Kyle, Wow, your skills as a teacher really come out in this video! It’s not only a plethora of helpful information for anyone struggling with their mental health, but the way you “teach” the subject matter is outstanding. I could have listened to you speak for an hour or more! Your students must adore you! Big hugs to Jenny. ♥️
You really are such a inspiration Kyle ,Not only for us but your wife and children and family ❤ So articulate in expressing yourself.. I’m so glad that you too have an outlet to express what it is like being on the flip side of cancer ..We hear you Kyle
Is it my mistake or did you have a charm of Jenny's beautiful fingerprint on a sterling silver necklace? Now the charm is gone and no one is saying anything about it. ThAts WEIRD.
I truly need to say THANK YOU. My husband has been battling the same cancer your wife suffers from . He was diagnosed at 62 three years ago. It has been a rollercoaster with 2 brain surgeries and 2 clinical trials and now back to chemo.It has been all on me as he has no family left and we have no children. My parents are both 89 which at times I also have on my plate. I cannot express how much I look forward to watching and hearing both you and your wife’s videos. I know what you are going through and I can say you both are incredible in your handling of everything. Just please don’t stop making videos - they mean so much and help us tremendously. You and your family our always in our thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. Thank you .🙏💕
Thank you for this Kyle. I'm a carer for my husband who has terminal pancreatic cancer. It's so stressful and every day is difficult. We're now fifteen months past diagnosis. We were told at the time that he would have six to twelve months. He's done so well with his chemo treatment but sadly that has to stop last October. He's now been prescribed steroids to help with the pain. We live in North Northumberland, England. Take care Kyle as I know what you're going through. Love to you all 💞
Anne Marie, I'm sorry for the journey you have faced. I hope you have access to the support program that you can talk too. They come visit both the caregiver and patient separately within the hospice program. We lost my uncle in nine months to pancreatic cancer. My mother, daughter and myself are cancer survivors. Wishing you the best support 💙
I never realized how stressed I was until my husband completed treatment and we were home. It's been four years and such a journey. I realize now that it's time for me to take care of myself.
I've been a patient AND a caregiver. I wouldn't have gotten through it with therapy and medication. Anoyher important this to remember is to drink water and stay hydrated. I find that a glass of water calms me down.
Thanks for sharing Kyle. When my husband was sick I cried everyday and finally had to go on medication. This particular med helped me alot. I'm so glad you are taking these steps.
Myself and my husband are caregivers to our son , he is 31 and has been taking seizures for 30 years, now he is brain damaged , his speech is limited but can let us know what he wants but I personally had anxiety and ended up taking meds to help me .All them years we took turns at night because he would fit during the night. Now as past 4years I’ve taken ill have copd and need lung transplant but I’m too sick . I nearly died 4years ago I’m on oxygen and my husband is now my caregiver , I wish he would seek help he says that everything fine but I feel such a burden on him,hopefully some day he might let people help ,Sorry for the long story .Your doing great , bless you all ❤
Kyle, the love you have for your wife and kids is so beautiful. Thank you for taking care of yourself so you can take care of them. You are a fantastic husband and father. Happy Birthday
It’s so ADMIRABLE of you to share this part of your life in order to help others, especially men. It reminded me of all the pro football players who have spoken on the importance of seeking help. Terry Bradshaw shared how he went through a lot of mental challenges and wished he had gotten help and now encourages men to seek help (I am a huge football fan also☺️). I am glad that you are taking care of yourself since you can’t pour from an empty cup. ❤️❤️💙💖
The thing I love most besides your teaching as the best teacher I had in math and English is, the way you sacrifice your time out of class to just have one on one talks on what I struggled or anybody struggled. Whenever I had a bad day or when I feel not at my best you comforted me you helped me through so much whether if it’s being stuck in math equation or an English word or story or just how I feel. I am proud of you Mr.Appleford and even though it’s hard in life right now I know there will be miracles so don’t be discouraged.❤️and most importantly, if society tells males to suck it up when they’re not feeling at their best or if they’re struggling emotionally then that’s toxic masculinity. Males are allowed to express how they feel just like females do. And most of all,don’t forget to give all that love to yourself too. You’ve accomplished a lot Mr. Appleford and that’s no lie. Even though I’ve graduated from our high school (SGHS) 6 years ago I’ve been doing amazing things for my mental health whether it’s me working out for an hour each day to listen to music or cooking or doing chores or giving time to myself. You’ve inspired me to make a RUclips video and impacted my life for the better and I can’t thank you enough for everything you’ve done for me as a teacher.❤️🫶🏼
It's so hard to *ever fully relax* when you or your loved one has an illness. You can have an enjoyable life, but managing the generalised anxiety is absolutely critical to keeping it together. You're doing so well in the face of it, so thank you for sharing this part of your story. You're not only helping yourself but thousands of viewers in a similar boat. Good man. 🍏
You can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself. You do the best you can. You’re not there to be perfect. You’re not there to do everything by yourself. Gift people with allowing them to help. By allowing them to give to you and to your wife, is a gift to them. Giving makes people feel better. They have something they can Do to help. Helping another helps them. Don’t play “kick me” about not shouldering everything yourself. I’d like to say to anyone needing therapy (and who doesn’t?). A therapist is a product. You need to try them out and see if the fit is good, as you would with any product. It’s ok to pass on someone you don’t seem to mesh with. Just wanted to pass along that advice that someone gave me once. 😊 God Bless and Thank you for this informative video. Yes, take good care of yourself Physically, Mentally, and Spiritually!! ❤❤❤😊❤❤❤
You really hit the nail on the head! I am my husband's caregiver (stage 4 head and neck squamous cell) 24/7. He was diagnosed last August and is undergoing chemo and immunotherapy. He had radiation treatments. I do it all. I am exhausted and scared. I have no time for myself. I did finally make an appointment with my PC after she moved to the city he is receiving treatments.(an hour from our home which means two hours driving time each visit) I dropped him off for his chemo treatment then went to my appointment. I had missed my last appointment months ago. She suggested therapy but I just cant take the time. Anxiety is overwhelming me. I wish I had your strength. He will be in treatment of some sort for the rest of his life. I am thankful for every day I have with him and hope and pray I have the stamina to continue caring for him. You and your family are always in my prayers. ❤❤🙏🙏❤❤
Excellent Video. Back in 2006. I was also a caregiver to my husband who had cancer. We were at the City of Hope in Duarte CA. I have never fully recovered from the anxiety I experienced. Looking back, I should have sought out therapy. One day I was in the waiting room as he was receiving whole brain radiation and a woman came up to me and put her hand on my shoulder and said "please remember to take care of yourself" I didn't feel that I deserved to as I was not the one who was sick, but I should have listened to that advice. When he went into remission, his mom talked him into not being married anymore so we are no longer together. More Importantly it's been 17 years (we were your age at the time) and the City of Hope gave him his life back and it was honor to see someone through that journey. The two of you are so amazing in the grace you have shown throughout everything.
