It makes sense what you said about Bumble being a place where men can lay back, kick their feet up and say “lets see how many girls message me” as a self esteem boost while women need to put in all the effort. Because this is exactly what many men feel like with the other dating apps.
I was actually shocked when she said that guys use bumble as a self esteem booster as I myself had been using it for a couple of months and actually found it to be true for the women on there (only ever had about two people message me beyond the “hi/how are you stage, most of them in fact would just match with me and then just let the timer run out and not ever say anything)
@prince Rak probably true for some, I did wonder what the thought process was behind it (matching with people and then never messaging them) but like the presenter says a lot of people probably just use it as a self esteem booster. I remember once I saw a girl from my work showing off all of her matches to a colleague as though it was some sort of human trophy cabinet, sad when you consider how many of those guys could have been using the app for it's intended purpose only to end up as fuel to someone's ego boosting...
From a non- self esteem perspective, I like Bumble because in my experience, when/if she messages, that means she may actually be interested in engaging conversation. On other apps, I’ve spent time reading profiles & legitimately trying to start a conversation only for it to sit in her inbox unread. …regardless, it’s just another avenue to meet people. Thanks for the video!
I must have messaged a dozen women no reply. Gave up dating altogether. I'm outgoing and friendly and now after experiencing how women treat men . I just stopped talking to them.. Like most men I've given up on women altogether.
I keep using dating apps/sites that are either hostile, low action, or clogged with paywalls (including the ones in the video). But thanks anyway. I’m going into volunteer work, go out and live my life again, maybe I’ll meet someone.
Meeting girls in person is MUCH easier than meeting girls on dating apps for guys who are not 10 out of 10's anyways. I have done both, so I can say with experience, it's MUCH easier to find a girl to date in person compared to dating sites/apps.... it's free too.
I had bad experiences on tinder... im dating as a virgin and one guy said something awful. I was too naive believing I would find a serious guy. Now I want to try bumble or hinge. Thanks for making this video!
Don't believe this woman. She's preying on your "femininity" knowing that's what most young women want 4 themselves. If U don't think she's making a huge profit just 4 advertising 4 these people, then you're living in an alternate reality. Hate 2 burst your bubble, so she has a ring on her finger. So what? What does that prove? It proves absolutely nothing. Trust me, I've tried every dating site out there & there ALL scams. Unless U have an unlimited amount of money. It's always about the money with these people. U want 2 meet someone? Do it the old-fashioned way. Extend your social circles. U don't even have 2 pay for it.
I’m a girl and I’m thinking about downloading bumble or something. I have never dated and graduated college at age 20 so I feel like it’s going to be extremely hard to meet people now, especially with covid. I’m definitely long term relationship oriented so hopefully it works out!
Best of luck to you! We have the rest of our lives to find the love of our life so no worries if they don't find you within a month, a year, or maybe even 5. I met my husband within a month of using the apps. Just remember that what you put in is what you get out. If you're hardly ever using the apps or just waiting for people to message you first, you're going to miss out on some opportunities.
@@adelinereacts I’m so done with dating apps. Women have so many options so when they match with me I’m straight up going against many other matches. Very unfair
@@tylerdecker6994 That has always been the case. A woman can potentially have any guy in the room, while a guy might be lucky to get any girl in the room.
My experience with Bumble is that I get way more matches than other apps but almost no one messages me. I get a message from about 1 in 50 matches. I think a lot of women on there swipe based on photos and don't read profiles unless there's a match. So if there's something they don't like in your profile(like in my case I think it's that I have kids) they don't message you. On hinge and tinder I've gotten considerably less matches but at least usually get a conversation when I get a match. That said with hinge you actually have to be looking for whether or not someone has kids to know and I've had two hinge video dates with women who straight up said they hadn't seen that i had kids and weren't interested in someone with kids.
So you're telling me that you openly say that you have kids on your profile and people still make it to the conversation/date acting surprised at that fact?? Wow talk about a lack of attention to detail. Sounds like you're better off without them!
Tariq M. Shaukat President of Bumble is reported to have said "Most customers are social misfits and 'undateables' that signup to Bumble's app and they couldn't get a date if they paid for someone to keep them company. Ironically, these are the people that spend the most money on the site." Good to see the company ethos promoted in such fine style by the head honcho.
I downloaded a dating app while I was sleeping behind bushes and under overpasses. It had one of those describe yourself in one word sections. I picked "outdoorsy". 😆
So, I’ve been out of the dating game for a few years. I tried tinder but I realized it was only dating website for hook ups or casual sex. I had hundreds of matches and conversations with men for 6 months and not a single one wanted to get to know each other for a potential relationship. It was only “ I am just looking for casual sex or hook up” I haven’t tried any others but it seems like hinge looks appealing to me. I may give it a go!
What you don't realize is that men out number women on that app 100:1. Most guys only ever get responses from prostitutes and women offering to take their close off paypal transfers. Its discouraging.
I would try adding to your bio "looking for a serious relationship" to at least help weed out those that read lol Also, if you're really serious you can always ask that from the get go so that you don't waste your time. Hope this helps!
@@sincerelycourtneylynne There's a big issue that you're not covering here that make online dating destructive for both women and men. Even though men must pay for most sites and women don't, there is a big imbalance. Men are lucky to get one message every few days, with an unlikely chance that the women will respond to more than one message. Men, on the other hand, are in near infinite supply to women. Having been on a few dates, and talking with the women about this, they do not feel a need to be invested in any one guy, since they can go home and have 20 new date confirmations within the hour, with a near 100% response rate from all guys they contact. This makes women desensitized towards men and makes it so they do not need to put in any effort. While, men on the other hand get frustrated by the lack of response. In no way does this situation help with forming a solid relationship, which is built on compromise.
Thanks for this honest review! I’ve tried bumble but same as you didn’t really like the fact that women had to be the one to approach them I had no problems with matching but dating apps give me so much stress that I ended up deleting it a couple days ago Also felt that I was “shallow” for just messaging guys based on their looks tbh I felt that the conversations weren’t going anywhere and I realised that I was no way ready for any sort of relationship So I’m using the time to focus on myself more
You're welcome! They're not for everyone but it's just what worked for me. Also, I wouldn't really consider it being shallow for messaging guys based on their looks whenever we do the exact same thing in person. We typically talk to people that we find attractive first. Glad to hear that you realized you just weren't ready for a relationship. There's no rush! You'll find your match one day, I'm sure of it :)
I'm with you. I'm entirely fed up with the dynamics these sites create. As a result, I am much more content with the dates I have been on since, that are a result of meeting women the old fashion way, face to face.
just gave up and never dated again.like most guys are doing. Online dating showed me. We have zero value to women so why bother? If they can ghost us, bit reply, keep a dozen guys at a time in your inbox? If I'm not the ONLY guy you are talking to. I don't want you. Stop wasting mens time, I KY date one guy , delete the app or pause it at least.. If your still on the app when you score a date, you are making me. Decide they aren't a OPTION and are checking out . Only the player are doing well online, normal men are in hell.
I guess the apps feel like “shopping” when you’re a girl. For me, it always felt like more of a job interview. 😂 I’m gonna be honest, I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’ve been in a handful of situationships, but I’ve always wanted something deeper. I’m mostly here to reflect and think if I should get back on the apps. I’ve had them deleted for over a year, and I’ve almost gotten into three relationships “the old-fashioned way,” just by putting myself out there. They were all situationships that hurt, but hey, at least I was close. I downloaded the apps because of the pandemic until about November of 2022, and I only met one girl in person. And I definitely texted less than 10 girls in the course of two years. The girl I did meet, I had to friendzone. We sadly didn’t click. This video was kinda helpful, but what does everyone think? Should I get the apps again, or should I keep trying to just go out and meet people “the old-fashioned way?”
I don’t like Bumble. I only went on 2 dates with the same guy from Bumble, that was 3 years ago. I never went on a date from Hinge. Never met a great match in my area on Hinge (Toronto). My best dates have been from Tinder, I started dating later than my peers and I like online dating because the weirdos reveal themselves in the messages most times. I pay close attention to photos and a bio (if it’s available).
What you said about the weirdos revealing themselves in the messages is SOOOOO TRUE! It's pretty easy to uncover someone's intentions within the first couple of messages. Tinder may have a bad reputation but that's where I met my husband so you won't hear any complaints out of me!
This is true, it is important to don't ignore the red flags and stick with this rule. Sometimes people tend to ignore red flags (because of lack of great choices etc.) trying to convince themselves "maybe it's gonna be better in real than online etc."
