“if it’s your personal style, what’s the rush?” This has been a big realization for my own personal style journey as of late. Thank u for saying it how u said it. Letting the development/s of personal style be slow is challenging and transformative, which (like all art and storytelling) is often worth enduring.
For me it’s always been a tension between what I want to look like and what I’m comfortable in. Strangely they were quite different aesthetics, but at some point they converged. I kinda think as long as you don’t let one desire override the other, you have arrived at your personal style. Idk if that even makes sense
The amount of stuff I l used to buy bc I “liked it” is embarrassing. It’s true, you don’t need to own something to like it. It was game-changing to realize that what you like ≠ your personal style automatically
@Trinity M I mean, I also think it’s fair to look back at past decisions and be like, “Yeahhh not my finest moment.” It’s pretty human to experience shame and regret and then funnel that negative emotion to become a better person. The thing is is to not let that “negativity” hold you back from reflecting and evolving.
The thrill of participating in slow fashion and having these rare find "aha" moments really has taken over for compulsive shopping habits in my life. The more precisely I'm able to tell my story the easier my own characterization has become! It's a conscientious process that really does take time and can be somewhat uncomfortable in our current society of near instant gratification.
the way you brain is a freakin national treasure. my mind has exploded because it's actually made me realize my relationship to my personal style is like so much deeper than I thought it was. And finding those threads of me through all iterations of my style are like woah. Thank you for this video and filling the fashion space with meaningful discourse and thought provoking ideas.
I realized that since I found my personal I stopped shopping? It’s weird bc the victim of overconsumption that I am is always like “Omg it’s been so long since I’ve last bought smn” as if it was bad???? But it’s great! And I’m so happy! I feel like people SEE me, and honestly I see myself, understand myself better!
Samesies!! I find myself “shopping” in my closet WAY more. I get excited when I remember certain items and get excited to wear them again. Now I shop for pieces and I’m patient until I find the perfect piece
"dress in the way you imagine you could to the best of your ability all the time" YESS being halfway there is soooo much better and more fulfilling than being none of the way there waiting for enough money or enough inspiration to be all the way there!!
also YES on being trendy doesn't make you satisfied when you're low income! I grew up low income and once I got my first job I spent most of my money trying to catch up and look trendy like everyone else, but I realized I was just as unhappy as before because I still didn't feel secure in myself and realized that once I bought one trend I was forced to buy another and it never stopped. It felt like a never ending cycle and I couldn't enjoy my clothes I kept resenting them instead.
for me depop has definitely contributed to that 'rush' feeling. i love it as a platform and tool but the fact that each item is 1 of 1 makes me impulse buy so much more than i would if i had confidence that an item would still be there after a few weeks of contemplating whether i really want it
I love that yohji yamamoto quote you ended on sm. I think when I was younger I was afraid of copying other people because I wanted to be unique and individual, but mimicking others in all aspects of my expression--from fashion to painting to art--has helped me soooo much and I feel like I'm finally starting to find a way of communicating through my style that feels like me because of it.
im at like 9:14 and im so glad you specified that you still got fomo at thrift stores. as someone who is broke and trying to develop personal style lol i definitely have been through these stages because i see the reselling girls getting there at opening time to get cartloads and like get that bag i guess but i end up impulse buying a lot more than i should out of the most literal fomo and i only just realised this for myself. liked subscribed hit the bell.
i don’t partake in fashion on the same level as you, nor do i have much knowledge about designers at all-but this video has been SO helpful! i managed to dig thru my closet looking at clothes i already have, thinking about how i can style them in ways that i feel comfortable + look good in, and i never realised how fun styling can be! i’ve never had so much fun co-ordinating my fits lol thinking about how this would accentuate which parts of my body, why i’m accentuating it (for me, or others?) and now that i apply the “i like this style, but not on ME” mentality, i end up enjoying every fabric that adorns my body. ur the best!!
