure. It’s different.
@@朱就米 I think being protective over a sibling is normal but what he is doing is emotional abuse- domestic violence. People don't always recognize abuse if it's not a husband & wife or a relationship type situation. If he did this to his wife-wouldnt it still come from the same "good place"- because he loves his wife & would want what he feels is best for her? But if he did those same things to his wife it is easily recognized as abusive. Does it make it less painful, harmful or less abusive because it's his sister?
For one, he is married..he needs to focus on his marriage. Two, she is 22 years old and needs to learn in order to grow. Him protecting her will not help her grow. Three, controlling and supervising someone is districting them from life. He needs to back off because his "love" can hurt her...it's the idea of "let me protect you, but in the process I'll hurt you". She is in the show because she feels pain from his actions and she feels like she can't live as she wishes
That a responsible and respectable father. Someone who is willing to suffer for the sake of someone else, to make sure they can make it through life not alone
I would like to give a big kudos to this older brother! You have been carrying too much burden, taking care of all of this family. But it is okay now. it is not your responsibility and let go..You don't have to be in charge... and you just take care of your wife. The rest of the family will be okay!
Most of the comments seem to be supporting the brother. But I could totally sympathise with her because we're on the same boat. Y'all have no idea how f* frustrating it is to be constantly under someone's control all your life.
It’s so weird to me how they are supporting him... I know it’s cultural difference to but from my cultural perspective he is abusive, controlling and a borderline stalker. My alarm bells are ringing loudly.
@@cheesecake7274 stalker? 😂 What are you 13 years old? No brother will make his life difficult by letting his younger sister life with him and his wife and help her with her dreams financially. Kicking her out and not helping her with a penny and not caring about her is called being abusive. Seriously some of you kids need to grow up and see the world as it is. Yes, checking her phone consistently is annoying but nothing close to being "abusive".
my brother used to be like this, for example “No showing your face on social media until age 35” “No cursing until age 30” “No dating even if u went through puberty” until i started to act more mature than my age But i understand that he wants me to have a good life and be safe
I have 2 younger sisters and I used to be a little overprotective of them but never to the extent this lady's brother or your brother was. Knowing how my sisters are if my elder brother or myself were to be that demanding n controlling, they would have rebelled. Kudos to you for being so patient with your brother. Something he has to learn is sometimes to overcontrol n be overprotective is countereffective. My sister met the love of her life at 16. If my bro or myself were to hinder her from dating then, she wouldn't be getting married soon to her love. Not to be rude but genuinely curious, why doesn't your bro allow you to show your face on social media till you're 35? Most women are already mothers at 35. Can't imagine having a brother telling me what I can or cannot do when I'm alr a mum.
I understand the brother wants to look out for his younger sister, but it's now an abusive relationship and the brother is the abuser. It he doesn't cut it out, he'll be the one who has driven his sister into an even more abusive relationship and she won't be able to leave, bcuz he'll be just like the brother. I really hope he gets it together bcuz she seems like a good person and I don't want her in some relationship that's abusive bcuz that's all she knows.
That brother needs to let her breathe. She needs to live her life, it’s not his. He’s in her life, but he’s not her. He can’t control it. It’s nice to feel protected but it doesn’t mean he needs to interfere and control everything. She’s 22 and should live her life on her own.
Olivia Catherine with what money. Their father has no money, he is overly protective bcuz his sister is too young with that cash. He’s afraid people will come and use her as a bag and she doesn’t have the judgement to know who’s the fake
ChunChunMaru what I meant by this I wasn’t talking about their financials. That’s a whole different topic they have to figure out as a family. However, he just needs to give her a least a little quarter of space so she can breathe. I understand what it means to have protective siblings. I have three older brothers no sisters so they are very protective. But they allow me some space and don’t try constantly prying into my life. He just needs to understand she is an adult. She’s 22, and I know she seems naive but she should be allowed freedom.
@@Astelch I do agree with you than this comment you have replied with. She's too young and fragile of things. His brother might seem strict, but it is pretty understandable. I think he is a nice guy.
@@christinejoybuan1418 too young? She's in her 20s. Yes that's young fir an adult but she's still grown. He's way too controlling and overprotective and overbearing. Its borderline abusive because he basically controls all the money. Your intentions dont matter when the actions of them are hurting someone else you supposedly care about and its pushing them away. She'll only grow to resent him and eventually figure out how to det through life completely on her own because he's fucked it up. I'm glad he understood in the end. He's not a bad guy at all, his actions are just mistaken and misguided. It doesn't matter whether or not we want the ones we love to not get hurt. Because we all get hurt in this world we dont have a choice in it. But we do get to choose how we go about life and experience it. She's an adult and it's good he realized it.
He keeps saying when she gets stronger he will let her be ... but he doesnt really give her an opporunity to grow stronger as a person. I mean she is practically an adult, and she should be able to decide things freely and make mistakes because that is what growing means not by being protected at that age. Of course he is just very worried and wanta to be a good brother but if he really wants to help her this is not the way. She could grow up too protected and dependent on his brother and its not like she should rely on him forever. Plus it is really frustrating to become and adult but have less freedom than any normal high schooler out there. She is 22 already she need to experoence things.
kids are the one who suffer when their parents divorced. that's why parents need to think of their kids in every decision that they will make. they need to explain them everything so that they will not have any misconceptions about the situations that lead to them to behave like they are now.
He is a good brother, but it is the sister who I think needed to stick up for herself and retaliate against the brother and he would have listened because of how much he already expressed himself but said she never told him how she felt, so the brother thought he was in the right because his sister never told him to stop. simple fix but loving story. I think it's their father who needs help if he said he contemplated suicide :'(
up4life20 their father feels like his son had to take the father figure. His father said he didn’t have any money to give so I’m sure the brother felt a burden and pressure of not fucking up and making sure the family can make it. No one is wrong here
i have 4 big brothers and i have one brother tht just like him...sometimes i hate it when he overprotactive but most of the time i felt grateful to had someone care about me so much because i lost my dad when im just 10 years old...
also that studio was bought by her brother and there are things you do/don`t do for the family. Everyone knows its easier to just MOVE TF OUT but she did not fight to move out because that is her family. People who have dumb mentality and selfishness like you are the problem.
He's a good brother. A really good one. He just overdoing it. It's a mistake that he's ready to change and he listen really well to those advise. Really love a brother like that.
I think Yeonja & Oh Jiho really helped him understand. A lot of comments justified what he does because it comes from a "good place" but just because love or wanting what they(older brother in this situation) think is best for them (younger sister) motivates people's actions doesn't make them good. If this situation was a husband and wife-EVERYONE would be screaming emotional abuse, domestic violence. Just because it's a brother & sister doesn't make it less abusive.
