I'm Losing My Wife
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
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Jenny or Kyle Appleford
7211 Haven Ave, Unit E-407
Rancho Cucamonga, CA 91701
My wife’s channel:
/ @jennyapple4704
INSTAGRAM: jenny_appleford
FACEBOOK: Our Brave Jenny
For business inquiries: veganapplefords@gmail.com
DIAGNOSIS of my Wife:
March 19th, 2021 Stage IIIA Non Small Cell Lung Cancer (Non-Smoking)
February 2022 Stage IV Non Small Cell Lung Cancer (spreading to Brain, and other parts of lung and lymph nodes)
Gene Mutation EGFR with Exon 20 Insertion
TREATMENTS: Received or currently Receiving
2021: 8 Rounds of Chemotherapy (Carboplatin and Paclitaxel) with 30 concurrent radiation treatments to chest and lung
Failed Immunotherapy directly after Chemo and Radiation (Durvalumab, 1 round)
2022: Chemotherapy
10 rounds of Chemotherapy (Carboplatin, Alimta, and Avastin)
6 with Carboplatin, 4 without
Targeted Brain Radiation (Completed)
CURRENT TREATMENT:
I am on a clinical trial for my specific gene mutation
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Kyle, just a little thought - I want you to know, as the cancer patient, that Jenny doesn’t need you to make every occasion count, and every moment to be special etc. she just needs to spend each day with the ones she loves, taking one day at a time. No one’s life’s is filled with perfect moments. I know you feel the pressure but please don’t put that on yourself. Your love for her, and the fact that she can count on your love and care for your children going forward is everything she needs. I promise. This is how I feel; I have learnt this.
I'm a cancer patient and the guilt I feel I dont say no to the plans made for us all has a family,I go along with it.
You are so right.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻♥️
Just want to echo what you said. As a another cancer patient, the only thing I really cared about during treatment (and now), was spending time with my kids and grandchildren. It doesn't matter what they're doing. Ordinary things seem extra-ordinary, and my greatest joy is just watching them and deeply savoring even seemingly mundane things. Everyday moments are the most cherished treasures.
My son just went through this with his wife.
Jenny will tell you what she wants to do. All my daughter in law wanted was to spend as much time with her husband and children as she could. All you need to do is follow her lead.
You are strong. You and Jenny are amazing.
Sending all my prayers.
My father lost his beautiful wife, my mother in March 1969. She was only 49. I say this, because for the first time in my life and your generosity in sharing your experiences with the world I feel I can understand what he must have REALLY gone through. It forever changed him, of course but he managed to raise me alone. You’re incredibly strong;
Asking for help is an admirable thing to do!
Jennie IS blessed to have you as her husband. The care, love and attention you give surely provides a sense of security for her and your children. Many times we feel inadequate for the situation, but God chose YOU for Jennie. God is with you!!
One step at a time, Kyle is the only way to handle all of this. Jenny, YOU, and your children are in all of our prayers. 🙏❤✝️
We are here anytime you need us Kyle. We love all of you and if you find it therapeutic to come here and..just talk, we will listen, because we care. Strangers can be the easiest to talk to sometimes. God bless you, Jenny, and the little ones.
Kyle I lost my brother from diagnosis to his passing in 4 weeks. I lost my son, unexpectedly, a couple months later. I found that living in the moment with both of them is the best thing I could have done. I was with my brother to the end and I’m grateful for the time. I did struggle with memory issues and racing thoughts. Take notes and set reminders to stay on task. Just live in the moment… you have been an amazing caregiver, husband and father.
Omg ,I'm so sorry for your losses in such a short space of time ❤❤
@@gilliangoodman6362 thank you. It’s really a lot and it makes my heart go out to all that go through this.
Kyle--So many of us out here are at a loss for words. But, you all have an army of prayer warriors for sure !! And with the prayers let us all together hold onto the hope of the new treatment adding more precious time for you all. For this moment--one day at a time, certainly easier said than done....but your awesome and amazing support system is never going to allow anything to go unchecked. Please feel all these prayers and love going out to you Kyle..Go and give Jenny,Ellis and Winnie the coziest afternoon you can. Tucking you in my prayers as we speak. Miracles still happen. Love to all.xoxo
It's just heartbreaking! But never forget, you have the largest sounding board out here that ever existed!!! Feel free to unload your fears at any time, right here! We love you, and feel such heartache for you. Take it easier on yourself and let YOURSELF enjoy each moment left with your sweet family.
You are a amazing father Kyle, your amazing wife beat cancer and you beat cancer wth her.
I lost my husband pancreatic cancer. I have 12 kids, it’s fast and brutal. I’m so sorry you and your family have to go through this.❤❤
I have been in your shoes, I lost my husband to cancer. It was the worst 10 months of my life. So, I will keep you and your family in my prayers 🙏
this is f--ked losing someone so close and dear
Stay strong. You'll get through all of this. I'm 66 years old and have been through some hard times as well. Hang in there.
Im still praying for her healing, so much. I choose to believe in miracles and that she can pull through this. ❤ to you both.
Amen
Amen.
