Jess, this girl definitely knows what she's talking about. You have helped me so much since my five-year old was born - I never used to watch youtube but as a single, rural, lonely mum still shellshocked from becoming a mum, and grieving my son's dad's leaving me, I think i typed in something desperate and by some good fortune, you came up. Your warm, kind, genuine and humorous wisdom made me feel things were maybe manageable, and that there might still be a bit of me that i liked still left... Anyway, i just wanted to say thanks for putting your lovely self out there.
Thanks for this great video Jessica 😍 I have a one year old and currently in my first trimester of baby 2 … something that has so randomly helped me is making the occasional video talking about how I feel (just for myself) watching it back and i have a lot of empathy and understanding from that perspective. It really helps to pinpoint the worries and see them for what they are! How we talk to ourself really matters and I’m so aware of that too !
I love your gentle, honest, neutral approach SO MUCH! I could tell you were in women’s ministry. You have such a wealth of wisdom and a voice that people want to listen to and feel comforted by.
This is very much the video I needed. I have a four month old (first kid) and I know it sounds dramatic but I literally feel like I’m dying sometimes I’m so tired. Waking up to feed all night long for four months straight has been way harder than I imagined. My husband also has to work a lot so it’s mostly all on me. Any content like this is great for me because I need to know that I’m not alone. I don’t know many people with kids at this time so sometimes I feel like an island amidst a bunch of well rested people complaining that they’re tired 😂 thank you for the video!
Doesn’t sound dramatic to me - I felt those feelings too! Hang in there! If you need friends join our VGMC zoom calls that we do inside our membership community! There are lots of moms with babies your age who can relate and we can all help each other be okay! If you can’t though I appreciate you watching this video & sharing your thoughts! Congratulations on your little one and give yourself a lot of grace to handle life right now - you guys are carrying a lot! ❤️
My baby is 5 weeks old. I moved countries to be with my partners family and he supports us financially so has to work. I feel guilty to wake him up as he's running work and yes I feel you it's hard work. I came on here for some support. I feel you mama but you can do it!
I have a 20mo and pregnant with #2. I withdrew from med school after a year in the hospital realizing it's not my passion or desired lifestyle and med school was way easier than being a FT parent. You're doing amazing. It is tough but it is the best gift. I miss the previous ages already.
Sleep training was a life saver. He loves bedtime. He tells me when he's ready for bed (between 5-7pm), I hand him his bottle, he marches into bed and kicks me out after I tuck him in. Wake up is 6:30-7:30am.
Love love love! My husband and I currently have 2 boys, almost 2 and 6 months old and wow, we're constantly juggling, whether it be feeding, bathing, playing, diffusing a tantrum etc and it's so darn exhausting. I'm a SAHM too so the fatigue is so real. I often get annoyed when I feel like I'm the 'default parent' but sometimes, as women it's hard to speak up and ask our partners for help. So grateful for Jess and this channel as it's so real and raw, thank you ❤️
When I saw the title I started shaking my head and then saw it was you and was like, “alright this will be honest and good.” Glad I watched! Mom and three and 7 month old is going through that sleep regression this and went from sleeping through the night to waking up 20 times a night, which rippled and now the other kids are not sleeping well. Ugh. Sleep torture is so maddening and causes depression.
I’d love to see the clothing item video! This video was super helpful too! Since becoming a mom I’ve really found my environment and moving my body makes a difference to my mental health!
Just had my first child last week (a premie) and he’s going through his first growth spurt. This video could not have come at a more perfect time. Thanks, Jess!❤
Everytime I turn on your videos im left feeling so much better & I just love you. I have a 3yr old and a 1 year old solo and it is hard to not he tired but man were all out here trying lol. Also my 1 year old started walking yesterday ❤❤❤ im a michigan girl and I don't love a lot of the medical facilities here when it come to mother care.
I so needed someone to talk about how nobody really cares or wants to know how you’re doing as a mom. It’s as if you’re bothering people for telling them you’re overwhelmed and struggling. But then when you’re in extreme crisis everyone wants to say “why didn’t you ask for help”? I’m like--I’ve been saying how tired I am and how hard it is and everyone just kept saying “it’s part of being a mom, comes with the job”--which is such a slap in the face bc nobody ever gets it. I know I’m tired with days that I’m depressed and so anxious I can’t even understand how I’m supposed to be everyone’s everything. Ugh. Thank you for the realness of that cartoon with the house on fire while you’re saying “I’m fine”.
