To make a long story short, my we-wife left me for her co-worker. They married and had a child within a year. By the end of the second year they divorced. She tried to come back to me. After she figured out that would not happen, they eventually remarried. A few years after that, they divorced again. A few years after that they remarried and remains married to this day. Something tells me they are merely co-existing. Meanwhile throughout this entire fiasco, my current wife and I have been sitting back watching this train wreck happen. While they have been busy marrying and re-marrying, my wife and I have been busy falling more and more in love each and everyday. BTW, we married in 2000.❤
Good for you. My wife 36 years old had 2 affairs at the same time. One was a guy she met online, the other our 22F babysitter. I was married for 10 years with 2 young kids. They now live together parenting my kids. Lovely way to end things
For a woman to have a baby with someone else, and then have the audacity to think you would take them back is astounding and sick at the same time. If mine has a baby with this idiot, there isn’t zero chance ever talking to her again and she knows it.
My husband cheated on me with his "work friend" and is still with her now. He lied and cheated in many areas during our 22 year marriage. I don't miss that. She can have him. If I lost respect, love and trust with him for good, so will she. You reap what you sow.
This is so true. I like how you worded that. You can't end a marriage just to go make a new marriage with someone else, and potentially leave a loving spouse and kids behind. If the affair was all built on lies and deceit, trying to build a foundation for the new marriage with those building blocks doesn't work. It's doomed to fail. It's helpful to understand that. Thanks!. :)
You can, but just on paper! They will never trust each other and that fear will ALWAYS be there. Either 1 of them would cheat again, or they'd split from the overwhelming trust issues. A relationship is built on trust, it cannot blossom in cheating relationships where there aren't any!
So you're with the same person for 30+ years. You raise 3 children and they move away to have lives of their own. You have spent your entire adult life with this one person. All ups and downs and sideways. Unimaginable adventures for the person you grew up as. Then for whatever reason, you decide to start having a relationship with someone who has already been married at least once before. This person knows full well you are married and are still living with your spouse (and having sex with your spouse). But you replace your spouse with your affair partner and ultimately after divorcing the person you became an adult with, you marry the affair person a little over a year after the divorce is final. Just how long do you really think that new marriage is gonna last? You both know the kind of person you're married to.
And those of us who were betrayed and would never have done the same? What are our statistics for another relationship/marriage after such damage to people with decent values? Damaged is damaged. We cannot be the kind of person who gives love unconditionally again because what was broken by the betrayal cannot be repaired. Trust is very expensive. The cost of having it destroyed by someone is that there will never be full trust for anyone in the future. It's one of those aspects of a relationship that should never have been taken advantage of in the first place. I cannot and will not cause myself to trust another woman EVER again.
Why can’t you be the same person who gave unconditionally? The world is your oyster. Learn from the mistakes of your past, have stronger boundaries and find someone who likes you for you. You have absolutely every chance to succeed. Having gone through infidelity, you will have the experience and will know what to look out for. And the person you marry will likely be the opposite and display actual love for you.
My husband of 25 yrs left me for a women 15 yrs younger then him When he got with her she was working a part-time job in his office as his assistant she has two baby daddies and was living with the baby daddy at the time they are now together living together and I hear that all is not so well in paradise I warned him the grass isnt always greener on the other side
Yes, yes, yes. Totally this. The hardest part for me as a betrayed partner is never being able to 'compete' with the excitement of the fantasy. My husband has chosen me over her, but will he ever take off those rose-coloured glasses in the way he sees her????? It's so frustrating, when I have been there for him through thick and thin - and love him so much more deeply than she ever can. They have never tested their love and it doesn't deserve the mantle of 'perfection' which has been placed on it.
yogabelly26 Their love isn’t perfect. Even if they were to get together, cheaters will never stick to one person. Relationships between affair partners is probably riddled with infidelity.
Married 20 years and together 24, 3 grown children and 1 new grand baby, on Sept 23, I found out my husband was cheating with a coworker, I moved out and he kept messing with her. Tells me the marriage been over he just didn't know how to tell me, He's lying because up until the day I found out he was trying to get me to not leave and let's work on the marriage, but now that i moved out he's questioning me on where I'm going. Its so hard to end my marriage... But I have to, too much disrespect has happened. My soul is broken.
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Luckily you’re a woman, once you start to move on and level up he will regret deeply. Men are very territorial and will get extremely jealous once you stop caring about his cheating and what he is up to etc.
We need to consider that the overarching reason second and third marriages fail is because many of those people should never have gotten married in the first place. It isn't for everyone. There is NO SHAME in choosing not to get married. Do not be pressured into a bad marriage, because what causes the failure is marrying a sh*tty person out of social obligation.
My friend is married to a cheater and she is a cheater herself. Long story short, she and her now husband got married because they were both cheating on their respective BF and GF with each other. However, he got her pregnant so her parents pressured him to marry her. And he did. I've told my other friends that this marriage is built on a very shaky foundation and this is likely to end in disaster. They're still together but many trust issues.
I just found out my husband is cheating on me with a married woman. He believes his life is going to be great with this woman. It’s not. He’s even gone as far as to tell me he has started to file for divorce to be with her.
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My husband of 25 years left me a few years ago for a woman that was 15 years younger than him he was working in the office where she was working at the time she was his assistant. She lived with baby daddy number two so she has two young daughters from two different dads and she didn’t have a full-time job ever in her whole life the baby daddies always supported her. We have since separated and are going through a divorce and he is living with her and her two kids and her aunt he is the only one that works none of them work and from what I hear the grass is not greener on the other side. I always had a job and I always worked and we had five kids and somehow someway things always worked out but he thought the grass was greener on the other side. He’s having financial difficulties they repossessed his BMW he’s three months behind on his rent and he isn’t closing any real estate deals because he claims “the market” is bad. It just shows you that the grass is greener on the other side instead of him trying to work out his marriage of 25 years he thought it would be easier to takeoff with some tramp who had already had a few baby daddies under belt like she was something to leave his wife for good luck.
