I have no ambition in life - but I feel fine
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- Опубликовано: 28 мар 2024
- In this video I wanted to share a bit about my personal experience letting go of the weight of expectation I put on mysef for so many years, and realizing that with each passing day my aspirations and goals felt less necessary in order to feel like I’ve ‘done something’ with my life. I still have things I’d like to do, but I suppose the big change is that I’m not putting pressure on myself to do things quickly or a certain way, but let life reveal itself over time. I know this doesn’t apply to everyone, but for me it’s been meaningful, so I wanted to share with the hope we can pause now and then in the midst of our busy lives to smell the roses ☺️ title: I have no ambition in life - but I feel fine
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It’s been a little while! I’m chipping away at my videos just a bit at a time while balancing everything else ❤ thank you to all who have shared such lovely words and are still enjoying these little videos 😊 to clarify, I think some people are interpreting having ambition as having the desire to do anything at all or desiring to meet basic needs. I’m taking my definition from the mainstream idea of ‘always wanting more’ as well as the Webster definition of it being the relentless pursuit of ‘success, money, and power’. Obviously, I have a desire to work hard to meet my needs (and all those who depend on me) for survival and to thrive, I’m referring to deciding that meeting those needs is enough for me, and I do not need to constantly be working towards the next big thing, to do more and have more just because. Hope that helps others understand my intention here. Best wishes
I appreciate how many gifts and letters I’ve been sent, I just want to apologize again that I cannot respond to all of it. Please know it is appreciated and I’m only sorry I cannot take enough days off to write everyone back. I appreciate your understanding 🙏
Wishing you the best dear one.
Just relish this time, take care of yourself, and focus on the expectation of your sweet bundle of joy. 💕
You are very beautiful inside and out. Heartfelt congratulations on your soon to be bundle of love and joy! You are going to be a most exquisite mother. I have learned a lot from you over the years and am very happy for you. Sending love to you. Bendicion! Cindy from Puerto Rico. 💕💕💕💕💕
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I loved this video! As a mom I always get asked what my next step is, how I will grow, how I will expand my business. I just want to enjoy my kids, live in peace, be kind and help others❤
"Working at my bookstore seems like a very boring job." Honestly, it sounds like a dream come true.
Holy shit this is the complete opposite of EVERYTHING else on the internet about hustling, grinding, entreprenaurship, escaping the matrix, blah blah FUCKING blah. God bless this woman.
Here's to livin'.
Yeah I saw someone post on reddit. I work in IT and they asked how people find time to get certifications. This dude answers and says roughly that he works full time 8-9 hours, comes home and makes dinner and then works on certifications for 4+ hours, goes to bed for 4-6 hours...every...day. Rinse and repeat. I cannot fucking do that nor should I have to. My day ends at 4:30 PM. That is it. If my work wants me to do certifications, they can have me do that during work time.
@@toastymcgee9788good for you. Don't let other people define your lifestyle.
My motto: Do what makes you Happy even if the whole world says it's Useless or Boring.
Fabulous and what a lovely saying. ❤
amen to that!
”Only a slave quantifies itself through productivity.”
-RJ Spina
This is why i sleep all the time mom!
I needed to see this quote today more than you'll ever know. Thank you for commenting with this ❤
Ohhhh... I love that quote. Gotta save that for later.
Exactly a very obedient slave😂😂😂
Yeah well, only that they don't do it voluntarily... what an odd quote.
My instant thought when you said "I was asked how I was going to change the world" was, you've already figured that out. Your videos leave a positive impact on so many people.
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Amen!
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Her videos are potent and surge with truths. When you're authentic to the meaning of your life, you change the world.
I so agree with that ❤
I graduated high school in 1976, a time when women were told we can do it all. If we weren't doing it all, we were somehow letting down all of womanhood. So, I did, I have 3 advanced degrees, and 4 children. I worked full time and took care of family...or at least I thought I was. I had a nanny taking care of my kids and wearing myself out being active every waking minute of every day. When my kids were grown, I left my big life, retired early, and now live in a 4-room farmhouse where I spend my time in my art studio or just doing nothing. I spend time with my grandchildren and family...life is slow and simple. I am so glad you are seeing there is a plus to slow and simple in your younger years. Enjoy.
