Autism life is not easy, I am an autism mom, my son is now 16yrs, it had been a battle since his diagnosis at 2 but it is worth the fight, he went from non-verbal, low functioning to mid-level and a honor roll 10th grader... blessing sis
I know we only see a few minutes inside your family's life but Vaughn I just you to know that you are doing a phenomenal job being Anne's mother♥️ . You're a successful, sweet, beautiful, loving,strong,wife,mother,daughter,sister and friend! You inspire me.
It’s probably my own anxiety speaking but I don’t think you overreacted at all. I’m glad you allowed yourself the time to be reassured that she is in a safe environment.
I am a single mom with a 7 years old who is also on the spectrum.... I can't tell you how many times that I got no explanation as to how my son gets various injuries from his ABA day program. I had to remove him because I kept getting the same stupid unacceptable excuses. Never can figure out why or how he was hurt. I'm like the accountability was none existent. You are not over reacting. I flipped out and took him out.
Mom you have every right to raise hell!! We are our babies biggest and sometimes only voices. I’m learning to respect and honor my boundaries and feelings as a mom and a woman. Too many times we let people convince us that we are being emotional or overreacting when we should trust our gut. Small scratches or not
The singing, the fork, and this entire video is a testament to little Anne’s growth and your commitment to her success. You and Anthony are doing a beautiful job raising her. To see her progress is a blessing.
Vaughn, your a great mom. Don't go second guessing yourself. I'm glad you followed your first mind and went to the school. I don't think you overreacted at all. Vaughn, I'm a psychiatric nurse practitioner with a couple of tips for you and anyone suffering from anxiety from time to time. 1) Take about 5-10 deep breaths and say a prayer to calm down. 2) Take a walk if you can. Exercise really helps anxiety and I know you do that all the time. 3) Practice mindfulness daily. Mindfulness is focusing on positive things or positive thoughts ie; I have a wonderful family and my dtr is fine. Anne is not in the hospital or in any danger at the current time. Mindfulness really helps to keep you present, put things into prospective, stop the racing thoughts, in turn decreasing anxiety. Works like a charm. 4) Pay close attention to your sleep hygiene. When sleep is bad, anxiety is high. One thing I suggest for many of my patients is liquid melatonin. Liquid works better than the pill version. Good sleep hygiene really helps to prevent anxiety from going so high. 5) Know that every thought is not a valid thought. Just cause you think it, doesn't make it true! 6) Your automatic thoughts will contribute to the anxiety ie; did someone do something to Anne? That's why mindfulness works well because it changes your thoughts. Just want to help. I hope I didn't offend anyone. Thanks for sharing your life with us. Happy Holidays! Love, love, love your channel.
Sis, as a person with no children, I want you to know that you are not extra when you are concerned about your child. It is your job to protect her and be vigilant about her care. That's your job!!! Don't ever feel bad or apologize for being an "extra" Mom. I salute you and Anthony.
Around like 5:20 I lost it... I’m the only special needs/autism mom that I know. I’ve been trying to meet groups of moms who get it. I explain so much why certain things worry me more than the average mom but it gets frustrating.
I had to stop watching and comment halfway. Vaughn you did the right thing! It’s always better to be safe than sorry, and your not an extra parent. Your a concerned loving mom who is doing the right thing for her babygirl. I’m so proud of you, your doing great mama.(I’m a new first time mom myself, my son is 3 months old. I love watching your vids to get momspiration 🤗❤️)
I was so waiting for this. I just love seeing Miss Anne. I’m sitting at the therapy center right now with one of the two Autism babies. I will be here until 6pm when the second one is done. But I feel you about things happening and you wanna know what’s up. Little Mama came home with scissor cuts throughout her hair! Of course nobody took responsibility for it. They just kept saying it didn’t happen here. But they had done SEVERAL projects using kids scissors. Even if she had done it herself, which she probably did, I still wanna know that she was supervised properly because scissors should NEVER make it to her head. Period! So I typically sit in the parking lot until both kids are done. Am I overprotective much? 🤔🤷🏾♀️❤️ Edit: OMG I need that sock!!! It’s perfect!! I have one that falls on purpose all the time. Nobody ever told me why! 🤯😮
You are your child’s advocate. As an educator, I always encourage parents to advocate for their child. You were NOT overreacting at all. As you mentioned, the therapist is responsible for her and her alone. They have to be more observant and document any issues that occur. They have to be your eyes when you aren’t there. I enjoy watching these vlogs because I teach 6th graders and have a few students with autism in my class each year. Continue doing an amazing job as a mom! ❤️
As a school nurse to the special needs population, I’ve seen/witnessed children biting and scratching other children. Some kids also cause self inflicted scratches to themselves. So I wouldn’t be quick to blame the adults. But I definitely can understand your frustration.
You did the right thing by investigating. As a parent of two (a 15 month old and 4wk old) I will NEVER get too comfortable with others taking care of my children in the absence of my presence.
My 20 month old daughter saw the strawberries that Anne was eating and said "stawbear'.. now shes crying and asking for some. Lol. I guess I'll be going to the store to buy some later.
Absolutely! You should not let this slide. Austism or not! When my son came home with scratches on his face I asked the teacher what happened and why wasn’t I notified. They should contact you when incidents happen. You have to keep them on their p’s and q’s when he comes to your child. Also, consider moving the lamp away from her bed. That may help.
I watch a lot of your videos. I am a mom and I work for a non profit organization advocating for adults with developmental disabilities. This video touched my heart today. I felt tears of joy with you celebrating Annie’s achievements. You are doing an amazing job and Ann is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing yours land Ann’s life. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and strength.
Those morning and night routine folders need to be done by all kids that age. I think I need to use this for my little one. She is all over the place sometimes, and argues with me about going to bed EVERY night! This may motivate her.