There’s a saying, regarding those who serve in the military and their family… When one serves, all serve. Although you’re fighting a different kind of war, the saying still applies to you and Jenny and the kids… When one fights cancer, all fight cancer. Thank you for being so open about this. I pray for Jenny, you, and the kids every day.💗
When you have to leave the care giving role it makes you feel guilty it's not good and the person you care for has the stress of not having you near but you are so brilliant you have handled this soo well🌈🌈🌈
Thank you so much Kyle . I’ve been my husbands caregiver for over 5 years. He’s in end stage kidney disease. During this time I’ve had breast cancer. And surgery and treatment. We have two children. They are the best . If it weren’t for them I could keep doing it. They help with everything including taking or picking dad up at dialysis. Please take care of your self and except all the help that family and friends can give you. I love your precious family
It’s so stressful! The thing that I should have asked was for extra help. My daughter was a big help but we definitely could have used more. We took care of my husband until he passed in December of this year. It was so hard. I already had anxiety but when my husband was diagnosed with cancer in May of 2022 my anxiety was over the top. I always felt so overwhelmed! I miss him so much! We did everything together. I’m 59 and he was 64 when he passed. I can relate to everything you have been talking about. God Bless you Kyle you are such a Great husband and father. May God watch over all of you.🙏🏻🌺🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing. I was diagnosed with cancer in March 2022, my husband was my caregiver then 60 days later he was diagnosed with cancer. We both became the person and a caregiver, it was the hardest thing to deal with. It so hard to stress that I had cancer but now I was stressing my husband had cancer. Cancer just needs to go away.. 😣
Kyle, Your so right about it all. When my Husband ( who could out last a 30 year old ) was diagnosed with Glioblastoma in 2017 I became a caregiver. He took care of everything before. It was very hard. What gave me strength was a cancer support group at a local church and a online support group for people with his type of cancer (brain ) It is very important for a caregiver to take care of themselves . Jenny is very lucky to have such a loving Husband. I wish your family all the best.
Fantastic video on mental health Kyle. While caring for my mother I used to take the dog for a 25 minute walk by myself every day, it was my time to shut down and let go of all the stress. Mental health is so important and so often overlooked, especially, by men whom for the most part believe they should power through mental health issues. Gotta say you are a great speaker and a complete natural in front of the camera, think I can see a Ted Talks stage in your future 😘💙💙💙
Kyle ur a good speaker good video thanku for sharing this its helpful to others i suffer from anxiety panic dis order depression ocd so ur not a lone god bless u
Kyle glad you did this one. We tend to pile things on our plate and have this superman mentality when others around us depend on us. I found being reactive to change, pressure from treatment and stages bottled with every day deadlines and kids eventually shut me down physically. I hope anyone seeing this takes the steps to find a sounding board and take time to clear their minds. It does make a difference when you find the person you can relate too. Sometimes that connection or approach fails. It's just a person, so find one that does. Don't write the experience off because it didn't work. For me, yard maintenance and projects gives me peace and satisfaction. I've got 2400 sq ft to manicure, control drainage and edging. Having a fruit and veg garden is another even with limited space. I can reflect on life and see my efforts which feels rewarding. Clearing my mind collecting from the garden in the morning or evening before cooking relieves stress and helps me regroup. You Got This and Jenny is so worth cherishing. 💙
I love therapy. I love the way you speak of it and mental health. You really are a good role model for other men and all the children you're around. Take good care! 🙂
This video was a reminder I needed to hear. Thank you! Random...I can imagine you being a narrator for audible books. I listen to them a lot and some of the narrators make it impossible for me to focus on the material.
gosh , im sitting here listening from New Zealand thinking wow, things are so different here when it comes to doctors, councillors, therapists and treatments etc we don't need insurance for most cancer treatments etc my friend has stage 3 triple negative breast cancer and treatments are paid for by govt, thats got to be a big stress for you too , also we can find our own councillors or therapists, doctors can recommend. But its up 2 us who we want to see ,[ also free] also our govt will pay a spouse to be a caregiver to sick partner so you dont have to go out and work , lots of help in nz for people
You are a fantastic speaker and educator Kyle! Very easy to listen to ~ Thank You! ~ Mental health is so important in everyday living. Breathing exercises, or listening to music with headphones or spending time with a good friend,nature walks or petting my super cuddly cat is very helpful to lower my own stress level. And my blood pressure as well. You have an easy going 'style' and a great non judgemental 'message' for anyone struggling with emotional/mental health. This vlog will be so helpful to anyone but here's hoping that men can relate and get help if needed as well. Cheer's from Canada.xo
Thank you for sharing Kyle, GOD BLESS you always, you do the best job with Jenny, your kids, the pets, etc, etc.....Many blessings and many prayers always🙏🙏🙏🙏❤💖💙💜 for all of you
You are a really wonderful family. I find you all inspirational. Ellis and Whinnie are learning about kindness and being grateful. As they get older they will remember the courage you both demonstrated. Thanks Kyle I am so glad you are receiving therapy 💜💜
I looked after my son with epilepsy and found it so challenging I had panic attacks felt sad happy and over emotional I now know that a small break from the situation helps but you can't always do that I think that this happens alot with carers you are so brilliant with handling the care and being as normal and strong as you can big up Kyle🌞🌞🌞
Kyle, you have done an amazing job explaining this. Your way of explaining it really helped things to be embedded in the brain. Mental health is such an important topic and to bravely and honestly talk about it is very admirable.
I worked for a mental health charity for over 20 + years and loved my job. Please don't suffer in silence, mental health is nothing to be shamed off. Take care everyone. Loved this video Kylie thanks for sharing your journey with us. X
Kyle You Are Such A Great Husband and Father. When I Watch Your Wife's Channel You Are Always There For Her. She Is AMAZING And So Brave ❤. I use almost all these techniques as I have been caring for my Parents for 3 years now. My Step Dad passed away in January at age 94 and He had Dementia and my Mother is 85 and has Alzheimer's. I sold my home and moved in with them. I can't leave my Mom home alone and She moves quick!!! At times I feel like I could lose my mind. Thankfully we have seven gorgeous acres in the country with a beautiful creek and my 37 year old Daughter and 25 year old Son give me breaks! I became disabled in 2015 and live with chronic debilitating constant pain so staying ACTIVE is imperative for me!!! My Daughter's Fiance Scott was diagnosed with a Stage III Lung Tumor a few weeks ago 🙏💙. I'm keeping Your Family In My Daily Prayers 🙏 💕🙌 💕. My Grams Always Said "It's A Great Life If You Don't Weaken". Love and Hugs. Western Upstate New York Nurse here 💐
Kyle what a powerful video! I recently finished a year and a half of cancer treatment. My anxiety is still my biggest enemy. My husband carried so much of the daily load. I’m passing this onto him. You are so sincere and kind. Thank you! And as always wishing the best for u and your sweet family!❤️
Oh wow thank you it helps me see some of my friends and family in a different light i now have a better understanding of stress God Bless You and Your Family
God bless you Kyle....I am following you and Jenny all the time....anxiety is terrible....its me all the time as you explained....that feeling in the gut....I am also now on a small dose of medication which has not kicked in yet.....I live alone and am 62 ....its loneliness that has set in and fear ....thank you for talking with us when you have so much going on....love to Jenny the kids flower and kitty....God bless you all....