That push to make women feel the way you did, in the 70s, really took mothers away from so many of us kids. My Gen X group mostly raised ourselves. But I'm glad you finally get to enjoy just being, and bathing in simplicity and contentment. What a wonderful thing. 😊
Your career gave you the ability to retire early. Most millenials have a retirement plan called "death".
Do you have regrets that someone else was raising your children?
@@maryoleary2037 her sacrifices gave her kids a good life. No struggling.
@@katashley1031 no way my mother and father could have supported their 3 kids on his one salary. We still struggled even then.
Intentionally living slowly and not always conforming to the world and its views of how to "live the right way", is one of the most freeing things ever✨️🌻
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I think all introverts must love your channel.
Yes! And she is learning young to embrace who she is instead of trying to fit other's molds for her. The lord Jesus tried to tell me years ago... "I just want you to totally,totally, totally be yourself." I couldn't do it. I was a Pastor's wife in a small church in a small town with high expectations of myself along with the expectations of others to surmount.
Only now at age 75 am I allowing myself to just be me. Not very social, though I love people. Not going out much. Puttering when I'm physically able. Enjoying books & youtube. I am content being old.
Thank you for your lovely videos, Cottage fairy!❤
We do
I do ❤
Absolutely. This is how I want to live my life ❤
@@paranora333 Right!
I am exactly same. I’ve had folks ask me how I just stay home with no big plans or excursions. I’ve always loved using time to daydream and read. I never need to go out to find fulfillment. I love living quietly and peacefully with compassion and kindness. Thank you for your lovely videos.
I absolutely agree with you 100% ❤
Same here
Me toooo! 🎉 💚🌏💚
Same here ❤
Same here ❤
This young woman is wise beyond her years. She blesses all her viewers her wisdom. May her birthing experience be kind.
Amen to that-a very special soul. ❤️
Beautifully said. And best wishes to Paola and her little darling boy
I must respectfully disagree when you say you have no ambition. You've published a book. You've created a beautiful channel with over a million subscribers. You've built a peaceful life that works for you. You've managed to be far ahead of the rest of us who are burning ourselves out for so little.
My thoughts aswell. She just might be comparing herself to something far out. Something we all do.
i think you misunderstand what she means by "ambition". it does not have to mean you won't do anything, but rather you will follow what you want to do instead of aiming at elusive goals
on the other hand, people take great pride of never be content and call it "ambition", but that's a matter for another time...
" ... make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, mind your own business, and work with your own hands ...
This channel is one of my favourite safe spaces, it’s the digital equivalent a warm hug, a cosy blanket, eating hot cookies and petting my dog - all at once 😊
And with a mug of hot chocolate...😂
Being a mother is doing something with your life and being a great one can change the world, todays world doesn’t recognize the value of being a present and patient mother but it is the cornerstone of society
The value of a safe, present, supportive and patient parent (mother and/or father) can indeed be immeasurable.
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Truest words.
Well said. We are undervalued.
So so true!! Raising happy and kind children is the best way to change the world ❤
I'm 22. I have no ambition in life. Many times I feel like something's wrong with me for not having any drive, specially when I compare myself to people my age. I really love this quote: "we're not here to change the world, we're here to learn to love it as it is". Thank you for being an inspiration. I feel a little better about myself and my "lack of ambition" thanks to you ❤
I’m 22 as well and feel like i wrote this myself. I feel guilty or embarrassed when people asked “what do you do”. Because I didn’t go to college and I have no real desire to. I’ve never had a career goal or had an epiphany of “that’s what I want to be!” All I knew since a young age up until now is that I wanted a cottage or small home off in the woods with chickens and small animals. A garden to care for and live a simple life. It’s sad that a lot of people deem that ambitious-less or boring. I know I want to read my books and live off my own land. I guess it’s just the “how” I’m going to get there for me.
@@unaestheticarri6487you. Take action on your dreams . Start growing food in pots, learn to sew and mend. Learn how to use tools. Learn about the animals you want to keep. All this while saving for your dream.
I wish I knew this when I was 22. Now I am 50 but doing Slow Living. Thank God I am not 80.
Maybe you just need different ambitions e.g to create a calm and stable home, or to maintain a lifelong marriage, or to create a beautiful garden etc etc. It doesn't have to be about money or career or fame.
I think ambition is over rated. There is nothing wrong with just being happy and living life on your terms. Especially in the US the idea of always driving for something more is ridiculous.
