Healing & Finding Happiness After a Toxic Relationship

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  • Опубликовано: 15 дек 2024

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  • @nicolethackeray
    @nicolethackeray 2 года назад +86

    Sat at the end of the bed is giving Beautybaby44 2.0 vibes and I'm here for it!!!

  • @carolinewiechers6659
    @carolinewiechers6659 2 года назад +102

    Lindsey, I've been following since the pink room high school days and I am so proud to see how far you've come. This video hits so close to home as I walked away from a relationship that wasn't working after a challenging 4 years and now, a year later I'm moving abroad in 3 days to chase the life I've always wanted. Thank you for always inspiring me and your other viewers. Sending you love always xoxo

  • @meghanhughes
    @meghanhughes 2 года назад +117

    love you lucinda

  • @allisont2750
    @allisont2750 2 года назад +9

    I went through a toxic relationship as well. It’s definitely not easy to get out, but once I did things were so much better. You described it perfectly. Now I’m happier than I’ve ever been. Proud of you!

  • @abbyallure
    @abbyallure 2 года назад +40

    I teared up with you when you talked about the pain in thinking back on what you allowed to happen to you while in the relationship… love you Lindsey and love your videos like this… you truly give some really good, insightful advice

  • @pootlovatowashere
    @pootlovatowashere 2 года назад +10

    It's been a week since I've walked away from my toxic relationship, this could not have come at a better time ... or from a better person❤I've been a long time viewer and I appreciate how open you (and Meghan) have been as you navigated through your teens and now adulthood! Sending lots of love!!!

  • @care_olineeeee
    @care_olineeeee 2 года назад +29

    Lindsey i’m literally hysterical crying watching this right now because my partner and I finally decided to walk away from each other last night and today. I am so heartbroken and I love her so much but I know that we are so toxic for each other and I can’t continue living my life this way. i can’t believe the timing of this video thank you so so much

    • @lindseyhughes
      @lindseyhughes  2 года назад +4

      aw i’m sending you so much strength and love, i know you made the best decision for you and your future. be gentle on yourself 💛

  • @ZainahxZodiac
    @ZainahxZodiac 2 года назад +6

    I just want to say thank you for being so real and vulnerable. I also really appreciate you saying that you’re not 100% healed from the situation and that you don’t know if you ever will be. Sending you all the love ❤️

  • @MultiBelieber100
    @MultiBelieber100 2 года назад +4

    Growing up weatching many RUclipsrs, I have outgrown many of them but you’re one of the few RUclipsrs who I will always stick by. I wish you all the love and light in the world you truly deserve it!

  • @alexandrango2265
    @alexandrango2265 2 года назад +8

    Jared, thank you for taking care of this beautiful soul. Lindsey, you deserve a healthy and loving relationship, as do we all

  • @madisontaylor4526
    @madisontaylor4526 2 года назад +17

    Relate so much to this video, I am so much happier in my current relationship. I really feel you will meet a person when you're not looking, and that all the toxic and craziness of dating will help you grow and meet the person you are meant to be with

  • @isabelk17
    @isabelk17 2 года назад +6

    Watching you get emotional talking about your growth was seriously so touching. I think it's going to help a lot of people watching this video to see how far you can say you've come and realize they can get there too, so thank you

  • @laurenstuller8014
    @laurenstuller8014 2 года назад +6

    This really helped me. I just had a marriage ceremony with my ex 2 weeks ago and the day after our honeymoon he decided to tell me he wasn’t in love with me anymore and didn’t see a family with me. Therefore, he refused to send our license in. I had no clue whatsoever and was extremely confused since we just had a ceremony. I’m def going through grieving stage since we were together for 6 years, but this video helped me a lot. Thank you for posting this.

    • @laurewinkelmans9501
      @laurewinkelmans9501 Год назад +1

      I'm so sorry. My ex did something similar: went from claiming to be in love to "I'm so much happier without you." In two seconds. These people toy with emotions and it's so messed-up.

  • @faniaxd754
    @faniaxd754 Год назад

    I loved your honesty. I feel like a lot of people when they’re talking about something like this they do what you said, they’re like “Omg just block them! And move on🙄🙄”. Yeah that’s true but idk it’s difficult and I really appreciated that you actually admitted how fked up it can get or the actual temptation of talking to them again.

  • @laurendickies3140
    @laurendickies3140 2 года назад +40

    Love you Lindsey I’ve been watching since you were in hs and FIDM so proud of the woman you have become!

