Kyle, just a little thought - I want you to know, as the cancer patient, that Jenny doesn’t need you to make every occasion count, and every moment to be special etc. she just needs to spend each day with the ones she loves, taking one day at a time. No one’s life’s is filled with perfect moments. I know you feel the pressure but please don’t put that on yourself. Your love for her, and the fact that she can count on your love and care for your children going forward is everything she needs. I promise. This is how I feel; I have learnt this.
Just want to echo what you said. As a another cancer patient, the only thing I really cared about during treatment (and now), was spending time with my kids and grandchildren. It doesn't matter what they're doing. Ordinary things seem extra-ordinary, and my greatest joy is just watching them and deeply savoring even seemingly mundane things. Everyday moments are the most cherished treasures.
My son just went through this with his wife. Jenny will tell you what she wants to do. All my daughter in law wanted was to spend as much time with her husband and children as she could. All you need to do is follow her lead. You are strong. You and Jenny are amazing. Sending all my prayers.
I have a few suggestions… 1. Take some time to make molds of her hands. One for each of you. When she has the energy do crafts with the kids. Those moments are the ones that matter in the end. 2. Get a voice recorder and have Jenny tell stories of her life. Being able to go back and hear her voice will be a treasure. 3. As hard as it will be, plan her memorial with her. Talk about the songs she would want, then flowers that are meaningful. What does she want others to know. 4. Make a Google document with a list of the things that need to be done. Share that with people that can help you. They will be able to look at the list and not need to ask you. If there are things that you want to do put some type of marking next to those items. Make a second one for Jenny to put things she wants to do. Her list will change as time goes by and this will let her make changes to the list on her own. 5. Have Jenny to write a letter, or record on a recorder, anything she would want to tell the kids on those important moments. Please know there will come a moment (or a few) where she will try to push people away. She is going to morn losing her life, losing the ability to be there for the kids. She will feel guilty that she is hurting the people she loves, even tho it is not her fault. In those moments just hug her. Don’t take it personal, she loves you! Mentally we think that if we make our loved ones angry or push them away, it won’t hurt as bad when the time comes. Try your best to live in the moment. Do what you can today, & try not to stress about tomorrow. I know that is easier said then done. Just realize the the time you focus on tomorrow is time you are not here today. The things you think are the bucket list items are not really the bucket list. In the end holding your hand or giving you a hug, play with the kids, singing songs, cooking food, etc are the moments that will matter. I am praying for y’all! I know Jenny will fight because she loves you all with her whole heart! 🫶🏼
I completely agree with you and as a hospice carer I so hope Kyle and/or Jenny and family and close friends see your post… I know for sure your suggestions will be incredibly helpful to all of their close support network… thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and kindness for posting @ChicMom❤
Your new word: DELEGATE. Ask your wife’s sister and her parents to get the info, talk to the lawyers to get legal stuff done, talk to your job about things….have her family take the kids during the new treatment. Have them do all those things. Delegate. YOU focus on loving your family and getting her to appointments. That’s it. Prayers to you always.
I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that just 14 hours after you posted this vlog that 120,000 people showed up for you. We will keep showing up and will be here for you and your family. Sending love from Wisconsin.
Kyle, it is unreal how your life now is mirroring mine. Not currently but it is unreal. I have two boys who are grown now and they lost their mother to cancer as well. I fought just as hard as you are and it was unreal. I have one thing to say you can do this. Just stop and breathe. Every time you feel anything negative just breathe. My boys were small when we were going through this and it was hard on them as well. I had support but at night when it was just us was the hardest. They missed their mommy so much. I think they still miss her. They are both grown with their own families and very successful. Although it seems that it is bad now you will get through this. Just be prepared for a lot of pain and sorrow. I raised my boys alone and it was hard but we did it. We got through it. I know you don't want to hear this now but its true. You will get through it. You will find yourself doing the things that she did. Its something that you can do. I feel a that kinship with you and I wish I could speak with you. It helps sometimes to talk to someone who has been through this. I will continue to fo!low you and pray for you. I will be here if you would like to reach out. I love ya bro and you are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. Until next time.
Kyle I am old enough to be your Mom. Can I just say, the pride in my heart as a Mom for you is so huge. You have held the earth up. Please give yourself grace. As a outsider watching you & Jenny, your love for your wife& your children is so strong. Your little moments in your car are so very precious. Oh you are so perfect in each others eyes. Your doing it Kyle. I’m so proud of you, I could only hope to have someone just like you in our family. You are a wonderful gift to all the people closest to your heart❤
I was a caregiver for 7 years for my husband. Don’t look at the calendar. Don’t count the days. Take each day as it comes. Minute by minute. You are right to take notes. I have forgotten so many things to this day. Ask for help when you need it. Big Texas size hug for you
You haven’t lost her. She’s right there. I’ve lived through my mom’s battle with cancer, my battle with cancer, and my husband has survived four bouts with cancer. I know exactly how you feel right now. But I’m in my late 60s and if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s this: we only have today. You don’t know what is going to happen, and you don’t know what God is going to do. I was mourning the loss of my husband when he had only seven months to live. That was 14 years ago. He had a miraculous recovery from stage 4 metastatic melanoma. So all I can say is enjoy today and don’t think about tomorrow because none of us knows what tomorrow will bring.
What a beautiful response. Thank you so much for sharing this. God works miracles and it can happen. God Bless you and your family and God bless this family as well. ❤
As a survivor of 4-stage cancer, my husband and I were where you are right now. That was over 40 years ago, and I'm still here. Nobody can understand the struggle that you go through, except those of us who have been there. However, everyone's experience is different, and we really can't put ourselves in your position. Kyle, all I can say to you is, you don't walk alone, God is walking with you and is giving you strength. Please hold on to your faith and keep a stiff upper lip. We're all praying for you and Jenny. God bless you!
I'm so glad you testified of the truth to believe. I have a friend who also was miraculously healed of 4th stage colon cancer. But it required searching scriptures to see where she needed to repent. She's thriving strong as an elderly woman and very healthy and active. When I decided to also repent, I opened my Bible, made my list of sins, and confessed them to a wonderful person and spoke with my mouth, declaring, pronouncing by faith, I would be healed. GOD heard my faith and healed me one night as I slept. He will do it for you also. He loves faith. Without faith, it is impossible to please Him. Take faith the size of a mustard seed. Seek His face. ❤
You have to be still and pray. Be still and listen to God and let him take the reins. He has her in hands. There is nothing but his love for you and Jenny. Make many videos of you and Jenny that be shown for you and your children at a later date. We do not know the time or hour. Ask for God for help. He does provide.
How does a woman find a guy like you? You are so incredibly kind and helpful to sweet Jenny! I am so sorry the two of you are going through this. I lost my mom as a teenager and when she was gone we had no one ! Our father was a drunk and didn't care. Your kids are so lucky to have you! Remember that!
God BLESS YOUR FAMILY MY PRZYERS ARE WITH ALL OF YOU PLEASD KEEP YOUR SPIRITS UP EVEN THOHGHT ITS SO HARD BUT YOU ARE A WONDERFUL FAMILY PLEASE ALWAYS STAY HOPEFUL AND NEVER FORGET THE WONDERFUL TIMES YOUVE HAD! SHE DESERVES ALL TNE HOPE AND PRSYERS THERE ARE MY HEARTS WITH YOU GJYS AALWAYS 😂
He's a good husband. He's no superhero! Just let him love Jenny ,,as he's SUPPOSED to do!! If the rest of you have rubbish husbands, I feel sorry for you. In reality, I feel sorry, for so many of your husbands and partners ,because so many of you have so little love and respect for them!!! HOW can you expect THEM to show you unconditional love to YOU, when YOU show NONE of that to THEM!! Many, many rubbish, unloving wives and girlfriends here.......I refuse to believe that ALL your husbands are so uncaring........try loving them the way YOU SHOULD!! Hypocrites!! My husband is every bit as loving to me as Kyle is to Jenny, maybe even more so. He shows, and tells me, every single day just how much he loves me. AND I SHOW AND TELL HIM!!!!! Try showing some love and respect yourselves. You get back what you give out.
Perfectly said ! Stage 4 here too. I was given a time line too... Love is all you need. Support her. One day at a time" one min to one hour, someday, seriously.♡ Do today, do now.. Love every moment. Theres no perfect in this situation.Pace yourself. Love and light Mary
All I can say is that your mother did an amazing job of raising such a compassionate and loving man, who in turn is a wonderful husband and father. I truly believe that even though you will go through many hard times ahead as a single father, you will never fail to let your children know how much they are loved. I'm sure that your female family members will step in to help with Winnie and with advice when it is needed. Just remember that it is completely normal to be feeling all of the emotions you are going through right now. 😢🙏
💯. Kyle and the kids will never be alone, as they have such a strong, supportive family. He's going to have a tough couple of years, but love will get them through.
Hi Kyle, Lost my husband to small cell lung cancer in 2008. Our son was in high school. Some of the best times where when we just hung out at home watching movies etc. I went to great lengths to plan what I knew would be our last vacation and it wasn't worth it. The small moments at home all of us together were the best and the memories that comforted me. You need to take time for yourself to relax because you can't help her if you are overwhelmed. Keep things simple and enjoy the time you have. Don't try to be perfect because that is not necessary. Praying for you all.
Same here, same diagnosis to small cell carcinoma. She smoked heavily, then stopped. I was out on the road as a trucker when she began this journey! Emory said she needed a lung, so she said, then my health began to fail. On my birthday she called me because of a reaction to her B/P medicine, then it was a mass in her lung, all at another hospital. They did a biopsy, and afterwards a tentative date. September of 2016, she drew her last breath. When I saw Kyle like this, I felt helpless all over again. I'm so sorry, I don't know what else to say or to do! 😪😥🙏🙏
My father lost his beautiful wife, my mother in March 1969. She was only 49. I say this, because for the first time in my life and your generosity in sharing your experiences with the world I feel I can understand what he must have REALLY gone through. It forever changed him, of course but he managed to raise me alone. You’re incredibly strong; Asking for help is an admirable thing to do!
That's what I missed the most when my husband became sick. It wasn't the big things, I cried when I didn't have to meet him after work and talk about our day on the ride home. I don't know why it was so special, but it was. I miss it still.
Kyle, as a woman, I can honestly say that I've NO doubt that just being with you is making every day count. You are amazing just being you, that's all Jenny needs & I'll say you are doing more than just a damn fine job! YOU & the kids are all she needs hon. God bless you all ❤🙏🏻
Just being with her, supporting her, driving her to appointments and treatments is the greatest gift. She is not dealing with this alone. Having your best friend by your side makes everything possible.