Even parents without an autistic child experience the same thing! Any time your baby gets hurt the emotions run wild and the first instinct is to protect, so you definitely did not overreact! I think you are doing a fantastic job with Ann! It is unacceptable for the teachers not to know what happened to her face, so your right to be concerned and demand that the teachers keep a better eye on Anne!
Vaughn girl, you are a role model to so many moms!! Keep posting and sharing your beautiful truth despite the ups and downs. Life is life and your life is such an enjoyable journey to watch. Anne has such an incredible gem with you and Anthony as her parents, so stay encouraged and know that we are so honored that you continue to share your moments with us 💕
Glad you got to the bottom of the scratching issue. Omg when Anne was wating the strawberries with the fork,I was just smiling like 'yeah Anne you did it '. Great job!! You are a great mom!
I am not an autism mom, but I had something similar happen to my baby when she was only 9 months old in daycare. She went to daycare only part-time and no one could tell me what happened. I completely understand how you feel. You are doing a great job and never let ANYONE make you feel that you are overreacting. That is your job, to protect your child. You are doing great by the way! :)
It is so hard to leave ur nonverbal child with someone. I feel ur pain cuz my son is the same way and I’m so anxious and freaking out about everything when he’s not in me and my husbands care. It will get better and I hope they tell u something. ❤️ blessed
I’m so happy that you made the decision to go and observe Ann in the classroom setting. My daughter is developing at a slower level than her peers (she 11y/o) and I still go to her school and observe. My daughter is testing on a 3rd grade level when she is supposed to be in 5th grade. As a mother/parent we try not to be that overly protective person but you want the best for your child.....(peace of mind). It’s hard but you are doing a great job.
I hear you, I have a 12 yr old she's supposed to be in 7,th grade on a 3rd grade level, in some subjects on a 2nd and she acts like 6 and kids will bully her cause she carries stuffed beanie boo cats around ,she also started having some physical health issues so had to start homeschooling her ,, she's also on the spectrum ,school said they couldn't meet her needs , would call me 10 min after I dropped her off to come get her ,when I observed a class they were playing nursery rhymes and watching TV playing playdough never any work supposed to be 4th and 5th grade so I decided to take her out,
Vaughn, always trust your intuition and be your child’s advocate. I think you need to continue to pop up and observe Anne. Your sweet sister came to you on your dream to comfort and reassure you. I applaud you on becoming so informed with Anne’s condition. She will become all the better as a result. You are so patient. She is incredible. Your concerns are those of a loving mom.
I currently supervise BCBAs and licensed therapist. You are doing a fantastic job! Keep asking questions and seeking answers! You deserve to know about any incidents concerning your child!
My child isn’t special Needs but his first few days of going on the van to daycare, one of the kids scratched his face. I freaked out!!!!!!! It had me on edge. So girl. I get it. I had to realize that sometimes things happen and the adults don’t see it. And kids touch each other too. It’s a lot of growing pains.
You are an AMAZING mother!! I don't have kids but understand and feel your anxiety when it comes to how she's doing throughout the day. I woulda been just as pissed to see my baby with scratches and can't nobody tell me anything. I teared up when she did well at the session, started singing bingo and eating strawberries. 🙌🏾👍🏽👊🏽💯🔥
You are not overreacting at all! I’m a Behavioral Interventionist and I work with autistic children in the home and at our office and you absolutely have the right to be in observation without asking them. I think you’re doing an awesome job continuing her work at home bc I work with parents who don’t and it’s hard for continued progress. She’s doing so well! Keep praising her for her accomplishments and keep going strong mama! You’re doing amazing ❤️
While I am not a parent of an autism child, I advocate for my kids who have life-threatening food allergies, so I understand the importance of advocacy. ALWAYS be extra! Extra involved, extra detailed, extra investigatory, extra present, extra every damn thing! We are their advocates, no matter what. No apologies, no hesitation. I love your channel and stand with you, super mom!
For the sleep issues, maybe try a weighted blanket or weighted teddy bear as well as a sound machine. My son enjoys the white noise and ocean sounds to fall asleep to.
My daughter has apraxia which is a severe communications disorder and I get anxious leaving her she’s 2 so I don’t leave her often unless it’s with my mom. I asked my daughter speech therapist about the peg system as well so I can incorporate that her in daily routine. I have started learning sign language so I can communicate with her in others ways. Thank you for the videos .
A. E. I’m glad that your baby is making improvements my daughter has a severe phonological disorder and apraxia so we do the therapy twice a week and in home therapy we have seen some improvements.
Wow Vaughn! Thanks for sharing your journey with Anne and autism! Your patience and persistence is a thing all of us moms need to see. Mothering is not for the fainthearted.
Wow so glad you figured out what happened to her with the scratches and you feel so much better. You are doing such as awesome job with her, and I was so excited to see her using the fork. I was over her moving my hands to help her, lol!
I’m not a special needs mom but I am a mom. I went through some of the same anxieties. Trying to decide when life should happen for your kid is hard. It’s not an over reaction. It’s a real feeling that a lot of mom go through with their kids special needs or not. As mom our first instinct is to protect our children and when something happens to them outside of our control and NO adult can give you an explanation it can be a hard pill to swallow.
You’re doing an amazing job Vaughn. No one can judge you because they’re not in your shoes. You handled the scratch issue much better than some. Parents have gone up to schools cursing everyone out for much less without even seeking clarity lol keep up the amazing work being an advocate for sweet little Anne. You’re blessed to have each other! Thanks for sharing with us!!
I hardly ever comment on videos. But I need to tell you how proud you should be of yourself. You're absolutely right... Every mom's experience is different. But what I can tell you is that you are a dope mom. Don't let anybody else discourage you from your instincts. You know what's best for your child. BTW, my mother's last name is the same as your married name. I think you're married to my cousin. Much love! Keep up that excellent Mom work, love.