It's sick how are u all taking his side just because he's a man ,if it was the opposite case you would also take his side like this is not about him worrying about her .he's just a control freak he has no right whatsoever to invade her privacy like that .
thank you! sick of people sympathising with him. it's her life; they're both in their 20s, he has NO RIGHT to have any sort of control over her, whether he's concerned or otherwise.
nobita nobi not even gonna entertain ur stupidity luv ('asian culture'? y'know. not korean culture?? ???) just because it's 'part of their culture' (which let's be real you're likely not actually part of) doesn't make it right end of.
nobita nobi nah that’s not apart of our culture.. stop saying nonsense. This is something that is way out of hand. Nothing to do with my culture and it’s upsetting for you to say that.
If I was her, I’d be the happiest sister tho cause her brother is so caring and protective. I have 7 years elder brother and he too did the same and I was annoyed but right now I miss all those days and I appreciate his care. Now he’s married and he’s a complete a different person now. He doesn’t give a shit about me and mom at all now. My dad passed away with the pressure he caused him and mom. I would do anything to have a brother like this. You are very lucky and blessed.
It's one thing to be protective and another to be a controlling intrusive overbearing sibling. The two DO NOT compare. Blessed? To not be able to live her life and experience things that help her learn and grow? Yeah No.
No matter how much he wants to protect her out of love and care...if he is pushing this on her without her consent and personal opinion or awareness ..then he will suffocate her. She is her own person and if she feels restricted then she is getting some form of psychological pain. yes, he cares about her and doesn't want her to feel pain but we live in this Earth and pain is just natural. The best he can do is give her space and support. This obsession with her safety can also take a blow in his daily life.(and obviously in hers)
I life with my younger brother sister when my parent pass away but i never strict to my younger like him i giving my younger fredoom so their x can learning everything about life and independent person i just tell them if that good you choice you can choice if that bad for life don't choice and stay away
The problem is that just bc he spends money on her and she lives with them doesn't mean he can be controlling of her like that to the extent that he is with the CCTV and look at her spending habits. Imagine if a husband treated his wife like that just bc he made all the money. She is crying bc she's scared of his control sometimes. And it's right that he's creating more distance with his sister. I hope the sister just moves out and establishes her independence
he is right, if your bf breaks up with you because you have a brother that's a bit strict. he doesn't really love you enough. if he really loved her he wouldn't let her brother stop him. he would try to get the brother to accept him by showing him he can take care of his little sis in his place. it's a good method to test someone.
@Mitch 1066 that's not really a reason to breakup with someone you love so "dearly". the brother is a good guy who wants what's best for his sister. if he saw a man who is strong and wise enough and really loved his sister, i'm a 100% sure he would not stand in his way. my gf's father was way worse than this guy. and yet i'm still with her and i've won her father to my side (partly) but i'm sure the day will come he will fully trust me with his daughter.
I understand how he feels. My heart goes out to him. he had to live his life stages and raise his siblings, which he took very seriously! I commend him. At first, I thought it was something creepy, then I thought, "He raised her which means he knows her! Right now, she needs guidance, still. Friends will and can manipulate another friend out of anything. (If they're that kind of friend) He is a little too strict and needs to pull back 35% and just be there for her when she falls to pick her up. She's pretty, a CEO and has a little money: Yeah, the sharks can smell fresh blood and will come after her. I wish I had an older brother who could've separated the bad from the good for me because no one knows a man like another man. I probably would have resisted, but, in the end, I respect my brother's opinions. Even the ones that are hard to swallow. Any who........Annyeonghaseyo (안녕하세요) Oh Ji-ho!
my parents raised me and know nothing about me i hide my feelings from them because of how strict and controlling they are just cause her brother raised her doesnt mean he knows her especially not to the point were he thinks its okay to check her phone,bank account or not give her permission to go out with friends shes 22 she shouldnt need to get permission from her older brother
So many people think the guy is wrong but understand his position he worked to reach where he is now. Although the sister is a CEO she is very young. He has been like a father to her for such a long time and paying for your own marriage is not that easy. As he said he worked hard started working in high school and also he was a good student he got scholarships overall as he knew his dad would not be able to do it after his mother left him. Its just that he was protective about her and did not want her life to turn out as his father. I saw some comments saying let him have a daughter he will get to know and some were saying that his daughter would run away but think while standing in his shoes he wanted to become a good son and a reliable brother. He will turn out a good father if he just known what is protective and overprotective. Fighting
His a good brother I’ll be happy to have a brother like that I’m the oldest daughter on my family . I start working at the age of 4 years selling food in the street and I went abroad to worked at age of15 to help out my family she’s lucky to have a brother who help her to make her dreams come true I never experienced growing up to have family by my side . There’s lots of kids have worst life than her around the world but never complained she should be thankful to her family who worked so hard to support her.
I respect that what her sister say don't interfere her privacy but her brother doing this for her goods and she must be proud that her brother care a lot and also helping her to succeed her life goal🙂, I'm saying this because brothers are not same my older brother always treat me like I'm a stranger to him😕 I feel so sad, god give me brother but he don't care about me, I'm proud of her brother how he struggle 🙂👍 great job
Lana’s Korean is really good! All I’ve seen is int. Fans bashing her for being kinda Koreaboo like in her actions but tbh she obviously but in the effort to assimilate into the culture so I like it- It encourages me to study more 😖
I was blown away by her Korean!! I've been studying Korean on and off for a few years, so I'm super jealous. People may have their opinions about her, but you can't deny her language skills.
I have a older brother, but my older brother is not busy with personal matters, but he cherish me, but I want to tell you that when you cry for a long time may cause facial muscle pain. I cried when a man's story. I cried No more than 1 minute. That's good. I won't bear to cry all day. It aches.
Oh lawd, the brother acting like he doesn't know the meaning of "privacy" and saying that just because she's his sister he has the right to invade it....run sis x_x
No offense but since he spent thousands of dollars on her, and she’s only 22 with a shop of her own he has every right to worry about her spending habits, I agree that checking her account every so often is overboard and he should respect her privacy- But seeing that she’s so young and she’s gaining new experience from dating guys they’re definitely going to be some guys were going to try to date her just to get money, Yes he definitely should respect her privacy, not read through her text messages and things like that, he should wait for her to address a situation if she feels that somebody is bad, and he should address the situation if he sees that someone is bad for her but he shouldn’t try to pry too much in her life that’s the main concern here. But I guess it’s just me because if I was put in the same situation with my younger brother (because the age gap between my siblings and them is roughly the same) I’d be very protective as well because: 1. That’s my money 2. That’s a very serious investment to have when you already have a wife, a house and you may have kids 3. She’s living with them 4. Again he invested the main funds for her shop. You don’t know if he’s getting part of his investment back or not, but even if he is he has every right to know about the funds going in and out the shop. I feel like she’s taking it out of proportion cause she’s young and wants to be in love with love, that why he seems so extreme but to me he just seem a little pushy but with good intentions. Really I think he’s pushy because that’s his younger sister, they didn’t grow up with their mom they really only grew up with her dad so he had to be the man of the house since he was younger and that’s not an easy feat. I hope everything works out and he gives her a little bit more space, I mean obviously he’s a very good brother in every other aspect if he is the man of the household in their family and his own.
