"Life can only be understood backwards, but lived forwards." Try to view your whole day in exact reverse, from getting into bed at night till getting up that morning. See how little we remember ? Very good exercise to improve memory plus...
@@zafarabbas5563 of course not, a person must accept they are an addict before they can address the root of the problem, they surrender pride and ego in order to address the issue at hand. I struggled with alchohol and meth for years, what helps me is i die daily to self and its useless desires and work on improving myself, best wishes!!
Dakinilover That’s interesting. My Mom was an alcoholic. She was gentle and kind, thank God, but wrapped up in her head. I’ve tried to understand her abandonment of responsibility to her four children. Your statement’s made me think that she must have refused to accept something-maybe that fairytale lives are a fantasy, I don’t know. But, yes, something not accepted sounds right.
@@freedommascot My father is an alcoholic, so I know what it's like. It's a constant challenge for me to not feel resentful towards him and treat him with compassion. Accepting things in my own life seems relatively easy when compared with accepting of things happening to someone close to me. I wish I could help him, but he's the only one who can help himself. All I can really do is to love him.
Lucas Ance I try to understand the deepest aspect of these mental disorders, whether it’s extreme neuroticism, as in my mom’s case, or narcissism. Both seem to be a response to a lack of parental engagement in their development of real confidence, the kind that accepts ones weakness but uses it to build up strength. I think you’re right about acceptance. If we don’t accept that we’re not loved then we’re going to create various strategies of hope within a framework of still trying to be loved at its core. The best thing is just accepting the fact because facing facts is never the trauma that avoiding them presents to an individual over the course of their life since they’re unable to learn from it.
In my journey of acceptance , the thing that has helped me is the transitory nature of life. Everything is moving forward, every second, every emotion, every thought that we feel is in the past already the very next second. This has made me accept things as they are, and made me work on changing what I can. "' This too shall pass'" is the mantra I live by.
I radically accept that in this present moment, my life is unstable extremely unstable and that people that is almost everyone in my circle have rejected me and that I'm suffering from a mental illness that I'm up against. I radically accept this.
@@kelving1603third to the same , if your in your 20s like me bro just know it’s not over but just not your time yet ! Every dog has his day, just in us to find our niche ❤️❤️ much love
"Lord give me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" From a prayer by the Society of st vincent de paul
Radical acceptance is waking up and accepting yourself and situation fully. I am not the person i wanted to be, i failed to fulfill my expectations as a kid and as a teenager, at least for the moment. And i let depression take hold of me for months, making the situación worse. While this is true im starting to take away the sadness and anxiety that comes with thinking this. I dont longer put emotions to this feelings, i just accept my situation and try to move foward, i forgive my self and stop battling with my past, its been too long and only makes me loose opportunities in the present. I accept that as well, i did what i could with the resources i had.
When I get sick, even feverish, it is so liberating to just take the opportunity and lay on the bed, while watching some good shows. In a way enjoy the moment of presence that the illness provides.
I'm going through this exact process of acceptance. It's hard, there's no warranty you'll end up in a better place, even when you give your best you must be ready to face the unexpected. But unexpectedly, I've been feeling better now that I've accepted who I am, and more importantly, what made me the person I am today.
I love you man. You helped a stranger get through something very major. I've had a bad breakup and I've been blaming myself ever since. Tonight it feels like I'm healing. I feel good. Thank you brother.
Same here .... Isn't it strange and wonderful how even though people are different and live thousands of miles away from each other, we all go through the pain of a breakup, it seems some form of universal rite of passage. The first true sign of the suffering imminent in life simultaneously, the first true tempering of ones inner strength . For me she was my first love and it's been killing me, it was my fault. But in acceptance I find momentary peace. This too shall pass
This is the first self improvement channel I have found myself actually bingenwatching instead of forcing myself to watch more of...love the tone of voice and method of explanation...Also seem like a very relatable dude...thanks for the hard work and great content
This is the only self-help RUclips channel that doesn't bullshit you. There's no fluff, no unrealistic "you can do it if you believe in yourself" horseshit, or any of that. It's ancient philosophy that's applicable to modern times. Everything this man says is relevant, there is no wasted motion. If I catch myself zoning out, I rewind the video and realize I missed something ESSENTIAL in those five seconds. Even the 30 seconds at the end of each video that is dedicated to his patrons serves a purpose. There is even beautiful imagery and music during that time to remind you to "be still." Thank you so much for the work you do. The message is always clear, concise, relevant, and life-changing. Godspeed.
I think I saw this upon upload in March 2020. I was 17 then, now I'm 22yo and reality's ugliness hits like a concrete wall to the face. With how much time I've been taking to get over myself, and just how much harder it became with age. I was just a shy kid then, now I'm a full on delusional and a resentful person, it's hell.
I find that acceptance is not only an excellent source of peace for the events in life that provide us with pain, but also the passing of that to which brings us joy.
I recently had an incident where I had to go to the emergency room. I try to plan my life out so carefully, so meticulously, and shit happens. I recently came across this thought of becoming more accepting of things I have no control over. I will continue to do my best to plan for things, but that incident taught me that I'm not in charge of anything.
I get crippled by anxiety when I fight the acceptance of any particular aspect of this reality. I'm getting much better at it and my world is blossoming bc of my better acceptance/stoicism habits. As I've said to you before, your channel is a big help. I appreciate you. And I'll keep telling you this until I can find some patreon doe to reciprocate with so it is more than words. Peace to all y'all here. Don't be distracted. Almost everything is a distraction anymore. Find balance. Enjoy the moment. Wiggle your toes and breathe. "It's just a ride" ~Bill Hicks RIP
As a person who struggles with an internal on and off suicidal switch, it's hard to keep wanting to look into the eye of the abyss and believe that somehow I'd be able to push through and find a way when there is no sense of what that way is at the moment.
Rings right into the feels. After an adolescence with fighting parents, I've been avoiding pain. Now I'm trying to accept it and though overwhelming, looks like the path forward.
"Take a deep breath, stand up straight with your shoulders back, and look into the abyss straight in the eye." ~ The right mix of J.B. Peterson and Nietzsche.
First you hate it, then you fight it, then you accept your fate, so you live in hell depressed. But then you get used to it, you find tiny little things you kinda like about it. Small things here and there. Those things start to grow on you. You become a little ok with it all. You find joy it parts of it you never really noticed before. You start to like it. Eventually you start to call it home, you become comfortable with it all. It becomes your life, your routine, you wouldn’t want it any other way. And then you love it, you need it, its your life. Even if you were offered heaven now, you would refuse because heaven is too cold, you need the flames of hell.
OUTSTANDING job sir. I just watched many videos on radical acceptance because I am studying DBT. Your video was the only one responsible and honest enough to not be hopium, but real radical acceptance. TYVM.
