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I haven't seen my mother in more than a month, because every time I see her she brings out a topic I don't want to talk about, often about childhood, and tries to gaslight me. She senses the distance so she is trying to get close or have me come over to her house, which I reject with courtesy and trying to stay calm. I hope I can keep this up because I am starting to feel better about myself. A little sad about the whole thing though.
Thank you, Jerry. Happy Christmas! I grew up in such a system. A severe bullying system looking for a scapegoat to destroy every miserable day. They are heavilly locked into the system they created. I stepped quietly out of it. That was the first move, but making sense of it all followed when i found sites like yours explaining the system. The matrix, i call it.
A couple days ago, a friend and I were talking about the abuse and neglect we experienced and the realizations and things we learn when we get into recovery and start to heal. She referred to it exactly the way you did: coming out of the matrix. It's a great analogy! Hope you are healing and finding you 🙂
Once you see it, you can not unsee it. Then the reality of it all sinks in, and you are left with accepting your part in it all. When you get to that acceptance, after all the blame and shame, you're out of the system. Blessings to all!
Moving away from my mother for the first time tomorrow (I'm 30) and the guilt is awful...she's almost begging me not to leave her alone. This is why I've never broken the cord . It's awful guilt
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Covert narcissism is making someone else feel like they are an abuser, or that they urgently need to help the narcissist, while pummeling them with psychological abuse in the process.
Brilliant. "What would you do if you don't have those feelings?" - Bingo! That's the question needed to ask. Maybe there're loops of negativity that feeds on us, through "system feelings". Trying to stay out of the system feelings, can be a way out of the negativity. It's good not only for us but probably for everyone else.
Jerry, you are so generous and I pray that God will continue to bless you. Very rare to watch a channel that always references book(s) by other authors, especially, in this field. 🙌🏾👏🏾
Good afternoon, Mr. Jerry Wise. I appreciate your work in producing content for this channel. It's really helping me to overcome the programming and reactions instilled within me by my family. I've come a long way from how I was before and can only continue to move forward. Do not! And I mean DO NOT stop producing sharable content because it's really helping the masses. Thank you for all of your hard work.
Because of my experience of self-differentiation, i am comfortable with who i am, and name-calling is a sign of weakness, and insignificance to me. I will not continue to accept the abuse of J P. I thought he might have changed today, but not so.
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In my experience, explaining myself only provided them more fodder for attack. I finally have gotten to not reacting or responding and going full no contact. It was a last resort and the only recourse I had left, as I tried everything else for years.
I had to fill mum's role from 15yo and on. I was not allowed to have any needs or wants, and goodness knows no emotion about it was allowed. Almost died just giving to the family all my life and what did they do, abandoned me. This added to being told anything that went wrong was my fault, adhd kid here. Always ovwrwhelmed because I feel responsible for everything wrong in the whole world. I was made responsible for my world as a kid, and as my world grew, I did not realize I took it all on. Now I realize it intellectually but not emotionally yet. I am old but healing at any age is a good thing I think. I have healed well enough to find a partner who does want to be with me, does not put me down or blame me for everything that goes wrong. Thanks for the videos, showed up when I needed them.
Thank you so much for another extraordinary video! This is so so real. I’ve been trying to respond as if I didn’t have the feelings for some years now and it’s still a practice and a challenge sometimes.. baby steps, I guess..
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A have seen many of your videos and most have something important to say to me. This even more so, because of the situation i am in right now. Thank you for doing this Jerry
There is a lot with these videos. When I stopped reacting the reactors in my life did not want anything to do with me. It is interesting how you mentioned the mom being a narcissist and pushing away the son. My mom evicted me out of the family business rather than buying me out. The last time she called me and was talking about selling the business I asked if this pertains to me and she said no. I simply stated that she evicted me out of the business and it is not my problem anymore. I do want to say something on this. I don't really want to lose those painful feelings that came with all that dysfunction just because those feelings are keeping me out of toxic situations. Do you have any thoughts about that you would like to share?
