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The 6 Characteristics of a Bitter Person
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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- Jim Velez talks about six characteristics of bitterness in this excerpt from his video entitled, "The Road to Forgiveness." Go to roadtoforgivene... for the complete resource.
I guess I'm bitter. I do have a short temper as well. I all i wanted was love, and i was constantly denied of that. I am distrustful of women, and at one point, it grew to contempt. I hate the uncertainty of the human heart. From the rejection of my biological father, to being discarded by the love of my life, how does one struggle with the anger, the sadness, while trying with his all to not hate them?
Good, good... Let the hate flow through you.
by changing your focus on the lessons of all that. By realizing that " all that " was a stepping to a better life. You only truly know what you want by knowing what you dont want. And that is precisely what you have been doing and will do , " thas life" . As you grow you just start to understand this truth and stop to be hard on yourself.
@Faline Dahlia I'm sure it's not that easy. I'm sure s/he needs therapy, just as I do. I'm so full of bitterness for nothing too. Although mine comes from childhood bullying and a violent relationship I was in. I guard my heart a lot cause I think people are out to get me. Someone could just tell me to tuck in my shirt better or anything and I might not respond verbally but my mind will assume I am somehow being attacked
Jesus christ longs for you, he loves you so so much.
I drink to deal with it but thats not healthy
It is a blessing when someone you dont know, in conversation, detects anger you didnt know you harbored, and alerts you to it, is a lifesaver. You are made aware, and can work on it. Walls may be up, but God heals and helps in creation of healthy boundary walls. You can forgive, but healing is a must.
This made me cry. I'm bitter from betrayal.
Rose M. I feel the sameway. Its hard to move on
it is hard. cuz you feel like if you let go, its going to happen again. so its better to keep your guard up
Rose M. Damn you sexy
Kerry somebody saying there sad... And youre saying Damn you sexy?
Me to.. Im so.mad
Bullying, disrespect, put-downs and humiliation from students and some of my teachers, lack of emotional and moral support from my parents and siblings, loneliness, many traumatic events at home and school, and mental health issues like anxiety and depression made me a very bitter person. I used to be kind and happy, but I’m now tough, merciless and unsympathetic and the comments I make can be downright scathing and hurtful enough to break someone’s spirit to the people who try to make my life hell. I don’t go around hurting people for no reason unless they treat me like shit. I hate that I’ve become such a cruel person, but I only became this way after being disgraced many times in front of people for making mistakes, even though making mistakes is part of being human. FYI, I’m only 16 and I’m working on becoming a better person. I treat people exactly how they treat me because I don’t take shit from anyone.
YOU'RE HARD
I'm bitter. I use to be happy, charmful, and on-going, when I got bullied around middle school, because of how different and weird I was, and it impacted my mental health and my long time happiness just faded away. Now I'm this teen that can't think straight, can't talk well because I'm constantly paranoid of what people will say about me. And always constantly think about the negatives in the past. I always try to make myself a better person everyday but fail. I always see people talk to their friends everyday while I just sit around people, not attempting to make any, because of anger and jealousy. Now I resort to social media friends to help me feel better but even I say things there I don't mean to say and just get scolled or rejected. I hate who I am today and I wish that I could go back to my happy days.
AntScorpio, I think your lucky to be aware of whats wrong. You have the option to seek change.
Honey you aren’t bitter you are traumatized. Go to therapy for help
@@THEPEERPATH I've gotten counseling for 3 months. It helped a little bit.
@@antscorpio1030
Please consider doing inner healing. If you go to a church it will be free. He churches are beginning to do this now. It helps deal with the trauma
My mother is so bitter and she's unbearable to be around. Everything I say makes her angry and violent.
She definitely lives in the past and uses it as fuel to her anger. She refuses to see a therapist
I'm currently dealing with the same problem. I'm at a point where I just end up walking away because it's a better alternative from her being... Difficult towards me.
She sounds like a narcissist. There are many fb support groups for this
My grandmother died bitter and I believe her bitterness led to cancer which killed her.
Then stop associating with your toxic mother
Im so sorry to hear that i hope she gets better and you are well.
