Allah swt knows everything and I am slowly making my way through the Holy Qur'an but using RUclips helps me a lot. Thank you for making things easier . I'm over 70 years old and am going to ask my 74 year old husband to look at this important and serious part of married life because ( I'm a revert ) this is the cause of so many divorces , affairs and depression . My married daughters need to watch this too .
I would love to stay single. As a woman we are blessed with no s0xtual desires. It's easy for us to stay without a man because we have literally less attraction to them. Honestly most of us wouldn't even marry if we weren't forced to. I 😢for girls who are forcefully married . May Allah heal them. It's best to be single for us muslimahs.
@@starryeyes.469 that is not true, women do have desires,no offense sister you might be Asexual but dont apply it to every women,it will hurt the feelings of brothers that desire marriage.
@@starryeyes.469 just saying this as if it is the universal truth,alot of women have desires and want to get married, so dont say "most of us wouldnt marry if we weren't forced to"
If the wife doesn't have feelings or is not sexually attracted to her husband, and there's no love,emotion, and kindness, divorce is the only option. The something goes for a man, if he's not loving his wife and doesn't fulfill her needs, she should also make a decision....
What if they aren't allowing to hv a divorce from ur family side nd ur husband also doesn't want to leave u. Nd all from all side people nd ur family are telling u to stay stay stay ....tho u hv no feelings left because of what tht person has done in past nd now he ll b like I hv changed But tht love nd affection is no more left in the woman no matter how much tht person change or not ,at tht time what a women should do? She can't leave her husband she cannot live her life alone without her parents supporting her nd her husband also doesn't want to leave her .....all it matters in marriage is peace nd love.....it's not about laws or rules or responsibilities....it's about love nd peace what if tht love nd peace is over for tht women nd no matter how much her husband changed nd treating u well still u cannot feel the love or grow love back again Give solution for tht
Don't use the word men I am also man . I have plans to be the best friend of my wife. So don't blame every men . I can also say every women is greedy. Is it true?
@@salmanattari9756 you are over reading. they did'nt say all men. it is clear what they mean. They are talking on a scope of cultural influence ontop of the selected men to whom this applies. if the shoe does'nt fit then it is'nt about you but be aware that this future wife of yours has probably heard such things form not only men but women in her life that went through that experience.
@@Sz7_yt islamic marriages require mutual respect and a husband with a level head to work. You can call it what you want but Allah commanded you men to be kind and merciful to your women. If you dont like that and are immature enough to call somebody a feminist just because of this then dont get married
@@r.b7979 Call it what you want but woman need to be obedient to their husband no matter what. Otherwise what happens when they refuse intimacy, the angels curse them. So don't get married sister if you aint willing to make that commitment.
That’s the most important thing but people don’t understand it… For women emotional attachment is more important and if she can’t connect emotionally with you how can you aspect her to be physical with you…
Emotional connection needs communication. If any communications by default leads to her nitpicking and putting the husband down, what’s the point of any emotional connection?
@@Mr-Markhor12 because what women say it's a lie. Usually women have fantasies and are out of touch with reality. They marry based on a fantasy and when reality doesn't much that fantasy they leave.
What if it is the other way around, something is really messed up at my end. My wife doesn't seems to understand whatever I say or do, but she is always stuck will really old arguments we had 5-6 years back. Everytime she bring those up. This is not helping anyone kindly guide how to deal with it. I am in desperate need of love and care. Nothing happened between us since last 8 months. And I don't feel like going back to her because of her attitude
As Salaamu Alaikum. These arguments you have, how do you handle them? How did you handle them in the past? When you say love and care, what do you mean? What about your wife needing love and care? Is she loved in the way she needs it? Maintaining a woman means maintaining her emotionally as well, even more so. Have you looked within first?
