What To Do When A Narcissist “Love Bombs” You | Mel Robbins
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You need to understand what "love bombing" is and know these signs so you can protect yourself from a narcissist.
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They put you in a box, just like a tool. Then they pull out when it's convenient for you
Narcissists are broken people, selfish to the core. Stay well away and given the opportunity, walk out of their lives and never ever look back. 🙄
Mel, I fell for the narcissistic tactics again and I feel so stupid, because I know better!! Years ago I separated from my ex on extremely bad terms. He spent the last 5 months or so re-friending me, gained my trust, then helped me "clear out" my storage on the West coast; I'm currently on the East coast and it's difficult for me to afford the unit). He sold my unit, kept all the money, and told the buyer to donate or toss what the buyer didn't want. My WHOLE LIFE was in the unit. Then he texted me that this is what I get for ending the relationship in 2018. WOW! Narcissists have a level of revenge and manipulation that is unbelievable to normal people. He even stole the ashes of my ex-husband that were in the unit. Stay far away from any narcissist, once you break ties. They can't and shouldn't be trusted.
unfortunately, it's my grown son. 30 years since he lived close.
Sounds like you are dealing with someone with psychopathic traits; someone who is cunning, charming, manipulative, no remorse. Stop falling again for this person.
I'm so sorry !!
@@exotixzyro9755 They can really suck you in and somehow you don’t notice. But I hope someone reading this may learn from my mistake and you just can’t trust a narc. Ty for your empathy 🌷
Oh YES, YES, YES !! I kept pushing and pushing myself to try to make our marriage better FOR the kids. He is a narcissistic man who put me down daily. He did not want to change or work on the relationship. He would put me down laughing or smiling so the kids thought all was good...I finally hit my breaking point during 2020 lockdown when we were both at home, I was expected to continue to work at home, help the kids with online schooling, cook, clean, EVERYTHING on my own, while he was on leave, , along with hearing the little digs about my intelligence, weight, character, etc. I realized my boys were learning a dysfunctional marriage is 'normal'. I was crying so much, the kids started saying what HE would say, Oh here we go again, mom's feeling emotional again, or being a drama queen, etc. That's when I knew I needed to give my boys AND myself MORE. 20 yrs of an unhappy marriage. Don't make the mistake I made FOR the kids. They are now over their anger (dad told them i destroyed our family) and realize what was going on. They are happy that mom doesn't cry anymore.
wow!!
some of this conversation could be happening
right in my living room!!
gaslighting is sooo prominent in my
soon to end marriage!!
GL❤
Bravo! Get out safely. 🤐
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Safe People by Henry Cloud
So I married this person almost divorced- went to counseling- he actually had behaviors from narcissistic Mom- was able to heal through a lot and we are so happily married 7 years he is Mr compassion and in a safe relationship has become who he is- so just want to put that out there that this can occur from children of narcissist
I hope this is my future too! That’s great
All you can do is fix "your side of the street". 30 years of marriage and divorced a narcissist, you'd think I would recognize the next one? Nope. The first one ( my ex) never love bombed - I just thought I could "fix" him. Prince charming (who I knew for 30 years )came along during my divorce and love bombed. Cut to the end - great counseling and Melody Beattie's "Co-dependent no more " was a GAME CHANGER !! That and Forty Days to a miracle ( also by Beattie)- changed my life ! Figure out why you're co-dependent ( because you probably are if you attract narcissists). Trauma bond is a critical, real thing. I will never ignore the red flags again ! Good luck friends !!
🌸 yeah, I experienced the most mind blowing love bombing
I didn’t know what gas lighting was or love bombing
Unfortunately I had narcissist abuse from childhood, an aunt
Then ex fiancé, because I was so quiet and vulnerable, plus empathy and this is probably what drew them in
Anyway, his gifts were amazing and he made me feel as though we were made for each other
His actual words were you were made for me, I paid it no mind
Eventually once he couldn’t have me or manipulate me, boy did he get nasty fast
I’m still weary of people like this, and I don’t trust anyone anymore
I can’t handle anymore toxic behaviour and I am trying to heal 🕊
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
How can you tell if it’s just genuine love bombing because some men are like that regularly
Mel, always come to your channel to get some positive energy and learn some good shit and boi oh boi u hit the fan every time. I can’t believe how applicable this is to my life and how much I needed this video. Thank you so much for your amazing work🙏🏼✨😊
Great video!!!❤ How do we differentiate between the narcissistic lover and the avoidant attachment one?
Reminds me of an instagram couple…
"Keep your I.U.D. in. "😂😂😂☠️
Hi this is great advice and painful to listen to, especially when the person you looked up to isn’t the person you thought they were. This person is also my boss who caught me when I was at my most vulnerable coming out of a relationship break up. He is now trying to ‘help and advise’ another woman. I see how he works now, is it wise to warn her or do I keep out of it? Btw he still thinks he has me, but I’m trying my best to distance myself
Had a contractor come over for a job, and now he is calling and leaving messages w some weird things like the love bombing."Good morning my love, I need to hear your voice, you are under my skin, "it's scaring me" this is a older man talking like this. I have not responded back at all, never went out w him, want it to stop. 🧐😳
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Safe People by Henry Cloud
This needs to be reported to his manager and to the police. Stay in no contact.
