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This has been the hardest lesson for me. Acceptance of what my life is, acceptance of my own suffering and accept of what is rather than I would desperately like to be the case. I think I'm getting better from a mental health perspective, but it's tough as I have to fight all of these battles alone. Cheers, School of Life, for the video.
Let it be Let it hurt Let it bleed Let it heal And let it go Acceptance helps lower our mental illness by letting go of the past - what we can't control, and not being fear of the future - what we can't know. Acceptance can set us free and bring us peace. Wish everyone reading this a day full of freedom and inner peace ❤
If anyone from The School of Life is reading this, thank you, for being able to make such expressive and personal videos, I don't comment much, or subscribe to channels often, but your subscription on my internet space makes my life better, thank you
Negative emotions are unavoidable. If you feel bad, that doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with you. Don't try to run away from it, because whatever you resist will persist. Give yourself permission to accept, then let go. 💫
Took me 2 years to “deal with” the sudden death of my father. I found that writing about how I felt daily, running and eating healthy helped massively. Wishing you all a great day. Peace ✌️
My wife passed away almost two months ago. We couldn't say good-bye or anything. It was so sudden. I'm trying to be strong. I allow myself to cry and suffer. But sometimes I feel it's too much pain. I make pauses in my everyday life and sometimes cry, or think about her, see our photos together, or just lie down and breathe. I miss her so much. Sometimes I feel so desperate and tired. I just wanted to share this. Thank you.
@@CJ_87 thank you for sharing this! It is appreciated. My father passed away suddenly 4 years ago, I never got the chance to say goodbye. Coming to terms with it has been difficult, especially because my partner passed away after battling cancer for a year, just 2 years after my father’s death. I only had about 8 months to mourn my father and then my partner got diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. I still have to stop what I am doing to cry sometimes, but I allow myself to do it whenever I feel I need to. I still think about them everyday, and I will probably continue to do so for the rest of my life. Even writing this message, I have tears in my eyes. I don’t think the pain ever goes away, we just learn to integrate it. But I told myself from the beginning that I would never repress the pain, because that’s what ends up killing us on the inside. Instead, I try to embrace it whenever it comes upon me openly, with no judgement. I tell myself that it’s ok to feel everything I feel, my feelings are valid and ok. I wish you strength! Take care
No, thats not true. Depression has a real cause and only when you discover it, you can start the healing process. You do need help of a good psychotherapist to acomplish that.
Buddhism doesn't deny depression as a natural, common human phenomena. It just says you don't have to see it as a problem and think it's something "wrong" with you personally. Resistance to suffering causes more suffering. Accepting things as they are, is often the start of healing. It's a paradigm shift from the problem-fixing lens.
@@wancheng89 resistance to suffering causes remediation. If everyone was Buddhist there would be no remedies for anything today. It’s a cop-out self-deceiving ideology.
My therapist talks about Kintsugi all the time… I struggle with the patience and perspective to see that I am the bowl. I rage over it being so broken and the effort needed to repair it. I resent the bowl and the idea of making the tragedy into something beautiful. And then I remember I am the bowl, and I feel that way about myself, and it’s better to be repaired beautifully than cast away. I’m working on it.
The very act of struggling and wanting things to be different keep us in constant battle within our own soul. As a therapist, reframing, acceptance, and cognitive defusion both empower and mobilize our unique human ability to alter our perception. I wish you well my friend. “When you find no solution to a problem, it’s probably not a problem to be solved, but rather a truth to be accepted.”
It’s fine not to want to celebrate your tragedy! In fact it is good not to look at your broken state and try to exploit it for delusions like winning a Grammy or drafting a best seller. Being broken need not have a purpose. But its not easy, we want purpose and we want justice. True acceptance is to weep like a child, if you feel like. When tranquility sets in, only then can you look at the repair and claim that it is beautiful.
I'm there with you with every word you said. I resent being this way. I resent others for being how they are. Feeling rage and demanding that the whole world (including myself) deserves a mountain of pain and punishment for it's failings and weakness....but no ones suffering is going to fix a single problem. To be forever broken, flawed and weak is to be human. Accepting it and letting it go so we can be happy once in a while in our short and precious lives is the only sane thing to do. I believe being aware and able to verbalize what you feel puts you ahead of lots of people on this planet. Wish us both luck.
I participated in a Yoko Ono created event of Kintsugi in the early 2000s. At the time I didn't know anything about the practice and was just attracted by the idea of being a part of an Ono event. It was one of the most beautiful and profound things I've ever experienced. Yoko was not there by the way just a group of lovely humans creating from our brokeness 💔💗
The Self-Improvement Hub I guess, if people have more money in the third world, they’d all be drinking cocktails. But even beer is expensive. But I’m not totally undermining drinking as a possible peril or illness. Still, sometimes we can’t help but wonder, its too much of a business. Well the nice Germans I met are the ones who drink. The bad Germans are those who are sober. I’m not very serious about my comment on alcoholism. But my comment on Germans, that is a religion. I only like the Germans that come from Bavaria.
I don't know... It's not so much about the words, but how each person interprets the message in relation to their actions. My alcoholic abusive father would say "why are you bringing this up? It's in the past. I don't remember". Then he'd go and drive drunk, put us all in danger again... Get in accidents. Start fights, and wonder why we didn't feel safe around him "holding grudges" of things in the past. He has no problems accepting his "faults" and he expected others to do the same no matter the cost.