Yes I tried all what she asked for couple of months but she was happy but I was sad, nothing seems to be happening for me. Moreover she even forgot and never noticed that when I told her I haven't been satisfied for almost for 2 years now. After all I am also a human being I can also loose my cool when after doing everything I don't get what I deserve. Moreover I very clearly and in blunt words I explained multiple times to her what I wanted. But for her it is not that important because she is happy with her own life
I feel I made only one really bad decision in my life the is not being strict on my wife and let her go out and experience the real world, I supported her but always told her not to make it a mission or aim of her life but the worst happen now that is the only priority in her life and when I told her to stop all that because enough is enough she started considering me as her enemy and will to walk out of marriage because of that.
I am not sure what is going around in her mind but not even her mother can't make her think straight. So I again clearly told her to make her final choice, it's either our family and marriage or it's her work friends and parties
Most muslimahs don't like intimacy at all . They only do it as a duty to please the husband. X is the most painful and unwanted thing for every muslimah. We are just forced to do it. Its just like chidbirth which no muslimahs wants to go through but has to do it. For children . Ever wondered why so many muslimahs who are independant and are from good families don't want to marry because they have all the luxury without being intimate or to have x.
May I know the name of this speaker. May I suggest the uploader of these educational videos please put the names of the speakers in the description where it says more..,,
I married a woman who really wanted to make nikkah with me and i accepted it and married her I am 22 years old and pretty young and I asked her for intimacy but she didn't accept it altough i tried to show her all my love and kindness and presents but she just wouldn't be intimate. After 6 days I was so fed up and depressed because i felt so needy and weird because i kinda begged her but she just wouldn't get into. I divorced her after 7 days because she made me feel unwanted and like a starving dog altough she was the one who one who urgently wanted to marry me. Everything was so terrible and left me broken
Allah know best what her reason was may Allah make it easy for you and her there are certain question and history thay need to be ask and before marriage may Allah show mercy Aamin
@@sidikat true what really bugfed me that we talked about this and she said that she was happy about it and stuff but than boom she changed but alhamdulillah I found someone better
@@stuttgart31 maybe she had a desaes down there she was embarress to tell you (its really harrible as a woman to be sick down there) or maybe she was insecure ,i hope the best for you
"If you dont expect anything more, you might actually get something more" lolz honestly, you cant win with woman. you show affection and love, they will start treating you like a peasant and if you start having apathy, they will start complaining that they are not being loved smh
Wasalkume saying no one specific but that don't always work as a man you can give and give n give and nothing in return.yiu be like to get anything once per mouth even if uou give they just take. Lots of them only care about there own feelings most women don't care about men.
So love is all about sex. What about give and take, making compromises, communicating! Men seem to have a problem with all of the above. If men marry for sex and procreation I have a problem with that!🤔😒🙄😐🧐🤬🤬🤬
@@karenmonson9893 men are different to women and intimacy is also different for men that it is why intimacy is our right in a marriege but people tend to think it is something which is frown upon and nasty when a husband wants it these days but the main problem is that a lot of women don't want to see and think about the emotions and feelings of their man as well
@@karenmonson9893 I agree and disagree. Allah made it halal and gave this desire to men and women. More so men so it's a test for women and he tries so hard to take care of you isn't it possible to give him some intimacy?. He tries hard to protect himself and only do it with his wife but if his wife doesn't give what he wants then don't be shocked if he goes and marries another women. Because they seem to deprive husband from his sexual desire and demonize it then leave him alone and let him get married to multiple. Sex is one of the main things that keep marriage alive. And going in thinking that sex is not a building block to successful marriage your brutally wrong. Because for both genders it is. Now I agree that sex is not 100 percent of a marriage we can both see that clearly it's an important thing in marriage For both genders.
If the married couple have good intimacy and intercourse then most likely they have a happy loving marriage. If not then yeah marriage ain't thriving very well.
Is there something specific you disagree with? Do you want him to cite for you? These video's are clips taken from long form where he goes into a lot of detail.
