But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another. Galatians 5:22-26
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Thank you for bringing up generational curses, as it's something that most people, especially Christians, don't know about about or don't understand. It can create a problem like you said that one who was molested has molested, and they don't understand why. It's big one for people to know and understand. I Peter 2:24 24 who Himself (Jesus) bore our sins in His own body on the tree (the Word says, cursed is the man who is hung on a tree, so He even took the curses on man for breaking God's law, word curses spoken by ones in authority over us, and all the generational curses because we are of Adam), that we, having died to sins (in baptism), might live for righteousness (a whole new chance as resurrected new creatures!) -by whose stripes you were healed (totally forgiven so spiritually healed and in the end physically as well).
Al I understand what you dealt with. I still love my Dad even thou he is up in Heaven now. Both my parents had tough childhood too. I forgive my Dad plus when Dad was in Vietnam War. He had relapses of Vietnam or triggers of it. My Dad last 2 yrs he changed not just all about his self My Mom couldn't leave my Dad because make own her with 3 kids. No college education either. But God got us through it.
Life isn't always easy. But my Mom stay with Dad because it might been worse if they got divorce. Robertson thank you for telling your stories of your life.
bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. Colossians 3:13
Not all women need to stay in an unfaithful or abusive relationship. Yes , we need to forgive but that comes in time . There are biblical grounds for divorce. 🙏🏽 And you can choose to stay and reconcile, but either way is painful but God is able to restore us .
Get IT J especially women with no job , no family help no way out or because of the children. But praise God he changed some men and women do not . And yes they divorced because of Unforgiveness . Satan is a liar and the father of lies his mission is to rob , steal and destroy families he wants us dead ! There are so many different situations, not all are the same ; if some are divorced and new in Christ we still have Purpose. My father cheated and left our family when my mother became ill and had a child with another woman, later he wanted to reconcile with me mom , she told him no , but she forgave him and went home with the Lord . My father is now ill with cancer and has had strokes and the women he left us for doesn’t want to care for him . Hmm . God word is TRUTH “whatever we sow we reap . In my first marriage we were believers ( details too long) 😆🐶 there was a time we both were not walking right , he chose to believe the lies of the enemy and leave me and our 2 children. And he left me and the Lord for another woman. The word of God tells us that in the Last Days Believers will fall away and be unrecognizable ( which translated ) means Unwilling to forgive. I was single ten years I married a man of God and he loves my children, I will admit marriage in Christ is not easy - but as long as you “follow the Manuel or E - Manuel ) 😆😆 the Lord works it all out . I pray for those struggling in their marriages today may you SEEK HIM and His Guidance and He will lead you !! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💚🌈💯
@@Imom4Him tough thing is we are making conclusions based on Our standards which are flawed. Even the certificates or biblical reasons for divorce were given due to the hardness of our hearts. We are called to be Christ like particularly in marriage. Imagine if Christ walk out on you for whatever reason? He loves us as we are and while He would want us to change and accept Him, He does not require it of us, and in the same we we should not require it of our spouse, it's not a trade, it's a choice, and the choice is your responsibility.
Victor Gachahi Maina you just said it your self , He allowed divorce because “of the hardness of ones heart ,” which is disobedience to harden our heart but rather we are to forgive as Christ, my former spouse CHOSE not to forgive therefore he had no biblical grounds for divorce and then married the women he left us for . Which now according to Matthew Ch 19 is a marriage of adultry . In this fallen world it happens. If only we would all choose to forgive as Christ, but we can be and make that difference! 🙋🏻♀️🐶👍🏽. We should always seek His direction and obey it .
I'm so raw and open, and dying inside because my husband just wont open up and be intimate with me. There is no trust and no communication. I live in fear now, fearful that I will run into one of the women he has acted out with again, because we have run into someone from his past before. It has caused me to isolate, I'm afraid to go anywhere with him anymore. I don't even want to go to church because he looks around all the time and it bothers me. When I asked him, "why do you look around during the service instead of looking at the pastor and paying attention?", his response was, "I'm looking to see if I know any women that will come up to me and say hi and then I'll have to explain myself to you". What?!! I don't feel safe in church anymore, the Lords house of all places I should feel safe, so we listen online now. It's heartbreaking, 34 years of infidelity, how long Lord, how long?