  • @polkadots041
    @polkadots041 2 года назад +3

    You have no idea how many people this video will help, thank you for sharing so openly and vulnerably❤

  • @EarthOrNothing
    @EarthOrNothing 2 года назад +3

    my life after deciding not to settle really did level up beyond love and i'm so glad you touched on that as well

  • @aprilbeilfuss3751
    @aprilbeilfuss3751 2 года назад +7

    It's crazy how much this resonated with me. One month out of an almost 2 year long toxic relationship. Could not have been a better time to see a video like this, especially from you. Thank you Lindsey.

    • @aprilbeilfuss3751
      @aprilbeilfuss3751 2 года назад

      Lindsey-- I keep coming back to this video. It is so crazy how perfectly you captured what it is like being in a relationship like that. I am 3 months out and doing great. I listened to SZA's new album and it did not resonate with me at all. That's how I know I am healed lmao
      Genuinely hope the best for you and Jared, as well as all aspects of your life! I comment this on like every single video, but I have genuinely been following you since 2014ish. Literally so crazy and I am so proud of the person you are. Best of luck to you in life
      🍾🥰

  • @MissJazzy55
    @MissJazzy55 2 года назад +13

    Currently going through this right now. Ended a off and on again toxic relationship. I always went back and called because my love for him but I’m finally releasing myself from the connection . Ty for the video Lindsey ! Makes me feel better to know I’m not alone 💕💕❤️❤️

  • @amyquintero9948
    @amyquintero9948 2 года назад +8

    Lindsay, omg. This was incredible! I can relate as i recently left the father of our 10 month old daughter Layla (named like your best friend). Being a single mom is extremely hard but it’s insane how much more peaceful i feel leaving mg toxic relationship. It’s hard as i can’t just cut him off and coparenting has been hard but i do see light at the end of the tunnel and i look forward to getting there. I’m already in the right direction.

  • @sarahsmith6690
    @sarahsmith6690 2 года назад +2

    THANK YOU. I have personally gone through my own healing journey after leaving a toxic relationship. I have many friends who are considering leaving toxic relationships and I’m going to refer them to this video. You are an unbiased third party that can legitimately and rationally walk someone through how this goes. No two journeys look the same. I definitely experienced this transitional period during the last parts of my toxic relationship (sounds shitty, but I tried to break up with this individual and they simply were not having it). So, by the time I needed to threaten a court order, I was a HAPPY single Sarah again! Aaaaand then I found the love of my life 1 month later, and we’ve been going 3 years strong!

  • @Elizabeth-yx5on
    @Elizabeth-yx5on 2 года назад +4

    Thank you for this, Lindsey. I didn't realize my "situationship" (previously an ex) was toxic until recently. He manipulated me and used me yet I worshiped him. I know he'll come back because he's left time & time again, yet I can't get myself to block him just yet. But this video is so helpful and makes me hopeful for healthy love.

  • @laurenpowell3091
    @laurenpowell3091 2 года назад +3

    Needed this more than you know. Currently 3 weeks into my break up. Thank you for sharing!

  • @sarahellenrose
    @sarahellenrose 2 года назад +2

    this randomly popped up in my feed and I'm glad it did. It's been almost 1 year since I left my toxic relationship, and after all this time I'm just now feeling tempted to start dating...but still hesitant. I feel like I still have more personal healing work to do, but I can't deny the temptation to meet someone. This video made me feel that you found something healthy!... I have a lot of fear that I won't, but thanks for the reminder to PAY ATTENTION to the red flags rather than ignore them lol.

  • @SuperMusicalPassion1
    @SuperMusicalPassion1 2 года назад +4

    Absolutely staying in touch is the worst thing for your healing process

  • @nicoleknapp777
    @nicoleknapp777 2 года назад +4

    This definitely needs to be talked about more. I dealt with toxic after toxic relationship and finally after being single for awhile and finding my own inner happiness, I met my now husband. And even though he is everything I ever wanted it is still sometimes hard to believe that I deserve him. It’s hard to not think everything is going to go to shit because everything in the past always has. He is amazing and patient with me. But the happy relationship after all the trauma has it’s own struggle, internally within yourself. Thanks for this Lindsey :)

  • @canary_sunshine1914
    @canary_sunshine1914 2 года назад +4

    Thank you Lindsey. The second I seen this was posted i started crying. Thank you for making me feel heard by requesting this. I love you so much!

    • @lindseyhughes
      @lindseyhughes  2 года назад +3

      thank you for requesting 💛 hope it is helpful!!

