At the early 70s, we just moved. We started 5 months packing. We numbered each box and put what room that box went to. I took a spiral notebook and listed all the contents of each box, noting the place where we took it from. It took us about 3 weeks to unpack everything. The notebook was our manual, and it was amazing how quick it went. God bless you and hubby. God will open a door for you. Remember to follow peace.
I WILL TELL YOU HOW WE GOT OUR HOME ~ THE LORD! LITERALLY LED US TO IT, AND IT WAS EVERYTHING WE WANTED AND NEEDED!! ~ JUST ASK GOD! AND LET HIM! LEAD YOU TO EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED AND WHERE YOU NEED TO BE AND HE! WILL DO IT!! ~ GOD! CONTINUE TO BLESS AND KEEP YOU BOTH!! ♥
Darlene, whenever the Lord leads you to your new home, pack a couple of suitcases as if you're spending a week on vacation. Pack all your essentials and meds for you two so that the first week in your new but unpacked home will be easier to settle in to. Also, a large bin with linens and towels. This makes finding what you need easier so you can get on with your day of unpacking and settling in. It's also a good idea to pack a bin with a few kitchen items as if you're going camping so as to make simple meal preps easier with your favorite coffee cups etc. The Lord already has what's for you set aside to be given to you in His perfect timing. I'll keep you in my prayers. 🙏🏼🏡--Virginia in NYC
We left our home of 20 years and moved an hour East, literally “back home” for both of us. That move and selling our home was one of my hardest tasks . That house held memories of our children from ages 2 and 4, they were both in college when we moved. Many days I’d wake up gulping back tears from a memory that laid on my heart. We went from a 4000+ sq. Ft home to this one that is 2500sq ft. That was a shock I have yet to recover from. The housing market was and still is horrendous in this area. What got me through it all is our belief that God puts you were He needs you. These crazy political times and nasty weather episodes in mind. Budget a whole house generator, if one is not already installed. We are now just in our late 60’s and early 70’s and it is a blessing that my husband is so relieved with the security it offers.
We are in our mid 70's and in the process of building a home to fit our changing needs, stairs...gone are any steps. That means going from 3 floors to only one. Stairs for us are a thing of the past. As our mobility changes, so do our needs for living on one floor. Secondly something I did that I will never regret is TYPING on the computer the contents of each box. By typing it on the computer, I could specify how many labels per each box, usually 5 (top, 3-4 sides). Then, by adhering them to all sides of the box, all sides would be covered. I ALSO would type if the contents were fragile in large, underlined letters. I agree, large packing boxes are unwieldy and can get too heavy. For comforters, sheets, and bath towels, I just put into clean, heavy duty trash bags, also labeling on several sides in case you need to stack them. These are just a few starters. Put God in control, asking Him to guide you and supply your needs. At our age, changes are hard.😅
We are in our 70s, and my "babies" are in their 40s. We all grew up in Southern California but suddenly God changed our lives. The Grandfather's died all in one year. The kids moved out (the youngest to the Navy) the Grandmother's became ill and both passed. We even lost all but one pet. My husband was encouraged to retire and I finally lost my job. We couldn't afford to stay in California moving was our only option but like you we had no idea to where. Then I remembered a promise my youngest son made when he was 5, "don't worry mama I'll take care of you and Daddy " He was out of the Navy with a wonderful girl from Ohio who was also from the Navy and they married. We all moved to Michigan and we are now in a mother in law suite on a 15 acre farm with our family and grandchildren near good medical and lots of love. God will take care of you just lean on Him. Bless you both 🙏🏿 Kathleen.
My number one recommendation is to find a one level home. Not one level with a garage underneath. Strictly one level. As you get older, it will get more and more difficult to get groceries and such up those stairs! I would also recommend a home that does not have really high ceilings. Changing lightbulbs and AC filters becomes a challenge as climbing ladders gets more risky!
My heart breaks for you I’ve gone thru this my only advise is only don’t move too far from your children and grandkids nothing is more important ❤❤ good luck
Good medical is at the top of my list too AND good emergency vet care for my cat. Its mind boggling how few and far between they are. We have a good one (PVSEC) near Pittsburgh PA but its always so busy with people coming from OH, WV and VA to get care.
Find a home with at least ONE bedroom on the main floor and your washer/dryer on the main floor. It will make your twilight years much SAFER not to have to go up and down steps umpteen times a day. Just my 2 cents. Your realtor can advise you which route to go on selling. Let them tell you what's best for your situation. They will guide you along the right path. Best of luck! ❤
When we made or final move, we took a couple of may be anywhere between 3-5 day trips to different areas. Road through towns looked around. Looked at realty ads. talked to realtors. They took us around and showed us different areas. We would go home and talk. Hit another area. Did that for a few months. When we found the area we wanted, called the realtor and told her to book some showings.
Darlene my sweet friend don’t forget to breath!! Look for your house now if you can ,don’t wait til you sell. A pool is a must because it provides in my opinion enjoyment but most important low impact exercise. So I consider that top of the list. And you said it correctly look for a house that has what you want and with the least things that you need to add , update or fix. Be happy 😊 Stay safe❤ Peace ☮️
All the work you all are doing looks so good. The stairway is beautiful. I can only imagine the stress you are feeling. I hope you find a home that will serve you in your older years. We have a smaller ranch style home but would love to have a little bigger home. One that had more storage than what we have, but how I would dread moving at 69 years old. We have lived in our house for 45 years. I don’t see you having any problem selling your home but I know you need a place to go. God will give you strength and I know he will guide you through. 🙏😊♥️
Are you sure you want to move? I’ve not moved since 1975, but if I could I know exactly where I’d go…Bedford PA!!! Beautiful area, low crime, decent house prices, nice people. Even though almost all my family from there is gone, that’s where I’d go. Now, if I struck it rich, I’d buy a house in Bedford & one in The Villages, FL! ❤
Darlene, making all these decisions is hard and the packing and preparing to move is a lot of work. Think about the pros and the cons of the places you're considering. Enjoy the adventure. You have your memories made in your house but you will still have your memories. I am praying for you and Lou and I will keep doing so. God will guide you as you trust in Him.