Has he tried to come home to you? Even though they have money issues, he might be happier in other ways.... Sometimes things just work out that way even though u might not think so. Best of luck to you! ❤
@@SaystheTruth3 my divorce just settled with him and they are still together. But I think they deserve eachother honestly with toxic they both are and cheaters. I’ve begun to start dating other guys and moving on with my life. I wish him well on whatever journey life takes him on. He’s 41 and makes terrible choices still hurting others. You can’t hurt others like he has and expect to live a wonderful life. I’m sure I’ll never get an apology for how he treated me but that’s alright… I don’t need one. I made peace with the fact that this is who he is and am a lot happier away from him and his destructive lifestyle. I started attracting way better men in my life and am overall a lot happier
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My wife was working out of town, coming home on weekends, and all of a sudden refused to come home. She ordered me to get a lawyer for a divorce. My phone bill logs told me why. Rather than get a lawyer, I texted her boyfriend, informing him that she was married. He dropped her like a hot rock . He's a good man. But wait there's more Then my phone bill showed that she had been texting another guy for 18 months; texting hundreds of times per month. So my wife emotionally cheated on me with the text guy and then cheated on both he and I with the phone guy. Cheaters cheat. Liars lie.
@bernicefowler9805 Yeah imagine if she loved her husband enough to just say "hey I want us to be over" and ended our 14 years with some love and dignity rather than chasing every guy on her facebook page and pretending the I am the evil one.
I’m going thru a thing with my spouse, and I am starting to see that most of us need to practice knowledge, wisdom, and skills, to keep a marriage going, even if it is broken, and I am 1 of the 5% will see if studying the love and care for each other will result in a death do us part.
Both my ex husband and his affair partner cheated on their spouse and left to be together. I think they are still together after nearly 10 years. It crushed me but my spouse moved on as I’d I never existed.
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Something I have learned from divorce…2 of them. Is the only way to make it work a 2nd or third time is 1. Stop going for the same type of person 2. Realize the fault of the marriage failure is your fault as well 3. Become self aware, deep dive, identify what it was that you did to participate in it not working….and put in maximum effort to change those things. The third one is the most important…if you don’t recognize your harmful attributes and take care of them you end up doing the same shit with a different person over and over. I’m not perfect, but I know am equipped to be a better partner and have created the life we all imagined when we first get married or start a new relationship. Rant out.
in a relationship all you want is faithfulness. you chose each other. unless you didn't really know that the person you chose wants a polygamous relationship
This is just superb, I have been researching "what to do when someone cheats in a relationship" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Qenamilla Strayer Magnet - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my colleague got excellent results with it.
"All those staggering odds against 2nd and 3rd marriages isn't reason to stay in the 1st marriage" No, he said it's a reason to try harder with your first time... rather than start a promiscuous relationship in secret and expect that solves the problem
@Layla Reeves totally agree. There are choices to be made every second of every waking moment. It shouldn't be up to the betrayed partner to forgive and forget. The cheater has a choice to make before their damage is done.
Very good insight! I will say too though that it's assuming u married the right person the first time. Sometimes u marry for the wrong reasons or wrong time, before u are mature enough to handle it.. Sometimes u meet yourself or a more compatible person later in life. I encourage my kids to wait until almost 25 or so before marriage. U have to be ready emotionally, financially, mentally, etc. Lack of those things lead to infidelity or divorce. I know of people's 2nd or 3rd marriage lasting longer and being fulfilled bc they were mature by then. And If u bringing the old u into anything new it won't last! If u have a failed relationship, learn whatever lessons from it & grow, then u may do better next time.
That’s very uncommon. Even the statistics say 2 and even 3rd marriages are more likely to fail, and that they don’t even last as long. The ppl you know are the exception.
My girlfriend of 1 year was having an affair with our married friend in the neighborhood. The guy divorced his wife and my now ex is with him and keeping in secret. Absolutely devastating.
That's no way to be happy. Move on, because the only one who suffers from your vindictiveness is you. Be grateful that you are free of a bad relationship and able to decide the rest of your life now.
A Tragic Love Affair: My friend met her AP in 1997. She's single at 20, he's married at 36. She got married in 1998 with her current husband. My friend & her AP remain in contact as friends. After 10 years, they met again for lunch. They moved on with their lives. After 8 years, my friend had a layover in Japan & had lunch with her AP. NO SEX. In 2020, my friend has been in sexless marriage for 14 years. In the same year,she decided to travel in Asia. Guess what? Her AP was in Asia for work. The AP is also in Sexless marriage for 20 years. When they met, " something happened."They continued their relationship until he retired & went back to his home country. They overcome the age, language, and cultural differences, but after almost 27 years, both of them decided to end the relationship. They meant to FALL in love but NOT meant to be together. True Story😢
These stats are off. Both my sister and I were cheated on and both our exes have stayed with their affair partners for years and years. In my case we were totally incompatible apart from emotionally. Hes now with someone with superficial values just like him and she wont be asking him to grow....I'm convinced they'll grow old together. I think we often hook up with ppl we are incompatible with when we are younger and later esp. if we do the work we find someone more compatible but obviously it's not clever to start a relationship without resolving a current one
If the man keeps cheating, eventually the woman will end up doing the same thing, but in the best way. Man just don't start if you can't handle seeing your woman in the hands of another man.
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Listening to your marriage statistics I can't help to think of the definition of "insanity". It's doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result!
This is a great youtube .. and I agree with most.. however, if the cheater is also NPD there is NO repairing that relationship...they will never acknowledge their actions but instead blame others for their choices... then the best choice would be to end the relationship completely
Tau Yang He’s a dumb ass. I’m so sorry your going through this I can only imagine how hurt you must feel ☹️😢. Don’t do like most people would and say “he’ll be back” because if he don’t attempt, it will further devaluate you. But I will say if he does try, don’t allow it.
Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work , all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : +15303784744
Is it infidelity if you haven’t had sex with your spouse in 25 years? Is it infidelity if you are perfectly honest and tell your spouse what you are doing? Is it infidelity if you love the third party but nothing physical is happening? Why not get divorced? Because you are old and it’s scary to lose 1/2 your assets… ❤❤❤❤❤
In my 20's my girlfriend of 4 years cheated and left for her affair partner. About 10 years later they are still together but both of them cheat on each other break up and make up. How do I know? she called me once if I wanted to hook up and told her no thanks so she slept with someone else we know. Even though we see those 2 cheaters together we don't know how they are behind closed doors or secrets. From the outside they seem like the perfect family on Facebook but it's not. Some people are OK with cheating on each other.