Dear Kyle, Jenny is so blessed to have been graced by a man who loves her in the most beautiful self-sacrificing way that most women could only dream about having in there lifetime. I want to thank you and Jenny both for allowing us into your cancer journey that continues to touch so many of our lives each day. We love you both and our thoughts and prayers are with you always. 🙏❤️
Dear Kyle, when I was young, found the love of my life ❤ we were young had a daughter 💔 he was diabetic at 10 years old and we went through quite a bit together lost his kidneys and had been on the kidney machine until he received a new 🙏💔kidney. The doctor warned us, he has 10 years at most then his kidney will fail. Id always believed in miracles.🙏 God did warn me how long he'd have to live, how long I'd be taking care of my husband. This happened in the 80's Now I look back and had seen what God was trying to show me all life's lessons 🙏, VERY DIFFICULT AND I KEPT ASKING WHY???? I WAS SO DEEPLY HURT AND CONFUSED. I WILL TELL YOU IT MADE ME VERY STRONG BUT CON BECAUSE I STILL DIDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY? WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG LIFE THROWS YOU ALL K8NDS OF HARD SHIPS. IN THE END IM SO MUCH MORE CLOSER TO HIM. I WILL SEE RALPH AGAIN AND I CANT WAIT!
Amen❤
We Around The🌎 are STANDING/PRAYING/BELIEVING and We ALL Will Continue To Be Here For Y’all! This Video Touched ALL I’m Sure- We ARE HERE For Y’all! Y’all have BLESSED ALL Our Lives By SHARING Something SO HARD! Millions of HUGS/PRAYERS are Being Sent to Y’all and Your Precious Children! 🙏🏻🤗🌼
God Bless you Kyle. One of the hardest journeys someone has to make. All those feeling are so so normal.
We Love You Kyle! Please know that. The prayers are flooding in from all over the world for you, Jenny and the family. ❤❤❤
No one can heal the hurt anger or pain that you, Jenny or the children are feeling, but we can pray. Every second of every day is a memory that you are making. Being there with her is more valuable than you will ever know Kyle! My prayers will not stop and I truly believe that God hears our prayers.
Amen 🙏 praying as well and u are absolutely correct in saying God hears our prayers and he answers them!!!!!!
Amen🙏🏻
Kyle, it’s okay to cry, ask for help and keep doing what is needed for Jenny. My prayers are with all of you🙏
I'm crying with you brother. My wife is going through the same cancer shit! I have lot's of regrets and how to deal with the grief. Wish you strenght.
Kyle,you are a very strong husband and father.prayers for all you have in front of you.Jenny is strong ,God will help her and you both. 🙏💕Prayers for you both and your children,you are not alone God is beside you all.
Cancer sucks. You and your family are in my prayers. I'm praying so hard for Jenny. That God give her strength throughout this ordeal she is going through. That she gets more time to spend with her family. That cancer goes away.😢
I am giving you HUGE hugs right now. You are PERFECT in Jenny's eyes, and your kids. You have every right to feel the way you feel. I understand the fears. I am so scared of losing my hubby Gary. He has fought so hard also.
I can't even tell you how sorry I am, but I do know that she's leaving you all with wonderful memories and she's leaving you with the continuation of her love..... Your children. I know it's hard but the love that you have for each other is going to help you get through this. You are really an amazing person and so is she , just hang in there.......
My heart goes out to you Kyle 😢 you are an amazing husband to Jenny and dad to Ellis and Winnie ❤️ please don’t bottle things up we are all here to listen and support you ❤️❤️
U R doing Your BEST- and she has Great Strenght to fight- GOD BLESS U and family
Take one day at a time. It’s hard to do, but you will get through this with your children. You are a great dad and my heart is breaking for you right now.
Keep sharing and unburdoning Kyle that's what we're all here for... none of us can do anything practically to help, but if we can just help by being be an offloading tool, than we've done something and it feels good.
Your mum raised you alone and you're a massive credit to her, as you're an amazing person/dad/husband/ friend etc, and we can all see that while this feels an impossible load to bear, you're going to do just great and Jenny couldn't have picked a more capable person to guide those 2 beautiful children into adulthood 👍 Sending big hugs to all of you from the UK. 🫂💕💕💕💕
Kyle, you are one of the most genuine, loving husband I've seen. I've seen many, none like you. You're so authentic. Sending peace, love and light to you and your entire family 💜
Kyle you can’t pack a lifetime in months. Don’t try. Do now. You will know what to do as the milestones over the years come because you know Jenny so well.
It is heart breaking to see what Jenny is going through. In the short time I've known her she is beautiful caring funny and so strong. The love the bond the two of you share is beautiful and amazing to see. As brave as Jenny is you are equally brave. I have so much respect for you. I can't begin to imagine how painful this is for you. I am so sorry. 🙏
I’m praying for you and your family!!!! Please God bless Jenny and heal her completely, amen!!!
I was told with my illness 1-3yrs and knock on wood I'm still here but i do not take it for granted but the worst worst part was telling me kids. I'm in remission but i always have it in back of my mind. You guys did great dealing with it as much as you could have. The head spinning never goes away. 😢
Kyle continues to love your wife and children. With Grace and strength
Kyle, thank you for being a wonderful and kind person. Keeping you and Jenny and your precious family in my prayers!❤
As a cancer patient you just do what you can. You need to be strong ask the Lord to help with all these things that are overwhelming you. Remember that fear is not of the Lord. Be there for your wife and your children as best as you can. God knows your struggles and he will give you strength.
