This is all great advice! I especially find keeping information amounts small to a dementia patient who feels like they are losing control of their life pays off.
In the Homeopathy world, autism is the young person dementia. I found that my son would strike out at me if I gave him too many choices. My parents have also seen the same thing when interacting with him. So we try to keep things short, sweet and simple. He does so much better when he can anticipate exactly what he needs to do. It really does help to have these videos on dementia. I know most people would think I am crazy, but it works.
Hey beautiful lady! 🙂 Nice to see a fellow caregiver sharing her insights and experiences! Keep it up, I can see this being so valuable to others on their journey. -Laura
Caregiver Inspiration Thank you so much for your comment and sweet words! They mean so much! My hope is to make sure other folks don’t have to struggle as much as I did in the early years of working with dementia folks.
Hello and thank you for having these videos. My mother has dimentia and she too gets angry and frustrated easily. She knows she can't do as much as she used to so when I went to visit for a few days, I tried to think of the things she could do. She loves to reminisce and classic vocals so that was easy for me. She did refuse to shower for a while until I asked her what the real reason was; temperature of the water. Problem solved. Now we are thinking of placing her as she is becoming more forgetful. Knowing this is a legal process, what can be done to make this easier on all involved? Thank you!
You are so welcome! I know I struggled for YEARS on avoiding angry outbursts from my dementia folks. After a while and meeting thousands of them, these are my personal best practices. Glad this helps you support your sister, she is really lucky to have you in her corner supporting her
Informative video. Thanks. Question, what do you do when your LO fixates on 1 single thing, wanting to go "home" when she is in the only good home she's known for 39 years? Every day for the past 3 days. Nothing I have tried will distract her for very long!
Tony Padilla Great question! I want to go home in my experience isn’t actually a physical place, it’s a feeling of comfort, familiarity and safety. I would ask her what is at home that you want to get to? From there you’ll discover if she’s missing a specific person (mom, dad, husband etc), an unmet physical need or often times they believe that they are younger and that there are responsibilities at home that need to get done (work, chores, kids etc). This information will guide you on what the right redirection will be. If they have an unmet physical need that’s easy. If they miss that person you can tell them they are doing something else and will be coming over soon or are out of town for a while. If she’s bored and simply wants to feel useful and know that at home she was useful, having her help you organize or fold clothes will help. I hope this helps, I’m actually going to be making a video on this topic very soon. If you want to be alerted click the notification bell
What are you supposed to do when you have been as nice and understanding as you can be and the person makes false accusations saying you talked to them BADLY, when all you did was ask her to not lock the door. It is so frustrating to be as kind as you can be and get blamed for being mean when you are not guilty.
Happy to have found u....recently my mothers long time carer has said she doesnt want to keep taking mum on a walk around our quiet street after mum angrily refused her instructions and pushed her away....whilst i appreciate how this would have made the carer feel about walking with her, i also feel behaviour management requires a bit more investigating given the circumstances...any tips??
Absolutely! It could be a lot of things but usually it is fear, overwhelm or frustration that usually makes the angry outbursts happen. Is your mom someone that gets overwhelmed with too many instructions too fast, gets frustrated with constantly being told what to do or has hallucinations/delusions that are scaring her on the walk?
Hahaha….nice job acting. I appreciate what you’re saying about simplifying versus overwhelming them with info. Good one, I will try it. In my case the only thing that works to placate them is to tell them that I am wrong and they are right…ugh. Must I really do that?
My dad is in a care home with dementia he is getting very aggressive with the carers and nurses , there is a incidence every couple of days he is slapping them pushing them and today we found out that a nurse was sorting the strap on his catheter and he kicked her in her mouth , there is four of us so we all visit every week we take dad out we are all upset about his behaviour to them when they are taking good care of him he knows he has something wrong , before mum died she did everything for dad he was arrogant and spoilt and always had outbursts of temper before he was ill, I feel the home should be made aware of how dad was, but we are all totally frustrated at his behaviour any tips will be appreciated
Here's 2 FREE dementia cheatsheets for acitivies and what to do w/ challenging behaviors, download @ dementiasuccesspath.com/yt-cs
This is all great advice! I especially find keeping information amounts small to a dementia patient who feels like they are losing control of their life pays off.
In the Homeopathy world, autism is the young person dementia. I found that my son would strike out at me if I gave him too many choices. My parents have also seen the same thing when interacting with him. So we try to keep things short, sweet and simple. He does so much better when he can anticipate exactly what he needs to do. It really does help to have these videos on dementia. I know most people would think I am crazy, but it works.
