Why are millennials so stressed? Is it Quarter Life Crisis? | Allison Osborn | TEDxOxbridge
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- Building on her background in business as well as yoga, Osborn highlights the importance of clarifying your personal and professional priorities as well as income needs to the relevant topic of millennials. Noting novel reasons as to why this generation is plagued by stress and what she terms quarter life crises, Osborn builds upon her experience to offer inspiring, heartfelt advice.
Allison Osborn is a speaker, trainer and coach who works with entrepreneurs and young professionals who are seeking clarity on their next steps in life and work. She is the founder and cre- ator of the AIMTM Coaching Program, co-creator of the Money Map Program, and former CEO of Eyes Wide Open Life, a personal development and business coaching company.
After graduating Phi Beta Kappa from the University of Califor- nia at Santa Cruz in 2007, Allison spent several years deepen- ing her studies of yoga and meditation, building a grassroots fundraising organization, and contributing to the publication
of various peer-reviewed psychological studies. Allison also was the third employee at The Young Entrepreneurs Academy (YEA!), a social enterprise that trains teenagers how to launch and run businesses.
Allison is currently pursuing her Master’s Degree in Existential Coaching at Middlesex University in London.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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We're stressed cuz the world is moving too fast and we can't keep up.
Companies are asking for skills and qualifications that we don't posses nor have the time or funds to acquire.
Anthony G I agree
don't worry, companies don't even know what they need and they're mostly all screwed
I believe we are stressed because WE LET other people affect our emotions to the point where we get discouraged from the task at hand, also known as life. That is my case at least. I am working every day to control my thoughts and actions more, and get rid of the mindset that other people are controlling my life. It’s harder than I initially had thought though.
And how dont we have the time to aquire these skills. We all have the same amount of time in a day, and all it takes is 5 minutes a day to get that into your routine as a habit, and as you add more and more time to learning these skills they will come quickly, dont make everything harder than it has to be, that just ends up hurting everyone in the end.
Plus our ridiculous student loans. We were sold the dream that higher education=higher paying jobs. Nevertheless, this is far from the truth.
we are stressed because real connection hardly exists anymore. we live in a reality where we are told we should all be independent , alone, working to death. but we are smarter than that. we know that this way of life doesn’t feel good. we are frustrated.
Cour Barone True.
Cour Barone yes
so true
True, social media such as youtube also destroys real connection I just wish people knew
Cour Barone Amen!
I don’t want to continue working for a selfish company/Boss. Who uses people and expects us to help them accomplish their dreams. I’m overworked for something I don’t even want, I’m burnt.
Tell me...where do you work?
i match your situation at the moment. these companies would be nothing without us. i have a great paying job. but no one to come home to, or go out and put those paychecks to use. we are moles and far to busy to care!
Yes we are servilely over worked!!!
@port nut NO... ITS NOT.. STOP SAYING THAT ALL THE TIME.. YOURE PROBABLY THE SAME PERSON WHO SAYS IF YOU DONT GET A VAX THEN YOU CAN CHOOSE TO NOT HAVE A JOB.. NO... I CANT... WHEN DID SADISM BECOME SO TRENDY AND FASHIONABLE?
It also couldn't have anything to do with us getting payed less then most prior generations.
and rent is way more expensive
Every generation has its challenges, some just cope better than others.
@@MM-tb2fg SOME RICH PEOPLE..
Not only do we have to find a perfect career for us, but we have to find it fast to avoid wasted money and time in college. Good luck to you all with important life decisions!
I hope your comment was meant to be a sarcasm.
SURE WISH THEY TAUGHT US THAT WHILE WE WERE IN SCHOOL.. NICE THAT IM FINDING THIS OUT AT 35 AFTER MY WHOLE LIFE WAS WASTED..
This speaker gives practical, concise, intelligent and compassionate advice. Great talk!
inspiring
Love your photo! And yes so true she's awesome!
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Tyler hahahahaha
TED rule number 1 - and they gave her the smallest one
SAME
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This is soooo accurate. I just graduated and I have a decent job - not high paying, but after 10 years getting your loans forgiven is more than worth it. But I'm still constantly debating about "what do I WANT to do?" Because I like TOO MANY things. I like psychology, accounting, computer science, business, and languages. I love kids. I love to write. I love working with my brother in his woodworking business. AND I want to HELP people. I have NO IDEA which one of those is my best career path. Still don't, honestly. BUT I'm going to re-watch this video, try to use the tools this lady gave us, and be happy that at least I'm not the only one!!!
iam 46 and still dont know what I want to do for a living. Most people I know still dont know either.
steph sdlnthms get creative and think outside the traditional career boxes. Something that integrates your main strengths and interests, that helps people. There's surely a way. Good luck...
