10 years later, David Draiman said "I almost joined them". 2 years later, he's still with us. What a brave man to express so much vulnerability & sincerity in the art he has crafted for all of us to enjoy.
He said that at the concert I went to back in August. David wants the best for everyone, and he wants to prevent things like suicide because of the expierence he may have had with it. I once went through a suicidal phase of my life, and I just felt so empty during that time. Disturbed helped fill some of those empty holes.
As someone who has seriously considered suicide twice in the last decade, I want to encourage anyone who is a surviving family member or friend - YOU didn't do anything wrong. I was worried about my family, what would happen to them and what it would do to them - but the pain just gets to be so much that you can't even think about that anymore, it just obliterates absolutely everything. There was something broken in that person's mind at that moment in time. It's NOT your fault. All you can do is be there for them. It is ultimately their decision whether they make use of that help or not. A radio man once asked, after his cancer diagnosis, how his followers felt about death. I was surprised by everyone's fear of death. To me it's living that is hard.
Very well put. Each time I try to explain how the pain of living can be FAR more difficult than any imagined pain of death... and that it's that very enormity of pain/fear that forces our minds to a pinpoint focus over EVERYTHING else including others' feelings... I come off sounding like the "selfish" potential suicide so many accuse us of being. You managed not to do that, so kudos. My wish is for you to find continued hope for more tomorrows.
Thank you so much for helping me to understand the mental trauma my son must have gone through prior to ending his life. l hope that you are able to overcome your troubles and find peace
@margaretannmoliterno9362 My condoelsences on the loss of your son. I've been doubting more if even my children will listen and care. My eldest daughter has already shown me that she could care less. My youngest is with her father I don't know exactly what's been told by her father and his girlfriend. I still feel like I did in foster care. Cause some of my seizures are not being recognized and that I'm just using them as excuses and blame things on them. Now with my nephew here with my care giver/ roommate it's worse. My mom has disowned me cause she had other plans on what she wanted to do with my nephew's money. I just want to go disappear or even take my life cause those who are supposed to love me and don't care about me or what happens. If I go away the only person I would tell would be my friend. Cause I would still have to pay some rent and not catch her off guard. So my nephew and her would still have a place to live. She would be the only one that could find me. Nobody else would care.
I have a lot of respect for David Draiman, he puts in incredible messages within his music, especially for Disturbed. They're the band that got me through depressive suicidal times after losing a friend, especially when I first heard their song Inside The Fire from their album Indestructible. Disturbed will always be my favorite band 💯 percent
Im in the UK. My daughter committed suicide on 21st November 2022 aged 22. She knew she was really struggling, as did everyone around her including medical professionals. She was in a mental health unit voluntarily for 2 and half months before taking a rapid decline which saw her being sectioned (detained under the mental health act). Unfortunately, 3 days later she was failed by the very system designed to protect her. They found her in her room. She hadnt been physically seen for 2 hours. We still have no official answers, we are still waiting for the coronoes inquest yet an independent investigation into the unit she was in has already highlighted an array of procedural failures. What hope do people who are suicidal have, when the system lets them down so badly. Some could say that if she was that determined she wouldve done it anyway, and i acknowledge that, however, not as an inpatient in an acute crisis unit.. My heart goes out to everyone around the world who is affected by suicide and any other mental health concern x sleep tight my beautiful girl 💔
I want to thank you for being there for me when nobody else was. I no longer feel alone in this ugly world. My scars I will wear for the rest of my life. Scars of a woman who is a Warrior and survivor from a childhood that still haunts me to this day. Forever grateful sending love and light
David you're absolutely right about the feelings left. I have gone through it three times. 2 were people i served with, the third was my brother in law. All three took a piece of my soul but losing Ronald destroyed so much. My marriage fell apart, my daughter is traumatized to this day. I am still to this day trying to help the rest pick up the pieces while I try to handle my own feelings of failure because i couldn't help him when he needed me the most. Thank you for speaking to this. God bless you.
You are wonderful David ,, I walked home with my little brother from school and he went to his room and I went up to help my mom with dinner ,, an hour later I went down to get him for dinner , and he had put a 22 rifle to his head and pulled the frucking trigger ... that was in 1985 , two days after my 18th birthday
I am so sorry for your loss, words can't express..... anything about this, I can't imagine the pain and doubt you must feel, all the unanswered questions. May God bless and comfort you.
what many people do not realize about depression is that it isnt about suicide until it is too late. at first, its feeling not interested in things you used to love to do, then its realizing you havent eaten or you ate too much, to not showering for three weeks because you dont have the energy to, and you cry about it. think of it like this. you have a heart, and every little negative thing is like little ants that eat holes out of your heart. you plug those holes with things such as spending money, drinking that alcohol, or doing drugs, but pretty soon, your heart is fucked, and you dont have anything else to do because you dont want to. thats when suicide seems like a way out. but its not. please dont give up. i understand how painful it is. but please.
I understand you katilyn . It's like a cold numbness which claws at your heart when you are at the most vulnerable situation. It feels like like ' I am worthless,i am useless i am garbage ' etc. But know this I BELIEVE WHEN WE ARE BORN AS HUMAN WE HAVE A PURPOSE AND RUNNING AWAY FROM IT WON'T DO ANY GOOD. So please stay in the world and fight
I've lost over 40 people to suicide both in military and out. I'm a combat veteran and a ptsd survivor. Anything someone does to help us is beyond moving. If you can offer real help I would love to receive it
You're music had saved me more times than I can remember. I discovered your music in highschool and loved it ever since. I fought with the thoughts for many years.. than my friend took his life... than another friend... its true you're never the same.
I am a 41-year-old war veteran with several missions and I suffer from PTSD... And no matter how difficult it is, ask for help like I did... I asked for help and I still ask for help today and I have had results and a lot of help... The journey won't be easy but it will be worth it... You are not alone...