We are all by your sides, you and jenny 💞 Keep faith, you are an inspiration for a lot of us. You guys are very strong, cherish every moment together as much as you can 💞
One day at a time Kyle. You don't have to know all the answers right now. I wish i could give you a big hug right now. I lost my best friend/ husband at 29 when we' d been married almost 10 years. Cancer truely sucks.
I am sorry to hear that ❤️🇨🇦❤️ How are you doing now?
Sucks is putting it nicely love is ev/thing memories forever still miss mine 35 yrs now still so fresh
Kyle, I lost a parent unexpectedly when I was a little girl. As an adult, I was on the journey with my mom in her lung cancer battle from diagnosis to the last day. Let others help you and tackle that legal stuff a little each day. Looking back, as for the bucket list, the special moments were just everyday stuff. Making lunch. Watching the sunset. Laughing together at a movie. Simple things. The little special things between us. It was special enough. My heart breaks for you. I’m glad you have a therapist and this channel to honestly share your fears, doubts, and tears, and the unfairness of all of this. Some days, it’s enough to live in each moment for what it is. Prayers and thoughts to you and all.
My dear......nothing makes sense.
My beautiful husband died of a sudden heart attack 4 years ago. I never had the chance to say goodbye. We made 7 beautiful kids together....it hurts..it hurts you just have to walk with the pain.
I love you both❤.
"Just realize the the time you focus on tomorrow is time you are not here today" I love this quote. Just know that you and your family are being prayed for. If I could trade places with Jenny I would. I have already raised my family and honestly you have so much support around you. Don't hesitate to ask for their help. I think Jenny writing letters for the future occasions is a great idea. She will never be forgotten as long as she has a place in everyone's heart.
There are no words that I could say to console you. Except, I’m so so sorry for Jenny and your whole entire family. Cancer is such a bastard! I’m so angry for her, I could only imagine how you feel. You guys handle it with grace and dignity, I don’t know that I could. Just please know Kyle, that you are not alone..we are all here, and God will get you through…sending prayers always…🙏🙏🙏🙏💔❤️💔💔❤️🙏
Kyle you are an amazing person and wonderful father and husband….please do not beat yourself up- lean on your family and friends. I’m glad u are honest with your kids.
Kyle, I can only imagine how hard it was to start yourself this channel, my heart aches in feeling your sadness.
I’m praying the Lord give both you and Jenny what you need daily, lean on Him Kyle, Jesus loves you all so much.
I’m lifting you, Jenny and your precious children up in prayer.
God bless
I understand your situation now that you felt a lot of pressures on your side. I'm sorry for her , let us pray for her recovery God willing to extend her life for her family seek.
I have Pancreatic Cancer. They told me 6 to 9months. I have been on Chemo for 6 months.all of a sudden my tumor numbers are getting smaller.
I know what you and your wife are going through. Meand my husband have been married 45 years.
May God put his arms around you and your family
PRAYERS FOR YOUR WIFE AN AND FAMILY
Oh Kyle how I wish you could see yourself from our viewpoint - you would be so proud of everything you have done through this journey. You are Jenny's perfect Prince Charming and dream come true, and just the best dad to your sweet Ellis and Winnie. You have been one of the biggest inspirations for showing the power of loving someone else with everything you have. You love your family fully, and to me that is as perfect as it gets. Everything else you will do is simply just a bonus. I hope you take some comfort in knowing how many people who have never met you have an endless amount of respect for the man you are. I could only hope to find a man one day who loves as deeply and as purely as you.
Rebecca, what a truly honest, loving and inspirational message to share! So true! Blessings
@@sbee985 So kind of you to comment Sue! Just hoping the love we are creating around their family is able to carry a bit of the pain for them.
Stay strong Kyle!! You & Jenny share a beautiful love story. God is walking beside you both thru this. All your emotions are completely understandable. You ha e a good support system. Praying for your family❤
Kyle,I’ve been following Jenny and your story.I’m on my grandsons phone my name is Jodi Brown from where I normally follow.I’ve been praying for Jenny and your family faithfully.Only Our God knows when we each go home.I know from experience that your overwhelmed and struggling. Kyle God has equipped you with everything he knew you would need.He knows your afraid.He captures every tear you cry.Think of today not so far ahead that will add to you being more overwhelmed.I know your feeling so broken.When you lay down breathe and rest in the arms of you God and let him hold you and he will be your strength . I know you want to do everything right and believe it or not you are . Your loving Jenny and your babies. Lay the rest at the feet of your Heavenly Father .Make it your goal tomorrow to do the best you can and give the rest to him.Even if you have to remind yourself every 5 min.You can do this Kyle. And Gods got this. And of that I’m certain.
Kyle…I know you’re going to get a lot of welcomed, sound advice in this community…you and Jenny have so much support. There’s many nurses and fellow cancer patients in here who have a deep understanding of what you and your family are going through. With that said, I just want to say that you and only you know what your family needs. It’s ok to take what you feel fits, and leave the rest. Your channels have grown immensely from our former little group and it’s original intent. You’re just as compelling to watch as Jenny is. I’m grateful you both have this outlet to vent, share, and seek support. Prayers for strength and comfort. 🙏🏻♥️💪Hoping she beats the odds. If anyone can, it’s Jenny.
I'm so sorry,I can't imagine,ever going through what you are going through,my heart goes out to you,you have gone through hell,and your wife.☹️🌄🌻
I don't understand why someone would even consider making a loved ones suffering and death a social media project.
