My youngest son is Anne’s age and his autism re-evaluation is coming up. It can be stressful but it’s all for the better like you were saying. I have an older son (almost 12 years old) that has Autism and therapy really helped him. So I know the benefits of it all. He has thrived in school and he even does public speaking. God is so good!!
Same with me, my son is the same age and we are on the waitlist for his re-evaluation. It’s hard knowing the numbers are growing but I agree that the help that we give them now will definitely benefit them and our dreams of a great life for them. God sure is so good !!
I’m a school psychologist who does 3 year reevaluations for a living (not ADOS at this time). I’m also a mother to a son whose been identified with a disability. I know how difficult this is for you on both ends. I see you, I respect you, and I get it!
My daughter is on the spectrum and is now 23 years old. I thank God for her progress and some things have gotten easier but she still has challenges. Within the last 5 years, it's almost like a light switch was turned on and she is reasoning and articulating her feelings. It's a daily walk. thanks for sharing and praying for your strength.❤️
My twins were diagnosed at university of Chicago last month, I understand exactly how those emotions felt. I was in tears when they were formally diagnosed because I’m a single parent and it’s so overwhelming knowing the long road we have ahead. I actually didn’t know they have to be reevaluated every 3 years so I’m glad I clicked the video!
I know the feeling. I have two little girls on the spectrum. One is high functioning and my 4 year old is non-verbal. It’s always emotional but you are doing an amazing job. 💙
Vaughn I just want to say it takes courage to share this part of your reality. When we have children so much of our worth can be tied to our children. We get excited with all of the accomplishments. It’s the same when we feel like they are not “measuring up” to what we would like. However, you removing yourself and living in the moment helps. You allowing yourself to feel those feet and release the anxiety of it all is 100% kudos to you! Scream, cry and yell if you have to but release and keep trucking. Which you are. You have an awesome support system and you are a GREAT mom!! Keep ya head up! Anne is advancing wonderfully!💕💕
Hi Vaughn, I am an RBT, try not to worry too much about some of the behaviors you saw in clinic. Everyone is trained to manage behaviors and we all know that our kiddos get tired as the day goes on and we may see new behaviors when introducing something new or increasing demands. It is hard but you and Anthony are doing a good job.
My son is 11 and was diagnosed when he was 5. I didn't qualify for alot if programs because he was older. I feel you on everything you've said. Luckily with God's direction I am able to get him some help and therapy outside of what they do in his school. You got this Vaughn! God bless you all.
Yayyyyyy Glam Ma! To the Rescue!! I just Love your Mom!!! I always remind my daughter of 5 foster/adopted kiddos what a Wonderful Grandma I AM!!!! *wink*wink*
My son went undiagnosed until two years ago this year. He is now 14. He has a really high IQ so it really covered up all of the issues and he was being labeled with so many behavioral issues that didn’t fit him in the meantime. I am praying for you Vaughn. You are on the right track and doing what’s needed early! Sending love & light. To all of you in this endeavor to get her what she needs.
Depending on what state you live in, you can go through your county for services. In PA we have what they call as wrap around services. You provide a script with your child's diagnosis and apply for benefits only. With that I was able to pick an Agency and that agency provided me services based on the evaluation/assessment that they did. You may want to talk to the Department of Human Services as well.
This video took me back to where my emotions were 20 years ago. My daughter was evaluated at UIC and TUH THIS DAY I still don't want to drive by that area. My husband was with me for the evaluation, but I was by myself when they gave me the diagnosis so I knew exactly what you meant!. But believe me, you are blessing somebody with this content!
Vaughn you are one outstanding Mother. I have a son that is deaf and the appointments use to be so much and I was a single parent. God has blessed me for him to grad from high school and college. Ann is just so pretty. How I wish we was living closer to each other. I was also a Special Service teacher in South Carolina for over 6 years til I moved to Georgia. My mom taught Special Services for 33 years. I just love their personality. Awesome Mom!!!
I TOTALLY get it. I used to cry every time we'd have evaluations for my son. I still leave pretty sad when we have our quarterly IEP meetings because its a reminder of how far behind he is. He has made A LOT of progress so I just choose to focus on that.
M Thompson having a child with special needs can make you feel isolated. There’s a lot of moms like you, so please know that you are not alone! 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️
U are a very loving, patient , good moma, I’m so glad I found your channel , my grandson has Austim too, and it is very hard on my daughter, but I told her about your channel and now she watches u too, u really give her strength!!😘😘 I just want to say u are doing very good!
Wow, i didn’t know it was this much. Thank you for this video as it’s so educational for us parents (whether or not we have a child with autism). This is a lot and overwhelming for you Vaughn. She’s such a beautiful little girl and so full of love and life. Prayers for your continued strength, mama.
You are most certainly not the only one who feels this way during re-evals, lol. The entire process is extremely daunting and incredibly anxious. My son is going on 11 and he was diagnosed right after his 3rd birthday so we’ve been in the autism game for a minute. But I remember having to do this a lot when he was younger (around Ann’s age), some times alone, crying in the car just so that I could be strong when I was with him or in front of therapists and doctors. I also work with other children on the spectrum so I encounter a lot of families going through similar obstacles. One thing for sure that I can say is, having a strong community to help in those challenging moments means a world of a difference. My husband at the time did not take our sons diagnosis well (as most dads are with their sons) and I am so overly grateful for my mom. Just as your mom did, she would step in at times to be that strong backbone I needed to help get us through - even though she’d be trying so hard to fight back her own feelings/emotions. Thank you Vaughn for being one of very very very few black families to show real life struggles, day-to-day realities of being a special needs family. That representation truly does matter.
Yes that’s the key, and when you have own the challenges on the re-evaluation day or the IEP it is so painful as a mother, because it send you down memory road and a in your feelings moments for a couple of days. We all experience the same emotions, and Only you...! can identify. We have to continue to walk the journey GOD choose us to lead. Love Yourself 😘🤟🏽
This video brought back so many memories. My son was first diagnosed with ADHD at 4.5 years old. He was diagnosed with autism at 5.5. Because he was so high functioning and very intelligent, we didn’t notice much, other than hyperactivity. He had a lot of behavioral problems when his sister was born, and we chalked it up to jealousy. But as my daughter grew older, his behavior grew worse, so it was more than sibling jealousy. We embarked on a journey of special education, special schools, and advocating (and fighting) for services. I, along with his father, also advocated for academics that were appropriate for his abilities, and encouraged the development of his talent for drawing. Thankfully, today my son is calmer, functions better and is making his way through college. His social interactions are much better. The ADHD symptoms are more prominent at this point, so the executive functioning is still a work in progress although much improved. I will say this: you celebrate the progress and keep pushing through the setbacks. And you cherish your support system. I think you are doing great!