I come from the other end of this discussion. Being bedridden for the past 5 years I would love the option to end this anguish with understanding by those who care.
After losing my "son" 3 months ago to suicide I feel like I am on a rollercoaster. One minute I am dealing with life fine and the next minute I am broken again. I have soooo many regrets about how alone he felt and wish that I could have shown him how not alone he really was. I am so conflicted as to whether I should find comfort in the fact that he is no longer being tormented and in pain or find it excruciatingly painful that the last week of his life was so incredibly painful and dark and how horrible that must have been. I am just so broken even though I know he wouldn't want me to be....
It can feel burdensome...or liberating!... to know that you can CHOOSE where to focus your mind now. Choose to linger on the fact that he isn't suffering now. He is free of pain and fear.
It's not your fault, always remember that. I hope your heart and soul is doing OK. I lost a boyfriend 7 years ago to suicide. It's extremely painful, but you are completely different, you lost a child. God Bless you! ❤
Ive always been a hardcore country western and blues fanatic (from the 50's to the late 90"s). Got to say that when I looked up Sound Of Silence and played the Live Conan....well, I'm In fact. very impressed 👍. I play it every few days.
"reason to fight" was a song I listened to over and over while fighting my alcohol addiction and PTSD..as I cop, I thought I had it all under control..."suck it up"' "it's part of the job"...led me to the foot of my parent's grave with a loaded handgun, and my dog, because I wasn't going to leave him. I'm here today because of the love and support of many. Thank you so much for being a vocal advocate for the words you speak and sing. They bring strength to so many, and hope for a better tomorrow.
It's the most gut wrenching feeling when you get that call a loved one took their life! God Bless all of us who have lost a lost a loved one to suicide.
Nineteen years ago I lost my fiance to suicide. As a medical professional I was haunted by my thoughts...why didn't I recognize the depression and despair he must have been feeling to take his own life. What could I have done to help him? I came up with no answers. However, with the passage of time, I realized that there was little I could have done to prevent it. Love didn't help when he was feeling the pain that could only be ended by taking his own life. I pray that anyone who is thinking that ending their life is the solution, please reach out. There is help available.
We lost my son to PTSD induced suicide a few years after he returned back stateside from Afghanistan. One of the last things we did together, about a week before he died, was to watch Disturbed's music video cover of "The Sound of Silence". As a result, even though I am not much of a fan of heavy metal music, the members of Disturbed have a special place in my heart. And listening to them perform that song has a healing influence on me.
I attempted suicide a couple yeats ago, pills. Ive struggled being bipolar 1 for years. A family member found me unresponsive. Called emergency #. I woke up in a hospital. My first thougt was damn that i was still alive. Told i had needed 3 shots of narcan . . 5 days in hospital under 24hr watch. I was told to either go to facility voluntary. Or be comitted. 5 days in a group setting facility some were there for the same reason . I felt safe there. There was no judgement. When I got out, my family reactions were "How could you? " " It cant be that bad.." "What were you thinking^ .and my favorite was " Just suck it up" They still dont understand. I still wish that I didnt wake up. Its a constant struggle. My case workers dont seem to understand the depts of dispair. Its just a meeting with the same list of questios. David Dramin is bringing suicide discussion out of wispered conversations to the forfront . There is no shame in needing help. Thank you David❤.
I'm so sorry. It sounds like your family is in desperate need of counseling... to learn how to support you instead of tending toward a (natural, if misguided) selfish disposition. Their unintentional cruelty doesn't help and can easily hurt you. I hope you find the right support for yourself. Please keep looking. Sometimes it takes more effort than we think we have, but others can prove that the search can be worth it.
My brother in law, retired as a Master Sgt and hanged himself on Christmas day. I'm a veteran too. I have tried it too but it freaked me out. And David Drammen , if it wasn't for your music, especially overburdened, I wouldn't be here knowing that hell is too full and I have to wait in line
He has always been passionate about the prevention of suicide. I'm ashamed to say I've struggled with that feeling "and quite a few attempts" myself over a long and hard life. I put myself in those terrible situations but I'm glad to say I don't truly want that anymore but the feelings are still there sometimes. Nobody should ever have to feel that way because life is too beautiful and full of wonder! I believe there is just too much hate and negative things floating around in society it is hard for some to avoid that feeling but we are strong and if we have eachothers backs instead of not caring about one another, this can drastically be reduced. Be good to eachother because we're all in this together!
We don't know each other, but to everyone who has (or will) share the most vulnerable parts of themselves: know that a perfect stranger cares about you as a human being. I don't know all your struggles or just how deep your scars run, but you matter and you are worthwhile. Your posts are inspirational to me because they show real humanity, all of our flaws and all of our light and grace. May you one day find the person you need, the support you deserve, and the peace within yourself.
I lost my brother to suicide , he hanged himself over a girl who he couldn't marry. He was my best friend my go to person. It was difficult not knowing what goes through their minds. I lost my home and everything I owned to scammers 5 years ago and I contemplated suicide I felt like I disappointed my family and children ..a friend and God helped me through that dark period took me a year to show my face in public. Not easy...but hats off to David he is a good person heart and soul.
Unless people feel what it's like or lose someone to the same demons they cant comprehend how powerful it is, never see depression, anxiety, or general unhappiness. I'm a sufferer myself and battle every day but make my entire life goal to help those that do. would hope it is reciprocated, sometimes it is but sadly too little. love your fellow man as if you aren't helping people your hindering them and if anyone needs help I may not be able to give it in the moment but I will respond as soon as possible.
My husband committed suicide, 1983, leaving me with 1&2 years old boys to raise. I had to close a business move and file bankruptcy, making it impossible to get a job in my previous banking career. I have carried guilt all these decades that I should have known. He never once threatened suicide before committing it. Life has been hell…at that time there were no support groups. No one wants to talk to you about it. I couldn’t find a therapist who dealt with suicide. I had a large family and no one helped me or my sons. I was supposed to be silent and go on like it didn’t happen. Of course, life insurance doesn’t pay if suicide occurs, he left me in horrible debt.
