This is one of the best co-sleeping videos that I’ve watched! Thank you!!! The moment I became a mom and started losing so much sleep, something didn’t seem right. I wondered, “Why would God have us care for a human on 1-2 hours of sleep each night and expect us to protect and take care of our children well?” So that’s when I started researching and I realized that co-sleeping is the most natural way to have your baby sleep and it makes so much sense! Before having my baby, I was against co-sleeping and now I can’t imagine having my son sleep in his own room when he is this little. Thank you for this video and for doing all the research ❤️
I hate the fact that bed sharing is seen as controversial. It’s completely natural but for some reason, we’re against it in the western world. It’s ok to snuggle up to your partner but your baby’s got to sleep on their own? It’s so refreshing to see someone else talking about it openly x
I completely agree. I researched if any other mammals did this - nope. Why do we sleep with our partners and leave a little vulnerable baby out alone in a bed? If animals did this, they'd lose their young to predators. It's crazy how the media can change the perception of the world on such simple topics and make them taboo. 🤯 thanks for watching and for your comment 🙏
I love co-sleeping and bed sharing. As a midwife, it seems like there is also a connection between bed sharing and lower cases of postpartum depression. This appears to simply be because the mothers get more sleep. The right amount of sleep improves mental, emotional and physical health. As a mother, I love bed sharing because I'm so close to my little one. I can feed him in my sleep and I am close enough to easily wake up if he has a need. Thank you for this educational video :)
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤ I'm so happy you found the video educational - coming from a midwife that's a total compliment 😊 it also makes a lot of sense, I never had problems sleeping and neither did my son so I can totally relate to what you're saying. I see so many moms struggling and I'm like ugh it could be so simple! We are programmed to not sleep with our babies for some reason. I'm glad I opted for this (I did not plan on co sleeping at all) it just felt right. I feel like every moment spent with my kids is a blessing 🙌✨ thanks so much for your support 🙏
I baught a crib to put next to our bed but our newborn would scream the moment we would put him there. Then I brought him to our huge bed and he slept much better woke up for feeeds and slept right back again. Now we only bed share and we love it. I tried to sleep couple of nights myself in a different room away from my baby to get some sleep but I was the one who couldn't sleep unless I was next to my baby too. It's mother nature I guess. Why seperating the babies so early from mothers? Why Western society pushes so much for independence? They will soon not want to bedshare anymore cause they will want their own room, until then I cherish these moments.
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤ I tried the crib beside the bed too. I couldn't get up due to c section and I found myself getting up every 15 min worried. So I brought him in our huge bed and the rest is history. We sleep amazing and stress free ❤ totally agree with you !! Have a great day!
this video was amazing ! i’m a new mom and i wouldn’t say i was ever against co sleeping or bed sharing because my mother bed shared with me. but when i had my son i was very determined to “safe sleep” not realizing you can practice safe sleep and also bed share. i’ve been trying him in his bassinet right beside my bed and he still doesn’t like it. i put him in the bed with me a couple nights ago because i just needed like an hour of sleep and i knew he would if he was beside me. after that hour of sleeping with him. i had this wholesome feeling and just realized i loved sleeping with him right beside me in my arms. i tried his bassinet again last night and he still didn’t like it so i tried the bed sharing and i’m more rested than i have been since i had him 3weeks ago. on top of that it felt so natural, like in my heart i know that’s how me & him are meant to sleep. i’ve kind of been fighting it because i don’t want to put him in harms way. but i know how aware my body keeps me even while sleeping and after watching this video and doing research of my own. i feel more confident and am definitely leaning way more towards bed sharing & still working on his co sleeping, but now i don’t feel like a bad mother if his bassinet doesn’t work out. thank you for taking the time out to make this video and share the knowledge! xoxo 🤎
Oh my goodness ❤this makes me so happy. I was also never going to bedshare / cosleep. But it just feels right. Also it's important to know that most cases of infant death in cribs are automatically counted as SIDS, and the little number of cases where infant die while co sleeping are usually ruled as co sleeping deaths right away so we can't really trust the numbers as they are misrepresented. Also most cases of co sleep related deaths are from parents under the influence of either alcohol or drugs which let's be honest is not realistic. I'm so happy you feel rested. I've never had a problem sleeping since. My baby also sleeps really well in any bed for naps - without me so I wouldn't worry about what anyone says. ❤❤ you're an amazing mama ❤ you do you girl xox thanks for taking the time to share XOX
I love seeing this, babies are so vulnerable and want to feel safe. Co-sleeping stops a baby from feeling unsafe and its good to look after your child.
I love the logical way you present information according to nature and research. This video was so helpful for me as a new mom who is constantly told bed sharing is a dangerous no-no, but bed sharing and breastfeeding throughout the night has always felt right to me.
Grateful for this video! I’ve gotten scolded in every hospital I delivered for sleeping with my babies. I have some much anxiety surrounding co sleeping but I do it anyway because it feels natural and we both sleep better that way
I love this. I've felt like it's a dirty little secret to keep from my child's pediatrician because if how taboo it is. And ive felt guiltt about it, but we both sleep better when we bedshare. I also think the point you made about the vehicles is so important. The way we treat bed sharing in the west is not risk management, but risk avoidance. We should be presented with all the facts, all the reasearch, given all the risks, and then allowed to make our own decisions.
Same haha! Get a pediatrician that doesn’t mind it. They can’t recommend because of liability reasons but I confidently explained the safe 7 to him - then he admitted his wife did the same lol
My daughter sleeps SO good when I practice safe bed sharing. My husband was against it until he read more on it. We also co-sleep with a bedside bassinet too.
I have bed shared with both my kids, currently sharing with my 4 month old. I love doing it and I don’t care what anyone tells me, it’s what feels good to me!
I co-sleep with my 3 week old baby and it’s so much easier to get up and nurse him. He falls back asleep much easier and so do I. He never stays asleep in his crib and now I know why so glad I don’t have to feel guilty for sleeping with him anymore !!
I'm so happy that works for you. It works for us too ❤ whatever makes your baby and you happy is the best, but yes biologically it makes sense hehe! Both our kids sleep amazing and so do we ! Wishing you all the best and thanks for sharing your story ❤❤
@@OneFamilyOneLove this is reckless endangerment. There is so much bullshit “research” spouted in this I won’t even try, but sure girly, what makes you feel happy is more important than the life of your infant 👏You’re either incredibly naive or lack critical thinking skills, but this “information” is dangerous full stop. No one, but especially you, can “teach safe co-sleeping.” You’re unqualified and encouraging mothers to do something that does not exist in reality, but in your mind. Nothing about this is factual let alone evidence based! Have you ever taken a single course in science? Obviously you have zero interaction with public health research studies, but your “facts” lead me to believe you have zero exposure to real research in any capacity. You’ve cherry picked random statements from the internet to support your personal opinion.
Great video! I think a lot of the issue is people don’t understand exclusive breastfeeding (not a drop of formula even at night) and how it works best. Especially at night when the ‘milkman is called’ as I say. Night feeding is crucial for milk supply and often using formula at night is what impacts supply. The other thing I’m glad you mentioned is how strict you have to be on medications, alcohol etc. A lot of bed sharing and cosleeping accidents and deaths include and don’t differentiate between those who set out to bed share safely and those who did it accidentally on sofas, under the influence, formula fed etc. We need far more research.
Thank you for this video! I have been bed-sharing for the past two months with my 8 month old and this helps me feel more comfortable with my decision. I just wish I would have done it sooner, I had such bad PPA because of the sleep deprivation and gave up on breastfeeding a lot sooner than I wanted to. I hope this information reaches more mothers!
This is an awesome video! This information is so important to get out in the world. When I had my first, I could not let her go. My instinct was to hold her skin to skin 24/7 but I was terrified because I believed that I was supposed to be swaddling her and putting her down. After 3 months of making my husband watch us sleep so that I could hold her all night, I finally found a video much like this one that made me feel sooooo much better! I was finally able to bed share without any guilt! Thank you for spreading this information! ❤
I think RUclips recommended me this because I watched a few videos for my parenting class. This video was really fascinating and eye opening for me though
I’m a first time mom and I have been safely bed-sharing since the day my son was born! I absolutely love it … it feels so natural! I have felt so much pressure to transition out of bed sharing (my son is 10 weeks old), because our western society is obsessed with “training the baby” which I fundamentally disagree with. I had tried my baby in the bassinet beside the bed the last few nights and I hardly slept, nor did my baby! Last night I was so exhausted that I decided I would bring baby into the bed with me again like we were used to… He slept a five hour stretch woke up for a feed, and went right back down to bed for another four hours. It was amazing and I feel so restored and refreshed this morning! More importantly my baby woke up happy as can be and rested!