I was involved with a man for 13 months, engaged in the last 6. He started an affair which i never knew of in the last 5 months of the relationship and he left me and married her weeks before our wedding. He could've just told me instead of being such an asshole to me. 13 months v 5 months of knowing her, she must be special i guess. They look happy its been 2 months they've been married.
You got my relationship right down to the T. What if he does not want to go to marriage counseling. He seemed to have had some sort of emotional affair and never slept with her but they were texting 24/7. How do I handle this? They went out to lunch and dinner supposedly in a group setting, which I don’t believe to begin with. The dinner one was for Valentine’s Day and he claims other coworkers where there. I don’t believe this because his coworkers know he is married and so does she but his coworkers would have judged him.
Curious how this turned out? I went through what I thought was the same scenario but found out it was more than emotional after the divorce. Where you able to save it?
Love is an illusion. I tell my partner she can go and have fun if she wants and I truly don't give a fuck. She knows I won't leave her but if she wants to leave she knows I won't run after her. I can make any relationship work by not getting emotional over it and by taking a practical approach to it. Love them unconditionally, let them be free and do your own thing.
I feel this. The mental anguish people put themselves through isn't worth it. And idk how realistic it is to be with just one person for 30, 40, 50 years... happiness is a choice I'm wondering if it's an issue of needing variety? So many people would be in much better shape if they adopted your progressive thinking. Best wishes to you.
Its has been Warned Thousand of Years ago "Infidelity" is Damaging !! But still...there are some Ignorance try to Gamble with that !! Self Destruction !!
Both as emotionally cheating doesn’t always mean they’re gonna truly bond after you are gone. A lot of the time the bond is there but it’s only being fed if you are still in the picture otherwise the taboo feeling they feel will disappear eventually.
My ex left me for his ex that cheated on him they dated a year me and him were together 6years and engaged. We were supposed to get married in September of 2019. I was pregnant with our baby and lost our baby in March he got his gf pregnant a month later and lied to me about it. Ik that won't last with them
I cheated yrs ago to ensure an escape now once imbalance penetrated my obedience & submission to him. As we divorce now, Im dating a Pastor who recently lost his wife to death. Does this new relationship fall under the same negative consequences?
Just ask God to forgive you for divorcing without infidelity reasons. Remember ...God in his word said that as far it is from the east is to the west i will remember your sins no more. So...apparently...u have to choose to not remember the sin anymore of committing divorce if u ask God to forgive u for it because if u dont forgive yourself for it and remember what you did than u didn't really believe God forgave and forgot about it. Just forgive yourself and forget about it....not letting that sin define you because that sin isn't part of you anymore since u were washed cleansed from it by his blood for the forgiveness of sin. In other words....for the world they will see it as a second marriage that you will have but for u u should Consider this new relationship a new marriage. Thats what I would do if I were u.
U were wrong big time. Just apologize 2 your ex. He needs you to open up and tell him the truth. The betrayed partners often times feel guilty for d action of there partners cheating. Have u thought of the panic attack d betrayed partners experience. Karma is real even if u end up marrying a pastor. He may cheat on you too.
I am not married, but my ex with whom i was in a pretty serious relationship, cheated on me with a girl and is now dating her. They seem so in love and it's been barely 4 months. I felt really hurt by it. I know it's not as important as marriage but what do you think?
You are just as entitled to feel the pain, anger, betrayal, etc of infidelity as someone who has a marriage certificate. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I am a woman that is an engaged to a man I been with 5+ years we are scheduled to be married Nov. 10 and he may have got married 3 weeks ago hmmmm trying to figure out what to do next
Also don't agree with everything you're making things seem there one way or another and it's not true. I know someone who was getting counseling with their spouse was doing everything they could to stay with them and they're miserable and depressed so just because you try to get help doesn't mean the relationship will be fine. Some people can't commit they just don't have the ability there either sex addicts or commitment-phobes so there's that
I never cheated had many times I could've and stuck to my guns. I would evaluate if I want to be with person or can it work if not I will break up. Why play with feelings because if you real across board with your mate and self.
My ex who cheated on me has been with the new guy for like a year- year and a half. Its really weird, because whilst they were cheating he knew about me, just as our relationship ended(because if him) he knew she was still trying to stay with me. But he still stayed with her. As a man i just dont understand that situation/his logic.
@@mandyfilly1177 really makes me wonder how long their affair was going on for, for them to build that codependency. I mean me and her were practically together all the time, i was pretty dependant on her, and i thought vice versa.
I did same to,. The trick is just live your best life. Karma exit because what she did to you. Will definitely happen to her. Remember the best form of revenge is success. So I stopped bothering my head with her affair partners. Karma do exit that is my believe. Kindly do your research about karma.
Just cuz we wouldn't pursue a married person does not mean others have high moral value and standards. My ex wife did pretty much the same as yours. The married the guy she replaced me with. My estimate is they had been making time for at least a year BEFORE I left her (at the time for reasons I couldn't place, but just knew I had to leave, so at that time I fully blamed myself because I left). Her new "man?" (a real man wouldn't ruin another man's marriage), was already a divorcee when they got together. Nobody I know of is aware of the circumstances that led to the end of his previous marriage. Betrayal is betrayal. A relationship born of such, deserves the same.
Hard to decide, I know I been living with my cheating husband for 16y. We have 4 kids, this was my question 15y. Ago but not anymore, I lost interest in him, almost every thing is gone, but now he is trying to do so well, but it's kinda late, my mind it's about me and my kids. We still live together, but with no love at all. When kids are involved it's hard, but live your life the best u can, he will regret one day💖💖
this is such a complicated issue..thank you for reality...I got involved with someone 2 yrs ago not knowing he was living with someone..i was at the house many times with the two teenage boys there..i recently found out about the woman he was living with and she found out about me..she is understandably hurt and wants to leave...I want to forgive him..we have had some difficult conversations..i am saying no sex until she is gone and we have to get to know each other again..i am hoping I don't have to give I'm up...I am 64 yrs old..he is 54...saying he wants to marry me...I don't feel desperate..having sleepless nights feeling guilt about the other woman..she is 14 yrs younger than me..they were not married..it still hurt like hell
Just forgive him? No growth, no education, no work at all? He just gets a free pass for this level of exploitation of not one by TWO women? These are the train wrecks you walk away from Deborah. Forgive YOURSELF yes, for getting used BUT you need to discard him. There ARE honest men out there Deborah... men who do not lie, exploit, and cheat on you. THOSE are the ones you partner with. Stop forgiving deadbeats.
