Thank you for that quote, as I'm starting to push myself to be the best I can be, people have stopped talking to him, some have gone out there way to insult me, & just being overly passive aggressive,
Yup, when I got fit, became a vegan, got sober, and went to therapy people got mad at me. I was not preaching, bragging, or trying to put people down. If I treated people, how they treated me...I would have nobody in my life. People are pathologically insecure.
Chronicles Of A Sovereign Black Woman. - I sincerely believe people close to you get ‘used’ to you being x, y & z then become uncomfortable when you cannot fit the role they’ve always felt comfortable with.
Got it from my wife. Would go gym about 3-4 a week and was supported for it. But 6month down the line she tells me "I wish you'd stop being obsessed with the gym, and fitness and just people normal like everyone else, because it's annoying". All I did was refuse a pizza. Seriously only person you can rely on is yourself
My best friend of 12 years accused me of “being obsessed “ with marriage when I got engaged to my husband. She also told me I shouldn’t learn to do my own makeup.. now I have a great career in the makeup industry and happily married.
Everyone who achieves success will tell you "if you don't have a long line of haters, then you're doing something wrong" let the haters hate. That's their job. Keep succeeding in doing what you love.
The absolute WORST aspect of the human psyche is the crabs in a bucket mentality. The second you start bettering yourself in anyway, it reminds people they are the source of their own misery. This means they have choice, which then implies responsibility for their situation. You're shining a flashlight on a landmine for them. Excellent channel man. Thank you.
I'm dealing with this now. I went vegan last year and lost a lot of weight. I feel awesome, but the amount of jealousy, spite and hateful comments I get from family members is shocking. I'm not usually one to care what others think, but these are supposed to be people who love you and it does hurt when they treat you like crap. Misery loves company, as they say. It helps to know I'm not the only one experiencing this; I'll never change to make them happy and I'll keep on keeping on. Thank you for this video.
When I was 16, I was overweight & spotty. I lost weight & my skin cleared up, & the girls who gave me the most grief about my appearance were supportive at first, then they started saying that I looked like a slut etc. There`s no pleasing some people!
Damn, I feel bad now that you said that hahaha. I have always hated on vegans and vegetarians but I never knew that I could bring positive change into your life, thank you for this comment, now I kind of understand. Keep on running until you have passed the gates of overwhelming success and happiness, and then keep on running faster and faster, have a great day!
chapachuu, I dealt with this from kindergarten, just from being my teacher's favorite. and that was just the beginning. I've had to deal with envy and jealousy from everyone till date. I'm 26 today, and I consider myself emotionally and financially independent. I had the greatest friendship with my own sister, but I always knew she envied me for some reason. she thought I was the favorite kid. today, she's cut me off completely. I don't resent her or any of the others. people just hate to see you better than them, period. "keep your eyes on the prize", what my dad told me. it's not you, it's their problem!
I hate no one. When I see someone doing good it just inspires me to do good too.Others people sucess makes me happy (seriously) I really dont understand hate. If I get "jealous" is a good type of jealous, its like: "Man I want it too,yes I will do it!" Now we can celebrate together!
@Tito Valci. I agree with you. When my best friend was losing weight and I wasn’t, I was happy for her. She gained the weight back and more. I started on my journey to being healthier. I lost 85 pounds. She offers me pizza, chocolate, cake etc. I say no and mean it. I’m not a hater but obviously is.
It's sad but this is very true. I've been working extremely hard to achieve my dreams over the last years and the closer I get to success the more haters I get. It's a good thing to be aware of the fact that these haters are very insecure people, and the reason they hate you is because they see you doing something they do not believe they themselves can achieve.
The best way to be successful is to keep your eyes on positive things. Don’t dwell on the negativity of “look at what they’re doing to me or saying badly about me”. Talking about the haters over and over just opens the door to you experiencing the stress of acknowledging the terribly annoying short comings of “the jealous”. Now, don’t even say bad things about your haters because the more negativity you speak out the more negative sabotaging energy will boomerang back to you! You might see yourself going backwards even! Not fair But SO TRUE. So the best thing to do is this: do not say anything bad about your haters. Say good things about them. Shrug it off and then keep on doing GREAT! You neutralize their negative influence over your life when you handle it this way. Then you’ll really start winning!!! Try it for a while before you knock it :)
In my experience there are two types of people when it comes to friends. 1. Those who will support you when you hit some sucess 2. Those who will hate you when you hit some sucess . Unfortunately my best friend turned out to be a number 2. I was a number 1 for him when he was doing well. But as soon as tables turned the guy absolutely could not support me.
Very true message in this video! I'm up to benching 315 and squatting over 400 pounds and all of my friends seem to be talking a lot of shit behind my back from what I hear. Always reminds me of a quote; "They want you to good, but never be better than them."
Vast majority of people are insecure pieces of garbage. You just gotta cut them off & establish connections /w ppl who truly are focused on success. I used to be the jelly loser, then I realized that surrounding yourself /w successful ppl is one of the best ways to become successful yourself. I need more quality ppl like that -who wants to be friends?
sums up liberal politics perfectly insecure envious pieces of human waste dont want to be better than they are so they try and bring ppl down to their level
I agree and have experienced this my whole life. When people hate you and you know you've done nothing to hurt them, then you know it's because they're jealous of something. Like they say, it's lonely at the top. Luckily I'm sort of a misanthrope and don't really like care to be around other people anyway.
Wow for years I was convinced that there was something wrong with me. I had a particular relative that repeatedly sabotaged me and literally made me homeless 4 times whenever I started to become even a little successful. I am sad that I wasted so much of my life trying to please her family and not living my dream. It is never too late, but I am an older woman now, and the obstacles seem almost too great.
+ChristopherDesign Group Wow, you've coped with so much, so you must have a lot of inner strength. Take courage, be a hero, do it anyway. Just doing something works.
Wow thats awful ive been through that too. Feels like one step forward and two steps back, as they say. With me its like when i get knocked down it takes me months to work up the energy and psyche to plan on growth again; so it can feel hopeless. It feels the world rewards bad behavior.
When I started succeeding, my "friends" and family "friends" would stop talking to me, not congratulate me, soon afterwards, I would find out that they were suddenly trying to do the same thing as me probably to compete against me to be better than me, only to discover that they've failed miserably and give up as soon as they started. Since then, that's when things started to go downhill rather quickly between me and them, some became bitter that no one wants to be around them - we're no longer "friends".
Congrats to you and all your success. Surround yourself around those who will lift you up, and not those toxic people who tried to bring you down to their level, because you're better off without them, and their B.S and negativity. I went through the same thing when I became successful, and these same people were the ones that doubted me to begin with. You continue to be and do you, and keep up the good work💯 Blessings to you😇
RedRain I hate that shit, I have haters like crazy. It pisses me off that I painted my car and it looked nice, the car didn't even last 3months with the paint. They scratched it right away.
Lone Wolf Dude these people don't even know me and they are envious because of what I have. They have no idea how hard I worked to get the things I have. People these days just want everything free; furthermore, want it with out having to work for them.
I used to be addicted to drugs, drink like crazy and just treat myself like garage. I hated myself to the point of near suicide. at that time I had tons of "party friends". I was very popular. I decided to change and now I don't drink, smoke, do drugs and eat extremely healthy. I practice self love and have a whole new outlook on life. Once I became a new happy healthy person my friends disappeared. I expected that but not like this. I'm lonely now. I really thought people would be happy for me and continue to support me but they don't. I'm a very kind loving soul so I don't understand why I can't keep friends. do I remind them of how they "could be"? sometimes I feel like I'm doing something wrong. sorry for the rant
Keroberos , Iam happy for you! keep practicing self love and thankfulness its true when you hear if you have even a few close friends in life you are lucky and blessed and in all actuality we all have lots of ( acquiescence's ) and that`s not a bad thing but there is a difference, at least for me there is.I have a few really close friends and I think that is ok for me .Because I really love them and care about them and i really only need a few real friends to feel very connected with to meet my heartfelt needs in human interaction and i have often confused friendship and a quintessences .Just food for thought ! you are enough I am enough! I think it scares people too , when they see how much work it takes to do what you are doing to maintain self love .Lots of peeps just are unwilling to face the changes that life will inevitably bring.You are ahead of your game and you are still very young so be proud of you doll and take care!...Good job aby the way on your positive changes. .
