How To Seduce Anyone And Win Them Over (from an ex-introvert)
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Your confidence makes you beautiful. Your humility makes you desirable. Your wisdom will get you far in life. You encompass all of these things Anna. Keep doing you.
I've learned this year, to respect people's opinions and give them the correct value. For example, if someone would tell me they don't like my haircut I would feel ugly right away, the first thought I had was "I look bad and everyone notices it", but now I register it as an opinion. Everyone has different tastes and the first person I got to make happy is myself. Being busy adjusting to people who don't like you makes you lose time you could spend with people who do. Peacefully accepting rejection and disagreement is important, even though the person you disagree with is someone you cherish, there's no need to be a perfect match. (it's not their fault if they have bad taste😜)
Hi Anna,
You just described my childhood. I was just like you, the old you. I never made eye contact and I sat in the back and was quiet, I wanted people not to notice me bc then there was no criticism. I too grew up in the traditional Korean household and was always told that I was not good enough, because of this toxic environment I ate a lot and gained weight. I had no self esteem. After college, I found a job and started to loose weight and gain back my self esteem.I started to distance myself with everyone that made me feel bad about myself.
My main takeaway from this is that you have to like yourself and everything falls in placez
Some distance from family can be very healing haha 👍
Anna, you are a true example of charming, attractive,charismatic, sweet personality . ❤️ So, that you are a motivational leader to take example from. One more thing, you are very intelligent! Have a great week !!!
Thanks always Slavva 🫶
@@anna.lee_jy thank you 👍
Not trying to be rude but....can we just be clear that social awkwardnes is not the same as being introvert? I think you miss the whole definition of introvert vs extrovert. I'm an introvert (INTJ), I quite enjoy talking to people. The difference is that introverts "pay energy" for social interaction and extroverts "gain energy"for social interaction. It has absolutely nothing to do with social skills.
I would argue you weren't an introvert when you were younger, you probably just had bad social skills that you have since developed. It's two completely different things.
I think I was both! I definitely needed time to recharge on my own but these days, I definitely crave social interaction (probably cause I work a lot on my own haha)
I agree with u. I'm also an introvert, and I totally get what u are saying. It's so true.
I didn't know that from introvert someone can become extrovert. Introverts feel drained by social interactions and need more time alone to recharge, but that doesn't make them less charming. There can be charismatic people that are introverts. My thoughts
True to that, l personally am very introverted actually but that part she said about knowledge it helps to break the ice, around people.
Yes! People are sometimes shocked when I say I'm introverted because I do love parties and people and hanging out and socializing, but as much as I love it--it drains me. I NEED my alone time or I fall apart. I definitely enter recluse phases in order to recharge.
@@abbyfrancesparker8738 me too :)
INFJ-T here, with social anxiety and issues that I'm still working on. I was made to suffer lol
People feel good around me, I'm funny and have a lot of funny stories, and general knowledge you're sooo right it's very important! Trying my best to get free of my trauma made chains, but I'm still an introvert, I need my alone time to unwind and recharge my energies.
I have many INFJ friends :) love them!
That's good advice but people shouldn't try to force to be something they're not.
So nice to be living in 2023. 10 years ago we could only watch whom tv executives decided we should watch and now we can watch whomever we want.
As an introvert (ISFP) , it's really hard for me to start talking with people. Those days I try really hard to talk with people and be playful so they don't think about me in a different way. But at the end of the day, it's really exhausting, coz being with people is hard and it drains all my energy and when people say something negative, it upset me a lot, but I saw in a video she explained "if someone giving u 10% give them 10%, if someone giving u 20% give them 20%". That really helped me. So now I also do the same thing and don't really care about what other people are telling about me. I'm just gonna be me and be true to myself. As u said, life is too short to be worried about stuff that doesn't matter.
If the person can't accept you for who you are and can't understand you, then no reason to stay and waste your energy.
