But internet helps connect to other people. Many have found true love through the internet. The problem is with the dating apps specifically made to commodify romance and human relationships
I’m so glad that I’ve never had to resort to online dating. The best way to meet a potential romantic partner is and will always be in person, preferably in a neutral setting which involves a common interest of some kind.
A beautiful way to encourage people to date old school ways in the strength of the human spirit, with dignity and respect. Honestly, truthfulness and courage. God bless is Right. 🙂
One thing I have realised is people often date for others, like they don't want to know or feel good about their choice, rather they want the onlookers to validate their choice, I am sure this happens in online dating too.
I found my now husband on Tinder about 7 years ago. I was very discerning and read every word of every bio before making a decision on each person. I appreciated the opportunities that online dating offered me, as it allowed me to meet people that I would have never bumped into in person. I don't know how much the online dating scene has changed since then, but I'm glad I'm done with the dating.
The intentions of people are more difficult to discern. Especially if one is looking for someone of a specific culture or religion. A lot of abuse occurs to vulnerable people as well
She is adorable. But went for the "tall handsome guy" too. In fact - she started the convo with him. And kept talking even tho he didnt remember her lol.
hahaha. I think she was trying to imply that she is not above the society's tendency to take physical beauty more seriously. And he ended up becoming her husband because the interaction had been a face to face interaction in a physical setting. If she had found his profile online/ on app, he may have just ghosted or totally ignored her, even if she had swiped left on his profile. Plenty of line dropping in the examples given here.
Her optimism is contiguous! Loved the speech! However, there are situations, countries, age groups when meeting offline is practically impoßible and you have to revert to online dating.
"Finding the right one is not just about meeting the right one, but also being the right one and choosing the right one" Love this one! I made the right decision to work on myself first and on my skills and I know I will just attract the right guy for me💙 Currently 20 years old and never had a boyfriend yet. PS: I'll update you guys if I found the right one👀😂
So weird that most of the guys say online dating is unsuccessful for them and girls are only after money/look. But when u start a genuine convo with them, they vanish. Done with dating apps forever !!!!
Unsuccessful compared to what? Going to a bar and trying to pick up a girl? Online dating is the most efficient way to go about it. Life is hard in general, so is dating but it’s worth it.
It is possible that a particular type of person is online looking. We can't find in real life, then that's an issue sometimes. I recently saw my first ex on the same marriage app as I was on, ten years after he's been married. He is divorced apparently. I met him on a website too. I deleted the app quickly. A certain type of person is on the apps. Hopefully we will have better luck now in real life. Miracles happen daily!
Great talk. One of the best Ted talks I've watched. I learnt a very long time ago that looks aren't the most important thing when deciding on who I wanted to date. Although I believe physical attraction is important to a certain extent, it's by far not the most important aspect of a person. I'm lucky that I got married before the age of Tinder because I don't think I could handle the dating scene in today's world as it's just so shallow and superficial. I have friends who would make great partners but still remain single because they are only average or above average in appearance and unfortunately for them being average or even above average in appearance just doesn't cut it on dating apps like Tinder. I can see that this is having a detrimental affect on their mental health and I even lost one friend to suicide after he became so lonely and convinced that he was of no worth to anyone. If I had my way, I'd make online dating apps like Tinder illegal.
@@rod7177 we should spread this on all kinds of sites it's a great tagline! From what I see YT and hear from people it's really sad. Seems like you have to be strong and maybe put up a front of narcissism to even go on there. I don't like to tell things about myself until I know I'm going to continue to date someone! I don't use apps I never have because I would be very uncomfortable and I am very outgoing! Spread the word 😀
The most transparent talk from a genuine life experience, overcoming stereotypes and with priceless self-esteem and confidence means to be shared with others! Kudos ... Loved her Singapore/Malay accent !