Keroberos that's a great step you took, they were never your true friends, they simply showed you their true colours, your better off without them...find new friends of your level who will support you rather than leaving you behind...keep going
It's no rant love, it's a community of us. For the longest I've had people dislike me for no apparent reason and I could never understand why, dating back to high school. Still to this day the same people back then have this negative feeling toward me. Then I figured it out, a lot of these people wish to see you in a horrible condition, financially, in regards to your health, your mental psyche, etc. A lot of these fake friend's were in better positions than I was financially and some of them still carried this animosity toward me. Then it started to register most of these people would rather compete with me (internall thoughts) rather than join forces and be a team. It's great to now ignore some of these people and reject their invites and invitations but still be kind to them in the same BREATH, ohhhhhh people hate that very much so. They think you will be mean and aggressive toward them, or treat them in the same fashion as they did you. They can't understand why you treat them nice when THEY KNOW they treated you wrong but it's a trap. You see, people tend to forget ( atleast they think you forgot) the negative shit they said about you or did. A lot of these same people will see your success and wait a while before they ask you for something, in the mean time they will act like they don't notice your progress. Once they do ask kill them with kindness, " I'm sorry I have credit card bills I wish I could help" Never scoop to their level and say fuck off or kiss my ass then they win, allow the built up aggression to grow in them. We ( successful people) win by these people constantly asking and then we reject everything that they want us to help them with. NEVER EVER help fund a dime for these people with any project, or join in on something that their doing. Don't show any interest what so ever, as a matter of fact after they tell you what their working on don't talk to them for a month. These people will then do one of the two things or both. Hate you even more, or choose to leave you alone, but TRUST me, they will develop the respect for you then, and either one that they choose is perfectly fine. Remember when you weren't where you wanted to be in life, they envied you and ignored you anyway so just allow for them to do what they have already been doing. This is the one thing that you'll do then ( successful people) DON'T GIVE TWO FUCKS ABOUT THEIR FEELINGS, but STILL treat them kind and ALWAYS keep a smile on your face 😊
I recently got promoted at a job I started in February. A coworker of mine , who sits next to me, started the same time as me. While we were in training, this coworker was very rude & mocked me for asking questions in class. Since, my promotion, I can see her out of the corner of my eye, turned in my direction, staring at me, cracking her knuckles, wringing her hands & squeezing her stress ball. I just pretend I don’t see her but it is very disturbing. In my new role, I am also in charge of her coaching & development, so I have to have 1 on 1 & coaching session with her. Also, I now make 10K more than her per year because of the promotion. I know she is angry because she thought she was so much better than me, so now all she can do is be angry...
When I started my weightloss journey my best friend said to me "going to the gym everyday isnt healthy, just because you want to do something doesnt mean it's good for you, if I wanted to eat chocolate bars in bed all day, doesn't mean it would be good for me." The comment made no sense to me. But now she is 250lbs and I look amazing at 140lbs. (I've lost 65lbs). She now wont speak to me. -13years of friendship gone
I busted my ass for two years to get fit I used to be a obese miserable antisocial depressing person. Now that I’m finally 170 after a year of hard work I’m finally confident social and outgoing and recently I posted a picture up of myself and one of my so called friend just insulted me claiming I photoshopped my picture and I’m apparently still fat. This never happened to me before I usually get compliments but from watching this video I feel more better about myself thank you!
When I began to break away from all the dysfunctional behaviors of those around me, especially my family, they all hated on me in a big way. I finally had to get them all out of my life because I was not going to let them continue to sabotage me. They hated me regardless of what I did unless they felt they were better then me because they could point at me and say I was a loser. When I was living an unhealthy life due to PTSD caused by my abusive family, they really believed I owed it to them to stand around and let them treat me that way. I've moved on and moved away. Now I have people in my life who are emotionally mature enough to not need a scapegoat in their life because they are not capable of looking at themselves honestly. The people in my life now cheer me on and encourage me to be my best self.
I told my mom it's almost to the 1 year mark of being tobacco free and she replied with some condescending shit like "that's probably your biggest accomplishment in life, hm?" Can you say...PSYCHO lol
To the average person, The concept of "working out" and "Dieting" sounds like torture and such a inconvenience & uncomfortable experience that they cannot relate to these things and that in part is why they have such a negative perspective towards Health and Wellness.
I was admitted by Oxford University and was doing a Master's Degree in a Humanities subject that I love a lot (you may also want to call that a "useless" subject because there is no way to make good money with a degree of that subject). One day I was at home and just relaxing and playing with my cat, my father suddenly said to me with a kind of despise:"xxx (name of a successful friend of him, a billionaire) said it really correctly, why should a girl receive this much education?" ----- I am now continuing with a PhD in this subject. Dad, thanks for your encouragement anyway.
2 weeks gone without dope and exercising and eating no fast food My dad came home from work today with a massive KFC Bucket and said come on son once in a blue moon won’t hurt and tried so hard to make me eat it To make himself feel better Breaks my heart but as you said I would rather be hated being successful then being hated for doing nothing and being mediocre Thanks again bro and everyone going through this Stay hard King 💪💪💪 Trust me I feel like giving up sometimes but keep going it will all be worth it 💪
Ikr?!! My mom and dad are "concerned" because I've lost so much weight. When I refuse to eat at times they think I'm starving. Can't they understand that losing weight has decreased my appetite and cravings?
Your points are so accurate! This past year I have been posting about my mourning over the loss of my sweet daughter who was brutally murdered. Many people were so supportive of me, I went to counseling that was offered to me by the local therapist, took a year off to grieve and get myself mentally capable of living a life without my daughter in it not only for me but for my son! Like I really had no choice BUT to CHOOSE to continue on with life and not only be happy for myself but to love my son and give him a happy loving life with me. As I began to gain strength, and post things about being happy....my friends who supported me for being miserable, totally abandoned me when I became happy. ugh...time for me to clean out my friends list! lol
It never ceases to amaze me how some people can be deranged enough to act like they care about you when in reality they just enjoy seeing you downtrodden. I had the same thing happen 3 years ago when I was still in the throes of a severe clinical depression. At the time I was working at a shopping mall, and my boss was really a mean person. There was a former classmate of mine who worked as a janitor in the shopping mall where I worked. She would listen to me talk about my misfortunes, and act all sympathetic. It was n't until my situation improved significantly when I realized what she was actually doing. And yes, she did start ignoring me and acting cold, just like your "friends" did when you became happier than they even were. It is an unfortunate fact, but also true that many people indulge in schadenfreude. They like to see people who they perceive as more talented, good looking, wealthy,and smarter than they are suffering. It is sick when people think this way. It is morally revolting that these people were all feeding off your grief to make themselves feel better. I am glad that you got them out of your life! Good riddance. This type of thing explains exactly why I believe that it is best to be low key and not tell anybody anything about my family and personal life. This is not to say that there arent genuinely good people out there, but sadly there a lot of basket cases as well....
My sister have always been slimmer than I am. Ever since I started working out and losing weight she say oh you missed your calling on being a plus sized model although I don't want to be plus size. I think she is secretly scared of me getting thinner than her.
That is the most horrible passive agressive statement i've ever heard! Reminds me of when i lost weight and one of my vests were looser - you know what my mom said? " Oh, it just got stretched out in the laundry."
I was the only married guy among my friends and was also thr only one fit, 6 pack, etc and my friends dressed like slobs, didn't workout and were mostly obese and they started saying that I was obsessed with the gym, diet etc and I should start looking like a married man rather than a single one... (dadbod).
The universe always brings to me what I need at the right appointed time. Can't begin to tell you how the moment I became aware and healthy I've gotten more persistent offers form coworkers to have a donut, have a piece of cake, I'm going to this and that fast food restaurant...want me to bring you back something and so forth. I mean, really? Now I have the language to that madness. THIS video finally and literally put the nails in the haters' coffin and I thank you!
I know I am late to this post but you got to ask why they want so badly for you to have that stuff and it has a lot to do with what he said. Now don't get me wrong, it is different if you see somebody is not eating enough or not eating enough of certain things. Some people go to extreme and don't eat enough. However, if it was because they are so concerned then why not just suggest you eat bigger meals as opposed to offering that junk. When they keep offering that stuff it is not out of concern. I will eat that some junk sometimes but in moderation. What he is saying is true. I had people to go around telling people I was weight shaming other people because they got upset I was not eating the way they eat.
The biggest hater moment from a former friend of mine was when I lost a lot of weight (from 200 lbs to 170) and he hadn't seen me in 4 months. He didn't say anything per se but it was his pissed off look when he saw how much leaner I was. It was the angriest I have ever seen him. Then our friendship was slowly dying and he eventually blocked me on FB. He continues his foodie habits while I am getting healthier and healthier.
His mantra is spot on. When you are going for a nonconventional life, don´t take advice from average people. I started doing this when I was 22, in a way. I decided to quit taking life advice from people who´s lives I did not want to have, or where not happy.
This is so true! I used to get told that I'm too thin when almost every person around me was too fat. People would interview me about my life all the time untill I realized that they weren't trying to be my friends. This is really sad.
Thank you for this video. I've struggled with my weight for most of my life. I lost a significant amount of weight & sustained it. I experienced so much negativity from people around me. I didn't know why. Eventually I regained a lot of weight. This video will help me to reach & maintain my goal weight again. Thank you!
Dude I love this and you ABSOLUTELY NAILED IT. As I am becoming more successful in business I am seeing this. It’s insane. It’s making me realize just how people grade themselves in comparison to myself. How so many people I thought had my best interests because I had theirs were willing to be so negative and pull me back down. Insane.
If someone tells you off for being successful, tell them: I never knew you had so strong feelings against successful people (indicating yourself) I guess it makes a lot more sense to why you aren’t.
It took me a long time to understand what was going on. Apparently the people who are jealous of me were sabotaging my success directly and indirectly. They were my friends until they discovered how much money I have, then they refused to get in my car, would sabotage deals even at their own peril and refused to come to my house. I had employees who would deliberately not do something or start ugly rumors about me. My family was the worst. Finally to save my sanity I gave every thing to various charities. Today I am in college full time. Once my batteries have recharged I will be successful again. I really need a wing man.
Great video homie, I'm 6'7" / 230 lbs , elite at 4 sports , good looking with an IQ of 133, my friends, family and my OWN father hates on me, just metaphysics guys, stay strong cause we gotta stick together and set the tone ...
When I was in the gym this year I got good results, and my friend always said - Hey your legs are so skinny.... But they are normal...When one does something very good, People around them do not like... Only his parents, Its a very though time in your life when you realize that.
