The Narcissist Playing Victim To A Reality They Created. (Understanding Narcissism.)
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Yes.
I used to get so upset about the smears, the discrediting of my character but it's so pervasive and relentless with a narcissist and life is too short to waste with disproving their lies. I'm only recently taking the tack that if others want to believe nonsense, that's their choice. I can't stop someone from lying about me nor can I stop someone believing the lie. Letting the "narcissist show who they are" - and they will eventually - while you go "and live your best life" is some of the best advice out there. Do it! Thank you.
Yep, agreed 💯 they make their own grave.
I feel you. I’m going through that right now
They bait you into becoming emotional and overexplaining, then they'll use your emotions and over explanation to accuse you of being confrontational. One of these personality types I've known would do this to me on the phone and hang up. I'd feel so guilty that I'd upset them and would go over the conversation in my head before calling them back to apologise. I wasn't as educated about narcissism back then. But I see them now. Resources like this are invaluable to people. 💗
What you just wrote blows my mind because I don’t operate like this I didn’t catch it. I’m always learning something. You just taught me. That is what happens to me with my mother but definitely with my ex who is so sick and so textbook I really just still can’t believe That this stuff exists I just thought it was him which is absolutely sick and him making me think it was me the stuff really messes your head up and that’s an understatement
Oh yeah and my mother does that and hangs up on me to making me feel like I did something wrong oh it makes me so mad because it’s so manipulative and cruel to her own daughter just never ends
5:15 "A narcissist is going to be the victim in their life. Anything that doesn't work out how they want is somebody else's fault. Somebody else has done that to them. They don't see any form of their own behavior causing any issues within their life. They believe it's everybody else causing the issues."
6:15 "The narcissist has then gained control over their victim which in one sense helps the narcissist believe that they've gained control over their own emotions. However, because they don't have control of their emotions because they don't take responsibility for themselves and their own behavior it never lasts with a narcissist."
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I have a sister who is a narcissist and she will do so many jacked up things to me but when I gain the courage to say something she’ll attack me and block me without an explanation… it really sucks. You get no where with these kind of people.
Literally no where. They literally always wanna be the one who is always right and the one in Control and the one that always talks & say what is what and what you did was confronted that and they will not like it at all.
My wife has for two years weaponised her own “resentment” of my perceived behaviour (three years ago), but when I raise an issue she accuses me of being resentful and that she doesn’t need resentment in her life…….
Same here. When I finally decided not to pursue him anymore or accept his bread crumbs or bull dozing he claimed I need to let it go and stop being resentful and "back off" though they never stopped with the games.
your videos help me so much. having dealt with a narcissistic father and past narcissistic friends, this gave me so much clarity and reassurance. thank you
💜💜 you’ve got this.
Very good description of my mother. Thank goodness, I am seeing a psychologist to try recognize her behavioral issues as hers.
She cheated on me twice and blames me.
Share your pain
She creates dramas every day so that she can be a victim and get my attention. It’s exhausting. She’s racked up thousands in debt and now we’re bankrupt all to get attention.
Right she's so stupid (mines)
1 must sort their own issues out,its no one else's responsibility and that goes for their bad mood
your content is so great - I love the examples you provide of how narcissistic people behave in various situations. So many of the words they say are exactly the same as I heard (you're too sensitive, overly dramatic) that it almost feels like narcissists use the same playbook!
Your videos help so many people .my ex was more on a side of sociopath
It can be both narcissism and socio/psychopathy
@nv_chino I noticed something with my ex her patterns that's she does are so ingrained in her brain that within two months of whoever she is around it's the exact things she does to everyone
The circular arguments, more often than not stemming from something she’d do whether this be a lie she’d not accept responsibility for, or me insisting on answers for why she’d started being secretive would keep going round till I’d give up because they’d wear me down so much or I become fearful of loosing her.
And lose her I did in the end anyway because when I began to stand up for myself she started cheating on me (which she of course denied till I caught him at her place at 3am one night). Everything was my fault, even me not telling her one evening that junction 38 on the M1 Barnsley where she lived was closed one evening, so she had to go another way. “Why didn’t you tell me?!”my natural response was “how the hell was I supposed to know where you’d get off when I didn’t know where you were?!” (By this time in the relationship I’d started answering back), which of course led to being discarded eventually. The psychological abuse these creature subject you to is harrowing.
Yep textbook
I have health problems from the circular arguments, no solution good enough or he didn't honor them, and used my reaction (even if I just stay quiet) as an excuse for his next toxic attack.
This answered my prayers to a desired understanding.
She baits me all the time. And then attacks me. It’s exhausted me completely.
Im literally exhausted too both physically and mentally
She cheated on me twice (probably more) and then attacks me saying I fancy other women. I’m completely loyal to her. I think it’s just about controlling me.
I feel you. I knew someone like that.
I decided to pull my energy back from the narcissist and they played victim and acted like none of their happened: they kept being passive aggressive, allowing people they know to disrespect me right in front of them, stonewalling me for hours during parties, making me chase them for sex and dates, insulting me calling when fat yet they were fat, lieing and saying I never gave money to the relationship, saying it was okay for our daughter to stand me on lunch date she asked to have, after using me to pay her bills and to drive my car for free for a month, blowing cold on the same days or the week and leaving without even a notice and not answering my calls knowing they have the only car and they are getting groceries and I may need to add some things on the list, knowing they were asking me for money to just go buy drinks for women in bars who they were entertaining, entertaining other women during our entire date while not speaking to me, the list goes on. Everything has to be his way and when I decided I wanted my way to suddenly he is the victim. Going in rooms and behind expensive things of mine though I never insulted them and just refused to be gaslighted. He tried to control my emotions, purposely trying to make me emotionally messy when I am dealing with their toxicity soft and quietly.