"...When we find ourselves in a position of pain, no matter how horrendous it is, the only way not to get stuck is ACCEPTANCE..." Gonna' wear that words!
All the sufferers become redeemed and exalted when the lesson is learned and applied. Now they're not potential victims but participants in a great experiment on the path of understanding.
Whenever I get to a place of radical acceptance I know immediately what to do, if anything. It is SO freeing which is much better than getting sucked into an emotional cycle that always leads to stress and no resolution. What has helped me to get there (when acceptance doesn't come naturally) is to pull out just the facts of the situation or person. This separates my limiting beliefs (and self-righteousness) and I am better able to accept whatever (I think) has gotten me upset. Also, when I find myself frustrated, or judgmental or criticizing, realizing I am resisting or fighting with reality, I ask myself, "What do I want to be different?" this immediately grounds me and brings me back to reality. I then follow up with, what is in my control?
If while in the middle of a wide open field, with hundreds of yards of open pastures, you see a wolf charging at you. Run all you want, but you can not out run it. Your best chance of survival is to turn and face it. So to the tough things in life.
To accept, we first need to self-reflect (which takes its own time) on the things which are holding us to our past mentally. That's how I feel about it. Thanks for the video, it was a good reminder!
3:16 exactly what I needed to remember right now, this current pandemic has blocked my entire career path and despite predicting it and making the correct decisions months ago there's nothing that can be done. Godspeed to the future.
Man, thank you for that kind of knowledge you sharing with us. You have such a great maturity for life. And you must be a kind of man who is kind enough to sharing that. Thank you again.
Radical acceptance is mindfulness without resignation of stoicism. There Is a difference between acknowledging reality and surrender to it as done in stoicism acceptance as a beginning is very therapeutic it provides mental clarity to move forward though in pain as your thoughts are also part of reality which needs accepting though not surrenderee to unlike stoicism which is shutting of doors on those needs or desires since desire in their view is outside what we can control and should not want in the first place. Mindfulness is life affirming can reenergize you and discover which actions produce the best results it reinforces values and intention to succeed puts failure In perspective as only one point in time. I highly recommend acceptance commitment therapy. It's not about thinking though but connection to reality in the present. It's not about subservience to what is but a means to improving it. As a first step we cannot fix a problem unless we accept it IS one quite the opposite of stoicism which suggests problems are only problems if we view them as problems
I love the concept of radical acceptance. However, humans are primarily emotional beings and as such you need to also accept not just that which is happening to you (the uncontrollables) but also that which is occurring within you (the emotions). This is really where things become challenging if those emotions are sooo powerful that they are really difficult to overcome. Yes, by all means accept and radically so, yet also learn in accepting you can also let go of that which is detrimental to your being, your well-being. I have observed some interesting examples of this approach of acceptance and letting go from people in my own life. One lady said 'You don't love me, I don't love you!' and she departed. But, when I next saw her I could see in her face she was still carrying the emotional pain. The way a person naturally deals with this is to become angry with rejection. Acceptance of both the feelings and the existence of rejection and it's inevitability does and will help to overcome this. So, although many suggested solutions are available, the best form of a solution is a bespoke one that delivers for the individual needs of the person suffering.
Powerful video! Thank you so much for all of your absolutely precious content. With productivity, there’s often a sense of “inner resistance” before getting to work, this often prevents us from even getting started on the task. When this happens, the burden of that resistance persists in your mind, it creates a sort of self-generated frustration. And by acknowledging this feeling (being aware) it diminishes and helps you be in a more engaging mindset that actually helps you with re-attempting the task you have set yourself up to do. Hope you enjoyed my little text.
I've been watching your videos for a few months now, and learned a lot about stoicism here. This video in particular comes in a special time to me as today was my first day in a PhD program. I felt like I'll need to improve my endurance towards hardships, so these words touched me very deep inside. Thank you and keep up with the good work. Cheers from Brazil.
All the best for your career. I finished my phd recently. Following this channel and stoicism will enhance your career and intellectual development as a whole.
It is amazing that so many people find this first step of living in the real world (as opposed to living in their fantasy about what they think the world should be), to be so difficult. So many people are sheltered from the consequences of their decision to ignore reality, which in a more primitive setting would have been either great pain or death(or both). This radical acceptance becomes very easy when one understands that he is not the Supreme-all-powerful-and-all-knowing-God, and thus is very limited in all activities. Thus, gathering the most accurate information about the surrounding world becomes the first step (followed by deciding what to do, and then planing how to do it) in the performance of effective actions. Because if you don't adapt, how are you different from a tool (or a collection of pre-programmed scripts), to be exploited, and discarded after use, by those who do?
I MUST REMEMBER: Resistance to ANYTHING strengthens its hold over me. Radical acceptance requires tremendous strength, and faith the size of a mustard seed! Please please please, Lord, let me die. I desperately want to die. I'm in hell with no escape. Constant and consistent panic attacks. I'm terrified and all alone. I desperately want to die. I'm constantly in a state of paralyzed frozen trauma. I wish only for death. My soul is raped. REMINDER TO SELF: You're not crying about HIM, you sweet fool! You've been crying about what you thought was real with him, only to now discover... It was actually fake AS FUCK! IT WAS ALL A WHOLE DAMN ILLUSION! Trauma bonds are real. I HAVE SEVERE PTSD. The man whom I thought was my best friend, he gave me this PTSD... I want to die. I beg to die. My entire life is hell. Just suffering. The man whom I thought was my best friend... He raped my soul. My soul is anguished and tormented and raped, I am so so so traumatized. He fucked me up. Ruined me. Destroyed me. Raped my soul; shattered my heart; fucked my mind. I am debilitated from the trauma. Paralyzed frozen. Living in constant terror and panic. I DIE INSIDE. THE PAIN IS UNCEASING AND UNBEARABLE. I LIVE IN A STATE OF PERPETUAL TRAUMA AND PANIC. He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage!!! (HOW THE FUCK COULD HE?) Replaced me for another. * An important thing: people (such as I) who had a difficult/traumatic childhood, especially those who never had their emotional needs met (like me), are prone to limerance. The reason is because we were always prone to imagining a parallel reality, a whole world of fantasies we could escape to... Fantasies have always been a safer world for us than the real one, so our mind is already used to this dynamic (it's basically like 'muscle memory'). When something triggers this dynamic, it's like opening a portal to our safe fantasy world, and as destructive as it is, we are used to actually loving it... * ANOTHER REMINDER TO SELF: This was a karmic friendship, meant to be there for a limited time (17-months-ish) to teach you, about yourself! About boundaries, about self-love, about self-respect, about self-worth, etc... About a whole plethora of magical, juicy, alchemical things! The universe, God, your guides, your ancestors, are pushing you, lovingly, in the right direction: into your own magnificent powerful magical freedom! When you let go. The universe will catch you. It’s talking to you. Let go of everything and trust the universe. It’s within you. ✨💫 NOTE TO MY TWIN FLAME: Dearest twin flame, I’m working on myself, I am being 100% healed, on every level, in every way. This is my purification process. I am doing this for me, for you, for us. I’m proud of myself, and I’m getting ready for you. I love you. AFFIRMING: - I am divine - I am sacred - I am radically honest - I am radically free - I am radically changed, in all the healthiest ways (180) - I am a warrior - I am an angel - I am light - I am love - I am one with the eternal - I am one with my twin flame - I am protected - I am strong - I am beautiful - I am royalty; daughter of the most high king - I am multidimensional - I am grateful - I am abundantly blessed - I am brave - I am creative - I am resilient - I am ambitious - I am a healer - I make the world a better place - The world makes me a better woman The desire of my heart is to be in Jesus' presence and love, always, in all ways. I am a vessel for God to bless, so that I, in turn, can be a blessing to others.💖