PS.... That guy looks awesome, how impressive. I know he worked extremely hard to get there and please tell him he should feel great for accomplishing his goal!
No it will come true GOD decides and nobody can stop what GOD has destined for you. The people who are praying on your downfall will pay for it. Its called Karma. My dreams will come true.
I searched this , because I'm experiencing this right now. I supported my best friend when he started his business and I had nothing. People loved me when I had nothing . Once I started doing well and he wasn't , he did everything he could to destroy my success. I was skinny ,poor most of last 4 years. I did better , started my own business, gained 18kgs in the gym . When I showed up after covid lockdowns ,no one liked me anymore and my popularity was cut in half.
I've notice this behaviors too from very close circles. It's crazy I am the opposite. When I see someone do something I aspire this motivates me and I want them to win because I can see myself becoming that. And even if I do not become that, still. '' Don't take advice from average people''. Bro, this is also something I've learned.
This is so true and the best thing to do is just don't tell them any of your business what ever you're trying to do just go around them get it done and let them find out from some body else.
I had a friend that was an aggressive food pusher. I was on a diet and successfully lost a lot of weight. She was overweight and trying to lose weight too, but never had the discipline to stick to her diet/eating plan. I think she had a binge eating disorder. Every time she fell of the wagon and ate a ton of chocolates/biscuits/cakes or whatever, she would then try and force me to eat some too - in an attempt to make herself feel better about her binge eating. It didn't matter how many times I said "no thanks", she just wouldn't back off and would keep on pushing whatever junk food she was pushing that day. One day, I stood my ground and kept saying "no, thanks" - I refused to give in to her food pushing. When she realised that she was not going to succeed in making me eat it, she totally lost her temper and started yelling at me in front of everyone. Suffice it to say I terminated our friendship shortly after that. The point I'm making is that some food pushers are extremely aggressive and deeply jealous human beings and if you refuse to eat what they are pushing, there is definitely going to be some drama. It can't be avoided. And if there is drama, so be it. Stand your ground. Do not eat anything you don't want to eat just to make someone else happy.
Yeah this is a bitter truth. In high school i was really longing for a relationship for a long time. Senior year i got one and it lasted awhile. I noticed two months in the relationship my parents started being really mean to me for no reason. I still had good grades and was being kind; but they were yelling at me frequently, dramatically over tiny things. At that time as well i had been really getting in shape and shedding fat, starting to see the abs come in. And wow the monster came out in them. My friends distanced themselves more from me and id heard gossip from people of what theyd been saying. Before i started the workout journey i told my friends im gonna try to get serious about it and they said "lol ok future meat head." But i really did it and looked good and i think they resented me for that. Really sad human nature. My dad knew I was being careful with my diet and he'd offer me things he knew i was avoiding and have something hateful to say when i declined. Once he said "oh, thats right, you eat like a bird." Then ironically, the unthinkable happened, he became a vegan for many months last year and shed a lot of weight. And guess what, i wasnt toxic or aggressive toward him about his journey. I told him im happy for him and thats great. It just shows our character when we're in each other shoes and the decisions we make.
This video is full of facts. These are things that are often hidden in plain sight and sometimes you just need someone to point them out to you before you skyrocket your results in life. Thank you!
I would do good in school because of all the effort work I put in, but at the end of the day my big brother would always be the one who hates on me because I do better in school than him. I mean I didn't brag about or anything, its the people around me that do. Especially my parents. They brag about how I'm better and every time they do, my big brothers always around. I think it's really stupid.
I know your pain, I used be in my room studying for 3 hours while my roommates were in the front getting drunk and playing video games on school nights. They talked so much shit about me
TamMyBoy I support my lil sister shes the smartest person I know only 1 kid was smarter than her in the entire school and he was 2 grades higher. I never will understand why people hate yes i will get jealous a little but i support all who strive for greatness
Hearing this... I remember my mom and older sister always making me eat and telling me I’m obsessed and always telling me I need mental help for simply having any problem I needed to share.... and always belittling for trying to talk to them openly about anything we needed to figure out😔 I thought they were just overly protective and cared for me, had no time, or I was just dumb BC I wasn’t competitive, and didn’t do well in school ( as they raised me in church when I was so little) I used to be over weight, very simple, nothing attractive, in the way I looked, and when I changed my mom and sister acted as if they didn’t notice anything. And they kept showing me pictures of me when I looked my worst... It’s hard being saddened like this, especially since I’m not in my own country, and dealing with abusive people around me. But I come from a strong culture from the South of Spain: flamenco, etc I guess it’s time to woman up! I have movie stars in USA as role models I guess...
I know it wasn't just me feeling this way. I have temptation to eat junk every day. Eventhough I tell people I' lm trying to eat healthier. But, I now have the tools to block them. I'm going to be healthy again because I can.
Love this Tysm I’m a mother of 3 . Was overweight and then after my first son I took care of my health and fitness . I feel amazing now and healthy and strong is what matters .
Bro this video resonated with me so much. I'm currently embarking on many positive changes in my life. It's in my aura so it shines outwardly. It seems like when you are about to achieve something or strike out on a path that cuts against the grain, the ppl who normally support you instinctually fall back, and those who don't tend to sychronistically appear everywhere. It's like they know you are different, and their intolerance and negative self-perceptions get projected onto you in an instant. Those same ppl love to waste your time and ask for small favors just to get you to talk to them. Sometimes you just have to be d!ck and blow past them.
Worst thing? My older brother coming up to my face and yelling: “ You know you went from here [low hand] to here [high hand]”. This was after me overcoming anorexia after severe emotional invalidation at home, and getting into a top university. Still shocks me to the core! 🧿
I've probably watched this video a hundred times before leaving a comment but this remains some of the best advice I've ever gotten on RUclips. Thank you for your work and your words are undoubtedly leaving a huge positive impact on hundred of people who don't take the time to comment.
I have Celiac disease and must follow a strict gluten-free diet. When I was diagnosed my health, my quality of life improved dramatically and I lost a lot of weight ( due to inflammation) My parents, my friends, they all try to make eat even if there is doubt that the food can be cross contaminated.My best friend told me that I was exaggerating and nothing will happen to me if I ate a small piece of bread... quite honestly, their disinterest in see me healthy, broke my heart, but tough me to TRUST MYSELF and LOVE ME. Eventually you must realise that is their lack of self love that makes them hate on you. Brilliant video.
I learned in life that to be at the top means to be alone. It's like a tiger is at the top of the food chain, but he's solitary and alone. the deer lives in social herds but they're at the bottom of the food chain.
This happened to me when I was heavier people liked my photos as I got skinnier less people the circle got smaller and more haters and I learnt the value of true friends. I agree I became a better happier peaceful person.
Hmm that got me thinking I know a lot of sloppy ppl who get tons of likes I’m in better shape then 90-95 percent of humans and I barley get likes it’s a cold quiet world out here
The amount of hate I get from usually being the fittest guy everywhere I went is absurd. In the beginning, it was very hard to deal with this. You lose a lot of friends, harder to hang out with people. But then you realise that the more you have, the better. And then start hanging with people like that. Same thing with my aspirations in life. Most of my friends want to sabotage me to stay working menial jobs while I do what I can to aim for a good, six figure income life style. Many friends also stopped hanging with me cause of my success with women that they can't even talk to, let alone date. At this point I pretty much have no contact whatsoever with old friends that knew me only as either a tiny weakling they could mock, or a very obese nerdy guy who only plays video games all day with a fat girlfriend as well. I had barely any hate whatsoever back then. Everyone was "nice" to me. Bear in mind that I used to criticised people better than me a lot as well at that time. Of course.
First of all, thank you so much for your video. Wow, I can't even begin to tell you how much I needed to hear this, and I didn't even realize I needed to hear this. I moved back home to pursue my startup and it's been difficult to say the least. While it's not the meanest, ONE of the meanest things that anyone has ever said to me was "You're not ready to help other people." This was said by one of my "best friends." I'm developing a website that provides a platform for people to learn how to help themselves. I've had mental health issues, never knew I had mental health issues until about a year, went through an array of breakdowns, went on medication, finally stabilized and my dreams and the work I'm putting into them, persist regardless. This friend of mine also had mental health issues and she too was trying to build a career as a female body builder who wanted to inspire other women to feel strong and empowered. I can't believe she shit on me like that. Immediately I knew it was jealousy and I couldn't have been more taken aback. I was the ONLY friend that attended her first body building competition. I have been nothing more than supportive of her and have only had positive things to say to her and about her. I cared about her immensely. The fact that she would say something like this pissed me the fuck off and I knew that anyone who thinks so poorly of me doesn't belong in my life. Some of the most "unlikely" people do and achieve great things. And it's not because they're gifted, it's because they give a damn enough to get the discipline to do it. You're right. People hate you because they can't be you or don't know where to begin. Let them suffer with their mediocre life. It's not fair that good people have to deal with such criticism for wanting a more fulfilling life. Especially when it involves wanting to help others. I mean how selfish is that? For people to get the satisfaction of wanting to bring someone down who is only trying to put others up? We need to be more emotionally resistant when it comes to things like this and YES it's a battle but we are warriors so let's just take a deep breath and keep building and make movements. #YOLO. lol
This is my life. My whole family and friends are like this. I learnt to deal with it, or rather ignore it. I've got better things to do with my life than caring what others think. I love myself, I love my life, and that's all that matters to me.