@@RezaSyedIslam of course. Women who are with actual men want to engage in physical love.. he speaks as though women are such shallow creatures who if given a few minutes of a mans time and a kiss that doesnt lead to sex will make her want this more. Women want to be with real men, not misogynistic, hypocritical, narcissistic men. Men who care for their wives emotionally, who protect their wives even from themselves. Men who are whole and who have spent and spend time working on thier character, developing into virtuous, Allah fearing men. Why are men not taught that they are obligated to nurture thier wives and childrens emotional wellbeing. If man is not pouring into his wife goodness how can he expect her to pour into him? Women need more then the shallowness he preaches. I have heard him say that in order for a woman to receive her rights from her husband she must first fulfill his rights. Men want leadership status without actually being true, righteous leaders.
@@elainnajones9107 so well said. I keep telling this to people around here. Many I see are just looking for intimacy by trading some sweet words and not the genuine care. Men of faith are the real men. And every man should try to become one
@elainnajones9107 I don't know what men you are talking about but in Islam, men are obligated to take care and nurture their wives. The man in the video is not saying that woman don't want to get intimate at all. He is just saying that there are certain types of physical love that men are more inclined to and certain types of physical love that women inclined to. His main message in the video was to say that for a successful marriage, men and women need to be doing both
Its so Difficult to fulfill needs of wife now days. They hv many many issues which makes a man to suffer. The time of our prophet saw and sahaba was different. There is worldly race going on now days, hectic life, responsibilities, family issues, parents , siblings, jobs issues etc. Wives have become a night mare now days. They cannot understand men problems. Finally this is a man who is suffering by fulfilling needs of everyone and no one is there for him except allah.
Man are also not like Prophet SAW...this is not a good excuse... you need to behave like a man...be good with her and satisfy her in all halal ways and if you can't afford something just simply tell her brother... you are no way bound to do something which is not necessary and exhaust you too...Be close to Allah and Sweetly make her understand too...when she will be close to Allah she will herself fear about not fulfilling her duties toward you
Allah swt knows everything and I am slowly making my way through the Holy Qur'an but using RUclips helps me a lot. Thank you for making things easier . I'm over 70 years old and am going to ask my 74 year old husband to look at this important and serious part of married life because ( I'm a revert ) this is the cause of so many divorces , affairs and depression . My married daughters need to watch this too .
So true
No body talks about being emotionally loved
I would love to stay single. As a woman we are blessed with no s0xtual desires. It's easy for us to stay without a man because we have literally less attraction to them. Honestly most of us wouldn't even marry if we weren't forced to. I 😢for girls who are forcefully married . May Allah heal them. It's best to be single for us muslimahs.
@@starryeyes.469damn i wish i was a girl too. Atkeast the sexuall urge wouldnt firce me to do zina everytime.
@@starryeyes.469 that is not true, women do have desires,no offense sister you might be Asexual but dont apply it to every women,it will hurt the feelings of brothers that desire marriage.
@@starryeyes.469 just saying this as if it is the universal truth,alot of women have desires and want to get married, so dont say "most of us wouldnt marry if we weren't forced to"
If the wife doesn't have feelings or is not sexually attracted to her husband, and there's no love,emotion, and kindness, divorce is the only option. The something goes for a man, if he's not loving his wife and doesn't fulfill her needs, she should also make a decision....
U made a point. Many men are suffering with this but no one talks about it.
@@AbdulMannan-lo8wi
Yes, most women use sex as weapons. Then the husbands seek sex elsewhere
That is true the man can also be a victim
@@stuttgart31
Yes, they should Do NIKAH with another woman to fulfill each other's needs.