I have just finished your book, it was really interesting knowing you a little bit more. The greatest thing I had from the book was 2 I think. 1. The purpose of being unoffendable through all the philosophy in the book and 2.People can change, for me reading all the experiences you have had in the past, your relationships, the way you touch sometimes bottom, and your behaviour with others significantly made me think in how a person from that point can reach the transformation of being a person that now transfers really deep and loving thoughts. I have watched your videos for a while and I was thinking you have always being in certain way "deep" but reading your book gave me the satisfaction that with enough will power and reasoning I can change from things I disgust from myself to be a better person, Once someone told me that people dont change and this thought remain a lot of time in my mind because I really though this was 100% true, but your expirience and mine also demonstrates at least for me that people can improve everyday in their way to eudaemonia, and this can conduct you to your happiness not as a destination but as enjoying and improving during this path called life. Thanks
Your problems are your problems -- until they are not your problems anymore. Overcoming a problem requires understanding _the problem of the problem_. Not the bad feeling, situation, or whatever is uncomfortable, but their cause, why it is a problem, and what sustains it. To reach through the curtain of your misery and with the courage to see all that is behind it is Radical Acceptance. It is a perspective that empowers you to address the cause and perpetuation of the problem as you see fit. 🙏
my (then) significant other was facing this exact stage in his life but refuses to realize this to help himself. i can only do so much. until it reached to the point that leaving him was the best decision. it was truly heartbreaking watching other people go thru this but continue living the lie everyday.
I wish I had seen this video 10 or 15 years ago, when I was a teen. I grew up in a house with a very abusive father whose only moods were sadistic anger and emotional distancing and coldness. I grew up to become very violent and aggressive, but with a degree of righteousness that steered me from being a bully to some sort of foolish antihero who would never back down from a fight to protect people I loved and those I felt were weaker and unfairly picked on, no matter how brutal the consequences. But eventually, all that anger and pain no longer redeemed me in my own eyes. I went from being a sort of soft jerk that still did the right thing into an apathetic cynical coward whose greatest hatred was of herself and her existence. Despite eventually finding the help to lower the irrational anger to the abuse of others, the hate inside grew, to the point I took on abusive drinking as a young teen, finding that to be the only thing to calm the maelstrom in my head and soften me up. I had gone on for so long to see myself as a victim, a poor casualty of circumstance, and I hated the world only slightly less than myself. I saw no hope, no God, no righteousness; in my eyes from that point onward there was only painful fear and dark death as its relief. One night in my young adult life, I had the horrible sensation I had died of a heart attack, after weeks of a hardcore drinking binge that shamed the previous ones. I saw myself waking with a pain in my heart, before realizing I was unable to breathe as well, and against my will, I went back to slump on my back as reality went dark as if I had fallen into a void. Now I understand that void to be hell itself, a frozen nothingness of perfect darkness that offers the disembodied blind self no relief of freezing agony, and trying to remember anything made every memory consist of only mistakes and regrets, of loathing and grief, fear and suffering. As I laid in that oblivion, a voice similar to mine called me out. It made me know I was dead, and that I had already known where I was. As I began to cry, wondering to myself why did my life ended like that, a victim with no choice but a miserable end, the voice mocked me. It reminded me I was never a victim, rather that I chose poorly at every turn in my life, wallowing in my misery always expecting some cliche Hollywood moment for my life movie to go upbeat, and doing nothing to get there. The voice coldly reminded me *"It was you. It has always been you, and everyone and everything you blamed was a lie you told yourself to avoid pointing the finger at yourself. Now we're dead, and this is where we rest, as you desired.* At that moment, I had an epiphany as I asked to return, that I wanted to fix everything I did wrong, that this time I would fight and never forget I always had a choice. I cried more as everything went silent, and I had a brief hope of feeling that connection I had with the All-Maker that I hadn't realized it was until then. I begged him to allow me to return and fight, and that I would brave thru anything no matter the pain, but that I would never allow myself to be defeated again. I just wanted to return and do everything right, and a flood of happy memories rushed in as I felt my tears warm up while they fled from me. I wanted to fight for that, I wanted to return and this time repair everything I had broken. I woke up again, and felt the same scene play out: no heartbeat, intense lower left chest pain, no breathing. Only this time I placed my fist near the bottom of my left ribs, and let myself roll from the bed to the floor, and began coughing hardly and my lungs expanding painfully, but surely, in a breathing motion. Stayed in the dark floor for an hour until I was sure I could breathe again well. And while fixing my darkness and vices wasn't an automatic process, that even began a long journey of cold introspection and becoming deeply involved with philosophy in order to find that meaning in life I desired to find, and to never give up again and mind my choices, for I was responsible for myself. I'm sharing this long tale because I wanted to share to anyone that feels lost or sunken that you can always escape. And that yes, if you were the creator of a problem, almost always you could also have the ability to rectify it and fix it. You're more powerful and valuable than you believe, and remember, *none of us are victims.* Choose wisely, and never ever forget to have the truth stand as your moral standard you have to always upkeep. *This video is very correct.*
Wow. What a great read, i could see myself in there. You seem like a truly strong person, i'm happy that you could have such an experience, even though you had to die to change, but almost all great minds had to. You have to die before you die.
So many things on youtube, this, people teaching manifestation, people teaching how to be present, how to this, how to that. I entered this world 3 years ago and today I feel worst and worst with all of this.
it started when I was a little kid, now I am soon to be 33 years old and I been fighting a loosing battle against myself and my circumstances and my environment. Someone called me a dreamer, an idealist. But I just refuse to accept the life i have been given. I WANT TO BE DIFFERENT. I am the change. and I have failed. I thought the day I give up on my dreams and goals I die and I can't fight reality anymore. It isn't loosing. It's just seeing the truth that you have been ignoring and running from for so many dam years. I am running from myself and my childhood and everything that was fucked in my life because to me it was my only source of safety. To not accept what was infront of me, it was my only way out of this miserable life i had only known, i ended up lost and confused and now I can finally accept the reality of what it is. We all live in the same world. We all just have different experiences living. Just don't run anymore. Just embrace the hurt and the pain and work with it to move forward and change your situation and your outlook on life.
