so i checked up on this video today and realized today marks 5 years since i’ve uploaded it. i also realized we hit 3 million views. that’s incredible! thank you guys a ton
yes I'm a trans guy, yes i like skirts, yes i like painting my nails. it really hurts when i see people calling cis guys "kings" when they do these things, but when i do people start calling me by my dead name again. it sucks.
You're strong and knowing who YOU are is the most important thing. Don't let anyone take it from you and above all, be yourself. It can be SO hard but I believe in you
Here is some advice from a trans male: when a transgender guy is on his period he tends to be really dysphoric. in that case, be as nice as possible if you wanna keep ur head
@kovuchii Heyyyy, if you cannot get a haircut you could always put your hair in a ponytail or a bun and wear a hat or a baseball cap to make it sorta look like you have shorter hair! I'm not sure about the binder situation though. You could always ask a friend to order online and have it shipped to their house or pick it up on the little amazon box things at stores. If they don't understand gender dysphoria then try explaining it to them or showing them a video on it. Sorry if i couldn't help very much. But good luck~~ Lots of love.
A trans boy in an unaccepting house, transphobic friends, no binder and not allowed to cut my hair, I’m struggling, but Cavetown makes me feel the incredible need to be able to hug music
@@noname7187 hey. ik everything probably seems dark for you rn. im sorta in the same situation. i see you. i hear you. you matter. i hope you see this and know that one day, if you keep fighting someone will find you. you wont be alone like this forever. you have a future.
@@Imtired879 Oh wow. This notif made me jump. 2 years ago, yikes. I’ve definitely changed a lot as a person. I have since gained an amazing friend that helps me keep going though! I’m sure things get will better for you, and you’re valid too man! Hope your situation gets better! Hang in there fella :]
Yeah I’m cis. Yeah I’m a male. Yeah I listen to Cavetown. If someone needs a supportive brother, I’m here for you whether you’re gay and your family doesn’t accept you, or you’re trans and have a supportive family, or bi and nobody believes you, I DONT CARE I WILL STILL LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU CAUSE YOURE VALID 👍🏻
My mom has reverted back to calling me by my dead name and calling me a girl because she thinks I'm just confused. And I really hurts because I know that who she thinks I am isn't me. I went from being accepted and looking like a guy to being called girl and being seen as one. I can't wait for the day I can leave this house and finally be myself, completely, 100% me. Edit: I usually don’t do edits like this but so many people in the replies have been asking, and I don’t have time to reply to all of them. But for anyone wondering, I’m doing... fine now. I’m still not accepted by my family, I don’t think I’ll ever be. I did realize that she was right about one thing though, I’m not a boy. But I’m also not a girl. I’m non-binary, I’m just me.
Me: Nah I don't have gender dysphoria. I'm secure in my female existence. Cavetown: I'm a dumb teen boy- Me: Lol I relate. Cavetown: *This Is Home* Me: Lol me too. Cavetown: *song legit called Dysphoric* Me: Lol I feel that. edit - ummm so it turns out that I'm trans in case anyone was curious- this was originally about me being very deeply in denial because for some reason I was like 'haha yeah I want to b a boy still cis tho'
I remember when I was 11 crying to this song wishing I could just be cis. Now years later I am in the process of starting T. Please if you are a trans kid please know that it does get better and you are not disgusting you are perfect the way you are.
@BennyBenny-td1ry i understand exactly what you are going through, i'm going through the same thing. you are valid and it has to get worse before it gets better. i am nowhere near that point of getting better but i've just learned that you have to believe in yourself. i will be your trans brother in solidarity. this world needs you man
my parents are transphobic and I'm a male for sure, i haven't been able to even cut my hair, but in 15 days I'm chopping it off when I drive to a hair salon. I'm tired of hiding.
0:20 “I’m coming back round again. It’s been over a year, I thought this was the end” hits hard man. I’m bad with words but for me this symbolizes both dysphoria and anxiety. Like finally breaking free of either feeling and then having it happen again after you thought you had finally gotten rid of it.
i want to cut my hair but my parents think its too "boy-ish" and that a girl shouldn't have short hair. but little do they know that im actually a boy Ah-Haha
when i had long hair i used to wear it i a pony tail or bun every day and night because i didn’t like to have my hair down. eventually i started getting really bad headaches to the point where i couldn’t even put my head on my pillow. so i told my mom this and how my curly hair was hard to manage and that it was starting to get hot she FINALLY (after 2 years) let me cut my hair. So then she told me to pick a style and it was one i didn’t really like to much but it was good enough. so i got the hair cut and i’m glad i was wearing a mask cause the entire time i was smiling SO MUCH. i ended up styling my hair differently like how i originally wanted it (miles mckenna hair) and now my hair looks like his and i feel successful. but anyway, when i told my mom i want the hair cut she said “you know people will think you’ll look like a lesbian, right” and i just said okay 😂. but fast forward to now, i LOVE my hair and my family will sometimes call me a boy as an insult but secretly it gives me so much confidence ✌️✨ -closeted trans non-binary person 🌈
Sleepy Bird I wanna grow out my hair but my parents think it’s too girlish. I don’t identify as a female either and I’ve told my mom that I don’t want to physically change my body to express myself. Even though she never says it out loud I think she finds it weirder that I want to be girly as a boy than girly as an actual girl
Maybe show them feminine folk with short hair & say you want look like them? That’ll possibly trick them into letting you cut your hair short! Idk just a possible idea!
This song hits me and I can relate to every word and I’m so so sorry for anyone who is struggling with dysphoria. (Edit: Dang, it’s been a year.. or two.. I can’t believe people actually liked my comment it was just when I started figuring myself out, well thanks for all the likes :) )
I’ve told my parents they ignore it and pretend it just because I have autism which I don’t by the way! And they said I didn’t want to get dressed in the girls changing rooms because of sensory overloads which is just a lie getting changed in their was hell but not for that reason and even with out that getting changed is awful and my mum deliberately called me her daughter on social media where everyone can see and My parents are trying to take me away from my friends I just want to be cis so bad man it’s hell I would rather rip my skin of then keep living like this
Bruh I’m so upset to hear Robbie was forced to come out because some asshole pointed out a post on purpose on tumblr where he used the T slur before he was popular and when he publicly talked about being trans and was just a teen. Some fucking asshole dug into his past and brought this to light and he had to come out in fear of being called transphobic. Forcing someone to come out is not okay and can make them extremely dysphoric and a violation of privacy. All around the situation is horrible, much love to CT we lysm.
I kind of always thought everyone already knew that he was, even before he came out. Like as FtM it just seemed obvious so I was very confused when all of this happened lol.
I started listening to cavetown when I was in sixth grade and I was surprised when I found out he wasn’t out at that time because I always kinda knew he was transgender
Me, a transguy: *doesn't cry, no matter how much I need to* Cavetown/Robbie: Hold my lemonade- Dysphoria and Talk to Me gets me everytime, and for anyone who needs it, you are valid♡ Stay safe and Happy Pride Blm
Thank you, and just saying... Think everyone needs to here this* *you are valid. It doesn't matter if you are trans, nonbinary, genderfluid, cis etc. You. Will. Always. Be. Valid.*
I just spent a hour crying im getting a binder delivered to a friends house and its 100% free i was crying to her over the phone "im finally gonna be flat"
HENRYMAISHON i’m so happy for you! getting a binder for the first time is honestly the most euphoric feeling. please remember to take care of yourself though!
As a fem trans guy, you are completely valid ! you being masculine does not define you being a guy at all! You are amazing just the way you are, so go be the amazing femboy you are !
When you support everyone but yourself and fall deep into a depression and rethink you sexuality gender identity and stuff that's what the past 2-3 years of my life has been
Hey, I relate too much to this....... Just know, after a bit you start to learn how to support yourself. After holding up people for a long time your start to apply what you learned from supporting others to supporting yourself. It's hard at first, but it gets easier as the time goes by, and it's always a bonus when you get a friend or sibling or just someone who can also help you support you.
I feel that I realized that I liked guys when I was 12 and was sacred. Now I'm 16 and I'm pan and a trans girl and I accept it all. It's been such a journey.
laptop tip! use a youtube link to mp3 and download the mp3 of the song, go to spotify and setting, show local files. From there, it should pop up! the only downsides are other people can't listen to it, only see that it is added to your playist and you can't play it on anything that isn't what you downloaded it on. hope this helps :D
Saw this pop up in my recommended and thought I'd give this a listen for old times sake. And holy crap did I forget how utterly draining dysphoria is. So glad I got the meds I needed.
3 panic attacks in the same store. scars all over my body. all I write is "off" in my journal. I move and my arm touches my chest. I remember everything. It all floods to my brain, and out my eyes. I remember what my body is. I can feel the weight being in all the wrong places. it absolutely crushes me. anything I was thinking about is just pushed aside to remind me what I am. I can't look in the mirror without seeing someone that isn't me. all I see a girl that failed at being a girl. god even the word girl, she/her pronouns used on other people, makes me feel this way. nothing feels right, I hope this can all change someday.
Dysphoria is a curse, nothing else. It’s absolutely a horrible thing. Its obviously not the absolute worst thing a human can deal with but it’s definitely up on the list. Personally dysphoria just makes me constantly want to cry and hide myself from people when I’m in public. I often have to come home and just cry in my bathroom because of bad dysphoria days. To all my fellow trans people, I wish you all have an amazing day and that all your transitions go well!
@pajamas don't give up. No matter how deep in a hole you are in, you can always get back up. There's people in your life who care for you. Even though I'm a stranger I really hope the best for you.❤️I myself too deal with dysphoria and I really am terrified of coming out to my family. How I cope with it is think that one day, even if I tell them and they don't love me, I can leave and live the life I want. And block them out completely. I can find someone to love and understand me. And I can finally be free. Hope this helps you.
I made a comment trying to explain dysphoria. It was pretty long, but I’m hoping it’ll help someone somewhere understand our pain, or maybe even their own. I basically talk about how it feels for me, and try to give the best possible understanding I can to anyone who can read three pages of babbling
Yeah it is absolute hell. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemies. I wish this all would just end, that I didnt have to be surrounded by people who call me by my dead name and by she/her pronouns. I have to sit and write thank you letters with my dead name on them. My chest hurts from binding so much, but I cant help but to keep it on because when I feel my chest I cant help but to hide in my room and cry. On the bright side, I guess I get to start T when all of this Quarantine is over with.
Honestly I'm really lucky. My dysphoria isn't all that bad. It's just severe discomfort and at worst a feeling of my body not being mine. But it doesn't really make me cry. Not that bad anyway. It just kinda makes me feel hopeless. Mainly when ppl misgender me. Cuz it feels so impossible that I'll get treatment or be able to transition.
Advice for trans boys: When you're on your period and getting cramps, pretend you're an assassin on a mission who just got stabbed in the abdomen by your target and can't tell anyone for the sake of your pride. -Your local trans/genderfluid individual (who definitely is NOT an assassin)
I'm a trans guy, and the thing that makes me the most dysphoric isn't my height, chest, voice, or even how stupidly wide my hips are. It's cis boys. I'm aware I'm feminine, and whenever I'm around masculine cis guys it makes me realize how much I don't act like an actual guy. I speak femininely, dress femininely, walk femininely, and occasionally paint my nails, and sometimes it makes me feel like I'm not trans enough. Like I'm not trying hard enough to pass. A while ago, I went to the bathroom a minute or two before the bell rang, and it rang before I was able to finish up and leave. The bathroom almost instantly flooded with boys, and the moment I opened the stall door I just... froze. Froze, and panicked. When I finally managed to make myself go wash my hands and leave, I heard some guy in the hallway say to his friend, "There was just a girl in the boy's bathroom", and I practically ran to my bus, and almost started crying on the way home. It hurt, a lot. tl;dr: feminine trans guys are still trans, please respect our pronouns :( EDIT: wow thank you guys all for your support, since posting this I've started to identify as non-binary, using he/they(/possibly it?) pronouns and the last two times I've confused cis guys, instead of getting upset about it, I just laughed instead. Just a little while ago, some guy in the locker room said to his friend about me, "That's her. Er.. them. Er..... it." I'm aware he was trying to get under my skin, but I enjoyed it more than I really should have. :)
wow thats sad at least you have the courage to use the boys bathroom have any tips on how to now be extreamly scared to use the boys bathroom i just dont use the public bathroom cuz im to scared and thats not masculine
This song hit so hard. I’m a closeted trans man living with my parents. I asked for a haircut before, but i got told that i would look too much like a boy. I feel so trapped here, but I’m terrified to tell my parents, because one of them is transphobic. Hearing songs like these, and seeing other trans ppls stories helps remind me that I’m not all alone.
How’s the two years been going? I’m also in a transphobic house, so I can relate (mtf). Has your situation improved, and just how is life, a lot can change in two years so I’m curious?