What if they aren't allowing to hv a divorce from ur family side nd ur husband also doesn't want to leave u. Nd all from all side people nd ur family are telling u to stay stay stay ....tho u hv no feelings left because of what tht person has done in past nd now he ll b like I hv changed
But tht love nd affection is no more left in the woman no matter how much tht person change or not ,at tht time what a women should do? She can't leave her husband she cannot live her life alone without her parents supporting her nd her husband also doesn't want to leave her .....all it matters in marriage is peace nd love.....it's not about laws or rules or responsibilities....it's about love nd peace what if tht love nd peace is over for tht women nd no matter how much her husband changed nd treating u well still u cannot feel the love or grow love back again
Give solution for tht
Men's anger always takes front and center. Men's honor always takes front and center. Yet, they STILL expect wifely obedience and submission.
This is why I'm not married. I won't be a doormat or vaginal receptacle for any man! I'd rather be dead!🤔🙄😒😬🧐😲😱🤬🤬🤬
Don't use the word men I am also man . I have plans to be the best friend of my wife. So don't blame every men . I can also say every women is greedy. Is it true?
@@salmanattari9756 you are over reading. they did'nt say all men. it is clear what they mean. They are talking on a scope of cultural influence ontop of the selected men to whom this applies. if the shoe does'nt fit then it is'nt about you but be aware that this future wife of yours has probably heard such things form not only men but women in her life that went through that experience.
@@Sz7_yt islamic marriages require mutual respect and a husband with a level head to work. You can call it what you want but Allah commanded you men to be kind and merciful to your women. If you dont like that and are immature enough to call somebody a feminist just because of this then dont get married
@@r.b7979 Call it what you want but woman need to be obedient to their husband no matter what. Otherwise what happens when they refuse intimacy, the angels curse them. So don't get married sister if you aint willing to make that commitment.
That’s the most important thing but people don’t understand it… For women emotional attachment is more important and if she can’t connect emotionally with you how can you aspect her to be physical with you…
Emotional connection needs communication. If any communications by default leads to her nitpicking and putting the husband down, what’s the point of any emotional connection?
Well, nowadays there are enough women who don't need emotional connection anymore. Sad but true
Men achieve emotional connection through intercourse. They need it to connect, what now?
Why the hell did she married then?
@@Mr-Markhor12 because what women say it's a lie. Usually women have fantasies and are out of touch with reality. They marry based on a fantasy and when reality doesn't much that fantasy they leave.
This guy has a good understanding good job!
What if it is the other way around, something is really messed up at my end. My wife doesn't seems to understand whatever I say or do, but she is always stuck will really old arguments we had 5-6 years back. Everytime she bring those up. This is not helping anyone kindly guide how to deal with it. I am in desperate need of love and care. Nothing happened between us since last 8 months. And I don't feel like going back to her because of her attitude
As Salaamu Alaikum. These arguments you have, how do you handle them? How did you handle them in the past? When you say love and care, what do you mean? What about your wife needing love and care? Is she loved in the way she needs it? Maintaining a woman means maintaining her emotionally as well, even more so. Have you looked within first?
Yes brother talk it out make her feel heard understand her be hee best friend once you gain her trust go with her flow that’s love
Yes I tried all what she asked for couple of months but she was happy but I was sad, nothing seems to be happening for me. Moreover she even forgot and never noticed that when I told her I haven't been satisfied for almost for 2 years now. After all I am also a human being I can also loose my cool when after doing everything I don't get what I deserve. Moreover I very clearly and in blunt words I explained multiple times to her what I wanted. But for her it is not that important because she is happy with her own life
I feel I made only one really bad decision in my life the is not being strict on my wife and let her go out and experience the real world, I supported her but always told her not to make it a mission or aim of her life but the worst happen now that is the only priority in her life and when I told her to stop all that because enough is enough she started considering me as her enemy and will to walk out of marriage because of that.
I am not sure what is going around in her mind but not even her mother can't make her think straight. So I again clearly told her to make her final choice, it's either our family and marriage or it's her work friends and parties
Thank you! Finally!!