My daughter has CP and she sees multiple therapist too. Thank god they are amazing with her. I’m panicking about her getting ready to attend JR High since she has had the same teacher for 6 years and now it will change. Stuck with becoming a stay at home mom again or trusting someone else. It is really hard when they are considered to be non verbal.
I'm sorry this happened. My daughter's dont have Autism but I know how u feel with wanting to protect round-the-clock. I've been blessed to do that being a SAHM. You did the right thing. I dont like my kids in the care of others, period. This world is crazy. You can't be too careful. You're a great mommy and daddy❤❤❤
You are doing amazing! Being a mom is the toughest thing I’ve ever done, my son was speech delayed at 2 and I did not play with being an advocate.. it drove my family nuts “talking” for him but I just wanted him to know I had his back ❤️❤️❤️
Mom when you have anxiety please please do your breathing exercises... I promise you it helps... Breathe in slowly as you can and breathe out slowly 10 times in a row and it’s not a cure but it works
I’m an autism mom too. I’m struggling with so much at the moment. Its been a hard journey, but the love i have for my daughter always talks louder. Thank you soooo much for your videos. I can’t even explain you how much they help me. God bless your family (sorry for any mistakes, english is not my first language)
I felt like a proud Aunt watching Miss Anne meet her milestones. I was smiling sooooo hard like she could see me. Lol. And I’m glad you did what you needed to do to gain peace from the situation at school. Y’all are doing great!
Anne is a rock star period...... Mother Vaughn no explanation needed. All of your concerns regarding your child are VALID. Her progress is simply amazing. Kudos to her TEAM the Parents, and family (Auntie Alex and Grandma especially) and the School. 😘💎 Anne is a pretty baby those lips.....
You are a mother and you were not extra or overreacting. I would have done the exact same thing as you, and I would have felt the exact same way as you - anxious, worried, angry, etc. I don't have a special needs child, so I can only imagine how much more your sensitivities towards that child are heightened. Good for you Vaughn for doing what you needed to do to make sure your baby was indeed in a safe place and to ease your worries. Being a parent is not easy. Having a special needs child is a whole other ball game. You're doing GREAT, mom. 🥰❤💕
At first I was thinking...you're a new protective mom. No need to worry, but by the end of the video I was saying to myself...bless your heart, you're such a good caring mom!
Hi Ms. Vaughn, You are not a freak out Mom, you are a very loving , caring and attentive Mom. Anne is your child and you are very concerned about everything that goes on with her. I would be concerned if my child had scratches. You are correct, it’s not a child’s fault, it’s the adults who supervises them. I love the social stories and visual aids that are recommended for Anne. Anne was so adorable singing the “Bingo song”. I’m glad you talked to Anne’s therapy supervisor. I’m also glad that you got reassured that the environment she was in was a good one . I’m also glad that you found out where the marks came from. You are so correct, everyone will process things individually. You are doing a great job making sure your daughter is well taken care of and getting all the help she needs. Thank you for sharing. Anne is progressing along well. Shout out to #Harkla Body sock for reaching out to you with their product.
As someone who works in a hospital with babies, we often talk about parents who just don’t care about NOTHING going on with their baby and we always say that we rather have parents who care “too much” than the ones who don’t care at all. So please please please please please don’t ever feel like you’re doing too much because THATS YOUR BABY. At the end of the day it made their jobs easier knowing that you have observed to see what actually goes on so that they can continue to care for your child to best of their abilities with your confidence which is SO IMPORTANT.
Vaughn you can be as protective as you want for however long you want!!! My daughter is 20, off at school, in her own apartment, working at the University, paying bills, and I WILL STILL SET IT OFF!!! She knows I will too. When things happen, I ask "You got this" I'll never overstep my boundaries but if she calls and says "Mommy I need your help" it's on!! 😂😂😂
5 minutes in and I can relate to everything you are saying. In my circle, I am the only mom of a child with autism. It would have been great if I had a platform like this 20 years ago.
Blessings and light to you Vaughn. I’m not a parent but I can understand how it is to love and care for a child and to be overprotective. You are fine! Nothing is too big or too small when it comes to your child! We are rooting for you both.
You were NOT overreacting. Girl, I don't even have kids. Just two God babies who I love like they're my own. And if one of them came home with scratches all over their face trust I would be up at that school getting down to the bottom of it. Your child is beautiful. I love her facial features. Looks like such an old, wise soul. Those eyes! Anyhoo. Love from her Internet auntie in California 🙋🏾❤️
Cameras. Many clinics and facilities for children are equipped with cameras in EVERY space. I recommend that you research these places in your area as a Plan B. Never fully trust anyone with your child. This therapy facility should have been able to tell you why scratches were on Ann's face BEFORE you even stepped foot on the property.
I’m so proud of you and you are doing such a great job . I love u Poo. I can’t wait to come up and see yaul 🥰... Meechie was letting you know that she’s watching over you and Anne and you are protected . Anne is doing sooooo well . #proudAunt🥰
Sending good energy to you Vaughn. It is soooo hard being mama bear. I think observation is an awesome idea and following up on the incident report until you get an adequate answer is your prerogative and right. I'm not an autism mom but I relate to you being a mom who will advocate for her child by ANY👏🏾 MEANS 👏🏾NECESSARY 👏🏾 You have support here! Long time follower, maybe I'll send you some wine 😘 mamas need wine Lol Anne is an absolute doll and you are an amazing mom Vaughn
I wish I could show a picture of how they sent my 3 year old home from daycare, I can understand how you feel. You are doing a great job, i'm so happy Anne has you as her mommy.
I've been watching you since back in the day when you were starting out. To see you become a wife and a mom is so beautiful. I know that it's not easy and I appreciate you sharing with us. Keep going girl, you got this.