Literally what I’m dealing with now , after being a loser for years I’m out in years of work and I’m now reaping the benefits and I can’t believe people I never thought would begin hating and sabotaging me started to do these things and I had to distance myself from them
My family belittles me because I eat differently than they do: organic, vegetarian and less refined sugar. I mostly eat for nutrition, not only pleasure. They profoundly hate it.
So true. I was very overweight and started cycling. Some friends wanted to take me out cycling and wanted to encourage me. As I got better I noticed a change in their attitude. They would be dismissive when I spoke about my ambitions. Eventually I became very good at road biking, I lost 5 stone and also now am a great runner. In the end they created ways to fall out with me and one even blocked me on strava. Crazy how insecure people are.
This video is amazing and really helps me right now because I’m dealing with a lot of hate ever since I’ve lost some weight, got a better job, and have been really happy. A friend of a decade just flipped out of the blue.
Here is an incredible story from an INTERNET BULLY who harrased me for years.. who then got put right in his place... basically me and this guy fallen out on an internet game years ago and he is doing quite well academically, I failed at school and he knew this. every year or so he would pop up on my facebook saying things like "How's your work life going?" because he knows I won't be doing much with my life.. this went on a few years and I eventually lost weight and everyone was telling me I should become a male model as I had the height and the looks for it due to the less body fat.. I looked very good, I created a portfolio and got some amazing pictures to the point I am suprised I am actually that good looking when I used to think low of my self.. Eventually this guy had knew idea what I was doing and popped into my dm's saying "hows walmart treating you"? I immediatly got excited and said I am doing photoshoots. His reply was "first of all, I know you're not a model".. then BAM I showed him the pictures and he blocked me and I never heard from him again haha.
You see this is what was happening with me bruh. I used to workout every single day, and be in top shape. My cousins and family used to look at me all mad and shi. But when I was out shaped everyone was so cool with me and shi. I started to slack because I want to start conforming with them. But I feel like I need to keep pushing like fr
Everyone on my football team hated me cause I had high grades and I was supposed to be a top performer on my team. I couldn't take the hate so I ran to the army to get away from my troubles. Soon as I ran to the army everyone was cool with my decision. But everyone was hating on me when I as receiving scholarship offers to play at schools cause of my academic and some offers to become a 2nd Lt in the United States Army. Bruh I'm only 19 and I feel like I want to prove these mofos wrong.
Going through this right now. I showed up at work in dress shirt and pants after a long time after my transformation. Gosh, people reacted, I mean they really did. Good and bad. All the good friends, in the name of pulling leg, made sure I was getting uncomfortable. What's interesting is they all exhibited a similar behavior and they were not aware what they were doing. They were just reacting instantly in a "friendly harmless" but "funny" way.
Thank you for confirming this. I was starting to think there was something wrong with me, but also had the feeling people were just jealous of my lifestyle. It's true though. People don't want to feel less than you.
Please don't let others discourage you! Don't let the evil ones destroy your dreams. It can lead to losing some so called "friends"... It's better without them at the end..
The rudest thing was from an extended family member. Pretty much said I was wasting away. Lately, I'm getting a lot of negative feedback since I'm at my lowest. 5'8 at 140lb. Def not wasting away. lol. Doesn't help that this persons kids are 40 lbs overweight. Lol. *sigh* I feel great and moving on to strength training and building muscle. Thanks for sharing.
When I proudly announced my completed certificate program (changing career paths) one of my confidants taunted “Well where’s your job at?? I’m just afraid no one will take you serious. You need to be credentialed”. When I announced I was gonna pursue that credential… comments were made about my mental health (basically hinting I was delusional ). She still doesn’t know I actually passed my natl. board exams… every message she leaves me are words of “comfort” for being in an undesirable place in life. 😂😂
If I could only tell you how differently people treat me after 7+ years of consistently training and eating clean. People that were close to me literally won't even look at me or engage me in any meaningful conversation, trying their best to avoid me. It's often made me feel isolated but what's the alternative? Stop training? Eat poorly and drink every weekend? I guess it's part of the price you pay and it's best to know about it up front cause I certainly didn't.
Experienced it many times...I'm beginning to relish in my happiness and along with it be totally okay with others misery. I use to try to fix people's unhappiness, now I've learned it THEIR ISSUE not mines. I keep it moving.
You are so right.... when I was overweight my family and coworkers criticized me so much. But when I got my stuff together and lost 120lbs they got so jealous and now the have resentment towards me.
Excellent video. This has been my life from day one. It's true you just have to brace yourself and move on: people are going to shit on you for being happy. Misery loves company, as they say.
“Why don’t you just quit” “you can’t do it” words that came from my own parents but I just got more successful doing things I’ve only dreamed of doing. Just prayed thru it and god will protect me.I don’t see why family will unmotivate me
This video is sooooo good 👏🏻 .. meanest thing 🤔 ... A friend said “What ever you are doing, STOP” (we were on venue. Everyone around the table heard her and she acted like I was dying ) My Aunts husband said ...I feel pity for you” and one he literally grabbed my wrist and shook his head. Someone from church said “You don’t look like a women anymore” Ironically enough ALL of them struggle with losing weight. 🤦🏻♀️
I've been watching your video and felt all of them really helped and improved me overall. The amounts of advices really motivates me and I'm glad I found this channel. Keep up the good work bud and I hope you continue doing whatever makes you happy!
What advice do you have for people not only trying to avoid that criticism, but also trying to avoid being that person to someone else? Because it’s something I worry that I do. I never want to hate on anyone for what they do, but I won’t lie about my insecurity in my own way. I’m also trying to be a better person and make better emotional choices.
“Jealous people aren’t mad at you for your success, they are upset at their own failures.” This quote helped me a lot. Good video.
Kick em to the curb! Don't need em find friends that embrace your success and that want a piece of it w you
Nah, they probably telling you that u might look good but ure still an idiot.
Thank you for that quote, as I'm starting to push myself to be the best I can be, people have stopped talking to him, some have gone out there way to insult me, & just being overly passive aggressive,
confident people support others.
Well said 👍
"If video games have taught me anything it's that if you encounter enemies you're going the right way."
gold my m8
That is so true! I was playing Bioshock Infinite the other day and this was absolutely the case XD
Nice logic man
I like that.
haha wow
Yup, when I got fit, became a vegan, got sober, and went to therapy people got mad at me. I was not preaching, bragging, or trying to put people down. If I treated people, how they treated me...I would have nobody in my life. People are pathologically insecure.
+foxymaiden80 So true
true bruh
Chronicles Of A Sovereign Black Woman. - I sincerely believe people close to you get ‘used’ to you being x, y & z then become uncomfortable when you cannot fit the role they’ve always felt comfortable with.
Go vegan!! Cheering you on for the excellent choice 👏👏
Matthew that’s her choice, no need to be ignorant about it. And people call vegans judgemental,
"if you're pursuing an unconventional life, don't take advice from average people."
YES. This is exactly what I needed to hear.
I retired at 39, and I absolutely hate when avg people try to give me advice. I feel like screaming at them: WE AREN'T THE SAME!!!!
💯💯
Got it from my wife. Would go gym about 3-4 a week and was supported for it. But 6month down the line she tells me "I wish you'd stop being obsessed with the gym, and fitness and just people normal like everyone else, because it's annoying". All I did was refuse a pizza. Seriously only person you can rely on is yourself
blackblitz2011 Id be asking for a divorce lol
blackblitz2011 that's crazy
Out of The abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
you rushed marriage.
Lol you know women don’t want competition
My best friend of 12 years accused me of “being obsessed “ with marriage when I got engaged to my husband. She also told me I shouldn’t learn to do my own makeup.. now I have a great career in the makeup industry and happily married.
Checkmate!
That was a frenemy.
She not it best friend
Wow! Giggle Giggle.
Everyone who achieves success will tell you "if you don't have a long line of haters, then you're doing something wrong" let the haters hate. That's their job.
Keep succeeding in doing what you love.
100% true
Haters hate because theyr`e losers who will always be jealous of those who are superior in any way.
That's a great way to look at success. I truly had no idea what I would be up against by accomplishing one of my goals in life.
When the hater is your own mom, it really messes with you.
Sometimes you got BECAREFUL of the haters because jealousy makes people do stupid shit.. always carry something
The absolute WORST aspect of the human psyche is the crabs in a bucket mentality. The second you start bettering yourself in anyway, it reminds people they are the source of their own misery. This means they have choice, which then implies responsibility for their situation. You're shining a flashlight on a landmine for them. Excellent channel man. Thank you.
I'm dealing with this now. I went vegan last year and lost a lot of weight. I feel awesome, but the amount of jealousy, spite and hateful comments I get from family members is shocking. I'm not usually one to care what others think, but these are supposed to be people who love you and it does hurt when they treat you like crap. Misery loves company, as they say. It helps to know I'm not the only one experiencing this; I'll never change to make them happy and I'll keep on keeping on. Thank you for this video.
I feel sorry for you :(
+chapachuu Keep going! Yes, don't forget one thing.
If you want a life BETTER than average, don't take ADVICE from the average person.
When I was 16, I was overweight & spotty. I lost weight & my skin cleared up, & the girls who gave me the most grief about my appearance were supportive at first, then they started saying that I looked like a slut etc. There`s no pleasing some people!
