I have noticed that when I'm ignoring my instinct and not working on my dreams but instead slaving away at a job working on someone else's dreams, and especially when that includes dealing with abrasive personalities and politics, or being asked to go against my values, then I burn out. It's hard to find balance in this capitalist world.
@liberationismagic where did you move to out of curiosity? I'm feeling the same, stuck in the UK - I need to find my true family in another culture! Good luck to you xx
@liberationismagic "it’s amazing to me how many american people don’t realize they can just leave." You can't really, it's not that easy. Unless you have a job, an in-demand skill set, family abroad or plan to never stop moving, there's very little option for "just leaving".
I'm 71, in the course of my life I've had many hunches or whatever you want to call them. I've learned the hard way never to ignore them, and never to try to rationalise my way out of them. They come for a reason.
This video is so timely. Lately I feel a tightness in my chest and that I can't breathe although physically I'm in excellent health but it's when I think on so called friends I've been loyal to for decades but I need to escape for my mental and emotional wellbeing. Someone posted this comment on another channel and it really hit me. "I don’t walk away to teach people a lesson, I walk away because I finally learned my lesson.”
The last GUT INSTINCT that I ignored ended up much, much worse than I could have ever expected. From THEN ON I LISTEN any and every time my GUT is reacting. Sometimes I would like to brush off the warning, but after the last time I did that, I vowed to never ignore my gut ever again.
Hahahahahah! I rarely watch long vids so I much prefer this format. And you can say a lot in 5-10 mins, it turns out! Really glad you’re enjoying them! 🖤
the last time i was using my head and ignoring my gut was buying a new home. i was on a tight budget and found something 'that would do'. my home and surroundings are very important to me, but this time i was in scarcity. i chose from plans and went every few days to see how the building was coming along. when just about drywalled - it mysteriously burnt down! i couldn't ignore that smack from the universe lol. so i stretched my comfort zone and got where i now live with extensive views of the rockies, by the bow river and native horses and even an occasional wolf. But something i need to add to your narrative: i have usually come from my gut, and when deciding to leave my first husband for another my instincts pulled at me to go into the new adventure. i meditated alone in the wilderness, journaled on a mexican beach and wrote many lists, to try to convince myself i was wrong to leave. then realised no amount of logical rational work could dissuade me. that choice led to my 2 amazing kids, and also the biggest lesson of my life by the betrayal of that other man. what i learnt was - go with your gut - because that leads to the most growth, and growth leads to happiness.
I've got several examples of not following gut instinct. One clear one though is my ignoring the deep feeling that I was in the wrong place on my first day of my MBA program. I stayed with it, hated it, then got a job doing those things I hated for six years until I mentally collapsed. The biggest hurdle to this advice though is what do you do when your gut instinct isn't financially viable? I would love to focus on writing, even go back for an MA in English but what then? Struggle to survive for the rest of my life? Or I could do the "sensible" thing and continue learning programming so I can have a good salary and some job security while relegating writing to a hobby. That thought pains me (I've spent the past year studying things I don't like to get a job and it's awful) but I have no idea how to turn my "gut instinct" into a viable life. In many ways, modern society can suck it.
Oh boy, tough one! I didn't listen to my gut feeling many years ago (I'm autistic, that doesn't help with a great many things, especially when becoming more self-aware), and ended up marrying the wrong person and having a child with her. The consequences were dire in regards to my mental health to say the least, although I had to learn to not let that get to me anymore on the emotional plane (I should also add I was misdiagnosed as a bipolar twenty years ago, never was one and was medicated for that, you can imagine hoy nightmarish the detox process was for myself and for others once I stopped taking meds I never actually needed). Anyway, thank you for the reminder, it's as if I've known this all along but unfortunately it is sometimes easy to also lose sight of the things we have to do in order to keep our sanity in this crazy world, hence making it difficult to make sense out of life in general sometimes.
