How Black Women’s Bodies Became Everybody’s Business

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  • I find it very strange that Black women put their BBL surgeries on social media and then tell people to "mind their business".
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Комментарии • 68

  • @tfrancois6298
    @tfrancois6298 7 месяцев назад +36

    well as a Man if I realize that you have a BBL, i'll look the other direction because god made you perfect as you are, this coming from the men in the Caribbean Island, WE LOVE NATURAL

    • @jasonBGI
      @jasonBGI 7 месяцев назад +5

      I approve this message. 🇧🇧

    • @drakeh4551
      @drakeh4551 7 месяцев назад +5

      Right... All Natural, or Nothing. These lost sisters choose feelings, and emotions over what The Most High God already created them to be.

  • @DeeDaKang1
    @DeeDaKang1 7 месяцев назад +16

    Getting a BBL is the ultimate form of attention seeking behavior

  • @jciv9149
    @jciv9149 7 месяцев назад +17

    I’ve told several people that this BBL culture comes from the (LGBTQ 🏳️‍⚧️ community aka the trans movement) they were doing that over 20 years ago! I use to see them with that look in Los Angeles (Washington and la Brea) they were street walkers.

    • @deegee3293
      @deegee3293 7 месяцев назад +2

      #wow ,, interesting..!!

  • @martinvulu1848
    @martinvulu1848 7 месяцев назад +8

    Imagine if there was a way to NATURALLY achieve this 'BBL' you speak of...oh wait, you can, it just involves PHYSICAL LABOR & DISCIPLINE.

    • @LisePlansandJournals
      @LisePlansandJournals 7 месяцев назад

      The fierce defending of a surgery vs working hard for it is actually feeding the already existing idea that black people in general, and black women specifically are lazy, lack discipline and do not have any strength for delaying gratification. Not my idea, but a global one. There are literal books arguing that other races are better at this than others which is why they’re successful and always at the top. We however run from delaying gratification to our own detriment. Really a lost race of people.😢

  • @detorreonpla3424
    @detorreonpla3424 7 месяцев назад +8

    She's very insecure! Basically saying I'm gonna do it anyway.

  • @ziyadshabazz7422
    @ziyadshabazz7422 7 месяцев назад +18

    Men do prefer natural body, that doesn't mean we are not going after eye appeal. Let's not get twisted, one is to build with, and the other is to have a fantasy with, a play toy. Peace

    • @BeyondmyselfIsrael
      @BeyondmyselfIsrael 7 месяцев назад +4

      Simp mentality if you fantasize about a BBL

    • @DeeDaKang1
      @DeeDaKang1 7 месяцев назад +3

      That part men use these women as good time girls

    • @tonyabibbs2075
      @tonyabibbs2075 7 месяцев назад +1

      A simp

    • @DeeDaKang1
      @DeeDaKang1 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@Tellthetruth-ns9ze I'm being honest, if honesty bothers you I apologize

    • @kosmicinclinations3333
      @kosmicinclinations3333 7 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@DeeDaKang1 men use ALL women as good times Hun 😂

  • @jstreets1983
    @jstreets1983 7 месяцев назад +18

    It’s the complaining from black women that got us here.

  • @Avg_Vet
    @Avg_Vet 7 месяцев назад +3

    They are insecure.

  • @Fitman2024Wash
    @Fitman2024Wash 7 месяцев назад +4

    Social media and all these podcasts I'm just getting worse and worse!

  • @Potencylogic
    @Potencylogic 7 месяцев назад +6

    It’s a lot of shame because it is wrong. Tell it like it is shame the devil 😊

  • @gadeyeye6268
    @gadeyeye6268 7 месяцев назад +5

    I appreciate your content because I have daughters

  • @theeverydayman77
    @theeverydayman77 7 месяцев назад +3

    You’re right. Our good BW’s image is at stake because of it

  • @darthconquest1046
    @darthconquest1046 7 месяцев назад +9

    The issue is they'll welcome your opinion if you agree with them. Black women are used to silencing dissenting opinions. Problem is its not so easy on the internet. You can't just shout someone out because you don't like what they have to say. If people choose to make their bodies a subject of public discussion, then it would stand to reason that they need to be mature enough to handle public opinion that's different from their own.

