Hey Guys, hope you enjoyed learning how to be a better husband and father. If are ready to become the best version of yourself as a husband and father, you would love my Parenting Program. We have an entire section dedicated to your relationship. Book a call with us to learn more: www.daduniversity.com/application/?=ytc158
I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using
As a father who struggles severely with a short temper and feeling lost.. This is exactly what I’ve needed videos to reference for advice. This is awesome thank you for providing this information!
It already goes to show that you want to be a good father and husband if you are here. I know this video was not in you r recommended videos you had to search this on your own. Good job brother that goes to show want you really want .
1. Take responsibility for your emotions 1:05 2. Express appreciation 2:24 3. Don't take things so personally 4:15 4. Be empathetic 5:22 5. Provide more affection 7:23 6. Be present 8:39 7. Show unconditional love 10:06
Taking responsibility for your emotions does not mean making them go away. Men aren't supposed to be unfeeling robots. The line "Why not choose to be happy?" unnerved me a little, I think that can be toxic if not handled very carefully. Thank you for all the advice and support.
I struggle with living in my head, being lazy, internallizing everything, trying to make everyone happy..living off of my ego, blaming myself, the whole bag. I appreciate this video for humbling advice
I recently found out that my girlfriend is pregnant and I appreciate that fact that you even exist. No amount of reading literature will connect me like you have. I'm going to be the best dad I can be. I have been ready for this, even though it is much earlier than expected
This is exactly what I needed to hear. My marriage is on the verge of falling apart because of most everything you talked about. Thank you for the help.
Having a marriage that is blissful is possible and kids that are well behaved is possible. I told my wife yesterday. “You are the best decision I ever made”. As a dad I play with all 4 of my kids. Give my teen daughters hugs and do nice things for them. We have a very loving home where the spirit of God can be felt. We pray everyday together, we play games as a family, we eat together as a family everyday. We share and show our love for one another. Consequently life is really really good. If yours doesn’t sound this way keep working at it. I promise it’s attainable and it’s worth it!
Man this video hit me hard ive only been married for almost 2 years my wife and I have been with my wife for almost 3 and only been a father for a year... and it's been seriously difficult between being out of work and working making sure our family has everything it's stressful but my eyes are open now and I'm going to be the best dad I can be
Just practice selflessness man, as men we try to hard when we may not need to, and not enough when we need to. Put her first man, seriously cherish the fact of being married. I almost lost the very thing i would die for!
Thanks sir, I should of saw this along time ago...and I should show appreciation to my wife.....I'm so stupid and here I am upset saying what did I do!!! I have so much to learn and yes I shouldn't take thing so personal. I will continue to learn from you.
Just needed another dad to talk to me. This will help for sure. Im short tempered and do take things personally. And im not as empathetic since my up bringing was harsh or hard not much love. Best advice i heard was " the way you grew up, doesnt mean you gotta keep living that way"
This may sound bad, but this video helped me realize that I'm doing a pretty good job for my family. I've been stressing out and and doubting that I've been a good dad/husband despite what my wife and other friends and family say to me. Honestly, thank you.
These are all fantastic tips. Especially the one about controlling your own emotions. My wife has said some pretty hurtful things to me. Sometimes unintentional, sometimes not. And I ALWAYS react negatively by withdrawing. It certainly affects my relationship with my wife, and to a smaller extent my children. While I am withdrawn and by myself, my children will sometimes come to me wanting a hug or some kisses or want to play. And I reciprocate those requests. When I'm not withdrawn I'm an active father and play with them during my downtime. And the one about unconditional love really hit me. I do love my children unconditionally, and usually when my youngest misbehaves and I send them to timeout they usually want a hug before they go to timeout. And I give them that hug before they go. Yesterday I tried something different and did not give them that hug before they went into timeout. And after listening to this video, I realized that was a mistake. My child was just wanting to make sure that I didn't stop loving them. And now my heart is broken. All in all great video
This has been a great help. Been feeling very lost and overwhelmed lately. Finances have been tight, and a source of stress. I think both myself and my wife don’t show appreciation towards one another. I watch our child during the day while she’s at work, and I work nights. I don’t sleep much and due to that I slack on household chores, which my wife understandably gets annoyed. Tension in the house affects our child. Just want to be a better person for them both, and for myself.
Really grateful I came across this video. Going to work on not taking things personally and showing appreciation, showing unconditional love, being present and providing more affection.
I’m so torn apart with my marriage and fatherhood. It’s so hard and a challenge for me. It’s my fault but I didn’t realize it. I need to be hold accountable but I’m not sure how. Hopefully these videos will help me through.