Thank you for this comment. I’m so sorry to hear about the misdiagnosis and subsequent challenges. I’m very glad you worked it out, however. And you’re so right: we do so much harm to ourselves (and others, unfortunately) in trying to cope with the largely synthetic but oh-so-real pressures of life and society 🖤
Yes, I would hope so too! I expect that doesn’t come up because in myth and fairytale analysis, all characters and elements in the story are considered to represent aspects of one psyche, so they don’t/can’t portray interpersonal interaction - only intrapersonal dynamics.
Great content, again. Thank you for bringing this back into my conscious. I call this situation the "puppet player humor". When I do not want to follow my gut, I kind of hear this belly laughter voice (puppet player) that lovingly means:"well, you also can take this detour, it's your choice, after all.. but you , as you are you... will still end up at the same crossroad again. You might just make it easy for yourself..." which is most prominent to feel after I have done the detour - again, standing at the same spot again.😅
May I say, you are a great storyteller! Your videos spark so many different trains of thought for me. Following my gut seems to not lead me down any paths that I regret. However, as you pointed out, when I solely focus in my head, regret usually follows - from work to relationships to living arrangements. It can be hard to be oneself in a society that is bent on molding people into certain boxes, but not impossible.
Yes, exactly. I think we spend half our lives learning the rules and squeezing into boxes, and then the other half desperately trying to claw our way out (and find new rules). I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos also! 🖤
The key times I did not listen to my gut, it came with really really really bad consequences. Like others mentioned, not listening to your gut can come with regrets but also with things like not being safe etc.
Omg, you're my helpful fairy. You look like one and I really needed the confirmation that intuition is mainly physical as I've been struggling with this concept lately. Thank you lots, dear. ❤
Loneliness can be immensely overwhelming When finding someone its difficult to face having to let them go. Trusting can bring dispair the price we pay by not acknowledging our own intuitions.
That’s the real challenge, I believe. I have written another video about this to share in the next batch (so it won’t be for a couple of months). It really isn’t easy to tell the difference between intuition and conditioned unconscious content, but there are ways to discern between them (with a little time and effort).
That's brilliant. So spiritually that quiet voice is the talking animal... That might help me to pay attention to think about it in that way. Maybe sorr of distancing myself from the feelings will help too because i usually dismiss it in the moment.
As i was listening, I thought "this just sounds like Eugene Gendlin's Focussing", turns out it was! I'm seeing a resurgence in interest in his techniques in healing/psychology youtube and I think that's really wonderful
I find that looking at life choices through the lens of character archetypes is pure gold for my life. Personally, I've found that it's not that I *can't* do the things I need to, or make the choices required for growth, however difficult.... but my biggest hurdle is what I'm *thinking* during those times. How can I tell myself a good (or rather... an empowering, healthy, and *true*) story about these obstacles and my initial reactions and emotions? Some of my loved ones encourage me to skip the internal story entirely, they say "just do it" or "you're just dragging your feet", etc. But I've found that if I don't find a good narrative for my life, I can't connect to a feeling of agency and resilience. My choices have to *mean* something to me, or else "pushing through" feels rote, depressing and kind of pointless. I had been crafting better stories before I found you, but your videos have really crystalized that part of my self work. Anyway, thank you your work, I always enjoy seeing a new video from you pop up on my feed :)
Oh, this is _so_ brilliantly explained! I love this comment very much. Thank you for sharing 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 And I’m glad I could help with the crystallisation!
Fascinating. Have just downloaded the app. Thank you. Bringing a play to London that explores the implications of over-riding our intuition, the health effects (Dr Gabor Maté's work on "Adaptation" in The Myth of Normal) - ie when we adapt as infants, over-riding our intuition and authentic responses, in order to 'survive' (literally or in terms of sense of self). Also the gendered nature of the messages in fairy tales is mind-blowing - curious if you've done any research into that side of them.
@@samanthagraham3212 Oh, that play sounds wonderful! What’s it called and where will it be showing? Yes, I talk about gender and myth/fairytales very often. I find it fascinating. The Jungian interpretation of myth and fairytale is that every character and other element represents an aspect of the psyche. So when characters like sleeping beauty or Cinderella are “saved“ by some kind of Prince Charming, it isn’t seen as depiction of an external/real damsel in distress and her rescuing hero, but rather the moment when the protagonist awakens their/her inner hero self. In other words, the aspect of their personality that can fight their battles and stand their ground and protect them. I think this perspective changes a whole heap of very difficult insinuations, and I wish it were more commonly understood!