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@@tonismith8209 Every time I look into your eyes, I wonder how I'll ever look away again. The feeling that I see in your soul Fills me with strength. Every time I look into your eyes, I remember why I fell in love. And I hope that you see That same love reflecting from me. You are the one, My only love, My strongest means of life. I need you to breathe. I need you to live. I need you to love.
Bumble was a self-esteem booster even if I got one like. Me, though, I'm introverted and shy, so making the first move is pretty nerve-racking. I don't mind trying to open up with someone I'm interested in and have deep conversations, but having the woman make the first move makes things easier mentally, feeling at ease. It reassures me that they're actually interested in talking to /me/ and aren't afraid to take the lead. The only thing I hated about Bumble is it's so expensive.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne There WAS a free version? It's a whole damn subscription service now. To be able to take part in the basic features you came there for it cost money.
I tried bumble and deleted it almost immediately. I thought it would be a more serious dating app since women reach out first (I actually like that idea). But despite women being the first move makers, most of the men are still just looking for a hookup.
Also you can't badmouth bumble just because you have no game and can't slide into men's DMs well enough to get a date. Regardless of if these dudes are just racking up matches or not, that's what women do on literally every other app. My main problem with this is the moment you got put into a man's position you blamed the app instead of yourself then ran to where it was easier for you. We don't get that option
I was able to get dates on the other apps. Each app attracts different type of people, and bumble just wasn't it for me. Also, YES you can meet up with people just to hangout and not have the intention of dating or doing anything physical with them. Everyone uses apps for different reasons. You don't have to agree with why I used them.
So U don’t think other app dating is not self booster for female? 😌 bumble gave a chance for a guy what they are missing from other app dating. The ability to not always have to make the first move and try to come up with line or pickup line that will catch a girl attention.
How out of touch with reality can you women be? You do realize that collectively, women only swipe right on the top 10% of the hottest guys on Bumble, right?
been on tinder for over 2 years and never had a date. barely get any likes. First day i reset my account I get 2 or 3 matches after that day I get barley any likes. And I use it several times a day
I found this video very helpful, I am looking for something not necessarily super serious but meaningful not a hook up. I have never tried any dating apps though so I’m kinda of scare of wasting my time with the wrong person 🥴
I’m so glad it helped! Let me know what apps you end up using. Check out my latest video titled “The REAL Reason you’re still Single” and that should help shed some light on your concern of wasting your time with someone.
I love hearing how much insight for men is provided by women. The reality is that any dating site ends up the same way. Men will get discouraged by never getting a response and end up liking ever single profile by the 3rd day of using the app. Men will always outnumber the women by 20:1 at least, and the women will all be chasing the same 2% of those men. Women are NEVER forced to take any date seriously since they can go online and get 10 more dates lined for the next night. These apps are nothing but destructive to both men an women. Women get ruined because they are no longer viable for a long term relationship and 98% of men are discourage because the only responses they can get are from bots, prostitutes and cat-fishers.
stop saying 98% of guys are discouraged losers because you are one. plenty of guys get dates, get matches, and have great times on those apps. you’re just not one of them cause you’re shallow but ugly
@@youtubesucks2755 lol. If you’re talking like this to a random woman in the RUclips comment section, I wonder what you’re saying to those women in the dating apps. They probably all unmatched you after realizing your low opinion on women.
Thanks for the video! I just fear to never find something "serious" on Tinder since is the biggest app and there's a lot of people just looking for hookups, or like many comments said before, ego-boosters. I'm glad you found your love there😊
Yeah I definitely did not expect to meet my husband on tinder, but sometimes having no expectations can work in your favor if you're open to see what happens!
@@sincerelycourtneylynne Hey Courtney, thanks for the video again, I found someone! I swear it was pure luck or something else involved. I was about to delete the app and I matched with the most amazing person I have ever dated. If this ever gets long-term you're invited to my marriage😂
My experience of Bumble app is negative, but I live in hope. Only had one date so far with a man who was clearly not interested in getting to know me yet he was listed as a good match in Bumble. Even now I can not figure out why. I am not sure if the matches are an AI mistake or people who are just making it up as they go along. I am a woman of colour and middle aged, age appropriate to me is 40 to about 55. Almost all of the age appropriate middle-aged men, are openly looking for a 30 year old. Way too many of the men are not attractive on the hygiene/teeth, live in other distant countries, short under 5 foot 8 inches, look like a weather-beaten and wrinkle ravaged father christmas, looking for something casual while lying about wanting a relationship, smoker, fudging photos and age, or saying something that flags red in the profile app message statement. You have to pay to see the people who find you attractive, so you have to swipe left consistently. The worst thing that happens is GHOSTING; so rude, lazy, and cowardly. Most of the good looking men are looking for something casual. The AI algorithm could maybe guess who I like in a million years; doesn't know how to filter timewasters, and just wants older women (over 40) to waste money. Anyway ladies, Bumble is way better than Tinder, so good luck.
Any notion that Bumble is good for an ego boost for guys is absolutely wrong. Hinge is much better for that - much higher chance of receiving a like. 80% of men are lucky if they get a match a week on Bumble. (Area dependent of course). Bumble's algorithms are ELO based too, so the first 10 or so profiles are ones that people regularly swipe right on, ergo if you're not top 10-20% material the app actually relegates you down further. Not good for a self-esteem boost, it actually makes you even less eligible than you already are, according to the criteria most users apply when seeking a match.
I could care less about political views, height, looks, kids, and religious stuff. Ok I want to find a girl that plays video games and loves soccer. I'm sooooo tired of swiping through thousand of profiles. How can I just use a search feature to find girls that love soccer and video games. What website can I search people that like the things I like????
I can't decide whether a search filter is a genius idea or terrible lol. It would definitely be more efficient, but I feel like the effort of swiping, dating, etc isn't necessarily a bad thing and almost makes finding the one that much more worth it. No one said it'd be easy.
All 3 are awful. I'm still waiting for some company to come along and actually put out a quality dating app. None of these apps really work for most guys. Tinder was bad because it is filled to the brim with prostitutes, bots, and girls looking to rack up Instagram followers. Bumble is bad in particular because most girls you match with don't message and just let matches expire or message with a simple "hi" or "what's up", and Hinge is definitely the best, but because you get such limited swipes, it makes girls who are already very picky on those apps even more picky about who they will swipe right on. Overall, all are awful (at least from a guy's perspective) because you will get very few matches despite hours of swiping, will very likely not get a reply even if you come up with some witty or creative opener, and even if a conversation sparks, the chance you actually secure a date before the conversation ends are slim. I'm still waiting for a dating app wants to see people end up together instead of profiting off of lonely men buying the extra services in hopes of having a better shot that almost never actually makes a difference.
I don't think it is necessary to upgrade the account or pay for extra services. Weeding out people on the apps is no different that what we have to do outside of the online dating world. Dating is definitely work.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I agree that dating is definitely work, a lot of work. But I still just don’t think the apps work very well, they’re intentionally designed not to work too well. If they did, their user base would shrink. They thread the needle between giving people just enough hope that the apps can work so that they stay on, but not too much, so that they can convince people they need to pay for upgraded features for them to genuinely work. It’s a frustrating feedback loop. I stand by my earlier statement that I think all the apps are subpar at best, at least from the average guy’s perspective, and am still waiting for one that genuinely feels like a good faith attempt to help people find partners
@@TheDynastyWarrior13 You have a point. "Dating" apps makes human relations worse, they are the devil's work. Ever since the "dating" apps entered the scene, long-term relations between men and women have only gotten WORSE with MORE break ups and more divorces. Since women are hypergamous by nature they will always try to date up, and with social media apps they are flooded with offers, and therefore have a harder time to settle in their younger years. Plus our sick society doesn't exactly help with creating *families* these days! Men on the other hand gradually lose the motivation/skills/self worth to TALK to women IRL since the apps kill their self esteem, and also it's much easier to go home to a dating app, and if not match, then at least LOOK at pictures and HOPE for a match... (Plus there's a war on masculinity, but that's another story) When women enter their 30's and 40's they will lose their looks (which is the #1 factor for men to pursue), and if they don't have a long-term partner in a nurtured relationship, they simply have a much harder time finding their hypergamous match, since the guys THEY find hot, always go for a younger model. Look at all these tik tok clips of miserable, middle-aged women, they can't find a satisfactory (for them) date! So women lose, too. To the women: Lock down a GOOD man in your 20's (forget these Chads and Tyrones) and learn to cultivate a good relationship. And men have to put in the effort, too of course. You can see through the s c a m that dating apps are. They will make a tiny percentage happy, and leave a ton of men AND women miserable, AND broke, since it's a money machine for the evil corporations, as well. It's ludicrous that people in 2023 still think these "dating" apps helps with human relationships! They do the opposite! Something is seriously wrong if most dating app-users think it's such hard work, even stressful to use these apps, AND divorces are going through the roof. DING DING! Can someone pick up the clue phone here? :D Focus your efforts IRL, the apps (and "social" media in general) is toxic, and also highly addictive for your mind, if you're prone to addiction.