  • @graceluke_
    @graceluke_ 2 года назад +43

    Ummm #1 you look INCREDIBLE?? obsessed… and #2? Uploads from Lindsey Meghan Kendall and The Sesh all in one afternoon? I am actually frantic

  • @sarahraabe566
    @sarahraabe566 2 года назад +4

    This couldn't have come at a more perfect time in my life

  • @AmandaEvelyn8
    @AmandaEvelyn8 2 года назад +2

    I LOVE the background!!!! It reminds me of the same structural layout of your old videos in your pink bedroom, and I feel like it is a representation of your evolution as a person. You’re still Lindsey Hughes, but more mature, wiser, older than you were in those older videos.

  • @ainemaye9505
    @ainemaye9505 Год назад

    You’re so strong and brave you’re amazing Lindsey 🥰🥰

  • @sydeezy17
    @sydeezy17 2 года назад +2

    i went through this with my prior relationship of 4 years. from 17-21
    it was really tough but when i finally quit talking to him (had to change my number to stop myself, cause it was hard) i was finally able to build my own life and figure out what i wanted. i didnt date again until 25 ❤

  • @emmametivier8129
    @emmametivier8129 2 года назад +6

    The background was the first thing I noticed it’s so pretty. Also love the sit down vids, you’re like the big sister I never had ❤

  • @lizzi7128
    @lizzi7128 2 года назад +3

    My partner is in active methamphetamine addiciton. I need to call time. I love him so much and this is saving my life too right now. You really have no idea. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
    I can't save him and I'm love him eternally but I need to heal

  • @SuperMusicalPassion1
    @SuperMusicalPassion1 2 года назад +2

    Love you Linds! I got out of a toxic relationship 8 months ago and I made alot of the same mistakes. It has been really hard. I went through a HUGE depression period, I’m barely getting out of it. Finally feeling a little better. Love the vid!!! You’re beautiful 😊

  • @luvdazey
    @luvdazey Год назад

    Loved this so much! I was where you were about 3 years ago and now I am in such a good place ❤ I felt everything you did and you’re so right!

  • @LexiBabe23
    @LexiBabe23 2 года назад +2

    Everything you said Is exactly what I did lol. I tried being friends after but I secretly wanted to be with him again and it ended with the last fight we had before I completely cut off communication. I knew friendship wouldn't work I just couldn't imagine life without him.

  • @bellezabeauty1
    @bellezabeauty1 2 года назад +3

    Im sorry for all you’ve had to go through. I also was in a toxic relationship that was also my first relationship ever it’ll be a year no contact this February 🎉

  • @iris_ivory
    @iris_ivory 2 года назад +2

    if you put a large mirror on the other wall (in front of the window) it’ll reflect more light. The lighting is amazing though, just a little tip 🙂

  • @airellecarol5043
    @airellecarol5043 2 года назад +3

    Lindsey, I've been with you since your pink room at your parents house. I'm meghans age and honestly your doing so good for your age. This video is full of absolutely great advice! So happy your happy and at peace in your current situation. Stay happy babes❤️❤️

  • @ay_laylay
    @ay_laylay Год назад

    needed needed NEEDED this! def the best video I’ve watched on this topic. thank you 🖤

  • @ginaab2
    @ginaab2 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for sharing Lindsey!!

  • @racheljay6314
    @racheljay6314 2 года назад +2

    I needed to hear this. You are so wise. Thank you for sharing your story 💖

  • @noomigilljam4641
    @noomigilljam4641 Год назад

    Thank you for this. Im currently om my healing journey from my toxic ex. We was on and off for 1 and a half year and during that time he was with his ex at the same time as me, and he was with other girls too. I broke up with him 9 months ago, and every month there is a new stage in the journey but its hard, it feels hard to live some days, hard to see myself living a good life with all the shake and the memories. At the same time I really want to meet someone, a good person whom can be a good partner, and I miss loving someone that much, and I want someone to spend my days with and love.

  • @MarissaLace
    @MarissaLace 2 года назад +5

    Love you baby! Always so proud of you 🤍✨💖

  • @batoolasif6447
    @batoolasif6447 2 года назад +3

    Lindsey, this was so helpful and so brave of you. This will help me ❤ thank u so much ❤

  • @lydiamariee12
    @lydiamariee12 2 года назад +3

    I can relate to you so much!! I respect you a lot for posting this video and sharing your experiences 🤍

  • @monique9054
    @monique9054 2 года назад +3

    Really really needed some of these words and appreciate this video so much

  • @Erin31899
    @Erin31899 2 года назад +2

    Loved this video! Thanks so much for sharing ❤️

  • @miss_m_yt
    @miss_m_yt 2 года назад +3

    I miss your girl boss videos. Please bring them back :)

  • @faribaalipour245
    @faribaalipour245 2 года назад +2

    Lindsey ,this video from you soooo helpful for many girls around the world and you are incredible and lovely girl. Thank you so much for that and other videos...love youuu from Iran 💕😘