Thank you for this. Can I ask how you tackle this in the context of gaslighting and bizarre behaviour (I mean quite overt from a very disordered caregiver) from early childhood such that it produces huge amounts of self doubt and suspicion of your own intentions in the present day? For context, I'm talking about constant lies, false accusations (criminal level), threats that the perpetrator will be abused if you question what they're saying, character assassinations, being convinced that you're lying or trying to lie, being convinced that you are abusing the perpetrator etc. I've done years of trying to undo this, but still get so wound up and feel that 'gut' feeling is far from accessible even after years of stillness and not quite sure where to go with it? I still get this feeling that I'm lying and it goes around in circles often. Edit, I did just want to say that I really appreciate your work, it has a lot of depth and I've found it very valuable so thank you!
I’m so sorry to hear you went through this, and I can absolutely understand how that would get in the way of sending and/or trusting your instinct. Have you seen a therapist? I think it sounds like some guided work on addressing the old injunctions and lingering beliefs would be a very good idea. If you are interested/able to take this path, the absolutely essential thing is to work with a therapist you feel a strong sense of rapport with (most offer a discovery meeting or call, so book a load in and work with the one you feel the strongest connection with). I’m sorry I can’t say anything more helpful than that! I’d tell you that “it takes time” and “you’ll get there”, etc. (which I fully believe!) but it sounds like you’ve put the solo work in already. And thank you! I’m so glad you’re enjoying the content 🖤
I am so sorry you went through that. I am in a similar boat and it is so hard not feeling able to trust one's own gut! Therapy definitely has helped me and I hope that's accessible to you. Another thing that has helped is some kind of body work paired with therapy. I think Feldenkrais and dance have helped the most. There's also somatic experiencing, trauma informed yoga, so many other options! Connecting with animals is helpful too since they are so rooted in their instincts. I just think that reconnecting with the felt sense of trust in the body can really boost the work one does in therapy. I hope you find the way back to trusting in yourself!
@@rainbowconnected thank you so much for your response, that's all really useful. And yes I can imagine how body movement and dance (I've never felt able to actually!) would help that. I will certainly take that into mind
I was just discarded from a 3 year relationship, a relationship which I had entered shortly after being discarded from an 8 year relationship. I feel like the 8 year relationship really messed up my "internal compass". And yet, reflecting back on the many red flags I overlooked in the 3 year relationship, it's astonishing to realize how many of them occurred close to the beginning of the relationship. Perhaps it's not that my internal compass was messed up, but that I had been conditioned not to trust it. Well, I hope me and my compass are in sync now. Because I don't want to give another minute of my life to abusive personalities.
The last gut instinct I had was when a girl I had a crush on was playing with my feelings but I didn't listen to it and things ended up worse when I didn't listen to my gut instinct. It turns out she doesn't like me the way I think which my gut told me from the very beginning.
17 years old I got a nudge to write a story about family secrets set in the place I grew up as a horror novel, I thought it would be fun, never finished it. 37 years old I went no contact with my family.
Genuine question: I once watched a Louis Theroux documentary, where a prison inmate described his thought processes during and after a burglary. There wasn't one. Could he be said to be "following his gut"?
Oh, gosh. I don’t think there’s any way for us to tell, but not every thoughtless decision is gut instinct . Then again, not every gut instinct is going to be correct, and certainly not legal. So, who knows!
I usually try to follow it, I call it God in me directing my path with a discerning spirit. But......many years ago I saw something, and said something that my gut said, maybe you shouldn't. As I thought about it I thought it wasn't wrong and could not think of a reason not to say it. Well, ended up getting me fired because someone was trying to pull a fast one and I blew it for them.
@@aielianna Ha! I just looked her up and when I saw the first (glam) pic, I was ready to disagree but then I scrolled on and _you’re absolutely right!_ I can see it!
