An Extremely *HARD* Day of a Mum of 2 (Toddler Meltdowns and Clingy Baby Edition) ad
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A very hard day of a Mum of 2 navigating motherhood with toddler tantrums and a clingy baby. Very real and raw vlog.
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Just finished watch all of your vlog! Shan you are a million percent not alone, I put my toddlers to bed at 5pm tonight (for the first time Ever) they both refused dinner and their dad was judging me for not making the eat it all but I was not up for a fight with them tonight, end up arguing with the husband instead, he went to work, I took kids to shower and bath they screamed their head off and me then at each other which broke my heart, wrapped them up in towels brushed teeth in pjs put them to bed, I rushed down stairs to try to clean up, fold washing, wash up but instead I broke down in BIG flood of tears and poured myself a small JD and coke continued to cry. Pulled myself together to continue to clean up. Now I’m off to bed. Thank you for let me know I am not alone as a working-hard mumma 😢 we’ve got this tomorrow will be a better day ❤🤞
Girl I FEEEEEEEL THIIS. I’ve had your exact night so many times, pure HELL. It can be so hard on a daily basis and I promise you that you’re not alone ♥️♥️♥️ enjoy an evening to yourself, watch some trash TV and remind yourself that you’re doing an amazing job mama ♥️
@@HomeWithShan thank you. I’m on a mission to book an all inclusive holiday - stress of sorting out passports now 😩 always something. 🤣
Thank you for showing the reality of being a parent and being relatable. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to share this side of motherhood but know it makes the rest of us not feel alone & we’re all facing similar struggles ❤
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Shan George can probably sense you’re treading on eggshells, maybe try having more authority, offering clear direction with clear outcomes
I have a 2 year old and 4 months old. My husband works 6am-5pm. My toddler has been waking up at 5am in the last 5 weeks and it's been brutal lately. Sleep deprivation and big emotions and all the noise is just too much. It's so not fair that most of the time it's all on us mums and we're expected to act like our *normal happy best versions* to our husbands and friends / people at work. Only mum can understand mum and thanks for showing this side of motherhood. Even if we can't talk to eachother we can see that we're not in this by ourselves
I once heard the phrase „Hard kids are having a hard time“ and it stuck with me since then! To my eyes you really do the best, I respect your transparency and honesty…our 2,5 year old is a strong willed child and I used to get anxious and worried because he didn’t have this perfect Instagram behavior! Meanwhile I have accepted him just the way he is, a curious, intelligent and happy boy with zero patience and lots of drama 😊 one thing I notice that helps (especially after nursery) is quality time! We have a one year old too and it’s not easy having both of them but I try to be really slow with what I’m doing and don’t stress a lot…
Your doing amazing hon, toddlers can be awful!!!! It’s like parenting a jack in a box, you just don’t know when there going to pop off. Keep speaking to the health visitor, push for a referral as I know you mentioned ADHD before. Everything you describe is my nephew who has ADHD. What helped him was one of those blow up punching bags in the garden. He would go and take his frustrations out on that rather than my sister (not every time but definitely helped). He was also out on a very low dose of ADHD medication (she held off for a ages) but honestly made such a huge difference. Get Ash to take the kids out for a day or even you go to your friends or Mums for a weekend to get a break xx
You should be incredibly proud of yourself for how patient you stay. I know inside you are likely finding it hard but on the outside you stay patient xx
As a mum with a 4 year old with ASD then I completely empathise with your situation and how you see so many ‘others’ with the same aged children who just seem to be ‘perfect’. There is no perfect but it is about harnessing the greatness within our kids. Just remember EVERYTHING is a phase and it’s about managing the situation and coming up with solutions which you sure are doing mama and you should be proud of yourself. Meltdowns are gonna happen and they can’t always be avoided. It’s all a process and eventually he will turn a corner and they will get less frequent. With my own experience I have found social stories really help and teaching my son (also called George!) about a clock and telling him when the big hand gets to etc. I also give him choice at every stage during the day whether it be something as small as which chair do you want to sit on at lunch or which snack do you want this or this. I’ve found that’s really helped with meltdowns because he feels more in control of his day. I also feel like since he’s turned 4 with noticed a huge change in his emotions, and he finds it a lot easier to cope with big emotions. So there is light at the end of the tunnel ❤
Oh Shan my heart was just breaking for you at the end there 🙁 You’re an amazing mum, please try and be easy on yourself as you’re doing such a great job! ❤
Oh mama! This is so so hard. My heart is breaking for you. The book “Turn Autism Around” has really good actionable advice for littles with ADHD and Autism. It sounds like George has big emotions coupled with “problem” behavior like destroying property. The book really really helped us navigate those bigger than life (not average) toddler tantrums. You are right, this is different than other parents deal with. ❤
Just want to say it might just be a phase. It is super hard to deal with it but my little boy did this at this age, and he grew out of it by the time he was 3 1/2-4. He's 5 now and not done it for years although he does have the odd outburst and throws the odd thing in anger! I find with kids that most the time, everything is a phase so try and remember that too. When he starts to process his emotions as he grows it will get easier. My littlest is 2 and never trashes his room in a tantrum, but hes also more chilled as a kid. Think it's personalities too!😊
@@bethanywain6101 totally agree although I think she’s mentioned challenges from a young age. It’s the intensity and length of time (from a young age) that feels different to me - or at least seems similar to my LO.
