So some valid points. Again, you are telling your audience to take responsibility for their emotions and internal state which is good. However, whatever the reason, if one is being treated differently, let's say less passionately than a previous partner of theirs was, doesn't that indicate that there is at least less passion coming one's way? We all like some people more than others. If there is less passion being demonstrated, whether it is related to sex or something else, then I would say that this is an indication that they simply don't feel the same way about you as they did the other person. I don't think people go into relationships to feel like a second choice or an option. We want to feel like we are the number one choice for the other person. It is only about insecurity in so far as the other person making you feel loved and wanted and not like they can take it or leave it. etiquette tip, saying "Bro." repeatedly comes across as a bit condescending.
You cannot force another person to love you more. You can only improve yourself and choose who you want to be with. What you are saying is true, certainly people want to feel loved and feel like the best. But just saying you want to be someone’s number one choice doesn’t solve anything. It’s basically playing the victim and complaining about your situation - no action taken, giving all your power away to another person, nothing changes. If they don’t love you how you want to be loved, then leave them. Nobody is forcing you to be with anybody. Don’t do that to yourself. Find someone who loves you the way you want to be loved. Simple.
@@rjocdrecovery totally agree and I think you are becoming clearer. From your videos it often comes across as saying, "the problem with what you are feeling is 'your problem' because you are the one feeling it." It frequently sounds like you place the onus solely on the one with the issue rather than identifying what may be causing the issues, ie the other person in the relationship. It can come across as invalidating rather than empowering. Certainly, people can be the victim in a scenario however, simply discussing another point of view from your own does not mean anything other than another point of view. Yes, we all have power to walk away from an unfulfilling relationship to seek one that is better suited for us and I am glad you see that as well.
I made a video just last month about how dating an avoidant attached person can cause Retroactive Jealousy. Who you are dating absolutely has an impact on how you can feel. But your feelings are still your responsibility and no one else’s. Your feelings and perceptions about a situation are dependent on your own state of consciousness. Happiness is not guaranteed, and mostly comes down to you consciously choosing it or not. We haven’t evolved to be happy - we’ve evolved for survival. As difficult a pill as it may be to swallow, the truth is that nobody owes you anything. Nobody has a right to a mate, having children and lots of passionate sex. Life isn’t always fair in that way. But you can ensure that you get what you actually want by taking inspired action, which comes after taking radical responsibility. I appreciate you watching and commenting on my videos. I hope they are pushing you to think hard and question your assumptions.
@@rjocdrecovery I think you have some good content. I think it is important to remember that relationships can be nuanced and complex, just like the people that are in them. It's clear you have done some introspection and I commend you for that and for bravely sharing your insights and experiences. I believe many people will benefit from it. As far as your videos making me question my understanding... For sure and I find that I believe that what I have stated is correct. People show their partners through words and actions what they think of them and it is for the partner to determine if it is suitable or not. Keep up the good work.
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So some valid points. Again, you are telling your audience to take responsibility for their emotions and internal state which is good. However, whatever the reason, if one is being treated differently, let's say less passionately than a previous partner of theirs was, doesn't that indicate that there is at least less passion coming one's way? We all like some people more than others. If there is less passion being demonstrated, whether it is related to sex or something else, then I would say that this is an indication that they simply don't feel the same way about you as they did the other person. I don't think people go into relationships to feel like a second choice or an option. We want to feel like we are the number one choice for the other person. It is only about insecurity in so far as the other person making you feel loved and wanted and not like they can take it or leave it.
etiquette tip, saying "Bro." repeatedly comes across as a bit condescending.
You cannot force another person to love you more. You can only improve yourself and choose who you want to be with. What you are saying is true, certainly people want to feel loved and feel like the best. But just saying you want to be someone’s number one choice doesn’t solve anything. It’s basically playing the victim and complaining about your situation - no action taken, giving all your power away to another person, nothing changes. If they don’t love you how you want to be loved, then leave them. Nobody is forcing you to be with anybody. Don’t do that to yourself. Find someone who loves you the way you want to be loved. Simple.
@@rjocdrecovery totally agree and I think you are becoming clearer. From your videos it often comes across as saying, "the problem with what you are feeling is 'your problem' because you are the one feeling it." It frequently sounds like you place the onus solely on the one with the issue rather than identifying what may be causing the issues, ie the other person in the relationship. It can come across as invalidating rather than empowering. Certainly, people can be the victim in a scenario however, simply discussing another point of view from your own does not mean anything other than another point of view. Yes, we all have power to walk away from an unfulfilling relationship to seek one that is better suited for us and I am glad you see that as well.
I made a video just last month about how dating an avoidant attached person can cause Retroactive Jealousy. Who you are dating absolutely has an impact on how you can feel. But your feelings are still your responsibility and no one else’s. Your feelings and perceptions about a situation are dependent on your own state of consciousness. Happiness is not guaranteed, and mostly comes down to you consciously choosing it or not. We haven’t evolved to be happy - we’ve evolved for survival. As difficult a pill as it may be to swallow, the truth is that nobody owes you anything. Nobody has a right to a mate, having children and lots of passionate sex. Life isn’t always fair in that way. But you can ensure that you get what you actually want by taking inspired action, which comes after taking radical responsibility.
I appreciate you watching and commenting on my videos. I hope they are pushing you to think hard and question your assumptions.
@@rjocdrecovery I think you have some good content. I think it is important to remember that relationships can be nuanced and complex, just like the people that are in them. It's clear you have done some introspection and I commend you for that and for bravely sharing your insights and experiences. I believe many people will benefit from it.
As far as your videos making me question my understanding... For sure and I find that I believe that what I have stated is correct. People show their partners through words and actions what they think of them and it is for the partner to determine if it is suitable or not.
Keep up the good work.