@@tamaruautumn5325lol I never thought I’d get a reply 2 years later. I was able to get a haircut. I came out shortly after i wrote this comment and it was a disaster. A few months later I got diagnosed with autism, which my parents use as an excuse for my identity. Now I’m basically recloseted. Even tho things didn’t turn out well with them I’m doing a bit better than I was. I hope things turn out okay for you with your parents.
@@bluejay6741 wow that’s rough, sorry you had to go through that, and also sorry they wrote you off like that. I hope things get better, and your able to be yourself. I didn’t think about it, but it seems like my parents would also blame it on something like that, but hopefully it goes decent at least.
In my opinion dysphoria is one of the worst pains there is. And only a small portion of the people in the world have to experience it. Though it doesn’t hurt physically the amount of discomfort your mind is put through is horrible. My dysphoria doesn’t give me a break. Never. When I’m older I’m going on t, when I can afford it I’m having top surgery, and maybe even bottom, I hope so anyway..
I can only explain dysphoria for me as painful. Like the panic and anxiety of being hurt and knowing you're hurt, but being nearly completely unable to find where the wound is- as if you'd tripped and fell and you know you're bleeding and you're scared that it'll get worse, but there's no wound, just that intense panic, and every time you hear your dead name or dead pronouns, it's like another shard of bone shoved into your skin, but you can't find the wound. It's misery.
I would actually challenge that since I'm fairly certain most people experience dysphoria in some form or another, certainly not the same dysphoria as you but no experience is felt the same way by anyone anyway. I don't identify as trans but I probably could, I just don't want to for a number of reasons, and having talked about this to a lot of people in a lot of situations I think transness is just an inherent part of being human in the society we live in. No one really knows what being a boy or a girl feels like, it's just that for trans people the word they were assigned doesn't fit their experiences with the world or themself in such a strong way that they have to pick a different one or they won't be able to function. The word they pick also depends on their experiences with themself and the world around them, as does the ways in which they change outwardly to fit that word. Basically it's just a whole tangled mess of perceptions and assumptions and labels and requirements set by your subconscious in response to the information it receives, and that's something most people understand, some more than others.
Trans folk here, well I can say as a FTM that youre right, I'm still 11, but i know that I'm trans and I'm experiencing dysphoria, it's fricking horrible, I see myself and I only can say: you still look like a girl I hate it with all my heart
i'm not trans so i can't relate but i would give so much to take that pain off of your shoulders. to everyone reading this, i hope with my whole heart thaf you find happiness one day and that you keep going💕 edit: i didn't realize so many people liked this comment ?? anyways i'm nonbinary now so like-
@@wayward_clique9309 i'll always be here for my trans siblings! since i posted this i found out im nb so thats kinda whack but im proud of you for coming so far and im sure you look extremely handsome today💕
shockedmushroomghosts i know what it's like to have fake support, my grandparents and great grandparents "support" me but they say im ill and there gonna get god to help me. one day we'll both get to be ourselves. one we can say to the people who "supported" us : look at me now, im truly myself, im truly happy. i hope you have a good day/night, one day you're gonna get to become your true self
Today i broke down on the floor crying and i don't know the reason. I closed my eyes and the only thing i could see was myself, short hair, flat chest, smiling. That's when i realized; i'm a boy. I always related to this song and i didn't know why. Especially "cause what i am is what i'm not" I always felt weird and not like myself.
Subscribe to pewdiepie And Not tgay I realized I was a boy when I started realizing in most of my dreams I was a dude. And Everytime I had imagined my future I literally wasn't there. Like I imagined some dog I would have but I just wasn't there. I couldn't see myself. Then I started seeing myself as a boy with an amazing husband and some adopted kid with a dog. I just wanna. Tim travel. Skip everything. And just get to that point. I don't wanna come out to my parents they're transphobic. My family is. I don't wanna wait til I get out of college to transition. I don't even wanna go through the process I just wish I was actually born a dude and not some ugly girl with a gross body.
@@bronk1022 Me too. My parents are against anything that isn't cisgender and straight. I cut my hair short without my parent's consent and they flipped out and got pissed. They're used to it now, but they're still homo/transphobic. If you (and everyone else who see's this comment) need someone to talk to my snapchat is Darling.rat and my Instagram is Hourtohour.note. stay strong💕
I'm sorry you all have to go through this as well, just know that a day will come where we all can become the people we /truely/ are, and this alone is proof that we arent alone in this ride
I'm not trans (mad respect and support for anyone who is. Dysphoria sounds like hell, and you're all so much stronger than I could ever dream of being) but, I'm currently having a massive identity crisis and I feel like the lyrics of this song kinda relate to that too even if that isn't what they were intended to be about exactly. I don't know. I just really love all of Robin's music lol
I didn't know why this song felt so similar to what I was experiencing. I knew that I hated my body and that "there was something wrong with me". I was working at a subway, closing by myself as usual and I locked the door right at 10pm. I went in the back, listened to this very song on loop and cried as I fully accepted of who I was. Its been five years since then, about 7 months on Estrogen. I love being me, and I love being trans. I love the progress I have made and most importantly, I love myself. Thank you Cavetown and thank you jsyctaom. And a reminder; yes it sucks, but it is much more beautiful to be who you are. I know it gets better. I wish you all the best of luck, peace and love.
Dysphoria is an awful thing, the depression and anxiety it brings on eats at your soul. Its awful feeling like a stranger in your own skin. 🌼 I feel for all the transwoman and men who have to experience this, I know how it feels. 💙🌼 (NON BINARY LOVE ASWELL !! didnt mean to leave you guys out 🖤)
I relate to all this when I came out to my grandmother she said she looked up the symptoms of dysphoria and I have none of them I do I have anxiety and depressions thoughts (I don’t want to self diagnose myself) and it sucks cuz she always asks why I’m sad and I say I’m fine but I’m really not I hate my body and want to be a boy it’s painful going to school all I and many other trans children can do is go through it till we can get surgeries and such
I'm a boy but my parents refuse to accept it. My father just thinks I'm being bratty when I ask him to use my name and pronouns and acts like it's political and infringing on his free speech, and although my mom is a bit better she won't use them (even though I've explained how uncomfortable I am being called a girl). I hate meeting people because they always introduce me with my deadname, sometimes with a "she goes by..." or "she wants to be called..." and anybody who might've called me a boy will follow my parents' example and use she/her. Medically transitioning is completely out of the question until I'm at least 18 and I know my parents are going to hate me for it. The concept of being comfortable and happy just seems so foreign. It feels like I'll never be able to have the life or the body I want. I know consciously that that's not true, I know I'll get there eventually, but it's so hard to convince myself of that sometimes.
things will get better. it may take years, but i PROMISE you, thing will get better. I wish you luck in your transition dude. sending love, Mickey- fellow ftm
Nonbinary comrade here to tell you everything will get better. You’ll meet people who accept you for who you are and call you your proper pronouns. You’re valid, and deserve to be accepted. You’re a man, and you deserve better than you’ve got.
Ik i'm like a month later. But transguy here(and almost 22)--I use to feel the same exact way as you did, but things DO get better. It might take a while, or it might happen sooner, who knows--but at some point, things will start to look bright. It wasn't until last year I was able to start testosterone, and things have been much better!(Though my mom constantly tries to tell me I need therapy becuz it's a "big change i'm going through" and i'm depressed etc, but truth is, I haven't been this happy in a long while and if i'm depressed, it's cuz she's constantly putting me down :l She says she's supportive but she can get transphobic in arguments(in particular, especially bad ones. And she always goes too far in even minor arguments so I really don't know how supportive she actually is.) I'm sorry yours aren't and for your sake, I really hope they come around!
I showed my bestfriend this song to maybe help her understand my dysphoria... she cried and I just feel really bad.. but it helped. Everyone I've shown this song to has backed off. They've stopped calling me things that really trigger my dysphoria.
I literally just had the biggest dysphoria-induced breakdown day of my life. First, i had a panic attack because my grandma took my binder without telling me and even though i *tried* to push the panic attack back, it didnt work. Then, i had a bout of really bad voice dysphoria so bad i refused to talk. And now im sitting here, listening to this, hating my feminine body and crying because 4 years is a long time to wait until i can get out of my parents house and into a supportive environment... Update: I'm almost 17. My parents are still unsupportive, but I'm out as trans and I'm much happier now. It does get better! There are people who love and support you. Keep going, don't close your eyes just before the flowers bloom.
I wish you luck! I'm honestly in the same position right now (I was born male so its different but same concept). Just know that you arent alone!💖 Much love from georgia
You're a boy. A handsome boy, a king, infact. I hope that things are a little better now. I'm sorry that I don't have any advice for you but I'm going throught the same thing except i haven't moved schools, I just have no friends. It will get better. And we will get binders and medically transition, even if it takes a long time. We will get what we want :)
As someone struggle with gender dysphoria (and also parents who don't even try to use proper pronouns smh), I can relate to this so much. It helps me when I'm feeling down and I'm so grateful for that.
“Don’t let me hear what they say. Because I can’t stand it everyday, I’m thinking that I should leave” I relate to this so hard. Like if I don’t come out I hear them say “she” all the time and I’m slowly starting to not be able to handle it. If I do come out my town is so judgemental I can’t stand to listen, so maybe I should just go.
I understand how you feel but if we go we will never be able to transition in the future when we are able to move. I realize i'm making this comment like a year later, how are things now?
Crazy cookie i came out to my family and they still say she a lot but they call me Oliver now and they’re trying to understand. I don’t speak to my brothers anymore bc they’re bigots and I’ve been bullied a couple of times but my friends have been accepting. It’s rocky but it’s bearable. Thank you for asking I hope things get better for you too
As a non binary person who has social anxiety who is scared to come out to my parents Cavetown has always calmed me down and he will ALWAYS have a soft spot in my heart
For transguys: You are just as masculine as the other boys! Don't let anyone tell you something else! 🚹 For transgirls: You are just as beautiful as the other girls! Don't let anyone tell you something else! 🚺
So, ouch. Reading all of these comments really fucking hurts. Hi, I'm Ryan. I am a transgender male. I use he/him pronouns. I don't have an unfortunate story, honestly. Most people accept me. My mother got me my first ever binder today. That was the first time I've felt genuine happiness in... a really long time. My dysphoria was killing me. I was super depressed, and then I got it. I got my binder. From my sweet, amazing, beautiful, supporting mother. My stepmother and father support me. My mother and stepmother are I think the only ones trying when it comes to names and pronouns, but it really helps. My grandmother accepts me more or less. She is extremely homophobic and transphobic. We once had an argument when she found out I was in the LGBTQ+ community. (She didn't know which part. I basically outed myself because they were being really homophobic and I snapped. So, yeah. That happened.) I just wanted to say that it will get better. I've heard that so many times. I've gotten pissed off at that statement *so many times.* But it does. When I got my hair cut, when I got my first binder, when I get my voice to go deeper naturally, when someone called me sir. That all made me really euphoric. I went from being super dysphoric and sobbing every hour literally yesterday to being really happy with myself and accepting myself. Thanks for listening to this. It really helps. Now here's some tips: 1. *_DO NOT_* bind with ace bandages. I'd heard this so many times, but I still wanted to do it. Please, don't. If you can, wear two sports bras. 2. Take off your binder at a maximum of eight hours! No matter what you're binding with, only do it for eight hours max! 3. Take a shower with the lights off. This one is for dysphoria. I did it today for the first time and I actually enjoyed my shower for the first time ever. 4. If your ribs are bruised, stop binding! Maybe not all together, but research what you're doing wrong! Because that could actually hurt you! And lastly, this is a message. If you're a trans man, know that you are a very valid, handsome man. If you're a trans woman, know that you are a very valid, beautiful woman. If you're non-binary, know that you are a very valid, attractive human being.
My mom wasnt supportive atall. I'm 11 yearsold and she thinks its an phase despite me going through it for about 6 years now. I'm an transgirl and I honestly just hate my life rightnow. I'm happy for you though! I'm glad your mom was supportive. Best of luck from georgia 💖
"it's been over a year" really gets me, especially right now, because around this time last year I realised I'm trans and I never thought that I'd be where I am today; short hair, boys clothes, out to some of my close friends and family. I know nobody is going to read this but if you are and you feel like you can't continue anymore, trust me it gets better, sure you might be unhappy and dysphoric, but it just takes time, that's what I told myself while i had long hair and I still tell myself that to this day, but don't give up because I believe in you and people love you
Thank you. I needed this- and you needed this, I'm sure. I'm sleeping now, so if you reply now I won't be able to reply back, but good luck, and good night.