People are different. 1. She asked for it, it's what she did herself 2. It can help many people 3. It can provide comfort and distraction
I’m so very sorry Kyle there are no words so just sending you ❤ and going to pray for you all ❤
Take one day at a time! I was the caregiver for my husband that died with cancer and I know what kind of emotions your going through! But take to breath. My kids wasn’t young like yours are. Just think of what Jennie would want for you & the kids! You have been a great husband & father! Don’t doubt yourself! Praying for you, Jennie & kids!!🙏🙏 For me it was hard to let people help but please let people help you!!
I have a daughter your age. The first reaction I have is to give you a huge hug. I hope you feel it all the way through the computer from Texas to California.
My heart goes out to you and your precious wife and children. I will keep you all in my prayers. I ask God to touch you comfort you . May he eases your pain. We love y'all Got bless
Forget bucket list items. Just do the things that need to be done and live the extravagant trips and lists - it’s time to just be there and hold her and your kids, just be present. You are strong - and although you may not feel ready, you will get through this and your kids will be there and be your inspiration to get up and keep going. Just be real, feel your emotions and don’t focus on perfection, nobody can attain that.
So sad listening to this video I lost my partner six month ago from cancer it Happen so fast I couldn't Believe I just can't get over this oh Godh it Hurt so much
Not pushing it … but just saying … we did the ‘not fighting it’ path … at a certain point. My dearest Melanie and I had that ‘normal time’ which is so precious. (About two months of no hospitals but just medications, best diet plus doctor visits) Then after a wonderful normal happy day of just hanging out then I noticed her breath laboring. I checked her oxygen level and it was below 90% so I called an ambulance. That led to a final 29 days of tortuous medical treatments and then her unconscious and unplugged from her support machines.
Part of me wished we had never called for that last ambulance ride after five years of doctors and long hospital stays and wishin n hoping and recovery happiness and anxious nights seeing my precious Melanie unconscious and intubated.
One thing I do know you guys are both WONDERFUL people.
I think her’s and your videos are doing a priceless gift to all of us by sharing. 💕
My husband died last August (leukemia). I just spent as much time as possible with him. Every moment, even if it was me watching him sleep, meant something to me. I’d suggest just living each day and the ups and downs and remember to breathe. Oddly, his family resented me because I stayed at his bedside, but I wouldn’t do it differently. I was his caregiver, I was his support and I’d do it again in a heartbeat. Get through each moment, the good and bad, and just breathe. Remember- you have done so much (very good job), but also “look for the helpers” you can trust and let go of some of the responsibility (delegate) to people you can trust. In the future, you’ll get through each day and just breathe.
Kyle you are such a strong man & my heart goes out to you & your family. I lost my husband to brain cancer 9 months ago. We are much older than you guys & I can't imagine going through this with such young children. Enjoy each day that you have with Jenny. Try to be a husband as much as you can & step out of that caregiver role. I was given that advice & didn't take it. Take it one day at a time. May God bless all of you.
May God bless you both of you you are amazing person she's a lucky person to have you beside her alot hugs for you both
I wish you all the best and praying 🙏 for you and your family. Stay strong 💪🏾
Kyle. You are doing an amazing job of loving and caring for your family and especially Jenny. I for one admire you and your loving family and hope you do take the time to just talk. Not every second has to be spent running. I know you want to ensure Jenny gets new sights etc but be sure you just share your time together. I don’t know you and yours but it’s amazing how much I have come to care for you all. God’s peace and grace.
You have been an amazing friend and husband
Dear Kyle... you are an amazing husband and father BUT you also need to look after yourself as well as Jenny and the kids... I think what you are doing is the best.. you are amazing... this channel is where you can express your every fear... but you need other support to get you through. I lost my beloved brother who was my everything. So I understand some of what you are going through. He was told he had eight months (head and neck Cancer) he lived for two years and I was a main carer... Please ensure you allow people who love you to help you get through this.... It is too much to do this alone. Your kids are your priority but you must also be helped... . So what I suppose I'm trying to say is that don't ignore your own health and well being .You are an amazing man full of love and devotion.. let others in.. don't worry about asking for big help from those you love and the professionals, YOU are precious ... and I can tell you after following you for a year now, that you are so loved, we would do anything we can to help even in a minor way...
Kyle, it is unreal how your life now is mirroring mine. Not currently but it is unreal. I have two boys who are grown now and they lost their mother to cancer as well. I fought just as hard as you are and it was unreal. I have one thing to say you can do this. Just stop and breathe. Every time you feel anything negative just breathe. My boys were small when we were going through this and it was hard on them as well. I had support but at night when it was just us was the hardest. They missed their mommy so much. I think they still miss her. They are both grown with their own families and very successful. Although it seems that it is bad now you will get through this. Just be prepared for a lot of pain and sorrow. I raised my boys alone and it was hard but we did it. We got through it. I know you don't want to hear this now but its true. You will get through it. You will find yourself doing the things that she did. Its something that you can do. I feel a that kinship with you and I wish I could speak with you. It helps sometimes to talk to someone who has been through this. I will continue to fo!low you and pray for you. I will be here if you would like to reach out. I love ya bro and you are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. Until next time.
This is such an inspiring and altruistic comment...