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My husband & I are going through this right now. The truth came out 7 months ago, we are both born again. Unfortunately when it happened, we weren't. Is it okay to bring it up every time there's a difference between us? It hurts sooo much. I need help because I can't cope with the up & downs anymore. I feel like the forgiveness is counterfeit because of the fear of being alone..
My husband demands me break by myself, deal by myself, everything he spittle be doing by myself. I told him it's not going to work for the better, he doesn't care.
Most do end the line. most abusers have been abused. but many many abused do not ever go on and abuse. In fact the majority of abused people never abuse. It's something I didn't learn until somebody told me the statistics
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Lisa for all have sinned and come short of the glory. There is none righteous no not one. Lisa you and I have fought the same demons of infidelity and abortion clinics. I was abused sexually as a child and I wonder if you were as well. 💘
Mr interviewer, "Get out of jail free card" ??? Glad my pastor is not like you or my family would have suffered in silence under great oppression and abuse. Why should the abuser calling themselves a Christian get the free pass by manipulating Christianity. God will not be mocked. I thank the Lord for my pastor and his family who saw right through that manipulator and gave Godly counsel, provided a safe place for us to worship and find the true and living God and welcomed us with open arms. Nobody is looking for an excuse to get out of marriage and have their family destroyed, some people have no choice sir!
He’s talking about when Moses said it is okay to get a divorce if your spouse has had an affair. He meant at that point in the marriage Al was able to opt for divorce and it would not be a “sin”. The interviewer said people usually would take their spouse having an affair as a “get out of jail free card” basically saying Al was technically free to divorce lisa if he wanted to but he did not. I’m sorry for your past and hope Jesus has delivered and healed your hurts ❤ just wanted to give you a re-explanation even if it is 3 years later these people as much as I’ve heard their content I’ve never heard them pressure anyone to stay in abusive relationship but rather to seek help and safety
I am so tired of cheating wifes bragging about their cheating behavior and everyone acting like they are so kind of hero. She stabbed her husband and family in the back. Every time she gets on social media about her poor poor life and talk about her cheating, she is stabbing her husband family in the back. She should leave and let her husband and family find a decent loyal woman, not a cheater.
Kay got lucky in the end. I believe that nobody should stay in an abusive relationship. It's dysfunctional and it's the devil. You can love and forgive from a far - subjecting yourself and your kids to hell isn't the way God would want someone to live, I don't think. The kids got lucky too. They all ended up pretty unmessed up or at least it seems so for the cameras. There are millions of kids who did not end up ok because they were raised in dysfunction.
@@lilybartholomew8585 are you gauging my Christian faith or just judging? Maybe i didn't state that because of God the kids didn't get messed up. I used the word lucky. Bottom line...it was God's grace.
Thank you Allen and Lisa for being so open and honest with your lives.
I want that, I need that peace!
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.
Galatians 5:22-26
I need this today I also need prayers for my marriage.
Thank you
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Same! I am praying gods hand on your marriage. And for yalls endurance!
Requesting prayers for our marriage as well.
Beautiful
Thank you for bringing up generational curses, as it's something that most people, especially Christians, don't know about about or don't understand. It can create a problem like you said that one who was molested has molested, and they don't understand why. It's big one for people to know and understand.
I Peter 2:24
24 who Himself (Jesus) bore our sins in His own body on the tree (the Word says, cursed is the man who is hung on a tree, so He even took the curses on man for breaking God's law, word curses spoken by ones in authority over us, and all the generational curses because we are of Adam), that we, having died to sins (in baptism), might live for righteousness (a whole new chance as resurrected new creatures!) -by whose stripes you were healed (totally forgiven so spiritually healed and in the end physically as well).