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I've been married for 12 years. Move on...its not worth it. This is our first marriage and its really hard even though our marriage doesn't come from a shaky foundation. Now if you start a marriage from a shaky foundation ...I can't imagine how harder the marriage will take for it to survive. I'm sorry but your chances of marriage survival is very slim and it would strip years of your youth away by u wasting it on someone who isn't worth it. Use your time of age for a guy whose worth it to use up your years of youth wisely...don't u think u deserve better? I hope u take my advice seriously...u can't break a marriage to make a marriage. Be real girl.
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I am asking because I think it is important that we validate the underlying assumptions. If you make a claim that they have a 1% success rate then I think you should know how you arrived at that number. If you do not know how you arrived at that number then you might actually have it wrong. Maybe affairs have a 99% success rate who is to know without a citation? Once I have a citation I can then make decisions in my life based on it or if it doesn't feel right to me I can dig into the original citation and see if the methods of arriving at the number are valid or applicable. Also just as surely as it is unethical to commit an affair it is also unethical to make up statistics, or to perpetuate an idea based on information that is not correct. If it matters (and truthfully it doesn't because it is simply an ethical issue that you should know where you get information from ESPECIALLY if you are someone whom is speaking as a person of authority on a subject) I was cheated on by my ex-wife, and there are a variety of circumstances in the situation that made me seriously question ALL of what people might call common knowledge about relationships. And I would eventually discover that very many of the things we think are common knowledge and the correct way to live life are actually completely false or ineffective. Now someone told me that 95% of relationships that start as infidelity fail so off I go to the internet to find the source and low and behold I can find people whom are stating this as fact but I cannot find anyone who knows where they get the fact from. And it is also completely reasonable to know that humans can easily take false information and spread it and make it become common knowledge that everyone simply accepts as true. So I would like to know where this statistic came from before I pass it along to anyone else, or use it to make decisions in my life. TL:DR it simply doesn't matter what the reasons anyone has for asking for a source for information provide the source if you have it or if you don't have a source then say I don't have a source and feel free to tell us why or where you think you remember getting that information from so we can keep digging.
Guys stop quoting statistics without providing a reference. Any professional knows better than that. If you cannot provide a reference for your numbers, they are no better than numbers I pull out of my ass. Reference your numbers or don't share any.
So where did you get the statistic of affair relationships having a high chance of ending poorly? I expected as much but I would like to know where the number comes from.
Haha. He cheated on me in oct ( 6yr relationship) Told me nov shes pregnant. They are moving in with eachother next month. The have known eachother at work for 2 yrs. We have a child together too
Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work , all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : +15303784744
As it began, so shall it end.
Why did the first marriage end in "infidelity" then? Did it start that way? Ask yourself REAL NON emotional questions?
Amen!
@a Supernova very complex.
That’s not always true.
I love this!
To make a long story short, my we-wife left me for her co-worker. They married and had a child within a year. By the end of the second year they divorced. She tried to come back to me. After she figured out that would not happen, they eventually remarried. A few years after that, they divorced again. A few years after that they remarried and remains married to this day. Something tells me they are merely co-existing. Meanwhile throughout this entire fiasco, my current wife and I have been sitting back watching this train wreck happen. While they have been busy marrying and re-marrying, my wife and I have been busy falling more and more in love each and everyday. BTW, we married in 2000.❤
Good for you. My wife 36 years old had 2 affairs at the same time. One was a guy she met online, the other our 22F babysitter. I was married for 10 years with 2 young kids. They now live together parenting my kids. Lovely way to end things
For a woman to have a baby with someone else, and then have the audacity to think you would take them back is astounding and sick at the same time. If mine has a baby with this idiot, there isn’t zero chance ever talking to her again and she knows it.
My husband cheated on me with his "work friend" and is still with her now. He lied and cheated in many areas during our 22 year marriage. I don't miss that. She can have him. If I lost respect, love and trust with him for good, so will she. You reap what you sow.
Same here..
How long have they been together? How many years?
My wife did the same, but it was for money from her much older boss. But you can guess how that worked out for her.
Hopefully you can be happy one day just like he is...
The man’s weak. You seem like a righteous woman, and strong 22 years is a long time. Keep your head up I pray you find a man who values you.
Narcissist get bored and will always want to move on to the next supply while keeping the older supplies waiting in the background
I was left for the other woman. I am on a wonderful journey of healing and growing every day, working on myself to be the best me ❤
How did it go?
You can't break a marriage to make a marriage. It's that simple 😌
This is so true. I like how you worded that. You can't end a marriage just to go make a new marriage with someone else, and potentially leave a loving spouse and kids behind. If the affair was all built on lies and deceit, trying to build a foundation for the new marriage with those building blocks doesn't work. It's doomed to fail. It's helpful to understand that. Thanks!. :)
You can, but just on paper! They will never trust each other and that fear will ALWAYS be there. Either 1 of them would cheat again, or they'd split from the overwhelming trust issues. A relationship is built on trust, it cannot blossom in cheating relationships where there aren't any!
So you're with the same person for 30+ years.
You raise 3 children and they move away to have lives of their own. You have spent your entire adult life with this one person. All ups and downs and sideways. Unimaginable adventures for the person you grew up as.
Then for whatever reason, you decide to start having a relationship with someone who has already been married at least once before. This person knows full well you are married and are still living with your spouse (and having sex with your spouse). But you replace your spouse with your affair partner and ultimately after divorcing the person you became an adult with, you marry the affair person a little over a year after the divorce is final.
Just how long do you really think that new marriage is gonna last? You both know the kind of person you're married to.
That's the fact Jack. You can't build a house on a faulty foundation
I did. Married 10 years with a person who had an affair with me.
Friendship maybe, but relationships no, that's why 95% of relationships that start with cheating, end with cheating.
On point
And those of us who were betrayed and would never have done the same? What are our statistics for another relationship/marriage after such damage to people with decent values? Damaged is damaged. We cannot be the kind of person who gives love unconditionally again because what was broken by the betrayal cannot be repaired. Trust is very expensive. The cost of having it destroyed by someone is that there will never be full trust for anyone in the future. It's one of those aspects of a relationship that should never have been taken advantage of in the first place. I cannot and will not cause myself to trust another woman EVER again.