Sit here with tears in my eyes😢 I am so sad that you and your boys had to go trough this..
Send you love❤
I hope Kyle reaches out to you. ❤ such strength and similarity. Bless you.
For you and your sons and Kyle ❤❤❤❤
How kind and thanks for sharing your story!
Oh Kyle, I am absolutely heartbroken for Jenny, you, and your very precious children. I really wish that there was something. I, we, as a community, could do for you all. We would do it in a heartbeat. Please know that we are here for you all. To vent, to, lean on. Sending you all so much love xxxx
All I can say is that your mother did an amazing job of raising such a compassionate and loving man, who in turn is a wonderful husband and father. I truly believe that even though you will go through many hard times ahead as a single father, you will never fail to let your children know how much they are loved. I'm sure that your female family members will step in to help with Winnie and with advice when it is needed.
Just remember that it is completely normal to be feeling all of the emotions you are going through right now. 😢🙏
❤
💯. Kyle and the kids will never be alone, as they have such a strong, supportive family. He's going to have a tough couple of years, but love will get them through.
Yes agree 💯
Yes kyle
Prayers for you and your family. Let God lead the way.
I have a few suggestions…
1. Take some time to make molds of her hands. One for each of you. When she has the energy do crafts with the kids. Those moments are the ones that matter in the end.
2. Get a voice recorder and have Jenny tell stories of her life. Being able to go back and hear her voice will be a treasure.
3. As hard as it will be, plan her memorial with her. Talk about the songs she would want, then flowers that are meaningful. What does she want others to know.
4. Make a Google document with a list of the things that need to be done. Share that with people that can help you. They will be able to look at the list and not need to ask you. If there are things that you want to do put some type of marking next to those items. Make a second one for Jenny to put things she wants to do. Her list will change as time goes by and this will let her make changes to the list on her own.
5. Have Jenny to write a letter, or record on a recorder, anything she would want to tell the kids on those important moments.
Please know there will come a moment (or a few) where she will try to push people away. She is going to morn losing her life, losing the ability to be there for the kids. She will feel guilty that she is hurting the people she loves, even tho it is not her fault. In those moments just hug her. Don’t take it personal, she loves you! Mentally we think that if we make our loved ones angry or push them away, it won’t hurt as bad when the time comes.
Try your best to live in the moment. Do what you can today, & try not to stress about tomorrow. I know that is easier said then done. Just realize the the time you focus on tomorrow is time you are not here today. The things you think are the bucket list items are not really the bucket list. In the end holding your hand or giving you a hug, play with the kids, singing songs, cooking food, etc are the moments that will matter.
I am praying for y’all! I know Jenny will fight because she loves you all with her whole heart! 🫶🏼
Such beautiful suggestions❤️
Wonderful suggestions❤
DEFINITELY Do The Hand Molds! ❤
I completely agree with you and as a hospice carer I so hope Kyle and/or Jenny and family and close friends see your post… I know for sure your suggestions will be incredibly helpful to all of their close support network… thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and kindness for posting @ChicMom❤
Clearly you’ve been through hard times, bug hugs to you as well. 😔
Kyle, as a woman, I can honestly say that I've NO doubt that just being with you is making every day count. You are amazing just being you, that's all Jenny needs & I'll say you are doing more than just a damn fine job! YOU & the kids are all she needs hon. God bless you all ❤🙏🏻
So beautifully said!
I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that just 14 hours after you posted this vlog that 120,000 people showed up for you. We will keep showing up and will be here for you and your family. Sending love from Wisconsin.
Don’t worry about the future. Gods already taking care of that. I lost my best friend . Married fifty years. God will give u the strength.
Kyle I am old enough to be your Mom. Can I just say, the pride in my heart as a Mom for you is so huge. You have held the earth up. Please give yourself grace. As a outsider watching you & Jenny, your love for your wife& your children is so strong. Your little moments in your car are so very precious. Oh you are so perfect in each others eyes. Your doing it Kyle. I’m so proud of you, I could only hope to have someone just like you in our family. You are a wonderful gift to all the people closest to your heart❤
This is beautiful😢😢😢💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏
Yes well said indeed. I'm in total agreement with you and i'm seventy. This is such a wonderful family love connectio isn't it wow so so sad 😢
@@mariecleo214Thankyou so much for your beautiful words
Amen to that!!
Such lovely words✨💫
you don't need to be perfect for you're wife, just be present. She knows you love and adore her and you are doing a great job!
Perfectly said !
Stage 4 here too.
I was given a time line too...
Love is all you need. Support her. One day at a time" one min to one hour, someday, seriously.♡
Do today, do now.. Love every moment.
Theres no perfect in this situation.Pace yourself.
Love and light
Mary
Have you not seen the level of perfection she expects from him?
How does a woman find a guy like you? You are so incredibly kind and helpful to sweet Jenny! I am so sorry the two of you are going through this. I lost my mom as a teenager and when she was gone we had no one ! Our father was a drunk and didn't care. Your kids are so lucky to have you! Remember that!
