Perfect Memory = Perfect Inability to Forgive | House M.D.
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- Опубликовано: 22 апр 2024
- Never forgetting anything can be a curse. A waitress with perfect recall starts suffering from paralysis and things are further complicated by her long-held grudge against her sister.
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From Season 7 Episode 12 ''You Must Remember This'': A waitress with an extraordinary memory (guest star Tina Holmes) suffers a paralysis, and her recovery is complicated by an anything-but-forgotten grudge she holds against her older sister (guest star Claire Rankin). Meanwhile, House (Hugh Laurie) discovers Wilson's (Robert Sean Leonard) secret new companion when he tries to help him return to the dating scene; and Foreman (Omar Epps) helps Taub (Peter Jacobson) prepare for a medical exam.
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When you have perfect memory, you can see how much people lie regularly...
I stranger is how people change their memories then believe the new version. I don't have a perfect memory, but sometimes just sometimes I do!
It's not that fun
It's not just lying but our memories change with time. If this person would ask the sister about a certain memory, she wouldn't be lying if she got something wrong, but the memory reshaped into a similar one
It is not often I completely dislike carachters, but this acress did a truly fine job of creating an insufferable, obnoxious carachter that I truly disliked and pretty much loathed.
@@65MaX73 yes. I remember something and then I see the old photos from the event and suddenly see I was mistaken with my own memory. Our brains are tricky. How can I lie if this is what I truly remember... That's why I never fully trust my memory unless I have something written or documented otherwise the time it was happening. :) (it is mostly about long ago things not recent ones)
When you have perfect memory you’d also remember ALL of YOUR f___ups.
You’d also be a perfect liar because your story would never change and you’d remember all the invented details to support your lies.
It's a nightmare honestly I have that.
@@SteveRush-qi3gr every superpower has a drawback…
Everything have a price in this life huh
True.
Why I don't practice deception. I remember how it feels to be lied to.
Not only that, but all of your trauma, I have a whole bunch of fucked up memories and I don't even remember everything, if I remembered every little fucked up thing that happened to me that would be torture.
Chase giving the ecstatic thumbs up from behind the glass while the patient is having a heart attack is hilarious.
He is the successor.
I guess they took, "We don't forgive, we don't forget" too literally.
you knew I was getting the mail and didn't check and hit me with your car🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
never forgetti momma's spaghetti
expecto patronum
It’s very hard to do when you have a perfect or near perfect memory.
A memory like that is not a gift, it’s a curse.
You learn how to just stay away from people that hurt you just for their pleasure.
I haven’t seen or bothered to talk to my own mother and brother for well over 20 years.
I have three out of four kids I do t even bother to care about for their antics.
Kinda hard to talk about unconditional love when there is baggage like that.
I know EXACTLY how she feels.
progressively stopping to resent someone because the memory of what they did to you is progressively becoming more distant and cloudy is not forgiveness... it's called forgetting.
forgiveness is when you know and understand what someone did to you and stopped caring as much about it. often it happens because you value other things more than what was taken from you in that event. for example you value your friendship or family bond more and ultimately decide to forgive. it's also a form of forgiveness when you value your own peace of mind above it, refusing to let the other person live rent-free in your head.
her great memory being an expression of ocd perfectly fit this. it is not that she can't forgive because she remember all the bad things, but she's remembering all things because she's neurologically obsessed by them. in short, she don't forget because she's unable to forgive.
Noone remembers what someone else has done to them. They remember bits and pieces.
Most people are functional with others mostly because they forget and not forgive 90% of what they have done to them.
@@dimitriostrigkakis2052 true. still not forgiveness as you've said yourself. that's why we forget things, because it's hard to forgive. gotta have just the right balance where you remember things enough to not let them happen to you again and forget just enough so that you can remain functional.
@@dimitriostrigkakis2052 Most people are barely even sapient. Neurotypicals barely qualify as human.
I wonder how that ties into cptsd, getting hit by a car on purpose seems pretty messed up 😭 (tho I think the sister genuinely said it was an accident)
Unless you have proof testing all the humans on earth, I’d refrain from making such a definitive statement of ‘no-one’. In fact, there have been exceptional cases of humans with photographic memories who truly remember everything done to them.