Hi! I’m new to your channel, I’m a ParaEducator for Special Needs children specially those with Autism. The Visual Ques help a lot and it is very imperative that school mirrors home and vice versa. You are your babies number one and best “Advocate” and there is no need to feel guilty, doubtful, unassuming or whatever! You are here for her and she is here for you (and your family) 🥳💯👏🏾✊🏽!
You and Anthony are great parents. Anne has great support from your mom and your family. She is in the right place, with the right parents/grandparents/aunties, etc....
I’m so proud of you...I know being an Autism Mom can be challenging but you’ve shown great patience with Anne. I’ve come to expect nothing less from you...you are an amazing mother and don’t ever forget that 💕💕
You are an inspiration to all parents not just those with kids on the spectrum! Your patience with her is so encouraging and it is a joy to watch her success, step by step and day to day!
You’re doing an amazing job with your daughter. You have the right to do whatever makes you comfortable with no explanation. Nobody is in your shoes but you. Be blessed & thanks for sharing 💞
Your baby girl is stunningly beautiful and you are a wonderful mom! You are doing such an awesome job! I am a special educator of 25 years, and a mom to 3 kids with special needs, one of whom has autism. You’re doing it all right. You’re right to ask questions, you’re totally right to go to see her in her program (that’s your right!), and all your instincts are just right on. You are her best advocate, so definitely check in with her program and providers, ask questions, etc. My only advice would be to be sure to keep up your own self-care, such as the gym, etc., because it can be so easy to start to prioritize everyone but yourself. And as much as we love our babies, it is intense work and can be emotionally exhausting. You are awesome, and really inspire me. Oh, and I love her singing, and I can’t remember the negative words you used to describe yourself being less than all that, but I completely disagree... you look amazing! Keep up all your awesome work with your sweetie, and thanks for sharing your life and experiences with us. ♥️
My grandson has Autism also diagnosed at age 2 and he’s almost 4 now, my daughter is afraid to let her son out of her sight! . U right with everything u said.. and my baby chase is not talking yet .. but I got faith in GOD that he will talk and be ok in life.😘😘 I had to add you are very good mommy to Anne.. she is so lucky!
You have every right to be concerned and to ask questions! You are doing a great job! God is using you to encourage other parents while also letting you know that you are not alone !
Good job mom! Never feel sadden or like you’re overacting. She’s your baby & you want to protect her as you should. I watch your vlogs and you are amazing with your daughter
You are doing an amazing job! Being an Autism mom myself, I know how stressful things can be. Although friends and family mean well, it can sometimes feel like they are pushing our concerns under the rug, so I’m glad you followed your gut (going to observe therapy). Prayers for you and your family. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I completely understand you.The fact that they did not only call you right after the incident, but not knowing what happened in general it’s absolutely not acceptable. It hurts so much because our kids don’t talk or tell us what happened or give us a slight sign. 😢😢My son is 4 and non verbal when he was 3, he used to get scratched all the time in his class room. I asked what happen his teachers would say not sure, I literally get anxiety and it would ruin my day. Sending you encouragement you are not alone.
You back off as they get older and is able to communicate whats going on...until then mom you are hee voice but forever her advocate. When a child is injured big or small it should be documented and if non threating the staff should communicate with you. My son is 10 now but we went from a contained setting academically to him kicking azz academically now in school. I did alot of non traditional routes...naturopathic meds, chiropractor along with his therapy. I ran into one of his caregivers and she was in tears looking at his progress. I saw that to say stay strong and remember you are Ann's voice. I connected with a group of similar local moms on facebook.We support each other and I learned so much from them. Hang tough chica and enjoy the journey. 💕
My daughter is around the same age and it’s things that have been missed by her teachers at school that worried me because I’m not clear on the true details. But I have to just pray harder that God be a protector and a guide for us both. It’s nerve wracking but you and your little angel will be fine. I just adore her!!!
I was so happy for Ann when she aye off the folk was clapping and saying good job!! I love seeing Ann she so adorable!! You had me bout cry looking at this video. I pray that the Good Lord gives y'all strength and understanding to take care of Ann the best y'all can!!!
Wow.. The little things we take for granted. Never paid much attention. Your patience is amazing. God never gives us a task we can't handle. Keep it up. You are doing great 😊
Autism life is not easy, I am an autism mom, my son is now 16yrs, it had been a battle since his diagnosis at 2 but it is worth the fight, he went from non-verbal, low functioning to mid-level and a honor roll 10th grader... blessing sis
Amazing. Awesome job to you and him. I love stories like these.
That is such an amazing testimony 💕
So true...good job mom.
Aww we have a similar story! I have a 20 year old and he's in school and working part time ❤
Kischa Singleton This really helps so many moms. Do you mind sharing what therapy route you have taken?
I know we only see a few minutes inside your family's life but Vaughn I just you to know that you are doing a phenomenal job being Anne's mother♥️ .
You're a successful, sweet, beautiful, loving,strong,wife,mother,daughter,sister and friend! You inspire me.
Msunpopular opinion yes she does! She is the best mom ever.
It’s probably my own anxiety speaking but I don’t think you overreacted at all. I’m glad you allowed yourself the time to be reassured that she is in a safe environment.
I am a single mom with a 7 years old who is also on the spectrum.... I can't tell you how many times that I got no explanation as to how my son gets various injuries from his ABA day program. I had to remove him because I kept getting the same stupid unacceptable excuses. Never can figure out why or how he was hurt. I'm like the accountability was none existent. You are not over reacting. I flipped out and took him out.
Mom you have every right to raise hell!! We are our babies biggest and sometimes only voices. I’m learning to respect and honor my boundaries and feelings as a mom and a woman. Too many times we let people convince us that we are being emotional or overreacting when we should trust our gut. Small scratches or not
I am such a proud internet auntie! Why did I get emotional when she started eating her strawberries😭😭😭
Aww
The singing, the fork, and this entire video is a testament to little Anne’s growth and your commitment to her success. You and Anthony are doing a beautiful job raising her. To see her progress is a blessing.
