One of the hardest things for me is the symptoms of early pregnancy are very similar to PMS so when you’re trying to conceive, it’s easy to torture yourself by thinking your symptoms are pregnancy when they’re actually period!
I think some people take longer to get pregnant than others. My brother and sister both had children when they wanted to, neither had trouble getting pregnant. My husband and I have been married almost 15 years and I'm 37 and he is 43. After all these years, we were just under the impression we couldn't have children. Imagine my surprise 8 weeks ago, I got a positive test.
Hi Ruth, I’m in school studying Holistic Reproductive Health. Yes, the term “infertile” is used to describe couples who have tried consistently for one year to get pregnant but have been unsuccessful. I highly recommend reading “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” by Toni Weschler. There is a practice called Fertility Awareness that is easy to learn in which you chart your three primary Fertility signs and corroborate them each day to determine whether you are fertile.
Thank you so much for this. I really appreciated it so much. I was the one that asked about staying sane for a second pregnancy after a missed miscarriage. I intend to have more frequent early scans next time. I had two before I found out the baby died. One at 6.5 weeks and one at 8 weeks. And then the dreaded 12 weeks when I found out the bad news. I think I will go for scans every second week. Just for my sanity you know? Thank you Ruth!! I wanted to mention that it helps so much to hear about missed miscarriages and infertility. You feel like you’re not alone. I just finished reading Maggie O’Farrell’s I AM I AM I AM and there’s a chapter in this memoir called baby and bloodstream about her missed miscarriage. It was so healing for me. Made me feel less crazy for all the weird thoughts I was having “am I still pregnant if the baby is dead inside me?”, etc. I highly recommend it if you want to. It made me really feel seen and understood. Sending you hugs. Thank you for opening up your heart to us.
Ah I am so sorry. I am wishing you all of the best for staying sane in your next pregnancy - always feel free to drop me a line if I can help in any way! Thanks for the book rec - I LOVE Maggie O'F - I didn't even know she'd done a memoir. That's my week sorted! x
I casually tried for two years. Had a chemical pregnancy and didn’t want to have another. Got ovulation tests afterward and found out I ovulate late...like day 18-20. I got pregnant that month and have an 18 month old now. Ovulation tests are so helpful!
I'm not infertile as i conceived for 3 times. I had many complications while getting pregnant. I was pregnant but resulted in miscarriage everytime. So now i have decided to go for surrogacy now. We have contacted a clinic for our surrogacy. Soon we will have our appointment with the clinic and we will move there. Good luck everyone.
Hey. Thank you for sharing this. Infertility is so hard to deal with. I can understand your situation. From my first marriage, I had many complications while getting pregnant. But later I conceived for 3 times and resulted in miscarriage every time. Then I started looking out for the alternatives to have a baby. Then I came to know about surrogacy. I went to the suggested clinic in Europe. I have my own biological baby now through Surrogacy. And I am so blessed.
Ruth, this is so relevant to me. I'm 29 years old, got pregnant naturally very very quickly and lost my little baby boy at 20 weeks+1day. The worst day of my life was finding out on our scan that day that there was no heartbeat. I wont go on too long, but acupuncture and traditional Chinese medicine helped A LOT. Like you, I thought I was healthy but actually I wasn't. I also found out I have factor V leiden gene that makes me prone to blood clots (probably how we lost little baby). My point is, if you are struggling or need help please please please give chinese medicine a shot. I just read a few books (emma cannon Fertile to name a few) and just that only made a BIG difference. Im getting my health back on track before trying for baby n.2 in 6 months time. Lots of love to everyone out there struggling, you are not alone.
I think it is lovely you have touched on such a personal subject. Both my sister and my best friend have dealt with multiple miscarriages and infertility and I have found your honesty extremely useful in understanding their experiences. X x
I’ve had 2 second trimester miscarriages - twins most recently. Really refreshing to see this in my feed - it can be so frustrating to not have an answer of why it happens after all tests come back fine. Thanks for sharing this. I too began Chinese herbs and acupuncture for a whole summer before naturally conceiving twins. Normally a skeptic, but I totally think there is something to it.
Hey Ruth! Thank you so much for sharing your video. Even though the information is really personal yet you went selflessly by sharing it so it can be really helpful for us ladies. You empower others and support them compassionately. I know miscarriages are not easy as I have been through 3 miscarriages myself. Your story was really heart touching. Keep up the great work!
Hello Ruth. I'm so sorry to hear about you. Although your story gave me so much hope about a friend of mine. And cleared so many things. She has been married for 10 years and TTC for 6. Visited so many fertility clinics and now she's opting for surrogacy. I hope all the women that are going through this find their way to have kids. More power to y'all! Xx
The video is quite motivational. I felt like giving a thumbs up to these great people. Life is a roller coaster. Only those an land safely who can face the twists and turns. Life is a garden full of both roses and thorn. Watching such videos can make you fall in love. Wishing a prosperous family life o all those seeking happiness.
Thanks for sharing! I'm not a doctor, but I remember reading that given 10 years, over 90% of couples conceive (without treatments), so it seems that the infertility label is really just something that is needed in order to get treatments going...interesting. Also I felt exactly like you said when I went to my ob to start with IUIs, he even told me "Stop worrying because we're going to get you pregnant"... needless to say I burst into tears right then and there, poor dr! For me, it was definitely the right choice to get medical help!
Hi Ruth! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had complications from the start of my marriage. I had been TTC since my marriage but had no luck. Now I am looking forward to alternatives. I came to know that surrogacy is the best alternative to cope with infertility. I and DH decided to go for it. I hope best for me. Wish me a good luck.