I know exactly how you’re feeling and the stress you’re enduring. Just trying to declutter and reduce 23 years of ‘stuff’ down to something manageable has been overwhelming. We’re 62 and have been earnestly looking for a new home for the last 10 months! We’ve looked at 15 homes in person and about 2 dozen virtually! Have bid on a couple but were outbid. So discouraging but we keep praying and hoping. We started out with a lower budget, planning to take on some rehab projects. But the more we looked and found out how much rehab an older, less expensive home would require, we reevaluated how much time we wanted to spend working on a home in order to live in it, as opposed to increasing our budget upfront to get a home that required less work so we could enjoy more time just living in it. Here in MN home prices are still pretty high and competition fierce. I hope you all can find just what you’re looking for - in a much shorter time! Wishing you the best!
When we had a house fire 4 years ago we kept un damaged items we had them in storage we found that most we had no problem letting go off then know so my advice is to think by long and hard and honestly if you will ever use this item again and don’t be afraid to donate to B charities
we move in 207 upper Michigan we were 61 and 63 move into one story home 1300 sq for 1800 sq home so downsizing was a problem we live on only 2 acres of land but it was a lot compare to 60X 120 foot lot. lol we spend 17 years their but my hubby health sn't too gid so last year we move I was 76 aand hubby78. I left a lot of thngs because the new owers were retring in 2 years and were spend time as vacation home. We decide to be near our 3 childern we got apartement ever live in one before we waited for it to be build one floor 1296 sq not stair anywhere attach garage so we can drive into it and walk into our home all yard work and everything new s nice. I really hated leaving that first home where I rasie my babies and the second moved was hard because I did like the peaceful life and living near a really small town. But I will tell you I am at peace and happy place God has shown be his wonderful Grace. Yes I did pack 60 boxes by myself I do no more than 3 a day pace your self and make meals simple is my answer. God Bless you and your hubby too.
God Bless you and Lou! Praying that God opens up the right place for you guys. We moved to our home 10 years ago. We were in our 50’s back then. Our neighbor across the street has a third garage just packed with stuff. I often tell my husband that I feel sorry for their kids having to go through all of that stuff. Moving will allow u to downsize. So many memories in your house. Praying that you have peace.
The house looks really really good. do you have a trailer or rv that you guys could drive around & stay in different places until you guys get that feeling that this is the place. My husband & I like many places but he always said to me, you need to live there for at least a month before you make a final decision & he is right. He passed away 5 years ago & I have yet to move. Too many memories & truly dont know where to go. I find some place & really like & so I go stay awhile & before it’s 3 weeks I know this is not the place so I just keep trying different places, still haven’t found a better place than home yet. I have done some major de-cluttering & continue to de clutter. That feels amazing. So my advice is go on adventure together, check everything out. It will be fun. Everything you keep can go into storage until you find your forever home. God bless you guys sending you good vibes 😎
Darlene…as you know, Butch and I moved last Oct. to be closer to our children. We did not put our old house on the market until we had moved to the new home. We lived in our old home for 41 years and it was a town of about 1000 people. We decided to move to a larger town with doctors and more conveniences. We actually got a bigger home due to the children and grandchildren coming to visit now that we’re closer. We did not know a soul here and the hardest part was going to a new church after all these years. I ABSOLUTELY love our new home, neighbors, church and stores etc. Butch plays golf and the course is across the street. That was his main goal! There are so many opportunities with us living in a college town. We have been coming here with our season football tickets for 29 years. I couldn’t ask for more. The children are tickled we’re closer and they’ve enjoyed coming to football games and tailgating for many years with us. Our daughter and her family are 3 1/2 hours away and our son and his family are just 1 1/2 hours away. The Lord has been so good to us…I feel sorry for others who are not as blessed. You will get through this and think of the positive possibilities just around the bend!!❤
I would say find something first, just my thought.I pray you find the right area for you both.Like someone else said , moving is just difficult anytime, but exciting all in one.
Hi Darlene good to see you. Ive always found it easier to move your kitchen and bathroom boxes first and get those unpacked first so you can shower and eat. Blessings on your move.... Please remember me in prayer they found some cancer cells so i have to have a hysterectomy. But i know Gods my healer. Bless you
When I first bought my condo 20 years ago, thebonly things I wanted was a spare room for guest and a home office. My own laundry room, and a garage or car port. Now I want Brand New Everything and updated! Nothing to do but bring my toothbrush. So happy for you Darleen and Lou. Godbis with you and everything will work out great!❤️
Hey Darlene Sweetheart ❤️ Maybe I missed something but what makes you want to move from your Beautiful house and SO many Beautiful memories? Y'all have A Gorgeous house❤ NO OFFENSE whatsoever Sweetheart ❤️ I am just wondering!!! I ENJOY watching your videos no matter what you're doing ❤️ We Love y'all so very much ❤️ Have A Beautiful Blessed Peaceful night❤ Moving is Very Stressful!!! SO many decisions to make and Hoping you make the right one!!! Continue to Pray Sweetheart ❤️ GOD WILL LEAD Y'ALL IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION ❤🙏
Darlene be careful on the things prepared that you might not get the finances back when you sell. Purge as you go! My heart goes out to you. We are preparing my mom's place also. Blessings Deloris 💙
I am still renting. When my sons’ mother left us in 2017, we had to move and so I’m renting. I need to downsize. I still have all her stuff she doesn’t want. I gotta go thru it so I can see if any memories of my boys is in it. I do want to buy a house soon.
Yes moving in retirement after living in our hime after 32 yrs was good to purge. We bought then updated new 20yr home before updating old home to sell... We were lucky financially to do so. I told my husband i wanted to move once. Lol. This happened 5 yrs ago. One story homes seem the way to go as we get older...just saying. Logistics....family is the biggest thing for me....where is EVERYONE living...kids, siblings, etc..friends Good luck in your next journey chapter in life🙏🙏🙏❤️
So happy for you and Lou on your new adventure. Are you going to buy another house or a condo. I had aplease keep us updated on this new chapter in your life.lways wanted a single family home, but now that I am getting older, I think another condo will be fine.I just want something Brand New that I don’t have. To remodel and fix up. I look at homes and condos all the time. How do your. Kids feel about. Your move.
Those shows are hard to get on. I had a friend who was selected and not all was as it is cracked up to be. Plus if you can't afford the new property taxes with the improvements they make, you are screwed.