Damn, I feel bad now that you said that hahaha. I have always hated on vegans and vegetarians but I never knew that I could bring positive change into your life, thank you for this comment, now I kind of understand. Keep on running until you have passed the gates of overwhelming success and happiness, and then keep on running faster and faster, have a great day!
chapachuu, I dealt with this from kindergarten, just from being my teacher's favorite. and that was just the beginning. I've had to deal with envy and jealousy from everyone till date. I'm 26 today, and I consider myself emotionally and financially independent. I had the greatest friendship with my own sister, but I always knew she envied me for some reason. she thought I was the favorite kid. today, she's cut me off completely. I don't resent her or any of the others. people just hate to see you better than them, period. "keep your eyes on the prize", what my dad told me. it's not you, it's their problem!
I hate no one.
When I see someone doing good it just inspires me to do good too.Others people sucess makes me happy (seriously)
I really dont understand hate.
If I get "jealous" is a good type of jealous, its like: "Man I want it too,yes I will do it!"
Now we can celebrate together!
beast!
i will be the most beneficial by thinking that way
Poor little thing.
@Tito Valci. I agree with you. When my best friend was losing weight and I wasn’t, I was happy for her.
She gained the weight back and more. I started on my journey to being healthier. I lost 85 pounds. She offers me pizza, chocolate, cake etc. I say no and mean it.
I’m not a hater but obviously is.
Same
It's sad but this is very true. I've been working extremely hard to achieve my dreams over the last years and the closer I get to success the more haters I get. It's a good thing to be aware of the fact that these haters are very insecure people, and the reason they hate you is because they see you doing something they do not believe they themselves can achieve.
The best way to be successful is to keep your eyes on positive things. Don’t dwell on the negativity of “look at what they’re doing to me or saying badly about me”. Talking about the haters over and over just opens the door to you experiencing the stress of acknowledging the terribly annoying short comings of “the jealous”. Now, don’t even say bad things about your haters because the more negativity you speak out the more negative sabotaging energy will boomerang back to you! You might see yourself going backwards even! Not fair But SO TRUE. So the best thing to do is this: do not say anything bad about your haters. Say good things about them. Shrug it off and then keep on doing GREAT! You neutralize their negative influence over your life when you handle it this way. Then you’ll really start winning!!! Try it for a while before you knock it :)
In my experience there are two types of people when it comes to friends.
1. Those who will support you when you hit some sucess
2. Those who will hate you when you hit some sucess .
Unfortunately my best friend turned out to be a number 2. I was a number 1 for him when he was doing well. But as soon as tables turned the guy absolutely could not support me.
Very true message in this video!
I'm up to benching 315 and squatting over 400 pounds and all of my friends seem to be talking a lot of shit behind my back from what I hear. Always reminds me of a quote;
"They want you to good, but never be better than them."
+B Johnson Exactly!
315 is my goal. I wrote it down, but haven't told anyone.
Vast majority of people are insecure pieces of garbage. You just gotta cut them off & establish connections /w ppl who truly are focused on success. I used to be the jelly loser, then I realized that surrounding yourself /w successful ppl is one of the best ways to become successful yourself.
I need more quality ppl like that -who wants to be friends?
+s50201 Join my group here: facebook.com/groups/1534793760084279/
ModernHealthMonk Looks legit. Could you elaborate a bit on what the group does? Looks like it's strictly about dieting.
Can i be friends with u too? I want a positive minded person like u:) sub me too thanks
sums up liberal politics perfectly insecure envious pieces of human waste dont want to be better than they are so they try and bring ppl down to their level
s50201 Exactly my friend
Spot on. I have lost so many friends just because I got tired of their endless toxicity and made the tough decision to cut them out of my life.
It sucks, but it's the truth :/ I've done the same
That`s the best way to deal with haters.
I agree and have experienced this my whole life. When people hate you and you know you've done nothing to hurt them, then you know it's because they're jealous of something. Like they say, it's lonely at the top. Luckily I'm sort of a misanthrope and don't really like care to be around other people anyway.
Misanthrope gang! ✌🏼😏
Wow for years I was convinced that there was something wrong with me. I had a particular relative that repeatedly sabotaged me and literally made me homeless 4 times whenever I started to become even a little successful. I am sad that I wasted so much of my life trying to please her family and not living my dream. It is never too late, but I am an older woman now, and the obstacles seem almost too great.
+ChristopherDesign Group Wow, you've coped with so much, so you must have a lot of inner strength. Take courage, be a hero, do it anyway. Just doing something works.
Wow thats awful ive been through that too. Feels like one step forward and two steps back, as they say. With me its like when i get knocked down it takes me months to work up the energy and psyche to plan on growth again; so it can feel hopeless. It feels the world rewards bad behavior.
I'm unfit, unhealthy and unsuccessful but I don't hate you at all.. you're a great human being and I respect you.
Then that makes you a great human being too
+ModernHealthMonk :)
Adam Stewart you are a dope person. Love you!
+almondeyez Love you too! :)
as a fellow still at the bottom end of my goals, you made me feel inspired. thank you
Most hate and sabotage will come from family and friends, then associations from school or work.
Trust no one.
If you trust no one you become paranoid which is not good for your health .
+SALMAN SULTANE true!
SALMANE SULTANE exacltly you just need to control what you say because they will make up a fucking story out of 1 thing that you said 😂😂
SALMANE SULTANE I agree
[Substantial-Video-Existence] that’s a tiresome attitude
When I started succeeding, my "friends" and family "friends" would stop talking to me, not congratulate me, soon afterwards, I would find out that they were suddenly trying to do the same thing as me probably to compete against me to be better than me, only to discover that they've failed miserably and give up as soon as they started. Since then, that's when things started to go downhill rather quickly between me and them, some became bitter that no one wants to be around them - we're no longer "friends".
Congrats to you and all your success. Surround yourself around those who will lift you up, and not those toxic people who tried to bring you down to their level, because you're better off without them, and their B.S and negativity. I went through the same thing when I became successful, and these same people were the ones that doubted me to begin with. You continue to be and do you, and keep up the good work💯 Blessings to you😇
Its called jealousy.
RedRain I hate that shit, I have haters like crazy. It pisses me off that I painted my car and it looked nice, the car didn't even last 3months with the paint. They scratched it right away.
Lone Wolf Yeah dude all my colleagues in class hate on me, and for no reason.
Lone Wolf Dude these people don't even know me and they are envious because of what I have. They have no idea how hard I worked to get the things I have. People these days just want everything free; furthermore, want it with out having to work for them.
Lone Wolf Oh yes some people say they are your friend, but when you hit rock bottom they are nowhere to be found.
Lone Wolf Sorry to hear that man.
Once they start putting you down, just smile and stay silent or laugh and giggle. This is all the motivation you need and confidence to excel!
Its sad that people are this weak on the inside that they have to hate on others
Yep :/
Its sad to see ppl trying to success on such stupid world.
I used to be addicted to drugs, drink like crazy and just treat myself like garage. I hated myself to the point of near suicide. at that time I had tons of "party friends". I was very popular. I decided to change and now I don't drink, smoke, do drugs and eat extremely healthy. I practice self love and have a whole new outlook on life. Once I became a new happy healthy person my friends disappeared. I expected that but not like this. I'm lonely now. I really thought people would be happy for me and continue to support me but they don't. I'm a very kind loving soul so I don't understand why I can't keep friends. do I remind them of how they "could be"? sometimes I feel like I'm doing something wrong. sorry for the rant
People hate change - especially seeing their friends and family getting better than they are
To walk a path of greatness means having few or no peers. You become an enigma. Most people are afraid of that.
Keroberos , Iam happy for you! keep practicing self love and thankfulness its true when you hear if you have even a few close friends in life you are lucky and blessed and in all actuality we all have lots of ( acquiescence's ) and that`s not a bad thing but there is a difference, at least for me there is.I have a few really close friends and I think that is ok for me .Because I really love them and care about them and i really only need a few real friends to feel very connected with to meet my heartfelt needs in human interaction and i have often confused friendship and a quintessences .Just food for thought ! you are enough I am enough! I think it scares people too , when they see how much work it takes to do what you are doing to maintain self love .Lots of peeps just are unwilling to face the changes that life will inevitably bring.You are ahead of your game and you are still very young so be proud of you doll and take care!...Good job aby the way on your positive changes. .
Keroberos that's a great step you took, they were never your true friends, they simply showed you their true colours, your better off without them...find new friends of your level who will support you rather than leaving you behind...keep going
It's no rant love, it's a community of us.
For the longest I've had people dislike me for no apparent reason and I could never understand why, dating back to high school.
Still to this day the same people back then have this negative feeling toward me.
Then I figured it out, a lot of these people wish to see you in a horrible condition, financially, in regards to your health, your mental psyche, etc.
A lot of these fake friend's were in better positions than I was financially and some of them still carried this animosity toward me.
Then it started to register most of these people would rather compete with me (internall thoughts) rather than join forces and be a team.
It's great to now ignore some of these people and reject their invites and invitations but still be kind to them in the same BREATH, ohhhhhh people hate that very much so.
They think you will be mean and aggressive toward them, or treat them in the same fashion as they did you.
They can't understand why you treat them nice when THEY KNOW they treated you wrong but it's a trap.
You see, people tend to forget ( atleast they think you forgot) the negative shit they said about you or did.
A lot of these same people will see your success and wait a while before they ask you for something, in the mean time they will act like they don't notice your progress.
Once they do ask kill them with kindness, " I'm sorry I have credit card bills I wish I could help"
Never scoop to their level and say fuck off or kiss my ass then they win, allow the built up aggression to grow in them.