Hello, buddy tears are here after your post but these tears are nothing in case of your experienced much thanks to you such a great amount for imparting this to us. It is very instructive. Every one of us gets assistance from this Women could get a considerable measure of assistance from it. Unsuccessful labors are constantly hard. I have had prematurely delivered my infant as well. It was the awful experience of my life. I am extremely eager to listen to an uplifting news from your side you continue refreshing us. I wish that in future you will be spared this sort of issue remain solid be a lioness and look forward
Thanks for sharing Ruth. one realizes, that sometimes, life is hard and not as wonderful as we dream, It requires effort to achieve what was wanted, and you did it, you are a fighter after all.
Acupuntucture is not nonsense, is scientifically proven 😂 and in your case worked thankfully 🙏🏽 I am so glad to hear your story and that everything worked well. May everyone seek the help they need ❤️
Thank you so much for this. I really appreciated it so much. This will help many people out here. My best wishes are with you. Take care of yourself. Lots of love.
Hey!!! infertility is the hardest reality of the world. It is the much painful reality to bear. Every woman wants to fulfil the parental needs. Kids are the best blessing from God to man. And everyone wants to have this blessing. The good news is, there are best treatments came to know to the people for it. I wish and hope for all the best to have their best.
Thanks for sharing your journey from infertility, miscarriagesto a delivery. Infertility had become common nowadays. Every third person is a victim of infertility. Thanks a lot for telling us about your experience and truly don't think what others think about you or your life just do what you want to do.
Thank you for this video and sharing, i find these so comforting and not just for the video but for the comments that I've read through from others on this. I don't talk about my troubles conceiving to any one, but it really does help to read that there are others who have taken longer to conceive, it gives me hope that i will eventually get to give my daughter a sibling. xxx
Hello Ruth. Sorry to hear about your struggles with infertility. You are not alone here. A lot of people go through the same situation nowadays. Thank you for sharing this video here. It was very informative. It can be very helpful for the infertile couple.
Ruth Crilly, you have suffered a lot. now it’s time to get the fruit of your efforts. I watch your video till the question-answer session. Then I took a break and after that, I continue. Q/A session was also good. You asked so many interesting questions and the answers were co-related to them. thank you for sharing and making this video for us. Have a good time.
I felt exactly like you said when I went to my ob to start with IUIs, he even told me "Stop worrying because we're going to get you pregnant"... needless to say I burst into tears right then and there, poor dr! For me, it was definitely the right choice to get medical help!
This is a wonderful video. Thanks for uploading. It is full of information. I truly understand your pain. Infertility is so tough to deal with. I have been TTC for the last three years. I hope things get positive for us.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is an inspiration for many. I believe that some couples tend to get pregnant very easily, while others face a lot of complications. I think it is those around us, who worry us the most. It is amazing that you shared your story with us. You have give so many of us hope. Best of luck for your future.
You are so strong, Ruth. I loved watching your video. It is amazing. Thanks for sharing it with all of us. Keep sharing your updates. I wish that all your problems get solved soon. Best of luck to you.
Hey. How are you doing? Well, this is really informative. I came to know about a lot of new things. Indeed infertility is something which is so devastated for women. I totally agree with you. Your story is the inspiration for all the infertile couples out there. Keep sharing this.
Hello. Thanks for this video Ruth. I found this video incredibly useful. This would definitely help someone. You have suffered a lot in your life. You are a very strong woman. Keep this up.
It shows that you suffered a lot. There is no doubt about that. I am so sorry about this. Still, you are strong. You showed some courage. I hope everything is alright with you now.
Hi, Ruth! I am so sorry to hear about your infertility. I know things have been hard for you. It is not easy to deal with this situation. My friend is also infertile. I see her so much stressed and depressed. So I can understand your pain too. Anyways, thanks for sharing your updates.
Hello Ruth. I do remember watching the video you mentioned. I'm glad you made another for us. Thanks for sharing this one with us. You shared some valuable information here. Sorry to hear about your infertility. You're doing a great job.
The step by step procedure explained really well. There is informative knowledge in this video. All the detail related to infertility treatment define very well. I took a lot of hard work to see this video. There is a nice discussion of surrogacy.
Thank you so much for this. I really appreciate this alot. It is never easy for a woman to face infertility. But I have analyzed that it is becoming common for a woman. Well, it is not easy for man or woman. My sister was facing infertility. I have seen her in so much pain. But we have different ways. It is not about like we just give up. We have to stay happy and brave.
Your video is so beautiful. I really loved it. I liked how you expressed all your feelings. It gives me motivation. It keeps my hopes high. You were right. It is useful for so many of us.
That story about spotting was scary! I was the opposite, my first pregnancy was ectopic, and I've had an early Ultrasound before I find out it wasn't vital. So for two weeks I believed I was pregnant and then I found that it wasn't meant to be. Both next pregnancies I wanted to have as little predicting or contact with doctors as possible. I hated when with my #2 a doctor tried to fear me into more tests or something. I was afraid of getting afraid, paranoid and worried )))
Found this really interesting. I’m only 20 and single so definitely not trying to have children now but I would like to have children in the future and fertility is something that I worry about x
Hi there. Hope you are doing fine. You are so gorgeous. Infertility is really a big issue. I wish nobody have to go through this time. I hope all goes well for you. Take care. God bless.
Great video. Thank you. I’ve had 5 and 2 healthy babies! It’s a very hard road sometimes, but we got to walk it with courage. Good luck to all ladies out there trying. I’ve done it late in life. There is hope! Keep the faith and do everything you can to help your body conceive and grow a baby. First thing is drop caffeine, alcohol. Use ovulation tests. Take your temperature - it is really not hard and gives you a sense of control. Look into supplements - basic like vitamin B and D, FOLATE (NOT folic acid, some can’t absorb it). And others like vitex, and dong quai. And try castor oil compresses to improve blood flow. Research!
I miscarried my first child, our boy, this year. It was so hard and I've never thought it will happened to me... Now I'm better and I have hope I will be a mom soon...
There are loads of studies and it depends on ages of the male and female but they say if you’re having unprotected sex, 95% of couples conceive within 24months, 75% within 6 months, 90% within 12 months.