I met a bitter person in their mid 40s who tried to ruin my life because his life is not going the way he planned. He tried to look down on my goals and career path I choose because of his current life situation. I avoid bitter people like the plague.
slidejones oh you met a bitter person? wow. guess you've never drank the cup. can't relate at all can you?
Not sure what you mean exactly. are you being sarcastic?
you met a narcissistic...not bitter person
Its both. Bitter people tend to focus on themselves and destroy anyone's happiness
bitter person could be just someone with wounds, hurt and pain...they don't destroy others...they destroy themselves..
“Avoid negative people
They have a problem for every solution “
Albert Einstein
bitterness isnt always a choice. sometimes its a side effects of ones lifestyle and environment
I read the comments, now all I want to do is give everyone a big hug.
im so bitter because ive been living in constant pain since i was 13. i feel like my life has been taking from me. so when i see people who are wasting time being unhappy and not doing anything about it, i get angry. because if i had the gift of health i wouldnt waste my life like that. it makes me sad.. and i ask why this was done to a young girl who hurt nobody.
i watched this video because it was one of the only videos that wasnt smashing a bible in my face. leave me alone.
poor soul... i wish ur friend get greater strength
Kathlene Daniels have you considered speaking with a therapist or a support group with people who have similar afflictions. You might be surprised how talking with people who care and who you can relate to can help you overcome your own issues. Who knows maybe you’ll get to a point one day where you can help someone who is going through a situation similar to your own. Life is short, i hope you spend as much of it as you can with peace, happiness and positivity, you deserve it.
@Jesus Gospel D You need to repent of self righteousness and Judgement. When someone is crying out for help all you can do it point the finger. Religious zealot that Jesus stood up against. Still i forgive you. Do you know the Religious Spirit is a demon. You might want to speak to someone about that.
Slim you dont seem bitter. You still can have compassion for others. Your just Human. You seem a good soul to me. Stay strong. Im sure better says will come.
My dad was a very bitter person and sadly it just ate away at him. He passed away when he was just 68. Sadly, I am going the same way and I am only 38. I am so bitter that I am always resentful angry and I hate everyone.
Have you tried Jesus? His beautiful deep love has been my healing answer to all my problems.
You already have life to change! Do it ASAP!
Life is a game of musical chairs with too few seats to go around. Of course you or another will be bitter. Don't listen to the rose tinted, self help pep talks, or the false hope offered on here.
Carry your burden and your truth. You know, they don't. And besides, what are you gonna do, become a happy smiling idiot like all the others who added to your stress of not living a charmed life? Forget about it. Don't shirk your wisdom and what you know so another poor soul has to be brought low when you start preaching false hope and happy tales like all the other self satisfied idiots. Don't ever be so cruel.
You have attained wisdom. You can live life in balance and truely empathize with others. It's a gift. A bitter sad gift, but still a talent most will never understand. And when tragedy strikes, you can take it like a man and let it annihilate you if it comes to that. You realize life isn't that great. You don't have to shriek and cry and beg as another tragedy unfolds. Such is life, you know it.
I think about apocalypse and natural disasters movies. The idiots are all running around with zero dignity trying to save their miserable little lives. Those with dignity and wisdom remain calm and even hit the snooze button, lol. They don't have time to pretend life is worth saving at all cost. And besides, maybe the disaster will just miss. Everybody left, so you'll have time to piss in the neighbor's pool if you want.
I hate lucky people!!! Everything I want someone else get them!!!
@ArcherQueen 05 Jesus aint real
I'm thirty-five and I'd become the most bitter person I ever have been. Every body that I see that is happy makes me pissed off because I'm not happy.
I just need help I'm so bitter no one can't even say hi without me lashing out. I don't no how I got to this point. I just need help I'm loosing my regulations and family most of all I'm losing myself.
You should be proud to be bitter! Nice people are annoying with their smiley faces and and innocent voices, not that I'd do anything to them but it just generally pisses me off BADLY and I mean BAAAADLYYYY! Whenever nice people or people in general say hi to me I just tell them to fuck off and once they call me rude I just smile and say run along now child 😂
Guess your fucked 👍🏻
I'm in the same boat
Dolfy Himmler lol
@Dolfy Bitter not true lol
A Bitter person has Emotional Guard dogs on duty..