I hadn’t planned on bed sharing either and here we are still doing it 2.5y later 💫❤️ same for me first night 5h stretch sold me !! Thank you for sharing
Congratulations on your twin boys ❤❤ So happy you like the video! I honestly wouldn't have it any other way hehe!! Sending you lots of love and a great pregnancy 💖
The main argument against co sleeping and bed sharing is not even safety. Everyone i know is trying to say that the baby wont be independent, but has anyone see the current state of American kids? Also, they say what about sleep and your alone time. We are a family with an infant, what alone time is there and why do people think we dont want to be with our baby? The western world is so cold and having a Brazilian wife really shows me that. I envy the warmth of her family and will lose all the sleep in the world if thats what i need to sacrifice.
Very true, also my son is now 3 and sleeps on his own independently every night. He has never cried to come in my bed…. Which is WAY more independent than many kids 😂🙌 I would never give those nights back. I still miss it 🥹
So educational! I love learning about the way we are made and how well our bodies are made to deal with different situations and aspects of life. Great video!!
Thank you so much for watching !! And thank you for your kind words hehe !! I love learning about this stuff too! It amazes me how our bodies do all of this without any learning you know, just pure instinct and just being!! Hope all is well xox
Thank for taking the time to research this subject.❤ I have all these ideas based on what I've grew up knowing and now I am a mom my thoughts have changed on more natural route of raising my child then what "they" say you should do.
100% agree that babies don't cry just to cry - they are trying to communicate something, either a need or a want or discomfort/pain. Manipulation is learned at an older age. I believe that even babies who are a year old and still waking multiple times a night to feed aren't being manipulative - I think it's probably habitual. My mother-in-law was raised in another country, outside of western culture, and was very surprised to hear the strong opinions against co-sleeping and the reason being that your baby could suffocate.... she said "I don't understand how you wouldn't wake up immediately"
Thank you for this video! Co sleeping is so natural and makes everything so much easier for the mother and the baby. My Baby is now 8 months old and I wouldn't want to do it any other way.
1. It's a thing for others to voice that bed sharing is dangerous because suffocation of baby. Your response to this is babies cry out if in distress and in need of something. Yet when a baby is being rolled on or lack of oxygen say a Blanket. There is no cry out. In some cases there are but others and many, the babies end up passing away in silence. Your reason to that is kind of invalid because it may be that the baby either cries out and you fix/move the blanket for better flow of oxygen or you reposition your co sleeping but there is definitely a possibility and a high one at that the baby can just pass away in silence unknowing while the parent is asleep. I co sleep I bed share always have with both my boys but I do consider the risks and I am not oblivious and unknowing to these possible risks. My son sleeps in footie pajamas and I sleep warm as well. We use no blanket in the bed. We have no other body in bed as well for safety precaution. I never was one to kick or roll around and I've always been a light sleeper but I still take into consideration of these cautions and risks. 2. You say Fed is best. I wanted to comment and mention that my son had colic and reflux and he cried constant with passing gas and stools. He was very unhappy for 2 months straight. I was unable to breast feed due to him never latching as I have inverted and flat Nipples! This is another possibility that many women may face when planning to breast feed. So therefore I exclusively pumped. My milk supply was great and strong!! But! I was only able to pump when my husband was home because our colic baby needed to be held and soothed and walked around. I could no longer keep up with supplying my breast milk(which was an extraordinary amount) because the fact that I couldn't pump and hold my baby at the same time, 6 times a day until my husband got home from work. I tried for many weeks to put my son down to pump even if it were just for 5 mins (my pump sessions were always perfect at 10mins though) but even for just a few mins to relieve my engorged breasts and to continue my milk supply I no longer could because over time my sessions got further apart, my son always needed to be held to feel secure and to not cry therefore we had to supplement then altogether use formula. And lastly 3. In this video she mentions that babies cry out because they need something or they're in distress for a reason that they are not trying to manipulate their parents which is very very true! But one thing she said was that parents need to just pick their baby out, figure out whats wrong with the baby and fix it and then "there would be no problem" LOL my first son was like that but my 2nd son absolutely cried due to his colic and passing gas/pooping caused him to shriek and be in pain and etc therefore we couldn't "fix" and make it all better....there is no easy fix. We soothed him and held him and did all the things he loved and we never allowed him to "cry it out" because we knew he was crying for a reason but that reason wasn't something we could fix. It was something we could *momentarily* ease with gas relief remedies and with holding him and walking around but other then that we couldn't fix it, make it go away and get on with our day. I think the take away is this, every body is different as well as every baby. My first? Easy peasy, could fall asleep anywhere and didn't need any "help" to sleep. My 2nd? He was definitely more hands on and we took it day by day. He was a baby that hated the feeling of passing stools and gas, cried if he was put down for a minute, spit up every feed due to his reflux, but we managed and knew there'd be a day where he can poop without worry and pass gas without discomfort and be let down without feeling alone. And he's a happy boy now! In time things get better so those who have babies or are expecting just know that challenges and triumps are part of parenting. There is no easy "fix". ♡
Thank you so much for watching and commenting! Everyone is different and I hope that my video truly showed that this is what worked for me and and for my son and while I do share a lot about our lives it does not mean it is what’s gonna work for others. I just hope that by sharing some moms can relate and I encourage all moms to do their own research and do what’s best for them 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for sharing this information and your experience. I know it is really hard to share things, especially controversial things, that are also personal, but I resonate with the information and being from a family that is typically dysfunctional in all the Western normal ways, I am very benefitted by you sharing your story and research. I think what it ultimately comes down to is, do we have the courage to trust our instincts in spite of the fear-mongering that comes our way? Can our natural mother instincts overcome the narrow minded intellect? Many of the positive responses here on this video are from women who simply could not ignore the cries of their infant, or could not sleep themselves without their child being close to them, and whose natural instincts were able to override the 'rational' advice of 'listen to the experts.' Some will blame co sleeping for a tragedy in their family but the thing that puzzles me is that nothing is a guarantee. Even if sleeping in separate rooms had a genuine statistical benefit (which you rightly discern is not the case), it is not a guarantee that nothing will ever happen to your infant while asleep alone, hence the high SIDS figures we already have, when most babies are not bed shared. Likewise, bed sharing is not a guarantee of total safety either. Life is risky, so, having children is risky. Falling in love is risky. We keep thinking that we can get a 'sure thing' but it doesn't exist. Sadly, when something does happen, natural inborn practices are quick to be blamed, especially by individuals, corporations and institutions which have financial benefit tied up in their rationalistic paradigm. But, when SIDS affects a household that is 'doing everything right' according to conventional allopathic rationalism, then it is just "a sad mystery which has no explanation," let alone preventability. Are we willing to see the fallacy in that? Considering wholistically all of the evidence both empirical and scientific, I would opt for the way of life that MOST nurtures, that MOST loves, that most genuinely gives what is needed, to our children. It's a hard reality of life that nothing is a guarantee but nature gives us the best chances of not only survival but thriving. How could it be any other way, when our species has made it this far on instinct and only in the last few thousand years even flirted with the idea of changing things, barely the blink of an eye in our total evolution?
@@OneFamilyOneLove Oh that's awesome! She's one of us!! Lol! Kaylees / Kayleighs / Kaylies are a good group! Wishing you and your family lots of health, wealth and peace!
I’m curious if some formula companies maybe funded some of the research that is “against” co sleeping. Also even if science recreated the biological mechanism that allows babies to breath in sync with their mama, it doesn’t mean it’s the same or the best. Just because we “can” doesn’t always mean we “should”. Science and technology trying to compete with nature, nature knows best 9/10 times.