One of the problems with Bumbke is women in vegetal are not likely to message first. They are used to the men doing that. And that is what they prefer. Just as in the real world - if a man and a women make eye contact a few times and smile the guy will probably go over and meet her. But the woman most likely will not go over and meet him.
Tinder is 10/10 superficial Bumble 8.5/superficial (I bet if women had the choice for guys to message first most of them would do that.) Hinge 7/10 superficial (mix of bumble and match). As a person who gets no matches on bumble I don't get a self esteem boost lol. Either way I need to pay to filter out women who has kids or wants them.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I’ve try match and eharmony with no luck I just downloaded hinge and Tantan going to try them out also tryd Facebook dating got 5 matches but they never messaged me back ever so hopefully I’ll have better luck with hinge and Tantan
I paid money for Bumble subscription Amount got deducted from my bank and Subscribtion is not activated There is not even a confirmation message that amount is received Simply throwing out hard earned money into the ocean of cheaters pockets like this No response I lost I was cheated This is not at all fair The support/help section is fake They will not respond
I'm on hinge bumble and tinder my ex came from tinder and my most successful match came from hinge things fizzled out after a while but there could possibly be something there as we still talk and see each other from time to time.
Yea women don’t like bumble because now they get a taste of their own medicine. But it’s better this way because women play too many games. I’d prefer to sit and wait on a message and then decline or accept who I want. I like bumble!
I'm in London and just downloaded Hinge. Must have gone through 30 or so profiles and literally all white which is way way skewed. Very Instagram style model shoot profiles, all seems quite self-absorbed tbh, though maybe not as many terrible lip jobs as I've seen on tinder. I've met some great women on Bumble and looks like I'll stick with it for now!
It's so interesting hearing about other peoples experiences with dating apps. I'm sure the reputation and average experience varies country to country. Sounds like bumble worked out for you though!
@Dvd Gum your profile shot is cropped a little tight, maybe show yourself doing something you enjoy like frolicking with some of your undersea friends?
I just deleted my hinge profile this morning after a week of being on it. (I’m new to the dating scene and this was my first ever online dating trial) I matched with a lot of guys but there are also a lot of cat fish on there. I also noticed that most of the guys I messaged or liked their profiles wouldn’t respond 🤷🏻♀️
I'm a guy and i started using both bumble and hinge a week ago. Last time i used one was tinder, six years ago, and all i remember was the amount of work involved - so much messaging that lead to almost nothing. that's why i went with bumble and I have to say, I've enjoyed it. After a week on it I've gotten about a dozen matches and i have 3 dates lined up. I also feel like the caliber of conversation has been good as well. hinge is okay but i much prefer bumble
I have zero luck on all three apps and funny thing I matched with the same person from bumble on tinder and it’s sad that I don’t get any response on all three apps and yet alone a message on bumble
Try a different app or finding people in person! I feel like dating apps have gotten the reputation of it being the "easy" way to find someone but it's not. Dating is work whether you're searching for people online or in person.
I think it's more about getting access to new people and less about not being able to talk to people near you. If you're like most people we tend to go to the same few places each week (school, work, gym, grocery store, etc) which do not really give us the best chances of meeting our special someone.
I’m an attractive in shape, average height dude but I don’t get a lot of matches because I’m 35, child free and conservative . I find most women either have or want kids and I want the dink life. And not being liberal seems to be a major dealbreaker for most women where I live. I guess I’m forever alone oh well. I’m also exactly 5’8 not 5’9 or 5’7 and I feel most women on tinder would rather date a 6ft sociopath over an average height or short male who has a good job, no baggage and has a great personality
Yeah I don’t see why it would be an issue that you’ve met up with other people from the app. That’s the entire point of it so it means you’re having some success!
Dating apps are the reason so many people are unhappy. We don't have an app, not sure we ever will use one. What we do is allow people to create a personal ad they can control and maintain safely and free! There is no catch and we don't use cookies. The bottom line is it takes time to get to know someone, but paying for it is a little creepy. We're just getting started, check it out. Best of luck to everyone!
What happens to people who can't get dates at all because of being Indian? I have been on all these sites and nothing happens. For about a two and half years and not one date because of my skin colour and me being Indian. Thanks for sharing your views.Do a video on this and you'll see what how it feels for some Indians because it's tougher to find a person who would date them. That's my experience. Sad.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne yes. I had women saying to me I can't go out with you because in I'm not black. Had another women on a site that said I only date white men. Sorry. That's what she said I must have messaged over 200 women and not even one date. Trust me look into this deeply and you'll see what I'm talking about. So what did I do deleted all the sites and thought forget it. Given up hope. Show me one video that shows an Indian guy on any of these sites that has said I met this person on there. Example bumble/badoo/plenty of fish/tinder. Not one video. It's all ways a black guy with a white women or the reverse. Why? Thanks for the reply.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I understand what your saying but does help. I have just given up. My friend has been on all these sites and found loads of women because he's black and when I tell him I didn't find anyone. That's when said he couldn't believe it. We even Sat down and went through some women and nothing happened but when messaged the same women they had a date. That's a true story. I know not everyone is like this but a majority are on sites are, I would say 98% wouldn't date Indians. Trust me. Thanks for the reply. Courtney Lynne.
@@charanjit7427 Also, I am sorry that anyone ever told you that. Trust me when I say that you are WAYYYYY better off without that person. You've been dodging bullets my friend
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I have been on dating apps and nothing happened they say it's a match but then it's like I met someone else or sorry your not my type or the best one is the computer says we are match but we're not, good luck on your search, or sorry you don't have a good job. That's what im saying. It just doesn't work. Also it's a match and you reply and they don't get back to you. Nearly two and half years and not even one date. I know it's up the person who they like but when you've been rejected and feel That there is no hope at all what do you do? I'm not bringing or blaming or putting the race game but sometimes I feel this way, up but look at the dates that people go on or the videos you see when they advertise them. Thanks for getting back to me Courtney Lynne.
All in all a good review, though some of us do need to dial it down that much, If we're Christian and believe in sound doctrine, we understand 2 Corinthians 6:14 pretty thoroughly.
I know finding someone with the same religion is extremely important to some people, but I wouldn't let it deter you from meeting other people. Just because someone isn't religious doesn't mean they are a bad person or that it will cause issues in your relationship. People can share the same morals and values while having difference religious beliefs. But to each their own!
Be an average dude on any dating app. You will get almost no matches. Just try. Idk what kinda guys you talked to about bumble but I was on that app for like half a year and never even got more than 2 matches.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne yeah. I wouldn’t even say I’m that bad of a looking guy. I don’t take the best pics. But mean no one matches on pretty much any app. Maybe it’s something in my bio. But I mean when it comes to dating apps it’s like 80% looks. So I guess I’m just not as good looking as the competition. So not too mad. Just disappointed.
@@rageraptor7127 I wouldn't take it personally, when you hear guys that say they get tons of matches, more times than not, they ain't. In real life probably don't get anymore matches than the majority of guys. Some people on these apps will indiscriminately swipe, without really paying much attention or thought. So they might get more matches, but usually from girls they're not really interested in or simply fake profiles.
All them apps are a waste of time and money I'll just wait as long as it takes for God to lead me to mine and plus most of them people on these apps don't have my characteristics and type of energy
Kinda funny if you analyze it. Men: complain about not getting likes and matches unless from women who aim way too high. Women: can't find a guy. Hmmmmmm, wonder what the cause would be. Inflated egos is the answer.
Sure. Couldn't be that some people are not worth the time. As an app user, yes I get many matches and 99 % of them suck. And it's time consuming to find one or two guys that won't go straight to sex, send pics, be super creepy etc.
People just aim high and it’s not realistic. Men complain about not getting matches but I’m pretty sure they do they just want models and hot girls that don’t want them because they want hot guys.
@@hillyholly9004 Oh, that's simply not true. On Bumble over 95% of men look for relationships. The fact that you think 99% suck is the fact why women in online dating are awfully entitled. You are the problem, not men.
@@dianamoncada6734 Data disproves your assumption. It's women who are deluded and have inflated ego's. Stop thinking you deserve a model when you yourself are average at best.
