I feel guilty for hating moments of motherhood because I know for some women it’s a dream and not all can obtain it and I was (and I know I am) so blessed to have this beautiful baby she is my world but It’s sooooo hard sometimes 😩😩 and you help me with dealing with the guilt because I believe all mommies feel this we just don’t all say it out loud but I do feel happiness so deeply when the fun cute moments are happening that I think it cancels out the hardest of nights!!
I sit here watching this video while juggling nursing my reflux baby on one side and pumping on the other side, my body hurts and I’m sleep deprived and hungry and I kind of want to cry, but hearing this is like having a friend tell me it’s going to be okay, and I so, so needed that today. Thanks Jess.
Jess you have no idea how much I needed this today. I just deleted all my social media apps and scheduled an appointment with my doctor to talk about how I’m feeling. I waited for my daughter for 2.5 YEARS and I am so in love with her, but it has been rough. Thanks for letting me have a good cry. I’m going to snuggle my baby a little more today 💗
10 days postpartum. This video couldn't have come at a more perfect time. Feeling all of those feelings and it's comforting to know they're normal! Relieves so much pressure. Thank you for what you do!!
I half read the title "for the discouraged Mom or Dad" and l was here!!! Is this not every parent at some point this year? New Mum old Mum and everything im between Mum l applaud you, you are doing the best you can and that is good enough friends. Jess wishing you and your family the blessing of health and happiness in 2021, thankyou for everything you have done for us this year. 🙏
You were meant for RUclips, never ever leave!!! My baby isn’t born yet, but I’ve been watching your videos the last 6 months while pregnant and I cannot stress how helpful you’ve been.. such a beautiful resource to have and I actually feel like you’re one of my friends. Thanks for doing what you do Jess!!! 🥰
Thank you for this. I literally watched this while nursing my fussy 5 week old newborn who just puked all over me. I’m a first time mom and I do feel like this phase will never end. Thank you for reminding me that it will get better. I have been watching your channel since I found out I was pregnant in March and it has been a source of encouragement to me. Bless you!
I'm literally watching this while pumping for my 5 week old baby as a first time mom too. We can do this ladies and we are already doing our best which is enough ❤
My mom recently told me (I’m 38), that the years when we (my siblings and I) were babies went by so quickly. She still longs for her babies who are now adults.
Hello fellow Maggie 🤗 my baby is 11 weeks old and I promise it gets better ! I remember the first few weeks being so hard and now I feel like things are so much easier and enjoyable , still have my bad days but there is far more good then bad.
Thank you for being so open! I have a 5 year old, when he turned 4 that’s when I felt like I could breathe again. Now here I am with a beautiful 6 week colicky,gassy baby. When I had my son I had horrible postpartum depression. I had gotten married and moved away from family ( about 2 hours away). My husband worked late and I was all alone. It was such a low time in my life that I’ve blurred most of it out and all this time I wished I could of enjoyed it and told myself that if I ever had another baby I would enjoy it to the max. WELL here I am, my circumstances are soo different. I have friends tons of friends got really involved in church being a teacher and the pandemic started and that’s when I found out I was pregnant. Once my baby was born I felt lost. I felt so angry at Covid. It took my wish of enjoying everything away. All my friends couldn’t come, here I was all alone once again!!! The first few weeks we’re rough. I would watch movies and just cry and cry( wishing I could be like the characters all happy going out and interacting but couldn’t because of Covid) sounds silly but it’s something hard to deal with. Then once my hormones settled my baby started being colicky and gassy. I’m still trying to figure out what will help. I don’t want to give up breastfeeding as it’s been a struggle since the beginning and feel like this is the only good I can do.
I hear you mama!! You are not alone. At night remember when you feel lost, there are so many parents out there struggling through the night just like you and I.
How is everything now? It seems that colic ends around 13 weeks(it did for mine), your baby should be about that age now? Are you able to breathe, and sleep, a little easier?
Mom of four here and I totally needed to hear this. Even though I'm not new at motherhood, I still get overwhelmed and discouraged and this was such a breath of fresh air. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this! I have a six month old, and I remember feeling exactly that way, and it makes me feel better to know that I am not alone in this.
I had my first little bean on the 12th and it's been soooo hard. He was 5 weeks early. Things have been crazy but the encouragement is so so so needed. The struggle is real!
Thank you so much for this ❤️. Watching while my 3 week old finally naps. Been several nights of cluster feeding and my days and nights are blurring together. Terrified of my husband going back to work next week. Just feeling so overwhelmed
@@MrsFern3y yes it definitely gets so much better! My daughter is almost 2 now and i love the toddler stage so much. Starting around 6 months I really started to love motherhood. You’ve got this!