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Thank you Jerry for gems of wisdom. Not able to join your workshop yet. It is difficult for the awareness first to kick in to put pay to the programming role and before the reactivity, or just the effects of that become apparent. Also, the role can last even if family are all gone. The role stays the same. It is just the players that change. I am wondering if it is more safe and simple just to become a recluse. No relationships, no problems. Greatly appreciate your insight and explanation of complex emotional dynamics. So help to see what is going on and this helps to "zoom out" from it. May kind Christmas cheer come your way.
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Thank you once again for all your videos! They are very helpful! I have one question, though: in this situation, would it be reactive if the son told his father that whatever happened was between him and his mother? Basically, couldn't he say that it's none of the father's business, but in a nicer way? I am asking you this because in my family it's very common for my parents to try to interfere in my relationship with my sisters and I find it very invasive.
If the family is enmeshed he will not understand that it is 'none of his business" But you can say "I really think that this is between Mom and me" or 'Dad, it sounds like something Mom should be asking me"
Glad you like them! Thank you. I’ll tell Brenno Pecorca my web guy you like them…. He is on www.bpmarketingconsulting.com. reach out to him. Thanks Mariano “Standing Strong as an Adult Child of the Narcissist” Workshop Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC July 17th, 2021 Saturday, 1-5pm Eastern time On Zoom Topics: The Illusions of the Narcissist The Trauma of Adult Children of Narcissists Living in the War Zone 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Were Raised by a Narcissist 10 Ways Children of Narcissists Love Differently Healing Your Inner Parts and Inner Bonding Resisting Self-hate, Self-shaming, Self-rejection, Self-abandonment Cutting the Emotional Umbilical Cord: Going No Contact or Low Contact with Toxic Parents Superpowers All Adult Children of Narcissists Have And more... Lead by Jerry Wise Founder of Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and You-tubber of over 250 videos. Q& A Role Plays Volunteer participation You will receive the recorded workshop You will receive the notes for the workshop www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/event s
Dear Jerry thanks a lot for this video ❤ I'm learning a lot hear. I will try to have a look at the authors you mentioned. I would be happy if you have some particular book names. I wish you a nice day
The emotional manipulation (of the abusive brother, portraying his brother's wife as a "gold digger") reminds me of what the main character in the old movie "Marty" experiences from his "loved ones". 'Marty' is a brilliant film, starring Ernest Borgnine, that I think won an Oscar. But the story is of a middle aged not handsome man, who lives with his mother and hangs out with immature middle aged men. All his siblings are married, and Marty gets regularly shamed for still being single by his mother and customers at the butcher shop where he works. Then he meets a woman who is very quiet and considered unnattractive by men and they hit it off. ...But instead of his mother and his friends being happy for him, all of them attempt to manipulate him out of dating this woman. They make up all manner of lies so as to put Marty off from dating her. ...It's quite depressing to watch how all these people in his life, so called "loved ones" are all heartlessly focused on their own insecurities at the expense of Marty's happiness and well being. ...I won't say how the story ends, but it resonated with me just how utterly selfish and ultimately cruel people one is supposed to be loved by can all too casually be. ...Did I mention the word 'depressing'? Well, there it is again for good measure!
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Jack has a problem with women and a history of failed relationships. He’s jealous of his brother. Merry Christmas, Jer. Hopefully 2021 is a better year.
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Good one. But I have one question. About being called oversensitive. Even if that's a system feeling trigger, I can imagine that most people would start defending themselves in this case, even without abuse. Or if a person is called dumb, even if it doesn't trigger, people still want to protect themselves against that. As if, if they don't say anything, they agree.
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I'd would enjoy these talks more if adverts didn't keep interupting ever 3-4 minutes. I undetstand monetizing a site but really this is a little over the top! I'm sure you won't take this personally of course!
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I like what you say and so appreciate your videos. Please take this in a kind, helpful way when I say that sometimes you get too emotional & defensive in the videos. This defensiveness when you talk about scenarios turns me off and I want to say quit explaining so much, you give your answer and let that be it.
