Great job encouraging all the caregivers! Thank you so much for the advice and insight! What your doing helps and it’s making a difference in many hearts and homes!
I think you were born to do this Kyle. You’re not only helping Jenny ,the kids and yourself but you have no idea how much you are helping all of us who watch your channel. God bless you Kyle Appleford. ❤ 🙏
Kyle, I haven’t seeing a father, a husband and a caregiver like you. You are an extraordinary man, full of compassion, love and devotion. Jenny is always in my prayers, and you and the kids as well. Mindfulness is one of the best ways to stay focused on the present. GB
My mom came to live with me at the end of her life. She was so special. She had dementia and would physically attack me occasionally. The way I took care of my mom is the single best thing I have ever done. It was pure love. Just like you and Jenny!
What a Great Husband, Father & Caregiver you are Kyle! I Applaud your Attitude! You are doing A Fantastic Job in All area’s Of your Life! God Bless You , Ms.Jenny & your Precious Children! Great Video! Just take it One Day at a time & Enjoy every Minute Togeather!
Grateful is the word, so many people forget that and usually then is when something bad happens... Wish people would keep that in mind in the hardest times. Not always easy, i admit but at least try! God bless Kyle and your beautiful family. 🙏🏼
Kyle where did you come from? What a blessing you are. Having gone through this myself I can only imagine the stress that is on your shoulders. I don’t know if this story will be of any help so I offer it with great respect to you. At the age of 45 my sister was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer - we were completely blindsided - absolutely did not see this coming. She fought with everything that she had, however, she never addressed the fact that she might not make it. Never wanted to talk about it and we respected her decision. She chose to tell her 11 year old son and 9 year old daughter, that she would beat this and that everything would be fine. Sadly it was not to be. After 9 months we lost her. It was a shock to me to see how very angry her children were. They felt that she had lied to them and hadn’t fought hard enough. It took us a long time to change their thinking and anger. Obviously your situation is very different and all of us out here are praying for Jenny. She seems to be getting first class care, as she should. Stay well ❤❤
That was very good, Kyle. I was listening to this without my headphones and my husband overheard it - he’s home with the flu and is a neuro psychiatrist - he said you mean you’ve had an “epiphany”. That most negative thoughts can be turned into positives which dials down the autonomic nervous system into more of an inner calm. Therefore your behavior to yourself is kinder, and your behavior towards others radiates a calmness and serenity. However, sometimes stress will overwhelm you and you need to talk to either those closest to you, or to someone not involved in your current situation - that’s the self love part. Basically, life is stressful for all of us but it’s how we deal with it that makes a difference. Many prayers to you and Jenny 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I love what you are saying Kyle. I am a caregiver for my husband who has been diagnosed with a terminal cancer almost 2 years ago. For the first 18 months I felt I was living in a fight or flight mode. I have started to try to change my mindset to as you say live for now this moment . It works sometimes which is a lot better than where my head was 6 months ago. We are on a similar road as yourself and Jenny hoping that the treatment keeps working and for the most we live as normal as we can in between the every 4 week visit to the oncologist. You and Jenny have been so real it helps people like me more than you know . We don't feel so alone. You are right life still goes on no matter what is thrown at us so one foot forward one step at a time is how I'm trying to deal now. It does work what you are saying . Stop breathe think and then deal with what's in front of you now. Thank you and Jenny for everything for being the amazing people you are. Love from ireland. Keep this channel going Kyle it is so needed by people like me. Xx
Omg Kyle, as a person who's always said therapy can't help me I've listened to every word you've said and I've also had an awakening. I'm really going through it at the moment but I could listen to you every day, you've moved me to tears. God bless you all. X
Everyone who says "therapy can't help me" must have a very clear idea of what therapy is, what their problem is and what intervention it will respond to. That'd be an amazing level of insight and I'd be very curious where that person obtained it from.
I have a degenerative spine with big mobility problems and no care-givers in my life, so I fight my inner voice on a daily basis. I know many people experience the same and it really is a minute by minute fight! Great topic Kyle!
Kyle, You are an amazing person! I stumbled into your channel and I am speechless! You helped me so much with your words. I am fighting the tears because I am so touched! I have been following your wife Jenny and I could see the beautiful person that you were since then. But my goodness, thank you for enlightening me with the wonderful explanations. I see the teacher in you. May God continue to Bless you, Jenny and your children. ❤
Kyle! This video is chock full of solid advice. Everyone can apply this to their life. Who isn’t experiencing any kind of stress these days?! Thank you for your willingness to open up about your stressors, how you recognized it negatively impacted your inner voice and how you managed to positively address it. You are a wonderful human being with the sweetest family. I’m praying we hear good news from CoH.
This is so true, Kyle! You’re a wonderful husband, father, caregiver, teacher and friend. This is a great video for everyone to watch. Not just caregivers. ❤
Thank you for posting this. I’m currently sole caregiver for my adult son who suffers from anxiety and depression. It’s easy to let the negative things overwhelm you, but you’re right, we have the choice about our mindsets. Thoughts & prayers with you all.
You are the personification of a wonderful father and husband. The world needs more people like you.😊Great advice. I have been battling lupus and sometimes I get that negative voice because it is so painful and never ending. Your words of wisdom are very helpful.
Extraordinary and enlightening, Kyle. It's good to know that we family members, as caregivers, are not alone in our feelings. A beautiful guide for how to think before you react and speak. 🙏💛💛💛💛,🙏
That was an awesome explanation of the inner voice. I needed that today Kyle. I'll be doing a lot of squashing now that I am so aware. Thanks so much 😊
Kyle, you are so courageous to talk so openly about your stressors. Many people will benefit from your openness. Thank you for sharing. Sending prayers for you (and Jenny). Blessings!
