@MorganVsTheInternet, the beauty of just being a fiancé is that you can peace out without any division of assets. There’s no custody order, no splitting the house, nothing. If he bought her a car, he can take the car.
AITA is a wild subreddit. There will be titles like "AITA for Punching a 12 Year Old?" And the person will be in the right or "AITA for Ordering Mashed Potatoes?" And they'll be the worst psychopath on the planet.
It's not as wild when you think about it. People only come to Reddit when things blow up so much they feel like they either need outside perspectives or backup. An asshole who punches a 12 year old knows that people won't agree with them so they'll hide that it happened, while a normal person who ordered mashed potatoes and things got out of hand will usually be able to handle the situation (unless the other party is a manipulative asshole who's gaslighting the OP). As a result, the niche that reddit fills filters out for reasonable people who found themselves in situations that when summarized make them *sound* like an asshole but aren't, and assholes in situations that when summarized make them not sound like an asshole when they are. Also people who are massively manipulated into believing they're the asshole when they've done nothing wrong and their manipulator pushed the envelope a bit too far.
@@Crasnos Well obviously the first OP was dealing with a demon spawn that was beating the shit out of them. And the second one was obviously a super controlling asshole like Mustard Guy.
yeah. the sister should have just left her husband there to face the consequences of his actions. maybe a night in jail would teach him that getting drunk and causing problems won't get him far in life.
It's unfortunate Op didn't put a little more effort into convincing her sister to board, and instead wasted time with comments like "if he's your responsibility you shouldn't have let him drink, so this is all your fault," which I'm sure (I hope anyway) Op intended facetiously. Still, maybe Op could have offered to take the older child on the flight, so the sister wouldn't have more children than hands in such a busy, crowded environment.
I fear what might happen to that sister. Living with an alcoholic that bad is insufferable, I've lived with an alcoholic before (Definitely not as bad but they'd still get drunk every few weeks or so) and even then it made a rift between us, I hope the sister manages to leave that guy before he does something to her. Or worse, her children
S.3 - I'm surprised Op didn't get at least 0.5 buttholes. While he's 100% correct on the issue, it's still unacceptable to insult and swear at your spouse. Stating "It's unacceptable that you continually break your promises to me," instead of "Just be less fucking useless", regardless of any ultimatum or deadline for improvement. I also agree with the comments saying she should have to get a job and pay for a housekeeper instead of staying home with her addiction all day. It would probably be healthier for both of them
Totally agree. He needs to go to therapy for his addiction since it goes out over his wife and kids at this point and it most likely ain’t gonna get better from here.
@@emiliaholmberg3320 He shouldn't have been allowed to wander off to the bar in the first place. That's on him and his wife but mostly him, not the sister. It's important not to make your issues other people's problems.
@ you need to understand that alcoholism is a serious illness and the sister in this case lost him because she needed to keep an eye on three small kids as well as him and their luggage. The husband in this case needs to learn that his drinking problem gets consequences for his actions hence why I said he needs therapy to get sober so he doesn’t loose his wife and kids to it.
Story 5: not even mentioning that using someone else's PRESCRIPTION is very illegal, and expensive to replace. I work as a pharmacy technician and if that bottle doesn't last as long as it should, insurance isn't going to cover it again until she should be out of it. Paying out of pocket for prescriptions is no small matter either.
These little kids who are using this really expensive product on their skin like retinol and drunken elephant are going to regret it when they get older. They don't know what they're doing. And neither do most of these beauty influencers. The reality is they don't need these products. They are way too young. My cousin came over and did that to my makeup. Her parents replaced all of it. It was hundreds of dollars that she ruined. Her parents were furious.
Im assuming she had a tret prescription, which is SO harsh on the skin if you don't get used to it or use it properly. I use it every other day in a very small amount and have to be careful not to cause irritation. That teen must have just squeezed out a glob and spread it on her wet face. Such a dumb thing to do.
"using someone else's prescription is very illegal" Really? Inadvisable certainly, and undeniably wrong, but illegal? It's a theft, so clearly illegal in that regard, but I doubt that there's any law (in any country) that specifically applies to prescriptions.
@ianmacfarlane1241 I believe they could be fined in my country for taking a prescription that didn't belong to them, but it also depends on the prescription. My ADHD meds, for example, could land a person in prison for taking.
@@ianmacfarlane1241 It will vary based on the specific drug used, but yes, in the US there are both state and federal laws governing prescription drugs. It makes sense if you think about it: these are controlled substances that you can only buy if you have a prescription and only specific types of doctors can prescribe certain types of drugs. If a person could just grab someone else's prescription with no legal consequences, what would be the point of prescriptions? It is also illegal to intentionally give your own prescription to someone else. [I said US since this story is clearly there, but most countries have similar laws.]
Story1: OP is lucky. Her girlfriend just showed her true colors.She only wants his money. Tell the GF she can move back to her parent and pay rent to them, this will certainly help to get their mortgage down.
The way he asked abt the future and she said “What Future?” Said everything about her intentions. I understand wanting to care for in-laws/parents but if You don’t even have a house to live in, why would you be expected to pay for someone else’s? Op should take this as a sign that she isn’t the one
Story 3: the reason why OP didn't expect her apology was he didn't want her to be sorry, he wanted her to be better, as in stop being glued to your phone like a millennial stereotype, and be more proactive with house hold responsibility, she doesn't work and allegedly does the bare minimum
15:06 Not to mention that using someone else's prescriptions is literally a crime. 16 is more than old enough to understand that you don't steal, especially prescription products.
Which the SIL and her parents should be thankful OP didn’t press charges for stealing prescription lotion and demand reimbursement for the items she wasted.
16 is also smart enough to know how to use care products and how much is enough. i bet the SIL was trying to pull a power move on OP by deliberately wasting OP's products. only it backfired.
Story 5: yes, prescriptions can be deadly. Back in 2013, my sister-in-law took a few of my brother's (her husband's) prescription pills because she wasn't feeling well, and went to lay down. She never woke up, and was found by her two kids when they got home from school.
Story 4: OMFG NTA. That woman better be 100% out of OP's life. And she hates her closeness with her sisters for this EXACT reason, because OP can rescue her sisters from her abuse.
And how OPs sisters can clearly see through her bs. I know the “mom” is too delusional to understand but she only has any form of relationship with her daughters only because the youngest is a minor.
Add that last story to the list of situations that could've been solved with a simple conversation. "Hey OP. I saw these products in your bathroom. You mind if I use some?" "No. They're prescription and expensive. I'd rather you not." "Okay." That's all it would've taken. But no. Instead OP's sister decided to use someone else's products without even knowing what they were, and now karma's bitten her in the ass.
Story2: Well, OP made the reasonable decision. He offered to help keeping the kids under control, as the 2nd adult and keeping an eye on at least one kid for the flight and switching seats with the husband.
If the sis is unwilling to control her husband's alcoholism, I feel there's more than what OP is leading, like what he's probably doing at home with his wife and kids while completely hammered
Story 3. I'm a SAHW, I do everything around the house, that's my job, my hubby goes work and works his butt off so I don't have to. His job is physically demanding also, so I don't expect him to have to come home and lift a finger. I cook, I clean, I do the laundry, I do the yard WORK. EVERYTHING! Does he help me? Yes, of course he does, but I never expect him to do anything. This woman needs to either start doing her job, or go find a paying job.