Yes I agree to an extent. But he's seriously on the outbound when it comes to her space. She's 22 years old, not 12 years old. I respect that he's looking after her, but I do not respect the way that he's looking after her. She has already walked into society. If she doesn't hone herself now. She will only get hurt more when her Brother can no longer take care of her.
Don't give money if you don't trust that person. She hasn't done anything wrong yet with that money. Controlling someone's expenses and spying on them is abuse
I think it's his responsibility as her brother. He helped her for her future. But should not he have let her do what she wants in her life? Like having bf! Or spending as much as money she wants! I mean yeah! It was his money. But still it was his choice to help her. If he was to meddle like the way he is doing rn. She would have never asked for money. I think happiness matters the most. And suffering in present waiting future to be good. I don't think it's good thing to do. You should enough present and plan for future. Well I dont know what I am saying but He is a bit too much.
22 is not that old, people at that age still make stupid mistakes and need guidance as well. To be honest she looks naive and I hope she can mature more. Since she’s young she’s allowed to make mistakes but I hope she doesn’t hate her brother for trying to protect her from possible hazards.
He invades her privacy and controls her life to a point where she fears not obeying him even tho she's an adult. It ain't protection. I hope he changed.
어린 나이에 일찍 철들어 부모노릇 해 온 장남이 대견스럽고, 한편으로 마음도 아프네요. 그 어린 나이에 어른이 되어야만 했던 그 소년에게 고생했다고, 수고했다고 말해주고 싶어요. 기댈 수 있는 어른이 주변에 생기길 바래요. 동생의 행복이 무엇인지, 그 행복을 스스로 정의하고 있는건 아닌지, 그렇다면 왜 그렇게 되버린건지 생각해 보는 시간이 필요해 보여요.
I am like a mother, father to my younger brother and sister, my dad abandoned us when I was in grade school. My mom works and I am responsible for decision making, mos of the time, but never force or be to restrict with them. I always advised them on things to do, the right thing to do but not in a way that is suffocating, and I'm glad that even if I'm far away with them they know how to take care of themselves, and they call me even if I don't ask them.
I love the shape of his teeth, they remind me of how they drew Simba in the lion king :p I am an older sibling and if my kid brother got involved with the wrong kind of people my protective instinct would also kick in. But nevertheless though he has no right to invade her privacy on her phone, definitely not. I wish I could tell him how I became strong so that he can release the grip of his own fear a bit.
He’s a good person with good intentions but his protectiveness for his sister has reached the point of obsession and he has to stop. It’s not fair to her, she’s being treated as a child at age 22. Worrying and caring for your younger sister is a great thing but not when you do it to this extent, if he keeps doing this he may end up causing there to be distance between him and his sister in the future. Having someone hover over you like that can feel so frustrating that you feel as if your being suffocated. He’s causing more damage then good with his actions and for his sisters sake I hope he changes. He thinks that his sister is weak and wants her to be stronger (although personally she doesn’t seem weak or naive to me lol) but she’ll never get stronger if he keeps cradling her like this, she has to learn for herself, she needs to get hurt and make mistakes all on her own. She has to learn how to deal with her own pain and mistakes and help herself or else she’ll be too dependent on her brother. The only way for a person to get stronger is for them to learn from their mistakes. You have to be able to get back up when you fall but her brother cradles her so much she’ll never be able to “fall” in the first place. (Just to be clear I’m not saying that she should completely suffer all on her own all the time but I’m saying that she needs to be able to pick herself up sometimes instead of always relying on her brother like he seemingly wants her to do)He should try to protect her from the things that he can protect her from but he CAN’T protect her from EVERYTHING. Even though they are brother and sister they are still two separate people and they have their own lives just like he lives his life freely she should be able to do so as well and I hope her brother takes this into consideration. ( by the end of this concern he definitely seemed at least somewhat willing to change so I really hope that he did)
She is not a CEO, she owns a photo studio. The heads of Samsung and Hyundai are CEOs. Owning a small business like a restaurant or a gym makes you a _proprietor_ (owner), not a CEO. This peculiarity in the Korean language has always amused me.
But to think that her concern is mostly about hard it is to dating and privacy, despite of living with her brother since 20 and had been in broken home since before, she grew up really pretty and well. They will work it up, I believe that both of them love each other enough as family to make it work. I think the brother had a solid responsibility for his sister, and took it too far.
I got her brother's side. He's just concerned and protective. She's lucky to have that kind of brother but sometimes it's too much. I hope they will settle things out, talk more and understand each other. I missed my 3 brothers who's living far from me. It's hard to grow up with out them, i miss them everyday.
The number of people that don't see how much he has gaslighted her. He gives things to her and uses it to guilt her into doing what he wants. You see, her sister can get a bank account without his knowledge and she's at legal age to, drink, move out, pay for her own business expenses, and travel. Her brother doesn't have the legal right to stop her, but what stops her? Guilt over things she does not have to. Why would she have to be guilty when she can help her brother live his own life by living her own life? She was too clouded by the nonsense guilt her brother inputs to her and the fear she has to him. It doesn't make sense that she have to follow his orders right?
the brother can be protective when she got into trouble and listens to her and help her out of it, while being there and hold her... that’s what borthers do...
her brother is really a good guy . I feel they worry about us but when we show them we can handle them very well they will keep trust in us .if she was in India this is not a concern at all its really normal for them .
Look at this episode and concern.. Makes me remember the other concers a few years ago (maybe 6 years ago).. The 40 years brother that always obsessive with his 31 year sister. Event he was planned his sister's honeymoon, and join them. 😢
I happen to know exactly what this feels like. My father was the same way and I am a male. Almost every other 30 minutes or shorter he would call or text an see where I was. When he found out I was gay it was even worst. If I didn't answer it was automatically that I was with another guy. So to stop his paranoia I didn't make any male friends and only had female friends. Even then it didn't matter it gradually grew worst. I understand her situation and I'm glad he finally understood his wrong doings. My father never quiet learned and what he did was drive me away. We rarely talk anymore and when we do its only for a few minutes. Just like they said in the show, "I wish when I called my father I could have a nice conversation and always have a smile on my face but I'm not able to." I hope your life gets better and you keep flourishing in your photo shop.