Man, Kyle I am so impressed with you for going to a therapist!! Best examples of managing stressful life situations. I hope that Jenny has been able to go to counseling. I was very concerned about her after one of her recent scans she had. So so important for her, too.
God uses all things to serve HIM! Really listened to your message, Kyle, and it helped me to realize my inner voice has been negative, just with feeling overwhelmed with maintaining a home, nothing remotely close to what you and many are going through! I will purpose it, to STOP, change that negative inner voice, and replace it with gratitude. Praying for your entire family! God's got you all in HIS most loving hands. Thank you for sharing, Kyle!
Extraordinary Kyle. Thank you for your helpful and inspiring talk! You are the picture of mental health. I appreciate that you are helping so many people, especially caregivers. You are a blessing to us out here and to your wonderful family. Thank you!!!! ❤️🙏❤️
Kyle, you are an amazing young man! You and Jenny have been through so much. You are such a blessing. Sharing these wonderful words of wisdom are very inspirational and so true.
This is great advice! And may I add, that when you sometimes slip up as you learn to challenge those negative thoughts, be patient and kind with yourself.
This video has changed my life. I read Eckhardt Tolle (The Power of Now) a lot, but it's hard to hold on to. THIS video puts it into a healthy context.
As an experienced dog lover I want to say I understand what is happening with you and your elderly dog. He knows he’s supposed to go outside, but he can’t help himself anymore. That’s the message. ❤
I’m a stay at home mom of a 6 (kindergartener) year old daughter and 3 year old son. We have very little - if any - family help and I find myself angry and frustrated a lot due to being overwhelmed on a day to day basis. I’d love for someone to randomly stop by and lend a hand but it’s crickets. As much as I’ve struggled with feeling this way it’s slowly getting easier as the kids get older and more and more independent. Your words about challenging the negative thoughts is SO helpful and something I want to remember and put into practice. I’ve also been focusing more on gratitude and it really does make a world of difference. Having a super loving and involved husband, and 2 of the greatest kids on earth and reminding myself how lucky I am makes a world of difference. Also, you are so very blessed! In so many ways. I adore you and Jenny - you guys are genuinely so down to earth and lovely people. Grateful for your RUclips channels, you both inspire me a lot!
I just want to tell you that I really needed to hear this. I always follow your family's journey. I have been struggling with loving myself because of choices I made. I'm crying not because I am sad but, because this hit home. I just wanted to say thank you. I pray for Jenny's healing. You are both beautiful people inside and out. Thank you again Kyle for sharing this.
Good word, Kyle. Counseling is helpful to remind you of these things that i'm sure you know. That inner self talk is so important, thanks for the encouragement. Here's a quote that sums up the impact of our thought life: Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny. God Bless
Thank you Kyle for sharing this important information with us!! I am in awe of you and Jenny! You are such a loving, caring, compassionate Caregiver! I pray daily for your beautiful family! Sending you all my Very Best Wishes, Love and Prayers! You will all get through this .... sooner rather than later, hopefully! IE ☘🍀☘
You are so right! Lovely! This is what I teach in meditation for my cancer patients on on my channel. Stop. Take a breath. Look at the thought and how it affects you physically. Then look at the importance of the experience, look at it realistically, and learn to "respond" rather than "react". There is no magic. It is practice!. Wonderful video Kyle!!!!
Kyle, the man, the myth, the legend! This was an amazing video. If I still lived in OC, I would get the name of your therapist. I can tell that she really has done so much for you in such a little amount of time. You are wise beyond your years. I hope my daughter finds someone as wonderful as you (she's only 24). We were having the same issues with our cat that you are having with your older dog. Our cat started peeing and pooping in the house. She's been on kitty Prozac for about three months and no more messes. For him its an anxiety issue but for your pooch it may just be because of age. Just an idea...Enjoy your dog's remaining time 🐕🐶❤ Sending my favorite family of four lots of love. Xoxo, Gayle
Omg Thank God I'm not the only one with the inner voice but my inner voice comes out of my mouth! I'm solely caring for my elderly dad with a progressive illness & it's a struggle. He can't swallow properly & has to be fed with blended food. He can't walk or do anything for himself. Apart from watch favourite films & TV programmes. I needed to hear this❤️ I've just read up that it's normal for caregivers to feel angry & best thing to do is walk away into another room & take deep breaths or punch a pillow. ❤️❤️❤️
Kyle, Ive admired you from the day I started following Jenny and her journey. You. are. amazing. Blessings to you and Jenny and those precious children.
I don't know how I missed this video but it just popped up at the perfect time! #1, seeing Jenny smiling and blowing kisses as she always did is overwhelming!!!💔 To say we miss her is an understatement!!!! Kyle, you have so much more than you even know to do with your grief, you are made for helping others!!! You already have been doing that through Jenny's illness! I'm sharing this with my family and friends! Prayers and love always to you and the kids! ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
Thanks so much for this Kyle. I watch you and your wife's videos because- quite simply- I want to become a better parent. You are both such a source of inspiration for that. When you said you wouldn't shout at your child, I'm afraid I'm that dad. For I have shouted at my wonderful children and blamed them rather than stepped back. This advice is so useful for me and hope it will help me make better decisions for my children and my family. Sending love as always.
It’s never to late RJ Just admitting u do that. Can definitely help u to do a better job , here on. Kyle is an inspiration n an example to all men. You can be a better man too. All things are possible.
Kyle, thank you for your videos about being a caregiver, husband and Daddy as well as a teacher. You are an amazing man. As a cancer survivor I remember how I couldn’t accept help from anyone. I also remember how every one seemed to forget that I was sick for so long because they weren’t involved and I NEVER complained. I did all my chemo treatments on my own by myself. I denied others to help me. Part of this is because I am an RN. Thank you for explaining our inner voices!