The weight thing is funny though, I weighed 56 kgs when I got pregnant with my first baby, then during breastfeeding I lost some more weight and got to 52 kgs. We started trying for a second baby, but had no success for a few months, then my weight suddenly started going up, I was having a crazy appetite out of nowhere.... I soon got to 56 kgs again, and next month - boom - I got pregnant... :) so I think there is like a minimum weight my body needs for conceiving.
Hello. hope you are doing well. You shared an inspirational video. Thanks for sharing. I admire it. You are indeed so strong, not everyone has the courage to share it. Stay strong and happy. I wish you all the best. Good luck.
Hello, Thanks for sharing your video. Infertility is very hard to overcome. I had also gone through this situation. I was infertile due to fatigue injury. I was trying to conceive. Then I went to Europe for surrogacy. Now I have a baby. Thanks to surrogacy.
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope its all good. Thanks a lot for the video. This is really helpful too. You are really strong women. I wish you good luck in the future. Please takes care. Lots of love and support for you.
Thank you so much for this video. I had a miscarriage four months ago. I lost my child. I am too depressed. I don't know how to overcome this mishap. Life is just so colorless to me. I am so devasted. Admitting that you can't have babies naturally is so destructive to me. I am waiting what fate will do to me. Need advice on how to come out of this.
Naturelo Prenatals and adding Thorne Methylguard Plus after bfp is what I am trying as I have had ten miscarriages....only four of those smaller than eight weeks....and I suspect I have MTHFR gene mutations which is associated with recurrent miscarriage, anxiety induced fro. miscarriages, anemia (low B12 absorption), low vitamin D3 absorption (weak bones).
Hi. So sorry for you. Thank you for sharing this video. it is really a nice one. very informative though. infertility is very hard. Thank you for spreading awareness. Good wishes.
Hi there, I've heard it. It's really motivational for me. Thanks for sharing. I am really worried about you though. How are you now? I hope everything will be alright for you soon.
Thanks for this video 🙏🏻 I just had my first pregnancy and miscarriage 4 months ago... I have a question about your miscarriage... after having 2 beautiful kids, do you often pause and think about your 1st one? and if so, do you have a ritual to remember him/her?👼🏻
First of all: I am sorry for your loss. I, too, had a miscarriage with my first one and now, five years and two healthy children later, I still think of him (I don´t know which gender it was, I just always refer to it as him). I had named him with a silly name back then, not one that I had actually given him after birth, and I use it still. But just in my mind, my husband doesn´t really understand why I remember anyway. It only happens once in a while, maybe four times a year, and it doesn´t make me sad, just a little melancholic. I guess it depend on when you loose the kid. I lost him at 9 weeks, only a short time after I had found out I was pregnant. I guess it is harder when you loose them later on, after they started moving and your body really changed. i hope you don´t mind me stepping in here, clearly you didn´t ask me for my experience, but I thought it might interest you anyway.
In truth, I very rarely think about it. I sort of blocked it out by necessity. I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage, it's truly awful - do you have a ritual? x
Michelle Mc...and yet we are all watching the exact same video. Honestly curious, why is it important? Live in hope to one day get an actual answer to that question...😁
I know that people have probably heard of this one but if it could help someone it’s worth trying! The month that I did this I fell pregnant (I didn’t do it the other months) After you have had sex turn around and put your legs against the wall and lay down for 20 minutes or more (instead of standing up straight away and going to the toilet). Xx
cuz so many women claim to have an infertility story when they are not infertile. she just took longer to get pregnant, that's a 'i took long to get pregnant story.' not infertility. so much misuse of this.
SORRY if anyone had to sit through a stupid ad break near the start - it adds them automatically on long vids and I forgot to take it off! I've deleted it now x
Ruth Crilly thank you for the video and your intent to do further videos on the subject. I'm on the edge of trying and it really helps hearing from other moms since I am quite like you as you've said jumpy and hiding from certain things, subjects. I thought the lighting was proper 😊 very happy for you Ruth. You are doing great
I have been trying to conceive for a year but can’t. Now I’m receiving acupuncture treatment and having Chinese medicine herbs. Hopefully it will work. Update - I found out I got pregnant last Saturday after 3days after my missed period! Just one month after I started Chinese medicine treatment!
This was so close home! My first pregnancy was a miscarriage as well, then, when pregnant with my first boy I got spotting and that scared the life out of me. My second successful pregnancy was a scary one, I had to be in bed for a month a the end of it because I was anemic and the doctor thought I might have an early delivery, but all turned out fine and I have now two healthy teenage boys who are the light in our lifes. I'm glad you shared your story in such an honest and thorough way, thank you.
Thank you for sharing, Ruth. Regarding ovulation, when I married a Catholic, I was astonished to discover that there was an abundance of easily available information distributed by the church regarding ovulation. In retrospect, that is not so astonishing, but certainly my own mother had never said a word to me about it, nor had I learned about in school. I had no idea when I ovulated. After reading a small, simple pamphlet on the subject of cervical mucus, I have know without a doubt every month since then when I ovulate. It is really very easily discernible without any special effort when using the loo. I know there is information online. It makes me sad that so many women aren't given this simple information about their own bodies. This isn't an advertisment for Catholicism by the way...divorced now. My intention is to be helpful, I hope I haven't done it awkwardly.