As a woman with a disability, you are giving my true heart a voice... JUST BE AND LET THAT BE ENOUGH...Thank You!
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She said : "There are healthy ways to have ambitions where it doesn't mean that you are going to be happy once you achieve those goals". This should be my rule of life from today. ❤
I believe in appreciating the smalls in life. One doesn't have to live for big events. The smalls can give you a beautiful life.
Yes. All of the threads in the blanket.
Beautiful and meaningful.
Yeah but where’s the money coming from to pay the bills?
@@anuragchakraborty8766 I don't think the comment was monetary related.
@@mollyswanner1607 Yeah but the comment tries to paint a rosy picture of life, which is the exact opposite of reality.
In real life, you always have to think about the money first and foremost.
Long ago I succumbed to my Hobbit nature, lol. It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life. I'm never bored. But I absolutely love solitude and doing nothing, I always have. It's lovely to see so many others who feel the same. Lots of people cannot relate at all, lol.
Yes!❤
It's quite sad that the system teaches us to "be busy" and it's looked up on. At a phase in my life where I experienced solitude and nature, a lot of guilt and other feelings of unworthiness came up due to a lack of "productivity". When you look at animals though, they don't question their existence. They simply just lay on the ground and watch the day the go by. Overtime, I let those negative feelings go and accepted just being.
@@evak3356 This is beautiful.
@@evak3356”Only a slave quantifies itself through productivity.” -RJ Spina
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That’s just what ‘the system’ teaches/programs us to be, sadly.
''Boredom'' is a luxury. To be filled or not filled however you see fit. 💗
"What do you want to be when you grow up?"
"Kind," said the boy.
Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse
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I have never been ambitious but through my 20s, 30s, & most of my 40s I felt guilty about this. Then I found myself alone, very little money & learnt how to survive & enjoy simple pleasures & make do with very little & embraced a simpler life & gave myself permission to feel ok about not being ambitious. We only have one life & if we can live it well & not hurt others then it’s a life well lived.
"No ambition" keeps you open to opportunity & you can decide whether you take it or not. It's the ultimate position of freedom. "Success " is someone else's imposed construct. Enjoy your life, thats all anyone needs to do.
Well said
Love this!!
Freedom is only possible if you can fund it. CF very obviously has family money to support herself. You MUST have your own money.
@@loosiluShe also has a youtube channel with over 1.5mil subscribers. It's pretty disingenuous to claim not to have ambition when you're a successful social media influencer. These videos take a lot of work and editing. Yet she portrays her life as just sitting around her bookstore with nothing to do. I'm kind of disappointed in the blantent lies.
@@guest_5992 Thank you! I thought I was the only one.
Those words ring true, "To grow, to be kind". My father used to say, 'If everyone was just a bit kinder to each other then the troubles in the world would disappear'. I love these words too 🌷🌹🌻🌿
The saddest part of having this personality is being around mean people. Otherwise, living alone and not desiring material things brings a lot of peace. I’m glad you have people that love and support you ❤
I will be 61 this year and still don't know what I want to be!
I think being a mother was my greatest calling. ❤
That’s so nice. Being a mother is the most important job, when you think about it. Because you are literally raising human beings, the next generation. 😊
I’m a pediatrician, and my work is so meaningful and I am so grateful for that. But being a mother has been my true calling, and it has meant more to me than anything else I have done. Cheers to moms.
I agree wholeheartedly ❤ my daughters are my world. I never needed to accomplish anything else other than their happiness
I agree, the greatest achievement I feel I made in life is having and raising my daughter. She is a teacher now and loves her job and one day she will find the love of her life and start another cycle of life. That has made me Happy!!!!
@@butterfly-iu5ig❤beautiful
What an intelligent way of looking at life, “simply live it!”
I feel that us old souls came here this time around to relax and fully enjoy all there is on our beautiful earth. Nothing better for myself than to observe and explore nature- even in my own backyard.❤
Beyond busy-ness is boredom. Beyond boredom is peace. It's OK to just be and experience the miracle of life. Great video!
I was terrified as a teenager of never living up to my expectations, that I'd miss out on a chance of greatness, that I would "waste" my time if I wasn't pursuing my biggest dream or aspiration... that I needed to do something important on big scale... and now, here I am living an average/normal life I never imagined, and all I really care about now is spending time with the people I love. I'm so much happier knowing myself, knowing that what I truly desire is the space to dream but no obligation to make it reality, to enjoy friends and family, to create art and express my feelings. Paola, I relate so much to this video.