Why can’t you be the same person who gave unconditionally?
The world is your oyster. Learn from the mistakes of your past, have stronger boundaries and find someone who likes you for you.
You have absolutely every chance to succeed. Having gone through infidelity, you will have the experience and will know what to look out for. And the person you marry will likely be the opposite and display actual love for you.
How you meet them is how you lose them aparrently.
My husband of 25 yrs left me for a women 15 yrs younger then him When he got with her she was working a part-time job in his office as his assistant she has two baby daddies and was living with the baby daddy at the time they are now together living together and I hear that all is not so well in paradise I warned him the grass isnt always greener on the other side
soul mates, role mates, roommates, inmates lol
The term "Limerence "is the fresh and "newness" you were alluding to
Yes, yes, yes. Totally this. The hardest part for me as a betrayed partner is never being able to 'compete' with the excitement of the fantasy. My husband has chosen me over her, but will he ever take off those rose-coloured glasses in the way he sees her????? It's so frustrating, when I have been there for him through thick and thin - and love him so much more deeply than she ever can. They have never tested their love and it doesn't deserve the mantle of 'perfection' which has been placed on it.
yogabelly26 Their love isn’t perfect. Even if they were to get together, cheaters will never stick to one person. Relationships between affair partners is probably riddled with infidelity.
Married 20 years and together 24, 3 grown children and 1 new grand baby, on Sept 23, I found out my husband was cheating with a coworker, I moved out and he kept messing with her. Tells me the marriage been over he just didn't know how to tell me, He's lying because up until the day I found out he was trying to get me to not leave and let's work on the marriage, but now that i moved out he's questioning me on where I'm going. Its so hard to end my marriage... But I have to, too much disrespect has happened. My soul is broken.
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You're so right it's not fair
Luckily you’re a woman, once you start to move on and level up he will regret deeply. Men are very territorial and will get extremely jealous once you stop caring about his cheating and what he is up to etc.
I appreciate your encouraging the unfaithful to return back to the spouse vs. Trying to make an ungodly affair work.
We need to consider that the overarching reason second and third marriages fail is because many of those people should never have gotten married in the first place. It isn't for everyone. There is NO SHAME in choosing not to get married. Do not be pressured into a bad marriage, because what causes the failure is marrying a sh*tty person out of social obligation.
This dude is the real deal! Great Info!!!
real grass vrs plastic grass
Wow! Just wow! Amazing message and statistics. I found this video by accident and it made me tear up. Thank you!
I think Hasani is really, really great! Even as a relationship coach myself, I can learn from his wisdom!
My friend is married to a cheater and she is a cheater herself.
Long story short, she and her now husband got married because they were both cheating on their respective BF and GF with each other. However, he got her pregnant so her parents pressured him to marry her. And he did.
I've told my other friends that this marriage is built on a very shaky foundation and this is likely to end in disaster. They're still together but many trust issues.
UPDATE?
I just found out my husband is cheating on me with a married woman. He believes his life is going to be great with this woman. It’s not. He’s even gone as far as to tell me he has started to file for divorce to be with her.
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My husband of 25 years left me a few years ago for a woman that was 15 years younger than him he was working in the office where she was working at the time she was his assistant. She lived with baby daddy number two so she has two young daughters from two different dads and she didn’t have a full-time job ever in her whole life the baby daddies always supported her. We have since separated and are going through a divorce and he is living with her and her two kids and her aunt he is the only one that works none of them work and from what I hear the grass is not greener on the other side. I always had a job and I always worked and we had five kids and somehow someway things always worked out but he thought the grass was greener on the other side. He’s having financial difficulties they repossessed his BMW he’s three months behind on his rent and he isn’t closing any real estate deals because he claims “the market” is bad. It just shows you that the grass is greener on the other side instead of him trying to work out his marriage of 25 years he thought it would be easier to takeoff with some tramp who had already had a few baby daddies under belt like she was something to leave his wife for good luck.
Has he tried to come home to you?
Even though they have money issues, he might be happier in other ways....
Sometimes things just work out that way even though u might not think so.
Best of luck to you! ❤
@@SaystheTruth3 my divorce just settled with him and they are still together. But I think they deserve eachother honestly with toxic they both are and cheaters. I’ve begun to start dating other guys and moving on with my life. I wish him well on whatever journey life takes him on. He’s 41 and makes terrible choices still hurting others. You can’t hurt others like he has and expect to live a wonderful life. I’m sure I’ll never get an apology for how he treated me but that’s alright… I don’t need one. I made peace with the fact that this is who he is and am a lot happier away from him and his destructive lifestyle. I started attracting way better men in my life and am overall a lot happier
WOW! This 14 mins was so full packed!!! Amazing content! Now it seems it is stupid to listen some other channels, because they just waste so much time while delivering very little content. This was SOLID information! Subscribed!
Wayne channel is story telling useless
Indeed!!! This guy is delivering a message. Not trying to get views. Love the way he explained everything.
My wife was working out of town, coming home on weekends, and all of a sudden refused to come home. She ordered me to get a lawyer for a divorce. My phone bill logs told me why. Rather than get a lawyer, I texted her boyfriend, informing him that she was married. He dropped her like a hot rock . He's a good man.
But wait there's more
Then my phone bill showed that she had been texting another guy for 18 months; texting hundreds of times per month.
So my wife emotionally cheated on me with the text guy and then cheated on both he and I with the phone guy. Cheaters cheat. Liars lie.
@bernicefowler9805 Yeah imagine if she loved her husband enough to just say "hey I want us to be over" and ended our 14 years with some love and dignity rather than chasing every guy on her facebook page and pretending the I am the evil one.
I hate to tell you that she was just more than emotionally cheating
@@TheMchyaby never be sure of anything if you weren't there.
I’m going thru a thing with my spouse, and I am starting to see that most of us need to practice knowledge, wisdom, and skills, to keep a marriage going, even if it is broken, and I am 1 of the 5% will see if studying the love and care for each other will result in a death do us part.
Both my ex husband and his affair partner cheated on their spouse and left to be together. I think they are still together after nearly 10 years. It crushed me but my spouse moved on as I’d I never existed.
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hahaha are you sure that they didnt cheat on eachother too??? hahaha no doubt,,,, corrupt women for corrupt men , good men for good men
Mine is doing the same. But with God we make it through.