Very good speech and points. One thing I will say, however, is that while it’s good to emphasize self improvement, that’s not the end all be all. I say this because that talking point is typically emphasized from the standpoint of believing that one’s own efforts will have control over a desired outcome. This is not so in reality. For example, a woman can like me and do everything in her power to t try to appeal to me. But if I share no mutual interest, there’s nothing she can do to change that. Her “self improvement” would be futile. What’s not often talked about in the scope of dating and mating is that there’s only so much control we can act have. That’s because we do not have control over the next person. People have free will and have their own perceptions of reality. The reason those points are often shushed and omitted is that there’s money to be made off of this. She made that point early on in that this online dating stuff (I’d even say offline too) is essentially a business and the goal is to make the dollar. That said, it’s no surprise that there’s an overemphasis on “self improvement.” Self improvement is being used as a means to get people to feel that they aren’t enough and that they need to improve thus paying these people money for services to improve. The sellers are creating the idea that there’s an issue that needs solving and of course they have the answers lol. Considering that, I think the best thing to do is be the best version of oneself but also to show oneself mercy as well. Just because a rejection comes doesn’t always mean it’s something you did wrong. Maybe the other person just wasn’t interested, maybe they have a mate already, etc. hi knows. All you can do is do the best you can. We have no control over the next person. To highlight these talking points would be to undermine the industry and the cultural and social conditioning. Really think on that. God bless and peace.
Online Dating is what you make of it. It is your chance to get connected to the right person while you are sleeping. Little digital helpers are working for you to leverage offline channels.
She just described her husband ''the most handsome guy''. she wanted to give us a nice message but I noticed that she was obssessed about the appearance of a guy and she is happy because she has him now. It is human nature to be impressed by beauty of others and there is nothing wrong with dating apps. these apps just should get better in algorithm.
A better algorithm won't change fact the the apps increase the superficiality of dating. Nor will it change the fact the looks ALWAYS matter, as her story shows, but it matters less if you meet a woman in other environments.
Kudos to her message on choosing inner beauty over external beauty, and at the same time, acknowledging but not judging the society's at large tendency to take to physical beauty more seriously. Also didn't miss her point on how if it's the case that if you can't change the look you were born with, then focus on what you can work on - your skills, competencies, and passion, and overcome your insecurities and unhappiness about what others have that you don't, by finding your own domain of happiness by self-fulfillment. However I kinda also didn't miss the point that she came on this platform to promote her business - comparing her business's model to that of dating apps don't cut out the fact that they all are in the similar business of match making, and shouldn't try to make the distinction. Also, not true about what she said about "not having found the right one yet", or having been with the wrong one, for the matter. And I think many who had been single for an extended period would agree.. It was because the timing was just not right and I wasn't in the best state to want to be attached or get hitched. And I didn't think that I was not the "right one" and neither was I trying to be "the one" I thought the "type" I had liked would have liked me to be. We just had many things we wanted to be and do, and didn't think we were missing out on anything by being single and trying to be good at what we want to do.. 我是相信自己和缘分的. Something, or someone who knows you for the gem that you really are, will never make you wait too long. When you are ready for it, you will get many things that come your way. Still a good outreach speech in many ways though - It's always better to trust your instinct and be happy with yourself first, before you are someone's other half - with or without the help of technology
This may be inappropriate but I once had a cashier at the grocery store talk to me and make small conversation while I was checking out. She was probably 20 years older than me but her personality was so amazing and funny that it made me want to ask her out and take her on a spicy date. She was happily taken though so I didn't say anything. I acknowledge that men are visual creatures, especially me, but I threw away favoring looks that day for some reason and I guess the speaker here captured that reasoning.
This is a great story and I'm happy for her. But her story is an exception and not the rule. The reality is that physical attraction matters. Now I do like what she said about working on types of self improvement you can control. Social skills, fitness, confidence, hobbies, etc.. That helps you become the best version of yourself. 💯 But having a dating service that doesn't allow you to see a photo of the person prior isn't optimal. Ultimately the goal should be to match you up with a person you could be both physically and mentally attracted to.
Too many men, and I was one of them, simply have too low self-worth and too negative an attitude. Change these things and meet other people with a caring and positive attitudde. It works!
I am one of those as well. I worry too much about being rejected or that the other person already has a mate or partner. However, I think you're right about approaching with a positive attitude instead of a negative one.
I agree with her, work on yourself, be your bestself, go the distance, try try try. I would be curious what her husband's story is just to get the male perspective.