I honestly appreciate these videos so much I have 2 under 2 and some days I feel like a failure when I see these “perfect” instagram mums but in reality they just don’t talk about it, you are an incredible mum ❤
You’re not failing because your toddler has a tantrum! We have certainly been there, it sometimes feels like you just can’t catch a break.
We all have different ways of parenting and that is FINE. As we have always reminded ours- big emotions are fine, but bad behaviours are not. Separating the two is so important.
I wished I lived nearer to help you. It must be very difficult on a daily basis to deal with George. He obviously needs help with his behaviour and anger because as you say it’s very hard to navigate. He’s so young for the anger issues he has and trashing rooms is not acceptable. Maybe look into seeing someone who can explain why he does what he does and give you guidance how to deal with him. You are so amazing and a brilliant mummy and it must be so hard and draining for you. Look into it and see if you can find out what the issue is with him.
You're not alone & doing a great job, I admire how calm you are with your kids as I find myself shouting ALOT & then having to apologise to my boys for shouting. My 2 year old literally NEVER sits still & it's so over stimulating! I also try limit tv, which is so so hard so I totally get it, I found that Bluey was a really good show for my 3.5 year old for low stimulation & teaches some great lessons. Sending love & positive vibes 🌸
It breaks my heart to see this but I think he is just reacting because of having to share your attention with his little sister, there is no other way except giving him attention really, which is not always possible. I’ve sometimes found that 5 mins of attention saves from hours of tantrums…I was lucky as my kids have a 6 years gap but this happened with my sister as well.
Shan you're doing an incredible job!! Remember that in the tough times, George and Halle are so lucky you're their mummy ❤. This is just a small thing but I wonder if it might help take the pressure off your evenings a bit: have you got/could you get a slow cooker? You could whack some meat and veg / beans, whatever in there during Halle's PM nap then it could cook away while you collect George etc and it'll be ready to eat with some bread or a pack of microwavable rice for an instant no-prep meal come dinner time. Just a thought. You are doing BRILLIANTLY xx
We were referred to the HV at 18 months for physio, audiology, paediatrician and speech and language therapy.Hearing is fine and she’s started walking at 20 months before we even got a physio appointment😁
I just have a question though how long was he left alone for for him to trash his room like that? Just more worrying that he could have hurt himself more than anything. I have no idea what this type of behaviour is like to deal with so I mean it with no judgment just curious if he was then able to do a second room aswell x
Shan, as a new mum of an 8 month old boy i needed to see this! Thank you for your transparency ❤
To all the mums going through this, you're absolutely not alone. 💕🤗
Can I just ask why wouldn't you remove him from the situation rather than just allow him to carry on going room to room ripping everything apart? I don't see how you can stand back watching that unfold and not address it? Definitely sounds like he needs serious boundaries from what you're saying if you're treading on egg shells around him x
In terms of trashing the rooms what helped us and also my sister in law was getting ballons and filling them up with water. When our toddlers would start throwing things and have big angry feelings we would take them outside and get them to throw the balloons at the wall and see them splash. Change of environment helps so much and getting outside also baloon throwing lets them get all that anger out.