So, perfect memory means that she would remember the good things, too. That means she is fixated on the bad ones more.
Additionally, it is not solely her memory's fault that she has trouble interacting with people. In the scene in the diner, it is obvious that that woman wants her to move along and stop saying she had visited before.
The waitress can remember everything but can not remember social cues until an argument has started?
Edit:
I am aware that most people more readily recall bad memories. I did not say that was unusual. What is unusual and to her advantage is that she can perfectly recall good memories too.
If I give you a cookie every day but slap you twice in 100 days, you’ll likely remember the slaps more than all the cookies. Survival is programmed to focus on negatives.
Autism lol
@@chucksolutions4579 chocolate chip AGAIN?!
Her logic was all about "You need to make things up to me enough that I personally believe I can forgive you." She kept a personal scoreboard of every fault that ever happened and every good thing that happened.
@@emilynightray I say it’s worse than that. You just CANT make up for the mean things you do to people, unless you get to save their life, you can’t just be nice enough or do enough favors to make people like you more (unfortunately I’ve tried). It really takes the person you have wronged to be in a terrible situation and you being the only person that could help them to restore a positive relationship and often even then it’s not enough (again, been there in combat situations, acknowledge the save but if people don’t like you…🤷♂️).
I think this is where either understanding Jesus and the cross comes into play to save from sin, or not, and how that allows forgiveness to grow through it no longer being about the person who wronged you.
I developed a bad memory to forget a lot of abuse from my family. I forgot instead of forgiving for a long time. In my 40’s I still struggle to forgive bc it’s just easier to forget about it and not bring it up but it fosters unconscious resentment.
@2:47 chase expression 😂
Literally just checked the comments to see if anyone else timestamped this moment, I lol'd
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Priceless XD
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I remember a lot of things in great details. It is true that good memory makes it extremely hard to forgive people who have injured you, but it also makes it quite easy to learn from past mistakes so that you’ll never get hurt by the same mistake again. Overall I believe that having a good memory does more good than harm, if we choose to remember the lessons and let the individuals fade over time.
I agree. I, too, have a really great memory. I can remember the exact page and the location on what page of the information I had read. I have stopped talking to my paternal side of the family for the last 7 years. People might say I hold a grudge but i disagree. I am not actively hating anyone. Honestly, they barely cross my thoughts. Having that said, I always learn my lessons once. I once told my husband that I cannot help but trust only once and never again. It's as if betrayal ultimately changes how I see the other person, myself, and our whole relationship. I might be civil but I would always catch myself, almost subconsciously, everytime I become vulnerable.
Agreed
"But if you want to be special, you're gonna have to be alone"
Very House attitude.
Love that Chase grin and thumps up "thanks bro!" lol
Similar issue... The stronger the memory, the stronger the emotions tied to it; the more plentiful and vivid the details, the more years you remember, the harder it is to not think about every day. Many compounding factors. I'm glad most of you don't have memory like that. It turns the past into a black hole.
Spending the future replaying memories of the past sounds like a snake biting its tail.
I’m sorry you go through that. Having DID means that all of our memories are neatly compartmentalized into separate people’s minds so that we don’t have to all deal with them all at once all the time. I wonder whether leaning to dissociate (if it’s a skill that can be learned; I’m not sure) could help. I don’t think you need to make alters (or even could), but dissociation doesn’t require alters.
Her problem is not that she cant forget, its that she cant forgive. Two very different things
Exactly. I had a similar problem before ssri treatment. It turns out you don't need to know how many cracks are in the sidewalk between humanities and biology class.
@@michaelharris8598 I have no desire to be 'cured'. Like the character, I have nothing else going for me.
@@michaelharris8598 i guess you also dont need to know what the pills that you take do to you. ignorance is bliss, am i right?
Actually they connect. Those who "truly forgive" basically choose to forget the instance that caused the issue/problem. If you have "photographic memory", you will ALWAYS remember it and not truly forgive you. The saying goes..."forgive and forget". If you can not forget, you will tend to remember that "bad" feeling.
