It’s a bit ironic how everyone is so obsessed with youth and perfection yet they’re getting all of these procedures which make them look older and a bit odd
We can't escape ageing, none of us, people who refuse to age gracefully probably have the toughest time realizing the fact that eventually no surgery will restore their youth, what's more sad to me is young beautiful women altering their looks to look like other beautiful women, youth is a blessing all on its own, enjoy it while you can as you are
When I was young, I heard that beauty standards were always whatever was the hardest to attain. When times are good and people are easily chubby, thinness is valued. When working outside was the norm, paleness was more attractive. That always stuck with me, and helped make beauty "trends" make a little more sense.
Now I guess being extremely skinny and no surgery at all that’s the beauty standards. Because plastic surgery is easy to get and is also so easy to get fat.
Yes. It is always whatever is more rare and therefore usually more for the rich. And definitely not about embracing your uniqueness, understanding and being confident in yourself, cause that doesn't sell as much shit
Nah you’re totally right tbh. Fuller faces usually make people look quite younger, so intentionally making it more hollow will not age well since aging does that your face naturally. They probably will regret it imo
Not true. There are some people who have massive cheeks and they better do it until them start SAG! It's very individual. If you already have skinny face it surely will age you, but it will age you even more if you have hella gigantic cheeks. I had blepharoplasty (very hooded eyes) in 2019, the only thing I regret is I didn't do it even earlier. The result is amazing. Now there are lashes out, I don't look grumpy. Buccal fat removal is very individual and there is nothing bad on doing this procedure if cheeks are fucking enormous.
It´s so sad.. I have hollow cheeks .. and I always felt that I look way too old because of it and people kept on giving me comments on how I look sick. Last week was the first time someone gave me a compliment about it . That was the strangest feeling .. from confused to happy to worried to confused … I don’t know folks. I hate how our bodies become trendy and then they´re out of fashion again. This is just sick.
I'm so sorry you feel that way about your cheeks. Seeing all the comments saying how old people look I'm sure don't help. But honestly, carved cheekbones that are natural are GORGEOUS. Forced cheekbones, aka buccal fat removal, don't have that natural gorgeousness, not even nearly that same effect.
This is actually insane. I’m 45 now and this has naturally happened to me. It’s something that happens with age and makes you look older. In ten to 20 years, these people will be getting surgery to put it all back in because they will look 100.
I'm all for plastic surgery, but I think a lot of people will regret doing this. It ages them, wait until they're in their 30', 40's and so on. I don't think they'll like how much it ages them when they get older.
Is not the same for everyone, some people do have excessive fat, that can be uncomfy, and even if you are skinny or get older that fat will be there even hanging like to little sacks on each side of your cheek. Instead of doing this procedure to make that void (literally) some people get the removal to have a more even face and feel more confidence.
Yes! Part of what makes people think makes a person is younger is because they have that rounded face with fullness. When I was in my 20’s people thought I was in my teens. When I was in my 30’s people thought I was in my 20’s. In my 40’s people assume I am at least 15 years younger and it’s because I inherited my Grandmothers round face and cheek bones. As a kid I had chipmunk cheeks and I always had naturally full cheeks and I think that’s why I got pegged for being younger than I am.
Honestly, I’m approaching 40 and was commonly referred to as “Chipmunk Cheeks” in my teens, and I LOVE how my face has aged. I look a decade younger than I am (part of that is taking good care of my skin, but still) and I can’t even fathom how gaunt I would look if I had done something like this in my twenties. Plastic surgery isn’t just about how you look NOW, it’s also about how you’ll look in 10, 20, 40 years’ time.
Surgically removing buccal fat ages the face so much! Isn’t the goal “eternal youth” 🤔 You can’t reverse buccal fat removal, right? So interesting that the new trend is to remove what makes you look younger!
I don’t think it’s possible to reverse indeed, so if they ever regret it, especially once they age and start getting a more hollow face… that will be sad for them
It will never end, Stephanie. They can’t sell us stuff unless they tell us our bodies are wrong. Why do you think beauty standards constantly change? If we’re ever satisfied then they can’t hawk us all the lotions, potions and procedures. We need to stop engaging with it and just be happy with our bodies. We’re the ones giving them the power over us.
I always hated my chubby cheeks growing up, but also have high cheekbones. when i was like 17, i agonized over the fact that my face wasn't all "chiseled" like i wanted. i'm now 29, and working out and getting older has made my cheekbones start to stand out on their own! now i wonder if i'll end up looking super hollow in ten years lmao, so i'm SUPER glad i didn't know about this procedure when i was a teenager!
I seen someone in the flesh with the worst lip fillers the other day, it left me disturbed 😭 I'd only ever seen lip fillers in pictures and was shocked how bad hers were, literal duck lips
If you have chubby cheeks, naturally over time you lose the fat in your cheeks so I feel like this surgery only speeds up the aging process. As a girl, teen, and young adult I had fairly chubby cheeks. I always got mistaken for being younger than my actual age. Now at 30 you can see my high cheekbones because I’ve lost a lot of that fat in my cheeks. I don’t get comments about looking younger than my actual age nearly as often now.
Same here girl. I've always had chubby cheeks, no matter the weight and now, just with time they have started to disappear. This surgery seems like the most pointless one out there, just ages you faster!
As someone older than you, you are completely correct. I commented previously that they will regret this fat removal when they are older. It's best to age gracefully because even filler can mess up the natural angles of your face when you are older and have you looking worse than if you had left all that nonsense alone.
Exactly! I’m 29 and still get carded and I’m 99% sure it’s because of my fuller cheeks. I’m already starting to see them not be as full as they used to be, even with me gaining some weight. These girls are just speeding up their aging.
For some of the nonsensical cosmetic surgeries I always find the "go for it if it makes you happy" so funny because you end up 'unhappy' with your 'surgically new body' and keep changing it to gain validation from society. And the whole fact that your happiness comes from people is just so interesting with the saying that true happiness comes from within...
Ya, I don’t believe in shaming people for getting cosmetic surgery tho, it’s understandable because you never know what those people have gone through. Some people have been treated TERRIBLY for their looks and just want some semblance of rest. Surgery ultimately does not solve the core issue, which is internal, and it’s important for them to be aware of that. However, for people who are severely tormented by their looks and nothing seems to help, you can’t blame em.
@@thetiredworm2100 They shouldn't be supported to do what is basically self harm caused by body dysmorphia. I can perfectly empathize with someone who wants to alter their body and physical appearance because they feel ugly, since I've been there myself, but cutting yourself up, taking things in and out _that are supposed to be there_ is harmful, and it won't solve the problem. The issue is always coming from a place of emotional damage, and that's the root cause. We should encourage these people to address the root cause and actually find healing, instead of putting band-aid solutions over the wound. Telling someone "yeah, go for it, yas kween!" isn't really helping them. It's just avoiding a conflict, even though we know that what they're doing to themselves is self harm.
@@BlueNorth313 My thought process is: some people are suicidal because of these things, therapy isn’t a cure all method, and surgery most definitely isn’t, but it can help partially control the pain to a more manageable level temporarily for some, so that they have a higher chance of staying alive--which in turn can give them more time to work on healing and change. We absolutely should NOT encourage surgery, I only think that if people in the end decide to get it we don’t hurt them. The discussion on what surgeries should be legally allowed is very important, cuz some of this shiz is quite dangerous.
Amen to that, Kim! You are so right! I get a lot of unsolicited admiration for my looks because I just happen to be blonde and live in a part of the world where blondes aren't common, but TBH I find the attention more insulting than flattering because I could have been born looking any way and these "admirers" know nothing of my personality. What truly makes me happy is contributing to society and working on my knowledge, and I know that will never change even when I'm old and look just like every other elder. At the end of the day, plastic surgery is a business like any other, not a magic wand.
I have high cheekbones and a rather thin face so I have the "look" this procedure gives but not in an extreme way. I've lost count of the number of times I got told to eat more or someone made an ED joke around me. It's so weird to see people actually want it now and even weirder to get complimented on it. Beauty standards are wack.
Same here. I do not have very hollow cheeks (they're fine as they naturally are supposed to be considering i have a perfectly oval face neither chubby nor very hollow ) but naturally high cheekbones with a small oval thin face and ppl guess my age to be 12.
honestly same, i am so glad i saw this video because ive been contemplating getting this since i was like 12. i have a very childlike face but a sharp body so ive always envied people with severe facial bone structure as i thought itd make me look better. now ig ill just have to be thankful that ill keep this face fat for years lol
Seeing all the celebrities who look awful with it done has helped me too. I used to think I needed it. Sure, I'd like slightly more hollow cheekbones... but omg this procedure is making them look like reanimated corpses
As you age, you will maintain a fresh and youthful beauty. People will mistake you for being much younger. Believe me, I'm in my 50s and a member of the full cheeks crew.
I’m glad I get to watch these celebrities make these mistakes to their face. It actually helps me appreciate my natural face more and now I pride myself in not getting any work done.
@@yaoriattz7104 True! I spend it on stuff that will actually make me happy. Not something I'm deluding myself into thinking will make me feel better, when in reality, just enables self-destructive behaviour.
My cheeks have always been on the fatter side no matter what weight I’m at. I’m honestly grateful for it, because once I’m 50, my face won’t be as thin as everyone else. Everybody, love yourself ❤
@@brandimccormick4439 It’s better we learn to be okay with what changes because I don’t believe that people remain satisfied when they do these types of things. Doom loop.
I needed this. I've hated my cheeks since I was a kid. I remember seeing an ad in a magazine for "cool lipo" and wanting to make it a reality when I grew up. My cheeks were always so round and pointed out. Throughout my 20s I've been between hating my cheeks, tolerating them, and then considering buccal fat for them. When I turned 30, I realized that it didn't sit well with me that I wanted to change my body to feel good around others because of society standards.... but also knowing I couldn't bear my cheeks. It was an annoying place to be in. Recently, I've been more opposed to the buccal fat removal idea because I'll continue to look youthful longer. But also I just want to accept my Latin features. It has been a whirlwind of a ride. Seeing this video just sealed the deal on never considering it again. Thank you🙏🏽💗
The goal used to be keep your face rounded and “youthful” because the face often naturally thins with age. I wanted less of a round face as a kid but realized pretty quickly I’d have that in my 60’s and didn’t need to do anything about it
It's so interesting to see you talking about this cause recently there is a movement in Brazil from people who have had BFR (it's called Bixectomia here) and are now seeing the consequences of it on their faces. The buccal fat pad it what keeps your cheeks up! So people who don't have money to spend on facelifts now are dealing with their skin sagging at 25, 26... Because they wanted to follow a trend. It is "cheap" to remove the fat pad, but it is so much more expensive to revert. Maíra Medeiros, a Brazilian Influencer who has lived in the US, has spoken of her experience after 5 years of having that surgery and the movement happening in the country. I don't know if you'd be interested in having someone speaking of it from their own experience but she would be a good option if you do.
@@bugbug4665 I had a school friend back when I was 17 and she was either 15 or 16 who had a lipo and silicone implants. She showed up just completely changed in February and told me all about it. Looking back now, nearly a decade later, I'm just shocked that her parents would allow such a thing to happen, and even paid for it! It's insane.
See what I’m sayin??…. And I heard there is a cancer drug that people are using to lose weight. People are really losing their minds. I’m gonna check out the Brazil thing. This is bad.
I love Dove's round face, she was so cute back in her Disney days and then I returned back after years to see her face had sunken and I was like, "DID SHE STARVED HERSELF?" but no it was surgery..
