Hey guys! It's cool to see a polyamorus channel! If y'all are looking for new questions for q&a's I'd love to hear about the struggles y'all had with integrating a new person into the relationship, and the advice y'all would give
Hey Reece! Thanks so much for following along on our journey! We would love to address your question in a future video. It seems there are an unlimited amount of questions around relationships and polyamory, so more q&a videos are on the horizon, I'm sure. Let us know if you have any other questions, and be sure to check out our two other videos about Polyamory! ruclips.net/video/YuJQRhw4ev0/видео.html ruclips.net/video/pTkeG69CsBE/видео.html
Thank you for sharing this. @8.00mins: on point! It is really painful and feels unfair to be rejected for who we are but you are right...it is a natural selection too...it helps to see who really wishes you the best and who does not... Even if they don't understand or can't accept CNM at least they can wish us happiness. When we love someone (relative, friend, partner, lover, SO, etc) we want them to be happy.
Thank you for your thoughtful response. After watching the rest of your later videos, I first want to say that your series is an excellent glimpse into your relationship story, and works exceptionally as a series. Against that backdrop, I think that that's again why the polyamory videos irk me so much. Unlike your story series, or your excellent holiday/mental health videos, your videos that 'dive deep' into polyamory are less about your story and more about preaching your (abnormally) easy experience with poly. If I was just watching the third of your channel that focuses on your group's (very) short stint practicing polyamory, I'd find your channel very twee and comforting! However, I see your longer-form story being more around discovering yourselves and practicing emotional maturity. Change is an existential threat to existing relationships. Compersion among non-participatory partners is a rare gift, and Rob seems to have done an exceptional job doing the emotional research he needed to do to give himself the mechanisms to cope with an effectively solo-poly wife. The ends justify the means if everyone ends up experiencing their joy better, sure, but why does poly garner so much focus on the channel? I hope I don't come off as too negative, I really like your channel. Some followup questions: Did Elyse ever have to give anything up to Rob while the group was practicing poly? Was she ever confronted with PDA between Rob and Lauren, and have a hard time with it? If Lauren & Elise dive back into poly, do they expect there to be hierarchy?
Hi!! I really appreciate this video! I relate very strongly to Elyse (Elise? I'm not sure which way to spell your name, I'm so sorry!), because I am newly into this lifestyle, and I was the one to kind of join a couple. I'm also fairly freshly diagnosed bipolar, so I relate a lot to that. I was wondering - how did you handle your parents and older people in your life feeling kind of disappointed or concerned? I recently told my family, and it's very similar - younger gen is happy and supportive, older is not. I have a close relationship with my mother, and this has seemed to cause a bit of a rift between us. I was wondering if you have any advice or guidance on how to handle that? Admittedly I am not handling it very well I don't think.
people are really being ignorant like monogamous couples NEVER break up because someone realises theyre gay, or that they want to sleep with other people. these arent polyamory problems, theyre relationship problems. shut your mouths
How long was your 'polyamorous' phase? It doesn't seem like anyone but Lauren actually actively participated in polyamory, and I find it a little disingenuous that the others are talking as experts. The research and counseling they did to 'understand' polyamory is wonderful and valuable, but were they ever polyamorous? I see your story more as one relationship transitioning into another, with poly in the middle as your group's coping mechanism. Lauren, do you see yourself participating in polyamory again later? Is anyone interested in adding partners now?
Hi @grouse mouse! Our intention is to share our truth and how we felt as partners in a polyamorous situation. Rob and Elyse were never polyamorous, and we will be mindful of how we address that in the future. Thank you for that feedback! We still fully support polyamory and for Elyse and Lauren, it isn't off the table for the future! We all had a good experience.
My question is in 3 partners two girls and one guy can the guy love both girls and the two girls love him back at the same Time the girls are in love with each other?
In this case girls are into each other only. The guy seems to be hanging around because he has children with the girl in the middle and wants to be near his kids. The moral of the story seems to be if you are a man and your gf lacks enthusiasm around sex, just get out of there before you have kids with her. She might be a lesbian.
This was not a poly relationship as you can tell from the girlfriend on the right it was there way of telling him to piss off becouse his wife stop giving him sex after she told him she was bisexual
Hi! I see the latest update is 4 years old so I'm not sure if this is being monitored anymore. If it is, I wanted to share about the videos I watched. I don't think you were polyamorous! At least from the videos I saw, I did not see any love for Rob. In fact, Lauren it looks like you went from a rough marriage to discovering who you really were. I'm so glad you found out you were really a lesbian! However, I saw no comments or indications that you loved him, or "used to" love him. And I see no indication that Rob had any kind of relationship with Elyse. I noticed Lauren, you are always sitting between the two of them, as if you don't want them to have any romantic entanglements. So, to summarize: Lauren it looks like you went from a bad marriage with Rob, to a loving relationship with Elyse. I just don't see the polyamory. I feel horrible for Rob.
Hey guys! It's cool to see a polyamorus channel! If y'all are looking for new questions for q&a's I'd love to hear about the struggles y'all had with integrating a new person into the relationship, and the advice y'all would give
Hey Reece! Thanks so much for following along on our journey! We would love to address your question in a future video. It seems there are an unlimited amount of questions around relationships and polyamory, so more q&a videos are on the horizon, I'm sure. Let us know if you have any other questions, and be sure to check out our two other videos about Polyamory!
ruclips.net/video/YuJQRhw4ev0/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/pTkeG69CsBE/видео.html
"Love is limitless" Well said Elyse! I really enjoyed this video, keep them coming!