Kyle, you are amazing. Your honesty and truthfulness comes through so clearly. Jenny is so blessed by having you for her husband and caretaker. I hope God blesses you mightily for everything you do.
Great video, Kyle, thank you. What I've learned is that self-care is not selfish. The people who need us, need us to be in good physical, mental and emotional condition. So when we allow ourselves time/space/grace/forgiveness/fun, whatever is missing that day, we are also providing for those we love. You and Jenny make a winning team.
Thank you Kyle❤️I pray 🙏 for your family . If I could trade my life for your wife’s life.(I’m old) I would!! We all know that isn’t how God works… So prayers is the best I can do. Through this journey in your life, always remember how many lives you and your family are touching. Including mine.Thank you!!❤️🙏❤️
Thankyou Kyle. I have been threw cancer. And my husband has been threw the same thing you have. All I can say you are a wonderful husband and dad. When God made you he broke the mold. So proud of you. You are alot like my husband. It looks like we're going g on the cancer journey. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. I love your wife. And the kids are adorable.
Very good advice and information, Kyle! I'm a caregiver, too. My husband has stage 4 prostate cancer and with other life challenges thrown at us, one starts to feel as though you're just waiting for another shoe to drop. Waking up to that knot in the stomach, or not being able to sleep much at all, does take a toll on mind and body. I finally found a good therapist and I'm so glad I did.
I’m a care giver to my dad in London. Some days, it can be overwhelming…..I’m here with my note book and pen, taking notes. Thank you Kyle. A good relationship with our Creator and relying on him is a must isn’t it. King David wrote in Psalm 55:22 ‘Throw your burden on Jehovah, and he will sustain you’ Continue to pray for guidance and strength. You are doing all the right things Kyle. 🙏
Kyle....thank you for the great video. I'm caring for my husband who is battling pancreatic cancer. It's been over 4 years now since diagnosis. While I am grateful that he is still in the fight ( doctors gave him 3 months ) It has been a long and painful journey. To see someone you love enduring so much pain and fear of the known.....is tough. I personally turn to the Lord for the strength to keep going however.....it's still hard. One thing that finally clicked for me was...... that I had to grieve and accept the fact that our lives were not going to ever be the same as BEFORE diagnosis. How drastic a person's life can change from one day to the next. No one is ever prepared to hear the word " cancer". Just want to thank you and your beautiful family for sharing your journey. I'm sure you are touching MANY lives and I am one of them. Praying for your family may God bless you every step of the way. 🙏❤️
I am doing an MSc. Health Psychology (a student not a psychologist yet) and you I would say are doing more healthy things than me. What you are saying is very good and will help so many people, You are very brave Kyle. You seem such a good guy. Well done for doing this video. I certainly feel it is OK for anyone to cry as you say it is not healthy to bottle emotions up and as you say it does not make you a nice person.
Kyle, you are amazing. Thank you for making this video. For so long, mental health has been sort of a taboo subject, especially for men. I applaud the steps you are taking to better yourself as a person, a husband, a dad, and as a caregiver. For years I had a post-it on my work computer monitor that said "TAKE CARE OF YOU". I found it so helpful because everytime I saw it I would check in with myself. It sounds weird but it works! Hang in there my friend. Jenny and the kids are so blessed to have you as a husband and fantastic father. I'm proud of you. Keep up the good work!
Kyle thank you kind sir for your wonderful, important message. I am crying (hit close to home) but can so appreciate your vlog. Sending love & blessings to you, your beautiful wife & family❤
Thank you, Kyle. Dealing with chronic pain myself and being wife, mother, grandmother, sister, and daughter with a household of seven Rescue pets, you’ve reminded me that I’ve let go of caring for myself. I needed a kick in the pants and you provided that. Sharing amongst friend is so important.
❤ I took care of my husband with brain cancer, and did not do what I should have………..I felt I was supposed to do it all by myself or I was failing my husband. I thought that I was going to die after my husband, as I was mentally and physically so low, that I prayed that I would live to take care of Oliver each morning. You did a great job explaining and offering perfect suggestions for those who are caretakers of serious illness in family , and the ups and downs of their therapy, always on the edge. I love you guys and pray every night for all of you. I have been there! I am thankful for God and his grace……..may it all fall on your family, and you move through this as you have beautifully. ❤❤❤❤. Jo Tribble……..Ohio
Thanks so much Kyle. My husband and I retired 5 years ago and just became permanent guardians of our 8 year old granddaughter - so here we go again! Anyway, your advice is great - I'm going to take a walk today for sure!
Kyle, thank you for sharing. You are so wise to realize that reaching out for help is so important. You have a lot on your plate. Sorting it all out is a challenge. You are a wonderful husband, father, and teacher to us all on how to be a care giver. Prayers for you and your precious family. ❤
Love this! Thank you! I’m a special needs parent under constant fight-or-flight response. Always trying to be strong but stress manifests on another parts of the body.