I had a bad eating disorder for years. When I was disordered, my buccal fat was gone (but, thanks Stephanie, I didn't know the name for it until this video). During that time, I was never complimented on my young looks; folks always guessed I was older than I was. Now that I'm weight-restored, everyone is shocked to learn my age-- they think I'm much younger. It also helps that I'm more energetic healthy than I was sick! ;) Buccal fat is a sign of health; you don't know that until it's gone.
im so sorry and i hope you have recovered but buccel fat can actually never be removed. It's the only fat in our body that stays through life, It is placed under the fat of our cheeks which is the one that you probably lost
Just wanted to send a quick shout out for adding the perspective that altering our features is in a way erasing our ancestry. I most definitely inherited my Jewish Ukrainian grandmothers nose. And as a teenager I wanted badly to get it “fixed”. But my father also inherited that nose and he is a kind and wonderful man. It is one of the features that he and I have in common, that makes me look so much like his daughter. I would not want to erase that.
Bless you, @beth for owning & accepting your ancestry. I think it was mentioned by a vlogger (I forgot if it was Stephanie or Dr. Linkov) that Bella Hadid had a nose job. She inherited her nose from her dad & it made her look more like him (Middle Eastern ancestry). Then when she had various procedures done to look more like a fashionable model, it's as if her mid east ancestry was minimized. You can compare her before & after pics and you'll really see a difference.
you're absolutely right about this!! also i remember bella hadid saying she regrets getting a nose job done and wanted to grow into her ancestral nose. i dont really think there's a happy ending to getting a cosmetic surgery because next thing you know, you're noticing 100 other flaws about you that you wanna get "fixed".
Exactly!! So many people are removing their "ethnic" features to look like ervry other insta model it's so sad!! Everyone looked gorgeous before AND so different
I’ve always had a really thin face and small frame thanks to both my parents, and there was a girl in my year in school who had a really round face and all the boys were obsessed with her and I wanted a round face like hers because I wanted the boys to fancy me. It’s so crazy how rapidly and extreme beauty standards have changed, i dread what future generations have to endure
As a fuller face girl here 👋🏻 it’s so crazy to think about because I’ve personally always admired and wanted a face shape like you ladies! It really is interesting to see how we want what we don’t have
That’s so interesting! I’ve always had a fuller more round face and that’s what I thought was my ugliest feature all my life. I always wished I could look like the girls with a more thin face because I thought they got way more attention for being beautiful. I even looked up “exercises to make your face thinner looking.” I now realize I really was only seeing what I wanted to see in order to fit my own low self esteem based narrative. The problem was never my face. It was my brain.
Don't be jealous of us chubby faced girls. I looked about 12 years old until my 30s. Then as the fat starts to naturally trim down with age, it leaves extra skin to sag, giving jowls way way too young. I'm now 40 and looking into lift options already.
I have somewhat full cheeks, and I am 100% okay with it. I think it gives me a youthful appearance. If I hollowed out my face I'd probably age 10+ years instantly. No thanks!
My 17-year-old daughter has a very round face, and she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my life. She could be a model (we've had offers). I would hope she wouldn't do this to herself.
I'm now 53 years old and glad I was born with a fuller face . Because once you age it will automatically slim down when you get older and I still look younger then my years.
I'm not so sure. Our facial fat descends and collects under the jawline in the form of jowls. And NOTHING is more aging than jowls. Young people can have wrinkles and hollows, but NEVER jowls.
I've always had a "moon face" and my whole life I've heard advices about "changing" my cheeks, but what no one ever noticed is that I like my face. And even though I'm 25 and look 16, I don't care, I'm in no rush to "get old". Maybe the only problem is men being suspicious of my age on dates or having to give my ID everywhere I go, but just like I said to a guy that I dumped this week: "It's not my fault if at 26 you look 40, maybe you should take better care of yourself. I'm really happy with my 16 year old face."
Same! I am 27, just now my baby fat is slimming out off my face! I still look young haha like 22 or something. It will happen as you get older. But I love my soft chubbie cheeks!
You have no idea how much I needed this video. I'm 23 and I've always had chubby cheeks and it makes me feel so insecure. No matter how much weight I lose they always stay, because they're genetics...Thank you so much for all of your hard work and for creating such a loving community where literal strangers boost each other's self confidence and help especially young people not make decisions that they'll regret later on, simply because of unreal body standards. Love you all so much ❤️
This is absolutely ridiculous!!!! This beauty community is completely OUT OF CONTROL!!!! I just turned 48 in August and I in no way look like I am 48 and it is because of the fact that I still have that buccal fat in my face. Listen I would love to have the high cheekbones and the beautiful jaw line but if that means I have to look old NO THANK YOU! I will age naturally and gracefully and also healthy 😉
Wait til your buccal fat descends and collects under your jawline in the form of jowls. Happened to me after 48. Nothing is more aging than jowls. It's the only thing truly exclusive to old people. Young people can have wrinkles, hollows, melasma, dark circles, eyebags, etc., but never jowls.
@@dammar117 Welp hopefully that doesn’t happen I tend to favor my Dad’s side of the family and like if you saw my Dad he is 73 and you would NEVER know it and on my Mom’s side has everyone has aged pretty nicely so we shall see but it that does happen then I guess I gotta live with it.
@@dammar117 You know I always thought jowls were the result of collagen loss and bone loss not so much buccal fat descending. First time I'm hearing this. Not saying it isn't true.
i've always hated my chubby cheeks but honestly since the buccal fat removal trend, i learned to embrace it more, because it just looks weird and makes people look older, and they will end up "correcting" their lack of cheek fat when they are old. plus. my mom and i looked very alike, and she was 20 years older than me. she would be mistaken as my older sister well in to her 30s and it seriously wasn't people being nice. having chubby cheeks makes you look way younger than you really are, which sucks if you're in your 20s like me and "sexy" is the trend, but when you're 40, 60, 80, you'll appreciate it much more. that's what i tell myself anyways. it's a very youthful feature that i didn't appreciate until seeing all these famous people remove it.
This world is exhausting. Everday it's some new weird procedure I've never even heard of. Fox eyes, Platysmaplasty, Buccal cheek. It's just bonkers. Thanks for keeping us in the know Stephanie. Sending all the best to you and your new lil bundle of joy 🥰
@@susufray3601 aaaw I thought it might be surgery to look like a Platypus. Honestly at this point that would probably be a move in a saner direction 🤦♀️
Omg. I'm so over all these 'trends'. I'm naturally a curvy woman with a big butt. I went into my teen years in the mid 90's when heroin chic was the trend. I was bullied relentlessly. Then JLO came on the scene and all of a sudden, I looked great.. according to society. The expectations on women are ridiculous. I just turned 40, kicked breast cancers ass last year and I just don't give a fk anymore. We need to start loving ourselves. We put so many expectations on ourselves to look perfect when we're all perfect in our own way. 💜💙
Absolutely! 90s teen myself and having a large chest and hips made me feel so low when comparing myself to the heroin chic models everywhere. Reaching 40 and loving myself has been 🎉🎉🎉
When "you do you" replaced "you are beautiful just the way you are" as a form of encouragement and support, this is one of the things that happens: people trying to "correct" their appearance because they aren't told they don't need to because they are unique and beautiful in their own way, they are told "you do you, whatever makes you happy".
I remember in school people would always bully me for having a round face and having certain features and would call me names cause of those features but yet they would go around following dangerous beauty standards and dangerous trends then proceed to get the surgeries and those people end up having a lot of issues and im 23 and i will forever embrace that i am fine and content with my natural features and my round face.
You are lucky! When I was young, I had the high cheek bones and slim face, whereas my sister... well somehow she was given the nickname moon face. Now I am an old fart and look like an older fart than I am. But moon face is hanging in there. This is a ridiculous surgery.
I had a rounder face when I was in my 20s and 30s. In my 40s, my cheekbones have become more prominent and my cheeks a little more hollowed out. I honestly love it. (Sad about the accompanying wrinkled skin, though!) I can't imagine what I'd look like if I'd had buccal fat removal when I was younger. I think these women will regret it later on.
I have a round face, yet, people always think I’m older than I actually am 😭 I don’t know why. But that’s more reason for me not to do this surgery lol
Im selfishly happy that these people have done this to themselves, because i think it might make others see how horrific the results are. Like this is the only body augmentation "trend" that ive seen thats had most people asking why anyone would want that. Although seeing how far people will go to follow a trend, even if its damaging, im not sure if looking weird is enough to keep people from getting this procedure themselves. But hey if they can afford to get surgery to correct it in a few years (when the trends inevitably shift) then its no biggy.. the people who cant though?
Most people don't understand why anyone would inflate their lips to clownish proportions the way some women do these days, either - or ridiculously enlarge their backsides.
@@wendyannhI don’t think that’s true unfortunately. I’m 22 in my last year of college, and I have beautiful friends who insist they’ll get BBL and other surgeries once they can afford it. I really don’t understand why, I am not exaggerating when I say they are already beautiful, but for some reason they feel the need to change and be supposedly perfect. These friends are constantly on social media like Instagram and tiktok so I can only imagine it stems from that
Just last night I was like "I wish my cheeks looked like so and so" and this is exactly what I thought of my own face that I need to correct my chubby cheeks. Thank you for this topic. This made me aware of the trend and I definitely feel better now. Not that I was gonna go for a surgery (thanks to my fear of needles too which helps lol) But I don't know i just found this reassuring for myself. I will be embracing my chubby cheeks and not compare it to others'
You know I was first exposed to the idea of this beautiful high fashion women with HIGH cheekbones when I started watching western media more regularly. It also showed in how a lot of people in the west or those living there would do their makeup to enhance their cheekbone shape?? contour??? this buccal fat removal is basically the extreme version of this beauty standard
I look too gaunt in the face when I am not being overweight and that really sucks. I apply light color makeup at most spots where others try to apply dark makeup to make their face look slimmer, basically. I don't like looking severe. If you like looking severe, makeup is usually enough to fix that for most chubby cheeks.
Yes embrace them! They make you look way more youthful. As we age our skin gets lax so imagine how much more saggy everything’s gonna look when you don’t have any fat to hold it up. As a skin therapist who works on older skin a lot of women want the fat pads restored so they don’t look tired. That’s why they get filler in the first placez
I'm so glad I'm 30 and I didn't have to deal with all this when I was young. I can't imagine being bombarded with new things to insecure about every 5 seconds. I definitely had fat cheek until I was like 25. After that my face naturally thinned out.
You said it like being 30 is like you’re 60 or 70. Madonna is almost 70 and she had done that procedure. Is not about age is about plastic surgery mistakes.
@@kimkitty3914 she means that in your early 20s you're more likely to be more insecure about your looks and yourself in general but when you enter your 30th other people's opinions don't matter to you as much so you're more likely to have all those surgeries when you're younger
@@kimkitty3914 My point I was trying to make but I didn't write it very well was that I wasn't as influenced by social media as kids are today. If I wanted to feel bad about myself and be told I was ugly and not good enough, I had to go and buy a fashion magazine.
My face naturally looks like this and I got called 'horse face' for it all my life... Guess it's just the same lile being naturally very skinny, having ginger hair or even freckles. They make fun of you until this very looks become a trend for a moment... Then afterwards they continue to bully you for that as nothing happened.. lovely
so true my face is long and thin people like what prominent features you have for being so young. and when i am thin because i am slightly chubby now people would say are you a anorexic. or your face looks like a dude also you are so funny looking your face is to long and i would be like sure look in the mirror buddy alot time it wasnt th best looking people saying it all just put it that way.
Yeah that's so typical. I was bullied relentlessly for having large hips and thighs, called all the names in the book, because at that time the "trend" was superskinny ladies with no ass\hips and low raise jeans. Now that the "thicc" look is trendy, I've been made uncomfortable numerous times by people staring creepily at me at the beach, while at the same time others still mock me. You can't win when people are just cruel and weird lol
I watch art restorations and the man restoring a piece said “sometimes ok is good enough and perfection is the enemy”. That stuck with me because beautiful women are ruining their natural beauty in the quest for perfection. The only woman I saw who genuinely needed it had excessive fullness at the bottom on her face. It looked like she had an injury she got just enough taken out and it looked wonderful.