@@RedJoker9000 I can't say whether you're right or wrong, but I'm curious about how emotional regulation would play into one's ability to forgive.
Forgiveness isn't about forgetting, it's about not expecting perfection.
Perfect memory is a double-edged sword.
Marilu Henner has an eidetic memory.
Oh hey, thats where that chase gif is from.
Forgiveness is an accounting term referring to no longer chasing after someone for restitution.
Writing off someone else as a bad debt counts as forgiveness.
Then you're free to take care of the damage they caused instead of wasting more time trying to get them to make you whole again.
Just don't extend those thieves any further credit.
Hope this helps someone else
Hey, thanks, it was helpful.
Excellent !
Forgiveness is what you do to people you can't get away with dismembering.
Yep I do that too but I call it acceptance. forgiveness is too much like saying what happened me was ok and it wasn’t! What was done to me was wrong and I accept your never gonna try to make it right even if you could. However I’m not gonna dwell on this and let it destroy me I’m gonna go forward and live well.
If I held onto every bad thing my siblings have done to me, I’d never talk to any of them again. Same for them with me.
As someone with a steel trap for a memory, I will say that having such a good memory does make it VERY hard to forgive people. You look at them, and you're flooded with memories of them hurting you. I don't have a positive relationship with one of my older brothers because it's so bad that his very presence stresses me out and puts me on edge, and that lasts long after he leaves.
Every single time in Dr House
patient: What does it mean?
Them: That we still don't know what's wrong with you.
if you can't forgive because you still remember you fucking missed the entire point of forgiveness
That's not how this works. You're allowed to forgive or not. Why? Because something bad happened to you. It is a decision where we learn fight, fight or freeze. If you know your classmates from school bullied you every day, once you see them again your body will tell you "these people used to hurt me..." yes, you may have forgiven them, but your body does not forget. Which in turn, you don't forget. It is a safety mechanism that we actually need.
Bro acts like solved abuse 😂
@@bgumdrop are you stupid I obviously said forgetting is not the point of forgiveness
I'm autistic, and have OCD. I also have anxiety, so my memory is surprisingly strong - I'm a walking GPS, and my first memory is from when i was about 18 months old, maybe slightly younger.
A few years ago, my dad told me he didn't think I was built for relationships. That he thinks I prefer to be alone. And considering I was in my mid 20s with no sign of having one anytime soon, I believed him.
Nearly 29 and about to celebrate two years with the person I'll marry one day. It's the healthiest, most loving relationship of anyone I know. People have actually told me they're jealous of us!
Never tell someone "other" that they have to medicate or be alone. That isn't hoe the world works. And I _hate_ that this is the message House MD ended on.
I am happy for you but there's always a trade off. You are special (I mean it in a good way), but the more special you are, the less people would be a good enough match to you.
Say one has a persistent odor from their mouth, that can be reduced by right meds. Should they take those so more potential partners would tolerate them? Or should they remain more distinct than the others? Even if they'd refuse treatment, they still might find someone, but less people would be available. Statistically, that's how the world is, and it's quite unfair.
And I don't mean to compare your situation to this imaginary one, it's just a sound example. You may swap it to other diseases, personality quirks or to just simply being different. I think it's a bitter message, but life also is not all sweets.
@@IvanIvanov-ej2wy Having bad breath is something that obviously needs to be dealt with. Having a physical ailment of any kind obviously needs to be dealt with.
But just being wired differently? Just seeing the world in a different way from other people? Why should that ostracise you? I know _plenty_ of neurodiverse people with higher needs than me who are happily married with kids. And others who have long-term partners. Just because we're not easy in every situation, or come with an extra complication, doesn't mean we should be told to expect to be alone unless we're medicated to conform with society.
There are 7 billion people on this planet. And a significant portion of them don't care, or would actually help their partner with coping mechanisms. Not everyone dismisses people who are "other" just because it's more difficult.