@TwinKarma1 bolujem od cancera bubrega, desnog nemam. Lijevi napadnut kao i debelo crijevo, zeludac i jetra. Takodje sam imala infarkt. Muz me napustio 2 dana prije operativnog zahvata. Moje stijene i oslonac su kcerka i sin. Takodje i familija mi puno pomaze. Imam crne i veoma teske dane ali nisam klonula duhom. Bog jedino zna do kada je moje vrijeme i zahvalna sam na svakom danu koji docekam ziva
Kyle, I am so worried because we haven't seen Jenny in 6 days. Yes, I check every day. You guys have become part of our families. This may sound strange since we have never met in person, but because you have opened your hearts and vulnerabilities to us, we feel as if we've known you for years. Well, we are all connected, and we are all a part of one great big human family. Jenny, you, Ellis, and Winnie are always in my prayers. We love you all. God be with you.
@@jacqueline8559I don’t think she meant if that way..she was just explaining that she worries because she feels so connected..so it was an innocent comment..
When my husband got to point in his cancer journey where we knew he wasn’t going to beat it without a miracle our doctor said something that really helped. He said “do you want to spend the rest of your days doing through medical procedures, test and treatments that aren’t going to make a difference and will only give you a little extra time… maybe… or would you rather spend those final days with those you love making whatever memories you can?” He told us to go home and make memories and spend time with loved ones. I am thankful for his words…
Yes. I couldn’t agree more. MD Anderson told my friend the same thing. She chose to go home to her children and spent the next month with them. She did not want any more treatments that would only make her worse.
I think at times we think that by not doing SOMETHING we are giving up hope. This is not true, I never gave up on the possibility of a miracle and prayed for it. Unfortunately we did not get that miracle but I know that my husband is whole and healed now because he is in his heavenly body. This doesn’t mean I didn’t and still don’t grieve but it makes it a bit easier knowing where he is. ❤️
I’ve always felt that if I got any kind of diagnosis like that I would Do as many natural Things as possible like canabis, vitamin c drips, rife machine, budwig but wouldn’t do any of these harsh treatments to prolong would just go off and manifest and live in the moment as much as humanly possible unless I’m too I’ll to function. I just wouldn’t want to know. I read aboht a women who went off on a final holiday once and just drank coconuts as it was all she could handle and she had a miracle and never died and now runs a business making coconut products. My friends dad also rejected all treatment to extend and is still here 7 years after a 6 month ish diagnosis
@@ExplorewithSarahlouise Just know these “natural” remedies are usually a hoax. You have better odds taking the oncologist’s advice. Yes I have a cancer diagnosis and gladly took Chemo and radiation.
True. I was very mindful of not expecting my husband to “fight” and “beat the deadline” when we knew we had to accept his forthcoming death. I wanted him to have the peace of mind of knowing that whatever life threw at our children and me, that we would always be able to take it on the chin and manage, in his honor. We were not so codependent like Kyle and Jenny but we met at school and for over thirty years we were friends, lovers, life partners, parents and a darn good team. I miss him very very much but our children are doing well, they’re happy, healthy and have great prospects in their lives. We manage. It’s very hard, sometimes it seems impossible, but we just get up and take each day as it comes, don’t we? I do it for the love of my husband and our families. Time for Kyle to put on his big boy pants. Children are going to need to feel safe, comforted and happy from day one. I wish him all the best.
I’m crying as I watch this. I lost my best friend too. Cancer as well. It’s so freaking hard. I’m not going to lie or sugarcoat it. We had a good good love and I’m sending all of you a gentle hug. You all will be ok. The love never goes away.
Kyle, I also have lung cancer so I can say this.....Don't worry and beat yourself up so much about making every day special. When you are faced with this just being alive and with your loved ones makes every day so very special already....you don't need to worry about "stuff" or trips so much....just love each other every day as much as you can.
@@SANDRA-ez4icthis is a great idea! I do understand he wants to be on point for Jenny and he seems like the type of guy to try and take on everything "naturally" but it couldn't hurt. a low dose for the most stressful moments.
Kyle, My grandfather had cancer. They gave him about 6 mos. He lived another 9 yrs. Drs. don't know for sure. They are not God. You and Jenny and kids have all my prayers. I believe that God gives miracles and he will take care of Jenny. He did to my grandfather. Love to you all.
I saw the title of this and my heart dropped to my toes. Heartbreaking. Know you have a lot of people all around the world praying for you and your family during this incredibly difficult time. We love you all ❤❤
Kyle, as a retired hospice nurse, having taken care of many patients including family, I can only tell you what I have said to many families who were where you are right now. Each day is precious but what it makes it precious are the hugs, kisses, I love you and time together. It cannot be perfect, it's life and it will be so difficult for you to find happiness and smiles if you put constant pressure on yourself. Sometimes knowing your time is short, makes it more valuable. As Jen has said, it could be longer. Her pain will be controlled and she will be kept comfortable because that's what Hospice does. Never be hesitant to ask for help. People want to help because they care and it gives them comfort. One day at a time, take care of you so you can take care of her and the babies. Go to God for comfort and reassurance. You will be in my prayers and please, if you need to talk, I am available any time. Ann Ellis
❤Kyle YOU ARE PERFECT JUST AS YOU ARE. Your lives are filled with love for each other & your children.Ask for help with other stuff, people want to help you! Putting pressure on yourself will exhaust you. It is all so unfair that this is happening. Cry, laugh, punch pillows as needed, there is no wrong way just do what helps you both to keep treading water. Every day will be different but special in it's own way. You & Jenny are such a kind and loving couple.What could I do to help? I will pray and send hugs across the country.Please give yourself a break and give Jenny a gentle hug from me Blessings always to all.❤❤
@@Anastashya: hospice is best when entered early. Same with palliative care. They could help with social workers who are specialists in working with children (and adults). Pain management, bathing, spiritual all incisive helping walk this journey. You all are my my ❤❤
A friend of mine that passed away from her second bout with breast cancer when her daughter was 4 years old, wrote her birthday cards for every year until she turns 35. I can’t imagine the strength it took to do this and I’m sure her daughter treasures them every year. 🙏❤️
WOW!!!! That's beautiful. I imagine that her 35th birthday is going to be heartbreaking though..I just hope she isn't dreading turning 35 due to this or counting down how many years of cards are left...
@@Deakybean181 Not really, quite the opposite actually. At some point, children have to learn to let go of their parents so that's part of the process her mom made sure of. Also, the mom was probably 35 herself when passing so she couldn't have written about the age beyond that because she didn't have personal experience of it. So how could she write about being 40, 50 etc.? She basically stuck to what she knew of and when the daughter gets to said age herself she will feel at peace and she'll know it's her time to be on her own after that. Plus, the mom probably wrote something really special in that 35th birthday card giving her a proper goodbye and therefore closure.
I don't know where life has taken you since you posted this video. But sir, I am 65 years old, and I have found myself struggling with a lot in my life. But you, sir, is the strongest man I have ever watched. You never seem to give up. You put yourself out there in your most vulnerable time. You always put your wife and your children first. You don't run away from your responsibilities. And I have the utmost respect for you. You, sir, are the epitome of what a husband and father should be. You are writing a playbook for other young men to follow. I wish I could do more, I wish I could be financially supportive, but I can't. All I can do is pray for you all and give you my support. God bless you all. You will be a great father and friend to your children.
I suffer from severe depression and I haven’t enjoyed life in over a decade. I live a very poor life. I wish I could somehow transfer my body to Jenny because I know she’d do so much good with it. I don’t understand why the best people on earth are afflicted with terminal diseases like this. It’s just heartbreaking. To Kyle, I wish everyone on earth could have a companion like you. I have never seen anyone (man or woman) that is so compassionate, supportive, and truly kind. People like you are very rare. I’m so so sorry you’re facing this. It’s maddening how unfair this is.
Don’t give up on yourself. These days are difficult but the grace in facing the darkness is a reminder that you’ve been through it before and will come through it again. That is a promise.❤
I'm so sorry you have depression I've suffered with it too. I'm feeling better now it will come and go throughout my life but I'm so grateful for the wonderful joy of life of all the beautiful things in it and the people that are caring and compassionate in my life. Try to appreciate each and every day, go out and smell the flowers, and appreciate the rain. There are also many wonderful partners out there that I've observed with real love and respect for their other half. I refuse to be bogged down by negativity. Life is incredibly short and incredibly precious.
Jennie IS blessed to have you as her husband. The care, love and attention you give surely provides a sense of security for her and your children. Many times we feel inadequate for the situation, but God chose YOU for Jennie. God is with you!!
Kyle, as others have said, Jenny doesn’t need a bucket list, she just wants to be with you and the children. Don’t add additional pressure to yourself. I will tell you that your love and devotion to Jenny is absolutely amazing. Some never experience that, that is your gift. I wish the world were full of the kind of love you share. What a paradise it would be. You are amazing, she loves you as much as you love her. It’s heartbreaking to listen to all you are all going through. My heart breaks for all of you. ❤
Kyle, thank you for giving us a look into the caretakers version. My mom died at 41 leaving my dad as a single parent. He wasnt perfect but he did the very best he could. The main thing was that we knew we were loved. Never! stop telling your kids how much they are loved. My love and prayers are with you Kyle as you go through this new experience. You and the kids are all Jenny truly needs right now ❤
As a stage 4 cancer patient. I don’t have my family around me, I’m doing this all alone. Believe me, as a dying patient I don’t want video moments. I wish I just had my family near me. Just me and them. Don’t worry about ur viewers, just be with her and kids. Nothing else or anyone else matters. Live ur life at full tilt. 🙏🏻💜 take time for yourself. As a caregiver u need time and space. You got this as a dad…just be still and let God lead you. Family will carry you through.
“One thing you’ve never been short of is love” That’s all you need. You are a wonderful man Kyle. You are doing better than anyone I can imagine. Sending much love to you, Jenny and your beautiful children.
In Jenny's own words just being together sleeping together is what makes her feel the best. Having you guys around is what makes things perfect. Don't try to change things....try to keep things as normal as possible and it's the time you spend together that means the most.
I lost my husband of 20 years and my BEST friend 3 yrs ago. We are never the same. It’s just a breath at a time some moments. Prayers, love, strength to you all. Listen to your gut and you WILL continue to “hear her” in your mind’s eye when it’s her time. Doctors aren’t always right. Hugs to you all. 🙏🏻💚
My Beautiful Wife Jan 2years 8 months ago and like you all did everything together also. Nine of our lives will. Be changed forever without our Loves God Bless Kyle ,You and everyone on this page.
Your mom raised you and you are a great guy , Kyle. I bet she feels like she didn't do things perfectly either. You will be there for your kids when they need you. You don't have to figure out your whole life today.