100 % agree with every word couldn’t have said it better ❤️
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You are beautiful inside and out ❤😊
Hello Dear 💕 I also Love Slow Living and Slow Cooking. Ambition is overrated - Thanks for being you. Love from Canada 🇨🇦
I agree!
Well said!
After losing my baby brother to fetanyl last year, everything in my life had to change. I was in the darkest place I could ever know, and upon giving up entirely, I found you. And i found someone who thought the way i did. That most things human stress about are truely unimportant in the grand scheme of things. Most of how we live our lives is based on societial norms. And i wanted out. I wanted to throw everything In my life away that didn't serve my souls experience. I had this constant thought, I just want to be a cottage fairy in the woods, connecting to mother earth. I looked up "cottage fairy" on RUclips, and came across your videos. When I say they changed everything, you changed EVERYTHING for me.
I truly feel that I am exactly where I was always meant to be.
For me, your videos are the source of light that led me out of darkness. And I am forever grateful for how you impacted me, and helped me find peace and tranquility through my grief and loss. So, from the most sincere place in my soul, from one earth sister to another, I thank you and wish you all the most unique and beautiful blessings in your life ❤❤❤
Wow. So beautifully said.
Sending you love & light for your day to day journey 💫🙌🏼😊✌🏽❤✨
Thank you 🙏🦋💛@@tracylacko4940
So sorry for your loss. I pray the lord keeps giving you and your family to carry on😢his bless you, peace be with you😢
Have a good life ✨ so happy for you
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Girl, same!!! I literally don’t want to do anything but just live and read.
Do you think having 1.5 million subs youtube channel is "doing nothing", and owning a store? This sole video was probably a week of hard work.
@@totoro888 sure Jan.
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I only WISH I could have realized that lesson at your age, always felt the pressure from all sides that I wasn't doing enough and all I wanted to do was be home with my kids, garden, cook, knit, sew and read. I am in my retirement years and learning how to ignore anyone or anything that tries to rush me and it has been a challenge. This world has always been too speeded up for this girl.....I LOVE your book store😍 and you are just glowing young lady! Stay the course Paola, you are definitely on the right track💕🧚♀
Same here
That is very true it is really hard to unlearn what has been drilled into us and affected us from a very young age as though we are not enough until we prove our worth based on society's current standards.
I think in some ways social media has been good in this sense that we can connect far more easily with people who have found their truth and who know how to separate their lives and goals from what others expect of them which is so encouraging and helps us take that step.
I am a stay at home mom in my early 30s and I often feel I am still fighting against this or having to justify my decision to some people who are intrusive and I really have to unlearn this. I hope you continue to grow and learn and enjoy your retirement on your own terms.
How were you able to afford that?
Yes!❤
The simple life is all I’ve ever wanted to be enough. Especially being kind most of all. There isn’t enough kindness in the world
Yes. Seems so many people have turned into ugly hearts and bullies. So very sad they don’t share in peace and kindness.
@@lc7169 Why should someone treat you with kindness if you are dirty dog?
I always hear the Lord say to me “Just be and I will do.” And the scripture in Isaiah “In returning to Me and resting in Me you shall be saved. In quietness and confidence will be your strength.” The profound blessing of a surrendered life. So blessed!
Being a loving and caring mother is more than ENOUGH. Motherhood is a full time job 💛🌻
You will soon be doing the most fulfilling, and challenging “job” ever, MOTHERHOOD. Beat wishes
I don’t think it’s that you don’t have ambition in life per say. Ambition doesn’t have to equal career goals. I think, wanting to live life in a way that feels fulfilling to you, and having a dedication to that goal is a type of ambition in itself. I say this all because I myself have been having many of the same kinds of thoughts as you, and it’s refreshing, so refreshing, to hear somebody else give voice to those feelings. It made me feel less alone and less guilty for not wanting to give in to the social pressure to live by other people’s standards.
I'm handicaped and chronically ill. This is such a good help to see someone not striving to always do more. I always feel guilty about resting. I saved your video for those times. Thank you
Our thoughts have great power. You are powerful. The body is just a suit. Busy does not equate to a fulfilling life. Most aha moments come in the stillness. Be well!
No matter what society wants to tell you, the eternal chase after money or fame is not the way to get happy or find peace in life.