Although I agree that listening to your gut is a very positive ability and should be practiced often, I disagree that the point you made about listening to animals leads to this conclusion. The reason that villains ignore the animals where the hero's listen is: Villains by definition, "punch down". They attack those less powerful than themselves. They "Kick the puppy". From Disney villains (the most raw and simplistic variety) that call their henchmen "fools" to real life politicians that denigrate handicapped reporters, we recognize those that lift themselves up at the expense of the weak viscerally and institutionally as evil. This goes back to your previous videos about closed mindset where an individual obsesses over status and winning at all costs (In fact, I bet all stereotypical villains are just super closed mindset individuals). Hero's on the other hand help the least of us, lift up the downtrodden, and listen to the problems of puppies and kittens. If they are to attack, they do so upward, fighting authority and systematic injustice. Perhaps, then the lesson is to listen to your own body as if it were a lost puppy, taking the hero's stance of helping that which can not help itself. Feed it, listen to it, nurture it. And just like a talking animal in the movies, if you listen carefully, it will most certainly give you a quest. Thank you again for this series.
Hmm, my second brain/ microbiome (gut) is an unreliable source of knowledge. Ive fed my microbiome terrible food, and its out of whack/ not creating a lot of great feedback. I see (and do it myself) that listening to your body can be both a great and a vary flawed method - a lot of "instinct/ intution" is most likely anxirty/ emotional history being triggered. Labelling as wholly good Orr bad seems too simplistic and tbh, a major logic fallacy ( or three) . I absolutely think emotions are teachers/ guide posts - but they aren't always right Interesting. While i see value in it, i also see inherent i see intuition as more often coming from the amygdala, fast thinking/ heuristic/ logic fallacies - some is trauma response, some is way back lizard survival reflexes, some of it is cultural norms /shoulds that are so ingrained they are automatic. That does not make them good, or bad per se, just unreliable. Ive taken to having internal monologue/dialogue with AMY and UNA ( my amygdala and internal UNreliable NArrator)😅. Some times its useful I wonder how many people going with "gut instinct" are reacting from those places and THEN justify after as "intution"? How can you tell??!!!!
That’s such a good question. I have actually written a script to record in my next batch, which explores the difference between gut instinct and conditioned responses, trauma responses and other learned unconscious content, but (spoiler alert) it really isn’t easy to tell, especially for those with a history of trauma. I think it can take decades to truly learn to discern between these forces and many of us never quite get there. However, that doesn’t mean it’s not worth the effort. As you so rightly point out, rationalisation and intellectualisation aren’t worth much when it comes to understanding our own drives and impulses (reason has its place, of course! I’m not anti-logic. But it’s usually a false hope/virtue when it comes to self-awareness). Thanks for your comment!
I have noticed that when I'm ignoring my instinct and not working on my dreams but instead slaving away at a job working on someone else's dreams, and especially when that includes dealing with abrasive personalities and politics, or being asked to go against my values, then I burn out. It's hard to find balance in this capitalist world.
I couldn’t agree more. Well said 🖤
I wonder how easy it was to find balance in the communist worlds of yesteryear?
@liberationismagic where did you move to out of curiosity? I'm feeling the same, stuck in the UK - I need to find my true family in another culture! Good luck to you xx
@liberationismagic "it’s amazing to me how many american people don’t realize they can just leave."
You can't really, it's not that easy. Unless you have a job, an in-demand skill set, family abroad or plan to never stop moving, there's very little option for "just leaving".
I'm 71, in the course of my life I've had many hunches or whatever you want to call them. I've learned the hard way never to ignore them, and never to try to rationalise my way out of them.
They come for a reason.
Amen!!
This video is so timely. Lately I feel a tightness in my chest and that I can't breathe although physically I'm in excellent health but it's when I think on so called friends I've been loyal to for decades but I need to escape for my mental and emotional wellbeing. Someone posted this comment on another channel and it really hit me. "I don’t walk away to teach people a lesson, I walk away because I finally learned my lesson.”
@@andreasissons7766 Oh, gosh, yes! That’s an excellent little sound bite. Thanks for sharing!