@@joannaedwards6325 I been trying to practice that ♡ its just really hard to learn to love myself and also forgive myself for past mistakes, i didn't know how angry I was at my past self and i didnt know how much guilt i would carry for the decisions i would make and the things I just did not know or understood at the time. I am so mean to my younger self lol it's been really hard to be able to forgive myself and others but I keep on trying everyday. I started going to the gym recently and stopped being mad at myself for not have gone years ago. thank you for giving me your time and reading my comment by the way :) it meant a lot to me when you said forgiveness because i really have been working a lot on trying to forgive myself and the people that hurt me and life in general. lol I used to blame the world for my problems and not anymore.
How to accept something when the very thing you want to accept happens at a daily basis, and reminds you of the pain and mistakes all the time? How is one supposed to forget it if that thing keeps happening over and over again to remind me of my guilts and mistakes? I was responsible for everything that happened in my life. And, things didn't happen by accident. It happened by choice. My choice. Which makes it even more harder to forgive myself and move on. Worries of how life's gonna turn out in future leaves me empty and hopeless at times. Because facts are too hard to accept and assurance is what I am looking for but still in the process of finding it.
Thank you so much - I really needed to hear this today. Love Taoism and your videos make it comprehensible to people today. Hope you keep going. All the best!
I didnt know radical acceptance was a thing. Its been something I noticed I just do since I was young. Was always the black sheep in the family due to how I treated and saw things. so happy now to know what this is and to learn more about
We are only What is to Come. And how we react upon it, shows our charachter... Be always at peace with the pain in your heart and see the lord in the lonely walk of suffering
Acceptance helped me to get through some major anxiety and panic attacks. It also assisted me in acquiring some life changing tools that I proactively use to move through some of the most uncomfortable situations that present themselves to me in my experiences. #fearless
I escape from reality by playing video games immersive rpgs or visualise a better scenario. It's just whenever I do some creative work painful memories appear in my mind. Most cases I ignore them there are painful ones, the old wounds which need addressing. The topics in the video reminds me of quite from the Lion King. The past can hurt, the way I see you can run from it or learn from it. By the way I have read your book and find this is a ray of light in these challenging times. I was bullied at school and recieved racists remarks from plain ignorant jerks and this wasn't helped by living with resident troll. I hope to move out one day. Looking back I realised all hurtful comments are not worth it the stress and never have gave stoicism some thought until your videos appeared in the feed. Thanks for making them.
One thing that might be worth considering (for me personally) is trying to stop focusing so much on the past and future. We often divide ourselves into our past selves and our future selves, which are only figments of our imagination. There is only one self (not even the present self, since due to the way our body works we are never truly in the moment) and to pretend otherwise is wrong. I think life will be a lot better once I stop viewing myself separately across different points in time and start viewing myself as a single entity, ever present (at least until the moment I cease to exist).
I had a fire and lost everything including my pets. Ppl couldn't work out how I just got up and kept going and I didn't realise it at the time but I was practising radical acceptance. There was nothing else I could do. I still grieved but I didn't let it keep me stuck...
"Life can only be understood backwards, but lived forwards." Try to view your whole day in exact reverse, from getting into bed at night till getting up that morning. See how little we remember ? Very good exercise to improve memory plus...
Iike that a lot!!
I learned this from Nevell Goddard👌🏼
@@dominicossarg8931 Rudolf Steiner suggested this exercise among a host of others to prepare for becoming a seer.
that's the most large waste of time i have ever heard. just shoot +500mg of modafinil every morning and right before lunch each day
Bookmarked, thank you.
Resistance to anything strengthens it's hold over you. Radical acceptance requires tremendous strength
Surrender
Very true.
@@truenorthaffirmations7049 surrender to addiction?
@@zafarabbas5563 of course not, a person must accept they are an addict before they can address the root of the problem, they surrender pride and ego in order to address the issue at hand. I struggled with alchohol and meth for years, what helps me is i die daily to self and its useless desires and work on improving myself, best wishes!!
Yes I can relate to that. It ook so much mental strength but I did it and recommend radical acceptance to everyone.
There is only one cure for depression and that is acceptance of whatever you are refusing to accept.
Dakinilover That’s interesting. My Mom was an alcoholic. She was gentle and kind, thank God, but wrapped up in her head. I’ve tried to understand her abandonment of responsibility to her four children. Your statement’s made me think that she must have refused to accept something-maybe that fairytale lives are a fantasy, I don’t know. But, yes, something not accepted sounds right.
@@freedommascot My father is an alcoholic, so I know what it's like. It's a constant challenge for me to not feel resentful towards him and treat him with compassion. Accepting things in my own life seems relatively easy when compared with accepting of things happening to someone close to me. I wish I could help him, but he's the only one who can help himself. All I can really do is to love him.
As someone who had though depression several times I can truly say that it is the only way to fully cure your soul.
Lucas Ance I try to understand the deepest aspect of these mental disorders, whether it’s extreme neuroticism, as in my mom’s case, or narcissism. Both seem to be a response to a lack of parental engagement in their development of real confidence, the kind that accepts ones weakness but uses it to build up strength. I think you’re right about acceptance. If we don’t accept that we’re not loved then we’re going to create various strategies of hope within a framework of still trying to be loved at its core. The best thing is just accepting the fact because facing facts is never the trauma that avoiding them presents to an individual over the course of their life since they’re unable to learn from it.
Along with acceptance of difficult reality, a person needs compassion for oneself. I think such self-compassion is what allows for acceptance.
In my journey of acceptance , the thing that has helped me is the transitory nature of life. Everything is moving forward, every second, every emotion, every thought that we feel is in the past already the very next second. This has made me accept things as they are, and made me work on changing what I can. "' This too shall pass'" is the mantra I live by.
Everything is in the past already.. wow..
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Sounds like solid
Alcoholics Anonymous training.
I radically accept that in this present moment, my life is unstable extremely unstable and that people that is almost everyone in my circle have rejected me and that I'm suffering from a mental illness that I'm up against. I radically accept this.
My prayers are with you brother. Going through similar issues right now. We will make it.