Bitterness makes the bones weak
I know I’m super bitter; this is sad... I’ve built an impenetrable wall around me; I know this for a fact, it’s actually come to a point where I project such a negative vibe...that nobody wants to be around me
Overcoming bitterness and experiencing forgiveness is a very difficult task. That's why Jim video series is entitled "The Road to Forgiveness" because there isn't a quick fix or a cure all answer at the end of the road. It's a one step, and then another step, and then another type of road. It's definitely a journey, and one you should not travel alone. I strongly suggest you contact a family counselor like Jim Valez or a counselor or very trusted friend in your area and seek out the encouragement to begin this journey.
"Hostility and suspicion consume tremendous amounts of emotional energy"
I think my bitterness stems from bullying when I was younger. I never had friends then and I grew up to believe that the world is always against me. Sometimes I'll feel attacked over very simple comments from family and friends. The other day I moved to a new house and my family came visiting. While hanging out and laughing, my sister tried to warn me that the location looked a little scary for someone to walk around at night cause she knows I love partying and arriving home late on the weekends. On my part, I did not view her suggestion to have been made from a place of love and care, until later. I began to attack back telling her how she sounds like she knows everything, then ended up regretting my actions later. It's really bad. But I'm happy I know my problem cause I am very self aware. I just need to figure out a way to become a better person.
You sound like you are on a very constructive path to dealing with bitterness. I would encourage you to check out Jim Velez's website RoadToForgiveness.com (see link in the video description) to explore some very helpful tools. Thanks for sharing.
@@daVideo4 thanks David, I appreciate the positive feedback. I'll check out the website and try to improve myself.
@@FarzanaHaq1 I don’t know if you’ll ever see this but I’d say to forgive him. Not for your dad, but for yourself. Bitterness is like poison you keep drinking. It’s like a prison. Forgiveness is the key to freedom. It’s not an easy choice but it’s the best.
Bitter people are usually trying to prevent the same pain or wrongdoing that made them bitter. I think the best way to cope with bitterness is to express it to the point of exhaustion with a hobby of some kind. Validate yourself
Jen's Basement. I am trying hobbies to make me feel better about myself. Yes I am bitter and dont want to leave the world in this condition. Thanks for your comment.
I was bitter, I cut all toxic. People out of my life, now I feel fantastic, I let God and jesus fill my soul with love,now I'm free from the need of human love, it's the greatest love you can find!!!!!
Congratulations 🎈
Is it ok to cut off toxic family ?
Definitely bitter. I thought I was Bipolar at first but nope! I don't think this feeling or emotion will *ever* go away...
Ribombee lol
It will if you forgive whomever hurt you, even if that person is yourself! The Lord has healed me of so much already, but it takes courage to work through the issues of our heart, most don't want to face "the real me", we have to be honest and that takes humility, I find bitterness and pride go hand it hand, fear too, that's been my experience anyway.
Don't let bitterness be this burden you think you must get rid of.
Forget about it, you're golden. I listen to why many people are bitter, and 98 times out of 100 it makes all the sense in the world why they're bitter. They'd be a fool not to be bitter.
You really think being a happy go lucky person makes sense? Not to me it doesn't. Sure, if I lived their charmed little lives I too would probably be an annoying moron talking about positive thinking and God 24/7 as I post my smiling mug all over Facebag. Ugh, puke, barf.
Look at me, I'm on a beach. Look at me, I'm on a cruise. Look at me, and pictures of my crotch fruit, aka my children.
Look at me, I just posted a happy quote.
These idiots make everyone bitter. They're separated from the natural world and how most animals and humans experience life.
@Samantha MacDoo sure, most self help advice doesn't work. People have vastly different experiences in life.
Believe in Jesus. He came to save us from all the attitudes of Sin. Holy spirit will set you free.
