My Toxic Relationship (+ How I Left)
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2021
- hi guys. thank you so much for allowing me the space to talk about this. i hope this helps anyone out there know that you are not alone in this - these types of relationships are extremely common & can be very confusing to come to terms with. my mood, emotions, and life are infinitely more balanced and happy once i finally left this relationship. i didn't talk about everything that happened in this video, but i shared what i felt comfortable sharing today.
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The hair? the eyebrows? The lashes? SERVING LOOKS MISS LINDSEY
We can't forget the nails matching the shirt! 💁🏻♀️
She is beautiful
I left a toxic eight year relationship. I knew it wasn't right, but I could not leave it because I was young and dumb. He brought out the worst in me. It's been over three years, and I'm still so scared someone is going to draw that person out of me again. I hated the person I became. I learned a lot from that relationship, but I left with so much trauma.
Big love to you
RUclips-worlds colliding in the best way 😍
Omg omg
Peep the BLOOM book in the background ❤️
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your book in the background then you in the comments! 💛
The taking photos is a weird coping mechanism I’m sure others share, like myself. When I would cry in severe pain like that, I’d look in the mirror or take photos too just to kind of like give myself a reality check. I needed to see myself.
"I needed to see myself." A WORDDDD
it's really grounding. i suffer from depersonalization and seeing myself cry is so deeply connective. it's not weird at all if it's helpful!
Omg I would film myself and make voice recordings at my low points, I didn’t know others did this too! It helped to speak it out loud too
@@sedona3player same! i do voice recordings. i don’t even know what i say in the moment sometimes, so it’s crazy to hear them back once i calm down and ground myself again
i generally don't comment on youtube videos, but i really want you to know that i am so proud of you.
thank you 💛
My sister was in a toxic relationship on and off for 7-8 years. I’m so proud of her for getting out. She’s in a healthy relationship now. I don’t live in fear of what might happen to her or what shit her partner might hurt her.
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such a fucking queen. able to admit that you contributed to the toxicity of the relationship, while also reflecting back on how the toxicity was harmful to you. i love you.
This is such an important video. Hearing you speak your truth was so incredibly powerful and I hope it can be the turning point for so many others in the same challenging position. We’ve all seen the instagram graphics of “signs of a toxic relationship” but hearing you speak to your lived experience is so much more meaningful and real.
jesus loves you, theres help out there
my toxic relationship created PTSD for me.. so crazy. you're so strong. thank you for sharing
Can’t imagine the strength and bravery this took. We’re all proud of you. On another note, you look 🔥 here. Go off sis
thanks love 🥰
it speaks so much on your maturity to be able to take accountability of your actions in a toxic relationship. it will help so many people to learn from your experience, and to grow in yourself.
it's really commendable how gracious you were concerning him in videos originally, after the breakup.
I left a very toxic relationship where we were each other’s worst enemy but we didn’t know how to live without each other. Both of us were at fault for sure but knowing when to cut ties is detrimental and it just went on too long. Now three years later I have a sweet little baby and a new fiancé. There’s more to life than the cycle you’re trapped in and you CAN get out. So proud of you!
What an amazing and Divine creation you are holding such Grace. There is no act of courage and strength that doesn’t involve vulnerability. When I think of that time, I’m so grateful for you! In being a rock of strength and courage for me, you became the rock of strength and courage for your authentic Self. There is so much love here for your viewers that may be in a similar experience. Look at you! Look how far you have come and the mountains you have climbed. I was honored to carry the daughter who carried me. Thank you!
We already knew that Mama Hughes was a saint but this just proves that even more 💕 so proud of you for sharing your story for anyone that needs this right now or in the future
Saved this video 6 months back for when i finally was going to be out of my lease and be able to move on from my abusive toxic relationship, listening to it as I’m driving to my next place and it’s exactly what i needed to hear thank you no idea how much this helps to know I’m not the only one
I love you endlessly linds
i love you Lex!!
Lindsey, I hope you grasp the magnitude of power that lies in these incredibly strong words of yours. Not ONLY are you impacting those currently in toxic relationships. Not ONLY are you impacting those who have been in similar circumstances. But you are also PROTECTING those who have never experienced such things. Because of your video, many folks out there will know the warning signs to look for, before getting deep into a toxic relationship. What an incredible story, dear. Thank you for sharing your story and for using your story to impact others. You are destined for great things, your light shines so brightly.
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I remember my ex screaming at me because I didn’t want to try some knew type of hummus or some dumb shit and then when I tried to leave and remove myself from the situation he changed his tune and BEGGED me to stay. I knew it was time to get out when I called me while I was out getting groceries wondering why I was taking so long and accusing me of cheating. Know your worth ladies, don’t let the losers bring you down and like Lindsey said, don’t be afraid to set boundaries 💜
Exactly! What she said was so true. Toxic relationships can be of so many types. If you’re always fighting and if someone always brings out the worst in you, it’s time to leave. There have been relationships and people who are not overtly aggressive or clearly toxic but if you’re always unhappy and if they’re bringing out the worst in you, it should raise red flags!