I know what you are going through. I did the same 4 years ago. And, now, I'm still considering another move. Just turned 66 and it's time to get on with the decision. I don't have all the answers. The hardest thing is making up my mind. Once that's done, everything is smooth sailing. My "wants" are so varied, it makes things all the more confusing. HA! Like you, the move for us can be, literally, anywhere. Perhaps, I tell myself, this does not have to be the last place I go. Maybe, rent a home for a little while in an area of interest. How about vacationing in a travel trailer for a time? Please try not to be upset. It's going to be a fantastic adventure!
@@Souperat60 Hello Darlene!, Yes, perhaps another move. There's a story behind it, of course. In 2004 we built a custom home on just over 6 acres on my husband's family's farm where others in the family were building, too. After an accident concerning my neck in 2010, then severe lower spinal problems occurred, my health got so bad that I could no long take care of things there. In addition, at that time, it was looking as if I might eventually end up in a wheelchair. So in 2018 we simply had to sell. We purchased a home in a small neighborhood, on 1/2 an acre. It was too smothering for my farmgirl heart and far too small of a property, but at the time, it seemed like the thing to do. But as God would have it, just before this last Christmas, I had a total reconstruction on my lower spine. Even then, no one was sure how this would play itself out. To date, I'm a walking miracle. Who knows just how long this will last? I'm voting for forever! haha This is my opportunity to get a bit larger property, perhaps in a place more suiting my personality...and live the rest of my days doing all the things I love best-est! I just turned 66 and there's no time like the present to live the dream. I'm hoping the same for you. Let's toss all the old fears which hold us back and step into the great unknown with joy and confidence!! What a way to go! Love ya, my friend. xoxo
@@Souperat60 Will do! Like you, we can go anywhere. That confuses thing. haha I've been consistently looking at Arkansas, of all places, sort of the Mountain Home and a huge swath surrounding it. I've also been secretly looking around Red Oak, Iowa. I know...what a combo of places! LOL But, like you, I'm open. My heart belongs to Wyoming, Montana, Idaho, Utah area...but that's a very, very long way! I'll let you know how it all plays out. Love you! xoxo Here's to a calm and successful move!
May I ask why you want to move? You have such a beautiful home. I said when I married and moved to Florida 23 yrs ago that I was never moving again! I was 38 then nnow 60. Then 2 yrs after moving here I was diagnosed with a dibilitating illness. The weather here is hard on me due to heat and humidity. I'm now disabled and would love to move north to cooler temps but physically unable to pack a house. Hubby no help, his suggestion is toss everything! 😮 😂 Financially that iss ridiculous. My recommendation if it's to be your last move a ranch style home without stairs. You definitely want a view! We're 10 minutes from a very beautiful beach but I haven't been able to go for about 10 years due to health. Though we live on small spring fed lake, hubby doesn't maintain brush which obstructs view 😢 So many things to think about that I wish I'd had foresight of what I would need if..... Praying God leads you to where He wants your next chapter to be and gives you peace 🙏
Why not hire a moving company to come in and pack for you. It can be expensive but it is better then tossing everything and you would be one step closer to moving. I moved to the south to get away from the cold, snow, and ice because I am also disabled .
@@earldouglas3631 yes I've thought of that but first I would still have to go through everything so I can donate stuff that we don't need or use anymore. My daughter will be coming over mid August to help with this 😁 once that's done we can start looking. I've been trying to get my husband to work on finishing projects that he started, some from before we married 🤣 fingers crossed 🤞 I can get him motivated 😉
It’s plain to see that this move has you so very stressed. I guess I missed a video where you explain why you want to move from your current area. Is it too metropolitan and busy for you? Whatever the reasons, I strongly suggest you consider moving near at least one of your children. As you age, your kids will have a much easier time if they can get to you quickly. I live 2.5 hours from my childhood home, and after mom passed away, it wasn’t long before Dad began going downhill. I was still working, and it was exhausting trying to get to his house often enough and still keep my job. Being in the same town would have made that phase of life so much less stressful. So that’s a perspective from your kids’ point of view. When you think about it, you can still travel to these fun areas where you’re considering moving to. The cost of living may be sky high in those places. Small towns can be a great place to put down roots, and the land isn’t as expensive. As others have mentioned, spend time in prayer, asking the Lord for patience and for guidance. People you know may mention something that will give you the spark to ignite your decision. Be still, and listen to Him………🙏✝️ ❤️-Brenda
I’m in the process of moving from WA State to South Carolina. Leaving a 1,430 sq ft home to a 698 sq ft home. I got rid of probably 95% of everything I owned. Material things became meaningless to me. Keeping life simple. I hope you and Lou find exactly what you want in your golden years. May the Lord Bless you as you start a new chapter in your life.
Are y'all moving because you have to or because y'all want to? It seems like you have a beautiful home and I must have missed the reason y'all were leaving. It has to be scary to move someplace you don't know I would be petrified because I'm such a homebody where I'm at I said the only place I want to move to from here is heaven. Good luck on your move and I can understand about the memories. My heart goes out to you
First make sure you get 2 bedrooms and 2 full bathrooms as retired couple., then kitcken , livingroom, laundryroom, yard, storage, and pool if possibe.. Florida is a good place for retired elderly people. Alot of retired elder couple end up selling after a year because they did not get 2 bedrooms and 2 full bathrooms.!!!! You will need an extra bedroom and bathroom for if you want to sleep separately or for guest visiting, something to think about!!!!
First, be still and wait for God. Second, are you still grieving? If so, that is making this much harder than it needs to be. Perhaps stay there and enjoy the beautiful updates and renovations you have done? My advice - do not put your home on the market until you have found a new home to be excited about. I may be wrong but I have the feeling you are being pressured by someone to hurry. About moving - we are 61, moved to a 3 bedroom one level townhome when we were 55. Best decision we've ever made but it was in the making for 5 years. Be still and wait for God.
