If You Have Bipolar Disorder, DON'T DO THIS...
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
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Over 5 years ago, I uploaded a video called “the emotional drive-by.” It was a really popular topic. The video has over 100,000 views and talks about ways we can maintain better relationships. Especially with the people who have been there for us during the hard times. Considering how important the whole concept is, I figured I'd expand on the it and include a few more tips in this video. I hope y'all enjoy and find this a valuable addition to your Bipolar toolbox.
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That last bit about dropping all the pessimism on your partner really struck home. I'm very guilty of that. Looks like I have some work to do.
This video made me realize how much I trauma dump on my husband and how unfair that is to him. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. You're helping alot of people.
There are appropriate times to share your trauma and challenges with your partner. It's difficult to draw the line sometimes because of the trust and deep connection you have with them. Of course, they can also learn to draw some boundaries themselves. But most people who truly care for you want to help. This is a tough one.
Same here. I have very little support, still it is unfair to dump everything on him
“It feels like everything is an emergency and the smallest things are a crisis. I pick battles that I normally wouldn’t. I’ve done some of the worst damage to my relationships while in mixed episodes.”
YES!! This entire video is so relatable but that part right there, incredibly validating. My disappearing/ supporting cycle is strong. I have recently found the courage to share my current mental state with friends when I realize what’s happening. It’s taken 17 years years to get to this point.
I’m so glad the video is so relatable! I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and provide feedback. That means a lot to me. I hope that you will continue to stop by the channel and that you have a peaceful week. If you’d like to connect, there’s a link in the video description where you can reach me directly!
- Rob
@@PolarWarriors You do such a fabulous job with this channel. This is why I subscribe and do Patreon. So incredibly valuable.♥
You're looking very healthy, Rob. Good for you!
Thank you for this video. My son has bipolar 1 with ultra rapid cycling like you. Because if your videos I finally began to understand some of what was happening with him and how to help more often than trigger him worse by trying to give advise when he is too sick to hear me. It’s so confusing and heart wrenching for us family members doing our best to give support only to feel defeated and hopeless when we don’t have the tools to be of any help. I wish I had found you decades ago. You finally gave me hope for my son..,thank you and I pray God keep you
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord where we have a lot of family and partners who listen in and he holds a specific support group for family and friends as well. Would love to have you there!
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When I’m not feeling good, it’s always then when my sister calls and says something to really drive me into a rage. It takes me days to quell my anger. It takes me a while to get over it.
I had NO IDEA this was a bipolar symptom. I do this a lot and it's ruined friendships. I've done this to pretty much everyone in my life. I thought I was narcissistic, but maybe it's just part of the bipolar!
Very helpful. Thus helps me validate what I feel when my son texts me to vent about his problems and situations. It’s hard to know how to respond and answer because he asks questions to my responses and keeps the problem going. I am an Empath and it really drains me.
Yes being an empath sucks
Yep...extremely difficult for the person suffering and for those who care. Often helpful to reframe the problem with the person. However, when the person is extremely ill. The best is to suggest a good sleep and knock out meds.
Empath and bipolar. Tough to deal with my two bipolar daughters.
I’m bipolar type 2, my sister will call and complain about everything that triggers me to become angry and then anxiety sets in. Sometimes I just shut the phone off just to get some peace.
What do you need to do to protect your energy and peace of mind? What boundaries have you set to break this cycle between the two of you? You cannot control what your son does but you can change how you lovingly engage or disengage with him.
Being the one with bipolar disorder in my friend group, I never have time to vent. I'm always listening to everyone else. It's like I became their therapist and at times I feel I can't do it all the time. I've told people "I don't want to talk about that with you" no one really listens. And when I do want to talk, no one wants to hear it. I do have a therapist and I tell her stuff, but last week she told me I was arrogant for finally seeing that I had lost weight. I struggle with body dysmorphia and it has always been difficult not to see this fat person in the mirror. I was over 430 lbs once. She seemed like she was in a bad mood though. I'm hoping next session is back to normal.
