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  • questions and answers: 5 year relationship, dealing with regret, and why you won't see my baby
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Комментарии • 683

  • @TheCottageFairy
    @TheCottageFairy  3 месяца назад +494

    I’m sorry about the background noise and the constantly mischievous kitty! ❤ I can only imagine home life will be more disruptive in the future 😂 but I did my best. Sending much love and light.

    • @allrightallrightallright1919
      @allrightallrightallright1919 3 месяца назад +57

      A playful cat is always a delightful bonus and enhances any video. 🥰🐈

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 3 месяца назад +12

      I’m sending love and light to you as well, Paola! ❤❤❤

    • @tanyajohnston8262
      @tanyajohnston8262 3 месяца назад +21

      I didn’t hear back ground noise and kitty is cute

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 3 месяца назад +5

      @@tanyajohnston8262 I didn’t hear background noises either.

    • @catherineleslie-faye4302
      @catherineleslie-faye4302 3 месяца назад +4

      Blessings on you and your family. Working within your local environments needs is always for the best.

  • @rsmith4407
    @rsmith4407 3 месяца назад +1327

    Keep your baby away from the internet 100%. For as long as possible generally too! We should stop being so naive about the many many reasons why everyone should keep their lives private and their children’s image protected.

    • @mordie31
      @mordie31 3 месяца назад +32

      I misread this as "body" and still agreed. 🤣

    • @emd5095
      @emd5095 3 месяца назад +40

      I have raised 7 children over 33 years, my youngest is 10. I agree 💯 to keep your children off the internet as long as possible. Also, consider homeschooling seriously

    • @WisdomClarity
      @WisdomClarity 3 месяца назад +17

      I think she can decide how she wants to live her own life. 😂

    • @penny6254
      @penny6254 3 месяца назад +20

      Yes, keeping your baby out of your videos is a very responsible choice.

    • @anna_m59
      @anna_m59 3 месяца назад +27

      @@WisdomClarityshe already decided , people only agreed ..

  • @mmd9976
    @mmd9976 3 месяца назад +448

    I respect you a lot for choosing not to show your child online. You are respecting your child and that is being a very good parent.

    • @kiara4345
      @kiara4345 3 месяца назад +1

      Protecting them from the Internet, 100%

  • @tekla5487
    @tekla5487 3 месяца назад +211

    Very good decision to keep your child away from the internet! Too many people don't realise how important that is!

    • @anette2050
      @anette2050 3 месяца назад +6

      Where I come from (Austria), people don't generally show their kids online at all, so to me, it seems very normal and is definitely a good decision!

    • @katiel1979
      @katiel1979 3 месяца назад +1

      Realize

  • @wendygaonach3908
    @wendygaonach3908 3 месяца назад +558

    I agree wholeheartedly with your decision to not put your child online. I used to sign papers each year for school to keep my son out of public photos. I think it's a safer idea as well.

    • @greatbigbeautifultomorrow113
      @greatbigbeautifultomorrow113 3 месяца назад +56

      That's a great decision. My son is over 2 and we have never posted a photo online of him. I don't agree with it. They can't tell you if they want to be exploited or not. Us as parents have to protect our children. I cringe when people post their labor and birth videos that baby is a second old and already strangers have seen them. We have to be the voice for the voiceless. You never know who is viewing your photos, what they can do with them, etc. It's not safe.

    • @Schweinehexe
      @Schweinehexe 3 месяца назад

      @@greatbigbeautifultomorrow113it's very scary

    • @bethyoung4030
      @bethyoung4030 3 месяца назад +11

      I agree too. Yep I signed at school as well as at the YMCA that I didn’t want my kiddos photo shared.

    • @juliejackman2649
      @juliejackman2649 3 месяца назад

      I hope you show him once so we can see what he looks like. No one could take him after just one showing. 😊

    • @Sabouma28
      @Sabouma28 3 месяца назад

      she just said she will not show him... @@juliejackman2649

  • @user-ux8nr2ej9e
    @user-ux8nr2ej9e 3 месяца назад +309

    When Luke looks at you I can tell how much he adores you .
    I'm glad you are keeping your sweet baby to yourself . Mamma instinct .❤

    • @Sally-nse2
      @Sally-nse2 3 месяца назад +4

      There is a lot told in a look ❤

  • @marianl3447
    @marianl3447 3 месяца назад +86

    I TOTALLY LOVE that you thought enough about your child to NOT put him on public view online. ..and you have the integrity to make you choice no matter how many people would expect and want to see him/her.

  • @captainpharaoh
    @captainpharaoh 3 месяца назад +118

    No need to explain why you're not putting your child online. As a parent, I completely understand and relate. You share enough of yourself with all of us and we're lucky to benefit from that. You deserve privacy, and I think your child will be lucky to have you two as parents.