Hi Darlene, your home looks beautiful... thank you for the little tour, it is such a shame that you are moving. Are you moving because you are downsizing, and need a smaller house? As for location of a potential new home is there somewhere in your area that you like, as I imagine it would be less stressful? If you are wanting to leave the area for good maybe you and Lou could move somewhere closer to your family! Could your family check out homes available in their area and make out a list for you? Whatever you both decide will be right, and I am sure that God will guide you in all your decisions. Please know that I have added you and Lou to my prayers. God's blessings, love and hugs. Gloria 🤗🙏🌻❤
All the memories you can take in your heart. New memories will c ome to go with them, Everything else is just material things. Lean on Jesus to give you guidance Really in your heart and you mind give him the control to lead you where to go. He will never steer you wrong. We moved almost 2 hours away from where I was born and lived all my life two years ago, I don't know anyone here . Having to find new stores to shop for food was the hardest part for me. THere is no Lidl or Aldi here can you imagine. I have to drive over an hour to get to Aldi and the closes Lidl is back home. I do take cooler every time we go and visit my mom. I think she is what I miss the most. She is 85 and my best friend. I do talk to her everyday. I do go back from time to time just to go to church with her on Sundays. That is the hardest part for me is finding a Church family, I miss mine so badly.We have been here like I said going on two years and I still have not found that Church family Pray God will guide me in the right way also,Be blessed my Dear friend, I love you and remember Jesus loves you too
Glad to see you❤️🤗 This video was hard to watch just because it is hitting home for me😞 For me I'm digging in my heals on moving just because I live in my childhood home 🏡 I only wishing you all the best in finding your new 🏡🤞 Thanks for sharing 🤗 God bless
Make sure you get a two bedroom and two batheroom. Alot of of older retired people regrate that they did not get 2 bedroom and 2 bathroom as a priorty then a kitchen , livingroom, laundryroom, garage , yard and a pool if possible. Make sure 2 bedroom and 2 full bathroom first because alot of older people end up selling as soon as they move in.
I think we find that we wait until we retire to make these moves, not thinking about our ages. I wish I had made the move when I was younger because now it is way too much work and questions. Every time we begin to think about making the move it goes by the wayside really quick. Realtors will come in my home to assess the value and immediately instruct me to downsize the entire house. Ha-ha Less is more is their words I believe. My thoughts are that a buyer needs to look beyond the box and make it their own. Oh well once again the idea of moving has been shelved for us. Fix the house exactly how I want it and live happily ever after.
I'm so glad to see you back on RUclips! I've been praying for you guys because moving is a difficult thing to accomplish but it's also exciting, if you let it be. Wouldn't it be nice to live close to your kids? That's one of my biggest blessings. I will continue to pray for God's guidance in relocating. Retirement is also a blessing! My precious husband moved to Heaven when he was 54 years old. Our plans for retirement never came to fruition. I retired on my own but you'll have Lou to be with you. Another blessing!!
Please be prepared for how your dog will react. Remember, the dog too is leaving everything as well. Some dogs become clingy, afraid you will leave. Some whine, stop eating, and yes, they can act depressed, sometimes their eyes get red, glassy, and watery (sp). If I remember correctly, your son is a vet. Please ask him. But, remember, all pets can react differently. I just moved recently. I used sml boxes because I thought I'd move all but the big things. Keep in mind, sml and medium boxes mean more trips back and forth for the movers as well. So, if you're doing most of the moving of boxes, get a dolly or flat bed to stack boxes on (one with a handle on each end) - it goes faster. If you use a moving company, ask them. They are used to moving big boxes and prefer it (some) because a lot of boxes again mean more trips. I'm 69 yrs old, with no family, and my friends are my age, so most of the packing was done by me. Moving all those sml boxes darn near killed me, but here I am. My best for you and your husband. DJ
Darlene , so many life events that happen in our 60s. After 9 years we have to move and can’t find a rental that is affordable here in fla. We are blessed Sept 15 th is the out date . Rents have doubled here and i’m just giving it to God to bring about a good and affordable rental . I’m packing and calling Realtors. . At least I know the area so that’s a plus and a blessing . Prayers for you and Lou!
I loved this video. Just a great conversation. A good tip is when you are finally ready to have people come look at the house have a pot roast on the stove or in the oven. It is all about visualization. If people can see themselves living in the house it will sell much faster. When my mom sold our house in 2002, it sold in 3 days. She was expecting at least 3 weeks. As far as where to move, are you going to stay in the state of VA? Maybe you could start a new series - Lou and Darlene on the road. Take us along to some of the places you are thinking of and get others opinions.
I was thinking about you today Darlene n wondered how you guys were doing with the move. I pray the Lord will lead n guide you to find the perfect house in the right location n the timing to be perfect. Godbless!!🙏❤
Just wondered, what about having a home built to your needs and specifications? That way you have the best of both worlds....once you find land 😊. Just think, an attached garage, screened in porch, swimming pool, kitchen, etc. Just a thought from someone who cares for you. Keep us all informed. Look up to our Maker as He loves us and cares also.
We moved back after 14 years to be close to our children. We had been living in southern Utah and decided to move back to SLC. Best decision we made. I don’t know where your children live, but consider them and the area you decide to move to.
Hi Darlene: When I moved cross country from Boston to Arizona I researched for 5 years until I was able to make that move. Then we rented while looking for a house which helped us figure out where in the state we wanted to be and now 4 years later due to the covid we finally bought our home which is the last home for me. If you are planning on retiring where you go you must be sure that is where you want to be. You do not sound so sure, think about it.
I hope all goes well for you two. God will be with you all the way and he'll lead you to wear you need to go. Book are something I got rid of as I been replacing them on Kindle. We are in our 60's and I can imagine how hard y'all have it.
At the early 70s, we just moved. We started 5 months packing. We numbered each box and put what room that box went to.
I took a spiral notebook and listed all the contents of each box, noting the place where we took it from. It took us about 3 weeks to unpack everything.
The notebook was our manual, and it was amazing how quick it went. God bless you and hubby. God will open a door for you. Remember to follow peace.
Thank you.
I WILL TELL YOU HOW WE GOT OUR HOME ~ THE LORD! LITERALLY LED US TO IT, AND IT WAS EVERYTHING WE WANTED AND NEEDED!! ~ JUST ASK GOD! AND LET HIM! LEAD YOU TO EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED AND WHERE YOU NEED TO BE AND HE! WILL DO IT!! ~ GOD! CONTINUE TO BLESS AND KEEP YOU BOTH!! ♥
Darlene, whenever the Lord leads you to your new home, pack a couple of suitcases as if you're spending a week on vacation. Pack all your essentials and meds for you two so that the first week in your new but unpacked home will be easier to settle in to. Also, a large bin with linens and towels. This makes finding what you need easier so you can get on with your day of unpacking and settling in. It's also a good idea to pack a bin with a few kitchen items as if you're going camping so as to make simple meal preps easier with your favorite coffee cups etc. The Lord already has what's for you set aside to be given to you in His perfect timing. I'll keep you in my prayers. 🙏🏼🏡--Virginia in NYC
Great ideas. Thanks Virginia.