I think I'm bitter, I was raised by a narcissistic mother. Criticism is my weak spot because I recieved an ungodly amount of it growing up from a very selfish and manipulative person. Now I wanna cut anyone who tries to tear me down. My mother in law said that I was a harlot because my dress was showing my knees. She is very religious and loves to criticize me for everything. I blew up on her and caused my husband and her alot of pain. I can't help it though, like just shut the fuck up. That's what i want to tell anyone who tries to convince me that I'm not good enough😔
I had a neighbor who talked about a girls spaghetti straps
She fell down o e day like the wicked witch of the west dear. My cat oz and I laughed abd laufhed she uswxto syabd I. Front on my building telling other women my boyfriend was doing g me.. He has cancer can't perform so that's the case of the wicked witch of the west
this one hit close to home.
This music made me BITTER....😩😩😩😂😂😂
Thanks to this video I'm not a full bitter person I thought I was, I've notice the people around me are bitter, really opened my eyes, thanks to this video.
Guess im a bitter person! ;-;
Me too.
But i think even Batman was bitter since he was 8.
Thank you!
For explaining that.I have had the Holy Spirit say "STOP going back"I was like a defense attorney putting out the evidence over and over again.But when I obeyed the Holy Spirit my mind stopped and I could forgive.
This made me cry... I guess I have to accept I’m bitter in order to get better... 🥰
my dad died 3 years ago and it killed me inside, ive become bitter to the point of isolation. I need to find healing
Same
I'm a single, lonely and bitter Incel. I'm a bitter and negative person, especially when I see other couples.
Thank you. This explanation was so easily understandable. Short, sweet and complete.
I would rather die than deal with a bone sticking thru my skin
That ain't what this is about 😂
My life wasn't a "happy one" growing up, I grew up being mostly alone and with school being more so. I don't know when it happened, I know that sounds stupid, but one day I woke up and stopped caring about anyone. I honestly forget people exist until I head out, then all I think and feel is hatred towards everybody I see. I don't go out of my way to think this way, it's just the first thing that pops in my head. I don't want to interact with anyone, and anyone that tries, even being kind from the start, I immediately think they're just trying to pull something on me and I say or do whatever will get them to leave or get me away the fastest way possible. I just don't have any interest in anyone and I've lost all will to even try to have a family. When I was younger a part of me wanted that "wife, kids, dog, and house" type of life, but I guess life decided that I wasn't one of the people that do that. So after enough people basically acted like I didn't exist or bullied me for kicks I decided to give people a reason to hate me, so I stopped wanting friends, relationship, even a family. All I wanted, and still want, is to be utterly alone with zero contact with the world because what I got was enough to know it's the same everywhere. Nothing seems worth the effort or expense to me, I remember a time when I was happy and thought people had the ability to be amazing and good, but now, all I see is wasted potential, disappointment, and people that don't care either. If I could let all of this go I would, but I've built my walls as high as I could and now I'm too scare to let them fall
I've become bitter from being rejected by women and by my friends, despite being extremely outgoing and wanting to be by people. Nobody invites me to anything. I have to set everything up. I ask girls out and they always aren't interested. I've tried online dating and everyone just ignores me. Alcohol is the only thing that kills the pain and that only lasts for a short time. If only my friends didn't ignore me then my pain would go away
It sounds kind of like me, but at least you have friends. I have no friends at all. Women don't want anything to do with me either in person or online. I am ignored as well. So, I just sit home alone and am bitter and I hate life. I don't drink but I eat for comfort. There is no real family contact anymore. Work was my only social network and now I have no job and my former co-workers don't want to associate with me due to the reason I left work. I wish I was not such a worthless coward because I would certainly blow my brains out.
@Trinexx007 No friend, please Don't say that! I will pray for you, please know Jesus Loves you!
@@ShelbyFarrow My friend, You are Worthy! God bless you! May the Lord fill you with his love and comfort, Amen!
The Happy Wanderer, Dear friend, im sorry that you had to go through that! Please know that Jesus cares and loves you! I pray that the Lord gives you peace and love, Amen!
@@ShelbyFarrow You should start drinking
This is me right now. I've been done wrong multiple times.