I have the utmost respect for David. This is a difficult and delicate subject to talk about. I had a psychotic breakdown while in the military and was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Disorder. That was 32 years ago and all that time I have been “fighting” suicidal ideation. I am talking an antipsychotic drug, a mood stabilizing drug, a anti anxiety drug, and 2 antidepressants drugs and still I suffer with suicidal thoughts. I cannot help but think that suicide will ultimately be my undoing.
I was fiddling with my airpods with youtube up, and suddenly David's voice was speaking. I have a severe, incurable disease and have been very suicidal for the past year. This was incredibly helpful, and I wasn't even looking for it.
Something like this happens and I feel it's divine intervention, God's hand. I just don't know what to say, but offer my best wishes for you and pray for peace in your heart. ❤
I am a multiple attempt surviver, mostly because my ex-wife refused to let me see my 3 boys after I got out of being incarcerated.... Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, I'm glad I made it past that stage and am still here to love on my wife of almost 27 years, she is my driving force as to why I'd never attempt it again, I couldn't do the to her psyche
As someone who is been suicidal before all I can say is just stay hopeful and keep working to try and improve your life and things will eventually get better By taking your own life not only are you failing everyone who loves and cares about you, you’re also failing yourself
Tell that to the 400,000 Vietnam Veterans who died after returning home, from illnesses directly related to their exposure to Dioxin Poison (Agent Orange) serving their country...starting in 1961 under JFK, "Operation Ranch Hand"... he was responsible for more Australian and American patriot's death's than the NVA and VC combined ... Cancer being the number one killer ... I've had 3 very close friends take their own lives and after fighting it myself for three years, I only stay alive for my wife ... the pain, destruction of my life ...
Losing someone to suicide definitely is different feeling. I lost one of my kayaking buddies to suicide. His suicide was harder for our group to deal with than suddenly losing our other buddy due to a heart attack.
What's truly frightening is living in Canada. Here, if you are feeling low and worthless and contemplating the ending of your life - an acolyte of the death clan - commonly found in hospitals - will come along and offer you 'Medical Assistance In Dying". This is shortly to be extended to people suffering from depression. This 'assistance' is already being offered to the old and disabled - like the Veteran who needed a wheelchair ramp, but was offered Death instead. The Canadian Medical Association boasts about how much money has been saved by the introduction of MAID. My country is sick in the soul.
That is SICK, I'm sure it 'makes sense' to the bureaucrats but to humans with a Soul, it's sickening. And very sad... I don't think assisted suicide should be illegal, but it shouldn't be too easy or encouraged either.
The sad part it like the road to hell was paved with good intentions. But now sadly some very very wicked folks are seeing the dollar signs pushing folks like us off the rolls faster. And they are happy, hell gleefully doing it too while defenders say its just rumors and tall tales. Bloody scary how easily we can place a dollar sign on someone as worth saving, or worth pushing off the cliff.
There is no closure in death periode. Im glad he was able to expiernce closure with his experiences but i would say its even worse to not have anything or anyone to blame at all.
I have a lot of respect for David Draiman and Disturbed and I always will. It's very nice to see someone so famous be so genuine and so caring. I love it.
I am a female veteran who has attempted suicide multiple times and been hospitalized a few times. How do you find the help when nobody cares? I’ve used the suicide prevention lifeline but have not really felt it has been helpful. I know David Draiman has first hand experience with suicide when he was younger. I find it very difficult to find help.
I truly hope you are still with us! I don't know if you tube has a private message thing, but if I had a way to reach you, I am more than willing to help in any way I can.
this isnt a popular viewpoint but i feel deeply that i am done with life and despite poor health not poor enough to die from it. sometimes matters need to be taken into one's own hands. I could never understand this need to keep everything alive at all costs... life with no meaning is no life worth living. after 60 yrs of rollercoastering of mood etc...there is always a moment when you need to call time. [
I get you about meaning - and everything else. I hate to plug books, but... Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search For Meaning" was truly an eye-opener for me. Maybe give it a look. And understand that you can CHOOSE your meaning. On purpose. Don't expect it to just appear in your mind one day like it was predestined.
This was 10 years ago... Now we know we do live past the body, and we also now know that suicide isn't just from medicine, but also from our environment!!! When people feel they can't get OUT of their situation is when they start thinking about leaving the Earth. Although we know now the soul and consciousness DOESN'T DIE, and we know that the environment we are all in can cause it, then maybe humanity should STEP UP AND CHANGE THIS WORLD FOR THE BETTER! It's 2023 for goodness sake, BE BRAVE AND STOP BEING PETTY IN LIFE AND UNITE TO TAKE BACK THE WORLD FROM THESE SELF APPOINTED ELITES AND DUMP THIS SLAVE SYSTEM THAT MAKES VERY FEW RICH, AND CONTROLLING, WHILE THE REST OF US PAY THEM TAXES TO FUND THEIR TYRRANTICAL BEHAVOIR AND AGENDAS, WHIKE WE SUFFER POVERTY AND TYRRANICAL RULES WE NEVER VOTED FOR OR WANTED! YOU WANNA STOP SUICIDE, IT'S THAT SIMPLE! TAKE BACK OUR WORLD FROM THE RICH, BIG PHARMA, BIG TECH, ETC, AND WATCH HUMANITY THRIVE!!! THERE'S YOUR ANSWER!!!
my brother took his life in 2014 and it completely destroyed the family. none of us really talk anymore except casually during holidays. a lot of us are kind of broken as well nobody is really doing "well" in life it has kind of a ripple effect.