Yes, absolutely. It's so important yet I feel like there's so much advice out there saying stuff like "do it every other day throughout the month just to be sure!" I can tell you that doing it every other day for SIX YEARS would not be feasible! : )
Dear Ruth, Thanks for your warm-hearted story. I have gone through several rounds of IVFs in the past 2 and half years, and unfortunately it has not worked so far. I want to ask if you still have the Chinese Doctor's contact information, and if so, do you mind sharing it with me? As a Chinese myself, I would love to have an appointment with him to try out Chinese medicine to help my pregnancy, like it did with you. Lots of love, Lily
Definitely not an expert, just a nurse, but the label of infertile is so stigmatised and really blame heavy that to stick it on people after an arbitrary period of time can be quite damaging in and of its self by the stress it induces. Stress is one of the biggest hormonal cock up inducers that can stop ovulation and send you into a downward spiral of depression and unhealthy sleeping and eating behaviours which also have a significant impact on fertility. We hate the term in nursing, it’s also horrifically dehumanising
Ruth Crilly that’s so bad. I watch your video until the end. Such a heart touching story I ever watch on RUclips. I realized that woman is really helpless. The can do nothing. An infertile woman is full of heartbroken stories. She loses hope and then again make up her zeal to do. I am really inspired by your efforts. Please don’t cry again.
Hello! How are you? I just watched your video. Seriously, it's amazing and inspiring. You beautifully answered all the questions. You were looking so beautiful. I hope it could be helpful. Keep making videos and spreading awareness among people. My appreciation
Kids are a real blessing of God. Everone wants to be parents. But this problem has been eliminated from the world. Science has made such advancements through which everybody can enjoy this blessing. Thanx to the procedure. Especially surrogacy which is most powerful of all.
Wow. Your story is so inspiring. You are a beautiful and strong woman. And your children are beautiful. I have seen many people struggle through getting pregnant. Some don't get pregnant for 1 year some do not get pregnant upto 10/15 years. But it happens. But i hope people take a message from your story
Indeed, it's so obvious. We are not the person who is confronting barrenness. Numerous individuals are confronting barrenness. You and I are one of them. I confronted fruitlessness for a long time and still, I am. In any case, two years’ prior I took a critical choice in my life. I went for surrogacy for purpose of my DH's satisfaction. We put it all on the line and now we are having a cheerful existence. I am content with my choice I took. I am upbeat in light of the fact that my better half is cheerful. We have our infant now that simply turned multi-year. I wish that each couple may have such blessings.
It’s easy to torture yourself by thinking your symptoms are pregnancy when they’re actually period. I'm happy you shared this. Lots of love. Stay positive.
I’ve just had my first baby after multiple miscarriages (all at Whipps X, as it happens!) but cried my eyes out over this video. There’s so much I could say, but tbh just want to say thank you for adding such quality content to this very painful search term. You’ll be helping people long after its publish date.
This video is so touchy. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us. I'm very sorry about your miscarriage, Ruth. You're an amazing woman and you deserve everything good. Infertility is a really tough journey. I pray that you pass it successfully. Best wishes!
Thank you so much you help me a lot. It is a really useful video for me. I learn a lot from your experiences. It is quite informative. It makes me feel a lot less on your own with fertility issues. I'm happy you shared your story in such a nice way, much obliged. God bless you
Medical in the US is a bit different as they just pill push. I find stress is the number one issue with ladies marked infertile. TCM with a good practitioner can be helpful and I applaud your honesty and John was correct... why would your body sustain another life if you weren’t supporting and nurturing yourself? You took a step back and started caring for yourself and then things changed. Congratulations on both of your beautiful children 😘
Wow, such a great story. Thanks for sharing this beautiful experience with us. It will be hard for you. It's not an easy thing to share such a personal issue with everyone. You are a strong woman. Till then I wish you a very good luck
Thank you so much you help me a lot. It is a really useful video for me. I learn a lot from your experiences. It is quite informative. It makes me feel a lot less on your own with fertility issues. I'm happy you shared your story in such a nice way, much obliged. God bless you
You're definitely a strong woman. May you stay that way. Infertility has affected so many people. I wish you didn't have to go through this. It's such a blessing, however, that we have options for this at this time. I hope you find your happiness.
Hey Ruth, how are you? Thanks for sharing your story. I feel sorry for you. But i really appreciate your effort. this video is very informative. I am also an infertile. I learned too much from this video. All of my confusions disappeared. Take care
I am so sad about this. I can feel that it is not easy. I have seen my friend in such pain. I am sorry for all this. I wish that you will become a mother. My friend, in the end, chose surrogacy. She wanted a baby badly. They are living happily now.
Thanks for uploading this. It is quite informative. Women could get a lot of help from it. Miscarriages are always hard. I have had miscarried my baby too. It was the toughest time of my life. I hope to hear more good from you.
Thanks for the video. Great to hear such an honest account. Me and my husband have been trying for 18 months for our first baby and it is very easy to think your the only one.
This video was so informative. Really liked watching it. I just visited my OB yesterday and they are basically not proving to be that helpful. I am not sure what to do next. IUI failed for us and we did 5 cycles of it. infertility journey isn't an easy one. I hope things get better. Keep uploading more often.
One of the hardest things for me is the symptoms of early pregnancy are very similar to PMS so when you’re trying to conceive, it’s easy to torture yourself by thinking your symptoms are pregnancy when they’re actually period!
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I think some people take longer to get pregnant than others. My brother and sister both had children when they wanted to, neither had trouble getting pregnant. My husband and I have been married almost 15 years and I'm 37 and he is 43. After all these years, we were just under the impression we couldn't have children. Imagine my surprise 8 weeks ago, I got a positive test.
OH WOW!!!!!!! What absolutely amazing news - I've teared up reading this! xx
I'm researching natural fertility enhancement and discovered a great resource at Bevs Baby Boom (google it if you're interested)
Hi Ruth, I’m in school studying Holistic Reproductive Health. Yes, the term “infertile” is used to describe couples who have tried consistently for one year to get pregnant but have been unsuccessful. I highly recommend reading “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” by Toni Weschler. There is a practice called Fertility Awareness that is easy to learn in which you chart your three primary Fertility signs and corroborate them each day to determine whether you are fertile.
Thank you so much for this. I really appreciated it so much. I was the one that asked about staying sane for a second pregnancy after a missed miscarriage. I intend to have more frequent early scans next time. I had two before I found out the baby died. One at 6.5 weeks and one at 8 weeks. And then the dreaded 12 weeks when I found out the bad news. I think I will go for scans every second week. Just for my sanity you know? Thank you Ruth!!