Yeah i find people don’t understand unless they have experienced it too! In our online community we have a lot of moms who share these feelings your describing! If you ever want to join one of our zoom calls you might find it really helpful. We are on a break from them now but begin again in January! ❤️❤️
You talked about everything I keep deep inside because it feels easier to do. You are helping so many people with your vulnerability and tender honesty 💓. I feel heard even though you were the one talking. Thankyou!
🙏👏 tired mama here with an 18 month old who still wakes up during the night and 4 months pregnant with #2! The laughing guy who starts crying clip had me lol ing 😂 love your honesty and genuine communication about this topic! Thank you for sharing!
This was perfect- exhausted today due to bed sharing with a wriggly toddler. Also one of your earlier videos (I don’t like being a mom) helped me through a really difficult time when my daughter was first born. It really helped me to think about all the lovely things to come!
Thank you for sharing, I really enjoy your channel! You mentioned that your living space is small, and I'm sure a lot of families struggle with space! I would be interested to see how you manage your space and storage, and is there room-sharing for your little ones and how that works/how they find it? Things that have and haven't worked maybe would be great for a future video :) Thank you, and have a lovely Christmas and New Year!
Love this! And yes, when you publish new content - I am notified :) I remember being soooo tired raising kids! And when the grandkids are here… that makes me tired too but not like the moms and dads! So glad my youngest grandkid is finally sleep trained! I LOVE the plant analogy ❤ I’m on the other side of motherhood - my advice is make those memories that you can look back on - some of my favorite memories are simple - like taking the kids out to drive through rain puddles and listen to them laugh. Or a simple dinner of spaghetti and eating with hands only. You don’t need Disneyland or a huge trip to make a memory. And I took plenty of naps when my kids napped - probably twice a week or so. You’ll get through the crying. Sometimes just changing the environment- a screaming kid into the bathtub will change everything. Not always but most times.
Aw I love you thanks for watching and commenting :) I always wonder what you were like when the boys were little - before we met you. You don’t seem like the napping type 😂 I remember you taking us all in the car on the big hills in Black Forest, listening to loud music and laughing so hard. Such good memories and not as expensive as Disney. You’re a good mom :) I am so thankful for you.
I was literally just thinking this today (how can I fix being so tired? And totally related to the health fears/challenges) Thank you for the kind and gentle pointers... needed this video this evening xx
Hey thanks for the vid 😊 definitely helps! My baby just turned 6 months today! Something I've been struggling with is raising this little girl with my partner and neither of us have good relationships with our families so we really don't have much help or moral support in person. Would you do a video on how to both cope AND how to find that kind of community without needing to spend money? Thanks xo
I second this! We have no family near, moved to a new place recently, so no friendships yet, and we're not comfortable leaving our kid with someone we found on internet. & we both work full time, so no chance of reconnecting during childcare hours... We need "flesh and bone", in person, community...
Could you do a video on capturing sweet moments or moments you don't want to forget? I have a 5 yr journal when I had my second baby and I don't keep up every day but I've been logging some cool moments and every day there's a fun or thoughtful prompt that helps me write a super short and sweet memory or thought. Do you keep a journal or note on your phone or something?
Thank you for your words of advice and wisdom. I feel less alone listening to your life experiences and perspectives! I as well struggle with depression + a sprinkle of anxiety and panic. But something that I've been feeling and struggling with over this past year is guilt in motherhood. Is this a big struggle for other mothers?
When you said that you feel like you're on all the time and waking up and going to bed to crying children. Yes to both of these! Lately I'm struggling with these things. I'd also like to see what the brain does when it is being cried and whined at lol I know mine doesn't do well with it! Trying to figure out how to balance finding time to feel like myself, stay connected with my husband, be present and patient with my kids, work. It seems impossible. I know it's just a phase but right now I feel defeated.
What if your in conflict with your 3.5 year old daily because he does not listen? That is draining me. The crying kids is my life too. Thanks for posting this. I hope it gets better.
Hi Jessica, thank you for your videos and always helpful tips. I truly appreciate your channel! In regards to content I would love to see, could you maybe share your experience on how to tell your kid(s) that they will be having (another) sibling? Thank you ❤
Yes to all this. I have a 2.5 year old and a 7 month old and my husband and I are finding ourselves keeping score so much more often than we used to. We hate it and it is exhausting. Would love to hear your perspective on what I think is a fairly common pitfall of marriage with young kids. Merry Christmas :))
Great video, not just for parents, but for anyone living in high demand situation with their family role, work or else. I have 3 more suggestions: small daily routines, doing something you love every day and stay away from social media comparison trap. For daily routines you can look up The Secret Slob (or FlyLady system). That helps you like you still have accomplished something important even if it was just get dressed and eating breakfast. Tiny habits also is a good tool. Doing something you love is like take your oxygen mask first before helping others: you need to be your own n. 1 priority, for as long as you live!