@@Ariovistus50 @lennert cornette look, I have found a long term parter on bumble. But, it took a lot of time and a lot of bad apples. Lot of guys not ready for a relationship. most of the matches you get are not quality matches. Quality meaning people won't reply to you anyway, or won't hold a conversation for more than couple messages, people who immediately try to get sex, picture etc. And trust me, I filter out the dude with gym selfies and fish holding obvious fboys before even swipping. Yes,there are a lot of entitled women on dating apps. There are also a lot of men, who think women owe them dates and sex because they have been nice enough for three minutes. And that's just not what I want. Lastly, I think the dating landscape warries a lot depending where you are, maybe you're lucky to be in an area, where the dating pool is less horrible
I was kicked off bagel meets coffee and I’m not sure why they told me I wasn’t their type of person to be on their app could thus even be legal to say to me ?
Hi beautiful Every time I look into your eyes, I wonder how I'll ever look away again. The feeling that I see in your soul Fills me with strength. Every time I look into your eyes, I remember why I fell in love. And I hope that you see That same love reflecting from me. You are the one, My only love, My strongest means of life. I need you to breathe. I need you to live. I need you to love.
Can I have one day of not being discussed by a woman's Behavior. Probably not. But you don't realize how you treat other human beings and it is very depressing
too much men in these apps, we shouldnt use them at all. only the top 10 will use it as self steem booster, stop sending messages to the top models and stay with the average dudes
1. Do you actually ask to meet up with the people you match with? I only talking to people for a week max people meeting up with them. Sometimes I think the longer you talk to someone on the app the less likely they are to meet up 2. Try a different app
I'm trying to find something serious on dateing apps I'm looking tbh for both casual and serious but nothing so they basically target vounreble ppl who looking for love to spend money on thier site for Nothing
@@sincerelycourtneylynne well it's pretty different between us it's easier for a woman to find a match or get a match in general I been on there for few years and still nothing for me
Dating and finding someone according to WHO THEY ARE AS A PERSON and not what Job you have, Big house you have, Car you drive... Women are very very superficial !
@@newblue41 if you think the women are only talking to you for your house, car, etc start with cheap coffee/outdoorsy activity dates and don’t talk about your possessions. Gold diggers will run. If you think 98% of the female population are gold diggers, do yourself a favor and don’t date/learn how to associate with women platonically without expectation of sex/relationship.
To me Tinder isnt that good. I have gotten a few matches. 1 Still talking to. But I dont get many matches and I have a nice profile. Now Bumble has gotten Nothing. The Likes i have gotten on Tinder I will not pay for. I think its so stupid that you have to get matches to send a message. Cause Matches dont happen Much.
@@SportsLiveInTheAtl Oh yeah you gotta give it some time. I was on 3 apps for a month before meeting my husband. I also went on a lot of dates during that time. I wouldn't talk to anyone longer than a week before meeting up with them considering how different people can be online versus in person. I actually matched and met up with my husband the same day...real spontaneous lol
I can't appload Hinge here in the Philippines, Tinder is not good for me.. but will try bumble. I tried many dating sites but still unlucky to meet real and nice guy. All are scam, fake picture and rude. So 😭😭😭😭
The biggest problem with dating apps is people who will NEVER make an effort to meet in person.
You've got to hit them with that message quick! I didn't go more than two days talking to someone without attempting to make plans in person.
Exactly why I deleted them apps
@@sincerelycourtneylynne so let me guess, you either work for Tinder or Hinge.
It makes sense what you said about Bumble being a place where men can lay back, kick their feet up and say “lets see how many girls message me” as a self esteem boost while women need to put in all the effort.
Because this is exactly what many men feel like with the other dating apps.
At least with the other apps both sides have the opportunity to initiate conversation though.
I was actually shocked when she said that guys use bumble as a self esteem booster as I myself had been using it for a couple of months and actually found it to be true for the women on there (only ever had about two people message me beyond the “hi/how are you stage, most of them in fact would just match with me and then just let the timer run out and not ever say anything)
@prince Rak probably true for some, I did wonder what the thought process was behind it (matching with people and then never messaging them) but like the presenter says a lot of people probably just use it as a self esteem booster. I remember once I saw a girl from my work showing off all of her matches to a colleague as though it was some sort of human trophy cabinet, sad when you consider how many of those guys could have been using the app for it's intended purpose only to end up as fuel to someone's ego boosting...
@prince Rak you unmatch with people when they say hi?
@prince Rak women have so many options on these dating apps it’s a nightclub of guys trying to get in.
From a non- self esteem perspective, I like Bumble because in my experience, when/if she messages, that means she may actually be interested in engaging conversation. On other apps, I’ve spent time reading profiles & legitimately trying to start a conversation only for it to sit in her inbox unread. …regardless, it’s just another avenue to meet people.
Thanks for the video!
I can definitely understand your perspective from the guys point of view.
Yeah it saves a crap ton of time and effort. At least then you are messaging people that are even vaguely interested.
I must have messaged a dozen women no reply.
Gave up dating altogether. I'm outgoing and friendly and now after experiencing how women treat men .
I just stopped talking to them..
Like most men I've given up on women altogether.
I keep using dating apps/sites that are either hostile, low action, or clogged with paywalls (including the ones in the video). But thanks anyway. I’m going into volunteer work, go out and live my life again, maybe I’ll meet someone.
Don't think about it too much. Never used the apps. Keep an open heart.
Best of luck to you! Everyone's journey looks a little different.
@@bluemagic5829 thanks
@@sincerelycourtneylynne and thank you, especially.
Meeting girls in person is MUCH easier than meeting girls on dating apps for guys who are not 10 out of 10's anyways. I have done both, so I can say with experience, it's MUCH easier to find a girl to date in person compared to dating sites/apps.... it's free too.
There are three things u need to remember while using dating apps
1. Good quality pics
2.good bio
3.having better text game
The texting game tip is crucial!!
Bumble is. A scam
@@chrisbova9686 I think it is too. Garbage!
Ok but I’m terrible at texting 🤦🏻♀️ any tips?
@@zoeyk7911 ask open end questions, don’t start off the convo with a boring “hey” or “wassup”
I had bad experiences on tinder... im dating as a virgin and one guy said something awful. I was too naive believing I would find a serious guy. Now I want to try bumble or hinge. Thanks for making this video!
There's bad apples on every app, but I definitely feel like the more serious daters are on bumble and hinge.
Hope it works out for you
Don't believe this woman. She's preying on your "femininity" knowing that's what most young women want 4 themselves. If U don't think she's making a huge profit just 4 advertising 4 these people, then you're living in an alternate reality. Hate 2 burst your bubble, so she has a ring on her finger. So what? What does that prove? It proves absolutely nothing. Trust me, I've tried every dating site out there & there ALL scams. Unless U have an unlimited amount of money. It's always about the money with these people. U want 2 meet someone? Do it the old-fashioned way. Extend your social circles. U don't even have 2 pay for it.
Or just don’t join? Bc you’re a Virg
What a stupid comment.
I’m a girl and I’m thinking about downloading bumble or something. I have never dated and graduated college at age 20 so I feel like it’s going to be extremely hard to meet people now, especially with covid. I’m definitely long term relationship oriented so hopefully it works out!
Best of luck to you! We have the rest of our lives to find the love of our life so no worries if they don't find you within a month, a year, or maybe even 5. I met my husband within a month of using the apps. Just remember that what you put in is what you get out. If you're hardly ever using the apps or just waiting for people to message you first, you're going to miss out on some opportunities.
Hii
I’m in a similar position and I’m trying Bumble rn! Hopefully it works out, good luck :)
@@adelinereacts I’m so done with dating apps. Women have so many options so when they match with me I’m straight up going against many other matches. Very unfair
@@tylerdecker6994 That has always been the case. A woman can potentially have any guy in the room, while a guy might be lucky to get any girl in the room.
Spreading love to anyone feeling lonely, U R not alone, we all love you ♥♥♥♥
Love your positivity!
@@sincerelycourtneylynne
Thank you♥
Happy New Year 🌹💐
Hello good morning
My experience with Bumble is that I get way more matches than other apps but almost no one messages me. I get a message from about 1 in 50 matches. I think a lot of women on there swipe based on photos and don't read profiles unless there's a match. So if there's something they don't like in your profile(like in my case I think it's that I have kids) they don't message you. On hinge and tinder I've gotten considerably less matches but at least usually get a conversation when I get a match. That said with hinge you actually have to be looking for whether or not someone has kids to know and I've had two hinge video dates with women who straight up said they hadn't seen that i had kids and weren't interested in someone with kids.
Think I’ve had the same experience as you.
So you're telling me that you openly say that you have kids on your profile and people still make it to the conversation/date acting surprised at that fact?? Wow talk about a lack of attention to detail. Sounds like you're better off without them!