@@LilyGrace95 I don't see how that contradicts my statement. Still plenty of partners, but less than without being on a spectrum. You just restated it more wordly, I think. In no way I insist anyone feel ostracised, I don't know where you picked up that idea
Also, adults with Asperger's sometimes feel surprised on receiving the diagnosis because they've learnt (instead of having those naturally) social skills during adolescence and became more conformed having less problems in day to day life.
@@IvanIvanov-ej2wy Asperger's is an outdated and eugenics-based term. Please don't use it x
And I'm in that category, wasn't diagnosed until my 20s. Yes, you've subconsciously learnt skills from spending your life trying to fit in, so you're better at hiding as an adult. But learning that the whole time you didn't have to, it does one hell of a number on you mentally and you start to question every interaction you have.
And you likened being ND to having a physical ailment, saying they both need to be dealt with to fit in. What I'm saying is, that isn't true. There are _millions_ of people out there who are perfectly accepting. Unless it's severely hindering your health, I don't see why ND people should be forced to make a choice between medicine or exclusion.
I am glad for you and I thought the same way about this character's writing for this episode. Do you mind me asking how you met your partner?
2:47 new meme format
She would have learned long ago not to snitch on customers. "Oh you were here before with some other guy!" Lol good writing as usual 😩
Exactly. Especially how the woman acted. If she didn't care, then it would have been a fun thing. Wow cool, you remember i wanted teriyaki chicken 2 years ago. When she so adamantly shuts the conversation down, the Waitress should've picked up on it.
By shut down do you mean by belittling and insulting the waitress Than claim she's money-grubbing for tips
Literally had nothing to do with the plot, just introducing the uniqueness of the character. Y’all are dumb
@@The_Jim Haha most ironic comment of the week award goes to you.
@@EnglishInfidel Uh-huh
Ty for this really thought provoking clip in general, but i definitely appreciate the length of it, allowing enough if the story to play out!!!
OF not IF 😎
7:17 the sassy way House disturbs the cub positioning
I know about an autistic kid in school that a teacher told me about years ago. He didn't like open drawers. The teacher, just for fun, would open all the drawers in the classroom a bit. The kid would quickly close them all, but the teacher would go behind him and open them again. She thought it was funny.
Chase looks so pleased when he got Masters to upset their patient lmao
There's a difference between forgiving and forgetting. Forgiving comes from the heart. Not so easy when you're keeping track of all the bad stuff, but still.
"Everybody dies alone"
Also a line from Firefly.
Convergence of good shows.
I have perfect recollection not as pronounced as in the patient in the story, but enough for it to be a burden, yes, it helps with studying and my academic career. Constantly remembering traumas and your own blunders 30 years ago is not fun at all. And as year pass the burden just get heavier. Your every mistake, your every failure is with you forever. Being able to forget is a bliss.
Good memory in general, not even perfect memory, is not a good thing. When bad things happen its very easy to go from one thing to the next to the next and so on. The good memories only really last until the next thing comes up to take the minds attention. As humans we can spend a lot of time in the negative areas of our mind. Substance abuse to try and either distract the mind or force it to forget the things we dont like is fairly easy to fall victim to.
This can also be nade worse by the fact that good memory alone isnt what everyone wants. They want to have a good internal clock to call back on things that the memory would help with in a timely manner. They want to have the ability to comprehend concepts that would allow them fully utilize the good memory beyond simple things.
Memory is but one piece to the mental abilities that make up our minds and only being able to have good memory does not allow us make up for other shortcomings of being a human.
Benzos, alcohol, opiates. The first two can make you forget, the last one makes you not care.
Memory is just part of how we think & what we are.
But without the disorder that compels her to recall bad memories-rather than have it there is retrieve, & makes her deeply OCD...
A good or perfect memory need not be at all negative.
Because we would have a choice whether to focus on anything!
Also unlike her we can reprogram how we feel about it; including desensitizing & forgiving.
This astonishing memory absent being a slave to it & unable to recondition our initial feelings would be a potential assest!
Disagree.. memory is extremely selective. If you remember everything that you have ever laid your eyes upon, the result would actually be not remembering anything, because you would overload your brain every hour by the most meaningless things. In reality, you select what you want to remember. Forgetful people arent stupid, they just can not focus and select certain things to memorize.