Vaughn, your a great mom. Don't go second guessing yourself. I'm glad you followed your first mind and went to the school. I don't think you overreacted at all. Vaughn, I'm a psychiatric nurse practitioner with a couple of tips for you and anyone suffering from anxiety from time to time.
1) Take about 5-10 deep breaths and say a prayer to calm down.
2) Take a walk if you can. Exercise really helps anxiety and I know you do that all the time.
3) Practice mindfulness daily. Mindfulness is focusing on positive things or positive thoughts ie; I have a wonderful family and my dtr is fine. Anne is not in the hospital or in any danger at the current time. Mindfulness really helps to keep you present, put things into prospective, stop the racing thoughts, in turn decreasing anxiety. Works like a charm.
4) Pay close attention to your sleep hygiene. When sleep is bad, anxiety is high. One thing I suggest for many of my patients is liquid melatonin. Liquid works better than the pill version. Good sleep hygiene really helps to prevent anxiety from going so high.
5) Know that every thought is not a valid thought. Just cause you think it, doesn't make it true!
6) Your automatic thoughts will contribute to the anxiety ie; did someone do something to Anne? That's why mindfulness works well because it changes your thoughts.
Just want to help. I hope I didn't offend anyone. Thanks for sharing your life with us. Happy Holidays! Love, love, love your channel.
Very well Spoken/written/elaborated.... from a fellow Nurse Practitioner! :)
Sis, as a person with no children, I want you to know that you are not extra when you are concerned about your child. It is your job to protect her and be vigilant about her care. That's your job!!! Don't ever feel bad or apologize for being an "extra" Mom. I salute you and Anthony.
Around like 5:20 I lost it... I’m the only special needs/autism mom that I know. I’ve been trying to meet groups of moms who get it. I explain so much why certain things worry me more than the average mom but it gets frustrating.
It’s so calming to see how patient you are with Ann.
Tval valdary: Yes, I need to learn her patience with my child & other people, adults as well. And my munchkin is not even a special needs child.
I had to stop watching and comment halfway. Vaughn you did the right thing! It’s always better to be safe than sorry, and your not an extra parent. Your a concerned loving mom who is doing the right thing for her babygirl. I’m so proud of you, your doing great mama.(I’m a new first time mom myself, my son is 3 months old. I love watching your vids to get momspiration 🤗❤️)
Hearing her sing the Bingo song made me so happy. You’re doing a great job!!!
Shauna SoBlessed it was the most precious thing to hear. I was about in tears.
a brownlady me too!! She’s going to be great, she has an awesome mom advocating for her and nurturing her all the way.
I love seeing Anne’s progress!! You’re a great mom!!
I was so waiting for this. I just love seeing Miss Anne. I’m sitting at the therapy center right now with one of the two Autism babies. I will be here until 6pm when the second one is done. But I feel you about things happening and you wanna know what’s up. Little Mama came home with scissor cuts throughout her hair! Of course nobody took responsibility for it. They just kept saying it didn’t happen here. But they had done SEVERAL projects using kids scissors. Even if she had done it herself, which she probably did, I still wanna know that she was supervised properly because scissors should NEVER make it to her head. Period! So I typically sit in the parking lot until both kids are done. Am I overprotective much? 🤔🤷🏾♀️❤️ Edit: OMG I need that sock!!! It’s perfect!! I have one that falls on purpose all the time. Nobody ever told me why! 🤯😮
You are your child’s advocate. As an educator, I always encourage parents to advocate for their child. You were NOT overreacting at all. As you mentioned, the therapist is responsible for her and her alone. They have to be more observant and document any issues that occur. They have to be your eyes when you aren’t there. I enjoy watching these vlogs because I teach 6th graders and have a few students with autism in my class each year. Continue doing an amazing job as a mom! ❤️
Vaughn...you're a great mom. Trust yourself. Trust your instincts, they won't lead you wrong. Anne will flourish and thrive!
She is SO precious and I don't think you are overreacting. You're her mom, it's what we do!
As a school nurse to the special needs population, I’ve seen/witnessed children biting and scratching other children. Some kids also cause self inflicted scratches to themselves. So I wouldn’t be quick to blame the adults. But I definitely can understand your frustration.
You did the right thing by investigating. As a parent of two (a 15 month old and 4wk old) I will NEVER get too comfortable with others taking care of my children in the absence of my presence.
My 20 month old daughter saw the strawberries that Anne was eating and said "stawbear'.. now shes crying and asking for some. Lol. I guess I'll be going to the store to buy some later.
Walker Flocka Awwww “Stawbear” just melted my heart ❤️
Continue to be a hands on mom. No need to explain your heart. You are a loving mom who wanted to know and there is nothing wrong with that.
Absolutely! You should not let this slide. Austism or not! When my son came home with scratches on his face I asked the teacher what happened and why wasn’t I notified. They should contact you when incidents happen. You have to keep them on their p’s and q’s when he comes to your child. Also, consider moving the lamp away from her bed. That may help.
That was a happy moment to see her using her fork! Great job Anne! And you’re doing such an amazing job Vaughn❤️
Gurrrrllllll....I'm with you! Motherhood is the toughest hood on the planet! But we got this....trust your gut it never lies!
AMEN!!!
I’m not an Autism mom but my sister is and I completely understand some of the struggle. OAN I’m so proud of little Ms Anne!!🧩💙
When she ate the strawberry with the fork my heart melted ❤️ such a smart girl👏
I watch a lot of your videos. I am a mom and I work for a non profit organization advocating for adults with developmental disabilities. This video touched my heart today. I felt tears of joy with you celebrating Annie’s achievements. You are doing an amazing job and Ann is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing yours land Ann’s life. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and strength.
Those morning and night routine folders need to be done by all kids that age. I think I need to use this for my little one. She is all over the place sometimes, and argues with me about going to bed EVERY night! This may motivate her.