Attempting but truly difficult. I’m struggling to see anything positive. I personally feel as out of control as the rest of the world looks. Only in being creative can I find temporary reprieve.
He narrated one of the recent videos. I wish people will stop clogging up the comment section with the constant whines of 'I miss Alan! I miss Alan!' everytime someone else narrated the SoL videos, and instead actually post encouraging and thought provoking comments that could be beneficial for other people to read, or engage in. How old are you exactly, that you allow a 'voice' to distract you from a message?
@@jesusisapisces maybe it's feedback to the channel? I dont want to listen to this voice. I couldn't finish the video since I had to concentrate to much on discerning what she said.
@@tuungan then don't listen to it. Click out of the video and spare those of us who actually care to watch, and find gems in what is being said, the juvenile 'where is Alan? I miss his voice!' spam comments.
I’ve struggled dramatically throughout my life, but now st 42 I do feel much more st ease with it all (after numerous suicide attempts and drug addictions all sorts of heavy stuff). Things can be chaotic but there’s less resistance to it, and that lack of resistance makes even the worst of times to be much more bearable. 10 years ago I was blaming the world for my poor state of affairs but today I blame nobody. If you’re young and struggling, know that you can indeed work towards much better days. It will likely not be easy, but it is do-able. Best of luck to anyone who reads this.
But there must have happened something that pushed you towards addiction and suicide? Why notblane them? After you can go on forgiving them, but pretending you went from an innocent child to an addict was no ones fault - will that bring you peace, for real? Parents, teachers, society, poverty, neglect... There must be something...
@@TerezaCP Firstly, mental illness in and of itself can trigger patterns of addictive behaviour by individuals suffering this way. This can occur in such individuals as a means of trying to escape the disturbing symptoms of such illnesses. Suicide attempts can also arise from those plagued by long terms mental illnesses. Again this can come about as a desperate attempt to escape the disturbing effects mental illness can have on the mind. This has been the case for many people who have not had specific things happen to them, but rather have specific mental illnesss. What makes you think that I couldn’t be in this category? Also, No one who has issues can achieve any form of genuine acceptance through avoidance of the issue, or “pretending” (as you put it) that things are okay when they are anything but . That would be a delusional state of being, and not anything remotely like acceptance. In fact, that would be the exact opposite. I said quite clearly that it is about working towards better days and that doing so would not be easy, but that it is do-able. I also stated that I previously blamed the world. Do you think I managed to achieve a better state of mental health by simply “pretending” that things are not as they are. I assure you that it is the exact opposite of this and I have worked very hard to deal with my issues head on. To be stuck on a blaming/victim mode for your entire life puts you in a disempowered state of being which makes life extremely difficult. You made a lot of presumptions here, my friend. Best wishes.
I lost a family member two months ago today and I feel like I could done something to save there life but I failed and now lost but I’m trying feel normal or get fix once again I thank you for the beautiful clip it helps I’m trying to live life with out fear in life … I thank you!!
If a person has never suffered with any mental illness, they will NEVER understand this video. EVER. I absolutely love these videos and I appreciate what they do for me.
I’ll always welcome hearing this message. Allowing myself to fail, wallow, feel sad, ridiculous - to acknowledge - then to embrace a happier mood without guilt has been and still is a difficult, unfinished, unruly and priceless, arc. Thanks so so much for your message. X
I learned all these lessons in the nut house back in 2016 accepting the illness(paranoid psychosis)is one of most valuable lessons I've learned so far .only 3 years of meds left let's goooo
It's the yt algorithm that recommended me this video when I needed the most. This actually calmed me and consoled me in the journey of accepting the fear I have. Whoever thought of making the video on this genuine topic is a genius in itself. Thank you for this satisfying and reliving words. Such words like 'born to inadequate parents," 'we'll hurt the people we love' and we can be fixed one day. With the layer of uneven marks and self respect. This is the best thing I heard today. And I think the word 'melancholy' yes I will use that to accept the feeling I have in my most random days. Yes, I'm imperfect but trying my best at whatever I could do at the moment. It's the only thing that will comfort me in the end.
This is actually the exact message I needed to hear today. Thank-you, School of Life, for offering such needed insight without judgement or expectation of reward.
3 weeks ago I watched your "perfectionism" video after my first ever therapy session. It was odd how what we talked about was summarised so well in that video. The same has happened today with this one. I took big steps this week in accepting & acknowledging my struggles with anxiety. Thank you for helping me reflect on these positives.
I'm dealing with A lot of OCD because of this crisis more than ever but i just know there's something good in the bad and shine the brightest in our darkest moments. If there's a devil there's a God.
I started thinking about this lately, I will accept that what is going on is something that can happen to anybody and it's not a punishment handed to me and treat is like an ailment to overcome
Thank you for this wisdom. Yes, it is okay to have mental health issues and we must understand that everyone has them. It is a part of life, and there are many ways to heal. Do not label yourself or your current condition because things do not have to be that way forever. Blessings to everyone 💠🙏 full watch
I’m so late to this one, but I love this narrator. I just watched the one about coping when you’re ill and can’t think because I’m there right now. And I had never heard her voice. I really love these videos.
Because of desperation and necessity I have to tell to my dr my whole life but If I had known that bringing back sorrowful memories, and that it would be so painful, Id rather stayed in the limbo. But what must be done must be done in the end. I doubt a broken soul can be fixed in the current world, unless you have the means and you live surrounded by love and in a nice environment. Not talking about large cities... Mental illness is underrated if any, people appreciate physical disabilities but the mind remains hidden with whatever hell is carrying on..