I would date a man with kids. Don't let people say you aren't worth dating because you are a parent.
Tariq M. Shaukat President of Bumble is reported to have said "Most
customers are social misfits and 'undateables' that signup to Bumble's
app and they couldn't get a date if they paid for someone to keep them
company. Ironically, these are the people that spend the most money on
the site." Good to see the company ethos promoted in such fine style by
the head honcho.
Such evil hurtful speech.
I downloaded a dating app while I was sleeping behind bushes and under overpasses. It had one of those describe yourself in one word sections. I picked "outdoorsy". 😆
You ain't lyin' lol
If a lawyer makes 6000$ a month but spend 2000$ on gas, will a 24$ an hour job where he spends 200$ on gas still cover his bills?
The dentist I work for met her soon to be husband on bumble and she's super happy.
A few of my closest friends met their husband/significant other using dating apps. I'm not saying it's the ONLY way, but it is A way to meet people.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne Absolutely!! Your video was very detailed and helpful.💙
Thank you so much! Let me know if there's any other topics that you would like me to cover in a future video :)
You're all over saying your dentist blabla
@@mskimtai5258 it's pathetic how negative you are.
So, I’ve been out of the dating game for a few years.
I tried tinder but I realized it was only dating website for hook ups or casual sex. I had hundreds of matches and conversations with men for 6 months and not a single one wanted to get to know each other for a potential relationship. It was only “ I am just looking for casual sex or hook up”
I haven’t tried any others but it seems like hinge looks appealing to me. I may give it a go!
What you don't realize is that men out number women on that app 100:1. Most guys only ever get responses from prostitutes and women offering to take their close off paypal transfers. Its discouraging.
@@jeffg6924 Same like women just got responses from men who are after one thing. It doesn't work well for anyone.
I would try adding to your bio "looking for a serious relationship" to at least help weed out those that read lol
Also, if you're really serious you can always ask that from the get go so that you don't waste your time. Hope this helps!
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I had been. I still get everyone that just wants a casual relationship 😅
@@sincerelycourtneylynne There's a big issue that you're not covering here that make online dating destructive for both women and men. Even though men must pay for most sites and women don't, there is a big imbalance. Men are lucky to get one message every few days, with an unlikely chance that the women will respond to more than one message. Men, on the other hand, are in near infinite supply to women. Having been on a few dates, and talking with the women about this, they do not feel a need to be invested in any one guy, since they can go home and have 20 new date confirmations within the hour, with a near 100% response rate from all guys they contact. This makes women desensitized towards men and makes it so they do not need to put in any effort. While, men on the other hand get frustrated by the lack of response. In no way does this situation help with forming a solid relationship, which is built on compromise.
Thanks for this honest review!
I’ve tried bumble but same as you didn’t really like the fact that women had to be the one to approach them
I had no problems with matching but dating apps give me so much stress that I ended up deleting it a couple days ago
Also felt that I was “shallow” for just messaging guys based on their looks tbh
I felt that the conversations weren’t going anywhere and I realised that I was no way ready for any sort of relationship
So I’m using the time to focus on myself more
You're welcome! They're not for everyone but it's just what worked for me. Also, I wouldn't really consider it being shallow for messaging guys based on their looks whenever we do the exact same thing in person. We typically talk to people that we find attractive first.
Glad to hear that you realized you just weren't ready for a relationship. There's no rush! You'll find your match one day, I'm sure of it :)
I'm with you. I'm entirely fed up with the dynamics these sites create. As a result, I am much more content with the dates I have been on since, that are a result of meeting women the old fashion way, face to face.
just gave up and never dated again.like most guys are doing.
Online dating showed me. We have zero value to women so why bother? If they can ghost us, bit reply, keep a dozen guys at a time in your inbox?
If I'm not the ONLY guy you are talking to. I don't want you.
Stop wasting mens time, I KY date one guy , delete the app or pause it at least..
If your still on the app when you score a date, you are making me. Decide they aren't a OPTION and are checking out .
Only the player are doing well online, normal men are in hell.
I guess the apps feel like “shopping” when you’re a girl. For me, it always felt like more of a job interview. 😂 I’m gonna be honest, I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’ve been in a handful of situationships, but I’ve always wanted something deeper. I’m mostly here to reflect and think if I should get back on the apps. I’ve had them deleted for over a year, and I’ve almost gotten into three relationships “the old-fashioned way,” just by putting myself out there. They were all situationships that hurt, but hey, at least I was close. I downloaded the apps because of the pandemic until about November of 2022, and I only met one girl in person. And I definitely texted less than 10 girls in the course of two years. The girl I did meet, I had to friendzone. We sadly didn’t click. This video was kinda helpful, but what does everyone think? Should I get the apps again, or should I keep trying to just go out and meet people “the old-fashioned way?”
Why not both? It doesn’t have to be one or the other. It’s simply increases your chances of finding someone
I don’t like Bumble. I only went on 2 dates with the same guy from Bumble, that was 3 years ago. I never went on a date from Hinge. Never met a great match in my area on Hinge (Toronto). My best dates have been from Tinder, I started dating later than my peers and I like online dating because the weirdos reveal themselves in the messages most times. I pay close attention to photos and a bio (if it’s available).
What you said about the weirdos revealing themselves in the messages is SOOOOO TRUE! It's pretty easy to uncover someone's intentions within the first couple of messages. Tinder may have a bad reputation but that's where I met my husband so you won't hear any complaints out of me!
This is true, it is important to don't ignore the red flags and stick with this rule. Sometimes people tend to ignore red flags (because of lack of great choices etc.) trying to convince themselves "maybe it's gonna be better in real than online etc."
You need to go for guys within your league. It sounds like you're only approaching super hot guys
@Amazing World if you think people are not naturally monogamous, date women that think similarly only.
That is so sweet you met your fiance on Tinder. Congrats!
Thank you!! 😊
Are you still on tinder those it work for you dear Toni?
@@drharrison5770 well its gotten me a few dates but no fiance just yet lol
@@tonismith8209 same too I will love to be your friend partner nevermind pls can i have your email or WhatsApp i will love to talk to you I have vitAl message for you am ready to make you happy to put a smile on your face am a pastor am honest truthful with what am saying God know my heart pls try understand me much better dear toni?
@@tonismith8209 Every time I look into your eyes,
I wonder how I'll ever look away again.
The feeling that I see in your soul
Fills me with strength.
Every time I look into your eyes,
I remember why I fell in love.
And I hope that you see
That same love reflecting from me.
You are the one,
My only love,
My strongest means of life.
I need you to breathe.
I need you to live.
I need you to love.
Bumble was a self-esteem booster even if I got one like. Me, though, I'm introverted and shy, so making the first move is pretty nerve-racking. I don't mind trying to open up with someone I'm interested in and have deep conversations, but having the woman make the first move makes things easier mentally, feeling at ease. It reassures me that they're actually interested in talking to /me/ and aren't afraid to take the lead. The only thing I hated about Bumble is it's so expensive.
Does bumble no longer offer a free version?
@@sincerelycourtneylynne There WAS a free version? It's a whole damn subscription service now. To be able to take part in the basic features you came there for it cost money.
Based on my experience, Hinge is just what you described Bumble to be only for women.
I tried bumble and deleted it almost immediately. I thought it would be a more serious dating app since women reach out first (I actually like that idea). But despite women being the first move makers, most of the men are still just looking for a hookup.
Regardless of the app you still have to weed through the bad apples. Everyone is using them for different reasons.
The moment i realized this video was some garbo was when she said she downloaded a dating app not looking for a relationship or a hookup
Also you can't badmouth bumble just because you have no game and can't slide into men's DMs well enough to get a date. Regardless of if these dudes are just racking up matches or not, that's what women do on literally every other app. My main problem with this is the moment you got put into a man's position you blamed the app instead of yourself then ran to where it was easier for you. We don't get that option
@@Test_Tube_Boi you’re mad for no reason
@@NoName-cc9cy never was mad bro, I'm speaking facts
I was able to get dates on the other apps. Each app attracts different type of people, and bumble just wasn't it for me.
Also, YES you can meet up with people just to hangout and not have the intention of dating or doing anything physical with them. Everyone uses apps for different reasons. You don't have to agree with why I used them.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne nobody ever said you couldn't, it's just not what those apps were designed for. You're pretty much using em wrong
You’re absolutely right about bumble being a self esteem booster for guys.
It’s ok every other social media is a booster for females.
So U don’t think other app dating is not self booster for female? 😌 bumble gave a chance for a guy what they are missing from other app dating. The ability to not always have to make the first move and try to come up with line or pickup line that will catch a girl attention.