My thoughts and beliefs exactly. Stay in the positive and the sec you find yourself going dark I shake my head and talk to myself and make positivity come thru. Great job Kyle ! God bless to all.
My dad had non small cell lung cancer .( diagnosed at advanced stage 4 ) I wish I’d heard this 3 1/2 years ago . You are nailing it ! My mom was the main caregiver of my dad . But since I’m the sibling that still lives close by to my parents ( which I’m soooo blessed to be doing ) I was able to ( oh and being able to be a stay at home mom) go over daily and soak up all the attention and smiles ♥️ and there were days I felt like I couldn’t go over there because I just didn’t have the emotional strength ( if that makes sense) to go over there with a bubbly attitude and smile . But I’d cry as I got ready and go anyways and of course when I got there all that would go away . My husband and I were literally just talking about this last night pertaining to me . Thank you sooooo much for your encouraging words . I struggle now to keep the house hold together while now keeping my mom company and helping her.( 1 bc I told my dad I would.) ) 2 I had no idea how hard this would be because the grieving process doesn’t stop after they’re gone .( and for us we grieved while he was still here) but getting up the motivation to go over to her house and help with things is actually harder than when dad was there but having a rough day . Thank you again for your wisdom and kind words ♥️I am very grateful to still have my mom earth-side with me ( I’m definitely her “ mini me” ) and I do feel honored to be able to help her daily or whatever she asks . They are such great parents it’s the least I could do . I’d tell them both at times that helping around the house and in the yard ect was absolutely the least I could do and that I’d never be able to show them enough how great ful I am ( as kids we didn’t always think this ) that they are my mom and dad .
Kyle- I have shared this video with my daughter- not that she is a caregiver - she is 32 healthy ,pregnant with our first granchild... she tends to get overwhelmed with life at times.She is a perfectionist and no matter how I try( sensitively) to advise her- she will not "relax". Your advice on the "inner voice"is so true. Thank you so much.x
Hi Kyle, thank you so so much for speaking about such an important subject. I truly believe that you speaking about this is healing within itself. prayers it helps others. As it is a huge “Play” in our attitude and and our behavior. heavy and can easily get caught up in resentment, run down and exhaustion. When we listen to our inner self, we need to take a step back and realize like you said” it’s ok to get frustrated and or aggravated, but speak with kindness and get it done. Thank You Holy Spirit for helping kind words to speak instead of snappy ones. As a care giver, you have so very much put on your plate and most times don’t get acknowledged for all the “Extra You do”. Which is ok, but sometimes it’s nice to thanked. Like u said we are all human. Thank you so much for talking about this Kyle. I truly feel that it’s helping soo many caregivers out there that so needed it. 🙏🙏❤️🩹. Great subject.
Hi Kyle, in my opinion you are doing a real great job as a caregiver, you are always trying to do the best for your family, adorable, keep on fighting,best wishes for you and your family 🍀🍀🍀🙏🤗
Makes so much since.Thanks i needed to here this going through alot right now.kyle hang in there your a great dad and husband.And seriously thanks ifeel better already.Tell jenny joyce from Nashville said hello and she loves her😊❤🙏
Very proud of you! Jenny is blessed to have you. Your gentle disposition, your strength and supportive nature, your loyalty and love as a husband and father are admirable. But I caution you to also take care of yourself too; take time for yourself. Even if it's just a short walk, or going for a swim, sitting alone and reading the newspaper. It needn't be a lengthy activity, it just needs to be YOUR time. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. God Bless you, Jenny and kids
When you are going through something so major as you and Jenny are, your stress is heightened…normal things become more difficult…more stressful. So to view things the way you do is so commendable. My goodness, you have been so beautifully brought up. But also, over time, you have cultivated your own principles and a good conscience that guide your thinking. Good advice Kyle 🙂😊
You are an 😇. Your videos help me so much with being my husband’s caregiver during his cancer battle. When I am exhausted beyond my limits I stop and thank God that I still have him. Your family is so lucky to have you. ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
You are one of a kind human being Kyle. Every time I hear you speak, interact with your wife and beautiful children, I regain my confidence that no matter what is happening in this crazy world we are living in, there are still decent, loving, dedicated, caring, attentive, compassionate, trustworthy, honest, patient, encouraging, people like you.....I could go on and on, you are so young and so wise. I pray everyday for Jenny, you and the kids. I want GOD to do a miracle and heal her completely, so you can go on to live your lives free of this awful stress that cancer brings. I have a son your age and I can't imagine having him going to what you are enduring right now. A cancer diagnosis causes complex feelings and lifestyle changes that can be overwhelming for you and the people you are close to. I am so glad that you are seeing a therapist, because anxiety, distress, and depression can easily take over your life if you don't seek the professional help. Thank you for all that you do and for being such a beautiful young man, filled with love for your beautiful wife and precious children. May GOD do the healing miracle so much needed, in the meantime we will continue praying for you non stop🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓
I loved your message of altering your negative thoughts Kyle. So helpful. I remember feeling frustrated sometimes when visiting and caring for my elderly mother. I used to get into the car after a visit and instead of feeling angry and overwhelmed I’d say out loud that I was doing my best and she really appreciated my help. It really changed my mindset and I can honestly say I have no regrets that I didn’t do my best. She passed 3 years ago and I truly truly miss her. She was a wonderful mother and I am so grateful to have had her her as my loving mother. I think it’s so important not to have any regrets in life. You and Jenny have such a wonderful relationship that shines through. ❤
Thank you for sharing this, Kyle! I think it was very helpful! You are doing an amazing job supporting Jenny. I am glad that the therapy is helping you and your beautiful family. Sending all my love, hugs and prayers in Jesus’s Name! God bless you all 🤗🙏🏼❤️
Thank you Kyle. I struggle with being kind with my words or not over-reacting to messes and mistakes in our house sometimes. I love your examples because my dogs irritate me too when it feels like “one more thing”. Hearing someone as positive and caring as you discuss your inner voice being like my inner voice makes me feel so much less alone. I’m working on stopping and taking a breath before I respond to things.