I wanted to mention that it helps so much to hear about missed miscarriages and infertility. You feel like you’re not alone. I just finished reading Maggie O’Farrell’s I AM I AM I AM and there’s a chapter in this memoir called baby and bloodstream about her missed miscarriage. It was so healing for me. Made me feel less crazy for all the weird thoughts I was having “am I still pregnant if the baby is dead inside me?”, etc. I highly recommend it if you want to. It made me really feel seen and understood. Sending you hugs. Thank you for opening up your heart to us.
I’m going through the same situation and it’s draining but I do plan on getting more frequent scans as you said
Ah I am so sorry. I am wishing you all of the best for staying sane in your next pregnancy - always feel free to drop me a line if I can help in any way! Thanks for the book rec - I LOVE Maggie O'F - I didn't even know she'd done a memoir. That's my week sorted! x
Wishing you the very best!
Such a honest account well done for being so brave .you blushed at one point !
Haha - was I talking about sex?
I casually tried for two years. Had a chemical pregnancy and didn’t want to have another. Got ovulation tests afterward and found out I ovulate late...like day 18-20. I got pregnant that month and have an 18 month old now. Ovulation tests are so helpful!
I'm not infertile as i conceived for 3 times. I had many complications while getting pregnant. I was pregnant but resulted in miscarriage everytime. So now i have decided to go for surrogacy now. We have contacted a clinic for our surrogacy. Soon we will have our appointment with the clinic and we will move there. Good luck everyone.
Hey. Thank you for sharing this. Infertility is so hard to deal with. I can understand your situation. From my first marriage, I had many complications while getting pregnant. But later I conceived for 3 times and resulted in miscarriage every time. Then I started looking out for the alternatives to have a baby. Then I came to know about surrogacy. I went to the suggested clinic in Europe. I have my own biological baby now through Surrogacy. And I am so blessed.
Ruth, this is so relevant to me. I'm 29 years old, got pregnant naturally very very quickly and lost my little baby boy at 20 weeks+1day. The worst day of my life was finding out on our scan that day that there was no heartbeat. I wont go on too long, but acupuncture and traditional Chinese medicine helped A LOT. Like you, I thought I was healthy but actually I wasn't. I also found out I have factor V leiden gene that makes me prone to blood clots (probably how we lost little baby). My point is, if you are struggling or need help please please please give chinese medicine a shot. I just read a few books (emma cannon Fertile to name a few) and just that only made a BIG difference. Im getting my health back on track before trying for baby n.2 in 6 months time. Lots of love to everyone out there struggling, you are not alone.
I think it is lovely you have touched on such a personal subject. Both my sister and my best friend have dealt with multiple miscarriages and infertility and I have found your honesty extremely useful in understanding their experiences. X x
I’ve had 2 second trimester miscarriages - twins most recently. Really refreshing to see this in my feed - it can be so frustrating to not have an answer of why it happens after all tests come back fine. Thanks for sharing this.
I too began Chinese herbs and acupuncture for a whole summer before naturally conceiving twins. Normally a skeptic, but I totally think there is something to it.
I'm so sorry to hear that xx
Hey Ruth! Thank you so much for sharing your video. Even though the information is really personal yet you went selflessly by sharing it so it can be really helpful for us ladies. You empower others and support them compassionately. I know miscarriages are not easy as I have been through 3 miscarriages myself. Your story was really heart touching. Keep up the great work!
Hello Ruth. I'm so sorry to hear about you. Although your story gave me so much hope about a friend of mine. And cleared so many things. She has been married for 10 years and TTC for 6. Visited so many fertility clinics and now she's opting for surrogacy. I hope all the women that are going through this find their way to have kids. More power to y'all! Xx
The video is quite motivational. I felt like giving a thumbs up to these great people. Life is a roller coaster. Only those an land safely who can face the twists and turns. Life is a garden full of both roses and thorn. Watching such videos can make you fall in love. Wishing a prosperous family life o all those seeking happiness.
Thanks for sharing! I'm not a doctor, but I remember reading that given 10 years, over 90% of couples conceive (without treatments), so it seems that the infertility label is really just something that is needed in order to get treatments going...interesting.
Also I felt exactly like you said when I went to my ob to start with IUIs, he even told me "Stop worrying because we're going to get you pregnant"... needless to say I burst into tears right then and there, poor dr! For me, it was definitely the right choice to get medical help!
Thanks for sharing such a personal and private experience. I’ve recently miscarried and this video has given me some comfort xxx
Hi Ruth! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I had complications from the start of my marriage. I had been TTC since my marriage but had no luck. Now I am looking forward to alternatives. I came to know that surrogacy is the best alternative to cope with infertility. I and DH decided to go for it. I hope best for me. Wish me a good luck.
You’re so sweet to share your stories, it always helps to know that you’re not alone xxx
Hello, buddy tears are here after your post but these tears are nothing in case of your experienced much thanks to you such a great amount for imparting this to us. It is very instructive. Every one of us gets assistance from this Women could get a considerable measure of assistance from it. Unsuccessful labors are constantly hard. I have had prematurely delivered my infant as well. It was the awful experience of my life. I am extremely eager to listen to an uplifting news from your side you continue refreshing us. I wish that in future you will be spared this sort of issue remain solid be a lioness and look forward
Thanks for sharing Ruth. one realizes, that sometimes, life is hard and not as wonderful as we dream, It requires effort to achieve what was wanted, and you did it, you are a fighter after all.
Acupuntucture is not nonsense, is scientifically proven 😂 and in your case worked thankfully 🙏🏽 I am so glad to hear your story and that everything worked well. May everyone seek the help they need ❤️
Ruth honestly thank you so so much for making this video.
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Thank you so much for this. I really appreciated it so much. This will help many people out here. My best wishes are with you. Take care of yourself. Lots of love.