Yes that story made me cringe how she could just sit all day and feel nothing knowing her husband worked all day and she couldn't even make a hot meal for him and have it ready. I have worked full time but am disabled and instantly jobs while living with my lady bf, I did everything just like you mentioned and then often worked. Idk it makes no sense. At least get the work done early so she could have the entire afternoon or evening to scroll. She shot herself in the foot 🙃
Yes, when we had our baby and I was at home I saw looking after the house as my job. And even with a baby I had heaps of time to do it well. And there was plenty of time too to go visiting friends.
Story 2: Absolutely on point. People with substance abuse problems, particularly if they are married, will learn nothing until there are consequences and boundaries are created, even if those boundaries mean cutting them off. OP was on point on telling her sister to get on the plane without him. Doing anything other than that is enabling the husband.
Last story: OP she used almost all your bottles in one sitting, you don’t have to explain or make excuses for being mad about it. Just like how SIL doesn’t need to expect an apology from anybody. She may just be a teenager, but she’s old enough to at least know you don’t just use other people stuff like that. There’s a reason there are different kinds of skin care treatment and face cleaners. And that passive aggressive self teenager learned the hard way.
its not only a safety issue, not using other people stuff with out their permission is just basic manner and respect, do she had ever being scolded for taking stuff? dam , one of my cousins always ask for permission to borrow my mom's shoes and she is FIVE
Exactly. I am 24 and use salon grade hairproducts because they are the only ones that works for my hair, and those things are expensive, so I fully understand that OP is pissed that her niece used almost all of it in one go. And the prescription skincare is also justifying OP's reaction since now she might not be able to get it in time for renewal.
Story 2: “ she doesn’t know what to do with her husband” leave his drunk ass there and tell him to figure it out when he’s sober. Anything other than trying to force your sister to sacrifice her flight and the money she already spent because sis married a f*ck up. The rest of the family are more than welcome to fly there nosy butts down to where your sister is and help out since they are so desperately concerned. OP should tell her sis and the rest of the family, especially mom, that she’s not sorry for having a backbone. Oh and no sis is not responsible for a grown ass man who can’t even wait to get on the plane before getting drunk.
Fourth story: NTA. She's so toxic that she's even trying to use her toxicity to control everyone else around her. Isn't too late to call CPS or get the oldest emancipated? Anything seems better than staying with her.
Story 1: Imagine how much worse this will get. She is just your girlfriend and she isn't asking, she is demanding half your money. And when you say no, she sulks like a toddler. If he doesn't see the red flags, he only has himself to blame.
2:03 OP, you are NOT EVEN married yet and she already tries to steal your money! Drop her, she is a gold digger! Move on and look for someone who deserves you and is not guilttripping you into giving up FIVE figueres of YOUR money!! You are NOT married! You owe her NOTHING! she is just using you as an ATM!
Story 2: honestly he did and said all that could be said. Especially when she said "he is my responsibility" and then immediately made her eat those words with "okay then why did you let him drink if you knew he was gonna act like this" fucking got her! 😂
*First OP:* "Why can't you use half your bonus to pay off my parents' mortgage? They've sacrificed so much for me!" -> Okay, then why don't YOU do it?! Why don't YOU pay off their mortgage? OP needs to dump his fiancée. She already said she doesn't know if she wants a future with him because he won't use half _his_ bonus to pay off the fiancée's parents' mortgage, so make it easier for her. OP is NTA. *Second OP:* OP pretty much said what I was thinking, so I'll just say NTA. Also, I wonder if OP's mom will pay for the sister's family's ticket after fussing at OP for leaving her behind. Probably not. *Third OP:* Steph should've managed her time better and not use the phone so much. Even though it's true from what I've read, I don't like that OP called his wife useless. Add that with the ultimatum, I doubt this marriage will last. Controversial opinion, but ESH. I would've said NTA, but, again, I don't like how OP picked his words. I don't think OP even likes his wife. *Fourth OP:* The ol' "divide and conquer" tactic. OP would be doing her sister a favor by canceling Christmas eve. She could host her own family get-together without her egg donor. OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* Again, OP said what I was thinking, so I'll just say NTA.
Yeah I agree with your opinion on the 3rd story. Op sounds like those men who want to go back to the "good old days" where only the men worked and the women cooked, cleaned and raised the kids by themselves. I believe that it's always 50/50 on everything.
Steph is a 'stay-at-home-Mom', it's her proper duty to make sure the home duties are done. If she worked outside the home, that would be different altogether. 😮
Story true - the girl is amazing with boundaries. She’s like nope. You, my duster, deal yourself with your own codependent relationship, don’t pull me into that. But I can imagine that older family was shocked and pissed off by that 😂
2nd story:How sad for the sister that her husband suddenly became an alcoholic after the birth of her third child. What’s that you say? He’s been an alcoholic since they met? Oh.
Story 5: What the heck was she doing to use THAT much of the products? Maybe THIS will teacher to not use other people's stuff without their permission
I'm baffled at how someone can even use half a bottle of shampoo in one shower tbh. Like what do you even do with it, cover your whole body in a thick layer as if it's cream or something?
Well OP said that the sister never cared about boundaries. Not justifying but possibly explaining. Hopefully the sister will start to learn since the incident
Reminds me of a scene from My Wife And Kids. The older daughter used her mom's makeup without permission, and had a reaction. She was allergic to the charcoal in some of the eye makeup and didn't bother checking, even though she KNEW she had an allergy! They still made her go out in public.
Last story. NTA: Using other peoples bathroom stuff can be okay, if it's agreed on. When I'm visiting my mom, i can use her bubble bath and shampoo. However i use it at a normal rate OP's sister on the other hand seems to intentionally going throug OP's stuff to waste it. This seems some boundary issues,. She's probably jealous, that OP has her own home now. Oh I also have a story of my own: My brother used half a bottle of bubble bath for each bath, so my mom told him, that he's now responsible for refilling that bubble baths.
Second story: NTA. How exactly she expected OP to support her? Just by being there? Nah, she just didn't want to be the only one suffering the consequences of her drunk husband.
OMFG STORY FOUR IS LITERALLY MY MOM!!!! She does this same sh!t with me, pretty much calling me not part of her family since I don't live there anymore and HATES when my siblings come to me about the sh!t she does. My siblings are old enough to find their own ways in life but they just sit there and deal with our awful mother. Oh well.
Plane stpry: OP is absolutely right. The sister saying it's her responsibility is making a huge mistake. This man is a grown adult. He is not her responsibility. In fact, taking that responsibility is enabling his addiction. She needs to get her head out of her ass. Edit: EXACTLY R/slash!
Until sister-in-law can act like a responsible person and not a thief, she shouldn't be allowed to be in your house anymore. It doesn't matter what her parents think. It's not their stuff and not their house.
Alcoholic husband is a legal adult, intoxicated or not. It is not anybody else's responsibility to handhold him to make sure he stays lucid enough for a flight. Shame on the sister for expecting OP to stay behind and help her, and double shame on the sister for her choosing to ruin her children's Christmas over "fixing" her husband's screw-up.
Its not really simple as that when you remember courts favor women. Its probably easier to take a chance on her improving before risking half his shit.
Story 2 - NTA. I might just mess around and hit you with, 'Are you smoking dope or dog food?' Asking me to wait for the next flight just because your husband can't hold his liquor? Wild.