Rian I struggle with shopping addiction but legitimately I'm taking notes on this bc these are such important points that I never considered? Like yes why am I allowing myself to be sold things? Why am I feeling fomo when it comes to trends? I love my community and I want my funds to go towards people and things I love, and I do not need to value stuff over than
Hi, please get help for this , I just had to end a friendship with someone who struggles with this addiction. This friend is a professional smart woman who constantly shops . I was getting tired of her cancelling or changing our social activities because she was broke ( she makes more than I do but doesn't have money to go for lunch ) it will affect your relationships
Speaking into the void here but personally I enjoy statement pieces, different patterns, colors and textures. Over the years I’ve curated good quality clothing that I love, however, i never knew how to style them because I feared being “extreme” or “over the top”. After learning more about fashion history and how different cultures style clothes, I feel like I finally found inspiration on how to showcase my clothing in a way that I love! Learning about fashion history and style subcultures really helped me. I also drew inspiration from media, Alice in Wonderland has been my favorite story since I was a little girl, and my outfits are inspired by my own interpretation of that made up world. I rarely buy clothes anymore because I am super satisfied with my style, trends are no longer something I consider giving into, which is really refreshing for me :)
I liked how you articulated the connection between gaining control over your own feelings of not having control (emotionally and in your life and such) and ambiguity, then translating that into your own personal style so that you could internally and externally have cohesion and empowerment … no ambiguity, a sense of strength and clarity and power. Great video ty ✨
See, I came for the personal style discussion, but came out with a reaffirming philosophy on how to live. The part where you mention never regretting the time spent waiting, and saving to build your own story / identity resonated with me heavy. Thank you, Rian!
ive been searching for a video like this for agesssss. this is so perfect. I've never been someone who cared about my appearance but I do care about my identity, and I've been looking for this kind of perspective/lens on how to approach fashion and personal styling. you're great, thank you! i
i have been very intentional about how I dress to cycle to work and it is so liberating. I know I don't want to look sporty so have been really thinking about it. Im literally beaming because I feel like me. I'm enjoying thinking about how I want to look.
i’ve been feeling pretty static for about a year now in my fashion and outward expression, more so in the sense that i know what i want to be but lack the inspiration to aspire to be what i imagine for myself. seeing you create videos that bring these kind of frustrations with personal style to light is comforting. also, i really appreciate the statement you made about waiting for your personal style. much love
I subscribed to a lot of channels this past two months of girls doing H&M/zara Hauls etc but like every single video was just the same things, all the outfits were good don’t get me wrong but everyone was buying the same thing and making the same outfits and I realised I don’t even like these on myself… like I’d love to wear brown and creams for autumn but I realised I’ve been constantly reaching for my black clothes during autumn. So now I’ve started watching your videos to understand myself better I seem to be able to curate my own style for “autumn outfits” and it’s so much more fun!!! And I feel so much more like myself
Thank you for the video! Your point on not rushing and thinking about why you want certain items as a part of developing your personal style just had me arrive back at making more clothes myself. I made leggings that I sewed by hand, no sewing machine, which I have loved for well over a year and they fit me perfectly and nothing I could buy would replace that specific item for me. DIY designer items ayyy
One of your (hopefully not!) slept on strengths that comes thru in your editing is how funny you are. The timing, the self-drag but not like mean is so enjoyable we love to see it ❤
Bruh….honestly thank you for this it helps with me especially in this in my life where I don’t know what I want and I feel the rush because I don’t wanna miss out my “best” years and all that rubbish,damn that video is really an eye opening
Rian! My partner showed me your page and I really love it, and I was just blown away by your admission that Alien is a major source of inspiration for you! That is my biggest style influence as well and in fact precipitated a turning point in my personal style when I realized this and started trying to cultivate a similar look! In fact, this occurred before jogger pants were even a trend or commonly available and I had to make them myself! I dunno, I'm just psyched about feeling some style kinship with someone so brilliant! Great work!