Hey!!! infertility is the hardest reality of the world. It is the much painful reality to bear. Every woman wants to fulfil the parental needs. Kids are the best blessing from God to man. And everyone wants to have this blessing. The good news is, there are best treatments came to know to the people for it. I wish and hope for all the best to have their best.
Thanks for sharing your journey from infertility, miscarriagesto a delivery. Infertility had become common nowadays. Every third person is a victim of infertility. Thanks a lot for telling us about your experience and truly don't think what others think about you or your life just do what you want to do.
Thank you for this video and sharing, i find these so comforting and not just for the video but for the comments that I've read through from others on this. I don't talk about my troubles conceiving to any one, but it really does help to read that there are others who have taken longer to conceive, it gives me hope that i will eventually get to give my daughter a sibling. xxx
Hello Ruth. Sorry to hear about your struggles with infertility. You are not alone here. A lot of people go through the same situation nowadays. Thank you for sharing this video here. It was very informative. It can be very helpful for the infertile couple.
Ruth Crilly, you have suffered a lot. now it’s time to get the fruit of your efforts. I watch your video till the question-answer session. Then I took a break and after that, I continue. Q/A session was also good. You asked so many interesting questions and the answers were co-related to them. thank you for sharing and making this video for us. Have a good time.
I felt exactly like you said when I went to my ob to start with IUIs, he even told me "Stop worrying because we're going to get you pregnant"... needless to say I burst into tears right then and there, poor dr! For me, it was definitely the right choice to get medical help!
This is a wonderful video. Thanks for uploading. It is full of information. I truly understand your pain. Infertility is so tough to deal with. I have been TTC for the last three years. I hope things get positive for us.
Thank you for sharing your story. It is an inspiration for many. I believe that some couples tend to get pregnant very easily, while others face a lot of complications. I think it is those around us, who worry us the most. It is amazing that you shared your story with us. You have give so many of us hope. Best of luck for your future.
You are so strong, Ruth. I loved watching your video. It is amazing. Thanks for sharing it with all of us. Keep sharing your updates. I wish that all your problems get solved soon. Best of luck to you.
I think you are such a caring lovely woman.....Thankyou
Thanks for being so open. Watching now x
Hey. How are you doing? Well, this is really informative. I came to know about a lot of new things. Indeed infertility is something which is so devastated for women. I totally agree with you. Your story is the inspiration for all the infertile couples out there. Keep sharing this.
Hello. Thanks for this video Ruth. I found this video incredibly useful. This would definitely help someone. You have suffered a lot in your life. You are a very strong woman. Keep this up.
It shows that you suffered a lot. There is no doubt about that. I am so sorry about this. Still, you are strong. You showed some courage. I hope everything is alright with you now.
Good to see you here. It is very brave what you have done hope to see you do well in your life. Good luck.
Hi, Ruth! I am so sorry to hear about your infertility. I know things have been hard for you. It is not easy to deal with this situation. My friend is also infertile. I see her so much stressed and depressed. So I can understand your pain too. Anyways, thanks for sharing your updates.
Hello Ruth. I do remember watching the video you mentioned. I'm glad you made another for us. Thanks for sharing this one with us. You shared some valuable information here. Sorry to hear about your infertility. You're doing a great job.
hey. hope you are doing great Ruth. Thanks for sharing such a personal and private experience. well done for being so brave.
Love you, thank you for being so open about your experiences. You help a lot of people xx
The step by step procedure explained really well. There is informative knowledge in this video. All the detail related to infertility treatment define very well. I took a lot of hard work to see this video. There is a nice discussion of surrogacy.
Thank you so much for this. I really appreciate this alot. It is never easy for a woman to face infertility. But I have analyzed that it is becoming common for a woman. Well, it is not easy for man or woman. My sister was facing infertility. I have seen her in so much pain. But we have different ways. It is not about like we just give up. We have to stay happy and brave.
Your video is so beautiful. I really loved it. I liked how you expressed all your feelings. It gives me motivation. It keeps my hopes high. You were right. It is useful for so many of us.
That story about spotting was scary! I was the opposite, my first pregnancy was ectopic, and I've had an early Ultrasound before I find out it wasn't vital. So for two weeks I believed I was pregnant and then I found that it wasn't meant to be. Both next pregnancies I wanted to have as little predicting or contact with doctors as possible. I hated when with my #2 a doctor tried to fear me into more tests or something. I was afraid of getting afraid, paranoid and worried )))
THANK YOU RUTH! LOVE YOU♥️
Wow. Thank you for telling your story. You will empower others!
Thank you Ruth, I would really find any more videos on this topic extremely helpful x
Found this really interesting. I’m only 20 and single so definitely not trying to have children now but I would like to have children in the future and fertility is something that I worry about x
Such a honest and interesting video! Thank you! ❤️
Hi there. Hope you are doing fine. You are so gorgeous. Infertility is really a big issue. I wish nobody have to go through this time. I hope all goes well for you. Take care. God bless.
Great video. Thank you. I’ve had 5 and 2 healthy babies! It’s a very hard road sometimes, but we got to walk it with courage. Good luck to all ladies out there trying. I’ve done it late in life. There is hope! Keep the faith and do everything you can to help your body conceive and grow a baby. First thing is drop caffeine, alcohol. Use ovulation tests. Take your temperature - it is really not hard and gives you a sense of control. Look into supplements - basic like vitamin B and D, FOLATE (NOT folic acid, some can’t absorb it). And others like vitex, and dong quai. And try castor oil compresses to improve blood flow. Research!
I miscarried my first child, our boy, this year. It was so hard and I've never thought it will happened to me... Now I'm better and I have hope I will be a mom soon...
There are loads of studies and it depends on ages of the male and female but they say if you’re having unprotected sex, 95% of couples conceive within 24months, 75% within 6 months, 90% within 12 months.