The thing that unites all of them is that they didn't have only buccal fat removal but other corrections too. It is a complex psychological problem and not just a trend. I believe talking to a shrink would have had better and long term results for their appearance. Confidence is always more attractive than obvious signs of insecurities, exactly what plastic surgery is.
I was one of those people who seriously, seriously considered getting bucal fat removal. Your videos helped me realize I don't have to. I have these really round cheeks that I always hated (and am still learning to love tbh). All I see are people with cut jawlines and high cheekbones being set at the epitome of beauty. Having round cheeks and not liking to smile bc I always thought my cheeks were too huge is something I have struggled with. But I'm glad I decided against as, at 27, I can actually see my cheeks starting to thin out. I'll be one of those people who blooms in their 30's
I love how it looks on women. It is so feminine, so beautiful. It is a part of our youth since we have those baby faces even at 20 yo. Please, please, hold onto that while you can. You are beautiful as is I'm sure. I really do not like this trend. Personal preference oc. But I just love those round youthful cheeks!
My buccal fat naturally went away in my late 20s. First I was thrilled about the "model look" I must admit. But at some point I remembered that soft cheeks are a really radiating, fresh, cute look and I started missing the fuller cheeks I used to have. If I had removed that fat surgically, my regrets would be terrible. Also, if for some people the fat goes away naturally and they have that surgery, what little cheek substance does that leave them with? Self acceptance is the way to go at any given stage of life, just taking it as it comes. Unfortunately, for most this takes a while to figure out and really feel it.
I used to want a chiseled face but now at 32 I realize my full face translates to youthfulness. Without make up I get 24-25 years old with makeup some people ask me where my parents are. I have "the lowest of the high check bones," got dimples, full lips, wider nose, in the same realm of Adut Akech's features. I have noticed the more chiseled your face looks the "faster," in my opinion, that you look older and gaunt. Do I love a chiseled face? Absolutely. I just now appreciate what I have and am leaning into hard.
I'm still getting asked for ID to buy alcohol and I'm 27. I used to hate it but now I appreciate the fact that I'll probably be 30 and still getting asked for ID. Feels good to have a cheeky face. No pun intended.
To be completely honest, I have a very hard time liking my round cheeks, I’ve always been on the thin side so it’s really not weight related. But I am 27 and keep being mistaken for a minor, not being taken seriously at work and in general is tough on the nerves. Not to mention I’m Asian so society tends to remind me quite often that surgery exist to « fix my face ».
I’m 27 and half Asian so I totally understand the round face thing meaning you get mistaken for looking much younger! It’s especially annoying at work. I joke about my grey hair revealing my true age, but I just brush it off because one day I’ll look as youthful as my momma at her age 😊
Round cheeks are gorgeous. If people don’t think you’re beautiful, it’s their loss & they don’t deserve to be around you. Don’t waste your time believing these idiots. Your real friends and family will love you as you are and those are the only people who matter. 💗
These videos keep me grounded! Everyday I go on Instagram and see all these gorgeous faces and wonder why I don’t look like them, only to discover these people don’t even look like this! And if they do they’ve spent thousands on surgery
I almost got this done… I had such a chubby face my whole life no matter my weight and it shattered my confidence. Now I am entering my late 20s my face has naturally started to slim down and I’m SO glad I didn’t do it, I would look crazy as I got older! If beauty standards weren’t insane and almost unattainable then they wouldn’t be able to make money from our insecurities. As I get older I feel a lot of the brainwashing falling away, I love a natural, healthy, strong and balanced look 💪🏻 (and that is different for everyone!)
In South Korea people try to avoid this look at all cost (because it obviously ages you like crazy). It also has it’s name: «peanut-face»; loss of volume in the temples and lower face.
I’ve been thinking about going to South Korea to get a facial fat transfer in my forehead and temples because of this!! In America that super chiseled lean faced face is du jour. no surgeon would willingly go for the look that they do in South Korea. And for a fraction of the cost too!
Me too, but plastic surgery and tweaks are getting more commonplace. Ten years ago it would be the odd celeb but now it’s your average person, work colleagues, friends etc, it’s so toxic isn’t it? X
Why are you so worried about being "normal"? If there is something that you will like to improve about yourself there is no nothing wrong with changing it with PS. I don't see why it's morally superior to stay natural
I'm happy you have found people who support being your natural self, Rebeka. You know, I wish for all people all over the world to be well and happy, and as an African I feel sad for people who have so many resources and yet cannot appreciate/enjoy them because there is so much pressure on them to conform to an ideal standard dictated by marketing. I personally know people living off less than USD$10 a day who are happier than Bella Hadid and people who feel unattractive because they can't afford enough protein to maintain what is considered a respectable body mass here. (That's right; they want to be fatter; not thinner.) I'm not trying to guilt anyone, but I feel like living here puts into perspective how unnatural this drive for physical perfection and eternal youth really is, and how beautiful a normal, perfectly imperfect everyday person on the street with a smile and a happy heart really can be.
I am so thankful for you Stephanie. Years ago I started noticing my "chubby cheeks" and realized what buccal fat was and that there is a surgery to remove it. I was insecure about my "chubby cheeks" until recently when celebrities started getting this surgery. Now I'm rolling my eyes and thankful that I can rest secure in my naturally, God-given beautiful buccal fat. Thank you for being so outspoken and passionate about loving ourselves as we are, Stephanie
I was a freshman in HS when my mom turned 44 in the early 2000s. I have always had extremely chubby cheeks and back then when I would look at my moms beautiful face I wondered why I didn't inherit her sculpted cheekbones and jawline. At some point I noticed myself lose that last round of baby fat at around age 19 and my face started to slim around the cheeks and chin. My 40 year old face will probably look like her's did at 40. My mom is 60 now and her face is more sculpted than ever. My point is that as we age, we naturally loose buccal fat. Look at a baby vs an elderly person. If you remove it in your 20s, you're going to have a very extreme look at 40.
Glassawata, you are right about the natural aging process and I'm glad for you that you're againg like your mother, as you wished. But even if you weren't, it wouldn't make you any less of a person. (I have a very tall, blonde fair mother with a perfectly oval face and symmetrical features, non-hooded green eyes and fair skin that never scarred nor developed stretch marks after carrying three healthy children or attaining the age of 70. She could honestly have been a model if she didn't have a degree and a professional career. I am shorter and darker with a round face, hooded grey eyes and asymmetrical features, a yellowish skin full of scars and stretch marks and brown hair liberally streaked with grey. ((My mom still has gloriously thick, naturally blonde hair.)) I don't have a degree either, and to this day people always call her beautiful and me cute, at best. But I'm happy in my skin because I have qualities that can't be seen that she doesn't.
The salivary gland damage one is so important! You can get cysts that fully block the gland and more surgeries increase the chance of more cysts, people end up with deformed and swollen faces.
Thank you so much for your videos and taking this topic on. I was starting to feel like I'm the only one who's even noticing that this is happening. I'm 50 now and it's so cool to see my face as I'm changing with age. I keep wondering if these people will wish they knew what their faces would actually look like. They'll never know. It removes so much poetry from life IMO.
As an owner of a chubby face who was bullied for it excessively as a child- I love it. My face is the physical manifestation of the genes of my indigenous ancestors and I couldn't be more proud to look the way I do ❤️
Thank you, Stephanie, for all that you do to call these people out. I seriously don't understand removing fat from the face when all of us older folks are trying to appear more round and full in our faces. Hoping that you will add in more makeup application videos on your channel!
It’s like with Madison Beer. She was so naturally beautiful and it appears she has had all this work done. It’s too much! Cut this, pluck that, add this, lift that, pull this, fill that.
I grew up with a very full face, even at my thinnest. I wanted this when I was in my late teens. Now that I'm almost 30 I am so grateful I didn't. As I've aged my cheeks have gotten a little smaller and my buccal fat pads have dropped slightly. I feel like if they had been removed my face would look a lot more aged.
I’m glad my face is round. I may look like a cabbage patch kid, but I’m going to look like a kid for another 25 years. Adjunct my deeply melanated skin, a good skin care regime, and healthy lifestyle. Yea we in there. Be you yall.
I remember wanting buccal fat removal as a teenager because I felt like my face looked too big/round. I was so self conscious about it. Now that I’m almost thirty, I’m so glad I never got it done. I get compliments on how young I look all the time.
Not only is it absolutely pointless, but it's also dangerous to remove your buccal fat. You lose so many cells that help your body recover quickly. Without it your immune system is so much more vulnerable and your face gets older way quicklier
@Clodagh W celebs do IV for all sorts of different things, even an IV for preventing the risk of tanning from being outdoors so they can stay paler with less effort (Colorism 🤮). (It's called "Cinderella Drip", glutathione + vit c + some more stuff)
As a person with an extremely low self-esteem, I thank you, Stephanie, for making me believe in myself and value my natural features. You are the most beautiful person I know!
This type of surgery was very popular in Brazil years ago, but it got to the point that the all the media (all around the country) had to make reports to alert the risks and consequences of the surgery. I remember there were interviews and reports from patients about how sorry they were after their face started to "melt". Like, not even a year after the procedure, their face started to age fast AF do the the fact of the fat removal. It was crazy as hell.
As someone who, through illnesses and meds, lost a fair amount of buccal fat, I have to say ~ This senseless/insane butchery will definitely become "aging" as the years tick away. They become gaunt and hollow and very unattractive ~ as well as providing a premature aging effect. This is beyond bonkers 🤯 Love ya guts 💞🌟💞🌟💞🌟💞
Thank you for bringing these trends back to reality. Its ok to do change yourself to feel better about things you don't like, but then it becomes the norm to look like this which is not fair on everyone else. It's not healthy to think you have eto look like these celebs to be beautiful. i love how you embrace beauty in different forms, because its the truth!
I have the exact kind of face that celebs seem to be getting buccal fat removal done on, and I think it's super sad/wish some of them would wait until they're older to see how they age. I used to be self concious of my wide/chubbier face, but have found that, as I age, what bothered me so much at one time is naturally diminishing/looking more hollowed on its own, and I'm only 27. I feel this is one of those surgeries with high potential for regret as faces generally slim/hollow out with age.
You so hit the nail on the head, on everything!!! It's so frikken ridiculous, and truthfully, those who have these procedures done look horrible! They don't look like themselves, they only look older, not younger and it's sad. It's VERY sad!! Starlets of the past who grew older without any surgeries ALWAYS look better and YOUNGER than those who go under the knife. It's a sad time where we're acting more like the herd than strong, confident individuals. I love you! You are so wonderful and genuine ❤ 💕 💖
I always hated my chubby cheeks/ round face, now ive accepted them and I keep telling myself that it will make me look younger as I grow, I mean I am 23 and people think I am 16
Just waiting until the day I turn 40... I'm 23 too lol. But I would say I just control the heck out of my face now instead of doing surgery. Everyone underestimate the power of makeup
I’ve always had a little bit more of a round face and I don’t like it, so I had a consultation with a plastic surgeon at the beginning of the year and she really warned me about being sure I wanted this procedure because she said as you age it’ll make you look older than you actually are since you don’t have that natural fat to lose anymore. I chickened out and didn’t get it done so now that this topic has kind of blown up I’m happy with my decision lol
When I was a teenager, I wanted SO much surgery, I had a list of procedures I wanted to get when I had the money, including BBL, brow lift, lip and jaw filler, neck fat dissolving, breast lift, fake teeth, and probably more that I can’t remember off the top of my head Now I’m my 20s, I’m SO GLAD I was broke at 18 and couldn’t afford to do any of it, and left my natural looks alone
I wanted a the biggest breast implants in my late teens early 20s but incredibly happy I wasn't able to afford it. Now older, wishing my b cup was an a😁
literally why i stopped following trends when i was like 16, it's unattainable and life is too short to look like everyone else, embrace your unique style, be eccentric and kind and welcome aging with open arms - not many get the privileges of grey hairs and smile lines
Exactly. The current life expectancy in my country is 62.8 years, thanks to us being able to manufacture our own antiretrovirals, and the majority of our population is under9 years old so there aren't many naturally grey-haired people out there. (At the peak of the AIDS epidemic it was my current age, 43.) So grey hairs and smile lines are indeed a privilege and the trends are only there to sell product. When I think of my beloved late grandmothers, their eccentricities, kindness and wisdom that they attained with aging and living full lives come to mind, not how much buccal fat they did or didn't have.