If my wife asks me for for a quality time, THE HELL WITH SPORTS,MOVIES, ETC.... Who cares about freaking sports? 😆
No muslimah likes x it is unwanted just as painful as childbirth. Only it is pleasing to brothers mn.
Most muslimahs don't like intimacy at all . They only do it as a duty to please the husband. X is the most painful and unwanted thing for every muslimah. We are just forced to do it. Its just like chidbirth which no muslimahs wants to go through but has to do it. For children . Ever wondered why so many muslimahs who are independant and are from good families don't want to marry because they have all the luxury without being intimate or to have x.
@@starryeyes469don’t they feel excited? 😮
I really like this video
May I know the name of this speaker.
May I suggest the uploader of these educational videos please put the names of the speakers in the description where it says more..,,
His name yasir qadhi
Exactly how it is with us women. To add women too need time out, there's never a day off!
Have you been To PINES GAP in Australia? A Top Secret CIA base with National Reconnaissance Offices and another Office there.
Assalamualikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu Subhanallah Alhamdulilah Lailahailalah Alahuakbar
Where are the other Videos?
No more video's, go to your wife! Give her Time
@@RezaSyedIslam😂
@@RezaSyedIslam 💘
@@RezaSyedIslam 🤣
@@muzamilkhan7z brother if u are a Muslim change your profile pic. Jazak Allah khair
i prefer stay single LMAOOO😂😂😂😂😂😂
I married a woman who really wanted to make nikkah with me and i accepted it and married her I am 22 years old and pretty young and I asked her for intimacy but she didn't accept it altough i tried to show her all my love and kindness and presents but she just wouldn't be intimate. After 6 days I was so fed up and depressed because i felt so needy and weird because i kinda begged her but she just wouldn't get into. I divorced her after 7 days because she made me feel unwanted and like a starving dog altough she was the one who one who urgently wanted to marry me. Everything was so terrible and left me broken
I also rejected zina all the time but she had intimacy with other men before me so I really wanted to have intimacy but yea everything went terrible
Allah know best what her reason was may Allah make it easy for you and her there are certain question and history thay need to be ask and before marriage may Allah show mercy Aamin
@@sidikat true what really bugfed me that we talked about this and she said that she was happy about it and stuff but than boom she changed but alhamdulillah I found someone better
@@stuttgart31 maybe she had a desaes down there she was embarress to tell you (its really harrible as a woman to be sick down there) or maybe she was insecure ,i hope the best for you
@@unrea1ist1c33 it is alright brother we got seperate ways now
"If you dont expect anything more, you might actually get something more" lolz
honestly, you cant win with woman. you show affection and love, they will start treating you like a peasant and if you start having apathy, they will start complaining that they are not being loved smh
Are you married?
@@uimass are you a woman?
May you never have the chance to burden a woman with your bad behavior 😢😢
@@uimass is someone needs to be a math teacher to say 2+2=4?
@@AJAli-yk9wj with an attitude like that, you are gonna make your husband's life miserable no matter what he does
Wasalkume saying no one specific but that don't always work as a man you can give and give n give and nothing in return.yiu be like to get anything once per mouth even if uou give they just take.
Lots of them only care about there own feelings most women don't care about men.
So love is all about sex. What about give and take, making compromises, communicating! Men seem to have a problem with all of the above. If men marry for sex and procreation I have a problem with that!🤔😒🙄😐🧐🤬🤬🤬
Happened to me...we live in a sad world brother
@@karenmonson9893 men are different to women and intimacy is also different for men that it is why intimacy is our right in a marriege but people tend to think it is something which is frown upon and nasty when a husband wants it these days but the main problem is that a lot of women don't want to see and think about the emotions and feelings of their man as well
@@karenmonson9893 I agree and disagree. Allah made it halal and gave this desire to men and women. More so men so it's a test for women and he tries so hard to take care of you isn't it possible to give him some intimacy?. He tries hard to protect himself and only do it with his wife but if his wife doesn't give what he wants then don't be shocked if he goes and marries another women. Because they seem to deprive husband from his sexual desire and demonize it then leave him alone and let him get married to multiple. Sex is one of the main things that keep marriage alive. And going in thinking that sex is not a building block to successful marriage your brutally wrong. Because for both genders it is. Now I agree that sex is not 100 percent of a marriage we can both see that clearly it's an important thing in marriage For both genders.