It really is I remember my days of suicidal thoughts even sone actions what kept me from doing so was the LORD ,and I do NOT say this as any kinda crap talk against either Mr draiman I understand how you feel because i have been there I know how it feels to loose someone too like you did except she died of lupus and sepsis there was a while where I wanted to join her and that wasn't even my first try on wanting to end it but it's also why I like your songs I get the feeling that in reverse it helps to just jam the problems away sometimes I feel that way when a person is in this kind of state it truly is something you'll never forget my condolences for your loss back in the day I'm praying for you dude 🙏✝️
David Drayman, me so smitten with you and me love you long time ❣️ I n the lyrical words of Duran Duran, "I'm on a hun down after you", hon, lol 😆. This psychiatric consumer, here values you for using your platform, sending awareness about the world's mental health crisis, cheers and you've gotten all of my accolades, sir. God bless you for entertaining the world with your immense talent. I absolutely adore how you cop the ability to transform into your stage persona, utter brilliance, you 😍. Anafuckinmawho,who - I shall cease and disist my tangent drivel and gushing and again, cheers and adieu , from another of your copious fans 🎶💘😘❣️
Still sad over a good friend shooting himself in his head with his own gun at the thought of being homeless. I did all I could for him but did not have the resources to keep his utilities on, his phone, his rent paid, his food, his car repairs. He lost his job and was having trouble finding a new one with his health issues.. He passed away 1/1/24 and his own family wanted nothing to do with him. His son actually tried to give me total authority over claiming his body and handling the arrangements.. My friend just gave up hope at the last, because he was too proud to ask anyone to help him.
When someone suffers the loss of bereavement, I remind them that their loved one would have wanted them to carry on by living a long happy life without loneliness. A day will come when you accept your loss and decide to move forward with your life, but hopefully you will never get over it.
Imagine how heartbreaking it had to be for the person who chose it. To experience pain so deep, so hope-robbing, that the ONLY relief you can imagine is to stop your brain from existing. That you can see nothing... NOTHING... to relieve your pain for even the next 5 minutes, let alone 5 years. No... I mean REALLY IMAGINE THAT.
@@youthecat i have worked in the NHS MH for over 25 years and yes I can imagine how much pain a person could be experiencing who wants to end their life as I was nearly one of them twice.
"Only that you are currently unable to reach them..", ( personally..or by society forced.) Seeing solutions "isn't enough"..Reaching solutions may be a "chance" to have in a "life" time.
Please, if you are thinking of committing suicide, think of the people, if any, who love and care about you, or the things that keep you grounded on Earth, just know, there are always people willing to help you in hard times.
As usual, on whatever subject, he speaks with such clarity and without all the "errs" and "uhms" of the vast majority of other people. Love him even more; having the passion and care to speak and share his personal feelings on suicide. Truly beautiful man.
Sometimes we do not know the why of a person ending their life. Perhaps he/she does not know either. Life. Death. Was it a matter of wanting to control? Maybe.
if you feel dEpressed and you feel like gasping for air and light while drowning in a sea or river of people while evryone around you kepp climing over you gasping for air them selfs in a panic. swallow your feelings and thoughts and let go. when you will get to the bottom i want you to feel the calmness and clearity of rock bottom, enjoy the quite. and then, when you are ready, turn around and start digging into the darkness and the floor. feel the shell of the egg in the end of reality and breath. you see the light? you feel the joy love and exeptence? i hope you will.
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10 years later, David Draiman said "I almost joined them". 2 years later, he's still with us.
What a brave man to express so much vulnerability & sincerity in the art he has crafted for all of us to enjoy.
He said that at the concert I went to back in August. David wants the best for everyone, and he wants to prevent things like suicide because of the expierence he may have had with it. I once went through a suicidal phase of my life, and I just felt so empty during that time. Disturbed helped fill some of those empty holes.
@@ReaperGoji You are not alone. I tried as well. If you haven't been through it, it's difficult to understand. Thank you for being with us today!
@@JustinProper No problem man.
As someone who has seriously considered suicide twice in the last decade, I want to encourage anyone who is a surviving family member or friend - YOU didn't do anything wrong. I was worried about my family, what would happen to them and what it would do to them - but the pain just gets to be so much that you can't even think about that anymore, it just obliterates absolutely everything.
There was something broken in that person's mind at that moment in time. It's NOT your fault. All you can do is be there for them. It is ultimately their decision whether they make use of that help or not.
A radio man once asked, after his cancer diagnosis, how his followers felt about death. I was surprised by everyone's fear of death. To me it's living that is hard.
Very well put. Each time I try to explain how the pain of living can be FAR more difficult than any imagined pain of death... and that it's that very enormity of pain/fear that forces our minds to a pinpoint focus over EVERYTHING else including others' feelings... I come off sounding like the "selfish" potential suicide so many accuse us of being. You managed not to do that, so kudos. My wish is for you to find continued hope for more tomorrows.
@@youthecat thank you. The same to you. 🌺
Thank you so much for helping me to understand the mental trauma my son must have gone through prior to ending his life.
l hope that you are able to overcome your troubles and find peace
@@margaretannmoliterno9362 sorry for your loss. The loss of a child is the worst pain in this world. All the best to you. It wasn't your fault.
@margaretannmoliterno9362 My condoelsences on the loss of your son. I've been doubting more if even my children will listen and care. My eldest daughter has already shown me that she could care less. My youngest is with her father I don't know exactly what's been told by her father and his girlfriend. I still feel like I did in foster care. Cause some of my seizures are not being recognized and that I'm just using them as excuses and blame things on them. Now with my nephew here with my care giver/ roommate it's worse. My mom has disowned me cause she had other plans on what she wanted to do with my nephew's money. I just want to go disappear or even take my life cause those who are supposed to love me and don't care about me or what happens. If I go away the only person I would tell would be my friend. Cause I would still have to pay some rent and not catch her off guard. So my nephew and her would still have a place to live. She would be the only one that could find me. Nobody else would care.