The weight thing is funny though, I weighed 56 kgs when I got pregnant with my first baby, then during breastfeeding I lost some more weight and got to 52 kgs. We started trying for a second baby, but had no success for a few months, then my weight suddenly started going up, I was having a crazy appetite out of nowhere.... I soon got to 56 kgs again, and next month - boom - I got pregnant... :) so I think there is like a minimum weight my body needs for conceiving.
Hello. hope you are doing well. You shared an inspirational video. Thanks for sharing. I admire it. You are indeed so strong, not everyone has the courage to share it. Stay strong and happy. I wish you all the best. Good luck.
Hello, Thanks for sharing your video. Infertility is very hard to overcome. I had also gone through this situation. I was infertile due to fatigue injury. I was trying to conceive. Then I went to Europe for surrogacy. Now I have a baby. Thanks to surrogacy.
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope its all good. Thanks a lot for the video. This is really helpful too. You are really strong women. I wish you good luck in the future. Please takes care. Lots of love and support for you.
Loved this video! U am currently pregnant with my last baby. I am 32 and this last one took the longest to conceive.
Thank you so much for this video. I had a miscarriage four months ago. I lost my child. I am too depressed. I don't know how to overcome this mishap. Life is just so colorless to me. I am so devasted. Admitting that you can't have babies naturally is so destructive to me. I am waiting what fate will do to me. Need advice on how to come out of this.
Naturelo Prenatals and adding Thorne Methylguard Plus after bfp is what I am trying as I have had ten miscarriages....only four of those smaller than eight weeks....and I suspect I have MTHFR gene mutations which is associated with recurrent miscarriage, anxiety induced fro. miscarriages, anemia (low B12 absorption), low vitamin D3 absorption (weak bones).
Hi. So sorry for you. Thank you for sharing this video. it is really a nice one. very informative though. infertility is very hard. Thank you for spreading awareness. Good wishes.
Hello there. How are you? This is a great video. It has so much information. Thank you for sharing. Take care.
Thanks Ruth x ❤️
Hi there, I've heard it. It's really motivational for me. Thanks for sharing. I am really worried about you though. How are you now? I hope everything will be alright for you soon.
Thank you so much for sharing, Ruth!
Thanks for this video 🙏🏻 I just had my first pregnancy and miscarriage 4 months ago... I have a question about your miscarriage... after having 2 beautiful kids, do you often pause and think about your 1st one? and if so, do you have a ritual to remember him/her?👼🏻
First of all: I am sorry for your loss. I, too, had a miscarriage with my first one and now, five years and two healthy children later, I still think of him (I don´t know which gender it was, I just always refer to it as him). I had named him with a silly name back then, not one that I had actually given him after birth, and I use it still. But just in my mind, my husband doesn´t really understand why I remember anyway. It only happens once in a while, maybe four times a year, and it doesn´t make me sad, just a little melancholic. I guess it depend on when you loose the kid. I lost him at 9 weeks, only a short time after I had found out I was pregnant. I guess it is harder when you loose them later on, after they started moving and your body really changed. i hope you don´t mind me stepping in here, clearly you didn´t ask me for my experience, but I thought it might interest you anyway.
In truth, I very rarely think about it. I sort of blocked it out by necessity. I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage, it's truly awful - do you have a ritual? x
There is a common occurrence where some "infertile" women get pregnant after adopting.
Super early!
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Michelle Mc...and yet we are all watching the exact same video. Honestly curious, why is it important? Live in hope to one day get an actual answer to that question...😁
I know that people have probably heard of this one but if it could help someone it’s worth trying! The month that I did this I fell pregnant (I didn’t do it the other months) After you have had sex turn around and put your legs against the wall and lay down for 20 minutes or more (instead of standing up straight away and going to the toilet). Xx
Katy Wilson funny you said this. I think it worked for me when I did this for my second pregnancy.
lisa munisteri ah brilliant I’m glad it worked for you too :)
infertility means you cannot have a baby at all. you have 2. you don't have an infertility story.
may day gosh, why so salty?
cuz so many women claim to have an infertility story when they are not infertile. she just took longer to get pregnant, that's a 'i took long to get pregnant story.' not infertility. so much misuse of this.
Interestingly, she does raise this issue in this video.
SORRY if anyone had to sit through a stupid ad break near the start - it adds them automatically on long vids and I forgot to take it off! I've deleted it now x
Ruth Crilly thank you for the video and your intent to do further videos on the subject. I'm on the edge of trying and it really helps hearing from other moms since I am quite like you as you've said jumpy and hiding from certain things, subjects. I thought the lighting was proper 😊 very happy for you Ruth. You are doing great
I have been trying to conceive for a year but can’t. Now I’m receiving acupuncture treatment and having Chinese medicine herbs. Hopefully it will work.
Update - I found out I got pregnant last Saturday after 3days after my missed period! Just one month after I started Chinese medicine treatment!
What are the Chinese medicines please? How are they called
This was so close home! My first pregnancy was a miscarriage as well, then, when pregnant with my first boy I got spotting and that scared the life out of me. My second successful pregnancy was a scary one, I had to be in bed for a month a the end of it because I was anemic and the doctor thought I might have an early delivery, but all turned out fine and I have now two healthy teenage boys who are the light in our lifes. I'm glad you shared your story in such an honest and thorough way, thank you.
You felt “seen” by the acupuncturist i bet. I had a great experience with acupuncture myself for thyroid. And perhaps fertility?? 🤷🏼♀️☺️
Thank you for sharing, Ruth. Regarding ovulation, when I married a Catholic, I was astonished to discover that there was an abundance of easily available information distributed by the church regarding ovulation. In retrospect, that is not so astonishing, but certainly my own mother had never said a word to me about it, nor had I learned about in school. I had no idea when I ovulated.