Having a good memory (unless you have some sort of ocd) does not in turn make you remember everyone else’s fallacies and how they wronged you. It is your compulsion to filter and select those memories that make you memorize them.
In conclusion: you have basically selected the negative points about others to memorize, and you can train yourself to change that.
@disguisedcat1750 what is this comment in response to? I made no such mention of memories of others. I have not implied that memory wasn't selective. I stated things about human nature that are observable and why having a better memory will negatively impact them and potentially have very little or no benefit.
What I can also include is that constantly checking your filter so that you can live without selecting the bad memories can itself be very draining mentally, especially to those who non social people in social situations who are already straining themselves mentally.
@SilverSkitterscuttle the problem with your line of thinking is that choosing what you wish to remember and what you ignore is a choice that must be made actively in a lot of scenarios.
This can be very exhausting mentally and can be very hard to overcome during times of duress. I do agree that most of the time it can be overcome but the potential shortcomings should not be dismissed. It would be a long term struggle to overcome as reprogramming our thought is very hard to do.
I find a lot of this Episode clip very fascinating, but, I just gotta say everything aside, I give props to the casting director or whoever chose these 2 specific actresses! They were really believable and great! 😎😇🤗
I don't have an eidetic memory, but I have a much better one than most peoples. It absolutely affects my tendency to hold grudges. I lose trust in people from singular or clusters of events and I remember them the rest of my life, even if the relationship improves later. Most people I've known more than a few years I have some reason not to trust them that they absolutely do not remember but it sticks with me every time I have the option to trust them with something. It's more compulsive than emotional, I try to work on it to a small degree.
I'm with you bestie. It has affected my life so much...
Oh this is me, I have perfect recall of everything since I was 6.
It's great for exams and tests.
I can learn incredibly quickly, read a text book know it all in one go.
Except you can never forget anything especially all the cringe stuff in my life.
thats crazy to me. she is essentially the opposite of me because i have dissociative amnesia and almost never remember anything
The waitress is badass. Never condone the acts of cheaters.
I would NOT want to have a perfect memory...
be glad your memory does not work that way then because you do not have that issue🤣🤣🤣
She falls flat on her face, and they say, "Are you alright? Are you okay?"
Forgiveness is not forgetting.
This issue is she remembers as if it happened that moment time heals it cant for here cause it feels like right then
* has an eidetic memory *
* becomes a waitress *
That sounds like a perfect waitress.
Sheldon Cooper
She could earn a fortune with that
* complete inability to sympathise with her situation so makes a dumb comment about why isn't she making bank *
Also that's not even what eidetic memory means, it means short term imagine memory, so it was both a stupid *and* a highly inaccurate comment
bless this was posted before lunch
Anyone else know that memory is subjective. They're all from her perspective. So yeah. They can be perfect, but only from her perspective.
My memory isn’t nearly that good, but oftentimes I find myself talking about things that my friends and family have forgotten entirely about. Memories from when I was 2 or 3 or 5 or 6 or whatever. I just tend to remember events I attached strong emotions to, which was basically any time someone treated me halfway decently or incredibly poorly.
Life is too short to hold a grudge.
Right on time for lunch. I could set my watch by it... If watches actually needed to be set nowadays.
Every one I've ever had needed to be set, including the one I'm wearing now. The only clock I have that doesn't need to be set is my computer.
Its tough to control. The bad haunts you. You cant delete anything. You just stuff ur mind with more memories.
Such a great case, one of My favorite ones, also too sad
I know only 1 thing for certain about forgiveness. Not everything or everyone can be forgiven on a personal level.
It's always hard to get along with people when you can't forget all that bad stuff. Like when you run into someone from school and they're being all friendly and asking how I've been doing... meanwhile I'm over here reliving the time we almost killed each other in a bloody, violent brawl in the lunch room because they stole my jello pudding and trying to figure out if there's any possibility I could get away with biting all their fingers off like I was going to do before the teachers broke it up.