Love U LOVE your WIFE so deep- U R special
Exactly the same
God BLESS YOUR FAMILY MY PRZYERS ARE WITH ALL OF YOU PLEASD KEEP YOUR SPIRITS UP EVEN THOHGHT ITS SO HARD BUT YOU ARE A WONDERFUL FAMILY PLEASE ALWAYS STAY HOPEFUL AND NEVER FORGET THE WONDERFUL TIMES YOUVE HAD! SHE DESERVES ALL TNE HOPE AND PRSYERS THERE ARE MY HEARTS WITH YOU GJYS AALWAYS 😂
He's a good husband. He's no superhero! Just let him love Jenny ,,as he's SUPPOSED to do!! If the rest of you have rubbish husbands, I feel sorry for you. In reality, I feel sorry, for so many of your husbands and partners ,because so many of you have so little love and respect for them!!! HOW can you expect THEM to show you unconditional love to YOU, when YOU show NONE of that to THEM!! Many, many rubbish, unloving wives and girlfriends here.......I refuse to believe that ALL your husbands are so uncaring........try loving them the way YOU SHOULD!! Hypocrites!!
My husband is every bit as loving to me as Kyle is to Jenny, maybe even more so. He shows, and tells me, every single day just how much he loves me. AND I SHOW AND TELL HIM!!!!! Try showing some love and respect yourselves. You get back what you give out.
@@jacqueline8559i agree with you.
I’m crying as I watch this.
I lost my best friend too.
Cancer as well.
It’s so freaking hard. I’m not going to lie or sugarcoat it.
We had a good good love and I’m sending all of you a gentle hug.
You all will be ok. The love never goes away.
I'm crying too 😭 I lost my sister she was a smoker . Doesn't seem right that a non smoker would suffer this .
Love always remains. I am sending you guys all my love, from Croatia, Europe.
I was a caregiver for 7 years for my husband. Don’t look at the calendar. Don’t count the days. Take each day as it comes. Minute by minute. You are right to take notes. I have forgotten so many things to this day. Ask for help when you need it. Big Texas size hug for you
Your new word: DELEGATE. Ask your wife’s sister and her parents to get the info, talk to the lawyers to get legal stuff done, talk to your job about things….have her family take the kids during the new treatment. Have them do all those things. Delegate.
YOU focus on loving your family and getting her to appointments. That’s it. Prayers to you always.
As a survivor of 4-stage cancer, my husband and I were where you are right now. That was over 40 years ago, and I'm still here. Nobody can understand the struggle that you go through, except those of us who have been there. However, everyone's experience is different, and we really can't put ourselves in your position. Kyle, all I can say to you is, you don't walk alone, God is walking with you and is giving you strength. Please hold on to your faith and keep a stiff upper lip. We're all praying for you and Jenny. God bless you!
omg really that’s amazing xx
Amen🙏🏻💗🕊
I'm so glad you testified of the truth to believe. I have a friend who also was miraculously healed of 4th stage colon cancer. But it required searching scriptures to see where she needed to repent.
She's thriving strong as an elderly woman and very healthy and active.
When I decided to also repent, I opened my Bible, made my list of sins, and confessed them to a wonderful person and spoke with my mouth, declaring, pronouncing by faith, I would be healed. GOD heard my faith and healed me one night as I slept.
He will do it for you also. He loves faith. Without faith, it is impossible to please Him. Take faith the size of a mustard seed. Seek His face. ❤
You have to be still and pray. Be still and listen to God and let him take the reins. He has her in hands. There is nothing but his love for you and Jenny. Make many videos of you and Jenny that be shown for you and your children at a later date. We do not know the time or hour. Ask for God for help. He does provide.
@@sandybeach2135 don’t give false hope
I lost my best friend and wife of twenty years three nights ago to multiple organ failure. Hurts like heck. My prayers for you and your family.
I saw the title of this and my heart dropped to my toes. Heartbreaking. Know you have a lot of people all around the world praying for you and your family during this incredibly difficult time. We love you all ❤❤
Just being with her, supporting her, driving her to appointments and treatments is the greatest gift. She is not dealing with this alone. Having your best friend by your side makes everything possible.
@TwinKarma1 bolujem od cancera bubrega, desnog nemam. Lijevi napadnut kao i debelo crijevo, zeludac i jetra. Takodje sam imala infarkt. Muz me napustio 2 dana prije operativnog zahvata. Moje stijene i oslonac su kcerka i sin. Takodje i familija mi puno pomaze.
Imam crne i veoma teske dane ali nisam klonula duhom. Bog jedino zna do kada je moje vrijeme i zahvalna sam na svakom danu koji docekam ziva
Kyle, as a retired hospice nurse, having taken care of many patients including family, I can only tell you what I have said to many families who were where you are right now. Each day is precious but what it makes it precious are the hugs, kisses, I love you and time together. It cannot be perfect, it's life and it will be so difficult for you to find happiness and smiles if you put constant pressure on yourself. Sometimes knowing your time is short, makes it more valuable. As Jen has said, it could be longer. Her pain will be controlled and she will be kept comfortable because that's what Hospice does. Never be hesitant to ask for help. People want to help because they care and it gives them comfort.
One day at a time, take care of you so you can take care of her and the babies. Go to God for comfort and reassurance. You will be in my prayers and please, if you need to talk, I am available any time. Ann Ellis
They’re not using hospice yet. I don’t think they’re even having at home palliative care. I wish they would!
Beautifully said. ❤
@annellis9108 I absolutely love ur comment!!!!!! Amen!!!!!
