Narcissists Play the Victim
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I finalized my divorce last week, my ex always played victim after he would cause problems and when confronted i was the problem
O, it's so hard when somebody presents himself as a victim...My natural response is compassion and willingness to help him. He seemed to be so vulnerable and needy. But on the other hand, I know he lied to me, blamed me for everything, threatened and ignored me...I have to remember who he is all the time.
My mom all day long. She runs to family to make them think it's me "making her life hell," but then she comes to me about the same complaints about those same family members who she claims is "treating her so badly," making her feel like an "outcast," yet she's not taking into consideration how she's treating all of us. At some point she needs to realize that maybe it's her. But for now, in her delusional head, it's "everybody else." 🤦🏾♀️ I'm trying to get me and my child out of this environment. She's even calling me names in front of my child while I'm in the other room. I have to go, but it's hard to find work and a place to live with a disabled child
Oh my gosh. My husband would say "He was cursed!" Because his marriages never lasted over five years. I'm his fourth wife. We separated right at five years of marriage.
My current relationship with a narc always is about how I’ve done him SO wrong yet he cheats and lies CONSTANTLY! But he blames me and will turn EVERYTHING around to make it be my fault 😔if I ever say he has done something that hurt my feelings it turns into a absolute attack on me going through everything that’s wrong with me or everything I’ve ever done wrong…and yet he has drained me mentally and emotionally completely
This is what I love always!
I wish there was a support group for this
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Yes....after the affair he would speak to me like he was the victim and I should be supporting him WTF!
I think it would be better to be confused. Being aware and fighting against the accusations, jealousy, condemnation, and blaming is exhausting.
My ex played the victim in everything that happened to her. Nothing was ever her fault or anything she did. She used to be a manager at a hair place and when they moved her to a different store and then months later moved her again and demoted her, it was never anything she did. She always blamed the girls under her or blamed management above her. Never "oh well I could have done xyz better as a manager at my store". She did the same in our relationship where everything was always someone or something else's fault. Try to tell her she did something that hurt me and it was "oh well you did this" or " well that's because of xyz". I wish I would have recognized it in our very first argument of something she did that hurt me and, instead of apologizing or taking any accountability, she sends me an article on "this is how you treat a divorced woman" basically blaming how she was acting on the fact that she was divorced.
I never recognized it until the end of our relationship and heard the things she was saying in her smear campaign against me. No accountability and telling only the half of the story that made her look good/look like the victim so she could people to feel sorry for her.
Truth, heard a lot of what you said in this video from my soon to be ex-husband.
Are you out yet? I have so much anxiety as I prepsre to get out. Fear and anxiety
I’ve just realized I was living with my narc for 18 years. After he discarded me I was so manipulated by him that I kept offering him to come back home and try and get respite from all his financial problems and his ongoing lack of mental wellness.
So after a year he convinced me that he needs to come back home or he’ll end himself.
3 days before he moved back in, I figured out that he’s a narc. I hate telling this because all my friends minimize my experience and then I feel even more self doubt. This is horrible.
He’s here for one week and I see his tactics because of these helpful videos. He also made it so that there was no rental agreement when he moved back in as my tenant.
I’m so mad at myself for actually letting this narc move back in. If only I had know.
Any encouragement would help. 😢
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Ben is so blunt!!! Thank you Ben! I’m climbing up this hill. I didn’t allow him to ruin my lawsuit. I turned the tables becuz of your advise! We will talk. Just let me get there. I have PPO and past injuries. So just let me figure this out and I will schedule with you for pointing me where I am going. Only becuz of you! It could have been really bad. 😢
If your always a victim their will always be a persecutor. Get out of the drama triangle. Challenge your stories when you have the ability. People can unhealthy stay in the drama triangle for life. I.e victim ,persecutor,hero.
Witnessing him play the victim was one of the most eye-opening things he did when our relationship blew up. I had found out he was living multiple alternate lives with different women (and even had a 3.5 year old kid with one of them). He had already moved in with one of them (straight away after leaving me a text he wasn't coming home after a 18 year relationship) when I took his set of keys. He gave me the puppy dog eyes and said, oh, I don't have a house anymore? Uh nope. Then when he found out I had changed the locks as well was dumbfounded and said, "you don't trust me?". LMAO, no, no I don't. It is really incredible what they talk themselves into believing.
Soooo very accurate 💯
Every time one of your videos hits hard I have to stop myself from posting it up hoping they see it and have a light bulb moment. Even tho I know the truth in my heart and mind. Dang but that hope habit dies hard.
It’s funny how the person that was stalking me for years and spying for a relation for 4 years is now harassing me and then right near the end , play victim.
Amen. "Trust me!" "I'm going to change!" "I've been getting significantly better about that, I haven't done it in a really long time, it's been months!" (He did it three days ago)... ughhh so much BS, it's pathetic!
My ex ALWAYS had a problem with his coworkers. He would say well x y z did this at work or it wasn't my fault.
I offered to do family therapy with a family member that exhibits narcissist traits. Ignored. Now they're the victim for everything and they can't understand why I'm not responding to them right away.
I just want to be done.
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She was always a victim of somebody. I bought into her sob story about her upbringing (it might have been true), but the rest of it was becoming more and more insane, because she seemed to be a victim basically of everybody she came into contact with - her multiple employers, her landlords, woman from a bus, a guy calling about the ad. And she was never guilty of anything, even though she instigated or even caused most of her conflicts where she would see herself as a victim. The level of not taking responsibility for her actions was uncanny. And of course, in the end she became my victim as well (even though she wasn't that - she manufactured the victimhood in my case as well), and deleted me from her life, without closure.
The sad story is that I knew a lot about narcissism before I met her (or at least I thought that), and I even several times commented her victimhood mentality to her, and told her she will never be happy in life unless she gets rid of that. Unfortunately, I wasn't aware how big of a red flag victimhood mentality is for covert narcissism. I just saw her as a real victim, at least at first, but for a relatively long time (months).
SO VERY TRUE
A narcissist told me he was going to help me with my bills, and then use my apartment as a hotel laid in my bed. Manipulating me the whole time, and I felt raped because I believe that he was going to actually help me also, they sympathize you with your trauma and then they do it exactly what you’re traumatized about. They will do it to you I feel raped I feel manipulated and I feel tricked and he played victim the whole time and called me names. he called me names when he after he left my house called me bro. Call me this. Call me that whenhe could’ve left me alone but no, he decided to cause chaos and drama also told me that he wasn’t drama
Getting advice from a narcissist who’s a narcissist…I feel like I’m being gaslighted right away lol
PS I didn’t know I was married to a narcissist until after I first divorced her. 19 years. She had me convinced I was the problem
Mine beat a guy unconscious sending him to the ER in an ambulance, but it was his own fault because the guy “pushed him first.” Refusing to apologize (even at the bare minimum just to avoid getting charges pressed against him) because that would be admitting he was in the wrong, when in his mind he was the real victim. Mind you, this was a 40+ men’s recreational hockey game…
Thanks Ben.♥️
Yes, too many times....
" ... from 1 month to 10 years..." lol, how about 30 years?!!!😉
Yes
As lovely as my friend is he loves moaning and playing the victim,wish he would grow up and face his problems
This why they dont forgive to get sympathy
Well, if you're trying to force someone to have sex against their will, you're doing a pretty good job of victimizing them. Saying anything different is a lie. You can repeat a lie a thousand times, and it still doesn't make if true.
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This is the gospel of my ex.
Please lose the background music.
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