After reading a small, simple pamphlet on the subject of cervical mucus, I have know without a doubt every month since then when I ovulate. It is really very easily discernible without any special effort when using the loo. I know there is information online. It makes me sad that so many women aren't given this simple information about their own bodies. This isn't an advertisment for Catholicism by the way...divorced now. My intention is to be helpful, I hope I haven't done it awkwardly.
Yes, absolutely. It's so important yet I feel like there's so much advice out there saying stuff like "do it every other day throughout the month just to be sure!" I can tell you that doing it every other day for SIX YEARS would not be feasible! : )
Indeed. If you already have a good husband, that is a treasure as well. No one wants to feel like a means to an end!
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Wow, that's cool! Go catholics! 😊
Dear Ruth, Thanks for your warm-hearted story. I have gone through several rounds of IVFs in the past 2 and half years, and unfortunately it has not worked so far. I want to ask if you still have the Chinese Doctor's contact information, and if so, do you mind sharing it with me? As a Chinese myself, I would love to have an appointment with him to try out Chinese medicine to help my pregnancy, like it did with you. Lots of love, Lily
Definitely not an expert, just a nurse, but the label of infertile is so stigmatised and really blame heavy that to stick it on people after an arbitrary period of time can be quite damaging in and of its self by the stress it induces. Stress is one of the biggest hormonal cock up inducers that can stop ovulation and send you into a downward spiral of depression and unhealthy sleeping and eating behaviours which also have a significant impact on fertility. We hate the term in nursing, it’s also horrifically dehumanising
Oh Ruth, what a kind, compassionate, wise woman you are! Your advices are so thoughtful, full of empathy and care. Thank you for this great video.
Ruth Crilly that’s so bad. I watch your video until the end. Such a heart touching story I ever watch on RUclips. I realized that woman is really helpless. The can do nothing. An infertile woman is full of heartbroken stories. She loses hope and then again make up her zeal to do. I am really inspired by your efforts. Please don’t cry again.
Hello! How are you? I just watched your video. Seriously, it's amazing and inspiring. You beautifully answered all the questions. You were looking so beautiful. I hope it could be helpful. Keep making videos and spreading awareness among people.
My appreciation
Kids are a real blessing of God. Everone wants to be parents. But this problem has been eliminated from the world. Science has made such advancements through which everybody can enjoy this blessing. Thanx to the procedure. Especially surrogacy which is most powerful of all.
Wow. Your story is so inspiring. You are a beautiful and strong woman. And your children are beautiful. I have seen many people struggle through getting pregnant. Some don't get pregnant for 1 year some do not get pregnant upto 10/15 years. But it happens. But i hope people take a message from your story
Indeed, it's so obvious. We are not the person who is confronting barrenness. Numerous individuals are confronting barrenness. You and I are one of them. I confronted fruitlessness for a long time and still, I am. In any case, two years’ prior I took a critical choice in my life. I went for surrogacy for purpose of my DH's satisfaction. We put it all on the line and now we are having a cheerful existence. I am content with my choice I took. I am upbeat in light of the fact that my better half is cheerful. We have our infant now that simply turned multi-year. I wish that each couple may have such blessings.
It’s easy to torture yourself by thinking your symptoms are pregnancy when they’re actually period. I'm happy you shared this. Lots of love. Stay positive.
I’ve just had my first baby after multiple miscarriages (all at Whipps X, as it happens!) but cried my eyes out over this video. There’s so much I could say, but tbh just want to say thank you for adding such quality content to this very painful search term. You’ll be helping people long after its publish date.
This video is so touchy. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us. I'm very sorry about your miscarriage, Ruth. You're an amazing woman and you deserve everything good. Infertility is a really tough journey. I pray that you pass it successfully. Best wishes!
Thank you so much you help me a lot. It is a really useful video for me. I learn a lot from your experiences. It is quite informative. It makes me feel a lot less on your own with fertility issues. I'm happy you shared your story in such a nice way, much obliged. God bless you
Medical in the US is a bit different as they just pill push. I find stress is the number one issue with ladies marked infertile. TCM with a good practitioner can be helpful and I applaud your honesty and John was correct... why would your body sustain another life if you weren’t supporting and nurturing yourself? You took a step back and started caring for yourself and then things changed. Congratulations on both of your beautiful children 😘
Wow, such a great story. Thanks for sharing this beautiful experience with us. It will be hard for you. It's not an easy thing to share such a personal issue with everyone. You are a strong woman. Till then I wish you a very good luck
Thank you so much you help me a lot. It is a really useful video for me. I learn a lot from your experiences. It is quite informative. It makes me feel a lot less on your own with fertility issues. I'm happy you shared your story in such a nice way, much obliged. God bless you
You're definitely a strong woman. May you stay that way. Infertility has affected so many people. I wish you didn't have to go through this. It's such a blessing, however, that we have options for this at this time. I hope you find your happiness.
Hey Ruth, how are you? Thanks for sharing your story. I feel sorry for you. But i really appreciate your effort. this video is very informative. I am also an infertile. I learned too much from this video. All of my confusions disappeared. Take care
Thank you thank you thank you. These videos have helped me so much through my own hard time.
I am so sad about this. I can feel that it is not easy. I have seen my friend in such pain. I am sorry for all this. I wish that you will become a mother. My friend, in the end, chose surrogacy. She wanted a baby badly. They are living happily now.
Thanks for uploading this. It is quite informative. Women could get a lot of help from it. Miscarriages are always hard. I have had miscarried my baby too. It was the toughest time of my life. I hope to hear more good from you.
Thanks for the video. Great to hear such an honest account. Me and my husband have been trying for 18 months for our first baby and it is very easy to think your the only one.
This video was so informative. Really liked watching it. I just visited my OB yesterday and they are basically not proving to be that helpful. I am not sure what to do next. IUI failed for us and we did 5 cycles of it. infertility journey isn't an easy one. I hope things get better. Keep uploading more often.
Thank you for sharing. Did you change your diet and exercise regime ? If so would love to know what you did? Thanks x