Yes, I’m very much a fan of ppl accepting themselves and not trying to follow beauty trends. Workout, be healthy, do you hair, wear makeup if ya want. Get cute! But please do not do these insane alterations 😩 It’s just not healthy for society. I’m over it. So glad I’ve never had any cosmetic work done !
@@levithebaddest2369 , Johannesburg, South Africa, and am South African which makes me African (although I've been blessed to have traveled a lot through my work and seen different societies with different perspectives. :-) ) 62 isn't great compared to first-world countries but isn't too shabby at all compared to some other African nations (or to our own country pre affordable antiretroviral drugs.) (That sounds like a boast. I'm not boasting because it's tragic.) Please feel free to AMA and I will gladly respond to the best of my knowledge and make my perspective as neutral as possible.
@@levithebaddest2369 , just to explain why I'm here, I subscribe to the amazing Stephanie Lange because even here, in what is sadly still the world's most unequal society, I see the destructive influence of unrealistic beauty standards on people's (already hard enough) lives, and I myself get people (random males, my own uncles and brothers or my mother and/or Aunties) trying to push those standards on me because our society is sexist AF, and I have the added advantage of being able to remember a different time, so I can't imagine how hard it must be for people who don't have that luxury. I am also raising my 2 daughters, 14 and 12, to understand that what you see on the media isn't necessarily real. (Also, the surname "Lange" is quite common in South Africa, although we pronounce it more like "Lung-er", so I guess that attracts me too...)
These young women will regret this down the line! The full, soft cheeks denote youth, and will inevitably shrink in over time. I'm 60 now, and the fullness of my cheeks kept me looking younger for years (imo). Save your money for when gravity starts pulling at your jowls (almost guaranteed)! That's what I'd have attended to if I could afford it! Madonna looks alien now (she's only 4 years older than me) but her rounded cheeks kept her looking young & beautiful until she started this obsession with the surgery. Great videos Honey, what you're doing is awesome for vulnerable girls self esteem! 💖
I hopped on here to talk about the aging effect of fat removal, but you ladies got my back for calling this out. I'm very pro-cosmetic procedures but this trend legit makes me sad because the after pics look so dour. It looks like their light was snubbed out, as if they were physically ill :/
This is insane to me, because not only is a rounded, fuller face associated with youth, but it also associated with femininity. Women tend to natural have softer, rounded features and men tend to have more angular and chiseled features. It’s shocking that these feminine identifying women are actually making their faces look older and more masculine
I love it “why are we doing this to our faces and for whom”? These self reflective question are what is needed. Instead of trying to accept and understand themselves, people just want to change their physical appearances. Sad
I can't stress enough how HELPFUL your videos are! I follow a lot of the celebrities you mentioned and I swear I didn't notice some of the changes they had done to themselves, which is really scary and dangerous. You open my eyes with every video you make, please don't stop making them! It is a huge help for women today but also for little girls! Thank you so so much
As someone who has this swollen chipmunk face (im 31 now btw) i did look into this surgery, but it makes people look more mature and has a risk of permanent nerve dammage, also the result is quite extreem while i was looking for something subtile. Decided to keep my chipmunk look 😊
From a fellow chipmunk face, well done! 😅 God knows I considered it too, but I realised there will always be new trends coming out that I will forever keep comparing myself to.
I’m so glad people are making these videos educating on the downsides of these trends. For so long I was obsessed with getting my buccal fat removed because as you said, it seemed this really quick and easy procedure. TikTok especially was really toxic for my mental health with all the BFR videos popping up every 2 secs. The best thing we can all do is love ourselves and work on our self-esteem 🙏
I'm in my 30's as well, and throughout my teens and 20's I had a very round face with chubby cheeks. I always hated it because it made me look "cute" rather than "sexy" by societal standards. Now, like some other comments have said, a lot of that fat has disappeared in the natural aging process; my face is thinner and the cheekbones are defined. We naturally lose roundness in our face as we age, so I worry that people who take the fat out so young will end up looking gaunt later. My face changed a lot naturally from teens to 20's to 30's and will continue to do so. It's so tough being held to impossible changing beauty ideals, and no age group is exempt from this pressure! Love your channel and your message💗
Man I LOVE my cheek chub!! Full cheeks make you look youthful!! I think within the next 10 years, I’ll get my jowls tightened. I don’t want to look 50. But removing my cheeks?? No thanks, I’ll keep my human face.
Stephanie!!! I'm new and wasn't aware you are pregnant, Congrats! You are so sweet and genuine. Much luck with the baby. They change your life in ways one cannot explain. Great video as well.
The first time I heard about buccal fat removal is when Mary Kate Olsen had it done. She's still gorgeous but I feel it aged her beyond her years. I also just want to say that I'm so grateful your channel exists Stephanie, you do wonders for self esteem 💕
The same example came to my mind. Considering the ageism in Hollywood, looking younger will allow actresses to keep working for longer. Look at Jennifer Aniston, who had very full cheeks when she was in her early 20s - she's in her fifties and still getting cast as the main character in rom coms.
I used to dislike my cheeks back in my 20's, and thought of getting buccal fat removed but since my dad's a dentist he'd always criticized women who did that for the aged look it gave them. Glad I didn't do it. And you know what make this trend even worse? Women are injecting fillers or having cheek and chin implants (like Lea Michele I suppose) which makes their faces proportions all effed up, unfortunately :(
It’s a bit ironic how everyone is so obsessed with youth and perfection yet they’re getting all of these procedures which make them look older and a bit odd
FOR REAL
Exactly
I so agree, makes you look older for sure
We can't escape ageing, none of us, people who refuse to age gracefully probably have the toughest time realizing the fact that eventually no surgery will restore their youth, what's more sad to me is young beautiful women altering their looks to look like other beautiful women, youth is a blessing all on its own, enjoy it while you can as you are
Someone finally said it right!!!!!!!!
When I was young, I heard that beauty standards were always whatever was the hardest to attain. When times are good and people are easily chubby, thinness is valued. When working outside was the norm, paleness was more attractive. That always stuck with me, and helped make beauty "trends" make a little more sense.
Now I guess being extremely skinny and no surgery at all that’s the beauty standards. Because plastic surgery is easy to get and is also so easy to get fat.
Yes. It is always whatever is more rare and therefore usually more for the rich. And definitely not about embracing your uniqueness, understanding and being confident in yourself, cause that doesn't sell as much shit
You just blew my damn mind. And you’re absolutely 💯 % right
That makes sense, because money is difficult to attain. And the beauty standards today require artificial procedures, which costs a lot of money.
ok that makes a lot of sense now that I think about it.
Is it just me or this "removal" actually makes them look older and tired?
Nah you’re totally right tbh. Fuller faces usually make people look quite younger, so intentionally making it more hollow will not age well since aging does that your face naturally. They probably will regret it imo
No lol
Yep
And also like a man
totally agree
A lot of plastic surgeons have stopped doing this I think that says a lot about the procedure.
Oh god that does say enough for me to never even consider that 😨
Why have they stopped it?
@@nica7747 it prematurely ages you and looks horrible years down the line when you start losing facial fat
@@ilean7499 Jesus…really put me off from getting this fr
Not true. There are some people who have massive cheeks and they better do it until them start SAG! It's very individual. If you already have skinny face it surely will age you, but it will age you even more if you have hella gigantic cheeks. I had blepharoplasty (very hooded eyes) in 2019, the only thing I regret is I didn't do it even earlier. The result is amazing. Now there are lashes out, I don't look grumpy. Buccal fat removal is very individual and there is nothing bad on doing this procedure if cheeks are fucking enormous.
It´s so sad.. I have hollow cheeks .. and I always felt that I look way too old because of it and people kept on giving me comments on how I look sick. Last week was the first time someone gave me a compliment about it . That was the strangest feeling .. from confused to happy to worried to confused … I don’t know folks. I hate how our bodies become trendy and then they´re out of fashion again. This is just sick.
Me too, even if I try to gain weight it is still here
@@alezy7645 same!!! Just commented I have it as well. On days when I feel a little tired, I look even more hollow. Annoying
@@alezy7645 same i feel so insecure
youre very gorgeous though💖
I'm so sorry you feel that way about your cheeks. Seeing all the comments saying how old people look I'm sure don't help. But honestly, carved cheekbones that are natural are GORGEOUS. Forced cheekbones, aka buccal fat removal, don't have that natural gorgeousness, not even nearly that same effect.
This is actually insane. I’m 45 now and this has naturally happened to me. It’s something that happens with age and makes you look older. In ten to 20 years, these people will be getting surgery to put it all back in because they will look 100.
That was my thought as well. Some look really old after this surgery 😮
Yes! I'm 43 and am *so* glad for my round face that I used to hate as a younger woman.
Mom told me at 27 it would hollow out by itself. Lord knows mommy was right.
Exactly, I look like I had this surgery but it's only age..
They will regret it when they lose more volume in their face over time !
I'm all for plastic surgery, but I think a lot of people will regret doing this. It ages them, wait until they're in their 30', 40's and so on. I don't think they'll like how much it ages them when they get older.
'faces of meth' comes to mind.
Is not the same for everyone, some people do have excessive fat, that can be uncomfy, and even if you are skinny or get older that fat will be there even hanging like to little sacks on each side of your cheek. Instead of doing this procedure to make that void (literally) some people get the removal to have a more even face and feel more confidence.
Yes! Part of what makes people think makes a person is younger is because they have that rounded face with fullness. When I was in my 20’s people thought I was in my teens. When I was in my 30’s people thought I was in my 20’s. In my 40’s people assume I am at least 15 years younger and it’s because I inherited my Grandmothers round face and cheek bones. As a kid I had chipmunk cheeks and I always had naturally full cheeks and I think that’s why I got pegged for being younger than I am.
Im here to confirm this. Worst mistake ever, I regret it so much.
Or just like what if doesn’t turn out well or doesn’t actually flatter you?
Honestly, I’m approaching 40 and was commonly referred to as “Chipmunk Cheeks” in my teens, and I LOVE how my face has aged. I look a decade younger than I am (part of that is taking good care of my skin, but still) and I can’t even fathom how gaunt I would look if I had done something like this in my twenties.
Plastic surgery isn’t just about how you look NOW, it’s also about how you’ll look in 10, 20, 40 years’ time.
Amen!
Surgically removing buccal fat ages the face so much! Isn’t the goal “eternal youth” 🤔
You can’t reverse buccal fat removal, right? So interesting that the new trend is to remove what makes you look younger!
I don’t think it’s possible to reverse indeed, so if they ever regret it, especially once they age and start getting a more hollow face… that will be sad for them
@@Yeetuspoket you can get fat injections
That’s when fillers come in to play 😂
@@leftthatbehind6090 why to begin with! Like seriously. Also it doesn't sound healthy as well
My thoughts exactly
It will never end, Stephanie. They can’t sell us stuff unless they tell us our bodies are wrong. Why do you think beauty standards constantly change? If we’re ever satisfied then they can’t hawk us all the lotions, potions and procedures. We need to stop engaging with it and just be happy with our bodies. We’re the ones giving them the power over us.
Say it louder for the people in the BACKKKKK 📣📣📣
Capitalism under patriarchy. Keep moving the goal posts so women keep spending money… attempting to attain the unattainable.