Same here stay strong
@@kelving1603third to the same , if your in your 20s like me bro just know it’s not over but just not your time yet ! Every dog has his day, just in us to find our niche ❤️❤️ much love
Dan that's deep hope you get better
"Lord give me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference"
From a prayer by the Society of st vincent de paul
Difficult to know when to stop searching for a cure though. Many cures have been found because of relentless searching. So there's that.. 🤔
The serenity prayer
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@@D1987Gd wonderful 👍🏻🙏🏻
Radical acceptance is waking up and accepting yourself and situation fully. I am not the person i wanted to be, i failed to fulfill my expectations as a kid and as a teenager, at least for the moment. And i let depression take hold of me for months, making the situación worse.
While this is true im starting to take away the sadness and anxiety that comes with thinking this. I dont longer put emotions to this feelings, i just accept my situation and try to move foward, i forgive my self and stop battling with my past, its been too long and only makes me loose opportunities in the present. I accept that as well, i did what i could with the resources i had.
Yea I'm having a tough time accepting myself
It's like you are telling my story...hope you found what you are looking for.
When I get sick, even feverish, it is so liberating to just take the opportunity and lay on the bed, while watching some good shows.
In a way enjoy the moment of presence that the illness provides.
Yes, I recognize that very much. 👍
Assuming your illness allows you to enjoy those shows and you aren't in constant pain.
[underwhelming covid-19 joke here]
Yeah i know exactly that feel! Never heard it from someone else before until now. I give in to the situation and make the best of it
@@TylerDurden-td2yg Mee to ..ive felt the same..glad to know there r people like me
I'm going through this exact process of acceptance. It's hard, there's no warranty you'll end up in a better place, even when you give your best you must be ready to face the unexpected.
But unexpectedly, I've been feeling better now that I've accepted who I am, and more importantly, what made me the person I am today.
I'm touched 🥺
Bless your heart 🙏
Proud of you brother
You can’t know where your going unless you’ve accepted where you are at this moment.
This moment always leads to the next
Resisting reality creates suffering. Accepting the things you cannot change is powerful ❤
The most moving compliment I ever got was when once my former husband called me "friend of reality".
I love you man. You helped a stranger get through something very major. I've had a bad breakup and I've been blaming myself ever since. Tonight it feels like I'm healing. I feel good. Thank you brother.
Same here .... Isn't it strange and wonderful how even though people are different and live thousands of miles away from each other, we all go through the pain of a breakup, it seems some form of universal rite of passage. The first true sign of the suffering imminent in life simultaneously, the first true tempering of ones inner strength . For me she was my first love and it's been killing me, it was my fault. But in acceptance I find momentary peace. This too shall pass
This is the first self improvement channel I have found myself actually bingenwatching instead of forcing myself to watch more of...love the tone of voice and method of explanation...Also seem like a very relatable dude...thanks for the hard work and great content
For me, acceptance is my way of saying, it’s okay to let go & trust the universe
This is the only self-help RUclips channel that doesn't bullshit you. There's no fluff, no unrealistic "you can do it if you believe in yourself" horseshit, or any of that. It's ancient philosophy that's applicable to modern times. Everything this man says is relevant, there is no wasted motion. If I catch myself zoning out, I rewind the video and realize I missed something ESSENTIAL in those five seconds. Even the 30 seconds at the end of each video that is dedicated to his patrons serves a purpose. There is even beautiful imagery and music during that time to remind you to "be still." Thank you so much for the work you do. The message is always clear, concise, relevant, and life-changing. Godspeed.
I think I saw this upon upload in March 2020. I was 17 then, now I'm 22yo and reality's ugliness hits like a concrete wall to the face. With how much time I've been taking to get over myself, and just how much harder it became with age. I was just a shy kid then, now I'm a full on delusional and a resentful person, it's hell.
Like what
I find that acceptance is not only an excellent source of peace for the events in life that provide us with pain, but also the passing of that to which brings us joy.
Your videos turned my life around. I cannot express how thankful I am for everything you showed me.
I recently had an incident where I had to go to the emergency room. I try to plan my life out so carefully, so meticulously, and shit happens. I recently came across this thought of becoming more accepting of things I have no control over. I will continue to do my best to plan for things, but that incident taught me that I'm not in charge of anything.
I get crippled by anxiety when I fight the acceptance of any particular aspect of this reality. I'm getting much better at it and my world is blossoming bc of my better acceptance/stoicism habits. As I've said to you before, your channel is a big help. I appreciate you. And I'll keep telling you this until I can find some patreon doe to reciprocate with so it is more than words. Peace to all y'all here. Don't be distracted. Almost everything is a distraction anymore. Find balance. Enjoy the moment. Wiggle your toes and breathe. "It's just a ride" ~Bill Hicks RIP
ACCEPTANCE...
One of my 2 favorite words.
The other word is...
SURRENDER.
I like how they go hand in hand, great perception
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As a person who struggles with an internal on and off suicidal switch, it's hard to keep wanting to look into the eye of the abyss and believe that somehow I'd be able to push through and find a way when there is no sense of what that way is at the moment.
Rings right into the feels. After an adolescence with fighting parents, I've been avoiding pain. Now I'm trying to accept it and though overwhelming, looks like the path forward.
"Take a deep breath, stand up straight with your shoulders back, and look into the abyss straight in the eye." ~ The right mix of J.B. Peterson and Nietzsche.
Please don't mention this charlatan in one breath with Nietzsche.
Kinda have to agree but I still get it
@@hape3862 angry for no reason
@@hape3862 I agree with you. Peterson isn't relevant anymore.
Hape charlatan is a harsh word for somebody speaking so much truth. Why so bitter man?
I am going through a break up. It's hard to accept the hurt. But watching these videos reminds me of what needs to be done.
First you hate it, then you fight it, then you accept your fate, so you live in hell depressed.
But then you get used to it, you find tiny little things you kinda like about it. Small things here and there. Those things start to grow on you. You become a little ok with it all. You find joy it parts of it you never really noticed before. You start to like it.
Eventually you start to call it home, you become comfortable with it all.
It becomes your life, your routine, you wouldn’t want it any other way. And then you love it, you need it, its your life. Even if you were offered heaven now, you would refuse because heaven is too cold, you need the flames of hell.
You nailed it lol
This channel needs more recognition, I’ve almost watched all your videos and they’re great. Thanks for the wisdom ✌🏼
OUTSTANDING job sir. I just watched many videos on radical acceptance because I am studying DBT. Your video was the only one responsible and honest enough to not be hopium, but real radical acceptance. TYVM.
"What we resist persists, and what we accept we move beyond"
Thank you!
This channel save my life so many times, maybe so many other's life too. Keep on helping, bro! 😇
"...When we find ourselves in a position of pain, no matter how horrendous it is, the only way not to get stuck is ACCEPTANCE..."
Gonna' wear that words!