@steph sdlnthms Start your own small business and make a website which teaches kids different languages with easy interface to click on symbols. Monitor the actions of the users to improve your interface and the learning rate. Get so rich that you and your brother just do a bit woodworking for fun at your villa where you write your book(s). And dont forget to give me a small piece of the cake if it works since I found a perfect solution.
Same problem :D I love doing so many things. Decisions, decicions...
I'm in the same situation except I like psychology, accounting, law, interior design and real estate lol oh man.
How to avoid quarterlife crisis:
1. Find meaningful work with personal and professional priority pies
2. Know how much you need to live to avoid overshooting and drowning in work OR undershooting and living a substandard life
3. Start somewhere. It doesnt have to be perfect. Waiting is procrastination.
- Be patient. Finding your life's work is a lifetime itself. Pursue professional opportunities with a sense of purpose.
I disagree
This hits home. Just graduated college at a university and can't get a decent job outside of waitressing. I worked really hard in school, but the real world makes me feel like it really was for nothing
you can try applying to internships that are related to your field of study to gain experience!
Yep, also consider where you want to get to - figure out what actual job you want, how to get the qualifications you need, and where you can get an entry-level position in the industry.
Don't hang about any longer than you have to, or you end up out of the loop too long.
Age is not important, employers want experience - start getting relevant experience asap.
Statistically, internships don't make a difference in getting hired fulltime.
well, internships are the experience recent grads need to have in order to get hired full time. You're basically implying that in order to get hired full time you have to work full time in a position that qualifies you as having experience, and that doesnt make sense.
Kendall Gallegos what did you major in?
Awesome, this talk made feel less alone and was so helpful. I loved it!
This is actually a really good talk. Too bad they look so bored.
it is a very god talk. maybe the audience is not bored but working out things internally while she speaks
This is exactly what I just wanted to comment as well 😄
whoisshetoquestionfate nice perspective
You guys are overthinking it. The students look totally burnt-out. It was that time of the term, most likely.
Literally the same thing I was thinking
I'm in my 50's and I had exactly what she is calling a quarter life crisis about 27 years ago. It isn't specific to millennials. I believe it is largely due to finding out that the way you dreamed life would be is very different from the way life actually is. It's the same phenomenon you experience when you have children. Or get married. Or any other thing you dream about before actually having the true experience. And coming out the other side with a different perspective and different understanding is called maturing. Once you do that, you get to watch every generation think they are the first ones doing it. :)
Thanks for sharing your insight. I'm wondering though, why do you think we dream such mismatching things?
Well, our perspective is limited by our experience. We think we have a true vision of the world when we are young--and it is true in the sense that it is what we see. But we don't have the experience to evaluate and understand all that we are seeing. So we make some false assumptions. We assume we have an idea about having children, for instance, and about how we will raise them based on what we've seen of other people; but once we have children, we realize that we did not factor in the sleep deprivation, the hormone disruption, or the constant relentless effort with very delayed results that having and raising children entails. We can't even really imagine it until we've experienced it. Our new perspective changes some of our ideas and views on parenting and our evaluations of other parents. A friend of mine always says, "Children are the best recorders of history, but the worst interpreters". I think that applies to many areas of life.
The suicide rate for Americans age 20-35 is at an all-time high - even higher than the generations that experienced wartime hardship - so whatever this generation is experiencing is not the status quo, Loretta.
I've been contemplating it for 22 years now. Was just really discovering about death and what I could be capable of or what people are capable of doing to me. So I'd often look out to the sea and wonder why I'm here, why I'm me all those questions I'm still wondering about now. Reaching out to people made me retreat further because they were spiteful or cold, praying made me feel more alone. I've never really considered my life my own, it belongs to the system and I want to be free from it.
This is so me, I actually cried reading this. It wasn't an injury, it was the financial crisis. The career path (chemistry) that I had been working towards all through school fell out from under my feet just as I was entering the workforce. It took me years to get a job in my field and when I did it was part-time or temp. I became desperate and would take anything remotely relevant to just get a job. 5 years after graduation I'd only been employed in an actual lab a total of 2 years with another layoff on the way. So I went to get my masters and graduated with a slightly different degree more similar to my clients. Still, I could only get part-time work. FINALLY, I got a full-time job with benefits, but the company merges and my office is shut down. It took me 6 months to find another full-time job, which was again temporary. Now I'm 32 working on my PhD in biochemistry still confident that renewable biofuels are important. But there is this nag that by making any choice I've made the wrong choice and my cinfidance has suffered greatly.
I'm 57 years maybe a little tired but I can do anything I have two son 18 & almost 25 & recently I realized how much more positive this generation feels about life overall then my generation, I'm happy humans are going in the right direction, so seniors start listening to the next generation, I say they are doing a better job, so might as well they will have it longer then us anyways. Thank you
“Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
--Howard Thurman
I'm a freshman at BU and this talk really resonated with how I feel right now and reminded me of that quote. I guess I have to choose to believe in some kind of beautiful coincidence here (Howard Thurman was a dean at BU and there is a center named after him in our union; it is a place that encourages seeking "common ground" and enhancing human connection and therefore seeking to understand our purpose and the meaning of why we are here). Beautiful talk.