Thanks Kat! We love having your support!
Thank you for sharing this. @8.00mins: on point!
It is really painful and feels unfair to be rejected for who we are but you are right...it is a natural selection too...it helps to see who really wishes you the best and who does not...
Even if they don't understand or can't accept CNM at least they can wish us happiness. When we love someone (relative, friend, partner, lover, SO, etc) we want them to be happy.
Thank you for your thoughtful response.
After watching the rest of your later videos, I first want to say that your series is an excellent glimpse into your relationship story, and works exceptionally as a series. Against that backdrop, I think that that's again why the polyamory videos irk me so much. Unlike your story series, or your excellent holiday/mental health videos, your videos that 'dive deep' into polyamory are less about your story and more about preaching your (abnormally) easy experience with poly.
If I was just watching the third of your channel that focuses on your group's (very) short stint practicing polyamory, I'd find your channel very twee and comforting! However, I see your longer-form story being more around discovering yourselves and practicing emotional maturity. Change is an existential threat to existing relationships. Compersion among non-participatory partners is a rare gift, and Rob seems to have done an exceptional job doing the emotional research he needed to do to give himself the mechanisms to cope with an effectively solo-poly wife. The ends justify the means if everyone ends up experiencing their joy better, sure, but why does poly garner so much focus on the channel?
I hope I don't come off as too negative, I really like your channel. Some followup questions:
Did Elyse ever have to give anything up to Rob while the group was practicing poly? Was she ever confronted with PDA between Rob and Lauren, and have a hard time with it?
If Lauren & Elise dive back into poly, do they expect there to be hierarchy?
When the kids start school..how do you manage the teacher conferences etc. Doctors dentist appts etc. Who pays for health insurance for the kids?
Thank you guys for providing this resource, it's so amazing and helpful to see this.
We are so happy to have you along for the ride! Thank you for including us in your journey.
QUESTION: Is the other partner able to date and take on another partner?
Why am I reminded of Ricki Lake
Hi!! I really appreciate this video! I relate very strongly to Elyse (Elise? I'm not sure which way to spell your name, I'm so sorry!), because I am newly into this lifestyle, and I was the one to kind of join a couple. I'm also fairly freshly diagnosed bipolar, so I relate a lot to that. I was wondering - how did you handle your parents and older people in your life feeling kind of disappointed or concerned? I recently told my family, and it's very similar - younger gen is happy and supportive, older is not. I have a close relationship with my mother, and this has seemed to cause a bit of a rift between us. I was wondering if you have any advice or guidance on how to handle that? Admittedly I am not handling it very well I don't think.
Thank you I loved this video! Great representation for the community
You guys need a podcast
To be honest there is nothing wrong with been polyamory relationships as long as they love each other and comfortable with each other it's all good
people are really being ignorant like monogamous couples NEVER break up because someone realises theyre gay, or that they want to sleep with other people.
these arent polyamory problems, theyre relationship problems. shut your mouths
She is GAY gay! She looks at the girl with desire and her husband with concern.
Are you all still practicing polyamory with your new relationships?
Elyse here! Currently Lauren and I are currently practicing monogamy, but polyamory is never off the table for us!
Incredible Life Cool! Thanks for sharing your journey!!
Openly Bookish She just said that she and Lauren are practicing monogamy. I’d be surprised if it changed in a month.
@@openlybookish Hi! Lauren and I are currently monogamous. :)
MG Green I get that now. Sorry for misunderstanding.
How long was your 'polyamorous' phase? It doesn't seem like anyone but Lauren actually actively participated in polyamory, and I find it a little disingenuous that the others are talking as experts. The research and counseling they did to 'understand' polyamory is wonderful and valuable, but were they ever polyamorous? I see your story more as one relationship transitioning into another, with poly in the middle as your group's coping mechanism. Lauren, do you see yourself participating in polyamory again later? Is anyone interested in adding partners now?
Hi @grouse mouse! Our intention is to share our truth and how we felt as partners in a polyamorous situation. Rob and Elyse were never polyamorous, and we will be mindful of how we address that in the future. Thank you for that feedback! We still fully support polyamory and for Elyse and Lauren, it isn't off the table for the future! We all had a good experience.
My question is in 3 partners two girls and one guy can the guy love both girls and the two girls love him back at the same Time the girls are in love with each other?
In this case girls are into each other only. The guy seems to be hanging around because he has children with the girl in the middle and wants to be near his kids. The moral of the story seems to be if you are a man and your gf lacks enthusiasm around sex, just get out of there before you have kids with her. She might be a lesbian.
This was not a poly relationship as you can tell from the girlfriend on the right it was there way of telling him to piss off becouse his wife stop giving him sex after she told him she was bisexual
Little did you know when you filmed this that it was going to end your marriage in a divorce - so much for equal multi love.
This video is all lies
Hi! I see the latest update is 4 years old so I'm not sure if this is being monitored anymore. If it is, I wanted to share about the videos I watched. I don't think you were polyamorous! At least from the videos I saw, I did not see any love for Rob. In fact, Lauren it looks like you went from a rough marriage to discovering who you really were. I'm so glad you found out you were really a lesbian! However, I saw no comments or indications that you loved him, or "used to" love him. And I see no indication that Rob had any kind of relationship with Elyse. I noticed Lauren, you are always sitting between the two of them, as if you don't want them to have any romantic entanglements. So, to summarize: Lauren it looks like you went from a bad marriage with Rob, to a loving relationship with Elyse. I just don't see the polyamory. I feel horrible for Rob.