People are very picky. People want someone really very beautiful in their lives. This post cannot be ignored. It will take a lot of courage for some one to marry someone on their level {because all women are seeking Chad and because all men are seeking Stacy}. We live in a time in where people {regardless of image} have too much pride and they believe in their heart that they deserve someone very very hot {someone very attractive}. November 3, 2024, USA
I'm 36 and still single. he broke up with me after 3 years of long distance relationship. Honestly I used to be positive and approached the guys I liked with good personality. Obviously end up all of them broke up with me.
As someone who's never been considered pretty or besutiful, I can testify to the fact that superficial may not be the best criteria... but the ones who is considered beautiful etc.just have better chances in general. Studies show it and for many of us, we also know this....
But chances will not stand the test of time. And beauty is only the the eye of the beholder. Always remember that self validation and competence are the only constants that can help you live a life by design and choice, and not false desire and chance. If there is only gna be one thing I can agree with this speech, I will say that it'll be what she is trying to say that everyone starts off on uneven footing, but putting in effort using the best method that suits you, will get you where you need to be. Everyone is different, so you can only do it differently. If people judge you unfairly, then perhaps they are not for you.
Statistically speaking this is true. That would imagine on these dating apps they set people up to be superficial because it's the only thing you're judging people on. I don't care what it says in the profiles that's not how you get to know someone.. I have met people and relationships where they literally look different to me because they're so wonderful. That is beautiful
You know I had to look at your profile thumbnail. I guess you didn't use your own picture, you picked someone very pretty? I think we are way more critical of ourselves than anyone else .
@@anam6013 Not Yet, and still waiting.. iam already met the first candidate but unfortunately he doesnt like me. so.. yeah, iam just waiting for 2nd candidate..
I was told growing up love is for everyone... But modern culture is now like. 3:24 "If your a "successful" man then...." She can't even just say an average guy 😂 that's not the standard anymore. Also, notice how "Jennifer" isn't expect to hold this attribute. So basically for guys just to summarize. Love for guys is for the wealthy. And in online dating your in a Roman colleseum fighting other men in these online apps for someone sitting back and passively and casually looking at an avalanche of messages of which yours is always a speck. In the same way that when we look at the stars we wonder how small we all are in relation to our place in the universe.
So confusing why people feel the need to use the smoke screen of body positivity to judge others for being superficial but at the same time do the same thing. Congrats to her finding love in such an amazing way, but sharing the fact that searching for love using height as a standard for compatability is definitely shallow while at the same time shes making it a point to mention that her husband is tall. It's perpetuating the same skewed perception of the "perfect mate."
The word t thing about all these dating sites data analysis is that it makes it look like being single is the worst thing that could happen to anybody.. and that’s far from being the truth.. being in a relationship or married is just one possible way to go through life and its not necessearly the best..
Education level is definitely not a superficial criteria, it defines how well you can grasp things in life. Better to marry a educated person than a bogan 😆
Education is different than knowledge, you can be a dropout and still get a lot of knowledge and be really smart. Degrees are illusionary in social situations
It would be nice if this kind of stuff actually worked but we know from Love is Blind that two people can have a serious vibe when they talk to each other but then when they finally see each other the entire vibe is thrown out if they aren't attracted to each other.
superficial criteria determines the genetic lottery, got to be responsible for the kid if having any (not to say the other factors don't matter) but looks are definitely important.
There are so many times I just wish we didn’t largely do away with debutant balls. I know we see it as outdated but that would be so helpful. Literally the same idea as Hinge (using your existing network to find someone), only it’s in person.
I like her message and this talk, but what’s with the audience? Her: “If I stuck with online dating, I would have never have met my husband.” The audience: “LMAO!!!!!!!”
I like her message
Self development over self pity
Change what you can
Love her line at the end “True love happens offline”. So true!
Before it can happen you have to date...
So fking true
@@SR-gs8zo Women think rationally? Nahhhh! Lol
But internet helps connect to other people. Many have found true love through the internet. The problem is with the dating apps specifically made to commodify romance and human relationships
I found my husband online. He’s my best friend and I’ve never had a love like this ever.