This man is awesome.
He’s very kind and seems gentle and caring. Complete opposite of what you’d expect
@@Meatball2022 why would you expect anything else, because he's in metal?
@@raptorrsr5817 his music has a degree of aggression to it
Yes he is, hard subject 2 discuss, but props to him speaking out
Absolutely! 😎🤘
I have a lot of respect for David Draiman, he puts in incredible messages within his music, especially for Disturbed. They're the band that got me through depressive suicidal times after losing a friend, especially when I first heard their song Inside The Fire from their album Indestructible. Disturbed will always be my favorite band 💯 percent
Im in the UK.
My daughter committed suicide on 21st November 2022 aged 22. She knew she was really struggling, as did everyone around her including medical professionals. She was in a mental health unit voluntarily for 2 and half months before taking a rapid decline which saw her being sectioned (detained under the mental health act). Unfortunately, 3 days later she was failed by the very system designed to protect her. They found her in her room. She hadnt been physically seen for 2 hours. We still have no official answers, we are still waiting for the coronoes inquest yet an independent investigation into the unit she was in has already highlighted an array of procedural failures.
What hope do people who are suicidal have, when the system lets them down so badly.
Some could say that if she was that determined she wouldve done it anyway, and i acknowledge that, however, not as an inpatient in an acute crisis unit..
My heart goes out to everyone around the world who is affected by suicide and any other mental health concern x sleep tight my beautiful girl 💔
Been sober now 7 years. Prior to that I tried suicide several times. Thought about it at times every day. Mental health is so cunning and. powerful.
I want to thank you for being there for me when nobody else was. I no longer feel alone in this ugly world. My scars I will wear for the rest of my life. Scars of a woman who is a Warrior and survivor from a childhood that still haunts me to this day. Forever grateful sending love and light
David you're absolutely right about the feelings left. I have gone through it three times. 2 were people i served with, the third was my brother in law. All three took a piece of my soul but losing Ronald destroyed so much. My marriage fell apart, my daughter is traumatized to this day. I am still to this day trying to help the rest pick up the pieces while I try to handle my own feelings of failure because i couldn't help him when he needed me the most.
Thank you for speaking to this. God bless you.
David,thank you for your heart and your commitment to this cause.
Thank you David. I'm so sorry for your loss. I have chronic depression and been at that state prior to medication saving me.
You are wonderful David ,,
I walked home with my little brother from school and he went to his room and I went up to help my mom with dinner ,, an hour later I went down to get him for dinner , and he had put a 22 rifle to his head and pulled the frucking trigger ... that was in 1985 , two days after my 18th birthday
So sorry for your loss ❤
I am so sorry for your loss, words can't express..... anything about this, I can't imagine the pain and doubt you must feel, all the unanswered questions. May God bless and comfort you.
Boy I respect him even more.
what many people do not realize about depression is that it isnt about suicide until it is too late. at first, its feeling not interested in things you used to love to do, then its realizing you havent eaten or you ate too much, to not showering for three weeks because you dont have the energy to, and you cry about it. think of it like this. you have a heart, and every little negative thing is like little ants that eat holes out of your heart. you plug those holes with things such as spending money, drinking that alcohol, or doing drugs, but pretty soon, your heart is fucked, and you dont have anything else to do because you dont want to. thats when suicide seems like a way out. but its not. please dont give up. i understand how painful it is. but please.
I understand you katilyn . It's like a cold numbness which claws at your heart when you are at the most vulnerable situation. It feels like like ' I am worthless,i am useless i am garbage ' etc. But know this I BELIEVE WHEN WE ARE BORN AS HUMAN WE HAVE A PURPOSE AND RUNNING AWAY FROM IT WON'T DO ANY GOOD. So please stay in the world and fight
I've lost over 40 people to suicide both in military and out. I'm a combat veteran and a ptsd survivor. Anything someone does to help us is beyond moving. If you can offer real help I would love to receive it
Hang in there Brother... Are you good? If not check out the Vet Centers, run by brothers and sisters.
You're music had saved me more times than I can remember. I discovered your music in highschool and loved it ever since. I fought with the thoughts for many years.. than my friend took his life... than another friend... its true you're never the same.
David, I picked up on your CPTSD.
I'm tanking you for sharing your music therapy.
Your music helps me.
I am a 41-year-old war veteran with several missions and I suffer from PTSD... And no matter how difficult it is, ask for help like I did... I asked for help and I still ask for help today and I have had results and a lot of help... The journey won't be easy but it will be worth it... You are not alone...
I come from the other end of this discussion. Being bedridden for the past 5 years I would love the option to end this anguish with understanding by those who care.
After losing my "son" 3 months ago to suicide I feel like I am on a rollercoaster. One minute I am dealing with life fine and the next minute I am broken again. I have soooo many regrets about how alone he felt and wish that I could have shown him how not alone he really was. I am so conflicted as to whether I should find comfort in the fact that he is no longer being tormented and in pain or find it excruciatingly painful that the last week of his life was so incredibly painful and dark and how horrible that must have been. I am just so broken even though I know he wouldn't want me to be....
It can feel burdensome...or liberating!... to know that you can CHOOSE where to focus your mind now. Choose to linger on the fact that he isn't suffering now. He is free of pain and fear.
It's not your fault, always remember that. I hope your heart and soul is doing OK. I lost a boyfriend 7 years ago to suicide. It's extremely painful, but you are completely different, you lost a child. God Bless you! ❤
Respect for you David. You are as sincere as you are talented. You continue to touch so many wounded hearts and give us hope.
Well said.
Thank you for all that you do to help with those thinking about suicide. I think people will listen to you David.