We ( successful people) win by these people constantly asking and then we reject everything that they want us to help them with.
NEVER EVER help fund a dime for these people with any project, or join in on something that their doing.
Don't show any interest what so ever, as a matter of fact after they tell you what their working on don't talk to them for a month.
These people will then do one of the two things or both.
Hate you even more, or choose to leave you alone, but TRUST me, they will develop the respect for you then, and either one that they choose is perfectly fine.
Remember when you weren't where you wanted to be in life, they envied you and ignored you anyway so just allow for them to do what they have already been doing.
This is the one thing that you'll do then ( successful people) DON'T GIVE TWO FUCKS ABOUT THEIR FEELINGS, but STILL treat them kind and ALWAYS keep a smile on your face 😊
I recently got promoted at a job I started in February. A coworker of mine , who sits next to me, started the same time as me. While we were in training, this coworker was very rude & mocked me for asking questions in class. Since, my promotion, I can see her out of the corner of my eye, turned in my direction, staring at me, cracking her knuckles, wringing her hands & squeezing her stress ball. I just pretend I don’t see her but it is very disturbing. In my new role, I am also in charge of her coaching & development, so I have to have 1 on 1 & coaching session with her. Also, I now make 10K more than her per year because of the promotion. I know she is angry because she thought she was so much better than me, so now all she can do is be angry...
When I started my weightloss journey my best friend said to me "going to the gym everyday isnt healthy, just because you want to do something doesnt mean it's good for you, if I wanted to eat chocolate bars in bed all day, doesn't mean it would be good for me." The comment made no sense to me. But now she is 250lbs and I look amazing at 140lbs. (I've lost 65lbs). She now wont speak to me. -13years of friendship gone
I busted my ass for two years to get fit I used to be a obese miserable antisocial depressing person. Now that I’m finally 170 after a year of hard work I’m finally confident social and outgoing and recently I posted a picture up of myself and one of my so called friend just insulted me claiming I photoshopped my picture and I’m apparently still fat. This never happened to me before I usually get compliments but from watching this video I feel more better about myself thank you!
its been a while, are u a fat obese miserable antisocial depressing person again?
he's so sad and scared hahahahahahahahahaha
@@sargeantbarnes9692 Lol
When I began to break away from all the dysfunctional behaviors of those around me, especially my family, they all hated on me in a big way.
I finally had to get them all out of my life because I was not going to let them continue to sabotage me.
They hated me regardless of what I did unless they felt they were better then me because they could point at me and say I was a loser. When I was living an unhealthy life due to PTSD caused by my abusive family, they really believed I owed it to them to stand around and let them treat me that way.
I've moved on and moved away. Now I have people in my life who are emotionally mature enough to not need a scapegoat in their life because they are not capable of looking at themselves honestly.
The people in my life now cheer me on and encourage me to be my best self.
I told my mom it's almost to the 1 year mark of being tobacco free and she replied with some condescending shit like "that's probably your biggest accomplishment in life, hm?" Can you say...PSYCHO lol
+Amy Rene It's okay - don't let her affect you. Just because she doesn't believe in you doesn't mean YOU don't need to believe in you
Im 3 years nicotine free. Stick with it and dont let haters pull you back.
Im 6 moths alcohol free! Good job. Drug habits are hard to kick.
Amy Rene so sorry to hear that
Amy Rene What a witch!
When I dropped 20kgs and got ripped my cousin would say I looked like a cancer patient.... that kinda shocked me
To the average person, The concept of "working out" and "Dieting" sounds like torture and such a inconvenience & uncomfortable experience that they cannot relate to these things and that in part is why they have such a negative perspective towards Health and Wellness.
I was admitted by Oxford University and was doing a Master's Degree in a Humanities subject that I love a lot (you may also want to call that a "useless" subject because there is no way to make good money with a degree of that subject). One day I was at home and just relaxing and playing with my cat, my father suddenly said to me with a kind of despise:"xxx (name of a successful friend of him, a billionaire) said it really correctly, why should a girl receive this much education?" ----- I am now continuing with a PhD in this subject. Dad, thanks for your encouragement anyway.
Crabs in the bucket. Excellent video.
Musashi-san ____ humans are all sick
2 weeks gone without dope and exercising and eating no fast food
My dad came home from work today with a massive KFC Bucket
and said
come on son once in a blue moon won’t hurt and tried so hard to make me eat it
To make himself feel better
Breaks my heart but as you said I would rather be hated being successful then being hated for doing nothing and being mediocre
Thanks again bro and everyone going through this
Stay hard King 💪💪💪
Trust me I feel like giving up sometimes but keep going it will all be worth it 💪
Omfg the moment I started cleaning up my diet people kept pressuring me to eat junk. I don’t get it
Ikr?!! My mom and dad are "concerned" because I've lost so much weight. When I refuse to eat at times they think I'm starving. Can't they understand that losing weight has decreased my appetite and cravings?
Your points are so accurate! This past year I have been posting about my mourning over the loss of my sweet daughter who was brutally murdered. Many people were so supportive of me, I went to counseling that was offered to me by the local therapist, took a year off to grieve and get myself mentally capable of living a life without my daughter in it not only for me but for my son! Like I really had no choice BUT to CHOOSE to continue on with life and not only be happy for myself but to love my son and give him a happy loving life with me. As I began to gain strength, and post things about being happy....my friends who supported me for being miserable, totally abandoned me when I became happy. ugh...time for me to clean out my friends list! lol
God is with you, bless you
It never ceases to amaze me how some people can be deranged enough to act like they care about you when in reality they just enjoy seeing you downtrodden. I had the same thing happen 3 years ago when I was still in the throes of a severe clinical depression. At the time I was working at a shopping mall, and my boss was really a mean person. There was a former classmate of mine who worked as a janitor in the shopping mall where I worked. She would listen to me talk about my misfortunes, and act all sympathetic. It was n't until my situation improved significantly when I realized what she was actually doing. And yes, she did start ignoring me and acting cold, just like your "friends" did when you became happier than they even were. It is an unfortunate fact, but also true that many people indulge in schadenfreude. They like to see people who they perceive as more talented, good looking, wealthy,and smarter than they are suffering. It is sick when people think this way. It is morally revolting that these people were all feeding off your grief to make themselves feel better. I am glad that you got them out of your life! Good riddance. This type of thing explains exactly why I believe that it is best to be low key and not tell anybody anything about my family and personal life. This is not to say that there arent genuinely good people out there, but sadly there a lot of basket cases as well....
I hope that you are well, by the way, and are surrounded by loving and supportive people.
You deserve to be happy. You fought for your happiness. Your daughter must be proud of you. Keep shining brightly. Keep being happy.
I'm sorry for your loss and good luck to you in your life.
My sister have always been slimmer than I am. Ever since I started working out and losing weight she say oh you missed your calling on being a plus sized model although I don't want to be plus size. I think she is secretly scared of me getting thinner than her.
That is the most horrible passive agressive statement i've ever heard! Reminds me of when i lost weight and one of my vests were looser - you know what my mom said? " Oh, it just got stretched out in the laundry."
Charmaine Espeut wow
Back handed compliments are the saddest form of envy and insecurity
Is it awkward that my brother said he’ll miss to call me fatty.
I was the only married guy among my friends and was also thr only one fit, 6 pack, etc and my friends dressed like slobs, didn't workout and were mostly obese and they started saying that I was obsessed with the gym, diet etc and I should start looking like a married man rather than a single one... (dadbod).
This is so true. I had someone who said, “If you don’t have any haters you ain’t doing something right.”
The universe always brings to me what I need at the right appointed time. Can't begin to tell you how the moment I became aware and healthy I've gotten more persistent offers form coworkers to have a donut, have a piece of cake, I'm going to this and that fast food restaurant...want me to bring you back something and so forth. I mean, really? Now I have the language to that madness. THIS video finally and literally put the nails in the haters' coffin and I thank you!
I know I am late to this post but you got to ask why they want so badly for you to have that stuff and it has a lot to do with what he said. Now don't get me wrong, it is different if you see somebody is not eating enough or not eating enough of certain things. Some people go to extreme and don't eat enough. However, if it was because they are so concerned then why not just suggest you eat bigger meals as opposed to offering that junk. When they keep offering that stuff it is not out of concern. I will eat that some junk sometimes but in moderation. What he is saying is true. I had people to go around telling people I was weight shaming other people because they got upset I was not eating the way they eat.
M Mitch guys sabotage me to be fat
People don't like when your success shines a light on their weakness and laziness
true
The biggest hater moment from a former friend of mine was when I lost a lot of weight (from 200 lbs to 170) and he hadn't seen me in 4 months. He didn't say anything per se but it was his pissed off look when he saw how much leaner I was. It was the angriest I have ever seen him. Then our friendship was slowly dying and he eventually blocked me on FB. He continues his foodie habits while I am getting healthier and healthier.
You don't have to apologize for improving your self to look better being your best or becoming successful.
His mantra is spot on. When you are going for a nonconventional life, don´t take advice from average people. I started doing this when I was 22, in a way. I decided to quit taking life advice from people who´s lives I did not want to have, or where not happy.
This is so true! I used to get told that I'm too thin when almost every person around me was too fat. People would interview me about my life all the time untill I realized that they weren't trying to be my friends. This is really sad.
Thank you for this video. I've struggled with my weight for most of my life. I lost a significant amount of weight & sustained it. I experienced so much negativity from people around me. I didn't know why. Eventually I regained a lot of weight. This video will help me to reach & maintain my goal weight again. Thank you!