Another great video however I would comment that it’s unfair to say you cannot be grateful and depressed or that gratefulness can reduce depression. Depression is a mental illness which should not be embarrassed about or suppressed. Those who feel depressed and are unsure how to deal with it should speak to professionals and loved ones. The more people continue to (especially men) speak about it and normalise that they suffer (or have suffered) from depression the better. I’ll stress I’m not intending to be negative about this video, it’s valuable but I just wished to response on this one point.
Valid point. In some of my other videos that mention the topic I clarify that I'm speaking about feeling down and not really happy. Having chronic or severe depression is different and I recommend seeking assistance for it.
This is a good video to build a foundation of being an ideal dad and father. Requires deconstructing outdated ideas and implementation of these good values. Gratitude is huge, pry the most important one to me. 100% accountability is also a quality I strive for (responsibility). Learn to be a listener, this is both empathy and not taking things personal. As man we try to problem solve when 99% of the time, the woman just needs to vent. All you need to do is listen. Easy! Make a safe environment and she will open like a beautiful flower.
This was very helpful.Man I need to really reevaluate myself and of course my wife said that as well. Wow! I got to be the worst person on earth because all 7 of these tips I really need to work on immediately. Thank you for opening my eyes to this.They always say hearing it from someone else and not the person your always with makes you realize that they was right and sometimes it can be to late when you realize it.Thank God for you.I’ll be on this more often implying all these tips to become a better husband and father
On the children part sometimes you just have to show that tough love which is always hard because of the love for our children. But if you don't you will get continually disrespected and ran over. Yes we as men needs to keep our masculine frame at all times, but when a wife does things that are inappropriate and you let them know and they just gas light you as if your opinion doesn't matter you have to lay down the law or they will continue to disrespect you as well. And the complementary part, some not all women hate it when you keep throwing compliments their way. They consider it corny or needy. Figure that one out. Btw I've been married for 27yrs so i must be doing something right
I never usually comment on anything but…. I found the tips really obvious yet so powerful. I feel everyday I should be better, I can be better but yet fall into all the traps and pit falls along the way. This has really helped and I feel a mental shift already in my mind on what I need to do. On another note I also feel this as quite heavy on the mind and requires a lot of active thought to achieve, I suspect it will be easier overtime and more natural but may be difficult without an empathetic or supportive family to help me help them, if that makes sense. Thank you for doing these videos, I’m sure they will have changed me for the better.
I'm struggling. My boy is now three and after not listening, hitting, spitting, and overall chaos I lost it and yelled. I'm so ashamed, but let's all get better together.
I know I get frustrated and don’t say anything because I don’t want it to become an hour long discussion, instead I internalize my feelings and it drags me down throughout the rest of the day. I used to be happier, but at some point I stopped treating my wife as my partner and more as a teddy bear. That’s not fair to her or I and I’m going to be better.
Hi Jason currently struggling with a little bit of everything right now. I want to be a better partner for my wife and a better father to my kids but I have like an anxiety issue like I don’t have patience.
I’m not sure if it’s because the amount of hours I work and hating my job but I’m not proud of the job I’m doing as a father or husband and feel so stuck in the same loop and lack of energy
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When you feel downgrade. And or devalued.. how do you show appreciation?. Especially when the other party says things in front of our kids. Overtime as a father I feel them slowly being brainwashed. Why should a dad appreciate a mother. When it's only to get the kids on her side. And over time our personal relationship rubs off on them. For no reason. I know that parents should be talking behind doors,away from the lil 1s. But it hard when the other half simply don't understand that. I came from a broken home, she hasent. Maybe that is why she feels it's OK? Definitely not. My kids are getting older, I feel like me even disaplining them, she tells them there in the right. When clearly there not. I personally think I may be better away from all of this. I don't want my kids to hate me cause she dose for whatever reason. Like empty the dishwasher fast enough etc I don't know know how long I can tolerate this. I do it only for my kids ar this point. 3 6 an 8
You be you: loving, respectful, and good to your kids no matter what else anyone is doing or saying. People in pain cause pain. I'm guessing there is a lot going on with your partner that they need to deal with. Your children will begin to understand. As for showing appreciation, someone has to be the bigger person. Let it be you.
So what if a wife is lazy, and doesnt do her part, you expect men just to forgive and love regardless, nope, if she is not helping with the kids, or cleaning, or cooking, or working, and just doing her own thing, and the man is working and making up for what she doesnt get done, thats a man begging to be used and be taken advantage of. again you method is applicable to only a cookie cutter situation where everyone is a team player, theres wives and kids who dont get the program and go do their own thing.