Kyle what a great video. This will help so many care givers. Changing roles! Well said The speech we here on every plane trip..” put your oxygen on first before you put the other persons on. Peace and blessings
You are such an amazing teacher. The way you get your point across and explain things makes it easy to keep our attention and you are easy to follow. Keep up the good work with yourself and your beautiful wife and kids. We are here for you too Kyle. ❤
💪🤍Thank you so VERY much for sharing your story and thoughts 🙏 I know it's hard and harder for a Man to let it all out. Being a caregiver is one of the hardest jobs especially when your young and going through this CANCER journey with your Beautiful wife Jenny I love your Beautiful family. Stay STRONG Because we are all stronger together 💪🤍💪 Hope you didn't mind me giving you a Shout out. You and your Beautiful Jenny have Story's to tell we can all learn from each other. I appreciate you Both 😇
I am 16 years out from the diagnosis of stage three breast cancer. I personally feel the definition of cancer should always have the words anxiety/fear/depression attached to it. I have not met or listened to one person with a cancer diagnosis that has not expressed some or all of these feelings and it is so very common for a spouse or caregiver to also have these feelings. They are very very real. Honestly, I did not go to therapy. Should I have? Probably but I don’t beat myself up for not going. My family history starts in 1999. My brother and best friend was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer. Anxiety enters my life along with the burning question, will this happen to me. 2007, I was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. 2016, my mom was diagnosed with a rare stomach cancer and non Hodgkins and in 2020, my youngest sister was diagnosed with non Hodgkins in the exact place as my mom’s (they said this was impossible, it is). I now have anxiety that I believe will never go away. On the note of a caregiver, people forget about them. It is a very very hard role to play. I have been both, the patient and the caregiver. Please please don’t ever forget your caregiver! Why am I tell my family history today, because Kyle, as a caregiver, has explained the topic of anxiety so accurately. I just wanted him and anyone who reads this post that I get it and he is spot I am very proud of you for getting the help you need. As far as I am concerned, there is nothing wrong with admitting you need help and taking medication to help relieve these symptoms. There are more people than not taking some type of meditation for depression/anxiety. Kyle, keep this blog up I am sure you are helping so many caregivers navigate their way through this season of life. Good job 👍
I totally agree with you about fresh air and exercise….when I was going through cancer treatment I made it a point no matter how I felt to get out and walk every day..sometimes I even walked twice a day…..if I was to fatigued I would go outside and sit in the sun…always good for my mental health..👍❤️🤗
Excellent advice Kyle!! I am caring for my spouse that has dementia. I should find a therapist down the road to help me cope. We get out every morning hiking with our dog which is great but I need to carve out some “me” time- caregivers give so much of their time for others but too worried to get out (alone if possible). I need to look into listening to podcasts- never have before. I love watching RUclips videos (including yours & Jenny’s). Happy belated birthday. Have a great week- can’t believe it’s almost Feb.
Thank you Kyle. This is such an important message for all of us no matter what we are going through. Caretaking of a loved one is such a mixed thing - it's hard. You are a great role model for your ability to share both vulnerability and experience with us. Your strength is awesome! I'll bet you are a fantastic teacher. ❤
Kyle YES l have a chronic illness and my husband and I constantly have things building in the background and it impacts him wayyyy more than me a lot of times because of all his responsibilities. We have both seen therapist for the last year and found out it was covered by insurance.
I also had to take medication for a *situational depression *, while my brother was battling Stage 4 kidney cancer. I was so busy, and have always been a runner, weight trainer (nothing extreme…just for toning, etc.). I definitely kept the exercising going, but quit the depression medication, because the medication did nothing after being on it, I felt no difference being on it. Instead of gaining weight, I continued losing weight. So much so, I developed low blood pressure, felt like I was going to faint, so away went the medication. I probably needed an anxiety medication rather than depression medication. I also became incredibly interested in podcasts and RUclips videos. My videos choices were actually for kidney cancer blogs and learning what others were doing to stay alive longer. I learned about the different off label uses of medications being used for other types of cancers, and such. My brother was diagnosed in 2010, long before all the other kidney cancer medications became available for use in kidney cancer patients. Good for you for looking at this.
Kyle what a great job you did on this subject I was diagnosed in 2019 with the same cancer as Jenny My husband has been my caregiver through this journey I’m definitely going to have him watch this I just love your family My thoughts and prayers are with you
Very good advice, Kyle. I admire you and Jenny and the way you are dealing with the journey you are on. I pray for you both. May God bless you with strength and peace. ❤
You said so many things I know but find hard to do myself. I am my husband's caregiver who suffers with dementia and is currently having other health issues. I keep telling myself just about everything you suggested but have yet to do any of it. Your video helped me see the importance of mental health and plan on getting busy taking care of me too. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Keeping all of your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you so much Kyle for your advice because I am a caregiver too and I am always last on the list…I need to spend more time on me….but it is hard when so much needs to be done for my husband….I will take your advice and put me first for one….I love 💕 you and your family…take care..xo
Great to see a man discussing mental health care. My bit of advice to get someone to consider seeking help is to say use, Airplane instructions if plane going down you are told put your own oxygen mask on first you can't help someone else if you have no oxygen yourself it gives a different perspective on need to seek help. USA has lots of issues with insurance and Healthcare but much easier, quicker and more choice getting therapy compared to UK system.
The best you can do for yourself. I’m going through that right now of finding a therapist. Im a 74 yr old Nana that has lived a very challenging life, very codependent traits. Having a mini stroke last May and recovered completely except my memory is affected a bit which has led to me having what I call stinkin thinkin. Ive gone to therapy throughout my life which was a gift I gave myself. It’s to the point now Im desperate to get into therapy. TY for bringing up podcasts! That will give me hope until I get a therapist! I followed u and Jen through your journey and cried a lot of tears. I felt so close to yall. TY fot posting this video. One has to be on top of their mental health. I’ve noticed you’re doing great Kyle. With letting go. Keep doing good healthy things for yourself!!! Take care!!!
Hi Kyle thank you so much for this video you are absolutely right taking care of ourselves and our mental health is extremely important. Wishing you and your beautiful family all the very best sending positive thoughts and prayers to you all. 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️
Kyle, Wow, your skills as a teacher really come out in this video! It’s not only a plethora of helpful information for anyone struggling with their mental health, but the way you “teach” the subject matter is outstanding. I could have listened to you speak for an hour or more! Your students must adore you! Big hugs to Jenny. ♥️
Thank you so much!
You really are such a inspiration Kyle ,Not only for us but your wife and children and family ❤ So articulate in expressing yourself.. I’m so glad that you too have an outlet to express what it is like being on the flip side of cancer ..We hear you Kyle
Is it my mistake or did you have a charm of Jenny's beautiful fingerprint on a sterling silver necklace? Now the charm is gone and no one is saying anything about it. ThAts WEIRD.
I truly need to say THANK YOU. My husband has been battling the same cancer your wife suffers from . He was diagnosed at 62 three years ago. It has been a rollercoaster with 2 brain surgeries and 2 clinical trials and now back to chemo.It has been all on me as he has no family left and we have no children. My parents are both 89 which at times I also have on my plate. I cannot express how much I look forward to watching and hearing both you and your wife’s videos. I know what you are going through and I can say you both are incredible in your handling of everything. Just please don’t stop making videos - they mean so much and help us tremendously. You and your family our always in our thoughts and prayers.
Stay strong. Thank you .🙏💕
You are awesome Kyle, continue to pray daily,read your Bible and give it to God and let him help you and your family.
Thank you, I will
For me it was gardening brilliant for mental health helped me get through it all
Thank you for this Kyle. I'm a carer for my husband who has terminal pancreatic cancer. It's so stressful and every day is difficult. We're now fifteen months past diagnosis. We were told at the time that he would have six to twelve months. He's done so well with his chemo treatment but sadly that has to stop last October. He's now been prescribed steroids to help with the pain. We live in North Northumberland, England. Take care Kyle as I know what you're going through. Love to you all 💞
Anne Marie, I'm sorry for the journey you have faced.
I hope you have access to the support program that you can talk too. They come visit both the caregiver and patient separately within the hospice program.