Yeah the fiancé talked about the sacrifices her parents made for her, which parents are supposed to do, but what sacrifices have they done for OP? None most likely
12:20 That's not how it works. Not only can they not be charged in the first place, but even if they could, no DA is going to quintuple their workload to deal with every instance of "family kidnapping."
Story 1: Dude dodged a bullet. Dump her immediately! It would be one thing if she said, “Hey! We are engaged. Why don’t we go to a very nice restaurant and plan to spend $200/plate on a nice dinner for the four of us?” I’d go with that, but then I would know exactly where the line is drawn in the sand.
For the story with a 17 year old: they wouldnt have gotten charged, in the US (which I assume is where this happened) 17 year olds cannot be legally removed from a home they willingly went to. The most the police could have done legally is file her as a runaway.
1st story: A. It's SHE who is indebted to HER parents, not OP. B. The money is being used to secure yourself a home, woman. Your parents already have a home. And they objectively bought it in a better market than you're going to be buying yours. Boomers had it so easy & your parents still messed it up? Sounds like a THEM problem. C. She's already checked out of the relationship over this, OP. If you follow through with this marriage, you will only be ruining your own life.
OP's husband could have gotten far worse than jail time!!! He could, in the worst case scenario, gone to court charged as a sex criminal and faced the kind of prison justice that actual pedophiles do!!! Less awful, but still worse, he could have been labeled as a sex criminal BEFORE clearing his name and lost his job/career, and good name in the community! OP's Mother needs help before she ruins someone's life beyond repair.
First story: NTA but is that 50k post tax? If not then he would essentially give up the majority bonus would go to his fiance parents. If he were to do it. Story 4: why do I feel like OP was parentified and the parents divorced when she left the house
5- Stealing a prescription product is a criminal offense, and depending on the justification she could face jail time or at the very least have to post bail. Frankly she is lucky OP decided not to be vindictive
Story 4: Okay, this depends on what the cops were called ov- oh, abuse happened and she's mad that OP wants to get the 17 year old out of there. Well, she shouldn't be surprised that the gathering is cancelled, like who would want to be around her after that?
I've never understood housewife/husband thing, if you don't work you do 100% of all household chores, if you work 50% you do 75% of them... if you work 100% you do 50%. (provided other part works 100% ofc) 50work+75% of household=125%. and 100% work+ 25% of household =125%. and when I divide household chores into % it's for TIME consumed by them. As in paying bills=0.5h/month. Cleaning=1-2h/day, cooking=1h/day. et.c
Story 4: that is a horrifying and vary believable scinario, because something like this has happened, where siblings and in-laws get charged with kidnapping by their abusive parents
Actually the sister is a huge problem also. She not only enables the drunk, but knowing who he is she still had at LEAST one other child (if not two or three) with this man; making him her KIDS problem as well. I mean, how many reddit stories have we heard about how damaged people are thanks to their alcoholic parent(s)? Smh, they are BOTH disgusting people. Good for op for putting her foot down and saying "not me taking responsibility for YOUR poor life choices!"
COPS Story: I don't blame you for cancelling your Christmas Eve celebration. I am worried that the mom will make Christmas Eva/Day a NIGHTMARE for the poor sisters still under the mom's care. 🥺🥺🥺
First story. I would buy a trip for my parent in law. They have done so much for me and my partner. They helped us buy a house and renovating said house etc. I owe them SO much. That said, OP isn't the ass here. His money, his choice, and it doesn't seem like the inlaws have done nothing to help him.
The stay at home partner sounds like she might have undiagnosed adhd. If that's the case, a diagnosis and treatment (either medication or behaviour therapy) could do wonders.
Why on earth should the sister stay behind to help ? Her sister chooses to be married and continue to have children with this loser ? How does she expect help with her choices while she does nothing at all to break the cycle
On that story of the social media housewife, I will be the first to admit I have a problem with being at least somewhat addicted to the net. (Mainly streaming and social media) At least I know when to get off the net and actually take care of my responsibilities. I may procrastinate a little from time to time but I still get it done. This lady has serious issues if she can't get off long enough to do some simple responsibilities. I agree with Rslash she needs to go. Maybe then she will wake up and realize she has a problem.
first story: the fact that she told her parents, without tell OP, yea I bet this was her plan all along, and she was hope OP was a simp and she being cold, OP you need to run for the hill, cause I bet if OP give them the money, they going keep ask you for more, and also this is her true color, don't ignore it
Story 2: I'm willing to bet all 3 kids of the sister were all conceived during alcohol induced circumstances of both the sister and Bill. Not that it changes much, but curious how old Bill is.
Now I’m thinking about the story which OP had a bf/fiancé who kept using her expensive creams because she has a severe case of excema. In the story he revealed that he took one of her steroid shots thinking he would literally be on steriods and bull out better at the gym. He got yeeted out of the relationship.
With the first story, I love my parents very much both of them have sacrificed a ton for me and I’m gonna tell you right now if I got a $50,000 bonus I’d probably give them each $1000 but definitely not more
Story 1: Why the hell specifically that Number? Why half of Op's Bonus? Especially the fact that She brought it up to Op before her parents even knew he had that much of a Bonus. Sounds Sketchy AF. Story 2: Yeah Op's right this is all on her leave her Sister and the Drunk Brother in-law behind like that. R/Slash right that sister needs to realize what's going on and that her husband is an abusive alcoholic. Story 3: I can't tell you why She has no direction in life, It's her Mom's fault. Story 4: Yeah Op's mom needs to go to therapy. Last Story: NTA SHE'S SIXTEEN!!! SHE KNOWS BETTER!!!
why did OP cancel ALL of christmas instead of just not inviting the mother? If it's because she would still come, then just kick her out. You have the rights to not let anyone into your home, even family. So tell everyone to come at a specific time, wait at the door, and if the mother arrives, refuse her.
The only reason why I see why OP did what she did was because her youngest sister still lives with her and trying to do Christmas behind the “moms” back may lead to repercussions on the sister. Plus OP has a baby and no time for this witch’s drama
Story 3:In the 4 year marriage between these two I wonder if it was ever discussed if she wanted to be a SAHW. Because there are two very different issues depending on that answer. 1)She agreed to it and she's being incredibly inconsiderate to OP, as a partnership both should bring things to the relationship and the work shouldn't be shoved all onto one person or at the very least be severely unbalanced. 2)She didn't agree to it/changed her mind but never brought it up and is escaping into her phone for fulfillment. They need to sit down and have a serious conversation if this relationship is going to last. Was what OP said on the mean side? Yeah but it could be what is needed to either figure out what they need to do to save this relationship, or if they want to part ways. No MIL isn't right for what she said, her Daughter is 32 not 2 she's responsible for her own self. It's not going to help her to have the blame put on other people.
Putting blame on him is wrong but I gotta wonder if its OCD and Depression mixed together it can make it so that you're almost catatonic or stuck on one action. Not making excuses for her but they both need to sit and discuss what's happening.