Not in postpartum right now but YES. I remember after my c-section how horrible it felt most of the time, honestly. Now parenting an almost 2-year old only having experienced doing it during a Pandemic makes me jealous of other moms of "the past." They could go to the library multiple times per week, music classes, swimming classes, the grocery store wasn't militarized with arrows on the ground. BUT, yes it's temporary and if we can find the good, the joy, the beauty (anything... like 5 mins in the car alone blasting music), and savor it, we can get through anything and not only survive but thrive.
I needed this so much ! Mom of 4 weeks old baby boy and nursing every hour ! Even at nights !! Anyone with problem like this ?? No sleep at nights and my baby is really hard to sooth. But this is temporary and meaningful ! Thank you. Keep swimming !!
I know it may be the angle and that you’re being super safe. But that candle in the back is making me nervous 😅 anyways THANK YOU for this video and all of the videos you make. 💕
Um, yeah. I'm so glad you made this later version because it perfectly captures the fatigued mom still doing her best to get some **** done, lol. I was laughing and crying with you...as my just 4 month old girl (first baby) was down for the night. She's been so so amazing, but it's also been a wild challenge. Honestly, that analogy about swimming to an island was priceless, Jess, and I REALLY connected with it. Thank you so much for constantly being brave and opening your heart and life to us so that other momma don't have to feel so isolated and alone in their process.
I had my first baby during COVID quarantine, I did not have any classes to go to, I don't have any advice from anyone that actually helps me, it's all the same bullshit that I can read off of any pamphlet, but not the real stuff that I need to know. I find myself crying more now that she's 10 months and that I might not be a good enough mom for her and what if I'm doing everything wrong.. Ugh Also, the World right now, I love her so much, but was it a good idea to bring her into this? ugh. my mind just doesn't seem to stop lately, does this get better?? Thank you for such a supportive video
My baby is going to be 4 weeks old and I so needed this video. I am exhausted and feels alone and helpless because I’m Breastfeeding her and she’s practically sleeping on me at night Because she wakes up once I put her in her bed. This is temporary and worth it.
I just love how real and vulnerable you are. Your truth and compassion is just amazing. That season of my life is long over. My daughter is where you are.. Your words help me to better support her in this season. I want to be that help I wish I would have had. Thanks for all you do!! You are an amazing mother and human!
Every time I see a video like this I want to take it to a sleep doctor and confront them. If babies evolved like this then obviously sleep isn’t the necessity doctors - who work 24 hour shifts for four years in their residencies - try to make us think it is.
Revelation 1:17-18 When I saw Him, I fell at His feet as though dead. But He laid His right hand on me, saying, "Fear not, I am the first and the last, and the living one. I died, and behold I am alive forevermore, and I have the keys of Death and Hades."
Thank you so much for this video. I am in the middle of the ocean right now and I feel like I’m drowning. I have 7 week old twins and I am not happy right now. I had a complicated pregnancy, delivery, and my one baby has really bad reflux and keeps choking on it. We have been in and out of the hospital since they were born and this was not the introduction to motherhood that I was expecting or dreaming of. I struggled with infertility for 10 years and finally got pregnant by IVF with twins boys, they are beautiful and I love them but I do not like the newborn stage because our experience has been nothing but terrifying. I am always anxious that my one baby is going to stop breathing when he has an episode. I know what I’m experiencing isn’t typical, but I needed to hear this video. My babies were also preemie born at 35 weeks and yes they are very different from term babies I feel like we are in the same season of life, thank you for your videos they make me feel normal. I literally thought it wasn’t a good mommy for the thoughts I was having because no one I knew was ever honest about postpartum depression. Thank you for your honesty and rawness you are doing an amazing thing for other mommies!
Thank you so much for this. We just passed month 4 in the NICU and I am so exhausted. Having to rally myself for her discharge (still unknown as to when) and those early months alone with her. We are pretty isolated from family also and I'm not feeling any bliss about this. Nice to hear I'm not alone. I'm still struggling with ppd and she isn't even home yet. I know there it will get better and the only way out is through.
Hi Jess! Thanks for you encouragement and sharing. I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old, and I love being a mom but I also suffer severe anxiety and depression at times. Life feels so hard sometimes and the guilt that comes with it is crushing but to know I’m not alone helps so much! So thanks for being a friend (albeit online) x
A much needed video for me - especially today seeing as I had quite the meltdown about being overwhelmed with my 5 wk old. I feel so sad for him to grow up, I don't want him to get bigger but I'm also so ready for things to be easier and life to have more routine. How can I want both things??