Yo when Anne used the fork to eat her strawberry I legit smiled so big! Go Anne go!!! Vaughn you’re super mom ❤️
Even parents without an autistic child experience the same thing! Any time your baby gets hurt the emotions run wild and the first instinct is to protect, so you definitely did not overreact! I think you are doing a fantastic job with Ann! It is unacceptable for the teachers not to know what happened to her face, so your right to be concerned and demand that the teachers keep a better eye on Anne!
Vaughn girl, you are a role model to so many moms!! Keep posting and sharing your beautiful truth despite the ups and downs. Life is life and your life is such an enjoyable journey to watch. Anne has such an incredible gem with you and Anthony as her parents, so stay encouraged and know that we are so honored that you continue to share your moments with us 💕
Glad you got to the bottom of the scratching issue. Omg when Anne was wating the strawberries with the fork,I was just smiling like 'yeah Anne you did it '. Great job!! You are a great mom!
I am not an autism mom, but I had something similar happen to my baby when she was only 9 months old in daycare. She went to daycare only part-time and no one could tell me what happened. I completely understand how you feel. You are doing a great job and never let ANYONE make you feel that you are overreacting. That is your job, to protect your child. You are doing great by the way! :)
It is so hard to leave ur nonverbal child with someone. I feel ur pain cuz my son is the same way and I’m so anxious and freaking out about everything when he’s not in me and my husbands care. It will get better and I hope they tell u something. ❤️ blessed
I’m so happy that you made the decision to go and observe Ann in the classroom setting. My daughter is developing at a slower level than her peers (she 11y/o) and I still go to her school and observe. My daughter is testing on a 3rd grade level when she is supposed to be in 5th grade. As a mother/parent we try not to be that overly protective person but you want the best for your child.....(peace of mind). It’s hard but you are doing a great job.
I hear you, I have a 12 yr old she's supposed to be in 7,th grade on a 3rd grade level, in some subjects on a 2nd and she acts like 6 and kids will bully her cause she carries stuffed beanie boo cats around ,she also started having some physical health issues so had to start homeschooling her ,, she's also on the spectrum ,school said they couldn't meet her needs , would call me 10 min after I dropped her off to come get her ,when I observed a class they were playing nursery rhymes and watching TV playing playdough never any work supposed to be 4th and 5th grade so I decided to take her out,
Vaughn, always trust your intuition and be your child’s advocate. I think you need to continue to pop up and observe Anne. Your sweet sister came to you on your dream to comfort and reassure you. I applaud you on becoming so informed with Anne’s condition. She will become all the better as a result. You are so patient. She is incredible. Your concerns are those of a loving mom.
I currently supervise BCBAs and licensed therapist. You are doing a fantastic job! Keep asking questions and seeking answers! You deserve to know about any incidents concerning your child!
My child isn’t special Needs but his first few days of going on the van to daycare, one of the kids scratched his face. I freaked out!!!!!!! It had me on edge. So girl. I get it. I had to realize that sometimes things happen and the adults don’t see it. And kids touch each other too. It’s a lot of growing pains.
Her singing B I N G O just melted my heart! Sweet girl.😍
You are an AMAZING mother!! I don't have kids but understand and feel your anxiety when it comes to how she's doing throughout the day. I woulda been just as pissed to see my baby with scratches and can't nobody tell me anything. I teared up when she did well at the session, started singing bingo and eating strawberries. 🙌🏾👍🏽👊🏽💯🔥
You are not overreacting at all! I’m a Behavioral Interventionist and I work with autistic children in the home and at our office and you absolutely have the right to be in observation without asking them. I think you’re doing an awesome job continuing her work at home bc I work with parents who don’t and it’s hard for continued progress. She’s doing so well! Keep praising her for her accomplishments and keep going strong mama! You’re doing amazing ❤️
While I am not a parent of an autism child, I advocate for my kids who have life-threatening food allergies, so I understand the importance of advocacy. ALWAYS be extra! Extra involved, extra detailed, extra investigatory, extra present, extra every damn thing! We are their advocates, no matter what. No apologies, no hesitation. I love your channel and stand with you, super mom!
For the sleep issues, maybe try a weighted blanket or weighted teddy bear as well as a sound machine. My son enjoys the white noise and ocean sounds to fall asleep to.
My daughter has apraxia which is a severe communications disorder and I get anxious leaving her she’s 2 so I don’t leave her often unless it’s with my mom. I asked my daughter speech therapist about the peg system as well so I can incorporate that her in daily routine. I have started learning sign language so I can communicate with her in others ways. Thank you for the videos .
A. E. I’m glad that your baby is making improvements my daughter has a severe phonological disorder and apraxia so we do the therapy twice a week and in home therapy we have seen some improvements.
Wow Vaughn! Thanks for sharing your journey with Anne and autism! Your patience and persistence is a thing all of us moms need to see. Mothering is not for the fainthearted.
Wow so glad you figured out what happened to her with the scratches and you feel so much better. You are doing such as awesome job with her, and I was so excited to see her using the fork. I was over her moving my hands to help her, lol!
I’m not a special needs mom but I am a mom. I went through some of the same anxieties. Trying to decide when life should happen for your kid is hard. It’s not an over reaction. It’s a real feeling that a lot of mom go through with their kids special needs or not. As mom our first instinct is to protect our children and when something happens to them outside of our control and NO adult can give you an explanation it can be a hard pill to swallow.
You’re doing an amazing job Vaughn. No one can judge you because they’re not in your shoes. You handled the scratch issue much better than some. Parents have gone up to schools cursing everyone out for much less without even seeking clarity lol keep up the amazing work being an advocate for sweet little Anne. You’re blessed to have each other! Thanks for sharing with us!!
I'm an extra mom. When my daughter went to daycare I was on top of everything. We as mothers just want our children to be safe.