Hey Guys, hope you enjoyed learning how to be a better husband and father. If are ready to become the best version of yourself as a husband and father, you would love my Parenting Program. We have an entire section dedicated to your relationship. Book a call with us to learn more: www.daduniversity.com/application/?=ytc158
I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using
As a father who struggles severely with a short temper and feeling lost.. This is exactly what I’ve needed videos to reference for advice. This is awesome thank you for providing this information!
So great to hear. Thanks for watching and being a part of the community
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@@DadUniversity This applies to me as well. I really need help to deal with my emotions. I'm losing myself 80% of the time.
It already goes to show that you want to be a good father and husband if you are here. I know this video was not in you r recommended videos you had to search this on your own. Good job brother that goes to show want you really want .
Right there with you man. Striving to be better and give better to my family
1. Take responsibility for your emotions 1:05
2. Express appreciation 2:24
3. Don't take things so personally 4:15
4. Be empathetic 5:22
5. Provide more affection 7:23
6. Be present 8:39
7. Show unconditional love 10:06
Thank you for this!
@@HenG20 no prob 👍🏽
Im weak at 3 and 6. Granted im single, but in efforts of love. Those get me. I have gotten better though.
Taking responsibility for your emotions does not mean making them go away. Men aren't supposed to be unfeeling robots. The line "Why not choose to be happy?" unnerved me a little, I think that can be toxic if not handled very carefully. Thank you for all the advice and support.
I struggle with living in my head, being lazy, internallizing everything, trying to make everyone happy..living off of my ego, blaming myself, the whole bag. I appreciate this video for humbling advice
There something so comforting watching this as a young woman I hope my future husband and I can really learn from and take these tips to heart.
I recently found out that my girlfriend is pregnant and I appreciate that fact that you even exist. No amount of reading literature will connect me like you have. I'm going to be the best dad I can be. I have been ready for this, even though it is much earlier than expected
That's awesome man hope all is well.
That’s great! Be a great husband and father!
This is exactly what I needed to hear. My marriage is on the verge of falling apart because of most everything you talked about. Thank you for the help.
I can relate
Having a marriage that is blissful is possible and kids that are well behaved is possible. I told my wife yesterday. “You are the best decision I ever made”. As a dad I play with all 4 of my kids. Give my teen daughters hugs and do nice things for them. We have a very loving home where the spirit of God can be felt. We pray everyday together, we play games as a family, we eat together as a family everyday. We share and show our love for one another. Consequently life is really really good. If yours doesn’t sound this way keep working at it. I promise it’s attainable and it’s worth it!
Being more present and not taking things personally. Both of these are areas of opportunity that I am going to work on!
Just as the comment below, this gives me hope that I will one day have a spouse wants to be a hands on supportive parent!
Man this video hit me hard ive only been married for almost 2 years my wife and I have been with my wife for almost 3 and only been a father for a year... and it's been seriously difficult between being out of work and working making sure our family has everything it's stressful but my eyes are open now and I'm going to be the best dad I can be
Just practice selflessness man, as men we try to hard when we may not need to, and not enough when we need to. Put her first man, seriously cherish the fact of being married. I almost lost the very thing i would die for!
I need to work in every one of these tips and sad thing is I didn't realize it until watching this video. Thank you I needed this!
I failed to be a good husband and a father..but by seeing your videos it do give me hope to change what's were wrong all this time..
I have failed to appreciate my wife and my kids, thank you. Good information
Thanks sir, I should of saw this along time ago...and I should show appreciation to my wife.....I'm so stupid and here I am upset saying what did I do!!! I have so much to learn and yes I shouldn't take thing so personal. I will continue to learn from you.
Just needed another dad to talk to me.
This will help for sure. Im short tempered and do take things personally. And im not as empathetic since my up bringing was harsh or hard not much love. Best advice i heard was " the way you grew up, doesnt mean you gotta keep living that way"
This may sound bad, but this video helped me realize that I'm doing a pretty good job for my family. I've been stressing out and and doubting that I've been a good dad/husband despite what my wife and other friends and family say to me. Honestly, thank you.
These are all fantastic tips. Especially the one about controlling your own emotions. My wife has said some pretty hurtful things to me. Sometimes unintentional, sometimes not. And I ALWAYS react negatively by withdrawing. It certainly affects my relationship with my wife, and to a smaller extent my children. While I am withdrawn and by myself, my children will sometimes come to me wanting a hug or some kisses or want to play. And I reciprocate those requests. When I'm not withdrawn I'm an active father and play with them during my downtime.