  • @KKinda808
    @KKinda808 3 месяца назад +141

    "Observe don't absorb." WOW!
    Never apologize for keeping your child safe. That's your job as a parent. Living life on line in whatever venue can be unsafe physically, metally, and emotionally for adults. Children should not be exposed, in my opinion. Thank you for this video.

  • @lisab9734
    @lisab9734 3 месяца назад +47

    I so appreciate that you don’t have ads during. I wouldn’t mind an ad at the beginning. But I’ve unfollowed so many people who put adds in between as it ruins the flow of some of the channels that are like yours. I come for comfort and calm. It would ruin the flow

    • @NicolesGardenNS
      @NicolesGardenNS 3 месяца назад +5

      You should know that ‘we’ don’t place ads in the middle of our videos, youtube does it automatically.

    • @WhimsicalCrochet
      @WhimsicalCrochet 3 месяца назад +2

      That’s mainly how they get paid tho… I personally have RUclips premium because I didn’t want to watch ads, but i still want the creators to get paid. Before I had premium I would watch ads all the way through, it’s the least we can do for those who put hours of filming and editing into their videos. Highly recommend premium if you don’t want to watch ads!

    • @basicallyno1722
      @basicallyno1722 2 месяца назад

      @nicolesgarden are you really pretending creators don’t have control over ads playing mid roll? If you don’t know this then you should dig into your settings.

  • @flytyer2728
    @flytyer2728 3 месяца назад +111

    In regard to navigating a relationship, especially between spouses, my friend's daughter came up with this great saying: "To disagree without being disagreeable."

  • @indigo_diary
    @indigo_diary 2 месяца назад +4

    For the privacy and safety of your child, I am glad to hear you won't be sharing their face online

  • @donnaj.1634
    @donnaj.1634 3 месяца назад +118

    I agree with no showing babies or children on the internet. Love your videos 💜🙏🏻🕊️💜

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 3 месяца назад +5

      I have a RUclips Channel as well. When I have kids of my own one day, I don’t plan on showing them on the internet either. I respect and support Paola’s decision. 🧚🏽💙

    • @donnaj.1634
      @donnaj.1634 3 месяца назад +1

      @@WoodlandFaerie0610 I just subscribed to your RUclips. 😊

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 3 месяца назад +1

      @@donnaj.1634 Really?! You didn’t have to do that. Thank you!

    • @donnaj.1634
      @donnaj.1634 3 месяца назад

      @@WoodlandFaerie0610 I t looks like a beautiful channel 😊

  • @justjudy7320
    @justjudy7320 3 месяца назад +30

    ❤ couples are meant to be joined at the heart not at the hip❤

  • @jillychandler
    @jillychandler 3 месяца назад +113

    I was never blessed with children in my 18 year marriage - but I opened my own private nursery school for 3 to 5 year olds, and loved every minuet of it. I leaned so much from the wonderful children in my care. This was back in the 80s, and I always wonder how all the children that came to Woodpeckers Nursery School, in Rackenford, Devon, England, are doing now. I am sure we can all understand why you do not want to put your child online. Wow, you now have 1.5M subscribers, congratulations on that, and on the upcoming wonderful life you two will have, meeting your baby for the first time. Blessings and love, from Jilly & Madge the rescue greyhound, from West Devon, England. xxx

    • @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018
      @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 3 месяца назад +3

      Ah, Devon, England! My home county :)
      Love a lot of things about living there

    • @jillychandler
      @jillychandler 3 месяца назад +8

      @@ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 Yes, I agree with you. I lived here for 18 years as a married person, then got divorced, moved to Oxford for about 4 years, but came back to Devon to live in 2006. xxx

    • @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018
      @ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 3 месяца назад +4

      @@jillychandler Yes, I like the idea of moving around too and have lived in Cambridge for 3 years which I loved and then Reading for a bit which I also enjoyed.. but Devon is unique and wild and is somewhere I'm proud to call home :) It's great that we're both watching Paula who is so far away! Take care x

    • @jillychandler
      @jillychandler 3 месяца назад +1

      @@ruthsdyspraxiacontent4018 Yes, she is such a lovely person, both inside, and out - so beautiful in the true sense of the word. xxx

  • @WabiSabiStories
    @WabiSabiStories 3 месяца назад +202

    That cat is absolutely adorable! 😍Such a cute and fluffy addition to an already great video!

    • @TheCottageFairy
      @TheCottageFairy  3 месяца назад +46

      She likes to keep things interesting 🤣

    • @safronthinks
      @safronthinks 3 месяца назад +2

      😂😂

    • @Gwaycee
      @Gwaycee 3 месяца назад +9

      The kitty and bunnies are the main reason I watch this channel. 🐈🐇🐇😊❤

    • @safronthinks
      @safronthinks 3 месяца назад +2

      @@Gwaycee really...????