Exactly, we're just wasting our money and energy for an unattainable ideal
It ends when we as women start aging naturally like men and feeling hot while doing it!!!!
Exactly! And I feel like these major standards are changing faster too...
These trends are crazy. I’m 29 and I get mistaken for 19-20. It’s because I have chubby cheeks and a full face.
Me too 29 today and people are like what I figured 22 lol
Same! I’m 26 and guys think I’m 19. Lol
I have fuller face too. I’m 20 and I look 15 I’ve been told lol
Same
Definitely same, it can get annoying but it is what it is
I always hated my chubby cheeks growing up, but also have high cheekbones. when i was like 17, i agonized over the fact that my face wasn't all "chiseled" like i wanted. i'm now 29, and working out and getting older has made my cheekbones start to stand out on their own! now i wonder if i'll end up looking super hollow in ten years lmao, so i'm SUPER glad i didn't know about this procedure when i was a teenager!
you’ll be glad you have that fat when age starts to cause fat loss in a few decades.
Also you'll look younger
I thought the insane lip filler trend was bad.... But this is just a million times worse. I will cherish my buccal fat, thank you very much! Lol
I seen someone in the flesh with the worst lip fillers the other day, it left me disturbed 😭 I'd only ever seen lip fillers in pictures and was shocked how bad hers were, literal duck lips
If you have chubby cheeks, naturally over time you lose the fat in your cheeks so I feel like this surgery only speeds up the aging process. As a girl, teen, and young adult I had fairly chubby cheeks. I always got mistaken for being younger than my actual age. Now at 30 you can see my high cheekbones because I’ve lost a lot of that fat in my cheeks. I don’t get comments about looking younger than my actual age nearly as often now.
Same here girl. I've always had chubby cheeks, no matter the weight and now, just with time they have started to disappear. This surgery seems like the most pointless one out there, just ages you faster!
I had huge cheeks they're still big. I'm almost in my 40s it's really helped me look younger
As someone older than you, you are completely correct. I commented previously that they will regret this fat removal when they are older. It's best to age gracefully because even filler can mess up the natural angles of your face when you are older and have you looking worse than if you had left all that nonsense alone.
Right, I was so surprised when cheekbones suddenly appeared in my 20s, even though I've always had a thin face
Exactly! I’m 29 and still get carded and I’m 99% sure it’s because of my fuller cheeks. I’m already starting to see them not be as full as they used to be, even with me gaining some weight. These girls are just speeding up their aging.
For some of the nonsensical cosmetic surgeries I always find the "go for it if it makes you happy" so funny because you end up 'unhappy' with your 'surgically new body' and keep changing it to gain validation from society. And the whole fact that your happiness comes from people is just so interesting with the saying that true happiness comes from within...
Ya, I don’t believe in shaming people for getting cosmetic surgery tho, it’s understandable because you never know what those people have gone through. Some people have been treated TERRIBLY for their looks and just want some semblance of rest. Surgery ultimately does not solve the core issue, which is internal, and it’s important for them to be aware of that. However, for people who are severely tormented by their looks and nothing seems to help, you can’t blame em.
@@thetiredworm2100 Correct me if I'm wrong but I don't think your scenario applies to the "buccal fat" situation...
@@thetiredworm2100 They shouldn't be supported to do what is basically self harm caused by body dysmorphia. I can perfectly empathize with someone who wants to alter their body and physical appearance because they feel ugly, since I've been there myself, but cutting yourself up, taking things in and out _that are supposed to be there_ is harmful, and it won't solve the problem. The issue is always coming from a place of emotional damage, and that's the root cause. We should encourage these people to address the root cause and actually find healing, instead of putting band-aid solutions over the wound.
Telling someone "yeah, go for it, yas kween!" isn't really helping them. It's just avoiding a conflict, even though we know that what they're doing to themselves is self harm.
@@BlueNorth313 My thought process is: some people are suicidal because of these things, therapy isn’t a cure all method, and surgery most definitely isn’t, but it can help partially control the pain to a more manageable level temporarily for some, so that they have a higher chance of staying alive--which in turn can give them more time to work on healing and change. We absolutely should NOT encourage surgery, I only think that if people in the end decide to get it we don’t hurt them. The discussion on what surgeries should be legally allowed is very important, cuz some of this shiz is quite dangerous.
Amen to that, Kim! You are so right! I get a lot of unsolicited admiration for my looks because I just happen to be blonde and live in a part of the world where blondes aren't common, but TBH I find the attention more insulting than flattering because I could have been born looking any way and these "admirers" know nothing of my personality. What truly makes me happy is contributing to society and working on my knowledge, and I know that will never change even when I'm old and look just like every other elder. At the end of the day, plastic surgery is a business like any other, not a magic wand.
I have high cheekbones and a rather thin face so I have the "look" this procedure gives but not in an extreme way. I've lost count of the number of times I got told to eat more or someone made an ED joke around me. It's so weird to see people actually want it now and even weirder to get complimented on it. Beauty standards are wack.
Same here. I do not have very hollow cheeks (they're fine as they naturally are supposed to be considering i have a perfectly oval face neither chubby nor very hollow ) but naturally high cheekbones with a small oval thin face and ppl guess my age to be 12.
Same! I have naturally high cheekbones :) and naturally plump lips so I have the "look" that all these women are going for lol.
Beauty standards are only a thing because women have a hard time thinking for themselves they follow trends and stuff
But men also want women thoughts to be at the whims of whatever is the "beauty" standard at the time too...
Ive been obsessed with this procedure for like 8 years and now I am SO glad I never actually got it
honestly same, i am so glad i saw this video because ive been contemplating getting this since i was like 12. i have a very childlike face but a sharp body so ive always envied people with severe facial bone structure as i thought itd make me look better. now ig ill just have to be thankful that ill keep this face fat for years lol
It will happen by itself. Just get to 35 plus and it'll happen by itself
omg you're so pretty, you needn't change a thing!
Seeing all the celebrities who look awful with it done has helped me too. I used to think I needed it. Sure, I'd like slightly more hollow cheekbones... but omg this procedure is making them look like reanimated corpses
As you age, you will maintain a fresh and youthful beauty. People will mistake you for being much younger. Believe me, I'm in my 50s and a member of the full cheeks crew.
I’m glad I get to watch these celebrities make these mistakes to their face. It actually helps me appreciate my natural face more and now I pride myself in not getting any work done.
Exactly right 😄
your plain jane looking face
Plus I'd never have the money to do this nonsense in the first place!
@@snikrdoodls14 same lmao I'd rather save my monsy
@@yaoriattz7104 True! I spend it on stuff that will actually make me happy. Not something I'm deluding myself into thinking will make me feel better, when in reality, just enables self-destructive behaviour.
My cheeks have always been on the fatter side no matter what weight I’m at. I’m honestly grateful for it, because once I’m 50, my face won’t be as thin as everyone else. Everybody, love yourself ❤
You don't know how true this is!
Correct. I'm 38 and I've noticed that as I age my bucccel fat has disappeared. My cheeks are more hollow and I don't know that I love it.
@@brandimccormick4439 It’s better we learn to be okay with what changes because I don’t believe that people remain satisfied when they do these types of things. Doom loop.
Is that you on your pfp ? You look so adorable
@@brandimccormick4439 I think it’s pretty if it’s natural
I needed this. I've hated my cheeks since I was a kid. I remember seeing an ad in a magazine for "cool lipo" and wanting to make it a reality when I grew up. My cheeks were always so round and pointed out. Throughout my 20s I've been between hating my cheeks, tolerating them, and then considering buccal fat for them. When I turned 30, I realized that it didn't sit well with me that I wanted to change my body to feel good around others because of society standards.... but also knowing I couldn't bear my cheeks. It was an annoying place to be in. Recently, I've been more opposed to the buccal fat removal idea because I'll continue to look youthful longer. But also I just want to accept my Latin features. It has been a whirlwind of a ride. Seeing this video just sealed the deal on never considering it again. Thank you🙏🏽💗
The goal used to be keep your face rounded and “youthful” because the face often naturally thins with age. I wanted less of a round face as a kid but realized pretty quickly I’d have that in my 60’s and didn’t need to do anything about it
same 🫶
It's so interesting to see you talking about this cause recently there is a movement in Brazil from people who have had BFR (it's called Bixectomia here) and are now seeing the consequences of it on their faces. The buccal fat pad it what keeps your cheeks up! So people who don't have money to spend on facelifts now are dealing with their skin sagging at 25, 26... Because they wanted to follow a trend. It is "cheap" to remove the fat pad, but it is so much more expensive to revert. Maíra Medeiros, a Brazilian Influencer who has lived in the US, has spoken of her experience after 5 years of having that surgery and the movement happening in the country. I don't know if you'd be interested in having someone speaking of it from their own experience but she would be a good option if you do.
@Liz bth in Brazil rich girls with 18 years old gets lipo. Its insane, all that is true.
@@bugbug4665 I had a school friend back when I was 17 and she was either 15 or 16 who had a lipo and silicone implants. She showed up just completely changed in February and told me all about it. Looking back now, nearly a decade later, I'm just shocked that her parents would allow such a thing to happen, and even paid for it! It's insane.
Eu lembro da época q todas as blogueiras tavam fazendo essa cirurgia na bochecha. Não tinha ideia das consequências…
Queria comentar a mesma coisa mas estava com preguiça de explicar em inglês 😂
See what I’m sayin??…. And I heard there is a cancer drug that people are using to lose weight. People are really losing their minds. I’m gonna check out the Brazil thing. This is bad.
I love Dove's round face, she was so cute back in her Disney days and then I returned back after years to see her face had sunken and I was like, "DID SHE STARVED HERSELF?" but no it was surgery..
Yeah her face and identity is basically play dough now
Yeah I thought she had an eating disorder. Was a bit concerned about her.
I had just brushed it off as make up + becoming an adult but apparently it was surgery...
Dove is the worst thing happened, knowing how beautiful dhe have been in descendant and liv and maddy
@@ririrolland5132 right?? not to point out the fact that she also have dimples which already make her cheeks look sunk in
I had a bad eating disorder for years. When I was disordered, my buccal fat was gone (but, thanks Stephanie, I didn't know the name for it until this video). During that time, I was never complimented on my young looks; folks always guessed I was older than I was. Now that I'm weight-restored, everyone is shocked to learn my age-- they think I'm much younger. It also helps that I'm more energetic healthy than I was sick! ;) Buccal fat is a sign of health; you don't know that until it's gone.
im so sorry and i hope you have recovered but buccel fat can actually never be removed. It's the only fat in our body that stays through life, It is placed under the fat of our cheeks which is the one that you probably lost
@@issy3295 so what is this video about then?? People are having their buccal fat surgically removed!
Just wanted to send a quick shout out for adding the perspective that altering our features is in a way erasing our ancestry. I most definitely inherited my Jewish Ukrainian grandmothers nose. And as a teenager I wanted badly to get it “fixed”. But my father also inherited that nose and he is a kind and wonderful man. It is one of the features that he and I have in common, that makes me look so much like his daughter. I would not want to erase that.
This is a beautiful point.
Bless you, @beth for owning & accepting your ancestry. I think it was mentioned by a vlogger (I forgot if it was Stephanie or Dr. Linkov) that Bella Hadid had a nose job. She inherited her nose from her dad & it made her look more like him (Middle Eastern ancestry). Then when she had various procedures done to look more like a fashionable model, it's as if her mid east ancestry was minimized. You can compare her before & after pics and you'll really see a difference.
you're absolutely right about this!! also i remember bella hadid saying she regrets getting a nose job done and wanted to grow into her ancestral nose. i dont really think there's a happy ending to getting a cosmetic surgery because next thing you know, you're noticing 100 other flaws about you that you wanna get "fixed".