I celebrate you bruv, you're doing a great job! ✊🏿
All the sufferers become redeemed and exalted when the lesson is learned and applied. Now they're not potential victims but participants in a great experiment on the path of understanding.
Whenever I get to a place of radical acceptance I know immediately what to do, if anything. It is SO freeing which is much better than getting sucked into an emotional cycle that always leads to stress and no resolution. What has helped me to get there (when acceptance doesn't come naturally) is to pull out just the facts of the situation or person. This separates my limiting beliefs (and self-righteousness) and I am better able to accept whatever (I think) has gotten me upset. Also, when I find myself frustrated, or judgmental or criticizing, realizing I am resisting or fighting with reality, I ask myself, "What do I want to be different?" this immediately grounds me and brings me back to reality. I then follow up with, what is in my control?
If while in the middle of a wide open field, with hundreds of yards of open pastures, you see a wolf charging at you. Run all you want, but you can not out run it. Your best chance of survival is to turn and face it. So to the tough things in life.
To accept, we first need to self-reflect (which takes its own time) on the things which are holding us to our past mentally. That's how I feel about it. Thanks for the video, it was a good reminder!
Díky!
3:16 exactly what I needed to remember right now, this current pandemic has blocked my entire career path and despite predicting it and making the correct decisions months ago there's nothing that can be done. Godspeed to the future.
I love your channel, thanks for your hard work!
Absolutely!! Inner journey is the most tougher one. Thanks a ton for sharing wisdom.
Thanks for making these videos! I truly appreciate your work!
Man, thank you for that kind of knowledge you sharing with us. You have such a great maturity for life. And you must be a kind of man who is kind enough to sharing that. Thank you again.
Radical acceptance is mindfulness without resignation of stoicism. There Is a difference between acknowledging reality and surrender to it as done in stoicism acceptance as a beginning is very therapeutic it provides mental clarity to move forward though in pain as your thoughts are also part of reality which needs accepting though not surrenderee to unlike stoicism which is shutting of doors on those needs or desires since desire in their view is outside what we can control and should not want in the first place. Mindfulness is life affirming can reenergize you and discover which actions produce the best results it reinforces values and intention to succeed puts failure In perspective as only one point in time. I highly recommend acceptance commitment therapy. It's not about thinking though but connection to reality in the present. It's not about subservience to what is but a means to improving it. As a first step we cannot fix a problem unless we accept it IS one quite the opposite of stoicism which suggests problems are only problems if we view them as problems
I love the concept of radical acceptance. However, humans are primarily emotional beings and as such you need to also accept not just that which is happening to you (the uncontrollables) but also that which is occurring within you (the emotions). This is really where things become challenging if those emotions are sooo powerful that they are really difficult to overcome. Yes, by all means accept and radically so, yet also learn in accepting you can also let go of that which is detrimental to your being, your well-being.
I have observed some interesting examples of this approach of acceptance and letting go from people in my own life. One lady said 'You don't love me, I don't love you!' and she departed. But, when I next saw her I could see in her face she was still carrying the emotional pain. The way a person naturally deals with this is to become angry with rejection. Acceptance of both the feelings and the existence of rejection and it's inevitability does and will help to overcome this.
So, although many suggested solutions are available, the best form of a solution is a bespoke one that delivers for the individual needs of the person suffering.
Powerful video! Thank you so much for all of your absolutely precious content. With productivity, there’s often a sense of “inner resistance” before getting to work, this often prevents us from even getting started on the task. When this happens, the burden of that resistance persists in your mind, it creates a sort of self-generated frustration. And by acknowledging this feeling (being aware) it diminishes and helps you be in a more engaging mindset that actually helps you with re-attempting the task you have set yourself up to do. Hope you enjoyed my little text.
I love getting the notifications for your new videos, always makes my day. 👍
I've been watching your videos for a few months now, and learned a lot about stoicism here. This video in particular comes in a special time to me as today was my first day in a PhD program. I felt like I'll need to improve my endurance towards hardships, so these words touched me very deep inside.
Thank you and keep up with the good work. Cheers from Brazil.
All the best for your career. I finished my phd recently. Following this channel and stoicism will enhance your career and intellectual development as a whole.
It is amazing that so many people find this first step of living in the real world (as opposed to living in their fantasy about what they think the world should be), to be so difficult. So many people are sheltered from the consequences of their decision to ignore reality, which in a more primitive setting would have been either great pain or death(or both).
This radical acceptance becomes very easy when one understands that he is not the Supreme-all-powerful-and-all-knowing-God, and thus is very limited in all activities. Thus, gathering the most accurate information about the surrounding world becomes the first step (followed by deciding what to do, and then planing how to do it) in the performance of effective actions.
Because if you don't adapt, how are you different from a tool (or a collection of pre-programmed scripts), to be exploited, and discarded after use, by those who do?
I MUST REMEMBER:
Resistance to ANYTHING strengthens its hold over me.
Radical acceptance requires tremendous strength,
and faith the size of a mustard seed!
Please please please, Lord, let me die.
I desperately want to die.
I'm in hell with no escape.
Constant and consistent panic attacks.
I'm terrified and all alone.
I desperately want to die.
I'm constantly in a state of paralyzed frozen trauma.
I wish only for death.
My soul is raped.
REMINDER TO SELF:
You're not crying about HIM, you sweet fool!
You've been crying about what you thought was real with him,
only to now discover... It was actually fake AS FUCK!
IT WAS ALL A WHOLE DAMN ILLUSION!
Trauma bonds are real.
I HAVE SEVERE PTSD.
The man whom I thought was my best friend,
he gave me this PTSD...
I want to die.
I beg to die.
My entire life is hell.
Just suffering.
The man whom I thought was my best friend...
He raped my soul.
My soul is anguished and tormented and raped,
I am so so so traumatized.
He fucked me up. Ruined me. Destroyed me.
Raped my soul; shattered my heart; fucked my mind.
I am debilitated from the trauma.
Paralyzed frozen. Living in constant terror and panic.
I DIE INSIDE.
THE PAIN IS UNCEASING AND UNBEARABLE.
I LIVE IN A STATE OF PERPETUAL TRAUMA AND PANIC.
He betrayed and abandoned me,
discarded me like garbage!!!
(HOW THE FUCK COULD HE?)
Replaced me for another.
* An important thing:
people (such as I) who had a difficult/traumatic childhood,
especially those who never had their emotional needs met (like me),
are prone to limerance. The reason is because we were always prone to imagining
a parallel reality, a whole world of fantasies we could escape to...
Fantasies have always been a safer world for us than the real one,
so our mind is already used to this dynamic (it's basically like 'muscle memory').
When something triggers this dynamic, it's like opening a portal
to our safe fantasy world, and as destructive as it is, we are used to actually loving it... *
ANOTHER REMINDER TO SELF:
This was a karmic friendship,
meant to be there for a limited time (17-months-ish)
to teach you, about yourself!