Making each moment special is as simple as Jenny said, cuddle up and treasure those moments. She didn't want to go to Hawaii, she wanted to snuggle with you and your little ones. Do that and you all will have THOSE special moments ❤😢
I lost my husband 6yrs ago. I know how overwhelming these days are. My advice is to take all the time you need to be with your wife and children. Don't worry about anything else
Try not to stress about “perfect memories”. Jenny will make the memories for you and the kids. Ask her what she wants to do, relax and follow her lead!
I lost my sister 23 years ago leaving 4 small children the youngest was a baby, you don’t need a bucket list you just need to be together, I’m sure Jenny would agree. The most precious moments will be remembering you altogether as a family. My sisters children grew up to be very caring and special people, never forgetting their Mom, I know she is still watching over them.
I just want you to know, as a former certified Hospice Specialist, when the time comes, utilize them to the fullest. It's their job to take the weight off of your hands as far as the comfort care measures, and caretaking, so that you may spend quality time with your loved one. It makes an enormous difference. As usual, I am praying for you to continue being strong as you have, obviously Jenny and the children are deeply in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
So sad 😞 this happened to your sweet family. I’ve been watching your videos non stop. Thank you both for sharing your story. Praying for you and the sweet babies. Jenny is missed. ❤
Kyle I am praying for you & Jenny. I am 49 years old and my husband is 51 years old. 25 years ago he developed severe rare kidney disease called: FSGS. He has had two kidney transplants, dialysis, skin cancer reconstruction and removal over 50 times, Plasmapherisis 3x week, Vertigo, Bells Palsey, 6th Nerve Palsey, Sepsis, kidney rejection, multiple mini strokes (TIA), Covid 19, asthma, C Diff twice with hospitalization, it goes on and on. What I want to say here is that our son was 6 months old when he first started dialysis. Our son is now 20. He has been through a lot but has been so resiliant. I have had Crohn's Disease for 30 years. As a caregiver for my husband I know how you are feeling. There were so many times where the doctors prepared me for his death but then he beat the odds. This for a caregiver causea PTSD big time. There is so much pressure that we put on ourselves as caregivers. I have been told so many times by professionals that it can be mucb harder on the caregiver than the person who is sick. Please take deep breaths, take only ONE day at a time. That was the BEST advice ever given to me by the renal transplant Social Workers. Always take time for yourself. You will feel very guilty but you have to do it. Ask your family for help. Much love to you all from Canada. ❤️🇨🇦❤️
Praying for strength and courage for you Kyle . I was widowed with two children at 34 . I found that it was the children that carried you through - you have to be mum & dad , but sixth sense jumps in many times to help . Small consolidation you have the time to love and talk , it’s not a sudden death . Take any offers of help gracefully, any task you can unload , do so . Try & be kind to yourself too . X
Kyle, please give yourself some grace. This is truly a horrible thing for your family. Take time to pray and breathe and just be there. That's all that you need to do. Just be there. My Dad died from colon cancer in 1999 and it angers me so much that a cure hasn't been found for cancer yet. All my love and prayers for each and every one of you! Phillippians 4:6-7 NLT - Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
Kyle, so many men have upped and abandoned their sick wives. So you can be very proud of yourself. It can be so overwhelming, forget about bucket lists, nothing is more important than being there for Jenny, and the comfort she gets from knowing your children are in safe loving hands.
I wish you would be able to meet Taylor odlozil. He lives in Houston Texas. His wife Haley died on July 14,2023 from ovarian cancer at the age of 30. He has a son named Weston who is a bright young man. I am sure you would both have something in common. We all need love, security and support. This stuff makes us all shook up.
Kyle, you can count on your RUclips family to be “ the wind beneath your wings”. Thousands of us are praying for Jenny , you, Ellis and Winnie. This is an unbelievable support system for you. I’ve been a hospice nurse for many years and have never seen anything so beautiful. You are all teaching so many how to love and live through any adversity. Thank you! Please listen to Jenny when she says she just needs the family bed. She needs to just be with you and the children now as her strength wanes. Let her guide the memories now. Feel our love and prayers and know that we will all travel this road toward Eternal Life. 🙏😇💗🙏😇💗🙏😇💗
We lost a daughter to cancer and when we reached the final stage and made plans to honor her wishes, some people thought it was morbid. I’m glad you are talking to each other and your children about this difficult situation. Prayers for all of you in this most challenging time. Take advantage of any help offered and ask for help if needed. 🙏🏼
I’m sorry to hear about your daughter. God Bless her. Did you go with your plans to honor her regardless of what others thought? They have a issue with death. If not, try to move forward and do what you want and has meaning for you in your life. When my children were younger, I always felt so pressured to please everyone at my spouse, children & my’s emotional expense, and somewhat financial expense. It was so stressful. Growing up, my parents had very few parties so I didn’t have much experience with them. We have a modest, nice house….it can hold say 18/20 people for a party yet we always had so many more people because we felt pressured by family. Summertime- the yard was good. Some family members are laid back, others so negative and made sure to always give their unsolicited opinions. The happy events in our lives became time of arguing to each other and even bitterness prior to the big Christmas, birthdays or graduations. My kids were much younger than their cousins so never fit in with them. Now we don’t do the parties anymore. (We did most, since other family members didn’t even attempt them on both sides.) Now, the really surprising thing is, my family all do their own thing, his family (we are more close to)…..they HAVE gatherings for the holidays and we are not invited. Therefore, honor your daughter now at your home or grave site. Give yourself compassion and do what gives you comfort to get through the future days. I’ve learned to speak up and plan and include who I want to include. ❤ Peace.
as a perfectionist, after losing my ex husband, my best friend, and my daughters father, i’ve absolutely learned that perfection is a waste of time. life ends and after that, nothing is on you. prayers Kyle, 🙏🏻
I’m so sorry you’re all going through this. I’m also a stage 4 kidney cancer patient at city of hope. I’m crying with you. I’m praying for you all. I’m so sorry 🙏🏻
Praying for all of you! 🙏 I can tell you my father had lung cancer and was given 2-3 months. He opted not to pursue treatment. He lived almost 10 months after being told. Hospice was great with helping keep him comfortable and supporting us as the caregivers. Just remember nothing has to be perfect and anytime spent together is a blessing. Prayers🙏
My sister did the same with her breast cancer. She opted not to continue with any more treatment, as the outcome was inevitable. She wanted to spend her last days with her family and friends instead of treatment after treatment. I understood.
One day at a time, Kyle … you have done an amazing job in supporting Jenny and your kids. Never give up faith in God. Thousands of people are praying for Jenny’s full recovery. Love from Toronto, ON ❤️🇨🇦🙏🙏🙏🙏
When my husband was diagnosed with cancer. We was going through his treatments and one day he said to me. “I don’t have cancer, we have cancer”. I cared for him 24/7. We have no children together, he has two daughters and grandchildren. My one piece of the most important I can give, after been through this. You have to take care of YOU! You have too. Swallow your pride and ask for help from friends and family. Get enough sleep, eat well and take quiet time breaks. Step outside take some deep breaths and cry if you need to. I would call my brother who lives in another state. He was my rock when I needed someone to be strong for me. He would remind me how strong I am and how much my husband is blessed to have me. You are in my prayers. God loans us those we need and love for the period of time He feels is right. God Bless.
Kyle I lost my brother from diagnosis to his passing in 4 weeks. I lost my son, unexpectedly, a couple months later. I found that living in the moment with both of them is the best thing I could have done. I was with my brother to the end and I’m grateful for the time. I did struggle with memory issues and racing thoughts. Take notes and set reminders to stay on task. Just live in the moment… you have been an amazing caregiver, husband and father.
My heart is breaking for you. These are your darkest times. Just breathe, Kyle. One foot in front of the other and one day at a time. You will raise your kids amazingly well. They are her legacy. Stay strong. Everyone is rooting for you guys. Sending love ❤
My dear Kyle, When you said « I love my life, I love my wife and I love my children » I knew you will overcome your loss because you are able to cherish what Jenny gave you, taught you, and you are on the way to the acceptance of the fate you two have to face. And that you will be able to harvest the joy it also brings, will bring. I lost my father to cancer and I felt honored that he let me be part of the journey till the last breath. My heart goes to you all four, your video is so true to the core that I couldn’t help but send you my respect and friendship. Jennifer from France.
I may not know what to say. I'm here listening to you from Texas. Kyle, you have alot of ears here listening. We are here for you and the family. Sending prayers,
😞 Kyle I am sorry. This video relates to exactly what I am going through as a partner of a stage 4 lung cancer patient. It feels like living in the Twilight zone and everyones voice is charlie browns teacher. Thank you for this video. You said the words that I couldn't come up with, but feel.🙏 For you. This is very hard listening to 😭
You have a whole community here to help you along the way. You don’t have to figure out the rest of your life today. I am praying hard for a miracle for all of you.
I feel for you Kyle. My mum died when I was 3. 7 children and all got separated. You will come out strong. With all your memories. Your children will be so proud of you. Always talk about her with them. My mum was never spoke about. Just keep strong. Your a good father x
Kyle, I was a Single Mother after losing my husband in a head on collision years ago. My girls were ages 7 and 4. It was very hard, but I had lots and lots of support from friends and neighbors. You will have that support as well. I feel your pain and frustration and all the feelings you expressed in this video. Jenny had a great idea when she suggested you create your own channel as a care giver. We are here for you as well as for Jenny. You talked about feeling so much pressure because you have a mountain of things to take care of. I have found it helpful to take care of one thing at a time and try not thinking about everything at once. Will you have substitute teachers taking you class while you and Jenny are in San Diego? Can some of the legal necessities be taken care of remotely, online, digital signatures etc.? I also learned some time ago not to focus on perfection. You don't need that self inflicted pressure. Jenny just wants to have quality time doing simple things with you and Winnie and Ellis every single day, and it doesn't have to be perfect. I know you are hurting because I know you and Jenny are Soulmates. Not everyone has a marriage like yours, and you are truly blessed to have been able to experience this sublime love. My heart is breaking for all that you guys are going through. I will keep praying for you and your family.
Kyle--So many of us out here are at a loss for words. But, you all have an army of prayer warriors for sure !! And with the prayers let us all together hold onto the hope of the new treatment adding more precious time for you all. For this moment--one day at a time, certainly easier said than done....but your awesome and amazing support system is never going to allow anything to go unchecked. Please feel all these prayers and love going out to you Kyle..Go and give Jenny,Ellis and Winnie the coziest afternoon you can. Tucking you in my prayers as we speak. Miracles still happen. Love to all.xoxo
It's just heartbreaking! But never forget, you have the largest sounding board out here that ever existed!!! Feel free to unload your fears at any time, right here! We love you, and feel such heartache for you. Take it easier on yourself and let YOURSELF enjoy each moment left with your sweet family.