    • @Gwaycee
      @Gwaycee 3 месяца назад +12

      @@safronthinks Really. I love little animals. Darcy, her rabbit, was the one who actually led me here, RIP. I have two kitties myself, a mommy goat, and some chicks. 🙂

  • @DancingNomadN
    @DancingNomadN 3 месяца назад +135

    Paola, you and the background are like a piece of a painting we see in a museum, very beautiful. Several friends of mine from a bookclub started following your channel, too. Sending you lots of love from across the sea.

    • @MoonFlower52798
      @MoonFlower52798 3 месяца назад +2

      Yes! And I love that gorgeous lamp! It goes so well with her vibe!

    • @2Elkhounds
      @2Elkhounds 3 месяца назад

      yes, you are right about that....screenshots!

    • @MadonnaGrogan
      @MadonnaGrogan Месяц назад

      Like a Vermeer painting

  • @melodysnyder5278
    @melodysnyder5278 3 месяца назад +7

    It makes me so happy that you will not be exploiting your baby on this outlet. So many influencers do. A child 16 and under cannot consent or have the ability to consent to dangerous predators and AI. I hope that the laws that are about to go into place will help all these children to be safe from such predators. Have a blessed day.

  • @mdmcgee
    @mdmcgee 3 месяца назад +92

    "I did the best I could with the information and resources I had at the time" is the healthiest mantra especially going into parenting. My second favorite is "This is temporary." Every time I struggled as a new parent I sought some sort of fix or technique to solve an issue with my little (from gas pains to sleep) only to realize later I simply just needed to comfort and wait for her to come through this growth spurt or physical maturity etc. There is so much information out there and people wanting to sell you workshops or "solutions" to perfectly normal childhood experiences that just require love and patience. I personally found all the information quite disconnecting from really getting to know my children and attuning to their unique needs. Information always changes and giving oneself grace and room to grow as a parent (even apart from that wealth of information) is so vital. ❤

    • @jwilliams2545
      @jwilliams2545 3 месяца назад

      @mdmcgee. Lovely comment as you are one of the 20% in America who has a family that isn't dysfunctional.
      A true fact: 80% of American families are dysfunctional. Want proof? Just read the comments on channels like this one! Sad but true.

    • @kaiju_k5042
      @kaiju_k5042 3 месяца назад +8

      I have a 3 year old son and this advice is GOLD

    • @mdmcgee
      @mdmcgee 3 месяца назад +12

      @kaiju_k5042 little ones are so pure and genuine and NEW. I found that I needed to grow and change in the early years more than I needed to try to train or force my littles to fit into some sort of prescribed mold that would somehow magically make it all "easier." It simply is really hard for a while. You lose a lot of ease and comfort. But it does all come back with time and all the tremendous joys Paola talks about looking forward to makes it absolutely worth it. Its good to remember kids eventually burp on their own, go potty on their own, feed themselves, sleep through the night, etc. when you're exhausted and overwhelmed with these things in the moment. It's temporary. I've found some of the hardest things in life are absolutely the most worthwhile. ❤️

    • @kaiju_k5042
      @kaiju_k5042 3 месяца назад +1

      @@mdmcgee Making me tear up here

    • @user-bd8do9kn5e
      @user-bd8do9kn5e 3 месяца назад +1

      Absolutely! Love and patience are the most important things in parenting... Unconditional love❤

  • @michellepelkey51
    @michellepelkey51 3 месяца назад +98

    I adore your decision to protect your child. You’re already a wonderful momma bear.💙

  • @VinnieJo
    @VinnieJo 3 месяца назад +51

    Thanks for sharing! I remember bringing my newborn home, sitting down in a chair with her thinking…now what do I do?!! Everyday will be an adventure, and somehow, you will figure it all out as parents! Agree with not sharing baby on social media. I love your videos. They are so calming for me.

  • @Motherhubbard170
    @Motherhubbard170 3 месяца назад +28

    "you did the best you could at the time"
    There is tremendous healing to ourselves when we 'absorb' this truth, the one time it is beneficial, even if we have to hear it from another person.
    Those words healed me of unbearable guilt that I could not have lived with many years ago.

  • @ktsls82
    @ktsls82 3 месяца назад +26

    I think you are so wise to keep your baby private. I started watching vlogs many years ago when daily vlogging first started. Three families featured their children. I watched those kids turn from normal children to performers for the camera. They became self conscious and were always thinking about how they should act. It really is not a healthy situation. I applaud you!

  • @ManuelaChristina1
    @ManuelaChristina1 3 месяца назад +51

    I totally agree with your decision to not show your little one here online. Your cat is so cute 😊

    • @WoodlandFaerie0610
      @WoodlandFaerie0610 3 месяца назад +7

      I'm supportive as well. I would do the exact same thing if I was in her position.