I spent time in the hospital about 6 years back. I told a total of 3 people and one of those was my boss. They treated me like a piece of glass after that! I’ll never do that again
We've gone from general philosophy, to reflections on disappointments in romance, to a call for self love, to coping with the reality of living with mental illness. I feel as though I am growing alongside the school of life, it's beautiful to watch
Thank you School Of Life! Your videos should be shown in all schools and community centers! I worked as an art therapist in a peer run drop in center. I often suggested people watch this channel 💗
Treating your mental health and wellness as an every day journey of self-discoverer and intentional effort, just like you would with trying to improve your physical health each day by going to the gym or eating healthy, for example, can have a profound impact on our lives ❤💪
Your statement makes no sense. How is mental illness a journey of self discovery? It is trying to live, and appear contented, with a sword through your head. Meaningless pain.
Hey 👋 We should improve and educate ourselves to succeed and have a happy life! Take it easy and have fun! Take care of yourself! God Bless Everyone! Respect
As mentioned below, a basic tenet of Christianity is that all people are inherently imperfect. Accepting it and keeping it as part of us without motivation to change and improve ourselves leaves us in a worse state. We are then aware of our faults and choose to do nothing about them. Fortunately we are sent the Holy Spirit of God, other like-minded people and the Bible to help us along the way. None of us ever reach perfection. If we did we could make it to Heaven on our merits. Like the saying goes, however, progress and not perfection.
I love some of your illustrative examples you use here. The bowl with highlighted repairs was my personal favorite. Its like older jackets that have highlighted patchwork showing its age and level of use with pride.
Whilst I wholeheartedly agree with the premise of this video, it has to be said that the Japanese treat mentally ill people horrendously: they see them as personally flawed and weak, and attribute mental illness to personal fault, rather than an illness that can afflict anyone at any time. Again, the sentiment of this video is excellent, but maybe don't let the whole Zen Kintsugi, wabi-sabi repaired-pot thing get us carried away into idealism.
I think you need to consider that there are few paradises on this earth, and to expect one dimension of Japanese culture to carry the weight of the rest of it, is unrealistic. As unrealistic as saying Stoicism was pointless to the Greeks and Romans, and that Christianity is somehow deficient because racism exists in Christian countries. Cultures - the way a particular social group does things - are complex, and can be easily misunderstood because looking at one dimension is misleading. To understand a culture from the outside without knowing much about it, is a mistake. A culture is an institution designed to promote stability within a social group, and unless you understand the sources of instability that any culture is subject to you will not understand the solutions to resolving them that they have devised in their to dealing with them. Circumstances in time and history give birth to cultures, and they are self-sustaining because the solution chosen reflects the evolution of that society. Human societies everywhere are imperfect, and religion and philosophy exist to try and provide solutions to those problems. But, unless those solutions serve to maintain stability, they are unlikely to be adopted. If you would want to know why Japanese or any mental health culture is the way it is you would need to learn about the forces that shaped it in the past, and what impetus there is for change in the present. Just like any human entity. And they will differ from society to society. For those who could use them, Zen, kintsugi, and wabi-sabi were a way of developing resilience and acceptance of particular facts of life in historical Japanese culture. They were an approach to preventing mental distress Not a cure for the problems that created it. And they have come down in history only because they managed to survive because certain people could adopt those strategies and survive. This echoes Hannah Arendt's idea about the Banality of Evil. Human societies struggle with good and evil because humans are imperfect, and have to strive to make things better. And no solution is perfect or stable, because there are always counter-pressures and competing priorities. So change and Evolution in societies is never straightforward, and no society is ever going to be perfect. We looking eastwards for inspiration in how to deal with the societies we have created is evidence of that. It's up to us to use those insights as best as we can, because our understanding of them may not be perfect either.
i love school of life and watch every video they posted but I think their videos and animations are less and less interesting, touching or inventing in general. Since pandemic started? I dont know i get a feeling that Alan doesnt have that much of a insight in those videos as he had before or maybe they run out of topics?
Try catholic church, in my country they offer counseling for free and you don't even have to be religious. It took me a long time to discover that, they don't anounce it in public (I stil don't understand why🤔) so maybe there is something like that also in your country. I recomend Jerry Wise (Family Tree Counseling) videos in any case, they helped me a lot
Towards repair is key. As if we can find a finish line to it. Ive decided on somethings to accept them. Its saddening when I think of this concept in respects to family members. But when I see the love im given outside of my family Im relieved
I have an "I'm human" sense to my affirmations about my mental illness. Current framework: My mind is open and aware enough too without question recognized that this world is chaotic and uncertain. These uncertainties attach to my fears because it is the root of those fears are bathed in my values, my love and my reasons for living. It is reasonable and human to want a promised future, but I cannot destroy my own mind and waste my time with wasteful habits to dismiss my fear. I dont have to drown in my fear to face it nor stay safe on the shore.
The view of humanity as intrinsically flawed ... is the basis of Christianity, even more than Zen Buddhism. It's the artistic interpretation, that we should approach perfection, that trips up Christianity. Gwen John seems to be more of what we should be aiming toward.
Im problably pushing this onto who ever sees this, Ill go on regardless. I see mental health struggle as winning and losing a battle, just not losing the war.