If the married couple have good intimacy and intercourse then most likely they have a happy loving marriage. If not then yeah marriage ain't thriving very well.
ALLAH I'm still waiting for my wife✔️
ALLAH I want to be Happy❤
5.B 😏
Hi
These videos are so superficial. What women have been asked and cunsulted...? Women who have been raising children, working in the home or out ect...
Is there something specific you disagree with? Do you want him to cite for you? These video's are clips taken from long form where he goes into a lot of detail.
@@RezaSyedIslam of course. Women who are with actual men want to engage in physical love.. he speaks as though women are such shallow creatures who if given a few minutes of a mans time and a kiss that doesnt lead to sex will make her want this more. Women want to be with real men, not misogynistic, hypocritical, narcissistic men. Men who care for their wives emotionally, who protect their wives even from themselves. Men who are whole and who have spent and spend time working on thier character, developing into virtuous, Allah fearing men. Why are men not taught that they are obligated to nurture thier wives and childrens emotional wellbeing. If man is not pouring into his wife goodness how can he expect her to pour into him? Women need more then the shallowness he preaches. I have heard him say that in order for a woman to receive her rights from her husband she must first fulfill his rights. Men want leadership status without actually being true, righteous leaders.
@@elainnajones9107 so well said. I keep telling this to people around here. Many I see are just looking for intimacy by trading some sweet words and not the genuine care.
Men of faith are the real men. And every man should try to become one
@@wearealive796 Hi, I so get what you are saying. Manipulation to get what you want. Empty meaningless words are just that. Empty!🙂👋😏🙄😒😬
@elainnajones9107 I don't know what men you are talking about but in Islam, men are obligated to take care and nurture their wives. The man in the video is not saying that woman don't want to get intimate at all. He is just saying that there are certain types of physical love that men are more inclined to and certain types of physical love that women inclined to. His main message in the video was to say that for a successful marriage, men and women need to be doing both
ALLAH I want to Love my Wife❤
What if the man doesn't want intimacy. Nobody asks that question 😅 get real
Then man has a health issue it means
Its so Difficult to fulfill needs of wife now days. They hv many many issues which makes a man to suffer. The time of our prophet saw and sahaba was different. There is worldly race going on now days, hectic life, responsibilities, family issues, parents , siblings, jobs issues etc. Wives have become a night mare now days. They cannot understand men problems. Finally this is a man who is suffering by fulfilling needs of everyone and no one is there for him except allah.
Man are also not like Prophet SAW...this is not a good excuse... you need to behave like a man...be good with her and satisfy her in all halal ways and if you can't afford something just simply tell her brother... you are no way bound to do something which is not necessary and exhaust you too...Be close to Allah and Sweetly make her understand too...when she will be close to Allah she will herself fear about not fulfilling her duties toward you
Not all women are like that. Some women take kindness as weakness.
There are so many women pious but not pretty looking but are unmarried because men even 1/10 in looks ask for a 8/10 looking girl.
majority of mm cheat. Especially in the west 90 percent muslim men commit zina, betray their wives. Watch corns
@@starryeyes469 that's actually women. Men get Happy with less. Women however ask 10k in mahr and you need to be tall and what not
Le donne hanno gli stessi diritti degli uomini dio non ha detto amo gli uomini e non le donne anche dio aveva una madre
ALLAH I want HALAL Marriage❤
whatever there is nothing more then women .......
What if a wife just doesn't have any romance whatsoever regardless of how much the husband does for her?