The last GUT INSTINCT that I ignored ended up much, much worse than I could have ever expected. From THEN ON I LISTEN any and every time my GUT is reacting. Sometimes I would like to brush off the warning, but after the last time I did that, I vowed to never ignore my gut ever again.
Well done! I wish I could say I _always_ listen these days. I still don't from time to time...
I LOOOOOOOVE THAT YOU KNOW NOT TO MAKE YOUR VIDEOS 30 PLUS MINUTES LOOONG AND YOU HAVE LITERALLY CHANGED MY LIFE!!!!!
Hahahahahah! I rarely watch long vids so I much prefer this format. And you can say a lot in 5-10 mins, it turns out!
Really glad you’re enjoying them! 🖤
the last time i was using my head and ignoring my gut was buying a new home. i was on a tight budget and found something 'that would do'. my home and surroundings are very important to me, but this time i was in scarcity. i chose from plans and went every few days to see how the building was coming along. when just about drywalled - it mysteriously burnt down! i couldn't ignore that smack from the universe lol. so i stretched my comfort zone and got where i now live with extensive views of the rockies, by the bow river and native horses and even an occasional wolf.
But something i need to add to your narrative: i have usually come from my gut, and when deciding to leave my first husband for another my instincts pulled at me to go into the new adventure. i meditated alone in the wilderness, journaled on a mexican beach and wrote many lists, to try to convince myself i was wrong to leave. then realised no amount of logical rational work could dissuade me. that choice led to my 2 amazing kids, and also the biggest lesson of my life by the betrayal of that other man. what i learnt was - go with your gut - because that leads to the most growth, and growth leads to happiness.
Oh, wow. This is an incredible story! I’m so, so glad you didn’t manage to talk yourself out of leaving!!! 👏🏼
Just wanted to say that these calm sage-like videos over the last few months have been really enlightening. Thank you Hazel.
@@sneakums Thank you so much! I’m thrilled to hear it 🖤
I've got several examples of not following gut instinct. One clear one though is my ignoring the deep feeling that I was in the wrong place on my first day of my MBA program. I stayed with it, hated it, then got a job doing those things I hated for six years until I mentally collapsed.
The biggest hurdle to this advice though is what do you do when your gut instinct isn't financially viable? I would love to focus on writing, even go back for an MA in English but what then? Struggle to survive for the rest of my life? Or I could do the "sensible" thing and continue learning programming so I can have a good salary and some job security while relegating writing to a hobby.
That thought pains me (I've spent the past year studying things I don't like to get a job and it's awful) but I have no idea how to turn my "gut instinct" into a viable life. In many ways, modern society can suck it.
I’m sure this particular struggle is one many of us (maybe even most?) will experience at some stage in life. It’s definitely not easy 🤍
You pack a lot of goodness in a short video. Thanks!
Thank you! 🤩
Oh boy, tough one! I didn't listen to my gut feeling many years ago (I'm autistic, that doesn't help with a great many things, especially when becoming more self-aware), and ended up marrying the wrong person and having a child with her. The consequences were dire in regards to my mental health to say the least, although I had to learn to not let that get to me anymore on the emotional plane (I should also add I was misdiagnosed as a bipolar twenty years ago, never was one and was medicated for that, you can imagine hoy nightmarish the detox process was for myself and for others once I stopped taking meds I never actually needed). Anyway, thank you for the reminder, it's as if I've known this all along but unfortunately it is sometimes easy to also lose sight of the things we have to do in order to keep our sanity in this crazy world, hence making it difficult to make sense out of life in general sometimes.
Thank you for this comment. I’m so sorry to hear about the misdiagnosis and subsequent challenges. I’m very glad you worked it out, however.
And you’re so right: we do so much harm to ourselves (and others, unfortunately) in trying to cope with the largely synthetic but oh-so-real pressures of life and society 🖤
@@Betwixt_App Thanks to you for taking the time to read my comment and providing feedback. Much appreciated :)
You’re very welcome! Thanks for commenting! 🖤
I feel like if there is a general truth, I hope it is to be of universal respect of everyone’s soul.