Even though getting up in the morning and putting on your gym shoes is the hardest thing to do, I keep doing it and somehow I come home feeling fulfilled. It is hardest to start. Be persistent.
My parents never had time for me so my whole life has always been based on my own choices. I can tell you - it doesn't feel as great as it may sound. Not having any direction, support and security is absolutely crushing. I'm 23 now in university that requires a lot of studying and this is exactly when I came to the point where I feel absolutely exhausted and empty. Absolute freedom isn't easy to handle. We have so many choices now and exploring and making decisions can be very tiring. Since this is the time in our lives where we have to make lifechanging decisions, it is indeed very stressful and huge responsibility.
same here, not many people can understand that,sometimes life gets so hard and i would kill for good advice from someone,but there no one around intelligent enough and actually giving a damn(
@@tatianabrown6456 this
In middle school I convinced myself that I'd die from some natural cause or freak accident while I was still young. It kept me from committing suicide and I didn't have to worry about the world that I wasn't planning on staying in. I just existed and waited for an out. I'm twenty now and I've spent the last three years coming to terms with the fact that I outlived my ideal lifespan. I'm trying to do what I should have prepared for before but it's hard. I always wonder if other people felt this way, if maybe this is some form of "millennial depression" that's ultimately coming across as laziness.
Tayler Mermaid I always felt the same.
Tayler Mermaid yes I agree it's depression, not laziness
Tayler Mermaid yes absolutely. And thanks for saying it out loud.
I'm your age and I still consider simply being dead in 3 years from now and that made me really less stressed out. I just realized that no matter how much effort I put and how good I was, it would hardly pay off and it just seems meaningless even trying. Search for "minimal life style", I did and I wonder just how greedy humans are
Never give up
I am 24 years old so technically a 'millennial' and I know exactly why we are so stressed. I know this because I have beaten it. Us millenials want everything as quickly as possible, we are never satisfied with what we have as it is never enough. I was on the brink of suicide because of this, because no matter what you do, you cannot find joy. This is when I discovered minimalism and living within your means, living a simple life without the latest technology, not having 5 cars, the biggest house you can afford, no finances or credit cards etc, just settle for enjoying every moment, enjoying family, friends, and always looking for the positives.. Some people say im living in the past, but there's nothing wrong with living in the past and having modern health care, and conveniences like the internet to run along side that. It fixed me anyway.
"Don't kill time waiting, that's procrastination not exploration."
I believe a Quarter Life Crisis is just an existential crisis presenting itself when people start joining the work force, they find themselves faced with difficult and confronting questions.
People are more aware, conscious and open than any other time in history and they're not hiding and pushing these questions away, they experiance it at an earlier age now, sometimes during early teen years or even childhood. I started experiancing an existential crisis from a very very early age and it got more real when I joined a corporate law firm. the fact that I came face to face with these questions many times before makes it so much easier for me to navigate my way through it. I believe this generation is here to make a difference and we know technology is here to support our dream of happiness and freedom.
Alanoud Ali I am so agree with you!
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Wow
This was an excellent talk. Investing in yourself comes after finding yourself, and unfortunately that is what a lot of your 20's are about. The investing I really think starts in your 30's. And in the world of living longer as we do, that is ok.
Thank you very much for this talk. I am a few months away from turning 30, spending most of my 20's in party mode, travel and working a variety of jobs. Accepting and learning from that experience, I have made the decision (Migrated to Canada, with my husband, who is a citizen) And said frig it, Its time.. we are now the owners of a new business, which the doors will be opening in April 2018. It will be a challenging road, but building the legacy I foresee, will truly lend to living the life we want. Start. Action. I truly believe, its beyond that first step. Thank you Allison & TED.I hope this video helps many others.
This is completely the best TED talk I have ever seen
It helped me a lot, I was just going through my quarter life crisis this last year and a half and I was so confused and nervous
I will watch this video Everytime I feel like having my quarter life crisis, it made me get calmed
Yes. Just turned 21 when the quarter life crisis began. It really is an identity crisis. I’m one of the least anxious people around. And I know myself very well. But what do I DO? I’m a rather capable person who can do SO much, so choosing one thing is overwhelming and beyond just anxiety-producing. And yeah there are no tools to my knowledge to help with this. It’s a living nightmare.
im 27 ive been in this crisis since about 24
Hi Arin, thanks for sharing! Did you manage to overcome your your quarter-life crisis?
Am thankful that I had my crisis in my first two years of college while I was doing my associates degree. It definitely taught me that I could keep going despite not having a clear idea as to where. I had another one after grad school but it was definitely self-induced by worries of finding a job that would allow me to pay my loans, save for retirement, save for vacation, save for a condo, save for an electronic car, pay for a vegetarian lifestyle, pay for a gym membership, etc. You can see how i ended up stressed out of my mind.