Something I have heard in a co-sleeping podcast (not personally researched so unsure on accuracy) is that bed sharing actually becomes more dangerous for a formula fed baby, whereas it is safer than sleeping along for breast fed. The reasons being mainly that an exclusively BF baby and mom sync up in a deeper way, where their sleep cycles match, so when baby is in light sleep and may cry out, so it mom and when mom is in deep sleep and less aware baby is also in deep sleep and not going to move. That same podcast said a big reason why research is so anti-bed sharing is they look at the majority, and since the majority is formula fed (whether exclusively or combo) the research basses of that.
Thank you. Very insightful. I have started bedsharing was a little scared/ felt guilty but after researching the topic more I'm glad I'm doing it. My baby will have many years to sleep in his own bed when he is older 😁
My pleasure ❤ I'm so glad you like it. It feels so good inside to co sleep. It seems so natural. So happy for you. Thank you for watching and sharing your story. We truly appreciate it ❤🙏
AMAZING VIDEO, thank you so much for sharing this!! Love that you included research to empower us (now if only the nay-sayers in our lives would do more research before feeling entitled to force their opinions on us!!)
Thank you so much for your kind comments!! I’m so happy you liked it 🥰 we still Co sleep 17 months later and guess what - I’ve never ever had to stay up all night 😂 we all sleep amazing 🤩
Thank you for reminding us about our natural instincts❤️All those rules about baby sleep only bring more stress to new moms. In my culture (Africa) it is normal to sleep with the baby and to keep it on the back or in the arms while going about your day. But in Western culture they try to give so many instructions to moms they are more confused. I agree with you we feel worse when we try to go against nature🙂
Thank you for making this video. I’ve bed shared with my daughter since she was born. Following the safe 7 sleep. I’m about to have my second so I will be bed sharing with a toddler and a new born. I have a California king. Very useful to have a big bed.
I currently bed share with my baby and toddler sometimes (he loves his own bed) I transitioned him while I was pregnant! When he sleeps with us I put my newborn on the other side of me to prevent them rolling on each other ❤️ congrats mama ❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words. I always hoped someone watching would feel exactly that: love. I wouldn’t change my bed sharing and breastfeeding journey for anything 🥰😍 so happy for you and your daughter 🥰
I come from a long line of bedsharing, nobody in my family who doesn’t bedshare, I don’t know anyone outside of the family who doesn’t bedshare. The cultural norm in Asia is to bedshare I personally bed shared well into my primary school years, which is also the cultural norm. People bedshare at least until children enter primary school. Children start to ask for privacy and their own room around 8yo. Children younger than primary school age in another room by themselves(especially overnight) is seen as unsafe. Also, children go to bed at the same time as the parents, around 9 or 10pm. Children are not put to bed at 7pm! If you do that of course they are going to wake up at 3 am! A few years ago sleeptraing became a fad, because people want to adopt the ‘more advanced’ western way of child rearing, and a baby girl died during cry it out, literally dropped dead with blood coming out of her nose and mouth. It made the news, and the fad was put to a stop I suspect the high ‘Sids’ rate in the west a lot of them are just babies couldn’t take the extreme stress and pain of crying it out and dropped dead.
I think it’s such a myth to say cosleeping/bedsharing children will never want to get out of your bed. I was never pushed, but by my own pace I wanted my own room and space when I was 8yo, I have friends who wanted it earlier, who wanted it later, but by the end of primary school no one want to sleep in the same room with their parents anymore. And I don’t have sleep dependency, I like to sleep alone, I don’t even like to have my dog in the room. The difference is, I was never afraid of the dark, and never worried about monsters when I was a kid. I think it’s such a sad and lonely phenomenon children in the west have to face that by themselves and couldn’t ask for their parents, they can only hug stuffed animals🥶
This video is so awesome. I’m currently pregnant with my first and really want to co sleep but I have been so nervous about it! Do/did you literally keep your baby right in your bed or did you use any kind of co sleeper in bed with you? I know there are a lot of people who say to use something like the doc a tot, and others say not to use it.
Thank you so much! I kept him in my bed. I used a pillow called SleepTight Baby which just kept him lifted a bit when small. It was also easy to bring around with me so he could sleep virtually anywhere (couch, any bed) ! I still co sleep and it feels so natural. I’ve also never had a restless night.. EVER lol 😆 our kids and us sleep amazing ! I truly believe it leads to a healthier sleep cycle even for later on ! And as a mom it keeps your heart at peace ❤️
Thank you I'm in the exact same boat! Pregnant, FTM and want to bed share but wanting to do it safely and in my head I had imagined like a dock a tot type of setup but it's so hard to know where to go for advice on this. It's so unfortunate how taboo the subject is. 😕
@@OneFamilyOneLove so helpful! How long did you continue to use the Sleep Tight Baby? Was it only for when he was tiny or....? Do you currently use anything or do you have him literally right next to you in bed?
I’ve been bed sharing with my baby since he was born and he is now close to 6 months old. It has been the most amazing thing for me and my baby. I’m just curious how long everyone is bed sharing in terms of the age of their baby, how are you guys dealing with mobility of your babies as they start to get older, naps (are you all napping with your babies?) and how/when do you safely make the transition? I really don’t want to stop bed sharing so just curious about everyone’s thoughts.
i like to talk about a problem of house narrowness. in my country, many young couples cannot afford to rent an apartment that has lots of rooms and think it is wasteful to put 2 or 3 beds in one room since each room is narrow. people do not care about co-sleeping and bed-sharing. let alone its not necessary to distinguish co-sleeping from bed-sharing. but people also know about possibility of dangerous and tragic accidents can occur when an infant is less than 12 months. people use a futon cushion/mattress directly on the floor for the infant. im not a salesman of a baby goods. haha
I’m wondering what about baby sleeping on chest throughout the night? This is one of the ONLY ways my newborn will sleep, I was originally scared of bed-sharing, but now it’s become a necessity for us, and she’ll sleep on my chest…
You know best what works for you and baby - I personally don’t move at all when I sleep so I have had my babies sleep on my chest! They eventually grow out of it 🫶🏽 safe C position is recommended to prevent any rolling
Props to you for doing all of this research! Whether someone agrees with you or not, you deserve a lot of credit for putting in that work. I have a 16 day old baby and I never wanted to bed share. But with the lack of sleep we’ve both been getting, I’m considering it. And I’m scared!
Thank you 🙏 honestly go with your gut and research the ways of safe bed sharing. For me it was to prop up baby and no blankets / pillows near baby + always keep baby higher up than you (my face would look at his chest) for reference. These are my personal tips 💕
How do you safely bed share? What are the things that help you? I was against it but I cannot sleep unless he’s with me and I am not sure on to how safely bed share because we do use covers, pillows and our bed isn’t huge but there is extra room. I don’t know if it’s even possible to safely bed shared but I’d like to learn
Thank you for this video. Im so nervous about how to cosleep with my baby. Every single baby in my family has co slept as we come from india and there thats how its done. No one even thinks before doing this there coz space is limited and people dont have the luxury of a crib in their rooms. Can u please share whether u did bed sharing or if u did co sleeping in a bassinet. I want to bed share and i cant figure out if i need to put the baby in the bassinet or on the bed next to me on some sort of pillow. What did u do please?
Hello! Thank you so much for sharing your story. Every baby is different and everyone has their ways for sure. I tried a bassinet near my bed, but it did not work for me as I had a c section and couldn’t get up very fast. I was also checking on my baby every 15 mins and not sleeping well. Bed sharing worked best for us. I put him on a special pillow to elevate him and we only have 1 blanket in our bed. I used the same pillow for him to nap on the couch / crib etc so he is used to the same comfort everywhere. I stopped using the pillow around 8-9m. He still sleeps with us at 15 months and we love it 😍 I wouldn’t worry too much, as a mom it will become an instinct and you will know in your heart what makes you guys happy 😊
Hi! I've bed sharred with my 9 months old since he was 4,5 months old. He used to be sleeping in his cot (& sleep well) until the regression hit. It was very hard as our MCH nurse always tells us to never co-sleep/bed sharring and she kinda judges us when I told her I bed sharred (it makes me scared of her judgement) but it's the only way to get my baby to sleep?? Please if you can tell me whether it will give bad effect if I keep bed sharring with my baby? I also breastfeed him to sleep because he keeps crying if I don't.. Maybe I did something wrong at the beginning?? I'm not sure.. I'm just sad (& slightly depressed) to know about the nurse's rules.