Although my baby is 12 months old, he has special needs from a brain injury at birth and at times my life still feels like he is a newborn. Today was so so hard for me. I’m pretty sure I cried more than he did. My neck and back are so tense from the amount of stress I have as a special needs mama. I loooooove my baby and I looooove being a mom, but we have had obstacle after obstacle after obstacle, and it just wears on you. Needed this video :’(
I needed this video, your video is an answer to my prayers. Thank you. My baby is 3 months old and he has tetralogy of fallot (critical congenital heart defect) and I feel so tired and so overwhelmed and like I am a horrible mom because I get upset when he wakes up all through the night, thank you for the reminder to cherish even those moments. I feel so encouraged and like maybe I am not a horrible mom. I try my best and I love him with all my heart, it is just so overwhelming right now. But I see that paradise island thanks to you :)
Can you talk more about how you ended up making the decision to go to a mental hospital for help? And how that process was during and after? Thanks for making this video as my 6 week old baby girl is next to me napping. I’m waiting for her to wake for her next feeding
I really relate to your content and you are so kind and well spoken especially with all you are facing. Also, I had a dream that I found you and rescued you from an abusive situation.. I’m sure it’s only a dream but maybe a sign of how worthy you are as a mom and person that your viewers care about you back. My daughter was born premature in June. Hang in there you are doing so well!!
Wow I've googled all of these things! In the newborn stage I felt like I would rather get in an accident so I could go to hospital and have a break. I'm 6 months in now and it's so much more fun but my baby still wakes hourly at night. Can't wait until the day I can sleep again 😅
I had such a hard time with my first baby.. it was just something I wasn't looking forward into going thru again.. he's now 7 and I have my 2nd baby on the way. Thus maybe why it took us so long to have another baby coz I didn't want to go thru it again.. and now I am honestly anxious again about having another baby.. I don't know if I'll be able to survive it again, now all on our own, we don't have help anymore.. so I am really honestly scared to go through it again.. i feel like a bad mom, but it is what it is..
Hi Jess, thank you so much for sharing. I am breastfeeding as well and my son also does not want a bottle either. Amohelang is now 5 month’s old and it was the hardest thing in my life I have ever done, but the most rewarding. I enjoy listening to your videos as it feels like I am listening to a friend that understands exactly what a mom goes through. Thank you and may you and your beautiful family have a blessed new year.
I think a lot of people are scared to talk about how hard it is because one does want to appear ungrateful. All my friends thought motherhood was the greatest thing ever and I found it hard. You have to find "your people". Refreshing to find a mom that is honest.
Nursing didnt work out for me like I wanted it to so I'm breastfeeding my baby through bottles and I also constantly feel like my life revolves around pumping milk for her and I havent left my house in weeks. Its a defeating and overwhelming feeling that I'm failing as a parent and that Ill never get a sense of freedom ever again. I love my daughter with all my heart but my mental health is definitely suffering.
I truly believe that 90% of all parents had a hard time with their infants in the first couple of months or even under 1 year old, so keep these videos coming!
the best video i have ever seen. must share with all my new mom friends. Im a first time mom with a 5 month old and pregnant with another so this was super helpful and reassuring! thank you
Your swimming to an island analogy makes so much sense to me and makes me feel a little better prepared for what I'm getting into when I have my first in March. Thanks for your honest, but still positive perspective.
Jess - YOU are amazing. I like you so much! 😁 This video made me cry with happiness because it gave me hope to be able to get through motherhood myself when my baby comes. I loved it and it helped me a lot. Thank you. ♥️
Thank you for this video. I’m a FTM & almost 3 weeks postpartum & I have been feeling so overwhelmed & I’ve been struggling with all these new changes. These words were something I really needed to hear. My boyfriend is headed back to work full time next week & I’ve been struggling. Thank you so much for reminding me that this is all temporary & meaningful.
Thank you Jess. I needed this. My daughter is currently 6 weeks and though i haven’t brought myself to be able to cry. I feel it. This really helped me. Thank you thank you.