They will find a way to blame you for the dung they did to you! It's mind-blowingly twisted.
P.S. I will never "feel the way they feel," so we're good on that one.
O also they hate when you do exactly what they do. I call it the narc back. Run into enough of these creatures u learn a thing or two.
Yep, there it is
Yeah
This video was very enlightening. It seems like she has had first hand experience with a narcissist in her life.
Life education first, formal second 💜
I can so relate to the narcissists behaviour described in this video. My experience is when you are happy putting a roof over your family's head, clothes for the family, paying the bills, food on the table for the family. With a narcissistic ex wife who went out of her way to bring me down, devalued me, destroyed my reputation with lies, threats and emotional abuse so she could feel better within herself and denied doing any wrong. I am not saying I was perfect, I am human and I make mistakes. All ending that she was perfect without making mistakes or doing anything wrong, her smear campaign made me hit rock bottom, my self confidence, self esteem was gone, left confused and bewildered. Still provoking me to get a reaction out of me after 15 years.
Thank you Elizabeth
A marriage is more than paying bill, did you bring more than that?
@ladybird491 yes I did, being threatened with a knife when helping with house hold cleaning, constantly being belittled and humiliated,
Twisted people I am trying my best to get rid of the relationship but some how I feel stuck and unable to get out of the relationship.
Yes.
this was so insane to see happen with my ex. she literally made everything my fault even tho i legit took care of her and did everything i could she somehow made me the villain. even on social media she’s portraying it like she’s been done wrong, and she cheated on me lol insane
Same. Sounds like a crazy B I used to know
They'll manipulate you then say who fault was that
😂 dumbasses
I realise she just wants to control me all the time. It’s destroyed me.
Yes
Yup. I did mess up. I have my own insecurity and infidelity issues. Butc the way my person worked their way in, slowly it was just everything I’d ever done to hurt them allowed them to cheat emotionally, so equal; cheat physically, and basically monkey branch. Then throw at me, sometimes years later, what happened and say, see, I love you that much, I screwed this person and it wasn’t you. I hate hate hate that when I’ve been in my 3 main relationshipss, I’ve each timed finally slipped into needing validation externally. And that alone, is a break up worthy offense. I wish I could say I didn’t say anything or love boundaries and things first, but I did. I still and trying to solve my problem, my ex is currently doing everything everything to rush into a new relationship, even moving the new guy in, says after I said I can’t do it anymore and asked for changes. The sudden release, was unreal. And I found myself suddenly acting out every anxious attachment I had. I couldn’t stop. I knew they did horrible things, but I found myself apologizing for not only my shit. But hers too. Ugh. I have nobody left. My kids and myself, no mom dad grandparents notning. Majority of my friends have basically given up on me at this point. But none of my exes ever lost a single thing.. except for me. I don’t know how to believe in love, or if I can even be worthy of it if I can’t stop seeking validation through interaction with women, who subconsciously, help me with the mommy trauma. My partners stopped providing it, and I asked to addresss it. And many things. Stonewalled. My favorite phrases, I don’t want to talk because you’ll corner me again. Again? When was the first?! When did you suddenly become afraid of me? Oh when I finally pointed out your behavior; and matched it to your words except, your words were about love and soulmates and your actions say, replaceable. Ughz
Yesterday she came up with the latest thing to blame - the fact that she was born when there was an asteroid in the sky when she was born. She’s spent the night telling me how this is the problem. It’s just the latest problem in years of problems.
This is stupid and sad but funny I’m sorry I had to laugh. I know idiots that being irrelevant things to say and complain about. It’s just like wtf
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Narcissists can have all the money in the world and get all the attention still not be happy .
She would spy stalk and harass for me for almost 2.5 years and then pretend to be the victim. Even when I pull out evidence and she can’t do the same. And when asked questions, she won’t answer. She thinks she can stalk MY exes and then want to copy some features here and there and then come to me after doing her little research and THEN try to manipulate me into falling in love with her. She clearly liked me and that wasn’t no denying when all her friends said so and so did she. On top of that she would go to these people to tell them to tell me she likes me. If you can’t woman up do it yourself then I don’t really want that. She’s super shy and then she went super crazy. I’m her crush and I understand that part but that DOESNT mean I have to like her when I told her I don’t wanna date ANYONE at the moment. I didn’t want to reveal information to a STRANGER and when told I like someone else, she flips out and went harassing me for almost a year each time she try to pull that half-ass stunt through proxies and got rejected. The crazy part is she does no talking whatsoever , she gets SOMEONE ELSE to do it.
She spent $400 dollars on a facial yesterday and today says she hasn’t got any money to buy some water.
Wow
What an inconsiderate little ______. Why don’t you go do the essentials first before even doing something like that, but that’s what narcs do, they worry so much about their appearance and how people views them
He goes through a large case of beer in 1 evening weekly until he is staggers and smoke weed and eats loads of food knowing how expensive it is and says he had no money. I give him money for the groceries which is expensive but some how we never have money to buy decent food and when I go buy it instead he says I buy food no one eats, like bananas, greens, lean meat, fresh fruit.
What can you expect if your boss is possibly narcissistic and controlling ? what are typical behaviour patterns
Signs Of A Narcissistic Boss Or Work Colleague. (Understanding Narcissism.)
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They also play extremely arrogant queer person for the reality they created. You forgot to mention that part .