Your baby needs to be soothed by you ❤️ you’re doing everything right mama. Don’t listen to outsiders trust your instincts- while always staying safe of course. You cannot spoil a baby of breast milk nor love ❤️
I coslept with my first in South America where I’m from. Now with my second I decided to try out the sleep training on the crib and stuff. Sorry but I’m officially giving up at 5 months. It’s just way too much. I don’t know how women in Europe make it really.
It’s basic common sense. I don’t know why we are so disconnected from our intuitive wisdom: babies sleep with their parents. It’s healthy, it’s natural, it’s important for healthy attachment and a sense of safety. Same goes for breastfeeding- babies eat from breasts, not bottles!!! Please don’t have babies if you will not educate yourself properly and actually raise your kids and love them like you should. Look at all indigenous cultures around the globe, NONE of them force babies to sleep alone or feed them from plastic bottles. Think people.
While when I do these videos I'm never directly telling people what to do or not to do, I do agree that nature's way of doing things is *usually* the best and most effective way. There are far more benefits that arise from following nature's way. I do believe we are brought up to be very disconnected from our bodies and from humans in general. Empathy is a beautiful thing. I feel for all these babies being brought up in such an unnatural way. It's not always about surviving, but more about thriving. Thank you so much for your comment and support. ❤
I have raised three children. We never co-slept, and two of them were bottle fed only. They grew up in a loving, caring environment and are healthy, happy adults. We are all adults and make our own decisions. I personally do not care if mothers co-sleep, breast feed, or both, or none of these. But everything has pros and cons, and that includes co-sleeping, as I have personally observed in my family, e.g. children wanting to sleep with parents at 12 years old, or more, and a 3 months old baby falling out of the bed on his head when mom nodded off for a split second while nursing. He was fine, except for a huge bump. Could have been worse, though.
*Infant deaths from co-sleeping are skyrocketing in the US in 2023. This is seen mostly in the black community, already most vulnerable to US housing policies, driven by a sharp increase in the # of people per home during the pandemic.* Multi-family and multigenerational households have been increasing for years in low income black and brown communities, and its not because its what makes mothers happy. Mothers in our most vulnerable populations are co-sleeping because they have no other options. They don’t have enough physical room for safe sleeping, and many children have died because of it. This isn’t cultural, as you say, its survival. Maybe journal your opinions about western culture, but in the US it’s critically important to follow pediatric guidelines and not strangers on the internet when it comes to the health and safety of children.
Actually most countries around the world co sleep - nothing to do with money. It’s a choice and to each their own 😘 USA has one of highest sids deaths and they’re not from co sleeping per say. Lots of other factors such as western medical system and etc etc xox
I am planning to co-sleep with my first baby and I am wondering if you have to feed on both sides in every feed. What about burping? :) But what I am getting is that it’s okay to just feed on one breast and continue sleeping. Please share.
Hi, I have a 3-week old baby and am a first time mom too! First thing I’ll say is, I planned on breastfeeding too, but it didn’t go as planned (she never latched right, a lot of pain, etc.) so I switched to exclusively pumping. That said, I hope breastfeeding goes well for you but I have info for both! I didn’t plan on bed sharing but she literally doesn’t sleep unless she’s on me or held, so we’ve been sleeping together for a week now. On burping, if you are breastfeeding, I’ve been told burping is optional…. So you wouldn’t have to wake up at night to burp! With my bottle-fed baby, I have to burp her because milk definitely flows a lot faster than if she were breastfed, so I still have to wake up throughout the night to pump and feed her when she wakes up (as long as your baby is gaining weight, my pediatrician said no need to wake them up when they’re sleeping!)
I don’t burp at night - BUT at first I did BF her on her side as opposed to her back just in case air would get in since she did not latch well. My son latched perfectly but my daughter no. I switch boobs yes - the first 3 months your body produces non stop. After 3 months it regulates to what your baby needs. Throughout the day I feed more with my left and I feed more with my right at night. Whatever feels best ! Usually if your baby wakes up abruptly and kind of wiggles they may have a burp - you’ll get to know the cues ❤️❤️
Hey! I definitely recommend doing your research 🧐 but here’s how I did and am still doing almost 2 years later. I used a pillow from Sleep tight baby that has low sides on it (unlike the snuggle me and dock a tot) I used it up until about 8-9 months to elevate my son and keep him from rolling. I positioned him so he was high so I would move up to BF him and then he was always out of the blankets (we don’t use a sheet only 1 top comforter) so it’s very easy to manage and we never had an issue at all! A plus with that pillow is that you can put it anywhere after even when traveling and your baby feels like they’re sleeping in the same bed as always! We travelled lots and it helped. Made our life very easy 😇❤️ hope this helps I honestly couldn’t imagine sleeping without my son. It brings peace to our hearts.
Hi, thanks so much for this info, it’s so useful. I’m a complete newbie to this, so I was wondering, after 8 months, do you just place the baby on the mattress next to you without one of these baby nests? Thanks so much in advance
I'm sorry you feel this way. This is not to get views, but rather to raise awareness and share our tips & tricks. Thank you for your comment and have a nice day 😊
I don’t comment on videos typically because I don’t like confrontation… but please understand as much as there can be benefits there is also risks. My daughter passed away from SIDS while bed sharing with me. I had to put my 2 month and 10 day old baby to rest for this. Please please understand why they make “safe sleep” guidelines for a reason.. bless you all. 💔🪽
@@rinkytinky92she was suggesting bedsharing 9:51 . Stop gaslighting this woman who is trying to raise awareness. We live in a day and age where we don’t accept babies dying as simply unfortunate, we have the research to do our best to prevent it in most cases (unfortunately in rare cases there’s nothing that can be done still.)
I’ve been bed sharing with my baby since he was born and he is now close to 6 months old. It has been the most amazing thing for me and my baby. I’m just curious how long everyone is bed sharing in terms of the age of their baby, how are you guys dealing with mobility of your babies as they start to get older, naps (are you all napping with your babies?) and how/when do you safely make the transition? I really don’t want to stop bed sharing so just curious about everyone’s thoughts.
For myself I bed shared with my son until 2.5 and still do occasionally now. The transition was with a floor bed in our room - same blankets and sheets as our bed to make it familiar ❤️ my husband still sleeps with him from time to time they love it ( I have a new baby) and sometimes we all share a bed haha 😆
This is one of the best co-sleeping videos that I’ve watched! Thank you!!! The moment I became a mom and started losing so much sleep, something didn’t seem right. I wondered, “Why would God have us care for a human on 1-2 hours of sleep each night and expect us to protect and take care of our children well?” So that’s when I started researching and I realized that co-sleeping is the most natural way to have your baby sleep and it makes so much sense! Before having my baby, I was against co-sleeping and now I can’t imagine having my son sleep in his own room when he is this little. Thank you for this video and for doing all the research ❤️
Cheers to good sleep ❤️🫶🏽 thank you so much !!
I hate the fact that bed sharing is seen as controversial. It’s completely natural but for some reason, we’re against it in the western world. It’s ok to snuggle up to your partner but your baby’s got to sleep on their own? It’s so refreshing to see someone else talking about it openly x
I completely agree. I researched if any other mammals did this - nope. Why do we sleep with our partners and leave a little vulnerable baby out alone in a bed? If animals did this, they'd lose their young to predators. It's crazy how the media can change the perception of the world on such simple topics and make them taboo. 🤯 thanks for watching and for your comment 🙏
Agreed …it’s so backward!!
Well your partner can maintain their own airway, which a baby can’t
My grandson passed away at 10 months old from co sleeping 😢😢 October 18 2023
Depends where in the western world! In the UK, germany and spain (that I know of) it’s sometimes recommended if you meet certain criteria
I love co-sleeping and bed sharing. As a midwife, it seems like there is also a connection between bed sharing and lower cases of postpartum depression. This appears to simply be because the mothers get more sleep. The right amount of sleep improves mental, emotional and physical health.
As a mother, I love bed sharing because I'm so close to my little one. I can feed him in my sleep and I am close enough to easily wake up if he has a need.