Thank you for sharing your experiences as an Autism Mom. It is helpful to others going through the process of evaluations and therapy. As a speech language pathologist I worked 34 years in the public school system in my city. I've provided services for many children on the Spectrum and understand the stress on both sides of the table. You are doing a great job with Anne. I love how you expose her to new things and give her multiple attempts to incorporate old things into her regimen. And as a language person, the way you model talking about her world is on point. Anne is soaking all that in. Keep it up. Looking forward to future videos on this channel! As a final observation, consider re-evaluating your thoughts on Anne getting her get her own way. I know where your heart is, but in the long run, that won't be beneficial. Of course there must be modifications in expectations due to her diagnosis, but following directions and socially appropriate behaviors within one's capacity are developmental skills all children must learn, and it's an ongoing process for us all. Start small like you do with introducing new foods.
What good advice you are giving Vaughn. It must not be easy to tell a parent to "consider re-evaluating your thoughts"; but it is true. At one IEP for my son, the evaluator told me this differently: She said I was my son's biggest handicap by giving him his own way, by "spoiling him."
Sis! Over here sending you hugs and wishing I was there to hold your hand and help. Thank you for sharing your real life experience. Sooooooooo eye opening and touching....my eyes are leaking...🤗
Hi Vaughn! I’m a fellow autism mom and I just want to send you some encouragement to stand on. You are a special woman that God trusted for the position your in. Anne will be the miracle to break the stigma behind autism.
I have been fighting to get my daughter diagnosed. I think she has high functioning autism and she is 4. I keep getting the runaround and it’s so frustrating. Everyone keeps throwing around ADD, ADHD, sensory processing disorder, and ODD! I can’t tell you how upsetting and overwhelmed I get! Now she’s going to be put in a EBD classroom for kindergarten. As a school counselor, I never know the parents side and now I do! And seeing your video and how strong you are gives me the motivation to keep going! Thanks!
I applaud you for documenting this even though it’s a tough moment for you. I can only imagine all the moms who are feeling frantic after a diagnosis finding you and your content and feeling hopeful because they have a resource in you. You do such a good job!
I just found out that re-evaluations were a thing. My daughter got her diagnosis at 2.5. She's 6 next month and struggling in kindergarten. Thank you for sharing your experience. You're doing a great job mama!
I applaud you for seeking services for Anne at an early age. Congratulations on Anne’s progress! My daughter was diagnosed at age 3 ASD, she is now 5 soon to be 6! The evaluation is emotional… I had tears of joy when she was diagnosed because everyone told me she was not autistic but just a slow developing 😳. Autism is a beautiful gift. These individuals mind works on another level that is our duty to try and understand and adapt to their world. Continue to stay strong and be the mother the wonderful mother you are.
I know about this all too well because my now 23 year old is on the spectrum. Seems like it was just yesterday going through the process of it all. It is definitely very hard to deal with. Love and light to you, Vaughn.
@@hoistedhair He’s doing great! Still working for the same company since h.s. graduation in the field of computers. And has his drivers license. He’s on the high end of the spectrum and mainly has issues socially. Thank you for asking💗
@@LakeiaCreates-2010 Thanks for this information. While I know everyone on the spectrum is different, I wonder how things go for adults with Autism. My daughter is 8 on the spectrum. I just want her to be as independent as possible. I’m glad to hear your son works and has a driver’s license.
Hey sis im here!! Watching!! LOVE YOU MY ANNE!! 💜💜💜💜💜God is awesome!! Look at that growing girl!! Man I had to come back and type this! I wish I was here to give yall big HUGS!! Champion NATION! You got this!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Dominique Derveaux ON POINT!!🙌🏾
Anne is growing up sooo fastttt.....her dancing with grandma made me realize how TALL she is getting ❤ We love you and your family thank you for always being so transparent ❤
My son is getting evaluated soon, he is almost 4. It is so tough already, especially his meltdowns. It breaks my heart, but I know we will get there. We gotta stay positive and make the best out of it! I am reading everything about ASD and all other mental conditions just to be ahead. Thank you for sharing your story and making me not feel alone. I know there are a lot of mums out there who struggle. We only want the best for our children! Sending you all a lot of love! ❤
I just stumbled across your page and I'm glad I did....... my son just turned 2 yrs old and he has alot of the signs of autism........ my son is getting evaluated soon to be actually diagnosed but there's no doubt in my mind that he is autistic.......... its very refreshing to see to another parent going through the same thing as me.......... I thankyou for your transparency cuz alot of time I feel alone and it gets overwhelming and frustrating at time especially because I have other children I have to care 4 also......... so thankyou for your reassurances I needed this❤
Paused to say, you’re absolutely right. We ALL feel this way when our kids aren’t able to quite “meet” a milestone. We all feel those joys when they do too. It’s the transparency that really just hits home. You’re giving Anne the ABSOLUTE BEST CHANCE at life and autism isn’t who she is, just a part of her. She is so intelligent and she’ll do incredible things in this world. Thank you so much for sharing, Vaugh. You’re such a great mother. You inspire me so much in many ways. Love your family. 🖤🥺🥺🙌🏾
Omg I love that your mom being there!!! My mom is the same, rarely showing a “grandma” side 😂 she just moms everyone at all times. So much care in this video 🥰
VAUGHN YOU GOT THIS!!!! I HAVE NEVER SEEN A MOTHER LOVE ON HER CHILD LIKE YOU DO, CONTINUE TO BE A GREAT ROLE MODEL FOR OTHERS AND KNOW THAT THIS PATH FOR YOU IS ALL MENT FOR GOOD. IM TRULY INSPIRED 👏🏼👏🏼💕💕
You’re an amazing mom and Anne is sooooo blessed to have you! Thank you for sharing with us, I’m sure you’re helping SO many families with similar experiences 💕🌻
I am a 7th grade special education teacher and I have students on the spectrum. Thank you for posting this video. It is helpful to see autism from a parent’s perspective.
MOM came in the building and the burden lifted. I love it. I've enjoyed watching baby girl grow up . I do not have children so I don't know how I ended up so into babygirl . I felt your anxiety girl, I started crying. I'm a empath so I felt your concern. You got this because this is your miracle baby and you were especially assigned to be this baby mommy for a very special reason. You both need one another and I love it.
My 15 year old has Down Syndrome and it is hard, I look at you and see me because if you don't have a child with a disability, you will never be able to understand the challenges, the mental frustration and so on. You are amazing and you are doing great. Ann is so beautiful and such a light and you and your village is doing so great to be a support system for baby girl. I wish I had my family and friends with me but we live 4 hours away from our loved ones and so uts just me, my husband and our 3 kiddos, so ut is rough, but God is so good and so faithful. Thank you for your transparency and for giving us moms a voice. I will lift you guys up in prayers continually and be encouraged.
The process is very painstaking. My boy has come sooo far since then, but still has a ways to go, but you are doing all the right things, you are an awesome mother! I don’t know you personally but your vlogs are helping people and I am so proud to be a supporter of you well before Ann was here, but now more than ever.
I have a very close family member who has special needs. All I can say is, go with your feelings and don’t feel guilty. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like screaming, go outside and scream. You Are such a great mother, and I know you couldn’t do it without your mother. One day at a time. Stay safe.