Yes, I would hope so too! I expect that doesn’t come up because in myth and fairytale analysis, all characters and elements in the story are considered to represent aspects of one psyche, so they don’t/can’t portray interpersonal interaction - only intrapersonal dynamics.
Great content, again. Thank you for bringing this back into my conscious.
I call this situation the "puppet player humor". When I do not want to follow my gut, I kind of hear this belly laughter voice (puppet player) that lovingly means:"well, you also can take this detour, it's your choice, after all.. but you , as you are you... will still end up at the same crossroad again. You might just make it easy for yourself..." which is most prominent to feel after I have done the detour - again, standing at the same spot again.😅
Wow! That’s amazing! I love that you have a way to represent it that’s so striking!!
May I say, you are a great storyteller! Your videos spark so many different trains of thought for me. Following my gut seems to not lead me down any paths that I regret. However, as you pointed out, when I solely focus in my head, regret usually follows - from work to relationships to living arrangements. It can be hard to be oneself in a society that is bent on molding people into certain boxes, but not impossible.
Yes, exactly. I think we spend half our lives learning the rules and squeezing into boxes, and then the other half desperately trying to claw our way out (and find new rules).
I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos also! 🖤
The key times I did not listen to my gut, it came with really really really bad consequences. Like others mentioned, not listening to your gut can come with regrets but also with things like not being safe etc.
Yes, absolutely!
Omg, you're my helpful fairy. You look like one and I really needed the confirmation that intuition is mainly physical as I've been struggling with this concept lately. Thank you lots, dear. ❤
Hahaha! I look like a fairy? 🧚 🤩
And you’re so welcome! 🤍
Loneliness can be immensely overwhelming
When finding someone its difficult to face having to let them go.
Trusting can bring dispair the price we pay by not acknowledging our own intuitions.
🖤🖤🖤
I believe in intuition. But I sometimes can’t tell the difference from my childhood trauma programming
That’s the real challenge, I believe. I have written another video about this to share in the next batch (so it won’t be for a couple of months). It really isn’t easy to tell the difference between intuition and conditioned unconscious content, but there are ways to discern between them (with a little time and effort).
Hello. For me, what has worked is seeing if it brings peace, but you do what feels right for you.
That's brilliant. So spiritually that quiet voice is the talking animal... That might help me to pay attention to think about it in that way. Maybe sorr of distancing myself from the feelings will help too because i usually dismiss it in the moment.
As i was listening, I thought "this just sounds like Eugene Gendlin's Focussing", turns out it was! I'm seeing a resurgence in interest in his techniques in healing/psychology youtube and I think that's really wonderful
I _love_ Gendlin’s work! Focusing is a wonderful practice 🖤
Thank you. Love your work.
I find that looking at life choices through the lens of character archetypes is pure gold for my life. Personally, I've found that it's not that I *can't* do the things I need to, or make the choices required for growth, however difficult.... but my biggest hurdle is what I'm *thinking* during those times.
How can I tell myself a good (or rather... an empowering, healthy, and *true*) story about these obstacles and my initial reactions and emotions?
Some of my loved ones encourage me to skip the internal story entirely, they say "just do it" or "you're just dragging your feet", etc. But I've found that if I don't find a good narrative for my life, I can't connect to a feeling of agency and resilience. My choices have to *mean* something to me, or else "pushing through" feels rote, depressing and kind of pointless.
I had been crafting better stories before I found you, but your videos have really crystalized that part of my self work.
Anyway, thank you your work, I always enjoy seeing a new video from you pop up on my feed :)
Oh, this is _so_ brilliantly explained! I love this comment very much. Thank you for sharing 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 And I’m glad I could help with the crystallisation!
Fascinating. Have just downloaded the app. Thank you. Bringing a play to London that explores the implications of over-riding our intuition, the health effects (Dr Gabor Maté's work on "Adaptation" in The Myth of Normal) - ie when we adapt as infants, over-riding our intuition and authentic responses, in order to 'survive' (literally or in terms of sense of self). Also the gendered nature of the messages in fairy tales is mind-blowing - curious if you've done any research into that side of them.
@@samanthagraham3212 Oh, that play sounds wonderful! What’s it called and where will it be showing?