  • @ameliajasmin3688
    @ameliajasmin3688 3 месяца назад +74

    I completely respect your reasoning to keep your new baby off of the internet. I don't even share pictures of my child on social media anymore. You're absolutely correct, it can be damaging to have them on the internet for the world to see. We are all flies on the wall of your beautiful story. I will be happy with what you choose to share. Much love from the Oregon coast. ❤ ❤❤❤

  • @martineklaassenpepler5321
    @martineklaassenpepler5321 3 месяца назад +59

    Your personal choice not to share your precious baby is to me totally fine. Loved your video today ❤

  • @GreenNatureTrails
    @GreenNatureTrails 3 месяца назад +4

    My mom used to talk about children just being a little person. She felt God gave her the gift of caring, nurturing, and raising my sister and I.
    It warmed my heart to hear you say, little human. 😊

  • @-living4jesus4ever-
    @-living4jesus4ever- 3 месяца назад +6

    My heart changed from being so afraid to become a mom & thinking I didn’t want to be a mom to desiring 4 babies and they are the JOY of my LIFE!! I had absolutely no idea what it would be like to love and be loved as their mommy and it truly does make life more magical, rewarding and meaningful! 🩷🩷🩵🩵

  • @jennyc1846
    @jennyc1846 3 месяца назад +32

    The question " why did you decide to become a mother"? ....what a very private and personal question to ask a stranger, to ask anyone in fact... all the best to you and Luke Paola for the safe arrival of your first child Im sure he/she will grow up much loved in your wonderful family❤

    • @Uapa500
      @Uapa500 3 месяца назад +6

      Same goes for "Why won't you become a mother?".
      They are indeed private questions.

    • @denisebell3435
      @denisebell3435 3 месяца назад +3

      jenny c of course this girl is on the internet exposing her inner thoughts and life why not ask her that question .. she is always complaining about being tired, sick this and that normal that she does not sound healthy. so why not ask her. kids are not bunnies or cats or dogs they are human

    • @jennyc1846
      @jennyc1846 3 месяца назад

      ​@@denisebell3435 Actually Denise I haven't visited this and many other sites for a while because I got sick of the depressing' whoa is me attitude' on many of them. I have more than once suggested to Paola that she should enjoy the life she has and to stop looking back on all of her past misery (a lot of folk have baggage but they don't bring it up at every opportunity). Told her to stop dwelling on the negatives. There are enough young people out there these days who seem to thrive on this negativity. They need to toughen up!! Seems to me Paola has an awesome family, fantastic husband and extended family, lives in a beautiful part of the world in a lovely home built for her by her hubby and FIL she should have nothing to be miserable about...and she is expecting a baby. She works in a book shop not a sweat shop life is pretty cushy I imagine. That said, yes she puts herself out there on the net but she also deserves the privacy to not talk about some things if she chooses. None of us would like our private personal lives out there for all to see, just because they use FB, Twitter and god knows what else...I hate social media!! Have a great day and cheers from Western Australia

    • @denisebell3435
      @denisebell3435 3 месяца назад +2

      @@mmecharlotte yes i agree wholeheartly .. now a days one wants children for benefits only not really knowing that you come last and your children come first. so i respect girls that think twice before bringing in chiidren to this world because i just want a child ... . they grow nuts after birth and take it out on the child or partner.

  • @christymason8253
    @christymason8253 3 месяца назад +45

    I believe "observe, don't absorb" will become my new mantra. Such wisdom from such a young person! I feel blessed to see these videos from an old soul. Each video presents something new for me to contemplate. Love the "icing on top" that your kitty, bunny, and puppy provide! 💜💜💜

    • @tedpreston4155
      @tedpreston4155 3 месяца назад +3

      That has become a mantra of sorts for me as well.
      I wasn't surprised to hear Paola use that expression in the same breath as she praised the effect of meditation on her life. One of the most common forms of meditation encourages us to be aware of the thoughts that intrude on our consciousness when we're trying to focus our awareness on something else.
      We can learn so much by examining the sort of thoughts that our minds pester us with, without judging ourselves over having produced those thoughts. That sort of observation is invaluable for understanding how our minds work, subconsciously, and how often our repetitive thoughts represent emotions that are not "honest": they too often represent feelings and judgements that are not based solidly in reality. Observing those thoughts teaches us that we should not absorb them. Many of our thoughts simply don't serve us well, and we are happier in the end if we recognize this unhelpful tendency of our our minds.
      I too appreciate Paola's wisdom. I wish that someone had taught me these lessons when I was her age.