Thank you for this educational video :)
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤ I'm so happy you found the video educational - coming from a midwife that's a total compliment 😊 it also makes a lot of sense, I never had problems sleeping and neither did my son so I can totally relate to what you're saying. I see so many moms struggling and I'm like ugh it could be so simple! We are programmed to not sleep with our babies for some reason. I'm glad I opted for this (I did not plan on co sleeping at all) it just felt right. I feel like every moment spent with my kids is a blessing 🙌✨ thanks so much for your support 🙏
I baught a crib to put next to our bed but our newborn would scream the moment we would put him there. Then I brought him to our huge bed and he slept much better woke up for feeeds and slept right back again. Now we only bed share and we love it. I tried to sleep couple of nights myself in a different room away from my baby to get some sleep but I was the one who couldn't sleep unless I was next to my baby too. It's mother nature I guess. Why seperating the babies so early from mothers? Why Western society pushes so much for independence? They will soon not want to bedshare anymore cause they will want their own room, until then I cherish these moments.
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤ I tried the crib beside the bed too. I couldn't get up due to c section and I found myself getting up every 15 min worried. So I brought him in our huge bed and the rest is history. We sleep amazing and stress free ❤ totally agree with you !! Have a great day!
this video was amazing ! i’m a new mom and i wouldn’t say i was ever against co sleeping or bed sharing because my mother bed shared with me. but when i had my son i was very determined to “safe sleep” not realizing you can practice safe sleep and also bed share. i’ve been trying him in his bassinet right beside my bed and he still doesn’t like it. i put him in the bed with me a couple nights ago because i just needed like an hour of sleep and i knew he would if he was beside me. after that hour of sleeping with him. i had this wholesome feeling and just realized i loved sleeping with him right beside me in my arms. i tried his bassinet again last night and he still didn’t like it so i tried the bed sharing and i’m more rested than i have been since i had him 3weeks ago. on top of that it felt so natural, like in my heart i know that’s how me & him are meant to sleep. i’ve kind of been fighting it because i don’t want to put him in harms way. but i know how aware my body keeps me even while sleeping and after watching this video and doing research of my own. i feel more confident and am definitely leaning way more towards bed sharing & still working on his co sleeping, but now i don’t feel like a bad mother if his bassinet doesn’t work out. thank you for taking the time out to make this video and share the knowledge! xoxo 🤎
Oh my goodness ❤this makes me so happy. I was also never going to bedshare / cosleep. But it just feels right. Also it's important to know that most cases of infant death in cribs are automatically counted as SIDS, and the little number of cases where infant die while co sleeping are usually ruled as co sleeping deaths right away so we can't really trust the numbers as they are misrepresented. Also most cases of co sleep related deaths are from parents under the influence of either alcohol or drugs which let's be honest is not realistic. I'm so happy you feel rested. I've never had a problem sleeping since. My baby also sleeps really well in any bed for naps - without me so I wouldn't worry about what anyone says. ❤❤ you're an amazing mama ❤ you do you girl xox thanks for taking the time to share XOX
I love seeing this, babies are so vulnerable and want to feel safe. Co-sleeping stops a baby from feeling unsafe and its good to look after your child.
AMEN ❤❤❤ totally agree 🙌😊 thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment. It's truly appreciated and I'm glad you liked it XOX
@@OneFamilyOneLove Thanks for the awesome videos! I appreciate your hard work!
I love the logical way you present information according to nature and research. This video was so helpful for me as a new mom who is constantly told bed sharing is a dangerous no-no, but bed sharing and breastfeeding throughout the night has always felt right to me.
Thank you so much! ❤️🫶🏽 and congratulations
Grateful for this video! I’ve gotten scolded in every hospital I delivered for sleeping with my babies. I have some much anxiety surrounding co sleeping but I do it anyway because it feels natural and we both sleep better that way
You are SO LOGICAL & SMART! What a refreshing video! You seem like an amazing Mama!
Thank you so much 🥹❤️
I love this. I've felt like it's a dirty little secret to keep from my child's pediatrician because if how taboo it is. And ive felt guiltt about it, but we both sleep better when we bedshare. I also think the point you made about the vehicles is so important. The way we treat bed sharing in the west is not risk management, but risk avoidance. We should be presented with all the facts, all the reasearch, given all the risks, and then allowed to make our own decisions.
Same haha! Get a pediatrician that doesn’t mind it. They can’t recommend because of liability reasons but I confidently explained the safe 7 to him - then he admitted his wife did the same lol
My daughter sleeps SO good when I practice safe bed sharing. My husband was against it until he read more on it. We also co-sleep with a bedside bassinet too.
Love that ❤️
I have bed shared with both my kids, currently sharing with my 4 month old. I love doing it and I don’t care what anyone tells me, it’s what feels good to me!
I totally agree 🙌❤ I also go with my gut feeling !! Thanks for watching ❤
I agree!!
I co-sleep with my 3 week old baby and it’s so much easier to get up and nurse him. He falls back asleep much easier and so do I. He never stays asleep in his crib and now I know why so glad I don’t have to feel guilty for sleeping with him anymore !!
I'm so happy that works for you. It works for us too ❤ whatever makes your baby and you happy is the best, but yes biologically it makes sense hehe! Both our kids sleep amazing and so do we ! Wishing you all the best and thanks for sharing your story ❤❤
@@OneFamilyOneLove this is reckless endangerment. There is so much bullshit “research” spouted in this I won’t even try, but sure girly, what makes you feel happy is more important than the life of your infant 👏You’re either incredibly naive or lack critical thinking skills, but this “information” is dangerous full stop.
No one, but especially you, can “teach safe co-sleeping.” You’re unqualified and encouraging mothers to do something that does not exist in reality, but in your mind. Nothing about this is factual let alone evidence based!
Have you ever taken a single course in science? Obviously you have zero interaction with public health research studies, but your “facts” lead me to believe you have zero exposure to real research in any capacity. You’ve cherry picked random statements from the internet to support your personal opinion.
Great video! I think a lot of the issue is people don’t understand exclusive breastfeeding (not a drop of formula even at night) and how it works best. Especially at night when the ‘milkman is called’ as I say. Night feeding is crucial for milk supply and often using formula at night is what impacts supply.
The other thing I’m glad you mentioned is how strict you have to be on medications, alcohol etc. A lot of bed sharing and cosleeping accidents and deaths include and don’t differentiate between those who set out to bed share safely and those who did it accidentally on sofas, under the influence, formula fed etc. We need far more research.
Absolutely!! Agree with everything you said 🙏🏼 thank you
Thank you for this video! I have been bed-sharing for the past two months with my 8 month old and this helps me feel more comfortable with my decision. I just wish I would have done it sooner, I had such bad PPA because of the sleep deprivation and gave up on breastfeeding a lot sooner than I wanted to. I hope this information reaches more mothers!
So happy you found it 💕 I’m still bed sharing now but will make an update soon!!
This is an awesome video! This information is so important to get out in the world. When I had my first, I could not let her go. My instinct was to hold her skin to skin 24/7 but I was terrified because I believed that I was supposed to be swaddling her and putting her down. After 3 months of making my husband watch us sleep so that I could hold her all night, I finally found a video much like this one that made me feel sooooo much better! I was finally able to bed share without any guilt! Thank you for spreading this information! ❤
Our instincts are so strong ❤️ thank you so much 🫶🏽
I think RUclips recommended me this because I watched a few videos for my parenting class. This video was really fascinating and eye opening for me though
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Agree 100%%%% love bed sharing and can't imagine any other way. We need each other ❤️
We truly do ❤️ thanks for watching !!
I’m a first time mom and I have been safely bed-sharing since the day my son was born! I absolutely love it … it feels so natural!
I have felt so much pressure to transition out of bed sharing (my son is 10 weeks old), because our western society is obsessed with “training the baby” which I fundamentally disagree with. I had tried my baby in the bassinet beside the bed the last few nights and I hardly slept, nor did my baby! Last night I was so exhausted that I decided I would bring baby into the bed with me again like we were used to… He slept a five hour stretch woke up for a feed, and went right back down to bed for another four hours. It was amazing and I feel so restored and refreshed this morning! More importantly my baby woke up happy as can be and rested!
I hadn’t planned on bed sharing either and here we are still doing it 2.5y later 💫❤️ same for me first night 5h stretch sold me !! Thank you for sharing
i 100% agree i have done this with my two girls and will be doing it with my twin boys when they arrive xo
Congratulations on your twin boys ❤❤ So happy you like the video! I honestly wouldn't have it any other way hehe!! Sending you lots of love and a great pregnancy 💖
The main argument against co sleeping and bed sharing is not even safety. Everyone i know is trying to say that the baby wont be independent, but has anyone see the current state of American kids? Also, they say what about sleep and your alone time. We are a family with an infant, what alone time is there and why do people think we dont want to be with our baby? The western world is so cold and having a Brazilian wife really shows me that. I envy the warmth of her family and will lose all the sleep in the world if thats what i need to sacrifice.