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Jess, this girl definitely knows what she's talking about. You have helped me so much since my five-year old was born - I never used to watch youtube but as a single, rural, lonely mum still shellshocked from becoming a mum, and grieving my son's dad's leaving me, I think i typed in something desperate and by some good fortune, you came up. Your warm, kind, genuine and humorous wisdom made me feel things were maybe manageable, and that there might still be a bit of me that i liked still left... Anyway, i just wanted to say thanks for putting your lovely self out there.
Wow thank you so much for watching and letting me know. It’s a gift to me that Im able to support you and others like you! ❤️❤️ so much love
Thanks for this great video Jessica 😍 I have a one year old and currently in my first trimester of baby 2 … something that has so randomly helped me is making the occasional video talking about how I feel (just for myself) watching it back and i have a lot of empathy and understanding from that perspective. It really helps to pinpoint the worries and see them for what they are!
How we talk to ourself really matters and I’m so aware of that too !
I love your gentle, honest, neutral approach SO MUCH! I could tell you were in women’s ministry. You have such a wealth of wisdom and a voice that people want to listen to and feel comforted by.
Thank you!!! 🥰🥰🥰
This is very much the video I needed. I have a four month old (first kid) and I know it sounds dramatic but I literally feel like I’m dying sometimes I’m so tired. Waking up to feed all night long for four months straight has been way harder than I imagined. My husband also has to work a lot so it’s mostly all on me. Any content like this is great for me because I need to know that I’m not alone. I don’t know many people with kids at this time so sometimes I feel like an island amidst a bunch of well rested people complaining that they’re tired 😂 thank you for the video!
Doesn’t sound dramatic to me - I felt those feelings too! Hang in there! If you need friends join our VGMC zoom calls that we do inside our membership community! There are lots of moms with babies your age who can relate and we can all help each other be okay! If you can’t though I appreciate you watching this video & sharing your thoughts! Congratulations on your little one and give yourself a lot of grace to handle life right now - you guys are carrying a lot! ❤️
It feels EXACTLY like you are dying. 😆😩 Sleep deprivation is torture. Those early years do pass though. Congrats on the growing family!
My baby is 5 weeks old. I moved countries to be with my partners family and he supports us financially so has to work. I feel guilty to wake him up as he's running work and yes I feel you it's hard work. I came on here for some support. I feel you mama but you can do it!
I have a 20mo and pregnant with #2. I withdrew from med school after a year in the hospital realizing it's not my passion or desired lifestyle and med school was way easier than being a FT parent. You're doing amazing. It is tough but it is the best gift. I miss the previous ages already.
Sleep training was a life saver. He loves bedtime. He tells me when he's ready for bed (between 5-7pm), I hand him his bottle, he marches into bed and kicks me out after I tuck him in. Wake up is 6:30-7:30am.
Love love love! My husband and I currently have 2 boys, almost 2 and 6 months old and wow, we're constantly juggling, whether it be feeding, bathing, playing, diffusing a tantrum etc and it's so darn exhausting. I'm a SAHM too so the fatigue is so real. I often get annoyed when I feel like I'm the 'default parent' but sometimes, as women it's hard to speak up and ask our partners for help. So grateful for Jess and this channel as it's so real and raw, thank you ❤️
Jessica you don’t know how badly I needed this video as a mama to a toddler i can’t thank you enough 💖🙏I related to every word of this video
Aw thank you!!! ❤️ so happy it’s helpful
When I saw the title I started shaking my head and then saw it was you and was like, “alright this will be honest and good.” Glad I watched!
Mom and three and 7 month old is going through that sleep regression this and went from sleeping through the night to waking up 20 times a night, which rippled and now the other kids are not sleeping well. Ugh. Sleep torture is so maddening and causes depression.
I swear to God, you are my guardian angel. I think you are to many people. I needed this! Thank you so much!
Your glasses look incredible on you! 🔥🔥🔥
I’d love to see the clothing item video! This video was super helpful too! Since becoming a mom I’ve really found my environment and moving my body makes a difference to my mental health!