Did she say specifically “you’re arrogant for saying you’ve lost weight”? Not saying she didn’t, I just know my Bipolar can really affect my perception sometimes. Just last Saturday I left a family get together because when I excitedly greeted my cousin and started asking her a bunch of questions about hedgehogs, she was kinda short with me and my brain took that as ‘she’s making fun of you, why are harassing her about shit no one cares about, everyone is going to make fun of you behind your back’ and so on. I drove home and cried in my car for hours. I knew that wasn’t the facts, but I couldn’t help how I felt. It was so intense 😕
"Arrogant" is pretty harsh from a therapist. My doc has never said anything that harsh in 25 years of going to him. Might want to think about shopping around, if you're not too attached. And if it's a viable option.
@scvtvCarnivore If you don't want to talk to someone about something, don't talk to them about it. If they push it, just stonewall them. Don't encourage that sort of toxic behavior.
If your therapist, who is trained to help you heal and grow, judges you, it is time for a new therapist. You deserve a caring and compassionate therapist who helps you heal and grow, not one who judges and therefore makes you feel "less than." Remember this: you are loved. You are loved just as you are. I wish you joy, peace and happiness; and a new therapist who cares and values you.
I recently recognized too that I was the friend who was really just the makeshift therapist for everyone else. They would emotionally dump on me, and I would sit there and just let them. There was no back and forth in the conversation -just non stop talking from them, with lots of negativity and drama. The rare time they would ask me how I am doing, I didn’t even feel comfortable being totally open with them because if they can’t manage themselves and their issues without emotionally dumping their trauma on me, how can I expect them to be a support for me? I have now set boundaries to no longer engage with people that will not have a reciprocal friendship of support and care with me. We must take care of ourselves because what good are we if we are broken?
And about your therapist, I would ask her why she made that comment about you being arrogant and be genuinely curious about what lead her to make that assessment of you. Her answer may very well reveal she is not the right therapist for you.
Best description of a mixed episode ever. I had my first recently (or at least first I recognized, my diagnosis is quite recent) and it was horrific. I described it as wanting to jump out of a plane but being unsure if I wanted to wear a parachute or not. Near impossible to get a grip on my emotions and figure out what I actually felt.
Been watching you on and off for years. Brother, you are usually spot on . Thank you for sharing your life with us. There are so many people that are afraid to come out and talk about. Mental illness, especially when it affects them directly. And really especially if you are a man we don't talk about our problems
There is absolutely a double standard with men. We, women are socialized to talk and garner a lot of support from those around us, and it is completely different for men. Men's world is often very cold and lonely. They're expected to be "tough" from the time they're in diapers. It's a real shame, because men need encouragement, support, tenderness, and love as much any women or human. They deserve as much of our compassion and care as anyone else. Yes, it is courageous to openly talk about these things. I just started my own RUclips channel sharing my experience as a psychiatric Nurse, RN(17+) years and my own personal journey with mental illness, - and it feels extremely vulnerable. I feel totally exposed. However, I'm doing it because I don't ever want anyone to feel ashamed, alone, or isolated. I want to support others on their healing journey.
Thank you. You are so sincere and kind. I manage bipolar and have for 23 years. Tough disorder. I thoroughly enjoyed your video. Great practical tips and I appreciated your genuine spirit. I learned many things and will apply your wisdom in my next mental health video. Thank you so much. God bless😊
You're a real warrior! It's a tough road and you're doing a great job.
Thank you!!
@@estherherbert-bipolarstrong What helped you cope over the years?
@@NeseretBemient all my life through good and bad God has been faithful to never leave me🙏
Thank you for making these videos. I live very reclusively because of my disorder and these videos are so helpful to me. I literally don't know another bipolar person, and though I'd never wish this on anyone, you sharing my struggle makes me feel like I'm not completely alone. Can't thank you enough, it takes a lot of bravery to do what you do.
Isolation is a real thing. It is extremely difficult on this journey. No one should do this on their own. We need as much encouragement, support, and love as we can receive. I'm glad you feel welcome in this community, and less alone. Keep coming back and engaging. There is hope. Sending you a virtual hug🙂Only if you'll receive it!
@@NeseretBemient That's really sweet, thank you!
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I get it it.
I hope you’ve been able to find more people to communicate with about this.