  • @blackwolverine1
    @blackwolverine1 7 месяцев назад +8

    The truth is of an offense, but not a sin. Young Black girls like my daughter, can count on Sistas like you. To keep it thorough all the way round as it pertains to Black female issues.

  • @alicefla81
    @alicefla81 7 месяцев назад +3

    1:30 Why is she screaming?
    I think many black women should take the $$ they spend on this type of surgery and go to therapy and invest in their education

  • @maenad1231
    @maenad1231 7 месяцев назад +3

    They shouldn’t be disparaged, harassed and bullied so i understand her distressed plead to be left alone. People often just attack while enjoying it and say “well it’s just constructive criticism” when nothing was constructive about it. However they can’t lump all constructive criticism with bullying

  • @therealcmplx
    @therealcmplx 7 месяцев назад +12

    "Mind your business...i know thats a stretch when putting your life out here on social media"
    You dont say....

    • @rdkirk3834
      @rdkirk3834 7 месяцев назад +3

      Totally correct. Do people think TikTok is a diary?

  • @jmanhope1745
    @jmanhope1745 7 месяцев назад +2

    Nneka, I like your videos because they are really videos instead of audios pretending to be videos. Body insecurity is at epidemic proportions, both male and female.

  • @BlackMaleSpirituality
    @BlackMaleSpirituality 7 месяцев назад +2

    If you are comfortable about what you are doing then it shouldn’t matter what people say unless they are calling for someone to take your rights away. My personal opinion is that I like women who are as close to fit as they can be.

  • @danec2572
    @danec2572 7 месяцев назад +1

    UR RIGHT, i watch hiphop music videos from the 90s, the blk women in the comment section alway compliment the videos vixen on how "NATURAL", they're bodies look.

  • @mentalog6018
    @mentalog6018 7 месяцев назад +6

    Well if you're shaking your azz online it's leaves little to the imagination. Don't tell me, WW do it too.

    • @sarahjones5172
      @sarahjones5172 7 месяцев назад +2

      They do and let’s not talk what they get up to with you on those xx channels. 👌🏾

  • @1deonlucas9
    @1deonlucas9 7 месяцев назад +2

    New male subscriber here. Love your content. Blessings 🙌🏾 🙌🏾

    • @nnekaonyilofor
      @nnekaonyilofor  7 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for joining my community! 🙏🏾

  • @ruminantmelanoid5444
    @ruminantmelanoid5444 7 месяцев назад +6

    The root-of-the-root of the problem is the desire for a guarantee of outcomes. The quest for pretty privilege or body privilege is just an intermediary step. Women will do almost anything to avoid having to take an "L". An "L," in this conversation, is the inability to have long term, exclusive access to top-tier men This is not a value judgment it is merely an observation. This has happened over the centuries, and appears to be part of women's firmware. I would posit that this has been the driving force behind the evolution of makeup, perfume, shapeware and cosmetic procedures. If my hypothesis is correct, there is nothing that will convince women to forego these measures on their own.

    • @rdkirk3834
      @rdkirk3834 7 месяцев назад +1

      Women once did...all the way up to the 60s. The community of older women controlled the mating pools. They hired the matchmakers (and often were the matchmakers). They had monitored the community children as the children grew up; they knew which boys were brutes and which girls were lazy. They created the invitation lists for their daughters' debutante balls, coming-out parties, sweet-16 parties, Quinceaneras, and the like. The community of older women depended on their children for their own support as widows, so they stratified the mating pools to make sure every respectable son and every respectable daughter found a mate. The husbands may have "signed off" on the marriages, but it was the community of older women who had the major agency in determining the mating pools. The blacksmith's wife had agency in making sure the farmer's daughter married _her_ son, not the banker's son, and the banker's wife was in agreement that her son should marry a girl of equal stature. That agency of older women began to deteriorate after WWII when more and more people found mates outside their own childhood communities.

