I aged out of the system as well. At 31 I still have trouble making lasting connections. Your video made me feel not as alone. Thank you for sharing your story.
I grew up next door to your mother. We were very close friends until she began her path of destruction. I had to make the hard choice of walking away from her. I still feel like I should have tried harder to help her but as you know she always goes back. I did get to see you a couple of times as you were growing up and I cried every time. The last I seen you I think you were about 6. I am so sorry for the life you were given.This video confirms what I knew in my head. I am sorry I couldn't do anything to help you or your brothers. I wish you all the best in your future Sara. It looks like you have reshuffled the hand you were given and you are going to have a beautiful future. Many prayers for you and your son. I understand if you block this comment. I just wanted you to know there were people in your life that wanted to help but had no power to do so..
I was put into Forster care at the age of 7 after living with my abusive aunt and uncle for 4 years. We were physically abused for 4 years but never had anything down about it until my eldest sister refused to sit down at school because it hurts us that much just to sit down and the day she refused turned into the best day of our lives
Just wanted to say despite your childhood experiences it looks like you've grown up into a lovely young lady. Really pleased to hear you're now settled and happy.
This is so sad .. how can someone treat children this bad.. especially scared and vulnerable.. so sorry this happened to you.. you’re strong and beautiful! Keep your head up !
You are very brave. Thank you so much for sharing all this. I believe and hope that hearing stories like yours can really help those of us preparing to become foster parents.
Thank you for sharing this. We're getting our house open and I've been trying to hear as many of these stories that I can so I can help understand what these children are experiencing and where they're coming from. The trash bags have always bothered me. My wife and I agreed that we'll never let a kid leave with their stuff in anything but a proper bag.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story. You are an amazing woman, And are worth so much! My heart is so sad to hear what you have had to live through...I can relate only with the abuse which is more than enough and you've been through so much more. But you are so courageous, beautiful, articulate. You are brave and only from what I can see here, have become an wonderful young woman with so much to offer in life. I love it how you said you're an great mum! I really believe you are!
Hi Sara, your story is very similar to mine. I’ve been wanting and trying to write a book about my unfortunate experience in the foster care system but I have a lot of trouble remembering all the details. I want to make a difference in someone’s life that is currently going through the same thing as us to let them know that they can eventually live a normal and fulfilling life but of course, each experience and story is different. I wish a change could happen within this system and that more precautions were needed! My foster parent beat me (almost burned my face) at the age of 6. I don’t know what they did with her or if any legal action was taken. I’m 44 now and trying to see if I can retrieve my files from NY. I need to know what happened to me and what treatment if any I was given. I stand very proud of myself today for surviving not just the foster care but life when living back with my parents that also had very heavy drug addiction and domestic violence problems along with my 5 younger siblings. I’m a certified paralegal, raised 3 wonderful kids, own my home and I’ve been married to the father of my kids for over 25 years. There’s hope, and stories like your and mine can give someone even if it’s just one person hope to push forward and persevere. Thank you so much for sharing your story, I hope to have the strength and memory to do the same soon. God bless you!
I think I first heard your story about four years ago now, and I find myself coming back once in a while. I am hearing you more and more. I want to thank you so much! I will pray to my God for you.
Hello I’m 22 and went through the exact same….. I moved when I was ten and got bullied moved 4 times cause they broke down there some of them were awful and I wonder why it’s allowed in these homes were people are meant to have a better life for children I was a people pleaser too I just don’t understand how all of these grown adults have no idea about how to look after children and there mental health there is so much wrong. I’m still getting over the effects and you’re so right people should be more understanding and you sharing your story is inspiring. No body should feel especially as a child that they are not wanted, the system is broken and there is no help for any after effects I’m too embarrassed but since I’ve aged out and have freedom I’m happy but scared as I’m very ambitious I’m 22 now but there’s so much of my life I want to regain.
Ok as an adult that grew up in foster care in the same foster family and suffered abuse in that family the part where your brother put the food colouring in the roses really made me laugh & I definitely related to your reaction to that 😂 funny how we find those moments in such bad times. I had some FU moments like that too. Hope you are managing ok now, it's a lifetime of healing ❤
You've come a long way! You had to go thru some things in life in order to become the person you are today! Your experiences have made you stronger!! I commend you and applaud you to push yourself to make a better life for yourself and be a better person, dispite your past and horrible up bringing!😥 You're an awesome example to your beautiful son💖 but more importantly..a Great Role Model for him!!👍💛💖
I not only believe your story but feel for you to overcome this and turn out to be a beautiful young lady is a an overcoming that is absolutely miraculous power to you young lady thank you for sharing your story I hope a young little girl will see this someday and be empowered to overcome
You are so inspirational. My mom and dad are actually foster parents. We have fostered two girls already. Im planning on adopting/fostering when I’m older. You are so gorgeous btw 💖
There are more people who have the same kinds of anxiety that you do you’re not alone there are many of us very much like you I admire you for telling your story and I hope that you find peace thank you for your story hopefully it helps make things change.
I can relate to not embracing normalcy/stability/routine, the problem was I was never taught to achieve with dignity. We were the 2nd poorest family in town until Lenny moved out (lol). In rehab they call it a, "flawed definition of success." I embraced the criminal lifestyle and paid dearly for it.
I aged out of the system as well. At 31 I still have trouble making lasting connections. Your video made me feel not as alone. Thank you for sharing your story.