The sad thing is, society exepcts everyone to always work harder, do even more things on top of the things you already do. But the thing, is not everyone is made the same.
Some people (i count myself among those) are just not made fot this style of life.
Sending much positive energy.
Mother Teresa said, if you want to change the world, go home and love your family. I think this is part of the core identity of women. So glad you are at peace with where you are in life!
Mother Teresa is a criminal cheater
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'Mother' Teresa was a shady person in reality 😔
@@egrace3738 Be prepared that your comment will be deleted. I wrote exactly the same thing and my comment isn’t there anymore….
@@egrace3738Myslím že tady jde spíše o ten citát samotný (tedy o to, co je řečeno), než o to, kdo to řekl... Mnoho výroků Matky Terezy je velmi hlubokých a moudrých, i když ona sama MOŽNÁ v pořádku nebyla. (?)
Impacting 1,4 Million people's lives is clearly "changing the world"! Success is ready for harvesting dear Paola! Thank you for taking so much time and effort to enchant our hearts and souls with your videos! Thank you for showing and sharing your feelings, your ups and downs - which give so much hope, inner peace and an outlook how living with what is in the moment can look like and lead to. A beloved old teacher of mine once said: there is no other outstanding task we are born with than to fill our daily life with meaning and love for all that lives and developing a kind heart. This is what you do right before our eyes! Thank you Paola - please continue to inspire and enchant us!
I totally feel you. So many years i woke up every day with the question Whats the meaning of my day? Whats my contribution? I felt that if I dont do smth meaningful , my life has no meaning. Nowadays, when I just live by the day, soft and without goals, I feel free. And light. And alive. And thankful.
what do you mean you've not "done something"?? your vlogs have definitely done something for me!! they are the remedy to my sleepless nights when my thoughts are too noisy, and hearing your perspective on life helps me feel less alone in the fast-paced, overachieving environment that i find myself in 🥺 thank you, my one and only cottage fairy 💕😌
I'm in my early 20s and I have realized that I don't know what I want to do anymore. When I was a teenager I had so many ideas, but now I just want to live peacefully in the countryside with a garden. I don't have as much passion as I used to for college. Sometimes this makes me feel like a failure. Though, watching you is helping me through these thoughts.
I completely understand you. I'm in my mid 20s and the more I interact with the job market and the world in general, the more I feel the need for a simple, slow and poetic life. With time, I've realized I'm not made for the kind of lifestyle that society pressures us to follow. I don't want to always be in a rush, I despise the idea of being confined to a desk for most of my day, I dread the idea of feeling helpless and stuck in a dehumanizing routine. This can't be life, can it? We are here for such a brief time, I can't imagine spending it like that. Of course working is necessary and can also be rewarding, but I simply cannot imagine myself in a 9-5 soulless job for the rest of my life, surrounded by equally soulless people. There's so much inside of me that needs nurturing, so many dreams and things going on... I just want peace and time, and kindred spirits to share life with.
@@sundance1372 I feel exactly as you do.
@@megancater5441 Glad to know I'm not the only one! Do you have someone in your life that shares this view? I personally don't, and it's making me feel quite lonely.
When you were young? lol What are you now?
@@sundance1372Not specifically, but my husband has come around to this idea after all we have been through (so technically now I have someone in my life feeling this way, but haven't most of the time), so hopefully we can make it happen soon.
I’m of the same vintage graduated in 1977. I’ve not ever figured out my “ambition” but I’ve done a lot of different things over the course of my life. To see a young person with so much self awareness and wisdom makes my heart hopeful for the generations to come. I love this channel so much! I love to read the comments, I also leave this space with something to reflect on.
Me too! She has changed my world! She holds so much wisdom at her age creating freedom for us all. To just be.
What a wonderful morning!
I have a delicious cup of coffee, and three of my favorite youtube channels posted new videos! When I'm done starting the day right, my garden awaits my presence, on a lovely spring morning in the Rocky Mountains.
May we all find peace, joy and love today! Go give someone a hug!
Out of curiosity, who are the other two? Would love to hear your recommendations. ❤
My son and daughter in law had a baby girl about 7 weeks ago. They didn’t have an extra room for a nursery either. So the made a little nursery for baby Ava in the corner of their bedroom and it’s adorable. They love that Ava is close to them every night. Your little spot for your baby will be magical too.