@@Emeraldwitch30 could easily be undiagnosed ADHD too. Before I was medicated I struggled so much with getting things done, managing time, and not getting stuck doing stuff like scrolling on my phone. She should definitely be seen by a professional
Last story: you should NEVER, ever use another person’s skin care, makeup (especially eye makeup) or shower products. #1-EWW, gross. #2-you could get pink eye from makeup, skin flare ups (like what happened here) or worse. #3-don’t touch a prescription w/ someone else name on it. It could be pricey to replace, and if it’s skincare scripts, they do major damage in the 1st few days & weeks of getting used to them. That’s why they’re prescription only! As someone who takes Accutane-it’s a pain to get, lots of hoops to jump through, & severe side effects! Sounds like this was topical, maybe Differin gel, but that has major side effects too! I’ve gotten chemical burns from using a face serum w/expired ingredients! The 16 yo had no right to use someone else’s things w/out asking. Who doesn’t bring their own if they’re staying overnight somewhere? She’s def old enough to know you ask 1st-don’t root through someone’s things & then get mad when YOU have an issue-that’s like suing someone you robbed when the stolen item wasn’t what you thought it was. It’s just silly. Her dad is a moron too, no wonder the 16 yo acts like she does.
3: This might not be an addiction, because that sounds a lot like ADHD symptoms. However regardless of why it’s happening, it is clearly a problem: and she has an attitude about correcting it which is a MAJOR problem.
Okay RUclips is effed up I watch Rslash daily, I never miss an ep unless I'm traveling. I watched this whole video this morning...I get back on after getting back home for the day and RUclips UNSUBSCRIBED ME 😡 So I'm resubbing even though I shouldn't have to
story 3: now I dont immedialy like to point to cheating.... but a husband that often goes on prolonged trips and a checked out wife that is always glued to her phone.... yeah she has an addicktion alright
Fifth story: NTA. Wow, imagine being so much of a douchebag to steal from someone and then get mad to the one you steal from for facing the consequences of stealing. She had to learn to not touch that what she doesn't know what it is.
Story 4: maybe op should just cancel Christmas eve for the mother and not everyone one, shes NTA at all don't get me wrong. But its not fair to ruin it for everyone else thanks to someone else.
"MY daughter, who is old enough to know better, used YOUR expensive things, including prescriptions, and ruined your bathroom... therefore YOU must pay for HER consequences!" I would've laughed in that man's face.
ONE: You should want to share your bonus not be expected but 25,000 holy *BEEP*. The parents never even asked for help but instead guilt tripping you, shouldn’t she be helping her parents not you… you’re not even married.TWO: No not the villain. It’s not your responsibility to watch over a drunk and your sister’s kids. Bill is the one who made it where he could not fly, it in no way OP’s responsibility to help her sister out of the drama her sister’s husband created.THREE:OP kinda sounds like he wants a yes dear wife but if is telling the truth i understand where he is coming from. OP should have not snapped the way he did but his wife seems lazy and really doesn’t want to do anything. OP shouldn’t have to his wife’s parent and she is acting more like a perpetual teenager.FOUR: Wtf calling the police on your husband simply for helping out a family member. It’s no wonder why you canceled all plans that you had and I’m glad the cops sided with you. OP’s mom seems to jealous of her own daughter because her younger sisters feel like they can vent and be close to you. FIVE:My god seriously the younger sister has this entitlement issue. Yes it’s not your fault for her breaking out when they are medical face stuff meant for you and just wasting everything feeling like she did nothing wrong.
Story 2 she shpuldve left him behind and op is not a but hole for telling her sister to not put up with her alcoholic husband, my brother is an alcoholic and we had to kick him out because of it.
OP you're correct to not enable your brother's in law alcoholism. Your sister is still stuck thinking "she can help him change!" Again it's not your responsibility.
Story 4: Sounds exactly like my mother and the story sounds almost exactly like a situation I’ve been in before. I’m not sure if it’s narcissism or drugs but my mother turned out to be using ice. I really feel for OP and her siblings. It’s not an easy situation to be in
Story about housewife that does nothing is not uncommon story I hear on Internet. It makes the idea of a housewife on appealing and it sounds like you almost need to have a contract with expectations with the woman who wants to be your housewife. I don’t know of any other way to make it so that both parties are very clear on what their expectations were and if those expectations aren’t met, then what the final consequences would be it also sounds like your wife has a Internet addiction which she might need therapy for cause I’m sure there’s a group out there for that.
Story 4: wow, you described my mom to a t, are we related? She kicked me out of the house during quarantine because I wouldn't stay indoors 24/7 except to go to and from work. "Oh you don't like the rules here? Leave" repeat for 5 months straight. I couldn't take it anymore, I left to stay with my cousins for a month and only came back after a mediation occured. I then penny pinched everything I could to move out asap because my mom would apologize but only for stuff she literally would have no control over [like the weather, or for my Dad's socks being on the floor, and not apologize for the things she directly impacted, calling anyone who took offense to anything she said or did "soft")
1- NTA, they’re not even his in-laws yet and he's already getting guilt tripped into financially supporting them!
i would have peace out with that behavior
And when fiancé told OP “What future?” That was her calling off the engagement therefore OP should gladly oblige
At least she's showing him her true colors before they got married.
@MorganVsTheInternet, the beauty of just being a fiancé is that you can peace out without any division of assets. There’s no custody order, no splitting the house, nothing. If he bought her a car, he can take the car.
yeah, my bf makes a lot of money and I feel bad just asking some be spent on me, never mind my mom's debts
AITA is a wild subreddit. There will be titles like "AITA for Punching a 12 Year Old?" And the person will be in the right or "AITA for Ordering Mashed Potatoes?" And they'll be the worst psychopath on the planet.
Truly the most accurate summary of the subreddit though 🤣
This shits the truest thing I've seen all year! Lol now I want to know what those stories are. Altho being fake
It's not as wild when you think about it. People only come to Reddit when things blow up so much they feel like they either need outside perspectives or backup. An asshole who punches a 12 year old knows that people won't agree with them so they'll hide that it happened, while a normal person who ordered mashed potatoes and things got out of hand will usually be able to handle the situation (unless the other party is a manipulative asshole who's gaslighting the OP). As a result, the niche that reddit fills filters out for reasonable people who found themselves in situations that when summarized make them *sound* like an asshole but aren't, and assholes in situations that when summarized make them not sound like an asshole when they are. Also people who are massively manipulated into believing they're the asshole when they've done nothing wrong and their manipulator pushed the envelope a bit too far.
That’s so real though!
@@Crasnos Well obviously the first OP was dealing with a demon spawn that was beating the shit out of them. And the second one was obviously a super controlling asshole like Mustard Guy.
The sister needed to get on that plane with OP.
Their poor kids are missing out on family time because their mom chooses to baby a fully grown adult.
And at this rate those kids will eventually lose all respect for both parents
yeah. the sister should have just left her husband there to face the consequences of his actions. maybe a night in jail would teach him that getting drunk and causing problems won't get him far in life.
It's unfortunate Op didn't put a little more effort into convincing her sister to board, and instead wasted time with comments like "if he's your responsibility you shouldn't have let him drink, so this is all your fault," which I'm sure (I hope anyway) Op intended facetiously. Still, maybe Op could have offered to take the older child on the flight, so the sister wouldn't have more children than hands in such a busy, crowded environment.