I didn’t know you started a channel. I came across it accidentally. Woo hoo. I will go back and watch all your other videos I missed. I watch your wife’s videos all the time.
Kyle…have u considered a career in public speaking? You have such a great affect. A lot of people would benefit from your calm voice and subject manner. Hugs to Jenny!
You have an amazing way of describing the situations that can happen when you are faced with a stressful day. You and Jenny make a great team and Ellis & Winnie are lucky to have you as parents. I will continue to pray that the clinical trial will be successful in getting rid of the cancer. 🙏🙏
Kyle excellent advice it truly helps talking things out when stress and just life it's self can beat us down. Oh it's so awesome to see Ellis play baseball. 😊 Take care
I could have used this advice when I was caring for sick parents in the past. I think it's appropriate for anybody's life though no matter what stressful situation they are going through. You are an excellent teacher and explainer! I'm not sure I ever truly made the connection between my inner voice and what comes out of my mouth as a response to stressful situations. You definitely gave me a lot to think about!
I can tell you're a teacher because you speak with in a comfort way. Many people who start a ytube are awkward but not you. The message was very helpful to me. Thank you.
So true!!!! Love this because it’s so true! What a great way to look at your response to stress. I’ve been both a caregiver and a caretaker. It’s all stressful in it’s unique individual way. This is great advice.
Kyle you are an angel on earth. Being married to a man for close to 33 yrs, who has anger issues, the slightest thing sets him off in a rage, God picked you purposely for Jenny! I’ve walked on eggshells just with normal stresses, particularly when my children were very little. I can’t imagine being in Jenny’s position and Ellis and Winnie. Seriously you are the best!
@Sovereign Freedom Oh my God. You are a remarkable person. Thank you so much for sharing your story on here. You have so much to give, so many people don’t realise what they’re dealing with until it’s too late. So happy to know that you are still in this world to share your wisdom and strength. God Bless You! ❤️
You are ver fortunate to still be here to tell ur story. So happy to hear u were able to get out of that abuse relationship in one piece. Only God , May u find peace and happiness again.
Yes, I have been there and we sure need to look after ourselves. Loved your video. ❤️ I have had relatives that made things hard for me and say get a grip because I shed a few tears as a caregiver.
Kyle I understand I have been there. Life goes on it does not stop for sickness. You have to get everything to everybody. It can be extremely hard and the caregiver can end so stressed and end up sicker . You are doing a great job
Thank you so much Kyle. I will definitely practice this as my inner voice is negative towards myself. I greatly admire your strength and compassion. You are a beautiful soul and you and your family remain in my prayers.
Kyle you are awesome to acknowledge how your day to day life continues even with cancer. Please remember thoughts and prayers are with you daily. ❤🙏🙏❤️
It sounds like you have found a great therapist again and you are definitely moving in the right direction. This was a great talk and we all can use this in our lives. I hope that you will encourage Jenny to find a new therapist, I can't even imagine some of the things that run through her mind on a daily basis. Thank you for sharing all of this with us, even though you have so many things on your shoulders. ❤
Thank you Kyle You're an inspiration a wonderful Husband Dad God is definitely working with you May God continue protecting you Jenny and children and family
It’s nice that you are in tune with your feeling. Best thing you can do is be aware of them..embrace them and deal with them best you can!! You are doing an amazing job! Be proud of yourself.
This is one of the best help talks for caregivers I've ever heard. We're all caregivers.
Great job encouraging all the caregivers! Thank you so much for the advice and insight! What your doing helps and it’s making a difference in many hearts and homes!
Ellis is a fast runner! Love the kids playing with you in the park! Thank you!
I think you were born to do this Kyle. You’re not only helping Jenny ,the kids and yourself but you have no idea how much you are helping all of us who watch your channel. God bless you Kyle Appleford. ❤
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Kyle, I haven’t seeing a father, a husband and a caregiver like you. You are an extraordinary man, full of compassion, love and devotion. Jenny is always in my prayers, and you and the kids as well. Mindfulness is one of the best ways to stay focused on the present. GB
My mom came to live with me at the end of her life. She was so special. She had dementia and would physically attack me occasionally.
The way I took care of my mom is the single best thing I have ever done. It was pure love.
Just like you and Jenny!
What a Great Husband, Father & Caregiver you are Kyle! I Applaud your Attitude! You are doing A Fantastic Job in All area’s
Of your Life! God Bless You , Ms.Jenny & your Precious Children! Great Video! Just take it One Day at a time & Enjoy every Minute Togeather!
Grateful is the word, so many people forget that and usually then is when something bad happens... Wish people would keep that in mind in the hardest times. Not always easy, i admit but at least try! God bless Kyle and your beautiful family. 🙏🏼
You are exactly right! I struggled with that inner voice too. You explained it so well Kyle. Thanks!!🌺
Kyle where did you come from? What a blessing you are. Having gone through this myself I can only imagine the stress that is on your shoulders. I don’t know if this story will be of any help so I offer it with great respect to you. At the age of 45 my sister was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer - we were completely blindsided - absolutely did not see this coming. She fought with everything that she had, however, she never addressed the fact that she might not make it. Never wanted to talk about it and we respected her decision. She chose to tell her 11 year old son and 9 year old daughter, that she would beat this and that everything would be fine. Sadly it was not to be. After 9 months we lost her. It was a shock to me to see how very angry her children were. They felt that she had lied to them and hadn’t fought hard enough. It took us a long time to change their thinking and anger. Obviously your situation is very different and all of us out here are praying for Jenny. She seems to be getting first class care, as she should. Stay well ❤❤
Very well said. You are human, it’s ok to have bad days. All those emotions have to be relieved from time to time. You are FABULOUS!