Love you so much friend! I’m so honored to know you and watch you change so many lives ❤️😘
Aw Rebecca i wish i could hug you today :) so thankful for you!
Just had my first child last week (a premie) and he’s going through his first growth spurt. This video could not have come at a more perfect time. Thanks, Jess!❤
Aw wow! Congratulations and hang in there! You are doing so good! ❤️❤️
Everytime I turn on your videos im left feeling so much better & I just love you. I have a 3yr old and a 1 year old solo and it is hard to not he tired but man were all out here trying lol. Also my 1 year old started walking yesterday ❤❤❤ im a michigan girl and I don't love a lot of the medical facilities here when it come to mother care.
Aw that makes me happy! You’re amazing :) Congratulations on your little one walking! So exciting!!
I so needed someone to talk about how nobody really cares or wants to know how you’re doing as a mom. It’s as if you’re bothering people for telling them you’re overwhelmed and struggling. But then when you’re in extreme crisis everyone wants to say “why didn’t you ask for help”? I’m like--I’ve been saying how tired I am and how hard it is and everyone just kept saying “it’s part of being a mom, comes with the job”--which is such a slap in the face bc nobody ever gets it.
I know I’m tired with days that I’m depressed and so anxious I can’t even understand how I’m supposed to be everyone’s everything.
Ugh. Thank you for the realness of that cartoon with the house on fire while you’re saying “I’m fine”.
Yeah i find people don’t understand unless they have experienced it too! In our online community we have a lot of moms who share these feelings your describing! If you ever want to join one of our zoom calls you might find it really helpful. We are on a break from them now but begin again in January! ❤️❤️
You talked about everything I keep deep inside because it feels easier to do. You are helping so many people with your vulnerability and tender honesty 💓. I feel heard even though you were the one talking. Thankyou!
Jess, thank you so much for making this video. I know I am not the only mother who needed to hear your words, thank you. ♥
Exactly what I needed today ❤
You have helped me on parenting so much over the years, what a breath of fresh air to not have to be always in love with it, thank you Jessica! ❤️
Thank you!!
To me you are always right on! Thank you for your helpful honesty and balanced view on parenting little people. So freshing!
My favorite are your more vlog style videos. I love your older videos like that.
More to come!
Needed to hear this!! ❤ would love a kids gift guide and you’re clothing idea sounds great too 😊🥳🎄
Thank you!! Love this feedback :)
🙏👏 tired mama here with an 18 month old who still wakes up during the night and 4 months pregnant with #2! The laughing guy who starts crying clip had me lol ing 😂 love your honesty and genuine communication about this topic! Thank you for sharing!
Just another tired mama here with an 18 month old who still wakes up and also 4 months pregnant with number 3 lol 🤪
I needed this. WHEW!! Currently with a 2 month old.
So very validating! Thank you for understanding!
This was perfect- exhausted today due to bed sharing with a wriggly toddler. Also one of your earlier videos (I don’t like being a mom) helped me through a really difficult time when my daughter was first born. It really helped me to think about all the lovely things to come!
Aw wow thank you so much for watching & letting me know! Lots of love to you guys on this Friday ❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing, I really enjoy your channel! You mentioned that your living space is small, and I'm sure a lot of families struggle with space! I would be interested to see how you manage your space and storage, and is there room-sharing for your little ones and how that works/how they find it? Things that have and haven't worked maybe would be great for a future video :) Thank you, and have a lovely Christmas and New Year!
Thank you so much for suggesting this as a topic! I would be happy to make a video about this ❤️❤️
Love this! And yes, when you publish new content - I am notified :) I remember being soooo tired raising kids! And when the grandkids are here… that makes me tired too but not like the moms and dads! So glad my youngest grandkid is finally sleep trained! I LOVE the plant analogy ❤ I’m on the other side of motherhood - my advice is make those memories that you can look back on - some of my favorite memories are simple - like taking the kids out to drive through rain puddles and listen to them laugh. Or a simple dinner of spaghetti and eating with hands only. You don’t need Disneyland or a huge trip to make a memory. And I took plenty of naps when my kids napped - probably twice a week or so. You’ll get through the crying. Sometimes just changing the environment- a screaming kid into the bathtub will change everything. Not always but most times.
Aw I love you thanks for watching and commenting :) I always wonder what you were like when the boys were little - before we met you. You don’t seem like the napping type 😂 I remember you taking us all in the car on the big hills in Black Forest, listening to loud music and laughing so hard. Such good memories and not as expensive as Disney. You’re a good mom :) I am so thankful for you.