Oooh the waiting bit hit me too . I have a chronic illness and I have cool clothes to wear and tell myself I’ll need something important to do or somewhere to be to wear my margiela sweats or my giant vivienne necklace … but I need to realize I need to value myself in that time I spend alone , cus it’s a lot of time … and that’s just the way it is . I think it helps my mood to put on a cool outfit , but I’ll act like I don’t deserve it , that’s whack . Thanks for this video essay Rian, Ps , your hair looks fabulous with the neutral colors, especially that muted olive taupe color ❤
I am so thankful for the depth of your explanation behind how you approach fashion. I've been really struggling with understanding fashion, how I present, and how others do certain looks that "I could never". Understanding that it's the story they want to tell, and that I also have one to tell, and can tell, is such a helpful reframing of fashion. And that it's OK to take time to figure out. Almost all videos are how to's. Never have I heard someone delve into the why like you did here. Thank you!
After watching this I RAN to find the copy of my dear bomb I begged my mom to order when I was a teenager. I love Yohji and hearing you speak on the Why of aesthetic choices and the meaning behind building a relationship with your wardrobe resonates deeply!
Also the treat yourself discussion is soooooooo so so so so I want to literally clip it like it's SOOOO absolutely on point and something I feel people realise and feel subconsciously but it needs to be vocalised more and you did it perfectly.
Your insights are very poignant. Identity is everything and how we project is a large part of our reality. It's kind of like wearing a costume everyday and Life is the play. You're one of the first people I've heard put so much emphasis on "why" in fashion. Also your information on treat yourself is so spot on 🌟✨
seeing you explain these topics on twitter and tiktok is one thing but I really truly love the content you release on youtube and how you explain it. thinking about my personal style has been really important because I do get caught in fits of fancy and have to remind myself daily to let my body communicate how it wants to be shown, how it wants to Express the connection to my brain, my current favourite album, my emotions, etc. It's become a silent way for me to talk about everything I want to talk about that day. anyways fantastic vid esp paired with your last discussion !!! there is something so refreshing to just sit and hear you
yes, you're absolutely right - why splurge on clothes whenever i can even though i'm probably not going to wear them for several years, let alone feel comfortable in them, when i can start utilizing what i already have in my closet? why even rush myself as if my whole sense of self depends on the moment? as if i'd crumble into dust because i'm not up-to-date? treating personal style as a long-term development and stabilizing my mental health with tangible/lasting actions like strengthening my interdependent relations and intellectual interests is so much more rewarding than satisfying a buy impulse but it takes more time.. it's so logical it's almost silly but i'm not as immune to getting caught up in trend cycles as i'd like to be lol 🧍🏽♀️
Thank you for this video Rian!! it gave me a lot of great ideas on how I can express myself more authentically. i think going deeper into what is rly my style and feels best for me will honestly help w a lot of insecurity and getting rid of that FOMO feeling. Im boutta start my personal style google doc rn lol
Saving this video n coming back to write notes. This definitely something I need to figure out before starting a clothing brand. Esp that part on just because you like it doesn’t mean you need it. Needed to hear that. Ty for this vid!
i love your mind and the way u think so so much, the way you articulate yourself while expressing these ideas is exactly the way i wish i could express myself. i'm struggling so much lately with trying to wear more of my personal style because most of what i like isn't exactly trendy or how i wish to present myself at times but all these topics you mentioned within fashion and finding your own authenticity inspired me to try to start looking at clothing as more of a story and to ask myself "what do i want to tell the world?" instead of "the world is telling me to wear this."
