Good day! I am sixteen and am really trying to obtain overall positivity and gracefulness. Yet, I think it is very hard to do so, when (let's say in school) you are put into inescapable situations with very crude, rude or negative people. In fact, very often people who love gossiping about people who try to improve their personality. Also, it's sometimes strange to be the only odd one out, when many other girls nowadays sadly look down on being a lady and self-improvement. Any advice? Have a nice day!
Alyssa, thank you for your question. The life of a lady always involves taking the high road (and is not easy or convenient). Rudeness, negativity and gossip may be popular, but you don’t have to engage in those activities. It sounds like you could use more positive, kind friends in your circle. My suggestion would be to keep your head held high, even if you’re looked down upon for being a lady - and find some new like-minded friends! Perhaps you could join a new club at school or sign up to play a sport that you’re interested in to make new connections! The life of a lady doesn’t have to be lonely! Good luck!
Hi Alyssa! ☺️ I know that this an older comment, but I just turned 17 and I’m in sort of the same boat. I’d like to improve myself and live a more elegant lifestyle, but it’s difficult to find likeminded people in my age group. If you’re looking for friends that have similar interests, I would love to get to know you better!
Im am 28 y.o, married. My friends are ladies on their age of 60 and 65. I love hanging out with them for a coffee or even just give them a call. No BS, just pure maturity ❤
😊 Thank you so much, Virginia! I appreciate you watching my channel. My RUclips journey has been so delightful, I’m glad you find the videos helpful! I hope you and your family have a blessed and Happy New Year!
Wonderful video! Truly listening to someone speaks volumes and always relfects well on yourself. Love your beautiful outfit, btw. Thank you for your inspiration! xo- Cara
Cara thank you so much for watching and your compliment! I’m happy to hear the video inspired you! Yes, today we are all so busy that we rarely listen to one another, it’s very important to listen as a way of showing respect. 🥂 You’re welcome!
Hi Mam, I am very fond of your videos. Your videos are amazing. I am in love with your style as well :-) I would like to tell you that I respect you & Love you as you are doing such a nice job through your videos. I also wanted to say a big thankyou to you for always replying to my comments. And at last , I would like to wish you a very Happy New Year..2018. Hope to see more videos from you. Regards, Surabhi Pandey.
I agree! I think everybody believe you, because you are also charming. 😊 The problem is, when you are charming, most of the people don't know how to handle with it, they abuse , will be addicted of you and don't leave you alone anymore. You don't need to be a vip to have alot of fans or everyone want to be your friends. That's take alot of energy .
Hey! I've recently found your channel, and I have a question. Just today, I was sitting on my own in the 6th Form block of my school, and some men made some sexist comment towards me. Now, I usually have a very quick comeback, but I kept quiet today. How would a lady come back to a rude comment while maintaining dignity and not losing her cool? Thanks! :) xxx
Hi Amy, thanks for watching my video! I think the best course of action to take is to a stand for yourself, instead of keeping quiet. If you’re comfortable with it, you can address the harasser directly and tell him how it makes you feel when he says something inappropriate, for example “Please don’t make sexual comments to me. When you do that, I feel uncomfortable. I prefer you respect me, or just don’t acknowledge me at all.” A second option would be to address the harasser and define the behavior then explain it is distasteful, for example “Making overtly sexual comments to complete strangers is inappropriate. Please don’t speak like that to me again.” How do you typically respond? You mentioned you usually have a quick comeback when situations like that occur.
The Prep Pursuit thank you for your detailed response! I will try and put these both into practice. Usually, I'll say a remark which cuts them down to size, and stuns them. However, in the heat of the moment these remarks are not always polite. Thank you again 😊
You’re welcome, Amy! I understand! An initial reaction is typically fueled by emotion, which totally is understandable because anyone is likely to be angry too, if someone made those remarks! I’m glad you found the advice helpful!
Hi Mam, This time I want your favour. Can you suggest me personally or through your videos...How to deal with Ex Friend?? (One with whom you don't want to talk)...& With Ex Boyfriend?? (One with whom I wanted to talk). I believe that sometimes it's necessary to ignore such people..but if I am such a kind of person who can't ignore..then what to do? I don't want to loose my grace by ignoring. If I am talking, am I compromising with my self respect.?? Please suggest. Regards, Surabhi Pandey.