I fear what might happen to that sister. Living with an alcoholic that bad is insufferable, I've lived with an alcoholic before (Definitely not as bad but they'd still get drunk every few weeks or so) and even then it made a rift between us, I hope the sister manages to leave that guy before he does something to her. Or worse, her children
S.3 - I'm surprised Op didn't get at least 0.5 buttholes. While he's 100% correct on the issue, it's still unacceptable to insult and swear at your spouse. Stating "It's unacceptable that you continually break your promises to me," instead of "Just be less fucking useless", regardless of any ultimatum or deadline for improvement. I also agree with the comments saying she should have to get a job and pay for a housekeeper instead of staying home with her addiction all day. It would probably be healthier for both of them
2- NTA
Absolutely ridiculous that she expects her sister to STAY BACK to help her with HER own husband!! The audacity
Totally agree. He needs to go to therapy for his addiction since it goes out over his wife and kids at this point and it most likely ain’t gonna get better from here.
@@emiliaholmberg3320 He shouldn't have been allowed to wander off to the bar in the first place. That's on him and his wife but mostly him, not the sister. It's important not to make your issues other people's problems.
@ you need to understand that alcoholism is a serious illness and the sister in this case lost him because she needed to keep an eye on three small kids as well as him and their luggage. The husband in this case needs to learn that his drinking problem gets consequences for his actions hence why I said he needs therapy to get sober so he doesn’t loose his wife and kids to it.
In this case I'd probably have offered to take her kids on the flight and let deal with her idiot husband. Best way to help her. Staying, no way.
@@emiliaholmberg3320 Still doesn't make the alcoholic OP's responsibility.
Story 5: not even mentioning that using someone else's PRESCRIPTION is very illegal, and expensive to replace. I work as a pharmacy technician and if that bottle doesn't last as long as it should, insurance isn't going to cover it again until she should be out of it. Paying out of pocket for prescriptions is no small matter either.
These little kids who are using this really expensive product on their skin like retinol and drunken elephant are going to regret it when they get older. They don't know what they're doing. And neither do most of these beauty influencers. The reality is they don't need these products. They are way too young. My cousin came over and did that to my makeup. Her parents replaced all of it. It was hundreds of dollars that she ruined. Her parents were furious.
Im assuming she had a tret prescription, which is SO harsh on the skin if you don't get used to it or use it properly. I use it every other day in a very small amount and have to be careful not to cause irritation. That teen must have just squeezed out a glob and spread it on her wet face. Such a dumb thing to do.
"using someone else's prescription is very illegal"
Really?
Inadvisable certainly, and undeniably wrong, but illegal?
It's a theft, so clearly illegal in that regard, but I doubt that there's any law (in any country) that specifically applies to prescriptions.
@ianmacfarlane1241 I believe they could be fined in my country for taking a prescription that didn't belong to them, but it also depends on the prescription. My ADHD meds, for example, could land a person in prison for taking.
@@ianmacfarlane1241 It will vary based on the specific drug used, but yes, in the US there are both state and federal laws governing prescription drugs. It makes sense if you think about it: these are controlled substances that you can only buy if you have a prescription and only specific types of doctors can prescribe certain types of drugs. If a person could just grab someone else's prescription with no legal consequences, what would be the point of prescriptions? It is also illegal to intentionally give your own prescription to someone else. [I said US since this story is clearly there, but most countries have similar laws.]
Story1: OP is lucky. Her girlfriend just showed her true colors.She only wants his money. Tell the GF she can move back to her parent and pay rent to them, this will certainly help to get their mortgage down.
*his girlfriend
The way he asked abt the future and she said “What Future?” Said everything about her intentions. I understand wanting to care for in-laws/parents but if You don’t even have a house to live in, why would you be expected to pay for someone else’s? Op should take this as a sign that she isn’t the one
Nice of her to show her red flags before op put a ring on it, I guess
Story 3: the reason why OP didn't expect her apology was he didn't want her to be sorry, he wanted her to be better, as in stop being glued to your phone like a millennial stereotype, and be more proactive with house hold responsibility, she doesn't work and allegedly does the bare minimum
15:06 Not to mention that using someone else's prescriptions is literally a crime. 16 is more than old enough to understand that you don't steal, especially prescription products.
Which the SIL and her parents should be thankful OP didn’t press charges for stealing prescription lotion and demand reimbursement for the items she wasted.
16 is also smart enough to know how to use care products and how much is enough. i bet the SIL was trying to pull a power move on OP by deliberately wasting OP's products. only it backfired.
Story 5: yes, prescriptions can be deadly. Back in 2013, my sister-in-law took a few of my brother's (her husband's) prescription pills because she wasn't feeling well, and went to lay down. She never woke up, and was found by her two kids when they got home from school.
"Hey can i use your shower?" "Yeah, of course!" "Great, i am going to just remove the entire bathroom and attach it to my bedroom thannnnx!"
Now I’m thinking about Mr Krabs
Thanks
Story 4: OMFG NTA. That woman better be 100% out of OP's life.
And she hates her closeness with her sisters for this EXACT reason, because OP can rescue her sisters from her abuse.
And how OPs sisters can clearly see through her bs. I know the “mom” is too delusional to understand but she only has any form of relationship with her daughters only because the youngest is a minor.
That mom's a narcissistic parent.
Add that last story to the list of situations that could've been solved with a simple conversation.
"Hey OP. I saw these products in your bathroom. You mind if I use some?"
"No. They're prescription and expensive. I'd rather you not."
"Okay."
That's all it would've taken. But no. Instead OP's sister decided to use someone else's products without even knowing what they were, and now karma's bitten her in the ass.
“…has trouble taking ‘no’ for an answer”, I highly doubt this would’ve changed anything
Story2: Well, OP made the reasonable decision. He offered to help keeping the kids under control, as the 2nd adult and keeping an eye on at least one kid for the flight and switching seats with the husband.
OP is a woman but what she offered was better than what sis did
If the sis is unwilling to control her husband's alcoholism, I feel there's more than what OP is leading, like what he's probably doing at home with his wife and kids while completely hammered
Story 3. I'm a SAHW, I do everything around the house, that's my job, my hubby goes work and works his butt off so I don't have to. His job is physically demanding also, so I don't expect him to have to come home and lift a finger. I cook, I clean, I do the laundry, I do the yard WORK. EVERYTHING! Does he help me? Yes, of course he does, but I never expect him to do anything. This woman needs to either start doing her job, or go find a paying job.
Yes that story made me cringe how she could just sit all day and feel nothing knowing her husband worked all day and she couldn't even make a hot meal for him and have it ready. I have worked full time but am disabled and instantly jobs while living with my lady bf, I did everything just like you mentioned and then often worked. Idk it makes no sense. At least get the work done early so she could have the entire afternoon or evening to scroll. She shot herself in the foot 🙃
Yes, when we had our baby and I was at home I saw looking after the house as my job. And even with a baby I had heaps of time to do it well. And there was plenty of time too to go visiting friends.
Agreed. I was let go from my job, so I do more around the house to balance things out.
Story 2: Absolutely on point. People with substance abuse problems, particularly if they are married, will learn nothing until there are consequences and boundaries are created, even if those boundaries mean cutting them off. OP was on point on telling her sister to get on the plane without him. Doing anything other than that is enabling the husband.
Last story: OP she used almost all your bottles in one sitting, you don’t have to explain or make excuses for being mad about it. Just like how SIL doesn’t need to expect an apology from anybody.