No the the reason the younger generation is stressed out is because the previous generations have wrecked the economy and destroyed the environment. Therefore there are actually fewer options for us and the options we do have do not pay enough. People keep wanting to talk about responsibility well maybe the older Generations should take responsibility for their actions. Most people these days have to work at least two jobs and still will not be able to afford to have their own place to live meaning they will have multiple roommates just to get by.
Danny ray yea keep saying the older generations robbed you when you're the ones buying iPhones for a thousand dollars every year
that's it ? The one time purchase of an expensive phone is what you're going to use to this credit and entire generation? Keep in mind almost every single phone company offers payments over two years I thousand dollars spread over two years isn't very much money is it? Take some time think about your answers collect your thoughts. And remember that this" millennial generation" is the first generation in US history to make less money collectively then the generation at proceeded them.
@Danny ray
Got news for you, the Millennials is not the first generation in the U.S. to make less money collectively than the prior generation. That dubiousness honor goes to Gen-X: You know, the ignored generation that was mostly forgotten because it was stuck between your parent's generation (the Baby Boomers) and your's.
Sierra MatchKing hold on how old do you think I am?
absolutely
I believe we are stressed because WE LET other people affect our emotions to the point where we get discouraged from the task at hand, also known as life. That is my case at least. I am working every day to control my thoughts and actions more, and get rid of the mindset that other people are controlling my life. It’s harder than I initially had thought though.
Abrazo, you did not read this correctly. It's a dysfunctional mindset that other people control your life, which Noahdaly92 mentions. I found his comment insightful and inspirational that taking control of your thoughts is worthwhile but not easy.
Nothing personal Noah, but I think you would be well served working on your self-esteem. I understand you, I used to be you as well many years ago. That wrenching feeling that somebody judged you and that was everything, I was there too.
Over the years though I worked with myself to grow as a person in so, so many ways and much to my own fortune these days I am very confident and know what matters and I succeed in those matters of importance.
No doubt you can achieve this same as well for that is within you somewhere there deep inside of you. But you got to realize it first, start caring about yourself enough to want to grow and be the best version of yourself you can be. And I know, as do you on some level, that you can achieve that. I know you can, you know you can. I hope you all the best in life. =)
We are stressed because we NEED a reworking of the whole economy and we are asked to take the lead WHILE most boomers still havent passed the baton.
True
This is such a great talk. Most talks on this topic don't show you how to move forward. This is such a practical guide on how to do just that. I'll be making my own pie charts very soon.
Wow! Awesome speech! I’m 29 and my Quarter life crisis started with an injury, just like you!
Had that as well. Realized by then that I would never be happy, and how weak and fugacious humans are.
Sounds like you're describing the psychological impact of living in a society living through the lie of cheap abundance. When we are led to believe everything is available instantaneously, time and things lose their value. We win this reality only by exploiting the world in the extreme. We are changing the world in a way which is causing the rates of mass species extinction incredibly quickly, and right now human communities are being ravaged for the same reasons. Species extinction and human displacement will only increase unless we change who we are
The millennial quarter life crisis I believe stems from recognising that the aspirations of our parents, and the model of success idealised by them and by society is economically, environmentally and energetically incongruent with the reality of being a human animal on a finite planet earth right now.
And when everyone has got by being lazy, it's difficult to change our value system to one that is congruent with our physical reality. I'd like to think that we can change before global system collapse. Optimism will remain important.
It’s their fault we’re lazy ...
Sir, I liked your comment.
I swear she's reading my mind! Thank you for sharing both empathy and some simple ways to ease the anxiety around career paths.
I think our generation is marked by insecurities. We feel the urge to be successful and seeing all those pretty people on social media with seemingly awesome lifestyles, makes us feel we're not good enough. But as she stated in this video: we need to find out what gives our life meaning, and if we start doing things that give us meaning and satisfaction, we are successful.
This might not be popular to say but the way I got out of my 1/4 life crisis and state of general depression was diving deeper into my faith in God. I found my identity, purpose, acceptance and direction as that relationship developed. Those things seem to be what all humanity is after, and especially millennials. Just a thought.
For people who suffer from this, I like to share with you my way of coping with this crisis. Ever since I entered university, I lost a sense of purpose. I am not sure what I want to become in the future and all the school works and pressure are really crushing me. However, since I am a pianist, I would goto practice room everyday and play for an hour. Somehow doing it really alleviate the stress. What i am trying to say is find a hobby such as playing an instrument that you will find fullfilling.
as a millennial, this stressed me out
I think this works for millennials who are in the Middle Class and not for everyone
What I can't figure out is : How to escape overwhelm and start taking (continuous) action. I feel trapped by myself alot of the time.
YES!! THIS!!