Save the messages ans call police . That’s scary
so am i the only one here haha?!
i do not see a future with this marriage
my husband is narcissitic/unfaithful/gaslighting
and denies all
i was the one going to counseling....
i am perfectly happy looking forward to
being single for the rest of my life!
i dont want another partner yuk!!
i was getting more fit and that helped
distance us!
so i continue to work out and work out
of this shitty marriage(47years!!)
do you know anyone else like me?
Yes! 3.5 yrs ago, I ended a 20 yr emotionally abusive marriage. BEST thing I ever did for myself and my boys ( now ages 19 & 15).
Join the millions!
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
Ha ha ha! Leaving Maui 😁😁,,,for Realizes 😂
00:02 Love bombing is a narcissistic strategy in relationships.
02:13 Love bombing by narcissistic family members can manipulate the individual
06:14 Recognize and interrupt love bombing tactics
08:26 Recognize the signs of love bombing and not get swept away by it.
12:30 Practice self-reflection and awareness in interactions.
14:09 Love bombing is the early phase of a narcissistic relationship.
17:56 Beware of intense love bombing tactics.
19:44 Avoid making the narcissist defend their behavior.
23:07 Navigating long-term relationships and marriage advice
25:16 Staying in a relationship should be for yourself, not just for the kids.
29:19 Pausing to work on a relationship is important for avoiding regrets
31:28 Consider doing the work to improve your relationship before giving up
35:04 It's worth turning toward the person you're with now.
37:05 Relationships require both partners to work on it together.
41:15 Maintain privacy and boundaries in your marriage.
43:12 Resentment led to emotional disconnection in the relationship.
47:27 High arousal in pain and excitement can be a sign of being pulled in by past wounds.
49:20 Chemicals released when falling in love can replace underlying wounds and triggers
53:13 Adding a high five in the mirror to your morning routine has a profound impact on self-relationship.
55:19 Demonstrating self-love through actions is key to self-love.
59:23 High-fiving yourself in the mirror leverages neurobics and releases dopamine
1:01:15 High fives and positive gestures build belief and trust
1:05:11 Learning to forgive and accept ourselves is crucial for mental well-being.
1:07:22 Showing someone they matter can be as simple as sending a thoughtful message.
1:11:26 Small acts of kindness can make someone feel seen and valued.
1:13:26 Expressing love and appreciation is key in relationships.
1:17:37 Giving time and attention makes others feel valued.
1:19:47 Take the initiative to express love and appreciation to others.
Let Them
by Cassie Phillips
Just Let them.
If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM.
If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM.
If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM.
If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM.
If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM.
If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM.
If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM.
If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM.
Let them lose you. You were never theirs, because you were always your own.
So let them.
Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you.
Let them prove how worthy they are of your time.
Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life.
Let them earn your forgiveness.
Let them call you to talk about ordinary things.
Let them take you out on a Thursday.
Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to.
This is not Mel's phrase. Grrrr.
Ya don't think
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Hi Mel, I am being gangstalked by multiple strangers for now 11 months. They post images of themselves at my door, details of inside of my home, trying to get utilities shut off, posted my phone, address, employers, family members, car tag, vin... Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of emails, calls, texts. Sending people to my home - listing agents, landscapers .. siging me up for rehab dozens of times. i have footage.of a woman driving by using binoculars. Local law enforcement will do nothing. There are at least 3 people involved. I need help. I can't take much more of this. I am scared.
I can relate. They are looking for a response from you. Keep track, ask who placed the order, etc. The less attention they from you, the more it will die down. Negative or positive, it doesn't matter.
Gangstalking is a known subtype of psychotic delusion. You don't have to live this way. I know it seems real, that is what delusion is. Please seek help. If it was real, you would have copious evidence to turn in to police. The fact that you do not is one clue for you that you're suffering from delusion. Please seek out mental health care if you can.
Consult a lawyer.
Your phone needs to be wiped clean. New number. Change everything on your phone. Consult your cell phone company on this. Transfer this data to another phone.for evidence. Cyber stalking and electronic monitoring is a crime.. Beef up security at your home. Report identity theft to financial institutions, and government agencies.
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
I'm 52yrs. my dad's 81yrs yet every time I land my $75,000 biweekly return he sounds like an angel when asking for something!!!!!
Awesome, Tell me about it!!!!🙏
Ok, what the actual fuck, I observed someone in expressed mental health distress here and commented supportively, you deleted my reply. WHY?
@@bathemeinchampagne There was absolutely nothing abusive in my reply which would violate the terms of service.
Oh my God I hate how you continually repeat his failure over and over and then over again! Dang, find a new story girl.😜
Narcissism affects six percent of people and you shouldnt diagnose someone as that unless youre a licensed professional