I was touched by i story sika Sis Dudu. What is sad is noting that mental illness is not understood in the African Community. We laugh at others to mask our own pain , because as a people ( a collective we are traumatised) Kudos to you for this platform that highlights real stories affecting real people. Themba you highlighted something important that back ground and family foundation is very Important. If the foundation is wrong, a child will grow up disfunctional. Through out the interview I was watching her mannerisms. She laughs at inappropiate moments, either subconsciously to mask embarrsment or deep hurt. Everytime she touches on a sad part of the story she looks away and stares far. Almost dissociation with the "person" that went through the pain. She was forced to be independent at at early age to fend for herself. Sis Dudu has serious Mother ( Naturing and Grooming) Father wounds ( Authourity , Structure, Protection) abondonement issues and deep trauma. She chose u " Ntwana" because she wanted never knew what love from a man looks like ( Primarily her Father ) so she looked for what her understanding of a Father was through u "Ntwana" ( danger element and sounds like a protector) Unfortunately she met with a Sociapath and Narcissist ( very charming and deceptive ). She convinced herself that she chose better that her mom who died at the hands of a Psycopath . Many are shocked at why people go back to their abusers. Trauma can do that. There is Cognative Dissonance at play. She nows what he is doing to her is wrong. She will excuse his behavior until she faces herself and heals. She will then be empowered to leave her tormentor. The phrase commonly used " we attract who we are" has been misunderstood. I believe we attract people according to who we are internally and our wounds. She needs proper therapy. She needs to heal in the inner child , that is where is she is stuck. Even spiritually if we where to go there. She needs proper deliverance.
She needs to be separated from him spiritually because he has a hold on her. Before she receives deliverance she can never be happy in life or find any man. God loves you my sister and He has good plans for your life.
I really feel for this lady😢 She needs deep help for her self. This guy was arrested for rape and he still continuing to violent this girl It's easy to see through her eyes how deep her pain goes Skeep I applaud you for such being a gentleman You are really a protective father, a blessed son and a true brother. I'm watching you turning and tossing trying to contain your cool and that reminded me of my late father, he could take anything, he was very strict but his only soft spot was to selflessly defend small girls and woman🙏
Love the work you doing Mr Lukhele! Please don´t stop giving us the amazing stories and sharing these REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES. MuchLove all the way from China
What you are saying about the cats Sis Dudu is true.. animals help with depression because they are unconditional in their love.. I wish you all the best in your future, Psalm 23 remains true.
What a sad ending story,full of lessons especially to the youths Never finance a man.. no matter how you love him.Thats what i told myself from my early years of dating
story saka my sister sibuhlungu i hope athole i peace nothando lwangempela just because usisi wangaphandle akusho ukuthi kumele abafowethu badlale ngaye your story touched us all sisi i wish you well futhi your life will take a turn for the best from here on god bless sisi
I like the fact she has a skill in saloon business she just need help uvusa saloon yakhe school or no school she has a skill uzophila ngaso just needs help for products to start again godbless my sister Danie skeem
Weeeee Dudu sisi mina i will judge you mkhaya wami .The guy isn't obsessed with you he is using you ,weena nguwe obsessed ngaye ngoba nakhu uthi "ngiyamthanda" .aslong usathi "ngiyamthanda " ngeke nje usizakale you will always go back to him akusebenzise akulaxaze futhi. Move on sisi fix your life cut off ties nalomfana nomndeni wakhe.YEKELA UKUDUNUSA DUDU IMPILO YAKHO IZOBAKAHLE. Zithande Dudu yeka ukudlalwa boo ngumfana ongakaze wakuthanda.
First of all I would like to commend you Dudu for your vulnerability and for sharing your story. Personally, as a female, I have taken gems in your story. 1. Be careful who you fall for .2. Any relationship that requires you to sacrifice yourself to the point of losing material things or your mental health is toxic. 3. It,s important to see someone when you start losing your marbles or feeling you are not okay. Prison love is not for the fainthearted. SWINDLERS ARE IN PRISON TOO YHOOO KUNZIMA . May God give you the strength to start that salon If I had the financial muscle I would help. Praying for donors to help.
Skeem you need to work on locating "ntwana" and get him re arrested. Taking a video of someone without their permission is an offense, mara Tokoloshi will probably deny saying that part.
Shame i saw her on Madam speakers podcast.She fell deeply in love with a rapist for 15 years.I hope she gets healing and deliverance.You can see shes still hurting and that shes a good person at heart.