This video as well as your comment feel like a look into my past relationship..only recently have I begun to allow myself to look at things that happened & process the emotions in a safe state. The being screamed at over the phone, accused of cheating while at the grocery store.. glad you're away from that now ❤
I have this cute little sign in my house now and it says “I still remember the days I prayed for the things I have now”. Nobody knows this but every time I read it I remember years ago when I was in a “toxic relationship” and today I look at my husband and my girls and my heart just melts because I am seriously so blessed. The bad times really do teach you a lot though and I would t be here today if I didn’t go through that 😌
I just left a toxic relationship a week ago and this helps so much. I was building up the courage for so long and you have no idea how much this has helped. I know I deserve better. Thank you so much ❤️
girl YES. the period after where you’re adjusting again is so hard but it truly gets easier every single day! focus on you. proud of you 💛
I think taking photos and recording is a response to being gaslit. I felt that impulse very strongly in my marriage.
there was a moment when in my first relationship that was not just toxic but abusive, and we were driving and i told him to pull over and i couldn't breathe because we were just constantly fighting for the whole drive and i screamed for him to pull over and i got out of the car and just literally screamed (dramatic i know) into an empty parking lot in the middle of the night and that was such a low point for me but still remained in that relationship for months anyway. it's been years since i left him but the feelings still remain, all sorts of jumbled. remembering and reminding yourself of how low you had gotten within the relationship is so important. the next day will come and yesterday can seem so far away and unimportant. thank you for sharing. i've been watching your videos since I was literally 12??? i'm 23 now, was 19 when i left that relationship. healing is good and i'm so beyond amazed by your accountability and understanding of youself. you're an incredible, bad ass role model and i'm glad i got to mature with you as one of the creators i enjoy watching. hope the universe blesses you with a lot!
so so proud of you for opening out and getting out. setting boundaries after this experience will lead you to an AMAZING man made just for you so dont lose hope. until then, KEEP THRIVING SIS🤍
First relationships leave you so vunerable to toxic elements. You have no idea what you’re doing. Being past that point I’ve learned so much, and I want to thank you for sharing your story to help other young people realize things are toxic
“The girl who cried Wolf” wow I have never heard something more true to not only my own experience, but others as well. Lindsey this is so powerful to share and your words, your own experience/ feelings will help so many people. It’s weird to say, but comforting to hear people are not alone in this. Thank you for being so vulnerable and posting this, you have my love and support!
I relate to the pics 😭Toward the end of my relationship I started writing all the comments he said down and the date so I wouldn’t be tricked , I knew it was wrong and that was the truth I needed to see & the reminder & it’s what gave me the strength to leave .
sitting here crying with you. i ended my toxic relationship in 2019 as well. i resonate completely with being alone & not telling a single soul or telling them a huge downplayed version of the toxicity.
My therapist told me people in a toxic relationship go back at least 7 times before actually being done. I remember laying in bed starving because his needs were more important. he convinced me to let him take my car and when he was gone I remember praying saying I need out I need help. I kid you not the next day everything came pouring out. I moved out that week.
Wow I didn't know that and now it all makes sense. We aren't all alone in this and it makes it less painful.
I’m sorry you had to go through that
@@MorganM2399 It still hurts but tbh I learned a lot of what not to do and how to love myself more.
I feel like you’re going to help so many people with this.
This was so hard to hear Lindsey because during that relationship when you were sharing on RUclips I had NO idea that this was what you were going through. You are SO strong Lindsey and now more than ever all of us are SO happy you found Jared. We love you so much thank you for sharing and keeping it real. 💙
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR POSTING THIS
I think you hid in the laundry room because you needed to hear someone say that. Your intuition guided you there. So glad to hear you're doing so much better today Lindsey
not even a minute in but have to express how much respect I have for you. you’re so strong, we love you!
I left my toxic relationship about 7 months ago of a 5 year relationship. It got to the point where I got tired of the relationship and how I was being treated. I knew I could not deal with it any longer. There was a point where I should have really left him back in 2017, but I did not, I eventually came back to him. But now I know I deserve much better, and I hope anyone who is reading this, you deserve better as well
This is literally the same situation I’m in 5 years later and our son I am exhausted… it’s every single day now that I’m unhappy
my last relationship was so toxic & abusive, mentally, emotionally & physically... i was stuck for 2 years, i didn’t think i would make it out alive.. but i did & now i’m trying to heal & work through my PTSD & trauma from it.. my therapist & my current bf are my bestfrinds. my support system is everything to me, family, friend, etc. thank you so much for this. i love you. big hugs to you, i know this is not easy to talk about. please be kind to yourself!