I am only Child And being alone is my routine😪If I had serious problem I can't tell my parents.. you know is not everything we can tell our parents right?And I hold everything(Angry,like someone,problem,hate someone)and because of that I am a weak person..(easily crying)and I wish I can have sibling...so I can share my problem with them...❤(especially older brother) But I am lucky because I have a kind friends
This is not normal nor should anyone give him any excuses no matter how "nice" he seems and tries to present himself, hes full of excuses for every single thing he does yet his overly controlling, possessive and inconsiderate smothering actions make up for absolute none of them, lord the girl cant BREATHE...he needs psychological help. Also is the sister expected to obey her brother just because he did all those things for her willing? I think she deserves the treatment shes receiving at all, its actually toxic.
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He's looking out for her like a father. I guess he feels this huge responsibility since their parents divorced
My dad has never checked my phone or bank account. That’s a little much don’t ya think? O.O
@@nicodance4156 people are different...there are people who are more affectionate and more caring than others
Not all fathers are the same when it comes to taking care of their kids
it doesnt matter the girl is old enough to manage on her own and if hes soo caring of her then he should know when enough is enough
I agree with you
I think the brother should take care of her but she also has to mentally practice. You can't blame him for doing that.
Yeongja always says what needs to be said!
Right? She's like: Just do it, don't try...she could sue you
Yes. I like her
Except on the black person episode he talkef about being discriminated in South Korea and she said "Not everyone is gonna like you"
@@stantwiceandloo1208 but that's true though... not everyone will like us
cat human But still, it’s not an excuse for the racism we face. Society needs to change, not just say “well... everyone won’t like us”.
I hope people don't hate him for this because he really seems like a nice person but he just don't know how to manage his fear and concern for his sister. he is very afraid that she might get hurt that's why he being overprotective that's suffocating.
A sword cannot be hone itself while it's kept in it's sheath
I understand what you mean. But the Brother cannot "protect" her forever. If the brother really wants her to become stronger and be able to enter society normally. He should understand that the reason why most parenting is done before the age of 18 is for this exact purpose.
@@Tony-qw1df I see what you're saying, but maybe he thinks of her as a daughter rather than a sister, and parents usually tend to try to protect their children from every possible danger in the world even if it backfires and led their children to be very dependable on them. I am don't agree with what he's doing, but I can't say that I don't understand it.
Yeah I don't hate him.
suzychocolate7 I agree.
Beacuse they came from a broken family so maybe he told himself that what ever happens he must take care of his sister. Maybe he also just want to secure his sisters future that she will find a good and hard working husband so that she will not experience the things that happened to their parents.
Anthony
Yes i understand that the brother can’t protect her forever. That’s why maybe he’s doing his best now to protect his sister. Maybe he also thinks that if he help his sister to find a good and worthy man maybe that man can continue his job and that is to protect his sister.
the brother may be the most cooprative guest throughout all the episodes i've watched of Hello Counselor... He's not stubborn and he's very open to opinions, not only that, he also thanked the show.. amazing!
He showed that he really cares about her and not just do it because of having power and trying to control her.
He truthfully takes her as a fragile child she was when parents divorced. He started getting that feeling of responsibility when he was a teen that's probably why it is a little extreme.
He's a really nice brother who looks out for his sibling. There is a limit to a certain extent of being protective but some of his ways can be a little too much. If he just fixed those small things then it shouldn't be much of a worry. He's a really nice and thoughtful guy.
I agree he's just looking out for her. I have a brother who is ten years older than me and always was protective and still is.
Just like how Dean always taking care of his not-so-little brother Sam from the Supernatural. Ah tough brotherly love
He's a good guy. He just doesn't realize that his idea of protection is overbearing and hindering. He has to let her make her own decisions. Best luck to them both, they're both good people :)
Gabriella Jackson he’s an awful guy
@@aprilsdawn7782 I think your idea of awful is sorely underdeveloped. He's wrong yes, but awful would be to live his life through her. The fact that he supported her dream proves that he is , in his mind, doing it for her. He just needed to realize that imposing your standards on someone is not how you treat an adult.
Once again Yeonja coming thru with the knowledge. She has become a role model to me. I love her so much!!
He's definitely one of the better people who've accepted their mistakes instead of being too stiff to change :)
Let's give a huge applause for the father who raised these 2 secussful siblings alone it's not easy to raise 3 children alone .. Happy for the father he didn't take his life and stayed for his family... wish you happiness and more communication with each other
"Aren't all brother like this with their little sister"
me: I don't think my big brother even realizes I exist... & we live together so uhhh the answer to that question is no
Haha same 😭😭😂
Okayyy Chweee not any big brother could pour money to help their younger sister dream come true. From his educational background the family grew up poor, the brother worked hard with his uptight personality to become successful so he wishes his sister could be a version of him
im doing this with my sister but not to this extent tho..
i gave her permission to date and hang out,, just need to tell me where to go .
Anonymous thats fucked up
This episode doesn't seem as bad as that one in which the mother had to make the girl move to her house because she was worried about how her older brother perceived her
I understand where he's coming from. You started to become protective of younger ones when your family is broken (divorce or a parent dies). I've been there actually. It's just that the brother is overly protective. I'm glad he listened.
seungkwan sitting there knowing he’s a good brother to his sisters 😌💅🏼
*Wait till he has a daughter...*
Omg the poor girl😭
I hope they cleaned out his eyes well
i pray for the girl to be able to run soon
Nobody know what the brother fill..what have he done for family... Bacause of their father and mother have divorce.. He take the hard part to become a man for the family and sacrifice a lot of thing just to be a good son and brother.. But some people see that is not a good thing.. Just wan to be free. If anything bad happen and then she will come see the brother for help.. That just the life is..
@@nurhayatiyati2193 frl, i feel so bad for him omg :(
Yeongja has shown so much wisdom and understanding through all of the shows. She deserves a lot of respect.
This was a really positive episode. A family that genuinely love each other and are hard working, willing to suffer and change because of their loved ones. They just didn't know how to communicate with each other.
Lee Young-ja is my idol, awww , well said, the best comment wise and strong, but direct at most, really nailed!
But compared to other people who comes in this show, he is actually nice. He helped her financially and really care about her.
she is so beautiful and her friends are so beautiful
I just love Youngja, I love how she gets right to the heart of the matter every time!
I think he wants her to date someone like him i.e. someone with the same sternness and dare I say obsessive behaviour but if I was her I couldn't do it.