Kyle, You are the most wonderful husband any girl could ever have! Memory loss is part of being overwhelmed and you are surely overwhelmed. So many of us have watched you be loving and supportive. Jenny is so lovely and loving and just so strong. Cancer is a horrible disease and it saddens me how many people still die from this disease. You are not alone in this because so many of us are here for you. I pray for you both every day. Keep reaching out because we want to keep staying by your side
Sweetie. All you can do at this point in life is to just love her. Be there for her and your kids. Make as many memories as you can. Take one day at a time. Take time to breath. Pray and talk to God. He is there with you through all this. You are an amazing man and father.
Kyle stop!!!!! Take a deep breath. I totally get where you’re coming from. I did this for my mom my sister and hubby all 3 passed from cancer. What your going thru is soooiooo hard and you have a lot of weight on your shoulders. You have to take care of your self as well. I want you to pray and Jesus to take this wheel while you take care of daily stuff. You need a time to let all this out. And if that means to cry scream what ever it takes. We are all praying for you 🙏. And praying for Jenny to be healed. It’s hard I know hon and you are in a very dark area. Keep talking to us. We are here for you all. Much love ❤️ and prayers for you Jenny and your beautiful babies
Kyle, don’t beat yourself up, you are doing everything you can, Jenny knows she is loved. This is hard, my heart goes out to you, Jenny and your family. Yes, give yourself Grace, you are there for Jenny and your kids.
Kyle, anytime you need to vent, we’re here. It much better to let it out. You were the most real you have ever been. I feel so blessed that you trusted us with your venting. Just one magic word. I wish there was just one that I could say to help ease your pain. We love you, Jenny and the children more than you could know. ❤❤❤❤
I’ve lived w my husband for 40 yrs. I met him when his first wife died of cancer. He had two boys at the time age 3n 4, you will meet someone nice to you cuz you’re so caring. Your kids will be ok, god exists, thank you
I lost my when I was 9 yrs. My dad raised his 4 children by himself, he never remarried, quote “I could never love another like I did your mother”. I’m eternally grateful for my father, he tried to make all our memories of our mom happy, loving, beautiful we had her as long as we did. I was very close to her, I was devastated, if it weren’t for my dad’s loving nature, I’m sure we would have turned out differently. He’s passed on now, 27 yrs to the day she passed he went on to join her. It’s a real love story for sure. Reminds me of you and your family. Love is powerful. ❤ I’m sharing a micro snippet from a child’s perspective. Jenny is a beautiful person. You are all better for having her to love and she love you. ❤ my continued prayers for your family in healing, strength and peace of mind ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
It must have been very lonely for your dad to have lost his partner. Happy that he managed well and that all of his children were raised and well cared for. Kyle will understand that he has to do the same for his children and although he doesn’t want “to do this alone,” (no one does) he can and will bring his children up happy and healthy and run a loving home . I hope he sees your comment and hears how well your dad managed his family. It might give him hope.
I lost my Dad when I was 17 and my beautiful.. strong Mom raised 4 daughters by herself and never remarried either. And she would always say I’ll never love anyone like I loved your Dad too❤️ it’s so sad my Mom was 43 when he passed. She passed in 2019 at the age of 84. Just had to mention this because it is so familiar. I feel so bad for Jenny and her family🙏🏻❤️❤️
Oh my heart breaks for you all. My Mother in law passed away with Lung Cancer. It was so hard watching her going through that. I’m praying that Jennifer beats all odds with this treatment. God Bless 🙏🏻❤️
Kyle. You are perfect to Jenny. You are perfect to your children. The relationship you both have is amazing and you’re doing an AMAZING job. Take a few deep breaths. It’s okay to break down and cry. You are human. I will always lift you Jenny and your kids in prayer 🙏. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. Sending you and your family a virtual hug.
I know it’s not much comfort right now, but just take one day at a time…one hour at a time. Treasure every minute of love you find and make together doing the little things together. It will help you, Kyle. We love you out here❤️
Kyle I’m sorry about Jenny’s prognosis. We all love you both and the kids very much and we will all be here for you and Jenny whenever you need us , even if it’s just to vent your frustrations ❤❤❤❤
Kyle- I went through this with my husband. Overwhelming to think about the “what if’s” - and “why us?” The unknown future is daunting. You are amazing. You need to address some things in the future- but it’s the now that you’re living in. When I would get overwhelmed- I’d say, “God, I can’t do this alone- help me” and feel peace in His presence. I’m praying- This whole community is praying 🙏❤️🙏❤️
Kyle you are truly incredible. Jenny and the kids are so lucky to have you. I know you are overwhelmed right now but despite everything you radiate joy and peace with how you care for your family. Know that you are loved and admired by all of us who watch.
i feel ur worries..i feel what ur going thru..my wife was sick for the past 6 years..in and out of emerge..she was diabetic and had many health problems..she sadly passed away June 14, 2022 after 16 wonderful years together..
You are in Jenny's life because you are just perfect for all she needs. All she needs is you and the children. Thats her golden bucket life right to the end.
The first thing I thought after my wife passed was I wished I could have one more conversation with her .I was so so stressed about every little detail that I forgot about what's most important..Four months after diagnosis is not a lot of time to prepare for losing your soulmate ..I had to figure it out fast..My heart goes out to you sir. Also don't forget about self love during this process..I turned to alcohol for a brief moment that I definitely would not suggest but you need a constructive way to vent the pressure and stress that will build up..
@stacey821 your comment is perfect- he and their children ARE her bucket list. That's it. And you WILL survive this, Gods Grace WILL MEET YOU THERE. 💕🙏🏼
You're a rock Kyle. The pressure on you is obviously immense. You're doing all the right things. Know that there are ppl thinking about you and everything you're going through.
Kyle, my heart is with you and Jenny. I am glad you feel you can share your thoughts and feelings with us. We hear you and how I wish I lived there to help and support. Prayers from Norfolk VA.
My heart breaks for you. I lost my husband to a terminal disease and I was his caregiver. I know what you are going through. Praying for you all. God Bless. ❤️
I feel the hardest part of end of life is the doctors still pushing treatments to the last breath that dont really help. Ive seen it with many family members. Sometimes the late stage treatments shorten life due to complications or infections. Its up to each person, but maybe its time to think about relieving that added stress, bringing on a palliative team and just enjoying the rest of her days. Palliative care has their own team of doctors and nurses with resources of support for the whole family. They step in and really help in so many ways ❤
I agree with you so much. It seems so cruel to put these families through another treatment, and all the money all the hope that was never going to be realized. I completely hate big Pharma.
Very true. All of this “fighting” for a few weeks of pain and suffering is often exhausting and heartbreaking for everyone concerned. Keeping your loved one free of pain and surrounded with love, is often the greatest gift to give. The patient needs to know that their loved ones will be able to manage and bring up the children with oodles of love and support. Kyle is in early days but I do hope that he knows this and gives Jenny the reassurance that she so desperately needs.
I’ve watched every single minute on every single video of each of your channels and I’m just catching up with this one that I must’ve missed somewhere along the way. She’s been gone over four months now and you are living your new normal. A terrible, unfair, painful, new normal but you are doing it. Every minute. Every hour. Every day. You are doing it. ❤Your baby bear loves you and will see you again.
I just went through your exact experience with my wife. Everything you are experiencing resonates with me. Cancer diagnosis, , chemotherapy, radiation, imunnotherapy, LMD (death sentence), proton therapy. I set monthly goals. She was diagnosed in December 2022, January we went to Chicago, February we went to Jamaica, March we went to NYC to see her brother and our son (& treatment at Sloan Kettering), April to Cancun with our daughter. She was very happy to have these opportunities and I will always cherish the moments. I was the primary caregiver and watched her die a little bit everyday. My prayers are with you.
Kyle, just a little thought - I want you to know, as the cancer patient, that Jenny doesn’t need you to make every occasion count, and every moment to be special etc. she just needs to spend each day with the ones she loves, taking one day at a time. No one’s life’s is filled with perfect moments. I know you feel the pressure but please don’t put that on yourself. Your love for her, and the fact that she can count on your love and care for your children going forward is everything she needs. I promise. This is how I feel; I have learnt this.
I'm a cancer patient and the guilt I feel I dont say no to the plans made for us all has a family,I go along with it.
You are so right.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️
Just want to echo what you said. As a another cancer patient, the only thing I really cared about during treatment (and now), was spending time with my kids and grandchildren. It doesn't matter what they're doing. Ordinary things seem extra-ordinary, and my greatest joy is just watching them and deeply savoring even seemingly mundane things. Everyday moments are the most cherished treasures.
My son just went through this with his wife.
Jenny will tell you what she wants to do. All my daughter in law wanted was to spend as much time with her husband and children as she could. All you need to do is follow her lead.
You are strong. You and Jenny are amazing.
Sending all my prayers.
I have a few suggestions…
1. Take some time to make molds of her hands. One for each of you. When she has the energy do crafts with the kids. Those moments are the ones that matter in the end.
2. Get a voice recorder and have Jenny tell stories of her life. Being able to go back and hear her voice will be a treasure.
3. As hard as it will be, plan her memorial with her. Talk about the songs she would want, then flowers that are meaningful. What does she want others to know.
4. Make a Google document with a list of the things that need to be done. Share that with people that can help you. They will be able to look at the list and not need to ask you. If there are things that you want to do put some type of marking next to those items. Make a second one for Jenny to put things she wants to do. Her list will change as time goes by and this will let her make changes to the list on her own.
5. Have Jenny to write a letter, or record on a recorder, anything she would want to tell the kids on those important moments.
Please know there will come a moment (or a few) where she will try to push people away. She is going to morn losing her life, losing the ability to be there for the kids. She will feel guilty that she is hurting the people she loves, even tho it is not her fault. In those moments just hug her. Don’t take it personal, she loves you! Mentally we think that if we make our loved ones angry or push them away, it won’t hurt as bad when the time comes.
Try your best to live in the moment. Do what you can today, & try not to stress about tomorrow. I know that is easier said then done. Just realize the the time you focus on tomorrow is time you are not here today. The things you think are the bucket list items are not really the bucket list. In the end holding your hand or giving you a hug, play with the kids, singing songs, cooking food, etc are the moments that will matter.
I am praying for y’all! I know Jenny will fight because she loves you all with her whole heart! 🫶🏼
Such beautiful suggestions❤️
Wonderful suggestions❤
DEFINITELY Do The Hand Molds! ❤
I completely agree with you and as a hospice carer I so hope Kyle and/or Jenny and family and close friends see your post… I know for sure your suggestions will be incredibly helpful to all of their close support network… thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and kindness for posting @ChicMom❤
Clearly you’ve been through hard times, bug hugs to you as well. 😔
I lost my best friend and wife of twenty years three nights ago to multiple organ failure. Hurts like heck. My prayers for you and your family.
I know what u r going through. I been diagnosed with cancer stage 4. I am praying for your family. I have 6 months to live.