She may just be a teenager, but she’s old enough to at least know you don’t just use other people stuff like that. There’s a reason there are different kinds of skin care treatment and face cleaners. And that passive aggressive self teenager learned the hard way.
its not only a safety issue, not using other people stuff with out their permission is just basic manner and respect, do she had ever being scolded for taking stuff?
dam , one of my cousins always ask for permission to borrow my mom's shoes and she is FIVE
Exactly. I am 24 and use salon grade hairproducts because they are the only ones that works for my hair, and those things are expensive, so I fully understand that OP is pissed that her niece used almost all of it in one go. And the prescription skincare is also justifying OP's reaction since now she might not be able to get it in time for renewal.
Story 2: “ she doesn’t know what to do with her husband” leave his drunk ass there and tell him to figure it out when he’s sober. Anything other than trying to force your sister to sacrifice her flight and the money she already spent because sis married a f*ck up. The rest of the family are more than welcome to fly there nosy butts down to where your sister is and help out since they are so desperately concerned. OP should tell her sis and the rest of the family, especially mom, that she’s not sorry for having a backbone.
Oh and no sis is not responsible for a grown ass man who can’t even wait to get on the plane before getting drunk.
Fourth story: NTA. She's so toxic that she's even trying to use her toxicity to control everyone else around her. Isn't too late to call CPS or get the oldest emancipated? Anything seems better than staying with her.
Story 1: Imagine how much worse this will get. She is just your girlfriend and she isn't asking, she is demanding half your money. And when you say no, she sulks like a toddler. If he doesn't see the red flags, he only has himself to blame.
2:03 OP, you are NOT EVEN married yet and she already tries to steal your money! Drop her, she is a gold digger! Move on and look for someone who deserves you and is not guilttripping you into giving up FIVE figueres of YOUR money!! You are NOT married! You owe her NOTHING! she is just using you as an ATM!
Story 2: honestly he did and said all that could be said. Especially when she said "he is my responsibility" and then immediately made her eat those words with "okay then why did you let him drink if you knew he was gonna act like this" fucking got her! 😂
*First OP:* "Why can't you use half your bonus to pay off my parents' mortgage? They've sacrificed so much for me!" -> Okay, then why don't YOU do it?! Why don't YOU pay off their mortgage? OP needs to dump his fiancée. She already said she doesn't know if she wants a future with him because he won't use half _his_ bonus to pay off the fiancée's parents' mortgage, so make it easier for her. OP is NTA.
*Second OP:* OP pretty much said what I was thinking, so I'll just say NTA. Also, I wonder if OP's mom will pay for the sister's family's ticket after fussing at OP for leaving her behind. Probably not.
*Third OP:* Steph should've managed her time better and not use the phone so much. Even though it's true from what I've read, I don't like that OP called his wife useless. Add that with the ultimatum, I doubt this marriage will last. Controversial opinion, but ESH. I would've said NTA, but, again, I don't like how OP picked his words. I don't think OP even likes his wife.
*Fourth OP:* The ol' "divide and conquer" tactic. OP would be doing her sister a favor by canceling Christmas eve. She could host her own family get-together without her egg donor. OP is NTA.
*Fifth OP:* Again, OP said what I was thinking, so I'll just say NTA.
Yeah I agree with your opinion on the 3rd story. Op sounds like those men who want to go back to the "good old days" where only the men worked and the women cooked, cleaned and raised the kids by themselves. I believe that it's always 50/50 on everything.
Steph is a 'stay-at-home-Mom', it's her proper duty to make sure the home duties are done. If she worked outside the home, that would be different altogether. 😮
@@lancerevell5979that's all there is to it.
I don't like the language, but I took it as one of those straw broke the camel back. I don't agree with the ESH but totally get it.
@@lancerevell5979 that's all there is to it. There is nothing wrong with me saying that.
Story true - the girl is amazing with boundaries. She’s like nope. You, my duster, deal yourself with your own codependent relationship, don’t pull me into that.
But I can imagine that older family was shocked and pissed off by that 😂
2nd story:How sad for the sister that her husband suddenly became an alcoholic after the birth of her third child.
What’s that you say? He’s been an alcoholic since they met?
Oh.
Story 5: What the heck was she doing to use THAT much of the products? Maybe THIS will teacher to not use other people's stuff without their permission
She needs to pay for replacement products. Especially the prescription products! 😮
I'm baffled at how someone can even use half a bottle of shampoo in one shower tbh. Like what do you even do with it, cover your whole body in a thick layer as if it's cream or something?
Well OP said that the sister never cared about boundaries. Not justifying but possibly explaining. Hopefully the sister will start to learn since the incident
Reminds me of a scene from My Wife And Kids. The older daughter used her mom's makeup without permission, and had a reaction. She was allergic to the charcoal in some of the eye makeup and didn't bother checking, even though she KNEW she had an allergy! They still made her go out in public.
I was thinking she was putting it into another container and taking it home.
From the first story, the relationship is already over as the fiancee literally said "what future?" That tells you all you need to know op.
Last story. NTA: Using other peoples bathroom stuff can be okay, if it's agreed on. When I'm visiting my mom, i can use her bubble bath and shampoo. However i use it at a normal rate OP's sister on the other hand seems to intentionally going throug OP's stuff to waste it. This seems some boundary issues,. She's probably jealous, that OP has her own home now. Oh I also have a story of my own: My brother used half a bottle of bubble bath for each bath, so my mom told him, that he's now responsible for refilling that bubble baths.
Second story: NTA. How exactly she expected OP to support her? Just by being there? Nah, she just didn't want to be the only one suffering the consequences of her drunk husband.
OMFG STORY FOUR IS LITERALLY MY MOM!!!! She does this same sh!t with me, pretty much calling me not part of her family since I don't live there anymore and HATES when my siblings come to me about the sh!t she does. My siblings are old enough to find their own ways in life but they just sit there and deal with our awful mother. Oh well.
Plane stpry: OP is absolutely right. The sister saying it's her responsibility is making a huge mistake. This man is a grown adult. He is not her responsibility. In fact, taking that responsibility is enabling his addiction. She needs to get her head out of her ass.
Edit: EXACTLY R/slash!
Until sister-in-law can act like a responsible person and not a thief, she shouldn't be allowed to be in your house anymore. It doesn't matter what her parents think. It's not their stuff and not their house.
And she can’t return until she reimbursed OP for the products used and labor for cleaning HER mess
Alcoholic husband is a legal adult, intoxicated or not. It is not anybody else's responsibility to handhold him to make sure he stays lucid enough for a flight. Shame on the sister for expecting OP to stay behind and help her, and double shame on the sister for her choosing to ruin her children's Christmas over "fixing" her husband's screw-up.
In the story housework, Steph sounds like my ex-sister-in-law who ironically is named Stephanie and we also called her Steph.
Third story: NTA. Why give her a month? Why give her a week? Divorce her in record time.
Its not really simple as that when you remember courts favor women. Its probably easier to take a chance on her improving before risking half his shit.
"She told me she didn't know what to do with her husband..."
I could give a suggestion
Story 2 - NTA. I might just mess around and hit you with, 'Are you smoking dope or dog food?' Asking me to wait for the next flight just because your husband can't hold his liquor? Wild.
"You just don't care about my parents!"
Correct. Bye.
Yeah the fiancé talked about the sacrifices her parents made for her, which parents are supposed to do, but what sacrifices have they done for OP? None most likely
12:20 That's not how it works. Not only can they not be charged in the first place, but even if they could, no DA is going to
quintuple their workload to deal with every instance of "family kidnapping."