Al I understand what you dealt with. I still love my Dad even thou he is up in Heaven now. Both my parents had tough childhood too. I forgive my Dad plus when Dad was in Vietnam War. He had relapses of Vietnam or triggers of it. My Dad last 2 yrs he changed not just all about his self My Mom couldn't leave my Dad because make own her with 3 kids. No college education either. But God got us through it.
Life isn't always easy. But my Mom stay with Dad because it might been worse if they got divorce. Robertson thank you for telling your stories of your life.
This hits home for me! I personally am in the process of this! And I am desperately seeking gods face in this time and in my marriage!
How did everything turn out?
I have a real struggle forgiveness with anyone I pray on it and it's still there.
bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
Colossians 3:13
Forgiveness is the answer.
GJ
I would venture to say that she doesn't like telling this story over and over-strengthen her Lord
Keep up the great work al!
Jesus is lord.
amen Miss Kay is such a wonderful loving Christian so inspiring love your family
I just finished a new season but I really wanted desperate first but I didn't know the story
Not all women need to stay in an unfaithful or abusive relationship. Yes , we need to forgive but that comes in time . There are biblical grounds for divorce. 🙏🏽 And you can choose to stay and reconcile, but either way is painful but God is able to restore us .
Get IT J especially women with no job , no family help no way out or because of the children. But praise God he changed some men and women do not . And yes they divorced because of Unforgiveness . Satan is a liar and the father of lies his mission is to rob , steal and destroy families he wants us dead ! There are so many different situations, not all are the same ; if some are divorced and new in Christ we still have Purpose. My father cheated and left our family when my mother became ill and had a child with another woman, later he wanted to reconcile with me mom , she told him no , but she forgave him and went home with the Lord . My father is now ill with cancer and has had strokes and the women he left us for doesn’t want to care for him . Hmm . God word is TRUTH “whatever we sow we reap . In my first marriage we were believers ( details too long) 😆🐶 there was a time we both were not walking right , he chose to believe the lies of the enemy and leave me and our 2 children. And he left me and the Lord for another woman. The word of God tells us that in the Last Days Believers will fall away and be unrecognizable ( which translated ) means Unwilling to forgive. I was single
ten years I married a man of God and he loves my children, I will admit marriage in Christ is not easy - but as long as you “follow the Manuel or E - Manuel ) 😆😆 the Lord works it all out . I pray for those struggling in their marriages today may you SEEK HIM and His Guidance and He will lead you !! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💚🌈💯
@@Imom4Him tough thing is we are making conclusions based on Our standards which are flawed. Even the certificates or biblical reasons for divorce were given due to the hardness of our hearts. We are called to be Christ like particularly in marriage. Imagine if Christ walk out on you for whatever reason? He loves us as we are and while He would want us to change and accept Him, He does not require it of us, and in the same we we should not require it of our spouse, it's not a trade, it's a choice, and the choice is your responsibility.
Victor Gachahi Maina you just said it your self , He allowed divorce because “of the hardness of ones heart ,” which is disobedience to harden our heart but rather we are to forgive as Christ, my former spouse CHOSE not to forgive therefore he had no biblical grounds for divorce and then married the women he left us for . Which now according to Matthew Ch 19 is a marriage of adultry . In this fallen world it happens. If only we would all choose to forgive as Christ, but we can be and make that difference! 🙋🏻♀️🐶👍🏽. We should always seek His direction and obey it .
@@Imom4Him AMEN, the only direction you can choose is yours so stay the course be faithful always.
EXSPEASILY THAT'S SO TRUE.
I'm so raw and open, and dying inside because my husband just wont open up and be intimate with me. There is no trust and no communication. I live in fear now, fearful that I will run into one of the women he has acted out with again, because we have run into someone from his past before. It has caused me to isolate, I'm afraid to go anywhere with him anymore. I don't even want to go to church because he looks around all the time and it bothers me. When I asked him, "why do you look around during the service instead of looking at the pastor and paying attention?", his response was, "I'm looking to see if I know any women that will come up to me and say hi and then I'll have to explain myself to you". What?!! I don't feel safe in church anymore, the Lords house of all places I should feel safe, so we listen online now. It's heartbreaking, 34 years of infidelity, how long Lord, how long?