Our first baby was in a bassenet in our room too❤
Im recovering from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue and prioritising my health for the first time, before external attainments, chased my whole life. In truth, that phase is over, something new and healthier awaits while I slowly rebuild my life creatvely.
Same!
Your channel is the equivalent to reading a Mary Oliver poem. Both of them just permanently alter my brain. So beautiful and simple and cozy.
took me 50 years to realize this...good for you that you are figuring it out much sooner :)
Paola! It's OK. The one thing categorically that we lose track of is, we are human beings, not human doings🤔
Yes, we are just human beings and we can’t do it all. 🤗
You have a poet's heart. You feel the seasons of your life and the world around you. It seems you are exactly who you are going to be. Someone who lives for kindness and the enrichment of life.
Can u please explain what the term poets heart means?
Even though I am 70 years old (yikes, how did that happen) I feel you and I are kindred spirits. You are more than enough just the way you are! I still work full time and get asked constantly when are you going to retire? All the years I stayed home to be with my 3 cildren I was asked, "aren't you bored? When are you going back to work etc" The only voice that matters in your inner voice. You are following that voice and you will be fine.
She has truly learned the secret to life:
Just Do Not Give A ****!!!
And everything sorts itself.
WHAT IS AMBITION? Its a goal orientation that doesn't compare to the spiritual connection that envelopes you with silence and sweetness.
Amen! Couldn't say it better.
With each passing year, I feel the need to live slower and more peacefully. I do have many goals and dreams, such as making my living as an artist and RUclipsr a reality while traveling the world, but it's not in some crazy adventurous way. I want to travel slowly, taking my time learning about each country and culture on a deeper level, spending many months in each place I live, and spend my days outside painting the landscapes and scenes that I see. I also do want to settle down sooner than later, preferably within the next few years. To be able to buy a small plot of land in a forest and live out a peaceful life growing my own food and being present with my future family. Most of my ambitions are creative and spiritual, and I don't want to stress about the projects I'm working on. I want to be grounded and create because I love what I do, not based off what society tells me I should do.
I recently turned 30 and have been feeling this deeper than ever before. Yes, I'm working hard trying to make these dreams a reality, but I'm also reminding myself not to rush through life, to simply be present and enjoy each passing moment. Listen to your soul. 🌲💙
I love your dreams and I wish you get there soon!
Lovely, what kinds of youtube videos would you ideally make? I love to support small, new channels and give feedback about how they can improve (whenever they want it)
You have (almost) the same dream as mine! Just subscribed to your channel :)
@@BoboWay Thank you so much! ❤️
@@baejay798 I'm honestly already making he kinds of videos that I want to be making. I'm not currently traveling at the moment, but will be moving to Bulgaria in September. I'm looking forward to the videos I'll be making then. 😊❤️
I don't know it you knew about this, but roughly half of college grads do not work in the field of study where they got their degree. I happen to be one of those. There are expectations others put on us and there are expectations we put on ourselves. Finding where we thrive, I think, is where we find the most happiness. I found that place, and it seems like you've found that place also, and you feel the calmness and rest that comes with that realization. In my opinion, that is commendable. You look so beautiful and glowing and happy. Thanks for your beautiful videos. I always look forward to them.
You said a powerfully familiar thing, that everything you thought would make you happy didn’t. That was true for me as well.
My husband of 42 years and I raised 6; 4boys, 2girls, and they have all become model adults true to their individual passions interests, and pursuits. .. and have their own beautiful families and all live 15 minutes away in their tree lined community, sub-divisions. It was truly a labor of love to be a stay home mom for 25 years, because I had originally romanticized the thought of motherhood because I thought that being a mom would make me happy and truly it didn’t, because I don’t like conflict and raising human beings-let alone 6- is all about resolving conflicts, conflicts of ideas, and temperament. I’m a homebody and love quietude and they were vibrant social bodies😅, but thankfully Thankfully I survived the long night, and now, it is day, and I smile and wonder how I survived it all. The story is told and now the pen is in their hands to write the next chapters of a family.. and if I had known it would be so hard, I would have fortified myself with practical and tactical 😅training for workplace conflict resolution 😅 which is what a home becomes for the mother. The work of raising adults is no crystal stair, or flowered garden, it is the trenches of life in heart break and heart building.