Thanks Marie for the feedback. I know that some people find the extended examples very helpful, and also I like giving the examples they help me explain these complex ideas in more accessible ways. I hope you can continue tolerating them, also skipping them is an option. Appreciate you ❤️
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Also, why would you even keep contact with a father liike that? If he gaslights, offends, why would you keep it? It's a good reaction to try and not take offence, and act like they werent trying to call you a bad name. But is it real? I feel like if a person feels guilt and shame, then those emotions are valid, they need to be worked. I feel like jumping over to correction isn't a good idea.
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I hope you realize you are speaking to a woman. I am not married to Jack. In fact i am not married, at all. Also, i am not trans, or lesbian. I’m pretty sure that i am going to walk away from relationships that are continuously disrespectful.😊
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Blood is not thicker than abuse. Just like family isn’t just biological.
Absolutely! Love your comment!
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That one hit me right in my spirit 💯
yes. took a long time to figure that out..
Well said!!
You cannot reason with a toxic individual. Just get rid of them, family or not.
Yes, as long as they are toxic and not just problematic or neurotic
Systems feelings seek out our immaturity.... Embroider this in a t-shirt
To be able to give a response like that to the father in real time is the type of growth i want to achieve
Thanks for watching Jason
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I haven't seen my mother in more than a month, because every time I see her she brings out a topic I don't want to talk about, often about childhood, and tries to gaslight me. She senses the distance so she is trying to get close or have me come over to her house, which I reject with courtesy and trying to stay calm. I hope I can keep this up because I am starting to feel better about myself. A little sad about the whole thing though.
Thank you Jerry you truly are the best.....save many lives from misery.
Thank you kindly
Thank you, Jerry. Happy Christmas! I grew up in such a system. A severe bullying system looking for a scapegoat to destroy every miserable day. They are heavilly locked into the system they created. I stepped quietly out of it. That was the first move, but making sense of it all followed when i found sites like yours explaining the system. The matrix, i call it.
A couple days ago, a friend and I were talking about the abuse and neglect we experienced and the realizations and things we learn when we get into recovery and start to heal. She referred to it exactly the way you did: coming out of the matrix. It's a great analogy! Hope you are healing and finding you 🙂
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Once you see it, you can not unsee it. Then the reality of it all sinks in, and you are left with accepting your part in it all. When you get to that acceptance, after all the blame and shame, you're out of the system. Blessings to all!
Zoom out... I say ‘Look at the bigger picture’.
Love this one Jerry. Thanks so much x
Glad you enjoyed it
Moving away from my mother for the first time tomorrow (I'm 30) and the guilt is awful...she's almost begging me not to leave her alone. This is why I've never broken the cord . It's awful guilt
Sorry to hear you are struggling
Maybe you should talk to someone
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Get moving and keep moving on
Please seek help, you do not have to carry this alone.
Covert narcissism is making someone else feel like they are an abuser, or that they urgently need to help the narcissist, while pummeling them with psychological abuse in the process.
Your videos have been so helpful especially this time of year, thank you Jerry and Team! 🕊✨
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Brilliant. "What would you do if you don't have those feelings?" - Bingo! That's the question needed to ask.
Maybe there're loops of negativity that feeds on us, through "system feelings". Trying to stay out of the system feelings, can be a way out of the negativity. It's good not only for us but probably for everyone else.
Jerry, you are so generous and I pray that God will continue to bless you. Very rare to watch a channel that always references book(s) by other authors, especially, in this field. 🙌🏾👏🏾
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I have felt so alone in not knowing why I felt and did the things I did till I started watching your videos, your a angel thank you!
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Just became a member! The Boen Family Systems Theory really helps us see the world in a new way!
Thank you, Jerry!
Thank you so much. Bowen Family Systems has been a real help to me.
Another gem to study 👏🏾✨
Good afternoon, Mr. Jerry Wise. I appreciate your work in producing content for this channel. It's really helping me to overcome the programming and reactions instilled within me by my family. I've come a long way from how I was before and can only continue to move forward. Do not! And I mean DO NOT stop producing sharable content because it's really helping the masses. Thank you for all of your hard work.