Very true, also my son is now 3 and sleeps on his own independently every night. He has never cried to come in my bed…. Which is WAY more independent than many kids 😂🙌 I would never give those nights back. I still miss it 🥹
I bedshare with my partner and baby and get MORE sleep than friends who have their babies in cribs. It makes sense on all levels😊
So educational! I love learning about the way we are made and how well our bodies are made to deal with different situations and aspects of life. Great video!!
Thank you so much for watching !! And thank you for your kind words hehe !! I love learning about this stuff too! It amazes me how our bodies do all of this without any learning you know, just pure instinct and just being!! Hope all is well xox
This is a really great video. Thank you for sharing your experience and researching the topic
Thank for taking the time to research this subject.❤ I have all these ideas based on what I've grew up knowing and now I am a mom my thoughts have changed on more natural route of raising my child then what "they" say you should do.
100% agree that babies don't cry just to cry - they are trying to communicate something, either a need or a want or discomfort/pain. Manipulation is learned at an older age. I believe that even babies who are a year old and still waking multiple times a night to feed aren't being manipulative - I think it's probably habitual. My mother-in-law was raised in another country, outside of western culture, and was very surprised to hear the strong opinions against co-sleeping and the reason being that your baby could suffocate.... she said "I don't understand how you wouldn't wake up immediately"
"all the hardship that you get are from going against nature"
100% agree ❤❤❤
This was SUCH a fantastic video, thank you!!
Thank you so much ❤️
I bed share and LOVE it! I get more sleep and we do skin to skin all night.
Yes girl 😍😍😍😍
Loved the informative information. Great video!
Thank you 🙏
Completely agree!! We sleep so much better this way 💚
Love this information 🎉 thank you for reaffirming my decision
Thank YOU ❤️
Thank you for this video! Co sleeping is so natural and makes everything so much easier for the mother and the baby. My Baby is now 8 months old and I wouldn't want to do it any other way.
Best video on the subject and sadly so few views
Thank you so much 😊! Definitely a slow process. I will be making a part 2 soon!
@@OneFamilyOneLove I'm sharing the hell out of this!!! What r u planning to cover in pt 2?
1. It's a thing for others to voice that bed sharing is dangerous because suffocation of baby. Your response to this is babies cry out if in distress and in need of something. Yet when a baby is being rolled on or lack of oxygen say a Blanket. There is no cry out. In some cases there are but others and many, the babies end up passing away in silence. Your reason to that is kind of invalid because it may be that the baby either cries out and you fix/move the blanket for better flow of oxygen or you reposition your co sleeping but there is definitely a possibility and a high one at that the baby can just pass away in silence unknowing while the parent is asleep. I co sleep I bed share always have with both my boys but I do consider the risks and I am not oblivious and unknowing to these possible risks. My son sleeps in footie pajamas and I sleep warm as well. We use no blanket in the bed. We have no other body in bed as well for safety precaution. I never was one to kick or roll around and I've always been a light sleeper but I still take into consideration of these cautions and risks.
2. You say Fed is best. I wanted to comment and mention that my son had colic and reflux and he cried constant with passing gas and stools. He was very unhappy for 2 months straight. I was unable to breast feed due to him never latching as I have inverted and flat Nipples! This is another possibility that many women may face when planning to breast feed. So therefore I exclusively pumped. My milk supply was great and strong!! But! I was only able to pump when my husband was home because our colic baby needed to be held and soothed and walked around. I could no longer keep up with supplying my breast milk(which was an extraordinary amount) because the fact that I couldn't pump and hold my baby at the same time, 6 times a day until my husband got home from work. I tried for many weeks to put my son down to pump even if it were just for 5 mins (my pump sessions were always perfect at 10mins though) but even for just a few mins to relieve my engorged breasts and to continue my milk supply I no longer could because over time my sessions got further apart, my son always needed to be held to feel secure and to not cry therefore we had to supplement then altogether use formula.
And lastly
3. In this video she mentions that babies cry out because they need something or they're in distress for a reason that they are not trying to manipulate their parents which is very very true! But one thing she said was that parents need to just pick their baby out, figure out whats wrong with the baby and fix it and then "there would be no problem" LOL my first son was like that but my 2nd son absolutely cried due to his colic and passing gas/pooping caused him to shriek and be in pain and etc therefore we couldn't "fix" and make it all better....there is no easy fix. We soothed him and held him and did all the things he loved and we never allowed him to "cry it out" because we knew he was crying for a reason but that reason wasn't something we could fix. It was something we could *momentarily* ease with gas relief remedies and with holding him and walking around but other then that we couldn't fix it, make it go away and get on with our day.
I think the take away is this, every body is different as well as every baby. My first? Easy peasy, could fall asleep anywhere and didn't need any "help" to sleep. My 2nd? He was definitely more hands on and we took it day by day. He was a baby that hated the feeling of passing stools and gas, cried if he was put down for a minute, spit up every feed due to his reflux, but we managed and knew there'd be a day where he can poop without worry and pass gas without discomfort and be let down without feeling alone. And he's a happy boy now! In time things get better so those who have babies or are expecting just know that challenges and triumps are part of parenting. There is no easy "fix". ♡
Thank you so much for watching and commenting! Everyone is different and I hope that my video truly showed that this is what worked for me and and for my son and while I do share a lot about our lives it does not mean it is what’s gonna work for others. I just hope that by sharing some moms can relate and I encourage all moms to do their own research and do what’s best for them 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for sharing this information and your experience. I know it is really hard to share things, especially controversial things, that are also personal, but I resonate with the information and being from a family that is typically dysfunctional in all the Western normal ways, I am very benefitted by you sharing your story and research. I think what it ultimately comes down to is, do we have the courage to trust our instincts in spite of the fear-mongering that comes our way? Can our natural mother instincts overcome the narrow minded intellect? Many of the positive responses here on this video are from women who simply could not ignore the cries of their infant, or could not sleep themselves without their child being close to them, and whose natural instincts were able to override the 'rational' advice of 'listen to the experts.' Some will blame co sleeping for a tragedy in their family but the thing that puzzles me is that nothing is a guarantee. Even if sleeping in separate rooms had a genuine statistical benefit (which you rightly discern is not the case), it is not a guarantee that nothing will ever happen to your infant while asleep alone, hence the high SIDS figures we already have, when most babies are not bed shared. Likewise, bed sharing is not a guarantee of total safety either. Life is risky, so, having children is risky. Falling in love is risky. We keep thinking that we can get a 'sure thing' but it doesn't exist. Sadly, when something does happen, natural inborn practices are quick to be blamed, especially by individuals, corporations and institutions which have financial benefit tied up in their rationalistic paradigm. But, when SIDS affects a household that is 'doing everything right' according to conventional allopathic rationalism, then it is just "a sad mystery which has no explanation," let alone preventability. Are we willing to see the fallacy in that? Considering wholistically all of the evidence both empirical and scientific, I would opt for the way of life that MOST nurtures, that MOST loves, that most genuinely gives what is needed, to our children. It's a hard reality of life that nothing is a guarantee but nature gives us the best chances of not only survival but thriving. How could it be any other way, when our species has made it this far on instinct and only in the last few thousand years even flirted with the idea of changing things, barely the blink of an eye in our total evolution?
Wow thank you so so much. Funny enough I had another baby and her name is Kaylee 🥹❤️you’re absolutely right
@@OneFamilyOneLove Oh that's awesome! She's one of us!! Lol! Kaylees / Kayleighs / Kaylies are a good group! Wishing you and your family lots of health, wealth and peace!
I’m curious if some formula companies maybe funded some of the research that is “against” co sleeping. Also even if science recreated the biological mechanism that allows babies to breath in sync with their mama, it doesn’t mean it’s the same or the best. Just because we “can” doesn’t always mean we “should”. Science and technology trying to compete with nature, nature knows best 9/10 times.