We lost my uncle in nine months to pancreatic cancer. My mother, daughter and myself are cancer survivors. Wishing you the best support 💙
Anne Marie, sending a gentle hug 🤗 of compassion and respect. I hope you have good support.
Prayers for you and your dear husband. ❤
Prayers for you and your husband ❤
Prayers for you and your Husband.
I never realized how stressed I was until my husband completed treatment and we were home. It's been four years and such a journey. I realize now that it's time for me to take care of myself.
I've been a patient AND a caregiver. I wouldn't have gotten through it with therapy and medication. Anoyher important this to remember is to drink water and stay hydrated. I find that a glass of water calms me down.
Those are great tips! You are such a kind person. I truly admire you!! God Bless you and your family!!
Yes sleep is soooooo important.
Thanks for sharing Kyle. When my husband was sick I cried everyday and finally had to go on medication. This particular med helped me alot. I'm so glad you are taking these steps.
Myself and my husband are caregivers to our son , he is 31 and has been taking seizures for 30 years, now he is brain damaged , his speech is limited but can let us know what he wants but I personally had anxiety and ended up taking meds to help me .All them years we took turns at night because he would fit during the night. Now as past 4years I’ve taken ill have copd and need lung transplant but I’m too sick . I nearly died 4years ago I’m on oxygen and my husband is now my caregiver , I wish he would seek help he says that everything fine but I feel such a burden on him,hopefully some day he might let people help ,Sorry for the long story .Your doing great , bless you all ❤
I'm so sorry about your son, I hope he is better now
Kyle, the love you have for your wife and kids is so beautiful. Thank you for taking care of yourself so you can take care of them. You are a fantastic husband and father. Happy Birthday
Did kyle say he loves Oregon?? Or the family in Oregon.
What's up dude?
It’s so ADMIRABLE of you to share this part of your life in order to help others, especially men. It reminded me of all the pro football players who have spoken on the importance of seeking help. Terry Bradshaw shared how he went through a lot of mental challenges and wished he had gotten help and now encourages men to seek help (I am a huge football fan also☺️). I am glad that you are taking care of yourself since you can’t pour from an empty cup. ❤️❤️💙💖
You are an amazing partner and father. We can learn from you. Mental health is so important. Thank you
The thing I love most besides your teaching as the best teacher I had in math and English is, the way you sacrifice your time out of class to just have one on one talks on what I struggled or anybody struggled. Whenever I had a bad day or when I feel not at my best you comforted me you helped me through so much whether if it’s being stuck in math equation or an English word or story or just how I feel. I am proud of you Mr.Appleford and even though it’s hard in life right now I know there will be miracles so don’t be discouraged.❤️and most importantly, if society tells males to suck it up when they’re not feeling at their best or if they’re struggling emotionally then that’s toxic masculinity. Males are allowed to express how they feel just like females do.
And most of all,don’t forget to give all that love to yourself too. You’ve accomplished a lot Mr. Appleford and that’s no lie. Even though I’ve graduated from our high school (SGHS) 6 years ago I’ve been doing amazing things for my mental health whether it’s me working out for an hour each day to listen to music or cooking or doing chores or giving time to myself. You’ve inspired me to make a RUclips video and impacted my life for the better and I can’t thank you enough for everything you’ve done for me as a teacher.❤️🫶🏼
It's so hard to *ever fully relax* when you or your loved one has an illness. You can have an enjoyable life, but managing the generalised anxiety is absolutely critical to keeping it together. You're doing so well in the face of it, so thank you for sharing this part of your story. You're not only helping yourself but thousands of viewers in a similar boat. Good man. 🍏
Thank you so much!
You can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself.
You do the best you can. You’re not there to be perfect. You’re not there to do everything by yourself.
Gift people with allowing them to help. By allowing them to give to you and to your wife, is a gift to them. Giving makes people feel better. They have something they can Do to help. Helping another helps them.
Don’t play “kick me” about not shouldering everything yourself.
I’d like to say to anyone needing therapy (and who doesn’t?). A therapist is a product. You need to try them out and see if the fit is good, as you would with any product. It’s ok to pass on someone you don’t seem to mesh with.
Just wanted to pass along that advice that someone gave me once. 😊
God Bless and Thank you for this informative video. Yes, take good care of yourself Physically, Mentally, and Spiritually!! ❤❤❤😊❤❤❤
You really hit the nail on the head! I am my husband's caregiver (stage 4 head and neck squamous cell) 24/7. He was diagnosed last August and is undergoing chemo and immunotherapy. He had radiation treatments. I do it all. I am exhausted and scared. I have no time for myself. I did finally make an appointment with my PC after she moved to the city he is receiving treatments.(an hour from our home which means two hours driving time each visit) I dropped him off for his chemo treatment then went to my appointment. I had missed my last appointment months ago. She suggested therapy but I just cant take the time. Anxiety is overwhelming me. I wish I had your strength. He will be in treatment of some sort for the rest of his life. I am thankful for every day I have with him and hope and pray I have the stamina to continue caring for him. You and your family are always in my prayers. ❤❤🙏🙏❤❤
Excellent Video.
Back in 2006. I was also a caregiver to my husband who had cancer. We were at the City of Hope in Duarte CA. I have never fully recovered from the anxiety I experienced. Looking back, I should have sought out therapy. One day I was in the waiting room as he was receiving whole brain radiation and a woman came up to me and put her hand on my shoulder and said "please remember to take care of yourself" I didn't feel that I deserved to as I was not the one who was sick, but I should have listened to that advice.
When he went into remission, his mom talked him into not being married anymore so we are no longer together. More Importantly it's been 17 years (we were your age at the time) and the City of Hope gave him his life back and it was honor to see someone through that journey.
The two of you are so amazing in the grace you have shown throughout everything.
Thank you for sharing, and it is so important for us to look out for us too, I’m sorry to hear about the separation
Happy Birthday Kyle, hope your day was as special as you are 🥳 Thankyou for all you do 🙏
Thanks so much!
There’s a saying, regarding those who serve in the military and their family… When one serves, all serve. Although you’re fighting a different kind of war, the saying still applies to you and Jenny and the kids… When one fights cancer, all fight cancer. Thank you for being so open about this. I pray for Jenny, you, and the kids every day.💗
When you have to leave the care giving role it makes you feel guilty it's not good and the person you care for has the stress of not having you near but you are so brilliant you have handled this soo well🌈🌈🌈
Thank you so much Kyle . I’ve been my husbands caregiver for over 5 years. He’s in end stage kidney disease. During this time I’ve had breast cancer. And surgery and treatment. We have two children. They are the best . If it weren’t for them I could keep doing it. They help with everything including taking or picking dad up at dialysis. Please take care of your self and except all the help that family and friends can give you. I love your precious family
❤️Thank you for talking about mental health issues and being a carer for a loved one. Stay strong ❤️
It’s so stressful! The thing that I should have asked was for extra help. My daughter was a big help but we definitely could have used more. We took care of my husband until he passed in December of this year. It was so hard. I already had anxiety but when my husband was diagnosed with cancer in May of 2022 my anxiety was over the top. I always felt so overwhelmed! I miss him so much! We did everything together. I’m 59 and he was 64 when he passed. I can relate to everything you have been talking about. God Bless you Kyle you are such a Great husband and father. May God watch over all of you.🙏🏻🌺🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing
And btw I am so sorry for your loss
Thank you so much Kyle that means a lot to me.