I'm glad you find my work helpful, thanks for being part of the community 😊❤️
@@jerrywise No problem. And I'll be sure to pass your content onto those in need of it. Thank you again for your service to mankind.
I am going through this range of emotions right now... Very helpful video!
Glad it was helpful!
Because of my experience of self-differentiation, i am comfortable with who i am, and name-calling is a sign of weakness, and insignificance to me. I will not continue to accept the abuse of J P. I thought he might have changed today, but not so.
Another response to Dad; I invited Mom to be a healthy relationship with me, but she refused.
This article is life changing!!!! Thank you!!!!
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In my experience, explaining myself only provided them more fodder for attack. I finally have gotten to not reacting or responding and going full no contact. It was a last resort and the only recourse I had left, as I tried everything else for years.
This video is so powerful I have no words. Jerry Wise is awesome.
Thank you so much for the kind words Karen, I'm glad you found it powerful ❤️
I had to fill mum's role from 15yo and on. I was not allowed to have any needs or wants, and goodness knows no emotion about it was allowed. Almost died just giving to the family all my life and what did they do, abandoned me. This added to being told anything that went wrong was my fault, adhd kid here. Always ovwrwhelmed because I feel responsible for everything wrong in the whole world. I was made responsible for my world as a kid, and as my world grew, I did not realize I took it all on. Now I realize it intellectually but not emotionally yet. I am old but healing at any age is a good thing I think. I have healed well enough to find a partner who does want to be with me, does not put me down or blame me for everything that goes wrong.
Thanks for the videos, showed up when I needed them.
Thank you so much for another extraordinary video! This is so so real. I’ve been trying to respond as if I didn’t have the feelings for some years now and it’s still a practice and a challenge sometimes.. baby steps, I guess..
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Off-topic but this thumbnail goes hard
System's Feelings:
"Old Family Feelings" or "Mom and Dad feelings" of fear, guilt and shame" (their weapons of choice)
Genius ! Fantastic responses to brother "Jack""! Hope I"ll be able to integrate these kinds of non-reactive responses!
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Ι really like the way you explain things and facts. Thank u🙏
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A have seen many of your videos and most have something important to say to me. This even more so, because of the situation i am in right now. Thank you for doing this Jerry
Wonderful!
Thanks best buddy jerry☺
Thank you for this clarity. This is amazing advice!
Love the thumbnail, made me smile c:
There is a lot with these videos. When I stopped reacting the reactors in my life did not want anything to do with me. It is interesting how you mentioned the mom being a narcissist and pushing away the son. My mom evicted me out of the family business rather than buying me out. The last time she called me and was talking about selling the business I asked if this pertains to me and she said no. I simply stated that she evicted me out of the business and it is not my problem anymore.
I do want to say something on this. I don't really want to lose those painful feelings that came with all that dysfunction just because those feelings are keeping me out of toxic situations. Do you have any thoughts about that you would like to share?
I'm not sure I understand the question
This is so helpful. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
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Thank you Jerry for gems of wisdom. Not able to join your workshop yet. It is difficult for the awareness first to kick in to put pay to the programming role and before the reactivity, or just the effects of that become apparent. Also, the role can last even if family are all gone. The role stays the same. It is just the players that change.
I am wondering if it is more safe and simple just to become a recluse. No relationships, no problems.
Greatly appreciate your insight and explanation of complex emotional dynamics. So help to see what is going on and this helps to "zoom out" from it. May kind Christmas cheer come your way.
You are so welcome. Hope you can join a workshop sometime in the future. Happy Holidays Seeker!
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Very very helpful! (as always!!)
You are so welcome!
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Lol that thumbnail has you looking like your dancing to some techno music! Lol
I wish I could dance lol
@@jerrywise the photo makes me chuckle every time I see it.
Thank you once again for all your videos! They are very helpful!
I have one question, though: in this situation, would it be reactive if the son told his father that whatever happened was between him and his mother? Basically, couldn't he say that it's none of the father's business, but in a nicer way?
I am asking you this because in my family it's very common for my parents to try to interfere in my relationship with my sisters and I find it very invasive.