  • @lianeabeyta4515
    @lianeabeyta4515 3 месяца назад +2

    As a 70 something grandma... I have always felt fascinated by little humans. I grew up with all girls in my home. Dad was mostly working so it was me, my Mom, a little sister and an older sister. We were close as there was only 2 years between each of us. But since I was surrounded by girls... I found boys the most interesting, I envied people with brothers. I thought that must be so wonderful. So I had a son , who is now 51, and he gave me 3 grandsons!!!! They are now 29, 19 and 3 years old!!!! I got all my boys and found their growing from babies to young men, to fathers the most fascinating journey ever! My favorite artist is also Beatrix Potter and I loved Tasha Tudor. I love the textiles on your chair and lap blanket. The colors and patterns are soft and beautiful.

  • @lilsheba1
    @lilsheba1 3 месяца назад +5

    I miss these days sometimes, especially with my oldest child. That girl is now 34 years old...and the time went by so FAST!!! It can seem hard at times but in the end the time just flies by.

  • @TheNaturalMtDew
    @TheNaturalMtDew 3 месяца назад +7

    I love and respect your choice not to show your baby on your channel. It's important to protect your children. :) Really enjoyed hearing you answer questions while working away on your sampler. It was like drinking tea and chatting with a friend. 💕

  • @roseyherber
    @roseyherber 3 месяца назад +15

    I was so hoping we wouldn't see your baby, as much as I love looking at adorable little bubs, I just don't think it's healthy in so many different ways. Great choice 🩷

  • @katem3961
    @katem3961 3 месяца назад +16

    I was just so pleased but not surprised about your decision not to put your baby on your channel. Like you said, a hand or foot but not their little face, etc. You are totally entitled to your privacy despite being on YT. I really admire your choice to protect your childs privacy too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Such a beautiful video 💛🧡🤎

  • @DistinctiveThinking
    @DistinctiveThinking 3 месяца назад +14

    I agree with your choice for your child. I have found it rather sad when a new baby or child is constantly exposed to a camera in their personal space. I am of the opinion this is really unhealthy. There is nothing wrong with taking pictures or filming family with moderation. But these days it seems a camera, iPhone, TV is what so many parents put in front of their little ones to pacify. ❤

  • @aglowinthedarkunicornsilly5943
    @aglowinthedarkunicornsilly5943 3 месяца назад +4

    I almost cried when you began describing why you want to be a mother. I am a crybaby but it reminded me so much of how much my mom took care of me; and was really a steward for my growth. I still look up to her so much everyday because being her daughter is a gift 😭

  • @pianokeysandcraniotomies3365
    @pianokeysandcraniotomies3365 2 месяца назад +1

    Becoming a mother has been the best thing I’ve ever done. Wishing your little family well.

  • @MS-bs8dd
    @MS-bs8dd 3 месяца назад +7

    The silent You-Luke part. The way he is self contained is everything for us empaths ❤

  • @gracemccoy2874
    @gracemccoy2874 3 месяца назад +21

    Mavi! What a ham 🥰
    Ive spent the last 3 yrs of my life rewiring my brain. Doing yoga, meditating and learning as I age (im about 20ish yrs older than you 😉) that i need to get rid of negative thoughts and energy in my life. Life is short and when you look back and think of the time you spent thinking negatively or beating yourself up over stuff in your brain it truly is wasted time. Time you will never get back. You are letting those negative thoughts win and they dont deserve that prize! Absolutely not!
    Enjoy the lives we have been gifted and dont waste time on negativity, its never prosperous. 💕

  • @WoodlandFaerie0610
    @WoodlandFaerie0610 3 месяца назад +30

    I'm so happy you mentioned Beatrix Potter. I love her work with the Peter Rabbit and friends stories. I do also adore A.A. Milne's work as well.
    I love childlike stories that take me away from the complex world we live in and transport me to a place like the Hundred Acre Wood, Mr McGregor's Garden (I hope I spelled his name right and if not I apologize), Hobbitan, and so many more.

  • @SandySass
    @SandySass 3 месяца назад +17

    I adore these little sit-downs, it feels like having a conversation with a friend. ❤

  • @ljshaw8516
    @ljshaw8516 3 месяца назад +21

    Amen to you for giving respect to your little one. I would expect no less from the Wonderful Cottage Fairy. Rest, refresh and relax. You are growing the miracle of life. x's, lj

  • @unikreations2258
    @unikreations2258 3 месяца назад +13

    “Observe and don’t absorb” is such great advice. It really helped me deal with my current unstable emotional ride. Thank you and stay wonderful and beautiful.

  • @BobRoyAce77
    @BobRoyAce77 3 месяца назад +25

    One of the greatest treasures of raising my sons, and homeschooling them, was recapturing the wonder of life. It is so easy to lose that wonder, as adults. The way that the children repeatedly marvel at the new, and especially beautiful, things that they encounter, is truly infectious!