And the one about unconditional love really hit me. I do love my children unconditionally, and usually when my youngest misbehaves and I send them to timeout they usually want a hug before they go to timeout. And I give them that hug before they go. Yesterday I tried something different and did not give them that hug before they went into timeout. And after listening to this video, I realized that was a mistake. My child was just wanting to make sure that I didn't stop loving them. And now my heart is broken.
All in all great video
Thank you for sharing. We all make a lot of mistakes. Just learn and grow. you will be awesome and your kids will benefit from your awesomeness :)
Have you had a talk with her or told a counselor how she acts? Don’t go through this alone.
Thats the problem with me. Nothing effects me. I'm always grateful and appreciative.
Sheesh what an eye opener, I often find myself replying from a grown man perspective. Thank you!
I would be more empathetic and present in the moment for my kids and wife. I would also implement the other tips. Thanks so much
This has been a great help. Been feeling very lost and overwhelmed lately. Finances have been tight, and a source of stress. I think both myself and my wife don’t show appreciation towards one another. I watch our child during the day while she’s at work, and I work nights. I don’t sleep much and due to that I slack on household chores, which my wife understandably gets annoyed. Tension in the house affects our child. Just want to be a better person for them both, and for myself.
I think the best thing to implement right now is being empathetic and not taking things personally.
Really grateful I came across this video. Going to work on not taking things personally and showing appreciation, showing unconditional love, being present and providing more affection.
I’m so torn apart with my marriage and fatherhood. It’s so hard and a challenge for me. It’s my fault but I didn’t realize it. I need to be hold accountable but I’m not sure how. Hopefully these videos will help me through.
Another great video however I would comment that it’s unfair to say you cannot be grateful and depressed or that gratefulness can reduce depression. Depression is a mental illness which should not be embarrassed about or suppressed. Those who feel depressed and are unsure how to deal with it should speak to professionals and loved ones. The more people continue to (especially men) speak about it and normalise that they suffer (or have suffered) from depression the better.
I’ll stress I’m not intending to be negative about this video, it’s valuable but I just wished to response on this one point.
Valid point. In some of my other videos that mention the topic I clarify that I'm speaking about feeling down and not really happy. Having chronic or severe depression is different and I recommend seeking assistance for it.
@@DadUniversity Many thanks for responding and clarifying. I’m to be a first time dad next month and I’ve been enjoying your encouraging videos.
thanks for all your efforts, really ...
This is a good video to build a foundation of being an ideal dad and father. Requires deconstructing outdated ideas and implementation of these good values. Gratitude is huge, pry the most important one to me. 100% accountability is also a quality I strive for (responsibility). Learn to be a listener, this is both empathy and not taking things personal. As man we try to problem solve when 99% of the time, the woman just needs to vent. All you need to do is listen. Easy! Make a safe environment and she will open like a beautiful flower.
This channel Is life changing
thank you for the great content!
I definitely have to work on everything that you said. Thank you for taking the time to make this video. I’m really struggling in both fields.
We all can! It's hard to balance everything. Just stick with it and keep moving forward. Glad to have you here.
This was very helpful.Man I need to really reevaluate myself and of course my wife said that as well. Wow! I got to be the worst person on earth because all 7 of these tips I really need to work on immediately. Thank you for opening my eyes to this.They always say hearing it from someone else and not the person your always with makes you realize that they was right and sometimes it can be to late when you realize it.Thank God for you.I’ll be on this more often implying all these tips to become a better husband and father
Great advice. But certain situations some of it won't work
I'm open to hearing. Please explain.
On the children part sometimes you just have to show that tough love which is always hard because of the love for our children. But if you don't you will get continually disrespected and ran over. Yes we as men needs to keep our masculine frame at all times, but when a wife does things that are inappropriate and you let them know and they just gas light you as if your opinion doesn't matter you have to lay down the law or they will continue to disrespect you as well. And the complementary part, some not all women hate it when you keep throwing compliments their way. They consider it corny or needy. Figure that one out. Btw I've been married for 27yrs so i must be doing something right
I never usually comment on anything but…. I found the tips really obvious yet so powerful. I feel everyday I should be better, I can be better but yet fall into all the traps and pit falls along the way. This has really helped and I feel a mental shift already in my mind on what I need to do.
On another note I also feel this as quite heavy on the mind and requires a lot of active thought to achieve, I suspect it will be easier overtime and more natural but may be difficult without an empathetic or supportive family to help me help them, if that makes sense. Thank you for doing these videos, I’m sure they will have changed me for the better.
Dang! You absolutely "nailed" the concerns issues I've been having.
Such a great video, I struggle with splitting work and home life and being more present so this resonated with me strongly
Well said
All of them are very important and helpful!