My mom has amazing memory... But she's very forgiving, and she can change the narrative on absolutely anything 😂. Guess that's what keeps her calm and happy. My memory is nowhere as good, and I'm not nearly as forgiving 😂. Yup, keeps me bitter, also keeps me away from a lot of toxic people, unlike my mom. At least until her cancer last year, and she finally agreed to go low contact with her family (given their behavior) ❤
The memory made her "special" but what actual good did it bring?
She is a waitress with no friends or family
I had to quit college two years short of a degree and went to work at a convenience store. I had low tier jobs the rest of my working years until I finally got tired of it and quit entirely at age 50. Now I'm 70 sitting in front of a computer wasting the time I have left. I'm not sure how long, as I have cancer on top of everything else.
I'm not good at making friends because it's hard to deal with people. I finally found a good friend a few years ago. Both our minds were sharp until the last few months then he was diagnosed with dementia. 2 months later he was gone and so was my sharp memory.
@@BrokenGlass2024 Yea that dementia is no joke. Friendships are great to have so I'm glad you had a good one for as long as it lasted
Ive never been more thankful for my terrible memory
Just because your memory is perfect doesn't mean you need to be a jackhole. That's a personality defect. For every bad memory, there should be good ones as well. It's up to you which ones mean more.
"For every bad memory, there should be good ones as well."
We experience pain and boredom more frequently than pleasure and excitement. It stands to reason that someone with a flawless memory would probably be at least slightly jaded.
But what you say isn't so. I have thousands more bad memories than good, as that's how my life went. I was bullied throughout school. I have Asperger's. I realized everyone else was different when I was in 3rd grade. I never lie, so a lot of people are offended by the truth. And because no one has ever cared about me, I don't care about anyone else. Luckily perhaps, most the people who have hurt me the most have died, some badly, as in drowning, car wrecks, disease, etc. And I didn't shed a single tear. I was glad they were gone. Perhaps you had a more perfect life than I did.
I have what has been described as a “freakishly good memory.” It is not perfect. I am so incredibly thankful that it is not perfect. “Freakishly good” makes it very difficult to spend time with family and others I have known for a long time. Everyone does stuff which is mean once in a while. I have a hard time even talking to my brother and sister.
Her problem is she has little EQ. She has all the information formation and yet can’t read the situation at all. She recognizes the person but can’t tell she’s cheated and can’t tell by the that the person is uncomfortable.
There's no hell more harsh than a memory
This is simular to myself
I remember pretty much every wrong or hurt done to me in my entire life (my memory isnt perfect but i have very clear memories from as far back as 2 years old)
And all the memories i have taught me to notice all the prerequisites to being backstabbed or lied to,etc
And so its impossible for me to make friends because ill notice those signs and just cut that person off, i know everything from the shift in people expressions to the spacing in their sentences
So i dont bother with people anymore, im alone and yes, lonely
Everyone i meet all shiws thise same signs, and the more hurt im inflicted the worse a person i become
I used to be at least a decent person that people at least pretended to care about ,but all the hurt i have now that i cant simply "move on" from because i can never forget
Its not that im always thinking about it, but the instant a sign is noticed, i already know what the rest is going to be
God I love this show 😢
Memory is involuntary. Forgivness is a concious choice. Understanding people can and will hurt you, accidentally or maliciously, is wisdom. Maintaining a relationship despite that is courageous. It'd be one thing for the character to cut her sister out of her life because she was abusive, but cowardly to do so when she only hurt her accidentally. The character in the show refused to forgive out of cowardice, then hid behind that to justify her mistreatment of her sister, and the woman at the beginning. She could have chosen to work through the emotions and be brave, but she CHOSE to be a loner out of cowardice.
The cup in the last scene is not in the same orientation she obsessed over earlier.
My memory is garbage and I have aphantasia. I had OCD tendencies before I got on my meds. Now that I'm all somewhat balanced out, i figured out my memory lapses in high emotion situations. Can't lie, I'm a little jealous of a fictional character. XD
i relate to you a LOT
"Everybody lies." -this weird Sherlock Holmes kind of doctor. Can't remember his name but I'm sure he'd love this chick.
I had that. It was OCD. It was hell on earth. I'm happier now but much stupider😂.