This is exactly what I needed on my journey thanks Rian :) I also think all these principles apply to interiors and how you shape the space around you too which is something I’ve been thinking about
thank u so much for this video. i really love the ideas u put out. it made me start going around to different designers or clothing outlets and picking pieces from each one and figuring out what i liked about it, and when i asked myself who i was dressing for, it felt like it went back to my younger self who was heavily restricted in a lot of ways. not just in fashion but especially in fashion. i was restricted from pieces i wanted to wear physically but also denying myself certain styles i might like and back then i used to like oversized clothes to hide myself in many ways. ironically i was taking up more space with these shirts only to feel small within them, whereas now i am drawn to the spacious or very draped style of clothing after having figured out somewhat how to feel comfortable in clothing that is tighter or "more revealing" and more spacious styles of clothing that feel more like extensions of me than curtains. it's super cool to realize how much of myself can be found in my clothing choices, both unintentional and intentional. thank u so much again for making this (and your second part)!
Love this! I really resonate with what you were saying about fashion and personal style as a means of communication and feeling confident in one's identity. Thanks for the interesting and thoughtful video ❤
6:14 this !!!! I’ve felt this way for a long time and long b4 social media I would get people asking me , even my mom, like “what stores do you shop at to look cool ?” and I’m pretty alternative, it would hurt when I was younger to have to answer ll bean or somethin… I grew up windowshopping the Shit outta everything , and shopping was more of a family thing, so when you browse so many different shops you find that one thing that’s really you in each store
Thank you so much for this video! I just found your channel through Mina’s podcast and I’m so happy she invited you. I’m only now (at 24yo) trying to figure out my own personal style and this videos is very useful! Thank you!
Also if it's not too invasive, can you talk about your journey into going from struggling financially to having increased income? I definitely deal with spending beyond my means but not sure how to get out of that fomo mentality
You said something profound in passing around :52 "in the way you fashion an identity" its literally ringing in my head. Fashion is FASHIONING YOUR IDENTITY!?!?!......!
This is so eye opening!!!!!! I tend to lean towards what I like vs what I want but I know what I want now. Could you add links to the books? Or a lis t somewhere bc I tried to look it up and couldn’t find anything.
i think i would like a corset, id have to get a male one, but i mostly think i like how it would feel on me, i like that it would be snug against me, but also, oversized, loose, and big clothes is my favorite, so it would never actually change my silhouette, much less support my (lack of) breasts. so i think it would be poorly spent money (at least for how much i make right now)
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“if it’s your personal style, what’s the rush?” This has been a big realization for my own personal style journey as of late. Thank u for saying it how u said it. Letting the development/s of personal style be slow is challenging and transformative, which (like all art and storytelling) is often worth enduring.
For me it’s always been a tension between what I want to look like and what I’m comfortable in. Strangely they were quite different aesthetics, but at some point they converged. I kinda think as long as you don’t let one desire override the other, you have arrived at your personal style. Idk if that even makes sense
Oh cool you’re kinda making that distinction too!! Love you Rian!!
beautifully put, thank you for sharing
This is such a good point and well said ❤
The amount of stuff I l used to buy bc I “liked it” is embarrassing. It’s true, you don’t need to own something to like it. It was game-changing to realize that what you like ≠ your personal style automatically
@Trinity M I mean, I also think it’s fair to look back at past decisions and be like, “Yeahhh not my finest moment.” It’s pretty human to experience shame and regret and then funnel that negative emotion to become a better person. The thing is is to not let that “negativity” hold you back from reflecting and evolving.
"What you 'like' is not your style" THISSS I've started to realize this that things admire doesn't always mean what I like on me.
The thrill of participating in slow fashion and having these rare find "aha" moments really has taken over for compulsive shopping habits in my life. The more precisely I'm able to tell my story the easier my own characterization has become! It's a conscientious process that really does take time and can be somewhat uncomfortable in our current society of near instant gratification.
the way you brain is a freakin national treasure. my mind has exploded because it's actually made me realize my relationship to my personal style is like so much deeper than I thought it was. And finding those threads of me through all iterations of my style are like woah. Thank you for this video and filling the fashion space with meaningful discourse and thought provoking ideas.