Wonderful advice! In all things give thanks! I especially like the part about being grateful. Keeping you all in prayer!
That was very good, Kyle. I was listening to this without my headphones and my husband overheard it - he’s home with the flu and is a neuro psychiatrist - he said you mean you’ve had an “epiphany”. That most negative thoughts can be turned into positives which dials down the autonomic nervous system into more of an inner calm. Therefore your behavior to yourself is kinder, and your behavior towards others radiates a calmness and serenity. However, sometimes stress will overwhelm you and you need to talk to either those closest to you, or to someone not involved in your current situation - that’s the self love part. Basically, life is stressful for all of us but it’s how we deal with it that makes a difference. Many prayers to you and Jenny 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
You are the best of the best. God bless you 🙏
I love what you are saying Kyle. I am a caregiver for my husband who has been diagnosed with a terminal cancer almost 2 years ago. For the first 18 months I felt I was living in a fight or flight mode. I have started to try to change my mindset to as you say live for now this moment . It works sometimes which is a lot better than where my head was 6 months ago. We are on a similar road as yourself and Jenny hoping that the treatment keeps working and for the most we live as normal as we can in between the every 4 week visit to the oncologist. You and Jenny have been so real it helps people like me more than you know . We don't feel so alone. You are right life still goes on no matter what is thrown at us so one foot forward one step at a time is how I'm trying to deal now. It does work what you are saying . Stop breathe think and then deal with what's in front of you now. Thank you and Jenny for everything for being the amazing people you are. Love from ireland. Keep this channel going Kyle it is so needed by people like me. Xx
Omg Kyle, as a person who's always said therapy can't help me I've listened to every word you've said and I've also had an awakening. I'm really going through it at the moment but I could listen to you every day, you've moved me to tears. God bless you all. X
Everyone who says "therapy can't help me" must have a very clear idea of what therapy is, what their problem is and what intervention it will respond to. That'd be an amazing level of insight and I'd be very curious where that person obtained it from.
I have a degenerative spine with big mobility problems and no care-givers in my life, so I fight my inner voice on a daily basis. I know many people experience the same and it really is a minute by minute fight! Great topic Kyle!
God bless you Maryna. Sending love and strength. ❤
@@nicholamc2629 Much appreciated!!
Kyle, You are an amazing person! I stumbled into your channel and I am speechless! You helped me so much with your words. I am fighting the tears because I am so touched! I have been following your wife Jenny and I could see the beautiful person that you were since then. But my goodness, thank you for enlightening me with the wonderful explanations. I see the teacher in you. May God continue to Bless you, Jenny and your children. ❤
Kyle! This video is chock full of solid advice. Everyone can apply this to their life. Who isn’t experiencing any kind of stress these days?! Thank you for your willingness to open up about your stressors, how you recognized it negatively impacted your inner voice and how you managed to positively address it.
You are a wonderful human being with the sweetest family. I’m praying we hear good news from CoH.
Excellent advice thank you. I had a vision of you becoming a wonderful school principal one day ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is so true, Kyle! You’re a wonderful husband, father, caregiver, teacher and friend. This is a great video for everyone to watch. Not just caregivers. ❤
Thank you for posting this. I’m currently sole caregiver for my adult son who suffers from anxiety and depression. It’s easy to let the negative things overwhelm you, but you’re right, we have the choice about our mindsets. Thoughts & prayers with you all.
You are the personification of a wonderful father and husband. The world needs more people like you.😊Great advice. I have been battling lupus and sometimes I get that negative voice because it is so painful and never ending. Your words of wisdom are very helpful.
You are a good man Kyle. That’s great advice, even for the patient.
I watch most if not all Jenny’s videos. ❤
Extraordinary and enlightening, Kyle. It's good to know that we family members, as caregivers, are not alone in our feelings. A beautiful guide for how to think before you react and speak.
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That was an awesome explanation of the inner voice. I needed that today Kyle. I'll be doing a lot of squashing now that I am so aware. Thanks so much 😊
Sounds like you have a great therapist. A good one is hard to find.
Kyle, you are so courageous to talk so openly about your stressors. Many people will benefit from your openness. Thank you for sharing. Sending prayers for you (and Jenny). Blessings!
Kyle as a care giver myself. And a cancer patient. I totally understand. You are amazing. You are an inspiration to me. Love your beautiful family.
Man, Kyle I am so impressed with you for going to a therapist!! Best examples of managing stressful life situations.
I hope that Jenny has been able to go to counseling. I was very concerned about her after one of her recent scans she had. So so important for her, too.
God uses all things to serve HIM! Really listened to your message, Kyle, and it helped me to realize my inner voice has been negative, just with feeling overwhelmed with maintaining a home, nothing remotely close to what you and many are going through!
I will purpose it, to STOP, change that negative inner voice, and replace it with gratitude.
Praying for your entire family! God's got you all in HIS most loving hands.
Thank you for sharing, Kyle!
Extraordinary Kyle. Thank you for your helpful and inspiring talk! You are the picture of mental health. I appreciate that you are helping so many people, especially caregivers. You are a blessing to us out here and to your wonderful family. Thank you!!!!