@@jess_hover I love you too, honey! Meredith still talks about the bug on the windshield!
This was great! Your videos are soothing to my soul!! ❤
I'm so glad! Thank you!
Omg, “I am doing however you need me to be doing.” That quote shocked me!! It’s so true lol
SO thankful for this word...much needed as a mom of a 6 month old and a 2 year old. Hugs and thanks from Seoul, Korea!
Aw hi! Thank you so much for watching :) i lived in Korea as a child and my stepmom is from there ❤️❤️
@@jess_hover WOW, what a small world! Incredible! You are such a light, dear! Praying for energy and stamina over you as you pour into others!
Love this. Love you. Thanks for sharing! You are a gift. ❤
I was literally just thinking this today (how can I fix being so tired? And totally related to the health fears/challenges) Thank you for the kind and gentle pointers... needed this video this evening xx
THANK U SOOOOO MUCH I needed this honesty please make more videos
YYEEESSS to the clothing guide!
Hey thanks for the vid 😊 definitely helps! My baby just turned 6 months today! Something I've been struggling with is raising this little girl with my partner and neither of us have good relationships with our families so we really don't have much help or moral support in person. Would you do a video on how to both cope AND how to find that kind of community without needing to spend money? Thanks xo
I second this! We have no family near, moved to a new place recently, so no friendships yet, and we're not comfortable leaving our kid with someone we found on internet. & we both work full time, so no chance of reconnecting during childcare hours... We need "flesh and bone", in person, community...
Ugh such a great video I wish everyone could watch it
Thank you Jessica! I relate to everything you say! Lots of love from Dubai ❤
I love all of your content
Thank you! ❤️
Oh my gosh will you be my best friend/counselor? 😂. I’m going through all of the things you talked about and I don’t feel alone now. Thank you!
Awww what a compliment! Thank you!! So happy I could help you!! 💛💛
Girl you betta preach 👏🏽❤️ this was a whole word!
OMG this is so good ❤
Thank you, I found this so helpful
Could you do a video on capturing sweet moments or moments you don't want to forget? I have a 5 yr journal when I had my second baby and I don't keep up every day but I've been logging some cool moments and every day there's a fun or thoughtful prompt that helps me write a super short and sweet memory or thought. Do you keep a journal or note on your phone or something?
Love the topic 😅❤
Thank you for your words of advice and wisdom. I feel less alone listening to your life experiences and perspectives! I as well struggle with depression + a sprinkle of anxiety and panic. But something that I've been feeling and struggling with over this past year is guilt in motherhood. Is this a big struggle for other mothers?
thank you so much for this video, I am a first time mom of a 4 month old and I am tiiiiired. This was really encouraging.
Aw you’re right in the thick of it! Hang in there, you’re amazing :)
When you said that you feel like you're on all the time and waking up and going to bed to crying children. Yes to both of these! Lately I'm struggling with these things. I'd also like to see what the brain does when it is being cried and whined at lol I know mine doesn't do well with it! Trying to figure out how to balance finding time to feel like myself, stay connected with my husband, be present and patient with my kids, work. It seems impossible. I know it's just a phase but right now I feel defeated.
What if your in conflict with your 3.5 year old daily because he does not listen? That is draining me. The crying kids is my life too. Thanks for posting this. I hope it gets better.
Those memes were hilarious 😂
Hi Jessica, thank you for your videos and always helpful tips. I truly appreciate your channel! In regards to content I would love to see, could you maybe share your experience on how to tell your kid(s) that they will be having (another) sibling? Thank you ❤
Great idea thank you so much Jennifer :)
Yes to all this. I have a 2.5 year old and a 7 month old and my husband and I are finding ourselves keeping score so much more often than we used to. We hate it and it is exhausting. Would love to hear your perspective on what I think is a fairly common pitfall of marriage with young kids. Merry Christmas :))
Such a normal struggle and one day we can make a video about this! Hang in there! ❤️❤️ you guys are carrying a lot and both depleted. It gets easier.
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I love you 😘
Great video, not just for parents, but for anyone living in high demand situation with their family role, work or else.
I have 3 more suggestions: small daily routines, doing something you love every day and stay away from social media comparison trap.
For daily routines you can look up The Secret Slob (or FlyLady system). That helps you like you still have accomplished something important even if it was just get dressed and eating breakfast. Tiny habits also is a good tool.
Doing something you love is like take your oxygen mask first before helping others: you need to be your own n. 1 priority, for as long as you live!