Rip
I hope you are still here
Your new word: DELEGATE. Ask your wife’s sister and her parents to get the info, talk to the lawyers to get legal stuff done, talk to your job about things….have her family take the kids during the new treatment. Have them do all those things. Delegate.
YOU focus on loving your family and getting her to appointments. That’s it. Prayers to you always.
I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that just 14 hours after you posted this vlog that 120,000 people showed up for you. We will keep showing up and will be here for you and your family. Sending love from Wisconsin.
Don’t worry about the future. Gods already taking care of that. I lost my best friend . Married fifty years. God will give u the strength.
Kyle, it is unreal how your life now is mirroring mine. Not currently but it is unreal. I have two boys who are grown now and they lost their mother to cancer as well. I fought just as hard as you are and it was unreal. I have one thing to say you can do this. Just stop and breathe. Every time you feel anything negative just breathe. My boys were small when we were going through this and it was hard on them as well. I had support but at night when it was just us was the hardest. They missed their mommy so much. I think they still miss her. They are both grown with their own families and very successful. Although it seems that it is bad now you will get through this. Just be prepared for a lot of pain and sorrow. I raised my boys alone and it was hard but we did it. We got through it. I know you don't want to hear this now but its true. You will get through it. You will find yourself doing the things that she did. Its something that you can do. I feel a that kinship with you and I wish I could speak with you. It helps sometimes to talk to someone who has been through this. I will continue to fo!low you and pray for you. I will be here if you would like to reach out. I love ya bro and you are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. Until next time.
This is such an inspiring and altruistic comment...
Sit here with tears in my eyes😢 I am so sad that you and your boys had to go trough this..
Send you love❤
I hope Kyle reaches out to you. ❤ such strength and similarity. Bless you.
For you and your sons and Kyle ❤❤❤❤
How kind and thanks for sharing your story!
Kyle I am old enough to be your Mom. Can I just say, the pride in my heart as a Mom for you is so huge. You have held the earth up. Please give yourself grace. As a outsider watching you & Jenny, your love for your wife& your children is so strong. Your little moments in your car are so very precious. Oh you are so perfect in each others eyes. Your doing it Kyle. I’m so proud of you, I could only hope to have someone just like you in our family. You are a wonderful gift to all the people closest to your heart❤
This is beautiful😢😢😢💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏
Yes well said indeed. I'm in total agreement with you and i'm seventy. This is such a wonderful family love connectio isn't it wow so so sad 😢
@@mariecleo214Thankyou so much for your beautiful words
Amen to that!!
Such lovely words✨💫
I was a caregiver for 7 years for my husband. Don’t look at the calendar. Don’t count the days. Take each day as it comes. Minute by minute. You are right to take notes. I have forgotten so many things to this day. Ask for help when you need it. Big Texas size hug for you
You haven’t lost her. She’s right there. I’ve lived through my mom’s battle with cancer, my battle with cancer, and my husband has survived four bouts with cancer. I know exactly how you feel right now. But I’m in my late 60s and if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s this: we only have today. You don’t know what is going to happen, and you don’t know what God is going to do. I was mourning the loss of my husband when he had only seven months to live. That was 14 years ago. He had a miraculous recovery from stage 4 metastatic melanoma. So all I can say is enjoy today and don’t think about tomorrow because none of us knows what tomorrow will bring.
What a beautiful response. Thank you so much for sharing this. God works miracles and it can happen. God Bless you and your family and God bless this family as well. ❤
Wise and compassionate response. So true. Thank you for reminding us.
Kj 😮kids 😮
As a survivor of 4-stage cancer, my husband and I were where you are right now. That was over 40 years ago, and I'm still here. Nobody can understand the struggle that you go through, except those of us who have been there. However, everyone's experience is different, and we really can't put ourselves in your position. Kyle, all I can say to you is, you don't walk alone, God is walking with you and is giving you strength. Please hold on to your faith and keep a stiff upper lip. We're all praying for you and Jenny. God bless you!
omg really that’s amazing xx
Amen🙏🏻💗🕊
I'm so glad you testified of the truth to believe. I have a friend who also was miraculously healed of 4th stage colon cancer. But it required searching scriptures to see where she needed to repent.
She's thriving strong as an elderly woman and very healthy and active.
When I decided to also repent, I opened my Bible, made my list of sins, and confessed them to a wonderful person and spoke with my mouth, declaring, pronouncing by faith, I would be healed. GOD heard my faith and healed me one night as I slept.
He will do it for you also. He loves faith. Without faith, it is impossible to please Him. Take faith the size of a mustard seed. Seek His face. ❤
You have to be still and pray. Be still and listen to God and let him take the reins. He has her in hands. There is nothing but his love for you and Jenny. Make many videos of you and Jenny that be shown for you and your children at a later date. We do not know the time or hour. Ask for God for help. He does provide.
@@sandybeach2135 don’t give false hope
How does a woman find a guy like you? You are so incredibly kind and helpful to sweet Jenny! I am so sorry the two of you are going through this. I lost my mom as a teenager and when she was gone we had no one ! Our father was a drunk and didn't care. Your kids are so lucky to have you! Remember that!
Love U LOVE your WIFE so deep- U R special
Exactly the same
God BLESS YOUR FAMILY MY PRZYERS ARE WITH ALL OF YOU PLEASD KEEP YOUR SPIRITS UP EVEN THOHGHT ITS SO HARD BUT YOU ARE A WONDERFUL FAMILY PLEASE ALWAYS STAY HOPEFUL AND NEVER FORGET THE WONDERFUL TIMES YOUVE HAD! SHE DESERVES ALL TNE HOPE AND PRSYERS THERE ARE MY HEARTS WITH YOU GJYS AALWAYS 😂
He's a good husband. He's no superhero! Just let him love Jenny ,,as he's SUPPOSED to do!! If the rest of you have rubbish husbands, I feel sorry for you. In reality, I feel sorry, for so many of your husbands and partners ,because so many of you have so little love and respect for them!!! HOW can you expect THEM to show you unconditional love to YOU, when YOU show NONE of that to THEM!! Many, many rubbish, unloving wives and girlfriends here.......I refuse to believe that ALL your husbands are so uncaring........try loving them the way YOU SHOULD!! Hypocrites!!
My husband is every bit as loving to me as Kyle is to Jenny, maybe even more so. He shows, and tells me, every single day just how much he loves me. AND I SHOW AND TELL HIM!!!!! Try showing some love and respect yourselves. You get back what you give out.
@@jacqueline8559i agree with you.
you don't need to be perfect for you're wife, just be present. She knows you love and adore her and you are doing a great job!
Perfectly said !
Stage 4 here too.
I was given a time line too...
Love is all you need. Support her. One day at a time" one min to one hour, someday, seriously.♡
Do today, do now.. Love every moment.
Theres no perfect in this situation.Pace yourself.
Love and light
Mary
Have you not seen the level of perfection she expects from him?
All I can say is that your mother did an amazing job of raising such a compassionate and loving man, who in turn is a wonderful husband and father. I truly believe that even though you will go through many hard times ahead as a single father, you will never fail to let your children know how much they are loved. I'm sure that your female family members will step in to help with Winnie and with advice when it is needed.
Just remember that it is completely normal to be feeling all of the emotions you are going through right now. 😢🙏
❤
💯. Kyle and the kids will never be alone, as they have such a strong, supportive family. He's going to have a tough couple of years, but love will get them through.
Yes agree 💯
Yes kyle
Prayers for you and your family. Let God lead the way.
Hi Kyle, Lost my husband to small cell lung cancer in 2008. Our son was in high school. Some of the best times where when we just hung out at home watching movies etc. I went to great lengths to plan what I knew would be our last vacation and it wasn't worth it. The small moments at home all of us together were the best and the memories that comforted me. You need to take time for yourself to relax because you can't help her if you are overwhelmed. Keep things simple and enjoy the time you have. Don't try to be perfect because that is not necessary. Praying for you all.
Same here, same diagnosis to small cell carcinoma. She smoked heavily, then stopped. I was out on the road as a trucker when she began this journey! Emory said she needed a lung, so she said, then my health began to fail. On my birthday she called me because of a reaction to her B/P medicine, then it was a mass in her lung, all at another hospital. They did a biopsy, and afterwards a tentative date. September of 2016, she drew her last breath. When I saw Kyle like this, I felt helpless all over again. I'm so sorry, I don't know what else to say or to do! 😪😥🙏🙏
My father lost his beautiful wife, my mother in March 1969. She was only 49. I say this, because for the first time in my life and your generosity in sharing your experiences with the world I feel I can understand what he must have REALLY gone through. It forever changed him, of course but he managed to raise me alone. You’re incredibly strong;
Asking for help is an admirable thing to do!
As a grief counselor, I can say that the most cherished moments that people have are the everyday at home time with loved ones.
That's what I missed the most when my husband became sick. It wasn't the big things, I cried when I didn't have to meet him after work and talk about our day on the ride home. I don't know why it was so special, but it was. I miss it still.
Kyle, as a woman, I can honestly say that I've NO doubt that just being with you is making every day count. You are amazing just being you, that's all Jenny needs & I'll say you are doing more than just a damn fine job! YOU & the kids are all she needs hon. God bless you all ❤🙏🏻
So beautifully said!
Just being with her, supporting her, driving her to appointments and treatments is the greatest gift. She is not dealing with this alone. Having your best friend by your side makes everything possible.
@TwinKarma1 bolujem od cancera bubrega, desnog nemam. Lijevi napadnut kao i debelo crijevo, zeludac i jetra. Takodje sam imala infarkt. Muz me napustio 2 dana prije operativnog zahvata. Moje stijene i oslonac su kcerka i sin. Takodje i familija mi puno pomaze.
Imam crne i veoma teske dane ali nisam klonula duhom. Bog jedino zna do kada je moje vrijeme i zahvalna sam na svakom danu koji docekam ziva
Kyle, I am so worried because we haven't seen Jenny in 6 days. Yes, I check every day. You guys have become part of our families. This may sound strange since we have never met in person, but because you have opened your hearts and vulnerabilities to us, we feel as if we've known you for years. Well, we are all connected, and we are all a part of one great big human family. Jenny, you, Ellis, and Winnie are always in my prayers. We love you all. God be with you.
They deserve time together without filming everything. Give them the space and grace to have that precious time......
@@jacqueline8559I don’t think she meant if that way..she was just explaining that she worries because she feels so connected..so it was an innocent comment..
When my husband got to point in his cancer journey where we knew he wasn’t going to beat it without a miracle our doctor said something that really helped. He said “do you want to spend the rest of your days doing through medical procedures, test and treatments that aren’t going to make a difference and will only give you a little extra time… maybe… or would you rather spend those final days with those you love making whatever memories you can?” He told us to go home and make memories and spend time with loved ones. I am thankful for his words…
Yes. I couldn’t agree more. MD Anderson told my friend the same thing. She chose to go home to her children and spent the next month with them. She did not want any more treatments that would only make her worse.