❤Kyle YOU ARE PERFECT JUST AS YOU ARE. Your lives are filled with love for each other & your children.Ask for help with other stuff, people want to help you! Putting pressure on yourself will exhaust you. It is all so unfair that this is happening. Cry, laugh, punch pillows as needed, there is no wrong way just do what helps you both to keep treading water. Every day will be different but special in it's own way. You & Jenny are such a kind and loving couple.What could I do to help?
I will pray and send hugs across the country.Please give yourself a break and give Jenny a gentle hug from me Blessings always to all.❤❤
@@Anastashya: hospice is best when entered early. Same with palliative care. They could help with social workers who are specialists in working with children (and adults). Pain management, bathing, spiritual all incisive helping walk this journey. You all are my my ❤❤
You haven’t lost her. She’s right there. I’ve lived through my mom’s battle with cancer, my battle with cancer, and my husband has survived four bouts with cancer. I know exactly how you feel right now. But I’m in my late 60s and if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s this: we only have today. You don’t know what is going to happen, and you don’t know what God is going to do. I was mourning the loss of my husband when he had only seven months to live. That was 14 years ago. He had a miraculous recovery from stage 4 metastatic melanoma. So all I can say is enjoy today and don’t think about tomorrow because none of us knows what tomorrow will bring.
What a beautiful response. Thank you so much for sharing this. God works miracles and it can happen. God Bless you and your family and God bless this family as well. ❤
Wise and compassionate response. So true. Thank you for reminding us.
Kj 😮kids 😮
Kyle, you can count on your RUclips family to be “ the wind beneath your wings”. Thousands of us are praying for Jenny , you, Ellis and Winnie. This is an unbelievable support system for you. I’ve been a hospice nurse for many years and have never seen anything so beautiful. You are all teaching so many how to love and live through any adversity. Thank you! Please listen to Jenny when she says she just needs the family bed. She needs to just be with you and the children now as her strength wanes. Let her guide the memories now. Feel our love and prayers and know that we will all travel this road toward Eternal Life. 🙏😇💗🙏😇💗🙏😇💗
That’s beautiful 🙏
There isn’t much we can do except express kind words.
“Let her guide the memories”…that’s perfect❤️
Hospice is amazing and you are a special gift from God.😊😇😊😇
What a beautiful comment 💖💝🤍
Kyle, thank you for giving us a look into the caretakers version. My mom died at 41 leaving my dad as a single parent. He wasnt perfect but he did the very best he could. The main thing was that we knew we were loved. Never! stop telling your kids how much they are loved. My love and prayers are with you Kyle as you go through this new experience. You and the kids are all Jenny truly needs right now ❤
I’m so sorry Kyle. May God comfort you, Jenny, and your precious children.
Amen. To that❤
Kyle. You are perfect to Jenny. You are perfect to your children. The relationship you both have is amazing and you’re doing an AMAZING job.
Take a few deep breaths. It’s okay to break down and cry. You are human.
I will always lift you Jenny and your kids in prayer 🙏.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. Sending you and your family a virtual hug.
Awwwww, Kyle our hearts are breaking for you all. We are all keeping you in our prayers. 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔😍😍😍😍😍😍😍🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Every moment Jenny has and has had with you and the children has counted. Never forget that. God bless you, Kyle.
In Jenny's own words just being together sleeping together is what makes her feel the best. Having you guys around is what makes things perfect. Don't try to change things....try to keep things as normal as possible and it's the time you spend together that means the most.
Great advice, yes, this is what Jenny said she wants. ❤
@@User79344”I love family bedtime”. ❤
I don't know where life has taken you since you posted this video. But sir, I am 65 years old, and I have found myself struggling with a lot in my life. But you, sir, is the strongest man I have ever watched. You never seem to give up. You put yourself out there in your most vulnerable time. You always put your wife and your children first. You don't run away from your responsibilities. And I have the utmost respect for you. You, sir, are the epitome of what a husband and father should be. You are writing a playbook for other young men to follow. I wish I could do more, I wish I could be financially supportive, but I can't. All I can do is pray for you all and give you my support. God bless you all. You will be a great father and friend to your children.
I want life forever
Beautifully written
Well said!!
You two have been in survival mode for over 2 years, it is exhausting! But, the love you show each other and your children is incredible!
Kyle you are truly such an amazing husband and father. I don't know how you seem to cope so well with everything 😢 Jenny knows she has one of the best in you and couldn't ask for better❤ all praises to you and your beautiful wife for being so real, raw and vigilant. You two are warriors and I pray that God gives you both the strength to the end....whether that's the end of the cancer or the end to heaven😢🙏❤
A friend of mine that passed away from her second bout with breast cancer when her daughter was 4 years old, wrote her birthday cards for every year until she turns 35. I can’t imagine the strength it took to do this and I’m sure her daughter treasures them every year. 🙏❤️
WOW!!!! That's beautiful. I imagine that her 35th birthday is going to be heartbreaking though..I just hope she isn't dreading turning 35 due to this or counting down how many years of cards are left...
No tiene que saber que la última será a los 35 años
@@Dana_at_LAX Not really, quite the opposite actually. At some point, children have to learn to let go of their parents so that's part of the process her mom made sure of. Also, the mom was probably 35 herself when passing so she couldn't have written about the age beyond that because she didn't have personal experience of it. So how could she write about being 40, 50 etc.? She basically stuck to what she knew of and when the daughter gets to said age herself she will feel at peace and she'll know it's her time to be on her own after that. Plus, the mom probably wrote something really special in that 35th birthday card giving her a proper goodbye and therefore closure.