@Mitch 1066 i got breathless just thinking about it
No
Actually i thinks the problem isn’t her brother’s fault and also not her but you have to understand that every eldest sibling has responsibility for taking care of others. He just dont want his sister to be hurt bc the man that cant even being by herside and go through it with her. The brother has a right judgment. Man knows man. Rooting for the sister wishing you find the right man for you.
thichakorn kongsuk yess i have a big brother too. And i understand why her big brother do that. And to be honest it’s normal when big brother being more protective to her. Ofc he will put sister first than his wife. Their parents divorced when they was very young. So it’s understandable why her big brother treat her like that. It must be a big burden for her brother.
If this was a husband and wife situation, would you still feel the same? Like she went out with her friends & he constantly called & wanted pictures to see where she was & who she was with & then would talk bad about her friends when she got home? Or he financially helped his wife open a business then micro-managed every aspect of it &questioned every decision she made& even spied on her through the camera system? Or when she comes home from a hard days work & he demands to see her phone & proceeds to read every text, email, & every type of correspondence she had between people that day? & She is submissive to all of this because he "scares" her& she doesn't want to fight & when people ask her why doesn't she move, she says because she is scared. & When she asks him why does he do this to her, he tells her that she is weak, has bad judgement &he doesn't trust her.
Now, would you still justify all of this to a husband and wife in the same situation?
I left this comment on another comment because I am genuinely curious to see if you would think all of this is acceptable if this was a husband and wife
Msichana Huzuni for me it’s different situation. It’s normal when big brother getting more protective to his sister, My brother also do the same. But not that extreme because he trust me now. He wouldn’t do that to his wife for sure. It’s different.
@@朱就米 I think being protective over a sibling is normal but what he is doing is emotional abuse- domestic violence. People don't always recognize abuse if it's not a husband & wife or a relationship type situation. If he did this to his wife-wouldnt it still come from the same "good place"- because he loves his wife & would want what he feels is best for her? But if he did those same things to his wife it is easily recognized as abusive. Does it make it less painful, harmful or less abusive because it's his sister?
For one, he is married..he needs to focus on his marriage. Two, she is 22 years old and needs to learn in order to grow. Him protecting her will not help her grow. Three, controlling and supervising someone is districting them from life. He needs to back off because his "love" can hurt her...it's the idea of "let me protect you, but in the process I'll hurt you". She is in the show because she feels pain from his actions and she feels like she can't live as she wishes
When her dad say that he hv suicides thought, yet he survived.. My heart keep saying tq for living appa nim
That a responsible and respectable father. Someone who is willing to suffer for the sake of someone else, to make sure they can make it through life not alone
I would like to give a big kudos to this older brother! You have been carrying too much burden, taking care of all of this family. But it is okay now. it is not your responsibility and let go..You don't have to be in charge... and you just take care of your wife. The rest of the family will be okay!
Bonnie Poddany he can go to hell
Responsibility ≠ invading other's privacy
Most of the comments seem to be supporting the brother.
But I could totally sympathise with her because we're on the same boat. Y'all have no idea how f* frustrating it is to be constantly under someone's control all your life.
Move to Africa and you'll be free
It’s so weird to me how they are supporting him... I know it’s cultural difference to but from my cultural perspective he is abusive, controlling and a borderline stalker. My alarm bells are ringing loudly.
@@cheesecake7274 stalker? 😂 What are you 13 years old? No brother will make his life difficult by letting his younger sister life with him and his wife and help her with her dreams financially. Kicking her out and not helping her with a penny and not caring about her is called being abusive. Seriously some of you kids need to grow up and see the world as it is. Yes, checking her phone consistently is annoying but nothing close to being "abusive".
Hmm...I can relate
I relate. So I don't understand how people can be on the brother's side. I think people have to learn the hard way to understand the sisters pain
His reaction when he heard she has a boy friend tho XD
Yeonja is the best!! Love how straight forward she is. :)
my brother used to be like this, for example
“No showing your face on social media until age 35”
“No cursing until age 30”
“No dating even if u went through puberty”
until i started to act more mature than my age
But i understand that he wants me to have a good life and be safe
I have 2 younger sisters and I used to be a little overprotective of them but never to the extent this lady's brother or your brother was. Knowing how my sisters are if my elder brother or myself were to be that demanding n controlling, they would have rebelled. Kudos to you for being so patient with your brother. Something he has to learn is sometimes to overcontrol n be overprotective is countereffective. My sister met the love of her life at 16. If my bro or myself were to hinder her from dating then, she wouldn't be getting married soon to her love. Not to be rude but genuinely curious, why doesn't your bro allow you to show your face on social media till you're 35? Most women are already mothers at 35. Can't imagine having a brother telling me what I can or cannot do when I'm alr a mum.
I understand the brother wants to look out for his younger sister, but it's now an abusive relationship and the brother is the abuser. It he doesn't cut it out, he'll be the one who has driven his sister into an even more abusive relationship and she won't be able to leave, bcuz he'll be just like the brother. I really hope he gets it together bcuz she seems like a good person and I don't want her in some relationship that's abusive bcuz that's all she knows.
That brother needs to let her breathe. She needs to live her life, it’s not his. He’s in her life, but he’s not her. He can’t control it. It’s nice to feel protected but it doesn’t mean he needs to interfere and control everything. She’s 22 and should live her life on her own.
Olivia Catherine with what money. Their father has no money, he is overly protective bcuz his sister is too young with that cash. He’s afraid people will come and use her as a bag and she doesn’t have the judgement to know who’s the fake
ChunChunMaru what I meant by this I wasn’t talking about their financials. That’s a whole different topic they have to figure out as a family. However, he just needs to give her a least a little quarter of space so she can breathe. I understand what it means to have protective siblings. I have three older brothers no sisters so they are very protective. But they allow me some space and don’t try constantly prying into my life. He just needs to understand she is an adult. She’s 22, and I know she seems naive but she should be allowed freedom.
@@Astelch I do agree with you than this comment you have replied with. She's too young and fragile of things. His brother might seem strict, but it is pretty understandable. I think he is a nice guy.
THIS.
@@christinejoybuan1418 too young? She's in her 20s. Yes that's young fir an adult but she's still grown. He's way too controlling and overprotective and overbearing. Its borderline abusive because he basically controls all the money. Your intentions dont matter when the actions of them are hurting someone else you supposedly care about and its pushing them away. She'll only grow to resent him and eventually figure out how to det through life completely on her own because he's fucked it up. I'm glad he understood in the end. He's not a bad guy at all, his actions are just mistaken and misguided. It doesn't matter whether or not we want the ones we love to not get hurt. Because we all get hurt in this world we dont have a choice in it. But we do get to choose how we go about life and experience it. She's an adult and it's good he realized it.
I love Youngja!!! She always put these people in their place.
Saranghae Youngja Unnie
He doesn’t seem like a weirdo but he does go overboard with his father figure role.