I am where you were. This is so overwhelming. I am consumed by anxiety. You are in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss. ❤
Great advice Kyle! I’m so glad you are being proactive taking care of yourself and also share some of your coping strategies! Well said, Kyle!
Thank you for sharing. I was diagnosed with cancer in March 2022, my husband was my caregiver then 60 days later he was diagnosed with cancer. We both became the person and a caregiver, it was the hardest thing to deal with. It so hard to stress that I had cancer but now I was stressing my husband had cancer. Cancer just needs to go away.. 😣
Prayers for you both. ❤
Praying for you both. That’s the worst. The fact you were both battling illness. You are strong. You are prayed for.
Kyle, Your so right about it all. When my Husband ( who could out last a 30 year old ) was diagnosed with Glioblastoma in 2017 I became a caregiver. He took care of everything before. It was very hard. What gave me strength was a cancer support group at a local church and a online support group for people with his type of cancer (brain ) It is very important for a caregiver to take care of themselves . Jenny is very lucky to have such a loving Husband. I wish your family all the best.
Fantastic video on mental health Kyle. While caring for my mother I used to take the dog for a 25 minute walk by myself every day, it was my time to shut down and let go of all the stress. Mental health is so important and so often overlooked, especially, by men whom for the most part believe they should power through mental health issues. Gotta say you are a great speaker and a complete natural in front of the camera, think I can see a Ted Talks stage in your future 😘💙💙💙
Yes!…..definitely do a Ted Talk Kyle.
Kyle ur a good speaker good video thanku for sharing this its helpful to others i suffer from anxiety panic dis order depression ocd so ur not a lone god bless u
Kyle glad you did this one.
We tend to pile things on our plate and have this superman mentality when others around us depend on us.
I found being reactive to change, pressure from treatment and stages bottled with every day deadlines and kids eventually shut me down physically.
I hope anyone seeing this takes the steps to find a sounding board and take time to clear their minds.
It does make a difference when you find the person you can relate too.
Sometimes that connection or approach fails. It's just a person, so find one that does. Don't write the experience off because it didn't work.
For me, yard maintenance and projects gives me peace and satisfaction. I've got 2400 sq ft to manicure, control drainage and edging. Having a fruit and veg garden is another even with limited space.
I can reflect on life and see my efforts which feels rewarding.
Clearing my mind collecting from the garden in the morning or evening before cooking relieves stress and helps me regroup.
You Got This and Jenny is so worth cherishing. 💙
Your doing a great job, never doubt that.
Thank you so much
Wow…love yourself, I have been saying that forever! Kudos to Jenny’s brother, so right!
Sparkle makes everything better
I love therapy. I love the way you speak of it and mental health. You really are a good role model for other men and all the children you're around. Take good care! 🙂
This video was a reminder I needed to hear. Thank you! Random...I can imagine you being a narrator for audible books. I listen to them a lot and some of the narrators make it impossible for me to focus on the material.
gosh , im sitting here listening from New Zealand thinking wow, things are so different here when it comes to doctors, councillors, therapists and treatments etc we don't need insurance for most cancer treatments etc my friend has stage 3 triple negative breast cancer and treatments are paid for by govt, thats got to be a big stress for you too , also we can find our own councillors or therapists, doctors can recommend. But its up 2 us who we want to see ,[ also free] also our govt will pay a spouse to be a caregiver to sick partner so you dont have to go out and work , lots of help in nz for people
You are a fantastic speaker and educator Kyle! Very easy to listen to ~ Thank You! ~ Mental health is so important in everyday living.
Breathing exercises, or listening to music with headphones or spending time with a good friend,nature walks
or petting my super cuddly cat is very helpful to lower my own stress level. And my blood pressure as well.
You have an easy going 'style' and a great non judgemental 'message' for anyone struggling with emotional/mental
health. This vlog will be so helpful to anyone but here's hoping that men can relate and get help if needed as well.
Cheer's from Canada.xo
I take care of my husband and my son who have medical problems. It's been 9 years 24/7. I can relate to everything you say.
Thank you for sharing Kyle, GOD BLESS you always, you do the best job with Jenny, your kids, the pets, etc, etc.....Many blessings and many prayers always🙏🙏🙏🙏❤💖💙💜 for all of you
Thank you so much!
@@kyleapple9702 You are welcome💝
You are a really wonderful family. I find you all inspirational. Ellis and Whinnie are learning about kindness and being grateful. As they get older they will remember the courage you both demonstrated. Thanks Kyle I am so glad you are receiving therapy 💜💜
Not only will his kids remember this, but so will all of us who watch his video's. 😊
I looked after my son with epilepsy and found it so challenging I had panic attacks felt sad happy and over emotional I now know that a small break from the situation helps but you can't always do that I think that this happens alot with carers you are so brilliant with handling the care and being as normal and strong as you can big up Kyle🌞🌞🌞
Thank you Kyle for the great advice.
God bless you and your family.
Amen.
Praying for you and your precious family.
🙏🙏
Kyle, you have done an amazing job explaining this. Your way of explaining it really helped things to be embedded in the brain. Mental health is such an important topic and to bravely and honestly talk about it is very admirable.
I worked for a mental health charity for over 20 + years and loved my job. Please don't suffer in silence, mental health is nothing to be shamed off. Take care everyone. Loved this video Kylie thanks for sharing your journey with us. X
You're the best! I agree with what Lyn Rix said below wholeheartedly.
Kyle You Are Such A Great Husband and Father. When I Watch Your Wife's Channel You Are Always There For Her. She Is AMAZING And So Brave ❤. I use almost all these techniques as I have been caring for my Parents for 3 years now. My Step Dad passed away in January at age 94 and He had Dementia and my Mother is 85 and has Alzheimer's. I sold my home and moved in with them. I can't leave my Mom home alone and She moves quick!!! At times I feel like I could lose my mind. Thankfully we have seven gorgeous acres in the country with a beautiful creek and my 37 year old Daughter and 25 year old Son give me breaks! I became disabled in 2015 and live with chronic debilitating constant pain so staying ACTIVE is imperative for me!!! My Daughter's Fiance Scott was diagnosed with a Stage III Lung Tumor a few weeks ago 🙏💙. I'm keeping Your Family In My Daily Prayers 🙏 💕🙌 💕. My Grams Always Said "It's A Great Life If You Don't Weaken". Love and Hugs. Western Upstate New York Nurse here 💐
Your so strong KYLE even when you probably don't want to be Your amazing ❤😊
God bless you and your family. You are a wonderful speaker. I enjoyed listening to you.