Saved for when I have the baby I want so much ❤️ Jess, you might be the most important person on the internet right now. I’m pretty sure you’re saving lives 💖😘💯
Hey, I'm due in March as well, with my first, and I'm definitely having moments of thinking, "What have I done?!?!" On the one hand I'm so thankful to get to be a mom, but there are definite moments when I fear the unknown. It helps me to known that I don't have to have all the answers - my mom certainly didn't, and I survived, and so did she! I keep thinking of all the women throughout history who have had babies, and that calms me for some reason. If so many women have done it, I can too. Also....reminding myself of God's love really helps. He knows me, and loves me, and He may give me more than I can handle, but only so that I can roll it on to Him, and let Him carry it for me. I think He wants to use this experience to teach me how much I can trust Him. .....Just wanted to say that and send you a virtual hug. Don't be scared! This will be one of the most special times of our lives! Cheering for you!
Oh my goodness! I had my son in April and I googled that same thing, “how long can I go without sleep before I die”. But it was seriously so much better by the time I went back to work at 12 weeks. ❤️the newborn phase is so HARD! I told my husband, we need metals or a T-shirt or something to acknowledge the great feat we accomplished 😂 What really helped me is I would go to sleep at 7 pm and sleep until 10, 11 or sometimes midnight while my husband watched the baby. Then I would do the rest of the night and if the baby slept more it was awesome but if not I had some rest to get me through the night!
OMG!!! Thank you so much for creating this video! Passing it along to all my soon-to-be mama friends and new/first time moms! Wish I had this video when I first became a mama back in August! 😭😭😭😭😭 The struggle is real and a lot of what you discussed in this video, I could definitely relate to in the first few weeks!!! It DOES get better though mamas!!!🤗
Omg. I needed this so much 🙏❤️Usually nothing helps when I feel depressed or hysterical because I can’t get my baby to sleep. I just have to live through all my emotions, even if it’s 4am and it takes 1-2h for me to just calm down and put my baby to sleep again. This video helped ALOT. After a hard night and feeling like I can’t do this anymore your words gave me hope. Thank you Jess ❤️ You are an amazing person. Keep doing these kinds of videos!
Dear Jess, I love your videos. This one really hit home... Single-mom of a 1-year old here! I actually had goosebumps watching this. I learned a lot from you already, my new mantra now will be “this is temporary and meaningful”. Thank you so much, I wish I could hug you ♥️ You are a beautiful person inside and out and a gift to us all. Also, perfect analogy with the shore-swimming-paradise island 🏝 lol! We’ll get there someday. Love always!! Aud
I feel guilty for hating moments of motherhood because I know for some women it’s a dream and not all can obtain it and I was (and I know I am) so blessed to have this beautiful baby she is my world but It’s sooooo hard sometimes 😩😩 and you help me with dealing with the guilt because I believe all mommies feel this we just don’t all say it out loud but I do feel happiness so deeply when the fun cute moments are happening that I think it cancels out the hardest of nights!!
Crying while watching this as my daughter naps and I’m 11 weeks pregnant. Thank you, Jess for your honestly and words of wisdom! ❤️
I sit here watching this video while juggling nursing my reflux baby on one side and pumping on the other side, my body hurts and I’m sleep deprived and hungry and I kind of want to cry, but hearing this is like having a friend tell me it’s going to be okay, and I so, so needed that today. Thanks Jess.
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I cried watching this because it’s just so unbelievably relatable (first time mom to a 7 week old baby boy). Thanks Jess!!
First time Mom to a 7 week old baby girl. 7 weeks old today. We got this!!
@@amyrichcreek @jennifersarah I'm a first-time mom and my baby girl will be 7 weeks old this Saturday! Keep up the good work! Hugs xo Rachel
The sound from the video was so quiet I had the volume all the way up but the ads blasted in my ears. 😬
Not sure if anyone else had that issue
Yes. I’m having a hard time hearing it over my toddler and 7 month old playing lol
So sorry!!! Ughhhh the technology was failing me in making this video so i ended up making it on my phone. Forgive me for the low volume!
@@MummaQuan 🤣
Jess you have no idea how much I needed this today. I just deleted all my social media apps and scheduled an appointment with my doctor to talk about how I’m feeling. I waited for my daughter for 2.5 YEARS and I am so in love with her, but it has been rough. Thanks for letting me have a good cry. I’m going to snuggle my baby a little more today 💗
10 days postpartum. This video couldn't have come at a more perfect time. Feeling all of those feelings and it's comforting to know they're normal! Relieves so much pressure. Thank you for what you do!!