Thank you. I came out to my family two weeks ago (I've known I'm trans for a while, but I was always to afraid to say), and my family said I was too young to know (I'm 16). I just can't help but thinking of going off to college and cutting all my hair off and getting a binder and buys myself boys clothes and coming back home as Alex, the son, grandson, brother. Sometimes it feels so close, but other days I can't even imagine it happening because I get so depressed about not being able to express myself that I don't want to get out of bed. I'll hold on though, I'll make it out, the light at the end of the tunnel is gonna be my future self wearing the most repulsive ugly Hawaiian shirt with dress pants and a silver box chain dangling around my neck with a pair of hipster glasses frames opening my family's front door shouting "Hello, I'm back from college!" in the manliest voice possible. I know that's blown out of proportion, but, hey, it makes me laugh and hope a bit more.
man I’m not even trans or gender fluid but this song lowkey makes me cry. I have so many friends who’re apart of the lgbtq+ community and I love them so much- that was offtopic man but honestly, don’t listen to what anyone says. you’re valid. I love you. don’t lose hope or faith man. You’ve got this.
This gives me an window into what some of my friends feel, and...now I feel an even greater sense of respect for them than I already do. I'm even more proud of them for living through dysphoria now.
I'm listening to this, relating to it in such a personal way. I got my hair cut short and bought my own binder because no one else will do it. I'm lucky, though. There are people who can't do any of that because of so many in their life who won't support them. To all of you out there who are in that situation, I want you to know that your feelings are valid and that despite the current situation, you will transition to the gender that you feel you are later in life. But until then, know that a random person on the internet is here to talk and is wishing you well on your transition.
I feel like a dude sometimes, I feel like a girl sometimes. I feel non-binary sometimes. sometimes I wish I was born a boy. I hate my feminine voice, I hate my feminine mannerisms. I hate my hips. But I still identify as a female sometimes. I like being a butch woman. I like being a feminine boy. I like being a confusing nonbinary pal. And thats ok, you matter, youre valid. Edit: I am a trans boy. Thank you ❤️
I’m enby and I’m fed up of people telling me I don’t exist and I’m just a women who gets confused. The only one who’s confused is the people who say I am.
I am asexual. I'm not trans. I'm even experiencing dysphoria. Not gender dysphoria, just dysphoria. I'm disgusted that sex without romance is acceptable but not romance without sex. To my trqnsgender folks, I'm proud of you. Keep your head up kings, queen, and nobles. Edit: crap now I'm experiencing actual gender dysphoria. I think I want to go by he/them now but I'm not sure. Second edit: I'm a transgender lesbian
were proud of you too. asexuality is great. we all need to come together to fight against discrimination and bullying, not divide each other. i hope you find the acceptance you need soon.
As a nb person with dysphoria it really helps 2 hear another trans person express their experiences, my dysphoria has gotten a lot better in the past few years!!! Its almost nonexistent for me now a days, but I still have moments. With any trans and nb person struggling with dysphoria it does get better with time once you start to love yourself!!! Its hard but I'm really proud of all you trans and nb people 💖
@@artemisdenstedt9612 He has never admitted it directly, althought it's possible seen some of the lyrics from his songs and some of his old pictures as a kid. Maybe he's not comfortable sharing this thing about himself, which is totally fine imo :)
For everyone in the comments saying they're not trans but can relate. Dysphoria is something anyone can go through and comes in many forms. It's to be so insecure and not feel connected to a part of you. I'm a cis female and don't care about my gender but I have facial dysphoria. The most commonly known form of dysphoria is gender dysphoria. Those of you going through this are so brave! Everyone here is :)
also, pro tip for people playing this on ukulele. the plucking pattern is goes like this: (the number is the number of the string) 3,2, and then 1 and four at the same time. you play this plucking pattern for most of the song. when i was looking for tutorials on how to play this, they all said to strum it but you can clearly hear some picking and i figured out the plucking pattern and as far as i know, im the only one that knows it. you can google the chords and stuff but that pattern is really fun to do and if you're trying to get better at fingerpicking, it's perfect because it's so simple but sounds so cool.
"This phantom skin, it's weird to live in" IDK why this song has not blown up it's so good and hits me hard, every time it just gets better and better. Cavetown is going to blow up on ne day, and I cant wait to say to all those people who douted him because he sung about sensitive topics not just love songs! That he has truly connected with his fans though music, and that's a hard thing to do.
"Find me a way out if you love me at all" is a line that hits particularly hard. I'm worried my grandmother (current legal guardian) won't buy me a binder because she doesn't understand the severity of my dysphoria, and that the rest of my support system will respond accordingly. I have one picked out, but I'm worried that she won't want to spend 40+ dollars because it's 'not important', even though it's expensive because it's safer than the cheep ones. I don't know if she'll respond like that, but the fear is there. I'm asking her today. Fingers crossed! EDIT: She said yes! It's coming in the mail!
I want anyone else who's ever in this situation to know this: If you're family won't buy you a binder, ask them to go sports bra shopping. And pick out one that's about 2 sizes smaller then you'd normally need. At least to start with, it really helps to feel more comfortable.
as a trans guy who’s been out for over 3 years now, just wanted to let you all know that you’re all so strong, you’re so brave and I truly am sorry that anyone has to go through this. You absolutely will make it through this night. I wish you the best of luck and for those of you living with toxic households, i hope and pray for your safety and that one day you’ll be able to express who you really are. I love you, stay safe.
I just started my period early I was prepared to have another two weeks or so of some form of comfort in my body now that I’ve got my binder, but instead I get this. I shouldn’t be complaining because it’s always light and short but if I talk about it irl with my genderqueer friends, they’ll try to understand but won’t. And I love them but I hate this. Sorry
Just remember you know more about girls struggles then most other boys, and personally I find that absolutely cute. How many boys have to deal with periods, I’ll tell ya not many. So in my opinion I think you’re a lot stronger and I hope whoever likes you (unless you’re ace) will make you feel special and strong
Younger me: I'm a girl and I'll grow up to be gorgeous and I'll have a boyfriend Brain: cut your hair Me: why? Brain: just do it Me: fine Brain: get a binder Me: a what? Brain: you need a flat chest get.a.binder Me: jeez fine Brain: good.... Me: anything else? Brain:.......get a packer Me: ALRIGHT FINE Brain: now change your name and pronouns Me: okay what's the deal with this Brain: 👁👄👁 Me: I don't have to Brain: but you'd be happier as a guy correct? Me: yes Brain: exactly now change them Me: Why? Brain: you're transgender Me: okay I'll change them Brain: oh and you'll never experience sexual attraction Me: ARE YOU F-
@@daniellehall2765 it's pretty normal the only difference is no sexual attraction like someone else might want to "do the deed" But I wouldn't because I can't experience attraction in that way if you get what I mean
Imma adopt everyone in this comment section as my sibling that isn’t accepted or treated the way they need to be. Don’t care if ur gay, bi, trans, lesbian, ace, ext. ur my sibling and I will love and support u no matter what CUZ U EPIC!!!!!!!!! Love, ur epic lesbian probably younger sister that might be ur older sister uuuuhhhhhhh- Update: I’m now ur brother..... uhm...... still love u guys tho
thanks buddy, my siblings are complete asses and i got ptsd from one of them and my brother, whose is one year older than me, doesn't think i have anything wrong with me (that includes me being a trans male), wish my family was good and not bad. sorry for basically telling my sob story i have no one to talk to but anyway thanks your a very good sister (:,
It’s fine! That’s what I’m here for! I sorry ur siblings suck, but I’m ur new sibling now and I will love you as my brother. You can tell me anything and I will listen!!! ✨🌸🐝💛💛💛 I love you u handsome young man!!!
I think we've all felt that way before. Just know that you are who you are, and nobody knows you better than you know yourself. You may be trans, you may not be. Just do whatever feels right to you. If anybody has a problem with it, they don't deserve to know you. And you deserve better than them. The fact that you're worried about this tells me that it means a lot to you. I don't think any "fakers" would question themselves on whether or not they're fake. I know you'll figure yourself out. Some people take time in doing so, and if that ends up being you, that's okay. Whether you're trans or not, fluid or static, binary or otherwise, that's okay. Just stay strong. There's no rush. Do what makes you happy, and strive to become the person you want to be. I'm rooting for you!
@@rileyrandall9612 This is a SUPER unhealthy mindset to have actually It's normal to question yourself. I do sometimes, too But for one thing, you don't actually need dysphoria to be trans. Dysphoria is defined as distress related to your birth sex, and you don't need to feel that way in order to be trans Also, whether you transition or not is up to you, whether you're dysphoric or not. Do what feels right to YOU. Just be aware of any changes that can occur, and if you don't want those changes, perhaps you can find other options And don't worry about "embarrassing" anyone. Every trans person has different experiences. If any trans person is embarrassed of you based on how you present, what your gender is, or whether or not you choose to transition, they have some internal transphobia they need to sort through Do what feels right to YOU. Don't worry what anyone else says or thinks Whether you're cis, trans, or nonbinary, you'll find what makes you happiest. And that's the road you should take. Don't let anyone scare you away from your options
@@rileyrandall9612 That...is very innacurate. I myself have very severe dysphoria, both by the actual definition AND by yours. But I was able to get access to HRT, fully covered by my insurance (side from a monthly $10 co-pay) before I ever got my diagnosis. Wanna know how? My doctor and my insurance company weren't transphobic. If you look at any sources that say that dysphoria is required to be trans, I think you'll find that all those sources are either outdated (from 2010 or earlier), or were written by cis people. Current research has proven that dysphoria is not required to be trans. And spreading the idea that being trans requires dysphoria bars questioning people from figuring themselves out, and keeps dysphoric trans people feom seeking transition because we worry about not being "trans enough." Please stop spreading transphobic ideas like this. It causes actual harm to ALL trans people, and gives cis people more reasons to gatekeep in the medical field, like what happened to you.
@@rileyrandall9612 I don't mean to come off as rude, and I'm sorry if I came off that way You have a great day as well! But, in the future, maybe stop spreading the idea that anyone can dictate whether or not somebody else is trans, at least on other peoples' comments. If you make your own priginal comment it's fine, but you shouldn't spread false information (whether they are your beliefs or not. Not every trans person feels the same, and it can be hurtful)
@@rileyrandall9612 Oh, don't worry! I just hope I didn't come off as rude or angry. I feel very strongly on thid topoc as well As for the differing brains thing...I have a degree in human psychology. The thing about men and women having differemt brains is actually false. There are differences in EVERY brain, and while some can generally be attributed to different genders, this has less to do with nature, and more to do with the environment (an example of this would be the way that emotions are processed. Men tend to show less of an emotional response if they were raised in a conservative family. Those raised in more open-minded families tended to have "female" emotional responses!) I can also say that, while the research you mentioned is indeed being studied currently, it's not for the reasons you were led to believe. These studies are being done as a way to legally deny healthcare to those whose bodies don't match the "gender" of their brain. This will lead to eugenics if it goes to far, and I am very against it
hey, if your nonbinary and listening to this song: i want you to know that you are trans enough. you are valid and belong in the trans community if it’s something you would be comfortable in :)
@@magicalmarshmallow6133 same. my friends and I were talking and then they called me by my dead name, but I was too scared to correct them. Even tho I have told them :(
i remember saving this song in a playlist called "some things i like" about one or two years ago, i didn't know what dysphoria meant. i just liked the song and weirdly related. now i know what it was what pulled me into this song. it gives words to the weird feeling i get that i don't even know what it is because you know... i'm non binary, i don't really know what makes me dysphoric. i only know something with how i look and others see me doesn't allign with who i am or how i see myself. so thank you for this song
I listened to this song repeatedly until I started testosterone, like it got me. Now I’m having the same pain waiting for top surgery after 3 years of comfort. This song hurts and gets me.
Hey, non-binary person here. My gender dysphoria is rarely ever missing from my life, especially at school. Sure, I can hide my chest, but I still have a girlish haircut, and my school won't let us wear hoods or hats, so I can't transition back and forth at school. Most of the kids in my class know I'm at least gay, but they don't get any of the rest of it, and it's really hard sometimes. I hope that one day, I will be met with acceptance and love. 🖤🖤🖤
The world is yours. You belong here, creat things that make you happy. This is not hopeless, please look to the sky and know that, this pain, it has purpose. Please look at the world around you and see all the life and beauty, i know how hard it is to see the light. That its scary and blinding but its warm it will melt away the ice from your body. You're going to feel free and like you can walk on air. Please stay and see all that is lovely. Its waiting for you. You will find it, you're gonna see the light. I care about you. (If you want you can DM me on insta if that helps my user is @plesant.alien Im willing to talk with you or just send you pictures of animals or memes). :) I care.