I realized that since I found my personal I stopped shopping? It’s weird bc the victim of overconsumption that I am is always like “Omg it’s been so long since I’ve last bought smn” as if it was bad???? But it’s great! And I’m so happy! I feel like people SEE me, and honestly I see myself, understand myself better!
Samesies!! I find myself “shopping” in my closet WAY more. I get excited when I remember certain items and get excited to wear them again. Now I shop for pieces and I’m patient until I find the perfect piece
u r PARENT, the way I manifested this
"dress in the way you imagine you could to the best of your ability all the time" YESS being halfway there is soooo much better and more fulfilling than being none of the way there waiting for enough money or enough inspiration to be all the way there!!
also YES on being trendy doesn't make you satisfied when you're low income! I grew up low income and once I got my first job I spent most of my money trying to catch up and look trendy like everyone else, but I realized I was just as unhappy as before because I still didn't feel secure in myself and realized that once I bought one trend I was forced to buy another and it never stopped. It felt like a never ending cycle and I couldn't enjoy my clothes I kept resenting them instead.
for me depop has definitely contributed to that 'rush' feeling. i love it as a platform and tool but the fact that each item is 1 of 1 makes me impulse buy so much more than i would if i had confidence that an item would still be there after a few weeks of contemplating whether i really want it
I love that yohji yamamoto quote you ended on sm. I think when I was younger I was afraid of copying other people because I wanted to be unique and individual, but mimicking others in all aspects of my expression--from fashion to painting to art--has helped me soooo much and I feel like I'm finally starting to find a way of communicating through my style that feels like me because of it.
this is my bible
im at like 9:14 and im so glad you specified that you still got fomo at thrift stores. as someone who is broke and trying to develop personal style lol i definitely have been through these stages because i see the reselling girls getting there at opening time to get cartloads and like get that bag i guess but i end up impulse buying a lot more than i should out of the most literal fomo and i only just realised this for myself. liked subscribed hit the bell.
i don’t partake in fashion on the same level as you, nor do i have much knowledge about designers at all-but this video has been SO helpful! i managed to dig thru my closet looking at clothes i already have, thinking about how i can style them in ways that i feel comfortable + look good in, and i never realised how fun styling can be! i’ve never had so much fun co-ordinating
my fits lol thinking about how this would accentuate which parts of my body, why i’m accentuating it (for me, or others?) and now that i apply the “i like this style, but not on ME” mentality, i end up enjoying every fabric that adorns my body. ur the best!!
Rian I struggle with shopping addiction but legitimately I'm taking notes on this bc these are such important points that I never considered? Like yes why am I allowing myself to be sold things? Why am I feeling fomo when it comes to trends? I love my community and I want my funds to go towards people and things I love, and I do not need to value stuff over than
Hi, please get help for this , I just had to end a friendship with someone who struggles with this addiction. This friend is a professional smart woman who constantly shops . I was getting tired of her cancelling or changing our social activities because she was broke ( she makes more than I do but doesn't have money to go for lunch ) it will affect your relationships
Speaking into the void here but personally I enjoy statement pieces, different patterns, colors and textures. Over the years I’ve curated good quality clothing that I love, however, i never knew how to style them because I feared being “extreme” or “over the top”. After learning more about fashion history and how different cultures style clothes, I feel like I finally found inspiration on how to showcase my clothing in a way that I love! Learning about fashion history and style subcultures really helped me. I also drew inspiration from media, Alice in Wonderland has been my favorite story since I was a little girl, and my outfits are inspired by my own interpretation of that made up world. I rarely buy clothes anymore because I am super satisfied with my style, trends are no longer something I consider giving into, which is really refreshing for me :)
I liked how you articulated the connection between gaining control over your own feelings of not having control (emotionally and in your life and such) and ambiguity, then translating that into your own personal style so that you could internally and externally have cohesion and empowerment … no ambiguity, a sense of strength and clarity and power. Great video ty ✨
See, I came for the personal style discussion, but came out with a reaffirming philosophy on how to live. The part where you mention never regretting the time spent waiting, and saving to build your own story / identity resonated with me heavy. Thank you, Rian!