May the Lord bless the work you are doing. Love your videos
3rd marriage 20 years💕🙏😇
Something I have learned from divorce…2 of them. Is the only way to make it work a 2nd or third time is 1. Stop going for the same type of person 2. Realize the fault of the marriage failure is your fault as well 3. Become self aware, deep dive, identify what it was that you did to participate in it not working….and put in maximum effort to change those things. The third one is the most important…if you don’t recognize your harmful attributes and take care of them you end up doing the same shit with a different person over and over. I’m not perfect, but I know am equipped to be a better partner and have created the life we all imagined when we first get married or start a new relationship. Rant out.
in a relationship all you want is faithfulness. you chose each other. unless you didn't really know that the person you chose wants a polygamous relationship
All those staggering odds against 2nd and 3rd marriages isn't reason to stay in the 1st marriage.
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I totally agree with you because there is soooo much negativity
"All those staggering odds against 2nd and 3rd marriages isn't reason to stay in the 1st marriage"
No, he said it's a reason to try harder with your first time... rather than start a promiscuous relationship in secret and expect that solves the problem
@Layla Reeves totally agree. There are choices to be made every second of every waking moment.
It shouldn't be up to the betrayed partner to forgive and forget. The cheater has a choice to make before their damage is done.
What the odds mean is God word is correct. 2nd and third marriages are adulterous affairsi
Very good insight! I will say too though that it's assuming u married the right person the first time. Sometimes u marry for the wrong reasons or wrong time, before u are mature enough to handle it.. Sometimes u meet yourself or a more compatible person later in life. I encourage my kids to wait until almost 25 or so before marriage. U have to be ready emotionally, financially, mentally, etc. Lack of those things lead to infidelity or divorce. I know of people's 2nd or 3rd marriage lasting longer and being fulfilled bc they were mature by then. And If u bringing the old u into anything new it won't last! If u have a failed relationship, learn whatever lessons from it & grow, then u may do better next time.
That’s very uncommon. Even the statistics say 2 and even 3rd marriages are more likely to fail, and that they don’t even last as long. The ppl you know are the exception.
My girlfriend of 1 year was having an affair with our married friend in the neighborhood. The guy divorced his wife and my now ex is with him and keeping in secret. Absolutely devastating.
They are truly wearing rosy color Glasses. They way people who wants to leave their marriage thinks makes no sense. It never works out in the end.
Thank you for this information ! My husband cheated on me for years and now he is married to her. I hope he Will never succeed🙏🏻
That's no way to be happy. Move on, because the only one who suffers from your vindictiveness is you. Be grateful that you are free of a bad relationship and able to decide the rest of your life now.
I'm getting divorced now. He was awful to me and cheated with his current fiance for years off and on. I wish them well. But you do reap what u sow.
A Tragic Love Affair:
My friend met her AP in 1997. She's single at 20, he's married at 36. She got married in 1998 with her current husband. My friend & her AP remain in contact as friends. After 10 years, they met again for lunch. They moved on with their lives. After 8 years, my friend had a layover in Japan & had lunch with her AP. NO SEX. In 2020, my friend has been in sexless marriage for 14 years. In the same year,she decided to travel in Asia. Guess what? Her AP was in Asia for work. The AP is also in Sexless marriage for 20 years. When they met, " something happened."They continued their relationship until he retired & went back to his home country. They overcome the age, language, and cultural differences, but after almost 27 years, both of them decided to end the relationship.
They meant to FALL in love but NOT meant to be together.
True Story😢
These stats are off. Both my sister and I were cheated on and both our exes have stayed with their affair partners for years and years. In my case we were totally incompatible apart from emotionally. Hes now with someone with superficial values just like him and she wont be asking him to grow....I'm convinced they'll grow old together. I think we often hook up with ppl we are incompatible with when we are younger and later esp. if we do the work we find someone more compatible but obviously it's not clever to start a relationship without resolving a current one
This is the best news since my husband told me he slept with someone.
If the man keeps cheating, eventually the woman will end up doing the same thing, but in the best way. Man just don't start if you can't handle seeing your woman in the hands of another man.
Because you forgave her once, and now she did it again, and probably will keep doing, if you out stay away for good 👌
Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work , all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : +15303784744
Some marriages are irreparable
So true!
My right ear loves this video
Listening to your marriage statistics I can't help to think of the definition of "insanity". It's doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result!
thank you Mr. Hasani for this video.
Men. The deck is stacked against us. Do not and I repeat do not get married.
I say that to everyone. It’s a ridiculous human construct. “Til death do us part” was created when the average lifespan was probably 28 years. 😁
This is a great youtube .. and I agree with most.. however, if the cheater is also NPD there is NO repairing that relationship...they will never acknowledge their actions but instead blame others for their choices... then the best choice would be to end the relationship completely
This was an Amazing video. Thank you for sharing!
FANTASTIC Video!
My ex husband cheated. Married her had kids. In a span of 14 years. He's been married twice and divorced twice lol
You are so wise and very impartial.God bless for your wisdom.
haha to my cheating husband who abandoned me (ghost on me) he moved in with a girl he known for 4 weeks 5 months into our marriage.
Tau Yang
He’s a dumb ass. I’m so sorry your going through this I can only imagine how hurt you must feel ☹️😢. Don’t do like most people would and say “he’ll be back” because if he don’t attempt, it will further devaluate you. But I will say if he does try, don’t allow it.
Akstylez _ak thank you
My spouse moved in in 3 weeks with his affair partner. She was also married. I wonder because they’re still together...they took all from me...
Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work , all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : +15303784744
Five months into your marriage? Tell him he did you a favor and never. ever speak to him again.
Is it infidelity if you haven’t had sex with your spouse in 25 years?
Is it infidelity if you are perfectly honest and tell your spouse what you are doing?
Is it infidelity if you love the third party but nothing physical is happening?
Why not get divorced? Because you are old and it’s scary to lose 1/2 your assets…
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In my 20's my girlfriend of 4 years cheated and left for her affair partner. About 10 years later they are still together but both of them cheat on each other break up and make up. How do I know? she called me once if I wanted to hook up and told her no thanks so she slept with someone else we know. Even though we see those 2 cheaters together we don't know how they are behind closed doors or secrets. From the outside they seem like the perfect family on Facebook but it's not. Some people are OK with cheating on each other.