I’m 45 with 12 yr old twins and a 13 yr old daughter. It is an emotionally difficult age to get through anyway and I wish my husband understood the mental amount of work in making sure they have a good foundation. He bought a business 6 yrs ago (married 23 years) it’s changed him, we have very different values now. Not sure what the future looks like and where I belong. I’m doing a bit of therapy on the side to contribute financially. I am passionate about mental health but my focus is the kids. Not forever, just for now. Many traumas can happen between 12-17 and I want to be a safe person for them. Not sure why I just wrote so much. My marriage hasn’t been easy. But separating now doesn’t seem like a good thing for any of them so I shall keep on going. Thanks for ur channel, u r a gift!!
You have over 1.5 million subscribers! That is a major accomplishment. ❤ you're also a great artist. You're on your way to the best accomplishment of your life.....motherhood! In my view.......you're a super star! ❤
What a beautiful book store I would spend hours in there 😃
"But I'm not tired anymore...." I think this is a lesson that was hardest for me to learn. I think that this world today drives us to be more, do more. We are given tasks over what we can do, and a great deal do accomplish these tasks, but at what price? It has been difficult for me to learn this lesson, to put my ambitions on hold to take care of myself and my family first. I'm glad I have learned that doing the most at light speed is no way for anyone to live. I'm glad I'm not tired anymore either.
I am glad the baby will be in your room. We co sleep and my baby now is almost 5 she is the happiest and most content, most confident child ever.
Paola, I've often felt that my life amounted to so little , until I sat back and realized that I was a good and loving mother. I reap the joys of that now - my daughter and I are so close, we have a loving relationship. You're doing such meaningful things with your life, so keep going in this direction. Love and hugs from Mossel Bay in South Africa 🇿🇦
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Loving "let life reveal itself over time." 🥰
Dang I’m 50 & I feel the exact same….. Each day passes by as I wait for my time to go, working out on my punching bags, running X amount a miles every other day & tending to my hot pepper plants & other vegetables.
Bet your soul is beautiful…. Thanks for sharing
Being kind DOES change the world😊❤
Amen
Wow, stumbled upon your vlog and it's like a breath of fresh air! Your perspective on life is so authentic and inspiring. Embracing contentment is truly an art, and you've mastered it beautifully. Can't wait to see more from you, Cottage Fairy! 🧚.
You are doing what you were meant to do. Now you're gonna be a Mama. The most important "job" in the world !❤
“I absolutely love to be bored.” I felt that! I’d rather be bored than overwhelmed for sure.
You HAVE changed the world …… so many in the world seek your words of wisdom. My children are older than you, You are wiser than me
It`s so funny, you don`t try to change the world, but with those videos, that is are exactly what you are doing Paola ❤ Your videos change so much for me. Whenever I am anxious or stressed, I come back to them, it`s the best medicine I came across ✨
I cannot even BEGIN to say how I relate to this! We are pretty much taught from the moment we can think and understand that we should decide how we’ll fit into the capitalist machine of do, do, do, make more money, work more, sell your soul to your career, like it’s the most important thing ever. For a very long time, I stressed over how I could please those people, but nowadays, I am perfectly content working a day job and then going home to my partner and my hobbies and just doing what I want, without worrying about what people think and how I ambitious I really am. Sometimes I am jealous that others have that drive to do “great things”, but I have to remind myself that that’s their journey, not mine. Right now, my journey involves exploring new things (like traditional magic and mindfulness) and giving more grace to myself. Thanks so much for all your beautiful and validating work!
Paola, watching your videos has been one of the best things that happened to me. I'm 28 now, almost 29, and I feel that my family is expecting great things from me but I'm completely lost, I really don't know what I want to do with my life, and with my degree, and your words in this video were so comforting, I just want to say thank you for every kind word you say. Sending love to you and your family from Brazil. ❤
I don't focus on "doing something big or successful or changing the world" I focus on being kind to all those that cross my path..human and animal..its the best I can do. Kindness is a ripple affect so if I'm kind to someone and they are kind and so on..world changes by all of us...for me personal "success" is not how much money I make or what kind of house I live in..its about being at peace with myself and I can say I'm there more and more each day..so I feel successful.
Truly beautiful 🕊
Kindness is so underrated.
Your hair is absolutely beautiful! I love your videos! So calming and shows us that life belongs to us. God has blessed us to live life to the fullest in His creation.