Vaughn...I’m sorry ..parenting is not easy..even if they don’t have “precious needs”. God is using you in soo many ways..just think HE chose you!! Your mother is such a blessing ..you never out grow a loving parent. Thank you and Anthony for being such loving and caring parents...you guys are making a difference just know that..be encouraged 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I see a strong woman in you and even a strong woman needs to be checked on.. I pray that you’re good Vaughn. I will continue to pray for your strength and health. You seem to have a very tight support system so I pray for them too. Anne is awesome and what I see from your videos is an awesome family!!!💕💕
Yes. I'm very curious about how you discipline Anne. I imagine you have to decipher which behavior is typical and which is related to her condition before you discipline. 🤔
Watching this vlog made me want to drive 3 hours to see my mom and just hug her. I never realized what she could be going through or was going through with my brother’s autism. This definitely left me in tears. Will be praying for you and your family ❤️
Listen...your doing everything your suppose to be doing. Keep up with the therapy. I’m a ABA therapist and I have a son who was diagnosed with moderate autism. With therapy and the preschool I placed him in he moved to mild autism.
Ms. V and Mr. A, the blessing is Anne has you both and family, and all of us. We have experience this warmeth of love each time you come on your video's. I pray each day you all are strengthen, and God's grace continues to rest on you. Because your patience has been a virture. I don't no your break downs but you are full love, kindness, and grace. I send my love and hugs to you today. Hi to your mother she is so loving. Anne we love you God's little Angel. 🌸💐🙏💫💕💝🙏God masters all things He gives Grace. 💐🌸💕💝
Hey I’m a new subscriber I was referred to your channel because earlier this year my daughter was diagnosed with autism and I honestly responded the same way and I connected with you here stay strong your an amazing mom and she’s beautiful thank you for sharing your journey so moms like me in the same situation don’t feel completely lost ❤️
My son was 3 when he was diagnosed and he is now 23. It's hard I know, but you are an amazing mom. Oh, and I still give into my son. You have to sometime to get them to do what you want. Ann is adorable and your mom is awesome as well. Because of my journey with Autism, I now advocate for children's educational rights as well as services. So, I attend IEP'S, meetings for evaluation data, etc. But, yes....I would get that way at first with the evaluation process. Once I got use to how things were going to go, I use to do a social story and schedule for my son as to how the day was going to go. That is his thing. He has to know what he is doing for the day. He would carry it with him and look at it as they went down the process. It helped to keep him calm which helped me. Of course my mom was with me because most times my ex husband couldn't be there. My mom was my rock just like your mom is. I am keeping you guys in prayer. God definitely has you. You have an awesome channel!
Hey Vaughn! Hugs to you. Im sure that can be a stressful process. You guys are awesome parents & grandparents. Watching Anne enjoy the music. & dancing w/her Gma was so heart warming.
Crying along with you. I remember this path, still on this path. Trust me it gets a little easier. Cry if you feel like it. God has got you and your family. She is a really lovely little girl.
I really need this my daughter is about to be 5 and she is autistic . looking at this video remind me of how my daughter act always singing covering her ears running off it so hard I felt so alone and people can't understand I have try to teach my daughter every but nothing works . I really needed this to show me I am not alone it's hard being a mom to a autistic child ...I have two ...both of my youngest kids ...4 and 3 is autistic it so hard I feel like am about to lose my mind but I pray and cry.. wipe my tears and keep it moving because my kids need me . So I definitely need this be blessed
I know how you feel. My son has ADHD and all his evaluations are disappointing. Please don’t give up on your daughter. Just know we are all in this together. You are an awesome mother.
Girl! This Vlog gave me anxiety for real! Man! I've soooo been there and still going thru it, with all the therapies, and testings! It's so not easy and I know that I will never accept the Autism diagnosis. I treat autism as symptoms and I work on each symptom as we go! Also by me not accepting the diagnosis. (By all means... I'm not suggesting that you do not accept the diagnosis. I'm just sharing what has worked for me mentally) It has helped me put myself in a different mindset and that has really helped me with my son and his progress (jr is 7). They are Ms. Vaughn...You're doing your best and Ann see's it and knows her mama has her! You and your family GO HARD FOR HER!. Ann has made so much strides because of you, your family and her support team! She is soaring high! Thank you for being so transparent and honesty! It's so Raw and Real! God Bless.. #YouGotThis
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am a Autism Mom of a 2 yr old boy. He is our third child and it was quite a shock! It was difficult for me and my husband to accept at first and truth be told we still struggle. During his first initial test, I cried at the results even though I knew in my heart something was off with my child. You are not alone and I'm thankful to have found another relatable black family who faces similar challenges. You have help me with acceptance and not trying to cure my child. We love you and Anne! 😘😘😘❤️❤️❤️
Hugs! I can totally relate to you feeling overwhelmed. I’m a single mother to a soon to be 5 year old autistic daughter. I have my moments where I feel completely overwhelmed. So again…. Sending you a virtual hug as i watch this.
Thank you so much for your courage and for sharing your journey as a black mom. As a first time mom with a 4 year old that has Autism its rough. Evaluations can definitely be rough and stressful. My family is all new to the idea of Autism and although I am also a special educator more times than not I have felt like I am failing him. Your story gives me inspiration and reminds me that I am not alone. Thank you so much for doing what you do. I will continue to follow you and Ann's journey. Much love.
Hugs to U. I can understand where you are coming from. My daughter aged out of our state early intervention program this year and is now in special education pre-k with the school district. Reading the evaluations, IEP reports, therapy notes etc. have really been a struggle as a first time parent. I'm nervous about her upcoming specialist appointment. I said all that to say, thank you for sharing because I don't personally have friendships with other parents that I feel can relate.
My son is an adult who happens to have Aspergers, an Autism Spectrum Disorder and I taught hearing-impaired children for twenty years. I've been a part of the re-eval process on both sides of the table. This is a critically important, yet stressful time in your lives. You look like you are doing a great job and the best thing you can do is have the support of your family and close friends. Don't worry about how Ann's behaving at any particular moment. The re-eval team can see that she is a happy, healthy well-loved little girl and they want to help her. Please know that you can do this and one day you'll look back with pride on the experience you've had to get this child to be the young lady she'll one day become. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys.
Stay calm! Always remember it's about Anne and what's best for her. I have autism. My mum always thought it was about her and she would blame me and get frustrated. It's not anyone's fault that the child has a disability. It's about getting the right help and support for her and you.
❤️❤️❤️ I'm having a tough mommy week (out of many} too so I totally understand. I could relate to a lot of what you said about trying your best with your kids and then being very nervous when they're being evaluated for this or for that. I've been and am still there. Thank you for sharing your experience 🤗
Thank you for being transparent and showing your true emotions. It’s ok to be overwhelmed, frustrated, sad, etc. Plenty of mothers would’ve folded under these circumstances but it’s refreshing to see you give yourself grace as a mother. Obviously nobody wants to see their child go through this but ppl often write off the mother like we aren’t going through a whole situation ourselves. You’re doing AMAZING and we love to see it! Especially in the black community.
Beautiful video! I almost cried becuase your mom was there to support. I crave that as my mom is another country and I have twins (both possibly autistic) with medical issues, etc. You mentioned in around 14 minutes in the video that Anne isn't typically violent. You also mentioned that she gets her way. She is not typically violent becuase she gets her way? it might be a good idea to break that habit of giving her way. So that you can monitor her behavior and correct it. As she gets older, things will become challenging. I could be wrong. I am not bashing you. I enjoy your channel and support you and your family.