I was involved with a man for 13 months, engaged in the last 6. He started an affair which i never knew of in the last 5 months of the relationship and he left me and married her weeks before our wedding. He could've just told me instead of being such an asshole to me. 13 months v 5 months of knowing her, she must be special i guess. They look happy its been 2 months they've been married.
Oh my god, I'm so sorry to hear this. Ouch. How are you doing now? Hope you're doing okay.
Trust me they won't grow old together. Even if they do, they'll end up hating each other and regret getting married.
@@melanier7309 not necessarily 🙂
My ex cheated on me on another woman who cheated on her bf. We let them together now. Goodluck to them.
Are they still together?
You got my relationship right down to the T. What if he does not want to go to marriage counseling. He seemed to have had some sort of emotional affair and never slept with her but they were texting 24/7. How do I handle this? They went out to lunch and dinner supposedly in a group setting, which I don’t believe to begin with. The dinner one was for Valentine’s Day and he claims other coworkers where there. I don’t believe this because his coworkers know he is married and so does she but his coworkers would have judged him.
Curious how this turned out? I went through what I thought was the same scenario but found out it was more than emotional after the divorce. Where you able to save it?
Love is an illusion. I tell my partner she can go and have fun if she wants and I truly don't give a fuck. She knows I won't leave her but if she wants to leave she knows I won't run after her. I can make any relationship work by not getting emotional over it and by taking a practical approach to it. Love them unconditionally, let them be free and do your own thing.
I feel this. The mental anguish people put themselves through isn't worth it. And idk how realistic it is to be with just one person for 30, 40, 50 years... happiness is a choice I'm wondering if it's an issue of needing variety? So many people would be in much better shape if they adopted your progressive thinking. Best wishes to you.
Its has been Warned Thousand of Years ago "Infidelity" is Damaging !!
But still...there are some Ignorance try to Gamble with that !!
Self Destruction !!
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does this also apply to emotionally cheating and then leaving for that person or just physical cheating?
Both as emotionally cheating doesn’t always mean they’re gonna truly bond after you are gone. A lot of the time the bond is there but it’s only being fed if you are still in the picture otherwise the taboo feeling they feel will disappear eventually.
My ex left me for his ex that cheated on him they dated a year me and him were together 6years and engaged. We were supposed to get married in September of 2019. I was pregnant with our baby and lost our baby in March he got his gf pregnant a month later and lied to me about it. Ik that won't last with them
UPDATE?
Oh Hun, I'm so sorry u went thru that
@@adonischad9731 him and his ex broke up a year later me and him are still friends but nothing more lol him and his ex hate eachother
if u could do with me, u could do 'TO ME'
Exactly. And that thought has no gender.
I shall do nothing as I was cheated on ….and he needs to do everything …..if he doesn’t like it he is free to go ……
wow, loved your video and its information ❤❤
Amazing!
I cheated yrs ago to ensure an escape now once imbalance penetrated my obedience & submission to him. As we divorce now, Im dating a Pastor who recently lost his wife to death.
Does this new relationship fall under the same negative consequences?
Just ask God to forgive you for divorcing without infidelity reasons. Remember ...God in his word said that as far it is from the east is to the west i will remember your sins no more. So...apparently...u have to choose to not remember the sin anymore of committing divorce if u ask God to forgive u for it because if u dont forgive yourself for it and remember what you did than u didn't really believe God forgave and forgot about it. Just forgive yourself and forget about it....not letting that sin define you because that sin isn't part of you anymore since u were washed cleansed from it by his blood for the forgiveness of sin. In other words....for the world they will see it as a second marriage that you will have but for u u should Consider this new relationship a new marriage. Thats what I would do if I were u.
U were wrong big time. Just apologize 2 your ex. He needs you to open up and tell him the truth. The betrayed partners often times feel guilty for d action of there partners cheating. Have u thought of the panic attack d betrayed partners experience. Karma is real even if u end up marrying a pastor. He may cheat on you too.
Love her it started out as that but she left me
My friend is a cheater married another cheater.
Together, they were both cheating on their respective partners with each other till she got pregnant.
I am not married, but my ex with whom i was in a pretty serious relationship, cheated on me with a girl and is now dating her. They seem so in love and it's been barely 4 months. I felt really hurt by it. I know it's not as important as marriage but what do you think?
You are just as entitled to feel the pain, anger, betrayal, etc of infidelity as someone who has a marriage certificate. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Are they still together?
Any updates? Hope you found the right person for you 🙏🏾
Update?
Be happy you dodged the
Bullet.
I am a woman that is an engaged to a man I been with 5+ years we are scheduled to be married Nov. 10 and he may have got married 3 weeks ago hmmmm trying to figure out what to do next
What happened? Any news?
@@julianhernandez2328 yes Much news God in control and He has the final say We will be married soon.
Also don't agree with everything you're making things seem there one way or another and it's not true. I know someone who was getting counseling with their spouse was doing everything they could to stay with them and they're miserable and depressed so just because you try to get help doesn't mean the relationship will be fine. Some people can't commit they just don't have the ability there either sex addicts or commitment-phobes so there's that
Wow great video
I never cheated had many times I could've and stuck to my guns. I would evaluate if I want to be with person or can it work if not I will break up. Why play with feelings because if you real across board with your mate and self.
Dang straight.
I have a question why don't they let you go if u know what's going on, I want to walk away from all this an leave with my son
My ex who cheated on me has been with the new guy for like a year- year and a half. Its really weird, because whilst they were cheating he knew about me, just as our relationship ended(because if him) he knew she was still trying to stay with me. But he still stayed with her. As a man i just dont understand that situation/his logic.
Codependent
@@mandyfilly1177 really makes me wonder how long their affair was going on for, for them to build that codependency. I mean me and her were practically together all the time, i was pretty dependant on her, and i thought vice versa.
I did same to,. The trick is just live your best life. Karma exit because what she did to you. Will definitely happen to her. Remember the best form of revenge is success. So I stopped bothering my head with her affair partners. Karma do exit that is my believe. Kindly do your research about karma.
Just cuz we wouldn't pursue a married person does not mean others have high moral value and standards. My ex wife did pretty much the same as yours. The married the guy she replaced me with. My estimate is they had been making time for at least a year BEFORE I left her (at the time for reasons I couldn't place, but just knew I had to leave, so at that time I fully blamed myself because I left).