Thank you, Surabhi for watching my video. If you want to no longer communicate with your ex-boyfriend, I would suggest you tell him you think it’s best that since you all are broken up, you go your separate ways, including communication. He should understand. If he does not honor and respect your request, it is not improper to let him know again you want to stop communicating and if necessary, begin to ignore him. Hopefully he will respect your wishes and be polite to honor ending communication since your previous relationship has already ended. I hope this is helpful! Have a wonderful weekend!
E amo seus videos. A elegância, cortezia, bom modos no tratameto consigo mesmo e com os que encontramos no nosso caminho a cada dia, é um bálsamo para mim. Este ano eu tenho um único objetivo: eu vou remodelar minha alma, eu vou ser feliz com o que a vida se apesentar. A Todos eu desejo Vitória e um abençoado e auspicioso 201. Gratidão pelo post
Thank you for watching my video. I buy my clothes from a variety of places including department stores, thrift stores, online shops like eBay and local boutiques in Dallas, Texas, USA. Thanks for your video request about how to dress like a lady, I will add it to my list.
The best way to control anger is to take a few deep breaths before saying or doing something that would later be regretted. Taking the high road in a difficult situation when you are angry is not easy, but is always worth it.
I needed this! Thank you. 💖
1. Common courtesy
2. Gracious
3. Show interest in others
4.Compliment
You’re so welcome! 🥂 I’m delighted you enjoyed the video and are inspired to be charming with others!
I always look forward to your videos! One of my resolutions is actually to compliment someone at least twice a day. Have a wonderful new year!
Thank you for watching Jenna! That’s a fabulous New Year’s Resolution! I love it!
😊 Happy New Year!
Good day!
I am sixteen and am really trying to obtain overall positivity and gracefulness. Yet, I think it is very hard to do so, when (let's say in school) you are put into inescapable situations with very crude, rude or negative people. In fact, very often people who love gossiping about people who try to improve their personality. Also, it's sometimes strange to be the only odd one out, when many other girls nowadays sadly look down on being a lady and self-improvement. Any advice?
Have a nice day!
Alyssa, thank you for your question. The life of a lady always involves taking the high road (and is not easy or convenient). Rudeness, negativity and gossip may be popular, but you don’t have to engage in those activities.
It sounds like you could use more positive, kind friends in your circle. My suggestion would be to keep your head held high, even if you’re looked down upon for being a lady - and find some new like-minded friends! Perhaps you could join a new club at school or sign up to play a sport that you’re interested in to make new connections! The life of a lady doesn’t have to be lonely!
Good luck!
Hi Alyssa! ☺️ I know that this an older comment, but I just turned 17 and I’m in sort of the same boat. I’d like to improve myself and live a more elegant lifestyle, but it’s difficult to find likeminded people in my age group. If you’re looking for friends that have similar interests, I would love to get to know you better!
Im am 28 y.o, married. My friends are ladies on their age of 60 and 65. I love hanging out with them for a coffee or even just give them a call. No BS, just pure maturity ❤
Im 14
Thanks for all your terrific videos. You are making the world a better place. Have a happy and prosperous new year.
😊 Thank you so much, Virginia!
I appreciate you watching my channel. My RUclips journey has been so delightful, I’m glad you find the videos helpful!
I hope you and your family have a blessed and Happy New Year!
please keep making videos, I'm learning a lot.
When you talk, I feel like you look right into my heart
Thanks for the tips .....you are really a help to me and other ladies out there....i always look forward to your videos
You really are something else.
Love your videos and your attitude ❤ Much love and respect to you🤗
Wonderful video! Truly listening to someone speaks volumes and always relfects well on yourself. Love your beautiful outfit, btw. Thank you for your inspiration! xo- Cara
Cara thank you so much for watching and your compliment! I’m happy to hear the video inspired you!
Yes, today we are all so busy that we rarely listen to one another, it’s very important to listen as a way of showing respect.
🥂 You’re welcome!
I hope all is well ❤
Would like to see more videos!
YOU are charming, Devoreaux! :) Thank you for your lovely videos.
💛Thank you for the kind words and for watching, Christina! I appreciate your support!
Love the tip and advice on the topic and more that has me wondering and what to do when it happens and
Your videos have helped me to improve the quality of my life thank you
Hi Mam,
I am very fond of your videos.
Your videos are amazing.
I am in love with your style as well :-)
I would like to tell you that I respect you & Love you as you are doing such a nice job through your videos.
I also wanted to say a big thankyou to you for always replying to my comments.
And at last , I would like to wish you a very Happy New Year..2018.
Hope to see more videos from you.
Regards,
Surabhi Pandey.
I love your necklace😁
Thank you so much!