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@@ericfazekas1057 Thank you. I have a mom and husband who are very supportive. Appreciate your kind words. ☺
@@_Smarf_ Awesome! I'm working on fixing all of the relationships I have wrecked over the years because of this. So much positive out there but this thing is a daily battle to find it!
Keep finding it!!!
I love watching Polar Warriors videos while I clean. This video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m trying to learn how to cope with my struggles without using other people to unload on.
don't have bipolar myself but your videos help me understand the loved ones that do. I love listening to you talk dude your voice is so calming. thanks for doing what you do
Your loved ones are lucky to have someone like you who deeply cares🙂You're a gem!
As an empath and guilty party to trauma dumping, I have had to learn the hard way about leaning too hard on a friend. You can affect their whole mood and really suck the life out of them. We keep in touch but we're not as close as we used to be. Great topic to shed light on.
You’re looking good dude !! Healthy af !
Wow! I never wanted to label myself but damn everything you're saying is spot on with me. Always being there for everybody else. Trying to fix. Trying to help yet. I also am a recluse lately. But I love helping people with things I've learned and shared and positive and building people up and never ever work on myself. Dude, this is freaking spot on. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm so glad it popped up things that I might be interested in. I already subscribed to you a while back but this just popped up. You just posted in an hour ago. Well done my friend very well. Eloquently articulated and you communicate outstanding. You get your thoughts together and I'm sure you know all that. Anyway, sometimes we all need a pat on the back. And damn I'm patty you on the back. Well done my friend. My thing is I don't usually 99% time. I never share a challenges I'm going through. I keep it all in anyway. I'm just loving this video. Still watching
If you've never tried medication you should give it a shot I suck as a person with out them
God bless you my brother this helped a lot I just recently stopped using marijuana to self medicate and I’m having a rough going with it you helped me a ton thank you🙏🏽❤️
Thanks Rob. Just experienced this. I've finally managed to get meds after 3.5 years. You are spot on. 👌
This is so bloody true. It's nice to feel understood.
Isn't it so delicious?🙂
I'm bipolar and yet I'm the one people come to, use, wipe their shit on like im a doormat. Then I get blamed for asking for them to listen to me, and help me when I'm overwhelmed. I'm told that my problems are not as bad as mums, or as someone else, that I'm being dramatic, etc.
My mum has bipolar and is the worst person for this kind of thing. I'm not allowed to be unwell or overwhelmed..but I'm also not allowed to be happy if she isn't. She will deliberately wipe her shitty mood on me when I'm in a good mood, wait until my mood changes and then she feels better.
My siblings and parents expect me to be available for mum all the time because I am disabled and don't work. They don't seem to understand the mental drain and how mums dumping on me affects my mental health. I'm basically house bound so I can't just go away for a vacation somewhere.
I was diagnosed bipolar and borderline. Ive realized how irresponsible it is to date ever again. I have been coping with the realization my seed is poison and should not grow into another broken person, and its hard as fuck admittedly. I cannot date or do anything with anyone (Not due to actual failure in dating, just a personal moral choice), and my illnesses make me feel loneliness in a very intense manner. But this is a worthy sacrifice. Perhaps god birthed me to change perceptions on people like me, and thats my final purpose. I think the world pressures us to date and be with others in a romantic manner, but in solitude I have finally found the greatest path to healing from these conditions. For most others, I can see you all dating and having great families. But it is not a reality for many. I don't think a lot of us should date or engage in romantic relationships. I think we have to just swallow and accept.
Its a matter of time until you find a supporting partner. Were all worthy of love, no one is perfect. Don't give up, mate.
im bipolar and happy. you can have this disorder and live a good life. dont give up
This is a how to deal with toxic people video. This really demonstrates why people are so quick to cast us off to save their own mental health.
Over the years I have tried so hard to not say and do these types of things but being Bipolar 1 with acute mania, it can happen without me even knowing it's happening. Impulsion is a big issue and saying and doing things on impulse then later feeling bad about it. It's also hard for the other person to understand what's happening. I am very caring, loving, and nurturing. A mother of 4, was a nurse for 13 years; but... I can go from 0-100 in less than a sec. I lash out at people close to me and often push them away. It took me a long time to come to terms with my conditions; I am not in denial about my flaws, my behaviors, or my disorders. So, I almost expect people to not want to be around me. :/ Thank you for this channel.