If the family is enmeshed he will not understand that it is 'none of his business" But you can say "I really think that this is between Mom and me" or 'Dad, it sounds like something Mom should be asking me"
@@jerrywise Thank you for responding! :)
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God Jerry your covers are amazing 🤣 I love them
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Dear Jerry thanks a lot for this video ❤ I'm learning a lot hear. I will try to have a look at the authors you mentioned. I would be happy if you have some particular book names. I wish you a nice day
The emotional manipulation (of the abusive brother, portraying his brother's wife as a "gold digger") reminds me of what the main character in the old movie "Marty" experiences from his "loved ones". 'Marty' is a brilliant film, starring Ernest Borgnine, that I think won an Oscar. But the story is of a middle aged not handsome man, who lives with his mother and hangs out with immature middle aged men. All his siblings are married, and Marty gets regularly shamed for still being single by his mother and customers at the butcher shop where he works. Then he meets a woman who is very quiet and considered unnattractive by men and they hit it off. ...But instead of his mother and his friends being happy for him, all of them attempt to manipulate him out of dating this woman. They make up all manner of lies so as to put Marty off from dating her. ...It's quite depressing to watch how all these people in his life, so called "loved ones" are all heartlessly focused on their own insecurities at the expense of Marty's happiness and well being. ...I won't say how the story ends, but it resonated with me just how utterly selfish and ultimately cruel people one is supposed to be loved by can all too casually be. ...Did I mention the word 'depressing'? Well, there it is again for good measure!
Thank you. Very nice.
Most welcome!
Thanks!
Excellent! Clear explanation of systems feelings ! The examples of responses are very helpful! At 8:07-9:02 and 19:46-20:40
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Glad it was helpful!
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Jack has a problem with women and a history of failed relationships. He’s jealous of his brother. Merry Christmas, Jer. Hopefully 2021 is a better year.
Thank you for watching Ashley!
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resonate
You can not overcome the system feelings as long as you are IN the system
do you mean physically or emotionally/mentally
@@こなた-m1o All of them.
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Good one.
But I have one question. About being called oversensitive.
Even if that's a system feeling trigger, I can imagine that most people would start defending themselves in this case, even without abuse.
Or if a person is called dumb, even if it doesn't trigger, people still want to protect themselves against that. As if, if they don't say anything, they agree.
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Blood truly isn't that thick
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I thoght I healed. But I am back.
I like what you say and so appreciate your videos. Please take this in a kind, helpful way when I say that sometimes you get too emotional & defensive in the videos. This defensiveness when you talk about scenarios turns me off and I want to say quit explaining so much, you give
your answer and let that be it.
Thanks Marie for the feedback. I know that some people find the extended examples very helpful, and also I like giving the examples they help me explain these complex ideas in more accessible ways. I hope you can continue tolerating them, also skipping them is an option. Appreciate you ❤️
Dear Craig, are you Catholic? I don’t do Catholicism, Mormonism or anything else but Christian Protestantism, especially Reformed Theology. I’m sorry if this boundary is not within your expectations. Please make it clear to me. Thanks.😊
Craig?
19:10: caught off, give in, attack, triangle
Question: what is 'triangle'?
triangulation, involve another person in the drama instead of dealing with it one on one
Also, why would you even keep contact with a father liike that?
If he gaslights, offends, why would you keep it?
It's a good reaction to try and not take offence, and act like they werent trying to call you a bad name. But is it real?
I feel like if a person feels guilt and shame, then those emotions are valid, they need to be worked. I feel like jumping over to correction isn't a good idea.
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There should be a "JOIN" button next to subscribe button on my front page of my channel. You may want to use a difference device, e.g. if using phone, use a desktop etc.
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Name calling
No engagement😊
I hope you realize you are speaking to a woman. I am not married to Jack. In fact i am not married, at all. Also, i am not trans, or lesbian. I’m pretty sure that i am going to walk away from relationships that are continuously disrespectful.😊
I sent you email
I will look for it Jerry
These videos just keep getting better and better! Thx 🙌🙌🙌🙌
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