Thank you for keeping it real and expressing your vulnerability! You are doing amazing lady! We got this 💜💜💜
I half read the title "for the discouraged Mom or Dad" and l was here!!! Is this not every parent at some point this year? New Mum old Mum and everything im between Mum l applaud you, you are doing the best you can and that is good enough friends. Jess wishing you and your family the blessing of health and happiness in 2021, thankyou for everything you have done for us this year. 🙏
You were meant for RUclips, never ever leave!!! My baby isn’t born yet, but I’ve been watching your videos the last 6 months while pregnant and I cannot stress how helpful you’ve been.. such a beautiful resource to have and I actually feel like you’re one of my friends. Thanks for doing what you do Jess!!! 🥰
Your honesty is a gift and blessing.
Thank you for this. I literally watched this while nursing my fussy 5 week old newborn who just puked all over me. I’m a first time mom and I do feel like this phase will never end. Thank you for reminding me that it will get better. I have been watching your channel since I found out I was pregnant in March and it has been a source of encouragement to me. Bless you!
Same! Mine is 2 weeks and things are hard and feel like things will be hard forever.
I'm literally watching this while pumping for my 5 week old baby as a first time mom too. We can do this ladies and we are already doing our best which is enough ❤
My mom recently told me (I’m 38), that the years when we (my siblings and I) were babies went by so quickly. She still longs for her babies who are now adults.
Hello fellow Maggie 🤗 my baby is 11 weeks old and I promise it gets better ! I remember the first few weeks being so hard and now I feel like things are so much easier and enjoyable , still have my bad days but there is far more good then bad.
Sounds like your baby needed to be burped not fed?
I’m a new mom ( so help me God) as I sit on the toilet sobbing at how hard this is. I needed this more than you know.
Jess for president ❤🙌💙
My five week baby cried for three hours straight last night. This video came at just the right time.
Thank you for being so open!
I have a 5 year old, when he turned 4 that’s when I felt like I could breathe again. Now here I am with a beautiful 6 week colicky,gassy baby. When I had my son I had horrible postpartum depression. I had gotten married and moved away from family ( about 2 hours away). My husband worked late and I was all alone. It was such a low time in my life that I’ve blurred most of it out and all this time I wished I could of enjoyed it and told myself that if I ever had another baby I would enjoy it to the max. WELL here I am, my circumstances are soo different. I have friends tons of friends got really involved in church being a teacher and the pandemic started and that’s when I found out I was pregnant. Once my baby was born I felt lost. I felt so angry at Covid. It took my wish of enjoying everything away. All my friends couldn’t come, here I was all alone once again!!!
The first few weeks we’re rough. I would watch movies and just cry and cry( wishing I could be like the characters all happy going out and interacting but couldn’t because of Covid) sounds silly but it’s something hard to deal with. Then once my hormones settled my baby started being colicky and gassy. I’m still trying to figure out what will help. I don’t want to give up breastfeeding as it’s been a struggle since the beginning and feel like this is the only good I can do.
Enfamil AR?
I hear you mama!! You are not alone. At night remember when you feel lost, there are so many parents out there struggling through the night just like you and I.
How is everything now? It seems that colic ends around 13 weeks(it did for mine), your baby should be about that age now? Are you able to breathe, and sleep, a little easier?
Bridget Smit yes! Only lasted for 3-4 wks
Mom of four here and I totally needed to hear this. Even though I'm not new at motherhood, I still get overwhelmed and discouraged and this was such a breath of fresh air. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this! I have a six month old, and I remember feeling exactly that way, and it makes me feel better to know that I am not alone in this.
I had my first little bean on the 12th and it's been soooo hard. He was 5 weeks early. Things have been crazy but the encouragement is so so so needed.
The struggle is real!
You are just so good. Just a good good person. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this ❤️. Watching while my 3 week old finally naps. Been several nights of cluster feeding and my days and nights are blurring together. Terrified of my husband going back to work next week. Just feeling so overwhelmed
As a new mom of a three week old myself, I completely relate to this comment. Does it get better?
@@MrsFern3y yes it definitely gets so much better! My daughter is almost 2 now and i love the toddler stage so much. Starting around 6 months I really started to love motherhood. You’ve got this!
I cried so much watching this. I’m struggling so much right now, I needed this so much xxx
literally bawling watching this. thank you
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AND By the Way....THIS IS ONE OF YOUR ABSOLUTE BEST VIDEO-so authentic and the LOVE & TRUTH SHINES THROUGH!!!!
You've helped me flip my perspective so much Jess. Thanks for these videos ❤
2 under 2 club is difficult sometimes... but its all just a phase
Honestly, one of your best videos, which goes to show it isn't about production value-- it's about the person! YOU ARE AMAZING, JESS!
I so needed this today. My 3 month old has been crying all day long and I needed some encouragement.