I’m so glad that I’ve never had to resort to online dating. The best way to meet a potential romantic partner is and will always be in person, preferably in a neutral setting which involves a common interest of some kind.
A beautiful way to encourage people to date old school ways in the strength of the human spirit, with dignity and respect. Honestly, truthfulness and courage. God bless is Right. 🙂
"The Dating App Confessions" is a short book that explains the craziness of modern dating.
Loads and loads of people have realised this and have created significant internet presence by conveying this message in various articulate ways.
One thing I have realised is people often date for others, like they don't want to know or feel good about their choice, rather they want the onlookers to validate their choice, I am sure this happens in online dating too.
I found my now husband on Tinder about 7 years ago. I was very discerning and read every word of every bio before making a decision on each person. I appreciated the opportunities that online dating offered me, as it allowed me to meet people that I would have never bumped into in person. I don't know how much the online dating scene has changed since then, but I'm glad I'm done with the dating.
The intentions of people are more difficult to discern. Especially if one is looking for someone of a specific culture or religion. A lot of abuse occurs to vulnerable people as well
She is adorable. But went for the "tall handsome guy" too. In fact - she started the convo with him. And kept talking even tho he didnt remember her lol.
Glad I'm not the only one who caught that
hahaha. I think she was trying to imply that she is not above the society's tendency to take physical beauty more seriously. And he ended up becoming her husband because the interaction had been a face to face interaction in a physical setting. If she had found his profile online/ on app, he may have just ghosted or totally ignored her, even if she had swiped left on his profile. Plenty of line dropping in the examples given here.
Her optimism is contiguous! Loved the speech! However, there are situations, countries, age groups when meeting offline is practically impoßible and you have to revert to online dating.
"Finding the right one is not just about meeting the right one, but also being the right one and choosing the right one"
Love this one!
I made the right decision to work on myself first and on my skills and I know I will just attract the right guy for me💙 Currently 20 years old and never had a boyfriend yet.
PS: I'll update you guys if I found the right one👀😂
Awesome 👍. Good luck!!
So weird that most of the guys say online dating is unsuccessful for them and girls are only after money/look. But when u start a genuine convo with them, they vanish. Done with dating apps forever !!!!
Unsuccessful compared to what? Going to a bar and trying to pick up a girl?
Online dating is the most efficient way to go about it. Life is hard in general, so is dating but it’s worth it.
That's probably because you are looking for the same men nearly 90% of your fellow women on these dating apps are looking for.
It is possible that a particular type of person is online looking. We can't find in real life, then that's an issue sometimes. I recently saw my first ex on the same marriage app as I was on, ten years after he's been married. He is divorced apparently. I met him on a website too. I deleted the app quickly.
A certain type of person is on the apps.
Hopefully we will have better luck now in real life.
Miracles happen daily!
She makes great sense.
On line dating sucks and it's basically just a meat market.
Better to meet organically.
Organic meat is better? Nice
OliviaNewtronBomb, that's a cool name!
Meet where?!
Great talk. One of the best Ted talks I've watched. I learnt a very long time ago that looks aren't the most important thing when deciding on who I wanted to date. Although I believe physical attraction is important to a certain extent, it's by far not the most important aspect of a person. I'm lucky that I got married before the age of Tinder because I don't think I could handle the dating scene in today's world as it's just so shallow and superficial. I have friends who would make great partners but still remain single because they are only average or above average in appearance and unfortunately for them being average or even above average in appearance just doesn't cut it on dating apps like Tinder. I can see that this is having a detrimental affect on their mental health and I even lost one friend to suicide after he became so lonely and convinced that he was of no worth to anyone. If I had my way, I'd make online dating apps like Tinder illegal.
"make dating apps like Tinder illegal." I agree, WITHOUT HESITATION.
@@rod7177 we should spread this on all kinds of sites it's a great tagline! From what I see YT and hear from people it's really sad.
Seems like you have to be strong and maybe put up a front of narcissism to even go on there. I don't like to tell things about myself until I know I'm going to continue to date someone!
I don't use apps I never have because I would be very uncomfortable and I am very outgoing! Spread the word 😀
I think it’s the unrealistic beauty standards. I think dating always been hard and attractive is subjective.