I really appreciate these videos, especially that he uses “hypomania” and separates that from full blown mania. Not that hypomania isn’t serious or doesn’t cause problems. However, I experience extreme manic episodes…I just wish there was a voice for that. It’s pure insanity and sometimes even terrifying, bordering (and sometimes reaching) psychosis.
I’d love some suggested videos or channels if any are out there?
I've experienced both and they can be very challenging. I've also experienced a brief psychotic episode and that was wild. But I agree that a fully blown mania is debilitating. I went under the radar for awhile with hypomania because the intensity is less. Although, it can be insidious and damning in the end. I wouldn't wish either one on anyone. What helps you cope?
I have my own RUclips channel where I share my story and also a holistic approach to healing from mental health conditions. I implemented these powerful interventions the past 7 years and my condition is now in remission. My journey included medication but I was able to safely taper off and this year is the first time I haven't experienced hypomania or a depressive episode.
That’s awesome and I pray you can maintain your remission!
Thanks, I think I do this. Thanks for helping us be self-aware.
Self awareness is the first step to change, then self restraint and self mastery. You're well on your way🙂
Thank you so much for this post. My loved one trauma dumps on me constantly when he is low and it can be exhausting and overwhelming. Everything seems urgent and requires action right now. I burnt out physically and mentally in the end. Now that I know what it is called, I can set better boundaries and stick to them. Knowledge about bipolar helps to keep my whole family mentally safe, not just our oved one who has bipolar. The ripple effect is hard as a family to cope with without support.
I have no words for this vid.....it's true. Right now though I'm dealing with keeping my mom at ease since my dad fell and fractured his hip. He's still in hospital.
Your parents are lucky to have someone who loves them so much. You're kindness will go a long way to helping both of them on their journey. Love is always the right answer.
This was great information. I never knew the language to discuss how or what I was experiencing.
I'm so glad you found this to be so helpful! If you'd like to contact Rob directly and access even more content that's not available on RUclips, I'd encourage you to consider joining him on Patreon. He does reply to direct messages there and posts content of a more personal nature. I'll share the link below so you can check it out! :) -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
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This help me find my own words about how I feel, and the way I communicate with others
I understand my personal boundaries so much clearer. I am grateful.
You are looking well and healthy! Thanks for your videos.
I have a friend who does this in every conversation, and it's hard to figure out how to talk to them or even bring it up because they apologize a lot for doing it... But then never changes their behaviour. :/ I've become more conscious of when I do this even in the day-to-day with plain complaining about little things.
There is self awareness, and then there is self restraint, and self mastery. You and your friend are self aware, but you practice self restraint and self mastery. That's the difference. One is knowing and understanding and the other is taking action to prevent suffering. Kudos to you!🙂
I had a friend that emotionally dumped on me all the time and I could hardly get a word in on conversations. Our convos were constantly just 80% her talking. She constantly interrupted me even when she would ask for advice or she would give me the floor to speak. She was fully aware she was doing this, but it never stopped her. I always left conversations feeling so drained and exhausted after absorbing all of her negative energy. I put up with it for a year and finally decided a few months ago that I will no longer be having phone conversations with her. My mental health is just not worth enduring all the negativity, drama, and over talking. Friendships should feel reciprocal, and I just didn’t feel like she really could ever be there for me cause she was just always non stop talking about herself and could barely manage her own life - how can I expect that person to be a good friend to me. I set my boundaries with her and I am feeling much more peaceful not absorbing all that negativity and drama in my life.
@@NeseretBemient Thank you! I really like this perspective on it. :) Venting in a written journal helps me a lot. I had a call with this friend recently, and I might suggest to them that they take audio journals, because they have some neurodevelopmental disorders that impact their ability to write. It might be a helpful way for them to start working on self restraint, so they don't call all their friends (including me) to help them emotionally regulate.
@@KimJilene I'm starting to feel that I'm reaching that point... You're right about "absorbing" the negative energy. That's how I feel after all these conversations with them!
You look really good in yellow Rob. In good shape too!
I learned not to offload onto friends & family but i do let them know when i’m feeling depressed so they know it’s not them, it’s me.