I think at times we think that by not doing SOMETHING we are giving up hope. This is not true, I never gave up on the possibility of a miracle and prayed for it. Unfortunately we did not get that miracle but I know that my husband is whole and healed now because he is in his heavenly body. This doesn’t mean I didn’t and still don’t grieve but it makes it a bit easier knowing where he is. ❤️
I’ve always felt that if I got any kind of diagnosis like that I would
Do as many natural
Things as possible like canabis, vitamin c drips, rife machine, budwig but wouldn’t do any of these harsh treatments to prolong would just go off and manifest and live in the moment as much as humanly possible unless I’m too I’ll to function. I just wouldn’t want to know. I read aboht a women who went off on a final holiday once and just drank coconuts as it was all she could handle and she had a miracle and never died and now runs a business making coconut products. My friends dad also rejected all treatment to extend and is still here 7 years after a 6 month ish diagnosis
@@ExplorewithSarahlouise Just know these “natural” remedies are usually a hoax. You have better odds taking the oncologist’s advice. Yes I have a cancer diagnosis and gladly took Chemo and radiation.
True. I was very mindful of not expecting my husband to “fight” and “beat the deadline” when we knew we had to accept his forthcoming death. I wanted him to have the peace of mind of knowing that whatever life threw at our children and me, that we would always be able to take it on the chin and manage, in his honor.
We were not so codependent like Kyle and Jenny but we met at school and for over thirty years we were friends, lovers, life partners, parents and a darn good team. I miss him very very much but our children are doing well, they’re happy, healthy and have great prospects in their lives.
We manage. It’s very hard, sometimes it seems impossible, but we just get up and take each day as it comes, don’t we?
I do it for the love of my husband and our families.
Time for Kyle to put on his big boy pants. Children are going to need to feel safe, comforted and happy from day one. I wish him all the best.
I’m crying as I watch this.
I lost my best friend too.
Cancer as well.
It’s so freaking hard. I’m not going to lie or sugarcoat it.
We had a good good love and I’m sending all of you a gentle hug.
You all will be ok. The love never goes away.
I'm crying too 😭 I lost my sister she was a smoker . Doesn't seem right that a non smoker would suffer this .
Love always remains. I am sending you guys all my love, from Croatia, Europe.
You two have been in survival mode for over 2 years, it is exhausting! But, the love you show each other and your children is incredible!
Kyle, I also have lung cancer so I can say this.....Don't worry and beat yourself up so much about making every day special. When you are faced with this just being alive and with your loved ones makes every day so very special already....you don't need to worry about "stuff" or trips so much....just love each other every day as much as you can.
Kyle you maybe could also benefit from a prescription of Ativan like your wife has for those moments where your anxiety is taking over.
@@SANDRA-ez4icthis is a great idea! I do understand he wants to be on point for Jenny and he seems like the type of guy to try and take on everything "naturally" but it couldn't hurt. a low dose for the most stressful moments.
Kyle, My grandfather had cancer. They gave him about 6 mos. He lived another 9 yrs. Drs. don't know for sure. They are not God. You and Jenny and kids have all my prayers. I believe that God gives miracles and he will take care of Jenny. He did to my grandfather. Love to you all.
I saw the title of this and my heart dropped to my toes. Heartbreaking. Know you have a lot of people all around the world praying for you and your family during this incredibly difficult time. We love you all ❤❤
This breaks my heart! So sorry for both of you! My Husband is battling stage four cancer right now. Sending Prayers!
So sorry
Kyle, as a retired hospice nurse, having taken care of many patients including family, I can only tell you what I have said to many families who were where you are right now. Each day is precious but what it makes it precious are the hugs, kisses, I love you and time together. It cannot be perfect, it's life and it will be so difficult for you to find happiness and smiles if you put constant pressure on yourself. Sometimes knowing your time is short, makes it more valuable. As Jen has said, it could be longer. Her pain will be controlled and she will be kept comfortable because that's what Hospice does. Never be hesitant to ask for help. People want to help because they care and it gives them comfort.
One day at a time, take care of you so you can take care of her and the babies. Go to God for comfort and reassurance. You will be in my prayers and please, if you need to talk, I am available any time. Ann Ellis
They’re not using hospice yet. I don’t think they’re even having at home palliative care. I wish they would!
Beautifully said. ❤
@annellis9108 I absolutely love ur comment!!!!!! Amen!!!!!
❤Kyle YOU ARE PERFECT JUST AS YOU ARE. Your lives are filled with love for each other & your children.Ask for help with other stuff, people want to help you! Putting pressure on yourself will exhaust you. It is all so unfair that this is happening. Cry, laugh, punch pillows as needed, there is no wrong way just do what helps you both to keep treading water. Every day will be different but special in it's own way. You & Jenny are such a kind and loving couple.What could I do to help?
I will pray and send hugs across the country.Please give yourself a break and give Jenny a gentle hug from me Blessings always to all.❤❤
@@Anastashya: hospice is best when entered early. Same with palliative care. They could help with social workers who are specialists in working with children (and adults). Pain management, bathing, spiritual all incisive helping walk this journey. You all are my my ❤❤
Every moment Jenny has and has had with you and the children has counted. Never forget that. God bless you, Kyle.
A friend of mine that passed away from her second bout with breast cancer when her daughter was 4 years old, wrote her birthday cards for every year until she turns 35. I can’t imagine the strength it took to do this and I’m sure her daughter treasures them every year. 🙏❤️
WOW!!!! That's beautiful. I imagine that her 35th birthday is going to be heartbreaking though..I just hope she isn't dreading turning 35 due to this or counting down how many years of cards are left...
No tiene que saber que la última será a los 35 años
@@Deakybean181 Not really, quite the opposite actually. At some point, children have to learn to let go of their parents so that's part of the process her mom made sure of. Also, the mom was probably 35 herself when passing so she couldn't have written about the age beyond that because she didn't have personal experience of it. So how could she write about being 40, 50 etc.? She basically stuck to what she knew of and when the daughter gets to said age herself she will feel at peace and she'll know it's her time to be on her own after that. Plus, the mom probably wrote something really special in that 35th birthday card giving her a proper goodbye and therefore closure.
@@Deakybean181it doesn’t matter. By then she will be grown and understand. She will know that there are 35. Focus on the beauty of it.
Yes it is alot. Wow. Sending love.
I don't know where life has taken you since you posted this video. But sir, I am 65 years old, and I have found myself struggling with a lot in my life. But you, sir, is the strongest man I have ever watched. You never seem to give up. You put yourself out there in your most vulnerable time. You always put your wife and your children first. You don't run away from your responsibilities. And I have the utmost respect for you. You, sir, are the epitome of what a husband and father should be. You are writing a playbook for other young men to follow. I wish I could do more, I wish I could be financially supportive, but I can't. All I can do is pray for you all and give you my support. God bless you all. You will be a great father and friend to your children.
I want life forever
Beautifully written
Well said!!
I suffer from severe depression and I haven’t enjoyed life in over a decade. I live a very poor life. I wish I could somehow transfer my body to Jenny because I know she’d do so much good with it. I don’t understand why the best people on earth are afflicted with terminal diseases like this. It’s just heartbreaking.
To Kyle, I wish everyone on earth could have a companion like you. I have never seen anyone (man or woman) that is so compassionate, supportive, and truly kind. People like you are very rare. I’m so so sorry you’re facing this. It’s maddening how unfair this is.
❤❤ I truly agree. Jenny is extremely lucky to have Kyle as her life partner.
Don’t give up on yourself. These days are difficult but the grace in facing the darkness is a reminder that you’ve been through it before and will come through it again. That is a promise.❤
I'm so sorry you have depression I've suffered with it too. I'm feeling better now it will come and go throughout my life but I'm so grateful for the wonderful joy of life of all the beautiful things in it and the people that are caring and compassionate in my life. Try to appreciate each and every day, go out and smell the flowers, and appreciate the rain. There are also many wonderful partners out there that I've observed with real love and respect for their other half. I refuse to be bogged down by negativity. Life is incredibly short and incredibly precious.
Jennie IS blessed to have you as her husband. The care, love and attention you give surely provides a sense of security for her and your children. Many times we feel inadequate for the situation, but God chose YOU for Jennie. God is with you!!
Kyle, as others have said, Jenny doesn’t need a bucket list, she just wants to be with you and the children. Don’t add additional pressure to yourself. I will tell you that your love and devotion to Jenny is absolutely amazing. Some never experience that, that is your gift. I wish the world were full of the kind of love you share. What a paradise it would be. You are amazing, she loves you as much as you love her. It’s heartbreaking to listen to all you are all going through. My heart breaks for all of you. ❤
Kyle, thank you for giving us a look into the caretakers version. My mom died at 41 leaving my dad as a single parent. He wasnt perfect but he did the very best he could. The main thing was that we knew we were loved. Never! stop telling your kids how much they are loved. My love and prayers are with you Kyle as you go through this new experience. You and the kids are all Jenny truly needs right now ❤
As a stage 4 cancer patient. I don’t have my family around me, I’m doing this all alone. Believe me, as a dying patient I don’t want video moments. I wish I just had my family near me. Just me and them. Don’t worry about ur viewers, just be with her and kids. Nothing else or anyone else matters. Live ur life at full tilt. 🙏🏻💜 take time for yourself. As a caregiver u need time and space. You got this as a dad…just be still and let God lead you. Family will carry you through.
I’m sorry you don’t have support around you. ❤
So sorry for you😢 send you love❤
So sorry you're facing your cancer alone. Thinking of you.
❤I'm sorry you don't have the support you deserve. I'm sending you a big hug and love.
Your not alone you have us ❤❤ hang in there 🥺
“One thing you’ve never been short of is love” That’s all you need. You are a wonderful man Kyle. You are doing better than anyone I can imagine. Sending much love to you, Jenny and your beautiful children.
In Jenny's own words just being together sleeping together is what makes her feel the best. Having you guys around is what makes things perfect. Don't try to change things....try to keep things as normal as possible and it's the time you spend together that means the most.
Great advice, yes, this is what Jenny said she wants. ❤
@@User79344”I love family bedtime”. ❤
I lost my husband of 20 years and my BEST friend 3 yrs ago. We are never the same. It’s just a breath at a time some moments. Prayers, love, strength to you all. Listen to your gut and you WILL continue to “hear her” in your mind’s eye when it’s her time. Doctors aren’t always right. Hugs to you all. 🙏🏻💚
My Beautiful Wife Jan 2years 8 months ago and like you all did everything together also. Nine of our lives will. Be changed forever without our Loves God Bless Kyle ,You and everyone on this page.
I’m so sorry for your loss honey
I’m so sorry Kyle. May God comfort you, Jenny, and your precious children.