Very sad & true. My condolences to you for loosing a friend.
I like u I m alone 👧👧😍😍❤🌷🌷
True. Thhough I've met women in the past online, real chemistry happens in a tangible setting
i met two relationships on facebook
The most transparent talk from a genuine life experience, overcoming stereotypes and with priceless self-esteem and confidence means to be shared with others! Kudos ... Loved her Singapore/Malay accent !
Im in tears…a very short but powerful TED TALK. whatever Kool-aid shes on I want it 😭😭
I’m gonna assume shes a Christian too 🔥
Great message. I almost dismissed her at the start. But she’s cool and gets it.
Wow m so touched by her last sentence "True love happens offline "🤍❤💜
Hi 😍😍❤❤🌷🌷🌷🌷
@@ImranKhan-tj3dr :p
True love happens offline
Very good speech and points. One thing I will say, however, is that while it’s good to emphasize self improvement, that’s not the end all be all. I say this because that talking point is typically emphasized from the standpoint of believing that one’s own efforts will have control over a desired outcome. This is not so in reality.
For example, a woman can like me and do everything in her power to t try to appeal to me. But if I share no mutual interest, there’s nothing she can do to change that. Her “self improvement” would be futile.
What’s not often talked about in the scope of dating and mating is that there’s only so much control we can act have. That’s because we do not have control over the next person. People have free will and have their own perceptions of reality.
The reason those points are often shushed and omitted is that there’s money to be made off of this. She made that point early on in that this online dating stuff (I’d even say offline too) is essentially a business and the goal is to make the dollar. That said, it’s no surprise that there’s an overemphasis on “self improvement.”
Self improvement is being used as a means to get people to feel that they aren’t enough and that they need to improve thus paying these people money for services to improve. The sellers are creating the idea that there’s an issue that needs solving and of course they have the answers lol.
Considering that, I think the best thing to do is be the best version of oneself but also to show oneself mercy as well. Just because a rejection comes doesn’t always mean it’s something you did wrong. Maybe the other person just wasn’t interested, maybe they have a mate already, etc. hi knows.
All you can do is do the best you can. We have no control over the next person. To highlight these talking points would be to undermine the industry and the cultural and social conditioning. Really think on that. God bless and peace.
Just avoid the online apps, do the hard work of actively seeking people IRL, and you will generally be happier.
The one thing dating apps won't tell you .... they are all scams.
True loves truly does happen when u least expect it and when u are being ur 100 percent self !
Online Dating is what you make of it.
It is your chance to get connected to the right person while you are sleeping.
Little digital helpers are working for you to leverage offline channels.
Thank you. This was my confirmation that I was right to delete all of my dating apps last week.
She just described her husband ''the most handsome guy''. she wanted to give us a nice message but I noticed that she was obssessed about the appearance of a guy and she is happy because she has him now.
It is human nature to be impressed by beauty of others and there is nothing wrong with dating apps. these apps just should get better in algorithm.
A better algorithm won't change fact the the apps increase the superficiality of dating. Nor will it change the fact the looks ALWAYS matter, as her story shows, but it matters less if you meet a woman in other environments.
She's right about apps being corporations at the end of the day - they don't really care whether you find the right one.
Kudos to her message on choosing inner beauty over external beauty, and at the same time, acknowledging but not judging the society's at large tendency to take to physical beauty more seriously. Also didn't miss her point on how if it's the case that if you can't change the look you were born with, then focus on what you can work on - your skills, competencies, and passion, and overcome your insecurities and unhappiness about what others have that you don't, by finding your own domain of happiness by self-fulfillment.
However I kinda also didn't miss the point that she came on this platform to promote her business - comparing her business's model to that of dating apps don't cut out the fact that they all are in the similar business of match making, and shouldn't try to make the distinction.