The kind of episode that hit hardest for me
This might be obvious to other people, or maybe I'm completely wrong... but the way Chase was holding the medication out to the lady, almost looked like a proposal, like proposing this situation to her...lol I think you guys know what I mean! 😎😇🤔😋
😢😢I have bad memories that have become dim over time. No way would I want a perfect memory.
Perfect memory is called hyperthymesia - extremely rare. As of a January 2024 only 33 cases have been confirmed.
When your RAM gets mixed with your ROM.
It could be lupus?
Its never Lupus!
Autoimmune!
I love lupiss
@@minnie21434 except for that one time it was lupus
Beat me to it @@jessilynallendilla5014
Having a memory like this is a curse. If i didn't figure out how to make it stop, I probably wouldn't be here today
No matter how good your memory is, it's useless if you have no common sense, situation reading, behavior awareness, or basic interaction skills, which are all textbook features of Asperger.
The signs are everywhere:
A rigid detail insists, a lack of interaction understanding or mixed with uncaring, and a narcissistic pattern of tyrannicaly forcing her memory based views on her surroundings while ignoring their reactions or will.
*Complains about her memories haunting her*
*Gets offered treatment*
“I’m gonna lose my memories?😱”
She's a dumpy, middle-aged waitress: what else did she have going for her? Better to be miserable and gifted than ordinarily unhappy and completely mediocre.
i wish i had perfect memory so i can pin point EXACTLY where a beetch had me fawked up at!!! i’ll remember the grand details & even some minor ones, but that split moment would be golden to call out so that they can get caught up with how much of a liar they are & no way to manipulate their way out! …but i just stop caring eventually! you deal with manipulators & gaslighters by not giving them much room to manipulate the truth! after i see you’re still on bs, i just exit stage left, & i won’t be here to care when you finally wanna tell the truth! i just won’t give a shat about you & i’ll be long moved on to other people!
it’s only a curse for her because she doesn’t have the capacity to handle her gift! once you detach emotions from memories, you’re only left with THE TRUTH!
That title though🙄 forgiveness is a choice. Just because you remember everyone's mistakes, including your own, doesn't mean you can't forgive. If you choose not to forgive, that is your choice, not some symptom. That's just a way to shirk off the responsibility of being an adult and making that choice.
I have a brain issue where my short-term memory hardly works, but everything gets stored into long-term memory....I can remember conversations word for word from 10 years ago, but not 5 minutes ago.
Yes, my brain has been scanned. When my short-term memory area of the brain is supposed to light up, it doesn't, but the long-term memory area goes all bright
We need house back
The casting director should have cast Marilu Henner from Taxi fame..... She is one of the documented cases of this. See the bonkers 60 minutes (Australia) story on this that interviews her.
Remembering all the bad times isn’t the problem, keeping score is.
Nope, from my experience only people who don’t learn from their mistake and want to continue while being slightly insecure use that excuse, if you feel like a shitty person that’s on you and it’s your job to make sure we dont keep score, and it’s not even keeping score , we remember we know and we bring it up, you lot get insecure and mention it once, eg this only happened to me once but I remember well and use it for future, might get it wrong but most time not
How to Fight Loneliness by Wilco
9:26 song
The assumption is that she is perfect and has never offended anyone. No one is able to claim they haven't hurt a person. Forgive often, people need to earn trust.
Good for David Cross. Lucky guy
My AuDHD gives me a great memory, but trauma from before diagnosis. I remember too many jerks from my early childhood. Good news is most of them live over a thousand miles away from me now. Family is slowly realizing their mistakes and trying to make up for it. When they realize they screw up, all is forgiven.
I’d just try to forgive them anyway. No sense in making them “make up for it.” I’m sure you’ve screwed up plenty of times too.
What is this @@Sniperboy5551
An argument? Nah, don't make up for it, it's my fault, never theirs. Puh.
What is AuDHD as opposed to ADHD as someone I care about has the same problem and I would love to be able to understand better
@@carollewis5931 ADHD with Autism. Autism wants everything the same while ADHD wants things different at the same time. Yes it is exhausting!