used to really struggle with what i like vs what id actually wear
ive been searching for a video like this for agesssss. this is so perfect. I've never been someone who cared about my appearance but I do care about my identity, and I've been looking for this kind of perspective/lens on how to approach fashion and personal styling. you're great, thank you! i
i have been very intentional about how I dress to cycle to work and it is so liberating. I know I don't want to look sporty so have been really thinking about it. Im literally beaming because I feel like me. I'm enjoying thinking about how I want to look.
This video was so good ! The "treat yourself" reflexion blew my mind ! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us !!
i’ve been feeling pretty static for about a year now in my fashion and outward expression, more so in the sense that i know what i want to be but lack the inspiration to aspire to be what i imagine for myself. seeing you create videos that bring these kind of frustrations with personal style to light is comforting. also, i really appreciate the statement you made about waiting for your personal style. much love
I subscribed to a lot of channels this past two months of girls doing H&M/zara Hauls etc but like every single video was just the same things, all the outfits were good don’t get me wrong but everyone was buying the same thing and making the same outfits and I realised I don’t even like these on myself… like I’d love to wear brown and creams for autumn but I realised I’ve been constantly reaching for my black clothes during autumn. So now I’ve started watching your videos to understand myself better I seem to be able to curate my own style for “autumn outfits” and it’s so much more fun!!! And I feel so much more like myself
Thank you for the video! Your point on not rushing and thinking about why you want certain items as a part of developing your personal style just had me arrive back at making more clothes myself. I made leggings that I sewed by hand, no sewing machine, which I have loved for well over a year and they fit me perfectly and nothing I could buy would replace that specific item for me. DIY designer items ayyy
One of your (hopefully not!) slept on strengths that comes thru in your editing is how funny you are. The timing, the self-drag but not like mean is so enjoyable we love to see it ❤
Lmao thanks so much
Bruh….honestly thank you for this it helps with me especially in this in my life where I don’t know what I want and I feel the rush because I don’t wanna miss out my “best” years and all that rubbish,damn that video is really an eye opening
Rian! My partner showed me your page and I really love it, and I was just blown away by your admission that Alien is a major source of inspiration for you! That is my biggest style influence as well and in fact precipitated a turning point in my personal style when I realized this and started trying to cultivate a similar look! In fact, this occurred before jogger pants were even a trend or commonly available and I had to make them myself! I dunno, I'm just psyched about feeling some style kinship with someone so brilliant! Great work!
Oooh the waiting bit hit me too . I have a chronic illness and I have cool clothes to wear and tell myself I’ll need something important to do or somewhere to be to wear my margiela sweats or my giant vivienne necklace … but I need to realize I need to value myself in that time I spend alone , cus it’s a lot of time … and that’s just the way it is . I think it helps my mood to put on a cool outfit , but I’ll act like I don’t deserve it , that’s whack . Thanks for this video essay Rian,
Ps , your hair looks fabulous with the neutral colors, especially that muted olive taupe color ❤
I am so thankful for the depth of your explanation behind how you approach fashion. I've been really struggling with understanding fashion, how I present, and how others do certain looks that "I could never". Understanding that it's the story they want to tell, and that I also have one to tell, and can tell, is such a helpful reframing of fashion. And that it's OK to take time to figure out.
Almost all videos are how to's. Never have I heard someone delve into the why like you did here. Thank you!
After watching this I RAN to find the copy of my dear bomb I begged my mom to order when I was a teenager. I love Yohji and hearing you speak on the Why of aesthetic choices and the meaning behind building a relationship with your wardrobe resonates deeply!