Thanks for these great tips, really helps me out being a father and a husband. Going to watch a few more of your videos
Thank you so much for this video
You are so ON POINT, I can't THANK YOU enough for making these videos!!! I will definitely share this with my husband!!!
Thank you for watching!
U r Very wise and intuitive
Thank you so much for the advice :)
I'm struggling. My boy is now three and after not listening, hitting, spitting, and overall chaos I lost it and yelled. I'm so ashamed, but let's all get better together.
This video is simple yet amazing! Thank you!
Man I needed to hear this 6 months ago… I told my wife to leave because I wasn’t taking responsibility of my emotions and now she’s wanting a divorce
Just found out last night that my gf is pregnant! I'm so excited
Congratulations
Congratulations
Beyond helpful. Thank you 🙏
this is valuable to our society
Great videos, thanks for your time 👍🏼
Very informative and helpful
Empathy... Thank you
Going to need this!!
Thank you so much 👍
I need to be a softer dad and husband, any suggestions?
Don't take it personal. That's great. My mom always says let's leave them they're just kids. Or they'll grow up eventually
Yes, not taking things personally is a game changer. Be well!
I know I get frustrated and don’t say anything because I don’t want it to become an hour long discussion, instead I internalize my feelings and it drags me down throughout the rest of the day. I used to be happier, but at some point I stopped treating my wife as my partner and more as a teddy bear. That’s not fair to her or I and I’m going to be better.
Thank you so much
Hi Jason currently struggling with a little bit of everything right now. I want to be a better partner for my wife and a better father to my kids but I have like an anxiety issue like I don’t have patience.
A video worth to watch. Thanks for this...
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All the Tips are awesome.
1 tip is to put GOD first in their relationship.
I’m not sure if it’s because the amount of hours I work and hating my job but I’m not proud of the job I’m doing as a father or husband and feel so stuck in the same loop and lack of energy
I know exactly how you feel
Great video!
Great video! Thank you
Guys are wired to try and find solutions to a problem. But sometimes our wives and kids don't want a solution, they just want someone to listen.
Very happy to you.
I need help with everything that was described in this video.
Books to read , that follow same principles?
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Good content 🙂
Great video.
I'm 17 years old here
Buy a flower for you wife or GF when she does not expecting that. Specially when she did something important for you before.
He lost me at “do not smack her butt when she cleaning” pff
The journey is not easy, but if you are here you are on the right path. Now do what you know is right!
Hey butt slaps all day bro dont be givin my wife ideas that i have stop tge booty slaps 😂
This information is great for gay men.
Love
Wow 😅
When you feel downgrade. And or devalued.. how do you show appreciation?. Especially when the other party says things in front of our kids. Overtime as a father I feel them slowly being brainwashed. Why should a dad appreciate a mother. When it's only to get the kids on her side. And over time our personal relationship rubs off on them. For no reason. I know that parents should be talking behind doors,away from the lil 1s. But it hard when the other half simply don't understand that. I came from a broken home, she hasent. Maybe that is why she feels it's OK? Definitely not. My kids are getting older, I feel like me even disaplining them, she tells them there in the right. When clearly there not. I personally think I may be better away from all of this. I don't want my kids to hate me cause she dose for whatever reason. Like empty the dishwasher fast enough etc I don't know know how long I can tolerate this. I do it only for my kids ar this point. 3 6 an 8
You be you: loving, respectful, and good to your kids no matter what else anyone is doing or saying. People in pain cause pain. I'm guessing there is a lot going on with your partner that they need to deal with. Your children will begin to understand. As for showing appreciation, someone has to be the bigger person. Let it be you.
You lost me at, “don’t smack her butt” if I don’t she will think I don’t love her.
Pass. I think I'll just get a divorce
First comment!
HOW WILL IF TIFFANY SPEED GET MAD AT ME WHAT CAN DO HER BE HAPPY LOVE JET SPEED
So what if a wife is lazy, and doesnt do her part, you expect men just to forgive and love regardless, nope, if she is not helping with the kids, or cleaning, or cooking, or working, and just doing her own thing, and the man is working and making up for what she doesnt get done, thats a man begging to be used and be taken advantage of. again you method is applicable to only a cookie cutter situation where everyone is a team player, theres wives and kids who dont get the program and go do their own thing.
...this shit hard..smh
Pessimistic
I hope you have a great day, I needed to run into this today
The background adds to my tears right nor
Why do us dads with short temper or who battle bipolar, why do we already know this buy yet still needed to hear it sooo bad
Tq for your video I just realize, I did all that thing now I will try hard to make it right cause I really love her 🥲
thank you so much