“Things are as they are. Looking out into the universe at night, we make no comparisons between right and wrong stars, nor between well and badly arranged constellations.” -Alan Watts
I’m cis but part of the LGBT community and have trans friends. Dysphoria seems like shit to say the least I can’t imagine having to go through that. The community loves all of you 💕 stick around and become the guy or girl you dreamed of. Just remember every day you’re closer to starting T or going on oestrogen. One day closer to getting your surgeries. One day closer to a waiter at a restaurant asking you “what can I get you miss” or “what can I get you sir?” You’re one day closer becoming who you really are. The whole community is with you and we love and support you. 💕💖❤️ -Love from a cis but supportive pansexual 💕
I'm in a constant state of questioning, I see myself when I close my eyes, I see my hair shorter and my chest flat, I see what I want to be and I can't stand seeing myself anymore. I'm always wondering if I really am trans, I don't know if I am or not and it scares the hell out of me, I know what I want tho, and what I want I'll never have. Its so confusing, when I wear my binder it's never flat enough, so I stopped, I just deal with the sinking pain in my chest whenever I look in the mirror, I don't want to deal with it, it's hard and hurts most of the time. But I fear I'll always live in this body and always with this torment. I fear I'll never be accepted.
I remember crying to this song for hours. I remember thinking I would never live to transition. I’m 20 now and 2 months on E, and I’ve discovered joy in life. Living is hard but it’s so worth the effort it takes to enjoy it.
I might show this to my parents to help them understand why I need to transition. To all the other transgender people here, I'd just like you to know that everything will work out eventually, and you are a strong person.
Yes, unfortunately. My friends tend to think I´m a narcissist, since I always pretend that I can´t be happier with who I am, when in reality I am appalled by everything about me. Sometimes it even gets funny when ppl think I am always happy, I mean, yes, I´m constantly smiling, but I also cry every night and wish I was never born. I mean, look at all of you, everyone is literally soo beautiful, or at least pretty, and here I am. What kind of human being am I?! I don´t even look like one
S U K I same I usually give myself compliments a lot or whenever I’m insulted by someone I grin and spin it around to praise myself but it really really hurts I just can’t show it
This im non binary and a few months ago i introduced my self as using they/them pronouns they audibly gasped…. And in the next sentence misgendered me in-front of the entire class. If I didn’t have a stupid famine body maybe that wouldn’t happen
Don't let me see what I am Because I can't stand it No I can't I'm coming back Round again It's been over a year I thought this was the end But now I don't remember comfort Because what I am is what I'm not I don't belong here Its just hopeless ~Find Me A Way Out~ ~If You Love Me... At All~ Don't let me hear what they say Because I can't stand it, everyday I'm thinking that I should leave now But I don't think I'm coming back this time But now I don't remember comfort Because what I am is what I'm not This phantom skin is weird to live in ~So Find Me A Way Out If You Love Me... At All~
“this phantom skin” That line just hit so close to home. Since i hit puberty i felt like my body wasn’t my own. Like it felt like I was out of my skin. I figured out i was nb over the summer and everything just made sense after that. I am working on making this skin my own again. But its hard when transphobia is around where i live. My family often time makes fun of lgbtq+ people. And everytime they do it’s another pang of dysphoria. And they expect me to be this perfect girl. My mom treated me like her doll to dress up for the longest time. It just recently stopped like a year ago. I am not out to many people. But i know if I come out to them im gonna be thrown out of the house. So the plan is to tell them when I am on my own. Its so many years until then, but i gotta do it for my safety. It sucks that who I am can get me thrown out of the house. but thats life
I just ordered my binder yesterday! Even though I haven't felt anything too important, I can tell its a huge weight off my shoulders. For the past 7 months, I've been dealing with major identity issues and its been the main cause of my stress. I finally figured myself out and am starting to feel so much more confident. I woke up this morning feeling so refreshed. I think it was the first night in a while that my brain could actually relax.
I have gender dysphoria but I'm a biological male and want to be a woman. I still relate with this song though because it's just about gender dysphoria in general
Don't worry, you're just as beautiful as any other women. You are a women, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you ever feel like you're non-binary, cis, women, ect. Just know that you will always be supported.
@@cringelord3342 It's nice knowing that all of you have a wonderful community that will accept all of you no matter what gender you go by, or your sexuality.
for a year I have felt this way. plus many more things. then the word dysphoria just like came to my head. never heard of it. decided to not worry abt it. for three months I wanted to know wtf what wrong with me, i was scared and so confused to the point I cried everyday. so I looked up dysphoria and it gave the definition and I was like "hey,,,that's kinda what I have!" and I love cavetown so much and I figured he made a song about it (again like never even knew what It was it was a word in my head and I never heard it from cavetown either I just like knew) and this popped up. the first sentence I broke down, like I'm not alone. I can get help now I know what's wrong. this hit too close.
I hate myself because I am a teen trans Male, but my family is very religious so I have to wait a couple years (around 6 or more because I would have to get enough money for an apartment so they cant kick me out) to come out and start T and everything which is scary and sad, which makes me depressed and I am trying to make the most of my family just in case. 😢😔
It sucks, im sorry you have to go through this, and i wont say it gets better because who knows if it really does? What i do know is that it cant be bad forever, eventually life will get board of trying to push you around and leave you alone. I know its hard but you have to stay strong my friend. Your not alone.
It does get better. My boyfriend's living proof. He even has a happy trail! Just keep those friends who make you feel better, do what you can to ignore those who don't, and, when a relationship comes up, never settle for someone who doesn't make you feel like the man you truly are.
![Candle - Cavetown [Lyrics]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/JLmSH56bw5Y/mqdefault.jpg)
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so i checked up on this video today and realized today marks 5 years since i’ve uploaded it. i also realized we hit 3 million views. that’s incredible! thank you guys a ton
You're welcome, you deserve it!!!
what a coincidence that i come back so soon after
congrats! on 3 mil views
:)
Congratulations :D
"What i am is what im not"
It hits too close
Same..
Same
You are valid be who you are
Oh yeah same and ive almost definitely fucked up my chances of top surgery with improper binding
@@jude297 I'm so sorry honey
yes I'm a trans guy, yes i like skirts, yes i like painting my nails. it really hurts when i see people calling cis guys "kings" when they do these things, but when i do people start calling me by my dead name again. it sucks.
You're strong and knowing who YOU are is the most important thing. Don't let anyone take it from you and above all, be yourself. It can be SO hard but I believe in you
Bro, youre an absolutle King. Here, youll need it: 👑
I know it is not fair at all
Don’t listen to them, you are an absolute KING! Here, take your crown back 👑
YOU ARE A KING!!!
Here is some advice from a trans male:
when a transgender guy is on his period he tends to be really dysphoric. in that case, be as nice as possible if you wanna keep ur head
@kovuchii Heyyyy, if you cannot get a haircut you could always put your hair in a ponytail or a bun and wear a hat or a baseball cap to make it sorta look like you have shorter hair! I'm not sure about the binder situation though. You could always ask a friend to order online and have it shipped to their house or pick it up on the little amazon box things at stores. If they don't understand gender dysphoria then try explaining it to them or showing them a video on it. Sorry if i couldn't help very much. But good luck~~ Lots of love.
@kovuchii No problem!!
something that might maybe bring you some comfort, testosterone increases when someone is on their period, so think of periods as free testosterone
Also when you’re on your period you don’t have a lot of estrogen in your body so it helps with the mindset. I’m going on t in a month. Can’t wait 😊
i just started mine so this made me feel better
A trans boy in an unaccepting house, transphobic friends, no binder and not allowed to cut my hair, I’m struggling, but Cavetown makes me feel the incredible need to be able to hug music
Hey, ur a valid boy
@@noname7187 hey. ik everything probably seems dark for you rn. im sorta in the same situation. i see you. i hear you. you matter. i hope you see this and know that one day, if you keep fighting someone will find you. you wont be alone like this forever. you have a future.
You got this! I’m in a super similar situation I hope everything works out for you, you’re valid!
@@Imtired879 Oh wow. This notif made me jump. 2 years ago, yikes. I’ve definitely changed a lot as a person. I have since gained an amazing friend that helps me keep going though! I’m sure things get will better for you, and you’re valid too man! Hope your situation gets better! Hang in there fella :]
@@deceptionvex I’m so happy everything worked out for you :)
Yeah I’m cis. Yeah I’m a male. Yeah I listen to Cavetown. If someone needs a supportive brother, I’m here for you whether you’re gay and your family doesn’t accept you, or you’re trans and have a supportive family, or bi and nobody believes you, I DONT CARE I WILL STILL LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU CAUSE YOURE VALID 👍🏻
we stan a supportive brother
Thanks Kiri!!
Thank you
Awww kirishima you really are best boi 💕
Q-Q
My mom has reverted back to calling me by my dead name and calling me a girl because she thinks I'm just confused. And I really hurts because I know that who she thinks I am isn't me. I went from being accepted and looking like a guy to being called girl and being seen as one. I can't wait for the day I can leave this house and finally be myself, completely, 100% me.
Edit: I usually don’t do edits like this but so many people in the replies have been asking, and I don’t have time to reply to all of them. But for anyone wondering, I’m doing... fine now. I’m still not accepted by my family, I don’t think I’ll ever be. I did realize that she was right about one thing though, I’m not a boy. But I’m also not a girl. I’m non-binary, I’m just me.
I hope things get better for you soon my dude~
Hey im really sorry to hear that but just remember that you know who you are and that no-one can't take that away form you
Same
I hope you're doing okay my dude! If yo mom doesn't support you for who you are then we'll support you! ^ ^
@@yellowcoom1741 bruh ur ohshc name lmao
Me: Nah I don't have gender dysphoria. I'm secure in my female existence.
Cavetown: I'm a dumb teen boy-
Me: Lol I relate.
Cavetown: *This Is Home*
Me: Lol me too.
Cavetown: *song legit called Dysphoric*
Me: Lol I feel that.
edit - ummm so it turns out that I'm trans in case anyone was curious-
this was originally about me being very deeply in denial because for some reason I was like 'haha yeah I want to b a boy still cis tho'
You don’t need Dysphoria to be trans. Don’t let ANYBODY tell you different :)
Bastian Leo
It can be a feeling and not a hatred
mood
Bastian Leo Discomfort, disgusts and sadness
@@xxthat_weird_enbyxx2438 Dysphoria isnt hatered. Dysphoria is just incongruence.
I remember when I was 11 crying to this song wishing I could just be cis.
Now years later I am in the process of starting T. Please if you are a trans kid please know that it does get better and you are not disgusting you are perfect the way you are.
i'm 16 crying in the dark at midnight wishing i were a cis man. thank you for this validation, i really needed this today
what does cis mean? (srry if I sound rude..)
@@ryomen_sukuna0011 this isnt rude at all to be cis just means to identify with the gender you were assigned at birth🖤
@BennyBenny-td1ry i understand exactly what you are going through, i'm going through the same thing. you are valid and it has to get worse before it gets better. i am nowhere near that point of getting better but i've just learned that you have to believe in yourself. i will be your trans brother in solidarity. this world needs you man
I'm 11 and this will definitely help because I'm trans myself
Sometimes I really wish I wasn’t like this, I wish I was cis, straight, girly, skinny and beautiful. I wish I was normal
hAh mood. (:(
Me too
Chihiro Fujisaki *kith kith*
Holoshreksuals *kith kith*
Heh...
Mood...
haha always come back to this when i’m having a dysphoric breakdonw
That's why I'm here ;-;
It's a really good song. I do the same things.
Hahahahaha
Me
:')
haha same here
Yeah me too :/
my parents are transphobic and I'm a male for sure, i haven't been able to even cut my hair, but in 15 days I'm chopping it off when I drive to a hair salon. I'm tired of hiding.
How’d they react?
I hope that went well for you!
@@williamwu4535 YES
@@williamwu4535 I CANT SEE YOU BUT I AM SURE YOU ARE GORGEOUS WITH A LONG HAIR
YASSSS KINGGGGG
I know u put this comment like 6 months ago but still I’m very proud or you
0:20 “I’m coming back round again. It’s been over a year, I thought this was the end” hits hard man. I’m bad with words but for me this symbolizes both dysphoria and anxiety. Like finally breaking free of either feeling and then having it happen again after you thought you had finally gotten rid of it.
just wanna let y'all trans kids know i love you and will always support you no matter what 💕💕💕
Thanks! I really needed to hear that!
Thank you so much... those are the words I've wanted to hear, but knew I never would. This means the world to me.