Having a child with autism is very difficult. Some times you feel alone like know once understands what we go through. Specifically when family don't understand 😔I feel you !
Thank you for your transparency. Anne has a wonderful support system behind her and I’m glad to see that you do too. You’re doing amazing, above and beyond and it shows
Hey Vaughn! You’re not alone. My daughter is not autistic, but she is deaf and developmental delayed due to premature birth. Londyn, my daughter, has what feels like tons of evaluations at various times throughout the year and our experiences have been much like yours. Londyn is 11 now and a bit more patient and compliant, but still very stressed and annoyed when she feels like her every move is being watched. It’s a stressful time for all of us. Much like you, my husband will attend when work allows but if not, my mom is my other partner in crime! Thank God for supportive family! Anyways, you’re a wonderful mother and Ann is so very blessed to have you all. Thanks for sharing. God bless you all. ❤️
Hello, I went through these evaluations about 13 years ago. Thank you for sharing your journey. A lot of parents feel the way you do. It is something that is different for everyone but the emotions and concerns connect us. Your daughter Ann is a beautiful angel. God Bless you and your family. My son is now 16. He is fully audible and doing great in high school. 🤗
Hey Vaughn!! I'm late but I try not to miss your videos. I've been on a bit of a social media holiday but I love your Autism related videos so much. You know I've commented many times about how closely Anne reminds me of my Granddaughter. It's so awesome to see how far she's come. My granddaughter has an appointment tomorrow for her third evaluation. I had her tested and then got a second opinion at a totally different place. But she's evaluated regularly because she's in public school and they don't like to help out our kiddos as much. So I stay on top of things for her. Both her and her brother have Autism. So I'm hoping my anxiety will be at a minimum tomorrow. Her behavioral therapist will be with us so that will ease my anxiety a bit. You always do so awesome with her so please know that she is doing great. We see you and admire your courage. You have nothing to fear. 😍🥰🧩🧩
STRENGTH, COURAGE, WISDOM, PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING we thank you for it all! May God continue to shine his face upon you & your family and bring you peace.
Stay encouraged beautiful mommy! I (personally) feel you are doing an amazing job and deserve all the handclaps ( 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾) I can give. Parenting is stressful, autism (or any other challenge) makes it that much more stressful. If I can provide any encouragement it is to say, keep on doing what you're doing...self-care, utilizing your village (support), loving on your angel, and being aware of her milestones. YOU ARE A M A Z I N G!!
God bless ❤️. My son has an IEP and it does make me sad, anxious, and self doubting when the instructors tell me what marks he hasn’t met. But, he has come along way!! Thank you for your transparency Vaughn❤️❤️❤️
You are such a great mom Vaughn! I seriously wanted to just hug you, watching you in that waiting room. I’ve had a few students who are on the spectrum and their parents are always the most understanding, patient, most amazing parents I’ve ever met. You are no different!
I get it my son also was diagnosed w ASD. He was diagnosed at 3 1/2. It’s so hard to hear where 0ur children really are compared to their peers it’s rough. My son was only diagnosed once and for some reason we’ve never had to have him re evaluated. He’s 10 now and only did play therapy when he was first diagnosed and also speech and o.t. Also I homeschool him which he is thriving in.
You are not the only one who freaks out lol I do too! This is so educational and definitely makes us who go through this not feel alone. Thank you for sharing your experience❤️ You got this!!! ❤️
Thank you for sharing this journey. My toddler was diagnosed with ASD late last year. As prevalent as Autism is, I still don’t think there are adequate resources to help guide parents; or at least not quite what I am looking for. I have found a few helpful resources, but I still feel lost; so I appreciate you sharing this part of your life. I am still trying to get therapy approved and doing the best I can with home therapies. It would be great to see a video on how you handle discipline and any other topic you feel may be helpful.
Im so happy mom was there with you! That is definitely a weight lifted. My husband is usually working during my daughter’s appointments its so tough especially now with the Pandemic hospitals only allowing one parent in. I love your transparency. My daughter was diagnosed with ASD in February but her initial diagnosis is rare Kleefstra Syndrome. I always freak out during her testings!! Thank you as always Vaughn!! 💜💜
My son is 20 months old now, was diagnosed with autism two months ago. All of this is still new to my husband and I, we are still processing and trying to cope. I feel exactly how you felt with Anne at 18 months. We just started doing speech therapy, developmental therapy and occupational therapy and I'm hoping it will help. Watching this video gives me hope. Thank you for sharing. 😊
Not an Autism mom but I watch all your videos. You are just an amazing person. I love you dedication to your family and yourself. I pray this process becomes easier but you are doing such a wonderful job! I often forget Anne is autistic. Prayers to you and your family. And good job to Grandma too. What a blessing to have her support you all in this process. ❤
I found your video at the perfect time. My 3 year old daughter was diagnosed with autism in March and it has been overwhelming. Keeping up with her therapy and now getting ready for IEP meetings for preschool. It’s a lot. Thankfully, my daughter has been handling it all like a champ 😊.
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He gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers ❤️ You’re doing amazing Vaughn
This comment made me cry but I will remember this 🙏🏾❤️
This! ❤️
Vaughn is doing a great job! Keep pressing mama Vaughn You Got This!!!
Amen!
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Your transparency is helping so many... keep going! You were hand picked by God for Anne. I pray for your strength when you feel weak.
Such a beautiful comment.
I agree
@Pauline Philyaw Agreed....antidote to fear, anxiety, pain, sickness, sadness, etc....is that he promised never will he leave us or forsake us.
My youngest son is Anne’s age and his autism re-evaluation is coming up. It can be stressful but it’s all for the better like you were saying. I have an older son (almost 12 years old) that has Autism and therapy really helped him. So I know the benefits of it all. He has thrived in school and he even does public speaking. God is so good!!
God is so good all the time! Amen
Amazing 🙏💪🖤
Awesome!
Wonderful ❤️
Same with me, my son is the same age and we are on the waitlist for his re-evaluation. It’s hard knowing the numbers are growing but I agree that the help that we give them now will definitely benefit them and our dreams of a great life for them. God sure is so good !!
When your MOM arrived, the weight was totally lifted. A loving, caring mother is a Blessing. Ann is alright...God has a plan for her life.
I’m a school psychologist who does 3 year reevaluations for a living (not ADOS at this time). I’m also a mother to a son whose been identified with a disability. I know how difficult this is for you on both ends. I see you, I respect you, and I get it!
My daughter is on the spectrum and is now 23 years old. I thank God for her progress and some things have gotten easier but she still has challenges. Within the last 5 years, it's almost like a light switch was turned on and she is reasoning and articulating her feelings. It's a daily walk. thanks for sharing and praying for your strength.❤️
My twins were diagnosed at university of Chicago last month, I understand exactly how those emotions felt. I was in tears when they were formally diagnosed because I’m a single parent and it’s so overwhelming knowing the long road we have ahead. I actually didn’t know they have to be reevaluated every 3 years so I’m glad I clicked the video!