I agree! I think everybody believe you, because you are also charming. 😊
The problem is, when you are charming, most of the people don't know how to handle with it, they abuse , will be addicted of you and don't leave you alone anymore. You don't need to be a vip to have alot of fans or everyone want to be your friends. That's take alot of energy .
Happy to of find your oage! Thanks for sharing
I love your videos. Very informative ♡
😊Thank you so much!
I’m delighted you find my channel helpful!
I always look forward to your videos they’re so amazing.
This comment made my day! 🥂 You are so sweet! 😍 Thank you for the support and RUclips love!
You look great!
Thank you.
I love this video and your channel. They coincide with what my religion also teaches me :) keep up the good work.
Great video!!
Thank you for watching! I’m so delighted you enjoyed the video!
Hey!
I've recently found your channel, and I have a question.
Just today, I was sitting on my own in the 6th Form block of my school, and some men made some sexist comment towards me. Now, I usually have a very quick comeback, but I kept quiet today.
How would a lady come back to a rude comment while maintaining dignity and not losing her cool? Thanks! :) xxx
Hi Amy, thanks for watching my video! I think the best course of action to take is to a stand for yourself, instead of keeping quiet.
If you’re comfortable with it, you can address the harasser directly and tell him how it makes you feel when he says something inappropriate, for example “Please don’t make sexual comments to me. When you do that, I feel uncomfortable. I prefer you respect me, or just don’t acknowledge me at all.”
A second option would be to address the harasser and define the behavior then explain it is distasteful, for example “Making overtly sexual comments to complete strangers is inappropriate. Please don’t speak like that to me again.”
How do you typically respond? You mentioned you usually have a quick comeback when situations like that occur.
The Prep Pursuit thank you for your detailed response! I will try and put these both into practice. Usually, I'll say a remark which cuts them down to size, and stuns them. However, in the heat of the moment these remarks are not always polite. Thank you again 😊
You’re welcome, Amy!
I understand! An initial reaction is typically fueled by emotion, which totally is understandable because anyone is likely to be angry too, if someone made those remarks!
I’m glad you found the advice helpful!
Love your outfit! Are the details on your website?
Thank you for watching my video!
I found similar items from the pieces in the outfit I'm wearing and I added them to the video description! :)
Thank you!
😊 You’re welcome!
Is it possible to be uplifting and elegant while being depressed and savage (as in coming back at people with honest powerful words)?
Hi Mam,
This time I want your favour.
Can you suggest me personally or through your videos...How to deal with Ex Friend?? (One with whom you don't want to talk)...& With Ex Boyfriend?? (One with whom I wanted to talk).
I believe that sometimes it's necessary to ignore such people..but if I am such a kind of person who can't ignore..then what to do?
I don't want to loose my grace by ignoring.
If I am talking, am I compromising with my self respect.??
Please suggest.
Regards,
Surabhi Pandey.
Thank you, Surabhi for watching my video.
If you want to no longer communicate with your ex-boyfriend, I would suggest you tell him you think it’s best that since you all are broken up, you go your separate ways, including communication. He should understand. If he does not honor and respect your request, it is not improper to let him know again you want to stop communicating and if necessary, begin to ignore him. Hopefully he will respect your wishes and be polite to honor ending communication since your previous relationship has already ended.
I hope this is helpful!
Have a wonderful weekend!
Thank-you so much Mam.
😊 You’re welcome!
E amo seus videos. A elegância, cortezia, bom modos no tratameto consigo mesmo e com os que encontramos no nosso caminho a cada dia, é um bálsamo para mim. Este ano eu tenho um único objetivo: eu vou remodelar minha alma, eu vou ser feliz com o que a vida se apesentar. A Todos eu desejo Vitória e um abençoado e auspicioso 201. Gratidão pelo post
😊Thank you so much! I hope you have a Happy New Year!
The Prep Pursuit where do you get your clothes. Can you do a video on how to dress like a lady and places to get clothes
Thank you for watching my video. I buy my clothes from a variety of places including department stores, thrift stores, online shops like eBay and local boutiques in Dallas, Texas, USA.
Thanks for your video request about how to dress like a lady, I will add it to my list.
How to control anger?
The best way to control anger is to take a few deep breaths before saying or doing something that would later be regretted.
Taking the high road in a difficult situation when you are angry is not easy, but is always worth it.
You are saying the same tings as Tracy Hansel sometimes word by word.
Intro is to long..
Happy to of find your oage! Thanks for sharing
Happy to of find your oage! Thanks for sharing
Happy to of find your oage! Thanks for sharing