Exactly!! So many people are removing their "ethnic" features to look like ervry other insta model it's so sad!! Everyone looked gorgeous before AND so different
We should be celebrating how unique and diverse beauty is in the world.
I’ve always had a really thin face and small frame thanks to both my parents, and there was a girl in my year in school who had a really round face and all the boys were obsessed with her and I wanted a round face like hers because I wanted the boys to fancy me. It’s so crazy how rapidly and extreme beauty standards have changed, i dread what future generations have to endure
Same I was always jealous of round faced girls because I'm a long heart I look like an alien :(
As a fuller face girl here 👋🏻 it’s so crazy to think about because I’ve personally always admired and wanted a face shape like you ladies!
It really is interesting to see how we want what we don’t have
@@mittag983 Don't worry, people never seen an alien. So You look like human.
That’s so interesting! I’ve always had a fuller more round face and that’s what I thought was my ugliest feature all my life. I always wished I could look like the girls with a more thin face because I thought they got way more attention for being beautiful. I even looked up “exercises to make your face thinner looking.” I now realize I really was only seeing what I wanted to see in order to fit my own low self esteem based narrative. The problem was never my face. It was my brain.
Don't be jealous of us chubby faced girls. I looked about 12 years old until my 30s. Then as the fat starts to naturally trim down with age, it leaves extra skin to sag, giving jowls way way too young. I'm now 40 and looking into lift options already.
I have somewhat full cheeks, and I am 100% okay with it. I think it gives me a youthful appearance. If I hollowed out my face I'd probably age 10+ years instantly. No thanks!
Same!! I love mine and I look very young 😁
Yeah same
Kind of rude to say. I don’t look 10+ years older than my age and I naturally have hollow cheeks.
My 17-year-old daughter has a very round face, and she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my life. She could be a model (we've had offers). I would hope she wouldn't do this to herself.
Chubby cheeks is such a beautiful feature. Sending love to all my round faced beauties
❤
I'm now 53 years old and glad I was born with a fuller face . Because once you age it will automatically slim down when you get older and I still look younger then my years.
thank you
Thanks!
I’m 29 yet people think I look younger.
Maybe it’s cause of my cheeks lol
When these young women are in their 50s (like I am), they’ll be wishing they never did this!
Exactly, they'll look like skeletor from heman .
I feel so sorry for young people.
Earlier than that...
came here to say this
I'm not so sure. Our facial fat descends and collects under the jawline in the form of jowls. And NOTHING is more aging than jowls. Young people can have wrinkles and hollows, but NEVER jowls.
They'll just fill their cheeks with filler.. they are rich so they can suck fat out and fill it back in as many times as needed
I've always had a "moon face" and my whole life I've heard advices about "changing" my cheeks, but what no one ever noticed is that I like my face. And even though I'm 25 and look 16, I don't care, I'm in no rush to "get old". Maybe the only problem is men being suspicious of my age on dates or having to give my ID everywhere I go, but just like I said to a guy that I dumped this week: "It's not my fault if at 26 you look 40, maybe you should take better care of yourself. I'm really happy with my 16 year old face."
This comment was amazing!
Same! I am 27, just now my baby fat is slimming out off my face! I still look young haha like 22 or something. It will happen as you get older. But I love my soft chubbie cheeks!
Same. I have chubby ass cheeks and I always thought I looked too “saggy” with them.
Same here... I've always had chubby cheeks ever since I was born and I don't even look my age... I love them since I'll look young for a long time 😁
about to turn 18 and am very happy to have my chubby cheeks, because it makes me look younger than my peers.
This is saddening because these are stunning women manipulating their faces for literally no reason
You have no idea how much I needed this video. I'm 23 and I've always had chubby cheeks and it makes me feel so insecure. No matter how much weight I lose they always stay, because they're genetics...Thank you so much for all of your hard work and for creating such a loving community where literal strangers boost each other's self confidence and help especially young people not make decisions that they'll regret later on, simply because of unreal body standards. Love you all so much ❤️
A fuller face is youthful, you’re very lucky! Looking youthful is never a bad thing
@@Belltogo3000 thank you so much! I'll try to think that way from now on 💛
Don’t feel insecure. I’m in my 30s and thankful for my chubby cheeks it has kept me looking young.
I feel like a fuller face looks more youthful. Now that I’m a little older, my face slimmer and I miss my fuller face
Those chubby cheeks will keep you looking young in ten years. You’ll be thankful by then while all of your friends look older.
This is absolutely ridiculous!!!! This beauty community is completely OUT OF CONTROL!!!! I just turned 48 in August and I in no way look like I am 48 and it is because of the fact that I still have that buccal fat in my face. Listen I would love to have the high cheekbones and the beautiful jaw line but if that means I have to look old NO THANK YOU! I will age naturally and gracefully and also healthy 😉
Wait til your buccal fat descends and collects under your jawline in the form of jowls. Happened to me after 48. Nothing is more aging than jowls. It's the only thing truly exclusive to old people. Young people can have wrinkles, hollows, melasma, dark circles, eyebags, etc., but never jowls.
@@dammar117 Welp hopefully that doesn’t happen I tend to favor my Dad’s side of the family and like if you saw my Dad he is 73 and you would NEVER know it and on my Mom’s side has everyone has aged pretty nicely so we shall see but it that does happen then I guess I gotta live with it.
@@dammar117 You know I always thought jowls were the result of collagen loss and bone loss not so much buccal fat descending. First time I'm hearing this. Not saying it isn't true.
Also 48 and my face has always been rounder. It gets thinner the older I get. Much love to everyone's buccal fat
I love my chipmunk cheeks! I'm 52 and look 35, my dermatologist didn't believe me at first!😊
i've always hated my chubby cheeks but honestly since the buccal fat removal trend, i learned to embrace it more, because it just looks weird and makes people look older, and they will end up "correcting" their lack of cheek fat when they are old.
plus. my mom and i looked very alike, and she was 20 years older than me. she would be mistaken as my older sister well in to her 30s and it seriously wasn't people being nice. having chubby cheeks makes you look way younger than you really are, which sucks if you're in your 20s like me and "sexy" is the trend, but when you're 40, 60, 80, you'll appreciate it much more. that's what i tell myself anyways. it's a very youthful feature that i didn't appreciate until seeing all these famous people remove it.
This world is exhausting. Everday it's some new weird procedure I've never even heard of. Fox eyes, Platysmaplasty, Buccal cheek. It's just bonkers. Thanks for keeping us in the know Stephanie. Sending all the best to you and your new lil bundle of joy 🥰
Take a break from the Internet and it won’t be exhausting lol
What is platysmaplasty?
@@gracedaphne1213 I was gonna say the same thing
@@gracedaphne1213 Basically a neck lift surgery.
@@susufray3601 aaaw I thought it might be surgery to look like a Platypus. Honestly at this point that would probably be a move in a saner direction 🤦♀️
As a proud owner of chubby cheeks, I’m happy to keep my bucal fat and keep my chubby cheeks 😊
Me too hehehe
Same, you lose buccal fat naturally as you age anyways so
Same! I love my chubby cheeks :)
Me too. Although as I've aged, I too have naturally lost my chubby cheeks. I miss them! :)
Here here!!! I’m 35 but nobody believes me and trust me, my chubby cheeks definitely help. I always have to show an ID.
Omg. I'm so over all these 'trends'. I'm naturally a curvy woman with a big butt. I went into my teen years in the mid 90's when heroin chic was the trend. I was bullied relentlessly. Then JLO came on the scene and all of a sudden, I looked great.. according to society. The expectations on women are ridiculous. I just turned 40, kicked breast cancers ass last year and I just don't give a fk anymore. We need to start loving ourselves. We put so many expectations on ourselves to look perfect when we're all perfect in our own way. 💜💙
“We need to start loving ourselves”. This 💯
Congrats on beating cancer much love to you ❤
Congrats lady!!! Always focus on things that are important in life 💕
Body types need to start being trends.
Absolutely! 90s teen myself and having a large chest and hips made me feel so low when comparing myself to the heroin chic models everywhere. Reaching 40 and loving myself has been 🎉🎉🎉
When "you do you" replaced "you are beautiful just the way you are" as a form of encouragement and support, this is one of the things that happens: people trying to "correct" their appearance because they aren't told they don't need to because they are unique and beautiful in their own way, they are told "you do you, whatever makes you happy".
I remember in school people would always bully me for having a round face and having certain features and would call me names cause of those features but yet they would go around following dangerous beauty standards and dangerous trends then proceed to get the surgeries and those people end up having a lot of issues and im 23 and i will forever embrace that i am fine and content with my natural features and my round face.
Round face team 😂
It looks most youthful as you age! Embrace it fully❤
I've had a round face my entire life. I'm 37 and I look younger than many 30 year olds. You'll learn to appreciate it, you age slower.
You are lucky! When I was young, I had the high cheek bones and slim face, whereas my sister... well somehow she was given the nickname moon face. Now I am an old fart and look like an older fart than I am. But moon face is hanging in there. This is a ridiculous surgery.
I got called pan face for having a round chubby face, cheeks and a flat nose.
Jokes on them though I’ve looked the same for years now.
I had a rounder face when I was in my 20s and 30s. In my 40s, my cheekbones have become more prominent and my cheeks a little more hollowed out. I honestly love it. (Sad about the accompanying wrinkled skin, though!) I can't imagine what I'd look like if I'd had buccal fat removal when I was younger. I think these women will regret it later on.
I love my cheeks. I'm always told I look 10 years younger then I am because of them. I'd never do this
@KayD828 lol I relate. I'm 31 and people always ask "so are you just starting college?" It's the best
Agreed! I used to be self conscious about my cheeks, but now I love them. I get people thinking I’m 21 when I’m actually in my late 20s lol
When I was 25 I was asked by an acquaintance when I was starting high school. She thought I was 13 😂
I have a round face, yet, people always think I’m older than I actually am 😭 I don’t know why. But that’s more reason for me not to do this surgery lol
@@nneoma1583 i dont even have hollow cheeks neither fat cheeks and i look 10 years older, its depressing
Im selfishly happy that these people have done this to themselves, because i think it might make others see how horrific the results are. Like this is the only body augmentation "trend" that ive seen thats had most people asking why anyone would want that. Although seeing how far people will go to follow a trend, even if its damaging, im not sure if looking weird is enough to keep people from getting this procedure themselves. But hey if they can afford to get surgery to correct it in a few years (when the trends inevitably shift) then its no biggy.. the people who cant though?
Most people don't understand why anyone would inflate their lips to clownish proportions the way some women do these days, either - or ridiculously enlarge their backsides.
@@wendyannhI don’t think that’s true unfortunately. I’m 22 in my last year of college, and I have beautiful friends who insist they’ll get BBL and other surgeries once they can afford it. I really don’t understand why, I am not exaggerating when I say they are already beautiful, but for some reason they feel the need to change and be supposedly perfect. These friends are constantly on social media like Instagram and tiktok so I can only imagine it stems from that
you sound so miserable
Just last night I was like "I wish my cheeks looked like so and so" and this is exactly what I thought of my own face that I need to correct my chubby cheeks. Thank you for this topic. This made me aware of the trend and I definitely feel better now. Not that I was gonna go for a surgery (thanks to my fear of needles too which helps lol) But I don't know i just found this reassuring for myself. I will be embracing my chubby cheeks and not compare it to others'
You know I was first exposed to the idea of this beautiful high fashion women with HIGH cheekbones when I started watching western media more regularly. It also showed in how a lot of people in the west or those living there would do their makeup to enhance their cheekbone shape?? contour??? this buccal fat removal is basically the extreme version of this beauty standard
Good for you!
I look too gaunt in the face when I am not being overweight and that really sucks. I apply light color makeup at most spots where others try to apply dark makeup to make their face look slimmer, basically. I don't like looking severe. If you like looking severe, makeup is usually enough to fix that for most chubby cheeks.