I grew up next door to your mother. We were very close friends until she began her path of destruction. I had to make the hard choice of walking away from her. I still feel like I should have tried harder to help her but as you know she always goes back. I did get to see you a couple of times as you were growing up and I cried every time. The last I seen you I think you were about 6. I am so sorry for the life you were given.This video confirms what I knew in my head. I am sorry I couldn't do anything to help you or your brothers. I wish you all the best in your future Sara. It looks like you have reshuffled the hand you were given and you are going to have a beautiful future. Many prayers for you and your son. I understand if you block this comment. I just wanted you to know there were people in your life that wanted to help but had no power to do so..
I was put into Forster care at the age of 7 after living with my abusive aunt and uncle for 4 years. We were physically abused for 4 years but never had anything down about it until my eldest sister refused to sit down at school because it hurts us that much just to sit down and the day she refused turned into the best day of our lives
Just wanted to say despite your childhood experiences it looks like you've grown up into a lovely young lady. Really pleased to hear you're now settled and happy.
This is so sad .. how can someone treat children this bad.. especially scared and vulnerable.. so sorry this happened to you.. you’re strong and beautiful! Keep your head up !
You are very brave. Thank you so much for sharing all this. I believe and hope that hearing stories like yours can really help those of us preparing to become foster parents.
Thank you for sharing this. We're getting our house open and I've been trying to hear as many of these stories that I can so I can help understand what these children are experiencing and where they're coming from. The trash bags have always bothered me. My wife and I agreed that we'll never let a kid leave with their stuff in anything but a proper bag.
Sara you inspire me everyday! The person you are today is nothing but amazing.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story. You are an amazing woman, And are worth so much! My heart is so sad to hear what you have had to live through...I can relate only with the abuse which is more than enough and you've been through so much more. But you are so courageous, beautiful, articulate. You are brave and only from what I can see here, have become an wonderful young woman with so much to offer in life. I love it how you said you're an great mum! I really believe you are!
Hi Sara, your story is very similar to mine. I’ve been wanting and trying to write a book about my unfortunate experience in the foster care system but I have a lot of trouble remembering all the details. I want to make a difference in someone’s life that is currently going through the same thing as us to let them know that they can eventually live a normal and fulfilling life but of course, each experience and story is different. I wish a change could happen within this system and that more precautions were needed! My foster parent beat me (almost burned my face) at the age of 6. I don’t know what they did with her or if any legal action was taken. I’m 44 now and trying to see if I can retrieve my files from NY. I need to know what happened to me and what treatment if any I was given. I stand very proud of myself today for surviving not just the foster care but life when living back with my parents that also had very heavy drug addiction and domestic violence problems along with my 5 younger siblings. I’m a certified paralegal, raised 3 wonderful kids, own my home and I’ve been married to the father of my kids for over 25 years. There’s hope, and stories like your and mine can give someone even if it’s just one person hope to push forward and persevere. Thank you so much for sharing your story, I hope to have the strength and memory to do the same soon. God bless you!
I think I first heard your story about four years ago now, and I find myself coming back once in a while. I am hearing you more and more. I want to thank you so much! I will pray to my God for you.
Hello I’m 22 and went through the exact same….. I moved when I was ten and got bullied moved 4 times cause they broke down there some of them were awful and I wonder why it’s allowed in these homes were people are meant to have a better life for children I was a people pleaser too I just don’t understand how all of these grown adults have no idea about how to look after children and there mental health there is so much wrong. I’m still getting over the effects and you’re so right people should be more understanding and you sharing your story is inspiring. No body should feel especially as a child that they are not wanted, the system is broken and there is no help for any after effects I’m too embarrassed but since I’ve aged out and have freedom I’m happy but scared as I’m very ambitious I’m 22 now but there’s so much of my life I want to regain.
If you are still alive, hello from the Netherlands. Stay strong.
Ok as an adult that grew up in foster care in the same foster family and suffered abuse in that family the part where your brother put the food colouring in the roses really made me laugh & I definitely related to your reaction to that 😂 funny how we find those moments in such bad times. I had some FU moments like that too. Hope you are managing ok now, it's a lifetime of healing ❤
You've come a long way! You had to go thru some things in life in order to become the person you are today! Your experiences have made you stronger!! I commend you and applaud you to push yourself to make a better life for yourself and be a better person, dispite your past and horrible up bringing!😥 You're an awesome example to your beautiful son💖 but more importantly..a Great Role Model for him!!👍💛💖
I not only believe your story but feel for you to overcome this and turn out to be a beautiful young lady is a an overcoming that is absolutely miraculous power to you young lady thank you for sharing your story I hope a young little girl will see this someday and be empowered to overcome
You are so inspirational. My mom and dad are actually foster parents. We have fostered two girls already. Im planning on adopting/fostering when I’m older. You are so gorgeous btw 💖
There are more people who have the same kinds of anxiety that you do you’re not alone there are many of us very much like you I admire you for telling your story and I hope that you find peace thank you for your story hopefully it helps make things change.
I can relate to not embracing normalcy/stability/routine, the problem was I was never taught to achieve with dignity. We were the 2nd poorest family in town until Lenny moved out (lol). In rehab they call it a, "flawed definition of success." I embraced the criminal lifestyle and paid dearly for it.
You are beautiful and amazing! Sara u are worthy of LOVE💕 hugs