Ive always been a hardcore country western and blues fanatic (from the 50's to the late 90"s). Got to say that when I looked up Sound Of Silence and played the Live Conan....well, I'm In fact. very impressed 👍. I play it every few days.
"reason to fight" was a song I listened to over and over while fighting my alcohol addiction and PTSD..as I cop, I thought I had it all under control..."suck it up"' "it's part of the job"...led me to the foot of my parent's grave with a loaded handgun, and my dog, because I wasn't going to leave him. I'm here today because of the love and support of many. Thank you so much for being a vocal advocate for the words you speak and sing. They bring strength to so many, and hope for a better tomorrow.
Suffer in silence is what we are told… keep fighting brother. I got your six.
It's the most gut wrenching feeling when you get that call a loved one took their life! God Bless all of us who have lost a lost a loved one to suicide.
Nineteen years ago I lost my fiance to suicide. As a medical professional I was haunted by my thoughts...why didn't I recognize the depression and despair he must have been feeling to take his own life. What could I have done to help him? I came up with no answers.
However, with the passage of time, I realized that there was little I could have done to prevent it. Love didn't help when he was feeling the pain that could only be ended by taking his own life.
I pray that anyone who is thinking that ending their life is the solution, please reach out. There is help available.
We lost my son to PTSD induced suicide a few years after he returned back stateside from Afghanistan. One of the last things we did together, about a week before he died, was to watch Disturbed's music video cover of "The Sound of Silence". As a result, even though I am not much of a fan of heavy metal music, the members of Disturbed have a special place in my heart. And listening to them perform that song has a healing influence on me.
Sorry you and your family went through that!
I came home today thinking I could not do another day and then I found you.
I attempted suicide a couple yeats ago, pills. Ive struggled being bipolar 1 for years. A family member found me unresponsive. Called emergency #. I woke up in a hospital. My first thougt was damn that i was still alive. Told i had needed 3 shots of narcan .
. 5 days in hospital under 24hr watch. I was told to either go to facility voluntary. Or be comitted. 5 days in a group
setting facility some were there for the same reason . I felt safe there. There was no judgement. When I got out, my family reactions were "How could you? " " It cant be that bad.." "What were you thinking^ .and my favorite was " Just suck it up" They still dont understand. I still wish that I didnt wake up. Its a constant struggle. My case workers dont seem to understand the depts of dispair. Its just a meeting with the same list of questios.
David Dramin is bringing suicide discussion out of wispered conversations to the forfront . There is no shame in needing help. Thank you David❤.
I'm so sorry. It sounds like your family is in desperate need of counseling... to learn how to support you instead of tending toward a (natural, if misguided) selfish disposition. Their unintentional cruelty doesn't help and can easily hurt you. I hope you find the right support for yourself. Please keep looking. Sometimes it takes more effort than we think we have, but others can prove that the search can be worth it.
My brother in law, retired as a Master Sgt and hanged himself on Christmas day. I'm a veteran too. I have tried it too but it freaked me out. And David Drammen , if it wasn't for your music, especially overburdened, I wouldn't be here knowing that hell is too full and I have to wait in line
He's so much more than just a fabulous front man. He's an amazing man.
He has always been passionate about the prevention of suicide. I'm ashamed to say I've struggled with that feeling "and quite a few attempts" myself over a long and hard life. I put myself in those terrible situations but I'm glad to say I don't truly want that anymore but the feelings are still there sometimes. Nobody should ever have to feel that way because life is too beautiful and full of wonder! I believe there is just too much hate and negative things floating around in society it is hard for some to avoid that feeling but we are strong and if we have eachothers backs instead of not caring about one another, this can drastically be reduced. Be good to eachother because we're all in this together!
We don't know each other, but to everyone who has (or will) share the most vulnerable parts of themselves: know that a perfect stranger cares about you as a human being. I don't know all your struggles or just how deep your scars run, but you matter and you are worthwhile. Your posts are inspirational to me because they show real humanity, all of our flaws and all of our light and grace. May you one day find the person you need, the support you deserve, and the peace within yourself.
You have one life , don't give up. Life is the most valuable commodity you have.
I lost my brother to suicide , he hanged himself over a girl who he couldn't marry. He was my best friend my go to person. It was difficult not knowing what goes through their minds. I lost my home and everything I owned to scammers 5 years ago and I contemplated suicide I felt like I disappointed my family and children ..a friend and God helped me through that dark period took me a year to show my face in public. Not easy...but hats off to David he is a good person heart and soul.
Unless people feel what it's like or lose someone to the same demons they cant comprehend how powerful it is, never see depression, anxiety, or general unhappiness. I'm a sufferer myself and battle every day but make my entire life goal to help those that do. would hope it is reciprocated, sometimes it is but sadly too little. love your fellow man as if you aren't helping people your hindering them and if anyone needs help I may not be able to give it in the moment but I will respond as soon as possible.
I wish my son had heard you, David … He thought I could move on and forget him. 😢
❤
My husband committed suicide, 1983, leaving me with 1&2 years old boys to raise. I had to close a business move and file bankruptcy, making it impossible to get a job in my previous banking career. I have carried guilt all these decades that I should have known. He never once threatened suicide before committing it. Life has been hell…at that time there were no support groups. No one wants to talk to you about it. I couldn’t find a therapist who dealt with suicide. I had a large family and no one helped me or my sons. I was supposed to be silent and go on like it didn’t happen.
Of course, life insurance doesn’t pay if suicide occurs, he left me in horrible debt.
I have the utmost respect for David. This is a difficult and delicate subject to talk about. I had a psychotic breakdown while in the military and was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Disorder. That was 32 years ago and all that time I have been “fighting” suicidal ideation. I am talking an antipsychotic drug, a mood stabilizing drug, a anti anxiety drug, and 2 antidepressants drugs and still I suffer with suicidal thoughts. I cannot help but think that suicide will ultimately be my undoing.