🥺
Thank you!!
i want to cut my hair but my parents think its too "boy-ish" and that a girl shouldn't have short hair. but little do they know that im actually a boy Ah-Haha
Just go for feminine models with short hair, for the cut you want. It makes the haircut seem way more feminine, in the photo, until SHABAM I'm a guy
@The Nerdy Musician closet demiboy gang (☞ ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)☞
when i had long hair i used to wear it i a pony tail or bun every day and night because i didn’t like to have my hair down. eventually i started getting really bad headaches to the point where i couldn’t even put my head on my pillow. so i told my mom this and how my curly hair was hard to manage and that it was starting to get hot she FINALLY (after 2 years) let me cut my hair. So then she told me to pick a style and it was one i didn’t really like to much but it was good enough. so i got the hair cut and i’m glad i was wearing a mask cause the entire time i was smiling SO MUCH. i ended up styling my hair differently like how i originally wanted it (miles mckenna hair) and now my hair looks like his and i feel successful. but anyway, when i told my mom i want the hair cut she said “you know people will think you’ll look like a lesbian, right” and i just said okay 😂. but fast forward to now, i LOVE my hair and my family will sometimes call me a boy as an insult but secretly it gives me so much confidence ✌️✨
-closeted trans non-binary person 🌈
Sleepy Bird I wanna grow out my hair but my parents think it’s too girlish. I don’t identify as a female either and I’ve told my mom that I don’t want to physically change my body to express myself. Even though she never says it out loud I think she finds it weirder that I want to be girly as a boy than girly as an actual girl
Maybe show them feminine folk with short hair & say you want look like them? That’ll possibly trick them into letting you cut your hair short! Idk just a possible idea!
This song hits me and I can relate to every word and I’m so so sorry for anyone who is struggling with dysphoria. (Edit: Dang, it’s been a year.. or two.. I can’t believe people actually liked my comment it was just when I started figuring myself out, well thanks for all the likes :) )
I'm wanting to die bc I have lots of gender dysphoria and I wanna tell my family but their gonna get mad at me and not accept me I'm ftm trans
Heylookmeghansgaming!!! i’ll be ur new dad i accept you child
I’ve told my parents they ignore it and pretend it just because I have autism which I don’t by the way! And they said I didn’t want to get dressed in the girls changing rooms because of sensory overloads which is just a lie getting changed in their was hell but not for that reason and even with out that getting changed is awful and my mum deliberately called me her daughter on social media where everyone can see and My parents are trying to take me away from my friends I just want to be cis so bad man it’s hell I would rather rip my skin of then keep living like this
@@bigscareddog540 a d o p t me p l s
Asher Hewer MY FAMILY DO THAT TOO IM CRYING THEY SAY ITS CAUSE I SEE THE WORLD DIFFERENTLY DUE TO ASPERGERS SYNDROME I JUST CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE
the emotion in his voice is breathtaking.
His voice is just that good lol
Bruh I’m so upset to hear Robbie was forced to come out because some asshole pointed out a post on purpose on tumblr where he used the T slur before he was popular and when he publicly talked about being trans and was just a teen. Some fucking asshole dug into his past and brought this to light and he had to come out in fear of being called transphobic. Forcing someone to come out is not okay and can make them extremely dysphoric and a violation of privacy. All around the situation is horrible, much love to CT we lysm.
I kind of always thought everyone already knew that he was, even before he came out. Like as FtM it just seemed obvious so I was very confused when all of this happened lol.
I started listening to cavetown when I was in sixth grade and I was surprised when I found out he wasn’t out at that time because I always kinda knew he was transgender
@@vflower3655 Yeah, I thought it was really obvious.
😂 ❤ yep 🩸
Remembering when my old toxic friend tried to get me to stop listening to cavetown because of the slur thing
Me, a transguy: *doesn't cry, no matter how much I need to*
Cavetown/Robbie: Hold my lemonade-
Dysphoria and Talk to Me gets me everytime, and for anyone who needs it, you are valid♡ Stay safe and Happy Pride Blm
Thank you, and just saying...
Think everyone needs to here this*
*you are valid. It doesn't matter if you are trans, nonbinary, genderfluid, cis etc. You. Will. Always. Be. Valid.*
@@demontomfoolery ty :) I like your username.
Is that a fander I spy 👀
@@brookecatherine2883 falsehood -shh don't call me out-
thanks for the songs man!!
I just spent a hour crying im getting a binder delivered to a friends house and its 100% free i was crying to her over the phone "im finally gonna be flat"
HENRYMAISHON i’m so happy for you! getting a binder for the first time is honestly the most euphoric feeling. please remember to take care of yourself though!
I’m so happy for you dude! ❤️
Omg I’m so happy for you, I’m crying lol. No really. There’s tears running down my face..... maybe one day I’ll be in your position?
just remember your not gonna be completely flat, its designed to make your tibbys look like pecks. but for real Im happy for you!
@@jesushatsunemiku6165 I hope so!
As a fem trans guy, you are completely valid ! you being masculine does not define you being a guy at all! You are amazing just the way you are, so go be the amazing femboy you are !
The name: Dysphoric
Me: *clicks* ah yes
Aria Dreemer that is very much adequate
Literally what I did.
same 😭🖐️
ATSUSHI PFP AAA
When you support everyone but yourself and fall deep into a depression and rethink you sexuality gender identity and stuff that's what the past 2-3 years of my life has been
I'm gonna support you too
Same...
Hey, I relate too much to this.......
Just know, after a bit you start to learn how to support yourself. After holding up people for a long time your start to apply what you learned from supporting others to supporting yourself.
It's hard at first, but it gets easier as the time goes by, and it's always a bonus when you get a friend or sibling or just someone who can also help you support you.
I feel that I realized that I liked guys when I was 12 and was sacred. Now I'm 16 and I'm pan and a trans girl and I accept it all. It's been such a journey.
I hate that this song isn’t on Spotify :(
laptop tip! use a youtube link to mp3 and download the mp3 of the song, go to spotify and setting, show local files. From there, it should pop up! the only downsides are other people can't listen to it, only see that it is added to your playist and you can't play it on anything that isn't what you downloaded it on. hope this helps :D
@@pianopaeonia thank uu !!
@@pianopaeonia bro thankyou
same i looked it up but its not on it- :'(
there’s a version by mars on spotify
Saw this pop up in my recommended and thought I'd give this a listen for old times sake. And holy crap did I forget how utterly draining dysphoria is. So glad I got the meds I needed.
Im starting Testosterone tomorrow wish me luck
Hows the 7 month treating you?
Congrats on 1 year bro!
hey how was that 1 yr?
congrats on 1 year!!
it's nice to see that people still come here and support people even after a full year
3 panic attacks in the same store. scars all over my body. all I write is "off" in my journal. I move and my arm touches my chest. I remember everything. It all floods to my brain, and out my eyes. I remember what my body is. I can feel the weight being in all the wrong places. it absolutely crushes me. anything I was thinking about is just pushed aside to remind me what I am. I can't look in the mirror without seeing someone that isn't me. all I see a girl that failed at being a girl. god even the word girl, she/her pronouns used on other people, makes me feel this way. nothing feels right, I hope this can all change someday.
it will change, stay strong, you can do it. and if you want it, im sending you a big virtual hug :,)
you can make it! I'm rooting for you
I've never heard someone put exactly how I feel to words before this
wait omg i just saw this got a lot of likes and comments HELLO??? ily all 🥺
Me too noone knows I hate being a girl
Dysphoria is a curse, nothing else. It’s absolutely a horrible thing. Its obviously not the absolute worst thing a human can deal with but it’s definitely up on the list. Personally dysphoria just makes me constantly want to cry and hide myself from people when I’m in public. I often have to come home and just cry in my bathroom because of bad dysphoria days. To all my fellow trans people, I wish you all have an amazing day and that all your transitions go well!
That’s exactly how I feel and I hate it..
@pajamas don't give up. No matter how deep in a hole you are in, you can always get back up. There's people in your life who care for you. Even though I'm a stranger I really hope the best for you.❤️I myself too deal with dysphoria and I really am terrified of coming out to my family. How I cope with it is think that one day, even if I tell them and they don't love me, I can leave and live the life I want. And block them out completely. I can find someone to love and understand me. And I can finally be free. Hope this helps you.
I made a comment trying to explain dysphoria. It was pretty long, but I’m hoping it’ll help someone somewhere understand our pain, or maybe even their own. I basically talk about how it feels for me, and try to give the best possible understanding I can to anyone who can read three pages of babbling
Yeah it is absolute hell. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemies. I wish this all would just end, that I didnt have to be surrounded by people who call me by my dead name and by she/her pronouns. I have to sit and write thank you letters with my dead name on them. My chest hurts from binding so much, but I cant help but to keep it on because when I feel my chest I cant help but to hide in my room and cry.
On the bright side, I guess I get to start T when all of this Quarantine is over with.
Honestly I'm really lucky. My dysphoria isn't all that bad. It's just severe discomfort and at worst a feeling of my body not being mine. But it doesn't really make me cry. Not that bad anyway. It just kinda makes me feel hopeless. Mainly when ppl misgender me. Cuz it feels so impossible that I'll get treatment or be able to transition.
Advice for trans boys: When you're on your period and getting cramps, pretend you're an assassin on a mission who just got stabbed in the abdomen by your target and can't tell anyone for the sake of your pride.
-Your local trans/genderfluid individual (who definitely is NOT an assassin)
How the hell did you manage to make me feel like a badass while I'm curled up in a ball of pain? Thanks dude
this comment is so fucking awesome, my god ily
my periods make me severely dysphoric so for this i will be forever grateful
IM NONBINARY AND FELT LIKE A BADASS IN PAIN
@@FallingAsh20 i actually love this
Nonbinary person here, this song literally saves my life and I’m really sad it’s not on spotify
hi! i'm non binary too! hope you're having a wonderful day!
Same here hon
Yay!! Fellow enbies!!! I was looking for y’all
i was looking for y’all! hello! i hope you’ve all been well :)
I also am non-binary! And same here.
No one:
Literally no one:
Dead ass no one:
Me: *Play this at my funeral, okay?*
let the waterworks flow
I dont think I'm coming back this time,,,
@no, my name is tyler oh shit
mood
At mine too
I'm a trans guy, and the thing that makes me the most dysphoric isn't my height, chest, voice, or even how stupidly wide my hips are. It's cis boys.
I'm aware I'm feminine, and whenever I'm around masculine cis guys it makes me realize how much I don't act like an actual guy. I speak femininely, dress femininely, walk femininely, and occasionally paint my nails, and sometimes it makes me feel like I'm not trans enough. Like I'm not trying hard enough to pass.
A while ago, I went to the bathroom a minute or two before the bell rang, and it rang before I was able to finish up and leave. The bathroom almost instantly flooded with boys, and the moment I opened the stall door I just... froze. Froze, and panicked. When I finally managed to make myself go wash my hands and leave, I heard some guy in the hallway say to his friend, "There was just a girl in the boy's bathroom", and I practically ran to my bus, and almost started crying on the way home. It hurt, a lot.
tl;dr: feminine trans guys are still trans, please respect our pronouns :(
EDIT: wow thank you guys all for your support, since posting this I've started to identify as non-binary, using he/they(/possibly it?) pronouns and the last two times I've confused cis guys, instead of getting upset about it, I just laughed instead. Just a little while ago, some guy in the locker room said to his friend about me, "That's her. Er.. them. Er..... it." I'm aware he was trying to get under my skin, but I enjoyed it more than I really should have. :)
wow thats sad at least you have the courage to use the boys bathroom have any tips on how to now be extreamly scared to use the boys bathroom i just dont use the public bathroom cuz im to scared and thats not masculine
being feminine will never make you less of a boy, and remember there will always be somone who loves you and accepts you.
Feminine boys are still boys! You’re valid no matter what.
Femboys exist and their as much as a boy as the others
Your valid. Your 'trans enough'! It's ok to be feminine. Just be you! And I'll support you!
This song hit so hard. I’m a closeted trans man living with my parents. I asked for a haircut before, but i got told that i would look too much like a boy. I feel so trapped here, but I’m terrified to tell my parents, because one of them is transphobic. Hearing songs like these, and seeing other trans ppls stories helps remind me that I’m not all alone.
How’s the two years been going? I’m also in a transphobic house, so I can relate (mtf). Has your situation improved, and just how is life, a lot can change in two years so I’m curious?
@@tamaruautumn5325lol I never thought I’d get a reply 2 years later. I was able to get a haircut. I came out shortly after i wrote this comment and it was a disaster. A few months later I got diagnosed with autism, which my parents use as an excuse for my identity. Now I’m basically recloseted. Even tho things didn’t turn out well with them I’m doing a bit better than I was. I hope things turn out okay for you with your parents.
@@bluejay6741 wow that’s rough, sorry you had to go through that, and also sorry they wrote you off like that. I hope things get better, and your able to be yourself. I didn’t think about it, but it seems like my parents would also blame it on something like that, but hopefully it goes decent at least.
In my opinion dysphoria is one of the worst pains there is. And only a small portion of the people in the world have to experience it. Though it doesn’t hurt physically the amount of discomfort your mind is put through is horrible. My dysphoria doesn’t give me a break. Never. When I’m older I’m going on t, when I can afford it I’m having top surgery, and maybe even bottom, I hope so anyway..
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I can only explain dysphoria for me as painful. Like the panic and anxiety of being hurt and knowing you're hurt, but being nearly completely unable to find where the wound is- as if you'd tripped and fell and you know you're bleeding and you're scared that it'll get worse, but there's no wound, just that intense panic, and every time you hear your dead name or dead pronouns, it's like another shard of bone shoved into your skin, but you can't find the wound. It's misery.