You got this. Stay Strong QUEEN 👸🙏🙌🙏
@Megan Okuesa May God grant you the strength and endurance you need to overcome.
@@rse432 your words of encouragement, in the LORD (that you share w/ others) are beautiful. Continue to speak life, God bless you
praying for you and your two children! God will see you through this, remember HE will never forsake you or your children.
@@LifewithBreanna_ You as well. That is all we can do in this time we are in, encourage each other in Christ.
I know the feeling. I have two little girls on the spectrum. One is high functioning and my 4 year old is non-verbal. It’s always emotional but you are doing an amazing job. 💙
Grandmothers are the absolute best.
Vaughn I just want to say it takes courage to share this part of your reality. When we have children so much of our worth can be tied to our children. We get excited with all of the accomplishments. It’s the same when we feel like they are not “measuring up” to what we would like. However, you removing yourself and living in the moment helps. You allowing yourself to feel those feet and release the anxiety of it all is 100% kudos to you! Scream, cry and yell if you have to but release and keep trucking. Which you are. You have an awesome support system and you are a GREAT mom!! Keep ya head up! Anne is advancing wonderfully!💕💕
I love love love ur post.....thank you🙏🏾
Hi Vaughn, I am an RBT, try not to worry too much about some of the behaviors you saw in clinic. Everyone is trained to manage behaviors and we all know that our kiddos get tired as the day goes on and we may see new behaviors when introducing something new or increasing demands. It is hard but you and Anthony are doing a good job.
My son is 11 and was diagnosed when he was 5. I didn't qualify for alot if programs because he was older. I feel you on everything you've said. Luckily with God's direction I am able to get him some help and therapy outside of what they do in his school. You got this Vaughn! God bless you all.
Yayyyyyy Glam Ma! To the Rescue!! I just Love your Mom!!! I always remind my daughter of 5 foster/adopted kiddos what a Wonderful Grandma I AM!!!! *wink*wink*
My son went undiagnosed until two years ago this year. He is now 14. He has a really high IQ so it really covered up all of the issues and he was being labeled with so many behavioral issues that didn’t fit him in the meantime. I am praying for you Vaughn. You are on the right track and doing what’s needed early! Sending love & light. To all of you in this endeavor to get her what she needs.
Depending on what state you live in, you can go through your county for services. In PA we have what they call as wrap around services. You provide a script with your child's diagnosis and apply for benefits only. With that I was able to pick an Agency and that agency provided me services based on the evaluation/assessment that they did. You may want to talk to the Department of Human Services as well.
This video took me back to where my emotions were 20 years ago. My daughter was evaluated at UIC and TUH THIS DAY I still don't want to drive by that area. My husband was with me for the evaluation, but I was by myself when they gave me the diagnosis so I knew exactly what you meant!. But believe me, you are blessing somebody with this content!
Vaughn you are one outstanding Mother. I have a son that is deaf and the appointments use to be so much and I was a single parent. God has blessed me for him to grad from high school and college. Ann is just so pretty. How I wish we was living closer to each other. I was also a Special Service teacher in South Carolina for over 6 years til I moved to Georgia. My mom taught Special Services for 33 years. I just love their personality. Awesome Mom!!!
I TOTALLY get it. I used to cry every time we'd have evaluations for my son. I still leave pretty sad when we have our quarterly IEP meetings because its a reminder of how far behind he is. He has made A LOT of progress so I just choose to focus on that.
Thanks for sharing that. I got so sad and scared when I read my daughter's IEP. I didn't know how to process it and felt so alone.
M Thompson having a child with special needs can make you feel isolated. There’s a lot of moms like you, so please know that you are not alone! 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️
U are a very loving, patient , good moma, I’m so glad I found your channel , my grandson has Austim too, and it is very hard on my daughter, but I told her about your channel and now she watches u too, u really give her strength!!😘😘 I just want to say u are doing very good!
If she is on IG or tik Tok she can follow Living with Lilac. Lilac is older than Anne but the mom gives many tips and shares her experiences.
Wow, i didn’t know it was this much. Thank you for this video as it’s so educational for us parents (whether or not we have a child with autism). This is a lot and overwhelming for you Vaughn. She’s such a beautiful little girl and so full of love and life. Prayers for your continued strength, mama.
You are extremely blessed to have your mom's support. She's the best kind of mother and grandmother.
My sister is in the early stages of diagnosis for my niece. This blog series has been very helpful and showing me how I can better support her. Thx!
You are most certainly not the only one who feels this way during re-evals, lol. The entire process is extremely daunting and incredibly anxious. My son is going on 11 and he was diagnosed right after his 3rd birthday so we’ve been in the autism game for a minute. But I remember having to do this a lot when he was younger (around Ann’s age), some times alone, crying in the car just so that I could be strong when I was with him or in front of therapists and doctors. I also work with other children on the spectrum so I encounter a lot of families going through similar obstacles. One thing for sure that I can say is, having a strong community to help in those challenging moments means a world of a difference. My husband at the time did not take our sons diagnosis well (as most dads are with their sons) and I am so overly grateful for my mom. Just as your mom did, she would step in at times to be that strong backbone I needed to help get us through - even though she’d be trying so hard to fight back her own feelings/emotions. Thank you Vaughn for being one of very very very few black families to show real life struggles, day-to-day realities of being a special needs family. That representation truly does matter.
I get emotional everytime that I have to fill out a questionnaire. It makes you realize what your child "doesn't do" by the book.
Yes, that's how I felt reading my child's IEP assessment
Yes that’s the key, and when you have own the challenges on the re-evaluation day or the IEP it is so painful as a mother, because it send you down memory road and a in your feelings moments for a couple of days. We all experience the same emotions, and Only you...! can identify. We have to continue to walk the journey GOD choose us to lead. Love Yourself 😘🤟🏽
This video brought back so many memories. My son was first diagnosed with ADHD at 4.5 years old. He was diagnosed with autism at 5.5. Because he was so high functioning and very intelligent, we didn’t notice much, other than hyperactivity. He had a lot of behavioral problems when his sister was born, and we chalked it up to jealousy. But as my daughter grew older, his behavior grew worse, so it was more than sibling jealousy. We embarked on a journey of special education, special schools, and advocating (and fighting) for services. I, along with his father, also advocated for academics that were appropriate for his abilities, and encouraged the development of his talent for drawing. Thankfully, today my son is calmer, functions better and is making his way through college. His social interactions are much better. The ADHD symptoms are more prominent at this point, so the executive functioning is still a work in progress although much improved. I will say this: you celebrate the progress and keep pushing through the setbacks. And you cherish your support system. I think you are doing great!
Thank you for sharing your experiences as an Autism Mom. It is helpful to others going through the process of evaluations and therapy. As a speech language pathologist I worked 34 years in the public school system in my city. I've provided services for many children on the Spectrum and understand the stress on both sides of the table. You are doing a great job with Anne. I love how you expose her to new things and give her multiple attempts to incorporate old things into her regimen. And as a language person, the way you model talking about her world is on point. Anne is soaking all that in. Keep it up. Looking forward to future videos on this channel! As a final observation, consider re-evaluating your thoughts on Anne getting her get her own way. I know where your heart is, but in the long run, that won't be beneficial. Of course there must be modifications in expectations due to her diagnosis, but following directions and socially appropriate behaviors within one's capacity are developmental skills all children must learn, and it's an ongoing process for us all. Start small like you do with introducing new foods.