Amen. To that❤
Your mom raised you and you are a great guy , Kyle. I bet she feels like she didn't do things perfectly either. You will be there for your kids when they need you. You don't have to figure out your whole life today.
Making each moment special is as simple as Jenny said, cuddle up and treasure those moments. She didn't want to go to Hawaii, she wanted to snuggle with you and your little ones. Do that and you all will have THOSE special moments ❤😢
not with that clinical trial going on she will be sicker !
@@inka87871 and she would STILL be able to snuggle with her family. She did during other treatments when she was sick.
@@inka87871she’s not in one now. She’s doing the proton therapy
I lost my husband 6yrs ago. I know how overwhelming these days are. My advice is to take all the time you need to be with your wife and children. Don't worry about anything else
Try not to stress about “perfect memories”. Jenny will make the memories for you and the kids. Ask her what she wants to do, relax and follow her lead!
I lost my sister 23 years ago leaving 4 small children the youngest was a baby, you don’t need a bucket list you just need to be together, I’m sure Jenny would agree. The most precious moments will be remembering you altogether as a family. My sisters children grew up to be very caring and special people, never forgetting their Mom, I know she is still watching over them.
I just want you to know, as a former certified Hospice Specialist, when the time comes, utilize them to the fullest. It's their job to take the weight off of your hands as far as the comfort care measures, and caretaking, so that you may spend quality time with your loved one. It makes an enormous difference. As usual, I am praying for you to continue being strong as you have, obviously Jenny and the children are deeply in our thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
So sad 😞 this happened to your sweet family. I’ve been watching your videos non stop. Thank you both for sharing your story. Praying for you and the sweet babies. Jenny is missed. ❤
Kyle I am praying for you & Jenny. I am 49 years old and my husband is 51 years old. 25 years ago he developed severe rare kidney disease called: FSGS. He has had two kidney transplants, dialysis, skin cancer reconstruction and removal over 50 times, Plasmapherisis 3x week, Vertigo, Bells Palsey, 6th Nerve Palsey, Sepsis, kidney rejection, multiple mini strokes (TIA), Covid 19, asthma, C Diff twice with hospitalization, it goes on and on. What I want to say here is that our son was 6 months old when he first started dialysis. Our son is now 20. He has been through a lot but has been so resiliant. I have had Crohn's Disease for 30 years. As a caregiver for my husband I know how you are feeling. There were so many times where the doctors prepared me for his death but then he beat the odds. This for a caregiver causea PTSD big time. There is so much pressure that we put on ourselves as caregivers. I have been told so many times by professionals that it can be mucb harder on the caregiver than the person who is sick.
Please take deep breaths, take only ONE day at a time. That was the BEST advice ever given to me by the renal transplant Social Workers.
Always take time for yourself. You will feel very guilty but you have to do it. Ask your family for help.
Much love to you all from Canada.
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I went through this with my wife. Be strong for her. Love her. Spend every minute with her.
Praying for strength and courage for you Kyle . I was widowed with two children at 34 . I found that it was the children that carried you through - you have to be mum & dad , but sixth sense jumps in many times to help . Small consolidation you have the time to love and talk , it’s not a sudden death . Take any offers of help gracefully, any task you can unload , do so . Try & be kind to yourself too . X
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Kyle, please give yourself some grace. This is truly a horrible thing for your family. Take time to pray and breathe and just be there. That's all that you need to do. Just be there. My Dad died from colon cancer in 1999 and it angers me so much that a cure hasn't been found for cancer yet. All my love and prayers for each and every one of you! Phillippians 4:6-7 NLT - Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
Kyle, so many men have upped and abandoned their sick wives. So you can be very proud of yourself. It can be so overwhelming, forget about bucket lists, nothing is more important than being there for Jenny, and the comfort she gets from knowing your children are in safe loving hands.
God bless you
I wish you would be able to meet Taylor odlozil. He lives in Houston Texas. His wife Haley died on July 14,2023 from ovarian cancer at the age of 30. He has a son named Weston who is a bright young man. I am sure you would both have something in common. We all need love, security and support. This stuff makes us all shook up.
Kyle, you can count on your RUclips family to be “ the wind beneath your wings”. Thousands of us are praying for Jenny , you, Ellis and Winnie. This is an unbelievable support system for you. I’ve been a hospice nurse for many years and have never seen anything so beautiful. You are all teaching so many how to love and live through any adversity. Thank you! Please listen to Jenny when she says she just needs the family bed. She needs to just be with you and the children now as her strength wanes. Let her guide the memories now. Feel our love and prayers and know that we will all travel this road toward Eternal Life. 🙏😇💗🙏😇💗🙏😇💗
That’s beautiful 🙏
There isn’t much we can do except express kind words.
“Let her guide the memories”…that’s perfect❤️
Hospice is amazing and you are a special gift from God.😊😇😊😇
What a beautiful comment 💖💝🤍
We lost a daughter to cancer and when we reached the final stage and made plans to honor her wishes, some people thought it was morbid. I’m glad you are talking to each other and your children about this difficult situation. Prayers for all of you in this most challenging time. Take advantage of any help offered and ask for help if needed. 🙏🏼
Your decision is powerful and I will learn from it as will anyone who reads your words
I am so sorry for your loss.🙏
The only thing that is morbid is that dam cancer
It is no one elses business how you or your loved one deal with end of life decisions.
I’m sorry to hear about your daughter. God Bless her. Did you go with your plans to honor her regardless of what others thought? They have a issue with death. If not, try to move forward and do what you want and has meaning for you in your life.
When my children were younger, I always felt so pressured to please everyone at my spouse, children & my’s emotional expense, and somewhat financial expense. It was so stressful. Growing up, my parents had very few parties so I didn’t have much experience with them.
We have a modest, nice house….it can hold say 18/20 people for a party yet we always had so many more people because we felt pressured by family. Summertime- the yard was good. Some family members are laid back, others so negative and made sure to always give their unsolicited opinions. The happy events in our lives became time of arguing to each other and even bitterness prior to the big Christmas, birthdays or graduations. My kids were much younger than their cousins so never fit in with them. Now we don’t do the parties anymore. (We did most, since other family members didn’t even attempt them on both sides.) Now, the really surprising thing is, my family all do their own thing, his family (we are more close to)…..they HAVE gatherings for the holidays and we are not invited. Therefore, honor your daughter now at your home or grave site. Give yourself compassion and do what gives you comfort to get through the future days. I’ve learned to speak up and plan and include who I want to include. ❤ Peace.
as a perfectionist, after losing my ex husband, my best friend, and my daughters father, i’ve absolutely learned that perfection is a waste of time. life ends and after that, nothing is on you. prayers Kyle, 🙏🏻
@ Loren
Where u & Ur Husband Divorced when u Lost Him ⁉️
yes, but he was still my best friend @@michelemoyna2691
I’m so sorry you’re all going through this. I’m also a stage 4 kidney cancer patient at city of hope. I’m crying with you. I’m praying for you all. I’m so sorry 🙏🏻
Awww prayers do you have a you tube channel sharing your journey ❤
are u still alove bro
Awwwww, Kyle our hearts are breaking for you all. We are all keeping you in our prayers. 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😍😍😍😍😍😍😍🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Praying for all of you! 🙏 I can tell you my father had lung cancer and was given 2-3 months. He opted not to pursue treatment. He lived almost 10 months after being told. Hospice was great with helping keep him comfortable and supporting us as the caregivers. Just remember nothing has to be perfect and anytime spent together is a blessing. Prayers🙏
Don't know if Palliative care would be for you and Jenny. They could give you support and they don't discourage further treatment if desired .
My sister did the same with her breast cancer. She opted not to continue with any more treatment, as the outcome was inevitable. She wanted to spend her last days with her family and friends instead of treatment after treatment. I understood.
One day at a time, Kyle … you have done an amazing job in supporting Jenny and your kids. Never give up faith in God. Thousands of people are praying for Jenny’s full recovery. Love from Toronto, ON ❤️🇨🇦🙏🙏🙏🙏
When my husband was diagnosed with cancer. We was going through his treatments and one day he said to me. “I don’t have cancer, we have cancer”. I cared for him 24/7. We have no children together, he has two daughters and grandchildren. My one piece of the most important I can give, after been through this. You have to take care of YOU! You have too. Swallow your pride and ask for help from friends and family. Get enough sleep, eat well and take quiet time breaks. Step outside take some deep breaths and cry if you need to. I would call my brother who lives in another state. He was my rock when I needed someone to be strong for me. He would remind me how strong I am and how much my husband is blessed to have me. You are in my prayers. God loans us those we need and love for the period of time He feels is right. God Bless.
Kyle I lost my brother from diagnosis to his passing in 4 weeks. I lost my son, unexpectedly, a couple months later. I found that living in the moment with both of them is the best thing I could have done. I was with my brother to the end and I’m grateful for the time. I did struggle with memory issues and racing thoughts. Take notes and set reminders to stay on task. Just live in the moment… you have been an amazing caregiver, husband and father.
Omg ,I'm so sorry for your losses in such a short space of time ❤❤
@@gilliangoodman6362 thank you. It’s really a lot and it makes my heart go out to all that go through this.
My heart is breaking for you. These are your darkest times. Just breathe, Kyle. One foot in front of the other and one day at a time. You will raise your kids amazingly well. They are her legacy. Stay strong. Everyone is rooting for you guys. Sending love ❤
My dear Kyle,
When you said « I love my life, I love my wife and I love my children » I knew you will overcome your loss because you are able to cherish what Jenny gave you, taught you, and you are on the way to the acceptance of the fate you two have to face. And that you will be able to harvest the joy it also brings, will bring.
I lost my father to cancer and I felt honored that he let me be part of the journey till the last breath. My heart goes to you all four, your video is so true to the core that I couldn’t help but send you my respect and friendship. Jennifer from France.
You don't always have to be strong for your wife. It's ok to break down in front of her. She will understand and love you all the more.
I may not know what to say. I'm here listening to you from Texas. Kyle, you have alot of ears here listening. We are here for you and the family. Sending prayers,
😞 Kyle I am sorry. This video relates to exactly what I am going through as a partner of a stage 4 lung cancer patient. It feels like living in the Twilight zone and everyones voice is charlie browns teacher. Thank you for this video. You said the words that I couldn't come up with, but feel.🙏 For you. This is very hard listening to 😭
You have a whole community here to help you along the way. You don’t have to figure out the rest of your life today. I am praying hard for a miracle for all of you.