Start! Somewhere with something. Immediatly. Just start. Do what you can do and you will know more along the way.
Wa Wi face your deepest fears
I can completely relate to this. It's like I've experienced a paralyzing feeling of overwhelm around Junior year of college when I realized that my clear cut path wasn't so clear cut. Couple that with depression and, yeah....
Take ONE thing and just start. I've always wanted to be an event planner but it's a risky, over saturated, and sometimes not lucrative field. I took a chance and reached out to an event coordinator I met on Meetup. I asked to shadow her. Then I started taking floral design classes. I'll be opening my business in 2018. Pick one thing and make it a point to start. Brick by brick, you'll get there.
It's called over thinking. Action speaks louder than words.
I am on my third year in college and I have been coming across quarter life crisis in these few months. Problems that come along with the downturn of global economy, the extreme property price in my city, the unstable regional political climate, the extension of retirement age for Generation Z to continuously pay tax and support generations before us throughout our whole lives, whether or not to adopt antinatalism and a child-free lifestyle in the future have been on my mind for months. This TED talk is empowering for me in the sense that we should do whatever we can to improve our skills at this moment instead of just freely wondering what we should be doing in our life. I hope to sort things out before turning 21, so that I can move on with a more positive attitude to face challenges after college graduation next year.
I hate my job and thought of doing a business but i realized I'm not intelligent, I have no skills and I'm slightly lazy, I can't even keep a steady relationship. I will go out of my way to help people but never myself. Time is running out and I'm just accepting reality, not everyone can live an amazing successful life when you look again we will be gone on this planet. So just be grateful that we alive and healthy everything on this earth is just temporary so make right with God and save your soul.
Samantha Smith life is what you make of it. Done sell yourself short. You have the skill of clearly expressing yourself as you write :) that's just one thing. I'm sure there are many more. Please shift your perspective to save your life 💚
I understand how you can feel pessimistic about the world around you. I can feel like that to. Maybe if more people found a way to do what they love then the world will start to heal and become a better place again. I agree with Sophia. The Millennial generation is a very powerful generation or can potentially be so. Everyone is intelligent in their own way even if it takes a little digging to find out what. :D
Samantha Smith or just make an effort to change the bad parts in your life. Either way is fine.
Stephanie Fahey exactly!!!!! What needs to be taught is how to adopt positive and growth mindsets.
Samantha look at how many people you attracted already with your comment. Everyone has a purpose. If you feel unfulfilled, chances are you are not working at your unique full potential. You mentioned a lot of your weaknesses but what about your strengths? Everyone has them. We all play an important role in this world to keep it turning (whether it is small or big doesn't changes it's importance). Just find what makes you happy and go for it. Have the courage to follow your instinct because if you love what you do, it will give you the drive to make it all the way. and God bless you
This is a talk for those still in college. After you graduate you have many more stressors added to your plate. She's right on the mark, however.
I’m another distressed millennial. Spent 5 years of my life working tirelessly to graduate and provide value to society. I have a good job with good benefits but it’s still no where near enough to cover the full cost of living in South Florida. I’m forced to spend at least 50% of my total income in rent. Then after all my bills and expenses are paid I’m left with hardly anything. It’s super difficult to save and invest. I work over 50 hours a week just to barely survive living pay check to pay check. I feel like I’m getting poorer every year struggling just to provide for my basic needs.
Although I don't personally know any of you guys and girls, reading your comments makes me feel better. Because I realize many of Us share the same problem..i'm 27 , worked for approximately 5 years As a graphic/ visual designer for a company, I feel like something is missing, I love so many things and wish I had time to learn them all, from art, photography, music production, fitness and biohacking, personal growth and so on...It feels intimidating to choose one single path, yet I know I have to act now because I'm not happy with my current carrier situation...I hope I'll find a way, and I wish all of you the same thing, good luck my fellow millenial friends
Probably the best talk about finding your career I've ever heard, and I've watched a lot of them.. Thanks!
I love her talk very much! I highly need this. Thank you!
1. Clear purpose and changes meaning over time.
2. Know your monetary needs.
3. Get started, just do it
Yes, it is QLC. I'm turning 25 this month...and I'm low-key freaking out due to all of the obstacles I've faced based on my childhood's happenings and timing combined with my lackluster career...and I'm leaning heavily on my profitable art and my partner.
I think I had my quarter life crisis when I first got into uni (for my family, adulthood begins in uni, but you'll have a roof over your head and they might still pay for my degree and bills). Now I'm out of it and just looking up. I've finally found how I'm going to stay happy. Everything said here makes sense. I love and hate making choices. I'd recommend this video.
Watched this for a class and really enjoyed it! Love the idea of the personal and professional pies. Self-awareness is so key!