He keeps saying when she gets stronger he will let her be ... but he doesnt really give her an opporunity to grow stronger as a person. I mean she is practically an adult, and she should be able to decide things freely and make mistakes because that is what growing means not by being protected at that age. Of course he is just very worried and wanta to be a good brother but if he really wants to help her this is not the way. She could grow up too protected and dependent on his brother and its not like she should rely on him forever. Plus it is really frustrating to become and adult but have less freedom than any normal high schooler out there. She is 22 already she need to experoence things.
kids are the one who suffer when their parents divorced. that's why parents need to think of their kids in every decision that they will make. they need to explain them everything so that they will not have any misconceptions about the situations that lead to them to behave like they are now.
He is a good brother, but it is the sister who I think needed to stick up for herself and retaliate against the brother and he would have listened because of how much he already expressed himself but said she never told him how she felt, so the brother thought he was in the right because his sister never told him to stop. simple fix but loving story. I think it's their father who needs help if he said he contemplated suicide :'(
up4life20 their father feels like his son had to take the father figure. His father said he didn’t have any money to give so I’m sure the brother felt a burden and pressure of not fucking up and making sure the family can make it. No one is wrong here
She literally told him wdym?
He is very much the problem
i have 4 big brothers and i have one brother tht just like him...sometimes i hate it when he overprotactive but most of the time i felt grateful to had someone care about me so much because i lost my dad when im just 10 years old...
sis has a whole studio save that money and move tf out.
Crackin up iman😂
June Glow she literally said he won’t let her & she’s scared of him because he can get violent. Did you not watch the whole thing ?
@@taylorrenee1366 then he is literally abusing her ....
@@taylorrenee1366No one said about violence. That is just your assumption
also that studio was bought by her brother and there are things you do/don`t do for the family. Everyone knows its easier to just MOVE TF OUT but she did not fight to move out because that is her family. People who have dumb mentality and selfishness like you are the problem.
He's a good brother. A really good one. He just overdoing it. It's a mistake that he's ready to change and he listen really well to those advise. Really love a brother like that.
He invades her privacy and controls her life to a point where she fears not obeying him even tho she's an adult. I hope he changed.
이영자 is honestly so wise! I'm so grateful for what she said to the oppa 😭👏🏾
I think Yeonja & Oh Jiho really helped him understand. A lot of comments justified what he does because it comes from a "good place" but just because love or wanting what they(older brother in this situation) think is best for them (younger sister) motivates people's actions doesn't make them good. If this situation was a husband and wife-EVERYONE would be screaming emotional abuse, domestic violence. Just because it's a brother & sister doesn't make it less abusive.
It's sick how are u all taking his side just because he's a man ,if it was the opposite case you would also take his side like this is not about him worrying about her .he's just a control freak he has no right whatsoever to invade her privacy like that .
thank you! sick of people sympathising with him. it's her life; they're both in their 20s, he has NO RIGHT to have any sort of control over her, whether he's concerned or otherwise.
nobita nobi not even gonna entertain ur stupidity luv ('asian culture'? y'know. not korean culture?? ???) just because it's 'part of their culture' (which let's be real you're likely not actually part of) doesn't make it right end of.
nobita nobi nah this is not a culture don’t even try to generalize a whole culture bc not all brothers act like this
nobita nobi nah that’s not apart of our culture.. stop saying nonsense. This is something that is way out of hand. Nothing to do with my culture and it’s upsetting for you to say that.
Lol my brother dont even bother when I feel sick,he just say;"okay"
Candy verse dynasty same sis. He be like feel better brat and I be like thanks ugly😂😂😂
I'm from Maldives and I feel so happy to hear that you came to Maldives ☺️ lots of love from Maldives🇲🇻❤️
Oh my God the Russian Singer is so pretty 😍
If I was her, I’d be the happiest sister tho cause her brother is so caring and protective. I have 7 years elder brother and he too did the same and I was annoyed but right now I miss all those days and I appreciate his care. Now he’s married and he’s a complete a different person now. He doesn’t give a shit about me and mom at all now. My dad passed away with the pressure he caused him and mom. I would do anything to have a brother like this. You are very lucky and blessed.
It's one thing to be protective and another to be a controlling intrusive overbearing sibling. The two DO NOT compare. Blessed? To not be able to live her life and experience things that help her learn and grow? Yeah
No.
No matter how much he wants to protect her out of love and care...if he is pushing this on her without her consent and personal opinion or awareness ..then he will suffocate her. She is her own person and if she feels restricted then she is getting some form of psychological pain. yes, he cares about her and doesn't want her to feel pain but we live in this Earth and pain is just natural. The best he can do is give her space and support. This obsession with her safety can also take a blow in his daily life.(and obviously in hers)
I life with my younger brother sister when my parent pass away but i never strict to my younger like him i giving my younger fredoom so their x can learning everything about life and independent person i just tell them if that good you choice you can choice if that bad for life don't choice and stay away
The problem is that just bc he spends money on her and she lives with them doesn't mean he can be controlling of her like that to the extent that he is with the CCTV and look at her spending habits. Imagine if a husband treated his wife like that just bc he made all the money. She is crying bc she's scared of his control sometimes. And it's right that he's creating more distance with his sister. I hope the sister just moves out and establishes her independence
He is very nyc person and protective for her and supportive too I wish I would had a brother like him
I'm glad they finally got through to him
he is right, if your bf breaks up with you because you have a brother that's a bit strict. he doesn't really love you enough. if he really loved her he wouldn't let her brother stop him. he would try to get the brother to accept him by showing him he can take care of his little sis in his place. it's a good method to test someone.
@Mitch 1066 that's not really a reason to breakup with someone you love so "dearly". the brother is a good guy who wants what's best for his sister. if he saw a man who is strong and wise enough and really loved his sister, i'm a 100% sure he would not stand in his way. my gf's father was way worse than this guy. and yet i'm still with her and i've won her father to my side (partly) but i'm sure the day will come he will fully trust me with his daughter.
I understand how he feels. My heart goes out to him. he had to live his life stages and raise his siblings, which he took very seriously! I commend him. At first, I thought it was something creepy, then I thought, "He raised her which means he knows her! Right now, she needs guidance, still. Friends will and can manipulate another friend out of anything. (If they're that kind of friend) He is a little too strict and needs to pull back 35% and just be there for her when she falls to pick her up. She's pretty, a CEO and has a little money: Yeah, the sharks can smell fresh blood and will come after her. I wish I had an older brother who could've separated the bad from the good for me because no one knows a man like another man. I probably would have resisted, but, in the end, I respect my brother's opinions. Even the ones that are hard to swallow. Any who........Annyeonghaseyo (안녕하세요) Oh Ji-ho!