Thank you so much for the video💜
1. Laugh it off, don’t be too serious and always try to be lighthearted and playful.
2. Body language, hand gestures, facial expressions...
3. Physical touch, appropriate touches.
4. Appearance, look good, look clean, if you saw yourself and your were the opposite sex, would you want to date yourself?, confident in your appearance in order to be fully aware/focused in the moment.
5. Eye contact, try to imagine a triangle on the face and just look in that kind of direction.
6. General knowledge, find some common ground, genuine interest/curiosity.
7. Genuine compliments, accept the compliment when receiving one.
8. Do not let stupid dumb stuff trigger you, don’t let people’s opinions affect you, control your emotions.
You are a true example of a beautiful human being. Thank you for reminding us how to make life worth living💚
Thank you so much for this video, Anna. Am going to show it to my teenager whom I think can relate and will actually pay attention and listen to you. I've said pretty much the same things to her too, but you know, tiger mom, rebellious teen, one ear in and the other out. It's always more palatable coming from someone else. She will also remember you from a video you did on Koreans, food and sizes that we both watched and agreed with. Thanks again Anna!
Heard an interesting theory that people's personality when they're growing up is not their real personality. That their environment around them (i.e. school/family) is suppressing their real personality. And it comes out when they're an adult because people are removed from their controlled environment. Allowing them to be more independent and fully express themselves. It might be likely you never were introvert.
Maybe!
Hi Anna, this was a great video. I agreed with everything you said. I also believe people who genuinely respect other people's interests and opinions whether they agree or not is important. Wanting to learn about different people and cultures is important to. Thanks again for another engaging video.
Notes to self:
1. Don't be too serious! Be lighthearted and playful. It's okay to show your emotions and be vulnerable
2. Hand gestures, facial expressions (genuine)- convey warmth, energy, can try to establish physical connection (handshake, fistbump), eye contact
3. Your Appearance- look good and be less self-conscious so you can be present and connect with the other person
4. Find common ground and ask the other person questions-authentically curious
5. Make the other person feel good when they are with you! Compliments warm others up. And accept compliments as well.
6. Don't let other's opinions affect you! Have good quality thoughts. Don't be afraid of rejection or failure.
First time seeing your videos- I am subscribed!
Hi Anna, love your videos! I'm an INFP so I like being on my own but having good company is great too. I'm glad that people are naturally drawn to me and feel comfortable talking to me when I talk to them so I don't know if that counts as being charismatic because I never considered myself as that. But seeing you talk, you definitely are a charismatic person and very beautiful
Hi Anna! It was a great video! I’m INTJ, and I totally agree with you. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful video! 😀
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1- life is too short. dont worry about what other people think of you
2- live your life to the fullest 💯
3- 11:44 actually made me laugh 😂thats so true
4- accepting compliments !! BIG THANK YOU
5- to be honest, the mindset part is probably the true liberation that sums up the whole peace-of-mind life
I was waiting for the "be humble, down to earth" advice
that has a kind of a special trait that not everyone has 🌸✨
thanks again for the content 💖 keep it up 🙏🏻!
Thank you for the support!! 💖
Hi Ann, As an introvert during my school days, but not that much ,anymore, I could totally relate to everything that you said. Thank you for such a wonderful video.
To be honest, I didn’t even notice 17 min have passed. On the other hand, I noticed all the points you made on the charismatic people I’ve met in life and I fully agree.
Not related, but I really like how you edit your videos. Really helpful and entertaining content, but also short and straight to the point. 💙
You are pretty and charismatic. I started watching your videos to learn English because you have a nice accent. I saw your first videos and you've made a lot of progress as a speaker.
Some people are introverted because of having had a seriously rough life or where they never got to develop good social skills, or brain damage. It shouldn't be looked down on. In addition to that introverts are more likely to be intellectually gifted than extroverts.
*It went from "How To Seduce Anyone And Win Them Over" to your life story to a therapy Ad...lol
You're so charismatic. I enjoy your energy. Your vibe is so intelligent. 🔥
But really social awkwardness not the same as being introvert. People who are introvert can be really good at talking with people and not.. it's a different thing being socially awkward and being introverted.