Dude needs to stay very far from this guy khona ozofa if she doesn't stay away from this guy.Ngaze ngamfisela ukuphola emphefumulweni.She is so worthy and she needs to know this and own it.❤
49:01 I love your questions Skeem, too deep and needs one to ponder on their life. Big up🙌🏾 50:38 you're dealing with a phuckin psycho. I had one dilika jele long wang nokha when he came out , wherever he is life is not nice🤞🏾
Ahh uyabona makuthiwa love is blind kuse kushiwo izinto ezikaso, ohh Dudu sis wami pray hard and talk to your heart . Please block him everywhere and everytime he tries to get hold of you try and block as soon as possible every number he tries to contact you with and breathe ngoba wow u sathane lomuntu
43:41 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I really hope you get help 46:19 Dudu my darling you need help, it's no longer love it's Stockholm syndrome, you need to cut off sou ties..ulimele gal
Skeem you doing very well to get your guests to speak out. Most of your guests are people who are shamed from society and mostly feel unworthy to even have their side of story heard. You are doing well my brother. If you were actually not using the method of constantly tapping in to have them speak and direct them, it would be so awkward and somehow. Keep up the good work brother🫡🫡
Skeem your Podcast has great potential mara you are the one boring ngalendaba yakho of constantly disturbing your guests when they letting out...stop trying to be the star of the show baba please
Laph,My Mom Is Doing This To Us ,She Gives Money to a prisoner and Buys Him Clothes,All in the name of love,She Met him on "Facebook"😢She Doesn't Listen To Anyone.
Ai man Skeem, this episode could have been longer. The sister story we haven't heard all of it. You cut her off why. Great story but you missed another 1mil+ views here.
Dudu you can’t be with a man you love love ruins things … that what our elders tell us to rather be with a man who love us and we just honour and respect them. I think that’s what they meant. That man will never love you .
The numbers are not making sure for me. Ntwana was in trial in 2010 and sentenced life sentence but then was behind bars for 15 years which means he got out in 2015. Then stayed in Mpumalanga for 3 years. Kanti which year we're in??
I was touched by i story sika Sis Dudu. What is sad is noting that mental illness is not understood in the African Community. We laugh at others to mask our own pain , because as a people ( a collective we are traumatised)
Kudos to you for this platform that highlights real stories affecting real people.
Themba you highlighted something important that back ground and family foundation is very Important. If the foundation is wrong, a child will grow up disfunctional.
Through out the interview I was watching her mannerisms. She laughs at inappropiate moments, either subconsciously to mask embarrsment or deep hurt. Everytime she touches on a sad part of the story she looks away and stares far. Almost dissociation with the "person" that went through the pain.
She was forced to be independent at at early age to fend for herself. Sis Dudu has serious Mother ( Naturing and Grooming) Father wounds ( Authourity , Structure, Protection) abondonement issues and deep trauma.
She chose u " Ntwana" because she wanted never knew what love from a man looks like ( Primarily her Father ) so she looked for what her understanding of a Father was through u "Ntwana" ( danger element and sounds like a protector) Unfortunately she met with a Sociapath and Narcissist ( very charming and deceptive ). She convinced herself that she chose better that her mom who died at the hands of a Psycopath .
Many are shocked at why people go back to their abusers. Trauma can do that. There is Cognative Dissonance at play. She nows what he is doing to her is wrong. She will excuse his behavior until she faces herself and heals.
She will then be empowered to leave her tormentor. The phrase commonly used " we attract who we are" has been misunderstood. I believe we attract people according to who we are internally and our wounds.
She needs proper therapy. She needs to heal in the inner child , that is where is she is stuck.
Even spiritually if we where to go there. She needs proper deliverance.
Well said, couldn't be said any better!!!
lack of family love and support could lead you to such horrible experiences dudu is just a victim of such circumstances
Kunjani Ses Jabulile❤
Supported 😢😢😢😢😢😢
She needs to be separated from him spiritually because he has a hold on her. Before she receives deliverance she can never be happy in life or find any man. God loves you my sister and He has good plans for your life.
I really feel for this lady😢
She needs deep help for her self.
This guy was arrested for rape and he still continuing to violent this girl
It's easy to see through her eyes how deep her pain goes
Skeep I applaud you for such being a gentleman
You are really a protective father, a blessed son and a true brother.