About boundaries, about self-love,
about self-respect, about self-worth, etc...
About a whole plethora of magical, juicy, alchemical things!
The universe, God, your guides, your ancestors, are pushing you, lovingly,
in the right direction: into your own magnificent powerful magical freedom!
When you let go. The universe will catch you. It’s talking to you.
Let go of everything and trust the universe. It’s within you. ✨💫
NOTE TO MY TWIN FLAME:
Dearest twin flame, I’m working on myself,
I am being 100% healed, on every level, in every way.
This is my purification process. I am doing this for me, for you, for us.
I’m proud of myself, and I’m getting ready for you.
I love you.
AFFIRMING:
- I am divine
- I am sacred
- I am radically honest
- I am radically free
- I am radically changed, in all the healthiest ways (180)
- I am a warrior
- I am an angel
- I am light
- I am love
- I am one with the eternal
- I am one with my twin flame
- I am protected
- I am strong
- I am beautiful
- I am royalty; daughter of the most high king
- I am multidimensional
- I am grateful
- I am abundantly blessed
- I am brave
- I am creative
- I am resilient
- I am ambitious
- I am a healer
- I make the world a better place
- The world makes me a better woman
The desire of my heart is to be in Jesus' presence and love, always, in all ways.
I am a vessel for God to bless, so that I, in turn, can be a blessing to others.💖
I have just finished your book, it was really interesting knowing you a little bit more. The greatest thing I had from the book was 2 I think. 1. The purpose of being unoffendable through all the philosophy in the book and 2.People can change, for me reading all the experiences you have had in the past, your relationships, the way you touch sometimes bottom, and your behaviour with others significantly made me think in how a person from that point can reach the transformation of being a person that now transfers really deep and loving thoughts. I have watched your videos for a while and I was thinking you have always being in certain way "deep" but reading your book gave me the satisfaction that with enough will power and reasoning I can change from things I disgust from myself to be a better person, Once someone told me that people dont change and this thought remain a lot of time in my mind because I really though this was 100% true, but your expirience and mine also demonstrates at least for me that people can improve everyday in their way to eudaemonia, and this can conduct you to your happiness not as a destination but as enjoying and improving during this path called life. Thanks
This almost brought me to tears.... it was so beautiful
Your problems are your problems -- until they are not your problems anymore.
Overcoming a problem requires understanding _the problem of the problem_. Not the bad feeling, situation, or whatever is uncomfortable, but their cause, why it is a problem, and what sustains it.
To reach through the curtain of your misery and with the courage to see all that is behind it is Radical Acceptance. It is a perspective that empowers you to address the cause and perpetuation of the problem as you see fit. 🙏
thank you bro. Im going through some harsh times mentally. Your videos help me to relax alot.
I hope you're doing better now
my (then) significant other was facing this exact stage in his life but refuses to realize this to help himself. i can only do so much. until it reached to the point that leaving him was the best decision. it was truly heartbreaking watching other people go thru this but continue living the lie everyday.
I wish I had seen this video 10 or 15 years ago, when I was a teen. I grew up in a house with a very abusive father whose only moods were sadistic anger and emotional distancing and coldness. I grew up to become very violent and aggressive, but with a degree of righteousness that steered me from being a bully to some sort of foolish antihero who would never back down from a fight to protect people I loved and those I felt were weaker and unfairly picked on, no matter how brutal the consequences.
But eventually, all that anger and pain no longer redeemed me in my own eyes. I went from being a sort of soft jerk that still did the right thing into an apathetic cynical coward whose greatest hatred was of herself and her existence. Despite eventually finding the help to lower the irrational anger to the abuse of others, the hate inside grew, to the point I took on abusive drinking as a young teen, finding that to be the only thing to calm the maelstrom in my head and soften me up.
I had gone on for so long to see myself as a victim, a poor casualty of circumstance, and I hated the world only slightly less than myself. I saw no hope, no God, no righteousness; in my eyes from that point onward there was only painful fear and dark death as its relief.
One night in my young adult life, I had the horrible sensation I had died of a heart attack, after weeks of a hardcore drinking binge that shamed the previous ones. I saw myself waking with a pain in my heart, before realizing I was unable to breathe as well, and against my will, I went back to slump on my back as reality went dark as if I had fallen into a void. Now I understand that void to be hell itself, a frozen nothingness of perfect darkness that offers the disembodied blind self no relief of freezing agony, and trying to remember anything made every memory consist of only mistakes and regrets, of loathing and grief, fear and suffering. As I laid in that oblivion, a voice similar to mine called me out. It made me know I was dead, and that I had already known where I was. As I began to cry, wondering to myself why did my life ended like that, a victim with no choice but a miserable end, the voice mocked me. It reminded me I was never a victim, rather that I chose poorly at every turn in my life, wallowing in my misery always expecting some cliche Hollywood moment for my life movie to go upbeat, and doing nothing to get there. The voice coldly reminded me *"It was you. It has always been you, and everyone and everything you blamed was a lie you told yourself to avoid pointing the finger at yourself. Now we're dead, and this is where we rest, as you desired.*
At that moment, I had an epiphany as I asked to return, that I wanted to fix everything I did wrong, that this time I would fight and never forget I always had a choice. I cried more as everything went silent, and I had a brief hope of feeling that connection I had with the All-Maker that I hadn't realized it was until then. I begged him to allow me to return and fight, and that I would brave thru anything no matter the pain, but that I would never allow myself to be defeated again. I just wanted to return and do everything right, and a flood of happy memories rushed in as I felt my tears warm up while they fled from me. I wanted to fight for that, I wanted to return and this time repair everything I had broken.
I woke up again, and felt the same scene play out: no heartbeat, intense lower left chest pain, no breathing. Only this time I placed my fist near the bottom of my left ribs, and let myself roll from the bed to the floor, and began coughing hardly and my lungs expanding painfully, but surely, in a breathing motion. Stayed in the dark floor for an hour until I was sure I could breathe again well.
And while fixing my darkness and vices wasn't an automatic process, that even began a long journey of cold introspection and becoming deeply involved with philosophy in order to find that meaning in life I desired to find, and to never give up again and mind my choices, for I was responsible for myself.
I'm sharing this long tale because I wanted to share to anyone that feels lost or sunken that you can always escape. And that yes, if you were the creator of a problem, almost always you could also have the ability to rectify it and fix it. You're more powerful and valuable than you believe, and remember, *none of us are victims.* Choose wisely, and never ever forget to have the truth stand as your moral standard you have to always upkeep.
*This video is very correct.*
Lovely story. Hope you're doing well in your life. ❤
Wow. What a great read, i could see myself in there. You seem like a truly strong person, i'm happy that you could have such an experience, even though you had to die to change, but almost all great minds had to. You have to die before you die.