I lost my son almost 4 years ago and it hurts every single day. His name was David.
you have my deepest love and no matter where in the world you are if you would like just a friendly voice i'm here
RIP David Jones of Enemy You.
Lost to us on 3/3/15 by his own hand.
I miss you every day, brother.
I tried in 1989. In a couple of months I’ll be 72. It’s weird I have the same problems… But I handle them differently now.😊❤
Insight. Maturity. Tools.
I'm glad you're here. Know that it's likely you provide others with hope.
@@youthecat I try… thank you very much 💖
Thank you sir for your words. The words themselves do not change anything but they help us understand.
David Draiman is right, feel same way, never be the same person I was before. You can get therapy. But I will never be the same as I was before.
Thank you 💕 Susie
Yes 39 years ago i lost my dad to suicide, and i even thought about it at times, but life goes on.
I was fiddling with my airpods with youtube up, and suddenly David's voice was speaking. I have a severe, incurable disease and have been very suicidal for the past year. This was incredibly helpful, and I wasn't even looking for it.
Something like this happens and I feel it's divine intervention, God's hand. I just don't know what to say, but offer my best wishes for you and pray for peace in your heart. ❤
@@noimagination99 aw, thanks
Draiman has always been such a class act.
✨💖✨Thank you.
the stigma of suicide makes it impossible to reach out.....every day is worse
I am a multiple attempt surviver, mostly because my ex-wife refused to let me see my 3 boys after I got out of being incarcerated....
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, I'm glad I made it past that stage and am still here to love on my wife of almost 27 years, she is my driving force as to why I'd never attempt it again, I couldn't do the to her psyche
When someone you love commits suicide, it is the most devastating moment and you relive it over and over and over again.
As someone who is been suicidal before all I can say is just stay hopeful and keep working to try and improve your life and things will eventually get better
By taking your own life not only are you failing everyone who loves and cares about you, you’re also failing yourself
I v been thinking of giving up a lot...its bedn eorse...i got a puppy...it helped a lot to have him
Tell that to the 400,000 Vietnam Veterans who died after returning home, from illnesses directly related to their exposure to Dioxin Poison (Agent Orange) serving their country...starting in 1961 under JFK, "Operation Ranch Hand"... he was responsible for more Australian and American patriot's death's than the NVA and VC combined ... Cancer being the number one killer ... I've had 3 very close friends take their own lives and after fighting it myself for three years, I only stay alive for my wife ... the pain, destruction of my life ...
Losing someone to suicide definitely is different feeling. I lost one of my kayaking buddies to suicide. His suicide was harder for our group to deal with than suddenly losing our other buddy due to a heart attack.
Did he die in the ocean off Jacksonville?
What's truly frightening is living in Canada. Here, if you are feeling low and worthless and contemplating the ending of your life - an acolyte of the death clan - commonly found in hospitals - will come along and offer you 'Medical Assistance In Dying". This is shortly to be extended to people suffering from depression. This 'assistance' is already being offered to the old and disabled - like the Veteran who needed a wheelchair ramp, but was offered Death instead. The Canadian Medical Association boasts about how much money has been saved by the introduction of MAID. My country is sick in the soul.
I never knew Canada offered that "option" I mean no disrespect, I personally find that obscene.
@@lindathomas1247 So do I. I live in a City that has the highest rate of MAID in the WORLD. Victoria B.C. - going to the hospital is damn scary.
That is SICK, I'm sure it 'makes sense' to the bureaucrats but to humans with a Soul, it's sickening. And very sad...
I don't think assisted suicide should be illegal, but it shouldn't be too easy or encouraged either.
The sad part it like the road to hell was paved with good intentions. But now sadly some very very wicked folks are seeing the dollar signs pushing folks like us off the rolls faster. And they are happy, hell gleefully doing it too while defenders say its just rumors and tall tales. Bloody scary how easily we can place a dollar sign on someone as worth saving, or worth pushing off the cliff.
There is no closure in death periode. Im glad he was able to expiernce closure with his experiences but i would say its even worse to not have anything or anyone to blame at all.
I have a lot of respect for David Draiman and Disturbed and I always will. It's very nice to see someone so famous be so genuine and so caring. I love it.
This is what a good man looks like and he is right
I am a female veteran who has attempted suicide multiple times and been hospitalized a few times. How do you find the help when nobody cares? I’ve used the suicide prevention lifeline but have not really felt it has been helpful. I know David Draiman has first hand experience with suicide when he was younger. I find it very difficult to find help.
I truly hope you are still with us! I don't know if you tube has a private message thing, but if I had a way to reach you, I am more than willing to help in any way I can.
@@randumguy2733 I am still here. Struggling.
Hi, just came across this today, how are you doing now? I hope and pray you're still with us ❤
this isnt a popular viewpoint but i feel deeply that i am done with life and despite poor health not poor enough to die from it. sometimes matters need to be taken into one's own hands. I could never understand this need to keep everything alive at all costs... life with no meaning is no life worth living. after 60 yrs of rollercoastering of mood etc...there is always a moment when you need to call time. [
I get you about meaning - and everything else. I hate to plug books, but... Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search For Meaning" was truly an eye-opener for me. Maybe give it a look. And understand that you can CHOOSE your meaning. On purpose. Don't expect it to just appear in your mind one day like it was predestined.
Mr. Draiman: You and Teddy Swims do this for me, your bands and your voices make me stronger when I am sad Thank you.