As a freshman in college this is something that’s been on my mind for years. What do I want to do with my life and how will I get there. I want to do something important and meaningful but I don’t want to sit at a 9-5 desk job. I want to get an education so I can have more impact with the work I do but what if I’m wasting my time in college instead of getting out there and doing something. What if I follow the conventional path of bachelors, masters, desk job and never end up doing anything else and regret it on my death bed but what if I end up homeless and a decade behind my peers if I go my own way... it’s been giving me so much anxiety these last few years and the weight of it keeps getting heavier and heavier as time goes on and each decision I make narrows the field even more. Am I making the right decisions? Am I going down the path that I want? Based on my vague idea of an ideal future... how do I get there?
I feel ya!
exactly how I feel Sarah!
Great advice here. Priority pie's . Taking action is the most important thing. don't sit and wait around.
This talk is not intended for people from rough upbringings and unfortunate circumstances.
Omg this is so true. I'm 21 and I feel like I'm having a half life crisis - even tho I'm not, and I constantly have to tell myself that because it's just all a matter of perspective.
It is. Cause a "real" half life crisis is oftentimes a proper "burn out" and that will show...
Oh god same.
I was playing video games once and all of sudden I also experienced a Half-Life Crysis!
Just do what makes you happy, create stuff and help people and everything will be ok!!
HEYTERRY isn't Half Life a video game?
I'm 17 and I'm already getting a quarter life crisis.
yeah I´m 17 too and got mine a year ago....
Hate to break it to you but it'll be worse once you're in college and in your 20's.
Lauren Yoo that is late teen crisis 😅
Sameee
better have quarter life crisis older. so that u live longer
I love that you are giving a voice to this issue!
I think this is exactly what I needed
I'm 27. Been in this crisis for 9 years?.. I worked after highschool, and didnt start college until 24 because of not knowing what I wanted + no guidance. I just now realized what I want. After 3 years of time and Pell grant spent on another major. But it's better late than never...
nope what u were doing before and how you find something u like ?
Hi Golgi, thanks for sharing! I agree, it's never too late. How did you come to realize what you want to do?
She is an excellent speaker and I was thrilled to see concrete advice for us to utilize, like the pie charts and lessons.
I'm 23. I went to community college after high school because I couldn't make the grades in high school. This was due to severe depression. I have an associates and working to finish a bachelor's in something I'm scared I'm never gonna get a decent paying job in. Another poor choice by me it would seem. I've made strides to improve myself like internships in my field and other things but I really just think its too late for me to get what I want in life.
I hate living with my parents and going through all these terrible struggles alone. What I want most in this world is just a good woman by my side and a family with her. The girl of my dreams who I have been totally in love with for about 7 years now will likely marry someone else who has found success. I have suffered and struggled so very much in the past 4 years. I want it to end really.
I will be leaving my parent's house one way or another. Likely in a bodybag because I can't take anymore of this pain. I hope I don't give into this in the end.
I'm 17 and I've cried so many times just thinking about this. It hurts incredibly bad. I just started freaking out listening to this.
Tagging this to my husband who has so many ideas but doesnt know where to start. Thank you for this awakening.
This is how I felt after working onboard cruise ships for 5 years after college and THEN entering the real work world... it was a complete identity crisis and I had absolutely no idea who I was since I went straight from college life to life at sea and was then expected to understand the corporate America with absolutely no experience.
Someone actually advised me to go work on cruise ships after college because I said I didn't know what I wanted to do. From what you just said, this doesn't seem like the best route.
Maybe the issue isn't with the 75% of Millenials, maybe it's the corporate world that needs a good shove?
elwing07 actually, working on ships was the greatest thing I've ever done. I learned so much and got paid to see the world. The hard part is finding fulfillment in a job after that experience.
Olivia esddms my only issue is the time management. If I'm able to get all my daily assignments done in 6 hours, why do I need to sit around a waste time until I've working 8 hrs a day? I don't mind taking on work or helping other people out, I just don't understand this.. especially once you reach the corporate level..
ah ok, I see where you're coming from. thanks for the reply :)
I'm just 16 and already feel really stressed about what I'm gonna do for the rest of my life and how my actions now affects my future
It's been troubling me for months and I have yet to find a solution on how to stop thinking about that
I just came up out of my last year of existential panic. I'm second-semester freshmen in college. The key is put your fears in perspective. Everyone has gone through them and you are not going to get through it while you are freaking out. The point of finding something to make you happy is to be just that happy. Why freak out over something so exciting? You are the best version of yourself that has yet to be, and you will continue to be that. All you have to do is keep an open mind and do what you love. Don't forget to take a risk every now and then too.
Thanks, that'll help me for sure!
@@icecookie2953 your 16 your already ahead of so many people thinking what you want to do
The truth is my career choice is definitely not the same as the work I do to pay the bills. My career choice may make me money when it comes to fruition, but I'm not expecting tons of it.
I'm a Millennial that also values having more time over having more money. If I can get something expensive, it's because I came into some often unexpected money or because I saved enough. That's the world so many of us live in, and living from paycheck to paycheck will be a grim reality for lots of us for many years to come.