Wow, this was so spot on.. i used to lock myself in our bathroom and cry on the floor, thinking “look at yourself” and thinking about ways to end my life while he was just screaming thru the bathroom door, calling my crying manipulation. Next day i just pretended nothing happened and start all over again even tho i was so exhausted. I wasn’t in tact with my emotions at all. I think i was disassociating a lot . I left him last week, for good. I have never been so happy in my life.
I love your top btw, where did you get it?
I’m proud of you. 🤍 I hope you’re doing well and flourishing without him.
I feel like I’m watching myself talk about my past relationship...... it’s so crazy how common this can be for people.
It is soooooo incredibly hard to get out, but now I’m in the best 5 yr long relationship of my life!!! It teaches you so much and now you will thrive in your new relationship too!!
One of the moments when I wish we were girlfriends and could talk for hours...Thank you for your honest words!
I took photos too! I thought I was over dramatic... But I wanted to remind myself too. I sugar coated, I tried to hide fights, I tried to change just so we wouldn‘t fight anymore. I get it.
I‘m also strong and independent and still went back a thousand times. Oh and: I too saw a side of myself I never knew existed. SOOO angry!
You went about this video in a very resectable way and it goes to show just how responsible and mature you are to be able to take accountability
I’ve been in this exact place before and hearing this was like listening to myself. It was insane how similar things were. It literally brought tears to my eyes because I understood the emotion so well. I’m so glad you’re in a better place! You deserve to be happy. 🤍 Thank you for opening up about such a personal subject and sharing the value you’ve been able to take from such a difficult few years with others.
thank you so much Annie!
I have deeply struggled trying to vocalize the pain that I went through in my last relationship. This video gave me that voice without having to express it.
I just sent this video to my mom so that she could understand without me having to revisit everything.
I honestly wish I had seen this video three years ago. However, as you said I know that I needed to have that enlightenment moment on my own and at my own pace.
Thank you Lindsay.
This video makes a difference. A big one.
This couldn’t have come at a better time. Just got out of a toxic relationship that involved abuse after drinking. The hiding bc I knew i would end up getting gaslit and getting sucked back in is so real. I wanted to believe it would get better. But it never does. I really appreciate you using your platform to talk about this. You are amazing!
This video made me so emotional! Thank you for sharing your story Lindsey, it's incredibly brave & courageous of you! ❤️💕
i'm so proud of you for posting this and i love that you're being so candid about your experience and that you've taken the time to heal
Thank you so much for posting this. So so proud of you. I send so much love to everyone else who has gone through this.
Just left a toxic relationship this past weekend. He lied and lied and lied and I never felt more out of control (mentally) in my life. And I’ve been in physically abused but the toxic mental abuse is seriously so draining and hurtful and confusing.
you are so strong ❤️
@@teabubbles4ever thank you🥺🥰
🌱✨ glad you left ☀️🤎
I’m so proud of you .... I know that feeling
Sending you love, healing, and protection today and always
Right to the top of my lengthy watch later playlist.
Very proud of you!! And I hope you feel some sense of relief & love from everyone here for you!!
sounds like i’m listening to my story, it’s crazy. Thank you for sharing to better others 🤍 we love you
I'm so sorry you went through this but I hope you realize how much sharing your story is going to help other people. I was in a toxic relationship for almost 4 years and this video was SO freakin relatable and helped me put some of the emotions I felt into words. I still get so embarrassed and cringe when I think about how much time and energy I wasted but it really is so hard to leave and you don't realize how bad things actually were until you get out.
So proud of you. I know this wasn’t an easy topic but so many go through the same thing. Good on you for getting out ❤️
I just got out of a toxic relationship this past week and I went on youtube today and saw you posted this video. Thank you for having the strength to post this and share your experience with others❤️
It’s been almost 3 years since I’ve been out of my toxic relationship and this video really put me at ease. Proud of you !
you don’t understand how much i needed this
Thank you so much for posting this video, and having the strength to talk about all the toxic stuff. I went through the same feelings and emotions and didn't known that other girls felt this way. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this. It’s so hard to leave situations like this and it’s so reassuring to see that others are going through this and are getting out of these situations. My first toxic relationship made me feel crazy and I didn’t realize how bad it was because I loved him so much.
This is so brave of you to talk about. Just getting out of a toxic relationship and this all resonates with me. I hope this helps others leave too 💕
OMG YES LINDSEY!! I am so glad you shared this, I'm sure you can help many people out there! 😊
Aw Lindsey!! I’m so sorry this happened to you and it’s happened to a lot of us and it’s really sad. I’m proud of you for getting out and now you’re with an amazing guy who loves you so much! We go through the hard times to get to the good!
I am not good at boundaries. I love how you brought that up. It is something we all should work on for sure!
thank you for this video. you don’t know how many this could help. i appreciate your bravery in speaking on such a tough subject.