Honestly … it wouldn’t surprise me 🤷♀️
Something I have heard in a co-sleeping podcast (not personally researched so unsure on accuracy) is that bed sharing actually becomes more dangerous for a formula fed baby, whereas it is safer than sleeping along for breast fed. The reasons being mainly that an exclusively BF baby and mom sync up in a deeper way, where their sleep cycles match, so when baby is in light sleep and may cry out, so it mom and when mom is in deep sleep and less aware baby is also in deep sleep and not going to move. That same podcast said a big reason why research is so anti-bed sharing is they look at the majority, and since the majority is formula fed (whether exclusively or combo) the research basses of that.
This is completely untrue. People crush their babies all the time while cosleeping and exclusively breastfeeding. Stop it. @@alyssagardner6055
Thank you. Very insightful. I have started bedsharing was a little scared/ felt guilty but after researching the topic more I'm glad I'm doing it. My baby will have many years to sleep in his own bed when he is older 😁
My pleasure ❤ I'm so glad you like it. It feels so good inside to co sleep. It seems so natural. So happy for you. Thank you for watching and sharing your story. We truly appreciate it ❤🙏
AMAZING VIDEO, thank you so much for sharing this!! Love that you included research to empower us (now if only the nay-sayers in our lives would do more research before feeling entitled to force their opinions on us!!)
Thank you so much for your kind comments!! I’m so happy you liked it 🥰 we still Co sleep 17 months later and guess what - I’ve never ever had to stay up all night 😂 we all sleep amazing 🤩
Thank you for reminding us about our natural instincts❤️All those rules about baby sleep only bring more stress to new moms. In my culture (Africa) it is normal to sleep with the baby and to keep it on the back or in the arms while going about your day. But in Western culture they try to give so many instructions to moms they are more confused.
I agree with you we feel worse when we try to go against nature🙂
Thank you so much you’re absolutely right ❤️🙌
Thank you for making this video. I’ve bed shared with my daughter since she was born. Following the safe 7 sleep. I’m about to have my second so I will be bed sharing with a toddler and a new born. I have a California king. Very useful to have a big bed.
I currently bed share with my baby and toddler sometimes (he loves his own bed) I transitioned him while I was pregnant! When he sleeps with us I put my newborn on the other side of me to prevent them rolling on each other ❤️ congrats mama ❤️
Thank you for this video! I bed share with my 2 month old baby girl and I have since birth. I breast feed and having her close makes us both happier.
Thank you so much for your kind words. I always hoped someone watching would feel exactly that: love. I wouldn’t change my bed sharing and breastfeeding journey for anything 🥰😍 so happy for you and your daughter 🥰
I come from a long line of bedsharing, nobody in my family who doesn’t bedshare, I don’t know anyone outside of the family who doesn’t bedshare. The cultural norm in Asia is to bedshare
I personally bed shared well into my primary school years, which is also the cultural norm. People bedshare at least until children enter primary school. Children start to ask for privacy and their own room around 8yo.
Children younger than primary school age in another room by themselves(especially overnight) is seen as unsafe.
Also, children go to bed at the same time as the parents, around 9 or 10pm. Children are not put to bed at 7pm! If you do that of course they are going to wake up at 3 am!
A few years ago sleeptraing became a fad, because people want to adopt the ‘more advanced’ western way of child rearing, and a baby girl died during cry it out, literally dropped dead with blood coming out of her nose and mouth. It made the news, and the fad was put to a stop
I suspect the high ‘Sids’ rate in the west a lot of them are just babies couldn’t take the extreme stress and pain of crying it out and dropped dead.
I think it’s such a myth to say cosleeping/bedsharing children will never want to get out of your bed. I was never pushed, but by my own pace I wanted my own room and space when I was 8yo, I have friends who wanted it earlier, who wanted it later, but by the end of primary school no one want to sleep in the same room with their parents anymore.
And I don’t have sleep dependency, I like to sleep alone, I don’t even like to have my dog in the room.
The difference is, I was never afraid of the dark, and never worried about monsters when I was a kid. I think it’s such a sad and lonely phenomenon children in the west have to face that by themselves and couldn’t ask for their parents, they can only hug stuffed animals🥶
Thank you so much for this video!
You’re welcome ❤️❤️
This video is so awesome. I’m currently pregnant with my first and really want to co sleep but I have been so nervous about it! Do/did you literally keep your baby right in your bed or did you use any kind of co sleeper in bed with you? I know there are a lot of people who say to use something like the doc a tot, and others say not to use it.
Thank you so much! I kept him in my bed. I used a pillow called SleepTight Baby which just kept him lifted a bit when small. It was also easy to bring around with me so he could sleep virtually anywhere (couch, any bed) !
I still co sleep and it feels so natural. I’ve also never had a restless night.. EVER lol 😆 our kids and us sleep amazing ! I truly believe it leads to a healthier sleep cycle even for later on ! And as a mom it keeps your heart at peace ❤️
Thank you I'm in the exact same boat! Pregnant, FTM and want to bed share but wanting to do it safely and in my head I had imagined like a dock a tot type of setup but it's so hard to know where to go for advice on this. It's so unfortunate how taboo the subject is. 😕
@@OneFamilyOneLove so helpful!
How long did you continue to use the Sleep Tight Baby? Was it only for when he was tiny or....?
Do you currently use anything or do you have him literally right next to you in bed?
I’ve been bed sharing with my baby since he was born and he is now close to 6 months old. It has been the most amazing thing for me and my baby. I’m just curious how long everyone is bed sharing in terms of the age of their baby, how are you guys dealing with mobility of your babies as they start to get older, naps (are you all napping with your babies?) and how/when do you safely make the transition? I really don’t want to stop bed sharing so just curious about everyone’s thoughts.
i like to talk about a problem of house narrowness. in my country, many young couples cannot afford to rent an apartment that has lots of rooms and think it is wasteful to put 2 or 3 beds in one room since each room is narrow. people do not care about co-sleeping and bed-sharing. let alone its not necessary to distinguish co-sleeping from bed-sharing. but people also know about possibility of dangerous and tragic accidents can occur when an infant is less than 12 months. people use a futon cushion/mattress directly on the floor for the infant. im not a salesman of a baby goods. haha
I’m wondering what about baby sleeping on chest throughout the night? This is one of the ONLY ways my newborn will sleep, I was originally scared of bed-sharing, but now it’s become a necessity for us, and she’ll sleep on my chest…
You know best what works for you and baby - I personally don’t move at all when I sleep so I have had my babies sleep on my chest! They eventually grow out of it 🫶🏽 safe C position is recommended to prevent any rolling
Props to you for doing all of this research! Whether someone agrees with you or not, you deserve a lot of credit for putting in that work. I have a 16 day old baby and I never wanted to bed share. But with the lack of sleep we’ve both been getting, I’m considering it. And I’m scared!
Thank you 🙏 honestly go with your gut and research the ways of safe bed sharing. For me it was to prop up baby and no blankets / pillows near baby + always keep baby higher up than you (my face would look at his chest) for reference. These are my personal tips 💕
Great, great, great** Bedsharing with both our little ones and it's THE BEST* 🥰
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Truth! Thank you sister ❤
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❤️❤️❤️ I co sleep with my 2 month and co slept with my other kids but they do sleep in there bed. My 2month does sleep in his bed.
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How do you safely bed share? What are the things that help you? I was against it but I cannot sleep unless he’s with me and I am not sure on to how safely bed share because we do use covers, pillows and our bed isn’t huge but there is extra room. I don’t know if it’s even possible to safely bed shared but I’d like to learn
Can you share where is that nursing chair from? I’m looking for a winged nursing chair but haven’t found a good one
Thank you for this video. Im so nervous about how to cosleep with my baby. Every single baby in my family has co slept as we come from india and there thats how its done. No one even thinks before doing this there coz space is limited and people dont have the luxury of a crib in their rooms. Can u please share whether u did bed sharing or if u did co sleeping in a bassinet. I want to bed share and i cant figure out if i need to put the baby in the bassinet or on the bed next to me on some sort of pillow. What did u do please?
Hello! Thank you so much for sharing your story. Every baby is different and everyone has their ways for sure. I tried a bassinet near my bed, but it did not work for me as I had a c section and couldn’t get up very fast. I was also checking on my baby every 15 mins and not sleeping well.
Bed sharing worked best for us. I put him on a special pillow to elevate him and we only have 1 blanket in our bed. I used the same pillow for him to nap on the couch / crib etc so he is used to the same comfort everywhere.