I would actually challenge that since I'm fairly certain most people experience dysphoria in some form or another, certainly not the same dysphoria as you but no experience is felt the same way by anyone anyway. I don't identify as trans but I probably could, I just don't want to for a number of reasons, and having talked about this to a lot of people in a lot of situations I think transness is just an inherent part of being human in the society we live in. No one really knows what being a boy or a girl feels like, it's just that for trans people the word they were assigned doesn't fit their experiences with the world or themself in such a strong way that they have to pick a different one or they won't be able to function. The word they pick also depends on their experiences with themself and the world around them, as does the ways in which they change outwardly to fit that word. Basically it's just a whole tangled mess of perceptions and assumptions and labels and requirements set by your subconscious in response to the information it receives, and that's something most people understand, some more than others.
Izuku Midoriya Yes me too. Dw you’re not the only one 🖤
Trans folk here, well I can say as a FTM that youre right, I'm still 11, but i know that I'm trans and I'm experiencing dysphoria, it's fricking horrible, I see myself and I only can say: you still look like a girl
I hate it with all my heart
i'm not trans so i can't relate but i would give so much to take that pain off of your shoulders. to everyone reading this, i hope with my whole heart thaf you find happiness one day and that you keep going💕
edit: i didn't realize so many people liked this comment ?? anyways i'm nonbinary now so like-
this really means a lot. I'm a trans man and knowing there are allies out there make the struggle a bit easier.
@@wayward_clique9309 i'll always be here for my trans siblings! since i posted this i found out im nb so thats kinda whack but im proud of you for coming so far and im sure you look extremely handsome today💕
that's awesome that you found your identity. the trans community always has our non-binary pals backs.@@linalea04
shockedmushroomghosts i know what it's like to have fake support, my grandparents and great grandparents "support" me but they say im ill and there gonna get god to help me. one day we'll both get to be ourselves. one we can say to the people who "supported" us : look at me now, im truly myself, im truly happy.
i hope you have a good day/night, one day you're gonna get to become your true self
Same
Today i broke down on the floor crying and i don't know the reason.
I closed my eyes and the only thing i could see was myself, short hair, flat chest, smiling.
That's when i realized; i'm a boy.
I always related to this song and i didn't know why.
Especially "cause what i am is what i'm not"
I always felt weird and not like myself.
I'm so sorry.
Be who you want to be
Dude, that's sad, just remember to be _YOU_ and do what makes _YOU_ happy
Subscribe to pewdiepie And Not tgay I realized I was a boy when I started realizing in most of my dreams I was a dude. And Everytime I had imagined my future I literally wasn't there. Like I imagined some dog I would have but I just wasn't there. I couldn't see myself. Then I started seeing myself as a boy with an amazing husband and some adopted kid with a dog. I just wanna. Tim travel. Skip everything. And just get to that point. I don't wanna come out to my parents they're transphobic. My family is. I don't wanna wait til I get out of college to transition. I don't even wanna go through the process I just wish I was actually born a dude and not some ugly girl with a gross body.
@@bronk1022 Me too. My parents are against anything that isn't cisgender and straight. I cut my hair short without my parent's consent and they flipped out and got pissed. They're used to it now, but they're still homo/transphobic. If you (and everyone else who see's this comment) need someone to talk to my snapchat is Darling.rat and my Instagram is Hourtohour.note. stay strong💕
I used to cry to this song, not understanding why. I'm 21 now and 5 yrs on T lmao. It gets better
I hate being dysphoric so much
I wish i could just be the man i am inside, i wish i could express how i feel outside
Benjamin T idk if I dysphoric...but it feels like it. I want to be female..but I feel like I am binded by my gender currently
same honestly
I feel ya dude
I feel the same way
I'm sorry you all have to go through this as well, just know that a day will come where we all can become the people we /truely/ are, and this alone is proof that we arent alone in this ride
I'm not trans (mad respect and support for anyone who is. Dysphoria sounds like hell, and you're all so much stronger than I could ever dream of being) but, I'm currently having a massive identity crisis and I feel like the lyrics of this song kinda relate to that too even if that isn't what they were intended to be about exactly. I don't know. I just really love all of Robin's music lol
That's exactly how I feel. I don't know who I am.
@@mooncrater1286
I feel ya. We'll both figure it out eventually though, right? Keep your head up.
That’s totally valid! You can relate to music for any reason, even if it isn’t the original meaning of the song
I love this song because it fits in with a lot of other emotions people feel, even if it’s based on dysphoria. And yes, dysphoria is hell.
I hope you feel better soon
I’m thinking of singing this song to my best friend to show her how I feel. I can’t keep it a secret from her anymore
Go for it man, I believe in you
I hope everything goes well for you
Good luck, im amazed at your bravery
Do it b! I believe in you!
Lost_at_sea good luck |-/
I didn't know why this song felt so similar to what I was experiencing. I knew that I hated my body and that "there was something wrong with me". I was working at a subway, closing by myself as usual and I locked the door right at 10pm. I went in the back, listened to this very song on loop and cried as I fully accepted of who I was. Its been five years since then, about 7 months on Estrogen. I love being me, and I love being trans. I love the progress I have made and most importantly, I love myself. Thank you Cavetown and thank you jsyctaom. And a reminder; yes it sucks, but it is much more beautiful to be who you are. I know it gets better. I wish you all the best of luck, peace and love.
Dysphoria is an awful thing, the depression and anxiety it brings on eats at your soul. Its awful feeling like a stranger in your own skin. 🌼 I feel for all the transwoman and men who have to experience this, I know how it feels. 💙🌼
(NON BINARY LOVE ASWELL !! didnt mean to leave you guys out 🖤)
I definitely can relate to this song
I relate to all this when I came out to my grandmother she said she looked up the symptoms of dysphoria and I have none of them I do I have anxiety and depressions thoughts (I don’t want to self diagnose myself) and it sucks cuz she always asks why I’m sad and I say I’m fine but I’m really not I hate my body and want to be a boy it’s painful going to school all I and many other trans children can do is go through it till we can get surgeries and such
and enbies!
@@prageruwu69 yep!! i'm nonbinary and struggle with dysphoria that gets really bad at times, we have dysphoria too
I'm a boy but my parents refuse to accept it. My father just thinks I'm being bratty when I ask him to use my name and pronouns and acts like it's political and infringing on his free speech, and although my mom is a bit better she won't use them (even though I've explained how uncomfortable I am being called a girl). I hate meeting people because they always introduce me with my deadname, sometimes with a "she goes by..." or "she wants to be called..." and anybody who might've called me a boy will follow my parents' example and use she/her. Medically transitioning is completely out of the question until I'm at least 18 and I know my parents are going to hate me for it.
The concept of being comfortable and happy just seems so foreign. It feels like I'll never be able to have the life or the body I want. I know consciously that that's not true, I know I'll get there eventually, but it's so hard to convince myself of that sometimes.
im sorry my dude
things will get better. it may take years, but i PROMISE you, thing will get better. I wish you luck in your transition dude.
sending love, Mickey- fellow ftm
Nonbinary comrade here to tell you everything will get better. You’ll meet people who accept you for who you are and call you your proper pronouns. You’re valid, and deserve to be accepted. You’re a man, and you deserve better than you’ve got.
Ik i'm like a month later. But transguy here(and almost 22)--I use to feel the same exact way as you did, but things DO get better. It might take a while, or it might happen sooner, who knows--but at some point, things will start to look bright. It wasn't until last year I was able to start testosterone, and things have been much better!(Though my mom constantly tries to tell me I need therapy becuz it's a "big change i'm going through" and i'm depressed etc, but truth is, I haven't been this happy in a long while and if i'm depressed, it's cuz she's constantly putting me down :l She says she's supportive but she can get transphobic in arguments(in particular, especially bad ones. And she always goes too far in even minor arguments so I really don't know how supportive she actually is.) I'm sorry yours aren't and for your sake, I really hope they come around!
I told my mum and she was too ashamed of me to tell my dad
I showed my bestfriend this song to maybe help her understand my dysphoria... she cried and I just feel really bad.. but it helped. Everyone I've shown this song to has backed off. They've stopped calling me things that really trigger my dysphoria.
"This phantom skin is weird to live in." That hit hard.
I literally just had the biggest dysphoria-induced breakdown day of my life. First, i had a panic attack because my grandma took my binder without telling me and even though i *tried* to push the panic attack back, it didnt work. Then, i had a bout of really bad voice dysphoria so bad i refused to talk. And now im sitting here, listening to this, hating my feminine body and crying because 4 years is a long time to wait until i can get out of my parents house and into a supportive environment...
Update: I'm almost 17. My parents are still unsupportive, but I'm out as trans and I'm much happier now. It does get better! There are people who love and support you. Keep going, don't close your eyes just before the flowers bloom.
I wish you the best luck to finally be able to be the one you truly are
I wish you luck! I'm honestly in the same position right now (I was born male so its different but same concept). Just know that you arent alone!💖 Much love from georgia
You're a boy. A handsome boy, a king, infact. I hope that things are a little better now. I'm sorry that I don't have any advice for you but I'm going throught the same thing except i haven't moved schools, I just have no friends. It will get better. And we will get binders and medically transition, even if it takes a long time. We will get what we want :)
Oh wait- i replied to the wrong comment... but this still applies you! Especially the first part
Three years now :)) keep going I believe in you !
As someone struggle with gender dysphoria (and also parents who don't even try to use proper pronouns smh), I can relate to this so much. It helps me when I'm feeling down and I'm so grateful for that.
It sucks to have unsupportive parents I hope they come around ❤️
rip man. unsupportive parents suck, but things will get better. you aren't alone.
“Don’t let me hear what they say. Because I can’t stand it everyday, I’m thinking that I should leave”
I relate to this so hard. Like if I don’t come out I hear them say “she” all the time and I’m slowly starting to not be able to handle it. If I do come out my town is so judgemental I can’t stand to listen, so maybe I should just go.
I understand how you feel but if we go we will never be able to transition in the future when we are able to move. I realize i'm making this comment like a year later, how are things now?
Crazy cookie i came out to my family and they still say she a lot but they call me Oliver now and they’re trying to understand. I don’t speak to my brothers anymore bc they’re bigots and I’ve been bullied a couple of times but my friends have been accepting. It’s rocky but it’s bearable. Thank you for asking I hope things get better for you too
Your town must be really crappy. I’ll provide my discord if u ever want to talk
As a non binary person who has social anxiety who is scared to come out to my parents Cavetown has always calmed me down and he will ALWAYS have a soft spot in my heart
For transguys:
You are just as masculine as the other boys! Don't let anyone tell you something else! 🚹
For transgirls:
You are just as beautiful as the other girls! Don't let anyone tell you something else! 🚺
*gnc trans guys crying in the background*
@@HoneyPOWMorethanjustahoneypot what is gnc?
@@laura-vq6zc gender non-conforming. like, feminine guys or masculine girls
@@HoneyPOWMorethanjustahoneypot they are also beautiful and worthy :D
@@HoneyPOWMorethanjustahoneypot yall aint any less male 💕❤
So, ouch. Reading all of these comments really fucking hurts. Hi, I'm Ryan. I am a transgender male. I use he/him pronouns. I don't have an unfortunate story, honestly. Most people accept me. My mother got me my first ever binder today. That was the first time I've felt genuine happiness in... a really long time. My dysphoria was killing me. I was super depressed, and then I got it. I got my binder. From my sweet, amazing, beautiful, supporting mother.
My stepmother and father support me. My mother and stepmother are I think the only ones trying when it comes to names and pronouns, but it really helps. My grandmother accepts me more or less. She is extremely homophobic and transphobic. We once had an argument when she found out I was in the LGBTQ+ community. (She didn't know which part. I basically outed myself because they were being really homophobic and I snapped. So, yeah. That happened.)
I just wanted to say that it will get better. I've heard that so many times. I've gotten pissed off at that statement *so many times.* But it does. When I got my hair cut, when I got my first binder, when I get my voice to go deeper naturally, when someone called me sir. That all made me really euphoric. I went from being super dysphoric and sobbing every hour literally yesterday to being really happy with myself and accepting myself.
Thanks for listening to this. It really helps. Now here's some tips:
1. *_DO NOT_* bind with ace bandages. I'd heard this so many times, but I still wanted to do it. Please, don't. If you can, wear two sports bras.
2. Take off your binder at a maximum of eight hours! No matter what you're binding with, only do it for eight hours max!
3. Take a shower with the lights off.
This one is for dysphoria. I did it today for the first time and I actually enjoyed my shower for the first time ever.
4. If your ribs are bruised, stop binding!
Maybe not all together, but research what you're doing wrong! Because that could actually hurt you!
And lastly, this is a message.
If you're a trans man, know that you are a very valid, handsome man.