Great idea! And if it's not possible to get outside at the time, we have a big bag of extra large pom poms (from Hobbycraft) that our boys can throw around when they feel like throwing! Much rather those than other stuff that could break or injure someone! They've come in handy many times Xx
I feel you! my son was like this until he started primary school. Hard for his little sisters to witness but fingers crossed he is getting better. He needs structure and it's hard in the summer but this year he was the right age to join a little summer programme. It gets better! Sending love to our little George x
One things that’s helped me with Casper is constantly repeating ‘they are having a harder time than us’
Casper is very good at masking a lot of his ‘behaviors’ in settings like pre school and he started at his new school this week and they’ve said he’s been amazing, well we’ve had a week from hell. Just constant OCD traits, repetitiveness, shouting, stubbornness etc and I know it’s because he’s been masking in his new settings. We’ve purchased a lot of books about anxiety, worrying etc that we now read to him before bed and I also do lots of squeezing like squeezing his shoulders and hips and do find it massively helps (apparently the pressure helps ground them) I pretend to wrap him up in a burrito and put pressure on those places 😂😂 but the room trashing id definitely try to step in and stop him if possible. Casper throws things a lot but as soon as one thing is thrown it’s taken away and he’s told he can have it back and try again tomorrow. Parenting can be so bloody tough and no one parents the same child ❤
Absolutely agree about the baby food presentation! Thanks for keeping it real. I’m so uninspired for baby lunches right now, first time mum me would have been mortified by the amount of toast and baby puffs being consumed 🙈 need to take inspo from your muffins!
I’m having similar experience to Halle’s physio with the speech therapist for my toddler. It’s so frustrating when you’re so eager for help and being told to ‘wait and see’.
Please don’t blame yourself about George’s tantrum. You’re doing your best and a fab job at that. My favourite saying ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ but it doesn’t stop me doing the same! Wishing you all lots of love xxx
Hey Shan, just to let you know my first never ever crawled she only bumped shuffled and then started thinking about walking around 14 months. She may never crawl and she couldn’t stand tummy time
Oh Shan you're such an amazing mum!! How did you not just shout at George or physically pick him up in the moment when you saw him destroy his sister's room? I'm a mum to be and terrified that i wont cope with that sort of behavior 😭 you seem to be so good at navigating these situations, even when you're struggling! Would love a video on how to cope with certain behaviors!!! ♥️
@@Hollyjollychristmas7 go back into your cave troll
Does your bathroom have a lock on it? It might be best to put hallie in her cot and then lock you both in the bathroom until he’s calm?
So need this video! ❤
The point of seeing the physio is to get the exercises, theyll be tailored recommendations to help advance Halle's muscles and range of moments! Dont just sack it off because it might not be an ongoing thing, it'll be beneficial for Halle if you stick to practicing the exercises with her x
Ah I really felt for you at the end, you are really doing an amazing job. I have a 3 year old boy and I'm finding things very tough at the moment, I'm 41 and only have 1, but he can be so difficult, he's going through the stage of refusing everything I ask him to do, meltdowns over little things too 😭.
Your videos really help me get through as I know I'm not alone.
You're doing great Mama ❤
Girl, not only are you calling Halle 12 months, you're also referring to George as a toddler still, let me blow your mind: soon Halle is your toddler! 😂 Time really flies, you are doing great ❤
Thank you so so much for this real, raw Videos! I feel you. Same here 😵💫 feels so good to know, that Most Kids are the Same ♥️
It’s like hearing my feelings about my own son / parenting out loud 🙃
Sending you lots of love 🤍🤍🤍 you’re doing great and I really hope you have plenty of support and love for you. Your kids are so lucky to have you 🥰xxx
Enjoyed the video thank you. We strong tape our lamps to the tables they sit on so they can’t be knocked over or off 🤦♀️😂 the struggle is real 😆
Shan I think your a star! Sharing the true reality of motherhood, keeping it real, helping others by sharing your struggles! It helps to know we're all going through similar struggles! I think you deserve a medal! ❤ And go you for putting your foot down with the fish situation!'😂 Take care xxx
You are doing amazing and you’re trying so hard to support your little boy in the best way possible! I know it can be disheartening when you have so much hope and these things you try just don’t work, but it will get better! You will find your own ways to manage things and there is light at the end of the tunnel! 🥰
Omg Shan, The Juggle is so hard. It's so difficult to decide which is the most important task, you're a great mum and please don't feel guilty because it all went wrong on that one day. On the really hard days I often lose my s*** and then feel super guilty and have to remind myself that tomorrow is a new day. Sending virtual hugs and support Xx
1:30 you are doing amazing Shan, honestly I’m about to become a mum of 2 under 1 1/2 and I’m scared but you handle it amazing x
My daughter didn’t walk until 20 months, she’s now 3 and never stops. I didn’t go through any tests or referrals for hyper mobility but some children just take more time x
Thank you for the relatable content!! ❤
Shan you're a great mum to George, sometimes I think we have to give ourselves grace as mums that our kids are going to experience difficult outbursts and emotions, and often there's nothing that we could have done to avoid it. You're doing the best you can, and he's lucky that you're very patient with him in supporting him ❤
I have 3yr old twin boys, ex 27 weekers. We have had one heck of a journey. We started physio for them just before their 1st birthday because they couldnt crawl either. We have weekly sessions then fortnightly and twin 1 took his first independent steps at 25 months and twin 2 took his first independent steps at 28 months. They now run around like tornados and climb everything. Xx
Yes this is my everyday with a 2 year old and a 3 month old. 2 year old is a terrible sleeper..has never slept through.. and wakes at 5am. He is exactly like your little boy, very boisterous. Shouts and screams ,,constantly wakes little one 😳 All very stressful 😴 At the same time we wouldn’t change it for the world!