It's really scary when it happens... it makes no sense. But I hope now it does. People hate greatness... humans want the world to be vanilla.
If the people around you aren't cheering you on it's time to find new people.
Your teaching the truth!!!!!!!! Don't take advice from adverse people. I love it!!! I'm Obsessed with my dream! I'm my own Champion!!
Dude I love this and you ABSOLUTELY NAILED IT. As I am becoming more successful in business I am seeing this. It’s insane. It’s making me realize just how people grade themselves in comparison to myself. How so many people I thought had my best interests because I had theirs were willing to be so negative and pull me back down. Insane.
If someone tells you off for being successful, tell them: I never knew you had so strong feelings against successful people (indicating yourself) I guess it makes a lot more sense to why you aren’t.
It took me a long time to understand what was going on. Apparently the people who are jealous of me were sabotaging my success directly and indirectly. They were my friends until they discovered how much money I have, then they refused to get in my car, would sabotage deals even at their own peril and refused to come to my house. I had employees who would deliberately not do something or start ugly rumors about me. My family was the worst. Finally to save my sanity I gave every thing to various charities. Today I am in college full time. Once my batteries have recharged I will be successful again. I really need a wing man.
Great video homie, I'm 6'7" / 230 lbs , elite at 4 sports , good looking with an IQ of 133, my friends, family and my OWN father hates on me, just metaphysics guys, stay strong cause we gotta stick together and set the tone ...
When I was in the gym this year I got good results, and my friend always said - Hey your legs are so skinny.... But they are normal...When one does something very good, People around them do not like... Only his parents, Its a very though time in your life when you realize that.
Joao Guilherme Gonçalves same with me
PS.... That guy looks awesome, how impressive. I know he worked extremely hard to get there and please tell him he should feel great for accomplishing his goal!
+FITNESS MAGNITUDE Pamela Gilbert Right!
If you want your dreams to come true, tell no one what your dream is otherwise, it won't come true.
Yes, quietly hussle.
No it will come true GOD decides and nobody can stop what GOD has destined for you. The people who are praying on your downfall will pay for it. Its called Karma. My dreams will come true.
" I did not tell anyone what my God was putting in my heart to do.." -Nehemiah 2:12
I searched this , because I'm experiencing this right now.
I supported my best friend when he started his business and I had nothing.
People loved me when I had nothing .
Once I started doing well and he wasn't , he did everything he could to destroy my success.
I was skinny ,poor most of last 4 years.
I did better , started my own business, gained 18kgs in the gym . When I showed up after covid lockdowns ,no one liked me anymore and my popularity was cut in half.
18 kilos of muscle 💪🏾? Damn!
I've notice this behaviors too from very close circles. It's crazy I am the opposite. When I see someone do something I aspire this motivates me and I want them to win because I can see myself becoming that. And even if I do not become that, still. '' Don't take advice from average people''. Bro, this is also something I've learned.
This is so true and the best thing to do is just don't tell them any of your business what ever you're trying to do just go around them get it done and let them find out from some body else.
I had a friend that was an aggressive food pusher. I was on a diet and successfully lost a lot of weight. She was overweight and trying to lose weight too, but never had the discipline to stick to her diet/eating plan. I think she had a binge eating disorder. Every time she fell of the wagon and ate a ton of chocolates/biscuits/cakes or whatever, she would then try and force me to eat some too - in an attempt to make herself feel better about her binge eating. It didn't matter how many times I said "no thanks", she just wouldn't back off and would keep on pushing whatever junk food she was pushing that day. One day, I stood my ground and kept saying "no, thanks" - I refused to give in to her food pushing. When she realised that she was not going to succeed in making me eat it, she totally lost her temper and started yelling at me in front of everyone. Suffice it to say I terminated our friendship shortly after that. The point I'm making is that some food pushers are extremely aggressive and deeply jealous human beings and if you refuse to eat what they are pushing, there is definitely going to be some drama. It can't be avoided. And if there is drama, so be it. Stand your ground. Do not eat anything you don't want to eat just to make someone else happy.
Yeah this is a bitter truth. In high school i was really longing for a relationship for a long time. Senior year i got one and it lasted awhile. I noticed two months in the relationship my parents started being really mean to me for no reason. I still had good grades and was being kind; but they were yelling at me frequently, dramatically over tiny things. At that time as well i had been really getting in shape and shedding fat, starting to see the abs come in. And wow the monster came out in them. My friends distanced themselves more from me and id heard gossip from people of what theyd been saying. Before i started the workout journey i told my friends im gonna try to get serious about it and they said "lol ok future meat head." But i really did it and looked good and i think they resented me for that. Really sad human nature. My dad knew I was being careful with my diet and he'd offer me things he knew i was avoiding and have something hateful to say when i declined. Once he said "oh, thats right, you eat like a bird." Then ironically, the unthinkable happened, he became a vegan for many months last year and shed a lot of weight. And guess what, i wasnt toxic or aggressive toward him about his journey. I told him im happy for him and thats great. It just shows our character when we're in each other shoes and the decisions we make.
This video is full of facts. These are things that are often hidden in plain sight and sometimes you just need someone to point them out to you before you skyrocket your results in life.
Thank you!
I would do good in school because of all the effort work I put in, but at the end of the day my big brother would always be the one who hates on me because I do better in school than him. I mean I didn't brag about or anything, its the people around me that do. Especially my parents. They brag about how I'm better and every time they do, my big brothers always around. I think it's really stupid.
Unfortunately, this is how it goes in life :/
I know your pain, I used be in my room studying for 3 hours while my roommates were in the front getting drunk and playing video games on school nights. They talked so much shit about me
TamMyBoy same.i think its the parents fault.you should never say to your kid that his sibling is better.cause hell hate his sibling with no reason.
TamMyBoy I support my lil sister shes the smartest person I know only 1 kid was smarter than her in the entire school and he was 2 grades higher. I never will understand why people hate yes i will get jealous a little but i support all who strive for greatness
TamMyBoy I've personally experienced this. You're right is dumb
Hearing this...
I remember my mom and older sister always making me eat and telling me I’m obsessed and always telling me I need mental help for simply having any problem I needed to share....
and always belittling for trying to talk to them openly about anything we needed to figure out😔
I thought they were just overly protective and cared for me, had no time, or I was just dumb
BC
I wasn’t competitive, and didn’t do well in school ( as they raised me in church when I was so little)
I used to be over weight, very simple, nothing attractive, in the way I looked, and when I changed my mom and sister acted as if they didn’t notice anything. And they kept showing me pictures of me when I looked my worst...
It’s hard being saddened like this, especially since I’m not in my own country, and dealing with abusive people around me. But I come from a strong culture from the South of Spain: flamenco, etc
I guess it’s time to woman up!
I have movie stars in USA as role models I guess...
I know it wasn't just me feeling this way. I have temptation to eat junk every day. Eventhough I tell people I' lm trying to eat healthier. But, I now have the tools to block them. I'm going to be healthy again because I can.
Boom!
Love this Tysm I’m a mother of 3 . Was overweight and then after my first son I took care of my health and fitness . I feel amazing now and healthy and strong is what matters .
Bro this video resonated with me so much. I'm currently embarking on many positive changes in my life. It's in my aura so it shines outwardly. It seems like when you are about to achieve something or strike out on a path that cuts against the grain, the ppl who normally support you instinctually fall back, and those who don't tend to sychronistically appear everywhere. It's like they know you are different, and their intolerance and negative self-perceptions get projected onto you in an instant. Those same ppl love to waste your time and ask for small favors just to get you to talk to them. Sometimes you just have to be d!ck and blow past them.
Worst thing? My older brother coming up to my face and yelling: “ You know you went from here [low hand] to here [high hand]”. This was after me overcoming anorexia after severe emotional invalidation at home, and getting into a top university. Still shocks me to the core! 🧿
I've probably watched this video a hundred times before leaving a comment but this remains some of the best advice I've ever gotten on RUclips. Thank you for your work and your words are undoubtedly leaving a huge positive impact on hundred of people who don't take the time to comment.
I have Celiac disease and must follow a strict gluten-free diet. When I was diagnosed my health, my quality of life improved dramatically and I lost a lot of weight ( due to inflammation)
My parents, my friends, they all try to make eat even if there is doubt that the food can be cross contaminated.My best friend told me that I was exaggerating and nothing will happen to me if I ate a small piece of bread... quite honestly, their disinterest in see me healthy, broke my heart, but tough me to TRUST MYSELF and LOVE ME. Eventually you must realise that is their lack of self love that makes them hate on you. Brilliant video.
That's hard :-( Good luck
i feel im left alone...everything u said is true abt my life....it seems they are looking for ways to not complement me but complain against me....
I learned in life that to be at the top means to be alone. It's like a tiger is at the top of the food chain, but he's solitary and alone. the deer lives in social herds but they're at the bottom of the food chain.
Just My Opinion so that means were not soppouse to hsve friends if we want to succed?
You just showed me the right path, and expressed what i really needed to do....Thanks a lot Alex :)
+TheMobileShots :-)
wow, love it! Keep doing what you're doing!!
Thanks Isabela
This happened to me when I was heavier people liked my photos as I got skinnier less people the circle got smaller and more haters and I learnt the value of true friends. I agree I became a better happier peaceful person.