Her new "man?" (a real man wouldn't ruin another man's marriage), was already a divorcee when they got together. Nobody I know of is aware of the circumstances that led to the end of his previous marriage.
Betrayal is betrayal. A relationship born of such, deserves the same.
Thank u
My significant other had an emotional affair 3yrs. ago and I still find him hurt about it. What can I do? Should I stay or go?
Hard to decide, I know I been living with my cheating husband for 16y. We have 4 kids, this was my question 15y. Ago but not anymore, I lost interest in him, almost every thing is gone, but now he is trying to do so well, but it's kinda late, my mind it's about me and my kids. We still live together, but with no love at all. When kids are involved it's hard, but live your life the best u can, he will regret one day💖💖
amen wise words
No it cant
this is such a complicated issue..thank you for reality...I got involved with someone 2 yrs ago not knowing he was living with someone..i was at the house many times with the two teenage boys there..i recently found out about the woman he was living with and she found out about me..she is understandably hurt and wants to leave...I want to forgive him..we have had some difficult conversations..i am saying no sex until she is gone and we have to get to know each other again..i am hoping I don't have to give I'm up...I am 64 yrs old..he is 54...saying he wants to marry me...I don't feel desperate..having sleepless nights feeling guilt about the other woman..she is 14 yrs younger than me..they were not married..it still hurt like hell
Deborah didn't you listen to anything the video says? This guy is not partnership material... move on.
10 years younger at your age? You are still interferring in a family unit. He betrayed you and lied to you and you still want him?
Just forgive him? No growth, no education, no work at all? He just gets a free pass for this level of exploitation of not one by TWO women?
These are the train wrecks you walk away from Deborah. Forgive YOURSELF yes, for getting used BUT you need to discard him.
There ARE honest men out there Deborah... men who do not lie, exploit, and cheat on you. THOSE are the ones you partner with. Stop forgiving deadbeats.
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I've been married for 12 years. Move on...its not worth it. This is our first marriage and its really hard even though our marriage doesn't come from a shaky foundation. Now if you start a marriage from a shaky foundation ...I can't imagine how harder the marriage will take for it to survive. I'm sorry but your chances of marriage survival is very slim and it would strip years of your youth away by u wasting it on someone who isn't worth it. Use your time of age for a guy whose worth it to use up your years of youth wisely...don't u think u deserve better? I hope u take my advice seriously...u can't break a marriage to make a marriage. Be real girl.
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I wish you could speak to my husband and tell him this.
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Tell that to king Charles and queen Camila who had been lovers from 1972 to 2005 when they married. Was not fantasyland, their love was real.
Could you cite where you get your statistics from?
Can you share what stat you are seeking references for?
Where do stats come from for failure of affair marriages, ie 95% failure rate
95% failure rate for relationships that were born of infidelity
I am asking because I think it is important that we validate the underlying assumptions. If you make a claim that they have a 1% success rate then I think you should know how you arrived at that number. If you do not know how you arrived at that number then you might actually have it wrong. Maybe affairs have a 99% success rate who is to know without a citation? Once I have a citation I can then make decisions in my life based on it or if it doesn't feel right to me I can dig into the original citation and see if the methods of arriving at the number are valid or applicable. Also just as surely as it is unethical to commit an affair it is also unethical to make up statistics, or to perpetuate an idea based on information that is not correct.
If it matters (and truthfully it doesn't because it is simply an ethical issue that you should know where you get information from ESPECIALLY if you are someone whom is speaking as a person of authority on a subject) I was cheated on by my ex-wife, and there are a variety of circumstances in the situation that made me seriously question ALL of what people might call common knowledge about relationships. And I would eventually discover that very many of the things we think are common knowledge and the correct way to live life are actually completely false or ineffective.
Now someone told me that 95% of relationships that start as infidelity fail so off I go to the internet to find the source and low and behold I can find people whom are stating this as fact but I cannot find anyone who knows where they get the fact from. And it is also completely reasonable to know that humans can easily take false information and spread it and make it become common knowledge that everyone simply accepts as true. So I would like to know where this statistic came from before I pass it along to anyone else, or use it to make decisions in my life.
TL:DR it simply doesn't matter what the reasons anyone has for asking for a source for information provide the source if you have it or if you don't have a source then say I don't have a source and feel free to tell us why or where you think you remember getting that information from so we can keep digging.
Guys stop quoting statistics without providing a reference. Any professional knows better than that. If you cannot provide a reference for your numbers, they are no better than numbers I pull out of my ass.
Reference your numbers or don't share any.
Women are competing thanks to more and more in the workplace. Thanks feminism!
Yet, they'll never catch up to men.
My ex married his mistress and lives like a rockstar
NOPE
AMEN
Do whats really going on?
So where did you get the statistic of affair relationships having a high chance of ending poorly? I expected as much but I would like to know where the number comes from.
Haha. He cheated on me in oct ( 6yr relationship) Told me nov shes pregnant. They are moving in with eachother next month. The have known eachother at work for 2 yrs. We have a child together too
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Please do not take sides since you did not know the nature of their marriage.
11.11 stargazing in this situation now. But he lives with me & yes they met from work ... it’s sad ...
Lies and Infidelity is a very serious issue to deal with and it’s a major threat to most marriages and relationships.Scars left behind from a narcissist husband is hard to erase from the mind. I was reluctant at first about finding the truth about my cheating husband but I’m glad I finally took the courage for it .I got help from Cyber Hack Solutions as he helped clone my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone call logs, emails, text messages both deleted texts and also social media chats; whatsApp , Facebook, Instagram without having access to his phone because he is mostly out of town due to the nature of his work , all I provided was his phone number to this wonderful hacker. This was very revealing for me as he’s a serial cheater until I got into his phone and ended things.I’m glad to uncover his, lies, secrets and Infidelity. You can contact this amazing Hacker David via gmail (cyberhack003) or text and call on his phone and WhatsApp : +15303784744
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We're people are hurt majority of the time no .
What statistics? He keeps on referring to statistics, but provides ZERO. lol
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Can do it by myself
My ex and his wife been married over 20 years. He left me for her.
My husband did the same thing was together 24 years with 5 children one with special needs I sure hope this happens to him
You never know whats going on behind closed doors. Maybe hes still cheating. Not yet caught or she turns a blind eye to it.