Also the treat yourself discussion is soooooooo so so so so I want to literally clip it like it's SOOOO absolutely on point and something I feel people realise and feel subconsciously but it needs to be vocalised more and you did it perfectly.
Your videos are SO good and insightful
Your insights are very poignant. Identity is everything and how we project is a large part of our reality. It's kind of like wearing a costume everyday and Life is the play. You're one of the first people I've heard put so much emphasis on "why" in fashion. Also your information on treat yourself is so spot on 🌟✨
I love how you put so much thought into your fashion it's so meaningful and has really inspired me today.
seeing you explain these topics on twitter and tiktok is one thing but I really truly love the content you release on youtube and how you explain it. thinking about my personal style has been really important because I do get caught in fits of fancy and have to remind myself daily to let my body communicate how it wants to be shown, how it wants to Express the connection to my brain, my current favourite album, my emotions, etc. It's become a silent way for me to talk about everything I want to talk about that day.
anyways fantastic vid esp paired with your last discussion !!! there is something so refreshing to just sit and hear you
This is the best ‘find your personal style’ video I’ve come across on RUclips
best take i’ve ever heard on personal style hands down. you never misss
yes, you're absolutely right - why splurge on clothes whenever i can even though i'm probably not going to wear them for several years, let alone feel comfortable in them, when i can start utilizing what i already have in my closet? why even rush myself as if my whole sense of self depends on the moment? as if i'd crumble into dust because i'm not up-to-date?
treating personal style as a long-term development and stabilizing my mental health with tangible/lasting actions like strengthening my interdependent relations and intellectual interests is so much more rewarding than satisfying a buy impulse but it takes more time.. it's so logical it's almost silly but i'm not as immune to getting caught up in trend cycles as i'd like to be lol 🧍🏽♀️
i loved how you phrased this, thank you.
Thank you for this video Rian!! it gave me a lot of great ideas on how I can express myself more authentically. i think going deeper into what is rly my style and feels best for me will honestly help w a lot of insecurity and getting rid of that FOMO feeling. Im boutta start my personal style google doc rn lol
Saving this video n coming back to write notes. This definitely something I need to figure out before starting a clothing brand. Esp that part on just because you like it doesn’t mean you need it. Needed to hear that. Ty for this vid!
i love your videos and your points are always so interesting. slay.
rian this is a really generous video thank you!!
loving these frequent uploads! also love your long sitting down to talk videos Rian!
i love your mind and the way u think so so much, the way you articulate yourself while expressing these ideas is exactly the way i wish i could express myself. i'm struggling so much lately with trying to wear more of my personal style because most of what i like isn't exactly trendy or how i wish to present myself at times but all these topics you mentioned within fashion and finding your own authenticity inspired me to try to start looking at clothing as more of a story and to ask myself "what do i want to tell the world?" instead of "the world is telling me to wear this."
i literally could listen to you talk forever i love your mind
Really enjoyed watching this and your voice is lovely. I’m glad you’re uploading more
This is exactly what I needed on my journey thanks Rian :) I also think all these principles apply to interiors and how you shape the space around you too which is something I’ve been thinking about
Your channel has been life changing for me, seriously ❤
I’m quite new to fashion and this is very helpful!! Love your videos!!!
hapy new rian phin youtube video day everyone
I am so happy you’re back on RUclips 😭😍
thank u so much for this video. i really love the ideas u put out. it made me start going around to different designers or clothing outlets and picking pieces from each one and figuring out what i liked about it, and when i asked myself who i was dressing for, it felt like it went back to my younger self who was heavily restricted in a lot of ways. not just in fashion but especially in fashion. i was restricted from pieces i wanted to wear physically but also denying myself certain styles i might like and back then i used to like oversized clothes to hide myself in many ways. ironically i was taking up more space with these shirts only to feel small within them, whereas now i am drawn to the spacious or very draped style of clothing after having figured out somewhat how to feel comfortable in clothing that is tighter or "more revealing" and more spacious styles of clothing that feel more like extensions of me than curtains. it's super cool to realize how much of myself can be found in my clothing choices, both unintentional and intentional. thank u so much again for making this (and your second part)!