I was not expecting that they would include that madhouse at Zaragoza painting of Goya’s which is at the Meadows museum in Dallas, Texas and also one of my favorite paintings ever 💯
The video does make some decent points about accepting one's fate, yet offers little in the way of hope. Someone going through a serious bout of depression would probably feel more burdened by this video claiming that life is just wretched and there's nothing you can do about it - that's not really the case for most people who experience a modicum of good mental health.
I have bipolar, and it helps me more to have someone acknowledge the fuckedupness of life than lie and tell me everything will fall into place. I get what you're saying, but I'd rather acknowledge the elephant in the room before I go about navigating around it
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I recognise I have problems but I don’t know how to deal with them. I’ve reached out to my doctor and local community mental health team who have largely ignored it. I cannot even get a private consult because it has to be through a referral from my doctor. I am at my wit’s end.
In Christian we are also thought about this, Christ says that we should love others especially those unlovable. For me, that teaching was really complicated because I thought sinners should be avoided but we taught that no one knows what will really happen. I know there is some unlovable sides of us but if we accept and truly ask and tell ourselves that, "Am I doing good or bad? Who knows, it's too soon to say." It's like a form of acceptance that yes, I am having bad times but I accept it and who knows maybe this will lead me into something my soul is fated too. So don't lose hope everyone.
Yes!! Is the bowl then useless? It can no longer hold liquid. It becomes an orchid pot? Merely decorative? Excellent question! Shattered pottery asking.
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Can we use simpler words and language to make these videos more accessible??
@Explicit Refrigerator no
@@angelafay2134 no. Sometimes these discussions require nuanced speech as to avoid misinterpretation of the subject at hand.
Nothing in the US. Lolz
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This has been the hardest lesson for me. Acceptance of what my life is, acceptance of my own suffering and accept of what is rather than I would desperately like to be the case. I think I'm getting better from a mental health perspective, but it's tough as I have to fight all of these battles alone.
Cheers, School of Life, for the video.
Many of us are feeling alone. you’re not alone in your feelings of isolation. Hope it gets better for us all.
It's a long process but you'll get there , best wishes .
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It’s the knowing that there’s little rest between battles for me. I’m just so tired.
Yeah agreed
Let it be
Let it hurt
Let it bleed
Let it heal
And let it go
Acceptance helps lower our mental illness by letting go of the past - what we can't control, and not being fear of the future - what we can't know.
Acceptance can set us free and bring us peace.
Wish everyone reading this a day full of freedom and inner peace ❤
I needed this
Yes, it'll be better for our mental health. And, I- wish you a full day of freedom and inner peace too.
@@rahstara Thank you 🙏
@@TEAforMIND You're welcome
@@TEAforMIND from India, I wish You a Full Life of Freedom and Inner Peace.
If anyone from The School of Life is reading this, thank you, for being able to make such expressive and personal videos, I don't comment much, or subscribe to channels often, but your subscription on my internet space makes my life better, thank you
👁❤️👁 same
Negative emotions are unavoidable. If you feel bad, that doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with you. Don't try to run away from it, because whatever you resist will persist. Give yourself permission to accept, then let go. 💫
What if i fail even after working very hard?.
We are not perfect; accept and improve. Do not pretend!
@Pun Ga Omg why you hate narcissists so much
Good advice, easier said than done though...
@Pun Ga
chill…
Took me 2 years to “deal with” the sudden death of my father. I found that writing about how I felt daily, running and eating healthy helped massively. Wishing you all a great day. Peace ✌️
Thank you.
Those definitely help!
Oh, thank you!
My wife passed away almost two months ago. We couldn't say good-bye or anything. It was so sudden. I'm trying to be strong. I allow myself to cry and suffer. But sometimes I feel it's too much pain. I make pauses in my everyday life and sometimes cry, or think about her, see our photos together, or just lie down and breathe. I miss her so much. Sometimes I feel so desperate and tired. I just wanted to share this. Thank you.
@@CJ_87 thank you for sharing this! It is appreciated.
My father passed away suddenly 4 years ago, I never got the chance to say goodbye. Coming to terms with it has been difficult, especially because my partner passed away after battling cancer for a year, just 2 years after my father’s death. I only had about 8 months to mourn my father and then my partner got diagnosed with a rare form of cancer.
I still have to stop what I am doing to cry sometimes, but I allow myself to do it whenever I feel I need to. I still think about them everyday, and I will probably continue to do so for the rest of my life. Even writing this message, I have tears in my eyes. I don’t think the pain ever goes away, we just learn to integrate it. But I told myself from the beginning that I would never repress the pain, because that’s what ends up killing us on the inside. Instead, I try to embrace it whenever it comes upon me openly, with no judgement. I tell myself that it’s ok to feel everything I feel, my feelings are valid and ok.
I wish you strength! Take care
Heard something like this from a Buddhist talk by Ajahn Brahm, “Depression is not the problem. Not wanting to be depressed is the problem.”
They only say that because they haven’t got a solution. Its all a disease, including death.
No, thats not true. Depression has a real cause and only when you discover it, you can start the healing process. You do need help of a good psychotherapist to acomplish that.
@@td4yd154 omg so true. Spiritually bypass the whole problem
Buddhism doesn't deny depression as a natural, common human phenomena. It just says you don't have to see it as a problem and think it's something "wrong" with you personally. Resistance to suffering causes more suffering. Accepting things as they are, is often the start of healing. It's a paradigm shift from the problem-fixing lens.