Rob, watching your videos have helped me so much and help me feel not so alone. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar 2 and am in a depressive episode. Please continue to make these videos, you are touching many peoples hearts and helping them to keep on going ❤.
The depressive episodes are the hardest, but there's hope. You are here accessing information and resources, and that is proactive. Surrounding yourself with support is critical to getting through these periods. Do you have enough support? Are you implementing lifestyle interventions to allow you to cope better during this challenging time?
The experience I had with a childhood friend who is progressing well in life, is that he's become, and speaks like a Narcissist. I don't do Emo Driveby, but I do share my experiences with people, friends or just associates.
oh my goodness. This described so many situations in my life both giving and receiving. thanks for reminding me❤
I've never heard something that useful to me. Honestly, I found faith by watching your videos.
Hi Astrid! Thank you for your kind words! A warm welcome! In case you are interested, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and we have a support group for patrons only on discord. It would be great to have you! Take care Astrid!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Thanks 🙏 so very much for sharing this oh gosh I’m so understanding everything you have said peace and love Rara uk 🇬🇧❤️💛💚🙏
This was very helpfully I don’t usually do this but I have a love one who does this.
These are all great tips. Definitely can relate to being there for people and then it is a ghost town if you begin to feel overwhelmed by helping other people or listening to their issues/problems.
I’m so glad you found the video to be helpful / relatable! Thanks for taking the time to comment. Stop by the channel anytime 😊☀️☀️
-Rob
I experience the same. They are all about me being there to listen to them and their issues, but they are nowhere to be found when I am going through my hard times or I stop letting them emotionally dump on me. You learn who your real friends are when you stop being at their beck and call - and ghost town is the perfect description of what happens when you are no longer their emotional dumping ground.
I appreciate your videos! Thank you! Ps. Yellow is a happy color 🌅 ! Nice shirt! God bless!!
Thank you!
I listened again. Best description of it I ever heard mate. Wear a blue shirt next time but the comment of its color brought me back. In a manic episode bright colors like jump at me as do noises and odors. Except my own lol. Thankyou for being detailed. Aloha 😊
You are the best! And your information is so helpful! Thank You for sharing 😊
thank you Robert for the video!its really helpful
I am such a freakin' mess these days. I recognize my issues, and try to understand them the best I can. So, I keep to myself. I don't like people. I'm actually grown afraid of people, and in turn distrustful. My dog plays a crucial role in my life, and although he obviously isn't human and can't converse with me, he is a stabilizer. I used to be so different, normal and happy. Oh well.
What a precious (and precise) admonition.
Love this video I’m working on this now and it’s something that takes self awareness and these videos sure help thanks rob
Right on track! Thanks!
I have a question for you. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and was medicated for 2 months. However, I decided not to take medicine. At the same time, i am worried cause i have research few things that the meds for bipolar are neuroprotective too
Meaning, if you don’t take your meds, it will destroy your brain overtime, The medications used for bp have shown potential neuroprotective effects in preclinical studies, but more research is needed to fully understand their impact on neuroprotection in humans. Can you please help me to figure out whether I should be on meds or not?
What was your experience with the medications during the two months? What was the full effect of those meds? (ie: beneficial effects? side effects? adverse effects? toxicity?) Why did you decide not to take them? What else have you tried besides medications? Have you explored holistic and alternative therapies?
As always thank you Robert. You have helped me so much and the timing of this video was perfect! I have been riding a hyper manic high since early May but a few weeks ago I went into the mixed episode phase. I too am very empathetic and it can be hard as you said. I'm currently in the mixed episode stage and trying to hang on. I fortunately have one friend who is steady as a rock and he listens to me regardless. He also sometimes vents to me but not as much as I do him. I am going to post this on Facebook so my other friends can hopefully understand. You are a Godsend and a blessing in my life! You have kept me from sinking so many times. With all my heart thanks again! I'm lucky to have many friends but they can understand me better because of your videos and explanations. ❤
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you
Hi Bobbi!! I'm so glad you found Rob's channel! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Would love to have you there!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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You are a genius! Thank you for the mixed state mention.