We left our home of 20 years and moved an hour East, literally “back home” for both of us.
That move and selling our home was one of my hardest tasks . That house held memories of our children from ages 2 and 4, they were both in college when we moved. Many days I’d wake up gulping back tears from a memory that laid on my heart. We went from a 4000+ sq. Ft home to this one that is 2500sq ft. That was a shock I have yet to recover from. The housing market was and still is horrendous in this area.
What got me through it all is our belief that God puts you were He needs you.
These crazy political times and nasty weather episodes in mind. Budget a whole house generator, if one is not already installed. We are now just in our late 60’s and early 70’s and it is a blessing that my husband is so relieved with the security it offers.
We are in our mid 70's and in the process of building a home to fit our changing needs, stairs...gone are any steps. That means going from 3 floors to only one. Stairs for us are a thing of the past. As our mobility changes, so do our needs for living on one floor. Secondly something I did that I will never regret is TYPING on the computer the contents of each box. By typing it on the computer, I could specify how many labels per each box, usually 5 (top, 3-4 sides). Then, by adhering them to all sides of the box, all sides would be covered. I ALSO would type if the contents were fragile in large, underlined letters. I agree, large packing boxes are unwieldy and can get too heavy. For comforters, sheets, and bath towels, I just put into clean, heavy duty trash bags, also labeling on several sides in case you need to stack them. These are just a few starters. Put God in control, asking Him to guide you and supply your needs. At our age, changes are hard.😅
We are in our 70s, and my "babies" are in their 40s. We all grew up in Southern California but suddenly God changed our lives. The Grandfather's died all in one year. The kids moved out (the youngest to the Navy) the Grandmother's became ill and both passed. We even lost all but one pet. My husband was encouraged to retire and I finally lost my job.
We couldn't afford to stay in California moving was our only option but like you we had no idea to where.
Then I remembered a promise my youngest son made when he was 5, "don't worry mama I'll take care of you and Daddy "
He was out of the Navy with a wonderful girl from Ohio who was also from the Navy and they married. We all moved to Michigan and we are now in a mother in law suite on a 15 acre farm with our family and grandchildren near good medical and lots of love.
God will take care of you just lean on Him.
Bless you both 🙏🏿
Kathleen.
My number one recommendation is to find a one level home. Not one level with a garage underneath. Strictly one level. As you get older, it will get more and more difficult to get groceries and such up those stairs! I would also recommend a home that does not have really high ceilings. Changing lightbulbs and AC filters becomes a challenge as climbing ladders gets more risky!
My heart breaks for you I’ve gone thru this my only advise is only don’t move too far from your children and grandkids nothing is more important ❤❤ good luck
Good medical is at the top of my list too AND good emergency vet care for my cat. Its mind boggling how few and far between they are. We have a good one (PVSEC) near Pittsburgh PA but its always so busy with people coming from OH, WV and VA to get care.
Find a home with at least ONE bedroom on the main floor and your washer/dryer on the main floor. It will make your twilight years much SAFER not to have to go up and down steps umpteen times a day. Just my 2 cents. Your realtor can advise you which route to go on selling. Let them tell you what's best for your situation. They will guide you along the right path. Best of luck! ❤
When we made or final move, we took a couple of may be anywhere between 3-5 day trips to different areas. Road through towns looked around. Looked at realty ads. talked to realtors. They took us around and showed us different areas. We would go home and talk. Hit another area. Did that for a few months. When we found the area we wanted, called the realtor and told her to book some showings.
God has a place for you. Start looking and he will close doors if it isn’t where he wants you. Hugs my friend!
Darlene my sweet friend don’t forget to breath!!
Look for your house now if you can ,don’t wait til you sell.
A pool is a must because it provides in my opinion enjoyment but most important low impact exercise. So I consider that top of the list.
And you said it correctly look for a house that has what you want and with the least things that you need to add , update or fix.
Be happy 😊
Stay safe❤
Peace ☮️
All the work you all are doing looks so good. The stairway is beautiful. I can only imagine the stress you are feeling. I hope you find a home that will serve you in your older years. We have a smaller ranch style home but would love to have a little bigger home. One that had more storage than what we have, but how I would dread moving at 69 years old. We have lived in our house for 45 years. I don’t see you having any problem selling your home but I know you need a place to go. God will give you strength and I know he will guide you through. 🙏😊♥️
Thank you Karen.
Are you sure you want to move? I’ve not moved since 1975, but if I could I know exactly where I’d go…Bedford PA!!! Beautiful area, low crime, decent house prices, nice people. Even though almost all my family from there is gone, that’s where I’d go. Now, if I struck it rich, I’d buy a house in Bedford & one in The Villages, FL! ❤
Darlene, making all these decisions is hard and the packing and preparing to move is a lot of work. Think about the pros and the cons of the places you're considering. Enjoy the adventure. You have your memories made in your house but you will still have your memories. I am praying for you and Lou and I will keep doing so. God will guide you as you trust in Him.
Thanks Deborah.
I know exactly how you’re feeling and the stress you’re enduring. Just trying to declutter and reduce 23 years of ‘stuff’ down to something manageable has been overwhelming. We’re 62 and have been earnestly looking for a new home for the last 10 months! We’ve looked at 15 homes in person and about 2 dozen virtually! Have bid on a couple but were outbid. So discouraging but we keep praying and hoping. We started out with a lower budget, planning to take on some rehab projects. But the more we looked and found out how much rehab an older, less expensive home would require, we reevaluated how much time we wanted to spend working on a home in order to live in it, as opposed to increasing our budget upfront to get a home that required less work so we could enjoy more time just living in it. Here in MN home prices are still pretty high and competition fierce. I hope you all can find just what you’re looking for - in a much shorter time! Wishing you the best!
Thank you. And to you as well. It’s so hard.