He invades her privacy and controls her life to a point where she fears not obeying him even tho she's an adult. I hope he changed.
my parents raised me and know nothing about me i hide my feelings from them because of how strict and controlling they are just cause her brother raised her doesnt mean he knows her especially not to the point were he thinks its okay to check her phone,bank account or not give her permission to go out with friends shes 22 she shouldnt need to get permission from her older brother
ugh seungkwan is so cute 😫🤩
Ridzzz226 facts BIIIGGG FACTS 😍
So many people think the guy is wrong but understand his position he worked to reach where he is now. Although the sister is a CEO she is very young.
He has been like a father to her for such a long time and paying for your own marriage is not that easy. As he said he worked hard started working in high school and also he was a good student he got scholarships overall as he knew his dad would not be able to do it after his mother left him. Its just that he was protective about her and did not want her life to turn out as his father.
I saw some comments saying let him have a daughter he will get to know and some were saying that his daughter would run away but think while standing in his shoes he wanted to become a good son and a reliable brother.
He will turn out a good father if he just known what is protective and overprotective.
Fighting
....his the guy you wish to get and be ur children's father , I always notice ppl real heart and personality he's so strong and responsible.
i'm off topic but wow it's so goo to see Lana hereeeeee
His a good brother I’ll be happy to have a brother like that I’m the oldest daughter on my family . I start working at the age of 4 years selling food in the street and I went abroad to worked at age of15 to help out my family she’s lucky to have a brother who help her to make her dreams come true I never experienced growing up to have family by my side . There’s lots of kids have worst life than her around the world but never complained she should be thankful to her family who worked so hard to support her.
The lady in the concern really reminds me of Chaeyoung from TWICE. 😯
Yongja's intelligence what I need in my life
I really wish I had an older brother who cared like that. It’s endearing compared to something that doesn’t exist in my life.
Chloe Lin same I can’t understand her at all
I do understand her a lot. Who is he to tell her what she can and can’t do? Such as having a boyfriend. Nah, that’s when my female pride comes out
I respect that what her sister say don't interfere her privacy but her brother doing this for her goods and she must be proud that her brother care a lot and also helping her to succeed her life goal🙂, I'm saying this because brothers are not same my older brother always treat me like I'm a stranger to him😕 I feel so sad, god give me brother but he don't care about me, I'm proud of her brother how he struggle 🙂👍 great job
Lana’s Korean is really good! All I’ve seen is int. Fans bashing her for being kinda Koreaboo like in her actions but tbh she obviously but in the effort to assimilate into the culture so I like it- It encourages me to study more 😖
Shes actually super nice too her personality is so sweet ♥️
I was blown away by her Korean!! I've been studying Korean on and off for a few years, so I'm super jealous. People may have their opinions about her, but you can't deny her language skills.
I have a older brother, but my older brother is not busy with personal matters, but he cherish me, but I want to tell you that when you cry for a long time may cause facial muscle pain. I cried when a man's story. I cried No more than 1 minute. That's good. I won't bear to cry all day. It aches.
the sister is STUNNING!!!
A sword cannot be hone itself while it's kept in it's sheath
Oh lawd, the brother acting like he doesn't know the meaning of "privacy" and saying that just because she's his sister he has the right to invade it....run sis x_x
enoerauqs bruh
No offense but since he spent thousands of dollars on her, and she’s only 22 with a shop of her own he has every right to worry about her spending habits, I agree that checking her account every so often is overboard and he should respect her privacy- But seeing that she’s so young and she’s gaining new experience from dating guys they’re definitely going to be some guys were going to try to date her just to get money,
Yes he definitely should respect her privacy, not read through her text messages and things like that, he should wait for her to address a situation if she feels that somebody is bad, and he should address the situation if he sees that someone is bad for her but he shouldn’t try to pry too much in her life that’s the main concern here.
But I guess it’s just me because if I was put in the same situation with my younger brother (because the age gap between my siblings and them is roughly the same) I’d be very protective as well because:
1. That’s my money
2. That’s a very serious investment to have when you already have a wife, a house and you may have kids
3. She’s living with them
4. Again he invested the main funds for her shop. You don’t know if he’s getting part of his investment back or not, but even if he is he has every right to know about the funds going in and out the shop.
I feel like she’s taking it out of proportion cause she’s young and wants to be in love with love, that why he seems so extreme but to me he just seem a little pushy but with good intentions. Really I think he’s pushy because that’s his younger sister, they didn’t grow up with their mom they really only grew up with her dad so he had to be the man of the house since he was younger and that’s not an easy feat. I hope everything works out and he gives her a little bit more space, I mean obviously he’s a very good brother in every other aspect if he is the man of the household in their family and his own.
thank you for having a common sense
Dang you said everything, well done
Yes I agree to an extent. But he's seriously on the outbound when it comes to her space. She's 22 years old, not 12 years old. I respect that he's looking after her, but I do not respect the way that he's looking after her. She has already walked into society. If she doesn't hone herself now. She will only get hurt more when her Brother can no longer take care of her.
Don't give money if you don't trust that person. She hasn't done anything wrong yet with that money.
Controlling someone's expenses and spying on them is abuse
I think it's his responsibility as her brother. He helped her for her future.
But should not he have let her do what she wants in her life? Like having bf! Or spending as much as money she wants!
I mean yeah! It was his money. But still it was his choice to help her. If he was to meddle like the way he is doing rn. She would have never asked for money.
I think happiness matters the most.
And suffering in present waiting future to be good. I don't think it's good thing to do.
You should enough present and plan for future.
Well I dont know what I am saying but
He is a bit too much.
I crying 😭 Because I really love my brother
The sister is giving me Chaeyoung in twice vibes
22 is not that old, people at that age still make stupid mistakes and need guidance as well. To be honest she looks naive and I hope she can mature more. Since she’s young she’s allowed to make mistakes but I hope she doesn’t hate her brother for trying to protect her from possible hazards.
He invades her privacy and controls her life to a point where she fears not obeying him even tho she's an adult. It ain't protection. I hope he changed.
어린 나이에 일찍 철들어 부모노릇 해 온 장남이 대견스럽고, 한편으로 마음도 아프네요.
그 어린 나이에 어른이 되어야만 했던 그 소년에게 고생했다고, 수고했다고 말해주고 싶어요.
기댈 수 있는 어른이 주변에 생기길 바래요.
동생의 행복이 무엇인지, 그 행복을 스스로 정의하고 있는건 아닌지, 그렇다면 왜 그렇게 되버린건지 생각해 보는 시간이 필요해 보여요.
I am like a mother, father to my younger brother and sister, my dad abandoned us when I was in grade school. My mom works and I am responsible for decision making, mos of the time, but never force or be to restrict with them. I always advised them on things to do, the right thing to do but not in a way that is suffocating, and I'm glad that even if I'm far away with them they know how to take care of themselves, and they call me even if I don't ask them.
