False Expectations of Gentle Parenting #1
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- Опубликовано: 4 дек 2022
- Gentle Parenting aka “conscious parenting” is gaining some popularity and bad press, depending on who is speaking.  In my experience, there are some misconceptions about gentle parenting that, if cleared up early,  could save you a lot of stress and rage while working out the kinks on your journey.
#1 false expectation with gentle parenting is: compliance.
Expecting that, if we proceed more gently and patiently, our kids will comply more easily is completely misguided.
More in the video. Hope this helps 🤗 
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It has been my experience with kids that the lessons that stick the best are not the ones where you were champion guardian with all the correct words, but rather, where you were able to ask them the questions that helped them form the correct answer for themselves. More interactive, and they feel so smart for figuring out this universe. They already know far more than we know...
this part! Thank you for sharing. I just started doing the questions more regularly so it is inspiring to know others have had great success with this message. I don’t even like to call it a “method” because really, it’s just being an understanding human being… But I digress. Thank you.
You are referring to natural consequences. They are the ideal consequence to teach a lesson, but sometimes (as in your candy/cavity example), the natural consequences are too dire and can have more severe consequences that follow them or do damage. This is where our ability to explain fully and our patience to repeat make the difference. Because candy (to use your example) does a lot more to the body than cause cavities. If we can convince them that it is never really to their benefit to eat it, we will face far fewer fights with them, less obesity, less poor behavior, less resistance to healthy foods, a stronger immune system, and less cavities.
Thank you! Yes! Natural consequences 🙌 idky I was drawing a blank. And yes, I probably should’ve elaborated (for clarification to some who may misunderstand) that I wouldn’t want to let my child get cavities in order to value why not to eat candy… Lol… But I do use the cavity example in helping them choose to abstain. Doesn’t always work, but has definitely held some weight with my four year old.