Yes, I talk about gender and myth/fairytales very often. I find it fascinating. The Jungian interpretation of myth and fairytale is that every character and other element represents an aspect of the psyche. So when characters like sleeping beauty or Cinderella are “saved“ by some kind of Prince Charming, it isn’t seen as depiction of an external/real damsel in distress and her rescuing hero, but rather the moment when the protagonist awakens their/her inner hero self. In other words, the aspect of their personality that can fight their battles and stand their ground and protect them.
I think this perspective changes a whole heap of very difficult insinuations, and I wish it were more commonly understood!
Lovely video, thank you.
You’re very welcome!
My head and gut said no, but my heart said yes - and I got into a world of deceit and misery.
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this 🖤🖤🖤
Thank you for this. Can I ask how you tackle this in the context of gaslighting and bizarre behaviour (I mean quite overt from a very disordered caregiver) from early childhood such that it produces huge amounts of self doubt and suspicion of your own intentions in the present day? For context, I'm talking about constant lies, false accusations (criminal level), threats that the perpetrator will be abused if you question what they're saying, character assassinations, being convinced that you're lying or trying to lie, being convinced that you are abusing the perpetrator etc. I've done years of trying to undo this, but still get so wound up and feel that 'gut' feeling is far from accessible even after years of stillness and not quite sure where to go with it? I still get this feeling that I'm lying and it goes around in circles often.
Edit, I did just want to say that I really appreciate your work, it has a lot of depth and I've found it very valuable so thank you!
I’m so sorry to hear you went through this, and I can absolutely understand how that would get in the way of sending and/or trusting your instinct.
Have you seen a therapist? I think it sounds like some guided work on addressing the old injunctions and lingering beliefs would be a very good idea. If you are interested/able to take this path, the absolutely essential thing is to work with a therapist you feel a strong sense of rapport with (most offer a discovery meeting or call, so book a load in and work with the one you feel the strongest connection with). I’m sorry I can’t say anything more helpful than that! I’d tell you that “it takes time” and “you’ll get there”, etc. (which I fully believe!) but it sounds like you’ve put the solo work in already.
And thank you! I’m so glad you’re enjoying the content 🖤
@@Betwixt_App thank you for reply and content once again, a really genuine reply means a lot!
@@thelastonequesqueca8982 You’re so welcome! I really wish you all the best on this journey! 🖤🖤🖤
I am so sorry you went through that. I am in a similar boat and it is so hard not feeling able to trust one's own gut! Therapy definitely has helped me and I hope that's accessible to you. Another thing that has helped is some kind of body work paired with therapy. I think Feldenkrais and dance have helped the most. There's also somatic experiencing, trauma informed yoga, so many other options! Connecting with animals is helpful too since they are so rooted in their instincts. I just think that reconnecting with the felt sense of trust in the body can really boost the work one does in therapy. I hope you find the way back to trusting in yourself!
@@rainbowconnected thank you so much for your response, that's all really useful. And yes I can imagine how body movement and dance (I've never felt able to actually!) would help that. I will certainly take that into mind
I was just discarded from a 3 year relationship, a relationship which I had entered shortly after being discarded from an 8 year relationship.
I feel like the 8 year relationship really messed up my "internal compass". And yet, reflecting back on the many red flags I overlooked in the 3 year relationship, it's astonishing to realize how many of them occurred close to the beginning of the relationship. Perhaps it's not that my internal compass was messed up, but that I had been conditioned not to trust it. Well, I hope me and my compass are in sync now. Because I don't want to give another minute of my life to abusive personalities.
The last gut instinct I had was when a girl I had a crush on was playing with my feelings but I didn't listen to it and things ended up worse when I didn't listen to my gut instinct. It turns out she doesn't like me the way I think which my gut told me from the very beginning.
I’m so sorry to hear this 🖤
17 years old I got a nudge to write a story about family secrets set in the place I grew up as a horror novel, I thought it would be fun, never finished it. 37 years old I went no contact with my family.
@@nyxcole9879 Oh gosh. I don’t know what to say (other than I’m very sorry to hear it)!