❤️🙏❤️
Kyle, you are an amazing young man! You and Jenny have been through so much. You are such a blessing. Sharing these wonderful words of wisdom are very inspirational and so true.
This is great advice! And may I add, that when you sometimes slip up as you learn to challenge those negative thoughts, be patient and kind with yourself.
This video has changed my life. I read Eckhardt Tolle (The Power of Now) a lot, but it's hard to hold on to. THIS video puts it into a healthy context.
You and your beautiful family are in my prayers.
As an experienced dog lover I want to say I understand what is happening with you and your elderly dog. He knows he’s supposed to go outside, but he can’t help himself anymore. That’s the message. ❤
I’m a stay at home mom of a 6 (kindergartener) year old daughter and 3 year old son. We have very little - if any - family help and I find myself angry and frustrated a lot due to being overwhelmed on a day to day basis. I’d love for someone to randomly stop by and lend a hand but it’s crickets. As much as I’ve struggled with feeling this way it’s slowly getting easier as the kids get older and more and more independent.
Your words about challenging the negative thoughts is SO helpful and something I want to remember and put into practice. I’ve also been focusing more on gratitude and it really does make a world of difference. Having a super loving and involved husband, and 2 of the greatest kids on earth and reminding myself how lucky I am makes a world of difference.
Also, you are so very blessed! In so many ways. I adore you and Jenny - you guys are genuinely so down to earth and lovely people. Grateful for your RUclips channels, you both inspire me a lot!
I NEEDED to hear this. No one in my immediate family has cancer, but I do suffer from chronic illness, etc.. thank you for this!
Excellent advice for all of us. Our prayers are with your family every day.
I just want to tell you that I really needed to hear this. I always follow your family's journey. I have been struggling with loving myself because of choices I made. I'm crying not because I am sad but, because this hit home. I just wanted to say thank you. I pray for Jenny's healing. You are both beautiful people inside and out. Thank you again Kyle for sharing this.
Good word, Kyle. Counseling is helpful to remind you of these things that i'm sure you know. That inner self talk is so important, thanks for the encouragement. Here's a quote that sums up the impact of our thought life:
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
God Bless
I love that. Thank you. ❤
Great quote
@@bbgirl6741 isn’t it! 😍👏
Thank you Kyle for sharing this important information with us!! I am in awe of you and Jenny! You are such a loving, caring, compassionate Caregiver! I pray daily for your beautiful family! Sending you all my Very Best Wishes, Love and Prayers! You will all get through this .... sooner rather than later, hopefully! IE ☘🍀☘
You are so right! Lovely! This is what I teach in meditation for my cancer patients on on my channel. Stop. Take a breath. Look at the thought and how it affects you physically. Then look at the importance of the experience, look at it realistically, and learn to "respond" rather than "react". There is no magic. It is practice!. Wonderful video Kyle!!!!
Worthwhile post Kyle. I would never be able to talk to people. You are a wonderful couple.
Kyle, the man, the myth, the legend! This was an amazing video. If I still lived in OC, I would get the name of your therapist. I can tell that she really has done so much for you in such a little amount of time. You are wise beyond your years. I hope my daughter finds someone as wonderful as you (she's only 24). We were having the same issues with our cat that you are having with your older dog. Our cat started peeing and pooping in the house. She's been on kitty Prozac for about three months and no more messes. For him its an anxiety issue but for your pooch it may just be because of age. Just an idea...Enjoy your dog's remaining time 🐕🐶❤ Sending my favorite family of four lots of love. Xoxo, Gayle
Omg Thank God I'm not the only one with the inner voice but my inner voice comes out of my mouth! I'm solely caring for my elderly dad with a progressive illness & it's a struggle. He can't swallow properly & has to be fed with blended food. He can't walk or do anything for himself. Apart from watch favourite films & TV programmes. I needed to hear this❤️ I've just read up that it's normal for caregivers to feel angry & best thing to do is walk away into another room & take deep breaths or punch a pillow. ❤️❤️❤️
Kyle, Ive admired you from the day I started following Jenny and her journey. You. are. amazing. Blessings to you and Jenny and those precious children.
I don't know how I missed this video but it just popped up at the perfect time!
#1, seeing Jenny smiling and blowing kisses as she always did is overwhelming!!!💔
To say we miss her is an understatement!!!!
Kyle, you have so much more than you even know to do with your grief, you are made for helping others!!! You already have been doing that through Jenny's illness! I'm sharing this with my family and friends! Prayers and love always to you and the kids! ❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️
I can’t love this enough as my sister and I navigate my 84 year old Mom’s care. Thank you!
This is exactly the issue I need to work on. I don't have much control over my inner voice and expressing negativity.
Thanks so much for this Kyle. I watch you and your wife's videos because- quite simply- I want to become a better parent. You are both such a source of inspiration for that. When you said you wouldn't shout at your child, I'm afraid I'm that dad. For I have shouted at my wonderful children and blamed them rather than stepped back. This advice is so useful for me and hope it will help me make better decisions for my children and my family. Sending love as always.
It’s never to late RJ
Just admitting u do that. Can definitely help u to do a better job , here on.
Kyle is an inspiration n an example to all men.
You can be a better man too. All things are possible.
Turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts...turn them around.
Kyle, thank you for your videos about being a caregiver, husband and Daddy as well as a teacher. You are an amazing man. As a cancer survivor I remember how I couldn’t accept help from anyone. I also remember how every one seemed to forget that I was sick for so long because they weren’t involved and I NEVER complained. I did all my chemo treatments on my own by myself. I denied others to help me. Part of this is because I am an RN. Thank you for explaining our inner voices!