Yes embrace them! They make you look way more youthful.
As we age our skin gets lax so imagine how much more saggy everything’s gonna look when you don’t have any fat to hold it up.
As a skin therapist who works on older skin a lot of women want the fat pads restored so they don’t look tired. That’s why they get filler in the first placez
Your cheeks will thin on their own. Give it time.
I'm so glad I'm 30 and I didn't have to deal with all this when I was young. I can't imagine being bombarded with new things to insecure about every 5 seconds. I definitely had fat cheek until I was like 25. After that my face naturally thinned out.
You said it like being 30 is like you’re 60 or 70. Madonna is almost 70 and she had done that procedure. Is not about age is about plastic surgery mistakes.
@@kimkitty3914 she means that in your early 20s you're more likely to be more insecure about your looks and yourself in general but when you enter your 30th other people's opinions don't matter to you as much so you're more likely to have all those surgeries when you're younger
@@kimkitty3914 My point I was trying to make but I didn't write it very well was that I wasn't as influenced by social media as kids are today. If I wanted to feel bad about myself and be told I was ugly and not good enough, I had to go and buy a fashion magazine.
@@lucyd6094 look at Madonna !!! She’s old but got all those procedures.
😂😂😂 You are young.
My face naturally looks like this and I got called 'horse face' for it all my life... Guess it's just the same lile being naturally very skinny, having ginger hair or even freckles. They make fun of you until this very looks become a trend for a moment... Then afterwards they continue to bully you for that as nothing happened.. lovely
so true my face is long and thin people like what prominent features you have for being so young. and when i am thin because i am slightly chubby now people would say are you a anorexic. or your face looks like a dude also you are so funny looking your face is to long and i would be like sure look in the mirror buddy alot time it wasnt th best looking people saying it all just put it that way.
Horse face 💀💀💀💀 damn they cooked u cuh
Yeah that's so typical. I was bullied relentlessly for having large hips and thighs, called all the names in the book, because at that time the "trend" was superskinny ladies with no ass\hips and low raise jeans. Now that the "thicc" look is trendy, I've been made uncomfortable numerous times by people staring creepily at me at the beach, while at the same time others still mock me.
You can't win when people are just cruel and weird lol
I also was called horse face!! 😂😂😂 now Im a model
@@katherinedelacruz9876 oh my gosh, you are gorgeous!💜
I watch art restorations and the man restoring a piece said “sometimes ok is good enough and perfection is the enemy”. That stuck with me because beautiful women are ruining their natural beauty in the quest for perfection. The only woman I saw who genuinely needed it had excessive fullness at the bottom on her face. It looked like she had an injury she got just enough taken out and it looked wonderful.
The thing that unites all of them is that they didn't have only buccal fat removal but other corrections too. It is a complex psychological problem and not just a trend. I believe talking to a shrink would have had better and long term results for their appearance. Confidence is always more attractive than obvious signs of insecurities, exactly what plastic surgery is.
So true. It's a demonic loop of misery.
@@joannanicholson2540 I agree.
Society should have therapy, too. People are a big reason why women who get surgery have that insecurity.
I was one of those people who seriously, seriously considered getting bucal fat removal. Your videos helped me realize I don't have to. I have these really round cheeks that I always hated (and am still learning to love tbh). All I see are people with cut jawlines and high cheekbones being set at the epitome of beauty. Having round cheeks and not liking to smile bc I always thought my cheeks were too huge is something I have struggled with. But I'm glad I decided against as, at 27, I can actually see my cheeks starting to thin out. I'll be one of those people who blooms in their 30's
You are literally about 3-5 years away from being SO happy you kept them
Keep the buccal fat! Your cheeks will naturally lose volume over time.
I love how it looks on women. It is so feminine, so beautiful. It is a part of our youth since we have those baby faces even at 20 yo. Please, please, hold onto that while you can. You are beautiful as is I'm sure. I really do not like this trend. Personal preference oc. But I just love those round youthful cheeks!
My 65 year old mother has naturally lost her buccal fat with age. She wishes she has it back cause it would make her look younger.
Thank you so much for opposing the masses you're such a lovely inspiration 🥰💕 youre giving whole generations of young women hope
My buccal fat naturally went away in my late 20s. First I was thrilled about the "model look" I must admit. But at some point I remembered that soft cheeks are a really radiating, fresh, cute look and I started missing the fuller cheeks I used to have. If I had removed that fat surgically, my regrets would be terrible. Also, if for some people the fat goes away naturally and they have that surgery, what little cheek substance does that leave them with? Self acceptance is the way to go at any given stage of life, just taking it as it comes. Unfortunately, for most this takes a while to figure out and really feel it.
I used to want a chiseled face but now at 32 I realize my full face translates to youthfulness. Without make up I get 24-25 years old with makeup some people ask me where my parents are. I have "the lowest of the high check bones," got dimples, full lips, wider nose, in the same realm of Adut Akech's features. I have noticed the more chiseled your face looks the "faster," in my opinion, that you look older and gaunt.
Do I love a chiseled face? Absolutely. I just now appreciate what I have and am leaning into hard.
Ur black sit dwn 😂 we age different!
I'm still getting asked for ID to buy alcohol and I'm 27. I used to hate it but now I appreciate the fact that I'll probably be 30 and still getting asked for ID. Feels good to have a cheeky face. No pun intended.
To be completely honest, I have a very hard time liking my round cheeks, I’ve always been on the thin side so it’s really not weight related. But I am 27 and keep being mistaken for a minor, not being taken seriously at work and in general is tough on the nerves. Not to mention I’m Asian so society tends to remind me quite often that surgery exist to « fix my face ».
I’m sorry society makes you feel that way. Ive always thought asian features were gorgeous!
You’re perfect the way you are ❤ these celebrities are a clear example of why we should love ourselves 😅
Don’t do it! I’m 32 and now my buccal fat is nonexistent. I always hated my full face but it goes away. And then you kinda miss haha
I’m 27 and half Asian so I totally understand the round face thing meaning you get mistaken for looking much younger! It’s especially annoying at work. I joke about my grey hair revealing my true age, but I just brush it off because one day I’ll look as youthful as my momma at her age 😊
Round cheeks are gorgeous. If people don’t think you’re beautiful, it’s their loss & they don’t deserve to be around you. Don’t waste your time believing these idiots. Your real friends and family will love you as you are and those are the only people who matter. 💗
These videos keep me grounded! Everyday I go on Instagram and see all these gorgeous faces and wonder why I don’t look like them, only to discover these people don’t even look like this! And if they do they’ve spent thousands on surgery
I almost got this done… I had such a chubby face my whole life no matter my weight and it shattered my confidence. Now I am entering my late 20s my face has naturally started to slim down and I’m SO glad I didn’t do it, I would look crazy as I got older!
If beauty standards weren’t insane and almost unattainable then they wouldn’t be able to make money from our insecurities. As I get older I feel a lot of the brainwashing falling away, I love a natural, healthy, strong and balanced look 💪🏻 (and that is different for everyone!)
In South Korea people try to avoid this look at all cost (because it obviously ages you like crazy).
It also has it’s name: «peanut-face»; loss of volume in the temples and lower face.
I’ve been thinking about going to South Korea to get a facial fat transfer in my forehead and temples because of this!! In America that super chiseled lean faced face is du jour. no surgeon would willingly go for the look that they do in South Korea. And for a fraction of the cost too!
I am so grateful to be surrounded by normal people who don’t get plastic surgery
Me too, but plastic surgery and tweaks are getting more commonplace. Ten years ago it would be the odd celeb but now it’s your average person, work colleagues, friends etc, it’s so toxic isn’t it? X
Why are you so worried about being "normal"? If there is something that you will like to improve about yourself there is no nothing wrong with changing it with PS. I don't see why it's morally superior to stay natural
I'm happy you have found people who support being your natural self, Rebeka. You know, I wish for all people all over the world to be well and happy, and as an African I feel sad for people who have so many resources and yet cannot appreciate/enjoy them because there is so much pressure on them to conform to an ideal standard dictated by marketing. I personally know people living off less than USD$10 a day who are happier than Bella Hadid and people who feel unattractive because they can't afford enough protein to maintain what is considered a respectable body mass here. (That's right; they want to be fatter; not thinner.) I'm not trying to guilt anyone, but I feel like living here puts into perspective how unnatural this drive for physical perfection and eternal youth really is, and how beautiful a normal, perfectly imperfect everyday person on the street with a smile and a happy heart really can be.
I am so thankful for you Stephanie. Years ago I started noticing my "chubby cheeks" and realized what buccal fat was and that there is a surgery to remove it. I was insecure about my "chubby cheeks" until recently when celebrities started getting this surgery. Now I'm rolling my eyes and thankful that I can rest secure in my naturally, God-given beautiful buccal fat. Thank you for being so outspoken and passionate about loving ourselves as we are, Stephanie
I was a freshman in HS when my mom turned 44 in the early 2000s. I have always had extremely chubby cheeks and back then when I would look at my moms beautiful face I wondered why I didn't inherit her sculpted cheekbones and jawline. At some point I noticed myself lose that last round of baby fat at around age 19 and my face started to slim around the cheeks and chin. My 40 year old face will probably look like her's did at 40. My mom is 60 now and her face is more sculpted than ever.
My point is that as we age, we naturally loose buccal fat. Look at a baby vs an elderly person. If you remove it in your 20s, you're going to have a very extreme look at 40.
Glassawata, you are right about the natural aging process and I'm glad for you that you're againg like your mother, as you wished. But even if you weren't, it wouldn't make you any less of a person. (I have a very tall, blonde fair mother with a perfectly oval face and symmetrical features, non-hooded green eyes and fair skin that never scarred nor developed stretch marks after carrying three healthy children or attaining the age of 70. She could honestly have been a model if she didn't have a degree and a professional career. I am shorter and darker with a round face, hooded grey eyes and asymmetrical features, a yellowish skin full of scars and stretch marks and brown hair liberally streaked with grey. ((My mom still has gloriously thick, naturally blonde hair.)) I don't have a degree either, and to this day people always call her beautiful and me cute, at best. But I'm happy in my skin because I have qualities that can't be seen that she doesn't.
the way your videos have helped with my self esteem is astounding, thank you for another great video Stephanie!
The salivary gland damage one is so important! You can get cysts that fully block the gland and more surgeries increase the chance of more cysts, people end up with deformed and swollen faces.
Thank you so much for your videos and taking this topic on. I was starting to feel like I'm the only one who's even noticing that this is happening. I'm 50 now and it's so cool to see my face as I'm changing with age. I keep wondering if these people will wish they knew what their faces would actually look like. They'll never know. It removes so much poetry from life IMO.
As an owner of a chubby face who was bullied for it excessively as a child- I love it. My face is the physical manifestation of the genes of my indigenous ancestors and I couldn't be more proud to look the way I do ❤️
Wear your face proudly! 💖
I love the way you always get the balance right between challenging the trends and not attacking those who have the surgery
Thank you, Stephanie, for all that you do to call these people out. I seriously don't understand removing fat from the face when all of us older folks are trying to appear more round and full in our faces.
Hoping that you will add in more makeup application videos on your channel!
I was considering the procedure, but you're right that these trends come and go. Thanks, Stephanie!
It’s like with Madison Beer. She was so naturally beautiful and it appears she has had all this work done. It’s too much! Cut this, pluck that, add this, lift that, pull this, fill that.
I think she only did lip fillers tho
I don't think she got a lot of work done tho, it looks like she only got lip fillers ans she wears a lot of makeup.
not with her
I grew up with a very full face, even at my thinnest. I wanted this when I was in my late teens. Now that I'm almost 30 I am so grateful I didn't. As I've aged my cheeks have gotten a little smaller and my buccal fat pads have dropped slightly. I feel like if they had been removed my face would look a lot more aged.