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Exactly. I'm introverted but I'm charismatic and can be flirty too. I just need time to recharge with alone time sometimes
ESFJ-A thats me. It's interesting how many Koreans know their Myers Briggs, but most Americans don't. Anna is very bright...love all her vlogs and live "shows".
MBTI became the new Blood Type horoscope, although unlike blood types and zodiac signs there is some logic and measured correlation to the Big-5/HEXACO model used in actual psychology 🧠
You don't have to do anything when you're that attractive. You can just stand there and men would come up to you.
🍑 peach, interesting choice for that analogy 😂
Anna you're such a special and wonderful person, I love all of your videos because of your authenticity 🥰
I'm INTJ too. If I would be in a Kdrama, I would be the asshole CEO. It's not so charming without the money and looks. I'm not shy, just like my own company better, than other people around.
I really like this video,I've learnt alot from it.Thankyou Anna❤
So accurate! I always say giving no f's is my super power.
You’re so inspiring. Thanks for this video, its really helpful, informative and nice to watch. Keep doing, what you’re doing! You’re AWESOME!
Oh Anna you have such a beautiful heart! I have to admit I was hesitant to click on the video because I thought it was about dating 😅🤦♀️. I’m so glad you were able to overcome your awkwardness period. Though in my opinion, I think you have always had it (charm) in you but some how blocked it. I’m a 50 year old introverted woman and life experiences and adulting have forced me to be in uncomfortable situations that I didn’t want to be in. My problem though is more of fear of striking up a conversation even though I’m genuinely curious about a person. The fear is almost debilitating and I miss out on so much. But when people open up to me they attach themselves to me and want my presence ALL the time. That’s when I withdraw into my loner life. I’m charming and friendly though -I think…😏. But I love your energy and the beauty of your quiet and gentle spirit. When I visit SK , if I run into you I hope I’m not too scared to say hi 😅🤷♀️. Thanks for the tips❤.
You must be charming if people attach to you haha! Sending hugs :)
The MBTI is a controversial test battery within the psychology community. MBTI has some reliability and validity issues.
If you do decide to use MBTI, use it as a personal development tool to focus on the things you may need work on rather than the strengths of your type.
If you don't believe me, ask someone with a psychology background that you trust.
Lastly, be kind to yourself and others.
100 % with you on this, Anna! Great great video
솔로지옥 리뷰 보고 반해서 구독하고 이 영상도 보는중인데ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ안나님 블라블라 말씀하시는거 보고ㅋㅋㅋㅋ영어 공부가 하고 싶어져서 조금씩 따라해보는 중이에요ㅋㅋㅋㅋ그리고 제목 너무 인상깊어서 클릭하게 됬어요ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
Annyeonghaseo. Hello Anna. Good on you for talking about your personal development and growth. Your true to yourself. Your a Critical Thinker along with your intuitive feelings, it shows and makes for a collective person. Beautiful. E tupu e rea (grow tender shoot). We normally say this to a baby or little child. It speaks of the growth from a seed to a mature tree where the buds full of seedlings, it's potential back onto the land. And that's what we do, we share our gifts with the World. You got this Anna. Kamsahamnida. Noho ora mai (remain well) Korea.
great insight! BTW beside the contents you mentioned, I think your voice and accents quite sounds confidnet and attractive. Having conversation with native person is quire difficult to get charisma for none english speaker. that's one of my concern thesedays.
Holaaa miss Anna Soy Julian, soy de Texas y México Eres un discurso que me hace muy útil, y un acuerdo para respetar eso y Además, respeto mucho sus culturas en Corea Y soy un gran admirador de tus blogs de RUclips!! Y también mi ex prometido engañando el día de mi boda, sí, estaba triste y enfadado. Además, no lloré, así que tuve que avanzar, y me estoy curando físicamente por ahora, y encontré mi hobby para quitar mi dolor de principiante, la fotografía !!! Hopefully you’re doing well Miss Anna Lee god bless Stay healthy and stay blessed good vibes every day peace and love 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼
I like this type of content, like I kinda follow this mindset on my day to day life bit a reminder/confirmation is always good
🌸 love this! Thanks for sharing and spreading the love!