That's certinly true, i can't imagine what Mike and Linkin park crew felt after Chester did this(*) he will be always remembered
He songs have stopped me after my daughter murder been so close.then I hear its going to be ok
So true David so true
This was 10 years ago... Now we know we do live past the body, and we also now know that suicide isn't just from medicine, but also from our environment!!! When people feel they can't get OUT of their situation is when they start thinking about leaving the Earth. Although we know now the soul and consciousness DOESN'T DIE, and we know that the environment we are all in can cause it, then maybe humanity should STEP UP AND CHANGE THIS WORLD FOR THE BETTER! It's 2023 for goodness sake, BE BRAVE AND STOP BEING PETTY IN LIFE AND UNITE TO TAKE BACK THE WORLD FROM THESE SELF APPOINTED ELITES AND DUMP THIS SLAVE SYSTEM THAT MAKES VERY FEW RICH, AND CONTROLLING, WHILE THE REST OF US PAY THEM TAXES TO FUND THEIR TYRRANTICAL BEHAVOIR AND AGENDAS, WHIKE WE SUFFER POVERTY AND TYRRANICAL RULES WE NEVER VOTED FOR OR WANTED! YOU WANNA STOP SUICIDE, IT'S THAT SIMPLE! TAKE BACK OUR WORLD FROM THE RICH, BIG PHARMA, BIG TECH, ETC, AND WATCH HUMANITY THRIVE!!! THERE'S YOUR ANSWER!!!
my brother took his life in 2014 and it completely destroyed the family. none of us really talk anymore except casually during holidays. a lot of us are kind of broken as well nobody is really doing "well" in life it has kind of a ripple effect.
i want help but i dont know how or who
is this from a longer interview?
It really is I remember my days of suicidal thoughts even sone actions what kept me from doing so was the LORD ,and I do NOT say this as any kinda crap talk against either Mr draiman I understand how you feel because i have been there I know how it feels to loose someone too like you did except she died of lupus and sepsis there was a while where I wanted to join her and that wasn't even my first try on wanting to end it but it's also why I like your songs I get the feeling that in reverse it helps to just jam the problems away sometimes I feel that way when a person is in this kind of state it truly is something you'll never forget my condolences for your loss back in the day I'm praying for you dude 🙏✝️
God Bless all. May they Rest in Peace ❤
David Drayman, me so smitten with you and me love you long time ❣️ I n the lyrical words of Duran Duran, "I'm on a hun down after you", hon, lol 😆.
This psychiatric consumer, here values you for using your platform, sending awareness about the world's mental health crisis, cheers and you've gotten all of my accolades, sir.
God bless you for entertaining the world with your immense talent.
I absolutely adore how you cop the ability to transform into your stage persona, utter brilliance, you 😍. Anafuckinmawho,who - I shall cease and disist my tangent drivel and gushing and again, cheers and adieu , from another of your copious fans 🎶💘😘❣️
My father suicided violenty 40 years ago. the horror of it never gets better. Sometimes I do forget to think about it.
is there a way to get this association in Québec Canada we... i need help to
Every time I hear David Draiman, I admire him more, from his amazing vocal timbre, to his treatment of fans, he is a class-act
Respect to you.
Still sad over a good friend shooting himself in his head with his own gun at the thought of being homeless. I did all I could for him but did not have the resources to keep his utilities on, his phone, his rent paid, his food, his car repairs. He lost his job and was having trouble finding a new one with his health issues.. He passed away 1/1/24 and his own family wanted nothing to do with him. His son actually tried to give me total authority over claiming his body and handling the arrangements.. My friend just gave up hope at the last, because he was too proud to ask anyone to help him.
When someone suffers the loss of bereavement, I remind them that their loved one would have wanted them to carry on by living a long happy life without loneliness.
A day will come when you accept your loss and decide to move forward with your life, but hopefully you will never get over it.
Suicide is heartbreaking for the ones that are left behind
Imagine how heartbreaking it had to be for the person who chose it. To experience pain so deep, so hope-robbing, that the ONLY relief you can imagine is to stop your brain from existing. That you can see nothing... NOTHING... to relieve your pain for even the next 5 minutes, let alone 5 years.
No... I mean REALLY IMAGINE THAT.
@@youthecat
i have worked in the NHS MH for over 25 years and yes I can imagine how much pain a person could be experiencing who wants to end their life as I was nearly one of them twice.
@@welshwytch : I'm so sorry to read of your familiarity with this kind of pain. You are not alone.
You can feel the sadness on his face...😢
The sound of silence
"Only that you are currently unable to reach them..", ( personally..or by society forced.)
Seeing solutions "isn't enough"..Reaching solutions may be a "chance" to have in a "life" time.
Thank you!
Never the same. Maybe something didn't come back when we survived that moment. Innocence didn't quite come back when we did.
Please, if you are thinking of committing suicide, think of the people, if any, who love and care about you, or the things that keep you grounded on Earth, just know, there are always people willing to help you in hard times.
Love your music ..though
Ask God for strength. He won't fail you !
As usual, on whatever subject, he speaks with such clarity and without all the "errs" and "uhms" of the vast majority of other people.
Love him even more; having the passion and care to speak and share his personal feelings on suicide.
Truly beautiful man.
I feel like really he's not doing enough. He needs to go back to the studio 🎙 and record some new "shit." HA ha
Sometimes we do not know the why of a person ending their life. Perhaps he/she does not know either. Life. Death. Was it a matter of wanting to control? Maybe.
i wanted to do that
if you feel dEpressed and you feel like gasping for air and light while drowning in a sea or river of people while evryone around you kepp climing over you gasping for air them selfs in a panic. swallow your feelings and thoughts and let go. when you will get to the bottom i want you to feel the calmness and clearity of rock bottom, enjoy the quite. and then, when you are ready, turn around and start digging into the darkness and the floor. feel the shell of the egg in the end of reality and breath. you see the light? you feel the joy love and exeptence? i hope you will.
People be like metal listeners are rude & violent, nah this is the best community
I’m struggling now
there no peace after your child is murder. I still don't understand how someone could take her life
Yep..love ya bother
I lost my sister to suicide
So sad he is right
Wait! Have faith! Call 988 and talk to someone
inner strength
I lost my father to suicide and I found him