She hit the nail in the head. Thanks for making awareness on this topic. I am in that place right now.
Here's my issue on stress affecting most of us millennials. When it comes to mistakes, I can't bare to move on and forgive myself, but I will try my best to correct it. I view mistakes as an absence to care and being aware of your actions. No matter how small or big the mistake is, I will always be hard on myself to ensure I won't repeat such a thing again. And unfortunately, it's a really bad habit that I carry on to myself. I wouldn't be surprised that I'll get a heart attack or stroke in the next decade or so.
And here's my issue on advices on that issue. "Everyone makes mistakes, your human", or "Don't be so hard on yourself. Life is too short". These advises don't help at all. Think about it, would you really forgive someone who made a mistake by mixing up all the drugs needed for specified patients and later on 20 patients died the next day? Would you forgive someone whom made the mistake of not accurately measuring a specific sample and later post inaccurate data of a topic? Would you really think a mistake is fine?
We live in a double or triple standard society where you have to follow these ridiculous policies that are deem to be broken. It's ridiculous.
Those who say they have an idea to relieve stress likely don't ever help cause they mostly contradict the unhealthy policies of the work force.
One or two solutions: Companies need to lower their ridiculous policies and start looking into health of employers. That goes for lowering ridiculous expectations for everyone else, customers, parents, teachers, professors, etc. (Unless your in a job that involves a life being saved or lost like the military, policing, search and rescue, firefighting, first response, paramedic, etc).
Or we need to start making robots do half of our jobs.
The older generations expecting us to be in the same position they were at our age but not accepting the fact everything they did was easier and cheaper! One example: the UK housing market.... houses are unbelievabley expensive (average price £266,000) - how are us Millenials expected to afford this? Our salaries do not match the rising house prices.
We make choices in life and they in turn make us, nes pas? So always remember and never forget; when making choices, lean into the things you do well naturally, without someone hounding or nagging you about deadlines and will always be doing the best you can.
Which means you get to go home feeling okay about your performance bc you know you did your best no matter what the job is.
I feel this all the time! I feel like I'm lost and I don't know how I'm going to make it I don't want to have regrets I feel like I'm not living my best life but I feel like I don't have a choice I hate school I'm a sophomore in College and just showing up to class gives me so much anxiety! and don't get me started on tuition why is school so expensive! omg, I'm having a full-on panic attack right now just thinking about all of this. no, I'm totally not crying right now...
2020 and who would imagine that a pandemic would make this feeling get more worst.
None of it matters. The kids, the career, the clothes, the food. You can die anyday and it all would just be gone. Just take things day by day and make the choices you feel great making and hope that those choices will lead you down a good path. I'm sure if you got everything you dreamed, you would still be yearning for something else, trying to turn back the clock in your mind and think of what you could have done differently. Just breathe and have gratitude no matter what.
Very well articulated - thank you.
Wow. Loved this!
My Fave part was is Lesson 1, most especially her point about ‘The 4 Fundamental Key Things We Look For in a Fulfilling Career’ & Prioritizing these according to your beliefs/values:
1) Money/Power
2) Happiness/Fulfilment
3) Learning & Growth
4) Making a Difference or Leaving a Legacy
A MUST WATCH clip. Very beneficial.
This is really good, and I'm going to share it extensively.
I'm a Millennial and I can say that, without a doubt, we are the weakest, most entitled, feckless generation the world has seen. I see it in my friends (and myself to be honest) - a huge self-indulgence and self-importance. I have the biggest respect for the generations around WW1 and WW2.
"Van Gogh didn't touch a paint brush til age 27".. and Isaac Newton invented calculus by the age of 25
That fact about Newton is exactly the kind of story that bring STEM people down. The Van Gogh story give you hope but what action do you take after learning about Newton?
Newton has been doing those things all his life. It was not as if he instantly hits eureka. All the same. He just started way earlier. If you found yourself lost somewhere in your 20s, it doesn’t mean you’d be lost for the rest of your life. That’s where Van Gogh story come to light. Cheer up! :)
There is a balance between hope and reality
So should we quit our jobs as professors and get jobs for Silicon Valley and Wall Street? Is knowledge of this "reality" actionable?
Pursue what you're interested while recognizing your limitations. Not everyone is able to do any job they want regardless of hope
Awesome, Allison! ♥
I'm gonna call it a mid life crisis still cuz imma die soon
Damn...
What makes you think that.
gurl you still there??
Prayed and wished, didn't happen, tried, failed. Body wants life, mind wants to be free.
The problem is where to get the jobs😂🤣
And get the jobs that pays a higher salary.
I wish I would’ve watched this sooner. This is the most helpful ted talk I’ve ever seen.
LOVED IT! Well done!