Don't worry shan! Your honestly doing amazing! My first she didn't crawl until 15 months and then walked at 18 months. We didn't refer as I was exactly the same 🤣 she is honestly fine now wouldn't even know at 3 years old that she didn't walk until late. She literally bum shuffled or rolled everywhere. You got this Shan and your not alone. I worried so much but then like you realised we can't compare to social media as it's so easy to do😭 I'm sure Hallie will be walking in no time and your be like oh god like I was and she was a tornando 🤣🤣 xxx
Hi Shan, look up sensory circuits. You've said before you think he has ADHD and if that is the case he won't be able to calm his body if it is going into survival mode. You need to alert, organise and then calm. This means he'll need something high energy to stimulate his body before it calms back down. Look at spinning chairs, swings, trampolines etc. It might help ❤
My little boy was late sitting up, crawling etc and only walked when he was nearly 2. He has hyper mobility & just did things in his own time x
I love these videos so much. My almost 6 month old has been the most unhappy baby right now with his teething and just fighting naps rolling over and getting stuck so screams. My 2.5 year old is now playing up because she isn't getting as much attention. I have inner meltdowns on the regular and wonder how I can do this. Seeing that I'm not alone and reading the comments just makes me see that it's not just my baby and it's not me doing anything wrong or being a bad mum etc
I would have been fuming about the fish!! You are a more understanding wife than I am 😂😂 but love your approach and will use “ask daddy” method for other things 😂 xx
I have days like this with my 2 young ones (1 and 2 and a half ) I just try and tell myself tomorrow will be a better day ❤
My son didn’t walk until 22 months, and never crawled properly he comando crawled on his tummy, pulling along with his elbows, and pushing with his toes. He is much older now and is absolutely fine, still has slight weakness and balance issues like riding a bike etc but in general every day life he’s absolutely fine!
I’ve been where you are with George too as we have adhd and pathological demand avoidance, and it’s hard but honestly it gets easier. You learn to adapt and they do too. Weighted blanket helped us and headphones and sensory toys like lights or toys to squeeze etc. It’s impossible sometimes in the moment though.
We have a fish tank i didn’t want and I also have nothing to do with it 😂😂 I’ve enough on my plate lol. Xx
The intro was a visual rep of what goes on in a mums mind 24/7 with the unseen burden!!
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Hey, our two and half year old has hypermobility and is still not walking independently. She is also a bum shuffler. She has made a lot of progress and is crusing and walking when you hold a single hand now. We got refered by rhe health visitor at a similar age, and have an appointment with the physio every couple of months. We just do the exercises at home and nursery. She is progressing really quickly now. Please don't worry, we had everything checked and it is just hypermobility and they will catch up with extra help.
Physio don't just ditch you! My little boy has seen physio since 8 weeks! Because he has stiff arms (radioulnar stenosis), but as long as they feel they can help they won't just ditch you :). Sending lots of love!! My LB is 19m and not walking but he's getting closer every day! ❤
Your hair really suits you it's such a beautiful colour 😍 I can relate to the struggles I have a boy and I'm due another boy in 1 week been watching your transition from 1 to 2 vlogs hopefully it goes smooth lol xx
Have you watched inside out or inside out 2? It talks about emotions but in a very clever way. Not saying it will be a magic cure but it may help George understand his emotions a little more.