My thoughts and beliefs exactly. Stay in the positive and the sec you find yourself going dark I shake my head and talk to myself and make positivity come thru. Great job Kyle ! God bless to all.
My dad had non small cell lung cancer .( diagnosed at advanced stage 4 ) I wish I’d heard this 3 1/2 years ago . You are nailing it ! My mom was the main caregiver of my dad . But since I’m the sibling that still lives close by to my parents ( which I’m soooo blessed to be doing ) I was able to ( oh and being able to be a stay at home mom) go over daily and soak up all the attention and smiles ♥️ and there were days I felt like I couldn’t go over there because I just didn’t have the emotional strength ( if that makes sense) to go over there with a bubbly attitude and smile . But I’d cry as I got ready and go anyways and of course when I got there all that would go away . My husband and I were literally just talking about this last night pertaining to me . Thank you sooooo much for your encouraging words . I struggle now to keep the house hold together while now keeping my mom company and helping her.( 1 bc I told my dad I would.) ) 2 I had no idea how hard this would be because the grieving process doesn’t stop after they’re gone .( and for us we grieved while he was still here) but getting up the motivation to go over to her house and help with things is actually harder than when dad was there but having a rough day . Thank you again for your wisdom and kind words ♥️I am very grateful to still have my mom earth-side with me ( I’m definitely her “ mini me” ) and I do feel honored to be able to help her daily or whatever she asks . They are such great parents it’s the least I could do . I’d tell them both at times that helping around the house and in the yard ect was absolutely the least I could do and that I’d never be able to show them enough how great ful I am ( as kids we didn’t always think this ) that they are my mom and dad .
Kyle- I have shared this video with my daughter- not that she is a caregiver - she is 32 healthy ,pregnant with our first granchild... she tends to get overwhelmed with life at times.She is a perfectionist and no matter how I try( sensitively) to advise her- she will not "relax". Your advice on the "inner voice"is so true.
Thank you so much.x
Hi Kyle, thank you so so much for speaking about such an important subject. I truly believe that you speaking about this is healing within itself. prayers it helps others. As it is a huge “Play” in our attitude and and our behavior. heavy and can easily get caught up in resentment, run down and exhaustion. When we listen to our inner self, we need to take a step back and realize like you said” it’s ok to get frustrated and or aggravated, but speak with kindness and get it done. Thank You Holy Spirit for helping kind words to speak instead of snappy ones. As a care giver, you have so very much put on your plate and most times don’t get acknowledged for all the “Extra You do”. Which is ok, but sometimes it’s nice to thanked. Like u said we are all human. Thank you so much for talking about this Kyle. I truly feel that it’s helping soo many caregivers out there that so needed it. 🙏🙏❤️🩹. Great subject.
Hi Kyle, in my opinion you are doing a real great job as a caregiver, you are always trying to do the best for your family, adorable, keep on fighting,best wishes for you and your family 🍀🍀🍀🙏🤗
Makes so much since.Thanks i needed to here this going through alot right now.kyle hang in there your a great dad and husband.And seriously thanks ifeel better already.Tell jenny joyce from Nashville said hello and she loves her😊❤🙏
You are doing so good..... no .....great..... with your role in all of this. Hubby of the year. 😅
Very proud of you! Jenny is blessed to have you. Your gentle disposition, your strength and supportive nature, your loyalty and love as a husband and father are admirable. But I caution you to also take care of yourself too; take time for yourself. Even if it's just a short walk, or going for a swim, sitting alone and reading the newspaper. It needn't be a lengthy activity, it just needs to be YOUR time. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. God Bless you, Jenny and kids
When you are going through something so major as you and Jenny are, your stress is heightened…normal things become more difficult…more stressful. So to view things the way you do is so commendable. My goodness, you have been so beautifully brought up. But also, over time, you have cultivated your own principles and a good conscience that guide your thinking. Good advice Kyle 🙂😊
I’ve learnt something from your 17 minutes. Almost a lightbulb moment.I only hope I can follow through.
You are an 😇. Your videos help me so much with being my husband’s caregiver during his cancer battle. When I am exhausted beyond my limits I stop and thank God that I still have him. Your family is so lucky to have you. ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
You are one of a kind human being Kyle. Every time I hear you speak, interact with your wife and beautiful children, I regain my confidence that no matter what is happening in this crazy world we are living in, there are still decent, loving, dedicated, caring, attentive, compassionate, trustworthy, honest, patient, encouraging, people like you.....I could go on and on, you are so young and so wise. I pray everyday for Jenny, you and the kids. I want GOD to do a miracle and heal her completely, so you can go on to live your lives free of this awful stress that cancer brings. I have a son your age and I can't imagine having him going to what you are enduring right now. A cancer diagnosis causes complex feelings and lifestyle changes that can be overwhelming for you and the people you are close to. I am so glad that you are seeing a therapist, because anxiety, distress, and depression can easily take over your life if you don't seek the professional help. Thank you for all that you do and for being such a beautiful young man, filled with love for your beautiful wife and precious children. May GOD do the healing miracle so much needed, in the meantime we will continue praying for you non stop🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓
EV well said 👏🏼
Totally agree with you.
@@bbgirl6741 He is such a kind loving young man, with the kindest eyes, he never fails to amaze me🙂
I loved your message of altering your negative thoughts Kyle. So helpful. I remember feeling frustrated sometimes when visiting and caring for my elderly mother. I used to get into the car after a visit and instead of feeling angry and overwhelmed I’d say out loud that I was doing my best and she really appreciated my help. It really changed my mindset and I can honestly say I have no regrets that I didn’t do my best. She passed 3 years ago and I truly truly miss her. She was a wonderful mother and I am so grateful to have had her her as my loving mother. I think it’s so important not to have any regrets in life.