Thank you so much for posting this! It helped me be able to see the objectiveness of different issues that are so hard to make sense of sometimes.
Dont care what anyone says but this geezer should read bed time stories.... I would be out like a light!
He should also think about growing his hair out
I know I'm a deeply bitter person, but I often fear it's far too late to change now.
I’m hurting because I feel unappreciated and loved by love ones my mother
I am bitter towards those who are happy especially in relationships. My relationships seem to always fail or have problems. I'm just not meant to be in one I guess. I hate that I have to accept that I just wasn't meant to be happy with someone else. I'm meant to be alone.
I'm bitter...
your voice is so relaxing.
keys to overcome bitterness. go to Jesus. you can't go there. you weren't there. Jesus knows and I will always only trust Him with my pain. so many christians don't have the wisdom to deal with things. you have to pray for them. and BELIEVE God is big enough. He knows people better than "bildad,zophar and the other guy. Jobs friends.
Kathy Myers So you believe a zombie is going to come out of his non-existent grave and help you? Lmao I'm dead. 😂
This video made me cry. I want to stop being bitter.
Emotions don’t happen for no reason. God sometimes makes people bitter so they don’t get hurt again so being bitter is god protection from getting into anymore pain. I’m bitter towards women because they broke my heart, it was more then once.
@@GentlemenJack109 Yes I know it is like a defense mechanism. But it is like a negative reinforcement.
Imagine a tiger who has been bred in a circus and hit with a whip all its life to tame. The tiger has now began to associate the whip with pain and will be scared of the whip. If a man approaches it with a whip, without any intention of harming..the tiger will still cower.
Some repeated experienes in the past wire us to believe that things will always happen the same way. But if you look at it logically there is no way to guarantee it. As a matter of fact, we bring about the same results with our own behaviour because we create what we fear.
@@GentlemenJack109 I would suggest you to read "The laws of human nature" by Robert Green. The book goes into detail about all this. Specially the chapter about self sabotage and types of attitude.
Also bitterness stops us from moving on and enjoying life. We project our own past experiences onto people who dont deserve it and that is not fair. It is better to let go of bitterness.
@@GentlemenJack109 God doesn't do that.
@@GentlemenJack109 What a load of nonsense.
Sad reality. I am bitter. How did this happen(I know enough, but still)..... I look back at a point when I felt so much softer,gentle and open. Lighthearted....so many qualities I want to be again more consistently.
I played this out loud for a person who is bitter and they heard it
Did they criticise you
I guess I'm a bitter person...but it feels really gud after doing all of these....
I feel this man is very bitter about bitter people. I prefer to be called a human being struggling with embitterment disorder. Thanks.
Some times the people closest to you are not trying to help you get into the real world. Some people have a reason to be bitter.
30, bitter, and no signs of it clearing up. This video is like looking myself in the face and I'm ok with this. I'd rather keep you fucks away then be hurt any more than I already have been. Personal relationships be damned. Romantic or otherwise. Business only.
Your speaking skills are very refined, great video.
I know someone like this. She opened up to me about how her husband was cheating on her and never helped her financially with their daughter. But she also compares her pain to others…. Like what she has gone through is so much worse than others. If you are upset about something then she will just say “suck it up!” But literally talks about everyone as soon as they leave the room. If someone makes more money than her she hates them for it especially if they have a spouse who also makes good money.
Hate is good. Get vengeance feel better.
After severe trauma, I've noticed I have become bitter - good at hiding it but, I am. I am very self aware and don't want to hurt anyone I love so I don't show it. But inside, I feel it. How to stop? How to get over being bitter - for real?
Some people have a very good reason to be bitter to someone
I'm bitter and angry
Bitterness is good. You'll never forget what someone did to you. Never forgive.
Jesus is the answer I used to be bitter but as I seek his face, pray and read his words joy, peace and love fill my life.
Good for you, lmfao. So glad for ya! Haha!