  • @ajkhalil123
    @ajkhalil123 2 года назад +2

    Love your adorable sweater! Such a pretty color on you 💕

  • @EmilyHummingbird
    @EmilyHummingbird 2 года назад +2

    Ooo I have a sit-down chit-chat style video topic… First, to preface, I have created a new quote for myself: “Dream. And know that it’s okay to change your dreams.” Backstory… Last month I broke up with my long-term partner of four years when we had planned forever on living together once I graduated. And in addition to that, I am choosing to graduate without getting my teaching certificate, meaning that I’ve changed my mind about my exact career path literally a few months before student teaching.
    So. A video idea… maybe kinda strange or different, but just an idea. But basically the topic of letting life take you where you’re meant to go, where you’re supposed to be. And not being afraid to try new things and give life a chance. You know ? That could be cool. 🤷‍♀️🥰❤️

  • @carly9533
    @carly9533 2 года назад +2

    you should defs film here again, the background is so cute!

  • @lauren2827
    @lauren2827 2 года назад +2

    Love everything about this video

  • @taylorlautnershirin
    @taylorlautnershirin 2 года назад +2

    Slay Queen. Proud of you ❤

  • @TinaTomato
    @TinaTomato 2 года назад +3

    Love the background!

  • @kimberlygonzalez3148
    @kimberlygonzalez3148 2 года назад +2

    I remember I couldn’t stop texting my ex 😢 it took 2 break ups for me to finally leave him. The last time I never texted or contacted him again. I blocked him everywhere

  • @paulma222
    @paulma222 2 года назад +4

    I don’t think I’ve ever texted an ex after ending things with them😅 maybe bc when I end it, I mentally checked out a while before

  • @SterreHose
    @SterreHose Год назад

    Thank you!

  • @heidyriossosa17
    @heidyriossosa17 2 года назад +3

    Yassssss Lindsey was waiting for this video ☺️☺️☺️💕💕💕

  • @PrincessGrumps
    @PrincessGrumps 2 года назад +2

    I love you Lindsay been here with you since hs 😙💖

  • @Nasrumii
    @Nasrumii 2 года назад +2

    Thank you! ❤

  • @tanyi003
    @tanyi003 Год назад

    Thank you ❤️‍🩹

  • @EmilyHummingbird
    @EmilyHummingbird 2 года назад +2

    Love you lots Linds. ❤️

  • @MizzyKawaiii
    @MizzyKawaiii 2 года назад +3

    Hiiiiii it’s 4am in Singapore 😆

  • @tiffyjacobs7172
    @tiffyjacobs7172 2 года назад

    Are you still with Jared?

  • @RiverofLife95
    @RiverofLife95 2 года назад +2

  • @WinnieK97
    @WinnieK97 2 года назад +1

    I think it’s cute you knew in ur gut he’d be ur person 🥺 was Jared in the same boat? Like was he waiting for ur timeline?

  • @ryanjonsson2468
    @ryanjonsson2468 2 года назад +1

    Wait aren't you married or something like that

    • @lindseyhughes
      @lindseyhughes  2 года назад +5

      nope! maybe you’re thinking of my sister

  • @SheenaMedina
    @SheenaMedina 2 года назад

    I notice you didn’t really define what “toxic” meant in your relationship. I think that would go a long way here in bringing accountability. A breakup is never one sided and both parties usually play a role in causing harm. My partner and I broke up and I tried everything to create a safe and loving space for her to open up and be honest with me. Unfortunately, she didn’t view my efforts as loving or caring. It was only after we broke up that I realized she was emotionally unavailable, and I was “too much” for her because of my desire to confront difficult emotions. Some might look at video like this and think they are absolved from doing any real self-reflection on how their past traumas play a role in current relationship patterns.

  • @batgirljamie
    @batgirljamie 2 года назад

    Jered is the best one you dated

  • @izzykaii
    @izzykaii Год назад

    You look like Anya Taylor Joy 🙀

  • @growtgt
    @growtgt 2 года назад +2

    hi "girl boss" how do you enjoy making 30k a year?

  • @Lundy1212
    @Lundy1212 2 года назад +3

    Sending you a big hug and a big congratulations for who you are and who you are continuing to become! 🥹

  • @thebartlettbaker
    @thebartlettbaker 2 года назад +3

    omg I’m obsessed this video is giving BeautyBaby44

  • @SuperMusicalPassion1
    @SuperMusicalPassion1 2 года назад +3

    Sooo proud of us for leaving! 🫂 love you Linds