Truth! Thank you for putting this out there, Kyle. ❤
I wish I'd heard this advice years ago...your SO right doing this. x
You make a brilliant therapist♥️♥️🐾🐾
Kyle what a powerful video! I recently finished a year and a half of cancer treatment. My anxiety is still my biggest enemy. My husband carried so much of the daily load. I’m passing this onto him. You are so sincere and kind. Thank you! And as always wishing the best for u and your sweet family!❤️
Oh wow thank you it helps me see some of my friends and family in a different light i now have a better understanding of stress God Bless You and Your Family
God bless you Kyle....I am following you and Jenny all the time....anxiety is terrible....its me all the time as you explained....that feeling in the gut....I am also now on a small dose of medication which has not kicked in yet.....I live alone and am 62 ....its loneliness that has set in and fear ....thank you for talking with us when you have so much going on....love to Jenny the kids flower and kitty....God bless you all....
Kyle, you are amazing. Your honesty and truthfulness comes through so clearly. Jenny is so blessed by having you for her husband and caretaker. I hope God blesses you mightily for everything you do.
Great video, Kyle, thank you. What I've learned is that self-care is not selfish. The people who need us, need us to be in good physical, mental and emotional condition. So when we allow ourselves time/space/grace/forgiveness/fun, whatever is missing that day, we are also providing for those we love. You and Jenny make a winning team.
Thank you Kyle❤️I pray 🙏 for your family . If I could trade my life for your wife’s life.(I’m old) I would!! We all know that isn’t how God works… So prayers is the best I can do. Through this journey in your life, always remember how many lives you and your family are touching. Including mine.Thank you!!❤️🙏❤️
Thankyou Kyle. I have been threw cancer. And my husband has been threw the same thing you have. All I can say you are a wonderful husband and dad. When God made you he broke the mold. So proud of you. You are alot like my husband. It looks like we're going g on the cancer journey. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. I love your wife. And the kids are adorable.
Very good advice and information, Kyle! I'm a caregiver, too. My husband has stage 4 prostate cancer and with other life challenges thrown at us, one starts to feel as though you're just waiting for another shoe to drop. Waking up to that knot in the stomach, or not being able to sleep much at all, does take a toll on mind and body. I finally found a good therapist and I'm so glad I did.
I’m a care giver to my dad in London. Some days, it can be overwhelming…..I’m here with my note book and pen, taking notes. Thank you Kyle. A good relationship with our Creator and relying on him is a must isn’t it. King David wrote in Psalm 55:22 ‘Throw your burden on Jehovah, and he will sustain you’ Continue to pray for guidance and strength. You are doing all the right things Kyle. 🙏
Yes you have to love on yourself
A true hero. God Bless you and sweet Jen, Kyle.
Kyle....thank you for the great video. I'm caring for my husband who is battling pancreatic cancer. It's been over 4 years now since diagnosis. While I am grateful that he is still in the fight ( doctors gave him 3 months ) It has been a long and painful journey. To see someone you love enduring so much pain and fear of the known.....is tough. I personally turn to the Lord for the strength to keep going however.....it's still hard. One thing that finally clicked for me was...... that I had to grieve and accept the fact that our lives were not going to ever be the same as BEFORE diagnosis. How drastic a person's life can change from one day to the next. No one is ever prepared to hear the word " cancer". Just want to thank you and your beautiful family for sharing your journey. I'm sure you are touching MANY lives and I am one of them. Praying for your family may God bless you every step of the way. 🙏❤️
Thank you for sharing this. I’m happy your generation is open to therapy. It’s worth every penny.
I am doing an MSc. Health Psychology (a student not a psychologist yet) and you I would say are doing more healthy things than me. What you are saying is very good and will help so many people, You are very brave Kyle. You seem such a good guy. Well done for doing this video. I certainly feel it is OK for anyone to cry as you say it is not healthy to bottle emotions up and as you say it does not make you a nice person.
Thank you, Kyle great help.
My husband is my caregiver, and I had him watch you.👍♥️
Kyle, you are amazing. Thank you for making this video. For so long, mental health has been sort of a taboo subject, especially for men. I applaud the steps you are taking to better yourself as a person, a husband, a dad, and as a caregiver. For years I had a post-it on my work computer monitor that said "TAKE CARE OF YOU". I found it so helpful because everytime I saw it I would check in with myself. It sounds weird but it works! Hang in there my friend. Jenny and the kids are so blessed to have you as a husband and fantastic father. I'm proud of you. Keep up the good work!
Kyle thank you kind sir for your wonderful, important message. I am crying (hit close to home) but can so
appreciate your vlog. Sending love & blessings to you, your beautiful wife & family❤
Thank you so much for opening up, hope you are doing well
Thank you, Kyle. Dealing with chronic pain myself and being wife, mother, grandmother, sister, and daughter with a household of seven Rescue pets, you’ve reminded me that I’ve let go of caring for myself. I needed a kick in the pants and you provided that. Sharing amongst friend is so important.
❤ I took care of my husband with brain cancer, and did not do what I should have………..I felt I was supposed to do it all by myself or I was failing my husband. I thought that I was going to die after my husband, as I was mentally and physically so low, that I prayed that I would live to take care of Oliver each morning. You did a great job explaining and offering perfect suggestions for those who are caretakers of serious illness in family , and the ups and downs of their therapy, always on the edge. I love you guys and pray every night for all of you. I have been there! I am thankful for God and his grace……..may it all fall on your family, and you move through this as you have beautifully. ❤❤❤❤. Jo Tribble……..Ohio
Thanks so much Kyle. My husband and I retired 5 years ago and just became permanent guardians of our 8 year old granddaughter - so here we go again! Anyway, your advice is great - I'm going to take a walk today for sure!
Wow! What a beautiful video. Inspiring and heartfelt. Thank you Kyle. Sending healing prayers to Jen. ♥️🙏
Kyle, thank you for sharing. You are so wise to realize that reaching out for help is so important. You have a lot on your plate. Sorting it all out is a challenge. You are a wonderful husband, father, and teacher to us all on how to be a care giver. Prayers for you and your precious family. ❤
Love this! Thank you! I’m a special needs parent under constant fight-or-flight response. Always trying to be strong but stress manifests on another parts of the body.
Kyle what a great video. This will help so many care givers. Changing roles! Well said The speech we here on every plane trip..” put your oxygen on first before you put the other persons on.
Peace and blessings
I have general anxiety disorder, have ALWAYS had it. Your description of it is perfect. This video was so good for me! Thank you!
Of course, thank you for watching
You are such an amazing teacher. The way you get your point across and explain things makes it easy to keep our attention and you are easy to follow. Keep up the good work with yourself and your beautiful wife and kids. We are here for you too Kyle. ❤
Wow, thank you!