His voice gave me Asmr
A true saying I heard once was "A bitter person is not born they are made" I use to get hurt over and over again by people until I learned not to care. I am not attractive in the least and have went up and down with my weight my whole life. When I gain weight people go out of their way to let me know "your putting on weight arn't you? (like I am too stupid to know that and thanks for pointing that out to me) when I loose weight - "your getting ugly, loosing weight doesn't help your looks at all" lol can't win for loosing. I have received FAR more insults through out my life than complements to the point when someone does complement me I wonder if its not them just making fun behind my back. I never trust a complement - they are either making light of you or they are trying to butter you up because they want something. People truly are amazing.
what happened to the last 4 character traits? Came here thinking of my grandmother. Shes can be hard to be around, i believe due to her bitterness. A conversation cannot go more than a couple of minutes, im speaking quite literally, without circling back to how someone hurt her, ripped her off, lied to her, etc etc. the list goes on. Shes an educated woman, in psychology i believe, which makes it a little tough to show her certain things about her own character traits. Most of the family avoids her to a degree and some avoid completely, even two of her children. The thing is she believes they avoid her because she is smarter, or better in some way, or that she caught them in a lie. Shes tough to visit and remain positive, especially when she turns her focus to you
Did she ever cheer up
Lol. It gives the dog a sense of control? U really think that dog is worried about that? The dog growls because he's angry and he's showing aggression towards an intruder for protection reasons.
good point. this dude is a religious salesman for this dying empire. it's a wonder everyone on earth is not completely consumed by bitterness at this point, and if not for the pharmaceutical arm of this dying empire, everyone would be, but instead they're drugged up zombies to take it here and are just are too beaten down by these slithering salesmen of empire to admit the world is dead and worthless because they feel responsibility to their empire targeted children. the truth is, in most, only the body remains- like an empty shell- the minds and hearts are completely checked out.
I don't like my family not because I'm bitter because they are very snobby and toxic. But the other half are great they are non judgemental and lovely. So that fact is inaccurate my friend.
The story of my life…
That compound fracture metaphor was spot on.
How do I not get bitter in the first place? I am getting good at letting go of the causes of the bitterness. I suck at not letting them bother me in the first place.
I think the video is incomplete...I just heard until the 6th...
It says to go to roadtoforgiveness.com for the complete resource.
I just checked the link, it is cut as well and there is nowhere to find the rest of 4. Is this scam?
I used to be a nice,cheerful kid with a kilowatt smile till ppl close to me betrayed me,friends and family alike
You can be hurt for so much till you wallow in bitterness
Which has been my life eversince
To hell with people,from now on i only need to look out for number one
I would be patient
He’s smooth voice just makes me not care more tbh cause I know my bitterness is necessary . I love to be alone wayyy less issues .
Sometimes I can be bitter. I have been ridiculed and bullied almost my entire life, and several of my interests have been rejected by my family and many of my friends. I was a Lone Wolf throughout my Central and High School days, and now that I’m in college, I’m seeing this as my last chance to make things right.
Good luck anime freak
Greenlight, its not too late until you've given up. You have an advantage for realizing your problem an incredibly young age. New outputs require different inputs my friend. I wish you the best of luck.
Two of my sisters(twins) are always snippy and critical.
I'm bitter from disappointment. I can't help it. I have been hurt and let down all my life. I don't expect love from anyone anymore.
When I start watching this video, i'm instantly start sobbing like a baby... I wonder how my life got turned so bitter...
I cannot remove bitterness with high school life till now even in my 30s and still have dreams going back through my teens. Even nowadays I do a lot of photographs I still dont like those people in my past. Even one of least favorite teacher died I still feel cold because he was angry for me for no reason.
I think you forgot JEALOUSY. They’re jealous of anyone and everyone they seem to have something they don’t. And they lash out at them over it. Sometimes trying to make them feel bad for their fortune.
It doesn’t work & drives a wedge between the two.
You both buy lottery tickets.
If your friend wins the lottery and you don’t, criticizing their random luck only shows how ugly and weak you are as a person. Your wealthy friend could have been an alley, but you push them away and out of your life. You fight them instead of your own internal turmoil. You project onto them.