I'm watching you turning and tossing trying to contain your cool and that reminded me of my late father, he could take anything, he was very strict but his only soft spot was to selflessly defend small girls and woman🙏
I hope that the ladies who call themselves "baddies" get a chance to watch this video and learn from Sis' Dudu's story.
Love the work you doing Mr Lukhele! Please don´t stop giving us the amazing stories and sharing these REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES. MuchLove all the way from China
What you are saying about the cats Sis Dudu is true.. animals help with depression because they are unconditional in their love.. I wish you all the best in your future, Psalm 23 remains true.
Now I believe my colleague has 27 cats 🐈 ,she suffered depression 🫥 😢
It's never too late Dudu
You'll get help & get married..have a lot of children
What a sad ending story,full of lessons especially to the youths
Never finance a man.. no matter how you love him.Thats what i told myself from my early years of dating
But to compare every man with Dat guy it's an insult to all men cos his mentality is prison wise why don't u use another phrase maybe
Or umqoqe because the day seka right, 9 out 10 times they thank you nge plate yamas*imba.
Don't trust anyone 😢😢
story saka my sister sibuhlungu i hope athole i peace nothando lwangempela just because usisi wangaphandle akusho ukuthi kumele abafowethu badlale ngaye your story touched us all sisi i wish you well futhi your life will take a turn for the best from here on god bless sisi
I like the fact she has a skill in saloon business she just need help uvusa saloon yakhe school or no school she has a skill uzophila ngaso just needs help for products to start again godbless my sister Danie skeem
she must come back and slowly share her prison experience,.....
Weeeee Dudu sisi mina i will judge you mkhaya wami .The guy isn't obsessed with you he is using you ,weena nguwe obsessed ngaye ngoba nakhu uthi "ngiyamthanda" .aslong usathi "ngiyamthanda " ngeke nje usizakale you will always go back to him akusebenzise akulaxaze futhi. Move on sisi fix your life cut off ties nalomfana nomndeni wakhe.YEKELA UKUDUNUSA DUDU IMPILO YAKHO IZOBAKAHLE.
Zithande Dudu yeka ukudlalwa boo ngumfana ongakaze wakuthanda.
"Dudu usadunusa kunenkinga ezingaka"🙆♂️😂 uncle Skeem
Give Skeem his flowers as an interviewer please, great convo.
No flowers. He should let his guests speak
@@ntsetselelozk891you guys always complaining ay
Siyak’judge Dudu chomi, ngeke 😭😭😭😭
Hhay ngeke oe hhaybo 😅😅😅😅
Yinto engiyi shilo😭😭 ngigqina ngithi “ayi Nyeke abantu Baku donatele mos wena ?” 😭
U dudu usa dunusa😂😂😂
Simjaja ngempela uNtombo haw kanty loluthando olunjan lona😂😂😂
Haai kabi oe kodwa yohhh siyam'judger I can't believe this🥺totally defeated she would have been so far
First of all I would like to commend you Dudu for your vulnerability and for sharing your story. Personally, as a female, I have taken gems in your story. 1. Be careful who you fall for .2. Any relationship that requires you to sacrifice yourself to the point of losing material things or your mental health is toxic. 3. It,s important to see someone when you start losing your marbles or feeling you are not okay. Prison love is not for the fainthearted. SWINDLERS ARE IN PRISON TOO YHOOO KUNZIMA . May God give you the strength to start that salon If I had the financial muscle I would help. Praying for donors to help.
I really wanna 😢 donate the little I have but I’m afraid ntwana will come take that little 😔 hope you recover my sister aikhona
Siyabonga bhuti
Its a sad sad story indeed😢😢😢😢😢😢but yoooo u so brave dudu and kuzolunga🙏🙏🙏❤️
Why is she reminding me of Zodwa wa bantu?
where is Zodwa?
Tali yakhe ifana ncamash nekaZodwa
She reminds me of Dabula mina yaz.
Neh!!?
Me too
Skeem you need to work on locating "ntwana" and get him re arrested. Taking a video of someone without their permission is an offense, mara Tokoloshi will probably deny saying that part.