@@wancheng89 resistance to suffering causes remediation. If everyone was Buddhist there would be no remedies for anything today. It’s a cop-out self-deceiving ideology.
“There is hope, even when your brain tells you there isn’t.” ~ John Green 💪🏻🚀
DFTBA :)
@@xzonia1 +
and vice versa
I like John a lot. Sometimes his statement doesn't seem to be possibly true
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My therapist talks about Kintsugi all the time… I struggle with the patience and perspective to see that I am the bowl. I rage over it being so broken and the effort needed to repair it. I resent the bowl and the idea of making the tragedy into something beautiful. And then I remember I am the bowl, and I feel that way about myself, and it’s better to be repaired beautifully than cast away. I’m working on it.
The very act of struggling and wanting things to be different keep us in constant battle within our own soul. As a therapist, reframing, acceptance, and cognitive defusion both empower and mobilize our unique human ability to alter our perception. I wish you well my friend.
“When you find no solution to a problem, it’s probably not a problem to be solved, but rather a truth to be accepted.”
It’s fine not to want to celebrate your tragedy! In fact it is good not to look at your broken state and try to exploit it for delusions like winning a Grammy or drafting a best seller. Being broken need not have a purpose. But its not easy, we want purpose and we want justice. True acceptance is to weep like a child, if you feel like. When tranquility sets in, only then can you look at the repair and claim that it is beautiful.
I'm there with you with every word you said. I resent being this way. I resent others for being how they are. Feeling rage and demanding that the whole world (including myself) deserves a mountain of pain and punishment for it's failings and weakness....but no ones suffering is going to fix a single problem. To be forever broken, flawed and weak is to be human. Accepting it and letting it go so we can be happy once in a while in our short and precious lives is the only sane thing to do. I believe being aware and able to verbalize what you feel puts you ahead of lots of people on this planet. Wish us both luck.
I participated in a Yoko Ono created event of Kintsugi in the early 2000s. At the time I didn't know anything about the practice and was just attracted by the idea of being a part of an Ono event. It was one of the most beautiful and profound things I've ever experienced. Yoko was not there by the way just a group of lovely humans creating from our brokeness 💔💗
Tragedy is not beautiful.
There is a reason why groups like alcoholics anonymous have acceptance as one of the first steps: it is necessary to move on
Why other countries have no such groups? Why only Americans have such drama. Other countries have no weight watchers either.
@@eduardochavacano Oh, Germany has both of those groups... but then again, we also have both of the underlying problems
The Self-Improvement Hub I guess, if people have more money in the third world, they’d all be drinking cocktails. But even beer is expensive. But I’m not totally undermining drinking as a possible peril or illness. Still, sometimes we can’t help but wonder, its too much of a business. Well the nice Germans I met are the ones who drink. The bad Germans are those who are sober. I’m not very serious about my comment on alcoholism. But my comment on Germans, that is a religion. I only like the Germans that come from Bavaria.
It's the hardest step though!
I don't know... It's not so much about the words, but how each person interprets the message in relation to their actions. My alcoholic abusive father would say "why are you bringing this up? It's in the past. I don't remember". Then he'd go and drive drunk, put us all in danger again... Get in accidents. Start fights, and wonder why we didn't feel safe around him "holding grudges" of things in the past. He has no problems accepting his "faults" and he expected others to do the same no matter the cost.
My FBI agent really knows me well. He made RUclips recommend this video barely 20 minutes after it was uploaded
NSA, but yeah, it be like that.
Same bish ✌🏻
The algorithm knows you well :/
great
Mine is off....took him 6 hours. Who knows what I was getting into this whole time before being pacified...
May we all find some peace and serenity amongst everything happening in the world and within ourselves ❤️
Agreed. I hope for the same as well
Attempting but truly difficult. I’m struggling to see anything positive. I personally feel as out of control as the rest of the world looks. Only in being creative can I find temporary reprieve.
This remarkable channel is doing more good for the world than many entire country's governments
I love the new voices. But, it's been a while since Alan spoke and I miss his comforting voice.
I listen because of his voice
Rhythmic voice is a powerful tool for persuasion
He narrated one of the recent videos. I wish people will stop clogging up the comment section with the constant whines of 'I miss Alan! I miss Alan!' everytime someone else narrated the SoL videos, and instead actually post encouraging and thought provoking comments that could be beneficial for other people to read, or engage in. How old are you exactly, that you allow a 'voice' to distract you from a message?
@@jesusisapisces maybe it's feedback to the channel? I dont want to listen to this voice. I couldn't finish the video since I had to concentrate to much on discerning what she said.
@@tuungan then don't listen to it. Click out of the video and spare those of us who actually care to watch, and find gems in what is being said, the juvenile 'where is Alan? I miss his voice!' spam comments.
I’ve struggled dramatically throughout my life, but now st 42 I do feel much more st ease with it all (after numerous suicide attempts and drug addictions all sorts of heavy stuff). Things can be chaotic but there’s less resistance to it, and that lack of resistance makes even the worst of times to be much more bearable. 10 years ago I was blaming the world for my poor state of affairs but today I blame nobody. If you’re young and struggling, know that you can indeed work towards much better days. It will likely not be easy, but it is do-able. Best of luck to anyone who reads this.
But there must have happened something that pushed you towards addiction and suicide? Why notblane them? After you can go on forgiving them, but pretending you went from an innocent child to an addict was no ones fault - will that bring you peace, for real? Parents, teachers, society, poverty, neglect... There must be something...