Not in postpartum right now but YES. I remember after my c-section how horrible it felt most of the time, honestly. Now parenting an almost 2-year old only having experienced doing it during a Pandemic makes me jealous of other moms of "the past." They could go to the library multiple times per week, music classes, swimming classes, the grocery store wasn't militarized with arrows on the ground. BUT, yes it's temporary and if we can find the good, the joy, the beauty (anything... like 5 mins in the car alone blasting music), and savor it, we can get through anything and not only survive but thrive.
I needed this so much ! Mom of 4 weeks old baby boy and nursing every hour ! Even at nights !! Anyone with problem like this ??
No sleep at nights and my baby is really hard to sooth. But this is temporary and meaningful ! Thank you. Keep swimming !!
My baby boy just turned 1 mo old yesterday... watching your video made me cry, thank you SO MUCH for sharing your journey!!
I know it may be the angle and that you’re being super safe. But that candle in the back is making me nervous 😅 anyways THANK YOU for this video and all of the videos you make. 💕
Um, yeah. I'm so glad you made this later version because it perfectly captures the fatigued mom still doing her best to get some **** done, lol. I was laughing and crying with you...as my just 4 month old girl (first baby) was down for the night. She's been so so amazing, but it's also been a wild challenge. Honestly, that analogy about swimming to an island was priceless, Jess, and I REALLY connected with it. Thank you so much for constantly being brave and opening your heart and life to us so that other momma don't have to feel so isolated and alone in their process.
I had my first baby during COVID quarantine, I did not have any classes to go to, I don't have any advice from anyone that actually helps me, it's all the same bullshit that I can read off of any pamphlet, but not the real stuff that I need to know. I find myself crying more now that she's 10 months and that I might not be a good enough mom for her and what if I'm doing everything wrong.. Ugh Also, the World right now, I love her so much, but was it a good idea to bring her into this? ugh. my mind just doesn't seem to stop lately, does this get better?? Thank you for such a supportive video
My baby is going to be 4 weeks old and I so needed this video. I am exhausted and feels alone and helpless because I’m
Breastfeeding her and she’s practically sleeping on me at night Because she wakes up once I put her in her bed. This is temporary and worth it.
Thank you! Second time in the postpartum stage and it's been harder. Needed this!
I just love how real and vulnerable you are. Your truth and compassion is just amazing. That season of my life is long over. My daughter is where you are.. Your words help me to better support her in this season. I want to be that help I wish I would have had. Thanks for all you do!! You are an amazing mother and human!
Every time I see a video like this I want to take it to a sleep doctor and confront them. If babies evolved like this then obviously sleep isn’t the necessity doctors - who work 24 hour shifts for four years in their residencies - try to make us think it is.
Revelation 1:17-18
When I saw Him, I fell at His feet as though dead. But He laid His right hand on me, saying, "Fear not, I am the first and the last, and the living one. I died, and behold I am alive forevermore, and I have the keys of Death and Hades."
You don't know how much I needed this today. Thank you for your videos, it helps me a lot and I wish I found it sooner. You're amazing.
Thank you so much for this video. I am in the middle of the ocean right now and I feel like I’m drowning. I have 7 week old twins and I am not happy right now. I had a complicated pregnancy, delivery, and my one baby has really bad reflux and keeps choking on it. We have been in and out of the hospital since they were born and this was not the introduction to motherhood that I was expecting or dreaming of. I struggled with infertility for 10 years and finally got pregnant by IVF with twins boys, they are beautiful and I love them but I do not like the newborn stage because our experience has been nothing but terrifying. I am always anxious that my one baby is going to stop breathing when he has an episode. I know what I’m experiencing isn’t typical, but I needed to hear this video. My babies were also preemie born at 35 weeks and yes they are very different from term babies I feel like we are in the same season of life, thank you for your videos they make me feel normal. I literally thought it wasn’t a good mommy for the thoughts I was having because no one I knew was ever honest about postpartum depression. Thank you for your honesty and rawness you are doing an amazing thing for other mommies!
Thank you so much for this. We just passed month 4 in the NICU and I am so exhausted. Having to rally myself for her discharge (still unknown as to when) and those early months alone with her. We are pretty isolated from family also and I'm not feeling any bliss about this. Nice to hear I'm not alone. I'm still struggling with ppd and she isn't even home yet. I know there it will get better and the only way out is through.
Hi Jess! Thanks for you encouragement and sharing. I have a 2 year old and a 1 year old, and I love being a mom but I also suffer severe anxiety and depression at times. Life feels so hard sometimes and the guilt that comes with it is crushing but to know I’m not alone helps so much!