Hmm that got me thinking I know a lot of sloppy ppl who get tons of likes I’m in better shape then 90-95 percent of humans and I barley get likes it’s a cold quiet world out here
The amount of hate I get from usually being the fittest guy everywhere I went is absurd. In the beginning, it was very hard to deal with this. You lose a lot of friends, harder to hang out with people. But then you realise that the more you have, the better. And then start hanging with people like that.
Same thing with my aspirations in life. Most of my friends want to sabotage me to stay working menial jobs while I do what I can to aim for a good, six figure income life style.
Many friends also stopped hanging with me cause of my success with women that they can't even talk to, let alone date.
At this point I pretty much have no contact whatsoever with old friends that knew me only as either a tiny weakling they could mock, or a very obese nerdy guy who only plays video games all day with a fat girlfriend as well. I had barely any hate whatsoever back then. Everyone was "nice" to me.
Bear in mind that I used to criticised people better than me a lot as well at that time. Of course.
The price you pay for being great 💪🏽
First of all, thank you so much for your video. Wow, I can't even begin to tell you how much I needed to hear this, and I didn't even realize I needed to hear this. I moved back home to pursue my startup and it's been difficult to say the least. While it's not the meanest, ONE of the meanest things that anyone has ever said to me was "You're not ready to help other people." This was said by one of my "best friends." I'm developing a website that provides a platform for people to learn how to help themselves. I've had mental health issues, never knew I had mental health issues until about a year, went through an array of breakdowns, went on medication, finally stabilized and my dreams and the work I'm putting into them, persist regardless. This friend of mine also had mental health issues and she too was trying to build a career as a female body builder who wanted to inspire other women to feel strong and empowered. I can't believe she shit on me like that. Immediately I knew it was jealousy and I couldn't have been more taken aback. I was the ONLY friend that attended her first body building competition. I have been nothing more than supportive of her and have only had positive things to say to her and about her. I cared about her immensely. The fact that she would say something like this pissed me the fuck off and I knew that anyone who thinks so poorly of me doesn't belong in my life. Some of the most "unlikely" people do and achieve great things. And it's not because they're gifted, it's because they give a damn enough to get the discipline to do it. You're right. People hate you because they can't be you or don't know where to begin. Let them suffer with their mediocre life. It's not fair that good people have to deal with such criticism for wanting a more fulfilling life. Especially when it involves wanting to help others. I mean how selfish is that? For people to get the satisfaction of wanting to bring someone down who is only trying to put others up? We need to be more emotionally resistant when it comes to things like this and YES it's a battle but we are warriors so let's just take a deep breath and keep building and make movements. #YOLO. lol
This is my life. My whole family and friends are like this. I learnt to deal with it, or rather ignore it. I've got better things to do with my life than caring what others think. I love myself, I love my life, and that's all that matters to me.
Exactly - great attitude
You don’t have to deal with it cut hating ass people off 💯💯
Literally what I’m dealing with now , after being a loser for years I’m out in years of work and I’m now reaping the benefits and I can’t believe people I never thought would begin hating and sabotaging me started to do these things and I had to distance myself from them
My life everyones hates me although I'm more fit and happier than most of them
+landon davies The rough truth :/
yea but u still gonna be hated on.
My family belittles me because I eat differently than they do: organic, vegetarian and less refined sugar. I mostly eat for nutrition, not only pleasure. They profoundly hate it.
So true. I was very overweight and started cycling. Some friends wanted to take me out cycling and wanted to encourage me. As I got better I noticed a change in their attitude. They would be dismissive when I spoke about my ambitions. Eventually I became very good at road biking, I lost 5 stone and also now am a great runner. In the end they created ways to fall out with me and one even blocked me on strava. Crazy how insecure people are.
This video is amazing and really helps me right now because I’m dealing with a lot of hate ever since I’ve lost some weight, got a better job, and have been really happy. A friend of a decade just flipped out of the blue.
Here is an incredible story from an INTERNET BULLY who harrased me for years.. who then got put right in his place... basically me and this guy fallen out on an internet game years ago and he is doing quite well academically, I failed at school and he knew this. every year or so he would pop up on my facebook saying things like "How's your work life going?" because he knows I won't be doing much with my life.. this went on a few years and I eventually lost weight and everyone was telling me I should become a male model as I had the height and the looks for it due to the less body fat.. I looked very good, I created a portfolio and got some amazing pictures to the point I am suprised I am actually that good looking when I used to think low of my self.. Eventually this guy had knew idea what I was doing and popped into my dm's saying "hows walmart treating you"? I immediatly got excited and said I am doing photoshoots. His reply was "first of all, I know you're not a model".. then BAM I showed him the pictures and he blocked me and I never heard from him again haha.
You see this is what was happening with me bruh. I used to workout every single day, and be in top shape. My cousins and family used to look at me all mad and shi. But when I was out shaped everyone was so cool with me and shi. I started to slack because I want to start conforming with them. But I feel like I need to keep pushing like fr
Everyone on my football team hated me cause I had high grades and I was supposed to be a top performer on my team. I couldn't take the hate so I ran to the army to get away from my troubles. Soon as I ran to the army everyone was cool with my decision. But everyone was hating on me when I as receiving scholarship offers to play at schools cause of my academic and some offers to become a 2nd Lt in the United States Army. Bruh I'm only 19 and I feel like I want to prove these mofos wrong.
+jelanionigbinde58 prove them wrong!!!
Going through this right now. I showed up at work in dress shirt and pants after a long time after my transformation. Gosh, people reacted, I mean they really did. Good and bad. All the good friends, in the name of pulling leg, made sure I was getting uncomfortable. What's interesting is they all exhibited a similar behavior and they were not aware what they were doing. They were just reacting instantly in a "friendly harmless" but "funny" way.
I almost shed a tear watching this.This answered so many things in my life. Thank you, lord bless! Imma check out all your videos.
Thank you for confirming this. I was starting to think there was something wrong with me, but also had the feeling people were just jealous of my lifestyle. It's true though. People don't want to feel less than you.
nickedits Just keep working on being the best person you can be. Your true friends will stick around.
MetalManiaAllTheWay thanks for the advice man it’s just been giving me an empty lonely feeling but after seeing this and hearing that I’m motivated
Please don't let others discourage you! Don't let the evil ones destroy your dreams. It can lead to losing some so called "friends"... It's better without them at the end..
The rudest thing was from an extended family member. Pretty much said I was wasting away. Lately, I'm getting a lot of negative feedback since I'm at my lowest. 5'8 at 140lb. Def not wasting away. lol. Doesn't help that this persons kids are 40 lbs overweight. Lol. *sigh* I feel great and moving on to strength training and building muscle. Thanks for sharing.
Definitely not wasting away. Onward and upward... be the 1% that can inspire others by having LIVED it
When I proudly announced my completed certificate program (changing career paths) one of my confidants taunted “Well where’s your job at?? I’m just afraid no one will take you serious. You need to be credentialed”. When I announced I was gonna pursue that credential… comments were made about my mental health (basically hinting I was delusional ). She still doesn’t know I actually passed my natl. board exams… every message she leaves me are words of “comfort” for being in an undesirable place in life. 😂😂
If I could only tell you how differently people treat me after 7+ years of consistently training and eating clean. People that were close to me literally won't even look at me or engage me in any meaningful conversation, trying their best to avoid me. It's often made me feel isolated but what's the alternative? Stop training? Eat poorly and drink every weekend? I guess it's part of the price you pay and it's best to know about it up front cause I certainly didn't.
Experienced it many times...I'm beginning to relish in my happiness and along with it be totally okay with others misery. I use to try to fix people's unhappiness, now I've learned it THEIR ISSUE not mines. I keep it moving.
The more i grow the more people hâte me ,i thought for a while that something wrong was going with me ,but then i found this video
You are so right.... when I was overweight my family and coworkers criticized me so much. But when I got my stuff together and lost 120lbs they got so jealous and now the have resentment towards me.
One of the best advices I have ever heard! I experience this behaviour from my friends and family a lot - thank you for this video! 🙌
Excellent video. This has been my life from day one. It's true you just have to brace yourself and move on: people are going to shit on you for being happy. Misery loves company, as they say.
+chapachuu Glad it helped!
+chapachuu ~ My thoughts are the same.
“Why don’t you just quit” “you can’t do it” words that came from my own parents but I just got more successful doing things I’ve only dreamed of doing. Just prayed thru it and god will protect me.I don’t see why family will unmotivate me
First video I have ever seen with no dislikes. How could you! Awesome word man.
+Jason Clokes Glad you liked it !
This video is sooooo good 👏🏻 .. meanest thing 🤔 ...
A friend said “What ever you are doing, STOP” (we were on venue. Everyone around the table heard her and she acted like I was dying ) My Aunts husband said ...I feel pity for you” and one he literally grabbed my wrist and shook his head. Someone from church said “You don’t look like a women anymore” Ironically enough ALL of them struggle with losing weight. 🤦🏻♀️
They were jealous
I've been watching your video and felt all of them really helped and improved me overall. The amounts of advices really motivates me and I'm glad I found this channel. Keep up the good work bud and I hope you continue doing whatever makes you happy!
+Thi Nguyen Thanks Thi :-) Glad they help!
What advice do you have for people not only trying to avoid that criticism, but also trying to avoid being that person to someone else? Because it’s something I worry that I do. I never want to hate on anyone for what they do, but I won’t lie about my insecurity in my own way. I’m also trying to be a better person and make better emotional choices.
Thank you, Alex, for saying these things straight. Hate and envy are a poison.