If you're a trans woman, know that you are a very valid, beautiful woman.
If you're non-binary, know that you are a very valid, attractive human being.
My mom wasnt supportive atall. I'm 11 yearsold and she thinks its an phase despite me going through it for about 6 years now. I'm an transgirl and I honestly just hate my life rightnow. I'm happy for you though! I'm glad your mom was supportive. Best of luck from georgia 💖
bold of you to assume I’m human /hj /lh
hey, ryan, just wanted to say you are also a very valid, handsome man
thanks, i needed a lot of this advice
cheers from a transmasc rat
The message at the end was really helpful and I really needed it today, so thank you so much
we have the same name (:
"and I don't think I'm coming back this time"
man that hits hard rn.
"it's been over a year" really gets me, especially right now, because around this time last year I realised I'm trans and I never thought that I'd be where I am today; short hair, boys clothes, out to some of my close friends and family. I know nobody is going to read this but if you are and you feel like you can't continue anymore, trust me it gets better, sure you might be unhappy and dysphoric, but it just takes time, that's what I told myself while i had long hair and I still tell myself that to this day, but don't give up because I believe in you and people love you
Thank you. I needed this- and you needed this, I'm sure. I'm sleeping now, so if you reply now I won't be able to reply back, but good luck, and good night.
@@yogurtofthemultiverse2200 I'm glad I could help you, good luck
Thank you. I came out to my family two weeks ago (I've known I'm trans for a while, but I was always to afraid to say), and my family said I was too young to know (I'm 16). I just can't help but thinking of going off to college and cutting all my hair off and getting a binder and buys myself boys clothes and coming back home as Alex, the son, grandson, brother. Sometimes it feels so close, but other days I can't even imagine it happening because I get so depressed about not being able to express myself that I don't want to get out of bed.
I'll hold on though, I'll make it out, the light at the end of the tunnel is gonna be my future self wearing the most repulsive ugly Hawaiian shirt with dress pants and a silver box chain dangling around my neck with a pair of hipster glasses frames opening my family's front door shouting "Hello, I'm back from college!" in the manliest voice possible.
I know that's blown out of proportion, but, hey, it makes me laugh and hope a bit more.
man I’m not even trans or gender fluid but this song lowkey makes me cry. I have so many friends who’re apart of the lgbtq+ community and I love them so much- that was offtopic man but honestly, don’t listen to what anyone says. you’re valid. I love you. don’t lose hope or faith man. You’ve got this.
Ay thank you sm
I'm actually kind of struggling with gender dysphoria..and this really helps in a way
It definitely helps to know your not the only one going through this struggle, it helps to know that your not the only one
stay strong fren, you got this. ||-//
not me crying because of all the supportive people in the comments giving me euphoria
Same bro
This gives me an window into what some of my friends feel, and...now I feel an even greater sense of respect for them than I already do. I'm even more proud of them for living through dysphoria now.
Thank you so much for being a great ally for your friends you will never quite fully realize how much you mean to them as my friends mean to me. 💙
Billy Cipher Is that friend Dipper Pines?
No, kid, but you’re pretty close!
I'm listening to this, relating to it in such a personal way. I got my hair cut short and bought my own binder because no one else will do it. I'm lucky, though. There are people who can't do any of that because of so many in their life who won't support them. To all of you out there who are in that situation, I want you to know that your feelings are valid and that despite the current situation, you will transition to the gender that you feel you are later in life. But until then, know that a random person on the internet is here to talk and is wishing you well on your transition.
I feel like a dude sometimes, I feel like a girl sometimes. I feel non-binary sometimes. sometimes I wish I was born a boy. I hate my feminine voice, I hate my feminine mannerisms. I hate my hips. But I still identify as a female sometimes. I like being a butch woman. I like being a feminine boy. I like being a confusing nonbinary pal. And thats ok, you matter, youre valid.
Edit: I am a trans boy. Thank you ❤️
have you heard of genderfluid?
I'm glad you found yourself! :)
I'm so happy you found yourself
this song hurts,
it hits just the right places
I’m enby and I’m fed up of people telling me I don’t exist and I’m just a women who gets confused. The only one who’s confused is the people who say I am.
Hello, my enby pal, you exist and are very much valid. You're not just confused and I hope you have a really nice day/night, and take care!!
Hey. I love you and I see you and you're gonna be ok.
i’m an enby too! this is too relatable
I am asexual. I'm not trans. I'm even experiencing dysphoria. Not gender dysphoria, just dysphoria. I'm disgusted that sex without romance is acceptable but not romance without sex. To my trqnsgender folks, I'm proud of you. Keep your head up kings, queen, and nobles.
Edit: crap now I'm experiencing actual gender dysphoria. I think I want to go by he/them now but I'm not sure.
Second edit: I'm a transgender lesbian
were proud of you too. asexuality is great. we all need to come together to fight against discrimination and bullying, not divide each other.
i hope you find the acceptance you need soon.
Cool! Welcome to the T part of the lgbtq+ community!
lol
What a journey eh?
Are you an ace lesbian? either way I support you
As a nb person with dysphoria it really helps 2 hear another trans person express their experiences, my dysphoria has gotten a lot better in the past few years!!! Its almost nonexistent for me now a days, but I still have moments. With any trans and nb person struggling with dysphoria it does get better with time once you start to love yourself!!! Its hard but I'm really proud of all you trans and nb people 💖
Is robin trans? i was wondering that but wiki had nothing to say about it.
Wow I'm in NB too! Maybe we know eachother
@@artemisdenstedt9612 He has never admitted it directly, althought it's possible seen some of the lyrics from his songs and some of his old pictures as a kid. Maybe he's not comfortable sharing this thing about himself, which is totally fine imo :)
Artemis Denstedt robbie has actually specifically said that he’s cis, not trans
For everyone in the comments saying they're not trans but can relate. Dysphoria is something anyone can go through and comes in many forms. It's to be so insecure and not feel connected to a part of you. I'm a cis female and don't care about my gender but I have facial dysphoria. The most commonly known form of dysphoria is gender dysphoria. Those of you going through this are so brave! Everyone here is :)
also, pro tip for people playing this on ukulele. the plucking pattern is goes like this:
(the number is the number of the string)
3,2, and then 1 and four at the same time.
you play this plucking pattern for most of the song. when i was looking for tutorials on how to play this, they all said to strum it but you can clearly hear some picking and i figured out the plucking pattern and as far as i know, im the only one that knows it. you can google the chords and stuff but that pattern is really fun to do and if you're trying to get better at fingerpicking, it's perfect because it's so simple but sounds so cool.
comicpab thank you ;)
"This phantom skin, it's weird to live in"
IDK why this song has not blown up it's so good and hits me hard, every time it just gets better and better. Cavetown is going to blow up on ne day, and I cant wait to say to all those people who douted him because he sung about sensitive topics not just love songs! That he has truly connected with his fans though music, and that's a hard thing to do.
"Find me a way out if you love me at all" is a line that hits particularly hard. I'm worried my grandmother (current legal guardian) won't buy me a binder because she doesn't understand the severity of my dysphoria, and that the rest of my support system will respond accordingly. I have one picked out, but I'm worried that she won't want to spend 40+ dollars because it's 'not important', even though it's expensive because it's safer than the cheep ones. I don't know if she'll respond like that, but the fear is there. I'm asking her today. Fingers crossed!
EDIT: She said yes! It's coming in the mail!
Harper Black CONGRATS!
I want anyone else who's ever in this situation to know this: If you're family won't buy you a binder, ask them to go sports bra shopping. And pick out one that's about 2 sizes smaller then you'd normally need. At least to start with, it really helps to feel more comfortable.
“What I am is what I’m not” I actually want this line tattooed, it hits me so damn hard 🥺
as a trans guy who’s been out for over 3 years now, just wanted to let you all know that you’re all so strong, you’re so brave and I truly am sorry that anyone has to go through this. You absolutely will make it through this night. I wish you the best of luck and for those of you living with toxic households, i hope and pray for your safety and that one day you’ll be able to express who you really are. I love you, stay safe.
I just started my period early
I was prepared to have another two weeks or so of some form of comfort in my body now that I’ve got my binder, but instead I get this.
I shouldn’t be complaining because it’s always light and short but if I talk about it irl with my genderqueer friends, they’ll try to understand but won’t. And I love them but I hate this. Sorry
Aiden Weasley Awe I’m so sorry. I can’t relate but this still hurt my heart to hear. I hope it gets better for you, love. Stay strong ❤️
Aiden Weasley i feel ya
Aiden Weasley Dude good luck. That really sucks. It’ll pass though, don’t worry.
Just remember you know more about girls struggles then most other boys, and personally I find that absolutely cute. How many boys have to deal with periods, I’ll tell ya not many. So in my opinion I think you’re a lot stronger and I hope whoever likes you (unless you’re ace) will make you feel special and strong
Wearing_my_paper_crown i think this is the sweetest comment i’ve ever read!! ❤️❤️❤️
Younger me: I'm a girl and I'll grow up to be gorgeous and I'll have a boyfriend
Brain: cut your hair
Me: why?
Brain: just do it
Me: fine
Brain: get a binder
Me: a what?
Brain: you need a flat chest get.a.binder
Me: jeez fine
Brain: good....
Me: anything else?
Brain:.......get a packer
Me: ALRIGHT FINE
Brain: now change your name and pronouns
Me: okay what's the deal with this
Brain: 👁👄👁
Me: I don't have to
Brain: but you'd be happier as a guy correct?
Me: yes
Brain: exactly now change them
Me: Why?
Brain: you're transgender
Me: okay I'll change them
Brain: oh and you'll never experience sexual attraction
Me: ARE YOU F-
so your a transgender asexual- cool! question tho whats it like to be asexual?
@@daniellehall2765 it's pretty normal the only difference is no sexual attraction like someone else might want to "do the deed" But I wouldn't because I can't experience attraction in that way if you get what I mean
@@kissxingqiu oh thanks lol I think I understand it a little better now
@@daniellehall2765 no problem :)
Oh you’re ace! There’s no polite way to ask this, but do ace people still do *coughing* _themselves?_
"Don't tell me what I am, Because I can't stand it"
THIS IS WHAT I FEEL EVERYDAY WHY IS THIES FONG SO GOD DAMN ACCURATE
my oh my
;-; I know how he feels
same here
Imma adopt everyone in this comment section as my sibling that isn’t accepted or treated the way they need to be. Don’t care if ur gay, bi, trans, lesbian, ace, ext. ur my sibling and I will love and support u no matter what CUZ U EPIC!!!!!!!!! Love, ur epic lesbian probably younger sister that might be ur older sister uuuuhhhhhhh-
Update: I’m now ur brother..... uhm...... still love u guys tho
thanks buddy, my siblings are complete asses and i got ptsd from one of them and my brother, whose is one year older than me, doesn't think i have anything wrong with me (that includes me being a trans male), wish my family was good and not bad.
sorry for basically telling my sob story i have no one to talk to but anyway thanks your a very good sister (:,
It’s fine! That’s what I’m here for! I sorry ur siblings suck, but I’m ur new sibling now and I will love you as my brother. You can tell me anything and I will listen!!! ✨🌸🐝💛💛💛 I love you u handsome young man!!!
How old are you so I can find out if you are my older or younger brotherr? Sorry.
I agree with you 100%, this is how I feel about all the people in the comment sections I've seen recently :'))
I won’t say a direct age but older than 10 and younger than 16, also I am now ur stupid and loving brother ;-;
For some reason I feel fake. I question if I'm really trans
I think we've all felt that way before. Just know that you are who you are, and nobody knows you better than you know yourself. You may be trans, you may not be. Just do whatever feels right to you. If anybody has a problem with it, they don't deserve to know you. And you deserve better than them.
The fact that you're worried about this tells me that it means a lot to you. I don't think any "fakers" would question themselves on whether or not they're fake.
I know you'll figure yourself out. Some people take time in doing so, and if that ends up being you, that's okay. Whether you're trans or not, fluid or static, binary or otherwise, that's okay. Just stay strong. There's no rush. Do what makes you happy, and strive to become the person you want to be.
I'm rooting for you!
@@rileyrandall9612 This is a SUPER unhealthy mindset to have actually
It's normal to question yourself. I do sometimes, too
But for one thing, you don't actually need dysphoria to be trans. Dysphoria is defined as distress related to your birth sex, and you don't need to feel that way in order to be trans
Also, whether you transition or not is up to you, whether you're dysphoric or not. Do what feels right to YOU. Just be aware of any changes that can occur, and if you don't want those changes, perhaps you can find other options
And don't worry about "embarrassing" anyone. Every trans person has different experiences. If any trans person is embarrassed of you based on how you present, what your gender is, or whether or not you choose to transition, they have some internal transphobia they need to sort through
Do what feels right to YOU. Don't worry what anyone else says or thinks
Whether you're cis, trans, or nonbinary, you'll find what makes you happiest. And that's the road you should take. Don't let anyone scare you away from your options
@@rileyrandall9612 That...is very innacurate.