You are doing an amazing job x
My daughter was referred to a physio, she was exactly the same as hallie, bum shuffling and not much else. The physio gave us exercises and saw us once a month to check up on her and she started pulling up after a few months and was walking by 18 months. Physio is great 😊
Hi Shan you’re not alone it’s just so overwhelming in the moment so no judgement from. I’m a mum to 4 kids 26,24 twins 13. Boy twin severe autism hyper Mobilty epilepsy GDD the list goes on so the meltdowns trashing every room in the house been there. Personal I would just tidy his room and start a fresh with him. Try taking him to a trampoline park to burst out his energy. X
Hey hun you should do a meet up of mums x
For Hallie I would just pay for private physio every 2 weeks for her until she is 18months. At least then you will know you’ve given her the best chance until the next health visitor appointment. My son has hyper mobility and low tone and still can’t put weight on his legs/ crawling. It is a little stressful but I know he’ll get there in his own time. We do physio twice a month.
Definitely follow through with the physio referral, the exercises they give H will help her achieve the gross motor milestones x
Our son is 8 and has Down’s syndrome so he was really delayed . We finally got physio at 18 months and saw them twice. He started walking at 2 and a half and they completely discharged us.
The nhs don’t have the funds honestly xx
I love your honesty ❤😊
The ikea highchair it might be worth getting a Footrest for it off Etsy just with hallie having hypermobility it will help her sit stable in it if that makes sense :) no judgment if not I’ve just read that having their feet on something helps them when eating xx
Honestly, my little girl was delayed with all of her milestones. She never crawled and still hasn’t till this day and she’s 3 next month. She bum shuffled everywhere. She walked at 22 months and now runs around like a loonatic now. Nothing wrong at all. X
Sending so much love Shan. You really are such a wonderful Mum. Really hope the calm down area helps George. The only tips I have to share that work for my daughter are deep breaths (if she’s mid tantrum she will fight this but on the come down she will do them with me and she calms down soooo much quicker and says she feels much happier after just 2 or 3 breaths to calm her system) and Luna on RUclips (the weird smiley moon by hey bear) - she used to watch it when she was a baby. The other week she had an almighty red mist meltdown and for some reason I thought to put it on and it calmed her right away. Not sure if either of those will be any use to you but thought I’d share. ❤❤
Aww Shan I totally understand how you feel and our boys sound very similar. It so hard and you constantly feel like you are making excuses for their behaviour and trying to think of different ways to cope. I've tried having a calm space but when they are in the frame of mind they just aren't interested. Every child's different but Harris always seemed to respond to a sticker chart with a reword once he got a certain amount of stickers. Maybe George's reward could be some TV time? I also started letting him know when I was feeling "fizzy" and showing him what I was doing to calm down like deep breathing and counting to ten. Not sure if any of this will help, I know it just feels like an effort and you wish they would just be good ❤❤
Hello shan I've been watching your vlogs for years now. First time commenting.
Your videos are always so relatable. thank you. You are a inspiration and an amazing mum. I understand massively what your going through, also I have wondered silently if George was possibly on the spectrum as my son 8yrs was very similar growing up. He has just been diagnosed last Aug with AuADHD.
We recently got help from complex behaviour team. they've told me when he is in that meltdown stage to not talk to him, to take him by the hand and put him in his safe space (his room) he has a dark den, teddies and things in a box that might help calm his senses. Bubbles, stress ball and paper to tear up then I let him know to come back when your calm then we speak about the feelings and hug it out and try again. It is a lot of trial and error but your doing amazing.
Maybe try putting a lock high up on yours and Hallies bedrooms so George can't get into them in a meltdown.
You're an amazing mama and you're doing a great job ❤
Have a read or listen on audible to the book “How to talk so little kids will listen”. It’s a really good book with great methods.
@@theapplelearningtree I love this!! Thank you!!
Aw Shan, my little girl didn't walk until she was nearly 2, she never hit any of her mile stones at the time. I once watched one of your videos and George was walking it made me wish my little girl could walk like him. I totally understand what you mean by social media, I feel the same sometimes. I mean this from the kindest place, would it not be easier to let George watch the tv if it meant it made things easier for you. ❤❤
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Hang in there, you are doing a great job
You are an amazing Mum!
I’m a FTM due in October and your videos have been so great to watch! Thanks for keeping it real. Random question but where is your bed from?
You need one of those T-shirts for Ash that says “I said I’ll fix it, you don’t have to ask me every 6 months!” 😂
OMG YES 😂😅
Oh Shan bloody hell, you are going through it at the minute.
Don't worry about Hallie, My daughter didn't crawl, just bum shuffled and walked at 18 months.