@@Dana_at_LAXit doesn’t matter. By then she will be grown and understand. She will know that there are 35. Focus on the beauty of it.
Yes it is alot. Wow. Sending love.
Kyle I’m sorry about Jenny’s prognosis. We all love you both and the kids very much and we will all be here for you and Jenny whenever you need us , even if it’s just to vent your frustrations ❤❤❤❤
Kyle, I also have lung cancer so I can say this.....Don't worry and beat yourself up so much about making every day special. When you are faced with this just being alive and with your loved ones makes every day so very special already....you don't need to worry about "stuff" or trips so much....just love each other every day as much as you can.
Kyle you maybe could also benefit from a prescription of Ativan like your wife has for those moments where your anxiety is taking over.
@@SANDRA-ez4icthis is a great idea! I do understand he wants to be on point for Jenny and he seems like the type of guy to try and take on everything "naturally" but it couldn't hurt. a low dose for the most stressful moments.
I lost my when I was 9 yrs. My dad raised his 4 children by himself, he never remarried, quote “I could never love another like I did your mother”. I’m eternally grateful for my father, he tried to make all our memories of our mom happy, loving, beautiful we had her as long as we did. I was very close to her, I was devastated, if it weren’t for my dad’s loving nature, I’m sure we would have turned out differently.
He’s passed on now, 27 yrs to the day she passed he went on to join her. It’s a real love story for sure. Reminds me of you and your family. Love is powerful. ❤
I’m sharing a micro snippet from a child’s perspective.
Jenny is a beautiful person. You are all better for having her to love and she love you. ❤ my continued prayers for your family in healing, strength and peace of mind ❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
It must have been very lonely for your dad to have lost his partner. Happy that he managed well and that all of his children were raised and well cared for.
Kyle will understand that he has to do the same for his children and although he doesn’t want “to do this alone,” (no one does) he can and will bring his children up happy and healthy and run a loving home .
I hope he sees your comment and hears how well your dad managed his family. It might give him hope.
This made me cry 😢....yess your father was a great man!
I lost my Dad when I was 17 and my beautiful.. strong Mom raised 4 daughters by herself and never remarried either. And she would always say I’ll never love anyone like I loved your Dad too❤️ it’s so sad my Mom was 43 when he passed. She passed in 2019 at the age of 84. Just had to mention this because it is so familiar. I feel so bad for Jenny and her family🙏🏻❤️❤️
Your dad sounds awesome. Well, both your parents. You are lucky.
Much respect for your dad...I'm sure that his love for your mom and for his children filled his heart!
Kyle, I am so worried because we haven't seen Jenny in 6 days. Yes, I check every day. You guys have become part of our families. This may sound strange since we have never met in person, but because you have opened your hearts and vulnerabilities to us, we feel as if we've known you for years. Well, we are all connected, and we are all a part of one great big human family. Jenny, you, Ellis, and Winnie are always in my prayers. We love you all. God be with you.
They deserve time together without filming everything. Give them the space and grace to have that precious time......
@@jacqueline8559I don’t think she meant if that way..she was just explaining that she worries because she feels so connected..so it was an innocent comment..
Kyle, I was a Single Mother after losing my husband in a head on collision years ago. My girls were ages 7 and 4. It was very hard, but I had lots and lots of support from friends and neighbors. You will have that support as well. I feel your pain and frustration and all the feelings you expressed in this video. Jenny had a great idea when she suggested you create your own channel as a care giver. We are here for you as well as for Jenny. You talked about feeling so much pressure because you have a mountain of things to take care of. I have found it helpful to take care of one thing at a time and try not thinking about everything at once. Will you have substitute teachers taking you class while you and Jenny are in San Diego? Can some of the legal necessities be taken care of remotely, online, digital signatures etc.? I also learned some time ago not to focus on perfection. You don't need that self inflicted pressure. Jenny just wants to have quality time doing simple things with you and Winnie and Ellis every single day, and it doesn't have to be perfect. I know you are hurting because I know you and Jenny are Soulmates. Not everyone has a marriage like yours, and you are truly blessed to have been able to experience this sublime love. My heart is breaking for all that you guys are going through. I will keep praying for you and your family.
You are a beautiful person as well.
Hi Kyle, Lost my husband to small cell lung cancer in 2008. Our son was in high school. Some of the best times where when we just hung out at home watching movies etc. I went to great lengths to plan what I knew would be our last vacation and it wasn't worth it. The small moments at home all of us together were the best and the memories that comforted me. You need to take time for yourself to relax because you can't help her if you are overwhelmed. Keep things simple and enjoy the time you have. Don't try to be perfect because that is not necessary. Praying for you all.
Same here, same diagnosis to small cell carcinoma. She smoked heavily, then stopped. I was out on the road as a trucker when she began this journey! Emory said she needed a lung, so she said, then my health began to fail. On my birthday she called me because of a reaction to her B/P medicine, then it was a mass in her lung, all at another hospital. They did a biopsy, and afterwards a tentative date. September of 2016, she drew her last breath. When I saw Kyle like this, I felt helpless all over again. I'm so sorry, I don't know what else to say or to do! 😪😥🙏🙏