  • @lindafrazier8799
    @lindafrazier8799 3 месяца назад +17

    Glad your fur babies are in your videos. Understand about your baby. Glad you are well!

  • @andypandy-qz5om
    @andypandy-qz5om 3 месяца назад +5

    I'm so glad you won't be showing your little one on the internet.
    I knew you'd have the maturity and wisdom to guard your child's privacy.
    Wishing you and your family good health.

  • @lisab9734
    @lisab9734 3 месяца назад +32

    Completely agree not showing the bubba. I had a blog for years- my boys were only ever shown from the back and I didn’t use their names either or share things like school etc

  • @ayidas
    @ayidas 3 месяца назад +19

    You are radiating confidence and assertiveness, Paola! Loved this video ❄️

    • @TheCottageFairy
      @TheCottageFairy  3 месяца назад +6

      Thank you! Took several years to get there 😅 I’m trying and I appreciate your kind words

  • @johndej
    @johndej 3 месяца назад +5

    Your comments about working with children sparked some thoughts for me. As a retired elementary teacher, I've had the joy of knowing many of my kids as children and as adults. This has been the greatest reward I could have ever asked for. Regarding your baby, you've made the best choice possible. Even though people would love to 'be involved', no one has the right to do that without your permission. Thank you for another wonderful video. I wish you good health and lots of rest!

  • @sunflowersoul8461
    @sunflowersoul8461 3 месяца назад +13

    Every time I watch these videos, I get so emotional for some reason. I think it’s because the world we live in, is so fast and chaotic that seeing someone else thrive at a pace that is more natural and grounding is so humbling. We were not meant to work ourselves into the ground. Thank you so much for sharing your story. My bf and I are really struggling with communicating right now about what we each need/want. The codependent part of me, wants to just agree without setting boundaries, bc that always feels safer.

  • @morrigans_cottage
    @morrigans_cottage 3 месяца назад +17

    I think it’s really healthy to keep your baby offline, you just never know! Also just wanted to say your videos are shot so beautifully I love watching them

  • @bryonmacpherson1470
    @bryonmacpherson1470 3 месяца назад +26

    I always wonder what your next video will be about. What a wonderful chat with the Cottage Fairy! Thank you Paola. Well wishes to you and Luke on your journey to parenthood. Congratulations on 1.5M subscribers!

  • @sharleecheyenne
    @sharleecheyenne 3 месяца назад +28

    Ms. Paola, I don't know if you'll see this, but I've just got to tell you how much you've helped me. I started watching your videos in May of 2023, and I had just come out of the most turbulent relationship I'd ever been in. Hearing your thoughts on anxiety, respectful relationships, and kind inner dialog helped me so much in my journey of healing. I've been anxious all my life, and your videos have been like little therapy sessions for me. I always have to pause your videos every few minutes because you say something so profound that I just have to stop and think about it. I pray for you and your family to be blessed by God, and I just thank you so much for being who you are and helping me recover. You have brought much whimsy and comfort into my life, and I'm forever thankful for that. Sending my love ❤🍃🧚‍♀️

    • @humblygrateful
      @humblygrateful 3 месяца назад +1

      I started following her too during a turbulent time in my life: 20 yr marriage ended. I want to have her life and someday to be in a successful relationship that is a stress free, supportive partnership.

    • @sharleecheyenne
      @sharleecheyenne 3 месяца назад +1

      @@humblygrateful prayers for your happiness!❤️🙏❤️

  • @marimacovei387
    @marimacovei387 3 месяца назад +3

    Keeping your life as private as possible, especially when it comes to children, it is a great decision. ❤

  • @zenlife321
    @zenlife321 3 месяца назад +5

    We love the kitty …don’t edit out …🐈‍⬛❤️🥰

  • @kalliste01
    @kalliste01 3 месяца назад +3

    "If you don't' feel safe or respected in a relationship" so true. I didn't feel either of those things in my previous relationship, but I never realised it was emotionally abusive until afterwards. Kids really need to be taught what a healthy relationship means and that physical abuse isn't the only type of abuse.

  • @melissablackwell9692
    @melissablackwell9692 3 месяца назад +1

    Careful with the kitty and the thread! My cat was able to grab my thread and needle right out of my hands! and took off with it under the bed. By the time i got to him, he swallowed the thread and needle. This led to a very expensive surgery. Apparently, they can pass the needle, but the thread can tangle around the intestines. Just sharing because it happened si quickly and unexpectedly. Love you!