Please do more on mixed episodes 🙏
It's amazing the level of insight You can grasp and share to us about this gift of us🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏So precious Wisdom. Take great care. Marino from Italy. Much Love
Greetings from California! Much love back to you! I really appreciate the kind words very much. I love what I do and feel very fortunate to do it. Take good care of yourself and stop by the channel anytime!
- Rob
Very insightful info and I appreciate you!
My pleasure!
I've watched you for a few years now and I never understood my disorder and was pretty out of control however since I have found your videos I have a much better understanding of my bipolar 1 and I for the past 2 years actively take my medications, I am more aware of myself and what moods I am having and I actively see my therapist and psychiatrist. Thank you so much for these videos. They are amazing and really are helpful!
Hi Accidental genuis! I'll pass on your comment to Rob! In case you are interested, Rob directly responds to patrons on patreon. He also hosts a weekly support group now for patrons only. Would love to see you there!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
@@PolarWarriors cool and thanks I'll check it out!
These videos are so helpful. I really appreciate them
I'm so glad! Thanks for the kind words.
Looking great & healthy buddy...... am happy for you 😉
thankyou for the reminder. always helpful.
Honestly I don’t understand or have healthy relationships because this sounds paradoxical. The emotional weight we get when we ask others how they’re all doing is too much for an unstable bipolar mind. It drains us enough as it is and we tend to put ourselves last behind a lot of other people, I think everyone does that sometimes. That’s one reason we isolate, so we don’t have to put our problems on others in return. We figure they’ll reach out for us when they want to. I really don’t know how to fix this. I feel so emotionally damaged that this doesn’t compute with my brain. I get trauma dumped myself from others that sometimes I don’t have the energy to ask how they’re doing either. Yet they tell us to reach out and talk to people about our issues when we need help, but I’ve found that that usually just burdens them and doesn’t help us in return either because we feel bad for burdening them. Are we all just supposed to hold it all in?? Bipolar or not? I’ve been thinking about this concept a lot lately. I think we’re all just traumatizing each other vicariously and trying to survive. I know it’s good to talk to a counselor but even they are human and are taking on a lot by hearing us out.
Hi Hailey!!! I really resonate with your comment! I can totally isolate and not be able to take on other people's problems. I find peer support so different! It's people who get each other that come together and listen and support each other because I always say that there are just things that only us bipolar folk can understand. Please consider joining a support group in your area or if you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and we have a support group for patrons only on discord. Take gentle care!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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You made me aware of what my friend is doing to me. I now don’t feel as bad for setting up boundaries. We’re both bipolar, but I do not emotionally dump on him at all. I have a therapist. Which he needs. Thanks, I always take something from your videos!
You should be really proud of setting those boundaries! That's one skill I was able to gain from therapy myself! It's hard to set them and defend them. I believe that everyone needs therapy! Peer support is important too! In case you are or your friend is interested, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Take gentle care!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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@@PolarWarriors Thanks for replying to my comment! Yeah, my therapist is the one who pushed me to set up those boundaries. I’m so glad I did! I’m glad I actually enforce them too! And stand firm, even when I feel like I want to play “savior” in that person’s life. I have to remind myself that’s not my job. Thanks for telling me about the support that Rob offers! I will keep it in mind!
Last December I had this exact experience where I met new people, I was hitting it off, and then I shared an extremely graphic and traumatic experience that just killed the energy, like if I'm vibing with people I can overshare and end up telling terrible stories
Hi! I can totally relate, especially if I'm manic actually. Anyway, if you are interested Rob is hosting a weekly support group for patrons only and it's a great place to share because we all understand. Take gentle care!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
I do support you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏
Thanks for commenting! 😊☀️☀️
-Rob
Good one Rob, thank you.
i'm Bipolar, and have a lot of difficulty "Turning off" when i'm in a Manic phase and need to slow down. Sucks when someone is venting and you just feel happy when you really shouldn't be in that situation, makes me feel like a sociopath. Combine that with Anxiety, trust issues, and abandonment issues, and you have quite the emotional nuke ready to explode. Thankfully, therapy has helped somewhat, but it can be a fight day to day.