Love this! I really resonate with what you were saying about fashion and personal style as a means of communication and feeling confident in one's identity. Thanks for the interesting and thoughtful video ❤
Ooooo the distinction of what I like vs what I do just brought around some realisations for me!
This is so beautiful! I really relate to how you see clothing!
Omg, im so happy to see you back on youtube. I remember you took a break and i used to search for you every now and again. Glad you are back!💞🙏🏾💞🙏🏾
This is freee what!!?! You dropped gems I am grateful.
6:14 this !!!! I’ve felt this way for a long time and long b4 social media I would get people asking me , even my mom, like “what stores do you shop at to look cool ?” and I’m pretty alternative, it would hurt when I was younger to have to answer ll bean or somethin…
I grew up windowshopping the Shit outta everything , and shopping was more of a family thing, so when you browse so many different shops you find that one thing that’s really you in each store
Thank you so much for this video! I just found your channel through Mina’s podcast and I’m so happy she invited you. I’m only now (at 24yo) trying to figure out my own personal style and this videos is very useful! Thank you!
“It’s like what book are you writing now when you’re getting ready”- my fav comment❤ thank you angel, this one will stay with me!
this popped up on my feed at the perfect time. grateful for your cosmic timing
a comment from a legend ok wow
Content is excellent! Thank you and again so happy I found your channel!
This is profound. Great video Rian. TED Talk for the ages! I resonate with this entirely.
Exactly….dive deep into your own internal process.. Great Work Rian .. would love to engage with you on this topic
Needed this!! Thank you 🥹💖
thank you so much for this video ! i am gonna rewatch it because i feel so SEEN !
i love to see u win like this
so inspired by this! love you so so much!!
Also if it's not too invasive, can you talk about your journey into going from struggling financially to having increased income? I definitely deal with spending beyond my means but not sure how to get out of that fomo mentality
i appreciate you and your insight SO much. that's all. thank you
been watching you since american apparel days
thanks sarah i really appreciate that
creating a lore manuscript to find my personal style
perfect explanation. i learned much of this the hard way its all true!!!
i really relate to your story, great video
You said something profound in passing around :52 "in the way you fashion an identity" its literally ringing in my head. Fashion is FASHIONING YOUR IDENTITY!?!?!......!
This is so eye opening!!!!!! I tend to lean towards what I like vs what I want but I know what I want now. Could you add links to the books? Or a lis t somewhere bc I tried to look it up and couldn’t find anything.
my why is because i grew up with uniform my whole life and never really got to express myself with clothes and felt a lack on control of self
literal MOTHER 🙏
fuck that HELPED helped... thanks a lot, truly! got inspo to sit tomorrow and just brainstorm this shit up.. dang feels nice
omg the old rian pics 😭
love this thank you! can u tell me where the top is from you’re wearing in this video?
I’m so into clothing with big pockets. I hate purses and hand bags lol!! 🤣🤣
i took notes
This helped me so much wow 😮❤
this is a good video, thank you!
another banger !!
4:50 💀
on a side note i really found my tribe. like everything you say resonates 100%
This video is life changing
this video is perfect. xo
I love this video. Thank you
So good
so cool
every time u post a new yt video i make the :D face irl
thx u so much for your words
cooool thank you! 📝
thanks for watching, rebecca
Rian the cord on ur bed is scaring me. Stay safe royalty
Haha it’s the cord to the light I use to film with
storytelling!
i think i would like a corset, id have to get a male one, but i mostly think i like how it would feel on me, i like that it would be snug against me, but also, oversized, loose, and big clothes is my favorite, so it would never actually change my silhouette, much less support my (lack of) breasts. so i think it would be poorly spent money (at least for how much i make right now)