@@TerezaCP Firstly, mental illness in and of itself can trigger patterns of addictive behaviour by individuals suffering this way. This can occur in such individuals as a means of trying to escape the disturbing symptoms of such illnesses. Suicide attempts can also arise from those plagued by long terms mental illnesses. Again this can come about as a desperate attempt to escape the disturbing effects mental illness can have on the mind. This has been the case for many people who have not had specific things happen to them, but rather have specific mental illnesss. What makes you think that I couldn’t be in this category?
Also, No one who has issues can achieve any form of genuine acceptance through avoidance of the issue, or “pretending” (as you put it) that things are okay when they are anything but . That would be a delusional state of being, and not anything remotely like acceptance. In fact, that would be the exact opposite. I said quite clearly that it is about working towards better days and that doing so would not be easy, but that it is do-able. I also stated that I previously blamed the world. Do you think I managed to achieve a better state of mental health by simply “pretending” that things are not as they are. I assure you that it is the exact opposite of this and I have worked very hard to deal with my issues head on. To be stuck on a blaming/victim mode for your entire life puts you in a disempowered state of being which makes life extremely difficult.
You made a lot of presumptions here, my friend. Best wishes.
As they say "It's okay not to be okay" because that's what makes us human
“Accept that we are both profoundly unwell” - this hit home❤️ I enjoyed this video so much!
It is so hard to listen to The School of Life without the voice of Alain de Botton . His voice is so special and direct to the mind and heart
Am I the only person who misses Allen. Content remains the best but I miss that soothing voice of his
...is he gone for good?
@@derekgeorgeandrews Hope not. That is something I would not want to accept.
I lost a family member two months ago today and I feel like I could done something to save there life but I failed and now lost but I’m trying feel normal or get fix once again I thank you for the beautiful clip it helps I’m trying to live life with out fear in life … I thank you!!
rock on bro
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
maybe.
If a person has never suffered with any mental illness, they will NEVER understand this video. EVER.
I absolutely love these videos and I appreciate what they do for me.
I’ll always welcome hearing this message. Allowing myself to fail, wallow, feel sad, ridiculous - to acknowledge - then to embrace a happier mood without guilt has been and still is a difficult, unfinished, unruly and priceless, arc.
Thanks so so much for your message. X
I swear The School of Life can read my thoughts, they always come out with the perfect video for what I'm going through
Man I really needed to hear this.😭feeling very anxious, scared and hopeless
Stay strong... I feel ya 💯
@@Kronicdice23 aww thanks 🌷
Stay strong!! You got this 🤜🏼
In short, everyone is insane just be gentle with each other^_^
I learned all these lessons in the nut house back in 2016 accepting the illness(paranoid psychosis)is one of most valuable lessons I've learned so far .only 3 years of meds left let's goooo
It's the yt algorithm that recommended me this video when I needed the most. This actually calmed me and consoled me in the journey of accepting the fear I have. Whoever thought of making the video on this genuine topic is a genius in itself. Thank you for this satisfying and reliving words. Such words like 'born to inadequate parents," 'we'll hurt the people we love' and we can be fixed one day. With the layer of uneven marks and self respect. This is the best thing I heard today. And I think the word 'melancholy' yes I will use that to accept the feeling I have in my most random days.
Yes, I'm imperfect but trying my best at whatever I could do at the moment. It's the only thing that will comfort me in the end.
This is actually the exact message I needed to hear today. Thank-you, School of Life, for offering such needed insight without judgement or expectation of reward.
3 weeks ago I watched your "perfectionism" video after my first ever therapy session. It was odd how what we talked about was summarised so well in that video. The same has happened today with this one. I took big steps this week in accepting & acknowledging my struggles with anxiety. Thank you for helping me reflect on these positives.
I'm dealing with
A lot of OCD because of this crisis more than ever but i just know there's something good in the bad and shine the brightest in our darkest moments. If there's a devil there's a God.
You’ve got the spirit!
I really really needed this video right now, it was so helpful. Especially with a underfunded mental health system.
I started thinking about this lately, I will accept that what is going on is something that can happen to anybody and it's not a punishment handed to me and treat is like an ailment to overcome
You did it again. When I needed perspective about a particular state of mind, you dropped the right video for me.
I like this narrator better. Easier to remember everything and doesn't put me to sleep.
Leave poor Alain alone
@@therealfreddiegibbs2605 Wait, he's poor? :(
Well Done! One your best! Now to get the gold glitter and start repairing..... Thank You!
Thank you for this wisdom. Yes, it is okay to have mental health issues and we must understand that everyone has them. It is a part of life, and there are many ways to heal. Do not label yourself or your current condition because things do not have to be that way forever. Blessings to everyone 💠🙏 full watch
I’m so late to this one, but I love this narrator. I just watched the one about coping when you’re ill and can’t think because I’m there right now. And I had never heard her voice. I really love these videos.
Failed my exam 🥺 feeling so lost and depressed....very needed video🥺
Please bring back Alan’s soothing voice!
Because of desperation and necessity I have to tell to my dr my whole life but If I had known that bringing back sorrowful memories, and that it would be so painful, Id rather stayed in the limbo. But what must be done must be done in the end.
I doubt a broken soul can be fixed in the current world, unless you have the means and you live surrounded by love and in a nice environment. Not talking about large cities...