From middle school to high school, I wanted a boyfriend so badly. But once I gained confidence, I really didn't want a relationship.
Great Video!!!!!’ Thank you Anna you are such an amazing and inspiring person 💜
It's always such a pleasure to listen to you talk. 💜
this isnt shade, more on a point of how every single video on youtube overcomplicates this subject... Its really simple, if you are interested in yourself, other people will be interested in you, if you are bored all the time and dont do anything about it, this is what people will see.
Don't place your confidence in other people, others opinions aren't worth acting on. if you want to learn something be fine being on your own and value your own opinion over anyone elses in general, especially these days.
these days most people arent genuine and dont know how to be, people are mostly initialised because of modern life and its shocking how many people dont know how to act like a human being and thats sometimes what you just have to put up with.
I was brought up with friends that I could talk to for hours without a lull for weeks on end about absolutely nothing without phones, without social media, without distractions and laugh my ass off... that creativity is dying out and the depths of modern conversion is the same as a parrot recapping what they've done, where they've been and that's just an unimaginative mind that has no depth to it.
again if your bored with yourself, amuse yourself and others will follow, its that simple
Hii Anna I from Northeast India and one funny thing about your video about chacking David others bage in your office that was so funny 🤣
안녕! I just stumbled upon your channel & only 20% through the clip & loving what you've got to say. I'm sorry for the things you went through, it is experience in life that makes one interesting & hence seductive too. I'm glad you've learned such big lessons from these important moments in your life. I can already tell you will be of a great help to ppl who need to hear the things you have to say.
I've just subscribed & looking fwd to what you have to share 🎉
언니 마인드가 너무 멋지고 배울게 많아요❤ 항상 좋은 영상 감사합니다:)
Great content Anna. Personal growth is really important. 😃😃😃
what a beautiful video!
Kinda new to your channel and thanks for sharing these stories. And sorry for your loss. However long ago it was, it still hurts. BTW, if I were you, I wouldn’t shake hands with guys. They don’t wash their hands 😂
Hahahahaha noted
Excellent! Well prepared and concise.
Anna. As usual great content. Also I have a request, since you had reviewed singles inferno, would highly request to check out his man season 2. I mean, I swear to God I never even watch dating shows as I gets cringed out but this has just exceeded my expectations,especially the main couple is just adorable. Plz whenever you have time, review us , would love to see your reaction on it
"STOP" it! You're gorgeous!!
너무 매력있고 단단해 보이세요 좋은 영상 감사합니다~!
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I really needed this thank YOU Anna xoxo
intj로 살아온 저에게는 정말 어려운 일이지만, 꼭 극복해야할 일이자 되고 싶은 방향성이네요
Thank you ! Can we please have a makeup tutorial? You look so fresh& clean I want to know what you're using ❤x love from London
I'll do one in upcoming vlogs! For foundation and concealer, I use Maybelline Fit Me :)
@@anna.lee_jy thank you! xx
Great video Anna💜
Well, I am old, ugly, and awkward. Maybe that is why I have trouble interacting with humans (especially the female variety) and hardly have any subscribers to my channel. I am INFJ-T, so somewhat different.
Heyy Annaaaaa how have you been, so lately I've seeing your weight loss and diet videos and i frikin lobe em but in one of em you mentioned that you'll be doing a "10 things i no longer do after i lost weight" video can you please give us some tips on that topic pleaseeeeeeeee 🥹🥹
Hi Anna,
Could you kindly share some of the books that have personally helped you with self-growth? I would greatly appreciate your recommendations. Thank you in advance! ❤
Mark Zuckerberg energy 😂
im an entp :3 so you know damn well i get hyped when i go on the site physical database mbti thing and then i see characters that have my mbti type which from what i remember is arthur fleck [joker] which i kin a lot bc of his trauma
Good advice! ❤
Skirting around the effects of being attractive seems a little deceptive. A person's appearance and attractiveness are closely linked to how people perceive and treat you. Being perceived as "charming" is an uphill battle for unattractive people. Possible, sure, but difficult. It is also hard to separate the effects of being attractive from the effects of one's innate charm. The videos of attractive people going out in public wearing a fat suit disguise are entertaining because of the "reality check" the participants feel. Anna is a little bit lucky because she has a glimpse of both sides, the awkward and the attractive. She is a great example of why staying healthy, exercising, eating right are so important.