So thanks for being a friend (albeit online) x
A much needed video for me - especially today seeing as I had quite the meltdown about being overwhelmed with my 5 wk old.
I feel so sad for him to grow up, I don't want him to get bigger but I'm also so ready for things to be easier and life to have more routine. How can I want both things??
Although my baby is 12 months old, he has special needs from a brain injury at birth and at times my life still feels like he is a newborn. Today was so so hard for me. I’m pretty sure I cried more than he did. My neck and back are so tense from the amount of stress I have as a special needs mama. I loooooove my baby and I looooove being a mom, but we have had obstacle after obstacle after obstacle, and it just wears on you.
Needed this video :’(
AIR FIREWORKS 🎆 HAHAHAHA!!! LOVE IT AND YOU SOOOO MUCH!!!
I needed this video, your video is an answer to my prayers. Thank you. My baby is 3 months old and he has tetralogy of fallot (critical congenital heart defect) and I feel so tired and so overwhelmed and like I am a horrible mom because I get upset when he wakes up all through the night, thank you for the reminder to cherish even those moments. I feel so encouraged and like maybe I am not a horrible mom. I try my best and I love him with all my heart, it is just so overwhelming right now. But I see that paradise island thanks to you :)
Can you talk more about how you ended up making the decision to go to a mental hospital for help? And how that process was during and after? Thanks for making this video as my 6 week old baby girl is next to me napping. I’m waiting for her to wake for her next feeding
I really relate to your content and you are so kind and well spoken especially with all you are facing. Also, I had a dream that I found you and rescued you from an abusive situation.. I’m sure it’s only a dream but maybe a sign of how worthy you are as a mom and person that your viewers care about you back. My daughter was born premature in June. Hang in there you are doing so well!!
The audio on this video is a bit low, but thanks for making videos you help so much
Wow I've googled all of these things! In the newborn stage I felt like I would rather get in an accident so I could go to hospital and have a break. I'm 6 months in now and it's so much more fun but my baby still wakes hourly at night. Can't wait until the day I can sleep again 😅
I had such a hard time with my first baby.. it was just something I wasn't looking forward into going thru again.. he's now 7 and I have my 2nd baby on the way. Thus maybe why it took us so long to have another baby coz I didn't want to go thru it again.. and now I am honestly anxious again about having another baby.. I don't know if I'll be able to survive it again, now all on our own, we don't have help anymore.. so I am really honestly scared to go through it again.. i feel like a bad mom, but it is what it is..
I have a 6 week old and I have also googled if it’s possible to die from lack of sleep 😂
This made me laugh 😂😂😂 I have 7 kiddos, i definitely feel where you’re coming from!!
Hi Jess, thank you so much for sharing. I am breastfeeding as well and my son also does not want a bottle either. Amohelang is now 5 month’s old and it was the hardest thing in my life I have ever done, but the most rewarding. I enjoy listening to your videos as it feels like I am listening to a friend that understands exactly what a mom goes through. Thank you and may you and your beautiful family have a blessed new year.
I think a lot of people are scared to talk about how hard it is because one does want to appear ungrateful. All my friends thought motherhood was the greatest thing ever and I found it hard. You have to find "your people". Refreshing to find a mom that is honest.
Nursing didnt work out for me like I wanted it to so I'm breastfeeding my baby through bottles and I also constantly feel like my life revolves around pumping milk for her and I havent left my house in weeks. Its a defeating and overwhelming feeling that I'm failing as a parent and that Ill never get a sense of freedom ever again. I love my daughter with all my heart but my mental health is definitely suffering.
I truly believe that 90% of all parents had a hard time with their infants in the first couple of months or even under 1 year old, so keep these videos coming!
Thank you so much, I didn’t even realize how much I needed to hear this ❤️
Pixie dust of dry shampoo😂💦😂💦🤩🌟🤩
I love you. You’re an awesome lovely encouraging beautiful person. Thank you for being so real and honest with us
You have the most amazing relatable videos thank you 🙏💜
the best video i have ever seen. must share with all my new mom friends. Im a first time mom with a 5 month old and pregnant with another so this was super helpful and reassuring! thank you
Your swimming to an island analogy makes so much sense to me and makes me feel a little better prepared for what I'm getting into when I have my first in March. Thanks for your honest, but still positive perspective.
You make this world a better place. Thank you for all that you are!
I wish the volume was a bit louder. I turned my phone all the way up and can still barely hear you!😭
Jess, thank you so much for making this video.