The pain in her eyes speaks volumes , sending you love and light Dudu 🌟
sad story for Dudu...may she find strength to move on and leave the devil
Siyabonga Skeem GP
Very profound guest 🙌
To Dudu " thanks for educating us "
💪
The bros said "ahh siyakujaja...." 😂😂😂😂
Hawu Dudu Ntwana Yami... ❤😂
wow I was not a fan of this podcast but Dudu's real touched me, i love the fact the she's honest. ❤
The background laughs always crack me up 😅😅😅😅😅😅 Dudu is in love 😂😂
She can write a book but with another title because we already have prison love by Tshidi Monkoe
This is soo educational i feel your pain Dudu wish you all the best in life❤❤
Shame i saw her on Madam speakers podcast.She fell deeply in love with a rapist for 15 years.I hope she gets healing and deliverance.You can see shes still hurting and that shes a good person at heart.
Thanks for this. I've been trying so hard to remember where I've seen her.
Skeem your program is very educational, I feel sorry for the lady, she’s going through a lot 😢
I really hope she gets healing and moves on akuve ngifisela so,so,so bad shes still hurting and this guy must stay away from Dudu.
Dude needs to stay very far from this guy khona ozofa if she doesn't stay away from this guy.Ngaze ngamfisela ukuphola emphefumulweni.She is so worthy and she needs to know this and own it.❤
Yacaza girl she honest and love is blind i understand
I wish Dudu can get help with papers I'm sooo touch such a loving and loyal person ♥️
Please can you forget about this guy.
Sala umuyeka ngempela noma kunzima cc dudu
Dudu your story is so sad! Been through the same mess and luckily I got to free myself before I started going crazy!
Dude is such a beautiful soul, always laughing
49:01 I love your questions Skeem, too deep and needs one to ponder on their life. Big up🙌🏾
50:38 you're dealing with a phuckin psycho. I had one dilika jele long wang nokha when he came out , wherever he is life is not nice🤞🏾
Pray with Ezekiel 16 it break those evil soul ties , you got soul ties
Very sad.....but she must close this old chapter and start a new one😢😢😢😢 she is so attached to Ntwana and must come to an an end.
aw skeem wenze kahle its been a long time since we had usisi ❤️
Skeem what about us who dates prisoners even if we never been arrested, what about our stories
I love her honesty ❤,but this is sad 😢
Very sad yaz😢
Im so emotional about her story may the good lord be with her
I can relate to you my sister, I use to date a guy from modabbee prison. z'yakhala mantombazane🤞
Ahh uyabona makuthiwa love is blind kuse kushiwo izinto ezikaso, ohh Dudu sis wami pray hard and talk to your heart . Please block him everywhere and everytime he tries to get hold of you try and block as soon as possible every number he tries to contact you with and breathe ngoba wow u sathane lomuntu
43:41 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I really hope you get help
46:19 Dudu my darling you need help, it's no longer love it's Stockholm syndrome, you need to cut off sou ties..ulimele gal
Skeem you doing very well to get your guests to speak out. Most of your guests are people who are shamed from society and mostly feel unworthy to even have their side of story heard. You are doing well my brother. If you were actually not using the method of constantly tapping in to have them speak and direct them, it would be so awkward and somehow. Keep up the good work brother🫡🫡
Another educative episode.Askies Mamoe.
Hie sisy Dudue please try to forget about this guy .....you still young kusengalunga ekuphileni
😢😢😢😢I know what she is talking about,worse I even got arrested for smuggling drugs for him in prison
😢 sorry dear
Sorry love I Know exactly what you talking about. I'm stuck in a cycle of orange is my favorite color fruit and texture .
Ohhhhh mara DUDU, leave Ntwana alone sisters.. This will end badly, please shiya phansi ntombazana🙏🏽
Skeem your Podcast has great potential mara you are the one boring ngalendaba yakho of constantly disturbing your guests when they letting out...stop trying to be the star of the show baba please
I love how honest she is 🤞
This Girl gives me Babes Wodumo vibes.
Ohhhh MaMo Waze wangizwisa ubuhlungu🤍🤍
Dudu mara😢😢this guy is using you.
Yah bona banjalo Vele BA very tricky ama inmates uzobona ngathi uthando alikho ngaphandle trust me I've been then nami mina angimjaji ududu
@@ThembiMartha-y7s I hope you okay now.
Ahyi sisi dudu the key word is that usamthando so find way to deal with ntwana nd be happy again I feel your pain
Ayi Dudu phuma kulomfana kusase early please 😢🙌
Yhoo so sad indeed, Dudu may God help yu ,heal and deliverance, to start a new chapter in yo life❤ khhlwa and move on dear
Waze wasiphoxa as a country sis DuDu I can’t believe she went back 😭😭😭
We need a part 2 please
Childhood is very important
Laph,My Mom Is Doing This To Us ,She Gives Money to a prisoner and Buys Him Clothes,All in the name of love,She Met him on "Facebook"😢She Doesn't Listen To Anyone.