Most of my jerks died early from various causes. There was one in 9th grade that I actually told that I wished he was dead. He was killed in a car crash not long after that. Members of the class were collecting money to buy flowers for his funeral. They asked if I wanted to donate. I asked them if they were crazy. The funeral was during school hours, so the whole class skipped class that day, supposedly to attend the funeral, although I know most didn't. I went to class anyway and sat in the room by myself the whole class period so I wouldn't even appear to have feelings about the jerk.
It's crazy because I have good memory just like that... of bad and good things .... I remembered things that other people have and they don't remember even though in was in their possessions.. like in '85 i was 4 years old... and I remembered my sister had a pair high top Converse tennis shoes ..color pink and I told her that and she said no I didn't..I said yes you did ..like I was SURE of that.. and she was trying to remember and said no she didn't.. I said SIS YES YOU DID... then she said no then in a snap of a finger she said.. yes i did.. I remembered that now... she said I had pink pair and a white pair.. then she looked at me and was like..how did you remembered that? I said I don't know...I just do ... most memories even childhood trumas.. is something you don't forget but if you don't seek help because of the impact it causes.. it can stress you out and attack you physically..
The actress also played serial killer in one of Criminal Minds episode
Yes, is worthy
The title is very true
As someone who struggles with OCD… this isn’t really a great representation of it. I know it can present differently in different people, but intrusive, obsessive thoughts don’t usually appear like “memories.” I doubt anyone with OCD would freak out over their sister bringing them daisies simply because she doesn’t like them. A bit absurd, tbh
02:47 lmfaooo
Lots of comments seem to be along the lines of "I'd be so fucked up if I remembered everything", and whilst that may be true, it's pretty clear that at no point did this woman (or, from the sounds of it, anyone who relates with her experience in the comments) try to work through her trauma's and her issues. It's important for everyone to face their anxieties and issues so you don't just continually lash out at the world (like this woman does - christ, people get me things I dislike all the time but they're trying to be kind, so intent is important, but clearly not for someone who wears their trauma's everyday like a comfort blanket). This is less a study of someone with eidetic memory, and more an extreme version of being unable to let things go. I think a lot of people have missed that point.
Chase was gorgeous!
The majority of eidetic memory cases end up being an extreme case of narcissism. They obsess over everything that happens to them so have seemingly incredible memories.
6:54 😂
a very selective memory - only remembers the bad
There's far more bad than good to remember in a typical human life.
We have strong memories of the bad things that were done to us as children, especially by our parents. It's hard to forgive those.
@@alexhauser5043absolutely untrue lmao
@@ConSolo29 Are you a child, or a moron?
@@alexhauser5043 actually I don't think so... but we for some reason enlarge the bad over the good. Think of a normal child's life, cared for all the time by loving parents, temporary upsets that go away, and life returns to what they are used to. This is if there are normal decent parents, not abusive parents, I'm talking about. But the good blends into a kind of field, and the negative stands out. Perhaps because it frightens.
I've never seen this show before. Was that nurse Amber Tamblyn from Joan of Arcadia?
Yes she was. Good memory!
It is only natural to never forgive because you never forgot. That's how I stay so happy. 🙂
Just write the damage they caused off as a bad debt, don't talk about it widely, and do not extend them any further credit.
Technically, is still forgiveness.
Perfect
I’d take them all.
So.. the hundreds and hundreds of times she's "remembered something" to the point of arguments with people...
She doesn't "remember" THAT stuff, and therefore can't change her COMPULSIVE need to be right?
Right.
We're not focusing on the bad memories. They're intrusive thoughts.
We're not hoarding them.
We just have a larger storage capacity.
SSRIs don't diminish your ability to remember, only your ability to care.
If I had perfect memory I would have like six careers 😂
Actually she can play with her. Funny fact people play with each other all the time in reality. Either we in reality choose to participate, or we refuse. Anyway she chose to listen, and do what the doctor told her to do.
I never would expect her to call the doctor, and the patient b*tches. As far as I am concerned she willingly chose to confront the patient!
Impressive memory by the way. I think the patient has an interesting head between her shoulders!
Chase 😁👍