I myself have very severe dysphoria, both by the actual definition AND by yours. But I was able to get access to HRT, fully covered by my insurance (side from a monthly $10 co-pay) before I ever got my diagnosis.
Wanna know how?
My doctor and my insurance company weren't transphobic.
If you look at any sources that say that dysphoria is required to be trans, I think you'll find that all those sources are either outdated (from 2010 or earlier), or were written by cis people. Current research has proven that dysphoria is not required to be trans.
And spreading the idea that being trans requires dysphoria bars questioning people from figuring themselves out, and keeps dysphoric trans people feom seeking transition because we worry about not being "trans enough."
Please stop spreading transphobic ideas like this. It causes actual harm to ALL trans people, and gives cis people more reasons to gatekeep in the medical field, like what happened to you.
@@rileyrandall9612 I don't mean to come off as rude, and I'm sorry if I came off that way
You have a great day as well!
But, in the future, maybe stop spreading the idea that anyone can dictate whether or not somebody else is trans, at least on other peoples' comments. If you make your own priginal comment it's fine, but you shouldn't spread false information (whether they are your beliefs or not. Not every trans person feels the same, and it can be hurtful)
@@rileyrandall9612 Oh, don't worry! I just hope I didn't come off as rude or angry. I feel very strongly on thid topoc as well
As for the differing brains thing...I have a degree in human psychology. The thing about men and women having differemt brains is actually false. There are differences in EVERY brain, and while some can generally be attributed to different genders, this has less to do with nature, and more to do with the environment (an example of this would be the way that emotions are processed. Men tend to show less of an emotional response if they were raised in a conservative family. Those raised in more open-minded families tended to have "female" emotional responses!)
I can also say that, while the research you mentioned is indeed being studied currently, it's not for the reasons you were led to believe. These studies are being done as a way to legally deny healthcare to those whose bodies don't match the "gender" of their brain. This will lead to eugenics if it goes to far, and I am very against it
hey, if your nonbinary and listening to this song: i want you to know that you are trans enough. you are valid and belong in the trans community if it’s something you would be comfortable in :)
You know thank you so much for this it is going to help me out so much
Thanks, I needed that right now
thanks^^
i'm non-binary and possibly transmasc.. idk
I needed this
Thanks a ton. I needed this right now
Me, a closeted non-binary person being misgendered all the time but too scared to correct anyone: 👁💧👄💧👁
I'm not even closeted anymore lol I'm just too scared to correct anyone
Eventually though, get through this stuff and be ourselves
@@magicalmarshmallow6133 same
@@magicalmarshmallow6133 same. my friends and I were talking and then they called me by my dead name, but I was too scared to correct them. Even tho I have told them :(
@@magicalmarshmallow6133 same ;v;
i remember saving this song in a playlist called "some things i like" about one or two years ago, i didn't know what dysphoria meant. i just liked the song and weirdly related. now i know what it was what pulled me into this song. it gives words to the weird feeling i get that i don't even know what it is because you know... i'm non binary, i don't really know what makes me dysphoric. i only know something with how i look and others see me doesn't allign with who i am or how i see myself. so thank you for this song
dysphoria is the complete opposite of euphoria and it kinda scars me to know that.
I listened to this song repeatedly until I started testosterone, like it got me. Now I’m having the same pain waiting for top surgery after 3 years of comfort. This song hurts and gets me.
Hey, non-binary person here. My gender dysphoria is rarely ever missing from my life, especially at school. Sure, I can hide my chest, but I still have a girlish haircut, and my school won't let us wear hoods or hats, so I can't transition back and forth at school. Most of the kids in my class know I'm at least gay, but they don't get any of the rest of it, and it's really hard sometimes. I hope that one day, I will be met with acceptance and love. 🖤🖤🖤
I’m sure you will, you’re perfect the way you are don’t let anyone change that ❤️ you’re amazing!!
@@ashhh_okumura aw, thank you, much love! ♥️🖤 a small update is that i shaved my hair and moved, so i can finally be who i wanna be!
@@faye.bug24 Aw i'm So Glad! hope everything is well :)
I'm NB and Pan! ;D I know how it feels! I'm glad you feel better. I hope I do, someday. ^^
I don't belong here, it's just hopeless
The world is yours. You belong here, creat things that make you happy. This is not hopeless, please look to the sky and know that, this pain, it has purpose. Please look at the world around you and see all the life and beauty, i know how hard it is to see the light. That its scary and blinding but its warm it will melt away the ice from your body. You're going to feel free and like you can walk on air. Please stay and see all that is lovely. Its waiting for you. You will find it, you're gonna see the light. I care about you. (If you want you can DM me on insta if that helps my user is @plesant.alien Im willing to talk with you or just send you pictures of animals or memes). :) I care.
Okay, I know these are just the lyrics to the song, but just know that you do belong here. You do matter, and you do have worth.
"if the universe didn't need you, you wouldn't be here"
you belong. you have a gift. A talent. as @ sophie jones said " if the world didn't need you, you wouldn't be here" better days will come my friend
“Things are as they are. Looking out into the universe at night, we make no comparisons between right and wrong stars, nor between well and badly arranged constellations.”
-Alan Watts
I’m cis but part of the LGBT community and have trans friends. Dysphoria seems like shit to say the least I can’t imagine having to go through that. The community loves all of you 💕 stick around and become the guy or girl you dreamed of. Just remember every day you’re closer to starting T or going on oestrogen. One day closer to getting your surgeries. One day closer to a waiter at a restaurant asking you “what can I get you miss” or “what can I get you sir?” You’re one day closer becoming who you really are. The whole community is with you and we love and support you. 💕💖❤️
-Love from a cis but supportive pansexual 💕
Thanks this comment made me happy
Anathema For Long thank you this is so sweet
I'm pan and cis as well! And I couldn't have said it myself. My heart goes out to anyone dealing with Dysphoria 💕💕
This is so sweet, it makes me so happy
rip nex benedict, i directly thought about this song when i heard that, stay strong fellas
i come back to this every once in a while just to listen, this song really is great.
I just adore Cavetown/Robin
Spooky JingleBells Same here tbh! He’s jus’ beautiful :,)
Spooky JingleBells same tho
I'm in a constant state of questioning, I see myself when I close my eyes, I see my hair shorter and my chest flat, I see what I want to be and I can't stand seeing myself anymore.
I'm always wondering if I really am trans, I don't know if I am or not and it scares the hell out of me, I know what I want tho, and what I want I'll never have.
Its so confusing, when I wear my binder it's never flat enough, so I stopped, I just deal with the sinking pain in my chest whenever I look in the mirror, I don't want to deal with it, it's hard and hurts most of the time. But I fear I'll always live in this body and always with this torment. I fear I'll never be accepted.
It gets better, it really does 💗
God damn you just summed up all my pain and crisis. You put into words. I know exactly what you mean my friend. I’m glad to know I’m not alone
@@jaybek7707 hopefully things will get better, for the both of us!💛
BeesTech - Hopefully 🖤
do you wanna be friends? i really get what your saying
I remember crying to this song for hours. I remember thinking I would never live to transition.
I’m 20 now and 2 months on E, and I’ve discovered joy in life. Living is hard but it’s so worth the effort it takes to enjoy it.
I might show this to my parents to help them understand why I need to transition. To all the other transgender people here, I'd just like you to know that everything will work out eventually, and you are a strong person.
SweetKicksBruv i hope things went well!
Like even if you aren't trans, you could probably relate to this song. You can probably relate if you have low self esteem or low self image.
Body dysmorphia aka body dysphoria is real!!!
Yeah...
Yes, unfortunately. My friends tend to think I´m a narcissist, since I always pretend that I can´t be happier with who I am, when in reality I am appalled by everything about me. Sometimes it even gets funny when ppl think I am always happy, I mean, yes, I´m constantly smiling, but I also cry every night and wish I was never born. I mean, look at all of you, everyone is literally soo beautiful, or at least pretty, and here I am. What kind of human being am I?! I don´t even look like one
S U K I same I usually give myself compliments a lot or whenever I’m insulted by someone I grin and spin it around to praise myself but it really really hurts I just can’t show it
studyplant gender dysphoria is what you’re referring to. there are different types of dysphoria you know.
This hit my heart I cried so frickin hard I hate my dysphoria so much
There's a lot about trans dysphoric, but you guys suffering from non-binary dysphoria are valid too!
I’m also naturally curvy and I’m trans so it makes me have intense dysphoria, I guess that why I’m listening to this song tho 😂
This im non binary and a few months ago i introduced my self as using they/them pronouns they audibly gasped…. And in the next sentence misgendered me in-front of the entire class. If I didn’t have a stupid famine body maybe that wouldn’t happen
Don't let me see what I am
Because I can't stand it
No I can't
I'm coming back
Round again
It's been over a year
I thought this was the end
But now I don't remember comfort
Because what I am is what I'm not
I don't belong here
Its just hopeless
~Find Me A Way Out~
~If You Love Me... At All~
Don't let me hear what they say
Because I can't stand it, everyday
I'm thinking that I should leave now
But I don't think I'm coming back this time
But now I don't remember comfort
Because what I am is what I'm not
This phantom skin is weird to live in
~So Find Me A Way Out If You Love Me... At All~
This is a lyric video my friend, already have this, sorry
In case we gotta copy and paste ey?
Ok
the lyrics are in the video-
You know it's his natural voice when you hear the commotion of a household at the end. Beautiful songs, this man does.
“this phantom skin”
That line just hit so close to home. Since i hit puberty i felt like my body wasn’t my own. Like it felt like I was out of my skin. I figured out i was nb over the summer and everything just made sense after that. I am working on making this skin my own again. But its hard when transphobia is around where i live. My family often time makes fun of lgbtq+ people. And everytime they do it’s another pang of dysphoria. And they expect me to be this perfect girl. My mom treated me like her doll to dress up for the longest time. It just recently stopped like a year ago. I am not out to many people. But i know if I come out to them im gonna be thrown out of the house. So the plan is to tell them when I am on my own. Its so many years until then, but i gotta do it for my safety. It sucks that who I am can get me thrown out of the house. but thats life
Same
I just ordered my binder yesterday! Even though I haven't felt anything too important, I can tell its a huge weight off my shoulders. For the past 7 months, I've been dealing with major identity issues and its been the main cause of my stress. I finally figured myself out and am starting to feel so much more confident.
I woke up this morning feeling so refreshed. I think it was the first night in a while that my brain could actually relax.
I support you! I hope your journey is welcoming and sweet!
I have gender dysphoria but I'm a biological male and want to be a woman. I still relate with this song though because it's just about gender dysphoria in general
Don't worry, you're just as beautiful as any other women. You are a women, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If you ever feel like you're non-binary, cis, women, ect. Just know that you will always be supported.
We ftms are outnumbered by the looks of it but we can all relate to one another in a way
@@cringelord3342 It's nice knowing that all of you have a wonderful community that will accept all of you no matter what gender you go by, or your sexuality.
Slay queen!! I 100% relate to you!
@@-Cat9- 💜
for a year I have felt this way. plus many more things. then the word dysphoria just like came to my head. never heard of it. decided to not worry abt it. for three months I wanted to know wtf what wrong with me, i was scared and so confused to the point I cried everyday. so I looked up dysphoria and it gave the definition and I was like "hey,,,that's kinda what I have!" and I love cavetown so much and I figured he made a song about it (again like never even knew what It was it was a word in my head and I never heard it from cavetown either I just like knew) and this popped up. the first sentence I broke down, like I'm not alone. I can get help now I know what's wrong. this hit too close.
I hate myself because I am a teen trans Male, but my family is very religious so I have to wait a couple years (around 6 or more because I would have to get enough money for an apartment so they cant kick me out) to come out and start T and everything which is scary and sad, which makes me depressed and I am trying to make the most of my family just in case. 😢😔
Stay strong. Maybe I'm not allowed to say this as I have not experienced it yet, but I've heard it gets better.
@@pigeonpower42 Thanks. I am trying to make life positive but as the days go by my dysphoria and depression are getting worse.
It sucks, im sorry you have to go through this, and i wont say it gets better because who knows if it really does? What i do know is that it cant be bad forever, eventually life will get board of trying to push you around and leave you alone. I know its hard but you have to stay strong my friend. Your not alone.
@@jordanhughes9403 Thanks. I am currently saving up for an apartment or house so I can move out as soon as possible so I can come out and transition.
It does get better. My boyfriend's living proof. He even has a happy trail! Just keep those friends who make you feel better, do what you can to ignore those who don't, and, when a relationship comes up, never settle for someone who doesn't make you feel like the man you truly are.
this song is still so beautiful even after ive gone through all my struggles when i first found it. thank for for making this. ❤