Hum I'm 13 years ,with a child out side ...
Thanks for sharing so openly with us. If you’d like to talk about this situation with one of our counselors (at no cost to you), you may call 1-855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays between 6:00 A.M. and 8:00 P.M. (MT). Just give your number to the Family Help Center staff member who answers the phone. They will pass along your contact information to one of our professional counselors, who will return your call just as soon as they’re able. We hope to hear from you soon.
Please talk to the Focus people Marilee...I'm praying too...
PRAYING FOR YOU ALL
Im Sorry Marilee 😪
Im going through this too
My husband & I are going through this right now. The truth came out 7 months ago, we are both born again. Unfortunately when it happened, we weren't. Is it okay to bring it up every time there's a difference between us? It hurts sooo much. I need help because I can't cope with the up & downs anymore. I feel like the forgiveness is counterfeit because of the fear of being alone..
W wonderful lesson
AND HONESTY
My husband demands me break by myself, deal by myself, everything he spittle be doing by myself. I told him it's not going to work for the better, he doesn't care.
The abused become the abuser. Someone has to draw a line and say this is going to end here.
Most do end the line.
most abusers have been abused.
but many many abused do not ever go on and abuse. In fact the majority of abused people never abuse.
It's something I didn't learn until somebody told me the statistics
Isn’t this James Dobson’s ministry?
He founded Focus on the Family Ministries
Hi friend - Focus on the Family was founded by Dr. James Dobson in 1977. For more about our history, you can visit the About Us page on our website: www.focusonthefamily.com/about.
I wish I could go back and tell my ex I am sorry. That I forgive him. That he could forgive me.
Lisa for all have sinned and come short of the glory. There is none righteous no not one. Lisa you and I have fought the same demons of infidelity and abortion clinics. I was abused sexually as a child and I wonder if you were as well. 💘
Mr interviewer, "Get out of jail free card" ??? Glad my pastor is not like you or my family would have suffered in silence under great oppression and abuse. Why should the abuser calling themselves a Christian get the free pass by manipulating Christianity. God will not be mocked. I thank the Lord for my pastor and his family who saw right through that manipulator and gave Godly counsel, provided a safe place for us to worship and find the true and living God and welcomed us with open arms. Nobody is looking for an excuse to get out of marriage and have their family destroyed, some people have no choice sir!
He’s talking about when Moses said it is okay to get a divorce if your spouse has had an affair. He meant at that point in the marriage Al was able to opt for divorce and it would not be a “sin”. The interviewer said people usually would take their spouse having an affair as a “get out of jail free card” basically saying Al was technically free to divorce lisa if he wanted to but he did not. I’m sorry for your past and hope Jesus has delivered and healed your hurts ❤ just wanted to give you a re-explanation even if it is 3 years later these people as much as I’ve heard their content I’ve never heard them pressure anyone to stay in abusive relationship but rather to seek help and safety
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I love the Robertson and Al but this lady something doesn’t feel right. I was abused and damed if anyone abuses my children
I am so tired of cheating wifes bragging about their cheating behavior and everyone acting like they are so kind of hero. She stabbed her husband and family in the back. Every time she gets on social media about her poor poor life and talk about her cheating, she is stabbing her husband family in the back. She should leave and let her husband and family find a decent loyal woman, not a cheater.
Kay got lucky in the end. I believe that nobody should stay in an abusive relationship. It's dysfunctional and it's the devil. You can love and forgive from a far - subjecting yourself and your kids to hell isn't the way God would want someone to live, I don't think. The kids got lucky too. They all ended up pretty unmessed up or at least it seems so for the cameras. There are millions of kids who did not end up ok because they were raised in dysfunction.
MrsEyes512 no such thing as lucky if u r a true Christian
The difference is putting Jesus Christ first in our life n HE will take us through
@@lilybartholomew8585 are you gauging my Christian faith or just judging? Maybe i didn't state that because of God the kids didn't get messed up. I used the word lucky. Bottom line...it was God's grace.