I feel for you Kyle. My mum died when I was 3. 7 children and all got separated. You will come out strong. With all your memories. Your children will be so proud of you. Always talk about her with them. My mum was never spoke about. Just keep strong. Your a good father x
Kyle, I was a Single Mother after losing my husband in a head on collision years ago. My girls were ages 7 and 4. It was very hard, but I had lots and lots of support from friends and neighbors. You will have that support as well. I feel your pain and frustration and all the feelings you expressed in this video. Jenny had a great idea when she suggested you create your own channel as a care giver. We are here for you as well as for Jenny. You talked about feeling so much pressure because you have a mountain of things to take care of. I have found it helpful to take care of one thing at a time and try not thinking about everything at once. Will you have substitute teachers taking you class while you and Jenny are in San Diego? Can some of the legal necessities be taken care of remotely, online, digital signatures etc.? I also learned some time ago not to focus on perfection. You don't need that self inflicted pressure. Jenny just wants to have quality time doing simple things with you and Winnie and Ellis every single day, and it doesn't have to be perfect. I know you are hurting because I know you and Jenny are Soulmates. Not everyone has a marriage like yours, and you are truly blessed to have been able to experience this sublime love. My heart is breaking for all that you guys are going through. I will keep praying for you and your family.
You are a beautiful person as well.
Kyle--So many of us out here are at a loss for words. But, you all have an army of prayer warriors for sure !! And with the prayers let us all together hold onto the hope of the new treatment adding more precious time for you all. For this moment--one day at a time, certainly easier said than done....but your awesome and amazing support system is never going to allow anything to go unchecked. Please feel all these prayers and love going out to you Kyle..Go and give Jenny,Ellis and Winnie the coziest afternoon you can. Tucking you in my prayers as we speak. Miracles still happen. Love to all.xoxo
It's just heartbreaking! But never forget, you have the largest sounding board out here that ever existed!!! Feel free to unload your fears at any time, right here! We love you, and feel such heartache for you. Take it easier on yourself and let YOURSELF enjoy each moment left with your sweet family.
Kyle, You are the most wonderful husband any girl could ever have! Memory loss is part of being overwhelmed and you are surely overwhelmed. So many of us have watched you be loving and supportive. Jenny is so lovely and loving and just so strong. Cancer is a horrible disease and it saddens me how many people still die from this disease. You are not alone in this because so many of us are here for you. I pray for you both every day. Keep reaching out because we want to keep staying by your side
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I just went through this with my sister, as her caregiver. Please know my prayers are with you, Jenny and your children. God Bless you.
Sweetie. All you can do at this point in life is to just love her. Be there for her and your kids. Make as many memories as you can. Take one day at a time. Take time to breath. Pray and talk to God. He is there with you through all this. You are an amazing man and father.
I lost my husband pancreatic cancer. I have 12 kids, it’s fast and brutal. I’m so sorry you and your family have to go through this.❤❤
Kyle stop!!!!! Take a deep breath. I totally get where you’re coming from. I did this for my mom my sister and hubby all 3 passed from cancer. What your going thru is soooiooo hard and you have a lot of weight on your shoulders. You have to take care of your self as well. I want you to pray and Jesus to take this wheel while you take care of daily stuff. You need a time to let all this out. And if that means to cry scream what ever it takes. We are all praying for you 🙏. And praying for Jenny to be healed. It’s hard I know hon and you are in a very dark area. Keep talking to us. We are here for you all. Much love ❤️ and prayers for you Jenny and your beautiful babies
Kyle, don’t beat yourself up, you are doing everything you can, Jenny knows she is loved. This is hard, my heart goes out to you, Jenny and your family. Yes, give yourself Grace, you are there for Jenny and your kids.
I have been in your shoes, I lost my husband to cancer. It was the worst 10 months of my life. So, I will keep you and your family in my prayers 🙏
this is f--ked losing someone so close and dear
Kyle, anytime you need to vent, we’re here. It much better to let it out. You were the most real you have ever been. I feel so blessed that you trusted us with your venting. Just one magic word. I wish there was just one that I could say to help ease your pain. We love you, Jenny and the children more than you could know. ❤❤❤❤
I’ve lived w my husband for 40 yrs. I met him when his first wife died of cancer. He had two boys at the time age 3n 4, you will meet someone nice to you cuz you’re so caring. Your kids will be ok, god exists, thank you
I lost my when I was 9 yrs. My dad raised his 4 children by himself, he never remarried, quote “I could never love another like I did your mother”. I’m eternally grateful for my father, he tried to make all our memories of our mom happy, loving, beautiful we had her as long as we did. I was very close to her, I was devastated, if it weren’t for my dad’s loving nature, I’m sure we would have turned out differently.
He’s passed on now, 27 yrs to the day she passed he went on to join her. It’s a real love story for sure. Reminds me of you and your family. Love is powerful. ❤
I’m sharing a micro snippet from a child’s perspective.
Jenny is a beautiful person. You are all better for having her to love and she love you. ❤ my continued prayers for your family in healing, strength and peace of mind ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
It must have been very lonely for your dad to have lost his partner. Happy that he managed well and that all of his children were raised and well cared for.
Kyle will understand that he has to do the same for his children and although he doesn’t want “to do this alone,” (no one does) he can and will bring his children up happy and healthy and run a loving home .
I hope he sees your comment and hears how well your dad managed his family. It might give him hope.
This made me cry 😢....yess your father was a great man!
I lost my Dad when I was 17 and my beautiful.. strong Mom raised 4 daughters by herself and never remarried either. And she would always say I’ll never love anyone like I loved your Dad too❤️ it’s so sad my Mom was 43 when he passed. She passed in 2019 at the age of 84. Just had to mention this because it is so familiar. I feel so bad for Jenny and her family🙏🏻❤️❤️
Your dad sounds awesome. Well, both your parents. You are lucky.
Much respect for your dad...I'm sure that his love for your mom and for his children filled his heart!
Oh my heart breaks for you all. My Mother in law passed away with Lung Cancer. It was so hard watching her going through that. I’m praying that Jennifer beats all odds with this treatment. God Bless 🙏🏻❤️
Kyle. You are perfect to Jenny. You are perfect to your children. The relationship you both have is amazing and you’re doing an AMAZING job.
Take a few deep breaths. It’s okay to break down and cry. You are human.
I will always lift you Jenny and your kids in prayer 🙏.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. Sending you and your family a virtual hug.
I know it’s not much comfort right now, but just take one day at a time…one hour at a time. Treasure every minute of love you find and make together doing the little things together. It will help you, Kyle. We love you out here❤️
Kyle I’m sorry about Jenny’s prognosis. We all love you both and the kids very much and we will all be here for you and Jenny whenever you need us , even if it’s just to vent your frustrations ❤❤❤❤
Kyle- I went through this with my husband. Overwhelming to think about the “what if’s” - and “why us?” The unknown future is daunting. You are amazing. You need to address some things in the future- but it’s the now that you’re living in. When I would get overwhelmed- I’d say, “God, I can’t do this alone- help me” and feel peace in His presence. I’m praying- This whole community is praying 🙏❤️🙏❤️
Kyle you are truly incredible. Jenny and the kids are so lucky to have you. I know you are overwhelmed right now but despite everything you radiate joy and peace with how you care for your family. Know that you are loved and admired by all of us who watch.
i feel ur worries..i feel what ur going thru..my wife was sick for the past 6 years..in and out of emerge..she was diabetic and had many health problems..she sadly passed away June 14, 2022 after 16 wonderful years together..
You are in Jenny's life because you are just perfect for all she needs. All she needs is you and the children. Thats her golden bucket life right to the end.
The first thing I thought after my wife passed was I wished I could have one more conversation with her .I was so so stressed about every little detail that I forgot about what's most important..Four months after diagnosis is not a lot of time to prepare for losing your soulmate ..I had to figure it out fast..My heart goes out to you sir. Also don't forget about self love during this process..I turned to alcohol for a brief moment that I definitely would not suggest but you need a constructive way to vent the pressure and stress that will build up..
@stacey821 your comment is perfect- he and their children ARE her bucket list. That's it. And you WILL survive this, Gods Grace WILL MEET YOU THERE. 💕🙏🏼
We’re there for you Kyle. Here to listen and be there to support you as much as we can from afar. 🙏🏻
We Love You Kyle! Please know that. The prayers are flooding in from all over the world for you, Jenny and the family. ❤❤❤
You're a rock Kyle. The pressure on you is obviously immense. You're doing all the right things. Know that there are ppl thinking about you and everything you're going through.
Kyle, my heart is with you and Jenny. I am glad you feel you can share your thoughts and feelings with us. We hear you and how I wish I lived there to help and support. Prayers from Norfolk VA.
Kyle, it’s okay to cry, ask for help and keep doing what is needed for Jenny. My prayers are with all of you🙏
Im still praying for her healing, so much. I choose to believe in miracles and that she can pull through this. ❤ to you both.
Amen
Amen.
Think about Hospice. My husband is on that now. No more running to doctors and hospitals. Spending the last months in peace at home
Prayers for you, Jenny, Ellis, & Winnie. All we can do out here is keep the prayers coming.
My heart breaks for you. I lost my husband to a terminal disease and I was his caregiver. I know what you are going through. Praying for you all. God Bless. ❤️
I feel the hardest part of end of life is the doctors still pushing treatments to the last breath that dont really help. Ive seen it with many family members. Sometimes the late stage treatments shorten life due to complications or infections. Its up to each person, but maybe its time to think about relieving that added stress, bringing on a palliative team and just enjoying the rest of her days. Palliative care has their own team of doctors and nurses with resources of support for the whole family. They step in and really help in so many ways ❤
I agree with you so much. It seems so cruel to put these families through another treatment, and all the money all the hope that was never going to be realized. I completely hate big Pharma.
Agreed! It takes away from time you have with your family! It’s a very hard decision that needs to be made by both parents!❤
Very true. All of this “fighting” for a few weeks of pain and suffering is often exhausting and heartbreaking for everyone concerned. Keeping your loved one free of pain and surrounded with love, is often the greatest gift to give. The patient needs to know that their loved ones will be able to manage and bring up the children with oodles of love and support. Kyle is in early days but I do hope that he knows this and gives Jenny the reassurance that she so desperately needs.
Quality of life is everything. The harsh treatments only prolong the inevitable, imo.
I’ve watched every single minute on every single video of each of your channels and I’m just catching up with this one that I must’ve missed somewhere along the way. She’s been gone over four months now and you are living your new normal. A terrible, unfair, painful, new normal but you are doing it. Every minute. Every hour. Every day. You are doing it. ❤Your baby bear loves you and will see you again.
I just went through your exact experience with my wife. Everything you are experiencing resonates with me. Cancer diagnosis, , chemotherapy, radiation, imunnotherapy, LMD (death sentence), proton therapy. I set monthly goals. She was diagnosed in December 2022, January we went to Chicago, February we went to Jamaica, March we went to NYC to see her brother and our son (& treatment at Sloan Kettering), April to Cancun with our daughter. She was very happy to have these opportunities and I will always cherish the moments. I was the primary caregiver and watched her die a little bit everyday. My prayers are with you.