So, so encouraging! Thank you!!! ❤️
Jess - YOU are amazing. I like you so much! 😁 This video made me cry with happiness because it gave me hope to be able to get through motherhood myself when my baby comes. I loved it and it helped me a lot. Thank you. ♥️
Thank you so much for this Jess
Thank you for this video. I’m a FTM & almost 3 weeks postpartum & I have been feeling so overwhelmed & I’ve been struggling with all these new changes. These words were something I really needed to hear. My boyfriend is headed back to work full time next week & I’ve been struggling. Thank you so much for reminding me that this is all temporary & meaningful.
Thank you Jess. I needed this. My daughter is currently 6 weeks and though i haven’t brought myself to be able to cry. I feel it. This really helped me. Thank you thank you.
i love the genuineness of this video, you’re the best whether you see it or not. huge help
entirely healed. from your shore now i know.
You're a beautiful human Jess. My 1 month old and I appreciate you! 💙
I bought some built bars and really enjoying the mixed box! I'm nursing and I'm glad you suggested them.
Your calm voice helped my 5 month baby finally fall asleep for a nap so thank you so much ❤️
Saved for when I have the baby I want so much ❤️ Jess, you might be the most important person on the internet right now. I’m pretty sure you’re saving lives 💖😘💯
I can relate so much
3 week old baby
Thank you, thank you and thank you Jess.
Jajaja te ameeeee! Graciiiias
Right on time. I was really struggling today. You’re amazing Jess
Oohhhhhh my gosh! This is so real... I love your metaphor 😅😅
Jess, you are an angel on earth. Thank you.
I'm watching this now to prepare myself! I'm due in March and terrified
Same, but due in Feb
Due in March too!
Hey, I'm due in March as well, with my first, and I'm definitely having moments of thinking, "What have I done?!?!" On the one hand I'm so thankful to get to be a mom, but there are definite moments when I fear the unknown. It helps me to known that I don't have to have all the answers - my mom certainly didn't, and I survived, and so did she! I keep thinking of all the women throughout history who have had babies, and that calms me for some reason. If so many women have done it, I can too. Also....reminding myself of God's love really helps. He knows me, and loves me, and He may give me more than I can handle, but only so that I can roll it on to Him, and let Him carry it for me. I think He wants to use this experience to teach me how much I can trust Him. .....Just wanted to say that and send you a virtual hug. Don't be scared! This will be one of the most special times of our lives! Cheering for you!
Thank you for this. ❤️
You are awesome Jess! Your swimming made me smile. First baby is due in 6 weeks.
You are the best cheerleader ❤️
I love your message so much 💕
All i hear is an ad for some bar...
I cry whenever you put out videos like this. I love them. Thank you
Happy New Year love!
Thank you! I really needed to hear this. ❤️
Oh my goodness! I had my son in April and I googled that same thing, “how long can I go without sleep before I die”. But it was seriously so much better by the time I went back to work at 12 weeks. ❤️the newborn phase is so HARD! I told my husband, we need metals or a T-shirt or something to acknowledge the great feat we accomplished 😂
What really helped me is I would go to sleep at 7 pm and sleep until 10, 11 or sometimes midnight while my husband watched the baby. Then I would do the rest of the night and if the baby slept more it was awesome but if not I had some rest to get me through the night!
Thank you!!!
Thank you xx
thank you!
Thank you
thank you! this was needed.
2:32 I like that😍💋 💝💖❤️
OMG!!! Thank you so much for creating this video! Passing it along to all my soon-to-be mama friends and new/first time moms! Wish I had this video when I first became a mama back in August! 😭😭😭😭😭 The struggle is real and a lot of what you discussed in this video, I could definitely relate to in the first few weeks!!! It DOES get better though mamas!!!🤗
Omg. I needed this so much 🙏❤️Usually nothing helps when I feel depressed or hysterical because I can’t get my baby to sleep. I just have to live through all my emotions, even if it’s 4am and it takes 1-2h for me to just calm down and put my baby to sleep again.
This video helped ALOT. After a hard night and feeling like I can’t do this anymore your words gave me hope. Thank you Jess ❤️ You are an amazing person. Keep doing these kinds of videos!
Dear Jess, I love your videos. This one really hit home... Single-mom of a 1-year old here! I actually had goosebumps watching this. I learned a lot from you already, my new mantra now will be “this is temporary and meaningful”. Thank you so much, I wish I could hug you ♥️ You are a beautiful person inside and out and a gift to us all. Also, perfect analogy with the shore-swimming-paradise island 🏝 lol! We’ll get there someday. Love always!! Aud