I hardly ever comment on videos. But I need to tell you how proud you should be of yourself. You're absolutely right... Every mom's experience is different. But what I can tell you is that you are a dope mom. Don't let anybody else discourage you from your instincts. You know what's best for your child. BTW, my mother's last name is the same as your married name. I think you're married to my cousin. Much love! Keep up that excellent Mom work, love.
My daughter has CP and she sees multiple therapist too. Thank god they are amazing with her. I’m panicking about her getting ready to attend JR High since she has had the same teacher for 6 years and now it will change. Stuck with becoming a stay at home mom again or trusting someone else. It is really hard when they are considered to be non verbal.
I'm sorry this happened. My daughter's dont have Autism but I know how u feel with wanting to protect round-the-clock. I've been blessed to do that being a SAHM. You did the right thing. I dont like my kids in the care of others, period. This world is crazy. You can't be too careful. You're a great mommy and daddy❤❤❤
You are doing amazing! Being a mom is the toughest thing I’ve ever done, my son was speech delayed at 2 and I did not play with being an advocate.. it drove my family nuts “talking” for him but I just wanted him to know I had his back ❤️❤️❤️
Mom when you have anxiety please please do your breathing exercises... I promise you it helps... Breathe in slowly as you can and breathe out slowly 10 times in a row and it’s not a cure but it works
I’m an autism mom too. I’m struggling with so much at the moment. Its been a hard journey, but the love i have for my daughter always talks louder. Thank you soooo much for your videos. I can’t even explain you how much they help me.
God bless your family
(sorry for any mistakes, english is not my first language)
I felt like a proud Aunt watching Miss Anne meet her milestones. I was smiling sooooo hard like she could see me. Lol. And I’m glad you did what you needed to do to gain peace from the situation at school. Y’all are doing great!
Anne is a rock star period...... Mother Vaughn no explanation needed. All of your concerns regarding your child are VALID. Her progress is simply amazing. Kudos to her TEAM the Parents, and family (Auntie Alex and Grandma especially) and the School. 😘💎 Anne is a pretty baby those lips.....
You are a mother and you were not extra or overreacting. I would have done the exact same thing as you, and I would have felt the exact same way as you - anxious, worried, angry, etc. I don't have a special needs child, so I can only imagine how much more your sensitivities towards that child are heightened. Good for you Vaughn for doing what you needed to do to make sure your baby was indeed in a safe place and to ease your worries. Being a parent is not easy. Having a special needs child is a whole other ball game. You're doing GREAT, mom. 🥰❤💕
I don’t have any kids, but I love these vlogs from you! I love all of your content! Great job Anne! 😍
At first I was thinking...you're a new protective mom. No need to worry, but by the end of the video I was saying to myself...bless your heart, you're such a good caring mom!
Hi Ms. Vaughn,
You are not a freak out Mom, you are a very loving , caring and attentive Mom.
Anne is your child and you are very concerned about everything that goes on with her.
I would be concerned if my child had scratches.
You are correct, it’s not a child’s fault, it’s the adults who supervises them.
I love the social stories and visual aids that are recommended for Anne.
Anne was so adorable singing the “Bingo song”.
I’m glad you talked to Anne’s therapy supervisor.
I’m also glad that you got reassured that the environment she was in was a good one .
I’m also glad that you found out where the marks came from.
You are so correct, everyone will process things individually.
You are doing a great job making sure your daughter is well taken care of and getting all the help she needs.
Thank you for sharing.
Anne is progressing along well.
Shout out to #Harkla Body sock for reaching out to you with their product.
As someone who works in a hospital with babies, we often talk about parents who just don’t care about NOTHING going on with their baby and we always say that we rather have parents who care “too much” than the ones who don’t care at all. So please please please please please don’t ever feel like you’re doing too much because THATS YOUR BABY. At the end of the day it made their jobs easier knowing that you have observed to see what actually goes on so that they can continue to care for your child to best of their abilities with your confidence which is SO IMPORTANT.
Also at the end of the day, YOU feel better. Which is also SO IMPORTANT.
Vaughn you can be as protective as you want for however long you want!!! My daughter is 20, off at school, in her own apartment, working at the University, paying bills, and I WILL STILL SET IT OFF!!! She knows I will too. When things happen, I ask "You got this" I'll never overstep my boundaries but if she calls and says "Mommy I need your help" it's on!! 😂😂😂
Anne is doing so well and you are doing a great job, and you didn't over react.
5 minutes in and I can relate to everything you are saying. In my circle, I am the only mom of a child with autism. It would have been great if I had a platform like this 20 years ago.
Blessings and light to you Vaughn. I’m not a parent but I can understand how it is to love and care for a child and to be overprotective. You are fine! Nothing is too big or too small when it comes to your child! We are rooting for you both.
You were NOT overreacting. Girl, I don't even have kids. Just two God babies who I love like they're my own. And if one of them came home with scratches all over their face trust I would be up at that school getting down to the bottom of it. Your child is beautiful. I love her facial features. Looks like such an old, wise soul. Those eyes! Anyhoo. Love from her Internet auntie in California 🙋🏾❤️
You are good mom. You are not extra. You are mother and used your instincts. You and your husband are her 1st advocate! Keep going.
Cameras. Many clinics and facilities for children are equipped with cameras in EVERY space. I recommend that you research these places in your area as a Plan B. Never fully trust anyone with your child. This therapy facility should have been able to tell you why scratches were on Ann's face BEFORE you even stepped foot on the property.
I don't have kids but watching your transparency about Anne and autism, is very inspiring and educational.