You and Jenny have such a wonderful relationship that shines through. ❤
Thank you for sharing this, Kyle! I think it was very helpful! You are doing an amazing job supporting Jenny. I am glad that the therapy is helping you and your beautiful family. Sending all my love, hugs and prayers in Jesus’s Name! God bless you all 🤗🙏🏼❤️
Thank you Kyle. I struggle with being kind with my words or not over-reacting to messes and mistakes in our house sometimes. I love your examples because my dogs irritate me too when it feels like “one more thing”.
Hearing someone as positive and caring as you discuss your inner voice being like my inner voice makes me feel so much less alone.
I’m working on stopping and taking a breath before I respond to things.
Thank you. I'm going through a difficult time now. I needed that reminder as I'm carrying for my elderly mother
Great advice for everyone! Thanks Kyle, you are giving us great examples of how to live with gratitude, focus on the blessings. ❤️🙏❤️
Very well put Kyle. I needed the reminder. 👍🏻
Thank you. As the caregiver for my husband and my brother that lives with us…..this really helped me. It is stressful. Many prayers from Alabama.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us! We love you both!
I didn’t know you started a channel. I came across it accidentally. Woo hoo. I will go back and watch all your other videos I missed. I watch your wife’s videos all the time.
Kyle…have u considered a career in public speaking? You have such a great affect. A lot of people would benefit from your calm voice and subject manner.
Hugs to Jenny!
Thanks Kyle. Great teaching.
Great job Kyle,your a great husband, dad,teacher,caregiver ,God bless you & your family, you've got this
Its cool that your perspective is opening up in new ways. Thank you for sharing and encouraging others. 💫
You have an amazing way of describing the situations that can happen when you are faced with a stressful day. You and Jenny make a great team and Ellis & Winnie are lucky to have you as parents. I will continue to pray that the clinical trial will be successful in getting rid of the cancer. 🙏🙏
You are an amazing husband and daddy . I think you explain yourself very eloquently
You are an inspiration to all of us! Stay strong and brave for yourself and your family. You are loved. ❤
Kyle you deserve a medal even with councilling it's soo hard🎖️
I am a care giver for my husband who has cancer. It is so hard! No one ever asks how I am. Some days I am not ok.
Kyle excellent advice it truly helps talking things out when stress and just life it's self can beat us down.
Oh it's so awesome to see Ellis play baseball. 😊
Take care
I could have used this advice when I was caring for sick parents in the past. I think it's appropriate for anybody's life though no matter what stressful situation they are going through. You are an excellent teacher and explainer! I'm not sure I ever truly made the connection between my inner voice and what comes out of my mouth as a response to stressful situations. You definitely gave me a lot to think about!
I can tell you're a teacher because you speak with in a comfort way. Many people who start a ytube are awkward but not you. The message was very helpful to me. Thank you.
Spoken like the teacher you are you captured my attention. You're the best.
So true!!!! Love this because it’s so true! What a great way to look at your response to stress. I’ve been both a caregiver and a caretaker. It’s all stressful in it’s unique individual way. This is great advice.
Kyle you are an angel on earth. Being married to a man for close to 33 yrs, who has anger issues, the slightest thing sets him off in a rage, God picked you purposely for Jenny! I’ve walked on eggshells just with normal stresses, particularly when my children were very little. I can’t imagine being in Jenny’s position and Ellis and Winnie. Seriously you are the best!
Jenny is so lucky to have him, a lovely caring man and a great Dad.
@Sovereign Freedom What incredible strength! So glad you got away from that and came out of it in one piece. Major respect for you. Sending love. ❤
Renee I hope your situation has improved? You don’t need to put to with that kind of behaviour. Sending love and strength. ❤
@Sovereign Freedom Oh my God. You are a remarkable person. Thank you so much for sharing your story on here. You have so much to give, so many people don’t realise what they’re dealing with until it’s too late. So happy to know that you are still in this world to share your wisdom and strength. God Bless You! ❤️
You are ver fortunate to still be here to tell ur story. So happy to hear u were able to get out of that abuse relationship in one piece. Only God ,
May u find peace and happiness again.
Yes, I have been there and we sure need to look after ourselves. Loved your video. ❤️ I have had relatives that made things hard for me and say get a grip because I shed a few tears as a caregiver.
Kyle I understand I have been there. Life goes on it does not stop for sickness. You have to get everything to everybody. It can be extremely hard and the caregiver can end so stressed and end up sicker . You are doing a great job
Thank you so much Kyle. I will definitely practice this as my inner voice is negative towards myself. I greatly admire your strength and compassion. You are a beautiful soul and you and your family remain in my prayers.
Kyle, I’m so proud of you!! Find a positive in each situation! God bless you and keep being the hands and feet of Jesus.
Kyle you are awesome to acknowledge how your day to day life continues even with cancer. Please remember thoughts and prayers are with you daily. ❤🙏🙏❤️
It sounds like you have found a great therapist again and you are definitely moving in the right direction. This was a great talk and we all can use this in our lives. I hope that you will encourage Jenny to find a new therapist, I can't even imagine some of the things that run through her mind on a daily basis. Thank you for sharing all of this with us, even though you have so many things on your shoulders. ❤
Thank you Kyle
You're an inspiration a wonderful Husband Dad
God is definitely working with you
May God continue protecting you Jenny and children and family
Bless you Kyle, such a wonderful husband and father. I pray for you all each day and send hugs and prayers❤
It’s nice that you are in tune with your feeling. Best thing you can do is be aware of them..embrace them and deal with them best you can!! You are doing an amazing job! Be proud of yourself.
This was an awesome talk!! I’m going to try this today. Thanks Kyle!!