Good morning Paola, I totally understand! Raising your baby is the most rewarding thing you will ever do. Enjoy life as you say! Sending the love 😘💞
Expecting yourself to live up to your potential, and reach a certain level of success, is just the worst. It puts so much pressure on a person. It makes you forget to enjoy life, and to forget that you're worth a lot just because you're a person. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
You are fortunate to have achieved the peace and happiness that so many of us haven’t reached. Bless you.
Coming may it will be 22 years since my daughter was born. Her mother wasnt interested in her, so i became technically a single dad at the day of her birth. Legally being a single dad followed less than a year later. Raising a child is a challenge. Lots of chances to mess it up. I think being a parent is the biggest ambition there is. You are on the way to become a mother, raising your child will occupy you for the next 20+ years. If that doesnt count as ambition i dont know what counts.
I truly believe our biggest purpose is to be our most authentic selves. We let go of the societal programs and follow our joy and peace. That’s how we change the world for the better. ❤
I'm an old man in his sixties, doing his own art & craft thing. Never so old that I cannot be encouraged, so thank you for sharing your inner world. x
Thank you Paola for defining "Just Live". Taking the pressure off to be superhuman make one feel lighter and more appreciative about enjoying the details of life. You are a life savior.
I love the clarity of instead of making something of your life, you’ve chose to live it. That’s a beautiful goal. We lose ourselves in the hustle and bustle of trying to make something of our lives.
Life is about making your inner self happy ,loving yourself and not being pulled in by drama ,that’s ambition,make ing your soul happy ,whatever that may be ,being content in your own world ,material things and money will never make you happy ,making your own material things is what rewarding,big ambitions is what has ruined this beautiful world ,you got this right 🥰🥰🥰
Just be grateful. Kind. Compassionate. Giving
It was nice to see you in the bookshop job, a whole other side of your life.
You're looking great and blossoming! It sounds like you have reached a point of balance and equilibrium. 💕
I can imagine it’s so quiet where you live. It’s so beautiful.
It kind of reminds me of someplace up in Lake George upstate
"i don't need to change the world. I just need to change. to grow. to be kind. maybe that's enough." this video is EXACTLY the medicine I needed today. thank you, Paola. may your delivery be easy & joyful. xo
Well, you're having a child. Raising it is probably one of the ultimate things one can "do" with their lives. Wish I had that
Dear Paola, I so love your not being ambitious. It gives the world a well needed beak of this crazy mentality that we are not enough, in the moment. Thank you! Your videos keep providing a place of “mental and emotional refuge” for me. They help me to picture what I wish for me and believe that it’s all on its way...
I, too, have been carrying around loads of pressure and haven’t figured out how to let it all go yet. I hope if you’re reading this, you are having a sweet and wonderful year. You are worth more than you think. Stay safe out there. You all are doing a wonderful job in whatever you are working on, even if it is yourself.
Wow. I love this video. If we go in search for more and more in our lives the less satisfied we feel.
This video taught me to live simple and peaceful life without much expectations.
Being a mommy is the greatest Adventure you’ll ever have. Enjoy every moment and just remember that good or bad, nothing lasts forever. Sweet cuddles or crying sleepless nights, it’s all worth it. Your greatest adventure is just beginning.
Paola I have introduced you to so many of my friends. My hair dresser is known as The Hair Fairy and she reminds me so much of you. Her soft spoken voice and love for all nature. Enjoy just living life what ever that means to you. You have enriched my life every week with your approach on life and being who you are and whatever makes you happy. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with me.❤❤❤❤
I’ve watched you change and grow and have also changed along the way. Contentment is now my goal in life. Thank you for showing me creativity is an end not a means toward an end. I’ve learned to just enjoy my imperfection. Thank you for all your thought provoking videos. I’m so excited for you and your husband and new baby.❤
My journey is never over. Now at 60 I feel free to do what I please. So I carry on looking after myself first and my family comes second. Health and happiness, a life of ease. I've traveled and find no need to go outside myself for validation. 🎉love your videos glad I happened upon your channel.❤
Thank you for talking about the "only if" myth. I really appreciated your comments particularly on looking a certain way and being proud "only if" I look a certain way. That really resonated.
In my humble opinion, you ARE a very successful artist and creator! But I do appreciate you speaking to this, as I can definitely relate. I don’t have a family and I do struggle with this tension between external expectations and inner desire to live a simple and peaceful life.