Who is ur mother on fb so that i can try my best to advice her
Your not alone😢
Usazophela umama wakho 🤔 khona engimaziyo udliwa isiboshwa akezwa lutho ngalesiboshwa😔
Big up @SkeemGp, I’m your biggest fan, what an addiction to your podcast
I believe the hair lose story even Nandipha is lossing her hair line
Some people are so lucky imagine having someone like her on your side but sorry about your business
Unesibindi USis Dudu mara I just love her honest crc ...lesson learnt shame❤❤😊
Siyakujaja dudu ngeke usadunusa nawe😢ngemva kweyinkinga eyi....elami lithi just u have to move on you have lot of potential in life block the guy
Nami ngiyamjaja uDudu isn't willing to move on from her life. Nguye ovumela lomfana ukuthi aqhubeke amxhaphaze
Ai man Skeem, this episode could have been longer. The sister story we haven't heard all of it. You cut her off why. Great story but you missed another 1mil+ views here.
😢😢😢 le story.. mara
😢
Skeem nice hoodie I don't know if you are selling them if you do please share the info on how do we get them please 😢
Iyhooooooo prison love ke scam hle😢 it left me over indebted and almost unemployed.
😢I wish we can inbox hle, I need info before...
"DUDU Usadunusa kunenkinga ezingaka" 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Yhoo Skeeem😅😅😅
Maye kwaze kwabuhlungi Dudu l hope uya ludinga usizo nawami
Bathi i "STOKO SYNDROME " (stockholm syndrome) poor girl didn't stand a chance. My advice is never involve yourself in indaba zabantu abayi two
Hawu kodwa Dudu, usumnika kanjan futhi esekugile so? Yoh ay unothando locc yerrriii!!!
Dudu 🫶🏽 you deserve the best! That is why God is still keeping you alive after all the heartache you’ve been or going through! #1love
Dudu lento abamdlisa or did to her it's still there, she doesn't need to see Ntwana anymore otherwise she won't heal
Dudu you can’t be with a man you love love ruins things … that what our elders tell us to rather be with a man who love us and we just honour and respect them.
I think that’s what they meant. That man will never love you .
Awa dudu nawe yekela ukuzenza ispermdish sebhantinti ahh😮
Haaa wena??😂🤦🏾♂️
Damn this is deep🤔
😮😮😮ai Du is definitely gonna go back to Ntwana guys 😂😂😂😂ain poping a cent to assist
Mhlonishwa, what happened to most wanted you were doing very well on that
Keep up the good work my brother 💪
There's something special about her
Someone take Dudu to a traditional healer please…even ZCC can help her, she needs cleansing
People won't be able to help you, if you are telling that you slept with this man, cos they would think you are going to work for him again
That's what I'm afraid of...she even said I still love her😢😢
😮 yhoo thanks for your information cause I do date a prisoner 😢😢 right now and we are doing all the thing you are taking about 😢😢 please help me
Aiiiii ngiyaku judge Dudu
Hhayiii Dudu nawe kepha 😂😂😂 ngiyakujaja sebakuphindzile Dudu come on
What an episode!! 🤯🤯
Sister should change her numbers pls and move on 😢😢
Umuhle Dudu...uNtwana ukusiphi istradi eTsakane...sizoba carefull?ngoba ngathi unomlomo omnandi untwana ukugilile....sorry sthandwa Sami.
Sis Dudu will get back to the guy... Untwana une lunch bar
Obvious 😂😂😂😂
😂@@EvertonSibanda-vh5gs
Stranger, danger 💔
Mara Dudu kanti kuyini okumangalisayo ngalo mfana😏😏
🎉uyazwakala sisi wangakithi
The numbers are not making sure for me. Ntwana was in trial in 2010 and sentenced life sentence but then was behind bars for 15 years which means he got out in 2015. Then stayed in Mpumalanga for 3 years. Kanti which year we're in??
Skeem hey Zulu is problem for most us especially in Botswana. But I love you still.
Sorry Ausi…Ke tla go tlotlela😂
😂😂😂@@tebogokgabi-mkhonto1027
A gud strie teller shym i can listrn dis lady de whle dai❤❤❤i've learn alot in ur prodcst shym i cnt c ma slf in jail
Sorry my dear sis l hope God help you 🙏 😢 ❤