I stopped using the pillow around 8-9m.
He still sleeps with us at 15 months and we love it 😍
I wouldn’t worry too much, as a mom it will become an instinct and you will know in your heart what makes you guys happy 😊
thank you for this!!
You're so welcome! Thank you for watching !
Great video 💚 Done watching..
Advance Happy Mother's Day Sam 💚
Thank you so much ❤❤❤ you are too kind 🙌
Thank you for this!
Thank you for watching 🥰
But i am also wondering when to start sleeping separately? any options ?
I currently bed share and I am curious about this as well.
I have been doing it on and off (fall asleep, then go during naps) and now he sleeps alone in his bed ☺️
Love this!!! SAME
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Hi! I've bed sharred with my 9 months old since he was 4,5 months old. He used to be sleeping in his cot (& sleep well) until the regression hit. It was very hard as our MCH nurse always tells us to never co-sleep/bed sharring and she kinda judges us when I told her I bed sharred (it makes me scared of her judgement) but it's the only way to get my baby to sleep?? Please if you can tell me whether it will give bad effect if I keep bed sharring with my baby? I also breastfeed him to sleep because he keeps crying if I don't.. Maybe I did something wrong at the beginning?? I'm not sure.. I'm just sad (& slightly depressed) to know about the nurse's rules.
Your baby needs to be soothed by you ❤️ you’re doing everything right mama. Don’t listen to outsiders trust your instincts- while always staying safe of course. You cannot spoil a baby of breast milk nor love ❤️
I coslept with my first in South America where I’m from. Now with my second I decided to try out the sleep training on the crib and stuff. Sorry but I’m officially giving up at 5 months. It’s just way too much. I don’t know how women in Europe make it really.
Seriously, that's going to be sleepless nights which can be stressful and effects overall postpartum recovery.
this banana is so good for teething where did you get it?
It was a gift but they are on Amazon ❤️
It’s basic common sense. I don’t know why we are so disconnected from our intuitive wisdom: babies sleep with their parents. It’s healthy, it’s natural, it’s important for healthy attachment and a sense of safety. Same goes for breastfeeding- babies eat from breasts, not bottles!!! Please don’t have babies if you will not educate yourself properly and actually raise your kids and love them like you should. Look at all indigenous cultures around the globe, NONE of them force babies to sleep alone or feed them from plastic bottles.
Think people.
While when I do these videos I'm never directly telling people what to do or not to do, I do agree that nature's way of doing things is *usually* the best and most effective way. There are far more benefits that arise from following nature's way.
I do believe we are brought up to be very disconnected from our bodies and from humans in general. Empathy is a beautiful thing. I feel for all these babies being brought up in such an unnatural way. It's not always about surviving, but more about thriving.
Thank you so much for your comment and support. ❤
I have raised three children. We never co-slept, and two of them were bottle fed only. They grew up in a loving, caring environment and are healthy, happy adults. We are all adults and make our own decisions. I personally do not care if mothers co-sleep, breast feed, or both, or none of these. But everything has pros and cons, and that includes co-sleeping, as I have personally observed in my family, e.g. children wanting to sleep with parents at 12 years old, or more, and a 3 months old baby falling out of the bed on his head when mom nodded off for a split second while nursing. He was fine, except for a huge bump. Could have been worse, though.
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*Infant deaths from co-sleeping are skyrocketing in the US in 2023. This is seen mostly in the black community, already most vulnerable to US housing policies, driven by a sharp increase in the # of people per home during the pandemic.* Multi-family and multigenerational households have been increasing for years in low income black and brown communities, and its not because its what makes mothers happy. Mothers in our most vulnerable populations are co-sleeping because they have no other options. They don’t have enough physical room for safe sleeping, and many children have died because of it. This isn’t cultural, as you say, its survival. Maybe journal your opinions about western culture, but in the US it’s critically important to follow pediatric guidelines and not strangers on the internet when it comes to the health and safety of children.
Actually most countries around the world co sleep - nothing to do with money. It’s a choice and to each their own 😘
USA has one of highest sids deaths and they’re not from co sleeping per say. Lots of other factors such as western medical system and etc etc xox
Exactly! Someone's 'research' does not compare with the actual research done by doctors and research institutes looking into SIDS.
I am planning to co-sleep with my first baby and I am wondering if you have to feed on both sides in every feed. What about burping? :) But what I am getting is that it’s okay to just feed on one breast and continue sleeping. Please share.
Hi, I have a 3-week old baby and am a first time mom too! First thing I’ll say is, I planned on breastfeeding too, but it didn’t go as planned (she never latched right, a lot of pain, etc.) so I switched to exclusively pumping. That said, I hope breastfeeding goes well for you but I have info for both!
I didn’t plan on bed sharing but she literally doesn’t sleep unless she’s on me or held, so we’ve been sleeping together for a week now.
On burping, if you are breastfeeding, I’ve been told burping is optional…. So you wouldn’t have to wake up at night to burp! With my bottle-fed baby, I have to burp her because milk definitely flows a lot faster than if she were breastfed, so I still have to wake up throughout the night to pump and feed her when she wakes up (as long as your baby is gaining weight, my pediatrician said no need to wake them up when they’re sleeping!)
I don’t burp at night - BUT at first I did BF her on her side as opposed to her back just in case air would get in since she did not latch well. My son latched perfectly but my daughter no.
I switch boobs yes - the first 3 months your body produces non stop. After 3 months it regulates to what your baby needs.
Throughout the day I feed more with my left and I feed more with my right at night. Whatever feels best !
Usually if your baby wakes up abruptly and kind of wiggles they may have a burp - you’ll get to know the cues ❤️❤️
How do you safely bedshare?
Hey! I definitely recommend doing your research 🧐 but here’s how I did and am still doing almost 2 years later.
I used a pillow from Sleep tight baby that has low sides on it (unlike the snuggle me and dock a tot) I used it up until about 8-9 months to elevate my son and keep him from rolling. I positioned him so he was high so I would move up to BF him and then he was always out of the blankets (we don’t use a sheet only 1 top comforter) so it’s very easy to manage and we never had an issue at all!
A plus with that pillow is that you can put it anywhere after even when traveling and your baby feels like they’re sleeping in the same bed as always! We travelled lots and it helped. Made our life very easy 😇❤️ hope this helps
I honestly couldn’t imagine sleeping without my son. It brings peace to our hearts.
Hi, thanks so much for this info, it’s so useful. I’m a complete newbie to this, so I was wondering, after 8 months, do you just place the baby on the mattress next to you without one of these baby nests? Thanks so much in advance
Do you have a link for the pillow you used?
The bigger issue is, why in the world do we need to know such minutiae about your life? Why would you even consider posting such a thing??
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People using babies and kids to get views are just the best humans………….
I'm sorry you feel this way. This is not to get views, but rather to raise awareness and share our tips & tricks. Thank you for your comment and have a nice day 😊
you sound dumb. these videos are extremely helpful to new moms
I don’t comment on videos typically because I don’t like confrontation… but please understand as much as there can be benefits there is also risks. My daughter passed away from SIDS while bed sharing with me. I had to put my 2 month and 10 day old baby to rest for this. Please please understand why they make “safe sleep” guidelines for a reason.. bless you all. 💔🪽
Did you even watch the video? Co sleeping isn't the same as bed sharing
@@rinkytinky92she was suggesting bedsharing 9:51 . Stop gaslighting this woman who is trying to raise awareness. We live in a day and age where we don’t accept babies dying as simply unfortunate, we have the research to do our best to prevent it in most cases (unfortunately in rare cases there’s nothing that can be done still.)
I’ve been bed sharing with my baby since he was born and he is now close to 6 months old. It has been the most amazing thing for me and my baby. I’m just curious how long everyone is bed sharing in terms of the age of their baby, how are you guys dealing with mobility of your babies as they start to get older, naps (are you all napping with your babies?) and how/when do you safely make the transition? I really don’t want to stop bed sharing so just curious about everyone’s thoughts.
For myself I bed shared with my son until 2.5 and still do occasionally now. The transition was with a floor bed in our room - same blankets and sheets as our bed to make it familiar ❤️ my husband still sleeps with him from time to time they love it ( I have a new baby) and sometimes we all share a bed haha 😆