@@Betwixt_App on the healing path now 🙂
My expression is that... the mind uses intuition to achieve perfection, but the soul uses it to achieve peace.
Yes, I like this! I would say the mind uses _rationalisation_ for its purpose, though (which often leads us away from intuition).
Genuine question: I once watched a Louis Theroux documentary, where a prison inmate described his thought processes during and after a burglary. There wasn't one. Could he be said to be "following his gut"?
Oh, gosh. I don’t think there’s any way for us to tell, but not every thoughtless decision is gut instinct . Then again, not every gut instinct is going to be correct, and certainly not legal. So, who knows!
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I think you e shared this on another of my posts. I don’t get the connection (though, I’m all for the CND!)
I usually try to follow it, I call it God in me directing my path with a discerning spirit. But......many years ago I saw something, and said something that my gut said, maybe you shouldn't. As I thought about it I thought it wasn't wrong and could not think of a reason not to say it. Well, ended up getting me fired because someone was trying to pull a fast one and I blew it for them.
Oh, wow. That’s a fascinating example. Thank you for sharing!
I don’t know if any one has ever told you this but you look a lot like Alyson Stoner (american actress)
@@aielianna Ha! I just looked her up and when I saw the first (glam) pic, I was ready to disagree but then I scrolled on and _you’re absolutely right!_ I can see it!
Although I agree that listening to your gut is a very positive ability and should be practiced often, I disagree that the point you made about listening to animals leads to this conclusion. The reason that villains ignore the animals where the hero's listen is: Villains by definition, "punch down". They attack those less powerful than themselves. They "Kick the puppy". From Disney villains (the most raw and simplistic variety) that call their henchmen "fools" to real life politicians that denigrate handicapped reporters, we recognize those that lift themselves up at the expense of the weak viscerally and institutionally as evil. This goes back to your previous videos about closed mindset where an individual obsesses over status and winning at all costs (In fact, I bet all stereotypical villains are just super closed mindset individuals). Hero's on the other hand help the least of us, lift up the downtrodden, and listen to the problems of puppies and kittens. If they are to attack, they do so upward, fighting authority and systematic injustice.
Perhaps, then the lesson is to listen to your own body as if it were a lost puppy, taking the hero's stance of helping that which can not help itself. Feed it, listen to it, nurture it. And just like a talking animal in the movies, if you listen carefully, it will most certainly give you a quest.
Thank you again for this series.
Hmm, my second brain/ microbiome (gut) is an unreliable source of knowledge. Ive fed my microbiome terrible food, and its out of whack/ not creating a lot of great feedback.
I see (and do it myself) that listening to your body can be both a great and a vary flawed method - a lot of "instinct/ intution" is most likely anxirty/ emotional history being triggered. Labelling as wholly good Orr bad seems too simplistic and tbh, a major logic fallacy ( or three) . I absolutely think emotions are teachers/ guide posts - but they aren't always right
Interesting. While i see value in it, i also see inherent
i see intuition as more often coming from the amygdala, fast thinking/ heuristic/ logic fallacies - some is trauma response, some is way back lizard survival reflexes, some of it is cultural norms /shoulds that are so ingrained they are automatic. That does not make them good, or bad per se, just unreliable. Ive taken to having internal monologue/dialogue with AMY and UNA ( my amygdala and internal UNreliable NArrator)😅. Some times its useful
I wonder how many people going with "gut instinct" are reacting from those places and THEN justify after as "intution"?
How can you tell??!!!!
That’s such a good question. I have actually written a script to record in my next batch, which explores the difference between gut instinct and conditioned responses, trauma responses and other learned unconscious content, but (spoiler alert) it really isn’t easy to tell, especially for those with a history of trauma. I think it can take decades to truly learn to discern between these forces and many of us never quite get there.
However, that doesn’t mean it’s not worth the effort. As you so rightly point out, rationalisation and intellectualisation aren’t worth much when it comes to understanding our own drives and impulses (reason has its place, of course! I’m not anti-logic. But it’s usually a false hope/virtue when it comes to self-awareness).
Thanks for your comment!