What good advice you are giving Vaughn. It must not be easy to tell a parent to "consider re-evaluating your thoughts"; but it is true. At one IEP for my son, the evaluator told me this differently: She said I was my son's biggest handicap by giving him his own way, by "spoiling him."
Sis! Over here sending you hugs and wishing I was there to hold your hand and help. Thank you for sharing your real life experience. Sooooooooo eye opening and touching....my eyes are leaking...🤗
Be encouraged, Vaughn, you’re doing a great job. You’re so blessed to still have your Mama to help out when necessary.
Hi Vaughn! I’m a fellow autism mom and I just want to send you some encouragement to stand on. You are a special woman that God trusted for the position your in. Anne will be the miracle to break the stigma behind autism.
I have been fighting to get my daughter diagnosed. I think she has high functioning autism and she is 4. I keep getting the runaround and it’s so frustrating. Everyone keeps throwing around ADD, ADHD, sensory processing disorder, and ODD! I can’t tell you how upsetting and overwhelmed I get! Now she’s going to be put in a EBD classroom for kindergarten. As a school counselor, I never know the parents side and now I do! And seeing your video and how strong you are gives me the motivation to keep going! Thanks!
I applaud you for documenting this even though it’s a tough moment for you. I can only imagine all the moms who are feeling frantic after a diagnosis finding you and your content and feeling hopeful because they have a resource in you. You do such a good job!
I just found out that re-evaluations were a thing. My daughter got her diagnosis at 2.5. She's 6 next month and struggling in kindergarten. Thank you for sharing your experience. You're doing a great job mama!
I applaud you for seeking services for Anne at an early age. Congratulations on Anne’s progress! My daughter was diagnosed at age 3 ASD, she is now 5 soon to be 6! The evaluation is emotional… I had tears of joy when she was diagnosed because everyone told me she was not autistic but just a slow developing 😳. Autism is a beautiful gift. These individuals mind works on another level that is our duty to try and understand and adapt to their world. Continue to stay strong and be the mother the wonderful mother you are.
I know about this all too well because my now 23 year old is on the spectrum. Seems like it was just yesterday going through the process of it all. It is definitely very hard to deal with. Love and light to you, Vaughn.
How is he doing now?
@@hoistedhair He’s doing great! Still working for the same company since h.s. graduation in the field of computers. And has his drivers license. He’s on the high end of the spectrum and mainly has issues socially. Thank you for asking💗
@@LakeiaCreates-2010 that’s awesome. Such a blessing. I pray he continues to be successful both at work and socially! You’re an awesome mom!
@@hoistedhair awww thank you so much for this🥰 I really appreciate it.
@@LakeiaCreates-2010 Thanks for this information. While I know everyone on the spectrum is different, I wonder how things go for adults with Autism. My daughter is 8 on the spectrum. I just want her to be as independent as possible. I’m glad to hear your son works and has a driver’s license.
Hey sis im here!! Watching!! LOVE YOU MY ANNE!! 💜💜💜💜💜God is awesome!! Look at that growing girl!! Man I had to come back and type this! I wish I was here to give yall big HUGS!! Champion NATION! You got this!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Dominique Derveaux ON POINT!!🙌🏾
Thanks for sharing this piece of your life. It's such a selfless thing to do. I appreciate you❤
Anne is growing up sooo fastttt.....her dancing with grandma made me realize how TALL she is getting ❤ We love you and your family thank you for always being so transparent ❤
My son is getting evaluated soon, he is almost 4. It is so tough already, especially his meltdowns. It breaks my heart, but I know we will get there. We gotta stay positive and make the best out of it! I am reading everything about ASD and all other mental conditions just to be ahead. Thank you for sharing your story and making me not feel alone. I know there are a lot of mums out there who struggle. We only want the best for our children! Sending you all a lot of love! ❤
I just stumbled across your page and I'm glad I did....... my son just turned 2 yrs old and he has alot of the signs of autism........ my son is getting evaluated soon to be actually diagnosed but there's no doubt in my mind that he is autistic.......... its very refreshing to see to another parent going through the same thing as me.......... I thankyou for your transparency cuz alot of time I feel alone and it gets overwhelming and frustrating at time especially because I have other children I have to care 4 also......... so thankyou for your reassurances I needed this❤
Paused to say, you’re absolutely right. We ALL feel this way when our kids aren’t able to quite “meet” a milestone. We all feel those joys when they do too. It’s the transparency that really just hits home. You’re giving Anne the ABSOLUTE BEST CHANCE at life and autism isn’t who she is, just a part of her. She is so intelligent and she’ll do incredible things in this world. Thank you so much for sharing, Vaugh. You’re such a great mother. You inspire me so much in many ways. Love your family. 🖤🥺🥺🙌🏾
Omg I love that your mom being there!!! My mom is the same, rarely showing a “grandma” side 😂 she just moms everyone at all times. So much care in this video 🥰
Your mom is so supportive! Y’all remind me of me and my mom. I know she’ll be super supportive when my babies come. I love to see it!
VAUGHN YOU GOT THIS!!!! I HAVE NEVER SEEN A MOTHER LOVE ON HER CHILD LIKE YOU DO, CONTINUE TO BE A GREAT ROLE MODEL FOR OTHERS AND KNOW THAT THIS PATH FOR YOU IS ALL MENT FOR GOOD. IM TRULY INSPIRED 👏🏼👏🏼💕💕
You’re an amazing mom and Anne is sooooo blessed to have you! Thank you for sharing with us, I’m sure you’re helping SO many families with similar experiences 💕🌻
I am a 7th grade special education teacher and I have students on the spectrum. Thank you for posting this video. It is helpful to see autism from a parent’s perspective.
MOM came in the building and the burden lifted. I love it. I've enjoyed watching baby girl grow up . I do not have children so I don't know how I ended up so into babygirl . I felt your anxiety girl, I started crying. I'm a empath so I felt your concern. You got this because this is your miracle baby and you were especially assigned to be this baby mommy for a very special reason. You both need one another and I love it.
All any of us can do is BE day to day. From where I stand, You rock, even when having a melt down! You ROCK!
My son was diagnosed last year and this video gives me hope ♥️ stay strong mama bear
Thanks grandma for being there. It's always good to have support from other family members. She is there also to understand and later engagements
My 15 year old has Down Syndrome and it is hard, I look at you and see me because if you don't have a child with a disability, you will never be able to understand the challenges, the mental frustration and so on. You are amazing and you are doing great. Ann is so beautiful and such a light and you and your village is doing so great to be a support system for baby girl. I wish I had my family and friends with me but we live 4 hours away from our loved ones and so uts just me, my husband and our 3 kiddos, so ut is rough, but God is so good and so faithful. Thank you for your transparency and for giving us moms a voice. I will lift you guys up in prayers continually and be encouraged.