Also, not true about what she said about "not having found the right one yet", or having been with the wrong one, for the matter. And I think many who had been single for an extended period would agree.. It was because the timing was just not right and I wasn't in the best state to want to be attached or get hitched. And I didn't think that I was not the "right one" and neither was I trying to be "the one" I thought the "type" I had liked would have liked me to be. We just had many things we wanted to be and do, and didn't think we were missing out on anything by being single and trying to be good at what we want to do.. 我是相信自己和缘分的. Something, or someone who knows you for the gem that you really are, will never make you wait too long. When you are ready for it, you will get many things that come your way.
Still a good outreach speech in many ways though - It's always better to trust your instinct and be happy with yourself first, before you are someone's other half - with or without the help of technology
good comment
@@azjargalbyamba9654 😊 thanks
What a fantastic woman.
3:00 this will be the apps' destruction. The app has no intention of actually losing you as a revenue stream.
Exactly
It’s a hustle
Exactly right. True love happens off line 😊
This may be inappropriate but I once had a cashier at the grocery store talk to me and make small conversation while I was checking out. She was probably 20 years older than me but her personality was so amazing and funny that it made me want to ask her out and take her on a spicy date. She was happily taken though so I didn't say anything.
I acknowledge that men are visual creatures, especially me, but I threw away favoring looks that day for some reason and I guess the speaker here captured that reasoning.
This is a great story and I'm happy for her. But her story is an exception and not the rule. The reality is that physical attraction matters.
Now I do like what she said about working on types of self improvement you can control. Social skills, fitness, confidence, hobbies, etc.. That helps you become the best version of yourself. 💯
But having a dating service that doesn't allow you to see a photo of the person prior isn't optimal. Ultimately the goal should be to match you up with a person you could be both physically and mentally attracted to.
Look fellas, you're better off going to a bar than going to a online site
Oh I loved that - she is so genuine, lovely and right! A great talk. Thank you :)
Best advice I've heard for a long time - she's cool.
Too many men, and I was one of them, simply have too low self-worth and too negative an attitude. Change these things and meet other people with a caring and positive attitudde. It works!
I am one of those as well. I worry too much about being rejected or that the other person already has a mate or partner. However, I think you're right about approaching with a positive attitude instead of a negative one.
Encouraging and inspiring. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable
this is amazing
lol "if I was a girl & wasn't pretty, I would die"
ty :)
I agree with her, work on yourself, be your bestself, go the distance, try try try. I would be curious what her husband's story is just to get the male perspective.
People are very picky. People want someone really very beautiful in their lives. This post cannot be ignored. It will take a lot of courage for some one to marry someone on their level {because all women are seeking Chad and because all men are seeking Stacy}. We live in a time in where people {regardless of image} have too much pride and they believe in their heart that they deserve someone very very hot {someone very attractive}. November 3, 2024, USA
I am single because I met the right one...MYSELF ❤
I'm 36 and still single. he broke up with me after 3 years of long distance relationship. Honestly I used to be positive and approached the guys I liked with good personality. Obviously end up all of them broke up with me.
I like her attitude! Yes, love "true love happens offline."
I love u ❤❤🌷🌷
I like u 👧👧😍😍
Really
Violet, thank you!!! You're a healer!!! And you are absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!!
One of the best talks on dating
this is an eye opener. Thanks for this
Brilliant speech with excellent delivery. Nice and well said advice.
It was almost like beauty and the beast,but it was sweet.
I find her to be pretty
Very nice presentation and an optimistic message.
As someone who's never been considered pretty or besutiful, I can testify to the fact that superficial may not be the best criteria... but the ones who is considered beautiful etc.just have better chances in general. Studies show it and for many of us, we also know this....
But chances will not stand the test of time. And beauty is only the the eye of the beholder. Always remember that self validation and competence are the only constants that can help you live a life by design and choice, and not false desire and chance.
If there is only gna be one thing I can agree with this speech, I will say that it'll be what she is trying to say that everyone starts off on uneven footing, but putting in effort using the best method that suits you, will get you where you need to be. Everyone is different, so you can only do it differently. If people judge you unfairly, then perhaps they are not for you.