Mental illness is underrated if any, people appreciate physical disabilities but the mind remains hidden with whatever hell is carrying on..
Acceptance. A word to live by. There are things we can't control, even, ourselves.
I spent time in the hospital about 6 years back. I told a total of 3 people and one of those was my boss. They treated me like a piece of glass after that! I’ll never do that again
Sadly, society is not accepting of our flaws. It is seen to be weak and damaged. I too learned to suffer in silence.
Thank you for making this public. It is frank and honest telling it like it is. Truly appreciate it.
It's refreshing to watch videos with acknowledgment of ancient Asian philosophies. Too many RUclips channels present those theories as it is theirs.
I miss the Voice of Alain de botton
Or that other British lady with a good voice 😷😞 she makes me feel good
Your terrible parents are not an excuse to be a terrible person, you're going to end up ruining your own life if you let that excuse define you.
they already ruined my life
so...
Well said
@@matheussanthiago9685 Your life isn't over
@@matheussanthiago9685 That mentality will bring you nowhere
Which is why I pray for an accident to take me. I wasn’t loved as a child and I’m not loved now.
Here's to remaining every bit human! Thanks, The School of Life!
The girl avoiding real life problems until getting rid of the spider is so freaking relatable💀 Hands down the best analogy ever!
We've gone from general philosophy, to reflections on disappointments in romance, to a call for self love, to coping with the reality of living with mental illness.
I feel as though I am growing alongside the school of life, it's beautiful to watch
Jung says acceptance of self is one of the hardest tasks.
If you’re reading this, please know that you are not alone🧠✌🏾❤️
Thank you School Of Life! Your videos should be shown in all schools and community centers! I worked as an art therapist in a peer run drop in center. I often suggested people watch this channel 💗
Treating your mental health and wellness as an every day journey of self-discoverer and intentional effort, just like you would with trying to improve your physical health each day by going to the gym or eating healthy, for example, can have a profound impact on our lives ❤💪
Your statement makes no sense. How is mental illness a journey of self discovery? It is trying to live, and appear contented, with a sword through your head. Meaningless pain.
Alain?? Please come back .... We miss your soothing narration. Love, fans
Please do!
Hey 👋
We should improve and educate ourselves to succeed and have a happy life!
Take it easy and have fun!
Take care of yourself!
God Bless Everyone!
Respect
It's really sad that this channel isn't getting the hits that it used to. It's all still so great
This is the most realistic philosophy ive ever heard thank you soooo very much! The school of life ROCKS!😊
As mentioned below, a basic tenet of Christianity is that all people are inherently imperfect. Accepting it and keeping it as part of us without motivation to change and improve ourselves leaves us in a worse state. We are then aware of our faults and choose to do nothing about them. Fortunately we are sent the Holy Spirit of God, other like-minded people and the Bible to help us along the way. None of us ever reach perfection. If we did we could make it to Heaven on our merits. Like the saying goes, however, progress and not perfection.
I love some of your illustrative examples you use here. The bowl with highlighted repairs was my personal favorite. Its like older jackets that have highlighted patchwork showing its age and level of use with pride.
Whilst I wholeheartedly agree with the premise of this video, it has to be said that the Japanese treat mentally ill people horrendously: they see them as personally flawed and weak, and attribute mental illness to personal fault, rather than an illness that can afflict anyone at any time.
Again, the sentiment of this video is excellent, but maybe don't let the whole Zen Kintsugi, wabi-sabi repaired-pot thing get us carried away into idealism.
I think you need to consider that there are few paradises on this earth, and to expect one dimension of Japanese culture to carry the weight of the rest of it, is unrealistic. As unrealistic as saying Stoicism was pointless to the Greeks and Romans, and that Christianity is somehow deficient because racism exists in Christian countries. Cultures - the way a particular social group does things - are complex, and can be easily misunderstood because looking at one dimension is misleading. To understand a culture from the outside without knowing much about it, is a mistake. A culture is an institution designed to promote stability within a social group, and unless you understand the sources of instability that any culture is subject to you will not understand the solutions to resolving them that they have devised in their to dealing with them. Circumstances in time and history give birth to cultures, and they are self-sustaining because the solution chosen reflects the evolution of that society. Human societies everywhere are imperfect, and religion and philosophy exist to try and provide solutions to those problems. But, unless those solutions serve to maintain stability, they are unlikely to be adopted. If you would want to know why Japanese or any mental health culture is the way it is you would need to learn about the forces that shaped it in the past, and what impetus there is for change in the present. Just like any human entity. And they will differ from society to society. For those who could use them, Zen, kintsugi, and wabi-sabi were a way of developing resilience and acceptance of particular facts of life in historical Japanese culture. They were an approach to preventing mental distress
Not a cure for the problems that created it. And they have come down in history only because they managed to survive because certain people could adopt those strategies and survive. This echoes Hannah Arendt's idea about the Banality of Evil. Human societies struggle with good and evil because humans are imperfect, and have to strive to make things better. And no solution is perfect or stable, because there are always counter-pressures and competing priorities. So change and Evolution in societies is never straightforward, and no society is ever going to be perfect. We looking eastwards for inspiration in how to deal with the societies we have created is evidence of that. It's up to us to use those insights as best as we can, because our understanding of them may not be perfect either.
@@BigHenFor this is incredibly well written 👏👏👏
@@wendydang720 Thank you. I'm glad you found it of value.