I'm only speaking from my experience and bumble just did not work for me.
How out of touch with reality can you women be?
You do realize that collectively, women only swipe right on the top 10% of the hottest guys on Bumble, right?
@@newperson9662 facts
been on tinder for over 2 years and never had a date. barely get any likes. First day i reset my account I get 2 or 3 matches after that day I get barley any likes. And I use it several times a day
Maybe try a different app and see if the results vary!
I found this video very helpful, I am looking for something not necessarily super serious but meaningful not a hook up. I have never tried any dating apps though so I’m kinda of scare of wasting my time with the wrong person 🥴
I’m so glad it helped! Let me know what apps you end up using.
Check out my latest video titled “The REAL Reason you’re still Single” and that should help shed some light on your concern of wasting your time with someone.
When you're on dating apps, do you fell your requirements for good looks become extremely high?
I love hearing how much insight for men is provided by women. The reality is that any dating site ends up the same way. Men will get discouraged by never getting a response and end up liking ever single profile by the 3rd day of using the app. Men will always outnumber the women by 20:1 at least, and the women will all be chasing the same 2% of those men. Women are NEVER forced to take any date seriously since they can go online and get 10 more dates lined for the next night. These apps are nothing but destructive to both men an women. Women get ruined because they are no longer viable for a long term relationship and 98% of men are discourage because the only responses they can get are from bots, prostitutes and cat-fishers.
There's nothing that occurs in dating apps that doesn't also happen in real life.
stop saying 98% of guys are discouraged losers because you are one. plenty of guys get dates, get matches, and have great times on those apps. you’re just not one of them cause you’re shallow but ugly
@Spots Corner you’re not as good looking as you think or you come off douchy. probably both
@@angel1202003 easy to say when all you have to do is shove your face pizza and still get 1000 likes a day. Power corrupts.
@@youtubesucks2755 lol. If you’re talking like this to a random woman in the RUclips comment section, I wonder what you’re saying to those women in the dating apps. They probably all unmatched you after realizing your low opinion on women.
Most dating apps guys can send 100 messages and get 2 back. Bubble actually makes women do the work.
I can definitely understand the appeal of bumble from a guy's perspective.
I can't understand why people want relationships or company of others. What's the reason or advantage of someone ?
Well everyone is different, but in my opinion...I believe that the entire point of life is to connect with others.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne yeah , good answer to my question and your probably right there. Cheers and thanks for that one
Thanks for the video! I just fear to never find something "serious" on Tinder since is the biggest app and there's a lot of people just looking for hookups, or like many comments said before, ego-boosters. I'm glad you found your love there😊
Yeah I definitely did not expect to meet my husband on tinder, but sometimes having no expectations can work in your favor if you're open to see what happens!
@@sincerelycourtneylynne Hey Courtney, thanks for the video again, I found someone! I swear it was pure luck or something else involved.
I was about to delete the app and I matched with the most amazing person I have ever dated.
If this ever gets long-term you're invited to my marriage😂
@@jeanoltt Omg how exciting!! I am so happy to hear that things are looking up for you. Keep us posted in the comments. We’re all invested here 🥲
@@jeanoltt Another Tinder Ad.
Dude, I love your background. Is that wallpaper? Where did you find it?
Thank you! It's peel and stick wallpaper from Target!
@the writer's workout hahahaha true
My experience of Bumble app is negative, but I live in hope. Only had one date so far with a man who was clearly not interested in getting to know me yet he was listed as a good match in Bumble.
Even now I can not figure out why. I am not sure if the matches are an AI mistake or people who are just making it up as they go along. I am a woman of colour and middle aged, age appropriate to me is 40 to about 55. Almost all of the age appropriate middle-aged men, are openly looking for a 30 year old. Way too many of the men are not attractive on the hygiene/teeth, live in other distant countries, short under 5 foot 8 inches, look like a weather-beaten and wrinkle ravaged father christmas, looking for something casual while lying about wanting a relationship, smoker, fudging photos and age, or saying something that flags red in the profile app message statement. You have to pay to see the people who find you attractive, so you have to swipe left consistently. The worst thing that happens is GHOSTING; so rude, lazy, and cowardly. Most of the good looking men are looking for something casual. The AI algorithm could maybe guess who I like in a million years; doesn't know how to filter timewasters, and just wants older women (over 40) to waste money. Anyway ladies, Bumble is way better than Tinder, so good luck.
Any notion that Bumble is good for an ego boost for guys is absolutely wrong. Hinge is much better for that - much higher chance of receiving a like. 80% of men are lucky if they get a match a week on Bumble. (Area dependent of course). Bumble's algorithms are ELO based too, so the first 10 or so profiles are ones that people regularly swipe right on, ergo if you're not top 10-20% material the app actually relegates you down further. Not good for a self-esteem boost, it actually makes you even less eligible than you already are, according to the criteria most users apply when seeking a match.
so in otherwords men used bumble in the same way woman use tinder
No offense lady but women live on recruit difficulty
Would you mind explaining further?
I could care less about political views, height, looks, kids, and religious stuff. Ok I want to find a girl that plays video games and loves soccer. I'm sooooo tired of swiping through thousand of profiles. How can I just use a search feature to find girls that love soccer and video games. What website can I search people that like the things I like????
I can't decide whether a search filter is a genius idea or terrible lol. It would definitely be more efficient, but I feel like the effort of swiping, dating, etc isn't necessarily a bad thing and almost makes finding the one that much more worth it. No one said it'd be easy.
Accidentally selected the wrong year on Tinder and can't log in. 😐
I can listen to you all day and never get tired.
Thank you! As someone that used to get bullied for my voice sounding nasally, I really appreciate the compliment!
Need a site for people who are looking for life partners... People who are all in....
Men don't use dating apps for self esteem boost. Men use dating apps to meet real women in real life and get things going from THAT point on.
Thank you for your time!! Bumble was trash for sure but I really wanna give hinge a try!!
Absolutely! Let me know how it works out for you!
All 3 are awful. I'm still waiting for some company to come along and actually put out a quality dating app. None of these apps really work for most guys. Tinder was bad because it is filled to the brim with prostitutes, bots, and girls looking to rack up Instagram followers. Bumble is bad in particular because most girls you match with don't message and just let matches expire or message with a simple "hi" or "what's up", and Hinge is definitely the best, but because you get such limited swipes, it makes girls who are already very picky on those apps even more picky about who they will swipe right on. Overall, all are awful (at least from a guy's perspective) because you will get very few matches despite hours of swiping, will very likely not get a reply even if you come up with some witty or creative opener, and even if a conversation sparks, the chance you actually secure a date before the conversation ends are slim. I'm still waiting for a dating app wants to see people end up together instead of profiting off of lonely men buying the extra services in hopes of having a better shot that almost never actually makes a difference.
I don't think it is necessary to upgrade the account or pay for extra services. Weeding out people on the apps is no different that what we have to do outside of the online dating world. Dating is definitely work.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I agree that dating is definitely work, a lot of work. But I still just don’t think the apps work very well, they’re intentionally designed not to work too well. If they did, their user base would shrink. They thread the needle between giving people just enough hope that the apps can work so that they stay on, but not too much, so that they can convince people they need to pay for upgraded features for them to genuinely work. It’s a frustrating feedback loop. I stand by my earlier statement that I think all the apps are subpar at best, at least from the average guy’s perspective, and am still waiting for one that genuinely feels like a good faith attempt to help people find partners
Agreed
@@TheDynastyWarrior13 You have a point. "Dating" apps makes human relations worse, they are the devil's work. Ever since the "dating" apps entered the scene, long-term relations between men and women have only gotten WORSE with MORE break ups and more divorces.
Since women are hypergamous by nature they will always try to date up, and with social media apps they are flooded with offers, and therefore have a harder time to settle in their younger years. Plus our sick society doesn't exactly help with creating *families* these days!
Men on the other hand gradually lose the motivation/skills/self worth to TALK to women IRL since the apps kill their self esteem, and also it's much easier to go home to a dating app, and if not match, then at least LOOK at pictures and HOPE for a match...
(Plus there's a war on masculinity, but that's another story)
When women enter their 30's and 40's they will lose their looks (which is the #1 factor for men to pursue), and if they don't have a long-term partner in a nurtured relationship, they simply have a much harder time finding their hypergamous match, since the guys THEY find hot, always go for a younger model. Look at all these tik tok clips of miserable, middle-aged women, they can't find a satisfactory (for them) date! So women lose, too.