    • @nnekaonyilofor
      @nnekaonyilofor  7 месяцев назад +2

      It’s good to see you here!! I think your hypothesis is correct. It is essentially female competition for the ultimate prize (a “high value” man) at best. At worst, the appearance of being desired by a man.

    • @nnekaonyilofor
      @nnekaonyilofor  7 месяцев назад +1

      Very interesting! @rdkirk3834

  • @jaysmith7020
    @jaysmith7020 7 месяцев назад +3

    It has nothing to do with the black community men do not like BBL’s this is women competing against each other the weave the nails eyelashes that’s all this is it’s just like gym shoes. This guy has on Michael Jordan’s and this guy has a lesser shoe on.

  • @latoyathomas9640
    @latoyathomas9640 6 месяцев назад +1

    When it comes to privilege as naturals,you get better treatment,regardless of complexion,being a Plain Jane,not having a pretty face according to society&I'll even go as as to state that hair texture doesn't matter either.You get passes as long as you aren't sloppy with it,not to say the sloppy ones don't get some type of treatment,just not as much as the ones that workout in order to maintain a more toned physique.When it comes to the replicas,the same applies,as long as they don't look like 🐜s&🐝s.

  • @marquesbowden0130
    @marquesbowden0130 7 месяцев назад +4

    0:44 Ironically, she's almost correct but here's the cap: men will literally tell women they want authentic women but most (not all) will resort to artifical means to achieve an artificial look. On a side note, when women say that's not true or many dudes want big butts only reference the dudes they really want (i.e. pookies and ray rays) but not those who may be "good" men but are overlooked.
    To get straight to my thoughts on the topic: when you live in a systems that has decimated our sense of ourselves, we'll look for shortcuts to achieve monetary success than the achieve success from prolonged work ethics. This is why most women want men to make $100k but don't have the patience not appreciate the patience to endure the process. This is why the average black woman will not go to the gym nor do weight loss challenges.
    At the end of the day, women have the solutions to their problems, they just have to honestly see the problems for what they are.

    • @nnekaonyilofor
      @nnekaonyilofor  7 месяцев назад +3

      Very good points made here. 💯💎

  • @CovenOfWonders
    @CovenOfWonders 7 месяцев назад

    UK HERE, SAW A REAL BBL, FUNNIEST THING I HAVE SEEN ON A PERSON, HOW TO TURN A MAN OFF = BBL

  • @latoyathomas9640
    @latoyathomas9640 6 месяцев назад

    As a natural,I'll never tell a woman she can get a sway back in a week,nor the same glute size as my own,but I will turn her onto a squat challenge app to enhance what she already has,and for the ones that desire hips,I usually show them how I specifically do my squats,which gives mine more of a defined look.When it comes to my small waist,I tell them to use castor or coconut oil.I'll never tell another woman she can look exactly like me,because our genes may differ.My 12 year old daughter is the only one I'm going to tell that she can achieve a sway back,small waist,hips,&big glutes,due to that being the genetic make of my mother,which is an hourglass and the pear shape,which is the genetics of my late grandmother on my father's side,my pear aunt on my mother's side,my pear aunts on my grandfather's side&my pear mother in law.Her genes are very strong,she can be one or the other or the best of both worlds like myself!You have to look within your family tree,you can't just pick a shape like you're at a candy store.It's a gene thing.My daughter doesn't have to look at celebrities,she has me for a guide concerning a vegetarian lifestyle®ular exercise routines.My daughter recently came to me about the subject of women's bodies,because she kept seeing the tummy tuck ad on television,so if she asks about it,it's best to be honest,especially since she desires marriage.Men are visual,so as she ages by God's grace&continues to apply the health tips,&trad wife skills given,along with basking in her femininity as a Plain Jane,it won't be hard for her to attract the husband God already destined to find her possibly by age 18.Have a peaceful day!God bless!❤❤❤

  • @MikeMike-em7qk
    @MikeMike-em7qk 4 месяца назад

    This is why ignore these chicks I swear to god bro I act like I don’t see them😂

  • @doll.ov.poetrii4682
    @doll.ov.poetrii4682 5 месяцев назад

    Why is she yelling??