It really is a daily battle. I appreciate you taking the time to share some of your experience with the community. I hope you will continue to stop by the channel 😊🤗☀️
Thanks for sharing Rob
You are so very welcome! I really appreciate you watching and especially for taking the time to comment. Hope you have a peaceful start to your week!
- Rob
This is Completely accurate in my day 2 day life
I have bp1 and it can be hard even processing emotions which makes it even easier to Trauma Dump on my partner
It can even be hard to explain to my partner how I’m feeling in the moment bc for me it’s hard to not feel like I’m being judged
Now I am finally getting professional help, I’m glad these spaces exist
I'm so sorry you're feeling judged, I often feel like that myself. I'm so glad you are receiving help. I believe everyone can benefit from therapy. Please also consider peer support. There may be support group in your area. If you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and we have a support group for patrons only on discord. Take gentle care!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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Once again I came here for supporting info as my world went 💥 BOOM my pa passed 3 weeks ago thanks and love the oitdoors
Thank you for sharing this video. ( :
Currently in the depressive obsessive of death state been nearly 8 weeks now,i know itll shift to hypomania eventualy but god i just want to feel normal like normal ppl😢
So i wanted to find the most recent video to comment and share something I just discovered. I've never been one for classical music but i recently discovered kind of on accident that it seems it may help when my thoughts just won't stop racing. I haven't pin pointed or worked on this theory enough to give any solid information, but I'm going to be playing around with this alot more. Am I the only one who feels calmed or whatever with classical music?
Music is soothing to the soul. Keep listening to anything that helps you feel calm. You're on the right track🙂
Merci for your wonderful help
When manic strikes i cant play but later i play like virutoso keep it up We are all Soliders under manic depression command 🎸🎸🎸🇳🇴🇱🇷😎
🎉, I love doing emotional drive by. Because you often will never see or hear from the person you just unloaded on ever again. And if you do, they do not want to get near you, which seems to solve 2 problems.😂
Thankyou for helpful advise you are so lovely this describes me to a tee thankyou ❤️😊
I'm glad that you found Rob's video to be so helpful!! He appreciates the feedback! :) If you'd like to contact him directly as well as access exclusive content of a more personal nature, I'd encourage you to consider joining him on Patreon. I'll include the link below so you can check it out. Take good care. -Rachel (Polar Warriors Team Member)
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i really go more inward if depressed and i am less likely to vent untill someone asks. when angry i can be very nasty sometimes i do need to work on that.
I no longer unload or dump on ppl now, I simply iceplunge into my IceBath as seen in my videos. I have 1000 times more calmness and mental stability with out medicating on big pharma! I am so much healthier and stable. The icetherapy is my counseler as my emotional drivebys are at a zero now.
Thank you @polarwarriors for understanding bipolar issues! I watch and now see how far I’ve come from who I was to who I am now.
Thank you
BOO to 'rehash' and 'pre-hash'...years ago i went to a therapist who asked me, as soon as i sat down, 'what can i do for you?"...i said , 'i don't know but i just do not want to 'rehash' or 'prehash'...they busted out laughing knowing what i'm talking about...one foot in past, one foot in future, pisses on the 'now'...OMski
I hope it's not wrong to say... But ya looking pretty buff in that shirt!! Good for you!!
Oosh faxzz , actually good advice
Thanks
Certainly the Mixed State is awful. Good explanation. Diet and lifestyle is the way long term.
Yes.. it's awful.."Everything feels like an emergency". That's so true.
@@nicolahacking2623Ugh, a mixed state to me is like the worst of both worlds -- racing thoughts like with mania, but the thoughts are horribly negative like with depression.
You mean ketogenic diet?
@@millstreetteut7835 yes and other important lifestyle things.
@@MichaelBLive are you off all meds?
Rob, are you trying to get buff on us brother? Setting clear cut examples of the "lifestyle choices" we all should be doing but especially us PW folks. Cheers!
Good morning 🌞
👏👏 thank u for sharing
You are most welcome! Thanks for taking the time to watch my videos. If you’d like to connect, there is a link in the video description where you can reach me directly anytime 🤗☀️
-Rob
I have definitely done A LOT of trauma dumping on my boyfriend mostly during my depressed episodes and it is definitely not fair to him. I would be extremely negative and pessimistic and would not stop complaining. He was/is the only person I could confide in and I would only talk to him about my problems. I have not done this to him in a long while now. Since I have been working on myself and controlling my emotions and now I am much happier and more optimistic. It takes a lot of work but it is possible and you can train your mind to become more positive. I know this is definitely not easy at all especially during a depressed episode, but there are much healthier ways to talk about our emotions without lashing out and bringing the other person down.