I’m glad my face is round. I may look like a cabbage patch kid, but I’m going to look like a kid for another 25 years. Adjunct my deeply melanated skin, a good skin care regime, and healthy lifestyle. Yea we in there. Be you yall.
You've got it figured out!!
Folks be thinking my 50 year old parents are 30. That's good news for me
@@levithebaddest2369 yahh
I remember wanting buccal fat removal as a teenager because I felt like my face looked too big/round. I was so self conscious about it. Now that I’m almost thirty, I’m so glad I never got it done. I get compliments on how young I look all the time.
Not only is it absolutely pointless, but it's also dangerous to remove your buccal fat. You lose so many cells that help your body recover quickly. Without it your immune system is so much more vulnerable and your face gets older way quicklier
No wonder celebs are getting IV done for their immune 😅
@Clodagh W celebs do IV for all sorts of different things, even an IV for preventing the risk of tanning from being outdoors so they can stay paler with less effort (Colorism 🤮). (It's called "Cinderella Drip", glutathione + vit c + some more stuff)
@@Call-me-Al preventing a tan on skin is not colorism. I prevent tans on my skin at all costs because I don’t want skin damage.
Oh damn
What cells are you talking about and do you have a source for this? I don't think you understand how the immune system works
As a person with an extremely low self-esteem, I thank you, Stephanie, for making me believe in myself and value my natural features. You are the most beautiful person I know!
Teraphy.
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You can do more than you think. You are more than you think.
This type of surgery was very popular in Brazil years ago, but it got to the point that the all the media (all around the country) had to make reports to alert the risks and consequences of the surgery. I remember there were interviews and reports from patients about how sorry they were after their face started to "melt". Like, not even a year after the procedure, their face started to age fast AF do the the fact of the fat removal. It was crazy as hell.
As someone who, through illnesses and meds, lost a fair amount of buccal fat, I have to say ~ This senseless/insane butchery will definitely become "aging" as the years tick away. They become gaunt and hollow and very unattractive ~ as well as providing a premature aging effect.
This is beyond bonkers 🤯
Love ya guts 💞🌟💞🌟💞🌟💞
Thank you for bringing these trends back to reality. Its ok to do change yourself to feel better about things you don't like, but then it becomes the norm to look like this which is not fair on everyone else. It's not healthy to think you have eto look like these celebs to be beautiful. i love how you embrace beauty in different forms, because its the truth!
I have the exact kind of face that celebs seem to be getting buccal fat removal done on, and I think it's super sad/wish some of them would wait until they're older to see how they age. I used to be self concious of my wide/chubbier face, but have found that, as I age, what bothered me so much at one time is naturally diminishing/looking more hollowed on its own, and I'm only 27. I feel this is one of those surgeries with high potential for regret as faces generally slim/hollow out with age.
Yes, if they had talked to any woman age 30+, they would have been told to never do this surgery
You so hit the nail on the head, on everything!!! It's so frikken ridiculous, and truthfully, those who have these procedures done look horrible! They don't look like themselves, they only look older, not younger and it's sad. It's VERY sad!! Starlets of the past who grew older without any surgeries ALWAYS look better and YOUNGER than those who go under the knife. It's a sad time where we're acting more like the herd than strong, confident individuals. I love you! You are so wonderful and genuine ❤ 💕 💖
I always hated my chubby cheeks/ round face, now ive accepted them and I keep telling myself that it will make me look younger as I grow, I mean I am 23 and people think I am 16
23 is nothing. Wait til after 35 then you will notice real changes...
same here. on my 21st birthday, I went to a restaurant to celebrate and they gave me a kid's menu with crayons lmfao
@@sillidill5227 if you look old after 35 then you’re probably not taking care of yourself
@@valerieb4446 or your genetics are just like that. don't assume shit.
Just waiting until the day I turn 40... I'm 23 too lol. But I would say I just control the heck out of my face now instead of doing surgery. Everyone underestimate the power of makeup
I’ve always had a little bit more of a round face and I don’t like it, so I had a consultation with a plastic surgeon at the beginning of the year and she really warned me about being sure I wanted this procedure because she said as you age it’ll make you look older than you actually are since you don’t have that natural fat to lose anymore. I chickened out and didn’t get it done so now that this topic has kind of blown up I’m happy with my decision lol
It’s awesome that you post videos on RUclips every day for the last few days 😊
It's been lovely, definitely needed it this week!
When I was a teenager, I wanted SO much surgery, I had a list of procedures I wanted to get when I had the money, including BBL, brow lift, lip and jaw filler, neck fat dissolving, breast lift, fake teeth, and probably more that I can’t remember off the top of my head
Now I’m my 20s, I’m SO GLAD I was broke at 18 and couldn’t afford to do any of it, and left my natural looks alone
I wanted a the biggest breast implants in my late teens early 20s but incredibly happy I wasn't able to afford it. Now older, wishing my b cup was an a😁
literally why i stopped following trends when i was like 16, it's unattainable and life is too short to look like everyone else, embrace your unique style, be eccentric and kind and welcome aging with open arms - not many get the privileges of grey hairs and smile lines
Exactly. The current life expectancy in my country is 62.8 years, thanks to us being able to manufacture our own antiretrovirals, and the majority of our population is under9 years old so there aren't many naturally grey-haired people out there. (At the peak of the AIDS epidemic it was my current age, 43.) So grey hairs and smile lines are indeed a privilege and the trends are only there to sell product. When I think of my beloved late grandmothers, their eccentricities, kindness and wisdom that they attained with aging and living full lives come to mind, not how much buccal fat they did or didn't have.
Yes, I’m very much a fan of ppl accepting themselves and not trying to follow beauty trends. Workout, be healthy, do you hair, wear makeup if ya want. Get cute!
But please do not do these insane alterations 😩 It’s just not healthy for society. I’m over it. So glad I’ve never had any cosmetic work done !
@@greenpawssa8968 Where do you live? 62 is kind of low for a life expectancy
@@levithebaddest2369 , Johannesburg, South Africa, and am South African which makes me African (although I've been blessed to have traveled a lot through my work and seen different societies with different perspectives. :-) ) 62 isn't great compared to first-world countries but isn't too shabby at all compared to some other African nations (or to our own country pre affordable antiretroviral drugs.) (That sounds like a boast. I'm not boasting because it's tragic.) Please feel free to AMA and I will gladly respond to the best of my knowledge and make my perspective as neutral as possible.
@@levithebaddest2369 , just to explain why I'm here, I subscribe to the amazing Stephanie Lange because even here, in what is sadly still the world's most unequal society, I see the destructive influence of unrealistic beauty standards on people's (already hard enough) lives, and I myself get people (random males, my own uncles and brothers or my mother and/or Aunties) trying to push those standards on me because our society is sexist AF, and I have the added advantage of being able to remember a different time, so I can't imagine how hard it must be for people who don't have that luxury. I am also raising my 2 daughters, 14 and 12, to understand that what you see on the media isn't necessarily real. (Also, the surname "Lange" is quite common in South Africa, although we pronounce it more like "Lung-er", so I guess that attracts me too...)
These young women will regret this down the line! The full, soft cheeks denote youth, and will inevitably shrink in over time. I'm 60 now, and the fullness of my cheeks kept me looking younger for years (imo). Save your money for when gravity starts pulling at your jowls (almost guaranteed)! That's what I'd have attended to if I could afford it! Madonna looks alien now (she's only 4 years older than me) but her rounded cheeks kept her looking young & beautiful until she started this obsession with the surgery. Great videos Honey, what you're doing is awesome for vulnerable girls self esteem! 💖
I wonder what’s going to happen when this look isn’t the beauty standard anymore, because I don’t think this procedure is reversible
they're gonna have to get fillers or fat transfer
I hopped on here to talk about the aging effect of fat removal, but you ladies got my back for calling this out. I'm very pro-cosmetic procedures but this trend legit makes me sad because the after pics look so dour. It looks like their light was snubbed out, as if they were physically ill :/
Yeah I’m also pro do whatever tf you want but this is one I just know people will eventually regret if anti aging is at all important to them
Yes. It looks like they have had long term drug abuse. And I don’t know why anyone would want to look that way.
@@WilliamsPinch heroin chic 🥲
This is insane to me, because not only is a rounded, fuller face associated with youth, but it also associated with femininity. Women tend to natural have softer, rounded features and men tend to have more angular and chiseled features. It’s shocking that these feminine identifying women are actually making their faces look older and more masculine
Perfectly said.
Key word. Masculine
I just watched Dr Gary Linkov's video on your video. LOVED it. I had to come here and see the whole thing. I am now subscribed! You are amazing.
I love it “why are we doing this to our faces and for whom”? These self reflective question are what is needed. Instead of trying to accept and understand themselves, people just want to change their physical appearances. Sad
I can't stress enough how HELPFUL your videos are! I follow a lot of the celebrities you mentioned and I swear I didn't notice some of the changes they had done to themselves, which is really scary and dangerous. You open my eyes with every video you make, please don't stop making them! It is a huge help for women today but also for little girls! Thank you so so much
As someone who has this swollen chipmunk face (im 31 now btw) i did look into this surgery, but it makes people look more mature and has a risk of permanent nerve dammage, also the result is quite extreem while i was looking for something subtile. Decided to keep my chipmunk look 😊
And I know you look great with that look :)))) !!!!
From a fellow chipmunk face, well done! 😅 God knows I considered it too, but I realised there will always be new trends coming out that I will forever keep comparing myself to.
Is there no way to make old beans soft?
I’m so glad people are making these videos educating on the downsides of these trends. For so long I was obsessed with getting my buccal fat removed because as you said, it seemed this really quick and easy procedure. TikTok especially was really toxic for my mental health with all the BFR videos popping up every 2 secs. The best thing we can all do is love ourselves and work on our self-esteem 🙏
I'm in my 30's as well, and throughout my teens and 20's I had a very round face with chubby cheeks. I always hated it because it made me look "cute" rather than "sexy" by societal standards. Now, like some other comments have said, a lot of that fat has disappeared in the natural aging process; my face is thinner and the cheekbones are defined. We naturally lose roundness in our face as we age, so I worry that people who take the fat out so young will end up looking gaunt later. My face changed a lot naturally from teens to 20's to 30's and will continue to do so. It's so tough being held to impossible changing beauty ideals, and no age group is exempt from this pressure! Love your channel and your message💗
Man I LOVE my cheek chub!! Full cheeks make you look youthful!! I think within the next 10 years, I’ll get my jowls tightened. I don’t want to look 50. But removing my cheeks?? No thanks, I’ll keep my human face.
LOUDER APRIL!!!!!!
Stephanie!!! I'm new and wasn't aware you are pregnant, Congrats! You are so sweet and genuine. Much luck with the baby. They change your life in ways one cannot explain. Great video as well.
The dark hair color on you looks stunning, totally beautiful 🤩 ❤
The first time I heard about buccal fat removal is when Mary Kate Olsen had it done. She's still gorgeous but I feel it aged her beyond her years. I also just want to say that I'm so grateful your channel exists Stephanie, you do wonders for self esteem 💕
The same example came to my mind. Considering the ageism in Hollywood, looking younger will allow actresses to keep working for longer. Look at Jennifer Aniston, who had very full cheeks when she was in her early 20s - she's in her fifties and still getting cast as the main character in rom coms.
Did she actually? I though she had an eating disorder?
I love you steph thank you so much- these celebs make me feel so embarrassed of my fuller face x
I used to dislike my cheeks back in my 20's, and thought of getting buccal fat removed but since my dad's a dentist he'd always criticized women who did that for the aged look it gave them. Glad I didn't do it. And you know what make this trend even worse? Women are injecting fillers or having cheek and chin implants (like Lea Michele I suppose) which makes their faces proportions all effed up, unfortunately :(
I've always been annoyed by my big cheeks but now that I'm in my 30s, they're turning into an advantage.