You are so strong Lindsey! I went through the worst relationship I had ever been in 2019-2020 and some of the things you have said I completely understand. I'm so glad we are both out and healthier and stronger because of it!
I burst into tears around the time you started crying. I’m so sorry that you went through all that. I’ve been through such a similar situation and it’s always so hard.
I also really relate to your comment about Instagram and archiving what looked happy but really wasn’t.
So proud of you for being able to talk about this. 💕
This video is so important. I left my abusive relationship 2 years ago and I relate so much to all of your story. I’m so happy that you made it out and can share this type of thing with your viewers
thank you for sharing! people online only ever make their relationships seem so healthy and it makes those who struggle feel so alone. i appreciate your vulnerability ❤️
Ugh yes when someone brings out the absolute worst qualities in you that you don’t even recognize in yourself it’s truly scary. No matter if it’s a boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, family member, get away from that person. It’s NOT healthy mentally and can scar you for life if you stay.
I resonated with this so much. My first relationship sounds so similar to yours and just like you I kept going back and willingly put myself through the emotional rollercoaster. It feels so good to be on the other side of it. I’m glad you’re happier now!
been following you for a looooong time. i got out of an abusive two year relationship a few months ago so i know how hard it is. means a lot that you decided to open up about this and i definitely think it will benefit people feeling similarly. you're so strong !!❤️❤️
You’re so brave for posting your experience! ❤️ I was in a toxic relationship but didn’t fully realise how bad it was until I got out of it. Hopefully your video will help a lot of people xx
So proud of you Lindsey! It's so important to use your voice to share what you want, especially on topics like this
So much respect for you for having the bravery and courage to post this, you are so strong yet vulnerable and I know this video will resonate with so many people
So glad that you had the courage to post this and spread awareness to people in similar predicaments. I’ve been watching your videos for years and seeing those pictures of you crying in the bathroom was so heartbreaking. Much love to you and all of the people in your life who helped you be accountable and break the cycle. 💗
You will never know how much this helped me Linds. It gave me chills knowing someone went through a very similar situation as me. Thank you for sharing this.You are so so so strong.
These types of videos are so powerful/impactful for so many of us. I really admire how open and vulnerable you are with your audience. We see you and we love you girl! ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing!
Just left a 5 1/2 “Toxic” relationship and I had a similar breaking point. You’re amazing!
I think this video is a really good reminder that we truly never know what people are going through. Thank you for sharing this deeply personal story with us. Sending you so much love
I’m so proud of you for posting this babe 🥰 needed this as well. Have been in really bad toxic relationships
I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a RUclips video but this really resonated with me. My mouth almost dropped open when you talked about taking photos of yourself at your lowest because I did the same. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
I love you and I'm so proud of you for speaking on this topic for so many people who need to hear it. So so real.
I just want to give you a big hug! I’m so proud of you for speaking out about your experience and also taking responsibility for the things you did/let slide.
sending you so much love. i’m happy you left this relationship and are in a better place now lindsey 💗
thank you for posting this and being the courageous queen that you are
Its takes A LOT to talk about past toxic relationships & you’ve done an amazing job making it feel normal to talk about! So happy to see you grow & being happy
Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story. It takes a lot of strength to open up, and I'm so glad you were able to get out. ❤
This resonated so much. You’re a classy and strong woman. Thanks for sharing. Sending hugs!
I’m so glad you have had the strength to make this video. It’s super hard, but so many people will be able to use this video as a resource and an encouragement if they’re going through the same things you went through. Big love to you and so proud of how far you’ve come ❤️
i have been watching you for about 6 years now and i honestly needed this. feels like a talk from a big sister
Yes I’m here for this!! So proud of you for posting! A strong queen!!!!
It takes so much courage to share your experience, thank you for this
Thank you for sharing your story. I spent 12 years in a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship. It was terrible and damaging and took a lot of therapy to process that. You being so open and honest is so helpful and reaffirming. Thank you for being vulnerable when it’s the hardest thing to do. Sending you so much love.
You're so strong and you will help others who may not realize they are in a toxic relationship. Thank you for sharing.
thank you for being so vulnerable with us lindsey, i know you're going to help people struggling with this
Started crying every single time you cried. I’m glad you are no longer at your lowest. I’m happy you posted this for many others to view and learn from. Thanks so much for sharing! ♥️
As someone who knows what this feels like, I thank you for speaking on it. There are people who needed this. My heart breaks for you in those pictures, but it takes a lot of joy in where you are now. Bless.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. ❤️ Toxic relationships are more common than we might think and we help others when we share our stories, even if it’s hard.
So proud of you for speaking about this and doing so in such a respectful way. You're helping more people than you know.
This resonates with me so hard. Tbh I’m so thankful that I learned what I will NEVER tolerate in a relationship. 💜