When we had a house fire 4 years ago we kept un damaged items we had them in storage we found that most we had no problem letting go off then know so my advice is to think by long and hard and honestly if you will ever use this item again and don’t be afraid to donate to B charities
Praying for y’all. ❤🙏🏻 I would find a place first, if it were me. But you have to do what’s best for you and Lou. ❤
we move in 207 upper Michigan we were 61 and 63 move into one story home 1300 sq for 1800 sq home so downsizing was a problem we live on only 2 acres of land but it was a lot compare to 60X 120 foot lot. lol we spend 17 years their but my hubby health sn't too gid so last year we move I was 76 aand hubby78. I left a lot of thngs because the new owers were retring in 2 years and were spend time as vacation home. We decide to be near our 3 childern we got apartement ever live in one before we waited for it to be build one floor 1296 sq not stair anywhere attach garage so we can drive into it and walk into our home all yard work and everything new s nice. I really hated leaving that first home where I rasie my babies and the second moved was hard because I did like the peaceful life and living near a really small town. But I will tell you I am at peace and happy place God has shown be his wonderful Grace. Yes I did pack 60 boxes by myself I do no more than 3 a day pace your self and make meals simple is my answer. God Bless you and your hubby too.
God Bless you and Lou! Praying that God opens up the right place for you guys. We moved to our home 10 years ago. We were in our 50’s back then. Our neighbor across the street has a third garage just packed with stuff. I often tell my husband that I feel sorry for their kids having to go through all of that stuff. Moving will allow u to downsize. So many memories in your house. Praying that you have peace.
The house looks really really good. do you have a trailer or rv that you guys could drive around & stay in different places until you guys get that feeling that this is the place. My husband & I like many places but he always said to me, you need to live there for at least a month before you make a final decision & he is right. He passed away 5 years ago & I have yet to move. Too many memories & truly dont know where to go. I find some place & really like & so I go stay awhile & before it’s 3 weeks I know this is not the place so I just keep trying different places, still haven’t found a better place than home yet. I have done some major de-cluttering & continue to de clutter. That feels amazing. So my advice is go on adventure together, check everything out. It will be fun. Everything you keep can go into storage until you find your forever home. God bless you guys sending you good vibes 😎
It is not easy to move, so many missing pieces. Just pray on direction, it may help you.
l really would find a house 2 move 2 first else you might just sell yourselves out of anywhere 2 stay. Good Luck.
Darlene…as you know, Butch and I moved last Oct. to be closer to our children. We did not put our old house on the market until we had moved to the new home. We lived in our old home for 41 years and it was a town of about 1000 people. We decided to move to a larger town with doctors and more conveniences. We actually got a bigger home due to the children and grandchildren coming to visit now that we’re closer. We did not know a soul here and the hardest part was going to a new church after all these years. I ABSOLUTELY love our new home, neighbors, church and stores etc. Butch plays golf and the course is across the street. That was his main goal! There are so many opportunities with us living in a college town. We have been coming here with our season football tickets for 29 years. I couldn’t ask for more. The children are tickled we’re closer and they’ve enjoyed coming to football games and tailgating for many years with us. Our daughter and her family are 3 1/2 hours away and our son and his family are just 1 1/2 hours away. The Lord has been so good to us…I feel sorry for others who are not as blessed. You will get through this and think of the positive possibilities just around the bend!!❤
I would say find something first, just my thought.I pray you find the right area for you both.Like someone else said , moving is just difficult anytime, but exciting all in one.
Hi Darlene good to see you. Ive always found it easier to move your kitchen and bathroom boxes first and get those unpacked first so you can shower and eat. Blessings on your move.... Please remember me in prayer they found some cancer cells so i have to have a hysterectomy. But i know Gods my healer. Bless you
When I first bought my condo 20 years ago, thebonly things I wanted was a spare room for guest and a home office. My own laundry room, and a garage or car port. Now I want Brand New Everything and updated! Nothing to do but bring my toothbrush. So happy for you Darleen and Lou. Godbis with you and everything will work out great!❤️
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Moving plain and simple is awful but is exciting and I just know the best is yet to come!♥️
Your home is beautiful
Hey Darlene Sweetheart ❤️ Maybe I missed something but what makes you want to move from your Beautiful house and SO many Beautiful memories? Y'all have A Gorgeous house❤ NO OFFENSE whatsoever Sweetheart ❤️ I am just wondering!!! I ENJOY watching your videos no matter what you're doing ❤️ We Love y'all so very much ❤️ Have A Beautiful Blessed Peaceful night❤ Moving is Very Stressful!!! SO many decisions to make and Hoping you make the right one!!! Continue to Pray Sweetheart ❤️ GOD WILL LEAD Y'ALL IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION ❤🙏
You will get through this It’s hard it will work out because the Lord will be guiding you
Darlene be careful on the things prepared that you might not get the finances back when you sell. Purge as you go! My heart goes out to you. We are preparing my mom's place also. Blessings Deloris 💙
I am still renting. When my sons’ mother left us in 2017, we had to move and so I’m renting. I need to downsize. I still have all her stuff she doesn’t want. I gotta go thru it so I can see if any memories of my boys is in it. I do want to buy a house soon.
Beautiful home 😻
Yes moving in retirement after living in our hime after 32 yrs was good to purge. We bought then updated new 20yr home before updating old home to sell... We were lucky financially to do so. I told my husband i wanted to move once. Lol. This happened 5 yrs ago.
One story homes seem the way to go as we get older...just saying.
Logistics....family is the biggest thing for me....where is EVERYONE living...kids, siblings, etc..friends
Good luck in your next journey chapter in life🙏🙏🙏❤️
Thank you. I appreciate your advice. Good to hear from you. 🥰
So happy for you and Lou on your new adventure. Are you going to buy another house or a condo. I had aplease keep us updated on this new chapter in your life.lways wanted a single family home, but now that I am getting older, I think another condo will be fine.I just want something Brand New that I don’t have. To remodel and fix up. I look at homes and condos all the time. How do your. Kids feel about. Your move.
why not contact Chip and Joanna Gains in Texas. Let them do a fixer upper for you. They make amazing fixer uppers,
Those shows are hard to get on. I had a friend who was selected and not all was as it is cracked up to be. Plus if you can't afford the new property taxes with the improvements they make, you are screwed.
@@earldouglas3631 ah ok thanks.