I like the re-enactments, to see exactly what to do differently - super helpful and realistic, THANK YOU.
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Reenactments
Hey beautiful lady! 🙂 Nice to see a fellow caregiver sharing her insights and experiences! Keep it up, I can see this being so valuable to others on their journey. -Laura
Caregiver Inspiration Thank you so much for your comment and sweet words! They mean so much! My hope is to make sure other folks don’t have to struggle as much as I did in the early years of working with dementia folks.
Hello and thank you for having these videos. My mother has dimentia and she too gets angry and frustrated easily. She knows she can't do as much as she used to so when I went to visit for a few days, I tried to think of the things she could do. She loves to reminisce and classic vocals so that was easy for me. She did refuse to shower for a while until I asked her what the real reason was; temperature of the water. Problem solved. Now we are thinking of placing her as she is becoming more forgetful. Knowing this is a legal process, what can be done to make this easier on all involved? Thank you!
I’m in a similar situation. How is the placing process going?
Thank you so much for sharing! I'm taking notes of what you're suggesting to help my sister who is my mum's carer.
You are so welcome! I know I struggled for YEARS on avoiding angry outbursts from my dementia folks. After a while and meeting thousands of them, these are my personal best practices. Glad this helps you support your sister, she is really lucky to have you in her corner supporting her
I can’t wait to use these strategies with my loved one today! Thanks. I subscribed.
This is life changing. Thank u
Great advice thank you
great video! thanks for all of the info :)
Informative video. Thanks. Question, what do you do when your LO fixates on 1 single thing, wanting to go "home" when she is in the only good home she's known for 39 years? Every day for the past 3 days. Nothing I have tried will distract her for very long!
Tony Padilla Great question! I want to go home in my experience isn’t actually a physical place, it’s a feeling of comfort, familiarity and safety. I would ask her what is at home that you want to get to? From there you’ll discover if she’s missing a specific person (mom, dad, husband etc), an unmet physical need or often times they believe that they are younger and that there are responsibilities at home that need to get done (work, chores, kids etc). This information will guide you on what the right redirection will be. If they have an unmet physical need that’s easy. If they miss that person you can tell them they are doing something else and will be coming over soon or are out of town for a while. If she’s bored and simply wants to feel useful and know that at home she was useful, having her help you organize or fold clothes will help. I hope this helps, I’m actually going to be making a video on this topic very soon. If you want to be alerted click the notification bell
What are you supposed to do when you have been as nice and understanding as you can be and the person makes false accusations saying you talked to them BADLY, when all you did was ask her to not lock the door. It is so frustrating to be as kind as you can be and get blamed for being mean when you are not guilty.
Nice and understanding can be patronizing and condescending to another
The ONLY way out of this hell on earth is to STOP CARING!!!! Guess I wouldn’t make a good counselor. Phil Collins,( I don’t care anymore.)
Hahaha….nice job acting. I appreciate what you’re saying about simplifying versus overwhelming them with info. Good one, I will try it.
Hey Everyone! Let me know in the comments which mistake resonated with you and why.
Happy to have found u....recently my mothers long time carer has said she doesnt want to keep taking mum on a walk around our quiet street after mum angrily refused her instructions and pushed her away....whilst i appreciate how this would have made the carer feel about walking with her, i also feel behaviour management requires a bit more investigating given the circumstances...any tips??
Absolutely! It could be a lot of things but usually it is fear, overwhelm or frustration that usually makes the angry outbursts happen. Is your mom someone that gets overwhelmed with too many instructions too fast, gets frustrated with constantly being told what to do or has hallucinations/delusions that are scaring her on the walk?
@@dementiasuccesspath2239 i would say doesnt like to be told what to do
Hahaha….nice job acting. I appreciate what you’re saying about simplifying versus overwhelming them with info. Good one, I will try it. In my case the only thing that works to placate them is to tell them that I am wrong and they are right…ugh. Must I really do that?
My dad is in a care home with dementia he is getting very aggressive with the carers and nurses , there is a incidence every couple of days he is slapping them pushing them and today we found out that a nurse was sorting the strap on his catheter and he kicked her in her mouth , there is four of us so we all visit every week we take dad out we are all upset about his behaviour to them when they are taking good care of him he knows he has something wrong , before mum died she did everything for dad he was arrogant and spoilt and always had outbursts of temper before he was ill, I feel the home should be made aware of how dad was, but we are all totally frustrated at his behaviour any tips will be appreciated
Well done!
What about when 2 people living together both have dementia and feed off of each others anger?
Reminds us of angry Joe Biden.