So many things on youtube, this, people teaching manifestation, people teaching how to be present, how to this, how to that. I entered this world 3 years ago and today I feel worst and worst with all of this.
Thank you for your excellent work Einzelganger.
Needed it so much. Thanks love. ♥️♥️ Sending love.
it started when I was a little kid, now I am soon to be 33 years old and I been fighting a loosing battle against myself and my circumstances and my environment. Someone called me a dreamer, an idealist. But I just refuse to accept the life i have been given. I WANT TO BE DIFFERENT. I am the change. and I have failed. I thought the day I give up on my dreams and goals I die and I can't fight reality anymore. It isn't loosing. It's just seeing the truth that you have been ignoring and running from for so many dam years. I am running from myself and my childhood and everything that was fucked in my life because to me it was my only source of safety. To not accept what was infront of me, it was my only way out of this miserable life i had only known, i ended up lost and confused and now I can finally accept the reality of what it is. We all live in the same world. We all just have different experiences living. Just don't run anymore. Just embrace the hurt and the pain and work with it to move forward and change your situation and your outlook on life.
And.......
remember the importance of FORGIVENESS.
@@joannaedwards6325 I been trying to practice that ♡ its just really hard to learn to love myself and also forgive myself for past mistakes, i didn't know how angry I was at my past self and i didnt know how much guilt i would carry for the decisions i would make and the things I just did not know or understood at the time. I am so mean to my younger self lol it's been really hard to be able to forgive myself and others but I keep on trying everyday. I started going to the gym recently and stopped being mad at myself for not have gone years ago.
thank you for giving me your time and reading my comment by the way :) it meant a lot to me when you said forgiveness because i really have been working a lot on trying to forgive myself and the people that hurt me and life in general. lol I used to blame the world for my problems and not anymore.
How to accept something when the very thing you want to accept happens at a daily basis, and reminds you of the pain and mistakes all the time? How is one supposed to forget it if that thing keeps happening over and over again to remind me of my guilts and mistakes?
I was responsible for everything that happened in my life. And, things didn't happen by accident. It happened by choice. My choice. Which makes it even more harder to forgive myself and move on. Worries of how life's gonna turn out in future leaves me empty and hopeless at times. Because facts are too hard to accept and assurance is what I am looking for but still in the process of finding it.
Videos like this that give me hope and make me want to continue life however challenging it might be
GREAT VIDEO A radical thought change leads to a radical life change!! We are in control
Thank you so much - I really needed to hear this today. Love Taoism and your videos make it comprehensible to people today. Hope you keep going. All the best!
I was just about to write an essay to myself on this.
And as usual, you just pop up!
Love you and your work so much!!
I didnt know radical acceptance was a thing. Its been something I noticed I just do since I was young. Was always the black sheep in the family due to how I treated and saw things. so happy now to know what this is and to learn more about
Love the background music.
Thank you for the beautiful lesson
We are only What is to Come. And how we react upon it, shows our charachter... Be always at peace with the pain in your heart and see the lord in the lonely walk of suffering
The World isnt what you think but what you can feel with your senses.
thank you einzelganger--i really needed this video today! you have a great channel! ❤️
Wow I teared up from these blunt words of truth thank you my mind and ego needed to hear
I really needed this on this particular day, thank you🙏
Ouch, feeling very called out. Needed, thank you ❤
Very inspiring, as always, thank you!
brought to tears. so helpful
Acceptance is the road to freedom once you accept yourself you will be free
Accept AND forgive
Acceptance helped me to get through some major anxiety and panic attacks. It also assisted me in acquiring some life changing tools that I proactively use to move through some of the most uncomfortable situations that present themselves to me in my experiences.
#fearless
One of your best videos. Thank you!
Radical acceptance is one of the most powerful books to end your suffering, I recommend it to everyone ❤️🙏🏼
I escape from reality by playing video games immersive rpgs or visualise a better scenario. It's just whenever I do some creative work painful memories appear in my mind. Most cases I ignore them there are painful ones, the old wounds which need addressing. The topics in the video reminds me of quite from the Lion King. The past can hurt, the way I see you can run from it or learn from it. By the way I have read your book and find this is a ray of light in these challenging times. I was bullied at school and recieved racists remarks from plain ignorant jerks and this wasn't helped by living with resident troll. I hope to move out one day. Looking back I realised all hurtful comments are not worth it the stress and never have gave stoicism some thought until your videos appeared in the feed. Thanks for making them.
This video came at a perfect time in my life. Thank you so much!
you are a life saver, literally
Dude, you and Art of improvement are the absolute best!
I'm also subscribed to "Art of improvement"
I strongly recommend School of Life"
A perfect trio of excellent content.
@@Vecio.Nandes I will check it out and thank you for the tip!
I recommend you check out Pursuit of Wonder. They also have thought-provoking content like this but in a way of storytelling.
One of the stongest messages that i so in your videos. Keep fighting a good fight. Salute.
Love your videos man, you made me love philosophia even more than I do. Your videos give me new ideas and ways of thinking
A short but powerful message
Thank you very much
One thing that might be worth considering (for me personally) is trying to stop focusing so much on the past and future. We often divide ourselves into our past selves and our future selves, which are only figments of our imagination. There is only one self (not even the present self, since due to the way our body works we are never truly in the moment) and to pretend otherwise is wrong. I think life will be a lot better once I stop viewing myself separately across different points in time and start viewing myself as a single entity, ever present (at least until the moment I cease to exist).
Thank you. I accept. I am loving inner peace and reading the book called STOICISM that you wrote. Thank you.
all of these comments are oold. Einzelganger, your cool!!
Am so grateful to found this channel 🙏
God, grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can, and the WISDOM to know the difference. 🙏
Interesting to note the original version of that prayer is the same except "courage to change the things that should be changed"
And God does, for God is creator⚘God is consciousness⚘
God grant me the courage to change what I cannot accept.
Ive always loved that prayer 😗
So true ! By not accepting we live with a false reality
Your videos are very good made, I love watching them and the do help me a lot, thanks Brother in Spirit
The timing of this video is on point 👌👌
That was wonderful expression, thanks alot for making a prercious contents
I like and appreciate your narrative and conclusions down to the subtle details and words you express them with.
hope this wasn't a bit too much :)
True words of encouragement. Ty for making this video as well as all of your content
I had a fire and lost everything including my pets. Ppl couldn't work out how I just got up and kept going and I didn't realise it at the time but I was practising radical acceptance. There was nothing else I could do. I still grieved but I didn't let it keep me stuck...
My favorite channel, thanks for share.
4:13 Hahaha! I enjoyed the acknowledging nod to Jordan Peterson. He really has acquired deep insights about life.