  • @yvonnebirch6026
    @yvonnebirch6026 3 месяца назад +11

    I love how you view little children as magical developing little humans discovering the world. Your child is going to have lovely parents !
    This was a such a cosy video. Thank you ! 🙏💕🌷

  • @MarisaAndChew
    @MarisaAndChew 3 месяца назад +4

    Paola, when my kids were little I kept their images offline except to share privately, I made that choice bc of their father having had been abusive as well as his family. Once my kids were older and had a say, they were okay with pictures to just be "private" not for the whole world. So i never shared publicly and i even messaged the school one time for having photos of my kids online when they knew it was a risk to them bc of their files at school saying as much. The school promptly removed and apologized. Now my kids are 21 and 19 and both of them have extremely private social media. The only photos I've seen of my son online were posted by his gf on her facebook, with his permission (they've been together 3 years and respect each other very well). I have seen photos of my daughter online that she has posted to be open and I wish she hadn't as in them she was often partying etc and looked the part but she was an adult and what she was doing was legal for her age where i am.
    I think it's great that you plan to wait and at least not make this channel all about the baby, of course you can discuss raising a baby, parenting choices and so on and not have the baby be part of the videos as well.
    So many RUclipsrs get a HUGE influx of subscribers when they announce a pregnancy and then they get a bunch of gifts (which you said you experienced) but then those same people are mad when people don't do birth videos and baby videos etc and it's sad and even a bit ummm gross(?) that people subscribe to intentionally follow a pregnancy and delivery and then the baby growing up.
    I get it, its money for the mom but the types of people are not necessarily good and the fact that so many do feel ENTITLED to see the baby and get the details is proof that they don't actually have the wellbeing of the mom or child at the forefront of their mind! Sadly, a lot of mom bloggers who began to realize that not everyone was there for the right reason and decided to not show their kids anymore, or to show them only if they were running through type of thing, lost a lot of viewers and income and that is really sad bc it just proved that were often watching for the wrong reasons :(
    I am happy you are already planning to give your baby the respect and privacy it deserves. !!!

  • @Kathiewinkle
    @Kathiewinkle 3 месяца назад +11

    Glad you learned all these important lessons about abuse when you are young. Your platform is very important to hopefully spare many from abuse and hopefully the individual is able to feel worthy of love and attract a gentle soul…!

  • @annavoytenko
    @annavoytenko 3 месяца назад +1

    "I learned to practice observing my emotions not absorbing my emotions" 💛Thank you, Paola.

  • @seasonallifestyle
    @seasonallifestyle 3 месяца назад +25

    Congratulations on your baby! Such a blessing and a beautiful journey ! ❤❤❤

  • @sheilavanduynfote5539
    @sheilavanduynfote5539 3 месяца назад +2

    It is wonderful that you have made the plan not to put your baby boy on the internet. Cherish this special time with your sweet baby boy❤❤❤

  • @sableeve5796
    @sableeve5796 3 месяца назад +14

    Your setting is so calming and soothing

    • @tedpreston4155
      @tedpreston4155 3 месяца назад

      That's one of my favorite parts of Paola's channel! Happily, it runs in her blood: her brother's channel is equally soothing!
      It even extends to her fans. I can't think of another channel where reading the comments is as uplifting as the videos! 🙂

  • @Isladepatmos-hr5zn
    @Isladepatmos-hr5zn 3 месяца назад +2

    God bless you and your husband

  • @wolfman3295
    @wolfman3295 3 месяца назад +8

    Dear Paola, you are such a Cottage Fairy gem and Luke is your perfect gem partner. Your relationship advice is so wonderful too. I love that you need to protect the privacy of your soon to be baby. Your videos have helped so many of your subscribers too. Thank you so much for all of your sharing.

  • @AprilShowers560
    @AprilShowers560 3 месяца назад +1

    Although I’m sure we’d all love to “meet” your little son, it’s absolutely the right decision to protect his and your privacy and to keep that special relationship just between the three of you private. It’s just lovely to listen to you speak your thoughts, Paola, you have such wisdom and such a kind and gentle nature.

  • @SassySue67
    @SassySue67 3 месяца назад +6

    Totally agree with your decision to keep your child off the internet. Your videos are always an inspiration to me.

  • @rubychew6535
    @rubychew6535 3 месяца назад +1

    A point well taken that you mentioned that one needs their own space.

  • @123canadagirl
    @123canadagirl 3 месяца назад +2

    Your cat is beautiful! I have two cats as children since I wasn’t able to have children. You don’t need to explain why you want to be a mom. Whether someone wants children or not is private. It hurts when I get asked why I don’t have children snd they assume i didn’t want them. Your art is beautiful as well. Love your channel! I’d keep my child off the internet too. God bless you and your husband and soon to be child. 😊

  • @peggyduncanbaggenstoss5380
    @peggyduncanbaggenstoss5380 3 месяца назад +1

    I love that you plan to keep your child out of the videos.
    Both my daughters ask family members to not post their children pictures on FB. Many didn’t realize they were serious. Relationships had rough spots as a result. I am frequently ask why I don’t post grandchildren pictures. Many people have difficulty understanding any post goes all over the world.
    Same as videos …

  • @evelynnellis7903
    @evelynnellis7903 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for the lovely chat!