I know what you are going through. I did the same 4 years ago. And, now, I'm still considering another move. Just turned 66 and it's time to get on with the decision. I don't have all the answers. The hardest thing is making up my mind. Once that's done, everything is smooth sailing. My "wants" are so varied, it makes things all the more confusing. HA! Like you, the move for us can be, literally, anywhere. Perhaps, I tell myself, this does not have to be the last place I go. Maybe, rent a home for a little while in an area of interest. How about vacationing in a travel trailer for a time? Please try not to be upset. It's going to be a fantastic adventure!
Hey V🥰. Another move???
@@Souperat60 Hello Darlene!, Yes, perhaps another move. There's a story behind it, of course. In 2004 we built a custom home on just over 6 acres on my husband's family's farm where others in the family were building, too. After an accident concerning my neck in 2010, then severe lower spinal problems occurred, my health got so bad that I could no long take care of things there. In addition, at that time, it was looking as if I might eventually end up in a wheelchair. So in 2018 we simply had to sell. We purchased a home in a small neighborhood, on 1/2 an acre. It was too smothering for my farmgirl heart and far too small of a property, but at the time, it seemed like the thing to do. But as God would have it, just before this last Christmas, I had a total reconstruction on my lower spine. Even then, no one was sure how this would play itself out. To date, I'm a walking miracle. Who knows just how long this will last? I'm voting for forever! haha This is my opportunity to get a bit larger property, perhaps in a place more suiting my personality...and live the rest of my days doing all the things I love best-est! I just turned 66 and there's no time like the present to live the dream. I'm hoping the same for you. Let's toss all the old fears which hold us back and step into the great unknown with joy and confidence!! What a way to go! Love ya, my friend. xoxo
Love it!!!!! Let me know when you do this and where you end up. Maybe we’ll be neighbors. 😁
@@Souperat60 Will do! Like you, we can go anywhere. That confuses thing. haha I've been consistently looking at Arkansas, of all places, sort of the Mountain Home and a huge swath surrounding it. I've also been secretly looking around Red Oak, Iowa. I know...what a combo of places! LOL But, like you, I'm open. My heart belongs to Wyoming, Montana, Idaho, Utah area...but that's a very, very long way! I'll let you know how it all plays out. Love you! xoxo Here's to a calm and successful move!
don't sell your house before you decide what and where you are going to go
May I ask why you want to move? You have such a beautiful home. I said when I married and moved to Florida 23 yrs ago that I was never moving again! I was 38 then nnow 60. Then 2 yrs after moving here I was diagnosed with a dibilitating illness. The weather here is hard on me due to heat and humidity. I'm now disabled and would love to move north to cooler temps but physically unable to pack a house. Hubby no help, his suggestion is toss everything! 😮 😂 Financially that iss ridiculous. My recommendation if it's to be your last move a ranch style home without stairs. You definitely want a view! We're 10 minutes from a very beautiful beach but I haven't been able to go for about 10 years due to health. Though we live on small spring fed lake, hubby doesn't maintain brush which obstructs view 😢
So many things to think about that I wish I'd had foresight of what I would need if.....
Praying God leads you to where He wants your next chapter to be and gives you peace 🙏
Why not hire a moving company to come in and pack for you. It can be expensive but it is better then tossing everything and you would be one step closer to moving. I moved to the south to get away from the cold, snow, and ice because I am also disabled .
@@earldouglas3631 yes I've thought of that but first I would still have to go through everything so I can donate stuff that we don't need or use anymore. My daughter will be coming over mid August to help with this 😁 once that's done we can start looking. I've been trying to get my husband to work on finishing projects that he started, some from before we married 🤣 fingers crossed 🤞 I can get him motivated 😉
It’s plain to see that this move has you so very stressed. I guess I missed a video where you explain why you want to move from your current area. Is it too metropolitan and busy for you? Whatever the reasons, I strongly suggest you consider moving near at least one of your children. As you age, your kids will have a much easier time if they can get to you quickly. I live 2.5 hours from my childhood home, and after mom passed away, it wasn’t long before Dad began going downhill. I was still working, and it was exhausting trying to get to his house often enough and still keep my job. Being in the same town would have made that phase of life so much less stressful. So that’s a perspective from your kids’ point of view.
When you think about it, you can still travel to these fun areas where you’re considering moving to. The cost of living may be sky high in those places. Small towns can be a great place to put down roots, and the land isn’t as expensive.
As others have mentioned, spend time in prayer, asking the Lord for patience and for guidance. People you know may mention something that will give you the spark to ignite your decision. Be still, and listen to Him………🙏✝️
❤️-Brenda
I was wondering the same about why they’re moving. I may have missed it. Change can be good though
Me too. I am 63 and close to retirement. My kids think we need to downsize, but I can’t even think about moving.
Darlene I might have missed it, but why are y'all wanting to move??
Why are you moving? It sounds so difficult for you to leave.😢
I’m in the process of moving from WA State to South Carolina. Leaving a 1,430 sq ft home to a 698 sq ft home.
I got rid of probably 95% of everything I owned. Material things became meaningless to me. Keeping life simple.
I hope you and Lou find exactly what you want in your golden years.
May the Lord Bless you as you start a new chapter in your life.
Thank you.
Are y'all moving because you have to or because y'all want to? It seems like you have a beautiful home and I must have missed the reason y'all were leaving. It has to be scary to move someplace you don't know I would be petrified because I'm such a homebody where I'm at I said the only place I want to move to from here is heaven. Good luck on your move and I can understand about the memories. My heart goes out to you
I was wondering the same thing... Why are you moving??
They want to move to a smaller house after 25 years and the kids being gone.
@@earldouglas3631 That makes sense 💚🤗🤗🙏 Kendra
Wherever your move, make sure doctors are seeing new patients. That is a problem in many locations.
First make sure you get 2 bedrooms and 2 full bathrooms as retired couple., then kitcken , livingroom, laundryroom, yard, storage, and pool if possibe.. Florida is a good place for retired elderly people. Alot of retired elder couple end up selling after a year because they did not get 2 bedrooms and 2 full bathrooms.!!!! You will need an extra bedroom and bathroom for if you want to sleep separately or for guest visiting, something to think about!!!!