Yes looks do matter and I agree that it is hard for unattractive people ☹ but you can def also have attractive but socially awkward people too
Queen of beauty 💕
Beautiful ❤
But when trying to be friendly, why i find people starting to take advantages? Not all, mostly.
Sorry to hear that :(
I am ENTJ too.. Wanted to say thank you for talking about the UK in your vlogs. I know UK is not perfect but I believe Korea can learn from our attitude towards multiculturalism, tolerance for others and embracing diversity. ❤ 🇬🇧
It’s weird to think of Anna as “aloof” haha. Definitely isn’t the case anymore.
You are wonderful 💕
Poor Mark 😂😂😂😂
Don't waste time and effort and risk humiliation in trying to seduce someone. If they want you they will let you know....
Fact: 10% of people will never be pleased. I remember about 37 years ago when I was at a Toyota Canada meeting, it was talked about how Toyota could never get over 90% customer satisfaction no matter what they did. The research showed them the 10% can't be pleased.
I mean, 90% is quite high!
90% is high and is where Toyota was at that time. Toyota achieved that by making sure their highest quality vehicles went to North America as it was the most important market. Toyota told me all vehicles coming to North America had 4 times more quality control checks then their domestic market. It has changed now though but Toyota still has the highest durability rating in North American customer minds, but I feel (without evidence) has probably dropped. @@anna.lee_jy
I think you might actually be an ESTJ rather than an ENTJ. The 16 personalities quiz isn't actually adherent to the original 'cognitive functions' typology that Jung, or Myers and Briggs formulated and/or systematised.
There's this idea of these 8 'cognitive functions' - and with the functions that ESTJs prioritise and possess (Te-Si-Ne-Fi), ESTJs are very capable of ideating and generating 'new possibilities' whereas the ENTJ is more fixated on a singular, unified possibility and vision (Ni rather than Ne). Both are intuitions but in different ways. All in all, either ESTJ or ISTJ is the vibe I personally get from you, you definitely seem closer to ISTJ than INTJ in that sense, at least with regards to the type of content you put out and how you appear on camera
A way you might think about it - the ESTJ is more likely to approach things by examining preexisting, working methods of getting things done (Te-Si) while innovating on it with their Ne function to explore new horizons and possibilities, whereas the ENTJ tends to approach it from an entirely personal, focused point of view (Te-Ni). ENTJs are also more prone to hedonism because of their 'Se' (which is all about sensory experience in the moment) whereas you seem more disciplined in that sense because of Si over Se and are less likely to overindulge, but form and stick to healthier, comfortable routine (which is what Si is all about)
Maybe! You clearly know a lot about MBTI 👍
Poor Mark Z. 😂 he literally your louser target
LMAO "when I was in awkward introvert phase" then proceeds to describe a date with a guy...joke
Anna, are you on facebook as well?
I’m ENTJ too
I can be your therapist.❤
Hi!!❤
The elephant in the room or rather, the missing piece: why? 🤷🏻♂️
Life is easier to go through when people like you more I guess
@@anna.lee_jy I get it. But it’s not really from the heart. They like the image and the identity you have created to project and these relationships will likewise remain shallow and not truly fulfill your soul. Something to discover perhaps? It’s not a black and white subject for sure. Thanks for sharing …
You're so Adorable 🥰
You look like one of my friend 😁👍💯❤️
it helps to be an E :)
Have you been to Munich? 😃
Yes!
@@anna.lee_jy How did you like Oktoberfest?
Merhaba hello
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You’re are also a funny 😂person.
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lol, just being a hot Asian woman helps! 💌
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Entj here 😊👌