Hi Amanda! Great comment! One way to be able to get things out instead of burdening our loved ones is by joining a local support group or if you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Take gentle care!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Ty❤
*smiles*
Yeah, I’m guilty of some of this. Thanks for the food for thought, Rob.
omg. I thought I was just an asshole, I didn't realize this was a symptom
You have company 😊
I'm mixed right now. And I'm an empath, and there's all this family stress going on. And I'm trying to tell my friend some important reality that she doesn't understand, and she refuses to listen. I get so stressed. And I isolate. I'm sick right now, too, so that doesn't help, either. I realize I dump on my father. My poor dad. 😢
Hi Shirley! Mixed states are the worst! Please consider joining a local support group or if you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Could be a place where you can unload and be with other folk like yourself. Would love to have you there!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
@@PolarWarriors , how much money is it? I'm on disability from trauma
Truth.
This shirt looks great on you.
You stated that there are other cheaper alternatives to weed. What are alternatives to weed?
I tried to make it work with my girlfriend who had bipolar, watched these videos a lot... sad to say I still couldnt make it work. Thank you for the help nonetheless, and Godspeed, I can't watch these anymore.
Your awesome
Ty
Hi @jbrat1967! Thanks so much for taking the time to comment and watch several of my videos (and a very warm welcome to the Polar Warrior Community).
Take extra good care of yourself and I hope you will continue to stop by the channel.
I appreciate you =)
-Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors
I’m energy sensitive but there’s a friend who will do this and I can’t get a word in. She’s not bipolar. We can talk for an hour and I’ve basically said uh huh 87 times. I quit answering when she calls.
Griping about her in-laws I don’t even know 🙄
Im actually very private with my emotions because being bipolar the family already over analyzes everything. If something makes me happy I’m manic and if I have a bad day I’m in depression. No! My treatment is working and I am allowed to have normal human emotions. I have 2 friends with bipolar and I talk to them. Other than my psychiatrist only another bipolar understands another bipolar. My family can read every book and claim to be an expert but because they’ve never felt it they really don’t understand.
Hi Christy!! I really appreciate you taking the time to write such a well thought out comment and for sharing some of your experience with the community. You are absolutely right that we ARE allowed to have normal human emotions, unrelated to the illness. Regarding your friend, it’s really hard to be on the receiving end of the emotional drive by. Setting some gentle boundaries when the timing is right could help preserve the relationship, but I know that’s easier said than done. I hope you are able to find a way to bridge the gap, and if not, that you continue to expand your support circle.
If it interests you, I have an amazing group of people in my private community on Patreon. It’s a great way to net work with other people who get what it’s like to live with bipolar disorder. You can also contact me directly anytime, participate in life support groups, and support my advocacy work . Do consider checking out the link in the video description. Take extra good care of yourself and stop by the channel anytime!
- Rob
Thank you so much for sharing. I had the exact same experience with a friend who hardly let me get a word in and just dumped all of her negativity, trauma and anxiety on me. It nearly broke me because I too am an empath and highly sensitive. Many times we would have conversations for hours and my main contribution was saying “Uh huh”. It was exhausting. The last few months when she asks if I am free for a chat, I have just said no or make up an excuse not to talk to her over the phone. If she calls, I don’t pick up the phone. I flat out told her a week ago I had a mental breakdown and I am no longer up for phone chats because I need to take time to take care of myself. She got the message and only texts me once in awhile now.
I value my mental health too much to allow this person to invade my peace. So glad we are setting boundaries now!
are the producers named at the end your patreons? if so i find that infinitely adorable gosh
Hi Ryan! Yes! Those are our amazing Patrons. Do consider joining us 🤗☀️☀️
-Rob
@@PolarWarriors oh how i wish i had the money to, videos like these are important for those like me and the people around me. fwiw, keep up the good work!
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