First, be still and wait for God. Second, are you still grieving? If so, that is making this much harder than it needs to be. Perhaps stay there and enjoy the beautiful updates and renovations you have done? My advice - do not put your home on the market until you have found a new home to be excited about. I may be wrong but I have the feeling you are being pressured by someone to hurry. About moving - we are 61, moved to a 3 bedroom one level townhome when we were 55. Best decision we've ever made but it was in the making for 5 years. Be still and wait for God.
Hi Darlene, your home looks beautiful... thank you for the little tour, it is such a shame that you are moving. Are you moving because you are downsizing, and need a smaller house? As for location of a potential new home is there somewhere in your area that you like, as I imagine it would be less stressful? If you are wanting to leave the area for good maybe you and Lou could move somewhere closer to your family! Could your family check out homes available in their area and make out a list for you? Whatever you both decide will be right, and I am sure that God will guide you in all your decisions. Please know that I have added you and Lou to my prayers.
God's blessings, love and hugs. Gloria 🤗🙏🌻❤
All the memories you can take in your heart. New memories will c ome to go with them, Everything else is just material things. Lean on Jesus to give you guidance Really in your heart and you mind give him the control to lead you where to go. He will never steer you wrong. We moved almost 2 hours away from where I was born and lived all my life two years ago, I don't know anyone here . Having to find new stores to shop for food was the hardest part for me. THere is no Lidl or Aldi here can you imagine. I have to drive over an hour to get to Aldi and the closes Lidl is back home. I do take cooler every time we go and visit my mom. I think she is what I miss the most. She is 85 and my best friend. I do talk to her everyday. I do go back from time to time just to go to church with her on Sundays. That is the hardest part for me is finding a Church family, I miss mine so badly.We have been here like I said going on two years and I still have not found that Church family Pray God will guide me in the right way also,Be blessed my Dear friend, I love you and remember Jesus loves you too
Glad to see you❤️🤗 This video was hard to watch just because it is hitting home for me😞 For me I'm digging in my heals on moving just because I live in my childhood home 🏡 I only wishing you all the best in finding your new 🏡🤞 Thanks for sharing 🤗 God bless
Make sure you get a two bedroom and two batheroom. Alot of of older retired people regrate that they did not get 2 bedroom and 2 bathroom as a priorty then a kitchen , livingroom, laundryroom, garage , yard and a pool if possible. Make sure 2 bedroom and 2 full bathroom first because alot of older people end up selling as soon as they move in.
I think we find that we wait until we retire to make these moves, not thinking about our ages. I wish I had made the move when I was younger because now it is way too much work and questions. Every time we begin to think about making the move it goes by the wayside really quick. Realtors will come in my home to assess the value and immediately instruct me to downsize the entire house. Ha-ha Less is more is their words I believe. My thoughts are that a buyer needs to look beyond the box and make it their own. Oh well once again the idea of moving has been shelved for us. Fix the house exactly how I want it and live happily ever after.
Oh Darlene … why oh why do you have to leave this lovely house
I'm so glad to see you back on RUclips! I've been praying for you guys because moving is a difficult thing to accomplish but it's also exciting, if you let it be. Wouldn't it be nice to live close to your kids? That's one of my biggest blessings. I will continue to pray for God's guidance in relocating. Retirement is also a blessing! My precious husband moved to Heaven when he was 54 years old. Our plans for retirement never came to fruition. I retired on my own but you'll have Lou to be with you. Another blessing!!
Well from a retirement stand point, South Carolina or Tennessee would be great as not taxing your retirement. Both are beautiful states.
Please be prepared for how your dog will react. Remember, the dog too is leaving everything as well. Some dogs become clingy, afraid you will leave. Some whine, stop eating, and yes, they can act depressed, sometimes their eyes get red, glassy, and watery (sp). If I remember correctly, your son is a vet. Please ask him. But, remember, all pets can react differently.
I just moved recently. I used sml boxes because I thought I'd move all but the big things. Keep in mind, sml and medium boxes mean more trips back and forth for the movers as well. So, if you're doing most of the moving of boxes, get a dolly or flat bed to stack boxes on (one with a handle on each end) - it goes faster. If you use a moving company, ask them. They are used to moving big boxes and prefer it (some) because a lot of boxes again mean more trips. I'm 69 yrs old, with no family, and my friends are my age, so most of the packing was done by me. Moving all those sml boxes darn near killed me, but here I am. My best for you and your husband. DJ
Darlene , so many life events that happen in our 60s. After 9 years we have to move and can’t find a rental that is affordable here in fla. We are blessed Sept 15 th is the out date . Rents have doubled here and i’m just giving it to God to bring about a good and affordable rental . I’m packing and calling Realtors. . At least I know the area so that’s a plus and a blessing . Prayers for you and Lou!
Oh Wilma. I’m so sorry. Blessings to you.
I loved this video. Just a great conversation. A good tip is when you are finally ready to have people come look at the house have a pot roast on the stove or in the oven. It is all about visualization. If people can see themselves living in the house it will sell much faster. When my mom sold our house in 2002, it sold in 3 days. She was expecting at least 3 weeks. As far as where to move, are you going to stay in the state of VA? Maybe you could start a new series - Lou and Darlene on the road. Take us along to some of the places you are thinking of and get others opinions.
I will try to do that.
I was thinking about you today Darlene n wondered how you guys were doing with the move. I pray the Lord will lead n guide you to find the perfect house in the right location n the timing to be perfect. Godbless!!🙏❤
Just wondered, what about having a home built to your needs and specifications? That way you have the best of both worlds....once you find land 😊. Just think, an attached garage, screened in porch, swimming pool, kitchen, etc. Just a thought from someone who cares for you. Keep us all informed. Look up to our Maker as He loves us and cares also.
We moved back after 14 years to be close to our children. We had been living in southern Utah and decided to move back to SLC. Best decision we made. I don’t know where your children live, but consider them and the area you decide to move to.
Hi Darlene:
When I moved cross country from Boston to Arizona I researched for 5 years until I was able to make that move. Then we rented while looking for a house which helped us figure out where in the state we wanted to be and now 4 years later due to the covid we finally bought our home which is the last home for me. If you are planning on retiring where you go you must be sure that is where you want to be. You do not sound so sure, think about it.
I hope all goes well for you two. God will be with you all the way and he'll lead you to wear you need to go. Book are something I got rid of as I been replacing them on Kindle. We are in our 60's and I can imagine how hard y'all have it.