Statistically speaking this is true. That would imagine on these dating apps they set people up to be superficial because it's the only thing you're judging people on. I don't care what it says in the profiles that's not how you get to know someone.. I have met people and relationships where they literally look different to me because they're so wonderful. That is beautiful
You know I had to look at your profile thumbnail. I guess you didn't use your own picture, you picked someone very pretty? I think we are way more critical of ourselves than anyone else .
iam trying this dating right now, wish me luck 🤞
So did it work
@@anam6013 Not Yet, and still waiting.. iam already met the first candidate but unfortunately he doesnt like me. so.. yeah, iam just waiting for 2nd candidate..
I was told growing up love is for everyone... But modern culture is now like. 3:24 "If your a "successful" man then...." She can't even just say an average guy 😂 that's not the standard anymore. Also, notice how "Jennifer" isn't expect to hold this attribute.
So basically for guys just to summarize.
Love for guys is for the wealthy.
And in online dating your in a Roman colleseum fighting other men in these online apps for someone sitting back and passively and casually looking at an avalanche of messages of which yours is always a speck.
In the same way that when we look at the stars we wonder how small we all are in relation to our place in the universe.
So true
Excellency at its best god-level speech man I love it so much thank you
Excellent speech and speaker
Video calls is the solution
Dating Apps can dehumanize the process of dating. Although this depends on the app. As some just base it off your picture.
I like this woman
She is my Hero from now.
Thank you! I needed this!
This was beautifully done
So confusing why people feel the need to use the smoke screen of body positivity to judge others for being superficial but at the same time do the same thing. Congrats to her finding love in such an amazing way, but sharing the fact that searching for love using height as a standard for compatability is definitely shallow while at the same time shes making it a point to mention that her husband is tall. It's perpetuating the same skewed perception of the "perfect mate."
Tony Gaskins has been saying this. Glad she did it ❤
Wow don't know how I stumbled here but good mgs.
The best video i watched in yt😄. Im happy i came across this
I love your love story and your message! ❤️🥰
Great advice. Thank you 💖 Love your story
The word t thing about all these dating sites data analysis is that it makes it look like being single is the worst thing that could happen to anybody.. and that’s far from being the truth.. being in a relationship or married is just one possible way to go through life and its not necessearly the best..
9:20 How are people laughing at this?!
"Dating that stays online stays superficial. "
Fascinating stuff!
Shes one of the best speaker in TED talks! ❤
Or u marriad
I need true love seriouse relationship 💑💑❤❤😍😍🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
Should be more beautiful in character
Education level is definitely not a superficial criteria, it defines how well you can grasp things in life. Better to marry a educated person than a bogan 😆
Yes, as long as he's 6 ft tall! 😂 Jk I totally agree I like learning from person I'm with
Education is different than knowledge, you can be a dropout and still get a lot of knowledge and be really smart.
Degrees are illusionary in social situations
It would be nice if this kind of stuff actually worked but we know from Love is Blind that two people can have a serious vibe when they talk to each other but then when they finally see each other the entire vibe is thrown out if they aren't attracted to each other.
Awesome presentation!
LOVE HER! great talk...
Great talk.
I loved this!
Love this talk 👌🏾
Love this! And she is very right!
One of the best Ted talks ever💓😍🔥
Hi ❤❤❤❤❤😍😍🌷🌷🌷
Nice lady but it was still superficial criteria that made her pick her future husband so she is contradicting what she is saying
She has looks in her superficial list and yet she proudly announced her husband is handsome.
I think she is trying to poke her husband. I doubt that she look at his looks at all.
superficial criteria determines the genetic lottery, got to be responsible for the kid if having any (not to say the other factors don't matter) but looks are definitely important.
Love this Lady 👏❤️
Thank you!!!
There are so many times I just wish we didn’t largely do away with debutant balls. I know we see it as outdated but that would be so helpful. Literally the same idea as Hinge (using your existing network to find someone), only it’s in person.
lol i take tinder (online dating) seriously. Just to have fun
Excellent!
Wow, just wow!
Im pretty sure most guys are incapable of swiping left. Like can’t even comprehend the concept
Omg who else think she is so cute ?
Amen to this video
Without high income you cannot have a family though.
I like her message and this talk, but what’s with the audience?
Her: “If I stuck with online dating, I would have never have met my husband.”
The audience: “LMAO!!!!!!!”
what's her app called?
What is her dating app called?