Story 1: Dude dodged a bullet. Dump her immediately! It would be one thing if she said, “Hey! We are engaged. Why don’t we go to a very nice restaurant and plan to spend $200/plate on a nice dinner for the four of us?” I’d go with that, but then I would know exactly where the line is drawn in the sand.
Don't give them your bonus. And don't marry her. Because when you combine your finances, she will give them your bonus.
For the story with a 17 year old: they wouldnt have gotten charged, in the US (which I assume is where this happened) 17 year olds cannot be legally removed from a home they willingly went to. The most the police could have done legally is file her as a runaway.
Happy winter solstice everyone
Summer solstice here
Winter soltice is having issues here 😂
(Awesome acotar reference as well! Love that series!)
Merry Yule!
And tomorrow is my birthday ❤❤❤❤
Best response to a guilt trip is to just agree. "I'm sorry I'm such a bad mother", yeah, so am I.
I would go with "no, you seem to enjoy it, actually"
@@dinlupus3196 "I'm glad we're on the same page, now let's talk about how you can do better."
1st story:
A. It's SHE who is indebted to HER parents, not OP.
B. The money is being used to secure yourself a home, woman. Your parents already have a home. And they objectively bought it in a better market than you're going to be buying yours. Boomers had it so easy & your parents still messed it up? Sounds like a THEM problem.
C. She's already checked out of the relationship over this, OP. If you follow through with this marriage, you will only be ruining your own life.
OP's husband could have gotten far worse than jail time!!!
He could, in the worst case scenario, gone to court charged as a sex criminal and faced the kind of prison justice that actual pedophiles do!!! Less awful, but still worse, he could have been labeled as a sex criminal BEFORE clearing his name and lost his job/career, and good name in the community!
OP's Mother needs help before she ruins someone's life beyond repair.
Story 4:
I can already see why OPs parents are divorced
Aside from misandry, why the hell does the mom have any rights to the kids?
First story: NTA but is that 50k post tax? If not then he would essentially give up the majority bonus would go to his fiance parents. If he were to do it.
Story 4: why do I feel like OP was parentified and the parents divorced when she left the house
Pre tax, he'll be lucky if he has even 30k left after taxes and she wants 25k of it.
4th story OP's mum is a narcissist. she sounds EXACTLY like my mother. it would be best if OP can to adopt/take in her sisters.
5- Stealing a prescription product is a criminal offense, and depending on the justification she could face jail time or at the very least have to post bail. Frankly she is lucky OP decided not to be vindictive
Story 4: Okay, this depends on what the cops were called ov- oh, abuse happened and she's mad that OP wants to get the 17 year old out of there.
Well, she shouldn't be surprised that the gathering is cancelled, like who would want to be around her after that?
I've never understood housewife/husband thing, if you don't work you do 100% of all household chores, if you work 50% you do 75% of them... if you work 100% you do 50%. (provided other part works 100% ofc) 50work+75% of household=125%. and 100% work+ 25% of household =125%. and when I divide household chores into % it's for TIME consumed by them. As in paying bills=0.5h/month. Cleaning=1-2h/day, cooking=1h/day. et.c
Story 4: that is a horrifying and vary believable scinario, because something like this has happened, where siblings and in-laws get charged with kidnapping by their abusive parents
Actually the sister is a huge problem also. She not only enables the drunk, but knowing who he is she still had at LEAST one other child (if not two or three) with this man; making him her KIDS problem as well. I mean, how many reddit stories have we heard about how damaged people are thanks to their alcoholic parent(s)? Smh, they are BOTH disgusting people. Good for op for putting her foot down and saying "not me taking responsibility for YOUR poor life choices!"
COPS Story: I don't blame you for cancelling your Christmas Eve celebration. I am worried that the mom will make Christmas Eva/Day a NIGHTMARE for the poor sisters still under the mom's care. 🥺🥺🥺
"They've done so much for me" Okay? I barely know them compared to you
Op in Story 4 should just say she'll pay for a doctor's visit when the SIL pays for all the expensive products she used
Story 5:It's her fault for using someone else's prescriptions.
NTA
First story. I would buy a trip for my parent in law. They have done so much for me and my partner. They helped us buy a house and renovating said house etc. I owe them SO much. That said, OP isn't the ass here. His money, his choice, and it doesn't seem like the inlaws have done nothing to help him.
The stay at home partner sounds like she might have undiagnosed adhd. If that's the case, a diagnosis and treatment (either medication or behaviour therapy) could do wonders.
Can't help those who don't want help.
It's uo to her to fix herself.
Why on earth should the sister stay behind to help ? Her sister chooses to be married and continue to have children with this loser ? How does she expect help with her choices while she does nothing at all to break the cycle
On that story of the social media housewife, I will be the first to admit I have a problem with being at least somewhat addicted to the net. (Mainly streaming and social media) At least I know when to get off the net and actually take care of my responsibilities. I may procrastinate a little from time to time but I still get it done. This lady has serious issues if she can't get off long enough to do some simple responsibilities. I agree with Rslash she needs to go. Maybe then she will wake up and realize she has a problem.
Story one.... High time to dump the (ex)Fiance. She's way too 'high maintenance', and far too eager to spend OP's money. 😮
first story: the fact that she told her parents, without tell OP, yea I bet this was her plan all along, and she was hope OP was a simp and she being cold, OP you need to run for the hill, cause I bet if OP give them the money, they going keep ask you for more, and also this is her true color, don't ignore it
Story 2: I'm willing to bet all 3 kids of the sister were all conceived during alcohol induced circumstances of both the sister and Bill. Not that it changes much, but curious how old Bill is.
As if It really matters 😂
Story4: considering how bad the mom if op is okay with it she might want to file for custody of the sisters and a restraining order against the mom
Who uses someone elses prescriptions with reckless abandon? Who does that?! Don't do that?!
Now I’m thinking about the story which OP had a bf/fiancé who kept using her expensive creams because she has a severe case of excema. In the story he revealed that he took one of her steroid shots thinking he would literally be on steriods and bull out better at the gym. He got yeeted out of the relationship.
With the first story, I love my parents very much both of them have sacrificed a ton for me and I’m gonna tell you right now if I got a $50,000 bonus I’d probably give them each $1000 but definitely not more
Story 1: Why the hell specifically that Number? Why half of Op's Bonus? Especially the fact that She brought it up to Op before her parents even knew he had that much of a Bonus. Sounds Sketchy AF.
Story 2: Yeah Op's right this is all on her leave her Sister and the Drunk Brother in-law behind like that. R/Slash right that sister needs to realize what's going on and that her husband is an abusive alcoholic.
Story 3: I can't tell you why She has no direction in life, It's her Mom's fault.
Story 4: Yeah Op's mom needs to go to therapy.
Last Story: NTA SHE'S SIXTEEN!!! SHE KNOWS BETTER!!!
why did OP cancel ALL of christmas instead of just not inviting the mother? If it's because she would still come, then just kick her out. You have the rights to not let anyone into your home, even family. So tell everyone to come at a specific time, wait at the door, and if the mother arrives, refuse her.
That's what thought. If she still isn't leaving then you can call the cops for trespassing.
The only reason why I see why OP did what she did was because her youngest sister still lives with her and trying to do Christmas behind the “moms” back may lead to repercussions on the sister. Plus OP has a baby and no time for this witch’s drama
Fun fact about 4. 17 is around the age state let's kids choose which house to live at
Story 5: NTA. This is a thief who fuvved around and found out. Father-in-law can go to the hecks.