I’ve had this crisis when I was 17... Now I’m 24 and follow a way I’ve choosen 3 years ago. That decision I made back then saved me from turning mad. Because of the “possibilities” I had and still have. I still have many questions about what is still to come but this one BIG goal I pursue defines who and what I am also how, what and why I work... Interessting enough it has absolutly nothing to do what I studied or what futher educations I might have but still it has a strong impact on it.
So, what or who am I? What am I going to be?
I know the answer very well and I’m very glad for that. I consider it as a gift...
I don't understand how everyone assumes that the generations before us had a burning passion for their jobs. Our fathers and grandfathers didn't wake up excited to go sit at a desk all day, or go work on the farm, or go sell dictionaries door to door any more than we would. While they may have taken pride in their jobs more than we do today, it's ridiculous to assume the job market would ever offer you a perfect job that fulfills all your passions and pays you well, even "back in the day." Just hunker down and do your job, and DEVELOP a passion for it. Find some aspect of it you can enjoy instead of turning down job offers because you're not immediately passionate about it and therefore won't do a good job.
Katharine G they were able to care for their families financially with common employment
generations didnt spend the way people spend. 2 cars, furnished rooms in a half empty home , $6 coffees twice a day, smart phone on data plans, the list goes on. generations before may have been able to live on one income. take away all the extra stuff like coffee ect and most could live on one income.
I live in a tiny room with my fiance in his moms house. With our two incomes together, we can't afford an apartment because the cheapest ones out there are around 900. Average in this area is about 1200/mo. At my highest paying job i never brought home more than 1200/mo, so even if we could afford the 900, I would still need an extra collective 500 dollars for other bills, then what would we eat? Also do you know how expensive car insurance is for some people? When i got my first car the insurance was almost 300/mo, and it would have costed me 200/mo for health insurance so guess what i went through most of my life without it. But That's just the way life is for most of us. Not all of us are buying the new 1000 dollar iphone, and you're right the people who are probably cant afford it.
Katharine G thank you. I never thought about it that way.
Well said
This is great, but it needs to take place in the context of questioning our current economic/political system. A "basic income" would give us each more of an opportunity to find the right career. Furthermore, the median wealth of a white household is $100,000 whereas the median African-American wealth is around $1,000... We need to stop focusing entirely on our own success, and start making our society a level playing field for all. The most important way to accomplish more equality and freedom is to replace corporations with worker-cooperatives.
vegandavey impressed
No offense but that isn't true and I am not sure where you even got that information. Asian people make more than any race so stop trying fam. I know many white families who make 20k a year with 6 people working in the household. Stop trying so hard to bring race into these things.
Out of curiosity, do you watch Roaming Millennial's channel? You two would get along really well. Also, until 1960, Chinese people were basically banned from immigrating to the US. This means they've had less time to be as oppressed in the US as African American people have. Also, it is not easy or cheap to immigrate to the US, or many other places for that matter, obviously showing that the vast majority of asian immigrants since the 60s were somewhat well off from the get-go, and didn't have to climb the economic ladder all the way from the very bottom.
Lastly, I don't understand why you only addressed one very small part of the argument that I made. I'm talking about how the US has an absurd and immoral level of income inequality, one of the worst education systems, horrible and unfair healthcare outcomes, extreme gun violence, and many more problems stemming from the ridiculous amount of emphasis we put on individualism and unquestioning obedience to the god of capitalism and money. Our society needs to allocate resources according to everybody's needs first and foremost, then the wealthy can have their yachts and private jets if there's enough surplus wealth for them to steal from the workers who produced it.
Engage in activities that bring value to who you are! Great advice
i appreciate this talk. definitely helps me to feel better but also like that it give some solutions to the quarter life crisis.
Thank you for the awesome insights about the millennial generation.
This is the most honest talk on this subject that I have heard. But once again sadly, the only "solution" offered is becoming an entrepreneur.
This is hitting WAAAAY too close to home. It's almost precise and describing my life right now. Wow
I turn 25 on November 12th and I have massive anxiety about this stage in life. This speaks to me!
GREAT! I think that I’s important to talk more and more about this subject, we really need to work on it. Let’s try to make a big change! we need to know more about this subject and I think that this TED Talk gives us the specific information that we need! I find it very great, thank you a lot!
A decent talk and definitely a fair point but this talk doesn't bring up all the issues millennial are dealing with when it comes to a systemic economic disenfranchisement due to extreme student debt, high cost of living and low compensation overall
My favourite Ted Talk ever.
I’m in the middle of a quarter-life crisis and I didn’t even know it existed until today...
"You do not need to know the ANSWERS. What you DO need to do is to start pursuing them with clear intention."
Thank you for this video. I am in Grade 12 and I guess I'll get to work now.
Some just do not know how to be satisfied. Quite sad. Be humble and you'll be satisfied. To be satisfied is to be happy.
Thank you, thank you. So much for this. I'm enlightened.