@@BigHenFor, excellent read. With an academic lean. Thank you.
i love school of life and watch every video they posted but I think their videos and animations are less and less interesting, touching or inventing in general. Since pandemic started? I dont know i get a feeling that Alan doesnt have that much of a insight in those videos as he had before or maybe they run out of topics?
Merci beaucoup! vos videos sont d'utilité publique! (from France)
It's so nice to watch these videos now the community chat app has closed. Its like seeing an old friend.
That was a powerful and profound work of art! Both the words and illustrations, what a gift to the human race! Thank you for the work.
The male commentator in the School of Life makes the videos feel more emotional, makes you think that a close friend is talking to you in a warm tone
My problem is not accepting, is actually finding a health professional with free cost. In my country it has been a huge challenge.
I'm so sorry; and angered.
In US, and Samhsa's referrals are so off-course that if you seek help, you (I) wound up even more hopeless.
Try catholic church, in my country they offer counseling for free and you don't even have to be religious. It took me a long time to discover that, they don't anounce it in public (I stil don't understand why🤔) so maybe there is something like that also in your country. I recomend Jerry Wise (Family Tree Counseling) videos in any case, they helped me a lot
Thank you for this.. thank you for sharing your wisdom to help people.
Towards repair is key. As if we can find a finish line to it. Ive decided on somethings to accept them. Its saddening when I think of this concept in respects to family members. But when I see the love im given outside of my family Im relieved
I have an "I'm human" sense to my affirmations about my mental illness.
Current framework: My mind is open and aware enough too without question recognized that this world is chaotic and uncertain. These uncertainties attach to my fears because it is the root of those fears are bathed in my values, my love and my reasons for living. It is reasonable and human to want a promised future, but I cannot destroy my own mind and waste my time with wasteful habits to dismiss my fear. I dont have to drown in my fear to face it nor stay safe on the shore.
So so healing 💡
The view of humanity as intrinsically flawed ... is the basis of Christianity, even more than Zen Buddhism. It's the artistic interpretation, that we should approach perfection, that trips up Christianity. Gwen John seems to be more of what we should be aiming toward.
Well Christianity is not hip or cool as all the other religions and gurus ... So ya know gotta go with the cool stuff 😎
Im problably pushing this onto who ever sees this, Ill go on regardless. I see mental health struggle as winning and losing a battle, just not losing the war.
Where is Alain de Botton?
#BringBackAlainDeBotton
Who is alaindebotton
“We cannot change anything unless we accept it, condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses” -Carl Gustav Jung
Wow, this is really potent and timely. Thank you
The mentally healthy person is not the one who doesn't get ill. It is the one who gets ill but has the ability to deal with it and heal.
I like her voice. :)
Why i found this channel today really helpful channel 🔥👍
Beautiful video! Thank you
This!!! It spoke to my soul! Thank you!! 🥰
I was not expecting that they would include that madhouse at Zaragoza painting of Goya’s which is at the Meadows museum in Dallas, Texas and also one of my favorite paintings ever 💯
The video does make some decent points about accepting one's fate, yet offers little in the way of hope. Someone going through a serious bout of depression would probably feel more burdened by this video claiming that life is just wretched and there's nothing you can do about it - that's not really the case for most people who experience a modicum of good mental health.
I have bipolar, and it helps me more to have someone acknowledge the fuckedupness of life than lie and tell me everything will fall into place. I get what you're saying, but I'd rather acknowledge the elephant in the room before I go about navigating around it
It would be nice if mental health care was accessible
I wish there were as many open minded people as I wish there were
Thank you this arrived at the perfect time xo
Thank you, TSOL. I needed this in this current moment
Thanks,
Can our books will be in paperback version! because they are costly with hard Bound.Some are available with paperback version and they are affordable.
Emil Cioran was a French philosopher but his POV on life, mental illness and failure parallel the message of this video
I recognise I have problems but I don’t know how to deal with them. I’ve reached out to my doctor and local community mental health team who have largely ignored it.
I cannot even get a private consult because it has to be through a referral from my doctor.
I am at my wit’s end.
Try to keep yourself alive.
Each day is a victory in such a task
Just tell them you don’t want to live anymore, can’t live like this, something to that effect and you’ll get more “help” than you may want.
I accept life as it is and want it to change
Thanks for psychedelics to point me to work on the acceptance in my life 🙏🏾❤️
Ironically, modern Japan is the antithetical manifestation of the Zen ideals espoused in this video
In Christian we are also thought about this, Christ says that we should love others especially those unlovable. For me, that teaching was really complicated because I thought sinners should be avoided but we taught that no one knows what will really happen. I know there is some unlovable sides of us but if we accept and truly ask and tell ourselves that, "Am I doing good or bad? Who knows, it's too soon to say." It's like a form of acceptance that yes, I am having bad times but I accept it and who knows maybe this will lead me into something my soul is fated too. So don't lose hope everyone.
BEST!! VIDEO!!! YET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you! I needed this the most now
4:59.....
What happens when you can't find all the pieces?
Yes!! Is the bowl then useless? It can no longer hold liquid. It becomes an orchid pot? Merely decorative? Excellent question! Shattered pottery asking.
Thanks for creating this! Really helpful
Phenomenal work
I sincerely enjoyed this visual and overall message!
Positive thinking is the act of choosing ideas that empower you over those that limit you.
If you are reading I hope you succeed 🤍
The video is very useful.I hope the channel regularly has more interesting and useful videos.
Thanks