💪🤍Thank you so VERY much for sharing your story and thoughts 🙏
I know it's hard and harder for a Man to let it all out.
Being a caregiver is one of the hardest jobs especially when your young and going through this CANCER journey with your Beautiful wife Jenny I love your Beautiful family.
Stay STRONG
Because we are all stronger together 💪🤍💪
Hope you didn't mind me giving you a Shout out.
You and your Beautiful Jenny have Story's to tell we can all learn from each other. I appreciate you Both 😇
I am 16 years out from the diagnosis of stage three breast cancer. I personally feel the definition of cancer should always have the words anxiety/fear/depression attached to it. I have not met or listened to one person with a cancer diagnosis that has not expressed some or all of these feelings and it is so very common for a spouse or caregiver to also have these feelings. They are very very real.
Honestly, I did not go to therapy. Should I have? Probably but I don’t beat myself up for not going.
My family history starts in 1999. My brother and best friend was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer. Anxiety enters my life along with the burning question, will this happen to me. 2007, I was diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. 2016, my mom was diagnosed with a rare stomach cancer and non Hodgkins and in 2020, my youngest sister was diagnosed with non Hodgkins in the exact place as my mom’s (they said this was impossible, it is). I now have anxiety that I believe will never go away.
On the note of a caregiver, people forget about them. It is a very very hard role to play. I have been both, the patient and the caregiver. Please please don’t ever forget your caregiver!
Why am I tell my family history today, because Kyle, as a caregiver, has explained the topic of anxiety so accurately. I just wanted him and anyone who reads this post that I get it and he is spot
I am very proud of you for getting the help you need. As far as I am concerned, there is nothing wrong with admitting you need help and taking medication to help relieve these symptoms. There are more people than not taking some type of meditation for depression/anxiety.
Kyle, keep this blog up I am sure you are helping so many caregivers navigate their way through this season of life.
Good job 👍
What a great video Kyle. I’m with you all the way. You are such a great husband and dad.
See you in the next video definitely looking forward to it.
Thanks so much!
I totally agree with you about fresh air and exercise….when I was going through cancer treatment I made it a point no matter how I felt to get out and walk every day..sometimes I even walked twice a day…..if I was to fatigued I would go outside and sit in the sun…always good for my mental health..👍❤️🤗
Excellent advice Kyle!! I am caring for my spouse that has dementia. I should find a therapist down the road to help me cope. We get out every morning hiking with our dog which is great but I need to carve out some “me” time- caregivers give so much of their time for others but too worried to get out (alone if possible). I need to look into listening to podcasts- never have before. I love watching RUclips videos (including yours & Jenny’s). Happy belated birthday. Have a great week- can’t believe it’s almost Feb.
Thank you Kyle. This is such an important message for all of us no matter what we are going through. Caretaking of a loved one is such a mixed thing - it's hard. You are a great role model for your ability to share both vulnerability and experience with us. Your strength is awesome! I'll bet you are a fantastic teacher. ❤
Kyle YES l have a chronic illness and my husband and I constantly have things building in the background and it impacts him wayyyy more than me a lot of times because of all his responsibilities. We have both seen therapist for the last year and found out it was covered by insurance.
Thank you for sharing, hope you are doing as well as you can be
I also had to take medication for a *situational depression *, while my brother was battling Stage 4 kidney cancer. I was so busy, and have always been a runner, weight trainer (nothing extreme…just for toning, etc.). I definitely kept the exercising going, but quit the depression medication, because the medication did nothing after being on it, I felt no difference being on it. Instead of gaining weight, I continued losing weight. So much so, I developed low blood pressure, felt like I was going to faint, so away went the medication. I probably needed an anxiety medication rather than depression medication. I also became incredibly interested in podcasts and RUclips videos. My videos choices were actually for kidney cancer blogs and learning what others were doing to stay alive longer. I learned about the different off label uses of medications being used for other types of cancers, and such. My brother was diagnosed in 2010, long before all the other kidney cancer medications became available for use in kidney cancer patients. Good for you for looking at this.
Kyle what a great job you did on this subject I was diagnosed in 2019 with the same cancer as Jenny My husband has been my caregiver through this journey I’m definitely going to have him watch this I just love your family My thoughts and prayers are with you
Very good advice, Kyle. I admire you and Jenny and the way you are dealing with the journey you are on. I pray for you both. May God bless you with strength and peace. ❤
Aww thank you!
Wow, well said. I could have listened for another hour if you continued x
You said so many things I know but find hard to do myself. I am my husband's caregiver who suffers with dementia and is currently having other health issues. I keep telling myself just about everything you suggested but have yet to do any of it. Your video helped me see the importance of mental health and plan on getting busy taking care of me too. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Keeping all of your family in my thoughts and prayers.
I am glad you are sharing thank you 🤗
Thank you so much Kyle for your advice because I am a caregiver too and I am always last on the list…I need to spend more time on me….but it is hard when so much needs to be done for my husband….I will take your advice and put me first for one….I love 💕 you and your family…take care..xo
Amazing advice. You are a true inspiration. 👏
PS. I needed these ideas. I am a teacher under a lot of pressure because of daughter issues. Bless you.
Great to see a man discussing mental health care.
My bit of advice to get someone to consider seeking help is to say use,
Airplane instructions if plane going down you are told put your own oxygen mask on first you can't help someone else if you have no oxygen yourself it gives a different perspective on need to seek help.
USA has lots of issues with insurance and Healthcare but much easier, quicker and more choice getting therapy compared to UK system.
The best you can do for yourself. I’m going through that right now of finding a therapist. Im a 74 yr old Nana that has lived a very challenging life, very codependent traits. Having a mini stroke last May and recovered completely except my memory is affected a bit which has led to me having what I call stinkin thinkin. Ive gone to therapy throughout my life which was a gift I gave myself. It’s to the point now Im desperate to get into therapy. TY for bringing up podcasts! That will give me hope until I get a therapist! I followed u and Jen through your journey and cried a lot of tears. I felt so close to yall. TY fot posting this video. One has to be on top of their mental health. I’ve noticed you’re doing great Kyle. With letting go. Keep doing good healthy things for yourself!!! Take care!!!
Just EPIC. I VE SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO SEE THIS. YOU RE CAREER TRULY IS IN EDUCATION.
THANK YOU KYLE
Continued prayers for you and your precious family💜🤗
Hi Kyle thank you so much for this video you are absolutely right taking care of ourselves and our mental health is extremely important. Wishing you and your beautiful family all the very best sending positive thoughts and prayers to you all.
🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️
What a mature talk on this topic ......
Well done
Aromatherapy is good lavender for relaxation citrus for upliftment
Kyle, how fortunate you are to have such insight. I so enjoy listening to you. I have been a caregiver, and found therapy invaluable.