The process is very painstaking. My boy has come sooo far since then, but still has a ways to go, but you are doing all the right things, you are an awesome mother! I don’t know you personally but your vlogs are helping people and I am so proud to be a supporter of you well before Ann was here, but now more than ever.
I have a very close family member who has special needs. All I can say is, go with your feelings and don’t feel guilty. If you feel like crying, cry. If you feel like screaming, go outside and scream. You Are such a great mother, and I know you couldn’t do it without your mother. One day at a time. Stay safe.
Vaughn...I’m sorry ..parenting is not easy..even if they don’t have “precious needs”. God is using you in soo many ways..just think HE chose you!!
Your mother is such a blessing ..you never out grow a loving parent. Thank you and Anthony for being such loving and caring parents...you guys are making a difference just know that..be encouraged 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I see a strong woman in you and even a strong woman needs to be checked on.. I pray that you’re good Vaughn. I will continue to pray for your strength and health. You seem to have a very tight support system so I pray for them too. Anne is awesome and what I see from your videos is an awesome family!!!💕💕
Yes. I'm very curious about how you discipline Anne. I imagine you have to decipher which behavior is typical and which is related to her condition before you discipline. 🤔
Watching this vlog made me want to drive 3 hours to see my mom and just hug her. I never realized what she could be going through or was going through with my brother’s autism. This definitely left me in tears. Will be praying for you and your family ❤️
Listen...your doing everything your suppose to be doing. Keep up with the therapy. I’m a ABA therapist and I have a son who was diagnosed with moderate autism. With therapy and the preschool I placed him in he moved to mild autism.
Can I say what a beautiful mommy & daughter duo! Love your channel!
Thank goodness for a mom! Your mom is amazing-such a supportive woman!
Ms. V and Mr. A, the blessing is Anne has you both and family, and all of us. We have experience this warmeth of love each time you come on your video's. I pray each day you all are strengthen, and God's grace continues to rest on you. Because your patience has been a virture. I don't no your break downs but you are full love, kindness, and grace. I send my love and hugs to you today. Hi to your mother she is so loving. Anne we love you God's little Angel. 🌸💐🙏💫💕💝🙏God masters all things He gives Grace. 💐🌸💕💝
I got you, Vaughn. You're stronger than you know, even in your weakest moments. 💪🏿🙏🏾
ANNE LOVES MUSIC AND SEEMS TO VIBE WHEN HEARING GUITARS RIPPING💛..I JUST LOVE HER
I don't know what's more beautiful, your home, your daughter, your spirit or you.
Hey I’m a new subscriber I was referred to your channel because earlier this year my daughter was diagnosed with autism and I honestly responded the same way and I connected with you here stay strong your an amazing mom and she’s beautiful thank you for sharing your journey so moms like me in the same situation don’t feel completely lost ❤️
Ooooo my 💗 was hurting for u when I saw the tears in ur eyes behind the sunglasses..HUGS...and PS. Grandmothers are the BESTESTTT!👈🙏💗
My son was 3 when he was diagnosed and he is now 23. It's hard I know, but you are an amazing mom. Oh, and I still give into my son. You have to sometime to get them to do what you want. Ann is adorable and your mom is awesome as well. Because of my journey with Autism, I now advocate for children's educational rights as well as services. So, I attend IEP'S, meetings for evaluation data, etc. But, yes....I would get that way at first with the evaluation process. Once I got use to how things were going to go, I use to do a social story and schedule for my son as to how the day was going to go. That is his thing. He has to know what he is doing for the day. He would carry it with him and look at it as they went down the process. It helped to keep him calm which helped me. Of course my mom was with me because most times my ex husband couldn't be there. My mom was my rock just like your mom is. I am keeping you guys in prayer. God definitely has you. You have an awesome channel!
Hey Vaughn! Hugs to you. Im sure that can be a stressful process. You guys are awesome parents & grandparents. Watching Anne enjoy the music. & dancing w/her Gma was so heart warming.
Crying along with you. I remember this path, still on this path. Trust me it gets a little easier. Cry if you feel like it. God has got you and your family. She is a really lovely little girl.
I really need this my daughter is about to be 5 and she is autistic . looking at this video remind me of how my daughter act always singing covering her ears running off it so hard I felt so alone and people can't understand I have try to teach my daughter every but nothing works . I really needed this to show me I am not alone it's hard being a mom to a autistic child ...I have two ...both of my youngest kids ...4 and 3 is autistic it so hard I feel like am about to lose my mind but I pray and cry.. wipe my tears and keep it moving because my kids need me . So I definitely need this be blessed
I know how you feel. My son has ADHD and all his evaluations are disappointing. Please don’t give up on your daughter. Just know we are all in this together. You are an awesome mother.
Girl! This Vlog gave me anxiety for real! Man! I've soooo been there and still going thru it, with all the therapies, and testings! It's so not easy and I know that I will never accept the Autism diagnosis. I treat autism as symptoms and I work on each symptom as we go!
Also by me not accepting the diagnosis. (By all means... I'm not suggesting that you do not accept the diagnosis. I'm just sharing what has worked for me mentally) It has helped me put myself in a different mindset and that has really helped me with my son and his progress (jr is 7).
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Ms. Vaughn...You're doing your best and Ann see's it and knows her mama has her! You and your family GO HARD FOR HER!. Ann has made so much strides because of you, your family and her support team! She is soaring high! Thank you for being so transparent and honesty! It's so Raw and Real! God Bless.. #YouGotThis
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am a Autism Mom of a 2 yr old boy. He is our third child and it was quite a shock! It was difficult for me and my husband to accept at first and truth be told we still struggle. During his first initial test, I cried at the results even though I knew in my heart something was off with my child. You are not alone and I'm thankful to have found another relatable black family who faces similar challenges. You have help me with acceptance and not trying to cure my child. We love you and Anne! 😘😘😘❤️❤️❤️
Hugs! I can totally relate to you feeling overwhelmed. I’m a single mother to a soon to be 5 year old autistic daughter. I have my moments where I feel completely overwhelmed. So again…. Sending you a virtual hug as i watch this.
Thank you so much for your courage and for sharing your journey as a black mom. As a first time mom with a 4 year old that has Autism its rough. Evaluations can definitely be rough and stressful. My family is all new to the idea of Autism and although I am also a special educator more times than not I have felt like I am failing him. Your story gives me inspiration and reminds me that I am not alone. Thank you so much for doing what you do. I will continue to follow you and Ann's journey. Much love.
Hugs to U. I can understand where you are coming from. My daughter aged out of our state early intervention program this year and is now in special education pre-k with the school district. Reading the evaluations, IEP reports, therapy notes etc. have really been a struggle as a first time parent. I'm nervous about her upcoming specialist appointment. I said all that to say, thank you for sharing because I don't personally have friendships with other parents that I feel can relate.
Grandma looks too cute in this video 🥰 and so supportive
My son is an adult who happens to have Aspergers, an Autism Spectrum Disorder and I taught hearing-impaired children for twenty years. I've been a part of the re-eval process on both sides of the table. This is a critically important, yet stressful time in your lives. You look like you are doing a great job and the best thing you can do is have the support of your family and close friends. Don't worry about how Ann's behaving at any particular moment. The re-eval team can see that she is a happy, healthy well-loved little girl and they want to help her. Please know that you can do this and one day you'll look back with pride on the experience you've had to get this child to be the young lady she'll one day become. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys.