To the women: Lock down a GOOD man in your 20's (forget these Chads and Tyrones) and learn to cultivate a good relationship. And men have to put in the effort, too of course.
You can see through the s c a m that dating apps are. They will make a tiny percentage happy, and leave a ton of men AND women miserable, AND broke, since it's a money machine for the evil corporations, as well. It's ludicrous that people in 2023 still think these "dating" apps helps with human relationships! They do the opposite!
Something is seriously wrong if most dating app-users think it's such hard work, even stressful to use these apps, AND divorces are going through the roof. DING DING! Can someone pick up the clue phone here? :D
Focus your efforts IRL, the apps (and "social" media in general) is toxic, and also highly addictive for your mind, if you're prone to addiction.
with Bumble isn't the shoe on the other foot. like with all other apps the women get to sit back and get the ego boost.
One of the problems with Bumbke is women in vegetal are not likely to message first. They are used to the men doing that. And that is what they prefer. Just as in the real world - if a man and a women make eye contact a few times and smile the guy will probably go over and meet her. But the woman most likely will not go over and meet him.
I’m up there is years and I’m glad I grew up when I did. We spoke to those who we were interested in. In person. This stuff? Doesn’t do it for me
Dating apps aren't for everyone
What free dating app would have suggest to meet matured guys
Tinder is 10/10 superficial
Bumble 8.5/superficial (I bet if women had the choice for guys to message first most of them would do that.)
Hinge 7/10 superficial (mix of bumble and match).
As a person who gets no matches on bumble I don't get a self esteem boost lol.
Either way I need to pay to filter out women who has kids or wants them.
Or you could just use hinge and not have to pay for that extra filter.
Awesome 😎 video I have had bumble for 7 months and no matches at all but I keep trying maybe one day I’ll find someone hopefully
Don't give up hope! I would suggest trying out other dating apps as well.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I’ve try match and eharmony with no luck I just downloaded hinge and Tantan going to try them out also tryd Facebook dating got 5 matches but they never messaged me back ever so hopefully I’ll have better luck with hinge and Tantan
Samething only had 1 guy from bumble who took me out and we are now in a relationship
Well congratulations! Sounds like it all worked out for you!
I paid money for Bumble subscription
Amount got deducted from my bank and Subscribtion is not activated
There is not even a confirmation message that amount is received
Simply throwing out hard earned money into the ocean of cheaters pockets like this
No response
I lost
I was cheated
This is not at all fair
The support/help section is fake
They will not respond
I agree.
I'm sorry to hear that you went through that. I would just steer clear of the subscription and upgraded account features.
Their all terrible but the worst is 100% tinder
Tinder is hit or miss
@@sincerelycourtneylynne naw, all misses, at least for me. Their a joke
Bumble was boring, Hinge was difficult/faulty, and Tinder is disgusting.
ALL OF THEM R WORST
I'm on hinge bumble and tinder my ex came from tinder and my most successful match came from hinge things fizzled out after a while but there could possibly be something there as we still talk and see each other from time to time.
Sounds like you have had some success! I would consider even getting a date from a dating app as a win!
Yea women don’t like bumble because now they get a taste of their own medicine. But it’s better this way because women play too many games. I’d prefer to sit and wait on a message and then decline or accept who I want. I like bumble!
Glad to know you found an app that seems to work for you!
I'm in London and just downloaded Hinge. Must have gone through 30 or so profiles and literally all white which is way way skewed. Very Instagram style model shoot profiles, all seems quite self-absorbed tbh, though maybe not as many terrible lip jobs as I've seen on tinder. I've met some great women on Bumble and looks like I'll stick with it for now!
It's so interesting hearing about other peoples experiences with dating apps. I'm sure the reputation and average experience varies country to country. Sounds like bumble worked out for you though!
You can pick any ethnicity you like free of charge and set it as a dealbreaker for free if that’s your thing
@@Filia_Noctis it's just weird I would have to do that in this day and age
@Dvd Gum your profile shot is cropped a little tight, maybe show yourself doing something you enjoy like frolicking with some of your undersea friends?
I just deleted my hinge profile this morning after a week of being on it. (I’m new to the dating scene and this was my first ever online dating trial) I matched with a lot of guys but there are also a lot of cat fish on there. I also noticed that most of the guys I messaged or liked their profiles wouldn’t respond 🤷🏻♀️
Try a different app!
Thank you but the grocery store works best for me lol
Everyone is different so no judgment here. Dating apps just offer another way to meet people.
I'm a guy and i started using both bumble and hinge a week ago. Last time i used one was tinder, six years ago, and all i remember was the amount of work involved - so much messaging that lead to almost nothing. that's why i went with bumble and I have to say, I've enjoyed it. After a week on it I've gotten about a dozen matches and i have 3 dates lined up. I also feel like the caliber of conversation has been good as well. hinge is okay but i much prefer bumble
I was researching..thx for the info.... I'm just lazy.... Hate rejection..
I have zero luck on all three apps and funny thing I matched with the same person from bumble on tinder and it’s sad that I don’t get any response on all three apps and yet alone a message on bumble
Same man
Try a different app or finding people in person! I feel like dating apps have gotten the reputation of it being the "easy" way to find someone but it's not. Dating is work whether you're searching for people online or in person.
Another thing I was thinking. If you can't talk with the people where you're located then how much more difference will it be online??? 🤔
I think it's more about getting access to new people and less about not being able to talk to people near you. If you're like most people we tend to go to the same few places each week (school, work, gym, grocery store, etc) which do not really give us the best chances of meeting our special someone.
I’m an attractive in shape, average height dude but I don’t get a lot of matches because I’m 35, child free and conservative . I find most women either have or want kids and I want the dink life. And not being liberal seems to be a major dealbreaker for most women where I live. I guess I’m forever alone oh well. I’m also exactly 5’8 not 5’9 or 5’7 and I feel most women on tinder would rather date a 6ft sociopath over an average height or short male who has a good job, no baggage and has a great personality
Sorry bro, most women are not into short guys. Good luck Lol
A girl from Tinder is asking me if I've met other girls from Tinder. I have gone out a few times. What should I say? Should I say the truth?
Yeah I don’t see why it would be an issue that you’ve met up with other people from the app. That’s the entire point of it so it means you’re having some success!
the truth helps. We want to know if our bad experience is normal or if guys are doing any better
Dating apps are the reason so many people are unhappy. We don't have an app, not sure we ever will use one. What we do is allow people to create a personal ad they can control and maintain safely and free! There is no catch and we don't use cookies. The bottom line is it takes time to get to know someone, but paying for it is a little creepy. We're just getting started, check it out. Best of luck to everyone!
I also tried everyone of these apps I just didn’t like the premiums
What happens to people who can't get dates at all because of being Indian? I have been on all these sites and nothing happens. For about a two and half years and not one date because of my skin colour and me being Indian. Thanks for sharing your views.Do a video on this and you'll see what how it feels for some Indians because it's tougher to find a person who would date them. That's my experience. Sad.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne yes. I had women saying to me I can't go out with you because in I'm not black. Had another women on a site that said I only date white men. Sorry. That's what she said I must have messaged over 200 women and not even one date. Trust me look into this deeply and you'll see what I'm talking about. So what did I do deleted all the sites and thought forget it. Given up hope. Show me one video that shows an Indian guy on any of these sites that has said I met this person on there. Example bumble/badoo/plenty of fish/tinder. Not one video. It's all ways a black guy with a white women or the reverse. Why? Thanks for the reply.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I understand what your saying but does help. I have just given up. My friend has been on all these sites and found loads of women because he's black and when I tell him I didn't find anyone. That's when said he couldn't believe it. We even Sat down and went through some women and nothing happened but when messaged the same women they had a date. That's a true story. I know not everyone is like this but a majority are on sites are, I would say 98% wouldn't date Indians. Trust me. Thanks for the reply. Courtney Lynne.
@@charanjit7427 Also, I am sorry that anyone ever told you that. Trust me when I say that you are WAYYYYY better off without that person. You've been dodging bullets my friend
@@sincerelycourtneylynne I have been on dating apps and nothing happened they say it's a match but then it's like I met someone else or sorry your not my type or the best one is the computer says we are match but we're not, good luck on your search, or sorry you don't have a good job. That's what im saying. It just doesn't work. Also it's a match and you reply and they don't get back to you. Nearly two and half years and not even one date. I know it's up the person who they like but when you've been rejected and feel That there is no hope at all what do you do? I'm not bringing or blaming or putting the race game but sometimes I feel this way, up but look at the dates that people go on or the videos you see when they advertise them. Thanks for getting back to me Courtney Lynne.