  • @roserosa8276
    @roserosa8276 3 месяца назад +11

    I had to rewatch the video about three times and probably will watch it again. You look fabulously beautiful and the music, gorgeous back light and the view is pleasant to see. The cat stole my heart so playful in it’s little world.
    I am delighted to hear about your life story and experiences the happy and sad moments and that’s life for all of us.
    I adore your work and wish you always the best in life. 🌸 🌼🌻🍄🪺

  • @poetryandcanvas
    @poetryandcanvas 3 месяца назад

    Observe, don't absorb, can go for so many things - even just learning to be you. Observe others, but don't become others. Instead become you.

  • @reneelavoie9807
    @reneelavoie9807 3 месяца назад

    Always inspiring! Thank’s for sharing!❤

  • @HannahMitchell-Art
    @HannahMitchell-Art 3 месяца назад +21

    Holy mackerel! You have 1.5 million subscribers!
    Wow congratulations!!! 🎉🎉❤❤

    • @tedpreston4155
      @tedpreston4155 3 месяца назад +4

      It's wonderful to think that we have a million plus kindred souls out there, who think that Paola is worthy of a subscription. There's hope for our world after all!

    • @HannahMitchell-Art
      @HannahMitchell-Art 3 месяца назад

      @@tedpreston4155 so true!

  • @sandischorling1055
    @sandischorling1055 3 месяца назад

    Yes..... sending so much love ❤️!

  • @lindafisher8441
    @lindafisher8441 3 месяца назад

    Nice seeing you, peaceful and calm!

  • @ABJK-ds4wq
    @ABJK-ds4wq 3 месяца назад +11

    Feeling safe and respected, well put. I’m going through something with a family member and this hit close to home. Thank you 🧡🧡🧡

  • @chantellemanning7520
    @chantellemanning7520 3 месяца назад

    Thankyou so much for this

  • @karenhoward1843
    @karenhoward1843 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for your honesty. So appreciate you.

  • @christinekim5417
    @christinekim5417 3 месяца назад

    This video heals me a lot. Thank you.

  • @megs1966
    @megs1966 3 месяца назад

    Bless you and the wonderful journey you have shared ❤

  • @alice86142
    @alice86142 3 месяца назад

    You are glowing with love ❤

  • @yarrow2847
    @yarrow2847 3 месяца назад

    Thank you , many words of wisdom.

  • @eleyanar.8086
    @eleyanar.8086 3 месяца назад +2

    Loving your outfit!

  • @meganfp1061
    @meganfp1061 3 месяца назад

    Love the embroidery creation 😻

  • @felicitysileas1051
    @felicitysileas1051 3 месяца назад

    What a wonderful video! ❤ Thank you! 😊

  • @elizabethmartineau-marshal341
    @elizabethmartineau-marshal341 3 месяца назад +1

    This was helpful, thank you😊

  • @susanwilliams1575
    @susanwilliams1575 3 месяца назад +1

    You help so many of us with peace. I’m so thankful that you won’t be sharing your baby’s face online. We live in a scary world, and it’s best to not have your child’s face online.

  • @graceverssen5651
    @graceverssen5651 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for the chat, Paola. ❣️🌸

  • @suzanneraif
    @suzanneraif 3 месяца назад +1

    What a sweet vignette you make, sitting in that lovely corner…reminds me of an old Masters painting.
    You are so wise beyond your years.
    While I would love to see pictures of your baby, I believe that your decision is most prudent.
    I so enjoy your videos. ♥️

  • @Evelienn17
    @Evelienn17 3 месяца назад

    Always love your peaceful video’s ❤

  • @carolinerosacker8668
    @carolinerosacker8668 3 месяца назад +1

    Great video!! I enjoy your perspective so much! ❤

  • @saijagreatworks3298
    @saijagreatworks3298 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for reaffirming what I believe ❤

  • @2Elkhounds
    @2Elkhounds 3 месяца назад +1

    You are wiser than most young folks Paola...always a treat to hear you philosophize...so Sagg! 😍
    Kitties love yarn....my fluffy girl is first to jump at anything slithery.
    😹

  • @andreamayne3509
    @andreamayne3509 3 месяца назад +10

    Everyone of us must do what feels right to them so as to have no worries or regrets. I am sure your baby will be beautiful and I look forward to your stories of motherhood and all the fun moments that brings.

  • @patbrougham9929
    @patbrougham9929 3 месяца назад

    Thank you for sharing yourself with us, dear person.

  • @glennabushe39
    @glennabushe39 3 месяца назад

    Wishing you all the best.