Stay calm! Always remember it's about Anne and what's best for her. I have autism. My mum always thought it was about her and she would blame me and get frustrated. It's not anyone's fault that the child has a disability. It's about getting the right help and support for her and you.
❤️❤️❤️ I'm having a tough mommy week (out of many} too so I totally understand. I could relate to a lot of what you said about trying your best with your kids and then being very nervous when they're being evaluated for this or for that. I've been and am still there. Thank you for sharing your experience 🤗
Thank you for being transparent and showing your true emotions. It’s ok to be overwhelmed, frustrated, sad, etc. Plenty of mothers would’ve folded under these circumstances but it’s refreshing to see you give yourself grace as a mother. Obviously nobody wants to see their child go through this but ppl often write off the mother like we aren’t going through a whole situation ourselves. You’re doing AMAZING and we love to see it! Especially in the black community.
Beautiful video! I almost cried becuase your mom was there to support. I crave that as my mom is another country and I have twins (both possibly autistic) with medical issues, etc. You mentioned in around 14 minutes in the video that Anne isn't typically violent. You also mentioned that she gets her way. She is not typically violent becuase she gets her way? it might be a good idea to break that habit of giving her way. So that you can monitor her behavior and correct it. As she gets older, things will become challenging. I could be wrong. I am not bashing you. I enjoy your channel and support you and your family.
You are AMAZING. I am always in awe of how you, hubby and your Mom interact with Anne. She is so Precious
Having a child with autism is very difficult. Some times you feel alone like know once understands what we go through. Specifically when family don't understand 😔I feel you !
Thank you for your transparency. Anne has a wonderful support system behind her and I’m glad to see that you do too. You’re doing amazing, above and beyond and it shows
Hey Vaughn! You’re not alone. My daughter is not autistic, but she is deaf and developmental delayed due to premature birth. Londyn, my daughter, has what feels like tons of evaluations at various times throughout the year and our experiences have been much like yours. Londyn is 11 now and a bit more patient and compliant, but still very stressed and annoyed when she feels like her every move is being watched. It’s a stressful time for all of us. Much like you, my husband will attend when work allows but if not, my mom is my other partner in crime! Thank God for supportive family! Anyways, you’re a wonderful mother and Ann is so very blessed to have you all. Thanks for sharing. God bless you all. ❤️
Blessings to you and your beautiful family
Hello, I went through these evaluations about 13 years ago. Thank you for sharing your journey. A lot of parents feel the way you do. It is something that is different for everyone but the emotions and concerns connect us. Your daughter Ann is a beautiful angel. God Bless you and your family. My son is now 16. He is fully audible and doing great in high school. 🤗
Her and grandma are precious together
Hi Vaughn. The one thing I've always told me kids is that the hardest job you will ever have is being a parent. You are doing a good job. Be blessed🤗❤
Hey Vaughn!! I'm late but I try not to miss your videos. I've been on a bit of a social media holiday but I love your Autism related videos so much. You know I've commented many times about how closely Anne reminds me of my Granddaughter. It's so awesome to see how far she's come. My granddaughter has an appointment tomorrow for her third evaluation. I had her tested and then got a second opinion at a totally different place. But she's evaluated regularly because she's in public school and they don't like to help out our kiddos as much. So I stay on top of things for her. Both her and her brother have Autism. So I'm hoping my anxiety will be at a minimum tomorrow. Her behavioral therapist will be with us so that will ease my anxiety a bit. You always do so awesome with her so please know that she is doing great. We see you and admire your courage. You have nothing to fear. 😍🥰🧩🧩
You’re doing a damn good job, I know that much. Stressed out and all, I could tell you’re doing your best.
Vaughn with the tan❤ Your mom is great! Stay blessed family😊
STRENGTH, COURAGE, WISDOM, PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING we thank you for it all! May God continue to shine his face upon you & your family and bring you peace.
Stay encouraged beautiful mommy! I (personally) feel you are doing an amazing job and deserve all the handclaps ( 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾) I can give. Parenting is stressful, autism (or any other challenge) makes it that much more stressful. If I can provide any encouragement it is to say, keep on doing what you're doing...self-care, utilizing your village (support), loving on your angel, and being aware of her milestones. YOU ARE A M A Z I N G!!
God bless ❤️. My son has an IEP and it does make me sad, anxious, and self doubting when the instructors tell me what marks he hasn’t met. But, he has come along way!! Thank you for your transparency Vaughn❤️❤️❤️
You are such a great mom Vaughn! I seriously wanted to just hug you, watching you in that waiting room. I’ve had a few students who are on the spectrum and their parents are always the most understanding, patient, most amazing parents I’ve ever met. You are no different!
I get it my son also was diagnosed w ASD. He was diagnosed at 3 1/2. It’s so hard to hear where 0ur children really are compared to their peers it’s rough. My son was only diagnosed once and for some reason we’ve never had to have him re evaluated. He’s 10 now and only did play therapy when he was first diagnosed and also speech and o.t. Also I homeschool him which he is thriving in.
You are not the only one who freaks out lol I do too! This is so educational and definitely makes us who go through this not feel alone. Thank you for sharing your experience❤️ You got this!!! ❤️
Thank you for sharing this journey. My toddler was diagnosed with ASD late last year. As prevalent as Autism is, I still don’t think there are adequate resources to help guide parents; or at least not quite what I am looking for. I have found a few helpful resources, but I still feel lost; so I appreciate you sharing this part of your life. I am still trying to get therapy approved and doing the best I can with home therapies. It would be great to see a video on how you handle discipline and any other topic you feel may be helpful.
Awwww don't cry Mrs. Vaughn, you are a wonderful mother.
Im so happy mom was there with you! That is definitely a weight lifted. My husband is usually working during my daughter’s appointments its so tough especially now with the Pandemic hospitals only allowing one parent in. I love your transparency. My daughter was diagnosed with ASD in February but her initial diagnosis is rare Kleefstra Syndrome. I always freak out during her testings!! Thank you as always Vaughn!! 💜💜
My son is 20 months old now, was diagnosed with autism two months ago. All of this is still new to my husband and I, we are still processing and trying to cope. I feel exactly how you felt with Anne at 18 months. We just started doing speech therapy, developmental therapy and occupational therapy and I'm hoping it will help. Watching this video gives me hope. Thank you for sharing. 😊
Not an Autism mom but I watch all your videos. You are just an amazing person. I love you dedication to your family and yourself. I pray this process becomes easier but you are doing such a wonderful job! I often forget Anne is autistic. Prayers to you and your family. And good job to Grandma too. What a blessing to have her support you all in this process. ❤
I found your video at the perfect time. My 3 year old daughter was diagnosed with autism in March and it has been overwhelming. Keeping up with her therapy and now getting ready for IEP meetings for preschool. It’s a lot. Thankfully, my daughter has been handling it all like a champ 😊.