Hav eyou contacted the health visitor about George's behaviour it sounds like you need some help and maybe George has an undiagnosed condtion making him behave the way his does.
Please don't blame yourself. That meltdown would have happened regardless.
You are doing amazing! Send all the love ❤ xx
I have 4 children and 3 out of the 4 walked late. 1 at 18 months, 16ish months and one was very close to 19 months! not all crawled either . They are all different . Don't get me started on the toddler food on social media! i laugh because i wonder how they have time! xx
I walked at 22 months, hypermobile and bum shuffled to get around.
Take a look at everything you have created for them so far. Money will never be able to buy the time, energy and love poured into your babies. They will be carrying that with them for life. You are learning your way through life too, you are gonna make mistakes along the way. The most important thing is always remaining open to change and growth. In the grand scheme of things, you have raised two well rounded children who will go on to raise their own well rounded children too. You have laid down the foundations and made yourself a safe place. You have done 99% of the job already, your achievements will make 10000x more impact than any mistakes you make
Have you tried listening to the parenting books by Janet Lansbury lovely ? They were a game changer for me and my little boy xxxx
What's shan discount code for hello fresh please
I'm really struggling with a clingy baby all that stop him crying is being held while you walk around and I'm F struggling
Oh Shan my heart goes out to you regarding the meltdown - do not blame yourself. What was poor Ash’s reaction when he came home to it? I’m sure you were absolutely frazzled! Xx
This is as REAL as it gets, thanks for sharing… better days ahead ❤ try giving your son some calm kids magnesium or organic cacao (high in magnesium) and a good omega 3 with vitamin D and probiotic supplement (kefir, saurkraut) to see if it help him with his moods …
May I ask, have you changed your highchair? It looks like you’ve swapped the Hauck one for the IKEA one? Just wondering because I’m about to purchase a highchair 🤪
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I would for sure if your physio doesn't work see a private osteopath!!! They helped both my girls. Loads of their joints were stiff, talipes in their feet, slight angles in their hips one had Hip dysplasia, locked elbow ect. 😭 Both my girls ended up walking by 16 months though 👌👌
Hi Shan, really appreciate you being so open and honest! It definitely makes us all feel less alone when we have our own struggles. I just wondered if George is the same at nursery as at home and what they’ve said? Some issues with my little boy seem to come out way more at home than when he’s at nursery and it is SO hard sometimes feeling like you’re doing the wrong thing (and worrying about being judged by the other parents at nursery overhearing the reports at the end of the day 🫠)
The dog in the video is that you’re dog and what’s his or her name?
It is and she's called Molly
I felt for you so much watching the end of this, you’re doing your absolute best for your kids and they’re so lucky to have a Mum that cares for them so deeply, I sat and watched this after an evening of being screamed at by my teething baby and angry three year old and honestly just felt less alone, hang in there Shan 🩷
My little one was born early so was behind with some milestones, she didn’t crawl til over one and was also not pulling herself up until after then either. She finally started walking at about 18.5 months with no physio or anything, our HV did mention it but I just really think they do things at their own pace 🩷
Do you know if baby girl has weak muscle tone it’s called hypertonia?
Only because a few of the things you have mentioned sounds very similar to something my oldest daughter had roundabout her same age . It’s just about working the cool muscles and that would basically help her to give her the strength to sit, stand, walk. A good thing to do is hold her hips for support so she has to work those muscles. 🩷
Hi Shan, I don't normally comment but I have a 3 year old boy a little like this and we are banning TV and trying all the strategies too. With mine he won't be calmed by anything we do because he's so mad we still won't give him what he asked for. The only thing that works (most times) for us is to leave him. We have stair gates and so we put him behind a stair gate and leave for a while, he ends up being mad we've gone so when we come back he calms down just enough for us to be able to talk to him about what's wrong. If George needs time by himself to work it out can his room be toddler proofed and a stair gate just for these times put on? I know they're good climbers but rage seems to stop this skill for some reason
Ps I also should have said you are doing a great job. All the advice is for "most kids" and so isn't going to work for some. You obviously care and you will figure it out because of this. Your kids are lucky to have you
My little girl is the same age as Halle so it’s been great to watch along in real time with you. Mine was behind on gross motor too then all of a sudden she just started to do it all, in the space of a week! It was crazy. They’re all on their own timelines 🩷 ps. I do think a suction plate teaches them from the get go where food goes and how we eat. Doesn’t matter about how it’s presented on it! You’re a awesome Mum X