9:06 I thought you were going to say "baby sitting" and was prepared to be mad, but "baby care" so 👍
Story 3:In the 4 year marriage between these two I wonder if it was ever discussed if she wanted to be a SAHW. Because there are two very different issues depending on that answer.
1)She agreed to it and she's being incredibly inconsiderate to OP, as a partnership both should bring things to the relationship and the work shouldn't be shoved all onto one person or at the very least be severely unbalanced.
2)She didn't agree to it/changed her mind but never brought it up and is escaping into her phone for fulfillment.
They need to sit down and have a serious conversation if this relationship is going to last. Was what OP said on the mean side? Yeah but it could be what is needed to either figure out what they need to do to save this relationship, or if they want to part ways. No MIL isn't right for what she said, her Daughter is 32 not 2 she's responsible for her own self. It's not going to help her to have the blame put on other people.
Putting blame on him is wrong but I gotta wonder if its OCD and Depression mixed together it can make it so that you're almost catatonic or stuck on one action.
Not making excuses for her but they both need to sit and discuss what's happening.
@@Emeraldwitch30 could easily be undiagnosed ADHD too. Before I was medicated I struggled so much with getting things done, managing time, and not getting stuck doing stuff like scrolling on my phone. She should definitely be seen by a professional
The op with the internet addicted wife should cancel the internet or have a way to limit the usage.
Last story: you should NEVER, ever use another person’s skin care, makeup (especially eye makeup) or shower products. #1-EWW, gross.
#2-you could get pink eye from makeup, skin flare ups (like what happened here) or worse.
#3-don’t touch a prescription w/ someone else name on it. It could be pricey to replace, and if it’s skincare scripts, they do major damage in the 1st few days & weeks of getting used to them. That’s why they’re prescription only! As someone who takes Accutane-it’s a pain to get, lots of hoops to jump through, & severe side effects! Sounds like this was topical, maybe Differin gel, but that has major side effects too!
I’ve gotten chemical burns from using a face serum w/expired ingredients! The 16 yo had no right to use someone else’s things w/out asking. Who doesn’t bring their own if they’re staying overnight somewhere?
She’s def old enough to know you ask 1st-don’t root through someone’s things & then get mad when YOU have an issue-that’s like suing someone you robbed when the stolen item wasn’t what you thought it was. It’s just silly. Her dad is a moron too, no wonder the 16 yo acts like she does.
3: This might not be an addiction, because that sounds a lot like ADHD symptoms. However regardless of why it’s happening, it is clearly a problem: and she has an attitude about correcting it which is a MAJOR problem.
The fourth story is the exact same thing im dealing with right now
I'm torn between blaming Bill and blaming the *Demon in a Bottle*
Story 3, a housekeeper, it's already implied he does everything ? Op should still divorce
3rd one, wouldn't surprise me wife is cheating, or at least addicted to social media. so ya, divorce, move on.
Okay RUclips is effed up
I watch Rslash daily, I never miss an ep unless I'm traveling. I watched this whole video this morning...I get back on after getting back home for the day and RUclips UNSUBSCRIBED ME 😡
So I'm resubbing even though I shouldn't have to
story 3: now I dont immedialy like to point to cheating.... but a husband that often goes on prolonged trips and a checked out wife that is always glued to her phone.... yeah she has an addicktion alright
I thought the sterotype was that the cheater was usually the one who's out of the house on the trip for days
@magicfish8213 can be both. The person on the trip can cheat but so can the person left alone at the house with no one to check on them
@ricardomonteiro870 ooh, so they're both cheating. The plot thickens
Fifth story: NTA. Wow, imagine being so much of a douchebag to steal from someone and then get mad to the one you steal from for facing the consequences of stealing. She had to learn to not touch that what she doesn't know what it is.
If your "homemaker" doesn't do anything they need to get a dadgum job. And don't procreate with people that you don't actually like.
I just had a thought(I don't have many). Is the phone addiction just like the WOW addiction kids were having and "forgetting" to eat and drink?
2) OP explaining to her the husband isn't one of her kids is the kindest thing he could do.
Story 1, piss her off. There are plenty of women who will respect you.
Story 4: maybe op should just cancel Christmas eve for the mother and not everyone one, shes NTA at all don't get me wrong. But its not fair to ruin it for everyone else thanks to someone else.
"MY daughter, who is old enough to know better, used YOUR expensive things, including prescriptions, and ruined your bathroom... therefore YOU must pay for HER consequences!"
I would've laughed in that man's face.
ONE: You should want to share your bonus not be expected but 25,000 holy *BEEP*. The parents never even asked for help but instead guilt tripping you, shouldn’t she be helping her parents not you… you’re not even married.TWO: No not the villain. It’s not your responsibility to watch over a drunk and your sister’s kids. Bill is the one who made it where he could not fly, it in no way OP’s responsibility to help her sister out of the drama her sister’s husband created.THREE:OP kinda sounds like he wants a yes dear wife but if is telling the truth i understand where he is coming from. OP should have not snapped the way he did but his wife seems lazy and really doesn’t want to do anything. OP shouldn’t have to his wife’s parent and she is acting more like a perpetual teenager.FOUR: Wtf calling the police on your husband simply for helping out a family member. It’s no wonder why you canceled all plans that you had and I’m glad the cops sided with you. OP’s mom seems to jealous of her own daughter because her younger sisters feel like they can vent and be close to you. FIVE:My god seriously the younger sister has this entitlement issue. Yes it’s not your fault for her breaking out when they are medical face stuff meant for you and just wasting everything feeling like she did nothing wrong.
S1: if they asked for something like 5k I would say meeh, maybe... But asking for 25k! Wtf?
Story 2 she shpuldve left him behind and op is not a but hole for telling her sister to not put up with her alcoholic husband, my brother is an alcoholic and we had to kick him out because of it.
Story 1: run OP. RUN!!!
Desperation for money really does bring out the worst in people
Mannnnnnnn this title alone is CRAZY!😂
OP you're correct to not enable your brother's in law alcoholism. Your sister is still stuck thinking "she can help him change!" Again it's not your responsibility.
Story 4: Sounds exactly like my mother and the story sounds almost exactly like a situation I’ve been in before. I’m not sure if it’s narcissism or drugs but my mother turned out to be using ice. I really feel for OP and her siblings. It’s not an easy situation to be in
Story about housewife that does nothing is not uncommon story I hear on Internet. It makes the idea of a housewife on appealing and it sounds like you almost need to have a contract with expectations with the woman who wants to be your housewife. I don’t know of any other way to make it so that both parties are very clear on what their expectations were and if those expectations aren’t met, then what the final consequences would be it also sounds like your wife has a Internet addiction which she might need therapy for cause I’m sure there’s a group out there for that.
Story 4: wow, you described my mom to a t, are we related?
She kicked me out of the house during quarantine because I wouldn't stay indoors 24/7 except to go to and from work. "Oh you don't like the rules here? Leave" repeat for 5 months straight. I couldn't take it anymore, I left to stay with my cousins for a month and only came back after a mediation occured. I then penny pinched everything I could to move out asap because my mom would apologize but only for stuff she literally would have no control over [like the weather, or for my Dad's socks being on the floor, and not apologize for the things she directly impacted, calling anyone who took offense to anything she said or did "soft")
OP didn't ruin everyone's christmas. She just ruined her mom's christmas