I’m so proud of you and you are doing such a great job . I love u Poo. I can’t wait to come up and see yaul 🥰... Meechie was letting you know that she’s watching over you and Anne and you are protected . Anne is doing sooooo well . #proudAunt🥰
Sending good energy to you Vaughn. It is soooo hard being mama bear. I think observation is an awesome idea and following up on the incident report until you get an adequate answer is your prerogative and right. I'm not an autism mom but I relate to you being a mom who will advocate for her child by ANY👏🏾 MEANS 👏🏾NECESSARY 👏🏾 You have support here! Long time follower, maybe I'll send you some wine 😘 mamas need wine Lol Anne is an absolute doll and you are an amazing mom Vaughn
5:55 I love the little natural hair "style hair" sticker on the morning routine chart. So cute!
I wish I could show a picture of how they sent my 3 year old home from daycare, I can understand how you feel. You are doing a great job, i'm so happy Anne has you as her mommy.
I've been watching you since back in the day when you were starting out. To see you become a wife and a mom is so beautiful. I know that it's not easy and I appreciate you sharing with us. Keep going girl, you got this.
Hi! I’m new to your channel, I’m a ParaEducator for Special Needs children specially those with Autism. The Visual Ques help a lot and it is very imperative that school mirrors home and vice versa. You are your babies number one and best “Advocate” and there is no need to feel guilty, doubtful, unassuming or whatever! You are here for her and she is here for you (and your family) 🥳💯👏🏾✊🏽!
You and Anthony are great parents. Anne has great support from your mom and your family. She is in the right place, with the right parents/grandparents/aunties, etc....
I’m so proud of you...I know being an Autism Mom can be challenging but you’ve shown great patience with Anne. I’ve come to expect nothing less from you...you are an amazing mother and don’t ever forget that 💕💕
You are an inspiration to all parents not just those with kids on the spectrum! Your patience with her is so encouraging and it is a joy to watch her success, step by step and day to day!
Yay Anne!!!! ❤❤❤ 🍓🍓🍓
Peace of mind is everything! You did the right thing. restoring your trust with the learning center was the move and thats that.
It’s rewarding to see her overcome and learn new skills! Go mom & go Anne!!
Thanks for showing this. What an awesome Mom you are! Grace & Peace!
I am happy that you were able to get the answer needed, I was worried and she’s doing so well I am very proud of her. 💕
Lol @ Ann trying to sneak and pick it up with her fingers. So adorable! 😂💕
You’re doing an amazing job with your daughter. You have the right to do whatever makes you comfortable with no explanation. Nobody is in your shoes but you. Be blessed & thanks for sharing 💞
Your baby girl is stunningly beautiful and you are a wonderful mom! You are doing such an awesome job! I am a special educator of 25 years, and a mom to 3 kids with special needs, one of whom has autism. You’re doing it all right. You’re right to ask questions, you’re totally right to go to see her in her program (that’s your right!), and all your instincts are just right on. You are her best advocate, so definitely check in with her program and providers, ask questions, etc. My only advice would be to be sure to keep up your own self-care, such as the gym, etc., because it can be so easy to start to prioritize everyone but yourself. And as much as we love our babies, it is intense work and can be emotionally exhausting. You are awesome, and really inspire me. Oh, and I love her singing, and I can’t remember the negative words you used to describe yourself being less than all that, but I completely disagree... you look amazing! Keep up all your awesome work with your sweetie, and thanks for sharing your life and experiences with us. ♥️
Better safe than sorry. You did the right thing.
I love watching Anne grow! It warms my heart! She’s beautiful! ❤️❤️❤️
My grandson has Autism also diagnosed at age 2 and he’s almost 4 now, my daughter is afraid to let her son out of her sight! . U right with everything u said.. and my baby chase is not talking yet .. but I got faith in GOD that he will talk and be ok in life.😘😘 I had to add you are very good mommy to Anne.. she is so lucky!
You have every right to be concerned and to ask questions! You are doing a great job! God is using you to encourage other parents while also letting you know that you are not alone !
Good job mom! Never feel sadden or like you’re overacting. She’s your baby & you want to protect her as you should. I watch your vlogs and you are amazing with your daughter
You are doing an amazing job! Being an Autism mom myself, I know how stressful things can be. Although friends and family mean well, it can sometimes feel like they are pushing our concerns under the rug, so I’m glad you followed your gut (going to observe therapy). Prayers for you and your family. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I completely understand you.The fact that they did not only call you right after the incident, but not knowing what happened in general it’s absolutely not acceptable.
It hurts so much because our kids don’t talk or tell us what happened or give us a slight sign. 😢😢My son is 4 and non verbal when he was 3, he used to get scratched all the time in his class room. I asked what happen his teachers would say not sure, I literally get anxiety and it would ruin my day.
Sending you encouragement you are not alone.
You back off as they get older and is able to communicate whats going on...until then mom you are hee voice but forever her advocate.
When a child is injured big or small it should be documented and if non threating the staff should communicate with you.
My son is 10 now but we went from a contained setting academically to him kicking azz academically now in school.
I did alot of non traditional routes...naturopathic meds, chiropractor along with his therapy.
I ran into one of his caregivers and she was in tears looking at his progress. I saw that to say stay strong and remember you are Ann's voice.
I connected with a group of similar local moms on facebook.We support each other and I learned so much from them.
Hang tough chica and enjoy the journey. 💕
My daughter is around the same age and it’s things that have been missed by her teachers at school that worried me because I’m not clear on the true details. But I have to just pray harder that God be a protector and a guide for us both. It’s nerve wracking but you and your little angel will be fine. I just adore her!!!
Doing a great job mom and dad. We have to be our children's advocates. Thanks for sharing.
I was so happy for Ann when she aye off the folk was clapping and saying good job!! I love seeing Ann she so adorable!! You had me bout cry looking at this video. I pray that the Good Lord gives y'all strength and understanding to take care of Ann the best y'all can!!!
Wow.. The little things we take for granted. Never paid much attention. Your patience is amazing. God never gives us a task we can't handle. Keep it up. You are doing great 😊
God bless you Vaughn. I can't even imagine the daily struggles. Salute to you for being so persistent.