This is so wise and spot on. Best comment on here xx
Liz C yes or the girl that they like might show interest in their well at the time new friend instead and they start to envy and indirect lashing out and criticizing i know because an aquaintance of mine and say this because now i know he was never a friend did this to me and it was very creepy he would message me on facebook acting like if he was my friend and he would ask me very personal questions
I would joke with him as i am a big extrovert and as we normally joke with anyone but he would get very defensive and then evade our chat right after very creepy and all this over a girl sad so many out there..
This explains alot
86 yr old mom is narcissistic, mean old and BITTER AF. I can't even be around her. All she does is beoch at me cause I have a busy fulfilling life
I need continuation for this. where do I get it? what he says is right on spot!!!
Your voice is so calming
I was born bitter. I swear it. You cant FIX IT.
I watch these videos so that I will be able to stop myself from becoming bitter because of my past I've done this since I was 9
I want ur baby, Jen.
@@duxuxuufi5393 Sadly you are male and cannot have a baby, ever.
If you fell off from the mountain is because I have seen it in my vision and then I pushed you because you did something to me and I keep grudges
this is true, I encountered a person like this if you allow her she will really ruin your life, better to discard them
why did I even watch this? xD I ain't even bitter 😂 I'm just stuck in the past (#6) is all 😂🔫
When you made that broken leg analogy, my leg started to feel weird lol.
I couldn't watch to the end of that story let alone the video
This is helpful thanks alot
This is 100% true
One characteristic is pointing at others on how bitter they are.
So my next question is: how do we overcome bitterness?
Maybe doing sports is good so you are too tired to be bitter ? Joining a boxing club or so maybe also good to let it all out....
Express it to the point of exhaustion. Bitterness is usually birthed from being wronged or treated horribly, so its best to validate it for yourself with a hobby of some kind
I was told this story about a guy
His family was the type who force their kids into arranged marriages
He did protested but did nothing to stop it
He knew he would be angry from this and went through with it anyway
He cussed everybody out before during and after the wedding and would explode violently everytime he was reminded about his situation
Nobody cared because they thought he was throwing a tantrum and would later adapt to his situation but he did not
He cussed his family everytime he saw them and never spoke a word to his spouse without assaulting her
Still everyone including her had faith that he would come around
But 3 years passed and he did not
He never ate her cooking always opting to cook for himself
his bitter hatred any sexual interest they may have had causing them to remain childless virgins and this resulted in rumours and jokes about him being gay
he spent his days learning to craft and shooting guns and perfecting that as his trade going so far as to build a hidden dwelling isolating himself from them in an attempt tos put as much distance between himself and his family
They watched with a strong faith that things might turn around but as time passed it did not and so with the disastrous results in full view they rejected the practice altogether
And so his sister came of the same age to be married off and he saw first hand that she was not forced into it like he was
Out of sheer jealousy he flew into a rage battering her to near death
His brothers and father ganged up on him and gave him the same
As he recovered they all told him that his misery and anger was his own fault and he should man up and be a husband to his wife
That woman hated him and would routinely torture him as he recovered
But recover he did and when he did he loaded the guns he spent his life learning how to craft and shoot and killed them all
If I’m bitter I’ll own it then
Thank you. I am working on that.
While I’m watching this I see a smirk on your face and can’t help to think you are speaking specifically about an ex you have. And these assumptions make you feel better about not getting what you want from him or her .
Mind is a battlefield
I'm bitter because my family doesn't understand me
Im bitter towards women because I’ve been broken to much by them. Emotions don’t happen for no reason, emotions can protect you from being hurt.
Oh my!! Sounds like that’s a person that is near me! I trying all my best to help him but in return I get very broken heart 😔😟😢🙁😢.
Your lived experiences of life are probably very different.
Give them space and understanding to be a grumpy curmudgeon. That's what they need the most from you anyways. You're not going to make them happy or see the light if they lived a life full of burden and hardships and they lacked the ability to adequetly cope.
Recall a time you felt frustrated and overwhelmed. For whatever reason, that's how they probably experience much of life. The anxiety and despair this causes can be torture for them. And most likely they're aware. They can sense they're not at ease while most people in the world seem pretty relaxed.
This was too short but to the point - love it though . Thank you