Can we just see how pretty she is and her two friends like wow
I love the shape of his teeth, they remind me of how they drew Simba in the lion king :p I am an older sibling and if my kid brother got involved with the wrong kind of people my protective instinct would also kick in. But nevertheless though he has no right to invade her privacy on her phone, definitely not. I wish I could tell him how I became strong so that he can release the grip of his own fear a bit.
He’s a good person with good intentions but his protectiveness for his sister has reached the point of obsession and he has to stop. It’s not fair to her, she’s being treated as a child at age 22. Worrying and caring for your younger sister is a great thing but not when you do it to this extent, if he keeps doing this he may end up causing there to be distance between him and his sister in the future. Having someone hover over you like that can feel so frustrating that you feel as if your being suffocated. He’s causing more damage then good with his actions and for his sisters sake I hope he changes. He thinks that his sister is weak and wants her to be stronger (although personally she doesn’t seem weak or naive to me lol) but she’ll never get stronger if he keeps cradling her like this, she has to learn for herself, she needs to get hurt and make mistakes all on her own. She has to learn how to deal with her own pain and mistakes and help herself or else she’ll be too dependent on her brother. The only way for a person to get stronger is for them to learn from their mistakes. You have to be able to get back up when you fall but her brother cradles her so much she’ll never be able to “fall” in the first place. (Just to be clear I’m not saying that she should completely suffer all on her own all the time but I’m saying that she needs to be able to pick herself up sometimes instead of always relying on her brother like he seemingly wants her to do)He should try to protect her from the things that he can protect her from but he CAN’T protect her from EVERYTHING. Even though they are brother and sister they are still two separate people and they have their own lives just like he lives his life freely she should be able to do so as well and I hope her brother takes this into consideration. ( by the end of this concern he definitely seemed at least somewhat willing to change so I really hope that he did)
100%
Anyone else noticed he changed his tune and apologized once Yuji (i think I spelled her name wrong) went off on him.
Tbh it's so nice that he spent a lot to help her become a CEO
She is not a CEO, she owns a photo studio. The heads of Samsung and Hyundai are CEOs. Owning a small business like a restaurant or a gym makes you a _proprietor_ (owner), not a CEO. This peculiarity in the Korean language has always amused me.
But to think that her concern is mostly about hard it is to dating and privacy, despite of living with her brother since 20 and had been in broken home since before, she grew up really pretty and well. They will work it up, I believe that both of them love each other enough as family to make it work. I think the brother had a solid responsibility for his sister, and took it too far.
I miss this show! Please upload more KBS!!
ID OFFICIAL why did they stop posting??
I got her brother's side. He's just concerned and protective. She's lucky to have that kind of brother but sometimes it's too much. I hope they will settle things out, talk more and understand each other.
I missed my 3 brothers who's living far from me. It's hard to grow up with out them, i miss them everyday.
He invades her privacy and controls her life to a point where she fears not obeying him even tho she's an adult. I hope he changed.
The number of people that don't see how much he has gaslighted her. He gives things to her and uses it to guilt her into doing what he wants.
You see, her sister can get a bank account without his knowledge and she's at legal age to, drink, move out, pay for her own business expenses, and travel. Her brother doesn't have the legal right to stop her, but what stops her? Guilt over things she does not have to. Why would she have to be guilty when she can help her brother live his own life by living her own life? She was too clouded by the nonsense guilt her brother inputs to her and the fear she has to him. It doesn't make sense that she have to follow his orders right?
the brother can be protective when she got into trouble and listens to her and help her out of it, while being there and hold her... that’s what borthers do...
Is it just me or does he have seungri eyes?
Omg that was I think when I see the tumblr
He has good intentions, but could go about it in a supportive way rather than a restrictive way
her brother is really a good guy . I feel they worry about us but when we show them we can handle them very well they will keep trust in us .if she was in India this is not a concern at all its really normal for them .
shes so pretty
Look at this episode and concern..
Makes me remember the other concers a few years ago (maybe 6 years ago)..
The 40 years brother that always obsessive with his 31 year sister.
Event he was planned his sister's honeymoon, and join them. 😢
That's super creepy. He watches his younger (ADULT) sister on his phone? Checks her texts and bank accounts? It's super stalkerish.
seungkwannnnnnn
scouppppppp
the love of my life 😘😘❤
I happen to know exactly what this feels like. My father was the same way and I am a male. Almost every other 30 minutes or shorter he would call or text an see where I was. When he found out I was gay it was even worst. If I didn't answer it was automatically that I was with another guy. So to stop his paranoia I didn't make any male friends and only had female friends. Even then it didn't matter it gradually grew worst. I understand her situation and I'm glad he finally understood his wrong doings. My father never quiet learned and what he did was drive me away. We rarely talk anymore and when we do its only for a few minutes. Just like they said in the show, "I wish when I called my father I could have a nice conversation and always have a smile on my face but I'm not able to." I hope your life gets better and you keep flourishing in your photo shop.
The best part is, it seems a happy ending
Tbh, my mother is like her brother. She knew if d guy is bad or good by first look. I was like sad and angry at d beginning, but i thank her now.
there's a difference between being concerned and looking out for her safety and being a lowkey stalker
She looks a little like chaeyong from twiceee
OMG!
How did I not notice that!!
Yes, especially her eyes!
SHE sounds like it to!!
*Chaeyoung
I literally love the dad sm
I cant believe her oppa is 27 yrs old. His mindset and beliefs is unbelieveable.. 🤤😣
is anyone wondering why seventeen didn't perform their song fear ? .... honestly i came just to watch their performance ...
lmao same
We know that he love her sister so much, just the way he choose are gonna wrong.
I am only Child
And being alone is my routine😪If I had serious problem I can't tell my parents.. you know is not everything we can tell our parents right?And I hold everything(Angry,like someone,problem,hate someone)and because of that I am a weak person..(easily crying)and I wish I can have sibling...so I can share my problem with them...❤(especially older brother)
But I am lucky because I have a kind friends
i hope everything is okay shooky
he looks like seungri from big bang, complexion not personality
Chun San omg I thought I’m just the only one.
This is not normal nor should anyone give him any excuses no matter how "nice" he seems and tries to present himself, hes full of excuses for every single thing he does yet his overly controlling, possessive and inconsiderate smothering actions make up for absolute none of them, lord the girl cant BREATHE...he needs psychological help. Also is the sister expected to obey her brother just because he did all those things for her willing? I think she deserves the treatment shes receiving at all, its actually toxic.
Oh my God! The 1st rational comment in this whole section!!!! Thank you...I don't have to give up on humanity!