@@charanjit7427 go work out
Imagine being the fiancé and listening to her talk about all of her previous dates and experiences
Everyone has a dating history 🤷🏼♀️
Yikes Kev
Who cares? He was also in Tinder, right.
That just means, out of all the guys she's had, he's better than all of them!
How many Body counts is a big factor when selecting a woman, which she doesn’t get
I do agree
Best part of this video: cute doggos
They're the real star of the show.
Always
none of them work. probably not enough singles in my area.
You should try expanding the distance range in the app!
All in all a good review, though some of us do need to dial it down that much, If we're Christian and believe in sound doctrine, we understand 2 Corinthians 6:14 pretty thoroughly.
I know finding someone with the same religion is extremely important to some people, but I wouldn't let it deter you from meeting other people. Just because someone isn't religious doesn't mean they are a bad person or that it will cause issues in your relationship. People can share the same morals and values while having difference religious beliefs. But to each their own!
Wow so you met him and got engaged a month?
We got engaged nine months after meeting for the first time. We’ve been married a year now but have been together a total of almost 3
Ann Marie tinder is a great but i have no partner yet are still on tinder dear Ann hope you got a partner?
This helped me a lot thanks :)
Awesome! Glad to hear it!
Be an average dude on any dating app. You will get almost no matches. Just try. Idk what kinda guys you talked to about bumble but I was on that app for like half a year and never even got more than 2 matches.
Did you try any of the other apps? I think it really varies based on location and what's the more popular app wherever you are located.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne yeah. I wouldn’t even say I’m that bad of a looking guy. I don’t take the best pics. But mean no one matches on pretty much any app. Maybe it’s something in my bio. But I mean when it comes to dating apps it’s like 80% looks. So I guess I’m just not as good looking as the competition. So not too mad. Just disappointed.
@@rageraptor7127 I wouldn't take it personally, when you hear guys that say they get tons of matches, more times than not, they ain't. In real life probably don't get anymore matches than the majority of guys.
Some people on these apps will indiscriminately swipe, without really paying much attention or thought. So they might get more matches, but usually from girls they're not really interested in or simply fake profiles.
All them apps are a waste of time and money I'll just wait as long as it takes for God to lead me to mine and plus most of them people on these apps don't have my characteristics and type of energy
Kinda funny if you analyze it. Men: complain about not getting likes and matches unless from women who aim way too high. Women: can't find a guy. Hmmmmmm, wonder what the cause would be. Inflated egos is the answer.
Sure. Couldn't be that some people are not worth the time. As an app user, yes I get many matches and 99 % of them suck. And it's time consuming to find one or two guys that won't go straight to sex, send pics, be super creepy etc.
People just aim high and it’s not realistic. Men complain about not getting matches but I’m pretty sure they do they just want models and hot girls that don’t want them because they want hot guys.
@@hillyholly9004 Oh, that's simply not true. On Bumble over 95% of men look for relationships. The fact that you think 99% suck is the fact why women in online dating are awfully entitled. You are the problem, not men.
@@dianamoncada6734 Data disproves your assumption. It's women who are deluded and have inflated ego's. Stop thinking you deserve a model when you yourself are average at best.
@@Ariovistus50 @lennert cornette look, I have found a long term parter on bumble. But, it took a lot of time and a lot of bad apples. Lot of guys not ready for a relationship. most of the matches you get are not quality matches. Quality meaning people won't reply to you anyway, or won't hold a conversation for more than couple messages, people who immediately try to get sex, picture etc. And trust me, I filter out the dude with gym selfies and fish holding obvious fboys before even swipping. Yes,there are a lot of entitled women on dating apps. There are also a lot of men, who think women owe them dates and sex because they have been nice enough for three minutes. And that's just not what I want. Lastly, I think the dating landscape warries a lot depending where you are, maybe you're lucky to be in an area, where the dating pool is less horrible
Guys just write "Hello there! I have money" With some fancy photos. Trust me this works
Does it?
After Registration you charge per messages ?
What about okcupid?
I never tried it so I am not sure.
Am single
I was kicked off bagel meets coffee and I’m not sure why they told me I wasn’t their type of person to be on their app could thus even be legal to say to me ?
How strange! I didn't even know that was a thing
🤣🤣🤣
Thank you. Never mind this goon who wrote these comments above.
Lol glad to see someone shared a similar point of view.
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The feeling that I see in your soul
Fills me with strength.
Every time I look into your eyes,
I remember why I fell in love.
And I hope that you see
That same love reflecting from me.
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I live in the carribbean I rather date some one who's in there 60 and up I am 45
Everyone is different!
Can I have one day of not being discussed by a woman's Behavior. Probably not. But you don't realize how you treat other human beings and it is very depressing
I don't know who hurt you, but it wasn't me.
I hate how all of them are like pay to win
I never used the paid features. I don't know how helpful they would actually be
Hypergamy on a nutshell 🙂
How so?
@@sincerelycourtneylynne your so clueless it’s a sickness
I've tried dating apps n with no such luck so I gave up
Everyone's experience is different. Dating apps are just a tool.
Which is better for Muslim man to get married in London, Please ? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Bumble and hinge are the worst sites ever
Any better recommendations?
too much men in these apps, we shouldnt use them at all.
only the top 10 will use it as self steem booster, stop sending messages to the top models and stay with the average dudes
Dating app are scary, last time the random girl ask me so many sexual things
At least you can just choose not to reply. Peoples true intentions on dating apps are usually revealed within a couple of messages
I have over 450 matches on Tinder and can’t land a single date if that says anything
1. Do you actually ask to meet up with the people you match with? I only talking to people for a week max people meeting up with them. Sometimes I think the longer you talk to someone on the app the less likely they are to meet up
2. Try a different app
Hi you make this site ?
WOW!!!! They really said that????
What exactly are you referring to?
I'm trying to find something serious on dateing apps I'm looking tbh for both casual and serious but nothing so they basically target vounreble ppl who looking for love to spend money on thier site for Nothing
I don't think you have to spend money on any of the upgraded features in order to find a good match. I never did anyways.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne well it's pretty different between us it's easier for a woman to find a match or get a match in general I been on there for few years and still nothing for me
Try me
Plenty of fish has a rating chart where it pretty much said I was practically dead lol I don’t think I am lol
You have had some interesting run ins with these dating apps lol
Don't give up hope!
POF said "congratulations, you are the second most popular man in your region!"
Never got a single date..
Dating apps make me suicidal.
That's very sad.
Solve the mental health issues first before you try dating.
Dating and finding someone according to WHO THEY ARE AS A PERSON and not what Job you have, Big house you have, Car you drive... Women are very very superficial !
Some PEOPLE (both men and women) are superficial.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne MOSTLY WOMEN ... there are some clouds in the sky, but doesn't mean it's going to rain...
@@newblue41 if you think the women are only talking to you for your house, car, etc start with cheap coffee/outdoorsy activity dates and don’t talk about your possessions. Gold diggers will run. If you think 98% of the female population are gold diggers, do yourself a favor and don’t date/learn how to associate with women platonically without expectation of sex/relationship.
Am from Kenya,God fearing can i get a serious partner.
I believe in you Milly!
I want to meet woman from another country but I'm afraid to meet fake people
Yeah there is definitely a lot of risk in that. May I ask why you don't wish to meet people from your country?
To me Tinder isnt that good. I have gotten a few matches. 1 Still talking to. But I dont get many matches and I have a nice profile. Now Bumble has gotten Nothing. The Likes i have gotten on Tinder I will not pay for. I think its so stupid that you have to get matches to send a message. Cause Matches dont happen Much.
How long have you been using the apps?
@@sincerelycourtneylynne 3 weeks. It's a good profile. I'm also checking out bumble You?
@@SportsLiveInTheAtl Oh yeah you gotta give it some time. I was on 3 apps for a month before meeting my husband. I also went on a lot of dates during that time. I wouldn't talk to anyone longer than a week before meeting up with them considering how different people can be online versus in person. I actually matched and met up with my husband the same day...real spontaneous lol
@@SportsLiveInTheAtl Also, this was all before covid. The dating scene has probably changed a bit because of that fact.
@@sincerelycourtneylynne Possible
Who goes on Tinder not to just Hock Up🤷♀️? Comm On!
I think it's safe to say that everyone uses each app for different reasons unless the app itself specifically states the reason it should be used for.
I can't appload Hinge here in the Philippines, Tinder is not good for me.. but will try bumble.
I tried many dating sites but still unlucky to meet real and nice guy. All are scam, fake picture and rude. So 😭😭😭😭
You definitely have to use your investigating skills prior to meeting up with someone to see if they are legit or not.
Sorry about that
The right man will come your way